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How Not To Suck At Divorce
11. How Not To Annoy Your Attorney

How Not To Suck At Divorce

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 26, 2021 43:03


This week we're talking about how not to annoy your attorney. We're kidding! Kind of. You want to make the most of your time with your legal counsel because, as we're sure you've guessed by now, divorce is a bit pricey. We discuss divorce concierge service, texting your attorney, the importance of a strategy call, why your attorney has junior associates helping on your case and how to best communicate with your legal team. We will also get very real about how much a typical retainer fee will run you, and the broad range of hourly rates. Stay tuned because our holiday party is coming up. Will Cardi B be there? We'll see. Be sure to subscribe, rate and review!

The Art of Relationships Show
The Holidays Reality Check - Dating, Relationship & Marriage Advice!

The Art of Relationships Show

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2021 17:26


Marriage, Sex, Love and Relationship Advice from a Real Professional!Greg Dudzinski, MS, LPC is known as “Detroit's Love Guru.” The Art of Relationships Show is about helping you achieve the “relationship you've always craved!” Greg's passion is helping others. He offers a down to earth approach to obtain real results. Greg's passion is healing broken hearts, repairing relationships, plus increasing your sexual fulfillment. He has also appeared on TV, Radio, and is an author. Weekly videos on love, marriage, sex and much more! Let's find your spark!Greg is a fully licensed professional Counselor and Relationship & Sex Specialist. Like me on Facebook! @detroitsloveguruFollow me on Instagram! @detroitsloveguruFollow me on Twitter! @detroitloveguruBuy my book – Love, Sex & Everything In Between: A Relationship Guide https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578241692Take my 28 Days to Ignite Your Relationship course! ON SALE $37 (Original $99) https://bit.ly/33tPCHw Buy Love Intentionally merch! https://bit.ly/32pRh1ASupporters:www.DFWNplc.com (Family & Personal Injury Lawyers)Dan Williams: Cell: 313-421-8083 Bio: https://fowlerandwilliams.com/daniel-williams/Aimee Fowler: Cell: 313-421-6069 Bio: https://fowlerandwilliams.com/aimee-fowler/www.ihatepeople.club (real funny items!)

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
The hotel gift shop provides unexpected inspiration!

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2021 12:57


My know it all attitude can very subtly prevent the result I'm hoping for.  On a recent trip I found exactly what I had been looking for in the most unexpected of places.  And as a matter of fact I had a whole bunch of contempt when I walked in.  You just never know where's the inspiration going to come from. Where's the nugget going to come from. It can come from where I think it won't.  Keep an open mind.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Zvegintzov  00:00I have a little story where I was where I was subtly reminded, well not so subtly...  My contempt prior to investigation, or my know it all attitude, in certain situations very subtly prevented the result I was hoping for. And I'm hoping the story will, you can use it and look at times in your life where you're like, oh, yeah, that's super subtle. Yeah, there is a moment where my unwillingness to try something or to be open to a result? Or thinking I know the answer already. So I'm not going to do it. Or I'm going to begrudgingly take action. Like how, how has that attitude slowing us down perhaps or, or holding us back or, I don't know, keeping cool stuff from happening. So here's my little story. Mischa Zvegintzov  01:15My mother was super, one of the really cool things with my mom is she liked really cool, quality things. So if she got a little piece of art, it would usually be super cool quality, a little bit funky. But really, like, really, lifetime, I don't know, a lifetime lasting. Right, like timeless.  Like I don't know, she just had this knack for that. And so this also could come to like, like her coffee maker right.  Like, she would get she pay a little bit more, but get the amazing coffee maker that just worked so beautifully.  Functional.  Just this this sense of style to. And not to access though, right? My mother came from she grew up in World War Two in Germany, her dad was killed in the war, when she was, you know, three, or four or five or some such thing. And, and so it wasn't like in frivolous extravagance, it was like this knowing of quality, and goodness. But like, along with temperance, and apreciation, I guess is how I'd say it, but she at one point, got it's got to be 25 or 30 years ago, got me these really amazing scissors for clipping your toenails and fingernails. This might sound crazy, but they were so good. And the quality was so good. And they just almost made it a treat, as a as all I can say. And I had these scissors for 30 years, or maybe even more just. And I finally effectively, you know, wore them out. Like they didn't have that close scissor effect where the blades, you know, still connect, so you'd have to like, manipulate your fingers to get the, the tension or whatever. But I liked the scissors so much. And if I would hold them just right. Oftentimes, they would still work, but it was not. They were they were failing more and more.Mischa Zvegintzov  03:58And so I don't know, five years ago, I started trying to find new scissors and you know, target.  And then you know, I don't know, other places like you know, the beauty store and then Amazon and I just kept on finding scissors that were not comparable at all. You just weren't comparable. And you know, you finally you get tired of trying right? I'm like really I'm gonna waste another 10$ 20$ $30 on another pair of crappy scissors that won't live up to this standard of form and function. These things were freaking form form was cool. They were beautiful. I mean if one was to have a pair of scissors or finger and toenail clippers, these things we're sexy.Mischa Zvegintzov  04:56So you know I even tried saving the you know the whenever I would end up in the emergency room at the hospital I would you know they'd be like hey you want the scissors for the stitches because I was always seems getting stitches you know crashing my mountain bike.  Or surfboard fans to the head.  Or insert insert my clumsiness here. It has been a while since I've gotten stitches though. Kinda it's kind of been a few years by now. Yeah, perhaps it is two years maybe I don't know. Doesn't matter you get what I'm saying? Like yeah, the surgical steel will work! No! Those don't work either. And so I recently was at Funnel Hacking live in Florida, which was epic. So good ignited so much inspiration.  But I had it in my head that like the much of the stuff you buy at the airport gift shop or at the the hotel gift shop... You know you at the hotels or what have you you can you know, if you forgot your razor blades, you can go get a razor blade or you can get some dental floss or a mini toothpaste or whatever.  And I just had it in my head that that that all those products like that at these stores were of inferier quality. And so I forgot my frickin fingernail clippers and like, for whatever reason some people doesn't matter. I like maybe obsessively to have a pair of fingernail clippers and and so funny. This is this is not woundy this is full scar.  This is just letting you know my humaneness. Mischa Zvegintzov  07:12But so I go to the, it was called, the Gaylord Palms, the Funnel Hacking live 2021 was at the Gaylord Palms.  Big convention center, like all self contained, I know there was 320 500 or 3000 of us there. And other normal people were staying there as other I think other conventions were going on. So this thing can handle, you know, got three 4000 people or something like that. And since it's in Florida, it's all enclosed. So it's environment, what's the environment, you know, it's air conditioned, the perfect environment. And actually much of it, they somehow let a lot of natural light in places honestly pretty cool. Little dated.  Little dated, I'll say we're pretty cool, but it's really jonesing for my for my pair of scissors and missing them.  And I was like alright, let's go to that convention center gift shop and see what they got. And I stumble in there. But grudgingly contemptuously already knowing that there'll be nothing good and you have the regular old like fingernail clippers, which I just don't like. Not after my mom trained me to like a little bit better. Oh my god, the amount of... I bought special custom, you know, it doesn't matter. And then there's a little pair of scissors. And I look at them. They're probably $5 or $10 I don't know. But I just like hemmed and hawed. I'm like not another pair of crappy scissors. I just I've invested what seems like a small fortune in this stuff. You know, and I went ahead and bought them.  Get back to the room. Thinking I guess I have to suffer through this.Mischa Zvegintzov  09:26And crack the package. Guess what? I stumbled across the best scissors ever. The perfect replacement pair. Unbelievable. And I guess my point is, like, you just never know. Like, keep an open mind. Where's the inspiration going to come from? Where's the nugget going to come from? It can come from place that I think it's not going to come from.  Like I was like, absolutely thinking no way is the store gonna have anything and whatever I buy to suffice, I won't even worry about trying to get back in my you know frickin toiletry kit on the airplane or whatever.  And there it was. I guess so the other main lesson trying to set aside contempt be open minded and then especially if you think or I thought like like keep trying. Keep trying right. Keep trying that's the other thing. I tried again. I was like you know what, I'll try again. I'll throw caution to the wind. And the results were amazing. Anyway, funny little episode. I did my meditation and writing in the morning. I was like this is a really funny idea. And it was such a powerful moment for me when it when it happened. I just had to talk about it anyway, love to all,  Bye.

Marriage Helper: Helping Your Marriage
Making This Marriage Different: How To Avoid Another Divorce

Marriage Helper: Helping Your Marriage

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2021 33:43


How can you make your marriage better and stronger? Research shows that 33% of married couples want to seek help for their relationship. However, Gottman's research shows that couples wait an average of six years after problems begin to occur in their marriage before they get help. One of the biggest reasons people want out of a relationship is that they feel disrespected. The way you communicate with your spouse, the tone, the facial expressions, and the volume demonstrates the respect you have. Dr. Beam says if you're going to work on anything, work on communication in a way that the other person will most likely hear; that you do communicate respectfully, that you do love them, that you don't like them, and then it'll go a whole lot better if you can do that. Listen to It Starts With Attraction episode with Dr. John Gottman here. Information about our 3-day intensive workshopshttps://marriagehelper.com/workshops/Get our FREE Mini-Course "How To Get Your Spouse Back"https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-courseSchedule a FREE Call with one of our Team Members:https://your.marriagehelper.com/meetings/marriagehelper/connectLearn more about our Save My Marriage Course:https://marriagehelper.com/product/save-my-marriage/

Unswtnd + Unfltrd
Comedy and Relationship Talk: There's Nothing Funny About Relationship Struggles w/ MaisVault

Unswtnd + Unfltrd

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2021 45:50


Who would have known that one of the worst things about adulting, would be relationship struggles?!As they say, first comes the butterflies, then comes the emotional trauma.Since, we are in the midst of dealing with seasonal depression, I had to bring on my girl Mai, from MaisVault, to cheer us up a bit!Before I give you the scoop on today's episode, Mai pulled the oldest Arab girl trick in the book - you know the one where people can't tell if we're single, or if we're in a 7-year relationship, or possibly getting engaged tomorrow night - who knows!Well, when recording this episode, Mai was as single as can be, or so I thought - this past week we found out Mai got engaged and the internet erupted with joy.A huge congrats to one of my favorite people and I am truly wishing Mai and her fiancé endless love and happiness inshallah! As for today's episode, we have a lot of important topics to  cover such as who is more famous, Mai or Mama Wafaa - who we have all come to know and love!And in this conversation, Mai takes us through her journey of becoming a viral sensation and how she continues to come up with relatable content that sends us all laughing. It's true when they say that laughter is the best form of medicine and I'm not alone when it comes to appreciating Mai for creating such hilarious skits that truly take a lot of effort behind the scenes.In this episode I may have flipped the script on Mai and asked her very juicy relationship questions from deal breakers to turn offs and what would she do if her date asked her to split the bill…Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Mai Abdelal on Instagram:@maisvault

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
Today I will make no decisions by myself. Part #2

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 23, 2021 11:59


Part #2.  If i'm consciously trying to make decisions with God, My Higher Power, whatever you want to call it.  I'm apt to be inspired throughout the day.  So set aside contempt.  And visualize the kind of day you want, the feelings you will have, who you will encounter etc.  Perhaps all you have to do is try.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Zvegintzov  00:01  And part two. I will make no decisions. Today, I will make no decisions by myself. Part two. And the idea is that if I'm making no decisions by myself, or that our ego driven, small s self, ego driven, my selfish wants and desires. Versus I'm making joint decisions with that capital S self, making a joint decision, the small self, capital S, Self, God, whatever this is like, it's like teamwork. And so, part of this is, you got to be willing to believe that this is effective. And I am willing to believe.  I like I'm willing to believe so I'm willing to take the action.  Or perhaps you're not willing to believe try it anyway. Right, I would strongly encourage you, if you're like,...  Yo kids, kids on bikes, screaming by making funny faces, e bikes, so they're going really fast. Anyhow, you know, it's interesting, I believe, you don't believe that it's gonna work, you just have to be willing to try. You've just gotta be willing to try.Mischa Zvegintzov  01:33  And so this was the progression of this for me, I would read the notes that I just told you.  And in the morning visualize the day, and the thoughts, feelings, emotions, I wanted to have the experiences I wanted to have.  And then I would feel great, be super, you know, inspired, productive, boom, boom, boom. You know, a few hours later, cracks in that, in that inspiration start to form. And I was finding that it would take me way, many hours, as I, you know, it will take me many hours to fall back to the, to the idea. And to re visualize the kind of day that I want to have, right? So it's basically saying, Hey, if you fall off track, re-visualize that day you want to have. Start over. And then, you know, reconnect with, with making decisions with the capital S self. So I was finding it was being effective, when I would do that. And so I was like, dang, if I could just do it more, if I could just do this routine, more, if I could just, throughout the day, reflect and pause more. Like, and so I started to do that. Find, you know, a few more times to do it. And this is for when things are really hard in this entrepreneurial endeavor, and I'm really, at a rough, sticky, icky point.Mischa Zvegintzov  03:36  Most recent, it's been with the avatar work and, and shifting pivoting directions, and all the fears associated with that. So, you know, I'm going to get kicked out of my coaching group.  I'm going to offend people.  A lot of it's how am I going to look people will think that I'm doing the wrong thing or will judge me and so a lot of...  I'll admit it you know, insecurity and fear and, and self doubt, maybe, yeah, self doubt. And so, like, I'd like to shorten that pain loop, perhaps the pain have the pain loop, go away altogether. And and so, I want to read this next thing.  "If you are so unwilling to receive, you cannot even let your question go". So in this case, my question would be, which avatar Should I go with which, who's the perfect customer? "At least I can decide, I do not like what I feel now. And so I hope I have been wrong.  I want another way to look at this. Perhaps there is another way of looking at this. What can I lose by asking?"  Right, what can I lose by asking source your internal clock, God higher power, whatever. So creating space for that inspiration, being...go...You know what I'm not willing to, to, you know, do the process, but I'm willing to ask. I love that or you can read it read that however you want. But again, this has been this whole little process has been very powerful over the last couple of months. And so it culminated with, alright, visualize the day I want. And very effective. And then I would fall out of it. And it would take me a few hours, when I would come to, like a sticking point in my creative process around this entrepreneurial endeavor. So most recently that again, that's been the... which avatar am I going to use in this, this strong sense of time to pivot? And so the fear and insecurity that that brings up, and so whenever I would go back to visualizing the day I would feel new and newly inspired. Alright, God, let's make this decision together. Today, I will make no decision by myself.Mischa Zvegintzov  06:30  And I had this this sort of Epiphany, two epiphanies very recently. First one was okay. I, I, I can simply reflect and pause and tell myself the kind of day I want. And I don't have to go through like this for you know, meditative process visualization process, right? Like, it's already implanted deeply, in my mind, in my psyche. Now, like, I've visualized that day, very many times, over the past couple of weeks, or months, or whatever it is, months by now, you know.  Two months, perhaps whatever, exact timeline doesn't matter. And so, but, but to go back to that, it's time of agitation. And so then I fully had the inspiration, over the past couple of days. Continue to go to that thought, today, "I'll make no decision by myself", while I'm in inspiration while I'm in the flow. So don't even wait till you fall out of it, like accelerate the flow. Or, or you know, just stay in it. Yeah. So I've been doing that over the past couple of days, as I've been super creative. And feeling like I've been making decisions in partnership with God, my higher power, like going, alright, I'm in the zone. So pause, throughout the day, reflect and pause, and tell myself The kind of day I want. So keep in it.Mischa Zvegintzov  08:41  I guess that's how I could set I don't know, I'm so excited having so much fun playing with this and in my meditation this morning, and then my and then my note taking and you know, spiritual reading / work. I was just, I wrote down you kind of talk about this. So here I am talking about it. I encourage you to try it. Set aside contempt, the thought of Today I will make no decisions by myself. You'll make him with your higher power, whatever that means to you. And that visualize that kind of day you want the who you're going to encounter.  Which is for me, you know, creative supportive types that are in the same sort of flows process state, co creation.  You know, the thoughts feelings that I would have, how I'd feel I want to feel creative. I want to feel intuitive. I want to feel like the answers are coming easily. There there are no questions because I'm just doing it.  How about that just fully inspired. Anyway there you have it love to all let's keep at it.  Peace out.

The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast
41. How To Bring Back The Honeymoon Stage (sex and intimacy) In Your Marriage

The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 23, 2021 39:24


For most couples, when they first get married there are no kids, fewer responsibilities, and a lot less stresses in life. You spend tons of time together and focus all on each other. But that all changes when the kids start coming,  careers start getting established and life gets busy. In this episode, Nick and Amy talk with Randall and Serena Johnson (The Union Johnsons) about the 7 things couples can do to bring back the passion, excitement, emotional and sexual intimacy in their marriage just like the honeymoon stage... and yes, it is possible!If you are a couple that is looking for ways to re-kindle the fire in your marriage, then this episode is for you!Don't forget to download the Ultimate Intimacy App for free in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. Check out our amazing products to help your emotional and physical intimacy such as:- Conversation Starters- 150+ Date Night Ideas- Truth or Dare Game- Romantic and Sexy Coupons- Bedroom GameAnd check out our amazing new Ultimate "Intimacy Box" with tons of great products for some unforgettable nights together found HEREFollow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for app updates, giveaways, daily marriage quotes and more.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us at amy@ultimateintimacy.com and let us know! We greatly appreciate your feedback and reviews if you have time to leave a review.

Awesome Marriage Podcast
Purity in Marriage | Ep. 492

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 23, 2021 32:46


Purity is something a lot of people talk about while single and dating, then not so much in marriage. BUt the truth is, sexual temptation does not disappear just because you are married. Married people still need to submit to God and honor him with sexual purity in marriage. Tune in this week to learn what that looks like, and how to move toward purity in your marriage.    We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage.    RESOURCES It's almost time! Giving Tuesday is next week and it's the most generous time of year! When you give you will also receive with our 4-Week Connection Challenge! As a non-profit, we could not fulfill our mission without you. We are so thankful for your generosity!  Covenant Eyes is a great resource to help keep you accountable online.  Check out Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email! The Marriage Multiplier brings you 4 pieces of marriage wisdom in a quick, easy to read email.  Creative Questions to Ask Your Spouse 2.0 will get good conversations started and keep them flowing between you and your spouse.  Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies!   Ready to level up your marriage? With the Marriage Changers membership yet you get all of our monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like Tshirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here!  

Womenhood
Thankfulness in Celebration

Womenhood

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 23, 2021 29:25


We're thankful - for you.  Our community.  For the power of womenhood, in one woman and the collective.  This episode "Thankfulness in Celebration" is unique.  Celebrating our podcast's one year anniversary, this episode highlights wisdom, strength and courage womenhood represents.  Listen in to celebrate alongside us and to hear meaningful tidbits from episodes past. 

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
Today I will make no decisions by myself. Part #1.

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2021 10:24


"Today I will make no decisions by myself” and how powerful that can be.  Either I'm making choices from “myself”, “the ego”, ego driven.  Or I'm going to make decisions with God, the capital S inner-self, that internal clock, that internal guidance, the infinite mind the Infinite Intelligence, the universe, the gods, the universe.  Call it what you will.  Things seem to go much smoother when I'm making decisions with something outside of my ego.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Zvegintzov  00:00Alrighty, I am going to talk about this idea that "today I will make no decisions by myself", and how powerful that can be. And yeah, I'm out walking, by the way. So there's lots of kids out this afternoon, lots of soccer players, lots of moms, lots of coaches, lots of dogs. So we may have some distractions. Anyhow, today, I will make no decisions by myself. And this assumes the idea that you're going to... I'm going to make decisions with God, or the capital S inner-self, that internal clock, that internal guidance, some people like to say it that way. You know, the infinite mind the Infinite Intelligence, you know, the universe, the gods. I used to love to say the gods for a while. But that I'll make no decisions by myself, which assumes ego, ego driven by myself small s self. Implies, that ego driven. This is an idea, the way this is framed is my perception or my understanding of something that I had read a couple of months ago, in A Course In Miracles. Everybody, by this point knows how much I love A Course In Miracles, and how powerful a spiritual tool that is in my life.Mischa Zvegintzov  01:55So this also, in for anybody who's, you know, in recovery, so I've been in recovery for a long time, and, you know, the idea that's floated around in recovery a lot. And I'm sure it's the same idea that's floating around, floated around in church a lot, or, I'm sure a lot of, you know, positive mindset, speakers, thought leaders, etc. You know, point to the same thing. Sorry, you atheists out there, you might be left hanging out to dry, but you probably have somebody that, or something you can point to as well. But that was an awesome digression. So, in recovery, you know, there's this idea of, Hey, God, how can I be of service, how can I be of service, Thy will not mine be done. This isn't an original idea to life or a way to live life, it's just, that's where that idea was presented to me in recovery. And so, you know, some of the 12 step literature can point to, you know, when you wake up in the morning, take some time, try and get aligned with your higher power. And then, you know, take appropriate action, and then you'll be more inspired throughout the day. And who doesn't want to be inspired, I want to be inspired. I love being inspired. Inspired lends to happiness and fulfillment. And, you know, moving from the heart and all the stuff. You know, spiritual success, you're climbing the right ladder, lord knows I've climbed the wrong ladder. And then, you know, and some in some of the 12 step literature, it'll point to, as you go throughout the day, try and turn back to that, to that idea, like when you're agitated. God, you know, Thy will not mind be done. You know, God, I'm no longer running the I'm no longer running the show. Your will not mine be done. To try and come back and get grounded re get into inspiration. And so I've been playing with this idea for a very, for decades now.Mischa Zvegintzov  04:31That I came across it in the Course in Miracles which framed it in in this new way where Today I will make no decisions by myself. And so in the morning, in my morning routine, I've been leaning heavy into that. All right, I'm going to make no decisions by myself. And then it... A Course In Miracles says effectively, "if resistance strong and and dedication week, think about the kind of day you want. And tell yourself, there is a way in which this very day can happen. Just like that. There, there is a way, there is a way in which this very day can happen just like that. Then try again, to have the day you want." And I love that idea. So, I very much recently have been visualizing. And this has been a working process this. And it's been working very well as of late. But anyway, visualizing like this this day that I want. And, you know, I want to be inspired. I want to feel like I'm creative. I want to feel like I'm in the flow. I want to, I want to feel like the kind of day I want, I want things to come to me easily. I don't want to, you know, stress and wonder about which direction to take.Mischa Zvegintzov  06:10And as I'm on new entrepreneurial endeavors, I can have a lot of that sort of chaos, zipping through my mind, constantly questioning a course of action. Right? So I'm finding like, yeah, there'd be some great times to, to, to, you know, to turn back to this "today I'll make no decisions by myself" idea. So I think visualizing, sort of this day, I want how I want to fee.  And and then it goes on, throughout the day, reflect, pause, and tell myself, the kind of day I want.  The feelings I would have the things I want to happen to me. And the things you would experience and say, "if I make no decisions by myself, this is the day that will be given me. I have no question. I forgot what to decide." And, obviously, we forgot to decide, or what I forgot to decide is that I'll make no decisions by myself ego driven decisions. And so I've found that as I've taken the time to try to visualize the day that I want, the experiences that I want to have, like the inspirational piece supportive people that I'm going to meet.  That, that I'm writing down ideas that are flowing through I'm not fighting these moments, I'm in embracing these moments, with all and wonder.  And having fun, fun, like I'm having fun. It's not a chore, it's fun. And and as I run long on this episode, I will I'll tell you that I am having success, but that I've definitely got more to say in this regard. So let's talk more episode two.

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
Oftentimes a big source of my problems is me trying to think my way through it.

