Make Up or Break Up

Danielle from Auburn has asked for help with her boyfriend Cameron after what she says was a disastrous Thanksgiving dinner with his family. She says after dinner, in the kitchen, as they were cleaning up the Turkey, Cameron’s father actually grabbed her butt and said “I wanna get up in those giblets.” She says, yes, the Turkey was right there, but it was clear the dad was talking about HER giblets, not the Turkey’s. No one else saw this, and she says when she told Cameron later he said she was over-reacting. When Cameron comes on he says his dad is just a butt-grabber, like baseball players, and he does it to everyone in the family, it’s no big deal. But Danielle feels very clear about that the dad wanted from her, and Cameron digs himself in a hole when he says the dad has no reason to hit on Danielle because the dad’s new wife – Cameron’s stepmom – is “hot”. Is Cameron fixing to be Dad 2.0? Should Danielle work it out or tell him to get stuffed?

Holly from Everett has asked us for help with her boyfriend Craig who she says has been lying to her for two months. She found out he lost his job two months ago but hasn’t told her yet; he just continues to leave the house every day and go somewhere and pretend everything’s fine. Holly says she found out when she ran into one of his coworkers a couple weeks ago who told Holly that Craig had been fired. Holly says she has no idea where Craig goes all day or how they have been making ends meet but mostly she is just stunned that he would lie about something so big for so long. When Craig comes on he says he didn’t mean to lie, he was just embarrassed and thought if he could just get another job right away it would all be fine. But then so much time passed, it got too big for him to handle. He says he didn’t want Holly to see him as weak…but holy crap, she does and she unloads! Will these two be able to get it back together?

Faith from Marysville has asked us for help with her boyfriend Jake whose family does not include her in any holiday activities. Faith says despite being together for three years, his family still does not include her in the Christmas Gift Exchange and they don’t ask her to cook anything for their potluck Christmas Dinner meal. And she says they are very rude and awkward around her as if she is a one-night stand he just dragged home. She wants Jake to stand up for her to his family and let them know she is here to stay and they should treat her like family. When Jake comes on he says his parents are just really traditional, the Gift Matrix is pretty solid, and they don’t want to bother her with trying to make the kinds of foods they like. He does sort of admit that until they get engaged they probably won’t count her in, but the P1’s (and we) seem to think it may go a lot deeper than that.

Claire from Tacoma says her boyfriend AJ is freaking out over a butt-dial call from her ex-boyfriend. She says it was totally just an accident, the Ex left a message saying so, and she thought it was funny and actually showed it to AJ not realizing he would totally obsess over it. Now AJ brings the Ex up all the time and is suspicious of all Claire’s plans and calls, asking her a lot more questions about where she’s going and what she’s doing. When Fitz says sometimes guys just want to “check in” and AJ is right to be nervous, Claire insists she loves AJ and has no interest in the Ex but admits AJ is being a total jerk and she’s not happy with him at the moment. When AJ comes on he says he’s not insecure, he just knows how guys think and thinks the Ex was totally testing the waters and Fitz agrees. But then he spends the rest of his time quizzing Claire on the identities of all the other people in her phone; turns out AJ’s got a little baggage.

Kate from Federal Way has asked for help with her boyfriend Josh who she says is turning their yard into a trashy junk yard. Josh has been buying cars with the intention of fixing them up and selling them, but Kate says he lacks the skills to do it, as well as the money needed to fix them up. At first Kate was supportive of Josh having this hobby and his vision of investment but now all he does is buy junky cars and leave them and their parts lying around and now the yard and garage make them look like, in her words, the “white trash house of the neighborhood” and she’s embarrassed to even have people over. Plus Kate is really stressed-out about how much money he is spending on all this. When Josh comes on he says this is an investment and she needs to be patient and in fact this is his plan for the future and how to send their kids through college. When he lists the cars he has, even Drew is impressed but Drew cautions Josh that if he doesn’t start working on them soon they will lose value. Josh says Kate needs to have more faith in him, but Kate says Josh needs to face reality. Can the P1’s help them? Can they work this out? And will Drew buy a few of these cars off Josh?

Ed from North Bend has asked us for help with his girlfriend Kelly who he says is out of control with spending for Christmas. He says ever since Prime Day, packages have been constantly arriving at their home and he is worried about whether they can pay their bills, especially with so much uncertainty right now. When Kelly comes on she says it’s been a crap year so she is going the extra mile to buy a little happiness for their family and friends. She says she’s getting great deals and also has a very specific plan for what she is getting for whom, as well as a plan for how to pay for it all. But when Ed says that now more than ever they need to be watching their spending, Kelly brings up HIS late-night online spending “habit” after she goes to bed, which she says is way “More Holly than Jolly”…

Tony from Lacey has asked us for help with his fiancée Whitney who he says sold her engagement ring to pay some bills. He says he can’t believe she would just casually sell off something so important that he saved so long to get for her. When we ask him to clarify if she sold it or pawned it he doesn’t seem to know the difference but also says it doesn’t matter – she should have talked to him first. When Whitney comes on she says she did try to talk to him but he refuses to ever have hard conversations around money. She says money is incredibly tight and she pawned the ring to literally pay the rent, and she says she will absolutely get it back. Also she points out they have never actually set a date for the wedding even though they got engaged long before the pandemic and she might be more concerned about needing to wear the ring if the wedding was looming. But Whitney is mostly frustrated that Tony wouldn’t talk to her but called a radio station about it. The P1’s think these two can work it out. Well, except this one guy who’s a little obsessed with butt implants.

