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I've never highlighted a book as much as They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship.  It's my favorite book in 2025! Watch the Video Interview Author Dr. Isabelle Morley gives us a timely book that rejects the reckless proliferation of the following terms:  Sociopath Psychopath Love bomb Narcissist Boundaries Borderline Toxic Gaslighting Who is Dr. Isabelle Morley? Dr. Morley is not a chronic gaslighter trying to convince the world that she doesn't gaslight by writing a book about it. Here's her resume: Author of Navigating Intimacy and They're Not Gaslighting You Co-host of the podcast Romcom Rescue Contributor to Psychology Today Advisory Board Member of the Keepler app Founding Board Member of UCAN Member of the American Psychological Association Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) The Gottman Method – Completed Levels 1 and 2 Relational Life Therapy – Completed Level 1 PsyD in Clinical Psychology from William James College, 2015 Doctoral project researching hookup culture's impact on relationship formation, 2015 Master's in Professional Psychology from William James College, 2013 Bachelor of Arts from Tufts University, 2011 My Fatima Story I dated a woman for two years. Let's call her Fatima. In the second half of our relationship, Fatima bombarded me with many of the highly charged and often misused words listed above. After she dumped me the fifth and final time, I finally pushed back on her barrage of accusations. I said to her, “So, you truly believe I'm a narcissist? Let's look up the clinical definition of a narcissist and see how I stack up.” She agreed. Perplexity wrote: To be clinically considered as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) according to the DSM-5, an individual must exhibit at least five out of nine specific characteristics. These characteristics, as summarized by the acronym “SPECIAL ME,” include: Sense of self-importance Exaggerating achievements and expecting to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements. Preoccupation Being preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love Entitled Having unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations. Can only be around people who are important or special Believing that they are “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions). Interpersonally exploitative Taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends. Arrogant Showing arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes. Lack empathy Being unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. Must be admired Requiring excessive admiration. Envious Often being envious of others or believing that others are envious of them. These symptoms must be pervasive, apparent in various social situations, and consistently rigid over time. A qualified healthcare professional typically diagnoses NPD through a clinical interview. The traits should also substantially differ from social norms. I asked her how many of these nine characteristics I exhibited consistently, pervasively, and in many social situations. She agreed that I was nowhere near five of the nine. Admittedly, I sometimes exhibited some of these nine characteristics in my intimate relationship with Fatima. I'm certainly guilty of that. However, to qualify as a true narcissist, you must display at least five of these nine characteristics often and with most people, not just your partner. To her credit, my ex-girlfriend sheepishly backed down from that accusation, saying, “You're right, Francis, you're not a narcissist.” Later, I would educate her (or, as she would say, “mansplain”) about another of her favorite words: gaslighting. I mansplained by sending her a video clip of renowned couples therapist Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, who explained why standard disagreements and having different perspectives aren't gaslighting. Soon after explaining that, Mrs. Gottman explains why, in some ways, “everybody is narcissistic.” Watch 6 minutes from 1:35:30 to 1:41:30: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9kPmiV0B34&t=5730s After listening to an expert define gaslighting, Fatima apologized for incorrectly using the term. This is what I loved about Fatima: she wouldn't stubbornly cling to her position when presented with compelling evidence to the contrary. This is a rare trait I cherish. Narcissists and sociopaths are about 1% of the population, so it's highly unlikely that all your exes are narcissists and sociopaths. Still, Fatima flung other popular, misused terms at me. She loved talking about “boundaries” and “red flags.” According to Dr. Morley, my ex “weaponized therapy speak.”   Dr. Morley writes, “It's not a new phenomenon for people to use therapy terms casually, even flippantly, to describe themselves or other people. How long have we referred to someone as a ‘psycho' when they're acting irrationally or being mean?” Although weaponized therapy speak isn't new, it's ubiquitous nowadays. Dr. Morley's book sounds the alarm that it's out of control and dangerous. Three types of people would benefit from Dr. Morley's book: People like Fatima: Does someone you know tend to denigrate people using therapy speak? Are they intelligent, rational, and open-minded like Fatima? If so, they must read this book to recalibrate how they use these powerful words. People like me: Are you (or someone you know) accused of being a psychopath, a gaslighter, or a person with OCD? Actual victims: The explosion of use of these powerful words has diluted their meaning. As a result, the real victims of narcissists and sociopaths are now belittled. Their true suffering is minimized when every other person has a sociopath in their life. Their grievances are severe. Let's not equate our relationship problems with their terror. I'll list some of my favorite chapter titles, which will give you a flavor of the book's message: Chapter 4: Are They Gaslighting You, or Do They Just Disagree? Chapter 5: Do They Have OCD, or Are They Just Particular? Chapter 6: Is It a Red Flag, or Are They Just Imperfect? Chapter 7: Are They a Narcissist, or Did They Just Hurt Your Feelings? Chapter 9: Are They a Sociopath, or Do They Just Like You Less Than you Like Them? Chapter 11: Did They Violate Your Boundaries, or Did They Just Not Know How You Felt? I will quote extensively to encourage everyone to buy Dr. Mosley's book. Most quotations are self-explanatory, but sometimes I will offer personal commentary. Excerpts The trend of weaponized therapy speak marks something very different. These days, clinical words are wielded, sincerely and self-righteously, to lay unilateral blame on one person in a relationship while excusing the other from any wrongdoing. ========== Many times, we use these words as protective measures to help us avoid abusive partners and reduce our risk of “wasting” time or emotional energy on family or friends who don't deserve it. But using these terms can also absolve people from taking responsibility for their actions in their relationships. They can say, “I had to do that because of my obsessive-compulsive disorder” or “We didn't work out because she's a narcissist,” instead of doing the hard work of seeing their part in the problem and addressing the issues behind it. As a couples therapist, I'm particularly concerned with how the enthusiastic but inaccurate embrace of clinical terminology has made it harder to sustain healthy romantic attachments. With Fatima, our relationship woes were always my fault because I crossed her “boundaries” and I was a “narcissist.” If I disagreed, I was “gaslighting” her. Or I was being “defensive” instead of apologizing. And when I apologized, I did so incorrectly because I offered excuses after saying I'm sorry (she was right about that). The point is that she used weaponized therapy speak to demonize me, alleviating herself from the burden of considering that perhaps she shared some of the responsibility for our woes. ========== Their friend doesn't agree with their warped view of an event or their disproportionate reaction? The friend is an empathy-lacking narcissist who is actively gaslighting them. ========== In one memorable session of mine, a client managed to accuse their partner of narcissism, gaslighting, love bombing, blaming the victim, lacking accountability, having no empathy, and being generally abusive, manipulative, and toxic . . . all within twenty minutes. Although Fatima and I went to couples therapy, I don't remember Dr. Mosley being our facilitator, but that sure sounds like Fatima! LOL! ========== I'm certified in emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT), which is a type of couples therapy based on attachment theory. ========== For example, if you feel like a failure for letting your partner down, you might immediately minimize your partner's feelings and tell them they shouldn't react so strongly to such a small issue. (For anyone wondering, this isn't gaslighting.) That makes them feel unheard and unimportant, so they get even more upset, which makes you dismiss their reaction as dramatic, and round and round it goes. Welcome to my world with Fatima! ========== You could claim your partner is toxic and borderline because they're emotionally volatile and unforgiving. You could say their feelings are disproportionate to the problem, and their verbal assault is bordering on abusive. But your partner could say that you are a narcissist who is gaslighting them by refusing to acknowledge their feelings, showing no empathy for the distress your tardiness caused, and shifting the blame to them (just like a narcissist would!). You'd both be wrong, of course, but you can see how these conclusions could happen. ========== Weaponized therapy speak is our attempt to understand people and situations in our lives, yes, but it is also a strategy to avoid responsibility. It puts the blame solely on the other person and allows us to ignore our part. ========== However, the vast majority of partners and friends are not sociopaths, narcissists, or abusers. They're just flawed. They're insecure, demanding, controlling, emotional, or any number of adjectives, but these traits alone aren't pathological. ========== But doing such things now and then in our relational histories, or doing them often in just one relationship, doesn't mean we have a personality disorder. These diagnoses are reserved for people who exhibit a persistent pattern of maladaptive behaviors in most or all of their close relationships. ========== I wasn't an abusive partner. I was a messy newcomer to relationships, as we usually are in our teens and twenties, trying my best to navigate my feelings while following bad examples from television and making plenty of other blunders along the way. Stonewalling was immature and an unhelpful way of coping, but it wasn't abuse. ========== If we're looking for a partner who will always do the right thing, even in the hardest moments, we're only setting ourselves up for disappointment. As I mentioned before, really good people can behave really badly. ========== If we don't know the difference between abusive behavior and normal problematic behavior, we're at risk for either accepting abuse (thinking that it's just a hard time) or, alternatively, throwing away a perfectly good relationship because we can't accept any flaws or mistakes. Alas, Fatima threw away a perfectly good relationship. I was her second boyfriend. Her lack of experience made her underappreciate what we had. She'll figure it out with the next guy. ========== Disagreeing with someone, thinking your loved one is objectively wrong, arguing about what really happened and what was actually said, trying to find your way to the one and only “truth”—these are things that most people do. They are not helpful or effective, but they also are not gaslighting. ========== “What? I didn't say yes to seeing it, Cece. I said yes to finding houses we both liked and visiting them. Sometimes you just hear what you want to and then get mad at me when you realize it's not what I actually said,” Meg answers. “Stop gaslighting me! Don't tell me what happened. I remember exactly what you said! You told me yes to this open house and then changed your mind, and I'm upset about it. I'm allowed to be upset about it; don't invalidate my feelings!” Cece says, her frustration growing. Meg feels surprised and nervous. She didn't think she was gaslighting Cece, which is exactly what she says. “I didn't mean to gaslight you. I just remember this differently. I don't remember saying I would go to this open house, so that's why I