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 21, 2021 11:23


Shifting from the healing modality avatar to the business minded avatar.  There's a way to bridge those two.  How can I be of service with this?  Oftentimes a big source of my problems is me trying to think my way through it.  Who do I need to talk to quickly?  I'm really aware in this moment of how much I am concerned what other people are gonna think. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.  Change that brings me uncertainty vs change that brings good.  Waiting for that moment of inspiration, trusting that it will come. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Zvegintzov  00:03What can I bring to the table? How can I be of service? How can I be of service and what can I bring to the table? I am trying to keep that in the forefront of my mind. And as I fight this new idea of this new avatar. right. and shift more towards business, this side of things.  Strategy which I love. Business it's a part of me that's that's been rekindled as I come out of you know, being a stay at homeish dad wandering with intention. And very excited about it and but it is causing me turmoil as I've put a lot of time and effort into the Tools For A Good Life Summit and the end, sort of that more of a healing modality type of Avatar.   What's really cool I do believe, though, is there's there's a way to bridge those two. And I, I haven't really figured it out yet. And so I'm going to talk a little bit about that on this episode, but also a really cool breakthrough. I don't know if breakthrough is the right word, but just some freedom I got for, for asking for some help in this regard.Mischa Zvegintzov  01:36But the 2CCX coaching group that I'm in, which I'm obviously always talking about, because it's such a big part of my life, is rolling over to, you know, a new, a new course curriculum.  Nott full sail, changes, but definitely changes and so I feel a little hung out to dry. As, as I'm on my island, I can tend to be on an island when I'm trying to figure things out. So as I, as I sort through, needing to do an Ask campaign for what, what, what all you all on my current email list would want, as far as you know, a course or a challenge or, or something like that. I'm battling with the avatar thing, too. So this, this episode is a little wound'ee. Hopefully, by the time it goes up, I'll have all these answers. Clear as a bell, that's what I'm hoping. So that way, by the time I publish it, I'll be able to laugh, laugh at myself. And I think along this the ideas of service of how I can be of service with this. So you can see the struggle, if if you're coming behind me, you can see the struggle of trying to dial in who you're going to help how you're going to help them, you know, just new ventures. And then if you're ahead of me, you can encourage me to catch up with you and into perhaps show me show me show me the better lit path. And if you're side by side with me, well, we can laugh and cry together.Mischa Zvegintzov  03:36But, you know, I consistently get this when I focus on this new idea. And don't let the fear of a full pivot take over. I'm generally content. So where am I going with this? All right, where I'm going with this is I'm I've as I felt alone on the island and trying to get answers and think my way through it, which is oftentimes a big source of my problems is me trying to think my way through it. In my in my journaling at the end of the night, in some meditation, it came clear, the answer came clear. Hey, you know, there's a question in my journaling. That's who do I need to talk to? Effectively? Who do I need to talk to quickly? Is there something I need to tell somebody along those lines have a question? And it's like yeah, I need to communicate with the open classroom with the open hours of the classroom with the with the with the coaches in this to 2CCX. I need to bring up my fears and I need to be vulnerable and I'm scared to do it in the open classroom setting because other people are going to are going to be there. And perhaps judge, right. I'm really aware in this moment of how much I am concerned what other people are gonna think. Right? And maybe I get thrown out of this whole thing? And if so, what if and so what?Mischa Zvegintzov  05:32But, um, so I trusted my intuition open hours were open until the open classroom out of the open office hours for the coaches. We're open today until 2pm, Pacific Standard Time. And of course, I jumped in at at 135 or something like that. And, you know, had to wait 10 minutes till it was my turn. And so I got the last 15 minutes effectively, but it just, I guess the point of all the of this whole episode is really, when I jumped on the the Open Office Hour, the coaches, open office hours and was willing to be vulnerable, and share my insecurities and my fears. I immediately got great input and great answers, great ideas, great strategies and tactics. But I also had freedom, freedom of the mind. And it was extremely clear. As soon as I got off the call, I was like, Oh, yeah. Okay, like, although the curriculum has changed, the way that I get to interact with the coaches has changed. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Like, I just was very clear how averse to change I can be.  And when it's changed, that brings me uncertainty.  Versus change that's like, I know is bringing good. You know what I'm talking about, right? Um, anyhow. So it felt really good to go in the classroom and, and, you know, get clarity on I got clarity on where the whole curriculums going, more concise vision of what I'm trying to do like it because it's very clear to me right now that when I have ambiguity in the curriculum that I'm following, like, that's no good for me.  Or I need to express it and and healthily deal with it. Right? Some people like a looser guardrail, in that regard.Mischa Zvegintzov  07:55What else can I say? Just trying to communicate? You know, I, I was hoping, before I continued with episodes in this vein, I was hoping to have answers, right. I was hoping to be well, on the path well, on one avatar path or the other. But I'm not. And it reminded it definitely reminds me of, of that of when I was in such turmoil with the summit. And then all the sudden one day, you know, I had a conversation with Robert, I believe his name was there's the Robert interviews. I think it's 1, 2, 3. Robert, number one, number two, number three, perhaps, Robert P. But that's where the inspiration for the Tools For A Good LIfe Summit was solidified. And so I'm confident that some of that will continue, or that type of inspiration will continue on the avatar, just perhaps not in my timeframe. Anyway, thank you for letting me ramble. Thank you for listening. Thank you for your support. I truly, truly do appreciate it. And if you're with me on this entrepreneurial and spiritual journey with me, you know, God bless. We'll keep trying one day at a time.

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
...It's more painful to veer away from the path than the pain to press forward with it.

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2021 12:58


The new Avatar.  The new inspiration for who I can help.  Who perhaps god wants me to help.  I got an iPad Air 4 and am taking notes on it trying to break away from the yellow pads.  You can record 6 days episodes in a two hour setting.  I swear I'm not being a narcissist.  I'm just finding my voice :).  …it's more painful to veer away from the path than the pain to press forward with it. How's that?  The fledgling Funnel Hacker.  The fledgling online business creator.  Help them get to the Two Comma Club Award.  I.e. $1,000,000 in revenue :).  …craft a new vision.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Zvegintzov  00:02I'm going to get to it while the mind is fresh, and cranking away.  I was meditating this morning, I do want to say...  Well what main thing I want to talk about is the new avatar for me, or my new direction that that new inspiration and embracing it, that new inspiration towards who I think I can help. Even more specifically, who perhaps, God wants me to help, or the infinite intelligence or the universe with the creative mind, that capital S inner self. Oh my gosh, I've got all these Apple products. And I tried to silence them all for when I record, but I got a new iPad Air 4 I think it is. So I could start taking notes everywhere instead of on yellow pads on an iPad, which has been awesome and amazing. And I strongly encourage everybody to go after it. The pen works you know, the Apple Pencil is freaking awesome. The the tech is fine. You can... it's really cool what you can do and organize and, and all that stuff. There's some bumps as I break away from the yellow pads as much but that's okay. Oh my god, where was I going with all this so?Mischa Zvegintzov  01:43Break breathe. So the last episode I recorded, I'm going to give you a little insight to a little secret, which you may or may not know. But you can record six days episodes in a two hour setting. For example, if you were doing if you were doing 8 to 12 minute episodes. podcast episodes, an eight to 12 minute episode every day, and you were to record five of those. What's that? An hour and a half? Let's say. you know, let's assume each one is 10 minutes. On average, that's 15 minutes. Perhaps you have a minute or three or four break in between. So your... the illusion of the timeline is just that. Like perhaps the last episode that that I recorded in this line of thinking of who's my avatar and who am I going to serve? There's that damn iPad 4 beeping at me again, distracting me. Damn you, Apple. Where was I? Oh my gosh, this is just awesome. A quick side note. It's really funny. recording an episode every day to your podcast, blog or YouTube channel. It can feel in the moment like this moment right now incredibly self centered. Um, what's that narcissistic. Someone said to me and not have service in the moment as a microcosm, is that the right word? As a small brief window of the whole thing. Like if I just look at this episode right here, it could sound like "Oh, Mischa is just talking about his own stuff. Blah, blah, blah." But in reality, it is truly helping me be of service to you and the world and my developing niche in a better manner.Mischa Zvegintzov  04:16So how about that? So in the moment to anybody just jumping in on this episode. They could be like, Who is this narcissist talking about himself. But in reality, it's helping me find my voice, the elusive voice and I'm definitely gaining ground. Opened up all these these thought loops. I apologize. I seem to be very good at that being distracted. So be it. Welcome to the journey. If you are a fledgling funnel hacker, a fledgling online a fledgling if you're a fledgling Online Business creator, how's that you're trying to create, go go online with a business create an online business? If you're a fledgling person, entrepreneur, online entrepreneur, how about that a fledgling online entrepreneur, or a fledgling funnel hacker means you're kind of brand new to it all. Then perhaps if your vision is not super clear, like some people jump into this game, and they have this, I meet them all the time, their vision is so pure and so clear. Like, how awesome is that? It's so easy to just, well, looks easy'er to, to follow the instructions on how to build your online business, right? And so I am a fledgling funnel hacker that's really good at following the steps and implementing the steps. Like get each step each successive step done. And you will be that much closer to the Two Comma Club Award. That's the goal as a fledgling Funnel Hacker is to get clarity and get vision and get to that Two Comma Club Award. So I can help people do that. So actually, I'm committing to that. Trying one day at a time to commit to that. And whenever I veer away from that, these days, it gets really painful, psychically painful, more painful to veer away from it than the pain to press forward with it. How's that?Mischa Zvegintzov  06:45So I'm sorry, divorced dads, or you or you, high performers that have fallen off the horse, and are ready to get back on. Actually, you can still be my avatar, you are part of that avatar. Because creating an online business and crafting a new vision. That's what I'm doing. Crafting a new vision. I need to write that down. Thank you crafting a new vision. Word my pen go. I'm writing this down. Thank you patients. I suppose I could hit pause. I'll do that. See, thank you. That's, that was me. That was the process and actually crafting the vision forward. I love that. So one of the hats that my you know what? Oh my gosh, I'm so excited. That's such a juicy little thing. So you find all hackers out there that are ready to blaze the trail to the two comma Club Award, and would like help in that regard by following the path doing the blocking...block... blocking and tackling. Implementing the key steps. I'm still talking, figuring out how to talk about it. That's where we're going. That's where I'm going. And whenever I go back to the capital S inner self, the higher intelligence that's where I'm led. And one of the hats of the people within that could be a high performing dad, excuse me a high performing get divorced dad wanting to get back on the horse, or just a high performer who's ready to get back on the horse.Mischa Zvegintzov  08:47A little bit of babbling going on here. But that is that thank you for hanging in there with me. Thank you for being a part of the process. Thank you for helping me craft the broader vision. Refine my vision. I can actually tell you the exact episode by publishing every day where that happened. I can tell you where and when the new inspiration came to me. I can tell you where I flip flop back to the old and then where the new vision was presented again "This is it. This is it show no fear". That's what I've got little little little fuzzy but brain was cranking I wanted to I wanted to record. I have. And yeah so... I am going to show... what... I'm going to be... try to hold conviction on this new avatar. You fledgling funnel hackers that would like to solidify your path your vision to the Two Comma Club Stage to $1 million in gross revenue. That's what that is the Two Comma Club. I'm writing down again, your path, your vision to the Two Comma Club Stage. So basically you fledgling online entrepreneurs that would like to get to a million dollars in annual revenue, gross revenue. I'm your man. Your fledgling, you're just getting started. I can help you. I'm a few steps ahead. And I am doing it. I'm so good at sticking to the the steps. I've done it in so many different ways in my life, areas of my life and had success putting engines in cars. Getting clean and sober. Became a yoga teacher. It's hyper competitive to be a yoga teacher here in Encinitas, California. The hotspot of yoga teaching. I could go on and on That's it. I'm done. I will not hold you hostage any any longer. I believe I close the loop answered the question, addressed the point. Peace out.

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
Interview #46 Amy Tran: It's the little "t" trauma.

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 19, 2021 34:53


Amy Tran is wise beyond her years and absolutely CRUSHES this interview!  She covers the "little t" trauma.  Believes in normalizing men asking for help and checking in, …  Helps us sort out our inner core beliefs.  Her steps become aware of what we are thinking, identify the patterns, see our core beliefs…  and change (err... heal!)  "Awareness is the first step towards healing,"Administrative: (See episode transcript below)You can find Amy on Instagram @doodledwellness.Email  Amy here: amy@doodledwellness.comCheck out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript:0:00:05.8 Mischa Z: Welcome back, everybody to the Tools For a Good Life Summit, and I would like to welcome Amy Tran, MA... Welcome, Amy.0:00:16.7 Amy Tran: Thank you, thank you for having me. Hello, everyone.0:00:21.2 Mischa Z: Awesome. And quick I'm gonna read your bio and then we'll get down to the fun. Okay?0:00:28.5 Amy Tran: Mm-hmm.0:00:29.9 Mischa Z: Fantastic. So Amy is a doctoral student studying clinical psychology in Ontario, Canada, she has received intensive training to provide therapy as well as diagnose mental health disorders and autism in children and adolescents, she has trained in community mental health centers, hospitals and private practices across Ontario. You are also involved in research that examines how the use of smartphones and tablets by young children and parents may disrupt the healthy development of children. Before committing to become a psychologist, you studied visual and creative arts and your Instagram account @doodledwellness, @doodlewellness is where your passion for mental health and art come together, and I do wanna say that your Instagram account is freaking awesome, I just... Brings a smile to my face. And I love everything about it, and it was one of the ways I tracked you down. But let me continue before we get to that.0:01:42.1 Amy Tran: Thank you.0:01:44.4 Mischa Z: Indeed. You draw doodles on social media and create workbooks to make mental health resources and information more accessible to everyone. You're very successful at that. Amy's goal is to raise awareness about mental illness, combat stigma, share helpful coping skills, invite you to practice mindfulness and brighten your social media feed with a daily pick me up, and you will be completing your residency in Toronto next year. Correct?0:02:17.7 Amy Tran: Yes. Well, next year academic year, but this year, September 2021, I'll be off the internship. Yay! [chuckle] Gotta check my pulse.[laughter]0:02:30.9 Mischa Z: And then once you graduate, you hope to continue working with youth integrating mindfulness into mental health treatment and advocating for more accessible mental health treatment.0:02:44.8 Amy Tran: Mm-hmm.0:02:45.9 Mischa Z: Alright, again, welcome to the Summit. And when I look over here, everybody, I'm just looking at your Instagram feed again, @doodledwellness, and you have managed to compile 154,000 followers. Does that surprise you?[chuckle]0:03:04.7 Amy Tran: It really does. I mean, even just hearing you say that number out loud, it's like, "What? Really? Like my account?" So it is surprising. Yeah.0:03:14.0 Mischa Z: Yeah, I think what's really cool about it too, is there's a humbleness within it, there's a humbleness within your doodledwellness.com, your main web page, so I love that. I think there's so much stuff to talk about there, I like your most recent post, childhood trauma. Again, I'm just looking over here, so I apologize. Yes, childhood trauma can also be dot dot dot... And being in my young 50s and perhaps earlier in my 40s, being an A-type male, like a hard charger and all this, if I heard the word trauma, my brain would think, I don't have trauma or that's only this over here, but that's not true, it turns out. Maybe you could speak to that for a second.0:04:10.8 Amy Tran: Yeah, No, I'd love to... I agree, I think most people, when they think about trauma, they think about what do we call, big T trauma, right? Catastrophic accident, natural disaster, abuse or neglect, and of course, those things are very, very traumatic, but I think also love is something that all humans want and crave and need, and especially as a child, right? When you're in that vulnerable stage, who do you depend on to receive love and to have your needs met? Well, the answer typically would be your parents, your mom and dad. But you can have an amazing relationship with mom and dad, they can provide you with food, shelter, warmth, but when there are certain dynamics that play out where you feel like you can't express how you're feeling, you can't share your thoughts, you have to be a certain way to gain approval, love or validation, then that's traumatizing because you are betraying who you really are. And when we're younger, we don't have the mature brain to be able to say, "Well, maybe mom and dad are just having a bad day, or maybe mom and dad were never modeled how to cope with my emotional needs."0:05:38.2 Amy Tran: Instead, the small infant brain is like, "There's something wrong with me." And that core belief gets internalized and carries on throughout adulthood and that's traumatizing, right? To feel like we don't deserve love or cannot receive love unless we're certain people.0:06:02.5 Mischa Z: Yeah, it is traumatizing. And yeah, so hiding your true self by fear of disapproval and to carry that habit into adulthood, right? Denying your needs to be strong for your family. When you say that, denying your needs to be strong for your family... Tell me that.0:06:23.7 Amy Tran: Yeah. Yeah, so let me give you an example. So let's say you are the only male in the home and something's going on with your siblings, so maybe they have special needs or maybe they developed a drug habit or a serious mental health condition, and everyone starts to work together to help this person through, or maybe someone gets cancer, let's say.0:06:50.8 Mischa Z: Okay.0:06:52.8 Amy Tran: And as the young man, you're like, "Well, my dad is so occupied, he's not able to provide for the family because he's dealing with this or this, so I'm gonna be strong for the family. I'm not gonna talk about how scared I am, how worried I am, what I need." And you suppress that, "Oh, what? I'm fine, I'm totally fine. Let's talk about you, don't worry about me."0:07:14.1 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah and then perhaps you develop the habit of... I know I did [chuckle] of not learning how to communicate perhaps, or feeling that it was okay to be stressed out, or I guess to communicate that in a healthy manner, right?0:07:33.8 Amy Tran: Right, totally.0:07:36.1 Mischa Z: Yeah, another post that you have that again, I'm looking at over here is it's normalized men, and I love that, and it again, resonated with me being in my 40s, fortunately, I was like, I need to start figuring out how to express my emotions, how to cry, how to check in with another, how to ask for help. That's so hard. So maybe talk to that for a minute, normalized men...0:08:07.6 Amy Tran: Yeah. The post, it says, Normalize men asking for help, checking in on each other, crying, sharing their feelings, practicing self-care and having fears and doubts. So I think that it again, it comes back to just, who are we? We're just human beings, right? So this concept of men having to hide their emotions, be strong, that vulnerability is a weakness, those are all just societal constructs that we've taken on, but they're really harmful because we're social beings and we need each other, and we ask each other for help. Checking in on each other that makes you feel like you're wanted, like you belong. Crying, this one is a really interesting one because crying is an emotional release, and in fact, when we cry, there is research to suggest that it can actually help your body bounce back into a place of equilibrium, but we suppress that, right? Sharing feelings, same thing.0:09:14.8 Amy Tran: So having fears and doubts, like if you don't talk about that, then nobody really can reach out to you to help, maybe it gets to the point where you're suppressing it so much that you don't even realize it yourself, so it's just... I think that as someone who identifies as female, I'm very grateful that I have the space with other females to talk about feelings and to share insecurities. And with men, a lot of times, I don't see that, and I think it can be be very detrimental for your mental health because you have no one to talk to and emotions needs somewhere to go, but they're all suppressed in, or it comes out in other ways, like working too much, drinking, gambling, shopping, performance, right? Or...0:10:12.0 Mischa Z: Yes, yes, yes, yes. Good. [chuckle] Yes, thank you for that.0:10:13.8 Amy Tran: So you're like, "Oh, I can resonate with that." Is that what you're... Yeah.0:10:18.9 Mischa Z: Yeah, I think and my sort of the arc for me was, I've been lucky to, a good portion of my life to be on a growth trajectory, let's say, but I definitely think at some point as a male, I was taking in more emotions than I was letting out, so I was building for that pop, and then at some point I was... It leveled out, so I was taking in as much as I was letting out, but I still had a whole bunch of pent-up emotions for a lifetime of these seemingly non-traumatic things. And so when I hit my 40s, it was like divorce, both my parents died in rapid succession, career upheaval, and then I had another failed relationship and just... It was like the...[vocalization]0:11:18.6 Mischa Z: Right?0:11:18.9 Amy Tran: Right, right. Yeah.0:11:22.3 Mischa Z: And yeah, and so I spent a lot of time, I would say, I just say by the grace of God, finding healthy ways to cry, finding that safe space to... I found a community where it was okay as a male to cry and cry a lot, and so that really saved me and then started asking for help, and I think that can be hard as an A-type male it can be hard to ask for help so...0:11:49.3 Amy Tran: Yeah, totally.0:11:51.1 Mischa Z: Yeah, I don't mean to take this over, but I think that that leads us to a great point, if you've got a guy like me who's in his 40s, let's say, and I go through a divorce and one of my kids is like not acting like I want, which can be stressor and that can feel traumatic. Both my parents died and the financial stress and more failed relationships and it became evident to me that my... Like work my way through it, find more success, earn more money, whatever it was, was no longer gonna work. I needed different tools. I needed new tools. So given that scenario, my question to you is thinking of technology as a tool, 'cause you're clearly in tune with that. There we go. I know there's an app you recommend called Mooditude, right?0:12:48.2 Amy Tran: Yes, yes.0:12:49.1 Mischa Z: And then, I think you're also proficient in some CBT, some cognitive behavioral therapy?0:12:55.5 Amy Tran: That's right, yeah.0:12:56.7 Mischa Z: So, thinking of those sorts of modalities, what are the exact next steps you would offer someone like me? So I knew... Well, I would be headed in the new right direction that I would have positive momentum towards getting my life back on track.0:13:15.8 Amy Tran: Wow, so, such a great question, but also such a loaded question, 'cause I just have so much to say.0:13:23.9 Mischa Z: [chuckle] Good.0:13:24.6 Amy Tran: So I don't even know where to start. [chuckle] Yeah. So how about we talk about, basically, how our inner core beliefs are created? So we kind of touched on this before, where we were talking about how our relationship with the people that we grow up with, like our parents, they form certain core beliefs that we have. So there are many more than this, but there's three main ones that I see and that are taught in the CBT framework. So the first one is that I'm unlovable. The second one is that I'm worthless. And the third one is that I'm helpless. So this is all operating on a subconscious level. So we all have some of these core beliefs. We have one or multiple, and then there's other one, right?0:14:19.9 Amy Tran: So as a human, you develop compensatory strategy, so for example, one of my core beliefs is that I'm worthless. So I grew up around parents who were quite invalidating, they were Asian immigrants, just cold, never really praised me or told me they loved me. So me as a young girl, I'm like, "I'm unlovable and I'm worthless." So what did I do? I achieved so much, I just tried so hard, because that's how I got approval from my parents, not just, "Good morning, Amy. Love you," just like, "Oh okay, you've got a A plus, good job." And I'm like, "Yeah, this is the love I need." So anyway.0:15:04.7 Mischa Z: Okay.0:15:05.1 Amy Tran: Okay. So that gets ingrained and then I developed a compensatory strategy. So for me, it was working really hard, for some people, it may be the opposite, being really hyper-vigilant of cues that you don't belong, for example, reassurance seeking, whatever it is, there are behaviors that you do to protect yourself from coming face-to-face with that core belief.0:15:31.8 Mischa Z: Okay.0:15:32.6 Amy Tran: So then, that can be destructive, right? So I would say one of the most important tools at first is to become aware of what you're thinking. Because when we become aware of what we're thinking, we can identify the patterns, and when we look at the patterns, we can start to piece together what our core beliefs might be, and then that's when the actual work happens, is we have to heal that core belief because we have thousands of thoughts a day, that's the premise of CBT, and...0:16:11.8 Mischa Z: And so quickly, a cognitive behavioral therapy, that CBT stands for?0:16:17.4 Amy Tran: Yeah.0:16:18.3 Mischa Z: Yes. Cool.0:16:19.4 Amy Tran: Yeah. So let me give you actually the audience a brief overview of what CBT is. Do you think that would be helpful?0:16:26.1 Mischa Z: Yeah, absolutely. Thank you.0:16:28.7 Amy Tran: Okay. So cognitive behavioral therapy, so there's thought and there's behaviors, and then there's feeling and they're all connected. So if I told you right now to picture a purple elephant, would you be able to do that?0:16:43.4 Mischa Z: Yes, ma'am. [laughter]0:16:44.8 Amy Tran: Perfect. And if I asked you to clap twice, would you be able to do that?0:16:49.9 Mischa Z: Yes. Oops, one extra.[laughter]0:16:52.7 Amy Tran: Nice. And if I asked you to stop feeling depressed, anxious and doubtful of yourself right now, would you be able to do that?0:17:01.4 Mischa Z: Probably not, no.0:17:02.6 Amy Tran: Right. Yeah. So our feelings are harder to change, but what we can change is how we act and what we think. So if we can change those two things, because everything else is connected, then it can change our feelings. So with cognitive behavioral therapy, the first step is to become aware of the thoughts we have. So when we are, let's say, walking past a group of people and they are laughing, one of the automatic thoughts you might have is "They're laughing at me." But CBT trains you to be like, "Woah, woah, woah. What? Wait, I remember now, thoughts are not always real. How do I actually know they're laughing at me? Am I reading their mind? Am I making an assumption?" And then you re-phrase that thought, "Well, maybe someone just told a funny joke," and that reframed thought leads to more positive feelings.0:17:57.3 Amy Tran: So do you see how they're all connected? So basically, you just do that over and over again. So I would say, one of the most important things is to begin to actually look within yourself and be aware of your thoughts, and if you have trouble doing that... One of the things that I've been taught is when you notice the sudden shift in mood, immediately ask yourself, "What was I just thinking?" Because our thoughts trigger our emotions most of the time. When you're sitting there and then all of a sudden you just feel like, "Oh, I feel a little anxious or sad," just ask yourself, "What was I just thinking?" And that automatic thought is a clue of what your core belief is, and you just do that over and over again, and look...0:18:41.0 Mischa Z: Can you give me a quick example of that, of inaction, or for you or for me, or...0:18:47.7 Amy Tran: What do you mean inaction?0:18:50.4 Mischa Z: Or like, give me a real life example of that. I know you did with... Of like... Perhaps recently, you've felt... You've noticed that shift in feeling and so...0:19:07.4 Amy Tran: Oh, yes.0:19:08.2 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah.0:19:09.7 Amy Tran: Yes, yes. Okay. So yeah, so me and my partner, we were just hanging out and he was doing his own thing, I was doing my own thing. And then I noticed that the sense of dread, almost, I was like, "What was I just thinking?" And I thought for a second, and my thought was that he is purposely avoiding me because he doesn't love me anymore.0:19:39.0 Mischa Z: Okay.0:19:39.2 Amy Tran: Right?0:19:39.5 Mischa Z: Yes.0:19:39.6 Amy Tran: So then, instead of picking a fight or trying to act out, I just took a step back and I was like, "Okay, let's challenge this thought. What evidence do I have? What evidence am I missing? What's an alternative explanation? Am I reading his mind?" So I didn't act on that thought, it turns out he was just tired from working, and had a bad day. [chuckle] But it's interesting because I had that automatic thought, and where did that thought come from? My core belief of being unlovable, of being worthless. So if your core belief is always firing off these automatic thoughts, they shape the way you view the world. Right? And if we leave the thoughts unchecked, they will take over your life.0:20:27.0 Mischa Z: Okay, cool. So you're strategically or... I don't know if strategically is the right word. You're training yourself to catch the thoughts and then evaluate the trail of that thought, or am I saying that right?0:20:45.7 Amy Tran: Exactly.0:20:46.1 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:20:46.3 Amy Tran: Exactly. So the Mooditude app, whenever you have a triggering thought, you can open the app and you can check... Rate how you're feeling, you can write what you were thinking about and the specific topic, so was it relationship, work, family that was triggering you, and then it tracks it all for you, so then you can look at it over time and look for those patterns. Yeah.0:21:11.5 Mischa Z: Awesome, awesome. So I'm just looking at notes I was taking. So become aware of what you're thinking was sort of step, step one, shall we say. And it sounds like for me, that's even inventory, that write it down, get used to literally like, "Alright. What was I thinking? What are my thoughts?" Yes. Yeah.0:21:35.1 Amy Tran: Yeah. As most of the time we go through life on autopilot, right. Have you ever... [chuckle] You've walked down a flight of stairs, and you're like, "How did I get here? Why am I here?" [chuckle] It's 'cause your brain is just chattering, it's just... You're in there. You were thinking about the past and future, we're very rarely in the present moment. And actually, looking at your feet going down the steps, right? And you end up on a different flight of your house, you're like, "What the heck, how did I get here?"0:22:02.2 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah, cool. Or not cool, but cool that we can change that. So you have your MA, which is your masters?0:22:13.8 Amy Tran: Yes.0:22:14.4 Mischa Z: Okay, awesome. And working on your doctorate and so, you've been pretty deep in this sort of field for, I don't know what, five, 10 years, something like that?0:22:26.6 Amy Tran: In the graduate program, about five years, yeah, maybe four years for undergrad.0:22:33.3 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah. And so, there are studies backing up CBT, I'm assuming, cognitive behavioral therapy, and then a little bit of work can lead to profound shifts? That's my question. Is that... Or that's a statement. Is that true?0:22:52.7 Amy Tran: "A little bit of work can lead to profound shift." I would say that... That's a tricky question. It really depends on the person, right? So for some people, they are more open to exploring the thoughts that they have. But there also are people who are really afraid of their own thoughts, right? Or they are not honest with themselves, which is okay. So for those folks that may be harder to monitor their own thinking and come face-to-face with what they're thinking, that can be hard.0:23:27.9 Mischa Z: Any, any strategies to help with that?0:23:34.6 Amy Tran: I would... To help with being more open to your own thinking, I would say that there would be two, right? So I would say that sometimes people are worried about exploring their own thinking because it's going to trigger an intense emotion. So I think that one helpful thing to think about or prepare is coping tools, right? So find what works for you to bring you from a hot moment to a cooler moment. So if you notice that what you're feeling or what you're thinking is getting you quite upset and you don't wanna do it anymore, I think it's important for people to have a strategy to calm down, that might be like deep breathing or meditation.0:24:24.5 Amy Tran: And then my second thing is to practice self-compassion, right. So yeah, some of the thoughts that we have about ourselves or the world can be upsetting, but our thoughts are not always real, and I think our mindfulness can be really helpful because we can monitor... You can monitor your thinking without really attaching to it, and you can also be compassionate and non-judgmental. So mindfulness is an entire thing that we can probably talk about for like three hours [chuckle] but there's a lot of resources online, and I think that mindfulness will not only help people be more compassionate and non-judgmental, but I think it will also help you notice your thoughts even more because it's the practice of awareness. Yeah.0:25:13.9 Mischa Z: Yeah. And I think the more we confront, and I don't know if confront is the right word, or just bring awareness to our thoughts, the more they hold less weight.0:25:27.4 Amy Tran: Right, totally. Yeah.0:25:29.1 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah, yeah.0:25:31.8 Amy Tran: Our entire identity... I agree totally with multiple identities. Our entire identity is basically just stories and stories are just a string of words and pictures. Right?0:25:42.2 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah.0:25:43.1 Amy Tran: So we can let go of that.0:25:45.4 Mischa Z: Yes.[laughter]0:25:47.4 Mischa Z: I wanted to ask, I've got two things, and I'm thinking, I had an idea for the advanced bonus session that everybody's doing, and I'm thinking... And maybe you can tell me now if you think this is worth talking about. But I think where as parents, one thing that I noticed... Like when both my parents died, I went through a divorce, financial upheaval, like I was having to move houses, lots of chaos. And I had two young boys and at one point it really hit me, I was like, "Oh my God, they went through that with me." And I think in hindsight, I could have... What I want you to maybe address, and I think we should save it for the bonus session, and you can tell me if you think it's worth talking about. And I wrote it down is, "What's an important for a parent to be cognizant of for their kids, or how do you nurture or hold space or help kids deal with?" I know this is a broad topic and loaded, but it's like, I think as parents when we're going through hard times... I'll speak for me. As a parent when I was going through hard times, how do I hold space for my kids? What do you think about that as kind of a...0:27:11.2 Amy Tran: Yeah, I love that topic so much. My training is in youth, like working with youth, so yeah, I would love to talk about that.0:27:19.5 Mischa Z: Yeah, I think that would be awesome, and I think it would be very useful because I think there's a lot of us men in our 40s or what have you who... We're a little self-centered. [laughter]0:27:32.5 Amy Tran: Right. Yeah. Well, not only self...0:27:35.2 Mischa Z: Said with love.0:27:35.5 Amy Tran: So not only self-centered, but also modeling what they think society wants men to be, so.0:27:44.6 Mischa Z: Yes, yes. Awesome, so before we hit stop and get to that though, I'm curious and go ahead, were you gonna write down a note? It looks like...0:27:52.9 Amy Tran: Well, I was just writing down what I'm gonna talk about in the bonus session. [laughter]0:27:57.5 Mischa Z: Yeah, perfect. So I'm curious what you... What do you think it is that draws your Instagram account or your Doodled Wellness clearly is a powerful, a powerful place for people to go, and it's drawing people in, and it's clearly a catalyst for change and goodness and stuff and... What do you think it is? What... Just like briefly, what do you think it is? What do you think is coming through there? Does that question make sense, or...0:28:31.3 Amy Tran: It definitely makes sense, but it's a hard question because sometimes, to be honest, I'm like, "I don't even know, I'm just putting it together because this is just me." But if I can step outside of myself as the creator and look at it, I would say that it's... The colors and the way that it's presented is bright and friendly and non-intimidating, that it almost lowers like a layer of defensiveness down. And I don't know if that's true. I haven't done a study on it or anything like that. But I try to make content that's affirming and positive and that sets the colors scheme. But then sometimes I talk about some stuff that really does invite people to do some self-reflection and what they may find or what that I'm inviting them... Where I'm inviting them to go may be a hard place to go. But then while they are on the feed and looking at it, I still think that it's bright and just warm and inviting, so I just think it's a happy place. And I think it's because I actually do believe in the potential for people to flourish and to unlearn what they have learned, uncondition the conditioning of their brain. I really do feel like that's possible and I want more and more people to realize that.0:30:11.5 Mischa Z: I love that. That's a beautiful answer. Thank you so much for that. And as I... It's fun to click on a post and sort of look at the... Who's interacting with you, and it seems like, which I think is super cool, as a pretty broad spectrum of people. Would you say that that's true?0:30:33.6 Amy Tran: Yeah, definitely.0:30:35.7 Mischa Z: Yeah, that's awesome.0:30:36.8 Amy Tran: Yeah, and I...0:30:36.9 Mischa Z: Oh, go ahead. Sorry.0:30:37.7 Amy Tran: And I... Oh no, that's okay. And I also think that one thing that I have noticed too is that more and more teens are noticing the feed because it is quite, I don't wanna say childish, but maybe playful. And I think that's like, I'm just so grateful and honored for them to be there because at that point in our lives we're just so malleable and there's just so much proactive work to be done.0:31:04.3 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Well, fantastic. Amy, we're gonna, we're gonna end. I think that's a beautiful place to end round one. So if this interview with Amy Tran was fantastic, and you want to get even more content from Amy, which is gonna be amazing, I already know the bonus session is gonna be beautiful, upgrade to the All Access Pass for that bonus interview. And Amy, any final thoughts to share that we did not get a chance to cover?0:31:39.2 Amy Tran: No, but I'll leave everyone with a quote, which is, "Awareness is the first step towards healing," well.0:31:47.6 Mischa Z: Yeah, beautiful. Thank you so much, Amy. This has been a ton of fun round one, I'm very excited for round two. And a reminder to everybody, you can find Amy@doodledwellness.com and @doodledwellness on Instagram. And we'll see everybody in the VIP section.0:32:10.2 Amy Tran: Ciao![music]

