Podcasts about for tara

Today, I'm excited to talk to Tara Spalding, the Managing Director of BoomStartup Accelerator.  BoomStartup is an accelerator and mentorship-driven angel-stage investment program for startups, which operates as an online technology-driven accelerator, providing entrepreneurs a custom business plan including business maturity guidance, investment preparation, and capital structuring relevant to growth, and investment strategies as well as a curated marketplace for services.  Tara is also the founder of Hen House Ventures, an early stage incubator that helps tech companies rapidly scale when entering massive markets, and is also on the board of trustees for VentureCapital.org.  Tara is the recipient of the 2020 Utah Business 30 Women to Watch award. Tara began her high-tech career in Silicon Valley when she taught herself to code software and became the first employee, and eventually VP of marketing at industry leader, SugarCRM.  Her Silicon Valley experience included roles as CMO at GroundWork Open Source, VP marketing at Magnet Systems, and co-founder and CPO at BenchPick. Tara received her bachelors from University of Colorado, Boulder. In this episode… Tara starts with the speed round and answering Stephanie's questions including her favorite junk food, vacation spots, and music. For Tara, there were thousands of asks that she didn't not even know she had the courage to do until she did it.  The first time she became a cofounder with another person and needed to find outside investments.  When she did it or helped other people, it came much easier than when it was her own.  Looking back, she realizes she worried about the most goofy things, such as the color she was wearing. The relationship she has now with their investor was built along with trust and credibility over time.  When you find the right investor fit, there is no better relationship because they are on your side in multiple ways and offer beneficial suggestions and ideas. Tara suggests to entrepreneurs: Look at it from the investor's point of view, not the entrepreneur's or their own.  What is important is getting a sense of adventure in how they want to spend their money and see the returns.  For those looking for money, it needs to fit into their investment portfolio as a person.  Everyone has a different risk/reward appetite and that needs to be aligned.  You may want to know how you get an indication about the risk appetite they might have or how involved they want to be, and according to Tara, it is really tricky.   Asking the question, three different times over a period of time to see if answers are consistent, is one method.  Over time, relying on the network is important as well. Tara's company offers everything online at the moment but is piloting their first face-to-face soon.  It is amazing how adaptive our brains are, no matter what the platform or venue.  Right now, investors, and others, are more accessible with technology. How does one refine their ask?  Tara actually pulls from Stephanie's play book and suggests coming up with two options that people can help you with.  People can be successful making the smaller asks and building relationships.  How does Tara decide who to say yes to when it comes to sharing her time?  Always looking for meaningful engagement with more than one person at a time.   When coming up with your ask, make sure to think of a couple of asks.  If you get an answer, advice or introduction you need to follow up by explaining the conclusion!  Where can people find Stephanie?  Join the Boom Start Up Community!  It's fun and easy!  Come on in and have some fun! Resources Mentioned in this episode https://www.linkedin.com/in/taraspalding/ https://boomstartup.com Finance-Ability Stephanie Sims Stephanie Sims LinkedIn Sponsor for this episode... Finance-Ability is a boutique consulting firm dedicated to helping business owners and startups find their best options for growth funding. Founded by financial strategist and transaction expert Stephanie Sims, Finance-Ability can help any business owner identify the right funding partners and get through fundraising as painlessly as possible. Visit their website to take their online assessment test to help you find out which kind of funding is the best fit for your business right now. They also have a ton of resources to help you understand business processes and financial decision-making that can help you start and build your own empire so be sure to check them out. Stephanie has over 20 years of experience having worked with companies like Goldman Sachs and CSFB. If there's anyone with their heart in the right place when it comes to championing the dreams of small business owners and startup companies, Stephanie is that person. Let Finance-Ability help you get the funding you need and deserve to get your dreams soaring high towards your own brand of success.