Erin from Kent has asked us for help with her boyfriend Keith who she says wants her to cook a massive Thanksgiving Dinner for about 20 of their friends when she would rather go see her family. She says she hasn’t seen her family in Portland since Covid started and it’s important to her to spend time with them. Plus, she says his friends have not been particularly responsible; in fact she calls them “a bunch of Covid-infested monsters” who have been out partying a lot and she doesn’t want them crammed into their home. When Keith comes on he says he says his friends are not unsafe – only two of them got Covid and that was a long time ago – and he thinks it’s important to be there for people who can’t go see their families. He admits she’s the cook and yes maybe he “volunteered” her without telling her, but he’d just assumed she wouldn’t go to her parents because that would be too dangerous for them. The P1’s are pretty divided over whether they should Make Up or Break Up but everyone agrees Keith could benefit from better communication skills and a little Door Dash.

Marcus in Edmonds is upset that his girlfriend Kaylie is making extra money by selling her socks online. He thinks it’s dangerous and creepy and also seems concerned it will escalate into other activities like an “Only Fans” page or showing more identifiable body parts. When Kaylie comes on she says it’s really an amazing amount money, socks are less creepy than underwear, and it’s completely safe and anonymous. When Marcus asks what happens when someone offers a gazillion dollars for more, she says he needs to trust her that it’s only socks and nothing more and the socks alone are plenty good money to need any more. And she points out she’s been making his car payments for several months and can’t believe this is the first time he’s asked where the money is coming from; if she quits now, what happens to his car? Several P1’s call and text to help this couple out, although most of the women seem to want to know how to get in on this great gig!

Renee from Renton has been getting excited to go Trick-or-Treating with her son this week, but as the day gets closer, her fiancée Jonathan is getting nervous about it, afraid they are all going to catch COVID. Renee says she is taking a lot of precautions, and they will limit the number places they go, but it’s been such a tough year for the kids she wants them to have just one really special day. When Jonathan comes on, he says there are too many unknowns about how other people are taking precautions and he doesn’t understand why they can’t just make some fun inside the house. In the end though, he says he’s not gonna stop her, but if she goes out, he is going to self-quarantine at a hotel for two weeks. The P1’s wanna know: Where’s the Trust?

This may be one of the most controversial MUBU’s was have ever done. Nick from Olympia is upset that his fiancée Stacy suddenly says she isn’t going to take his last name when they get married. He says she hadn’t ever mentioned it before but as the date gets closer she suddenly decided that it’s too much work and not necessary. Nick says he’s traditional and the name-change should be a given in a marriage, plus he wonders why she would wait so long and blind-side him with it. When we ask him his last name, he says it’s Gracie, which would make her Stacey Gracie, and we wonder if maybe that’s part of the problem. When Stacy comes on, she says, yeah, the rhyme is a little weird, but it’s more about all the work that goes into having to change all the legal documents, plus she just doesn’t see why it’s a big deal – she likes her family name and wants to keep. And she did offer to hyphenate last names, but really feels like its old fashioned for women to be expected to totally change their names. The P1’s go off! Some feel its tradition and taking his name is part of the commitment; others think she’s having second thoughts altogether and isn’t’ really into marriage and others think Nick is way too old fashioned. But we really need to call our Therapist in Renton for Fitz and Claire!

Bonnie from Lakewood has asked us for help with her boyfriend Henry who she says lied to her about what he really did on his guys’ hunting weekend. It was the same weekend as his High School reunion which he told her he had no interest in going to but while he was gone on the hunting trip she saw on social media that he was tagged in several photos at the reunion, including some with his former Homecoming Queen girlfriend. Bonnie says she is not so much mad that he went to the reunion, but that he lied to her – so what else is he lying about? When Henry comes on he says he really didn’t want to go to the reunion and really was out hunting but his hunting buddies thought it would be fun to crash the reunion party and as their trip took them closer and closer to the reunion site, they went to it and he ended up in a bunch of pictures. Henry says it’s not a big deal and Bonnie is blowing it out proportion. He admits he was in pictures with the Homecoming Queen but says High School was a long time ago and he was definitely not interested in ever seeing that woman again. So who do the P1’s believe? Does Henry’s story add up? And where the heck are all the Elk?

