Podcasts about sexy marriage radio

She's been married a long time. She's done the work — therapy, 12-step, forgiveness. The guilt and shame are gone. And she's been giving her husband sex twice a week for years. He knows that's all it's ever been. Her question: how do I get past the guarded sex, the pressure, the fear of never being enough? How do I finally be free? It's a good question. But it's not the first question worth asking. Because somewhere along the way sex became something she gives on a schedule she can't trace back to a decision she ever made. Not something they share. Not something that belongs to her. A transfer. A tithe. And he's been accepting it the whole time — while telling her he wants her to be free. Corey and Pam sit with both sides of this one. What it would actually take for her to find out what sex means to her. And what it means that he's spent years gobbling up what he says he doesn't want. "We spend all our energy fighting about what's missing. The real problem is what's actually present." The post I've Given Him Sex #795 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this NEW episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Corey Allan of Sexy Marriage Radio to talk about her book, That We Might Have Joy. They discuss why changing a marriage is about behavior, not ideas, the higher and lower desire dynamic, and the pull to hide behind roles instead of revealing who we actually are in our relationships.

Last week we heard from a wife trying to figure out if she can ever trust her husband again after discovering his affair. This week we're staying on him. All we know about him comes from her email. Four sentences. He denied it at first. Then admitted everything. He says he wants to save the marriage. He's been remorseful and answering her questions. That's it. And it's actually enough to ask the most important question of his recovery. Is he doing this because he's genuinely reckoning with who he was when he made these choices — what it says about him, what was missing in him, what he was actually after? Or is he doing this because losing his marriage, his family, his life as he knows it is terrifying — and fixing things is the fastest way to stop the bleeding? Both look identical right now. The difference only shows up later. When the pressure lets up. When things start feeling normal again. Corey and Pam talk through what that difference actually looks like over time — and why the question doesn't just belong to him. The post What's Really Driving You? #794 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

A month ago she found out. He denied it, then admitted it. She still doesn't know if she has the full story. She's been talking to her pastor, her friends, anyone who will listen. Everyone keeps telling her the same thing — rebuild trust, do the work, give it time. She knows they mean well. But at two in the morning when she can't stop replaying everything, that advice doesn't tell her what to actually do. Corey and Pam sit with her story this week — not to fix it, not to hand her a reconciliation roadmap, but to name what's actually happening and what's actually hers to do something about. Including the question nobody's asking her that matters more than the one everybody is. It's not how do I trust him again. It's how do I learn to trust myself with someone who's proven they're capable of this? The post Can I Trust Him Again #793 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

When something feels off in your relationship, it's natural to hope your partner will be the one to change first. But waiting often keeps couples stuck in the same painful patterns. Real transformation begins when someone has the courage to take the first step.In this conversation, Alexandra Stockwell sits down with marriage therapist and host of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr. Corey Allan, to explore why taking responsibility for your own growth is one of the most powerful gifts you can give your marriage. Together, they unpack the difference between compromising and honoring your individuality, why our differences can strengthen rather than weaken a relationship, and how authenticity creates deeper intimacy.If you've ever found yourself waiting for your spouse to apologize, communicate differently, or meet your needs before making a change yourself, this episode offers a refreshing perspective that can shift the entire dynamic of your relationship.In this episode, you'll discover:• Why "going first" is an act of strength, not surrender• How focusing on yourself changes the entire relationship dynamic• Why your differences don't have to become points of conflict• The hidden cost of waiting for your partner to change first• How authenticity creates more intimacy than people-pleasing ever canHealthy marriages aren't built by keeping score. They're built by two people who are willing to grow, take responsibility, and choose connection, even when it feels vulnerable.Connect with Dr. Corey Allan:Website:⁠ https://marriagefullyalive.com/about/⁠Books:⁠ https://www.amazon.com/Books-Dr-Corey-Allan⁠Sexy Marriage Radio:⁠ https://smr.fm/about/⁠Alexandra and Corey's previous conversation: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/108-sexy-marriage-radio-w-dr-corey-pam-allan/