This episode of Fierce Lab, we're trying something different, what we're calling In Conversation With. Tara sits down with her good friend Chelsee Adams, a creative consultant to discuss Chelsee’s background and starting their own businesses. They discuss the value of being a generalist, networking, when it is time to take a break from stressful work, and how to visualize success. Throughout they sprinkle in questions that were culled from Chelsee's Instagram followers and friends. Chelsee Adams’ background and starting her own business Chelsee discusses how she got started as a food and lifestyle blogger before Instagram was a thing. Later, she started her own business as a creative consultant. She talks about the learning curve that goes with striking out on your own, how you are your own everything, and the importance of being prepared. As a creative consultant, she aims to always give her clients a thoughtful approach to creative direction, content strategy, and brand messaging, and how she can do as much or as little as is needed. Being a generalist Being a generalist, or a Jack of all trades, sometimes can have a negative connotation, but it is actually an awesome skill to have. Chelsee likens someone who can do more than just their area of expertise to being a unicorn. Being able to leave your ego behind, roll up your sleeves, and to do different things can open up a different world with more opportunities. Networking and building relationships Tara and Chelsee discuss the importance of building relationships and staying in touch with someone in a genuine way, and not just contacting someone when in need of something. Tara tells the story of how she joined Curves in attempt to network, and they tell the story of how the two became friends over Instagram. Time to jump back in, or time to take a break? Tara thinks that after the pandemic, it is time to jump back into work. But it is also important to know when it is time to recharge and take time for yourself if you have a stressful job. Chelsee recommends taking yourself on a creative date, and Tara discusses how solo trips help her reset. They also discuss that you should take full advantage of your vacation days, and when it is appropriate to negotiate PTO and sick days at your workplace. Visualizing success To help you set and achieve goals, visualizing your success helps. For Chelsee, creating a mood board/vision board helps her manifest her goals. For Tara, the book The Secret helped inspire her to incorporate a gratitude practice in her life, and she talks about setting big, scary goals and how others’ doubt helps feed her determination. SAVE THE DATE: Fierce Lab, our full-day conference for women, will be live and in-person on SATURDAY, OCTOBER 2, 2021. Pre-sales for tickets start June 1, 2021. More details to be released soon. FOLLOW FIERCE LAB Follow Fierce Lab on Instagram for the latest updates: https://www.instagram.com/fiercelab/ JOIN OUR EMAIL LIST If you'd like to receive more information about our upcoming episodes for Fierce Lab including tips, tools and resources, go to our website www.fiercelab.tarawilson.com and sign up for email list. Please be sure to SUBSCRIBE, REVIEW and SHARE Fierce Lab with women who are looking for community and tools for leveling up.

Not all eating disorders stem from poor body image. For Tara, her story was about using food as a coping mechanism to control the chaos around her. Tara shares her story of recovery, “quasi recovery” and the inner work she does and teaches daily to live free. Tara is a Mental health coach, phd researcher, writer, self love advocate, and founder of Reconnect Collective Follow Tara: @tarakemp Check out her program: Reconnect Academy https://reconnectcollective.com/academy Tara’ Affirmation Deck: https://reconnectcollective.com/affirmations Follow the hosts on instagram @lisahayim @radioamy SUBSCRIBE and follow so you never miss an episode and SHARE with your friends & family.  Questions? Guest Submissions? Email us: hello@outweighpodcast.com Wanna Ditch the rules but don’t know where to begin? It starts when you know THE TRUTH about how the body works, and use it as armor against the noise. Enroll in Lisa’s mini course Ditch Diets for Good for just $10 dollars and take a giant first step in learning to F*RK THE NOISE. Code: OUTWEIGH at checkout here (https://lisa-hayim.mykajabi.com/DD4G) This podcast was edited by Houston Tilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

For Tara, it all started with a blog on how traveling can help you grow into the person you are meant to be and help you unlock your potential, which lead her to mentor women across the globe on how they can improve their experience of life, their performance and manifest their dreams.   She uses a process she coined the Five Facets of Change: Personal growth, mindset, mindfulness, productivity & goal setting and lastly your mental and physical health.   Tara has studied sports and health science with a focus on human psychology and neurology, which showed her the importance of mind-body connection and how we can use our mind to create a life we want.   In this episode: Uncovering abundant vs. scarcity mindset  Tips to tap into feeling worthy Key points for mastering visualization  Her 5 facets of change How to meditate when you don’t know where to start How to use EFT to release pent up emotion    CONNECT WITH TARA Instagram Youtube  blog    CONNECT WITH SIMONA https://www.instagram.com/simona__costantini  https://www.instagram.com/happinesshappenspodcast/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/happinesshappenstoday https://twitter.com/simona_cos www.simonacostantini.com 