Christine from Bothell has asked for our help with her husband Steve. She says they were getting a little flabby due to quarantine so she got them a couples' gym membership that included personal training. But now she's worried that Steve is getting way to close to his trainer. Christine says the trailer, Melissa, is a super cute girl with a really tight "Brazilian work out" butt, and the only reason Steve is going to the gym is to flirt with the girl and look at her butt, and Christine would be more comfortable if Steve chose a different trainer. When Steve comes on he says Christine is being ridiculous. He says he and "Melly", did hit it off but that's really helped him improve his workout and he feels better about himself than he has in years. He says Christine has no reason to be jealous of their relationship, although he can see why she's be jealous of Melly's butt. It's not like we don't all see both sides, but the conversation sure turns when we suggest Christine goes and gets a hot male trainer.

Lisa from Bremerton is really unhappy that her husband Eli went absolutely nuts on the decorations for Halloween. She says he spent money they don’t have and should be saving with every out-of-sorts due to Covid. But when Eli comes on he says Covid is exactly why he is pulling out all the stops this year, because he wants the kids to have just one good, normal thing this year. Eli says Halloween is an important time for kids to be creative and have fun and says the kids would probably be fine with fewer Christmas presents if they can have a super cool Halloween. But Eli also says this whole thing isn’t about money at all, it’s about how Lisa hates Halloween because of her religious upbringing. Lisa doesn’t dispute this – she thinks it’s a Satanic holiday and the whole thing should be scrapped and Eli is really pushing the issue by making it even bigger than it needs to be. Can this relationship be save? Wait until you hear the advice from a P1 from Issaquah who shares her experiences of being possessed.

Robert from Maple Valley has called for help with his girlfriend Gina who is says has not been keeping up with her hygiene during the pandemic. When we press him further it turns out he's not talking about cleanliness, he's complaining specifically that she's not waxing her bikini area and he is totally turned off by it. He says he understands that no one else is seeing it at the beach or anything, but he is seeing it and Gina should consider him important enough to keep up her appearance for him. When Gina comes on, she is surprisingly calm but clearly pissed off that Robert is making such a big deal about this. She says she keeps clean and shaves pretty often but she's not gonna do it every single day. And she reminds us - and Robert - that waxing is not allowed everywhere in salons right now and she's not qualified to do it to herself. But when Robert asks why his friend Josh's wife has been able to get waxed, things get really hairy.

Luke from Arlington has asked us for help with his wife Katie who he overheard telling a friend she had "settled" for him. He says he didn't mean to eavesdrop when Katie was talking to her BFF about the friend's man trouble but he heard Katie say "you shouldn't settle like I did." He says it was like a gut punch after all these years and he is not sure how to get past it, or whether he even wants to. When Katie comes on she says Luke is blowing this way out of proportion. He says the conversation was different than what he heard, and yeah she may have misspoken and used the word "settled" while consoling her friend, but she loves Luke and she wouldn't still be with him after all these years if she didn't. She says Luke is hypersensitive and reacts to things like this all the time and she sounds a bit tired of it. In fact they both sound tired. Luckily for them, we have the full force of you - the P1's - to help try and save this marriage.

Tim from Lake Forest Park has asked for help with his girlfriend Anna who is pregnant with their first child together. He says Anna has always been really into putting their lives on social media and wants everything they do together documented online. He even thinks Anna might’ve gotten pregnant just to have something to post about. Now he’s upset she wants to join the trend of a having a Gender Reveal stunt. Tim says that’s a moment he really wants to be private and not just done for “hits and clicks.” And he points to the brush fire started in California over an irresponsible Gender Reveal stunt and he doesn’t think they should do anything dangerous just for attention. When Anna comes on she agrees she is using Facebook as on online journal and scrapbook. Plus she says with the pandemic making it impossible to see her family, doing it online is a way to have everyone enjoy it together. Anna is really upset at Tim’s claim that she only got pregnant for the Facebook attention. But wait until you hear what he does for attention on our show…!

A married couple has asked for help so we don't want them to Break Up, but they have a major issue with their kids and really need your advice. Matt from Everett has asked for help with his wife Maureen because he says she refuses to get their kids vaccinated against Covid-19. He feels the kids need to get back to school as soon as possible and wants his kids to get vaccinated as soon as it's available, which is hears is going to be pretty soon. When Maureen comes on she says it's too soon - vaccines take time to test and she doesn't want their kids to be the guinea pigs for the vaccine. Matt is concerned for the kids' mental well-being, and says if the vaccine is good enough for the Government then its good enough for him, but Maureen is afraid the Government is politicizing the vaccine and it's not going to be safe if they hurry it along. The P1's come loaded for bear with this one and from all different directions.

