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I was reflected about forgiveness when it dawned on me that there family discords that took part in our absence but we have accepted as our own. Hating on your dad's sibling because they has an off relationship with your dad but you don't have any backdrop of what caused that. Inheriting beef we know nothing about to validate how much we will ride for a person. let's talk about it

It's 2025 and we are back on this platform or serving. Today I wanted to share with you about on of God's beautiful creations, the concept of time. A relevant conversation as we step into a brand new season. Are you one of the people who just thinks 2025 is just another year with a different number at the end or do you feel renewed whenever stepping into a new season? Let's talk about it

This is very last episode of 2024 thanks for riding with me. This episode was inspired by a conversation between 2 friend, come on and join in.

I used to HIGHLY dislike listening to conversations of adults sharing hoe they were staying in relationships for kids. Like heck own up to your choices, you are are choosing to stay. But I recently had a Mind challenge, I found a grey area and realized it doesn't need to be either or. Let's talk about it

How many of us are in conversation with our bodies about consumption? Not just the conversation about dying in hunger or being so full that you feel sick. But in the conversation that allows your body to share with you that it has had just enough or that the 1 glass of cooldrink we had was okay we didn't need a second one or that your water intake has been doing wonders and you need to do more of that. Alot of us are influenced by what is acceptable rather than what our bodies need eg. being told having good manners is finishing all your food but no one had bothered to ask you about your serving preferences. let's talk about it

As we head into the season of summer bodies and near a new year where everyone has wants to reach their body goals, I wonder what feeds our ideas around consumption. I believe we are able to serve our bodies well and hit our desired milestones when we've had a seat with the unspoken rules that guide our consumption. Let's talk about it

Chapter 2 review of my fave read this year

Can't believe I'm outta school and I'm doing a book review

Ever met someone who is hectically particular about how things should be done? A person who believes there is a wrong and right way to sweep, fold the laundry, sit on a sofa, make the bed? Well shoot this episode in their direction or better yet if it's you let's talk.

In this episode I was struck by some heavy emotions of gratitude when looking at where I was exactly a year ago. Get some tissue and let's talk about it

In this episode I continue to share some lessons I've learnt from my dating and relationship experiences. let's talk about it

In this episode I share the lessons that I have learnt from my dating experiences and from my environment. Take it as a conversation with your sister and pointers to consider in your current or future dating experience.

Regularly I've seen women share how God has told them a particular gentleman is their husband. Some were right on the mark whilst others missed it. As we deal with societal pressures of building families vs our own desires, one must ask themselves where is that fine line between holding faith and being delulu in believing a specific individual is your life partner. Let's talk about it

I saw a post that shared about how easy it is to share bad news with friends but it longer feels safe to share your wins or good news. It had me looking at my own friends and what type of space I hold for them. AND if you know anything about me, you know I believe in friendships so let's talk about it

Ever been frustrated at how long people take to make decisions from little things like ordering food to their stance on a particular matter? Well this episode is for you

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How much do you value being in relationships with people who can stand up and fight for you? Do you think you sharing life with people who can fight for you, speaks to how much they value you? When my community does not stand up for me in ways that make sense to me mean I should cut em off? Let's talk about it

In this episode I'm giving language to a part of me I've struggled with for a long time.

Ever gotten to know a person who has always been around you and thought to yourself, "Why didn't I connect with this person earlier?" Sometimes we are so busy looking for people in certain roles to serve us, that we miss out on individuals who are more than willing. Let's talk about it

In this episode, we discuss the "what if's" of life.

One of the most powerful things we can do in this season of trying again is deciding the kind of environment we will provide for our relationships. Deciding before having that tough conversation that you'll be a safe person. Whether you have strong feelings about what is being said, you'll allow people the safety to express themselves without fear of your reaction. Being a safe person for people brings such intentionality in our interactions. Let's talk about it

In this episode, I'm sharing how we allow ourselves grace but have difficulty extending it to others. This presents itself in our families, friendships with our romantic relationships. And if these relationships had been difficult seeing someone change something they have challenged you on can foster some pettiness, resentment or even jealousy. Let's talk about it

This is a new year, and we are doing new things. We have a theme for the new year zamokuhle, let's unpack it

Ever find yourself postponing certain goals until you are in some ideal financial space? Well, in this episode, we discuss a variety of goals in the different spheres of life that don't cost you. So let's talk about it

We have made it to the closing episode of the year, and we are reflecting on it. Have you been served well by UPhilile the podcast? I thank you for your choosing to be served by this platform. You are valued. You are appreciated. You are seen. So choose life, khetha ukuphila.

This episode is a continuation of the episodes "Is closure a pre-requisite for forgiveness" and "The price of forgiveness." In this episode, we share about apologizing and communicating it. Apologizing is a tool that restores safety, trust and the relationship on the right track. So here is some tips on how to apologize with authenticity.