Just going to wrap up how we got our questions answered about the Tara Read Hoax and I dig into a few points about it and laugh at how she got busted out. I ALSO remind you that her friend Gina is a LIAR, she was the only one to say something nice about Tara and I just needed to put it out there that I have interacted with her and she lied to me JUST LIKE TARA. It was actually FOR Tara. I read some excerpts from the PBS article that crushed Tara's grifty little world of make believe and detail how she left so many victims in her wake. Tara STILL has not returned my DM, so, I don't know how her investigation is going and when I'm going to prison. Sad. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/bianca-delarosa/message

Every person I speak to has his or her own unique story of when and how this pandemic hit them, and each is so distinctly beautiful and different. So in this Connection Thru Chaos series, I want to give people the chance to share their firsthand accounts. In this episode, we’ll hear from my business partner and good friend, Ms. Tara Counterman. For Tara, one of her biggest triggers during this pandemic is seeing empty shelves at the grocery store. After all, it’s something that we haven’t witnessed before, at least in our lifetime. And grocery stores are extra stressful since people are panic-buying and not following social distancing orders.  An additional challenge for Tara is that these kinds of drastic changes seemed to take place overnight. One moment Tara and I were having a great time at a Mastermind in San Diego. The next, the world seemed to flip on its axis as coaches started to cancel huge events and people started canceling their RSVPs. During the chaos, Tara remembers thinking she needed to step up as a leader and address what was going on to her team. So she gave them much-needed assurances that they were all going to be fine and that her online business would remain the way it was.  In Tara’s mind, you can view the situation we’re all going through in one of two ways. It can be an obstacle you allow to debilitate your business because you don’t feel like you can show up during this hard time...or it can be a time period where opportunity is abundant as long as you’re daring enough to take advantage of it.   Catch the Live Video Here!:Connection Thru Chaos with Tara Counterman Connect with Tara:InstagramFacebookFB Group: Profitable Podcast CollaborativeProfitable Podcast Productions Website If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! Catch Amanda LIVE: Fierce As F*ck Tribe Community Facebook    Connect on: Instagram YouTube Twitter Pinterest Linkedin

On the latest episode of the WHAT podcast, Tara and Cassidy name their All 2000 Decade team and they are nothing like you would expect. Tune in to find out who they chose, catch up on the Blazers since the All Star Break and ask if we should let go of our anger about the Blazers’ loss on March 6, 2001? 1:00 Icebreaker: Red Vines or Twizzlers? Also black licorice stories.  2:30 Thoughts on the Blazers without Lillard? CJ McCollum has limited options. There is a big difference between the guys in suits and the guys suited up.  6:45 Nassir Little has changed his shoes. No more pink. When are the guys in street clothes going to form a suit rainbow? 9:00 2000s All Decade team. What were you doing in 2000? Did you have a favorite player? How about 2010? 17:30 Cassidy’s picks: she agrees with the fan vote for the Trail Blazers all decade team. Adds picks for her favorite players from the Portland Fire: Jackie Stiles, DeMya Walker, Kristin Folkl, Sophia Witherspoon and Sylvia Crawley. 20:40 For Tara’s all-decade team she refused to select anyone who was on the team on March 6, 2001, when the Blazers blew the lead against the Vancouver Grizzlies to lose the game on the night that Clyde Drexler’s jersey was retired. This made it very hard to choose an all decade team.  27:30 Cassidy was at that game, so she weighs in on if we should forgive the team for that loss.  28:30 Tara has a superstitious dislike of special nights.  30:30 Smooth Jazz no more, things are getting rocky in Utah 33:00 Will He or Won’t He? The return of Steph Curry. Steve Kerr doesn’t seem very flexible.  35:20 New podcast hosted by Sonya and Del Curry, Raising Fame, the latest episode features Gina Johnson, Damian Lillard’s mom.  36:30 Can You Fix a Broken Heart? The Story of Andre Iguodala 39:30 Zion meet Lebron, Lebron meet Zion. On the first meeting of the two stars.  43:30 Outro Follow Blazer’s Edge on Twitter @blazersedge, WHAT Pod @HoopsAndTalks, Tara @tcbbiggs, and Cassidy @CassidyGemmet. This week’s guest:  Join the Women’s Hoops And Talks Facebook group to talk about Trail Blazers with others who identify as women who love basketball. Music used in the episode: “Happy Alley” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License. Subscribe to the podcast Apple Podcasts Google Play Spotify Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're saying goodbye to 2019 by counting down our top 11 reasons to be cheerful! For Tara, her most exciting moment...seeing Garth Brooks in concert & upgrading her seats. For Christina, attending the Third Man 10 Year Anniversary Celebration, chatting with Olivia Jean & seeing The Raconteurs reunite. We close it out with our list of what we're looking forward to in 2020.