Danielle from Lakewood has asked for help with her relationship with her boyfriend Victor. She says he and his best friend have been trying to become YouTube stars in the Jackass style for several years but they aren't very original or good at it and she thinks it's time Victor just got a real career. She says she understands there are people out there who are really successful at this but those people have good ideas and original material and a business plan and Victor and his buddy have none of those and Danielle thinks now that he's 28 years old, he needs to get a life. When Victor comes on, he comes straight after us "Boomers" for even having this conversation and not at all understanding what he's doing and who is he modelling himself after. After trying to drop a whole lotta jokes on us, Victor says believes in himself and is full of optimism for his career and wants no part of any negativity about his future. But...does he actually care at all about his future with Danielle?

Dana from Woodinville has written to us for help with her boyfriend George. She says now that more bars and restaurants are open she is dying to out but he still doesn't think it's a good idea. They first met just days before Covid hit and lockdown happened so even though they've been technically dating for several months they have never actually been on the town together for a real date. She says she knows they have to be careful but thinks he is being too cautious. Plus she knows he has gone out with his guy friends a few times so she is starting to wonder if he just doesn't want to go out in public with her. When George comes on he says Dana is blowing it way out of proportion. He says the times he has gone out were just "necessary" hang outs like a friend's going-away party and helping a guy move and he didn't bring her along because they were "guy" things and she doesn't know any of them. But Dana can't help think that maybe George is hiding her from his friends...or maybe he is hiding someone else from her?

Elisa from Enumclaw has asked us for help with her husband Brayden. Now, we don't want to break up a married couple but Elisa has a major problem and she really wants your help: she is pregnant and having a boy and they are trying to decide on a name. Brayden had a brother named Maxwell who passed away and he has always said when he had a boy he would name him for his brother. But Elisa has an abusive ex named Max and she absolutely cannot handle having a child with that name. She is looking for a compromise. But when Braydon comes on he says it's not up for debate - it will happen. He says Elisa is over-reacting and her ex couldn't have been that bad. He says this is important to his whole family and she will just need to find a way to get over her past. And in case you're wondering...the brother's middle name is no help...

Vanessa from Kent has asked for our advice with her boyfriend Carl who she thinks is still way too close to his college girlfriend. Vanessa says this girl is not just all over his social media all the time bringing up "the old days" but sometimes shows up to parties they go to, or even restaurants, and sometimes it's Carl that has invited her and she feels like it's a "Throuple". When Carl comes on he says, yeah, he and Shelby are still close, but they've been friends since their days as Drum Majors at UW, which is a really tight community, and they still have a lot of friends in common. He says they are not like "real" exes because they are better as pals than they ever were as boyfriend-girlfriend, and he doesn't think its fair he should have to stop being friends - he loves Vanessa and she needs to just stop worrying. The P1's debate this one pretty hard - can you really ever just stay "friends" with your ex? Or is Vanessa overreacting? And is the real problem that Carl is a Husky and not a Coug?

Shirley from Shelton has asked us for help with her boyfriend Cliff who she says absolutely refuses to vote in the upcoming election. She says she understands that they have different opinions about the candidates and issues but it's his duty as an American to vote no matter what you believe. But when Cliff comes on he says this is a trap - he says she is rabid about her political beliefs and her "red hat" and he is just tired of her talking about it "all the freakin' time". He has lost all interest is politics or voting or talking about it or even thinking about it. The P1's get super up fired at both of these two, coming at them from Left, Right and Center!

Miranda from Lynnwood has called for help with her boyfriend Eddie. She says they are in a Zoom Game Group with a bunch of other friends that are in couples. Miranda is able to go out to work at her office each day but Eddie is home all day, and Miranda came home a few days ago and found Eddie Zooming with one of the women from the group and now she’s worried he’s cheating. The other woman has a boyfriend, and she knows Eddie hasn’t actually left the house much, but Miranda wonders if even just a private Zoom conversation is a sign that he wants to get with the woman in real life. When Eddie comes on he says he is just a competitive guy and there is nothing more to his meetups with the woman than practicing the games. And he says he didn’t even want to play the Zoom games in the first place, that Miranda talked him into it, but now that he’s doing it he hates to lose.

Austin from Marysville has asked us for help with his girlfriend Rebecca who he says is a compulsive Little White Liar. He says at first it didn't seem like a big deal, like saying her parents were millionaires when they weren't, and other little tiny things, like saying she was at the grocery store when she was really at the nail salon. But now it seems she does it all the time to the point where he is starting to wonder if she ever tells the truth about anything. When Rebecca comes on she says Austin is exaggerating. She admits embellishing her background at the beginning of a relationship but says everyone does that at first, and with Austin is was especially hard because he is not easy to impress. But also she says he is often questioning her choices, like spending money on the nail salon, so she lies and says grocery store to keep him from nagging her. But when Austin reveals a story Rebecca put out on Facebook, it gets a little harder to tell what exactly is really going on here.