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
Thursday meditation #8: The memory of God comes to a quiet mind

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2021 13:55


Going through a stack of sticky notes on my desk I find this thought…  “The memory of God comes to a quiet mind”.  And I thought, what a beautiful meditation.  So we give it a go.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.

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Open Marriage...The Approved Infidelity

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Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2021 64:54


Open marriages are a hot topic with married people, and people in relationships, but why? Is this the new revolutionary way to fix marriages?

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
“What is a recent miracle in your life?”

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2021 12:36


I answer my friends question, “What is a recent miracle in your life?”.  With successful people who do things or perhaps are in a place that I want to be, I can be contemptuous or resentful.  What's up with that?  The idea of if you spot it you got it, but on the GOOD THINGS you see in people, is driven home to me.  And More!Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Zvegintzov  00:00I believe you asked me another question, what is the miracle in my life? What was the miracle in my life, almost cut my hair off the other day, I was having massive insecurity coming out of the out of the Funnel Hacking Live, and ways that I'd communicated my experience. I was like, oh my god, I was way to vulnerable, get your hair off. I don't know if you have those moments. But I survived. And obviously, my hair is still in full effect. So that's not the maybe that is a miracle. But that wasn't the miracle. When I was at Funnel Hacking Live, lots of the, you know, there was, it was four days, and I believe there was five or six speakers each day and all very powerful speakers. And there was 5000 people, 6000 people at the sold out conference, two to 3000 in person two to 3000 live. I don't know the exact numbers, but lots of solid energy, lots of amazing heart centered, entrepreneurial messages being shared lots of vulnerability. And then many of the speakers, you know, would do some, they wouldn't call them meditation techniques, but they would lead some, you know, some positive affirmations, or they would even call it that they'd, but like meditation.Mischa Zvegintzov  01:27  So Tony Robbins was the last speaker. And that was Saturday night. And I've never seen Tony Robbins live and by the grace of God, I, by this point in my life right now, set aside my contempt for the Tony Robbins that I'd never even really seen or known. But like, I was like, God, damn, this dude's helped millions of people like it started hitting me. A year or two ago, I was like, where's this weird, like, for successful people who do things that perhaps are in a place that I want to be? I can be, you know, contemptuous or resentful or whatever. But so anyway, I'm like, Oh, shit, I can see Tony Robbins, you know, live. And being part of the 2CCX, which is the coaching program within all this, we got priority seating. So I was right up in front, and he's leading this amazing meditation. And that this whole thing is just this whole event for days is very well crafted to break down barriers to build energy to, to help you go within to help you, you know. Yeah, just internal barriers, external barriers. Tons of inspiration. Everybody's an open book, or most people, you know, super successful people there are milling about with you. So like, one minute, you can literally be like, oh, there's Tony Robbins. Hey, Tony Robbins, how you doing? Go? Hey, great. I'm just on my way walking to lunch. And you're like, Oh, shit. Well, nice to meet you. Yeah, nice to meet you. Or it's one guy. Obvious couple guys. Like, whatever. There's pretty powerful experience.Mischa Zvegintzov  03:14  But Tony's meditation was...Tony's thing that he led after... towards the end, and we are all frothy. Pumped up, man. Tony is really good at what he does, right? He's one of the best in the world, let's be real. And so he does this thing. This like meditation and super out of body experience. Right? It could have been like, 45 minutes or five minutes, I don't know. But part of it was... pull out... pull out a recent, a recent moment that you're grateful for in your life, you know.  And then All right, put that in your heart and lalala and all this stuff to really internalize it. Great. And then, Alright, now let's go. Let's go find another leasing moment, or great moment that you're grateful for, you'll have Okay, now, you know, put that into your heart and, and feel it and and imagine that you're there. And it's happening again right now. Right and, and some other things around that. But those were the two most poignant things for me, because with my boys. One was when Waylon graduated high school a few months ago. I don't know if you saw that picture on the social media whereas his arms were were raised in victory because he had graduated from... Thank you again for listening Lisa Randall. From graduating and he had just spontaneously erupted. And the crowd reacted to you know, the audience of parents and kids and You know....Mischa Zvegintzov  05:01  It just was a very inspired moment. I just as like I saw at that time, I'd heard a message from a lady that I'd interviewed on my podcast or Lena Allen, you can check it out, go to the get Bitch Slap podcast.  And she's like, interview number 20 something. But Arlene Allen and our Lena, you know, you might not even need to do avocado toast after this because you're, you're getting all the information. Or Lena was like, Hey, we were talking about how I'm all in on the fact of if you spot it, you got it. Right. And I tend to look at that towards the negative. She's like, well, what if you spot it, you got it on the good stuff on the beauty or the or the good thing to see and people. And like, in that moment, the world like shifted and rotated before my eyes. Like no shit. I was like, Oh my God. Like, wait a minute. That's amazing. And so I was really internalizing that idea that thought.  And then Waylon Just frickin erupts spontaneously when the principal hands him the diploma in front of the crowd and just it... I was like, Oh, my God, like, how amazing is Waylon and his outgoing attitude and his shining light. And I was like, Wait a minute. Like, that's part of me. Right? And that just because he's my son because I spotted it. I got it right.Mischa Zvegintzov  06:43  And so So where was I? Sorry, shiny objects with dogs walking by. So that's a powerful moment for me. And that was a moment of gratitude that I was thinking of when Tony Robbins was asking us to think those moments. When I was just so happy and proud for Waylon and just saw him as a shining light out there and just was like, Oh my God, he's such a, you know, I was proud and just all that stuff, right. Like, massive gratitude moment for me. So I'm hugging that close to my heart and feeling it and just loving it.Mischa Zvegintzov  07:25  And then the other one was Cooper just the other day, maybe a week or so ago. Waylon was buying a new iPhone. And I was like, "Yeah, I'll help you". I'll throw you a couple hundred and fifty bucks, you know, to towards your iPhone purchase. And so I was like, You know what? I'm gonna offer coops 250 bucks so say Coops I texted him. Hey, man. I was gonna throw you a cut 250 bucks you got? Is there anything that you need? Like, I'll give you a couple couple hundred bucks. And he's like, Yeah, I have this outstanding. Dr. bills like $300 because I have this outstanding Dr. Bill. It's $300. And I was like, done. Oh, I'm transferring you $300 right now. Transferred it over. And he erupted in gratitude. This is all via text. Right? He's like, Oh my God, that's so amazing. And we got to have breakfast and bla bla bla bla bla and was just super fired up. And this was a couple of weeks ago.  And I've been trying to be more generous with Coops with no strings attached and trusting that like oftentimes with Cooper, for whatever reason, I can be more of like, I'm gonna give this to you. But I need to know. Here's the strings. Here's the attachment. Where this was just spontaneous. Here's some cash. Go by freakin Sour Patch Kids, I don't give a shit. Like but he, he reacted so powerfully. And then he had a great breakfast and it was just like this catalyst for for me for some really cool moments just me trying to make some changes in my life and how I react to Cooper and the payoff was awesome.Mischa Zvegintzov  09:14  So that was the thing that I was hugging into my heart. When Tony Robbins was having us do this exercise, and everybody's throbbing and we're all eyes are closed and he's like, okay.  And then, you know, visualizing amazing stuff moving forward and live and all this stuff, just all this visualizing.  And he's so good at it because he's been doing it for 40 years. That  I was freaking glowing. So then it gets done. And he goes, Okay, pick two people. So people, three people together. Thank you for listening to this, but you asked, and I can talk. So thank you. If you Make it if you're making it this far. Again, you're probably on by three speed and if purchased to the Marco Polo Pro, so you can speed this up. But so, two of the people that I had befriended and that were a part of my coaching group, and then James Mays, and Rick Hayhurst. Rick Hayhurst was on my Summit. And James Mays owns a music school, and I'm not sure if you saw the movie School of Rock, or if you've seen the School of Rock Schools, like, all that stuff was started based on him and what he's done and created. So James is super amazing. And, and, sorry, I'm trying to cross the street. And why start a new bit when we can just drag this one out a little bit longer. So circle up with your team, your three people and tell some tell them... you know... What I heard Tony say was "tell them the things you're grateful for".Mischa Zvegintzov  11:13  And, and so I got to go first. They go, "you go first Mischa".  And I go, "okay". And I started to talk. And I just started sobbing. I just started sobbing. Like crying and crying. And and was like, trying, I was like, "my boys and and Cooper" and I'm sobbing, and just... I didn't stop it. So A) How awesome is that? Two men. And I'm just, like, "fuck it, I'm going to be vulnerable".   And I just started bawling. So whatever I ball for, I don't know how long. And I finally compose myself enough to be like, this is the Cooper moment that I'm grateful for. And I say it in detail as I'm crying with joy. And then I say the wailing moment has cried with joy. And in that moment, if you've made it this far, here's the miracle. Just as a divorced parent, I don't know if you have any of this, Lisa. But there's some guilt towards the kids for me. And there was it was like, Man, am I doing it? Right? If I done good enough, will I ever not have regrets about how I was as a father when I was working? And the marriage, you know? And then like, post divorce and ah...  And it just was like, "your, your, your relationships with your boys are healed". Loud and clear. Loud and clear Lisa Randall. And and what a moment. What a moment. And that is a full miracle. Like to have that. Feel that to your core and internalized. And as I tell you this story, I know it to be true.Mischa Zvegintzov  13:41  Wow, that doesn't mean we won't scrap moving forward or that my boys won't have rough times or not do things that about do things I don't want them to do or I might yell or whatever. But it's like... we are all where we're supposed to be.  So.  There's the miracle. Love you if you made it this far. Thanks for listening. Suppose we were on the docket for Friday for avocado toast.Mischa Zvegintzov  14:10  Okay,

Marriage Helper: Helping Your Marriage
When to Divorce - Is it Time to Move On?

Marriage Helper: Helping Your Marriage

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2021 26:28


It's a fact. Not every marriage is going to make it. However, we wish every marriage would because we are very pro-marriage. In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Beam Holmes provide points about when it may be the right time to divorce and when it's not the right time. Divorce isn't a decision to take lightly. On the contrary, it's a weighty decision that you don't want to make when other people are persuading you, who are saying things to you like:"You'd be better off alone."" Why don't you just go on and divorce." "It sounds like this can't ever work." "I think you just need to go ahead and file the papers."Those are people who are probably very well-meaning but should not and do not get to make that decision for you. It is your life. It is your decision, and you should be the one who makes it because you are the one who has to deal with the outcome.  It is your decision.  This episode will give you great insight and get you to think about some things before making a decision too rashly that you may end up regretting later.Information about our 3-day intensive workshopshttps://marriagehelper.com/workshops/Get our FREE Mini-Course "How To Get Your Spouse Back"https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-courseSchedule a FREE Call with one of our Team Members:https://your.marriagehelper.com/meetings/marriagehelper/connectLearn more about our Save My Marriage Course:https://marriagehelper.com/product/save-my-marriage/

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
I need to be reminded of the basics all the time.