On this episode I speak with holistic nutritionist and pole dancer Tara Mansler about her intersections with the sex positive communities. Tara has been doing pole dancing for over a decade, doing feature performances at strip clubs and instructing the in-house dancers. She also does private lessons and parties to share her love of the pole. We discuss the politics around the #notastripper resurgence and how to stand in solidarity with sex workers instead ( #yesastripper ). Tara is also a holistic nutritionist and an up and coming Gestalt therapist. She shares some insight on how to get your sex drive in gear. For Tara, healthy equals horny and horny equals healthy—and boy is this episode healthy! Shout outs in this episode: IG: @solaythesun IG: @jacquichilds IG: @lauraxdesiree Find Tara on: IG: @taramansler IG: @theflexibilitynutritionist Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

In this episode of the Muscle Intelligence Podcast, we are joined by sleep expert and co-founder of Chili Technology, Tara Youngblood! She is here to discuss everything sleep-related and how we can make the most of this all-important part of our lives. Tara gives us some great insight into the most important factors that influence our sleep and emphasizes the unique ways our bodies work in relation to rest and recovery. Our chronotype determines a lot of how our bodies prepare and enter into a sleep cycle and so there is no one-size-fits-all remedy for inferior sleep. Rather, we need to look at our indicators and respond accordingly to these to optimize sleep for better health. We discuss body fat, stress, diet, temperature, supplementation and more! For Tara, the exercise is to build awareness and knowledge of one's own profile and then build healthy practices and habits that promote better sleep with steady REM periods. This episode is brought to you by the best olive oil in the world! Fresh Pressed Olive is still offering bottles for $1 so go straight to getfresh35.com to order yours!   Timestamps Surprising correlations between body fat and temperature during sleep. [5:13] Minimizing stress for your sleep space and maximizing recovery. [6:14] Good sleep habits that can make traveling easier on your body. [10:30] Starting with your chronotype and timing your day accordingly. [11:15] The huge influence of temperature in preparing our bodies to sleep. [15:15] Influential factors on attaining more time in deep sleep. [19:13] Habits and hacks to implement before bedtime to boost your recovery. [21:28] The deterioration of deep sleep in older persons and reasons for this. [24:47] The relationship between diet, metabolism and circadian rhythms. [27:50] Tara's upcoming TEDtalk and the 'three buckets of sleep'. [29:34] Supplementation for sleep and unique approaches for type. [32:39] Journalling and tracking sleep for better awareness. [37:09]

Today's guest Tara survived a near-death experience when her attacker strangled her, causing her to pass out. After years of abuse in the form of isolation, demeaning her character, physical abuse and more, this one night that nearly took her life changed her course. For Tara, the struggle wasn't over though. Hear how the domestic violence, with alcohol and drug abuse, led Tara into depression, bad choices, and nearly losing her children. Fortunately, as this is a Survivor Story, you'll also hear how Tara found hope and help, and how she gives that hope and help to others. Visit https://www.dasasmi.org/ for resources or call our 24-hour hotline at 800-828-2023.   Transcript: Thank you for joining us today for another episode of I'm not in an abusive relationship with us is Tara, who is on the other end of a domestic violence relationship situation. Thank you very much for coming to see us and talk with us, having me, we are going to offer this, you are going to offer the story of hope to our listeners today, because you have survived this relationship and looking back on it, you said earlier, that you wished you would have known then what you know, now but there was a lot that went on between when this began and how you have survived it. So if you would please share some of your story with us. So, I think being the abusive relationship I didn't realize I was really an abusive relationship for many years, I grew up in a home, where violence was happening between my mom. And my dad, and then they got divorced, my mom remarried and between my mom and stepdad. There was a lot of domestic violence. And so that was just kind of the norm in our life, and having seen it happen twice with your mom. That would make you think it was normal. Yeah. And so it was just kind of that's the kind of idea. I got of what relationships where you just kind of moms, that's husbands and wives fight. And you just kind of dealt with it and went on. And so I was fifteen when I met my well he's my ex husband now. So when I met him fifteen years old and at that time, I life, I had started just kind of before that, you know, I was good kid in school played sports greats to all these things, and then became a freshman in high school. And I went to I party, and I seen people drinking and things like that, and that was kind of the family that I grew up in. And so I kind of gravitated towards that route, and I met him and we started drinking together and just hanging. Out and not fifteen. You think you know, everything? So everybody's telling you like he's not a person to be with. Yeah. You think, you know, everything you think you know what love is in my idea of love is so distorted anyway. And so there were at first when I started dating at fifteen I was using like going out and drinking using marijuana tried cocaine acid all these different drugs, and that's kind of how our relationship started. And so it was like this excitement for me at that young age. And he was also part of that excitement. I'm sure you're doing these things