Graham from Puyallup has asked us for help with his girlfriend Maggie who he says is jealous of his relationship with his sister. Graham says he and his sister have been super close all of their lives and she’s pretty much his best friend. He says his sister is a great person and he doesn’t understand why Maggie doesn’t like having her around. When Maggie comes on she says she likes Graham’s sister just fine, but she is always over at the house, sometimes 3-4 times a week for dinner, without giving Maggie any advanced warning, almost like a third member of the relationship. He also seeks his sister’s opinion on every aspect of their relationship and sometimes she knows about big news in his life before she does. Maggie makes a good case, and Graham also seems reasonable at first, but then he gets super defensive and, we hate to say it, kinda weird…

Michelle from Federal Way has asked for help with her boyfriend Chuck. She says his friends are constantly hitting on her and making lewd comments about her body and Chuck never defends her or asks them to back off. She says while at first she was flattered by the attention, now it’s just annoying. Plus the fact that Chuck’s not stepping in makes her wonder if he cares anymore. When Chuck comes on he says these are his best buds in the world and while they may talk “guy talk”, they would never intentionally do anything to hurt him or to hurt her. And he says she has never told him it bothers her. She seems stunned that he hasn’t noticed how bad it is. But when one of Chuck’s bros calls in to the show, he claims Michelle is inviting the attention with the stuff she posts on social media and is basically encouraging Chuck’s friends to hit on her. If you think it’s testy between Michelle and Chuck, wait until you hear Drew and Claire.

Elizabeth has asked us for help with her boyfriend Cliff who is 13 years younger than her. She is 44 and he is 31 and they have been together for 3 years. She fell in love with him because she says he’s mature and interesting and they fit really well together. She says his friends have always joked about her being an older woman but now it has turned more serious, with them not just embarrassing her with gag gifts like Depends and calling her Granny, but now they are actively trying to fix him up with other women, sometimes right in front of her. She says she knows Cliff loves her but when they do that stuff he just laughs along with them and she really wants him to defend her in front of them. When Cliff comes on, he says he knows his guys are jackasses, but thinks their goal is to make fun of him, not her, that’s just what guys do. He thinks she needs to lighten up and see the humor, and also thinks she is trying to separate him from his buddies.

Sean from Snohomish says his girlfriend Allison can’t cook worth a lick and he wants our help finding ways to encourage her to get better at it. He says they get take out so much that it’s getting expensive and he is gaining a lot of weight. He wants her to take some lessons or at least put some effort into getting better at it. When we ask why he doesn’t cook, he says he works 50 hours a week and she works from home and has more time. When Allison comes on she says she has NEVER been interested in cooking and made that clear to him from Day One and she doesn’t understand why he is suddenly making a big deal. But when Sean reveals that he saw a Facebook Memory of her cooking a big dinner for her Ex three years ago, both of their stories start to fall apart and the P1’s are there to pounce.

This one gets very emotional. Olivia from Lake Stevens has written for guidance because her boyfriend Eric has a tattoo of his son who passed way, which she understands, but it’s a poorly done tattoo. She says it is coming between them when they get intimate because it looks like a “little goblin”. She has offered to pay for him to have it redone, but he refuses because it means too much to him as it is. When Eric comes on he says he understands her feelings, and has even seriously considered having it redone, but can’t bring himself to do it because his son was still alive when he had it done and the little boy loved it. They are both very calm and reasonable and have deeply thought this through but they just can’t meet up on it. Can the P1’s help? Is Olivia being selfish or is Eric being stubborn? Can anything ever heal the hurt of a lost child?

We’ve been getting a lot of couples with this exact problem: Jenn from Olympia is fed up with her husband Brandon’s obsession with TikTok. She says TikTok is for kids and he should not be on it nearly as much as he is, and while she says some of the things he does are funny, she thinks he is totally embarrassing himself, like dancing shirtless with his Dad Bod. And Jenn says Brandon has their daughter doing inappropriate thing like Twerking. But when Brandon comes on he says TikTok fulfills two really important functions: he is actually spending quality fun time with their 13-year-old doing something they both enjoy - which is hard to find with preteens - and he says TikTok is helping to keep him relevant on Social Media for his business. The P1’s are pretty divided along pro-TikTok-anti-TikTok lines, but we all seem to agree that Brandon may want to rethink the way he his promoting his business.

This one’s a doozy: Claudia from Buckley has asked Fitz for help with her husband Stuart who she says has hired a way-too-hot tutor for their kids. She says with everything going on with quarantine and working from home, she put Stuart in charge of finding a tutor for their kids to help them keep up with home schooling and distance learning. According to Claudia, Stuart looked on social media and found a hot 22-year-old with big boobs to just be eye candy. But when Stuart comes on, he says he interviewed 8 different potential tutors, and this one – Megan – has as good of qualifications as any of them, but also has the skills of younger people with making and posting videos, troubleshooting Zoom, and other things he says an “old school marm” can’t do. Claudia is skeptical that he couldn’t find someone the same age but less attractive. And then…she brings up some former babysitter she eludes was an “issue” with Stuart. We never get the full story on that babysitter, but the P1’s agree that whether or not Stuart cheated or Claudia is just paranoid, these two have a bigger problem than home schooling. And wait ‘til you hear the perspective of a P1 named “The Hot Nanny”.