don't understand why you're this upset.” “Yes, you are gaslighting me because you're trying to convince me that what I clearly remember happening didn't happen. But you can't gaslight me because I'm positive I'm right.” ========== Cece's accusation of gaslighting quickly shut down the conversation, labeling Meg as a terrible partner and allowing Cece to exit the conversation as the victor. ========== I find gaslighting to be one of the harder labels to deal with in my clinical work for three reasons: 1. Accusations of gaslighting are incredibly common. I hear accusations of gaslighting at least once a week, and yet it's only been accurate about five times in my entire clinical career. Boyfriend didn't agree with what time you were meeting for dinner? Gaslighting. Spouse said you didn't tell them to pick up milk on the way home, but you swear you did? Gaslighting. ========== You could say, “I want you to know that I really understand your perspective on this. I see things differently, but your experience is valid, and it makes sense. I'm not trying to convince you that you're wrong and I'm right, and I'm sorry if I came across that way.” WHAT IS VALIDATION? Validation is another word that suffers from frequent misuse. People demand validation, but what they're really asking for is agreement. And if someone doesn't agree, they call it toxic. Here's the thing, though: Validation is not the same as agreement. ========== You can disagree in your head but still validate how they feel: “Hey, you're not crazy. I see why you'd feel that way. It makes sense to me. I'd probably feel that way too if I were in your shoes, experiencing our interaction the way you did. I care about your feelings.” ========== “I bet it felt really awful to have me challenge your experience and make you feel like it wasn't right or valid.” I regret I learned this lesson too late with Fatima. I was too slow to validate her feelings. We learn something in every relationship. Ideally, our partner is patient with us as we stumble through the learning process, often repeating the same error until we form a new habit. However, Fatima ran out of patience with me. I couldn't change fast enough for her, even though I was eager to learn and dying to please her. By the time I began to learn about proper validation and apologies, she had given up on me. ========== My husband, Lucas, hates it when lids aren't properly put on jars. You know, when a lid is half on and still loose or haphazardly tightened and askew? I, on the other hand, could not care less. I am the only perpetrator of putting lids on wrong in our house. I barely screw on the top to the pickles, peanut butter, medications, water bottles, or food storage containers. I don't even realize that I do it because I care so little about it. This drives Lucas absolutely crazy. I love this example because it's what I would repeatedly tell Fatima: some habits are hard to break. Dr. Mosley knows her husband hates half-closed jars, but she struggles to comply with his wishes. We're imperfect creatures. ========== Is your partner always leaving a wet towel on the floor after showering? Red flag—they're irresponsible and will expect you to clean up after them. Is your friend bad at texting to let you know when they're behind schedule? Red flag—they're selfish, inconsiderate, and don't value your time. It's all too easy to weaponize this term in a relationship, in hopes that it will shame the other person into changing. ========== People aren't perfect. Individually, we're messy, and in relationships, we're much messier. We all make mistakes, sometimes repeatedly for our entire lives. Instead of labeling all unwanted behaviors as red flags and expecting change or running away altogether, try a new approach: Identify why those behaviors hurt you and share that with your loved one instead. ========== When confronted with the knowledge that we've hurt someone, many of us become defensive. We hate the idea of hurting the person we love and since we usually didn't intend to hurt them, we start explaining why our actions weren't that bad and why they shouldn't feel upset. It comes from a place of inadequacy, self-criticism, and remorse. If the other person responds like this but you can tell they care about your pain, this may be a good time to give them some grace in the form of empathy and time. Wait a few hours or even a few days, then try the conversation again. For every criticism I had about Fatima's behavior, she had 20 criticisms about my behavior. As a result, I had many more opportunities to fall into the trap of becoming defensive. It's so hard to resist. I'm still working on that front. ========== We all have a touch of narcissism, which can get bigger at certain points in life, ========== Conflicts are upsetting, and we've all developed ways of protecting ourselves, whether it's getting loud to be heard or emotionally withdrawing to prevent a panic attack. Underneath these less-than-ideal responses, though, we feel awful. We feel scared, insecure, inadequate, unimportant, and alone. We hate fighting with our loved ones, and we really hate that we've hurt them, especially unknowingly. We're not being defensive because we have a narcissistic belief in our own superiority; we're doing it because we're terrified that the person won't understand us and will see us negatively, so we need to show them our side and explain to them why we aren't to blame. ========== But whether it's an inflated ego, vanity, self-absorption, or just unusually healthy confidence, these traits do not make a narcissist. To have NPD, the person must also require external validation and admiration, and to be seen as superior to others. This is the difference between a big ego and grandiosity. Grandiosity goes several steps beyond confidence—it's a near-delusional sense of importance, where someone exaggerates their achievements and expects others to see them as superior. ========== Some people suck. They're immature, mean, selfish, and unremorseful. Some people don't respect other people in their lives. They lie and they cheat, and they don't care that it hurts others. But they can be all these things and still not be a narcissist. There's a lot of room for people to be awful without meeting the criteria for a personality disorder, and that's because (you guessed it!) people are flawed. Some people feel justified in behaving badly, while others just don't know any better yet. Our growth is messy and not linear. ========== The reality is that anyone who genuinely worries that they are a narcissist, probably isn't. That level of openness and willingness to self-reflect is not typical of a narcissist. Plus, narcissists don't tend to believe or care that they've hurt others, whereas my clients are deeply distressed by the possibility that they've unknowingly caused others pain. ========== As with gaslighting, I have rarely seen people accurately diagnose narcissism. To put it bluntly, I have never seen a client in a couples therapy session call their partner a narcissist and be right. In fact, the person misusing the label usually tends to be more narcissistic and have more therapy work to do than their partner. ========== person involved with a narcissist to accurately identify the disorder because people with NPD are great at making other people think they are the problem. It's an insidious process, and rarely do people realize what's happening until others point it out to them or the narcissist harshly devalues or leaves them. Now, you might be in a relationship with someone who has NPD, but instead of jumping to “narcissist!” it's helpful to use other adjectives and be more specific about your concerns. Saying that a certain behavior was selfish or that a person seems unremorseful is more exact than calling them a narcissist. ========== Love bombing can happen at any point in a relationship, but it's most often seen at the start. ========== Love bombing is also a typical follow-up to fights. ========== Humans are a complicated species. Despite our amazing cognitive capacities and our innate desire to be good (well, most of us anyway), we often cause harm. People act in ways that can damage their relationships, both intentionally and unknowingly, but that doesn't make them sociopaths. In fact, anyone in a close and meaningful relationship will end up hurting the other person and will also end up getting hurt at some point because close relationships inevitably involve a degree of pain, be it disappointment, sadness, anger, or frustration. Even when we're doing our best, we hurt each other. We can't equate normal missteps and hurt with sociopathy. ========== People love to call their exes sociopaths, just like they love calling them narcissists. Dr. Mosley focuses on the term sociopath because it's more popular nowadays than the term psychopath, but they both suffer from misuse and overuse, she says. If your partner (or you) use the term psychopath often, then in the following excerpts, replace the word “sociopath” with “psychopath.” ========== calling someone a sociopath is extreme. You're calling them out as a human who has an underdeveloped (or nonexistent) capacity to be a law-abiding, respectful, moral member of society. And in doing so, you're saying they were the entire problem in your relationship. Unless you were with a person who displayed a variety of extreme behaviors that qualify as ASPD, that conclusion isn't fair, accurate, or serving you. Again, you're missing out on the opportunity to reflect on your part in the problem, examine how you could have been more effective in the relationship, and identify how you can change for the better in your next relationship. If you label your ex a sociopath and call it a day, you're cutting yourself short. ========== Let the record show that I have never seen someone use the term sociopath correctly in their relationship. ========== some boundaries are universal and uncrossable, but the majority are personal preferences that need to be expressed and, at times, negotiated. Claiming a boundary violation is a quick and easy way to control someone's behavior, and that's why it's important to clarify what this phrase means and how to healthily navigate boundaries in a relationship. Fatima loved to remind me of and enforce her “boundaries.” It was a long list, so I inevitably crossed them, which led to drama. ========== There are some boundaries we all agree are important and should be uncrossable—I call these universal boundaries. Violating universal boundaries, especially when done repeatedly without remorse or regard for the impact it has on the other person, amounts to abuse. ========== The main [universal boundaries] are emotional, physical, sexual, and financial boundaries ========== Outside of these universal, uncrossable boundaries, there are also individual boundaries. Rather than applying to all people, these boundaries are specific to the person and defined by their own preferences and needs. As such, they are flexible, fluid over time, and full of nuance. If they are crossed, it can be uncomfortable, but it isn't necessarily abuse. ========== boundary is a line drawn to ensure safety and autonomy, whereas a preference is something that would make you feel happy but is not integral to your sense of relational security or independence. ========== While a well-adjusted person might start a dialogue about how to negotiate an individual boundary in a way that honors both partners' needs, an abusive person will never consider if their boundary can be shifted or why it might be damaging or significantly limiting to the other person. Instead, they will accuse, blame, and manipulate their partner as their way of keeping that person within their controlling limits. ========== The point is that as we go through life, our boundaries shift. As you can see, this is part of what makes it difficult for people to anticipate or assess boundary violations. If you expect and demand that the people close to you honor your specific boundaries on certain topics, but you're not telling them what the boundaries are or when and how they've changed, you're setting your loved ones up for failure. ========== And again, people unknowingly cross each other's individual boundaries all the time. It's simply inevitable. ========== It will create an unnecessary and unproductive rift. 3. We Mistake Preferences for Boundaries Boundaries protect our needs for safety and security. Preferences promote feelings of happiness, pleasure, or calm. When someone crosses a boundary, it compromises our physical or mental health. When someone disregards a preference, we may feel annoyed, but it