When something feels off in your relationship, it's natural to hope your partner will be the one to change first. But waiting often keeps couples stuck in the same painful patterns. Real transformation begins when someone has the courage to take the first step.In this conversation, Alexandra Stockwell sits down with marriage therapist and host of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr. Corey Allan, to explore why taking responsibility for your own growth is one of the most powerful gifts you can give your marriage. Together, they unpack the difference between compromising and honoring your individuality, why our differences can strengthen rather than weaken a relationship, and how authenticity creates deeper intimacy.If you've ever found yourself waiting for your spouse to apologize, communicate differently, or meet your needs before making a change yourself, this episode offers a refreshing perspective that can shift the entire dynamic of your relationship.In this episode, you'll discover:• Why "going first" is an act of strength, not surrender• How focusing on yourself changes the entire relationship dynamic• Why your differences don't have to become points of conflict• The hidden cost of waiting for your partner to change first• How authenticity creates more intimacy than people-pleasing ever canHealthy marriages aren't built by keeping score. They're built by two people who are willing to grow, take responsibility, and choose connection, even when it feels vulnerable.Connect with Dr. Corey Allan:Website:⁠ https://marriagefullyalive.com/about/⁠Books:⁠ https://www.amazon.com/Books-Dr-Corey-Allan⁠Sexy Marriage Radio:⁠ https://smr.fm/about/⁠Alexandra and Corey's previous conversation: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/108-sexy-marriage-radio-w-dr-corey-pam-allan/

A listener asked a simple question: is there such a thing as Christian erotica? They'd done the research, found some authors, and sent the links. But that's not really what they were asking. What they were asking — what most of us are asking when we frame a question that way — is: can someone just tell me if this is okay? Corey and Pam don't answer that question. Instead they go after the one underneath it — what does it mean that you need permission? What's the mechanism underneath erotica, Christian or otherwise? And what would it look like to actually examine what you believe rather than borrowing someone else's verdict? Plus — the Song of Solomon is in the Bible. So what exactly are we arguing about? The post Christian Erotica #792 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

He does oral sex almost every time. Toys every time. Bondage, spanking, dirty talk — all things he pushed through because she wanted them. She agreed to reciprocate. She hasn't. Not once. So is he being selfish for wanting more? That's not quite the right question. The real question is what the word return reveals about what's actually been going on. Corey and Pam unpack the difference between genuine generosity and giving to get — why they look similar from the outside, why your spouse can always tell the difference, and what a ledger does to intimacy over time. Plus — what's her side of this? What does it mean that she said she would and didn't? And what would it take for both of them to stop keeping score? The post Quid Pro Quo #791 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

On this week's episode of SMR … This week's episode explores the deep psychological patterns that influence marriage dynamics, focusing on our expectations, meanings, and self-awareness. It offers insights into how understanding our shadow motivations and settling ourselves can foster healthier, more authentic relationships. The post What Am I Wanting? #790 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This week's episode explores how life-changing events can serve as catalysts for personal growth and relationship transformation. We discuss a woman's journey from rejection to self-discovery and how she redefines her marriage after a betrayal, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and adaptive responses. The post Switching Roles #789 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Frank sexual discussion ahead — this one's for grown-ups. A listener calls in curious about pegging. He found it through porn, and he's terrified to say any of it out loud to his wife. Corey and Pam use his voicemail as the door into a bigger conversation than one sex act. The source of a desire doesn't determine whether it's legitimate. And the real question isn't whether pegging is okay, it's whether he's willing to be known. It ends up where their conversations usually end up. This was never about the act. It's about the risk of being fully known by your spouse, and what a marriage quietly becomes when one person decides that risk isn't worth taking. A line worth pulling: "We think we can hide things. We think we can keep things under wraps. But in reality, it's usually felt in some subtle, pointing-towards way, all the way up to: there's really a disconnect." In the extended content: What does it take for someone to Go First with sharing something vulnerable? The post Is It Really About Pegging? #788 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This episode picks up from "She Knows How to Ride" (two weeks ago), shifting focus from the wife's physical pain journey to her husband's inner experience — seen through her eyes. The couple entered marriage with high hopes and open communication about their sexual relationship. But on their honeymoon, penetrative sex was too painful for her to complete. A year later, little has changed — and he's become increasingly withdrawn, citing tiredness or lack of desire, leaving her feeling rejected and questioning herself. Dr. Corey and Pam explore two possible explanations for his withdrawal: 1. He may genuinely be the lower-desire partner. This is more common than people expect — roughly 25–30% of marriages have a higher-desire wife. If so, the question isn't why he isn't initiating more, but whether he can distinguish between his actual desire level and the desire he's buried to avoid causing her pain. 2. He may be hiding behind "kindness." He could be a higher-desire man who's pulled back out of fear of hurting her — physically and emotionally. But there's a harder question underneath that: is he protecting her, or managing his own anxiety? Because what she actually wants isn't a husband who goes through the motions of obligatory sex — she wants someone present and engaged, something worth riding. The episode draws a parallel to Corey and Pam's own early marriage, where a disclosure just before the wedding shut Corey down for years — a reminder that a single event can rewrite the script for a long time, but it doesn't have to be permanent. The real issue isn't which scenario applies to him. It's whether he's willing to lean in and find out — to be known, to show up with presence even when the answers aren't clear yet. That presence changes everything: the quality of touch, eye contact, the feeling of actual connection versus going through the motions. In the extended content: a deeper dive into the masculine-feminine dynamic and what presence actually looks like in marriage. The post Nothing To Ride #787 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio Pam and I talk about the challenges of applying relationship knowledge in real life, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and system disruption to foster genuine change in marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go through what it really looks like to make better self-respecting moves in life and marriage Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post When Life Turns Upside Down #786 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio Pam and I talk about the challenges of applying relationship knowledge in real life, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and system disruption to foster genuine change in marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go through what it really looks like to make better self-respecting moves in life and marriage Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post She Knows How To Ride #785 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio Pam and I talk about the challenges of applying relationship knowledge in real life, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and system disruption to foster genuine change in marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go through what it really looks like to make better self-respecting moves in life and marriage Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Understanding Isn't The Problem #784 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

