Podcast appearances and mentions of samantha manewitz

Ontario Today is joined by two guests: Stacey Smith? (sic) is a mathematics professor at the University of Ottawa in the faculty of science. She's a polyamorous trans woman and runs a polyamory meet up in Ottawa; We're also joined by Samantha Manewitz. Samantha is a Toronto-based registered social worker and sex therapist. And specializes in sexual diversity and LGBTQ issues.

Talking Kink with Samantha Manewitz, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Registered Social Worker. We discuss BDSM and relationships, role play and etiquette, pain and pleasure. Plus how to talk to your partner about BDSM. 

This week's episode is a personal one. We talk to Sunny's 91-year-old Uncle George. He tells us what it was like growing up as a gay man in Chicago in the 1940s. This was when being ‘homosexual’ was illegal and frequenting gay bars and meeting places could result in jail time. George traveled to dozens of countries throughout the mid 20th century, some more accepting than the US and others downright dangerous for gay travelers. An incident in South Africa almost landed him in prison for murder! George recounts living through the AIDS crisis and losing dear friends, how acting conservative with those he was out to ensured his security, the pain of having to hide his lifestyle & partners from family, the very first pride parades, his opinion on LGBTQ+ issues today, the struggles gay elderly people face, brushes with gay celebrities in the golden age of Hollywood, and more. Oh, and he has some choice words for our president too.  Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999  Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 103 Links Uncle George does not have social media accounts so comments can be directed to @SunnyMegatron & will be passed on to him (unless you’re a jerk, he doesn’t want to hear that) My tweet delivering Uncle George’s tweet to Trump https://twitter.com/SunnyMegatron/status/1100070958583304192 Stonewall Riots http://www.columbia.edu/cu/lweb/eresources/exhibitions/sw25/case1.html The AIDS crisis of the 1980s https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/lgbtq-history-month-early-days-america-s-aids-crisis-n919701#targetText=The%20first%20official%20government%20report,hospitals%20in%20Los%20Angeles%2C%20California.. IML/International Mister Leather https://www.imrl.com/ Swasarnt Nerf’s Gay Guides for 1949, View online: https://books.google.com/books?id=pK0ZAgAAQBAJ&lpg=PA119&ots=_-Qyao6VqW&dq=%22shoreline%20seven%22%20chicago%20gay%20bar&pg=PA111#v=onepage&q=%22shoreline%20seven%22%20chicago%20gay%20bar&f=false Buy: https://www.amazon.com/Swasarnt-Nerfs-Gay-Guides-1949/dp/0615360246 LGBTQ+ & Aging Resources https://www.lgbtagingcenter.org/resources/areamore.cfm Chicago Gay History https://www.chicagogayhistory.com/ This 90-year-old man talks about being gay and cruising in the 1940s  https://www.queerty.com/90-year-old-man-talks-gay-cruising-1940s-20190517 Cassandra Perry’s Accountability Resource master spreadsheet bit.ly/AccountabilityResourceIndex (You can find them at http://cassandrajperry.com, https://twitter.com/cazkilljoy or https://www.instagram.com/cazkilljoy/ People doing accountability work + additional resources (list curated by Nick Fu Entes of https://www.modernpath.net/ & https://www.facebook.com/modernpathcounseling/) Victor Salmon https://www.patreon.com/victorsalmon/overview Aida Manduley http://aidamanduley.com/ Andy Izenson https://dianaadamslaw.net/andy-izenson%2C-associate Bay Area Transformative Justice Collective https://batjc.wordpress.com/ Samantha Manewitz https://www.beyondsafewords.com/sample-page/ Zach Budd https://www.consentwarrior.com/ Justice Moving https://justicemoving.vpweb.com/?fbclid=IwAR2S0u8pIgp-ZRmJ58G08eq3cowMVc7EDj_g7V5NYtNYfvkFa0c_MSVP2jA Diminuendo Movie https://www.amazon.com/Diminuendo-Dykstra-Robinson-Rebecca-Calvert/dp/B07XFQWHNZ/ Sex Educator Skill Share Conference http://sextoyradio.com/sex-educator-skill-share-conference Fire Woman Retreat http://firewomanretreat.com/sunny American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast  Episode 103 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info 1 free month of Audible Escape http://audible.com/sunny – Access the entire library of 18,000+ love stories and romance audiobooks! 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric  & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed At least 25% off BDSM gear & sex toys with Stockroom’s daily deal (there’s a new product each day!) https://www.stockroom.com/dailydeal/?acc=7c590f01490190db0ed02a5070e20f01