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2021 10:59


Am I adding value with this podcast?  It is a great question…  Perhaps I'm helping people and I don't even know.  Sometimes it's up to you to listen and to pull out what is to be learned.  Worst case I'm giving reminders to myself for consistence, fortitude, resilience, all these things. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript:Mischa Zvegintzov  00:00 It's funny, I was just thinking how? Maybe it's not funny. I was just thinking, how am I adding value? I've been thinking about this? am I adding value with this podcast? Because it's a great question, is it? Is it an exercise in ego gratification and narcissism? On the very left? Or on the very right, is it? You know, helping be of service to the world, that community? To people who need to hear it? or what have you, however, you want to say, you know, that's something very right. And or is it somewhere in between, and I'm sure on any given day, it's somewhere in between leaning a little off center to the left or a little off center to the right. But hopefully on balance, it's mostly to the right of the curve and, and being, being of value.Mischa Zvegintzov  01:08And, you know, one way to be a value is to specifically say the point. So, you know, the last episode that I recorded, I was talking about, you know, being very focused at work, so focused at work that I'd gone to work with different shoes on. But that also the Wells Fargo sales conference, and the Funnel Hacking Live convention. Or what do you call that? Gathering convention on an off convention? Yeah. But it cost I think, on average, $1,000, if you bought early, maybe it was $700. If you bought it right at the last minute, the ticket, if there were any available, it was it. You know, I think $1,500 or something like that, but the event did sell out. So the Funnel Hacking Live sold out. But I had an opportunity there, like I did it, the sales conferences that I went to at Wells Fargo for being a top producer for a while. You know, it's an opportunity to network to learn to get inspired, find new ideas, as well as bring ideas to the table. So I might have left that out on the previous episode.Mischa Zvegintzov  02:41But, you know, there's always somebody coming up behind you that you can share your experience strength and hope with and inspire, and, and encourage, etc. But I'm talking about this stuff on that last episode. And I realized that on many episodes, I don't suss out the point. I don't necessarily say, "Okay, here's what you can learn from this". So for example, Funnel Hacking live, pay to go to a convention or a gathering that's in your industry, or in what you're doing, and go learn and go be of service, bring what you can to the table.  Go network.  Honestly, authentically, have cool conversations with people that are ahead of you on the track. And, and, as I'm saying this, I realize a lot of you probably already do that. So God bless you and I love that. But some of you don't, some of you might be thinking thrifty wise, should I spend the money on something like that? Or? Or is it worthwhile or the contempt of "I won't learn anything" or "I don't have anything to bring" or perhaps one of the speakers is somebody that you don't like, and so you throw the baby out with the bathwater.   Like Tony Robbins is speaking there. I don't like Tony Robbins, therefore, I won't go at all. And I will just say that Tony crushed it. But I just had this thought as I hit record on this episode, that sometimes it's it's, perhaps it's up to you to listen to what you're listening to, to pull out what is to be learned.Mischa Zvegintzov  04:46I think it's an interesting thought, right? Like, is it my responsibility to tell you what you need to glean from the story that I told about having my shorts on backwards?  And being focused and being committed to my craft and learning from my craft and I had a lot of success as a 15 year loan officer.  And was in sales of, you know, high tech and, and financial services for the five years before that. So there's nuggets in there, or reminders in there for any of you that are listening.  Perhaps I don't say, "work on your focus "or "be committed", or "go with an open mind" or, or "put your contempt aside, throw caution to the wind and spend the money that you don't want to spend and go to a convention". And learn and add, see what you can bring, see what you can learn, see how you can add to the inspirations, how you can be inspired. Like, I think all that's so powerful, and I may not have specifically pointed it out. But all that information was embedded in that episode for you to hear.Mischa Zvegintzov  06:19And I will say this too. It's super fun for me to read, listen to my episodes, as I go to edit them and get them published. Because there is great reminders in there for me. Great  reminders in there for me to I need to be reminded all the time of the basics. Be consistent. Show up one day at a time.  Get there early, leave late. See what you can bring to the table, Mischa.  Like I needed to be reminded of that set of basics, but there's so many other basics to be reminded of. So this is just a gentle reminder to myself, maybe a gift from the universe to me that hey, Meesh, I know you have insecurities that can that can drive you or that can make it hard to be creative. Or in the moment, you know, not trust what's happening. And it was just a great reminder of like, hey, trust, keep at it. Like perhaps you're helping people how you don't even know.  And worst case, you're giving reminders to yourself for consistency, consistency, fortitude, resilience, all these things.Mischa Zvegintzov  07:57I will say as well. I think this was a great tangent. I would actually honestly like a little bit of a standing ovation, a little bit of applause perhaps. Now, that might be a little narcissistic. But anyway, I am super glad to be in the game of life. Tackling new entrepreneurial opportunities.  Trying new things going for it. And I'm done. Peace out love to all. So I think a good way to button up this episode is to say, hey, perhaps Perhaps a great reminder for Misha, myself, Hey, I am being of service. And perhaps the listener can take some accountability and not that you're not. But can suss out, hear the story and pull out the key nuggets of information as I am trying to learn better how to structure an episode and say, here's the point. Tell you the point and then tell you the point that I told you. All right, I'm done now. Goodbye.

Dynamic Power
Episode 158: Our Marriage Advice

Dynamic Power

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2021 21:11


In this episode we discuss a few key items we have learned over the last 15 years of marriage. ______________________________________________________________________ Let us know what you think of this or any other Episode by joining our Team Dynamic Power Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/teamdynamicpower/?ref=bookmarks Grab some Powerful Mindset Apparel: (code PODCAST15 saves you 15% off your entire purchase)  https://powerfulmindsetapparel.com Warrior Greens: https://www.warriorgreens.com/?ref=jeremyclark3 The Beard Struggle: (code: POWER15 saves you 15% off your entire purchase) https://www.thebeardstruggle.com/  

The Relationship Maze
Are you often too giving? - The art of balancing the giving and receiving of love

The Relationship Maze

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2021 24:00


Do you frequently feel that you are the only person around who is constantly giving? Do you struggle with actually taking in compliments when they are given to you? Or do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed when there is too much attention coming your way? In today's episode we discuss the importance of giving and and receiving love in a balanced way. We look at the complexities around giving: often the need to constantly give can be driven by an underlying issue with low self worth or a number of anxieties. Often there is also a correlation between giving a lot and not being able to fully receive other people's attention and care. Conversely, you may find yourself struggling with giving your partner or other people close to you the attention that they desire from you. You may also find too much attention overwhelming.

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
When you have an opportunity to talk with top producers, listen!

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2021 12:40


First, I just about walk out of the house with my shorts on backwards, which reminds me of my home mortgage days.  And I see the parallels between The Funnel Hacking Live 2021 and the Wells Fargo Home Mortgage top producer sales conferences. You can talk to the high performers and learn how it's done.  The energy is next level.  And everyone is very open.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Zvegintzov  00:01  I was trying to put my phone in my pocket. As I was getting ready to walk out the door to go for my inspirational walk.  My walks that are deriving so much inspiration for me right now. And the darn phone wouldn't go in my pocket. And I realized because I put my shorts on backwards.  Which is just the funniest damn thing.  If I hadn't been tried to put my phone in my pocket, I would have walked out the door with my shorts on backwards.  Which totally reminded me of a funny moment, back in my mortgage banking days when I was a home loan officer, and working so hard, and grinding, grinding away. And that's not the complete point of this podcast, it's just a really funny story of this episode. The what I'm going to talk about is how, as my friend Lisa Randall likes to say, the information that I was downloading. The inspiration that's been flowing through for me, or through me, or to me, coming out of the Funnel, Hacking Live 2021. How that's coalescing and, and answers are coming clear. And, and a lot of that is a function of patience. Like being being patient, let it come together. So the inspiration was absolutely pure. Just the final answer was not landing what I wanted when I wanted to. So I'll talk a little bit more about that. Anyway, back to the story of walking out the door with my shorts on backwards. So I tried to put the phone in the pocket doesn't happen. And I realized, you know, how, if you put something on your T shirt on the inside out or something, you put something on wrong, may not notice it in the first moment, but but then you're like, oh my god, that is on backwards. So my shorts I said gosh, they are uncomfortable. It's funny, I didn't notice that. So back in the home loan days, especially when I was relatively new, and I was just working hard. Because I had a new baby Cooper Lee, who was you know, a year old, basically, when I started in the business and had my wife, Dawn, the boy's mom. And so I actually started having success fairly quickly. You know, 2000, my first year, I think I made $60,000 or something like that. But then, after that, it was just it was you know, a couple 100,000 year two, I think. And you know, so year two year three on, I was just and I put in the hours, I was dedicated to the craft, learning, learning the craft, getting better at the craft. Whenever I had the opportunity, I would talk to high performing mortgage loan officers and pick their brain. How do you do it? You know, who's your market, what's your niche, all these things? And oftentimes, I wouldn't ask what the niche was, but they would tell me "here's my niche, find your niche focus on it". This is actually really funny because when I was at the Funnel Hacking Live, I saw the parallels between Funnel Hacking Live and the sales conference that I would go to at Wells Fargo home mortgage. So somewhere along the line fairly quickly, I you know, maybe my third or fourth year I probably fourth or fifth year. I made it to the sales conference, the annual Wells Fargo home mortgage sales conference where they you know, send you somewhere super fun for a week.Mischa Zvegintzov  04:52And so like if we end up in Mexico one year or some other country another year.  Elton John. They hired Elton John one year. So I was like, at the stage listening, you know, to Elton John, or who else did we have? Beach Boy. I think Brian Wilson, they brought him in as the Beach Boys, but he was the only one left. So it was constantly joking Beach Boy. The Eagles one year How fun is that? This was all in the 2000s. Beach Boy. The eagles who was the other one? Oh, I remember this the year that that the Patriots went 16 and 0, and made it to the Super Bowl. And I think we were on a cruise. So that was the cruise year. And they brought in who's the guy? Was it Margaritaville? It was like James Taylor. That's who it was James Taylor. I was so disappointed. James Taylor. Like the rumors were circulating that it was going to be the Stones or Aerosmith or you know, a rollicking good time band. And it was James Taylor wha wha wha. Anyhow. I worked my butt off to the mortgage industry. I really did. And this one day, I got to lunch with Gary, who was my assistant. He's a great man. salt of the earth. Dude, old school dude. Gary, I can't remember his last name. But Gary was my assistant for a number of years and smoked cigarettes. Like he take his cigarette breaks and all this and funny guy. So anyway, we're out to lunch. I looked down. And I've got a black work shoe on like a black dress shoe, and a brown dress on at lunch. So I probably started work at seven or eight that morning. Noon, we're out to lunch. And I looked down. And I'm like, wait a minute. I've got different colored shoes on and the different styles to it was like, oh my god, I literally had been working the whole day, walking around, ordered lunch and did not figure it out. Until I sat down. And I remember I was really tired that day. I was just working so hard and so focused on what I was doing that that I totally missed that I'd even that I'd had my shoes on wrong.  Anyway, I can't remember what I did from there. I may have run home to fix it because it was like I'm a freak show right now. Or what have you I might have just finished out today with different shoes on. But I'll button up this nice little episode.  The way this shaped up.  Riches are in the niches. I hear that a lot. So at the sales conferences, I would just pick the brains of a top producers. Be like What are you doing? How do you do it? So, you know, I just get a lot of fundamental, basic, good information. And feeding off that energy.  And getting to know people and getting encouraged. And, you know, yeah, the networking, on and on and on. And new ideas, right, you're getting new ideas. People are very forthcoming with the information too, which is awesome. Everybody's so confident in what they do. They're like, here's my niche, here's how I do it. Here's this, this is how I do it. Here's my secrets and and that isn't an awesome environment to be in. And so I found the same thing at Funnel Hacking Live I was having the same experience.Mischa Zvegintzov  09:17I was like, this is just like a Wells Fargo home mortgage sales conference for all the top producers or any company's sales conference for the top producers. Except in the funnel, hacking community world, we get to pay to go which is good I think pay to play is awesome because it shows a certain level of commitment and accountability and willingness. But the basic structure is the same. You've got the award night you've got all the amazing speakers. The it's a chance to interact with the top people in the Funnel Hacking Online entrepreneurial game and everyone is super open and forthcoming with what they're up to what they do.  So funny I noticed if they feel like you're, you're in effect wasting their time they will shut you down and move on. Which is really funny I think... car just went by not noticing a human so good I'm still alive. Anyway I could go on and on in this episode I will not I will stop and have a great day. Love to all gosh, I feel like it's a lie. I'm not stopping obviously. Yeah, I'm done. That's it. Peace out. Rough ending

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
Sometimes I can be thrifty to my detriment.

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2021 11:16


Sometimes I can be thrifty to my detriment and it can come back to bite me in the butt.  In this case it manifested in me skipping a couple of x-rays at the dentist.  Which lead to some root canals!  WTF!  I'm trying to grow past that :).  And I challenge you: where are you being thrifty in your life, that it's perhaps going to cost you more financially down the road.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Zvegintzov 00:01Oh my gosh, I've been meaning to talk about this for quite a bit. Keep on meaning to do an episode about this and it's about how do we say it these days? It's a limited mindset or limiting...or what is it went the opposite of financial abundance or abundance? Lack, that lack of mindset or Thriftiness. Sometimes I can be thrifty to my detriment. Yes, I can be thrifty to my detriment. And I'm, and I'm going to tell you how that has come back to bite me in the butt. As I'm trying to grow past that, and, and act as if, what if? What if I wasn't driven by, by a lack mentality in regards to? What how was it? What if money? What if money wasn't the driving factor of this decision? That's what it is. So oftentimes, I'll be like, well, the financial peace when sometimes you gotta throw caution to the wind, I think. Gosh, this is a bit disjointed, hang in there with me people. But here we go. So the dentist can be a source of financial insecurity for me, and financial stress and financial tension. Seems like genetically, I've been very healthy in many ways. However, as the dentist reminds me, I'm very, I go to the dentist every every six months. And for a while, I was going every three months as we were trying to make sure that my teeth were hanging in there, which is good. But here we go. This is funny, I've got good teeth, they just if I am not... I get to be hyper diligent in dental care or next thing, you know, I've got a cavity. Or next thing you know, I need a friggin root canal. And, and so I was being thrifty in that regard. And that a couple years ago...and time goes fast man, the older you get the faster time goes. The dentist was like, hey, it's time for X rays. We want to X ray you every year. I believe it is the X ray you every year to make sure your teeth and the roots of your teeth and all that and your gums, not gums but your what your jaw, whatever to make sure all that's good and in line and and I can get in the mindset that the dentist is just taking advantage the dentist doesn't need to, to do X rays to racket, it's a scam. And I love my dentist. I do love my dentists. They're always been so gracious and taking such great care of me.  And so that is a belief that is not true. Right And where does that come from? I don't know. But like actually, I kind of know. I did get sold pretty hard one time from a dentist when I had first moved to San Diego in 2001/2002. And it definitely did not feel authentic and like my best interests were in the top of their mind. It was like extract as much finances out of Mischa as you can. And I think we know when when when there is that fine line. Where my current dentist is absolutely just trying to has my health top of mind. So anyway, I think extra is $150 or whatever it is which you know...man, dentists.  They've got an office. They've got dental assistants. Often times dentists are upgrading their equipment you know, learning new stuff. It's one of the great things.  Kent Howard's my dentist and and here in Cardiff by the sea California. Anyone needs a dentist in Cardiff by the sea go to Kent Howard's office.Mischa Zvegintzov 04:56But he has some great he's even brought in some great new very He experienced dentists to support his office. And this one of his new dentists that's been helping me, I wish I could remember his name. But the guy, he's, I don't know, 60 or something like that. But he's constantly learning new techniques. And it's really fun to hear him talk about them as he's working on your teeth.  But he was talking about whatever. My point is that there is a significant financial investment and risk and stuff that dentists take on. And, you know, they're trying to support a practice and families.  And so when I can get out like $150, for digital frickin X ray, like that's, that's like 18 year old worries, that's the 18 year old me being worried about an x ray and paying for it. Because financially times were very tight in my youth. You know, as I was learning what I was going to do with my life...which I'm still wondering, by the way.  So, let me get to the point that, hey, if they say, hey, it's time for your X rays, and so in my Thriftiness, I'm like, Yeah, let's put it off for six months. No big deal. I, I'm sure you're gonna guess what's gonna happen. So, six months later, hey, it's time for your X rays. Like, what? Bottom line is that roll in one day? next appointment? I can't remember the exact timeline. But they're like, it's been a little two years over two years, since we did your X rays, which saved me probably 150 or 200, or $300. They do the X rays. I get a call the next couple of days. You have been not doing the best job of flossing in this one ear area, you're probably going to need a root canal. And they're like deer. Does that hurt? Over there? Cuz I was like, no, they're like, Well, we're very surprised. So they make a recommendation to the root canal guy. So what happens is a root canal also means you need a I think it's called a crown. I don't know the exact terminology. Not a bridge, but a crown. I don't know what the difference is doesn't matter. Point is... Yeah, I get there. At the root canal place, the root canal guy, he's like, your teeth Doesn't your tooth doesn't hurt. You're very lucky. We definitely need to make this happen. So me saving $150 ended up costing me $3000 For a root canal and a crown. And then there's actually even a little more to the story where you can email me and I'll tell you the rest of the story. contact@belove.media. My email is in the show notes. You can either just type in contact@BELOVE.media, and I'll tell you the rest of the story. Or you can click in the my email in the show notes. And I will reply with the rest of the story. But I challenge you because it's really got me thinking as I challenge you, where are you being thrifty in your life, that it's perhaps going to cost you more financially down the road. Like where is my financial insecurity, my focus on lack, instead of abundance... not having my focus in the right place in that regard. Ends up costing you/me? You get what I'm saying? Where in your life are you focusing on that where you should be focusing on the "what is the potential benefit that the spend will bring?" So yeah, that point was absolutely driven home to me through this recent dental experience, as I've been making leaps and bounds, growth in that regard. All right. My gosh, I'm done. Love to all

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
Can I can I continue to plow forward in uncertainty?

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2021 11:13


I do love talking about business and sales.  And that is becoming abundantly clear to me.  Which leads me to a conundrum, which direction do I go?  Focused more on the spiritual conversations?  Or the business conversations?  Or does it meld somewhere in between.  And I'm concerned that I'm falling into a narcissistic abyss.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: 00:01Some of the inspiration that had come through for me out of Funnel Hacking Live was how much I do like talking about business and business strategy and, sales. Like, I'm a salesman, I was in sales for 20 years. And I love the sales profession. I do. I love the lead generation. I tend to like a shorter sales cycle sales versus long sales cycle. But just strategy and what are people doing? And what are people up to and how they had success? And what are their trials and tribulations.  I met so many people at Funnel Hacking Live where I got to have that conversation. I was like, I love that conversation. And I bring my curiosity and wonder that to that conversation. And how fun it is for me.01:28And then there's people out there that have a story, they want to tell that.  But perhaps under their normal environment, they don't get to share, share those types of stories. So it's like, gosh, it would be fun to do some of those interviews and, and, you know, create summits around it and stuff.  And I have a lot even more clear of a vision than that. However, I'm protective of it. Literally in this moment, this is great, you know, scared to share it because what if someone runs with it? Well, the reality is, is there's already a whole bunch of people that have run with it already. In one way or another.02:18But the point is, what is the point? The point is that again, I'm thinking…  If you of listened a couple of episodes ago, to Earston reminding me make sure you're of service with this stuff. In a subtle way.  In the most loving way. Make sure this isn't narcissistic in nature, your podcasting. So how can this help you? How can I be of service? Hopefully the story is of service. I'm going to let it go and continue on with the story. So you know the current…there's the one way where this is my internal battle right now of what I'm trying to sort out. And perhaps as entrepreneurs trying new endeavors. Or salesman trying new endeavors or saleswoman trying new endeavors. Or maybe your existing business you're needing to try new things. Sure is great when that one straight line, it's shining right in front of you. I guess I have the luxury right now of having two lines.  One is for the this is one bit of inspiration that came from me out of Funnel Hacking Live. I've got the I've got the the divorced, sober salesman father who I can help have fun again. thrive again. You know, they're ready. They're ready. Okay, I'm ready to really level up my life. And yeah, get back on the horse, shall we say. So I love that I've been working hard on that. Like coming to that clarity of vision of that specific person who I can help. And then there's also sort of this new iteration of me flying around of oh my gosh you know, following the steps of success.04:54Following the steps, so you can have success, somebody. And so, you know, there's all the stories to tell around business success. And I love business. And as I said, as a salesman, I've tried very has had various little small business ventures over the years. So I've definitely gone the entrepreneurial route. And so, you know, it's like, how are these two things is going to meld together? And, and, you know, one side of me is like, bye divorced dad friend, who was me, who is me, right. And I'm all excited about this new business stuff. And, and so my new person to help could be the fledgling you know, entrepreneurial (maybe it's entrepreneur, entre proneural divorced dad) I think you get what I'm saying that they seem to be two opposite paths. And this inspiration was so much fun for me.06:17One bit of it of the just chatting with people about their entrepreneurial endeavors. Like, I love that! So how am I gonna? Is there a way to meld together work? Do I pick one or the other? And what are the tools? The strategies I used for clarity? I think that's the lesson here. Can I can I can I continue to plow forward in the uncertainty? Can I do the prayer meditation? That writing the pro and con list. And again, because we had a very pointed conversation the other day, it was like, Hey, do the old pro and con list? Like yeah, that's a good idea. But ultimately, what path brings me I can the most passion and fun and youthful joy and enthusiasm and wonder. I'm a little, a little, a little, a little babbley here, but thank you for your patience. Oh, and this, this scenario definitely did remind me of, like the shiny object syndrome. Right? That's, I guess that's the way to button up this episode. It's the shiny object syndrome, this idea that the shiny object syndrome that's the idea that, you know, I'm getting there's new things to do in regard to the high performing salesman, divorced dad sober person that I can help get back on track, you know, thrive have fun again.08:21And then there's the shiny object over here of, of, of starting brand new, bringing what I've already learned to it, of course, you know, brand new podcast, brand new Summit, brand new avatar. And somehow that's going to be the magic solution that makes it all easy, and takes away the pain points. But the reality is, I still come to the same point of product creation. Asking the list for how, what they want help with things like that. So is it just a shiny object? And I'm not necessarily asking you for answers. Just telling you the process.  Please Jesus let this be adding value. That's it. I'm done. I am done. I don't even think I could recap this episode at this point. Anyway, love to all

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
Thursday Meditation #7: What if you could let go of outcomes?

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2021 16:55


What if you could let go of outcomes?  Breath in the purity of the moment.  Breath out and the outcomes and let it go…Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.

The Art of Relationships Show
Traditional Values or a Reality Check_ Dating, Relationship & Marriage Advice

The Art of Relationships Show

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2021 21:37


Marriage, Sex, Love and Relationship Advice from a Real Professional!Greg Dudzinski, MS, LPC is known as “Detroit's Love Guru.” The Art of Relationships Show is about helping you achieve the “relationship you've always craved!” Greg's passion is helping others. He offers a down to earth approach to obtain real results. Greg's passion is healing broken hearts, repairing relationships, plus increasing your sexual fulfillment. He has also appeared on TV, Radio, and is an author. Weekly videos on love, marriage, sex and much more! Let's find your spark!Greg is a fully licensed professional Counselor and Relationship & Sex Specialist. Like me on Facebook! @detroitsloveguruFollow me on Instagram! @detroitsloveguruFollow me on Twitter! @detroitloveguruBuy my book – Love, Sex & Everything In Between: A Relationship Guide https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578241692Take my 28 Days to Ignite Your Relationship course! ON SALE $37 (Original $99) https://bit.ly/33tPCHw Buy Love Intentionally merch! https://bit.ly/32pRh1ASupporters:www.DFWNplc.com (Family & Personal Injury Lawyers)Dan Williams: Cell: 313-421-8083 Bio: https://fowlerandwilliams.com/daniel-williams/Aimee Fowler: Cell: 313-421-6069 Bio: https://fowlerandwilliams.com/aimee-fowler/www.ihatepeople.club (real funny items!)

Marriage Helper: Helping Your Marriage
Why Someone Would Cheat on the Person They Love

Marriage Helper: Helping Your Marriage

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2021 45:10


In this episode, Gemma from the Marriage Helper leadership team has a conversation with  Stephen and he shares his brave testimonial about having multiple affairs and still wanting to save his marriage. This testimonial is about betrayal, heartbreak, self-improvement, and hope.  You'll hear Stephen's truth over the years, where he is at today, and the tools he has used to help move forward. If you have had an affair or maybe your spouse did, please see the list of resources below and reach out to us. Affair Toolkit - For The Hurt Spousehttps://marriagehelper.com/product/af...Affair Toolkit - For Help In Deciding To End An Affairhttps://marriagehelper.com/product/af...Information about our 3-day intensive workshopshttps://marriagehelper.com/workshops/Get our FREE Mini Course "How To Get Your Spouse Back"https://marriagehelper.com/how-to-get...Schedule a FREE Call with one of our Team Members:https://your.marriagehelper.com/meeti...Learn more about our Save My Marriage Course:https://marriagehelper.com/product/sa...

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
"Urgent update! Found voice may still be lost!”

