Podcast appearances and mentions of jennifer finlayson fife

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Dan Purcell of the Get Your Marriage On podcast to discuss her book That We Might Have Joy and the role of eros energy—the aliveness that emerges when couples stop running their marriages from fear, control, and ego. Through stories from the book—like Samuel, whose fear of sexual feelings kept him stuck, and Bradley, whose relentless pursuit of sex was driven by shame—Dr. Jennifer shows how sexual repression doesn't make us more spiritual. It just keeps us fragmented.

It's easy to notice when your marriage feels disconnected, but it's much harder to know what to actually do about it. And it's even harder to look at your own part in the dynamic instead of just wishing your partner would change. This Valentine's Week, I'm bringing back one of my favorite conversations with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, a relationship and sexuality coach whose work has profoundly impacted my own marriage. In this encore episode, she shares three concrete, actionable things we can do right now to become better partners and strengthen our marriages. In this episode, you'll learn:

As we explore the Old Testament this year, we've found ourselves returning to a past conversation with our friend Terryl Givens. It felt grounding and expansive and we're really excited to share it with you again.The Old Testament can be incredibly rich—full of beauty, poetry, and profound spiritual insights. But it can also sometimes feel bewildering or even faith-shaking. We get glimpses of a loving, nurturing God—and turn the page to encounter a God that seems angry, even violent. It's a text that raises big questions and invites us into deep wrestles. And maybe that's part of its sacredness—that it pushes us into such honest, meaningful conversation.In this episode, Terryl helps us navigate those tensions. Together, we ask: What is the Bible, really, and where did it come from? What do different translations of this text have to offer, and how can we engage with this scripture in a posture of reverence and discernment that allows for mystery, and honors the sacredness of the whole landscape.We loved Terryl's insights in this conversation, and we're so grateful to revisit them now. Thanks so much for listening—we hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did.For more on this topic, and for weekly resources to accompany your Come Follow Me study, be sure to check out the Faith Matters newsletter at faithmatters.org.Order That We Might Have Joy for the perfect Valentine's Day gift, and join the book club with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife!

In this episode, Marta explores what it means to stay rooted in yourself while staying deeply connected to the people you love.Building on her conversation with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, Marta brings differentiation into real life through a story of a young woman navigating a brave, values-based conversation with her father.This episode focuses on emotional adulthood, self-authorship, and the courage it takes to move from approval-seeking into values-based living — to tolerate disappointment, hold your ground, and remain open-hearted in the face of fear and dysregulation.This is a grounded, compassionate conversation about belonging, agency, and learning how to love without shrinking, disappearing, or surrendering your truth.

In Part 2 of this two-part conversation, Marta and Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife explore what it truly means to love in a way that allows both people to grow, remain connected, and stay true to themselves.This episode focuses on differentiation, emotional maturity, and the lifelong work of self-authorship — how we move beyond enmeshment, control, or self-erasure and into relationships rooted in awareness, responsibility, and respect.Together, they reflect on marriage, parenting, generational patterns, and the courage it takes to repair, listen, and keep becoming even when it's uncomfortable.This is a grounded, human conversation about love as growth, connection as choice, and the sacred work of becoming whole without standing alone.

In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, Marta is joined by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife for a thoughtful exploration of belonging, spirituality, identity, and the deep human longing to feel connected — to ourselves, to each other, and to something larger than us.Together, they reflect on how early faith traditions and family systems shape our sense of meaning, worthiness, and purpose, and how questioning, disillusionment, and curiosity are often essential parts of spiritual and emotional growth.This episode weaves through young adulthood, self-authorship, and values-driven living, offering a grounded reminder that becoming human is not about getting it “right,” but about choosing what is aligned, honest, and rooted in love rather than fear.This is a spacious conversation about yearning, connection, and creating a life shaped by meaning, belonging, and the courage to become.Learn More About Jennifer and Her Work Here!: https://www.finlayson-fife.com/

In this NEW episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Jody Moore to explore the crucial difference between compliance and true goodness. They discuss the difference between being kind and being compliant, why prioritizing other people's comfort over your own integrity is harmful, and what your resentments can teach you about yourself and the way you show up in relationships.