For a long time, I prided myself in my ability to not be affected by things. People could come and go and I wouldn't be moved. Life could throw the toughest challenges, and I kept it moving. Then it dawned on me that I'd become numb to life. Moreover, I'd accepted it as my identity and called it not being overly sensitive. Now I'm on my journey re-igniting my sensitivity and I'd love for you to join me.

In this episode, I unpack what God has taught me about Himself. I hope it serves you well

In this episode, I share my second lesson in for the year 26. I unpack on how I built the awareness of the weak points in my family. God brought me to an alertness of the struggles and the challenges my family has and how I would need to cultivate the fruit of self control/ discipline to ensure those curses ended with me.

In this episode, we discuss the blurred lines between the act of the new age manifestation and faith. How far is to far when it comes to believing for a certain desire to come to pass?

In this conversation, we unpack how listening goes beyond just the sense of hearing. Let's talk about how you can be more objective when hearing information and allow the people who communicate with feel safe.

In this conversation, we share about the other things that matter in communication, such as your tone, face and the environment. We share about how these elements can contribute to engaging in the most meaningful way. Let's talk about it

This episode is aimed at individuals who have the itch to share everything that is on their mind and attend everything that requires a viewpoint. I heard someone say, " It's important to have intellectual standards, know which conversations require your input, and which don't." Let's talk about it.

A couple of years ago, I did an episode about learning how asking for help. Now I'm in a season where I'm embracing receiving even the help I haven't even asked for. But what is most important is how you show up when you are being helped, so let's talk about it.

Have you ever been in a relationship where a person constantly complained about the way you were showing up for them? I have, but I genuinely felt I was doing my best, but it wasn't received well. Yesterday, I was vindicated. I was taught just because someone thinks you aren't doing it right, doesn't mean you aren't doing it at all. Let's talk about it further

Finding the language to communicate our boundaries is very important, but because of the way some of us were raised, we result quicker to cutting people out of our lives. When you communicate your boundary, you enable the people in a relationship with you an opportunity to learn how to show up better for you. Inevitably loving you better.

In this episode, we discuss the different types of boundaries and the different situations in which they apply. Let's talk about it

In this episode, we speak about building the awareness that there is a point where we end and the next person begins. In a society where self is praised we can make the mistake of overflowing ourselves into the lives of those closest to us. In this conversation we share about staying curious and alert to those that are around us so close relationships feel safe to evolve around us.

In this episode I share about the experience of having relationships but in the shadows of a dominant personality. Let's talk about it

Have you ever disqualified yourself from something you desired cause you weren't "healed enough"? In this conversation, we discuss whether there is this ideal destination of healing. Whether it is fair to equate how worthy you are of something good to how far you are with your healing. Is success only available to us when we are fully healed ? Let's talk about it

In this conversation, we discuss the notion of being shamed for being tired. Can I be grateful for a season and allowed moments to feel tired? Let's talk about it and the different ways in which you can rest.

The conversations we have in our heads about our appearance are important. I've learned about Body positive affirmations and Body neutral affirmations, no one is wrong or better than the other just different solutions for different days. *Body positive: speaks to building for love your appearance as you are *Body neutral: speaks to appreciating your body for its functionality rather than appearance. Let's make that progress to building a healthy relationship with that reflection in the mirror.

What are your base beliefs about the relationships you allow into your life? Do you declare yourself as the person who always attracts the emotionally unavailable partners ? Do you believe there's no such thing as a genuine friend ? Do you believe you are better off alone in this life? Our foundational beliefs and thought life influence the people we find ourselves surrounded by, so let us ensure we have our relational beliefs speak to our highest self.

What or who taught you to be confident and to recognize your self worth. So much of what life teaches us should be a build-up on what was positively spoken over us in our young ages. Unfortunately, being positively affirmed was not the reality of everyone's childhood so where our parents have missed the mark we have to re-parent ourselves. Cheers to building up our confidence and recognizing our value.

This week's affirmations are a set of wealth affirmations. Where I challenge your underlying beliefs that surround wealth. What is wealth to you? Do you feel like the accumulation of resources is sinful? What character traits are valuable for a wealthy person? What are the underlying responsibilities for a person with greater resources?

This is a set of affirmations centered around calming your emotions when you are feeling overwhelmed, anxious or worried about something beyond your control.

This is the start of a new series of affirmations. How is your thought life? What conversations are you allowing to roam your mind? In whatever season we are in, it is important that we build an awareness of the conversations in our mind, and if it isn't the right conversations, ensure we rewrite them.

This is the last episode of this series, and it's important to discuss this notion of the inside marriage and outside marriage kids talk. We might ignore the pain associated with Step parents as we grow but what we failed to address with them most people revenge with siblings and generations to come. So let's talk about it

After tackling the child and step parents' perspective, it only makes sense to have the parent follow suit. The parents have great responsibility that they sometimes don't take full acknowledgment of as the reason this step parent relationship is happening. With greater work on their end as the facilitator, they can help all parties feel seen and filled, thus leading to a lesser chance of turmoil in the step parent relationship. Step parent relationships would stand a better chance if instead of basking in the attention, the parent understood their part as a middleman.