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2021 11:49


As I'm back from Funnel Hacking Live 2021 with my new voice in hand.  My confidence starts to waiver.  And that illusive new voice is just that.  ILLUSIVE.  But no matter.  I get to stay true to myself and keep trying.  That's lesson here, Keep Trying!Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Zvegintzov  00:01 As the dust is settling from Funnel Hacking Live and I'm settling into my new voice. Oh my gosh.  Oh my gosh, this episode, what are we going to talk about? On this episode I'm going to talk about how I thought I'd found my new voice but keep trying. And how powerful that idea is. And yeah, all the thoughts and emotions around that. So anybody just jumping in? I was at Funnel Hacking Live 2021. And just inspiration was crackling. It's still crackling. Like I'm writing down ideas super fast and, and just embracing new new thoughts, new openness, new willingness to think is so powerful. It's funny, as I record this and thinking about the conversation of "is this about me?" "Or is this about me adding value and carrying a positive message for you?" The listener and I'll do my best. But I am a Leo. If you believe in that stuff, that kinda sometimes means it's gonna be about me.Mischa Zvegintzov  01:23 Oh my gosh, it's degenerating, the episode is degenerating already. So yeah, Funnel Hacking live you know, and I sent out this email.   So I did the summit www.toolsforagoodlifesummit.com You can go check it out. But when you opt in, I get your email and then you're on my email list so be aware.  But the content on there is awesome. So do know that you will get awesome content but you will then be on my email list. But then if you don't enjoy the emails that you're getting from me, you can unsubscribe. so there's the quid pro quo you get access to the awesomeness of the Tools for Good Life Summit and the 20 speakers who just dropped bomb after bomb after bomb.Mischa Zvegintzov  02:16 So anyway I feel as I am I've got created this list now and not only so not only not only now am I podcasting but I have an email list hopefully you're on that list. And I'm sending emails and on these emails I am trying to be. I am trying to be helpful again or carry a useful message. At the same time anybody in the email marketing sales game you are also encouraged to make an offer make an offer. And so all the emails so far... oftentimes my offers since I actually have no like no like course or wristband or watch or whatever. I have no official product offering.  I'm my call to action to you on the email is (hello) is go listen to this podcast or episode.  Or you know opt into the tools for a good life summit or go here and check this out. I'm trying to get in the habit of of you know making an offer and you may agree or disagree with that. But hopefully the value add outweighs... creates the goodwill that you look at what I'm up to. So there you have it a little bit of a tangent per usual. Mischa Zvegintzov  04:10 But the last email I had sent out from that email list was "I'm back from the Funnel Hacking live... I think it was "I found my voice!" and that what the previous a bunch of the episodes over the last 10 a chunk of them have been about all this inspiration and new ideas and pivoting and course correction and and all that. As the excitement of the Funnel Hacking Live 2021 You should definitely go Google and check out the the the sizzle reels from the funnel hiking lives. They are awesome. They're a ton of fun. So good, great networking opportunity. Learning opportunity inspirational, like I came back, and people were like, Oh my gosh, she's seen, of course, reinvigorated, or, or, you know, just lots of fun commentaryMischa Zvegintzov  05:17 So over the past couple of days, I'm just going to be continue with my vulnerability. I was like, wait a minute, that new voice that I had found I'd found my voice. So  fleeting.   I settled back into unshuredness insecurity. What else can I say? I guess I'll frame it this way. I so badly wanted to have my voice and, and know, the direction forward. Like some people seem to be so convicted in the courses that are going to create. The product offerings they're going to have. Who they're going to serve, what their avatar is. You know, they're who the why all this stuff. And I was so pumped up and in the zone, still ton of inspiration flowing through. But some of the insecurity is coming back. Right, as I talk to people about my new thoughts. And you get, you know how it is when you talk to somebody, when you're in your creative mode, and you're talking to somebody. You're going to get half the people that are going to tell you great idea, go that direction. The other half are gonna say, Are you crazy, stick with your current direction.Mischa Zvegintzov  06:44 And it's my job to talk to the universe source, god says what I believe by the way, and ask for, you know, direction, and patience. That's the other thing that's coming through. Mischa, you got to be patient. Earston, who I was talking about on a previous episode, was like, Hey, man, you know, be patient with yourself. Easy. Let that let the message come when it's ready.  Of clarity for you. I love that. I do so.  So some insecurities dropped back in. And so the really interesting thing is that I put that email out there. "I found my voice" and whatever other things I said. And I had for a moment...but my voice has slipped away again. And I was like, "Oh, no". And so the point of this whole thing is that I was like, "oh, no".  I don't want to have to go back to the social media post or the email or whatever and claim ignorance now. And be like, "Yeah, you know, I thought I had my voice but it's gone". So what I wanted to do was the next email I'm going to send out is going to have "Urgent update!" "Found voice maybe lost still!" or something like that.Mischa Zvegintzov  08:33 But once I could laugh at myself about it. So important, I was doing some yoga at the house. And I just started laughing at myself. And laughing about the situation and thinking, "oh my gosh this is funny". I think it's funny. And what a funny email to send. But here's sort of the kicker. Keep trying. Keep trying. Keep working at it. Don't give up. Because my inclination can be throw in the towel. You know, leave the coaching group. Exit the bigger picture project vision all together. But as I hung in there with the insecurity and was able to laugh.  And just be like, "Hey, keep trying". You know. People need to hear that. That's my message to you today. With the new ventures that we're tackling, keep trying. Don't give up. And my old voice and my new voice. They're meeting somewhere in between. So There you go love to all have a good day

Unswtnd + Unfltrd
Doing Things for the Sake of Allah: Imagine Your Voice Being Known in the Heavens w/ Asmaa Hussein

Unswtnd + Unfltrd

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2021 51:18


'Islam is meant to be practiced by human beings who are flawed and in pain, who struggle to succeed but sometimes fail, and who return to God after those failures.'These words were birthed from pain, on a journey of healing and understanding, words spoken by today's special guest, Asmaa Hussein.Lately, my duas have been accompanied by a tear soaked prayer mat. Moments of reflection where I unload every burden weighing heavy on my heart. Nights where I allow my heart to speak on my behalf and mornings where I wake up feeling a bit more lighter knowing that my Creator is the only Being that understands the wishes that lie beneath my tongue and the wounds my tears may still carry. In this timely episode, I had a very personal and intimate conversation with Asmaa regarding her most recent post that had gone viral where she had shared her relationship with her hijab. Asmaa is an author, blogger and  mother - just to name  a few of her successful endeavors. If you take one look at her writing, from her books to her online  posts, your heart would have no choice but to be enveloped with words that will deeply move you.I wanted to explore the notion of doing things for the sake of Allah and what that means to Asmaa in regards to her personal choice of wearing the hijab.We both discuss our experiences with making dua and the beauty that lies behind what Allah has planned for us even if at times we may not understand how or why certain things unfold. Asmaa shares with us the wisdom she has gathered from her experiences dealing with motherhood and widowhood.This conversation led us to the topic of the Hereafter and how we can navigate this dunya with this on our minds - knowing that one day we will exist in another realm.And so, Asmaa left me with these words that sent a chill down my spine:Imagine your voice being known in the heavens.Enjoy and follow the pod on Instagram:@unsweetenedandunfilteredFollow Asmaa Hussein on Instagram:@ruqayas.bookshelfCheck out Asmaa's bookstore  here:www.ruqayasbookshelf.com

The Relationship Maze
How to get to know yourself

The Relationship Maze

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 8, 2021 27:45


How self aware are you? Do you know what makes you tick? Self awareness is key to building successful relationships: it helps you to distinguish between yourself and others, to understand why you might have certain perspectives and beliefs and most importantly it is the springboard to making changes in your life if necessary. In today's episodes we explore why knowing yourself is so important and how you might go about getting yourself a little better. We offer some suggestions that can get you started on your journey to self awareness and self knowledge.

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

I get a fanny pack from the Funnel Hacking Live swag pack.  Which susses out some contempt prior to investigation.  So of course I go on a riff about swag and fanny packs.  Ultimately the less you can worry about what people think about you the better. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z  0:01 Good morning, everybody. I, the song I was originally going to walk out on to the Funnel Hacking Live stage with was going to be cashmere Led Zeppelin's Kashmir, which I still think is an awesome choice. But I thought if you're gonna pick a song that's maybe why not go really, really big Kiss God Of Thunder, like, that's it come out to Kiss's, God Of Thunder. If it's going to be a self aggrandizement, rock and roll moment, why not just? Yeah, that's a good one. Today, I'm going to talk about contempt, contempt prior to investigation, and how a fanny pack showed me that even at the advanced wisdom stage of 53 years old, as I record this, that I can still have contempt. Oh, a fanny pack completely showed me that. So as everybody knows, if you've listened to the past few episodes, I was just at Funnel Hacking Live 2021 as this is being recorded, hello, everybody who's maybe jumping into this, three or four years later? Glad to have you here too. But the Funnel Hacking Live is basically, you know, internet, internet entrepreneurs. Generally speaking, coming from a heart centered place, how can they serve? That's the message how can we serve? How are we being called to serve by whatever is greater than us by that internal clock? And, or however you want to call it? And that then then the two comma Club Award is just a measure of your capacity to serve at that moment, a financial measure. I love that idea. So whenever you go to a Russell Brunson event, it seems as though he's handing out boxes of swag. T shirts books, all the speakers books from the speakers, you know, courses, backpacks. What else did we get their sweatshirts and a fanny pack. So when you roll in, first thing you do? Well I first thing I did was registered the hotel then I went to the Funnel Hacking Live registration, by the way, being part of the Two Comma Club X, which is their coaching group the to cc x, you get your own special registration area that's expedited and super fun and makes you feel super good. But they hand you your box of swag. I get to the hotel room I crack it open. And I'm going through all the amazing things. And side note, throughout the event, they're giving out more and more swag more and more T shirts. My son Waylon loves this one long sleeve t shirt. Russell, thank you so much for using top quality fabrics and cotton's and the swag that you hand out T shirts are all amazing. It's soft and buttery. And so my son Waylon is always so grateful. And it's so hard for me to hand him the swan shirt. I was like, oh, Waylon's gonna love this one. Got to give it to him. Oh, I wanted to keep it for myself. But I handed it over graciously. And he loves it and is so happy. And of course anyway, one of the schwag pieces was a fanny pack, a Funnel Hacker fanny pack. Now I've got a little bit of an ego and over the years, anybody walking with a fanny pack, we know that joke like fanny pack brings to mind a certain type of person. Right?Mischa Z  4:50 I'm gonna fast forward to the end of the story right now. It's someone who doesn't care and someone who totally appreciates the functionality and the self weeding out process is that if somebody doesn't like me, because I'm wearing a fanny pack, or that helps filter out that person. God bless the fanny pack. Yes. Anyway, I just, you know, never caught me wearing a fanny pack and, and I get the fanny pack, I look at it, I actually almost left it at the hotel. I almost when I say I almost left it at the hotel, I had packed everything up when I was leaving. And I had put left the fanny pack out of the packing. So I was ready to walk out the door and wave the fanny pack goodbye. And I thought you know what, worst case, I'll donate that said fanny pack to Goodwill or whatever somebody will find use for it. Don't just leave it to end up in the trash. So I shove it in the in my bag, along with a few other things that I was gonna leave behind. Oh my gosh, this sweatshirt. I was like I really was gonna leave that behind. Why was he gonna do that I love that sweatshirt, I'm i I'm in this phase of trying to go logo I've been in been in it for quite a while trying to go as logoless and saying less as possible on any t shirts or sweatshirts or whatever that I wear. And I understand that going logoless. You know that can that can be just as much of a statement is going logo full. Anyhow, so I grabbed the fanny pack, and the sweatshirt. And of course immediately when I got home off the airplane, it was a bit chilly. The next morning, I grabbed the softest, buttery bestest, bestest, 2CCX club sweatshirt, Logos abound, statements of joy printed on it, and wore it with glee was so happy. I was like, Thank God I put that contempt aside. Now I've got this awesome sweatshirt. And actually, I was going to give it to Wales had already given given him one, this one happens to be a double XL. So it's plenty of roomy, plenty of room has room to shrink. But the fanny pack...so as I'm recording this episode, I'm walking. And I've got my sure MV 88 mic that I'm recording on. And I've had this mic that I've been using, had it for a good five, six years now. And it's in still in awesome condition. And the reason is, is because I leave it in this cool little case, the carry case that it comes with, and it's very compact. You could carry the mic itself in your pocket with no case. And it would be just, you wouldn't even notice. But I like to keep it in the case to keep it nice and nice and shiny and new. And and so it's perhaps a little bulky, a little bulky in the pocket. And it's funny because being a little bit bulky, it's you know, it's kind of bulges out. Oh my god. So funny. Anyhow, I also usually have, you know, some Apple AirPod Pros, you know, and I'm gonna have links for all of this stuff in the show notes. Please click on the links, buy your Air Pod Pro's, which are freaking amazing. The noise cancelling the functionality of those little headphones so cool. Had a little contempt towards those two. Oh my goodness. But I went ahead and got him Waylon It doesn't matter. I got him just I got the big things. And they're awesome. Put my contempt aside. I got it. I got a I got them on sale for like 150 off. That's how I'm justifying buying them to you right now. Anyway, anyhow. Sadly, that deal won't be available through the link. That deal is over anyway.Mischa Z  9:50 It was a college thing. If your son was if a family member or you were in college, you could save a little bit of money they were having to deal by an iPad Air get a discount on the headphones. Thank you for listening. So the fanny pack so I've got and then my hair is super long so I carry a tie. Perhaps I'm walk out the door with a credit card. And so the first morning walk back, though so I get back the first morning walk from being back from Funnel Hacking Live. I, I I spotted the fanny pack out of the corner of my eye. And I was like maybe I'll give that a try. Maybe people know something I don't. Throw my headphones in there. The the iPad, Air Pod Pros. Throw the mic in there. The Shure MV88 Mic throw my my where they called squeegee hair tie scrunchie is crunchy hair dye a credit card. You know what? And it's like it goes so easy around your waist. It's like you're floating. It's floating on your on your waist. best invention ever. Best invention ever. So glad I finally went set my my contempt aside and embrace the fanny pack. And I think functionally that's that's a that's a function of two things one my age to not caring so much anymore. The less I can care what people think about me externally the better or internally. However you want to say it and Nick. I can't say his last name. Nick spoke at Funnel Hacking Live and he said it so eloquently. And he's an awesome representation of that. Alright, I'm done. Love to all utilize your fanny pack. They are awesome.

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
The power of inventorying your stories.

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2021 10:41


We cannot deny the power of storytelling in today's sales and marketing environment.  One of the instructions I had earlier in this process was "Inventory your stories."  Don't place judgment on them, just list each one with a one sentence reminder.  Good or bad.  I'm starting to see the payoff of that now. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 On the last episode, I spoke about two things, specifically spoke about a lot of stuff, but two main points. One was the illusion of overnight success. And that the reality is for a huge amount of people. It's that luck that illusion of luck that we may see in somebody is actually, I love this definition love, or excuse me, luck is where preparation meets opportunity. One of my mentors in the loan business Darren Riley told me about that, told me that saying, I can't remember who said it. He referenced somebody it's probably a famous football coach. But,uand then the other was that, you know, embracing the vision that's popping into your head and then printing out a,uuua picture of that and slamming it on your wall and,um. Morning. A cute girl with cute dog, just rode by and,usorry about the diversion.Mischa Z: 01:16 Yeah, so I wanted to continue a little bit on that theme and, and say. That yes the vision, the thoughts of the creative thoughts in a new direction and, and my course correction and who I can help and how I can be of service is coming through loud and strong. And I will be jumping on stage too at this point, Kiss's God of Thunder. And yeah, and I had a new point. I was going to talk about it was that, oh yeah. So, and a lot, there's, there's a lot of storytelling going on in online marketing. Obviously you've got to be able to tell a story, craft a story, have it be poignant. Have it, you know, connect the dots, have it inspire in, you know movement orders, transformation in people, all these things. There's always all this important stuff, important reasons to tell stories and learn how to tell stories and tell the right story at the right time. And we're about to cross the street. So I'm going to pause. So you get lots of good reasons to tell stories, and there's ultimately the shortest form of little blips on the social media, where you might do posts that convey emotion.Mischa Z: 03:09 But I, so it's important to have a catalog of stories and one of the things and the Dot Com Secrets, you know, playbook, shall we say, or manual to online business success is having a catalog of stories. So he had us do an exercise. He has, you do an exercise. And I did this exercise, and it's really interesting because it's materializing in, in a presentation, my subconscious and now coming out in my conscious if you're tracking, me still. So, so just to, you know, I was listening to Kiss's God of thunder and just had it looping because it's such a fun song and reminding me of my youth and all this. And then over the past few days as this creativity, new direction, new vision has been flowing through and ideas for a presentation have been absolutely coming together and manifesting and all these stories slowly sliding in at the right places and such.Mischa Z: 04:36 And as I was recording the last episode I realized, oh my gosh, I had totally forgot that I had done that step of inventorying stories of my life. And it's a great, great idea. And you don't have to write out all the stories, all you have to do as a, like a bullet point sentence. And so I was writing them down, writing them down, writing them down and, you know, there's, you have to stop and do it. You have to stop and write those down. You have to stop and think, and I can tell you that maybe I did it for an hour plus or minus. I can't remember exactly right. It might, I'll have to go through my notes or done it over a couple of days at different times. But starting to think in that direction and not putting judgment on whether the story is good or bad, right or wrong, I need to use this story or not. Just inventorying all the stories of your life.Mischa Z: 05:51 And I don't mean like bad stories. You're telling yourself that are holding you down. You know what I'm saying? There's, there's stories of our life like really, good, bad that have this sort of meeting or that sort of meeting this lesson, that lesson, or have no lesson whatsoever that we can think of at the moment. Just write it down. Inventory, your stories. Don't place judgment on them. Don't think too much. Don't read too much into it, just inventory your stories. So that's what I did. And now, so I probably did that 6, 7, 8 months ago. And so now, as I'm, you know, I meditated this morning. I did my A Course In Miracles work, which is basically, you know, the way. So the literature I read now to tap into source higher power the infinite intelligence, God, I don't care, call it whatever you want, good order get ordered the orderly direction.Mischa Z: 07:04 But those that the stories are popping up and into this presentation. Who knows where the presentation goes, maybe it's for a webinar, maybe it's for, I don't know. It's maybe I create a course. And so I need stories to, to, you know, to emphasize points within the course. Or there's just all of these cool reasons for it. But it's all percolating and, and coming together and I just think it's so cool. Hey, follow the instructions. Don't think too much into it. You don't need to know why or believe it, just do it. And then when the right time, the results from those actions will, will manifest and that's what's happening. It's super fun. Anyway, I, you know, it's super fun. What do people say, visualize it as though it's happened, then you can, then you'll, your subconscious will grow to that direction. And you can actually feel the feelings now, which I was, as I was walking, it was beautiful. And so now when it happens, I'll already be moving on to bigger things or maybe bigger is not the right word. That implies ego in my mind to new fun things from there. Anyway, I could go on and on about this. I'm trying to be mindful of time, love to all. Follow the instructions of the plan that is being handed to you. Whether that's for me, Russell Brunson or somebody else. Trust the process, make it happen one day at a time. Love to all. I'm out.

Love is in the Air
#21 Making the Jump to Marriage

Love is in the Air

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2021 41:57


Marriage is a big step, especially in an LDR. Listen to Elaine and Abe discuss all the things you need to consider before marriage. Oh, and please excuse Abe for his inappropriate behavior. He likes to shock me during these podcasts. Haha. Enjoy!

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
Luck is when preparation meets opportunity.

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 6, 2021 12:25


I'm inspired for success by Braven Grant the 21 year old speaker at Funnel Hacking Live.  He had the illusion of overnight success.  But if you paid attention you saw how he had been working hard for the past few years...  and so was prepared for when his preparation meets opportunity.  In the form of Russell Brunson.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 The inspiration for the new, for the new direction for the what's the term I was looking for. I said it in an email to my list...course correction. Yes course, correction, the course correction of what I'm up to entrepreneurial wise. That inspiration for the course correction continues to be super juicy and just continue to flow through. I literally, as I was walking... Anybody ever listened to Kiss there's that song God Of Thunder? So it was playing God Of Thunder. For whatever reason Kiss has been on my newsfeed. You know, the Google news, I've been just checking out old rock and roll due to my, due to the state of my long flowing locks. And,uso the Google news feed has definitely picked up on that. So I just get, you know, all the,uold guy, retirement bands flowing through Kiss being one of them.Mischa Z: 01:16 One of them loved Kiss in my youth. So I was just listening to God Of Thunder. And I was thinking as I was, my mind, went to me having an opportunity to speak on the, at, at a Funnel Hacking Live. Any of you funnel hackers out there. I know at least a few of you would love to speak on that stage. Wouldn't you? Especially to perhaps have it happen seemingly overnight. I think that's, that's an interesting thing. Uh Brevon spoke at the 2021 funnel hiking live, which I was just at, unfortunately, as I record this, I cannot remember Braven's last name (Grant, Braven Grant), but Braven sells some sort supplements, creatine products and a bunch of other stuff. And track him down. Google him Braven Funnel Hacking Live. I'm sure his last name will pop up and then you can track down his, his website and all that stuff. But super cool young man, 21, 2, 3, something like that, you know, married a couple years has a brand new baby and clearly passionate about what he does.Mischa Z: 02:50 He's got a mission, you know, to serve. To grow a company. And he's all in. And he basically, I don't know, met Russell Brunson a year and a half ago. I can't remember the exact story. And then all of a sudden, yes. At the last Funnel Hacking Live, that's what it was 2020. I think it was you know, he went to, it had a vision of, you know, speaking on the stage. Printed out a picture of it, slapped it up on his wall. Carried it around in his pocket, you know, this vision of him, however, whatever the picture represented of him. You know, getting his award, speaking on stage, the funnel hiking live stage and you know, was... Next thing, you know, there he is a year and a half later doing said things getting is Two Comma Club Award. And not only that speaking in front of thousands of people and doing a great job, by the way. Braven, if you're happen to be to listening to this, you crushed it. Just so much grace and, and, and such a humble young man.Mischa Z: 04:19 When I was at age, I could talk a lot of smack, not execute very much, actually. That's not true. I had I was on the tail end of my pro snowboarding career. Which meant that I had sponsors and lots of free gear and free tickets everywhere, and everything was paid for, except I had no disposable income as a result. I did have to sleep in my car a few times. As I was touring the west, the Western states, Colorado, Utah, Utah, Idaho, California, snowboarding, and Wyoming snowboarding away. This was the 86 to 91 and it was snowboarding. Oh my gosh. So many great tales to tell them that regard. However, I, I was willing to do the work to be a pro. I was not as physically gifted as others, but I can tell you work is a big part of it.Mischa Z: 05:27 Anyway then I ended up in college, did fine in college. There was, I still had some heavy arrogance if you'd have thrown me on stage at that point in my life. Oh my gosh. I don't know if I had handled it as gracefully as young Braven. I guess that's my point. So Braven,uthe illusion of,uis the word fly by night or overnight success or those things, right? Like, like Braven, you know, just meets Russell Brunson the year before grows his business through COVID the next Funnel Hacking Live he's onstage speaking. And so the illusion of overnight success was there, but it turns out young Braven had been working hard, very hard on his business for a number of years already. By the time he stumbles across Funnel Hacking Live 2020, I think it was maybe it was 2019. I don't know that you, you get what I'm trying to say.Mischa Z: 06:45 So, so what happens is Braven's got the worth work ethic. He's got the inspiration, he's visualized where he wants to be. And then he's doing all the stuff bumps into Russell Brunson and the tools, the process, the systems he needs fall into place. Russell Brunson and funnel hacking is the perfect tool for him, the perfect process. And he has instant success supposedly. But clearly, phew, phew, pay attention. You can see that, that he what's luck. Luck is when preparation meets opportunity. Braven had created his own luck and was prepared for his opportunity when it fell in his lap. So he was by no means a overnight wonder. That wasn't really the main message I wanted to share here. What I wanted to share was I loved the visualization piece of his story. He just, it was so cool to see how he, you know, he had his in effect a dream board or whatever you want.Mischa Z: 08:10 However you want to say it. Then he printed out a picture of the visual aid of himself. I can't remember what the picture was. That's why I'm saying it this way. But he had a picture that represented himself getting that Two Comma Club Award. Which means you've generated a million dollars in revenue in a calendar year. You've and have him speaking on stage. And, and so I didn't even try to visualize, this is what I'm trying to say, man. I just was listening to Kiss God Of Thunder. And and I was like, that's my entry song for when I'm speaking on the Funnel Hacking Live Stage.New Speaker: 08:57 That's, that's what I'm going to walk on the stage too. And the vision just came so strong. And then,uyou know, a presentation started building in my mind, it's actually, this has been happening for a few days. All the, all the, the, the stories to tell the, the, you know, the, how I learned it and earned it. All this stuff has just been percolating in my brain. But originally I was thinking the first round, the first song was going to be Cashmere by Led Zeppelin, just cause I've got the Roger Plant locks going on. And so immediately at Funnel Hacking Live, when we're doing all these visualization exercises. Me coming on to stage two, a Led Zeppelin song just was clear as a bell. And,uand so I'm holding onto that and letting that flow and, and perhaps it's got a thunder now. And then right before I was recording this episode and listening to God Of Thunder. I even had the visual of, of the, of the rockstar hair flip and thinking, you know, thanking the audience for,uletting me indulge my rock star fantasies. Anyhow, ain't nothing wrong with a little bit of visualization I suppose. All right. I'm done. Love to all.