This episode of Sexy Marriage Radio explores the complex dynamics of desire, intimacy, and past experiences in marriage, focusing on a couple's journey from swinging to a faith-based relationship. We discuss how desire, exhaustion, and personal values influence sexual intimacy and how couples can navigate these challenges with understanding and intentionality. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We explore in more detail about the dilemma of the emailer asking is they should open up their marriage again and how that aligns with her Christian faith. Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post From the Swingers Club to Sunday Morning #783 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this Best of SMR episode we discuss common mistakes that married couples make when it comes to initiating sex.  There are dynamics of higher desire and lower desire and patterns that make these mistakes so easy to make. We cover six common mistakes: getting annoyed at being the one who initiates, using covert or roundabout methods of initiation, joking or crude initiations, feeling the need to be as turned on as your partner, using the same initiation method every time, and talking yourself out of initiating.  Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … What make authenticity and vulnerability in marriage so difficult? Is it the motivations behind the vulnerability? The reactions to vulnerable moments? Both? Let's explore more. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Initiation Mistakes Married People Make #782 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Corey is celebrating a milestone birthday this year, so this episode explores the recurring themes in marriage, personal growth, and the importance of self-awareness. Join us as we reflect on lessons learned over years of marriage and shared experiences, emphasizing the value of courage, authenticity, and continuous self-improvement. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post SMR Honest Reflections #781 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I are joined by Gary and Lisa Thomas as we talk through some simple habits you can do this summer that will have impact on your marriage. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post 3 Habits To Improve Your Marriage This Summer | Gary and Lisa Thomas #780 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore into the complex reality of sexual lust, shame, and the unseen battles that many marriages face, especially those with a history of hypersexuality, trauma, or previous infidelity. This conversation explores what wives and husbands can do when confronting the persistent mental and emotional remnants of past struggles. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We keep going into the exploration of what we can do with our history and how it impacts our present. But that very process can also be something that creates a much closer marriage than we thought possible. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Nobody Talks About This #779 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell joins me again to explore practical ways to deepen intimacy in marriage through everyday interactions, vulnerability, and collaborative decision-making. Discover how small, intentional acts can transform your relationship and foster lasting connection. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go further into the idea of compromise, and what happens when you reach uncompromising moments in marriage? Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Little Things | Alexandra Stockwell #778 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore a couple's unconventional approach to addressing intimacy and trauma within their marriage, including the use of love dolls as a means of connection and healing. We analyze the emotional dynamics, projections, and underlying issues that influence their decisions, offering insights into navigating complex relationship challenges. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post We Bought Dolls For Our Sex Life #777 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the complex dynamics of marriage, intimacy, betrayal, and personal growth through a detailed listener email. We analyze issues like unmet expectations, loneliness, shame, and the impact of past trauma on marital intimacy, offering insights into healing and connection. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go in depth about what the emailer must face in her situation and about herself. Sponsors … Evree: Our favorite intimate product! Get 10% off every order with our code SMR - https://smr.fm.evree Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Flowers Don't Fix This #776 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I answer and email from a husband who has noticed he and his wife have had regular seasons of dry spells in their sex life throughout their 25 year marriage. He wonders if this is normal in long term marriages. And is curious about the fact that they don't talk about this pattern, so is this fact possibly the bigger issue? Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go in depth about how to address the silence in our relationship patterns. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Dry Spells #775 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore the complex factors affecting male and female sexual health, including hormonal therapy, masturbation habits, weight, mental health, and systemic influences. We talk about insights into retraining the nervous system, addressing emotional barriers, and fostering healthier intimacy. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go continue the conversation more in depth about what the husband and the wife can do in their situation. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post No O #774 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore the dynamics of higher and lower desire in marriage, focusing on how these roles influence sexual frequency and emotional interactions. We do a deep dive into a common pitfall like weaponizing desire differences and offers insights on living within these realities healthily. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We go through in more detail what the Higher Desire Spouse can do within the desire differences dynamic. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Weaponized Insight #773 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, our daughter Sydney joins me as we explore relationship dynamics across generations -- from a 20-year-old college student and a 54-year-old married man. Our conversation covers thoughts on commitment, self-awareness, and realistic expectations in relationships. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code PASSION at https://www.oneskin.co/PASSION #oneskinpod Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post A Father and Daughter Talk About Relationships #772 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore various pieces of cringe-worthy marriage advice often found on social media, particularly TikTok. We discuss the implications of popular sayings like 'Happy wife equals happy life' and 'Never go to bed angry,' highlighting how these phrases can lead to unhealthy dynamics in relationships. The conversation dives into the complexities of compromise, the myth of soulmates, the importance of effective communication, and the necessity of setting boundaries. Ultimately, we emphasize that while rituals like date nights can be beneficial, they are not a substitute for the deeper work required to maintain a healthy marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … What is a better way to look at this kind of advice and ideas? That's what we explore. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Keep The Important Important #771 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

