Podcast appearances and mentions of sara eckel

The holidays can be so hard when you're single, but in this episode I give some perspective on getting through this season AND preparing for love in 2025. I hope you enjoy it.The book I mention in this episode is It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single by Sara Eckel . If you enjoy this podcast, consider supporting it financially here.Happy Holidays! See you in a few weeks for Season 3.

In this week's episode I talk to writer, Christina Campbell. Christina lives in Northern Virginia, USA, with her cats. She writes about invisible illness, singles' rights, and the inexorable onslaught of entropy. Her book, And Sarah His Wife, won the Michigan Writers' Cooperative Press Chapbook Contest in 2017. After earning her Master of Fine Arts in Creative Nonfiction from George Mason University, Christina co-founded the singles' advocacy blog, Onely, with her MFA classmate, Lisa Arnold. The site deconstructs cultural stereotypes about single hood, such as the myth that unmarried people die alone, eaten by their cats! Christina's writing on Onely has been featured, quoted, or referenced in numerous publications, including The Atlantic.com; The Sydney Morning Herald; Boston Magazine; PsychologyToday.com; the book Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone by Eric Klinenberg; the book Singlism: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Stop It by Bella DePaulo; and the book It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single, by Sara Eckel.Topics that Christina & I cover are: What motivated her and her college classmate, Lisa Arnold, to start their blog, Onely;Why Christina started writing about systemic singlism and discrimination against single people;How Christina has been affected personally by systemic singlism;Bereavement leave, how even that seems to favour those who are married, and how Christina wasn't entitled to take bereavement leave for two of her close relatives;How single people aren't able to choose recipients of certain benefits, whereas married people are automatically allowed to benefit their spouses;How single hood has meant that Christina has been hugely financially disadvantaged in respect of her health care;The project Christina worked on which found that single people, at a certain salary rate, finish their life at least $1,000,000 worse off than their married counterparts;How both Christina and I have been asked by 6 year old girls why we're not married, and why we live alone; and how important it is to show little girls that it's ok to be alone.Despite several relationships, Christina has always been very content on her own and never really felt the need to couple up;The stigma around childless women and how they are often perceived as ‘selfish'.Bella DePaulo's term ‘single at heart' and how Christina and I feel about it.How our ‘women's intuition' is our strongest tool against the patriarchal narratives;Last but not least, our beloved ‘fur baby' cats! Christina's Website:https://christinadc.com/ Onely blog:https://onely.orgUS Link to Christina's book, And Sarah His Wife:https://www.amazon.com/Sarah-Wife-Christina-Diane-Campbell/dp/1546681639 UK Link to the book: Book a FREE 30 minute coaching 'taster' session HERE: https://calendly.com/lucymeggeson/30minute Fancy getting your hands on my FREE Top 10 Mindset Tips? Head over to: www.lucymeggeson.com Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: @spinsterhoodreimagined Follow me on Twitter: @LucyMeggeson Follow me on LinkedIn: Lucy Meggeson Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!!!

Meet Sara Eckel! Sara is an Author and she lives in Kingston, New York. She's been a full-time freelance writer since 1997, Sara's essays, arts criticism, and reported pieces have appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Guardian, The BBC, and The Boston Globe to name a few. For five years, Sara was a nationally syndicated opinion columnist, with a weekly column that appeared in more than two hundred newspapers nationwide. Sara has had her short fiction published in Speakeasy and Sanskrit. Sara is also a published author, which is how she wound up on my radar. One of my former guests – Gina Fattore mentioned Sara's book, It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single. I found it on audible and gave it a listen and so much of what she writes about resonated with me. I'm so excited to bring you my conversation with Sara, we chatted about the importance of not getting caught up in trying to fit into the box society has made for women, about seeking our own happiness whether that means being single or being in a healthy relationship and about redefining success away from what previous generations have thought that means. Connect with Sara on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/saraaeckel Connect with Sara on Twitter at: https://twitter.com/saraeckel Find out more about Sara and get her book on her website at: https://saraeckel.com Learn more about the Blissful Spinster Podcast and connect with Cris on the website at: https://www.blissfulspinster.com

In this week's episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I talk to New York State-based journalist and author, Sara Eckel. Sara has had an amazing career as a writer and author of the book 'It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single'. She has written for multiple publications including The Washington Post, The Guardian and Boston Globe Magazine. She has also written two essays for the New York Times' ‘Modern Love' column, one of which is still one of the most popular essays in the history of the column. In this conversation, Sara and I discuss her single years living in New York City, and how they allowed her to explore meditation, Buddhist philosophy and generally gave her a whole new way of looking at her life and the world. We also talk about what motivated her to write her brilliant book, which is all about the things people tell women about why they're single - from too desperate, to too intimidating, to too picky - and why so many of those things seem to completely contradict each other.Our conversation also includes musings on some of the assumptions that are made about single women, how curious we both find it when some women come out of one relationship and go straight into another, and the fact that she doesn't feel any regret about not having children. Sara can be found on Instagram @saraaeckel. She can also be found on Twitter @saraeckel. Link to Sara's book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Its-Not-You-Reasons-Single/dp/0399162879Link to Sara's New York Times articles: https://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/25/style/modern-love-sometimes-its-not-you-or-the-math.htmlhttps://www.nytimes.com/2014/01/05/fashion/Modern-love-The-Hard-Won-Lessons-of-a-Solitary-Life.html?emc=edit_tnt_20140102&tntemail0=yFollow me on Instagram: @spinsterhoodreimaginedEmail me: lucymeggeson@gmail.com