doesn't pose a risk to our well-being. ========== You've Been Accused of Violating a Boundary If you're in a close relationship, chances are you're going to violate the other person's boundaries at some point. This is especially likely if the person has not told you what boundaries are important to them. However, you might also be unjustly accused of violating a boundary, perhaps a boundary you didn't know about or a preference masquerading as a boundary, and you'll need to know what to do. ========== I never thought of telling Fatima that she was “borderline.” It helps that I didn't know what the term meant. Dr. Mosley says that a person must have several of the “borderline” characteristics to have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Fatima only had one of them, so she did not have BPD. Here's the only BPD trait she exhibited: Stormy, intense, and chaotic relationships: Have relationships that tend to be characterized by extremes of idealization and devaluation in which the person with BPD idolizes someone one moment and then vilifies them the next. Because they struggle to see others in a consistent and nuanced way, their relationships go through tumultuous ups and downs, where they desire intense closeness one minute and then reject the person the next. Fatima promised me, “I will love you forever,” “I want to marry you,” “I will be with you until death,” “I'll never leave you,” and other similar extreme promises. Three days later, she would dump me and tell me she never wanted to get back together. Two days later, she apologized and wanted to reunite. Soon, she would be making her over-the-top romantic declarations again. She'd write them and say them repeatedly, not just while making love. Eventually, I'd fuck up again. Instead of collaborating to prevent further fuck ups, Fatima would simply break up with me with little to no discussion. This would naturally make me question her sincerity when she repeatedly made her I-will-be-with-you-forever promises. You might wonder why I was so fucking stupid to reunite with her after she did that a couple of times. Why did I always beg her to reconsider and reunite with me even after we repeated the pattern four times? (The fifth time she dumped me was the last time.) Humans are messy. I expect imperfection. I know my loved one will repeatedly do stupid shit because I sure will. So, I forgave her knee-jerk breakup reaction because I knew she didn't do it out of malice. She did it to protect herself. She was in pain. She thought that pulling the plug would halt the pain. That's reasonable but wrong. That doesn't matter. She's learning, I figured. I need to be patient. I was hopeful we'd break the pattern and learn how to deal with conflict maturely. We didn't. I'm confident she'll figure it out soon, just like I learned from my mistakes with her. ========== If I had to pick one word to describe people with BPD, it would be unstable. Fatima was unstable in a narrow situation: only with one person (me) and only when the shit hit the fan with me. Aside from that, she was highly stable. Hence, it would have been ludicrous if I accused her of having Borderline Personality Disorder. Luckily, I never knew the overused borderline term; even if I did, I wouldn't be tempted to use it on her. ========== Just as with red flags, we all exhibit some toxic behaviors at times. I don't know anyone who has lived a toxic-free existence. Sometimes we go through tough phases where our communication and coping skills are down, and we'll act more toxically than we might normally; this doesn't make us a toxic person. Indeed, many romantic relationships go through toxic episodes, if you will (should we make “toxic episode” a thing?), where people aren't communicating well, are escalating conflicts, and are generally behaving badly. We need to normalize a certain level of temporary or situational toxicity while also specifying what we mean by saying “toxic.” This is the only way we can determine whether the relationship needs help or needs ending. ========== trauma is itself a heavy, often misunderstood word. Its original meaning referenced what we now call “big T” trauma: life-threatening events such as going to war or surviving a car crash. Nowadays, we also talk about “little t” trauma: events that cause significant distress but aren't truly life-threatening, like being bullied in school or having an emotionally inconsistent parent. ========== Avoiding relationships with anyone who triggers hard feelings will mean a very lonely existence. ========== a trauma bond is the connection that survivors feel with their abuser. ========== A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== soldiers aren't trauma bonded after going to war together; they're socially bonded, albeit in an unusually deep way. A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== None of us get to have a happy relationship without hard times and hard work. It's normal and okay to sometimes struggle with the person you're close to or love. When the struggle happens, don't despair. Within the struggle are opportunities to invest in the relationship and grow, individually and together. ========== If you determine your relationship is in a tough spot but not abusive, now's the time for some hard relational work. A good cocktail for working on your relationship is specificity, vulnerability, and commitment. ========== Making a relationship work requires you and your loved ones to self-reflect, take responsibility, and change. This process won't just happen once; it's a constant cycle you'll go through repeatedly over the course of the relationship. You'll both need to look at yourselves, own what you've done wrong or could do better, and work to improve. Nobody is ever finished learning and growing, not individually and certainly not in a relationship. But that's what can be so great about being in a relationship: It's a never-ending opportunity to become a better person. And when you mess up (because trust me, you will), be kind to yourself. As I keep saying, humans are wonderfully imperfect. Even when we know what to do, sometimes we just don't or can't do it. ========== In this world of messy humans, how do you know who will be a good person for you to be with? My answer: Choose someone who wants to keep doing the work with you. There is no perfect person or partner for you, no magical human that won't ever hurt, irritate, enrage, or overwhelm you. Being in close relationships inevitably leads to big, scary feelings at times, so pick someone who wants to get through the dark times with you. Remember that when people are behaving badly in a desperate attempt to connect—not control—they'll be able to look at themselves, recognize the bad behavior, and change. Pick someone who has the willingness to self-reflect and grow, even if it's hard. Someone who will hang in there, even during your worst fights, and ultimately say, “Listen, this is awful, and I don't want to keep arguing like this, but I love you and I want to figure this out with you.” Wow. So well said. And this, in a paragraph, explains where Fatima and I failed. I dislike pointing fingers at my ex when explaining why we broke up. I made 90% of the mistakes in my relationship with Fatima, so I bear most of the responsibility. However, Fatima was the weaker one on one metric: having someone who wants to collaborate to make a beautiful relationship despite the hardships. The evident proof is that she dumped me five times, whereas I never dumped her or even threatened to dump her. I always wanted to use our problems as a chance to learn and improve. Fatima used them as an excuse to quit. She tried. She really did. However, she lacked the commitment Dr. Mosley discussed in that paragraph. Perhaps another man will inspire Fatima to find the strength and courage to bounce back and not throw in the towel. Or maybe she will mature and evolve to a point where she can be with someone less compatible than I was for her. She would often declare, “Francis, we're incompatible.” I'd say, “No, we are compatible; we have incompatibilities. Everyone has incompatibilities. We just need to work through them. If there is a willingness to collaborate, we can solve any incompatibility. The only couples who are truly incompatible are the ones where one or both individuals refuse to budge or learn. We can overcome countless incompatibilities as long as we both want to be together.” ========== We have wounds and scars and bad habits. We rely on ineffective but protective coping mechanisms. We push others away when we're hurt or scared. ========== Everyone behaves badly sometimes. But even then, odds are they're not gaslighting you. Conclusion I'll repeat: They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship is my favorite book in 2025! Buy it! Feedback Leave anonymous audio feedback at SpeakPipe More info You can post comments, ask questions, and sign up for my newsletter at http://wanderlearn.com. If you like this podcast, subscribe and share!  On social media, my username is always FTapon. Connect with me on: Facebook Twitter YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn Pinterest Tumblr My Patrons sponsored this show! Claim your monthly reward by becoming a patron at http://Patreon.com/FTapon Rewards start at just $2/month! 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In this TGG TAKEOVER episode, we're diving deep into the powerful, life-changing art of setting boundaries. Hosted by Dr. Dolores Tarver, Ebony Young, LPC, and Rev. Amarylis West, this conversation is a masterclass on how boundaries aren't just a “nice-to-have” — they're essential to living a life full of self-respect, peace, and empowerment. Whether it's with family, at work, in romantic relationships, or within your faith community, boundaries are your secret weapon for protecting your energy and advocating for your needs.Setting boundaries can feel hard—especially when it's with people you love or in environments you're committed to. But if there's one thing we learned in this episode, it's that setting clear boundaries is a form of self-love, and it's necessary to maintain the respect, peace, and harmony in your life. Buckle up for a no-holds-barred conversation on how to show up fully for yourself, no matter the relationship or situation.Key Takeaways:The Power of Boundaries: Boundaries are essential for teaching others how to treat us, protecting our time, and maintaining our energy. It's not just about saying “no,” it's about advocating for what you need and standing firm in it.The Struggles with Loved Ones: Setting boundaries with family and friends can be one of the toughest things we'll do. The desire to make others happy often leads us to overlook our own needs. The ladies share why this is a recipe for burnout and how to navigate it.Workplace Boundaries: Knowing your rights, communicating your expectations, and staying professional are key in maintaining healthy work relationships. This episode has gems on how to communicate boundaries at work and deal with workplace violations head-on.Romantic Relationships: Setting boundaries in love might feel like walking a tightrope, but it's crucial for your mental and emotional health. The ladies talk about how healthy relationships can handle boundaries and the importance of mutual respect.Accountability Partners & Exit Strategies: Sometimes, maintaining boundaries requires reinforcements. Accountability partners can help you stick to your limits, and knowing when to step away from toxic relationships or situations is key.Action Steps:Review workplace policies: Take the time to understand your rights and responsibilities in your professional environment.Set your boundaries clearly: Don't just say what you need, communicate it, and follow through with consequences if those boundaries are violated.Create an exit strategy: Know when it's time to walk away from relationships or environments that don't respect your boundaries.Lean on accountability partners: Find a support system to help you maintain and reinforce your boundaries when you need it most.Issues & Risks:Difficulty in setting and maintaining boundaries with loved ones.Challenges in clearly communicating boundaries without feeling guilty or selfish.The risk of moving the goalposts when boundaries are violated or ignored.The dangers of self-diagnosing based on social media trends and how it impacts personal boundaries.Questions Discussed:“Why is it so difficult to maintain a boundary once we've set it?”“How do I go about addressing boundary violations in spaces like church?”Support the show | Connect with The Great Girlfriends Community