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
Interview #44 Robert Drysdale Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu World Champion discusses the power of community, competition, and humility.

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 5, 2021 43:45


Robert Drysdale, Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu IBJJF and ADCC World Champion, MMA Fighter, TEDx Speaker, and owner of Zenith Jiu-Jitsu talks the power of community, competition, and humility.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: 0:00:05.9 Mischa Z: Welcome back, everybody, to the Tools For A Good Life Summit. And right now I would like to introduce to you Robert Drysdale, world champion, a BJJ Brazilian jiu-jitsu master. Is "master" an appropriate word or...0:00:25.6 Robert Drysdale: I go by coach or just Rob. I'm very simple.0:00:29.9 Mischa Z: Okay, fantastic.0:00:31.3 Robert Drysdale: No need for a lot of titles, it's all good.0:00:33.4 Mischa Z: I love it. Fantastic. That's one thing that drew me to you for this summit. Real quick, I'm gonna read your bio. Okay?0:00:41.7 Robert Drysdale: Sure.0:00:42.4 Mischa Z: Fantastic. Born in the USA, from a Brazilian mother and American father, and having spent his life between these two countries, Robert Drysdale remains the only American born to have ever won both the IBJJF and ADCC world championships, the two most prestigious tournaments in all of jiu-jitsu. Furthermore, he has also cultivated a career in MMA, both as a fighter and as a coach. The author also holds a bachelor's degree in History, as well as a long-held passion for this discipline. He lives in Las Vegas, Nevada, where he teaches Brazilian jiu-jitsu and MMA. And you are the co-founder of the international team, Zenith Jiu-Jitsu, and you are the father of two girls. So I've got two friends... I'm 53, I have two friends late 40s, and as I was putting together this summit, and really, I think there's so many great modalities out there to help us as we get a little bit older in age, perhaps an existential crisis, whatever it is. But there's all these great modalities, and I think Brazil...0:02:04.5 Mischa Z: Train going by, if you heard that. Brazilian jiu-jitsu and the martial arts, judo, are so powerful. So I've got these two buddies, both who are pushing 50, both who have started Brazilian jiu-jitsu or BJJ, for anyone who's listening and is unfamiliar with that term BJJ, and it's transformed their lives. One's been doing it for about a year and a half, and one's been doing it for about three years, so I was like, "I definitely need to get somebody on the summit who can speak to it, and why not somebody who's been in it his whole life?" And that's how I came to you. I have a couple of questions to start with. First off, can you speak to that just a little bit?0:03:06.5 Robert Drysdale: I think there's a variety of reasons why Brazilian jiu-jitsu is appealing to a whole plethora of people at different walks of life, everything from children, to mothers, to competitive athletes, to dads, to people who've never practiced any sports or they never really felt a calling to martial arts in general, maybe people that think that fighting was despicable, all of a sudden they're madly in love with Brazilian jiu-jitsu. I think there's a variety of things that come into play here, and it helps explain why Brazilian jiu-jitsu is such a worldwide phenom. I think, firstly, it has to do with we like challenges, we like things that are difficult enough for us to be able to overcome them, and I think Brazilian jiu-jitsu is like you're overcoming yourself one day at a time. Think of a video game that you play that you can beat the first time you play it, it's not very challenging, you're probably not gonna play it again. But if it's something that is constantly challenging you, if it's something that's constantly, there's new layer after layer after layer, and you can't defeat it, now you become more challenged by it, and that's what competition is. We are obsessed with competition, we enjoy competition. And competition is good, and there's a healthy way to be competitive, and I think jiu-jitsu is one of the many arenas where you can exercise that healthy competition.0:04:25.3 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:04:26.1 Robert Drysdale: I also think that people have become highly addicted to the endorphins from training, physical endorphins, and they get, some people call it a "runner's high" or whatever high you experience while you're working out, you experience that in jiu-jitsu as well. Granted, and I am biased here, I'm the first one who admit it, jiu-jitsu is chess with your body, it's highly, highly intellectual. It drives me crazy. It's a bit of a peeve of mine when people think of fighters as these brutes that don't know how to think, and that's why they fight. I cannot think of anything more intellectual than fighting, I really can't. It is one of the most extreme displays of human intelligence.0:05:04.7 Mischa Z: Yes, yes.0:05:05.9 Robert Drysdale: It's just that it's not seen that way for a variety of reasons. It's not sold that way, because if you pitch fighting that way, it might be less interesting to show business, but I've known these guys and some of these guys have never read a book in their lives, but they are some of the most intelligent people you've ever met in your life.0:05:21.3 Mischa Z: Yeah, can I say something to that real quick?0:05:23.9 Robert Drysdale: Sure.0:05:24.6 Mischa Z: Sure. So my one buddy, Kevin, he said that, he started a couple of years ago, but he said, initially, it's the physicality of it, but then you realize really quickly, it's the mental game, it's the mental process, it's the strategy, that chess, and the more... If you play chess, for example, the more you know, the more you realize you don't know and you need to know, kind of a thing. Is that a good analogy or...0:05:52.7 Robert Drysdale: It is infinite, it's infinite. We often compare it to chess. And I remember I had a friend of mine in college, back in Brazil, where he was a chess master, highly ranked, and we would argue, we'd always debate which one was more complex, chess or jiu-jitsu, and I'd win every time, 'cause you can't... Because chess is two-dimensional, and it's only got a few pieces, and the pieces only do so many moves. Human movement is three-dimensional, it has infinite movements, infinite movements. You add the emotional stress of fighting, that does... It's very few things in life can replicate that. I imagine war would be something even more stressful. I imagine a real life-threatening situation will be very stressful like that. But fighting is extremely stressful, and you gotta manage it, and it's not... It's the reason why most people are terrified of it, 'cause just the thought of it freaks them out. [chuckle]0:06:44.5 Robert Drysdale: Knowing that it's 7:00 PM on a Saturday, you're gonna have to step into a cage and fight against someone who's been trained their whole life to knock your head off. It's a terrifying thought, and it really is. And I have no issues admitting this, I was terrified every single time I stepped in there. You can't show it.0:07:01.3 Mischa Z: Really?0:07:02.1 Robert Drysdale: Oh, absolutely, absolutely, on the verge of crying, I was so scared. On the verge of crying. Actually, I would hope to get injured like the week of the fight, so I didn't have to fight, 'cause there's a part of me that was hoping I would get injured, so I didn't have to fight. That's how scary... And that's intelligence, that is intelligence. People don't see it, but it's to manage that, it's not for everyone. So, I think that... And then you add the physical element to it, it's extremely physical. They say that wrestling is one of the hardest things you'll do in life, and it's true, like trying to take someone down and then trying to stand back up, and you're holding them down. I think CrossFit is easy, and I'm not trying to discredit anyone, but, physical terms, and you can't compare... And then there's a technical layers to it. It's just layer after layer after layer.0:07:50.7 Mischa Z: Layer after layer.0:07:51.9 Robert Drysdale: 23 years of doing this, and I'm not even scraping the surface.0:07:55.4 Mischa Z: That's incredible.0:07:55.6 Robert Drysdale: And it really is infinite. I really feel like fighting, in general, is not appreciated as something that requires an enormous amount of intelligence and intellect in general. It's just that our definition of intelligence is so narrow, it's so limiting that we don't see it that way, we see two meatheads trying to knock each other out. But there's beauty in that, too, there's value. You're trying to defeat your opponent. It's like looking in through a mirror, you're trying to look through that mirror, trying to move faster than the mirror moves, and I think it's beautiful in many, many different levels. But it's something I think a lot of people miss, they only see a bar fight. I don't see a bar fight, I see a ceremony.0:08:37.2 Mischa Z: Yeah. I wanna speak to two things in that regard, and one is, my buddy, Kevin, I'm gonna drop their names 'cause they're gonna be so excited that they're collaterally involved in this. [laughter] But, Kevin said it's the most rigorous exercise for him, and that it beats the hell out of him, and he loves it. At 50 years old, he's like, "Yeah, it just kicks my ass, and it feels so good," and so there's that physical outlet, which is so powerful, especially as we get older, I think, to keep that movement, and just for longevity. It's so powerful. But my other buddy, Fernando, it transformed his relationships with people, and specifically with his girlfriend that he's been with for a while, and it was... He was talking about how in the judo, the Brazilian jiu-jitsu, how it's very meditative on one hand 'cause your mind has to focus, which is awesome, and then also the patience that it teaches you and the new perspective that it teaches him, and how he was able to bring that out and find patience with a new perspective with his relationships. Can you speak to that a little bit or is that your experience as well or...0:10:03.4 Robert Drysdale: It does help on a personal level, too. There's so many lessons. I often say that every lesson you're gonna learn in life, you're gonna learn it on the mats first. It's just that you may or may not see them, but they're all there. But there's something about... I think especially when it comes to men and women relationships, 'cause we're living in an age where we're taught that everything is exactly the same, and I don't believe that. I think that women expect a certain behavior from a man and vice versa, and I think that's the way nature is. I'm not suggesting there are fixed gender roles, but I think women do like a strong masculine figure. You just talk to them, and they'll tell you, like, "Who are you attracted to?" And they're gonna define what they're attracted to, and it fits a certain profile. There are exceptions; there might be women out there who love men who cry all the time, for example, or who show weakness or can't fix a door or can't open the door for them or can't carry groceries. These things might exist, but I think for the most part, women like a man being a man. And one thing that jiu-jitsu will do for you, or fighting in general, well, I think I'm biased towards jiu-jitsu, and obviously that's my background, but I think any kind of combat will do, is it does give you a certain level of confidence about being... You learn... Because you're gonna lose, you're gonna lose, you're gonna win.0:11:23.8 Robert Drysdale: I think that martial arts combat, the strife, the struggle, is something that, it puts you exactly where you need to be confidence-wise. I'll give you an example. Children that walk into my gym, they have the insecure child, right, the child that can't make eye contact, he's bullied, he's made fun of, he never wins at any sport, so he doesn't try. Parents bring them into jiu-jitsu as a last hope, last resort, "This my child is doomed." And what happens is that child, initially they lose and they lose, but every now then they win, and then they go, "Oh, wow, I didn't know I could do that, I just went around." And then they lose and lose again, and then they win another one. So what it does is as they win, as they lose, it brings their confidence level up to where it should be because they walked in they were very insecure. They're not over-confident because they still lose, but the wins, they teach them that they are more capable than they thought they were.0:12:17.4 Robert Drysdale: And then you get the child who is the bully, you get the child who is the over-confident child, perhaps because he's bigger or he's more confident, and he just walks in and he acts like he's gonna own the room, and then he walks into jiu-jitsu and he gets tapped by the nerdy kid with glasses. He loses a round after round after round to the kid, and now he's shocked, he's shocked that he just lost, like, "I didn't think that was possible." So, two things happen to the bully, he either leaves or he changes. He adapts and he goes, "Wait a second, I'm not as good as I thought I was." So it brings him down from that state of over-confidence, exactly where he's supposed to be, and then the bullied and the bully end up more or less in the same place, exactly as it's supposed to be. And when you find that happy place, you'll see the flaws in yourself, you'll see the weaknesses, but you'll see the strength too, and then you walk away with that, with a certain degree of confidence that I think it is just... Confidence is one of those things, you can't talk it, you can't. You just have to feel it, you have to be it. And jiu-jitsu changes you, it changes you from the inside in a very meaningful way.0:13:20.4 Robert Drysdale: So I think for people that start relating, not just romantically, but business-wise, they see something different. I was a very insecure teenager, very, very terrified of fighting, terrified of talking with a girl, I get very socially awkward, didn't have a whole bunch of friends, but jiu-jitsu changed me to the point where after I stepped into a cage, I'm going, "What's gonna intimidate me now?" I'll be in college, and there'll be an exam and everyone's terrified of it, everyone's worried, I'm like, "This is a piece of paper, people." [laughter] "There's no way that this is gonna scare me." And if you get used to that, having that battle, the win, the lose, and the struggling, that creates, in you, a certain medal that you don't get by talking about it, by reading a self-help book. You don't get it any other way, you have to experience it and that raises your... I think it improves on all your relationships, it makes you better at everything.0:14:19.5 Mischa Z: Yeah, I like it. I was just thinking too, I'm imagining as, at any age, it can be a haven to work out emotions, to work out thoughts, to go to the map, or... Is that a realistic assessment as well? Yeah. Okay.0:14:43.5 Robert Drysdale: Absolutely.0:14:44.1 Mischa Z: What's that?0:14:45.3 Robert Drysdale: No, absolutely, I said.0:14:46.7 Mischa Z: Yeah. Great. I have a question, I'm gonna lay out a scenario for you, and then I'm gonna ask you a question, and I'm looking forward to your answer. Okay?0:14:58.5 Robert Drysdale: Absolutely.0:15:00.5 Mischa Z: Fantastic. Think of life as a three-legged stool of relationships, finances and health, now think of someone who is or was successful and has two of those legs fall out from under them, this could be a combination of divorce, career, upheaval, financial stress, kids acting out or not going the direction that they want, there could be physical health challenges for themselves or for a loved one, maybe a death in the family and continued failed relationships, and to top it off there, pull yourself up from your bootstraps, there're fix it, there're push your way through it methods that served them so well are no longer working, they need new tools. And so for me, and as I was hitting my 40s, there was divorce, career upheaval, and success, and I'm sure you've...0:16:00.4 Mischa Z: Actually I watched your TED Talk, which was amazing, so you can relate. But there's that, there's success as a solution, there's money as a solution, and then, excuse my language, the shit hits the fan, for me it was divorce, career upheaval, failed relationships, both parents died in rapid succession, so it shook my foundations, and I was like, "I need some new tools, I need something more than just... I'm gonna go work more or make more money or... " You know what I mean? So this is my question to you, thinking of Brazilian jiu-jitsu, what are the exact next steps you would offer this person, so they know they are headed in the new right direction, that they will have positive momentum towards getting their life back on track?0:16:56.9 Robert Drysdale: Yeah, you go through cycles in life, I'm not the same me I was 10 years ago, and it's a painful transformation because you change your mind, you change your world view, you change your relationships, your world collapses on you at some point and nothing's working anymore. I've been through that as well. The one thing, and I recommend this. When people ask me, "Is jiu-jitsu healthy?" And I go, "For the body or for the mind?" Very different. [chuckle] It's not healthy on the body I don't, I don't care what people say, yeah, you'll have a good heart rate, your heart will be fine, but there's more to health than just your heart and lungs. But, mentally, it's very healthy. Mentally, it's kept me in a very good place. I've seen it do it to people with PTSD, autism, social anxiety, panic syndrome, double personality disorder, schizophrenia, you name it, people that are suicidal, drug addicts and alcoholics, and it just puts them... Because there's something missing in modern life. If you listen to my TED Talk, I've loved Nietzsche since I was a teenager, and he says that technology, comfort and science were gonna make life easier, but it's also gonna make them unhappier 'cause they're gonna be so comfortable they have nothing to fight for. And once you have nothing to fight for, how can you find happiness? How can you find satisfaction when everything is given to you?0:18:23.5 Robert Drysdale: If I give you a black belt, if I send you a black belt in the mail, how does that make you feel? It doesn't make you feel any better, it doesn't make you feel better about yourself, right? If you earn it, if you put 10 years of your life into something, struggle to achieve it, now it means something that is meaningful in a deeper way. And I think these are the things that martial arts do for you, they make you word hard for everything, and there's value in that, there's a satisfaction to that that you don't find in many other things in life. When you're in there, the lights are off, the sound is off, the world is off, there's no thinking, there's no stress, there's no time for anxiety, to think about your sex life, your romantic life, your financial life, there's someone trying to beat you, there's someone trying to choke you. [laughter] And you have to deal with all that, and it's... It's those two hours you're on the mats, it's peaceful, it's like ultimate form of therapy, these things are missing in human life, this is how we've lived our entire existence, 99% of our existence, we struggled every second of every day. And then you have technology, it comes in and makes life so easy, we're no longer struggling, poor people are obese. It's the first time in history it's ever happened, struggles are no longer the same struggles we had 500 years ago, 1000 years ago, 20,000 years ago.0:19:49.9 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:19:51.6 Robert Drysdale: And I think we're missing that, and I think martial arts is a space where we get to exercise that aspect of human nature that's been set aside. We don't have to work haRobert Drysdale to hunt an animal anymore, we go to Walmart, we buy meat. If you wanna see a beautiful view, you pull up a picture, you don't have to climb a mountain anymore. [chuckle]0:20:11.1 Robert Drysdale: We don't have to climb a mountain. You can buy a photo and frame a beautiful picture in your living room, is that right? Right? [chuckle]0:20:17.6 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:20:18.5 Robert Drysdale: So because of all these things, I think that it's... The lack of struggling is making people less happy. And I think this is one explanation for depression and suicide going through the roof. I'm not saying I have all the answer, I'm not proposing that, but I think that martial arts is an expression of something that is very primal, very human and necessary, like this is how we have lived, this is who we are. And it's a place to exercise all that in a healthy way. So...0:20:46.5 Mischa Z: Okay... Yeah, go on, sorry.0:20:48.9 Robert Drysdale: No. I'm just gonna wrap it up. And to your point, I think that that's... That's why people feel so good in there, that's why your friend feels so good losing, getting... He just got his ass kicked and he loved it. Because he's been taught his whole life that losing is bad, and losing is part of the process. You're gonna lose. The only people who don't lose are the people who don't throw themselves out there. If you don't throw yourselves out there, you're never gonna have a sense of achievement, because you're never gonna achieve anything, right?0:21:17.5 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:21:17.7 Robert Drysdale: Right. So, you just gotta take the good and the bad and you learn how to love both, you learn how to love your losses, too. I'm happy for my losses. Now looking back, every time I lost... At the time I was depressed, I'm like, "Oh, my life is over, I just lost, I've have dedicated a whole year to this com... " But now I look back and I'm so thankful for them. I'm like those made who I am, and I'm happy with who I am. So, it's a very healthy environment.0:21:40.8 Mischa Z: I love it. Let me ask you as well. So, let's say you got a 40, 50-year-old guy or girl, maybe late 30s, somewhere in that range who might feel intimidated or feel like, "I don't know if I could stand and ass kicking day one," or... How would you encourage somebody to get through the door for day one?0:22:07.5 Robert Drysdale: Yeah. I learnt that lesson the hard way as a business owner. It's easy to forget what it was like your first day, because your first day only lasts one day. And then by week three, you're very... It's your second home. But for someone who's just getting started, that first day is the hard one of the hardest days of their life for a lot of people. To just walk in through the door, it terrifies them.0:22:26.8 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:22:27.9 Robert Drysdale: In my gym, we created what we call a 15-day lesson program. There's no actual contact, it's just theory. So, it can be boring for someone who knows how to fight, but for someone who doesn't, it's still a lot of interesting information, where we teach you the basics of the basics. Basically, teaching you how to crawl before you're gonna walk. And new beginners love it, because they're not allowed to train their first 15 days, all they gotta do is... It's just like music theory before I hand the guitar. So, you're not gonna hold on to a guitar before you're done with day 15.0:22:55.6 Mischa Z: Yeah. Yeah.0:22:55.6 Robert Drysdale: You're just gonna be learning the theory of it. But if you don't know anything about music, maybe it's a little boring, you just wanna pick up a guitar, which some people do by day five, they're ready to rock and roll, but we give them the option. And so basically, everyone's gonna evolve at their own pace. It's not a race. It's you are racing against yourself, if there's any race going on. So, you're evolving at your own pace. So we have moms in there who have never done any... That haven't practiced sports since they were children, and they're overweight, and they're un athletic, and they're very insecure, and they're in their 50s, perhaps. And they jump in my class, and I have professional fighters on the mat. So, you'll imagine how they feel about that and... But the way we do it... And I can't speak for every gym, this is how I run my gym.0:23:38.3 Mischa Z: I love it.0:23:39.5 Robert Drysdale: We give them time. This is your pace, you wanna rest, you're rest. You wanna go to the bathroom, go to the bathroom. You wanna sit out, sit out. You wanna watch, you watch. And because you're in an environment... We follow our peers, like what people around us are doing, that's what we wanna do. So, if you see everyone around you and you created a culture where everyone around is competing in a healthy way, and they're trying to win and defeat each other in a healthy way, then you're watching that... And I'm telling you, I don't care if you're a mom, I don't care if you're 60 or 70, I don't care if your knees hurt, you're gonna watch, then you're gonna go, "I wanna be part of that. It looks like those people are having a blast" and they are. And then once you immerse yourself in that culture, and it's okay to lose and no one's gonna make fun of you, because that person just lost the previous round, and it's just part of what we do, that competition, it becomes highly addictive. There's a reason why... I've never seen anyone quit jiu-jitsu, because they didn't like it. I've seen people quit for work reasons, family reasons, health reasons. I've never seen anyone say, "You know what, I rolled around and someone beat me and I hated it." Granted, your first week, you should not get your ass kicked, because it's not for everyone.0:24:46.2 Mischa Z: Right.0:24:47.0 Robert Drysdale: It might be too intimidating. I am advocate of easing people in and let them be comfortable enough with the mats before you start pushing them. And then they're gonna ask to be pushed, even moms do, they want to be pushed.0:25:00.6 Mischa Z: I love that. So we've got day one through 15, learn about it, get comfortable with the environment, super soft entry, and you just see the... How good it is and how vital... I don't know if vital is a good woRobert Drysdale, but I'm sensing that. And so what happens next? Do you have a day 16 to 30 or...0:25:23.0 Robert Drysdale: Well, and then we throw you in the beginners class. So now, you're in a class with the other... So, we have a class before you went to the beginner class, a preparation class, so to speak. Beginner class, you're gonna be there for anywhere between a year to two years, depending on your attendance level. And obviously, how quickly you progress, and people progress at different rates. Like a 22-year-old is gonna progress faster than an eight-year-old or a 65-year-old, for example. Athletic ability does count. So there is some differences. So anywhere between a year and two years, and then we move you to my advanced class. Sorry about that, it's the dog.0:25:58.8 Mischa Z: That's okay. Dog saying hi. [chuckle]0:26:01.8 Robert Drysdale: But then you move into the advanced class where the instruction is gonna be a little more sophisticated, and the class is a little bit long or becomes physically a little bit harder. It's just a more... It's just a little... You just raise the bar for them, and then they're in that class for the rest of their lives.0:26:20.7 Mischa Z: So, beginner, one to two years and then are... So I get the sense, and tell me if this is true, and I'm sure you've seen it, but again, let's say we've got somebody 30, 40, 50 or a mom who's like, "Yeah, I wanna do this." Or a dad or what have you, and... Or you mentioned somebody who's got PTSD. The transformation or the mental freedom starts right away, right? It's not like... Is that an accurate sense that I have like, "Hey, the baby steps just are beautiful." Is that a... Is that...0:27:03.2 Robert Drysdale: You'll get something out of it day one, but it's one of those things the more you do it... Like compare it to music. Your first day with a guitar may not be the most rewarding day, because you can't really play anything.0:27:13.4 Robert Drysdale: Yeah.0:27:13.9 Mischa Z: Alright, but the more... The first time you can hear that sound, or the first chord that you can hear nice and clear, you're gonna go, "Oh, wow, I can do this." Okay. Now, I know what people are doing, I just gotta get better at it." And this practice will... Next thing you know, you can play a whole song.0:27:28.8 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:27:29.4 Robert Drysdale: And it's very similar, but it doesn't end. At the same time, there's no I know or I don't know. It's not binary. It's a spectrum, and it's infinite. 23 years in, my body is destroyed, and I only wish my health were better, so I can keep training and keep improving.0:27:44.1 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:27:45.0 Robert Drysdale: But there's... And it's not an age thing, it's more of a miles thing. It's like a car. It could be 2020 and have 150,000 miles on it.0:27:53.8 Mischa Z: Yes.0:27:54.6 Robert Drysdale: So it's kinda how I'm... At 39, it's kind of how I feel. I got arthritis all over my body, but I mean, it was worth it. I wouldn't go back and change anything.0:28:02.3 Mischa Z: Of course.0:28:03.3 Robert Drysdale: But it's baby steps. You get more out of it the more you do it. It is really is a marathon and it's... Your life will end before the marathon ends.0:28:14.5 Mischa Z: Fantastic. Tell me, off the top of your head, of somebody who's, again, our age, and I'll... I'm a little older than you, so I apologize for saying our age, but sort of a transformation that you've seen from somebody perhaps on the door of suicide, not guaranteeing that someone's gonna have this transformation, but have you seen, literally, people on... Mentally at the bottom and then come through that? Can you walk me through that?0:28:48.1 Robert Drysdale: Yes. We had one veteran, she was an Iraq veteran and... I don't even know what she went through. I was too scared to ask, but she was very traumatized. Her social anxiety was through the roof, she had a dog with her 24/7. I think to make matters worse, she had no family or very little family. She was very distant from her family. She basically had like... She'd be at home all day living off whatever she was getting from her... As a veteran. She was wounded, too, so she had problems moving. She would use a wheelchair, and she didn't get off the wheelchair. But it was a bad scenario, man, it was just awful. And it kind of broke my heart, because you could see she was a very lonely person, and she was really struggling mentally, but she would come to the gym every day.0:29:39.3 Robert Drysdale: She would come to the gym every single day, and I... And she couldn't do much. She was so injured that there was not much she could do, but she was there every day, and you can see her improving, just being on the mats with us, everyone was really nice and patient and understanding. It sort of gave her like a... It gave her a second family, a place... Or a first family perhaps, a place to belong, a place to be, a place to be happy and people would joke around with her. And that's the other thing, marshal arts environment is an environment where people are treated equally, truly, not pretentiously, like truly. If we like you, we make fun of you just like everyone else. It's a brotherhood or a sisterhood, if you will. There's no such thing as, "I have to keep the appearances," and you gotta talk to people." You remove the social mask, like, "Hey, man, I've seen you almost cry from losing. It's okay." It's a very naked kind of relationship.0:30:35.8 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:30:36.2 Robert Drysdale: So it's very honest. It's very honest, and I think people appreciate that. We treated her like she was one of us. She got treated exactly like everyone else. It wasn't like, "Oh, my God, she's a veteran, and she's injured. Let's give her special treatment." It was none of that. There was no special treatment. It was like, "Now you're one of us." Okay, you're on a mat like everyone else. No one went easy on her in the sense where... We respected her disability, but no one is treating her like someone who's handicapped. She got treated like a normal human being, and that's how I think... If someone has a handicap, that's how you treat them, like it's... I've heaRobert Drysdale that the worst thing you can ask a cancer patient is, "How are you doing? How you feeling?" Like a dying cancer patient.0:31:16.6 Robert Drysdale: It's the worst thing you can do, is ask them how they're feeling. Like, why would you do that? Do you think that's gonna make them feel better if it is asked repeated for the 10th time and they feel like shit? They have cancer, they're gonna die, and they know that, how do you think you're helping? If you wanna make... Do something for that person, make them laugh, tease them about the old times or remember something that will happen in... 10 years. "Oh, remember that one time you did... That was retarded." Make fun of them and then make them laugh, and they can make fun of you, and you just treat them equal, treat them like you would treat your best friend. I think that's what people are looking for, and martial... At least, in my environment, I try to cultivate that. I try to be blunt with people and just treat them the way I would wanna be treated. And that involves just more than just being nice to them. It's being truly like a friend, you treat them like a friend. And that means, you normally make fun, you don't feel too sorry for them. Pick your self up. Come on, one more rep, one more rep. Let's go. Now don't be lazy. Get up. Do it again."0:32:20.4 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:32:20.9 Robert Drysdale: You know, and I think that people, they... It's uncomfortable, but people crave that. People need that. You need the push, you... You know what's funny about being a coach that acts that way, is that first they're shocked, like, "How could you talk to me like that?" Or, "How could you make me... " And then eventually, you gain their respect because deep down, that's what they wanted.0:32:42.7 Mischa Z: Yeah, they just wanna be treated... They want that humanness, right? That...0:32:49.1 Robert Drysdale: That involves everything. Humanness involves everything, and that's... It's not just being nice to people, not just being polite or political about it. Humanness involves everything, the pretty and the ugly. It involves, "Hey, argue with me, disagree with me."0:33:02.5 Mischa Z: Yeah. I like that.0:33:03.5 Robert Drysdale: Right, right. It's okay. You can disagree with me.0:33:05.2 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:33:05.5 Robert Drysdale: "Oh, my gosh, someone disagreed with me. I can no longer be your friend." "No, it's okay. We'll grab lunch afterwards, but you're still wrong." You'll call him an idiot, and we'll go grab lunch, grab a beer afterwards, and it's all good.0:33:14.7 Mischa Z: Right.0:33:14.9 Robert Drysdale: But we're so sensitive and...0:33:17.2 Mischa Z: God, we're sensitive. It's insane, man.0:33:19.4 Robert Drysdale: And it's gotten to the point of just ridiculous. This isn't... Where historians will make fun of us in the future, 'cause... Remember those people in the 21st century, right, where you couldn't make fun of each other, because people will get offended. I went to a comedy show the other day, and I can't remember the comedians name, I wish I could, because I would like to give him credit. And he goes, "Comedy is the last bastion of free speech."0:33:41.0 Mischa Z: Oh, really? Yeah.0:33:43.8 Robert Drysdale: I'm like, "Amen." That's the only place that you can actually speak your minds. It's like Dave Chappelle and Bill Burr, they have that privilege to just fire from...0:33:50.6 Mischa Z: Just let it rep. Right?0:33:53.1 Robert Drysdale: Rep and it's comedy, so they can get... If I said it, I'd go to prison. I think martial arts is appealing, because it's kind of like comedy in a way where it's very blunt, very naked, and very real, very human.0:34:06.1 Mischa Z: So did you see this vet, this woman who... And obviously, you got to see a progression and a profound effect, she came out of her shell and... Or tell me more. You got to see some cool results?0:34:20.6 Robert Drysdale: Oh, yeah, absolutely. Next thing you know she's smiling. Next thing you know, she's... It became a ever happy place. I shouldn't have moved, so we don't have her any more, but she... There was a progression there in terms of helping her, happiness, and she couldn't do much jiu-jitsu because of her disability. There really wasn't much she could do, but she just loved being with us and doing her best to do the moves, and we would push her and... We worked around her engines. We have another lady, she's close to 60 now, and she can barely... She's all beat up, but she's on the mat almost every day, and everyone's patient with her, but we push her still.0:34:54.5 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:34:54.7 Robert Drysdale: Whenever she goes on her knees, I'm like, "No no no, off your knees, off your knees, push ups. On your toes." And people are like, "Oh, you're making me uncomfortable." But then they're like, "You know, I'm glad coach did that, because that's what I really wanted." We've had alcoholism, and people that struggle with that. And they come to the gym every day. It's like their therapy. I don't think they go to AA anymore. As long as they're on the mats every day, it kind of gives them the strength to fight that addiction.0:35:21.0 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:35:22.2 Robert Drysdale: And we don't talk about it... Yeah.0:35:23.7 Mischa Z: Honestly, I think atheist or agnostic or not, or whatever, but I mean, it clearly it's, if you want to believe this or take it that far, it's gotta be providing a connection to a source or God or call it whatever you want. Like, it's gotta be tapping into something that... Into that, yeah?0:35:43.2 Robert Drysdale: There are corners of human nature that we don't always tap into. You don't tap into that unless you have a very strong sense of community, right? And for some people, that's God; for some people, that's just spiritual; for some people, that's just... I mean, call it what you will, but it's... There are feelings that we need to experience as humans that are very rich. We don't call them rich, because they're free. But just because they're free doesn't mean everyone has them.0:36:08.4 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:36:08.6 Robert Drysdale: But I think we need that. Some of my best moments in life, looking back, were not me on the podium with the gold medal around my neck. They were me on the mats making... With my friends after the practice, we're all covered in sweat, and we just tried to kill... We were trying to kill each other five minutes ago, but now we're laughing in front of each other and exchanging information and teaching each other the moves or... There's a sense of community that you get from that brotherhood that is very unique. I've heard this from soldiers, veterans, they come back from wars, and they go, "Rob, I don't believe in the war, but I feel like I have to go back because my brothers are there." So they go back more for that brotherhood than they do because of the cause. They don't believe in it anymore, but if my friends are there, I have to be there for them.0:36:54.6 Mischa Z: That's supporting them.0:36:55.0 Robert Drysdale: They probably miss that bond that they've created being in that... Struggling, the situation of struggle for as long as they have. You're risking your life every day, and there's someone there that is willing to take a bullet for you.0:37:07.3 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:37:07.8 Robert Drysdale: That's a very unique bond. And I've never been to war, but the mats are that on a smaller scale, but I know how that feels. I have friends that I know they would take a bullet for me, and I'll take a bullet for them.0:37:19.5 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:37:20.4 Robert Drysdale: And that's... These are the kind of people... It's a kind of friendship you don't dissolve very easily. And it's funny, because if you saw us training, you would think that we hated each other.0:37:27.2 Mischa Z: Yeah. Yeah, I love that aspect of it, that community, that friendship, that connection, that's so powerful. And I think as we get more into the tech as a world, as a society, those... That community is splintering, and it's become illusory or there's that... The connection through the phone or through that swipe or whatever is not perhaps enough, and I love... Go ahead.0:37:56.9 Robert Drysdale: No, I just want to capitalize on it, 'cause I think social media is a huge problem. I think it's... It is the reason why suicide and anxiety are going through the roof. There's no real connection anymore, and we think it is. And it is addictive. I spend six hours a day on my phone. I'm not saying I'm not part of... I'm telling you, I'm the part of the problem, but I see what it does to you. You become highly addicted. And the worst part is that, not only are you not creating those bonds, but you become dependent on it for an approval to feel good about yourself, right?0:38:26.3 Mischa Z: Yeah.0:38:27.1 Robert Drysdale: It's what the world... The world sets my value. No longer, I don't set my own value, the world sets my value. And that's a... And there's no way that wouldn't lead to a sad life.0:38:37.5 Mischa Z: Yeah, yeah. I tell you what, I think this is a good place to end. I have a list of amazing questions that I would just want to say that we didn't touch on this much, because I really wanted to offer everybody some, some... The hope or, that tool of what you offer, that Brazilian jiu-jitsu, that strength of mind, resolve, the mental, the community is just so powerful, and it's out there. And obviously, it's growing like mad, so... But I think... You've traveled the world, anybody can watch your TED talk, and they'll get a... They'll get an inkling of sort of your emotional experience with Brazilian jiu-jitsu, which I believe for you is, on one hand was this blessing, but on the other hand is the curse, right?0:39:31.2 Mischa Z: There's that duality, and it almost kills you, but at the same time, it's your your source. So in the bonus round, we're gonna get into that. I've got some awesome, amazing questions. Perhaps we can get into some of your exploits. I'm excited to talk family with you in round two and some other super fun stuff. So anybody listening, if you've enjoyed Robert and his insights, there's going to be a lot more in our bonus session, so click on the VIP access. And Robert also does, does... Obviously, you have studios, you do retreats, but Robert is gonna offer up some amazing bonuses where perhaps you can join Robert in the fray, literally. So we have that to look forward to. And then where... You can always find Robert at robertdrysdale.net, and a Google search, you can see his TED Talk. And then I'm just going to your site, zenithbjj.com. You can find Robert and all your fun stuff there. You've got a YouTube channel. Any final thoughts to share that we did not get a chance to cover in this first round, Robert?0:40:54.9 Robert Drysdale: No, man. That was just... That's about it. I think the mats are for everyone. There's no such thing as... And if it's not the mats, it's some other competitive endeavor. You have to find that. You need that place to manifest that other side of you. If you don't have that, you need to find it, your life will be more complete.0:41:13.6 Mischa Z: Yeah. Fantastic. Thank you so much. This has been amazing and... Yeah, I love your insights. So stay tuned for round two. Click on the VIP, all access pass.