Que pasaría si todo lo que nos han dicho sobre estar solter@s es mentira? BLAH con los estereotipos en todo- si, hasta las relaciones. Les comparto un ensayo para dejar de juzgarnos por no seguir “el orden de las cosas” en las relaciones, por ir a nuestro tiempo y crear lo que es la relación ideal para cada uno de nosotros. El ensayo es “sometimes its not you or the math”- Sara Eckel

Have you ever wondered why it seems so hard to find a lasting, committed relationship these days? You’ve probably heard all sorts of well meaning advice from friends and family, the same cliches we all know such as “you act too desperate”, “your standards are unrealistic”, “you have to love yourself before others can love you”, “it will happen when you least expect it”, and so on. Advice columnist Sara Eckel draws on her years of experience to dispel these cliches as myths and uses modern sociology and psychology research to explain the reality that your singlehood cannot be explained by a one sentence canned phrase and cannot be fixed by folksy wisdom. It’s Not You is a book about self-compassion, and accepting that sadness and loneliness are fundamental elements of the human experience that we need not reject and fear. *** Do you want more free audiobook summaries like this? Download our app for free at QuickRead.com/App and get access to hundreds of free book and audiobook summaries.

What if all the conventional wisdom about why you are single is wrong? Laura Prepon ("You And I, As Mothers") reads Sara Eckel's essay.

Sara Eckel is the author of 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single which is quite frankly one of the most validating and outstanding books your host has ever read. Its author is a guest this week and we're really getting into the feelings and impacts around "reasons" that so often surface in this single life of ours. This episode is for anyone who's ever heard any "advice" they didn't need or deserve to hear about being single. So basically, all of us.If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Includes bonus episodes!)27 (Wrong) Reasons You're SingleSara's Website Dare Me TV Show The Wisdom Of A Broken HeartI Wish I Was Single In The 90s, by Shani shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group*Amazon links above are affiliate links. Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/shanisilver)

Sara Eckel surprised her agnostic parents by becoming a born-again Christian at age 10. It was the first of many attempts to believe. This episode is a production of Longreads and Charts & Leisure, produced by Jason Oberholtzer, with help from Sari Botton. Hosted by Catherine Cusick. Mixed and scored with original music by Jason Oberholtzer and Michael Simonelli. Longreads' theme music was written and performed by Brian Donohoe.

This show is a tribute to all singles who would like to be in a relationship but have not yet found the right person. Guest Sara Eckel, author and well known contributor to the popular New York Times Column ‘Modern Love' draws upon her poignant, funny and important book, It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single, to debunk the myths that society advances and singles accept for what is deemed as their failure to be coupled up- “ You're too picky.” “ You don't really want a relationship.” “ You don't know love.” In a culture that insists that you can work at getting what you want – being single for many who want a relationship begs the question, What's wrong with Me?” Drawing upon her own experience, feedback from readers and those she interviewed, Sara Eckel believes that there is a common experience of blame that many singles experience that transcends gender, race or sexual orientation. Her goal is to push back on societal presumptions to make way for what is right about you!

In this episode we have a really interesting chat with Sara Eckel the author of It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single. We discuss modern dating and jealousy. She also talks about being single later in life and her writing around that.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This show is a tribute to all singles who would like to be in a relationship but have not yet found the right person. Guest Sara Eckel, author and well known contributor to the popular New York Times Column ‘Modern Love' draws upon her poignant, funny and important book, It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single, to debunk the myths that society advances and singles accept for what is deemed as their failure to be coupled up- “ You're too picky.” “ You don't really want a relationship.” “ You don't know love.” In a culture that insists that you can work at getting what you want – being single for many who want a relationship begs the question, What's wrong with Me?” Drawing upon her own experience, feedback from readers and those she interviewed, Sara Eckel believes that there is a common experience of blame that many singles experience that transcends gender, race or sexual orientation. Her goal is to push back on societal presumptions to make way for what is right about you!

Sara Eckel is the author of the book "It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single" and has been a freelance writer for more than fifteen years. Her essays and reported pieces have appeared in The New York Times, Forbes, Martha Stewart Living, Self, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, and other publications. Her short fiction has appeared in Speakeasy and Sanskrit. She lives in New York with her husband and Amy and Sara discuss feelings, feminine energy and feminism, healthy relationships, communication, dating, acceptance and trusting in life's mysterious path toward real love.

Are you tired of hearing "Why aren't you married?" Francesca is joined by Sara Eckel this week to discuss her book "It's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Still Single." Join them as they try to dispel the myths and misconceptions that surround the single life.