What if joy in marriage isn't about chasing happiness, but embracing courage? Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife's enlightening perspective reshapes our understanding of joy—not as mere happiness but as a deeper, more embodied openness to love and goodness, even amidst life's challenges. This kind of joy is interwoven with eros love—an expansive, soul-reaching connection that pushes us beyond our comfort zones and into a realm of growth and self-discovery. In my conversation with Dr. Finlayson-Fife, we explored how marriage becomes a fertile ground for joy—not by eliminating our differences but by choosing to love through them. By asking ourselves what we already know we need to do differently, we unlock the potential for profound personal growth and deeper marital intimacy, ultimately steering our relationships toward genuine joy. Past episode to listen to: https://www.aboutprogress.com/blog/why-joy-isn-t-the-same-as-happiness-and-how-to-reclaim-it-even-during-a-difficult-time-with-tanmeet-sethi Podcast Anni: (Still ongoing!) Celebrate 9 years of About Progress by submitting to our annual Favorite Things Giveaway! Simply leave a rating/review on Apple Podcasts. Favorite things + details on who won ⁠HERE⁠. 1-on-1 COACHING ENROLLMENT OPEN NOW! BOOK A CURIOSITY CALL NOW to be considered for one of my limited spots for 1-on-1 coaching this Winter. Transform your space now. Go to https://www.quince.com/monica for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns; Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home; Join Masterclass for 15% off at masterclass.com/progress Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if becoming your best self didn't require perfection? In this personal growth podcast clip, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and Carolyn Bever explore how to feel happier and more fulfilled by leaning into the process, not the outcome. Their conversation touches on self-compassion and the kind of personal development that actually lasts. If you've been trying to stop being a perfectionist or looking for self-help podcasts that feel uplifting instead of overwhelming, this moment is for you. It's thoughtful, relatable, and full of practical self-improvement ideas for women. Listen to the full episode here: https://www.aboutprogress.com/blog/how-to-strive-for-excellence Sign up as a Supporter to get access to our private, premium, ad-free podcast, More Personal. Episodes air each Friday! More for Moms Conference use code “LISTENER” for $20 off Leave a rating and review Check out my ⁠workshops⁠! Follow About Progress on YOUTUBE! Book Launch Committee ⁠Free DSL Training⁠ Full Show Notes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you've ever found yourself feeling resentful, irritated, or annoyed as a mom, wife, or friend, you don't want to miss this episode. Learning from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife has helped me so much as a mom, through my divorce and into my now healthy, more mature marriage, my friendships, and my relationship with myself. I can not recommend her work highly enough. Please gift yourself a listen to today's episode. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and I talk about why resentment shows up in marriage and motherhood and how to use it as a path toward self-understanding and deeper connection. We explore how relationships are powerful containers for personal growth, what it really means to self-confront and take responsibility for your part, and how to move away from compliance and people-pleasing into honesty and emotional maturity. Dr. Finlayson-Fife shares her perspective on self-authoring, costly accommodation, and the difference between love and victim entitlement. Together we talk about how to feel more connected in your marriage, less resentful in your motherhood, and more grounded in who you truly are. If you've been longing for more peace and authenticity in your relationships, this conversation will help you take the first step. If you liked this show, you'll like these two: Resentment and Shame on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/233-resentment-feel-it-heres-the-greatest-tip/id1434429161?i=1000596420128 Resentment and Shame on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/0kybmmxPsITmZxOflDBKBv?si=gQh8VJswShuK4N9V3AsxUA Resentment in Marriage and Motherhood on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/234-resentment-in-marriage/id1434429161?i=1000597499677 Resentment in Marriage and Motherhood on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/6yuhlXIrz0fsPN4OQsha16?si=vSURTNyKSiWWKKxo6O40uw Get the full show notes here

In this conversation with Taylor Church of the Of Stone and Clay Podcast, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife walks through her own marriage journey to illustrate what relational growth looks like. She shares how marriage revealed parts of herself she didn't want to see and how learning to stay in honest conflict has helped her relationship grow over the years. She also discusses how couples unknowingly co-create the dynamics they resent, and what it means to actually love and value your partner for who they are.