together this. And so I look back today and see some red flags obviously, at that time on fifteen I didn't know anything about what red flags were, or an unhealthy relationship was so by seventeen I was pregnant with our first kid and so kind of solidified the relationship there, I think, as a female when you get pregnant, and you meet the man of your dreams you think that. That you're going to do whatever you can to have a healthy family for your children. And so I think I Nord so many different signals and red flags and different abusive things that were happening there wasn't any physical abuse up. I was mainly just, you know, mental abuse control isolation. I stopped hanging out with a lot of my friends in was just him. And whatever frontier allowed to have around us were you still in high school? Yes, go. I did go to high school arts. Good. Yeah. I did. I graduated from high school. So I'm not sure how. So between that and after I had my first son at seventeen we are using meth and we started using meth pretty heavily. And so I got to the point where I was so addicted to that. I needed it just even get up to go to school. And trying to raise a kid go to school, and then being relationship that was so abusive. And so controlling somehow I'm sure by the grace of God, I was able to graduate high school that was something, you know that I really focused on wanted to do in my life. I think because when I found out, I was pregnant seventeen I had people tell me oh, now you're never going to quit school. You're going to be a high school dropout. And so, like, I had some kind of thing inside me that was like, I'm not gonna I'm not gonna be that person. I'm going to graduate in so I graduate. That's amazing thing. I wish our listeners could see you because the things that you're saying, as I'm sitting here looking at this beautiful woman that you are wonderful person. You really are a story of hope it's amazing to me listening to what you're telling me. So I graduated high school and really are my meth addiction really got increased heavily at that point, the abuse, obviously, when you have meth involved in anything, the abuse, intensified greatly just things like, you know, couldn't talk to anybody. If I talked to another guy, even if they're at our house, you know, then I was accused of having sex with that person. And just anything to the point where I almost like isolated myself right into the bedroom because I didn't want to have to deal with those fights and things anymore. We had ended up, I had my second daughter, twenty one in a decided to that we needed to get married inside say that in giggle, because I'm just like thinking back to, like, what was going on between that seventeen to twenty one? Why did I decide to marry why like, but I think is still just that you know that idea of having a family. I've had my second child. And I kind of just figure like this is it. I mean, this is the relationship by men. This is my life. This is where I'm going to be for the rest of my life. And so we got married when I was twenty one or twenty two and. Was he the same age as you or was? He's a couple years older nothing matters. But sometimes when the male is a little bit older. Just you seem to depend more on him. Perhaps, I'm not sure. And I was I was very dependent on him. I always try to think like I was going to be an independent woman, and, you know, growing up seeing my mom get abused. I always made those statements like I'm never ever going to get into an abusive relationship. I'm never ever going to drink alcohol. Never gonna use drugs, all these things that may turn into that. Exact I I never was going to be, and we got married and nothing changed. Everything was still the same still the abuse. Still the isolation still. All those. Yeah. Just all those same behaviors happened. We just had to children now instead of just one and I remember, just kind of being an a depression, but not even realizing that I was depressed. And so I mean it would've been anything, if you had to see me, you know, back then fifteen years ago, or whatever ran into me at the store and just, you know, my hair not done and no makeup on and stains on my shirts. And I just didn't care like I didn't care about really what I look like what I was doing just kind of stuck and they didn't have anything to look forward to. I mean day was the same. So we ended up having a house fire and at that point, we stopped using meth, and we got clean, and we're living with his mom for a little while and things that you did that on your own. Stopped. I mean, got clean and stopped using that. Yeah. I think that people can. But I don't think it's true recovery because you still depend on other things like you still have those behaviors. And you still have that depression, and you still have that blah of life. You're not using the drug that kind of helped cover all those things up. That gave you, you know, that drug to help you numb those feelings or give you some kind of enjoyment in life or anything like that. And like, you know, he was very abusive anyway. So he said, we're going to quit. We are going to quit. And you know there wasn't any other. I mean he was pretty much you know, that's where I could get drugs from for a long time. And so I didn't go out and buy the drugs all my own all the time. And so, yeah, we had quit. We could on her own, but it was still pretty not real happy life. What we had done was started going to church. I love church of God. But at that time, like, church was terrible for me because it was another form of abuse that he could use to control and so excuse me. Excuse me. And so we all know says, you know that wives are supposed to submit to their husbands and submit to God, but he took that and twisted that in the church that we were going to didn't really explain what being submissive met and so, my heart always aches for women. Who are Christian