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
Thursday Meditation #6. Let me look at something from a new perspective.

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2021 15:56


Look at something from a new perspective mediation.  Take this moment to relax and open your mind that there may be a new perspective awaiting you.  An answer to a decision looked at from a different angle.  Or perhaps someone you disagree with is right.  Only source can tell.  Tune in and take a listen for some fresh answers.Administrative: Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.

King's Code Radio
When Drivenness Drives Your Wife Away

King's Code Radio

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2021 9:29


You are a driven person. You have big dreams and are not afraid to go all into something. Being driven is something that is usually praised and respected by other high achievers, but what happens when something that is usually a strength turns into a curse?I was talking to a man this week who is a high achiever is all that he does. From his business, fitness & ministry, he does not hold back... But yet, now he has found himself alone. His wife left him about 9 weeks ago because she felt neglected for such a long time because this man had spent all of his time and focus on everything, except her.His drivenness actually drove her away because his focus was off. Today I want to share a quick message on this on a recent podcast I made for you. .......Join the Movement Of Men That Are Rising Up As A King, A King Unto The King Of Kings.The King's Code Is About Empowering Christian Men To Rule & Reign In Their Marriage, Business & Life.Find out more at: TheKingsCode.comWin Back Your Wife - A Marriage Summit for Christian Businessmen: https://www.winbackyourwife.com/Connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kingscodemovement/Join the conversation on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Kings-Code-570278420104239/

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
If you can embrace the process and execute the steps...you can't help but succeed. FHL pt#5

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2021 14:40


FHL part 5 of 5.  Three points of awareness.  1) There are so many ways to win a Two Comma Club Award and telling those stories would be awesome.  2) I can help people follow a process to creativity.  3) There's plenty of people out there to help men with their relationships.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 This would be part five of five. Perhaps there'll be a part six. But let's just say part five of five of the Funnel Hacking Live round one of awareness. So a couple of big things about who I can help. I talked on a couple episodes about, of this series of this five-part series, about, um, about, you know, changing or finding um, clarity on my audience and my avatar and, you know, a new mission and, and such, and not a new mission. Just you have... Finding the avatar. Like I think, I think that, uh, that's good to, I'm going to... My avatar are emerging Funnels Hackers, and I am going to help them get to the Two Comma Club Award stage, the Two Comma Club Award stage. Um, and I'd be willing to do that for free and for fun, according to Chuck C. If anybody know who Chuck C is, if you've listened to other episodes. It's funny, I'm not sure which is this going to go on the Bitch Slap Podcast, or is this going to end up on the new podcast that I'm going to create, or will I be able to merge this new idea within the Bitch Slap Podcast?Mischa Z: 01:53 More will be revealed on that, but I wanted to talk about two key times, points of awareness, that I had during the Funnel Hacking Live. And one was, um, I was interviewing, or I was just chatting with all these two comma club award winners. And basically there are people who, who, um, have have a one to two comma club award. And I realized that there are so many ways to win a two comma club award and that telling some of those stories would be awesome. So I think I'm gonna work on that and, um, the other, so I was like, how am I going to work that into my existing podcast? Maybe I need to create a new podcast. Um, and then, uh, I two other main, so I was going to talk two main awarenesses. I'll talk about three. That was one. I was like, oh, that's fun. I love those stories. And people like telling them to me and I'm truly interested and fascinated. And so I think I can suss out some great information and helpful helpfulness for all involved. Um, and then the, the, uh, the next point of awareness was...Mischa Z: 03:38 People I can help. I was talking to people love the fact that I've got the people within the TCC X loved the fact that I have this podcast and just the tenacity I've shown in publishing an episode a day for, you know, 320 days now or whatever it is. It's, it's been many days it's been over 300 days and I think I can help people tap into their creativity. I just had this awareness. People could use some help tapping into creativity, systemizing that process so that they can Get to the two comma club stage quicker.New Speaker: 04:31 Yes. So I can help people do that to get to the two comma club award stage quicker. And, uh, the next awareness. And I love talking about it. I just, I, I, I think I can help a lot to do with just, there's so much amazing awareness and content within that. Basically, if you've listened to any of my, Bitch Slap episodes, you know, every now and then I'm talking about following the steps. I put an engine in a car and not knowing anything about the internal combustion engine, but you just follow the steps and you can do it. Um, if you trust. And, and really that started with me with, you know, 12 steps program to get sober sober in my teen years. I, I truly embraced, you know, those th th the 12 steps and not knowing, or almost not even trusting, I don't know, but I just needed to do it so I wouldn't die. And it worked. And so that, that was the first foundational follow the instructions moment for me. I surely couldn't do it in high school effectively only graduated because they didn't want me back. You can't follow instructions, do not come back, do not pass go. Um, I did graduate though four years high school.Mischa Z: 06:14 Um, and then, you know, I've got other great stories around that. Um, but Russell Brunson is a process, which the idea of process can I help people follow that process. Some people are great at following the process, but Russell Brunson's very much got a process. If you can embrace trust in and believe that process, and then execute on his steps within the process process, you can't help but succeed. So there's that. Um, so I think I can help people do that. I have decades of experience applying steps to a process. One to save my life, um, and then many other examples. So there's that. And then thirdly, as I was talking to a guy about, you know, salvaging his relationship with his kids and such are not salvaging, it he's in a new relationship, the new relationship there's pre-existing children. And so he's all of a sudden he went from having no kids to now he's in a relationship where there's effectively four kids.Mischa Z: 07:29 He gets to be a, you know, a pseudo stepfather. Um, and then they're talking about having their own child together. And so he was thirsty for father parenting information. And, you know, I, I have come through the spot of, as I said, in part two or three of this little series that I had felt like, you know, my, my relationship with my kids had been healed and that had been shown to me by a Tony Robbins meditation. And so funny talking about this, but anyway, I just was like, Hey, in what, there are so many people that can already help with that. And I don't need to recreate that wheel. Right. I don't need to, that's a, that's a red ocean, right? I mean, I have a couple of tips and tricks to add to his knowledge base, but I could have pointed literally to two people that I know fairly well within the community who can help him with his, with those kids relationships.Mischa Z: 08:43 And they specialize in that. So I just had this deep, I was like, as I was talking to him and I'm thinking, this is what I want to do is help people do this. And the back of my mind, I'm going, I can point him to two or three people that I know within this group, that if he wants a plan of action, go talk to them. Right. And so I was like, I just Sunday then that, so that was, that was Saturday night. I just was like, wait a minute. That, that was an interesting bit of information to have downloaded into my system. And so Sunday, as I'm flying across the country and having a lot of time to a lot of alone time downtime, and I'm holding that space and being in that space and not distracting it with football or social media or all of this stuff, I'm really just consciously and subconsciously processing the Funnel Hacking Live, download information.Mischa Z: 09:51 And, you know, and then I start supplementing that with the avatar course, you know, who can I help course? And it's pointing me to this new direction. Or it's refining my avatar. And I, I'm not sure if this is going to be makes sense to some people, but hopefully you're tracking. Just know that I'm, I'm, I'm willing and exciting to pivot and refine. And it was really freaking me out though, which would, could be a part six, but I'll save it to, to, um, for other other episodes. But, uh, yeah, I, I, those three things together, it's like, yeah, let other people, the Tony Robbins of the world help with all that man mindset or all the men guys, Garrett white, like there's plenty of that out there. They've got their audiences. There's plenty of, I don't, I don't need to be in that space.Mischa Z: 11:05 And I just is so clear to me, it became so clear to me yesterday. And then this morning, Monday as I was meditating that, yeah, there's a, all that I, all my experience, all my can be channeled towards this new avatar. This emerging funnel hacker. How I can help them speed up their process or stay the course or what have you. And, uh, and the, it's coalesced to that point. Now we'll see if I stay in this direction and it will be fun to see what happens from here as I record this. But that, uh, I was very concerned. I'll end with this. I was very concerned that I was going to have to scrap everything I'd done up to this point and like start over in the coaching group. But I was like, no, wait a minute. It's just a change of course, it's just a change, of course, within the program. I don't need to go back to the beginning. I can apply the tools that I've learned in the beginning to start building interactions with this new avatar. So I've got some summit ideas. I've got some podcast ideas. Um, I have some ideas to...hopefully my current list will still be engaged in any way. There's lots of, lots of information plowing through, hang in there with me, love to all. Uh, that's good.

Marriage Helper: Helping Your Marriage
Overcoming an Emotional Affair

Marriage Helper: Helping Your Marriage

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2021 33:56


How can you overcome the emotions of an affair? You can't change emotions just by sheer willpower. Understand that time changes emotions. So the intensity of what you're feeling toward other people will evolve with time. So whatever you or your spouse are feeling towards somebody else right now will not be the same thing you feel three years from now. The actions you take and the behaviors you put into your life working with time will change how quickly your emotions evolve. So we hope that you take from this not that we're trying to discourage you but that we're trying to give you hope. The hope is not in control; the hope is in understanding human nature and that people continue to change.Learn more about our Save My Marriage Course:https://marriagehelper.com/product/sa...Learn more about our Reconciliation Toolkit:https://marriagehelper.com/product/ex...Learn more about our Marriage Saving Workshops:https://marriagehelper.com/workshops/

Michael Jr. Off The Cuff
#122 Funny How Life Works - Worst Marriage Advice

Michael Jr. Off The Cuff

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2021 36:19


Join Michael Jr. , Pastor Kyle and special guest as they talk marriage and the worst advice you the listener gave.Have you left a question for Michael Jr.?Call 903-213-2019 and leave a question...just start with "Michael Jr. I Was Wondering..."Storytime with Michael Jr.Get ready to laugh and be encouraged! Spots are limited - join Michael Jr. as he shares impactful stories from his new book, Funny How Life Works.Get your access ticket here: https://funnyhowlifeworksbook.com/storytimeFree ChapterYou can download a free chapter from Michael Jr.'s new book here: michaeljr.com/chapter.Join Our Exclusive Community on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/michaeljrWhen you become one of our patrons, or what we call an Opener, you are joining a strong and exclusive community who have early access to some really cool perks.Don't forget to leave a review! We really do read them. Your review could be featured in an episode and read by Michael Jr.As a thank you for listening, we want to hook you up with Michael Jr.'s comedy CD, Funny For a Reason at whatever price you want. Click the link, name your price, and keep laughing.Name Your Price CD: michaeljr.com/cdSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/michaeljr)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/michaeljr)

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
I think I found my voice. This iteration anyway. FHL Pt #4.