We explore how sexual intimacy becomes joyful and life-giving when anchored in self-honesty, personal responsibility and spiritual growth. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife shares practical ways to move beyond rigid roles, foster freedom and desire, and build a marriage that can hold two full adults.• linking sexuality and spirituality as sources of joy• defining intimacy as being seen and known• reframing eroticism as life force, not performance• spotting how roles hide the self and stall desire• negotiating roles with honesty and responsibility• understanding desire as freedom plus self-acceptance• better advice for daughters than duty-based sex• helping sons regulate desire without shame• why intimacy feels risky to the ego• becoming more truly who we are in love• first steps for the stuck: curiosity over judgment• resources to grow sexual and emotional intimacyJennifer's Website: https://finlayson-fife.com/Podcast: https://www.finlayson-fife.com/podcastsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/finlaysonfife/?hl=enVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

This week I interview Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. We talk about sexual intimacy, eros energy, resentment, and the soul of sex. She is a wealth of wisdom. You won't want to miss this episode.  Buy your copy of That They Might Have Joy here.  Buy your copy of It Just Takes One on Amazon here. Write a review here.  Sign up for weekly inspiration from Sara here. 

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and I explored the intersection of spirituality and sexuality, particularly focusing on how societal and religious expectations impact LDS women's understanding and expression of sexuality. Jennifer teaches us about three stages of spiritual and sexual development, including how individuals progress from Stage 1's black-and-white morality to Stage 3's integrated understanding of spirituality and sexuality, and we also talked about self-acceptance, spiritual alignment, and the role of physical pleasure in creating deeper intimacy in relationships. If you have struggled to understand where your spirituality and your sexuality intersect, you'll want to listen to this episode for sure! Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #281 Mid-Life Sexuality with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on Apple on Spotify #331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify #334 Sense of Self and Marriage on Apple on Spotify #345 Men's Sexuality With Sione on Apple on Spotify #360 What Men Wish Women Knew About Men's Sexuality with Dan Purcell on Apple on Spotify If you want to connect with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and learn about her available courses on sexuality, you can do that HERE. Dr. Jennifer also has two podcasts: Conversations with Dr. Jennifer – interviews with other podcasters like me Room for Two – a subscription podcast where Dr. Jennifer coaches couples through their difficult marriage intimacy struggles Also, she has just published a great new book entitled That We Might Have Joy, Desire, Divinity & Intimate Love, you can find that HERE on Amazon. Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

This personal growth podcast episode dives into personal development and self improvement through the lens of intimacy—covering how to be happier, how to feel happy, daily habits, self-compassion, and how to stop being a perfectionist. A smart, self help podcasts–style convo for personal growth and development and self care for mothers—ideal if you're hunting the best podcasts for self improvement without the shame spiral. Listen to the full episode here: https://www.aboutprogress.com/blog/what-to-do-when-you-hate-sex Sign up as a Supporter to get access to our private, premium, ad-free podcast, More Personal. Episodes air each Friday! More for Moms Conference use code “LISTENER” for $20 off Leave a rating and review Check out my ⁠workshops⁠! Follow About Progress on YOUTUBE! Book Launch Committee Free DSL Training Full Show Notes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many of us learned early on that being good meant following the rules, keeping everyone happy, and never causing discomfort. So maybe you find yourself saying yes when really, you mean no. Perhaps you agree to host the family gathering, even when you're already overwhelmed, or give in to your teenager's demands because you can't stand their anger.   This week, I'm joined by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to explore the crucial difference between compliance and true goodness. As an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a PhD in counseling psychology, Jennifer brings unique insight into how religious communities can inadvertently teach us to abandon ourselves in the name of belonging, and she's here today to illuminate exactly how we mistake being good for being compliant.   Join us today as Jennifer shares practical wisdom about the difference between being kind and being compliant, why prioritizing other people's comfort over your own integrity is actually harmful, and how to recognize when your resentments are telling you something important. This episode is your roadmap for moving from people-pleasing to authentic living while still maintaining meaningful relationships.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://jodymoore.com/538

In this NEW episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife answers questions from listeners wrestling with whether to stay or leave their marriages. She explores why peace doesn't come from certainty, but from the courage to act with integrity—choosing what we believe is most right, even when both paths carry loss.