Welcome! My guest today is Sara Eckel, who lives in New York state with her husband. She is the author of It’s Not You: 27 Wrong Reasons You’re Single. Sara has been a freelance writer since 1997 and has written for numerous publications. Sara is a nationally syndicated columnist in the USA and has also written short fiction. She is a student of meditation and Buddhism. Let’s catch up with Sara! What you’ll hear in this episode: For Sara, living without children is a combination of choice and circumstances. She met her husband at age 39, but they didn’t marry until a few years later. It was a bigger priority for Sara to have a relationship with the right partner, rather than have children, even though they were totally open to it happening. She and her husband spent a year “not” not trying, but no pregnancy resulted. They stopped using birth control and so were happy to becoming pregnant at any point. They chose not to embark upon the journey of IVF, which is not without its challenges. Sara realised that life was hard enough without putting herself through the uphill climb of making her body do something it wasn't doing naturally. Sara discusses the very small percentage of a chance that she would ever get pregnant, either with or without intervention, at this point in her life. Since she married later in life (comparatively speaking), there was no pressure from family or friends to have kids. Sara enjoys her work, her friends, and spending time with her husband. She expresses her creative feminine energy by trying to be useful—not successful--in the world. For Sara, writing columns and books and coaching other women is extremely fulfilling. Women in this generation have options that those in previous generations did not have. “Women today don’t HAVE to get married and are not dependent on men.” Sara shares her thoughts on the “child-free vs. childless” terminology. Sara has some set responses when people ask if she has kids; she doesn’t go into detail or “take the bait” to get into conversation about it. Women should be empowered to define what womanhood means. Relationships are important, but they don’t define who we are. The major benefits of a life without children for Sara are being able to continue the work she does and facing its challenges, rather than having a set salary. The financial stress of being a writer would have been extremely difficult if her life included motherhood. Find Sara at www.saraeckel.com  (Look for the link to download a free bonus chapter of her book, sign up for her newsletter, and click on the link to purchase her book!) I do hope you enjoyed this episode. Please go to michellemariemcgrath.com for more episodes of these valuable conversations. Thank you!

Sara Eckel was a self-improvement guinea pig. As a freelance writer for women’s magazines and a single woman in her 30s, she talked to psychologists, coaches, yoga teachers, and even took an acting class in a quest to figure out why she was still single and what to do about it. At age 39, without a serious boyfriend in eight years, one man actually looked at her and said: “What’s wrong with you?” The answer to that question is the basis of her first book, “It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single” based on her hit essay for the New York Times Modern Love column. Sara Eckel is a full-time freelance writer and personal coach. She’s been a nationally syndicated columnist and her work has appeared in publications like The Washington Post, Salon, Women’s Health, Time Out New York, Cosmopolitan, Forbes, The BBC, The Village Voice, The Boston Globe, and The New York Times. Currently partnered? No worries, this episode is still for you. It’s not an episode about what it’s like being single and what’s wrong with you if you aren’t partnered and how to go about meeting someone. It’s about how all of us think about being single, and about some of the awful things we sometimes say to singles, especially single women in their 30s and beyond. Most importantly, this episode about compassion. Compassion for yourself and compassion for others and what happens when it’s not there. Sara’s been deeply influenced by her meditation practices and learning about Buddhist teachings. At the heart of this episode is a quagmire…about valuing couples while also embracing singlehood and accepting ourselves as we are even when we might want something more. Make sure to subscribe to the podcast to have new episodes sent directly to your listening device and go visit us our website over at SchoolofPsych.com for shownotes and more.

For those that are single or have been single for a long period time before finding your current spouse or partner, I’m sure you’ve been told at one point that A) you’re too picky B) you’re too independent C) you have low self-esteem D) that you’re too needy or E) some variation of what I just said. People are always trying to find reasons behind their single-ness but maybe you really aren’t the problem! There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you like and what you don’t like, there’s nothing wrong with making your own money and taking initiatives, having a degree and being CEO’s, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting attention from the person you adore. Our guest today is author of “It’s Not You: 27 (WRONG) Reasons You’re Single” and a freelance writer whose written for the New York Times, Forbes, Time Out New York, Martha Stewart Living, Self Magazine, Glamour Magazine – just to name a few. Please welcome, Sara Eckel!

For our first show of the new year and to kick off our second season (!), we’re recapping what we learned about dating in 2015 and setting dating goals for the upcoming year. Then we’re joined by It’s Not You author Sara Eckel, whose book dispels 27 myths single women have thrust at them constantly. Are you too negative, too liberated, too picky, too intimidating or too desperate? Do you “not really want a relationship” or should you “have married that guy”?! Find out what Sara’s learned from her studies of relationships and relationship self help books, and then stay tuned for the return of the “Online Dating Ass of the Week” awards, where we pull up some particularly sad exchanges we’ve had of late. “I think the thing that most struck me was that the older the women were the more relaxed they were. They didn’t take every date personally, they could enjoy the date for its own sake regardless of what happened.” [29:00] –Sara Eckel on Love Bites