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2021 12:01


Surprisingly I didn't record one episode while at Funnel Hacking Live.  There was literally too much inspiration and not enough sleep.  My new Avatar takes shape.  And after 320 episodes I think I may have found my voice. Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:01 Funnel Hacking Live. Funnel Hacking Live 2021, amazingness part four. Part four. I believe one of the open, one of the loops I opened in one of the previous episodes of this little series of this Funnel Hacking Live 2021 series was that, um. I hadn't, I didn't record a single podcast episode while I was there. I was so busy. I was so busy with being immersed in, in all of the funnel Funnel Hacking Live goodness. Just amazing speaker after amazing speaker and then networking like mad and not purposely networking. It wasn't like I have an agenda of networking. Or though, you know, my thought is I'm going to go network, but really it's just, you don't even have to try to network. It's you're just meeting and hanging out with like-minded entrepreneurs. It was crazy. So it's not even like I have an agenda of networking.Mischa Z: 01:18 You're literally just hanging out with family, meeting new people, having fun, amazing conversations all over the place. This was my experience anyway. And uh, some people I'll probably have an opportunity to work with, uh, others, maybe just established new friends, um, but more will be revealed in that regard. So, um, anyhow, I didn't record one episode while I was there. I was convinced like each night I would do a recap of the day, the recap episode, what the speaker said, what it meant, you know what I learned. All these things. But I did not, oh my gosh, I was so tired at night. The jet lag three hour difference. And I, even though after the day's festivities, which were ending fairly late at night, you know, 7, 8, 9, something like that. So there's a ton going on, you know. I would have a meal with like-minded Funnel Hackers. Meeting, new people. You know, I'd get back to the room at 11 or midnight, Florida time. And, and then, uh, you know, we'd have to decompress. And I decompressed by, I watched the movie, um, 1917. Awesome. If you like thoughtful contemplate of war movies with not a ton of action.Speaker 2: 02:59 But it was a good one. Um, anyway, I would just watch, I was watching, took me a few, couple of days to watch that total diversion. I apologize. But again, I was concerned. I had the concern that is new, are new episodes going to materialize. And I figured, oh, on Sunday, you know, the convention's done. I'll be, I'll have the day I'll be flying back. I'll be inspired to, you know, record some content. Um, again, it didn't materialize. And I wasn't tripping. I just thought it very interesting. And I was like, huh, I am very surprised. I've got nothing to say, you know, is that it? Am I done?Speaker 2: 03:59 And of course, getting back to my normal meditation routine or whatever, the landing home, you know, good night's sleep. And just the inspiration has been crackling. I just can't even tell you. And honestly, the inspiration really started on the plane ride home. I was meditating, you know, not distracting myself with a ton of unnecessary content and working on... I actually was working on, um, that avatar Jim Edwards, avatar presentation. It's, it's like a five-hour course. Five, one hour. Five videos each an hour in length course where you dive into your avatar and who you want to serve. And, and, um, that's where all this new inspiration was coming from too. It was like, what was easy to write down? I was like, in that moment, I was like, oh my gosh, I've done all this work on this old avatar. This, this, well, the previous avatar, you know, this, this male character. This high performing male character, Tony, I labeled him and, uh, how I was going to serve him.Speaker 2: 05:33 But all this new inspiration was coming for... Through Jim Edwards exercise through this course. It's awesome. It really helps you dial in your perfect avatar. Makes you know, that's your perfect customer who you want to serve. And and it's super creative and it, you know, it helps you, uh, you know, dive into that...um... And he just gives great ways. He explains it. Gives you and then gives you homework exercises to, uh, you know, to write down. To write some stuff. To get it on paper, who your avatar is to refine it. And all the exercises where for this new person, this, this emerging Funnel Hacker. I'm like, it's the emerging Funnel Hacker that I can help. I mean, that's who I can help. And, and, and the way it came to me is we need to publish as a Funnel Hacker. Following Russell Brunson's Brunson's methodology, you're encouraged, you're instructed, not encouraged, instructed to pick your publishing platform podcast, um, blog blogging, or YouTube channel. And he encourages you to do it every day at a minimum he encourages you to pick a schedule and stick to that schedule. And hopefully that schedule is at least two to three days a week.Speaker 2: 07:13 And that is one thing that I have excelled at for a year coming up on a year. I started my podcast September mid September two weeks and September 15th, ish of 2020. And then when December came on, I did a challenge and have been a publishing challenge and have been podcasting every day since. And it really I'm going, I'm going to do a publishing challenge for sure. I'm going to create one because it's been so powerful. But so I'm at 320 episodes or some such thing. I'm going to have new podcasts. I got all this creative so much fun. Good, cool, amazing stuff is coming. Oh my God, I'm so excited to be dialed in on a new, on found all of a sudden, I feel like I've found my voice. I'm sorry. I do. There's a lot of information flowing out. So I I'm going to close the loop of, um, of, of, you know, not having any inspiration during the, uh, the conference during the Funnel Hacking Live 2021 to, to, uh, to record new episodes in the moment.Speaker 2: 08:38 And I clearly see why, but it's just coming out of me now. So I just, it's another cool, it's another cool awareness to have for any of you fledgling content, producers via podcast, YouTube channel, or, or, um, blogging trust that the daily content, if you want to do it daily, the content is within you, right? And as I've said, you can listen to a bunch of my previous episodes. I have so much content coming out of me, or I have been since I started, since I committed the publishing every day, that some days I can record multiple episodes. And so I, I have, you can record a series in one setting, I guess, is what I'm trying to say. So I had scheduled the week's episodes to be published during Funnel Hacking Live. So I had episodes publishing while I was at the conference. So I didn't even need to do anything. I just scheduled a week's worth of episodes to be published one each day. Crank them out. Had the...yeah...so Episodes will be, were being published to the Bitch Slap Podcast that you're listening to. I recently, um, while I was away. Okay. I believe that's the end of part four.Speaker 2: 10:12 Enjoy the day.

I Don't Want A Divorce Podcast With Dr. David Clarke
When One Dating Partner, or Both, Won't Commit to Marriage

I Don't Want A Divorce Podcast With Dr. David Clarke

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2021 17:22


On this episode of the I Don't Want a Divorce Podcast, Dr. David Clarke discusses how to get past your commitment phobia and either get married or break up. Thanks for listening! Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review. https://www.davideclarkephd.com/

The Dr. Debra Soh Podcast
30. Steven Pinker - Cancellation Attacks, Marriage Advice, and Sexual Chemistry

The Dr. Debra Soh Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2021 53:14


This was a very special conversation for our host! Dr. Debra Soh interviews Professor Steven Pinker (Harvard University, author of “Rationality” and “The Blank Slate”) about saving universities from wokeness, the cancellation attacks he's faced, marriage advice, sexual chemistry, how he met his wife, his love of photography and cycling, and understanding statistics. Get "Rationality" at stevenpinker.com and @sapinker Get "The End of Gender" at DrDebraSoh.com and @DrDebraSoh (Paperback now available; FREE on Audible) © 2021 Dr. Debra Soh

The Relationship Maze
Why do you love the way that you do?

The Relationship Maze

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2021 27:59


Are you aware of the way that you give and receive love? Are you confident in your way of loving? And do you notice your emotions, thoughts and behaviours when loving someone else? In today's episode we consider where our notions of love come from. We all tell ourselves stories about love which inform our expectations, hopes and desires. These stories are told by our parents, friends, teachers, writers, singers or actors in romantic films. We have lofty ideas and ideals about romantic love. Often there is a big gap between our ideals and our reality. Coming to terms with the reality of how we are being loved can be painful. The way that we love is influenced by our experiences - we learn templates of how to go about loving someone else and being loved. Our attachment style informs our love template: if we have an insecure attachment style we often struggle to form trusting relationships. The way that we love changes in the course of a relationship as projections give way to seeing the real person in front of us. And the way that we learned to love is changeable. We can choose to think and behave differently if our way of loving does not serve us well.

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
"Who I can help" suddenly changes. And it catches me of guard. FHL Pt 3.

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2021 12:17


Do what's fun. Not what society is telling us is fun.  I got to Funnel Hacking Live with an open mind looking for answers.  And I get them.  Just not what I was expecting the answers to be.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z: 00:52 Part three, we're going to see if part three of my Funnel Hacking Live 2021 experience. The dates were September 21st to September 26th, 2021. If you're listening to this 5, 10, 20 years later, maybe I'm dead and gone. I hope this provides you inspiration to set aside contempt, try new things. Go, go deeper within and connect with your heart center. It's such a funny way to say that if. You'd told me, uh, 15 years ago, 10 years ago from this date, as I record this September 27th, 2021, I had a thrown your ass out the door, connect with your heart center. Shee-it! I'm from Wyoming. We don't connect with our heart center. We do try to. We do... That doesn't...it's just that verbiage. I gotta figure out a new, uh, a way to bridge the heart centered. What's it like? What's that? What's a fifth grade. What's the way a fifth grader or fourth grader or a third grader would say heart centered. They'd say we do. What's fun. How about that?Mischa Z: 02:13 Do what's fun. Not what society is telling us is fun. What, you know, as a kid, I want to go do this cause it's fun. And it's my purpose. And when someone's like, "why are you playing with GI Joes dork"? You're like, "cause I like GI Joes", or why you playing with, or why are you whatever crazy imagination I used to have when I was a kid. There you go. What a beautiful tangent again. I am running out of juice, so I hope, I hope I've got enough juice on my phone to make it, uh, at least eight minutes. Um, so yeah, Funnel Hacking Live 2021. Um, clearly the, enthusiasm was planted in me at that convention Funnel Hacking Live convention, is clearly still coursing through my veins. Um, but I was all in and I'm all, all in Kool-Aid, that jug of Kool-Aid that you see on the table. I'm drinking it. Yes, indeed I am. May have another glass please? Um, where was I going to go with this? Uh, so yeah, Funnel Hacking Live like...there's this whole idea. Part of the message of... "morning"... of, uh, Russell Brunson's message and many people's messages actually. But I, you know, I really started hearing it and internalizing it from Russell Brunson's teachings. Um, his methods, his processes are who do you want to help?Mischa Z: 04:06 Why? Your, how. Your why? Or your what and your why? Yeah, that's what it is, is your what and your why? Or your who and your why...Whatever it is. But then you...then you figure out what do they need and want, how can I serve them, ask them. And, um, then you create your product. You don't create your product and then try to find out where it's going to fit. Although a lot of people created beautiful companies, that way. The Russell Brunson, Dot Com Secrets is very much, find your who, your why, then communicate with them on how you can serve them. And so on the way to my ClickFunnels on to funnel hiking live, I had some preconceived ideas or I had done a lot of work to figure out who I thought, well, who am I, who was in for the last year?Mischa Z: 05:10 And my why? Like what brought me into the two comma club, X coaching program within the ClickFunnels community. Um, but it was for what last year definitely helped pull me forward. Um, but it was to help perhaps divorced single dads or, you know, high-performing males who, who, um, you know, lost their way, shall we say, lost their way, had some upheavals in their life and lost their way. And I think that's a great community to support, but so I thought that was my, that was my who until Funnel Hacking Live. And then the other thing is don't, you know, don't be open to how you can serve them, right? So that's my, who I've got this idea of. I'm going to create some sort of a program to help those sorts of people, quit their jobs and be, stay at home dads like I did, which was the best decision I ever made.Mischa Z: 06:12 Um, one of them spent a couple getting off the sauce was another. Age, 17 years and nine months old, quit the drinking and the drug. And one day at a time strongly encourage that for anybody who's listening. Sauce was no no bueno for my life. But anyway, I would say that, you know, I did this, uh, Kyle Cease thing. This Kyle Cease thing was called the Complete Journey. And it really helped me tap into my heart center. That thing that's fun for me. What is, what is it that I, that will bring my, bring me joy? Not what I think will bring me joy, which might be climbing the wrong ladder. But which ladder will truly bring me joy? Um, so yeah, I did the Complete Journey. Epic. It's epic. Go do it. Kyle cease, Google that the Complete Journey. It's 21 days perhaps can transform your life. If you're wondering what your, um, if you're struggling at work or, or struggling with your kids or your career sucks. And you're like, I know I need to be heading a different direction. I know I need to pivot. That can help. As well as so many other people can help with that. The, A Four mentioned Tony Robbins, for example, oh my gosh, the clock keeps ticking.Mischa Z: 07:51 Um, so many things to talk about. There's going to be like a part four or five and six lost track of what parts is it. This is, but, um, so yeah, it's going to be to help high-performing males who have fallen off the horse, get back on the horse and stay there with "a new opportunity". And so I was like, I'm going to find my new opportunity, which is going to be some sort of a coaching thing or course, or this or that. And so I had arrived at the, um, two CC... Or at the Funnel Hacking Live with the idea of helping, you know, the, the, that high performing male get back on the horse. And, uh, and through it...we've been told to be open to how we're going to serve our audience, be open to who our audience is. Refine your avatar. And so, you know, again, right before I got cut off, I got cut off just in case you didn't know. So this might sound a little disjointed all of the sudden, but my phone ran out of power ready, the key moment. Um, and so I had to get home and recharge the phone enough to finish this recording this episode.Mischa Z: 09:27 So I thought I was being open with how I was going to help. You know, be of service to the audience that I'm reaching out to. When a few interactions I'll tell you about on the next episode, part four, I think it's going to be. I had this moment of clarity of, oh my gosh, I'm meant to help 2CCX'ers, not 2CCX-ers, excuse me. I'm meant to serve with a tweaked, a different, a slightly different audience in the slightly different... Realistically, a slightly different product than I was anticipating. Um, so yeah, I, I, sorry, it's a bit fuzzy and I'm channeling massive inspiration coming out of the weekend. And then as I record this, but. I believe the new audience is, um, emerging funnel hackers. And I am here to help emerging funnel hackers get to the 2 Comma Club Award stage. Yep. That's it. And so the tools and fun things that I've been learning throughout my life and really the biggest thing is how to follow instructions and follow the steps to success. Right? Like, that's it. And so, um, I'm gonna, there's just so much more to say so much more to say. So, um, listen to the next episode. Love to all.

Never Ninety Nine
Blunt Truths from Oompa Loompas and the Best Marriage Advice Ever

Never Ninety Nine

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2021 79:10


In this weeks episode, we talk about how Charley and the Chocolate Factory couldn't be made today because we are to sensitive and Sarah gives the best marriage advice that i have ever heard lolIf your into talking about life, psychedelics, aliens, health, and our place in the universe- then come check out our show. Also bourbon...

Bitch Slap  ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!
It's clear to me that my relationship with my boys is healed. FHL Pt 2

Bitch Slap ...The Accelerated Path to Peace!

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 31, 2021 12:10


I had massive shifts and awareness at the FHL convention. In this episode I go deep on the revelation that my relationship with my two sons is healed.  It was extremely powerful.Administrative: (See episode transcript below)Check out the Tools For A Good Life Summit here: Virtually and FOR FREE https://bit.ly/ToolsForAGoodLifeSummitStart podcasting!  These are the best mobile mic's for IOS and Android phones.  You can literally take them anywhere on the fly.Get the Shure MV88 mobile mic for IOS,  https://amzn.to/3z2NrIJGet the Shure MV88+ for  mobile mic for Android  https://amzn.to/3ly8SNjGet A Course In Miracles Here! https://amzn.to/3hoE7sAAccess my “Insiders Guide to Finding Peace” here: https://belove.media/peaceSee more resources at https://belove.media/resourcesEmail me: contact@belove.mediaFor social Media:      https://www.instagram.com/mrmischaz/https://www.facebook.com/MischaZvegintzovSubscribe and share to help spread the love for a better world!As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Transcript: Mischa Z 00:01 Hello, I'm back FHL 2021 part two. So we had just done. I'll remind everybody where we are just in case you're jumping in to this, this, this stream of episodes right here. I was just at 2021 Funnel Hacking Live in Orlando. No, yes. It was Orlando, Florida. Russell Brunson's, uh, Click Funnels, Funnel Hacking Live. I was seeing how fully indoctrinated into the ClickFunnels community. Um, yes. And, uh, I was having massive breakthroughs, massive awareness, massive shifts. Um, and one of them was this gratitude for how I got to heal my relationship with my boys. We'd just come out of, we were in the middle of a Tony Robbins presentation and just, he had us do this gratitude, exercise, meditation, thousands of people in the audience live thousands of people on Zoom. I mean, the energy is palpable. It's on, uh, it was just, this is the last presentation of the thing.Mischa Z 01:24 So everything's coming to a crescendo of course. And, uh, what were we asked to do? We were picked three, three of us get a group of three and then say what, the way I heard it was what were the two gratitude, two of the gratitude moments that came to you in this meditation. And, um, they were this moment of gratitude. There was two poignant moments of gratitude that came to me through the exercise. One was with my son Waylon when he graduated high school a few months ago. If you're listening to this now, when did like June, 2021, hopefully you're hearing this and it's like five years later and you're fully inspired to go out and do things and healed relationships and try new stuff and set aside your contempt. I just realized how I still can be contemptuous to ideas. Um, Tony Robbins for sure is one.Mischa Z 02:30 It's actually the first time I've heard him live in my whole life and I cannot believe it. I'm like, I just mentioned this before in other podcast episodes, but, uh, yeah. Where, where might I be if by the jumped on the Tony Robbins train? When I first heard of him 30 years ago, right? Like there's no doubt. Um, it's all good. I'm not, there's no remorse. It's just interesting how contempt can keep us from, from things. So, all right. Let me get to the point. Um, Cooper, Waylon, and they asked me, oh, what were your points of gratitude? One was when Waylon graduated and it was just so excited and I was there and he erupted in spontaneous enthusiasm and it made me realize just so much beautiful stuff. I just had so much add for admiration for him and myself and our infectious spirits in that moment.Mischa Z 03:31 Instead of me questioning whether I can feel like sometimes that my infectious spirit, my outgoing energy, my, my pull, my pull, right. I have a pull. Um, that's probably the, I'll just say it that way. It can feel like a curse sometimes, or like I should shy from it or downplayed or hide from it. As long as I can keep it coming from source from God, from the infinite intelligence aligned with that. It's all good. I had that moment of alignment. When Waylon graduated, I saw it in him. I saw it in myself and I was like, what? Young Cooper, this is going to sound like a funny little story. But out of nowhere, the other, maybe a week or two ago, I was like, Hey, Coop's he's 20. Every most 20 year olds can use a little, few extra, a hundred bucks. Perhaps I was like, coops, is there anything you could use a couple hundred dollars for it?Mischa Z 04:33 And he said, that's funny. You should ask. I have an outstanding bill, which he can afford to pay by the way, hey can afford to pay it. But how cool was that to have a 20 year old that can afford to pay his bills? What anyway, but he's like, Hey, I got this outstanding bill. I was just going to pay the 300 bucks. And I was like, I'm sending you 300. I got it. And, um, I don't know why, but I just have this insane moment of gratitude. I do know why I, whatever it was just his, his...I had no expectations of the response or I just did it without expectations. And he was so grateful in his simple response that it...the gratitude, again, I don't know. It was so simple, man. It was so simple. But anyway, 7, 8, 9 years ago, six years ago, I was absolutely like, I got divorced 11, 12 years ago. I was worried. I had destroyed the familiar rich heart-centered love centered relationship with my boys.Speaker 2: 05:58 And we did this Tony Robbins meditation, part of which was gratitude. Those two moments were glaring in a beautiful way within that meditation, that part of the meditation. So when we got together at the end to talk about it, there is going to be a part three, by the way. Right. Talk about one of the big shifts. This is a shift within the shift, but I'm sorry. This is so good. I'm so glad I'm in control of the podcast. And they currently don't have a producer barking at me. Stay on point, stay on point. Um, where the heck was I? Um, so yes. Talk about those gratitude moments. We were supposed to go around, talk about those gratitude moments within our little circle of three people. That's the way I heard it. Other people may have heard it differently. So I started to talk about those two moments.Speaker 2: 07:01 And as soon as I opened my mouth, I started balling. Like the balling where you can't talk, you know what I'm saying? Have you had that balling where you can't talk? Except it was out of like release and I just went into it. I was like these two men here who are amazing and supportive. I love you guys, James Rick, James Mays, Rick Hayhearst, um, listened with these massive open hearts and I just cried and was crying. And they managed to, instead of say, nevermind, next person, next person talk. I sobbed it out for a minute. And they both listened. And then, or they both held that space as I was crying, unable to talk.Speaker 2: 08:00 I know, you know, that spot where you you're crying and you can't talk. And so I finally came to a point where, you know, cause if you talk, you're going to cry more and harder and that it just shuts down your, your, your vocal capabilities. I know, you know what I'm talking about. Um, but, uh, I finally was able to, as best I could talk about that Waylon moment and that Cooper moment, which were both very recent, you know, in my life. And, uh, I was able to say, you know, I became very clear as I'm crying and sobbing and talking and describing those moments in a beautiful way. This, this was just, this is, it was beauty. It was God was there, the infinite intelligence, your higher power call it what you want, the universal, who knows.Speaker 2: 08:56 But I'm like, it's clear to me that my relationship with my boys is healed. That doesn't mean I still might have old stuff to clean up or won't be a prick now, and then moving forward or that there's not going to be hard times or dashed expectations or all the things that come with being a dad, being a son, all that stuff, right. It's going to be a lot less of them. I know. And there's barely any, any more anyway, but to have to be able to say that and know it to my core. Wow. It's really funny. We went to dinner later, a couple hours later and everyone was like, you look younger. No, no doubt. No, no. It's going to say no. S no joke across the board. There was like four people. You look, you know, you look younger, what a beautiful, powerful release. Anyway, that's just one of the little things that happened. I will have a part three to this thought stream, which is going to be about, um, how I went there with an agenda of how I could be of serve service, how I thought I was supposed to be of service. And, um, within that, I thought, yeah, I'm willing to pivot within that frame, but it turns out I needed to find a new frame. All right. Look for part three, love to all by.

Me to We Talk Podcast
What did you EX-pect?! Episode 106

Me to We Talk Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2021 19:56


The worst thing you can do to yourself is to repeat the same behavior over and over, and expect a different result! Join the Me to We Talk Podcast as we try to help you figure out...what did you EX-pect, when getting back with your ex?! How are things with your new/old boo going to be different if you two are the same people you've always been?! Check out this episode, with relationship experts, marriage officiants and marital truth coaches Elders Conell & Rhonda Hollins, as they delve into why you should expect more for yourself! You do not want to miss this hilarious take on love, dating and marriage! Download share and subscribe today!Support the show (http://paypal.me/metowetalk)Support the show (http://paypal.me/metowetalk)

Underground Sports Philadelphia
Underground PHI Episode 372: Sixers Slow Start, The Eagle Flower, & Matt's Marriage Advice

Underground Sports Philadelphia

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2021 63:35


Kyle and Matt are BACK and the Sixers are off to the start that the guys were terrified about. They discuss the current situation and why things could go bad real quick, Daryl Morey's uninspiring radio interview, and another Simmo the Savage update. Then they dive into the Eagles and why they might be actively tanking, run through the NFL's score differentials, and they also somehow talk about the hellscape World Series. Then they wrap up with the Buffs 'N' Snuffs Survivor segment and Matt gives his marriage advice on his final podcast before he marries Sarah! Follow Us! Twitter: @UndergroundPHI Kyle: @KBizzl311 Matt: @mattcastorina Website: undergroundsportsphiladelphia.com Watch LIVE: FB: facebook.com/UndergroundSportsPHI Twitch: twitch.tv/undergroundsportsPHI Instagram: @undergroundphi Merch & Apparel: NEW MERCH STORE COMING SOON tomahawkshades.com | Promo Code: "USP" for 25% off at checkout! manscaped.com | Promo Code: "USP" for 20% off AND free shipping statesidevodka.com | Promo Code: "USP" for 10% off the 1L Vodka Bottle (Must be 21+ to purchase. Please drink responsibly) Intro Music: Arkells "People's Champ" Outro Music: Arkells "People's Champ"

Fantasy Footballers DFS - Fantasy Football Podcast
Week 8 DFS Preview + Betz's Marriage Advice - Fantasy Football DFS

Fantasy Footballers DFS - Fantasy Football Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 26, 2021 44:23


The Fantasy Footballers DFS Podcast is back with a new episode! Welcome to “DFS for the Rest of Us!” On today's fantasy football podcast, Borg and Betz recap Week 7 DFS, discussing cash game strategy and what won in GPPs. Then, it's time to turn the page to Week 8 as the guys discuss early salary standouts and game environments that look enticing for tournaments! Take your DFS Fantasy Football game to the next level on DraftKings, FanDuel, and Underdog Fantasy. -- Fantasy Football DFS Podcast for October 26th, 2021.   Compete in our weekly contest on DraftKings at BallersDFS.com!   Connect with The Fantasy Footballers: Visit us on the Web Support the Show Follow on Twitter Follow on Instagram

Michael Jr. Off The Cuff
#121 Funny How Life Works - Best Marriage Advice

Michael Jr. Off The Cuff

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 26, 2021 38:55


Join Michael Jr. , Pastor Kyle and special guest as they talk marriage and the best advices you the listener gave.Check Damion's Music https://soundcloud.com/damionwrightHave you left a question for Michael Jr.?Call 903-213-2019 and leave a question...just start with "Michael Jr. I Was Wondering..."Storytime with Michael Jr.Get ready to laugh and be encouraged! Spots are limited - join Michael Jr. as he shares impactful stories from his new book, Funny How Life Works.Get your access ticket here: https://funnyhowlifeworksbook.com/storytimeFree ChapterYou can download a free chapter from Michael Jr.'s new book here: michaeljr.com/chapter.Join Our Exclusive Community on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/michaeljrWhen you become one of our patrons, or what we call an Opener, you are joining a strong and exclusive community who have early access to some really cool perks.Don't forget to leave a review! We really do read them. Your review could be featured in an episode and read by Michael Jr.As a thank you for listening, we want to hook you up with Michael Jr.'s comedy CD, Funny For a Reason at whatever price you want. Click the link, name your price, and keep laughing.Name Your Price CD: michaeljr.com/cdSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/michaeljr)Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/michaeljr)