We're back for Part 2 of my powerful conversation with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, LDS relationship and sexuality coach, author of That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity & Intimate Love, and host of the Room for Two podcast. In this episode, we go deeper into the themes of desire, faith, and emotional honesty — exploring how to find peace and purpose after divorce while deepening your relationship with God and yourself. You'll learn how to:

Desire, Divinity, and Finding Joy After Divorce (Part 1) – with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife In this first half of my powerful two-part conversation with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, we dive into the connection between desire, divinity, and emotional honesty—and how these principles can help you heal and grow after divorce. Dr. Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, author of That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity & Intimate Love, and host of the Room for Two podcast. Her wisdom and clarity are life-changing for anyone navigating heartbreak, faith, or rebuilding self-worth. You'll learn how to:

In this NEW episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Jane Copier of the Happy in the Middle podcast to speak directly to women in midlife who feel disconnected from desire or unsure of how to bring themselves back into their marriages. She explains why this stage—though often uncomfortable—is full of possibility: a chance to stop living on autopilot, get honest about what you want for your life, and create more peace and connection in your relationship.

Spirituality is our connection with the divine. It is where our spirits are able to connect on a level above mortality with God. Often we can become scared and fearful of that higher level connection and what it will mean for the current truths we hold dear if we learn things that contradict them and the beliefs of those around us. To Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, discovering those truths from a place of courage instead of fear is how we have integrity with ourselves and with God. We believe in a Restoration that didn't just happen with the Prophet Joseph Smith, but that is still continuing today. It is our duty as saints in these latter days to realize that we are part of that Restoration as we establish Zion within ourselves and as a collective group by seeking out truth. For more information about Jennifer and for links to access all he has to offer, please click HERE! To watch this interview on YouTube, go HERE. For more information and available downloads, go to: https://ldslifecoaches.com/ All content is copyrighted to Heather Rackham and featured coaches. Do not use without permission.  

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Lauren Yarrow of the Blonde Apologist podcast for a powerful conversation that reframes how we think about pornography. Drawing on insights from That We Might Have Joy, they explore how growth doesn't come through control or avoidance, but through honesty, self-understanding, and integrity.

For so many Christian couples, sexuality and spirituality can feel like they're at odds. We've been taught that to be holy means to suppress desire—but what if our sexuality is actually one of the most powerful ways to love? In this deeply insightful episode, we talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about how to integrate faith, desire, and embodiment. We explore how repressing our sexuality keeps us disconnected, how true intimacy begins with self-honesty, and why learning to love through our sexuality is a profoundly spiritual act. You'll hear about: Why sexual integration, not suppression, leads to spiritual strength How ego, fear, and control distort connection—and what it means to love from the soul The difference between sex as validation vs. sex as communion How couples can cultivate that eros energy—aliveness, joy, and freedom—in their marriage Whether you've wrestled with shame around sexuality or you just want a richer, more connected relationship, this conversation will inspire you to see your body and your marriage in a whole new light.

In this NEW episode, hosted by Rhonda Farr, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife draws from Chapter 3 of her book That We Might Have Joy to unpack how repression drives obsession, why intimacy is so difficult to tolerate, and how agency and integrity can open the way to real communion in marriage.

This week, we're sharing a special live episode of Proclaim Peace recorded in person at the Compass Gallery on Peacemaking and Discipleship with Jennifer Thomas and Chad Ford.We're also excited to announce the first-ever Waymakers conference, REPAIR, is taking place October 23–25 in Provo, Utah. This is such an incredible opportunity to learn from world-class peacemakers leading intensive workshops to help us navigate the most challenging situations in our lives. If you feel frustrated or hopeless about a conflict in your life, bring it to REPAIR. This year we're featuring a keynote from Jim Ferrell as well as a series of intimate workshops from The One America Movement, Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, Patrick Mason, Melisson Mason, Thomas McConkie, LaShawn Williams, and many more.And if you missed Restore this year, we've got you covered. You can purchase the full general session recordings to hear your favorite speakers anytime at faithmatters.org/restore. If you purchased a ticket to Restore (of any kind) the recordings are included—we'll send them to you as soon as they're edited and ready. 