In this episode Courtney talks about boundaries and how they are key to healing. She chats about leaky boundaries and how that can contribute to leaky gut and gut issues for many people. Courtney also talks about energetic boundaries and boundaries with loved ones and how to get firmer with those boundaries.   Get presale for Rewire, the framework that will help you heal your health issues through subconscious retraining, brain rewiring and nervous system healing. Get presale for in Total Gut Reset, a 12 week practitioner led group parasite cleansing course.   Connect with Courtney: Website Instagram   To contact us email therootedinhealth@gmail.com   The views expressed in this podcast are my own and not intended to be medical advice. I am not diagnosing or treating any disease.

A study of Colossians 3:12-17

A study of 1 Corinthians 10:23-31

A study of Galatians 5:13-15, Romans 14:12-13

Chapter 1:Summary of Boundaries"Boundaries" by Henry Cloud is a self-help book that focuses on setting healthy boundaries in order to establish and maintain personal and professional relationships. The book emphasizes the importance of understanding and establishing boundaries in different areas of life, such as work, family, and friendships. Cloud discusses the negative consequences of not having clear boundaries and provides practical advice and tools for setting and enforcing boundaries. He also addresses common misconceptions about boundaries and offers guidance on how to communicate effectively and assertively in order to maintain healthy relationships. Overall, the book emphasizes the importance of boundaries in fostering healthy relationships and personal growth.Chapter 2:The Theme of BoundariesKey plot points:1. The protagonist, Laura, is a single mother struggling to maintain healthy boundaries in her relationships, particularly with her father, Jack.2. Laura's father, Jack, is a troubled man who repeatedly crosses boundaries and manipulates others.3. Laura's therapist encourages her to establish and enforce boundaries with her father and others in her life.4. Laura goes on a road trip with her estranged father and son, setting off a series of events that challenge her boundaries and force her to confront her past.Character development:1. Laura grows in her ability to assert herself and set boundaries with her father, ultimately realizing that she has the power to control her own happiness.2. Jack undergoes a journey of self-discovery and self-improvement, learning to respect and acknowledge the boundaries of others.3. Laura's son experiences his own personal growth through his relationship with his grandmother and his understanding of boundaries.Thematic ideas:1. The importance of establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships to promote emotional well-being and personal growth.2. The impact of toxic relationships and how boundaries can help protect individuals from emotional harm.3. The power of forgiveness and reconciliation in healing strained relationships and moving forward in life.4. The complex dynamics of family relationships and the need for clear communication and boundaries to maintain healthy connections.Chapter 3:Meet the Writer of BoundariesIn his book "Boundaries," Henry Cloud showcases his impressive writing skills by incorporating a clear and concise language style that effectively conveys the emotions and meanings behind the concept of setting healthy boundaries. Cloud's writing is characterized by its simplicity and straightforwardness, making it easy for readers to grasp the important points he is communicating. He uses relatable examples and anecdotes to illustrate his points, creating a deeper connection with the reader and helping them to better understand the importance of boundaries in their own lives. Furthermore, Cloud's language style is empathetic and non-judgmental, allowing readers to feel seen and understood as they navigate the complexities of relationships and personal growth. He acknowledges the challenges and struggles that come with setting boundaries, while also providing practical advice and encouragement for how to overcome them. Overall, Henry Cloud's writing skills and language style play a crucial role in conveying the emotions and meanings of boundaries in a way that is engaging, relatable, and ultimately, transformative for his readers.Chapter 4:Deeper Understanding of BoundariesBoundaries play a crucial role in literature, culture, and society, influencing the way people think, behave, and interact with one another. Throughout history, boundaries have been used to define social hierarchies, establish norms and...

Send us a Text Message.BOUNDARIES THAT BLESS:Living Free from ToxicityDr. Jessica FernandezJuly 7, 2024#god #realspringcreekchurch #boundariesthatbless #boundaries #blessings #toxicbehavior #peace #integrity #healthyrelationships #relationshipshttps://www.springcreekchurch.org/ In this message, we're discussing setting healthy boundaries with toxic individuals. Drawing wisdom from Scripture, we explore how to recognize toxic behavior, understand the importance of boundaries, and learn practical steps to protect our spiritual, emotional, and mental well-being. Discover how Biblical figures modeled boundary-setting in their interactions and how we, too, can follow their examples to maintain peace and integrity in our lives. Join us as we seek God's guidance in creating boundaries that honor Him and foster healthy relationships.DISCUSSION QUESTIONS1. We discussed the harmful effects of toxic relationships on our well-being. How have you experienced or witnessed toxicity in relationships, and what impact did it have on your mental and emotional health?2. Balancing biblical commands to love and honor others with the need for self-preservation can be challenging. How do you reconcile the command to honor others with setting boundaries when their behavior is harmful? 3. Nehemiah faced significant opposition but remained focused on his mission. What can we learn from Nehemiah's response to toxic opposition that can help us handle difficult people in our own lives?4. We discussed various strategies for setting and maintaining boundaries. Which strategy for setting boundaries do you find most challenging, and how can you apply it in your current relationships?5. The importance of building fences (healthy boundaries) instead of walls (complete barriers) was emphasized. How can you ensure that your boundaries are like fences, allowing healthy interactions, rather than walls that isolate you from meaningful relationships?

"Setting and maintaining boundaries is essential for preserving energy and well-being, enhancing self-worth and self-respect, and improving relationships."  ~Tami Imlay Happy podcast day! I'm so excited to be here with you today. I'm doing something a little different. I'm going to air a conversation, a training session I did with my Divine Destiny: Living a Purpose Aligned Life Facebook community. One theme we've been discussing this past week is showing up for yourself. We've delved into creating healthy boundaries, understanding their purpose, and why we need them. To show up for others, we first need to show up for ourselves. This isn't selfish; it's essential. We've discussed core values and how showing up for ourselves allows us to pour from a full cup instead of an empty one. So, listen in! Today, we are getting a sneak peek into day 4 of our Show Up For Yourself theme.   We're going to talk about boundaries, maintaining them, and what it has to do with showing up for yourself. This week's group theme has been showing up for ourselves and living a purpose-aligned life. We want to make an impact, feel fulfilled, and not waste time and energy on things that don't matter. When we show up for ourselves, we can then show up for our people—our community, churches, PTA, neighbors, friends, and family. But it all starts with showing up for ourselves. Pouring out for everyone but ourselves makes us feel misaligned, overwhelmed, scattered and stuck. We've talked about core values, pivoting, and maintaining our word to ourselves. Today, we're focusing on boundaries—why maintaining healthy ones is showing up for yourself, how it's the opposite of being selfish, and how to discover areas in your life that need boundaries. Boundaries don't last forever; they shift as seasons do. Today, let's dive in and talk about why maintaining healthy boundaries is showing up for yourself. Here are three reasons why: 1. Preservation of Energy and Well-being If we try to be everything to everyone, we're actually nothing to no one. We're exhausted and don't have the energy to do what really matters. Understanding our core values makes it easier to set boundaries, freeing us to have the life we want. Healthy boundaries protect your time, resources, gifts, and emotional well-being, helping you live your purpose. 2. Enhanced Self-worth and Self-respect When we respect ourselves, we're able to show up for ourselves. We see the value we bring, and when we're at our best, we can bring our best. Self-respect makes it easy to say no to things that don't align with our values. For example, I once had to decline airing a podcast interview because the guest's values didn't align with mine. This self-respect and confidence help protect the values that my brand holds. 3. Improved Relationships Setting boundaries actually improves relationships by creating clear expectations and mutual agreements, leading to healthier, deeper connections. People know what you stand for, can trust you, and value the relationships more. Ready to take action?  Book a Call with Me!  Set a time on your calendar right before our call to take a moment and breathe.  This is the only preparation you'll need. It's that easy!  Join the call and allow your heart to be heard and seen.  Key Takeaways: Importance of Boundaries: Boundaries help in prioritizing self-care and showing up effectively for oneself and others. They are vital for maintaining energy and overall well-being. Healthy boundaries enhance self-worth and self-respect. They contribute to better and more fulfilling relationships. Identifying the Need for Boundaries: Assess sources of stress in your life. Pay attention to your feelings and reactions. Evaluate how you allocate your time and energy. Practical Tips for Setting Boundaries: Identify your needs and create boundaries around them. Give yourself permission to pivot and make necessary changes in alignment with your purpose. Upcoming Challenge: Focus on giving yourself permission to pivot and make necessary changes to align with your purpose. Action Steps: Reflect on areas in your life where boundaries are needed. Take action by setting and maintaining those boundaries to live a purpose-aligned and fulfilling life. Journal Question:  Reflect on an area in your life where you feel stressed or overwhelmed. What boundaries can you set to preserve your energy and well-being, enhance your self-worth and self-respect, and improve your relationships? How can you give yourself permission to pivot and make necessary changes to align with your purpose? Want to make a change? Want to pivot? Connect with Tami today! Personalized Clarity Insight Call (Formerly Introductory Strategic Assessment (ISA)

“The Blessing of Boundaries”2 Timothy 4:3-5ITCHING EARS SeriesPastor Nate Clarke https://www.instagram.com/nateclarke_/June 26, 2024Have you heard? We are expanding our current space to make room for families and the next generation, with 3x more space for babies, kids, and youth. Look for more updates soon!https://www.instagram.com/oasischurchva/reel/C8FqHIipr3u/Learn about this year's Kingdom Builders project to secure land for the future of Oasis Church:https://www.oasischurch.online/kingdom-buildershttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGL-Xr4I4_cSERMON NOTES: - 2 Timothy 4:3-5- The Blessing of Boundaries- Boundaries are not meant to be a burden, but to be a blessing.- Genesis 2:15-17- In the giving of a boundary, God is desiring to give you freedom!- Christ is the greatest authority- Genesis 1:1-3- Colossians 1:15-18- Supreme: “highest in rank or authority.”- [Lanes illustration]- The Family: Christ, husband, wife, children.- Ephesians 5:22-28- Ephesians 6:1-3- The Church- 1 Corinthians 16:15-16- 1 Thessalonians 5:12-13- Titus 2:15- Hebrews 13:7- Hebrews 13:17- 1 Timothy 3:15- 2 Timothy 3:16-17- 1 Peter 5:1-4- The Church: be a pillar of truth, shepherd the flock- The State / Government - Romans 13:1- 1 Peter 2:13-14- Titus 3:1- Mark 12:14-17- The State: govern the people, punish evil & reward good- Lord, give us discernment on when to disobey.- We disobey when submission to earthly authority = rebellion to heavenly authority, Christ.- Acts 4:18-20- Lord, give us discernment to know our lane.- Lord, give us freedom as we yield to the authority of Christ and the authorities He has established in our lives. - [Cliff illustration] Oasis Church exists to help people see Jesus more clearly.We are led by Pastor Nate Clarke and are located in Richmond, VA.Stay Connected:Website: https://oasischurch.online Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oasischurchva/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OasisChurchRVA/