women who think that they have to stay in an abusive relationship, because God says that he doesn't like divorce or because you're supposed to submit to your husbands. And that's not what that meant at that time. I didn't know that. That's not what that meant, and so they need to finish the part of husbands value. Your wife. Yes. Yes. And so, so for a couple years, we did that. And just. I just grew this hatred kind of towards God cloves thinking, like, what kind of God would want a woman in her children to be treated so terribly all the time and still think that he's the one in the right? And I just remember like having to walk this even straighter line than what I've ever had to walk before. You know, not saying certain things, listening certain things watching certain things always, you know, making sure we were going to church and being this perfect family. And you know what he said was right? And it was pretty I don't like hundred like any of that stuff of that time. And I couldn't really be around my family because my family still drink and their centers. And so, you know, there was another way that he could isolate me from being around my family and it lasted a couple of years when a church when he star falling from church, where he'd always say, well, you in the children need it, you and the kids need, and I'm thinking. Okay. Escaped him for a while. And so we of actually stopped going to church and I started using meth again, and I was sneaking around using it without him knowing. And you know, waiting to you went to work and I'd go get it and kinda just using that and he eventually found out that I was using meth and started using with me again. And so, you know behavior store, they're the Beauce and control, and all those things intensified again because of the meth and we decided that my grandparents lived in Florida. So we decided that we should pack up and move to Florida and that everything would be better. We've just got away from this area. And so we packed up like just what we could put in a truck. And we headed to Florida we lived on there for about a year and a half, but at first, like I thought like things really were going to change like he had changed. And he was like just happy and doing stuff with me, and the kids and really kind of being involved in our lives. And but it didn't last long. I remember one night down in Florida. We went to. To out to a bar with some friends down there, and he wouldn't go out and dance music as other guy to go dance with me, and just not really thinking anything of it. And then we got in the car just hit me, and he called me all these names, and just like made I made them look like a fool, and blah, blah, blah. And it was just like what do even realize what I'd done, and he kicked me out of the car on the stark road, you have a phone or anything made maybe walk in. My grandma came and looked for me. I remember grandmas said, you know what she is married? She is not dead. She deserves to be able to go out and have fun. And they really resonated with me because I was like that is true like that. Deadly I can write be that. I wanna have fun. But, you know, the behaviors continued on even Florida so you can change the place that you're at. But if you don't change those behaviors and change those thoughts than everything stays the same very true. I bet it was hard for your grandma to watch the second generation of this happened. Was it happening with her as well? Your grandparents did they fight as well as your parents. I didn't see them. But, like stories, I've heard that, you know, my grandma was an abusive relationships pretty much all her life, too. So I never witnessed up time, you know, we got to that age they had pretty much settled down my grandma and grandpa and. But yeah. I mean so how did you begin to pull yourself out of this? So we got pardon with my third child. We moved back to Michigan, and I had been a certified nursing assistant. That's the job that I held. And so, I decided that was going to step out and apply to go to nursing school. And I got accepted into the nursing program at southwest Michigan college. This little ray of hope cutting Linda me too. I was like, I don't have to live in the same life that I've been living. I don't have to be dependent on him forever. You know, so many years of mental abuse of being told, you know, like you'll never be able to live on your own. You have kids to support you can't even get a job. And really, you start believing that, like I wanna ever be able to be my own. But then I got accepted into the nursing program when I was like, wait, like I think something, you know, I think things can chain. Right. We continue to fight and one night, we got into a huge fight, and I just decided, I grabbed my kids, and we left, and I went and. We've done with my mom and we're staying there. And I was just like this is I don't you know, I'm done. I don't wanna go back. There's a something going to nursing school, and just making like front like female friendships outside of the home from my job and things like that. And, you know, people just encouraging me and kinda speaking some life into me, and I moved in with my mom, and he called me, one night, and asked if he had a friend who wanted to go out and asked if he could meet up with me, and some of my friends, and we all go out together and so- sake. Sure. That sounds fine. And so I actually met him at his house. I drove over there Madam at his house, and we rode to the bar together. Some friends there and then started drinking, and it was time to go home. So he had to give me a right back to my car. And so on the way home we started arguing, and I you know, just told him that I I don't love him anymore. And I wanted to voice I want just to be done. You know. And I thought honesty, would be the best to policy that time. Again, I wasn't aware of, like all the all the statistics of