Everyone gets the full show … In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the concept of differentiation in parenting, emphasizing the importance of emotional regulation, modeling behavior, and teaching children how to handle their emotions. We explore the various stages of child development, from early childhood to adulthood, and how parents can guide their children through emotional challenges while fostering independence and responsibility. Our conversation also touches on the dynamics of in-law relationships and the importance of creating a supportive family environment that encourages healthy communication and boundaries. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Be The Adult In The Room #770 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore various pieces of cringe-worthy marriage advice often found on social media, particularly TikTok. We discuss the implications of popular sayings like 'Happy wife equals happy life' and 'Never go to bed angry,' highlighting how these phrases can lead to unhealthy dynamics in relationships. The conversation dives into the complexities of compromise, the myth of soulmates, the importance of effective communication, and the necessity of setting boundaries. Ultimately, we emphasize that while rituals like date nights can be beneficial, they are not a substitute for the deeper work required to maintain a healthy marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … What is a better way to look at this kind of advice and ideas? That's what we explore. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Cringeworthy Marriage Advice #769 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the concept of mind mapping and its implications for communication in marriage. We explore how mind mapping influences the way we perceive and react to each other, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and understanding in navigating relationship dynamics. We also highlight common pitfalls such as over-certainty, anxiety, and miscommunication, while also offering insights on how to foster personal growth and improve relational interactions. Ultimately, our episode encourages listeners to trust actions over words and to cultivate a steady presence in their relationships. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We talk more in-depth about how mind mapping plays out most during sex. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Mind Mapping in Sex #768 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