Metaphysics Today: Soulful Conversations for Nourishing Your Spirit, hosted by Aeson Knight and Fire Fly, invites you to explore metaphysics in today's world. Each episode, Aeson and Fire Fly embark on a journey of discovery. About Your Hosts: Aeson Knight has dedicated over two decades to guiding others on their metaphysical paths. Learn more: aesonknight.com Hazel, also known as Fire Fly, offers insights into new life paths. Learn more: facebook.com/firefly.tarot Join us every Monday for "Metaphysics Today." This Week's Topic: Acceptance with Boundaries: Nurturing a Stronger Relationship Foundation Acceptance with Boundaries: Nurturing a Stronger Relationship Foundation In love, acceptance fosters connection, but boundaries safeguard individuality. Balancing both is vital for healthy relationships. The Essence of Acceptance: Acceptance in a relationship embraces your partner entirely, fostering openness and understanding. The Role of Boundaries: Boundaries safeguard autonomy and respect within a relationship. Balancing Acceptance and Boundaries: Finding equilibrium ensures trust and prevents harm. Navigating Differences with Respect: Empathy and communication aid in resolving conflicts while honoring boundaries. Communicating Boundaries with Compassion: Open communication fosters deeper understanding and connection. Strengthening the Relationship Foundation: Acceptance and boundaries form the pillars of a thriving relationship. Respecting Individual Growth and Evolution: Supporting personal development while maintaining connection enriches relationships. Fostering a Culture of Mutual Respect: Mutual acceptance and respect create a supportive and loving environment. Conclusion: Acceptance and boundaries weave a tapestry of love and connection, enriching relationships. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pcspnetwork/message

In this solo episode I'm talking all about self regulation and how to help kids self regulate. Self regulation is all about how to get your child to calm down when they aren't calm. Essentially, how can we help our kids gain the ability to understand that a. They're going to be ok, b. The outcome will likely be the same, and c. They are safe. I have six tips for self-regulation that I share with the parents I work with one-on-one and I'm sharing them with you in this episode! Co-Regulation: The idea we are working on regulating ourselves while our child is working on regulating himself/herself. When your child starts to exhibit a negative behavior, you might become uncomfortable or triggered by their actions. Co-regulation happens when we remain calm, when we recognize our own triggers, and we keep our boundaries. Boundaries: Boundaries are a structure that is predictable and consistent. Children are looking for things that are predictable in nature to keep themselves regulated. Boundaries help teach our children how to self-regulate while experiencing dysregulation. Validation: Validation is when we can understand why our child feels a certain way, not giving them a pass for that emotion or behavior. There is so much power in practicing validation in the long-term. Breathwork: Breathwork is a great way to practice self-regulation in times where your child is completely regulated. Then they can utilize this tool when they are feeling dysregulated. Blowing out candle breathwork, fire hose breathing, and other things that help the nervous system calm down are great ways to help with self-regulation. Sensory Toys: There are so many different sensory toys that can help kids while they are regulated and dysregulated. It's a calming mechanism that can help people of all ages. Having sensory toys available such as fidget spinners or expanding tubes available at all times is a great go-to as children continue to learn more about how to self-regulate. Work on Regulation while They're Regulated: Working on self-regulation during a tantrum won't work 9 out of 10 times. Co-regulation is the best way to help work on self-regulation at the moment. What can you do in the moment when a tantrum is happening? Boundary-Empathy Sandwich - state your boundary, note your empathy (it's hard to not get the thing you want), restate your boundary.Remind yourself “I am safe and so are they.” - Many of us learned that showing sadness or other “negative” emotions as a child was met with reactions like “stop crying” or “don't be upset.” This likely caused us to feel unsafe. Now, as parents, when our children have similar emotions, we have a strong response and want to remedy it as quickly as possible. This mantra will help you to steady yourself and stay calm. Take a break if you really have to - Give yourself a no-demands day to reset as you fatigue. This looks like loosening boundaries, not engaging in high-stress times, and relaxing. Say less - Don't over explain your boundary and feel confident in your boundary. If they become physical, keep them and others safe - Stand up in a neutral position with your hands at your sides. Sometimes you need to pick them up and move them to another location to keep them safe. Other times you need to hold onto them. Remind them they are safe and physically calm their body. Tell them they are not allowed to hit you.  Resources: Free Emotional Regulation Webinar: https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/p/free-download-emotional-regulation-for-parentsIf you would like to do my 2 month 1:1 coaching with me to get a custom road map on how best to tune into your child's needs, book a free call to see if we are a good fit:  https://stan.store/theparentingreframe/theparentingreframe_store/page/51536Be sure to sign up for my Substack newsletter for longer and more specialized parenting content: https://albiona.substack.com/ I hope you found this episode helpful; for more parenting tips, check out my website and blog for more information. https://theparentingreframe.com/Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theparentingreframe/Follow me on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingreframe 

Today's episode is all about BOUNDARIES; how setting boundaries is a form of self-love, different types of boundaries we can (and should!) set, signs that your boundaries may be being crossed, and how to set healthy boundaries. Connect with Shayla✨ Instagram: @shaylaquinn YouTube: www.youtube.com/shaylaquinn TikTok: @shayla.quinn Website: www.shaylaquinn.com Amazon Storefront:  https://www.amazon.com/shop/shaylaquinn Learn more about TYIL Program ✨ 

Boundaries, Boundaries Boundaries- those fun little things we push, reinforce or blow straight through in relationships. In this episode, we're diving deep into the nitty-gritty of setting boundaries in relationships, as we tackle some gripping Reddit stories. From grandparents overstepping boundaries to trust issues stemming from past betrayals, we're covering it all. Plus, ever wondered how different sleep schedules can stir up conflict? We've got the scoop on that too! We discuss adjusting sleep patterns, mastering love languages for better communication, and the importance of intentional actions in relationships. Oh, and let's not forget the complexities of maintaining friendships with the opposite gender while staying true to your marriage vows! So join us as we chat through the wild world of Boundaries. Don't forget to hit that subscribe button and share this episode with anyone you think may benefit!

Welcome to the Pursuing Private Practice Podcast! Join Jennifer & Courtney Vickery, CEO of Declet Designs, as they define what it means to be a CEO. They share personal experiences of how their CEO roles have changed and discuss delegation, team support, and the importance of mentorship and coaching. Join the conversation as they discuss: Importance of Self-Care and Boundaries: Boundaries will evolve and change according to your passions, market, and strengths. They discuss the evolution of their CEO job descriptions and how their CEO role has changed through the different stages of business. Taking Care of Your Team and Getting Support: Team members are valuable assets to any company. Jennifer and Courtney stress the need for any business owner to prioritize their own well-being while leading a team. Creating Space for CEO Time: CEO Time is not what you think! It's a mix of data and intuition to make business strategy decisions for the company's vision. Run Your Home Like a CEO: Running a home like a CEO means understanding the big picture of your home, creating systems, delegating tasks, and getting support for your life (just as much as your business!) Use the exercise outlined in this podcast episode to create your ideal CEO job description! This is just one of the templates in Pursuing Private Practice's business coaching program, EXPAND. Apply today for the next cohort beginning March 20th! Connect with Pursuing Private Practice on Instagram.

In today's episode, Mark Gregston addresses some of the most challenging questions parents are facing in their relationships with their teens. From dealing with adopted children struggling with anger and mental health issues, to navigating conversations around sexual orientation and drug use, Mark offers practical and compassionate advice for parents. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining strong relationships with teens, setting boundaries and seeking outside support when facing difficult situations. Tune in to gain valuable insights into these pressing parenting issues. Have a question for Mark? Submit it here: markgregston.com Parenting Today's Teens is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Dr. Reedy talks about principles involved in discovering and setting healthy boundaries. He explains that boundaries are synonymous with - or come out of - self-care. He warns against trying to explain your boundaries and using boundaries to change other people.

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Why are boundaries important and just how do you place, maintain, and keep them?Support the show

Why are boundaries important and just how do you place, maintain, and keep them?Support the show

Book mentioned: 'Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend'Part 2 of our 'Boundaries' series: Have you ever thought about what type of person you want your child to be when they grow up...? Boundaries, whether healthy or unhealthy, will have a HUGE influence on this.The Mind of a Child explores early child development on a social, intellectual, physical, emotional, and spiritual level to equip parents to parent well. Information is tailored for children 8 and under BUT is relevant for all ages.ASK US QUESTIONS at themindofachildpodcast@gmail.comFollow us on Instagram @themindofachildpod for more content.This podcast is produced by Rockwell ---> www.rockwell-productions.com

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Finding the language to communicate our boundaries is very important, but because of the way some of us were raised, we result quicker to cutting people out of our lives. When you communicate your boundary, you enable the people in a relationship with you an opportunity to learn how to show up better for you. Inevitably loving you better.

In this episode, we discuss the different types of boundaries and the different situations in which they apply. Let's talk about it

In this episode we are talking about.... you guessed it, boundaries!!! Why setting boundaries is key to growth, happiness and re-connecting to yourself. Boundaries allow for space to do the work that creates growth and evolution of you. You are allowed to know what you want, follow your intuition and protect this with boundaries that keep you confidently moving towards your goals and dreams. For more information about our membership stay tuned and check out our facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/868411531099310

Register for the 6-Week Virtual Boundary Build-HERS Workshop (Women Only): https://shorturl.at/sJRW1   Episode Introduction:  The journey to choosing yourself begins with setting healthy boundaries. Tune in to find out more!   Episode Summary:  In this week's episode of the Rise Station Podcast, we talk about setting healthy boundaries. We start by discussing various types of boundaries, then go on to discuss some telltale signs that you disrespecting your boundaries, and finally conclude by discussing the six steps to creating healthy boundaries.   Rise Tribe Takeaways:  When you encounter individuals who roll their eyes at the thought of you setting boundaries, note that they are usually the first ones you should implement those boundaries with.   Types of Boundaries: Physical Boundaries Emotional Boundaries Time Boundaries   Telltale Signs That You Are Disrespecting Your Boundaries: Sometimes you overshare. Giving others more time, money, gifts, and attention than you should. Providing more than your fair share of emotional labor in relationships. Doing more than your fair share of work.   6 Steps to Create Healthy Boundaries: Emotionally detach. Know why a certain boundary is important to you. Be clear and concise. Communicate your boundaries. Act on your boundaries. Be consistent with the boundaries that you set. Help us grow and reach out to more amazing individuals such as yourself by leaving a positive rating + review on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rise-station/id1565362467   Connect With Us:    Email: media@restorativefamilyservices.com Website: https://restorativefamilyservices.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/restorativefamily/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RestorativeFS