Tiffany from Renton has asked Fitz for help because she’s pretty fed up with her boyfriend Brett. She cosigned on a loan for fully loaded $70,000 pickup truck he said would be ideal to use for renovating their home as well as for work projects. But after a couple of weeks she just found out he’s been renting trucks for all that work because he doesn’t want to scratch and devalue the truck. She is upset not just about the money but also because he has been hiding that from her. When Brett comes on, he says the truck is an investment in their future and he needs to keep it in good shape to keep its value. He says he is thinking long-term about it being the safest vehicle to carry their future children, as well as it’s usefulness for camping trips and such. When we question him about the lying, he is a bit evasive, but he does make a compelling argument about the truck’s long-term value versus the cost or rentals. But when the talk turns to the cost and value of an engagement ring, the wheels come off.

Alexander from Bothell has asked us for help with his girlfriend Stephanie and her obsession with filters on social media. He was at first concerned but is now actually annoyed that she can’t seem to post a normal regular picture of herself because he feels like it’s dishonest. He says even when he posts something she takes it down and redoes it and reposts it. When Stephanie comes on, the story becomes quite different. She says she does it because she is bothered by her chronic acne, something she says Alexander reminds her of constantly. The P1’s at first agree with Alexander about the annoying overuse of filters but Oh, Man, do they turn on him when Stephanie’s poor self-esteem comes straight at us.

Hunter from Bremerton needs our help, and fast, with this fiancée Sierra, who he is afraid is going to stay his fiancée and never become his wife. Like a lot of Northwest couples, they had a big, beautiful wedding planned for late summer that has now been put on hold due to COVID. Hunter says they agreed to delay the big wedding until next year, but he still wants to get legally married now and she doesn’t. He says Sierra thinks a quick courthouse wedding will make the big party wedding feel fake to her and ruin it. But Hunter says the wedding itself is not nearly as meaningful as the commitment. When Sierra comes on she says she had dreamt of this day since she was a little girl, and she wants it to feel perfect and not like a sham. She says they’ve been together so long they don’t need the piece of paper and one more year won’t matter. It all seems nice and workable until suddenly Hunter gets emotional and Sierra gets very, very chilly.

Hannah from Tacoma has asked Fitz for help with her boyfriend Robert who she says is always pointing out the way she smells. He says it’s not body odor so much as just a specific smell she has. She doesn’t smell it and neither do any of her friends and after about 4 months of extra showering and trying several perfumes and body scents, Robert admitted he made it up on the advice of his father who told him it was a technique for keeping women a little insecure so they stay around. When Robert comes on, he says he never said she stank, he just noted her personal odor, and he says he dad always taught him it’s important to keep women from becoming complacent in the relationship, and to remind her that she isn’t any better than him cuz, after all, he says stuff about him too, right? And Robert says it’s worked with other girlfriends – but has it, Robert? Really? There is at least P1 who thinks Robert has the right idea but the overwhelming majority think its Robert who stinks.

Miley from Enumclaw has asked us for help with her man Joey who she thinks needs a fashion intervention. She says Joey has been tearing the sleeves off all his shirts to make home-made tank tops, which generally is a nice “country” look”, but she doesn’t think Joey has the arms to pull it off and is embarrassing himself. When Joey comes on he says the idea he is doing it for fashion is stupid, it’s just hot out and he likes to enjoy the summer weather and cool off a bit with short sleeves. But he does say he’s worried that if she is more concerned with how he looks than how he feels, then maybe he she doesn’t love him as much as he loves her. The P1’s have a lot to say to Miley about self-image and unconditional love, but we all agree that cut-off sleeves and Jorts are what make America great!

Eddie from Sumner has written in to us for help with his girlfriend Diane who he says has been waking up in the middle of the night saying other guys’ names. He says she didn’t do it when they first got together so he’s concerned that she’s dreaming about other guys, and if she’s dreaming about them, well then, what else is happening with them? And he’s pretty sure she is dreaming about someone he doesn’t know because he doesn’t recognize the names, like other friends or TV characters. When Diane comes on, she says Eddie is being completely ridiculous; she is not cheating and can’t be judged on what she dreams. The P1’s agree that it’s weird that Diane says other dudes’ names while sleeping, but they don’t think that’s anything to act on. But as for this whole relationship? They may both be dreaming if they think it’s gonna work.

Tiffany from Bellevue has asked us for help with her boyfriend Ken, although more specifically the problem is with Ken’s son with his ex-wife. She says the little boy is really acting out against her over Ken’s divorce. She says at first the son was just rude to her, but now he is verbally abusive and sometimes violent. She feels bad for the little boy because she knows he is frustrated over his parents’ divorce but it has escalated to where she doesn’t feel safe around him and she needs Ken to address it with the boy, and probably the boy’s mom who Tiffany suspects is fueling the boy’s anger. When Ken comes on, he acknowledges the boy’s behavior is bad and says he has talked to him and will do it again. But Ken also says Tiffany is not totally blameless because she fuels some of the fight back to the mom. We get a TON of calls on this one as a lot the P1’s feel bad for Ken but think he’s the one who needs to get a handle this. Although…little boy aside…Tiffany and Ken may have some other lurking issue.