Samantha Manewitz is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and educator, and AASECT certified social worker currently based in Massachusetts. Rachel and Samantha discuss harm reduction and the processes of restorative and transformative justice. Optimistically, survivors forming the pods believe that change is possible for their perpetrators. She elaborates on the transformative justice 'pods' that were created by survivors of the Franklin Veaux scandal as well as how they operate. Diving into the systems that are responsible for enforcing justice, the conversation comes to include Scientology's justice systems and use of gaslighting. Hear more about Franklin Veaux from Eve Rickert's two part episode: https://soundcloud.com/indoctrinationshow/eve-pt-2 (Part 2) Learn more about Samantha's site, "Safety Beyond Safewords" here: https://www.beyondsafewords.com/ Stay tuned, Before You Go: "Do as I Say, Not as I Do" as a catchphrase among narcissists. Rachel calls out institutional betrayal of survivors and the effect of neglecting to create consequences for abuse.

Halley speaks with fellow social worker, Samantha Manewitz, a sex therapist and polyamory #MeToo advocate about Fifty Shade of Grey, shame, and abuse in the kink community. It is fascinating stuff here so buckle up! Let’s play!

(if unclear: meme meant ironically) In the last few weeks the first two responses from Franklin Veaux’s “accountability pod” and a veritable cornucopia of new material from Polyamory’s #metoo Survivor Pod has been released. Join us as we take a look. (new minute markers) 00:00 - introduction 00:18 - notes and corrections 04:35 - main story 33:29 - outré / next time on Links: Most Recent Update from the survivor pod: https://medium.com/@fv.survivor.pod/survivor-stories-from-the-game-changer-and-other-updates-for-may-68058dc3065b Franklin’s “accountability pod’s” first post: https://www.quora.com/What-progress-has-Franklin-Veaux-made-with-his-accountability-pod-following-the-Polyamorys-metoo-allegations Aida Manduley’s twitter responce: https://mobile.twitter.com/neuronbomb/status/1131628523326590976?s=21&fbclid=IwAR2ScNHv6mpIjCKUDxeKjosHrob57bd3gMWrJycbqgCKXR-Z-XQZdhvH50I New survivor story collection: https://polyamory-metoo.com/?fbclid=IwAR3fB5RR_qeXYklxo3z84x8rery6aKYF3_3QPErGn5JK7yS_C3ZvlXyqsBA Dr. Elisabeth Sheff’s “accountability pod” post: https://elisabethsheff.com/2019/05/29/sociological-analysis-of-three-veaux-survivor-narratives/?fbclid=IwAR3548GtE9W7SMxUhtwmXWC9BopyGh5CDdw0zBByzm91M_0b5Yt2QNIQwV0 Louisa Leontiades “How I Fucked Up (So Far): http://louisaleontiades.com/ways-i-fucked-up-so-far/ Samantha Manewitz response to Dr. Elisabeth Sheff’s post: https://www.beyondsafewords.com/polyamory-metoo-update-when-sociology-and-transformative-justice-collide/ Louisa Leontiades direct response to Dr. Elisabeth Sheff’s post: http://louisaleontiades.com/response-to-dr-elisabeth-sheffs-critique-of-voices-from-the-game-changer/?fbclid=IwAR07nJ43BkJsLi83J7q7XcycY6M2SHFPLvlAZApTRHec4ovyf3T1-tzW0Y0