This week, we're sharing a special live episode of Proclaim Peace recorded in person at the Compass Gallery on Peacemaking and Discipleship with Jennifer Thomas and Chad Ford.We're also excited to announce the first-ever Waymakers conference, REPAIR, is taking place October 23–25 in Provo, Utah. This is such an incredible opportunity to learn from world-class peacemakers leading intensive workshops to help us navigate the most challenging situations in our lives. If you feel frustrated or hopeless about a conflict in your life, bring it to REPAIR. This year we're featuring a keynote from Jim Ferrell as well as a series of intimate workshops from The One America Movement, Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, Patrick Mason, Melisson Mason, Thomas McConkie, LaShawn Williams, and many more.And if you missed Restore this year, we've got you covered. You can purchase the full general session recordings to hear your favorite speakers anytime at faithmatters.org/restore. If you purchased a ticket to Restore (of any kind) the recordings are included—we'll send them to you as soon as they're edited and ready. 

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife explores how moving beyond validation-seeking creates deeper, more authentic intimate connections in marriage, explaining that true intimacy requires embracing differences rather than demanding constant agreement.• Distinguishing between validation and true intimacy in relationships• Understanding the three unhealthy relationship patterns: pressuring our partner, yielding to avoid conflict, or creating parallel lives• Recognizing that we marry people for their differences but then often resent those same differences• Learning to weather invalidation without falling apart or becoming defensive• Developing the capacity to truly listen to our partner's perspective without immediately defending ourselves• Identifying our "losing strategy" – our default response under pressure that undermines connection• Approaching conflict with curiosity about our partner's experience rather than taking it personally• Beginning difficult conversations by acknowledging where our partner is right about us• Understanding marriage as a spiritual journey that expands our capacity to love and be knownGet your copy of Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife's new book "That We Might Have Joy: Sexuality as a Path to Spirituality for Latter-day Saints" available September 30th on Amazon or through her website at finlayson-fife.com.Send us a text

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Hunter Otis of the Pxrn Free Revolution podcast to explore the hidden pressures men carry around sexuality. They discuss why porn is such a tempting escape, how cultural and personal messages keep men stuck, and—most importantly—how stepping out of hiding can lead to greater freedom, honesty, and deeper connection in their lives and relationships.

Pornography is such common struggle in our faith community, yet one of the least talked about. Too often it's surrounded by silence, shame, and fear. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to unpack how we can approach this topic with honesty, compassion, and faith. We talk about how to respond when a loved one is struggling, how to have open conversations while dating or parenting, and how to move toward healing and self-mastery without losing sight of God's love.Dr. Finlayson-Fife's Book: https://amzn.to/4mBZjuXOther Resources: https://www.finlayson-fife.com/courses?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=19044940972&gclid=CjwKCAjw2brFBhBOEiwAVJX5GH3r-6RY23yK2u13_MTYTbdpH9bTPsVmXjFz3JPcBD4Wnu0jZF5HDxoCDJIQAvD_BwE

In this conversation, Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins me as we explore the intricate relationship between sexuality and spirituality, emphasizing the importance of intimacy and personal growth within marriages. We discuss the challenges of navigating desire, vulnerability, and the dynamics of relationships, while also highlighting the need for authenticity and self-discovery. Dr Jennifer also shares insights from her upcoming book and courses, aiming to help individuals and couples create deeper connections and joy in their relationships. Check them out here - https://finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post The Intersection of Sexuality and Spirituality | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #743 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

We're so happy to welcome back Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife—someone whose voice and work have shaped our thinking in really lasting ways.Today we're talking with Jennifer about her brand-new book, published by Faith Matters: That We Might Have Joy: Desire, Divinity, and Intimate Love. The book offers an honest look at how sexual intimacy can reveal the truth of a relationship—and how, for those willing to confront that truth, it can serve as the starting point for deep joy, spiritual transcendence, and communion with another soul.It reframes sexual intimacy not as something separate from our faith, but as an integral part of it—a way of knowing ourselves and another person, and of developing fully into our divine potential.In this conversation we explore what intimacy requires, and how it's not about just saying the right things, playing the right role, or “becoming selfless”—it's about showing up fully, even when it's uncomfortable. Jennifer makes the powerful case that true intimacy can't be faked, and that our bodies and our partners always know when we're hiding.We talk about the traps so many couples fall into—cycles of accommodation, avoidance, pressure, or silence—and how our hunger for validation often gets in the way of real connection. And, maybe most importantly, Jennifer helps us see that the tension in our relationships isn't a sign that something's broken.We loved this conversation and are excited to share it with you. Jennifer's book will be released September 30, but you'll be able to purchase advanced copies of the book at Restore in just a few weeks.Preorder the paperbackPreorder the ebookJoin us at Restore

In this episode, listeners joined Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife for a Q&A discussion about her soon-to-be-released book, That We Might Have Joy (order your copy HERE!). During the conversation, she answered listener's questions about the process of writing the book, how she decided on the topic, and what lessons she learned along the way. But, true to form, Dr. Finlayson-Fife offered more than just simple answers to questions during this discussion—she challenged limiting cultural messages about the body, spoke about the courage it takes to face the truth in our relationships, and explained why intimacy always begins with self-honesty.