We go back into the vault and hear a regular guest again today, Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, as we dive into the relational dynamic of attraction and desire. They happen to us, and we choose them. They naturally ebb and flow. And how do we get them back if they are lost? Learn more about Jennifer here - https://finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Attraction and Desire | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #767 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the concept of covert contracts in marriage, exploring how unspoken agreements can lead to frustration and resentment. We discuss a listener's email about feeling unappreciated despite being a good spouse and the challenges of initiating intimacy without pressure. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication, breaking the cycle of scorekeeping, and fostering genuine desire in relationships. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We talk more in-depth about the pressures inherent in marriage and how to handle the initiations and rejections with more integrity and solidness. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Covert Contracts #766 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities of conflict in marriage, particularly in the context of parenting and managing family dynamics. We explore how conflict can arise from external pressures and how couples can navigate these challenges together. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding each other's responses to conflict, utilizing resources for better communication, and creating a safe space for discussions. We also provide practical advice on managing conflict in parenting and maintaining a healthy relationship amidst challenges. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We walk through how the four points of balance can help you face conflict and be more whole as you grow. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Conflict Can Refine The Marriage #765 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I answer an email from a listener about how she can seek her own pleasure after orgasm troubles have appeared. The wife shares that she has been diagnosed with lichen planus, which has impacted her ability to orgasm during intercourse. Despite this, she can still achieve orgasm through masturbation and is contemplating whether it is selfish to ask her husband to allow her to masturbate alongside him after they have sex. Our conversation explores into the complexities of sexual intimacy, particularly how changes in the body and sexual function can affect relationships. We want to encourage listeners to consider the importance of collaboration in sexual experiences, suggesting that masturbation can be a shared activity rather than a solitary one. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We explore the guilt and shame often associated with masturbation, particularly in the context of religious backgrounds, and advocate for a more open and accepting approach to discussing sexual health and pleasure within marriage. We give you some questions to ask yourself regarding your beliefs and possible scripts surrounding your sex life. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Masturbation: A Path to Intimacy? #764 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss how vacations can serve as a vital reset for relationships, allowing couples to reconnect and rejuvenate their bond. We explore the dynamics of vacationing, the importance of creating bandwidth for each other, and how to implement the relaxed mindset of vacations into everyday life. This is more about the need for intentionality in maintaining connection and intimacy beyond the vacation setting. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … There are several different kinds of vacations - we discuss some of them. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Power Of Vacations #763 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities of how our fantasy life, desires and sexual practices are not just ours. We emphasize the importance of owning one's desires while recognizing the impact those desires have on spouses. Our conversation explores themes of gridlock in relationships, the pursuit of 'enough' in intimacy, and the necessity of self-development and integrity within the context of marriage. Listeners are encouraged to confront their own roles in relationship dynamics and to communicate effectively with their partners to foster growth and understanding. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We talk through our 3 words for 2026. Words that will help shape our year. What are yours? Listen to find out. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Your Fantasy Life Is Not Just Yours #762 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this Best of SMR conversation, Francie Winslow shares her transformative journey from the constraints of purity culture to embracing a vibrant and fulfilling sexual life within marriage. She discusses the importance of understanding sexuality as a divine gift, the need for education and growth in sexual intimacy, and the detrimental effects of silence and shame surrounding women's sexuality. We also talk about the historical context that has shaped women's views on their bodies and sexuality, advocating for a shift towards embracing the beauty and joy of sexual expression as part of God's design. The conversation highlights the significance of vulnerability and open communication in fostering healthy sexual relationships. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … In this XTD conversation, Francie and I explore the sacredness of sexuality, the importance of community and education in sexual wholeness, and the need for healing in sexual relationships. We discuss personal experiences that shaped their understanding of sexuality, the role of husbands in nurturing intimacy, and the necessity of bringing light to often taboo conversations about sex. . Sponsors … Cure Hydration: Get 20% off your first order! Stay hydrated and feel your best by visiting https://curehydration.com/passion and using promo code passion at checkout. Alloy: Get your Alloy prescription today. Visit https://myalloy.com/PASSION today for $20 off your first order! #agegracefully Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Reclaiming Women's Sexuality | Francie Winslow #761 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the importance of recognizing and addressing communication shutdowns in relationships. They explore various strategies that individuals use to avoid uncomfortable conversations, such as minimizing issues, fix-it modes, stonewalling, and scorekeeping. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness and the courage to confront personal communication patterns to foster healthier relationships. As the New Year approaches, they also introduce the concept of setting resolutions through three meaningful words, encouraging listeners to reflect on their growth and interactions in the coming year. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Exit Strategies #760 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the holiday season and the tradition of setting three words to guide the upcoming year. We also dive into a listener's email regarding her husband's erectile dysfunction, exploring the complexities of control in relationships, the impact of stress, and the importance of reframing sexual intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the need for self-improvement and honest communication in navigating relationship dynamics, particularly in the context of sexual health and emotional connection. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … We talk through what an honest one-way conversation about this dynamic in her marriage would look like. Listen to find out. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post My Husband's ED #759 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities of sexual relationships within marriage, particularly focusing on the idea of sex as a reward system. We explore the potential pitfalls of this approach, including the impact on desire, compliance, and the overall connection between spouses. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of maintaining a playful and honest dynamic in sexual relationships, rather than reducing intimacy to a transactional exchange. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … There are pitfalls to treating sex like a commodity or exchange system - so what can we do instead? Listen to find out. Sponsors … SuperPower: Head to Superpower.com and use code TAKE20 for $20 off your membership. Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Sex For Rewards #758 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we revisit the most popular episode of SMR in 2025. Pam and I explore the complexities of sexual intimacy within marriage, emphasizing the importance of meaningful connections over mere technique. Particularly when it come to oral sex. We discuss the concept of differentiation, the impact of trauma on sexual experiences, and the dynamics of self-confidence in sexual relationships. Our conversation encourages listeners to engage deeply with their own feelings and reactions, fostering a willingness to change and grow in their sexual lives. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Many of us have preconceived notions about oral sex. Put another away, knee-jerk reactions. So how do these reactions impact our ability to experience more pleasure and connection during oral sex? What steps do I need to take to face these? Listen to find out. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Better Oral Sex #757 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the challenges couples face during the holiday season, including managing family dynamics, setting boundaries, and maintaining intimacy. How can we all be better at navigating the pressures of consumerism and family expectations while also understanding the importance of teamwork and preparation in a marriage. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, our conversation shifts to highlight the need for couples to communicate effectively and support each other through the stress of the holidays. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Holiday Survival Guide #756 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, our conversation explores the dynamics of conflict in relationships, focusing on defensive responses and communication patterns that can escalate tensions. Pam and I share personal experiences of how defensiveness can hinder effective communication and lead to frustration between spouses. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we continue our conversation into why marital communication is so difficult. And it's not because we have trouble communicating! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post How Placating Hurts Marriage #755 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the the importance of preparing for marriage, character development, navigating conflict, understanding financial values, and fostering emotional maturity before marriage. We emphasize the need for open communication and trust, and how parents can guide their children in forming healthy relationships. Our conversation highlights that marriage is an ongoing journey of growth and development, rather than a destination. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, what surprised Pam and I most about marriage, based on what we thought it would be before we got married. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Before You Say I Do (For Real) #754 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the complexities of relationships, emphasizing the need to retune both sexual and marital systems to adapt to changing dynamics. Particularly when menopause happens. We want to encourage a focus on personal growth and understanding within the relationship, rather than solely on physical outcomes. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we explore more the idea of Exploration Nights and Connection Nights for couples looking to deepen their capacities emotionally and sexually. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Post Menopause And I Can't Orgasm #753 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the importance of teaching children about sex and sexuality in a healthy and age-appropriate manner. There is a need for open communication between parents and children, and sex education should not be a one-time conversation but rather an ongoing dialogue. We provide practical principles for discussing these topics, including the importance of using accurate terminology, discussing consent and boundaries, and creating a welcoming environment for questions. They also address common parental fears and encourage parents to start these conversations early and often. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we share age-tiered sex talk thoughts. In other words, how you adjust the conversation to the different ages as your children grow up. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Talk About Sex With Your Kids #752 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, let's have a conversation about solo sex (i.e. masturbation). And this episode it's Dr Corey solo, as he covers an email from a listener asking how to maintain sexual connection and intimacy when spouses are apart. I explore how individuals maintain their sexual feelings and desires in the absence of their spouse, including the role of personal reflection and communication in sustaining emotional closeness. Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Solo Sex #751 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I dive into the complexities of communication in marriage, particularly around sexual dynamics and desires. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding different needs and preferences in intimacy, the role of foreplay, and the challenges of vulnerability and control in sexual relationships. We encourage you to learn to ask better questions to foster deeper understanding and connection with their partners. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, what specifically can the husband do to address his desire to want to slow things down for more foreplay. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post I Want To Slow Down #750 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss a listener's email regarding premature ejaculation and the psychological factors that may contribute to it. We explore the dynamics of sexual desire, the importance of communication between partners, and strategies for retraining the nervous system to enhance intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the need for collaboration and understanding in sexual relationships, offering practical advice for couples to navigate challenges together. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended Version … In the XTD content, we cover some specific techniques to try when PE is an issue and you want to maintain connection. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post In My Head #749 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.