Want to work with me? Join the July cohort of the Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and pre-enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. My coaching practice has a few new spots available. If you could use support around the places where you feel most stuck, I'd love to support you. Details about my coaching practice are here: dawnserra.com/work-with-me . In a Sex Gets Real first, this episode is Part Three of a THREE part series featuring Eve Rickert, Samantha Manewitz, and Aida Manduley. This episode is my conversation with therapist Aida Manduley. In it, we are building on the previous two episodes which included a conversation with Eve Rickert and Samantha Manewitz as we explore emotional abuse, accountability, and different ways of being in community with each other. Aida has been a part of several transformative justice processes and has tremendous perspective around how we can center those harmed without throwing out those who caused the harm. We also talk about how white supremacy impacts the ways we show up in life, the false promises made to cis men, and why grief work is crucial to alternative justice practices and accountability. We dive into why communities are where we should start when we're considering how harm happened in the first place and why we all need to adjust our expectations for how long these processes take. It's not a superhero movie where everything is resolved with one fell swoop. I cannot wait for you to hear this awesome conversation, and as noted in the other episodes, your financial help for the survivor pod would mean so much. Resources mentioned in this episode include: Initial statement on February 11th Update on March 25th Tracking spreadsheet where you can find most of the documents, updates, and conversations happening Survivor pod PayPal where you can donate some money (PLEASE DO THIS) to support the process If you've been accused of consent violations or harm, this piece by Tamara Pincus is a good place to start. Patreon supporters - head to patreon.com/sgrpodcast to hear my bonus chat with Aida Manduley on what helps and what hinders accountability processes. If you aren't a supporter, I'd love your financial support to help keep the show going. If you pledge $3 per month, you get access to exclusive weekly bonus content and if you support at $5 per month and above, you can help me field listener questions. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Aida Manduley: Aida Manduley is an award-winning Latinx activist, international presenter, and trauma-focused clinician known for big earrings and building bridges. Trained as a sexuality educator, social worker, and nonprofit management professional, they’re* working to make the word a more equitable place through education, therapy, and community organizing. Their perspective centers intersectionality and maximizing kindness, while retaining both a sense of humor and a sense of justice. From The New York Times to The Rainbow Times, Mx. Manduley has been interviewed by a variety of media outlets. They were even brought on for a debate on the Laura Ingraham show—a popular conservative radio program—and lived to tell the tale. You can follow them on Twitter (@neuronbomb) or Instagram (@aidamanduley), like their page on Facebook, sign up for their newsletter (debuting September 2018), stay tuned to what books they’re nerding out with, and/or get more information about their professional accomplishments via LinkedIn. Grab the episode transcript at http://sexgetsreal.com/ep263

Want to work with me? Join the July cohort of the Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and pre-enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. In a Sex Gets Real first, this episode is Part Two of a THREE part series featuring Eve Rickert, Samantha Manewitz, and Aida Manduley. This episode is my conversation with therapist Samantha Manewitz. We build on the conversation I had with Eve Rickert in Episode 261, exploring emotional abuse and gaslighting in relationships. One of the things Samantha stresses in this conversation is how normalized gaslighting is in the world right now. We have the highest levels of power (the US President) gaslighting an entire nation, and none of us are immune. We also explore some things that help reveal behaviors that might lead to emotional abuse and what one word can change the way we enter into relationships. This is an important and powerful conversation about how subtle emotional abuse can be, and how to look out for DARVO which is how emotional abusers position themselves as the victim. The survivor pod resources mentioned in this episode include: Initial statement on February 11th Update on March 25th Tracking spreadsheet where you can find most of the documents, updates, and conversations happening Survivor pod PayPal where you can donate some money (PLEASE DO THIS) to support the process If you've been accused of consent violations or harm, this piece by Tamara Pincus is a good place to start. Patreon supporters - head to patreon.com/sgrpodcast to grab your bonus content this week which includes a little PDF of the questions Samantha offered around helping to figure out if we're being gaslit, plus a few bonus minutes of our conversation AND an embodiment exercise that can help us arrive in the body in a gentle way. If you aren't a supporter, I'd love your financial support to help keep the show going. If you pledge $3 per month, you get access to exclusive weekly bonus content and if you support at $5 per month and above, you can help me field listener questions. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Samantha Manewitz: Samantha Manewitz, LICSW CST, is an educator and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She has trained mental health professionals, sex educators, and alt-sex communities on healthy communication, abuse prevention, and mental health in BDSM. Samantha was a featured presenter at multiple conferences, including CatalystCon West, American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities, and the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit. Among her therapeutic specialties are trauma (complex PTSD), sex therapy, couples therapy (level 2 Gottman trained), and gender affirming care for transgender/non binary clients. Samantha is also on the faculty of the Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment, where she has presented on sexual coercion and psychotherapy with kinky clients. Stay in touch with Samantha at beyondsafewords.com. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

Join us for our 1-year anniversary, as we discuss how members of leadership can more safely engage in relationships with community members. We are also very lucky to enjoy some words of wisdom from Samantha Manewitz, our guest on the last podcast, for additional depth. This is a great episode and we hope you all enjoy it. We also now have a donation button, so if you want to support future work check out the link: https://www.probablypoly.com/donate