Send us a textThe words "you're just too sensitive" ring in our ears long after they're spoken—especially when they're used to cover up betrayal. As a trauma-informed coach who survived my own journey through infidelity, I've discovered that most troubled relationships follow a pattern: one partner acts as the "bomb maker" while the other becomes "the bomb." This powerful metaphor, borrowed from relationship expert Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, perfectly captures the dynamic where one person creates chaos while the other absorbs negativity until eventually exploding.When someone lives a double life through affairs or addiction, they manufacture stress through lies and deception. Their partner feels this constant undercurrent of negative emotion but can't quite identify its source—until discovery happens. Then the explosion occurs. The aftermath leaves both people wondering how to navigate this emotional minefield. Do you recognize signs of a bomb maker? They create emotional outbursts, start arguments with contradictory statements, engage in gaslighting, blame-shift, emotionally manipulate, and place unrealistic expectations on their partner. These behaviors destroy trust, drain energy, and erode self-esteem in devastating ways.Healing starts with acknowledging what's happening. Set clear boundaries and communicate consequences when they're violated. Instead of trying to control your partner's behavior, focus on what actions you'll take to protect yourself when tensions rise. Create emotional safety within yourself rather than relying on someone else to provide it. Most importantly, get support. While betrayal magnifies these destructive dynamics, with awareness and proper guidance, both partners can learn to recognize these patterns and create healthier relationship dynamics. If you're struggling to navigate betrayal's aftermath, know that healing is possible—and you don't have to do it alone. I've been there, and now I help others find their path to living happily, even after betrayal.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com

It's easy to see your partner as the problem when things feel unfair—but often, the patterns we feel stuck in are ones we've unwittingly helped create. In this NEW episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Monica Packer of the About Progress podcast to talk about what it means to be a thoughtful change maker in your relationship. They explore how to recognize when you've been over-accommodating—and how avoiding conflict or ignoring your own desires can quietly erode both your well-being and the strength of the partnership. Dr. Finlayson-Fife teaches that change begins by owning your role in the current dynamic—and using that clarity to engage in honest, collaborative conversations with your partner.

In this NEW episode of the Phoenix Forte podcast, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife offers guidance for women navigating the emotional and spiritual work of healing after divorce, especially when infidelity has been involved. She discusses how disconnection from the body and sexuality is a tempting strategy—but one that ultimately keeps us from experiencing peace and connection with ourselves.

Many men carry inherited messages about masculinity and sexuality that quietly undermine their peace with themselves—and interfere with their ability to show up with strength and clarity in their marriages. In this powerful conversation with Rhonda Farr, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife challenges those inherited ideas and reframes strength—not as certainty or control—but as the courage to look honestly at yourself. The courage to tolerate feedback, consider your impact, and use discomfort as a catalyst for growth.

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we revisit an archive show with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. We dive into the topic of obligation sex. Is it a part of every marriage? Is it harmful to one, or both spouses? To learn more from Jennifer and find her Room For Two Podcast – check out her site https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Obligation Sex | Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #731 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Greg and Amy Langford of the Undressing Intimacy podcast to talk about the painful reality of being at an important crossroads in your relationship.