domestic violence, and so he did not take lightly to that. And he pulled drove into this field that was astound from his house, a little bit and p pulled into this field and jumped out of his truck, and I remember, like I have anywhere to go at it. Like I was gonna try to jump out the other side before you could get the door open, and he opened the door and grabbing my feet. I'm so sorry that all this happened to you. And I'm re we all appreciate of course, you are emotional. We appreciate you being willing to share the bad parts so that we can see how you got to the good parts, and I do want to reassure our listeners looking at you right now you did get to the good parts. I'm sorry. And tell the story lot. I don't know. It's hard today. It's hard today. So he pulled me out of the truck, and get me, sir choking, me and started telling me that I didn't deserve to live and that might kids student deserved have me for a month, and that he could snap, my neck ain't nobody nowhere care. Gosh. Remember I passed out when I came back to like, I remember just kind of like this peaceful feeling over me, and then I realized where I was kind of started getting upset again, and he got back on me and started, you know, choking on me again in. I just asked him as to just think about dean my son and I are really close, and he never been really close to his dad think teen, teen needs me. I don't know. I'm not really sure what happened except I know that God has a bigger plan for my life than that night. That's for sure. It was really strange. Like he just picked me up and set me on his lap and started hugging time, how she loved me and he just wants me to come home, and let's quit school. Let's put my job and I guess, I will have a great idea. Yes. I'm going to quit school. I'm just gonna come home and got back down to his house in his sister was there and. Oh, she was just do this to you, my face had from being choked, had bruising and stuff on it, and I asked her to call the police, but she wouldn't call the police, but she said, she'd, give me right home. So she gave me a ride home to my mom's house, and I was so scared, and I called the police a very first time ever called the police on him. So I called the police in the police came, and I was so scared that he was going to show up because he told me so many times in my life, you know, if you ever call the police, if you ever call the police, and the police came, and they did a report on omen told me that they'd have to call child protective services because with the domestic violence protective services and so I was just like devastated because you hear so many horrible stories in child protective services gets called. And so, I was, you know, in my mind, this is a bad idea, I should have called the police, and he was arrested and he was charged with. Started at disturbing the peace and I think just like just mastic violence, which isn't a very heavy charge like misdemeanor or something. And so thinking ended up spending like two weeks in jail for that and was got out before thanksgiving. An. Mary, his whole family. So mad. Oh, yeah. And start his mom actually babysit my kids by worked, and I remember her calling the next day into saying, well, you know, I don't think it's a good idea that I babysit the kids for you anymore. And just like it was really awkward and odd to me that everybody knew how he was. But yet, when it came down to it, nobody wants to stand behind you. Sometimes, I think you just feel completely alone. Oh, I'm sure. I'm sure you see abusive to them as well. It was very yes. He was abusive person. So it didn't take much to set them off in him cuss everybody's mom's grandparents whoever, you know all the time and everybody just kinda tote around OMB as he's just, you know, he's got anger issues, and oh, he had horrible childhood, and, and I fell into that, like, oh, you know, he'd just had such a horrible childhood. Like that's why he acts like that today. But no, he doesn't matter what your childhood is, like everybody has the bright in the opportunity to change and make better choices, and it doesn't mean that you get treat people the way that he treated me. No, no. Yes. Going forward doesn't mean where you came from, but making those choices to go forward on purpose. You can blame some of those actions on your pass behavior, but you still are making your choices going forward. So, so what happened then from there? I would like to say the I got hooked up with domestic violence services and everything was great, and I changed my life. But honestly, what I did is sunk further into my addiction started go into the bars a lot using Methuselah, actually, I'd be at the bars pro more than I was at home. You know, talk my kids in at night, and then head off to the bar, and I remember coming home and seeing my son, still awake at three o'clock in the morning and he had school the next day and just thinking, like I was the only thing that they had that was really stable was not a stable person whatsoever. You know is very unstable very unhealthy at that time, I'm seeking I don't know relationships and just becoming involved very surfaced with other men, and I don't know. I guess is trying to find some how to, you know, he'll those hurts and well, deep down. I think you believe twenty told you about yourself. So, you know, trying, trying to, to stay abused almost if that makes any sense, right? Yeah. Before you're able to climb out of that home. Another guy and hit just gotten out of prison. For cooking meth. And so. We started dating and he moved in with me, and my children and didn't take long before we are houses rated and found with them lab in the house. So CPS didn't get involved, the first time for my domestic violence, because the kids don't witness it. So see piston get involved, but this time they did what the meth Lebanon house. They got involved, the man that. I was with