Want to work with me? Join the July cohort of the Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and pre-enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. My coaching practice has a few new spots available. If you could use support around the places where you feel most stuck, I'd love to support you. Details about my coaching practice are here: dawnserra.com/work-with-me . In a Sex Gets Real first, this episode is Part One of a THREE part series featuring Eve Rickert, Samantha Manewitz, and Aida Manduley. This episode is my conversation with Eve Rickert. In it, Eve shares her experience of being in a relationship with Franklin Veaux for five and a half years. She talks about what it was like in the beginning and what happened over the course of time. A part of she shares reveals what it's like to be on the receiving end of gaslighting and emotional abuse: the questioning of self, the isolation, thinking that you're actually crazy. Eve shares about how difficult it was to begin untangling herself from the confusion of it all and what happened when she started speaking with other women Franklin had been in relationship with. We explore and question who gets to tell the stories, who gets to have the redemption arc, and how we (collectively) are so terrible at asking about the people who were a part of that person's redemption, how we ignore or invisibilize their voices and experiences. We also talk about how being someone who caused harm doesn't make you a bad person or a disposable person, and being a survivor of harm doesn't mean you didn't also cause harm. We desperately need more nuanced and messy understandings of relationship dynamics and behaviors, to move away from the good vs evil, pure vs villain narratives that force us into black-and-white categories. This also contributes to victim blaming and the "good survivor" story that so many survivors feel boxed in by. Eve also speaks about being witnessed at Southwest Poly Love Fest and how important that was for her, but how it also made her question why she got to be witnessed in that way and some of the other people impacted by abuse don't get that gift. In the end, this conversation is really about examining problematic behaviors and the harm they can cause, engaging in accountability processes that are outside of our criminal "justice" system, and what we need to start asking ourselves about how we're doing relationship. The survivor pod resources mentioned in this episode include: Initial statement on February 11th Update on March 25th Tracking spreadsheet where you can find most of the documents, updates, and conversations happening Survivor pod PayPal where you can donate some money (PLEASE DO THIS) to support the process If you've been accused of consent violations or harm, this piece by Tamara Pincus is a good place to start. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. About Eve Rickert: Eve Rickert is the co-author of the books More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory and Black Iron, and the co-founder and publisher of Thorntree Press. Support Eve's fundraiser for suicide prevention here. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real Listen and subscribe on iTunes Check us out on Stitcher Don't forget about I Heart Radio's Spreaker Pop over to Google Play Use the player at the top of this page. Now available on Spotify. Search for "sex gets real". Find the Sex Gets Real channel on IHeartRadio. Hearing from you is the best Contact form: Click here (and it's anonymous)

This week we are incredibly excited to have had the opportunity to talk with Samantha Manewitz of the Polyamory’s Me Too Survivor Pod. Unfortunately, the master recording for this episode has some glitches that cause small pops and jumps. We apologize for the slightly lower then average quality of the recording but the content is well worth the glitches. We hope you enjoy. PayPal Pool (please donate): https://www.paypal.com/pools/c/8cEq8gX1q1?fbclid=IwAR2RUXo1ZYKSO76e_QGNPkQQc1xIC8hgk1bBtwd8D82NuK2McSh3tljjdEs Bay Area Transformative Justice Collective Article on Transformative Justice: https://batjc.wordpress.com/pods-and-pod-mapping-worksheet/?fbclid=IwAR3qCGLoyZFqU_mydpgoOgUykIYdpap6CbyoZPGu-HlcFWtHcqMBlo412cw Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy article on Plato’s idea of Justice: https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/justice/ RestorativeJustice.org article on “restorative justice” vs “transformative justice” from the restorative justice perspective: http://restorativejustice.org/rj-library/restorative-justice-and-transformative-justice-definitions-and-debates/11558/#sthash.McixXH4h.dpbs Everyday Feminism article on Transformative Justice: https://everydayfeminism.com/2017/11/me-too-transformative-justice/ YouTube on Fascism: https://ytcropper.com/cropped/bg5cd0959dc058d?fbclid=IwAR0E_sFHh9c6P87tmkYxffyBYP6AK3D3Eg_SBBteIcC3JKE328uQX5i-f20

EPISODE 91: Interview with Samantha Manewitz. Samantha Manewitz is an educator and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She has given presentations to mental health professionals, sex educators, and alt-sex communities on healthy communication, abuse prevention, and mental health in BDSM. Follow her work and adventures at beyondsafewords.com. If you get value out of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, then consider becoming one of our patrons! Not only will you enjoy exclusive content made just for you, your support will also help us continue creating educational content while helping more people have a deeper understanding of consensual non-monogamy and healthy relationships in general. https://www.patreon.com/lovingwithoutboundaries