Sexuality between men and women can get complicated because we experience it so differently. And until we can begin to understand and accept those differences, and then learn to work with them rather than fighting against them, we will struggle to find the connection and intimacy that a great sexual relationship has to offer us. In this podcast I am speaking with Dan Purcell, a life coach and Christian couples sex expert about what women may not know about men's sexuality. You can find more of Dan on his popular podcast Get Your Marriage On. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #281 Mid-Life Sexuality with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #337 Sense of Self and Our Sexuality #345 Men's Sexuality and Intimacy with Sione Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Have you ever felt like your personal growth is at odds with your role within your relationship? In today's episode, I'm joined by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to explore this challenging dynamic. We delve into the intricacies of how traditional roles and covert expectations can hinder personal development, especially for women. Dr. Finlayson-Fife shares valuable insights on how to become a change maker in your relationship, emphasizing the importance of honest communication and mutual growth. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone striving for a more balanced and fulfilling partnership. Sign up as a Supporter to get access to our private, premium, ad-free podcast, More Personal. Episodes air each Friday! Leave a rating and review Follow About Progress on YOUTUBE! Book Launch Committee Free DSL Training Full Show Notes This episode is brought to you by goPure Beauty, get 25% off @goPure with code PROGRESS at https://www.goPurebeauty.com/PROGRESS #goPurepod; and by AirDoctor, use code MONICA at http://airdoctorpro.com/ for up to $300 off air purifiers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Besides all of the life changes that occur in middle-age such as children leaving home, readjusting our marriage relationships, figuring out our next life steps, aging parents, etc., how about we add on a heaping serving of menopause where our hormones change and adjust and it affects us not only physically, but also mentally and emotionally as well. So much in such a small time space! On this podcast I'm speaking with Dr. Taylor Hahn, a menopause specialist, who answers many of your questions about what is going on and how can we manage our menopause in helpful and healthy ways. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #89 Mid-Life Teenage Angst #281 Mid-Life Sexuality with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #315 Mid-Life Crisis? Yes, Please! Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

In this powerful Q&A discussion, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife explores the complexities of "duty sex" including what drives it and the detrimental impact it has on relationships. She discusses the powerful meanings we attach to sex, and how these meanings can either undermine desire by creating a sense of obligation or foster connection through choice and mutual desire. She offers insight into how both higher and lower-desire partners can step away from patterns of pressure and compliance and cultivate a more fulfilling sexual relationship built on mutual desire, authentic connection, and a sense of being truly chosen.

Send us a textAnother experience of meditation from Thomas McConkie's podcast One Heart One Mind. "Episode 2: The Prayer of Quiet"Father Thomas Keating said in his book Open Mind Open Heart, “My conviction is that if people are never exposed to some kind of non-conceptual prayer, it may never develop at all because of the overly intellectual bias of western culture and the anti-contemplative trend of Christian teaching in recent centuries.”What happens if you take your foot off the gas?What would it look like for you to introduce more quiet into your relationship with your child?Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife's Strengthening Your Relationship courseYou found me! If what you heard on the No Empty Chairs podcast gives you hope for more help, please schedule a free Conversation with Candice. You can also visit candiceclarkcoaching.com for more information about how coaching tools can help you keep your relationship with your children and your faith. While you're there, be sure to pull up a chair and sign up with your email to be the first to know about news and events for moms whose kids don't come to church. It's going to be okay, and even better!

In this conversation from the Archives, we revisit an episode with Dr Jennifer Finylason-Fife. TWe dive into the complexities of desire dynamics within marriage, particularly focusing on the roles of higher and lower desire spouses. The discussion highlights the impact of predictability on desire, the importance of self-discovery, and the need for authenticity in relationships. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fyfe shares insights on how societal and cultural expectations shape women's experiences of desire and intimacy, emphasizing the significance of personal growth and self-awareness in fostering healthy relationships. Learn more here https://finlayson-fife.com/ Takeaways Desire dynamics in marriage often shift from high to low over time. Predictability in marriage can stifle desire and intimacy. Women often feel societal pressure to accommodate their partner's desires. Self-discovery is crucial for understanding personal desires. Authenticity in relationships fosters deeper connections. Resentments can indicate unfulfilled desires that need addressing. Propping up a partner's ego can harm both individuals in a relationship. Intimate marriages require both partners to show up honestly. Cultural narratives can shape our understanding of desire and intimacy. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … Dr Jennifer and I discuss her research with LDS Women and sexuality and desire, as well as my research on the same topic with a conservative Christian population. Sponsors … Factor: Eat smart with Factor. Get started at https://factormeals.com/factorpodcast to get 50% off your first box! Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Revisiting the Lower Desire Wife | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #721 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio.

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Tanya Hale of the Intentional Living Podcast to challenge deeply ingrained beliefs about women's sexuality. They discuss the ways these messages undermine women's sense of self and self-respect and explore how integrating sexuality and spirituality allows women to reclaim desire, develop deeper self-trust, and cultivate more equal, fulfilling relationships.