3 Things We Dive Into In This Episode: What is “perfectionism” - really? And what are the sneaky ways that it might be holding you back in relationships, work, and other areas of your life? The importance of setting and maintaining boundaries and how to repair relationships when boundaries cause friction How to let go of perfectionism in relationship to our bodies as they change and adapt throughout our lives  

We grow up in a world, and in a culture, that doesn't teach us about the human faculties we are born with. These faculties include our breath, energy system, presence, and perceptual awareness. It seems crazy that we are given these bodies that do so many things, and what we learn in school, has almost nothing to do with our internal realms. Perhaps it is intentional - or it's just a lack of awareness? I feel that the more we learn about our inner-world and personal experiencing, the more richness, and understanding we can bring to life. Today, many of us struggle with overwhelm, sadness, anxiety, and many other difficult experiences. Women are found to be 2-3x as likely to struggle with depression and anxiety as men. When I really start to think about why… one of the very possible reasons could just be: Boundaries, or the lack of them. Creating boundaries is a way of valuing our worth, our time, our energy, and our resources. It's a way to acknowledge ourselves, cut out draining energies, and keep us from things that are not in alignment. Setting them is hard because we can feel scared to speak our truth, and fear how others might respond. Today, Lauren and I get honest about where we are at in our study of boundaries. We discuss what we've learned, examples of experiences we are going through, and what root-trauma we have to touch to be able to feel worthy of creating healthy boundaries. For us, in setting healthy boundaries, we are learning how free we are when we speak our truths and how good it is to honor our needs... To amplify your health with GoddessWell products, go to Goddesswell.co to and use the code SISTERHOOD at checkout to buy one and get one free!   To learn more about Global Sisterhood go to www.globalsisterhood.org To join a virtual circle with us, go to http://www.globalsisterhood.org/virtual-circles To follow us on Instagram, @theglobalsisterhood @Laurenelizabethwalsh @shainaconners

Welcome back!If you have worked with or listened to me for a while, you will know that boundaries is a subject I speak lots on, so of course, one of my early episodes has to be on this subject.I would love to hear from you, and if you have an awareness of boundaries in your life, or maybe yours are flapping in the wind?You can connect with me on the socials,  HERE on Instagram, and HERE on Facebook, I also have a free Facebook community that you would be most welcome to join HEREYou can also find out more about me and the work I do on my website www.stephgrainger.co.ukEnjoySteph xxMusic licensed from RILISound14th November 2022If you're enjoying the podcast, please share it with someone who might benefit from our talks. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and follow me on social media for more updates and inspiration.Connect with me on Instagram HERE, Facebook HERE, and join my VIP WhatsApp community HERE. For more information on my therapy sessions and to book a chat, visit my website: https://www.stephgrainger.co.uk/get-in-touchEmail: steph@stephgrainger.co.ukUntil next time, take care and be present.Steph xx

Chenelle and Teyana discuss their favorite topic, boundaries. They discuss boundaries within friendships, coworkers, and romantic relationships. Listen as they communicate their feelings within their personal relationship and examples of how they've set boundaries with others. Follow Chenelle on instagram! https://www.instagram.com/chenelleisselfcared4/  

Having boundaries definitely you keep safe, to focus on what's most important to us and they can improve relationships making expectations very clear. Handles you can find me at: Anchor: SheShe Beau Spotify: SheShe Beau Castbox: SheShe Beau Apple Podcast: SheShe Beau Facebook(group): SheShe Beau Pod Instagram: Spiritual_Lover718 (DM, Comment, and Like) TikTok: @sheshebeau Twitter: SheShe Beau Pod Email: sheshebeaupod@gmail.com Cashapp: $SheSheBeau (if you want to donate to the pod and help it grow) OR tell a friend to tell a friend and follow ya girl. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/sheshebeau18/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sheshebeau18/support

Torie and Meg are discussing BOUNDARIES and why they are sooooo important.  We give our personal tips for keeping boundaries with customers, working and so much more!Email us with questions at goddessgabspodcast@gmail.comFollow us on Social Media @goddessgabspodcastCall us at 707 532 4036

Hello everyone! This episode is all about BOUNDARIES BOUNDARIES and some more BOUNDARIES! Boundaries are ESSENTIAL in LIFE! Take a listen to my good friend and I discussing boundaries, what they are and how to set them! I find it more common than not that people struggle to set and maintain boundaries for multiple different reasons (not enough space here to even get into that!). Feel free to reach out to me at realtalkwithalyssa@gmail.com or on my facebook page Real Talk with Alyssa for further support on your healing and spiritual journey! SOOOOOOOO much love and light to you all!

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Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. The word boundaries is something that I probably say at least 100 times in a day, not only to my clients, but also to myself. Boundaries are the core of some of our biggest issues that we have – they can be triggering for some and healing for others. So, I think it's about time we talk about them on Let the Rest Burn. I want to dive into how boundaries are different from generation to generation, how I use them in my daily life, and action steps you can take today to practice better boundaries yourself. Sit back, breathe, and enjoy. I'd love to hear your takeaways, too! Just shoot me a message on Instagram. Visit this episode's blog post here.Connect with Colleen on Instagram: @nxtleveltherapy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this week episode, Lindsay speaks about boundaries ,and the importance of setting them and following through. People aren't mind readers,and one should communicate their boundaries for better understanding. Follow Slay Sisss on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and TikTok. If you are seeking advice email me at Slaysissspodcast@gmail.com and make you put Slay mail in the subject put slay mail.

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Creating and honoring Authentic Boundaries is key to success in dating. In this episode, I discuss feeling into boundaries around your body, resources, and feelings. Keeping promises to yourself grows your confidence in sex and love. 

Hi Everyone! Welcome back to another Episode of the M.E.O.W. Podcast! Join us as we dive deep into the topic of Boundaries! In this episode, we discuss what are boundaries? How do we establish our boundaries? How do we implement them? and Why we should respect the boundaries of others. We dive deep into the 5 different types of boundaries and 11 steps to know how to enforce them. Boundaries are how we maintain happy lives and how we create healthy relationships. Boundaries are an act of self-love! We hope we leave you informed on how to begin setting healthy limits with our loved ones. Join us on Instagram to engage with us and our community. We would love to hear your thoughts and ideas of what topics you are interested in and connect! Check out our book recommendation: Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab

This episode was definitely long overdue. You can find all of my books, and the sign up sheet for Self-Care Saturday Nights here: www.AuthorCiciB.com

Soul Defined - EP 6 - MOM POWER SERIES - Session 3 Boundaries, Boundaries, Did I Say Boundaries? The Secret to “MORE MOM POWER" SERIES EXPLAINED! What is MOM POWER? Mom Power is YOUR PERSONAL BEST STATE OF BEING. It is making your world about what fuels your heart and not what you are supposed to be living like because it's all you have ever known.. It is being present, ending the noise that fills your head, mind and soul and following your heart instead. It is showing up FOR YOU, AS YOU and BY YOUR STANDARDS every single minute of every single day. It is ending depletion, fear, hate, connection starvation and survival mode by welcoming LOVE, COMPASSION, EMBRACE AND CONNECTION and MOST OF ALL EMBRACING YOU, as your TRUE SELF! It is YOUR LOVE WORLD! It is the REAL YOU, your TRUE SELF, your HIGHER SELF! This series is near and dear to my heart because every moment, example or story I share happened to me, it was all part of my journey and then I shared it all with others who followed their own path and I was able to help them turn their life around, just the same. NOW, It is YOUR TURN! THIS EPISODE: OOOOOOOOhhhhh.. I just love what BOUNDARIES can do for a person and how empowering they are. This episode talks all about what boundaries are, how to implement them, what to expect, how to keep the strength and all the in betweens. Boundaries are CHOICES WITH PURPOSE, they outline the life you decide you want to build and with each new boundary comes momentum for more. They feel amazing as they are instant gratification for your soul. Your heart leads the way with boundaries and the use of them brings more and more into your life that you want. I feel so strongly about boundaries that they were the most pivotal moment of my journey. RELEASE TO RECEIVE. As I released and said NO, more and more came pouring into my life (people, opportunities, money, connection etc.) flooding me with more and more of a life I love and live today. You deserve to live your absolute best life and it all starts with one NO, one I cannot make it, I have plans, one I'm sorry, I just cannot. Your life gets built from there. BOUNDARIES WILL SET YOU FREE! My homework for you: SET BOUNDARIES AND STICK TO THEM, send me a DM and let me know what boundaries you set and how you felt afterwards. (remember, the people on the receiving end don't always respect or like your boundaries but that is THEIR PROBLEM, not yours). If you are respectful and honest, you are doing all the right things! You can do this, your new life is awaiting it's connection with you! I promise! Thank you so much for sharing your time with me here, I greatly appreciate it!! If you would like to connect with me further, check out my links! You can find me on Social Media as Angie Hartzel Youtube Channel - Angie Hartzel Website: www.angiehartzel.com All links to how to find me are listed in my Linktree link: https://linktr.ee/angiehartzel **LEAVE A REVIEW** Let me know what you think of SOUL DEFINED! I would love to hear your thoughts and future topic ideas! Connect with me, I love to hear how each of you are leveling up in your own life! What's feeling good, what is still hard and what fuels you! angie@angiehartzel.com Love, Light and Big Ass Boundaries Angie

This is must listen for you, dear Empaths, because healthy boundaries are a fundamental element to healthy relationships and a healthy YOU! In this episode Laura Ann goes over the basics of boundary setting to set you up to feel empowered in creating the boundaries you need. Interested in diving deeper into the work of boundaries and cultivating healthy relationships as an Empath? Be sure to get your own supportive resources from Laura Ann, designed especially for Empaths and Sensitives!

This episode runs the gamut as Lauren and Jill dish about what they're currently bingeing on Netflix, Lauren's new app obsession, and the wildest interview questions they've been asked. Tune in for the Netflix, stay for the updates on Jill's dating life, and weigh in on whether it's better to “gently ghost” or send the text of doom after 3 dates. The episode closes out with all things boundaries…how to set them, why it's so hard to do just that, and how to deal with the negative self-talk that creeps in!