Tom from Renton has asked for help with his girlfriend Sophia who he says is mad at him for doing something he thought was really nice. It seems Sophia owed a bunch of money to her ex-boyfriend and was paying it off in installments so Tom went ahead and paid it all off. Tom says he thinks the guy was just using the debt as an excuse to keep in contact with Sophia so he figured this was a good way to end that and he doesn’t understand why she’s so mad. When Sophia comes on she says this wasn’t Tom’s issue to deal with and he stepped over the line when he paid the debt without asking. And she disputes his theory that the ex was using it to hang on to her – it was her decision to pay it in installments because it was a business-related debt and she wanted a clean record of payment. Now she just feels like owes Tom a bunch of money and thinks maybe this is all about control. The P1’s are pretty divided as to whether the ex was really just keeping her hanging on and also whether these two should Make Up or Break Up, but everyone seems to agree Tom has some control issues.

Eve from Federal Way has asked us for help with her boyfriend Derek who she says is chronically late. She says she feels disrespected because he is especially late to things that are important to her, but is usually on time, or even early, for things that are important to him. Her examples include him being late picking up their children and to parties she throws, but being hours early for his Seahawks tailgates with his buddies. When Derek comes on he says Eve is just picking out isolated incidents and making a huge deal out of nothing.He says he knows about the tailgates because they are on a calendar but picking up kids is usually last minute and easy to forget. The P1’s are split – some think Derek is being disrespectful of Eve’s time, others think he is just unintentionally flaky and have suggestions for how he can get more organized. But we ALL agree that Fitz’s unusual brand of “Kiss Therapy” is one of the weirdest things we’ve ever heard.

Janine from Puyallup has called in for help with her fiancée Eddie. She says he is letting his beef with another neighborhood dad stand between her son and that dad’s son, who is his little best friend. She says Eddie doesn’t want the kid exposed to this jerk because he has said stuff about Janine and refuses to apologize. When Eddie comes on, he says Janine doesn’t understand how bad this other guy is, and the things he says about her body, especially her butt, and it’s all inappropriate language for a man to be using in front of kids so he doesn’t want his son over there hearing that. Janine says Eddie is too jealous and sensitive about what men think about her bootie, and he needs to rise above his insecurities to meet the needs of his son who needs his best friend. This one gets us - and the P1’s - ALL riled up over a myriad of issues, but in the end, is it a Make Up or Break Up?!

Ben from Auburn has asked us for help with his girlfriend Angela who he says wants to start an “Only Fans” account in which she would livestream herself showing and doing…things...for money. He says she needs money since she lost her job during the Pandemic, and thinks it will be an easy way to make a lot of it. Ben is not down with this, even though she says she won’t show her face, so no one will know she is, because he feels it’s the same as if she were actually with other guys. When Angela comes on, she says Ben is over-reacting. She says it’s totally safe, she has several friends doing it making a ton of money, and since she has no distinguishing birthmarks or tattoos no one will ever know it’s her. But can she keep up those limits? And does that matter – it’s her body, can’t she do what she wants with it? Is Ben just being insecure? Should they Make Up or Break Up? And what exactly did Claire just admit to?

Damon from Bremerton has called for help with his girlfriend Angela who he says is a total Daddy’s Girl. He says she is way too dependent on her father for his opinions about everything in their lives, including their vacations. He says before COVID even hit they had to cancel a “once in a lifetime” trip to Africa because her dad didn’t like the idea. And pretty much every vacation they have ever taken was because her dad strongly suggested it like skiing in Vail and Whistler. Then Damon admits Angela’s dad has actually been paying for these trips, and we start to wonder how Damon thinks he is going to get her to stop being less dependent then they are both still taking Daddy’s money. When Angela comes on, she says her parents are very important to her and she really does value her dad’s opinion. And she thinks Damon is just jealous of her relationship with her dad because he never really had one with his own father. And the P1’s weigh in on this: in this day and age, do you still have to ask a father for permission to propose to a woman?

Tom from Lynwood has written for help with his girlfriend Tiffany. He’s upset because before COVID hit they planned to take a summer vacation together. But after 3 months of quarantine, Tiffany says when they are allowed to travel she is going on a girls’ trip with her friends instead. Tom thinks that ain’t right – she should want to spend their first time “out in the world” together and he is really hurt that she doesn’t want to. When Tiffany comes on she emphasizes how much she loves him but that they have really, really, really been in each other’s pockets all this time and she is honestly a little tired of seeing him every day. She says it’s healthier for couples to spend a little time apart and wants him to go take a trip with his boys. Some of the P1’s agree with Tiffany and think Tom is too clingy (and can’t wait to get away from their own spouses!) but others think she and her girl’s may have something - or someone - a little “extra” planned!