In this conversation, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Mallorie Cracroft of the Uplift for Her podcast to discuss the unique challenges and opportunities that women face during midlife. They dive into the physical, emotional, and relational shifts that happen as we age and how these changes can impact our sense of who we are. They also explore how women can live with more authenticity and self-acceptance, and how doing so paves the way for richer experiences, even (especially!) in later years.

In this episode, I sit down with renowned LDS sex therapist Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to explore the complex topic of sexual shame. Together, we discuss its origins, how it impacts relationships—especially in a mixed faith context—and practical ways to foster healing, understanding, and deeper connection. Whether you're navigating personal struggles or seeking to strengthen your partnership, this conversation is filled with compassionate insights and actionable tools to help you move forward. Find more information at her website: www.finlayson-fife.com Could you do me a favor?  Please leave a review on your preferred podcast platform. It helps more people find the podcast.   I would also love to hear any insights or questions you have. You can also find me at:  ⁠www.chrisrichcoaching.com⁠ chrisrichcoaching@gmail.com ⁠@chrisrichcoaching⁠ Instagram ⁠Subscribe to my Mixed Faith Friday Emails⁠

Just as women were raised with societal ideas and expectations around their sexuality, so were men. And so many of these ideas are actually harmful, and even destructive, to the emotional intimacy we desire in our relationships. In this podcast my husband, Sione, shares the concepts and ideas around sexuality that he learned growing up and how he learned to address them to create the emotional connection we now share.   Download Transcript Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: 281 Mid-Life Sexuality with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife 337 Sense of Self and Sexuality Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Emily Carolynn Baker rejoins us on the podcast to share about an upcoming social media "flash mob" and exciting Divine Feminine Summit! To participate in the social media sharing, called a "thunderclap", post a photo of your hand with the words "Divine Feminine Matters" written on it at 11:11 MST on your social media platform of choice. Caption the post, "The Divine Feminine Matters because ______" and fill in the blank! So many have been on a journey seeking Heavenly Mother/the Feminine Divine for months or years, and this is an opportunity to share why that matters to you. We matter, She matters, and it's time to be brave and share why! Emily also announces a Divine Feminine Summit happening Jan 31 and Feb 1, 2025 with presenters such as Dr. Julie Hanks and Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. You won't want to miss it! We hope you enjoy this episode and watching the flood of social media posts on Friday. You are not alone! Links: THUNDERCLAP INFORMATION: https://www.instagram.com/p/DEyucGwOrZ7/?igsh=Zm9pMndsaW9nMzBh Anonymous post form submission: https://forms.gle/KSNqywAV168hTCeh7 Thunder clap reminders via text and email: https://calendly.com/thespiritualcollab/divine-feminine-thunderclap-reminders Tickets for online summit: https://divinefeminine.live/ Instagram account: @thespiritualcollab Co-Organizers of Event: @that.lds.energy.gal @latterdayawakening and @enochsears Send requests to collaborate to thespiritualcollab@gmail.com or hello@divinefeminine.live

God created us to be sexual beings. Through a lot of social conditioning in the 70s and 80s (and probably before, but I wasn't there), we got a lot of mixed messages about our sexuality as women, and one of them was not that as women we were created to be sexual and find a lot of pleasure and enjoyment there. From this conditioning, many of us struggle to be at peace with our sexuality and to engage in healthy and happy sexuality. When we have a strong sense of self, we are more fully capable of addressing these challenging conditioned thoughts and moving into a more whole version of ourselves that includes healthy sexuality.   Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: 29 Validation 34 Self-Compassion 46 Choosing to Love Yourself 78 Playing Small 104 Cultivating Self-Love 105 Self-Love In Our Past, Present, and Future 106 Fierce Self-Love 113 Self-Acceptance 114 Confidence 137 Not Enough? Not True 215 Being Seen and Being Heard 247 The Value in Knowing Our Value 260 Your Lovability and Your Love Ability 281 Mid-Life Sexuality with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife 293 Dating in Mid-life 304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives 327 Learning to Love Your Human Self 331 Sense of Self 332 Sense of Self - It's All In Your Head 333 Sense of Self and Dating 334 Sense of Self and Marriage 335 Sense of Self and Parenting 336 Sense of Self and Spirituality Interesting in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/