In this part 3 episode, I am sharing with you 10 Ways to Set and Maintain Boundaries. By setting boundaries, you respect your own time, needs and wants. I also discuss how to recognize other people's boundaries. When you do not set boundaries you are sacrificing your happiness and you tend to enable others and not allow them to learn how to help themselves. Setting boundaries is a great way to separate your feelings from other people feelings while protecting you emotional, mental and physical well-being. Yes, boundary setting may not feel good if you're not use to being consistent with setting them, but they are surely necessary. Credit goes to Psych Central and their article "10 Ways to Build and Preserve Better Boundaries." PLEASE LEAVE US A VOICE MESSAGE TO LET US KNOW HOW OUR CONTENT HAS HELPED YOU by clicking the link below Enjoy Tamekis #tamekisinspiredme www.missiondorothy.com www.takoriblendz.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/missiondorothy/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/missiondorothy/support

In this part 2 episode, I am sharing with you what boundaries are, the difference between rigid and loose boundaries so that you can learn if your boundaries are healthy or not. I also discuss 5 types of boundaries you will need to assess, set or reset.  By setting boundaries, you respect your own time, needs and wants. When you do not set boundaries you are sacrificing your happiness and  you tend to enable others and not allow them to learn how to help themselves. Yes, boundary setting may not feel good if you're not use to being consistent with setting them, but they are surely necessary. Credit goes to Psych Central and their article "10 Ways to Build and Preserve Better Boundaries." PLEASE LEAVE US A VOICE MESSAGE TO LET US KNOW HOW OUR CONTENT HAS HELPED YOU by clicking the link below or pasting it in your search bar. https://anchor.fm/missiondorothy/message Enjoy Tamekis #tamekisinspiredme www.missiondorothy.com www.takoriblendz.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/missiondorothy/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/missiondorothy/support

In this episode, I am sharing with you Nathaniel Branden's take on boundaries and the importance of setting boundaries in your life in order to have emotional balance. Boundaries are essential to your quality of life and ability to live authentically. By setting boundaries, you respect your own time, needs and wants. When you do not set boundaries you are sacrificing your happiness and you tend to enable others and not allow them to learn how to help themselves. Yes, boundary setting may not feel good if you're not use to being consistent with setting them, but they are surely necessary. PLEASE LEAVE US A VOICE MESSAGE TO LET US KNOW HOW OUR CONTENT HAS HELPED YOU by clicking the link below or pasting it in your search bar. https://anchor.fm/missiondorothy/message Enjoy Tamekis #tamekisinspiredme www.missiondorothy.com www.takoriblendz.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/missiondorothy/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/missiondorothy/support

We all know what it's like to feel drained by the people around you..... like a friend who takes too much, a partner who doesn't meet your needs, or a workplace that pushes you to burn out. In this episode, we dig into how to create boundaries so we can have happier, more fulfilling relationships in our lives.  This episode is 100% inspired by the incredible book Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab. About the podcast:Reset is a casual spiritual conversation that inspires you to listen to yourself, love yourself, and say yes to life. It is hosted by Liz Tran, an executive coach to founders and CEOs of tech startups, and the founder of Reset.Instagram: @resetnycWebsite link 

Welcome to the 10th episode of Chaotic Compass podcast! In this week's episode, we are talking about all things boundaries. How do you set boundaries? What is up with the social standards of boundaries? What do they look like for me? Some of my boundaries include having Sunday mornings for myself, setting date nights, and making sure to separate my husband from my business partner. I've learned that boundaries are important because you can't pour into other people if you are empty. Let's navigate the chaos together. For more content, check out my Youtube page here Thanks for the love!

On our second episode back, we talk about boundaries and why you need to set them for your own peace of mind! Links:

Boundaries boundaries boundaries! There is a delicate balance when it comes to boundaries. There are different levels of boundaries depending on the relationship situation. How do we be ourselves at work with out oversharing or crossing lines? When or if we cross a line how do we retrace our steps? Have you ever been in a middle of a conversation and suddenly there is an awkward silence? That is the silent sound of a boundary being crossed! Firstly, what is a boundary? There are many ways we can define this. My definition of a boundary is an awareness of which aspects of yourself is appropriate to share with someone. The way I see this is that the closer you are to someone the wider and deeper you avail aspects of yourself. The more distant you are the less of you will be available. What does this all mean? To understand, this we need to be aware of the 5 levels of boundaries. 1. You share activities/experiences, ideas (your life philosophy) and all values eg a best friend, a close husband/wife/love partner. 2. You share activities/experiences, ideas and some values. Eg a very good friend, but not the first person you would call to move the body (dear me that is a strange example!). 3. You share activities/experience, some ideas and perhaps one or two values connect you. Eg a work colleague who you only see at work, but you share an interest in cycling or something. 4. You share activities only. Eg someone you cycle with, but your conversation rarely strays far from cycling. 5. You have zero in common. Ie no activities or ideas let alone values. Eg people you may see once a year out of family obligation. Hope you enjoy listening to episode 60 as we explore more deeply this insight into boundaries. Thank you so much

Last week's episode we talked all about overcommitting yourself to people, situations, etc. & how this over commitment can often times rob you of your sanity, tranquility, and peace of mind.  In this week's episode Coco talks about the other side of the coin when it comes to boundaries. Have you ever found yourself constantly saying no, no, no and limiting yourself in some way? Tune in to learn more about the dualistic approach to boundaries and how to find the balance in life. 

If you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything... Which is why you NEED to set boundaries and enforce them in your life and business. I promise you, your business will be better for it. Let's talk about what boundaries can look like for you and what some of mine are, too.   Join the Hustle & Grit Club today: https://hustleandgrit.club   Get started with ClickUp for free! https://heyjessica.com/clickup   Grab my course to learn #allthethings about ClickUp! https://heyjessica.com/clickupcourse   Sign up for a FREE month of my favorite email marketing system, ConvertKit at https://heyjessica.com/convertkit   Get your FREE month of Audible which includes a FREE book and TWO free audible originals at https://heyjessica.com/audible   Follow me on the 'gram! Personal Account: @jessicastansberry Biz Account: @heyjessicaco

Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. They make the world go ‘round. It’s a topic so important, we had to cover it twice. At their best, boundaries benefit both you and your clients. They set you up for the best quality work AND the best quality working relationship. But how do you figure out when to set boundaries? In this episode, we'll teach you how!

Hi Body Protesters! We have another bonus for you as we are gearing up for S3. We speak with our very first guest of The Body Protest, life coach and author Michelle Elman – who you may know as @scarrednotscared on social media. We talk about themes from her new book: The Joy of Being Selfish so cover BOUNDARIES in depth. We needed this and took notes. We hope you enjoyed listening! Please remember to rate, review, share and subscribe! Honey and Nadia x x x Chat to us on Instagram: @honeykinny @nadia.craddock See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Creating work/life balance? What even is that?! Learn how to begin setting all the right boundaries and how to manage the best use of your “you” time.Kinda hood, kinda zen, & hella vulnerable.Find Sam!Insta: @samcutitBusiness Website/Booking info: inforahairstudio.orgFind Kimmy!Insta: @andy_and_edieBusiness Website: theandyandedie.comPodcast Website: selfhoodpodcast.comPodcast Insta: @selfhood.podcastHosted by: Samantha Schnell-Chavana, Kimmy Apodaca, &Kim BerlatProduced by: Joaquín M. ChavanaIntro/Outro provided by: Matt ChavezInsta: @bryn.mawr

In this short talk we talk about boundaries. Boundaries protect us spiritually, mentally, physically. In our next talk about boundaries we will discuss setting boundaries. Today we talk about the purpose of protection using boundaries. The Father who loves us with no limits would like us to use boundaries to protect ourselves. Please share this message with someone who needs to hear it. The Lord would like you listen to His words. Open your heart and mind to what the Lord would like to share and place on your mind and heart in this message. If you would like to share what the Lord has been speaking to you or you would like to share your story of trauma, wounds and healing please join us on our website and join the forum. Or if you would like to share your testimony on the podcast please email us. You Are Not Alone. We invite you to go to the website and become a member. Share your heart with us. https://voiceforthewomen.wixsite.com/website.                                Email: voiceforthewomen@gmail.com   

Ep #35 – Boundaries Boundaries are pretty simple. They are actions you take to honor your decision and made from love. What You'll Learn on this Episode: What is a boundary? How do you honor it? Featured on the Show: Ready for a better relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments! The post Boundaries appeared first on Ms Christie Williams.

Ep #35 – Boundaries Boundaries are pretty simple. They are actions you take to honor your decision and made from love. What You’ll Learn on this Episode: What is a boundary? How do you honor it? Featured on the Show: Ready for a better relationship with yourself? Work with me one-on-one. Join me on Instagram and tag me in all your favorite Hello, Lovely moments!

Today, Heather and Mary Catherine will delve into the importance of BOUNDARIES, as it pertains to your mental health. Personal Boundaries are important because they set the basic guidelines of how you want to be treated. Boundaries are basic guidelines that people create to establish how others are able to behave around them. ... Setting boundaries can ensure that relationships can be mutually respectful, appropriate, and caring. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

This week on the Thinking Like a Boss Podcast, we are kicking off part one of a new series, discussing all things boundaries. One thing to hold onto throughout this series is that boundaries equal love. And once you are able to understand and set boundaries, you can show up better for yourself and the people around you, creating safety for everyone. In this episode, Kate shares why we need them, why we don’t like them, and how to get started with setting the ones you need most in your life. Thinking Like A Boss: Uncover and overcome the lies holding you back from success is now available to order! Head to https://www.katecrocco.com/book for more informationSee full show notes >> https://www.katecrocco.com/podcastblog/boundaries-part-oneJoin us in the conversation. Screenshot your show, share your biggest takeaway and tag us on Instagram stories @katecrocco!