Kayla from Olympia has asked for help with her husband Joe who she says is feeding their son too much junk food. She says Joe uses fast food and ice cream as rewards and fun “Dad/Son Time” and the boy is getting really heavy. She says in the past few months he has gained about 20 pounds and she’s worried that when school starts up again he is going to be teased, but also she fears for his long-term health. And to make matters worse, Joe is encouraging the boy’s video game playing and not any kind of sports or outdoor exercise. When Joe comes on, he says Kayla is overreacting, that every kid in the neighborhood has gained weight during Quarantine, and this spring and summer have been so hard with all their sports and activities, cancelled that the boy needs some pick-me-ups to feel better and have some fun. Joe is also upset that she’s fat-shaming their son although she insists she has never said anything to the son about his weight, only to Joe. And then suddenly we get a view of what Kayla thinks of Joe’s weight and what Joe thinks of Kayla’s helicopter parenting

Maureen from Mill Creek has asked us for help with her boyfriend Kevin. She thinks Kevin’s female boss is after him, because she calls him a lot, sometimes late at night, and has nicknames for him, including “handsome”. And to add to Maureen’s suspicions, sometimes Kevin goes into a different room to talk to the Boss Lady. When Kevin comes on, he says the boss doesn’t call nearly as often as Maureen says, but admits she does call a lot because it is the nature of their business, which he says moves very fast. Kevin says he calls all the workers a lot, but his view is that she especially calls him a lot because he is a valued employee. And he says she calls all the men “handsome.” This sparks a big debate about male vs female bosses as well as whether flirting is an appropriate way to get a raise, but what about the main question: can they Make Up or should they Break Up?

Alexa from Shelton has asked Fitz for help with her boyfriend Ryan. Before COVID, they had been planning a big vacation for the summer which had to be cancelled. Fortunately they were able to get back the several thousands of dollars they had already paid for it. Unfortunately, at least according to Alexa, Ryan used most of it to jack up his truck. She says he has always loved his truck and put a lot of his own money into it, but this time she feels it was their joint money that went into something that is only for him to enjoy. When Ryan comes on he says Alexa is missing the big picture on how he did this for both of them: he says since COVID he no longer wants the kind of vacation where you fly somewhere and stay in hotels; now he would rather go off-roading and camping and that’s why he needed to outfit the truck not just with better suspension but with better gear inside and out. But is the truck really the issue? Because the P1’s seem to think it’s more about who controls the money.

Roger from Spanaway has asked for help with his girlfriend Melissa who he says has formed an unusually close relationship with his mother. He says at first he was glad they hit at off but now they are practically BFF’s. Roger feels weird that his mom is the one telling Melissa about his exes and important moments of his life instead of him which. And they hang out so much that Roger feels like he basically has to fight with his mom for Melissa’s time. When Melissa comes on she says she has no idea what the problem is and wouldn’t it be worse if they hated each other? She thought he would love that they hit it off so well and it’s been a great bonus for her personally because Diane, Roger’s mom, is a great person and they share a lot of similar interests. And then Diane calls in to the show! First of all she is a P1 and is pretty excited that her “baby boy” is on the radio. She confirms she and Melissa are clearly BFF’s and calls her the “daughter I never had”. She admits she never liked any of his other girlfriends before but thinks Melissa “a keeper” and thinks he should propose

Amber from Edmonds is asking for our help with her boyfriend Kevin. She says Kevin has been reaching out to his ex-girlfriend, and the ex-girlfriend has been over-reaching back, so much that Amber thinks she is trying to get him back. She says she knows the original contact had something to do with getting some family pictures, which she understands, but that could have been done in one conversation and an email, not multiple conversations and not needing late night private phone calls. When Kevin comes on, he says his grandfather recently passed away and his family is putting together an online memorial, and his ex has a lot of really great pictures. When Fitz questions why that would require more than one phone call, he says the woman keeps finding more pictures so she calls to ask if he wants them and they end up talking about good times. When Amber asks why this needs late-night phone calls, Kevin says she is a busy woman and that’s when she has time, and since she is doing him a favor he doesn’t want to be rude. But the P1’s are absolutely not buying what Kevin is selling.

Nicole from Issaquah is having a problem with her husband Josh that she says is damaging their relationship with their daughter. Nicole says Josh is totally up in the 17-year-old girl’s business all the time, not just watching her social media but also following her on dates with her boyfriend. Nicole says the girl is so upset that she has only applied to colleges in Florida, which the girl says is the farthest away she can get from her father, something she never even considered before this year. When Josh comes on, he says he is merely trying to protect their daughter from what he knows are the true intentions of teenage boys. He says he is sure to stay back far enough when they are out so they have privacy but he wants to be available in case of trouble. As far as the social media, Josh says it’s a different world now and thinks Nicole is naïve to not read everything the kids are saying and doing.