at that time he was arrested and went to jail, and actually went to teen challenge, and I had my children, removed and I just started sinking into anything that was offered to me. So domestic and sexual services was one of the requirements that I had to do. And I'm so grateful that that was a requirement. I think that it should be requirement in every, like ninth tenth eleventh grade class, just to learn what domestic violence is in that you don't have to live in that, that there is something different for you. So I started doing those classes I going to church started just getting involved in everything counseling and therapy and substance use therapy, and yeah, just my life started changing. I started seeing myself in a different light. I started seeing myself as somebody who didn't deserve to be that beat up abused person that I did have there was smart. And that was a good mom, and that I was able to be an independent woman that it always wanted to be and. The guy that I actually got bus with and went to teen challenge. He completely changed his life, and we are married today. That's a good story. Yeah. And so, yeah. And so we have a really healthy marriage today. Like is totally different. Like I said earlier, when I think about my story back that I just wonder sometimes, like how low myself esteem, must've been in how broken a person, I must have been to stay in a relationship, where I was always degraded and always treated so, terribly in there are good men out there, who want to love us want to treat us as equals want to be good to us. And I'm blessed I found that man and I have a really just a beautiful life today. That's wonderful and your kids are with you. Yep. Yep. So we went through the CPS case got that I'll close my kids returned home. I was able to get my felony expunged off my record because I'd been charged with the possession of meth charge that was a felony says able to get that expunged. And just through the encouragement of so many people in my life, I was went back to school. Cool. I have a master's degree now in social work, and that's fantastic. So I work, I'm a substance use counselor no therapist now and volunteers much as I can with domestic and sexual abuse services. I just love this agency so much and just wonderful. Yeah. The hope they give to people and just the love. They give to people when people don't feel lovable at all. I didn't feel like I was worth love and feel like I was worth anybody's time really to help. This has been awesome. And now you get to teach other women and people that they are worthy of love and a good life and everything going forward. Absolutely. Yes, I can imagine your clients are so lucky to have on because, you know exactly where they come from what they're dealing with. And that they really can get out of, oh, you gotta use of. That's wonderful tear. Thank you so much. I am thrilled to have been able to meet you and just all of our listeners that have got to be inspired by what you shared with us. Thank you for listening to I'm not in an abusive relationship. These stories resonate with you in, you need help. Please visit our website. www.dasasmi.org. Or call our hotline 800-828-2023. We are here to walk alongside of you. If you know someone who might benefit from our show, please share social media, email. or simply telling someone about it. It all helps us spread the word and helps us to combat domestic and sexual violence. We also welcome financial volunteers support. That information is our website. Thank you to the staff, volunteers and board of directors at Domestic and Sexual Abuse Services. This podcast is produced with the help of a committee dedicated advocates. Thank you WBET radio in Sturgis, Michigan for the use of their studio. This has been a podcast about surviving domestic, and sexual violence and production of Domestic and Sexual Abuse Services of Michigan.

The Pop Team catches up on 2018. For Tara it was a car accident, road trips, and finally seeing Fleetwood Mac & The Eagles. Christina flew to Nashville, stopped by Third Man Records, saw Conan O’Brien live, & saw/met Thom Yorke from Radiohead.  Before saying hello to 2019, they look back on what was big in 2018 in TV, movies, concerts & music. Finally, the girls recap what they’re looking forward to in 2019; Game of Thrones, Star Wars in Disneyland, and the return of The Raconteurs.  | @PopPeriscope | IG: popperiscope | popteam@popperiscope.com |

For Tara to choose the film The Tree of Wooden Clogs for Ti at first makes it look like she is becoming a parody of herself. Or is she deliberately trying to upset him. Featuring real farmers and locals, Ermanno Olmi's film follows the daily concerns of Lombard peasants in 19th century Italian. Will the film's illicit strawberry-growing and clog-making intrigue Ti? Is it ever ok to kill animals on screen for cinematic accuracy? Does this look at the early Italian neorealist movement deserve to be the winner of fourteen awards including the Palme d'or at Cannes and the César Award for Best Foreign Film? Listen now to find out. Please subscribe to Cinema Blindspot on whatever podcast system you use. Also, please feel free to leave us a review and follow us on Facebook and Twitter at @CinemaBlindspot.    

When it came to animation, Ti suggested the toe-tapping Jungle Book. For Tara's animated pick, it's the bleak war movie Grave of the Fireflies from Studio Ghibli. Having only seen one Ghibli film previously, will the serious nature of Fireflies put Ti off the studio forever or will he be moved to discover more?  Listen in and, if you like what we do, please leave us a review on iTunes. If you have comments or suggestions, please feel free to email us at cinemablindspot@gmail.com  Find us on Facebook and on Twitter at @CinemaBlindspot or individually on Twitter at @midnightmovies and @timonsingh  Cinema Blindspot is edited and produced by Peter Walsh.