The world has been turned topsy-turvy, upside down, and I don’t foresee us going back to “normal”, or at least the normal we knew it, any time soon. So I wanted to get a podcast episode to you about how to make the most of your existing work from home situation. I have been working part-time from home ever since I started my practice here in Toronto. When I am not seeing patients, I am working from home. I don’t love coffee shops or libraries because I think people watching is the most entertaining thing on the planet. So I need the alone time. But, I won’t lie to you: working from home is not easy. Especially when you have a partner doing things around the house, or children running around, or a partner who is taking work calls and you need to sync Google Calendars. Trust me: I get it. Which is why I wanted to give you this episode. So let’s get into it!   [Tip No. 01] Desk & Chair Setup To me, this is the single most important part of working from home. If your desk is not set up properly you are going to be less efficient, less motivated & in more pain than you need to be. All of these are no bueno in my books. So what should your desk setup look like? Well that my friend is what I am here to tell you! My very first (& I think most important suggestion) is your monitor height. Because you are at home, I am guessing that you are working off a laptop and not a desktop. While I love the flexibility of the #laptoplifestyle, it is not helpful to our bodies. So how do we combat this? Well, raise that sucker up. You’ll want to get a laptop stand. They are made to raise your laptop up so that it is at the right height. And they are adjustable so you can use them at any surface. But what is the right height? Well that is partially dependent on you. You want the top line of text to be at eye level. This means that when you are scrolling through that dreaded Google doc you are working on for a project, the top line of text should be at eye level. I will let you in on a pro tip. I don’t actually use a laptop stand. My desk in my office is two tiered, so when I am at work, I just put my laptop on the top tier. But when I am at home, I use old chiro school textbooks to raise my computer up so that it is at the right height. Use what you have available. So now that your laptop is at the right height, you probably don’t want to be typing and using the trackpad at that angle. So my second recommendation here is to get an external mouse & keyboard. These don’t have to be anything fancy nor do they have to be wireless. A simple mouse & keyboard is going to make all the difference when it comes to your set up. Your back & neck will thank me. So we’ve talked about your laptop, mouse & keyboard, but we’re still not done with your desk setup. We now need to chat about your chair. This is a second crucial portion of your work from home success. There are a couple things to talk about when it comes to your chair, but first thing’s first. Use it. What do I mean by that? Well for some reason, people like to sit at the edge of their chair with a good 6-8 inches between them and the back of the chair. This is not doing anything for you. The back of your chair is there for a reason, and that reason is to support you. You are not doing yourself any favours by being on the edge of your seat all the time. Sit back and let the chair do its job. A second point to add to your chair is it’s height as well. And for this, you need to consider 2 things: The first is the angle of your knees. You want the chair to be at a height that your knees form a 90 degree angle. Now you don’t have to go out and get a protractor, but you want to observe to see if your knees are too bent, or not bent enough. If you feel like your feet aren’t touching the floor enough, you might want to consider placing a couple of books under your feet to help with this. You also want your chair height to help with your elbow angle. This should be close to 90 degrees as well. If you can adjust the height of your chair, do so to get this angle, if not, sitting on some pillows will help as well. Why does this elbow angle matter? Well if the elbow is too bent, it will cause excess pressure on the wrists, and if they aren’t bent enough, it can cause you to lean forward more than you need to. Neither one of these are ideal options. [Tip No. 02] Environment So that is your desk setup, but that isn’t all I have to help with your work from home. Tip number two is your environment. Now I know that this seems super woo-hoo, but there is tons of research saying that a negative environment negatively affects our productivity and vise versa. Before I give you tips on environment and what my overall workspace looks like, I do want to tell you one environment that you should not work in, and that is your bed. This is for a couple of reasons: It is just too comfortable. The urge to take a nap is overwhelming and you’ve got to have willpower of steel to resist the nap. Not worth your energy & brainwaves. Your posture can’t really be optimal here. You can prop your laptop up on a pillow or sit cross legged and that will probably be comfortable for a half an hour, but eventually a slump will happen. It is not good for your sleep. Research has shown time and time again that if you work where you sleep, you simply won’t get as restful of a night’s sleep. Your bed is meant for sleep and sex. That’s how our brain recognizes it. Make your workspace somewhere that you want to be. For me, I like to make sure the room is tidy because I cannot work in a messy room. I also like to light a candle and have a plant next to me? Why? Well I like plants, and I like the flickering flame. I also hate being cold, so I usually have my slippers on and a big knitted Afghan made by my grandmother. I am sure that all that was way more information on my day-to-day than you bargained for, but they have all helped me be more productive than just chilling on my couch. Another really great tip to improve your working from home productivity is to switch it up, if you can. The more different my surroundings are the more productive I will be. I know that it’s more difficult to switch things up while we are all physically distant from one another, but it is still possible. Now that it is warming up a wee bit in Toronto, I have been taking some time to work outside. I find that I am more creative and ideas come to me easier when the sun is shining and I am outside.  If you don’t have the ability to get outside, or the day is gross, even switching up where you sit can help. I see all of you Toronto condo dwellers who are doing your work from your kitchen table. You’re doing great! Even moving your setup from one end of the table to the other can make a really big difference. [Tip No. 03] Boundaries Boundaries play a massive role in our success when working from home. The pressure to be constantly working is something that I have felt, and I am sure you have felt. You need to create boundaries that work for you. No one can tell you what those boundaries are, but I can tell you what my boundaries are to maybe give you some ideas. No working lunch. I do not eat lunch and work at the same time. So what do I do instead? Well I am lucky enough to have a partner who lives with me, so we often eat lunch together, but if not, I’ll throw on an episode of my favourite show as I eat & truly take the time to separate myself and not do any work while I am eating lunch. This one is aimed at entrepreneurs & people who make their own schedules. Schedule at least one no work day during the week. Mine is Sundays, and always has been. Taking Sundays off works best for me & my lifestyle and it allows me to have some resemblance to a weekend. On that note, I will say that I have started to work in a more intuitive way. What do I mean by that? Well, if on a random Tuesday I don’t want to work in the afternoon, that is okay. I have found that I get more done when I work when I want to work and not when I “should” be working. [Tip No. 04] Movement Movement is so important, I can’t stress it to you enough. It is so important to take the time to move your body. And no, I do not mean doing 6 HIIT workouts a week or starting to run 10km. If those are things that you want to do, then go for it, but they are not essential. In fact, they can be detrimental. If you are extra stressed during these times or have never been one to do intense workouts before, starting now would not be my go-to for two reasons. The first being that it can actually increase your stress levels, and the second being because the likelihood of you getting hurt is much higher. So what should you do instead? First thing’s first: get up every 45 minutes. Take the dog for a walk, do 10 jumping jacks, do the dishes from lunch, just do something that is not sitting. Second: try doing something that is not going to be too taxing on your body but is still going to get you moving. Some ideas to get you going: YouTube yoga: there are tons of great teachers out there giving great classes (and have been since pre-pandemic). If you have never done yoga before, you will be surprised as to how much work it actually is, especially if you are like me and have done zero balance work in the past. A simple bodyweight workout: think pushups, air squats, jumping jacks, lunges, burpees, etc. The key to this: start slow and work up from there. If you have any questions on how to start here, reach out. I would be happy to help or point you in the right direction. Therapeutic  exercise: you are probably thinking: what the heck is that? Therapeutic exercise refers to specific exercises aimed at treating a condition or diagnosis. The healing of any injury should involve exercises at some point in the process. Now, just to be very clear, I am not diagnosing anyone via this podcast.  But, my guess is that if you have been working from home & listening to this podcast, you are struggling just a bit with your posture. You’re feeling a bit hunchback-y and you’d like some additional help. That is exactly why I have created a free resource for you that goes along with this podcast. Inside this resource are three exercises that I love to use when I start working to help someone improve their posture. Now there is nothing saying that these three exercises are the best first three you should be doing. There is no such accolade (as much as I wish there were). But these three are really easy, can be done anywhere and they are super effective. How do you get these exercises? Simple: head on over to www.drdonaldlittlewood.com/posture-exercises to get your copy today. Well that’s it, that’s all from me. Hoping you have a great day, however you spend it. This has been the Convo with a Chiro podcast, episode 14!

Do you have issues with boundaries? How to Set Healthy Boundaries... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jDt9EXndgw

Do you have issues with boundaries? How to Set Healthy Boundaries... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jDt9EXndgw

Do you have issues with boundaries? How to Set Healthy Boundaries... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jDt9EXndgw

Do you have issues with boundaries? How to Set Healthy Boundaries... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jDt9EXndgw

We all have our limits.some are able to vocalize them. Some are very uncomfortable. Let's take a look at this. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/brandy-singleton-episodes/message

Well, today's episode is about the thing I've struggled most in my life: BOUNDARIES & PEOPLE-PLEASING. If you struggle with that, today's episode will be extremely helpful to you! Over n' out. Your coach, Ty. Instagram: @tysimmons.coach --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/therelationshipcoach/message

The essay, "Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries!" from the January 2020 edition of Cultivating Respect with Darcy Castro. Follow all the Cultivating Respect articles and podcasts at DarcyCastro.com.

It's the most wonderful time of year and that means family, friends, events, parties, gatherings and exhaustion. We dive into setting healthy boundaries to best enjoy YOUR time. Balance brings peace. Plus, Ashley is OBSESSED with Jim Gaffigan & his texts.

I was asking a question today... How am I going to try and tie this all in with what we have been disussing the last 2 days... I asked the Lord, talked to my husband about it and between the 3 of us... This is what came to mind. Thank you for taking time to listen to this episode! Join me for Food For Though Friday where I go LIVE on Facebook to encourage you with whatever I believe will from the context of my own life. Facebook link:https://www.facebook.com/ChristianLifeCoaching Also check out Soul Food Sunday where my husband Scott talks to you guys about what he is leading us in as a church. YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyoExE3Q0zTgZau2ZYon0PA Check out Daily Merch! https://teespring.com/stores/daily-merch-4 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/ashley-campbell29/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashley-campbell29/support

Boundaries are kind of a buzz word these days but do you know what they really are?  Do you have a hard time not letting others opinions of you consume your thoughts?  Do you wish people would stop taking advantage of your kindness?  Then this episode is for you. We talk about 3 ways to set boundaries now.  We've also created a download guide for you to dig deeper. Click here to download it and be subscribed to receive future downloads.  Follow us on Instagram and share your "Wait, what?" moments with us.  Interested in working with us? Listeners of our podcast will receive $20 off their initial package. Click here to find out more. 

This week's theme: Boundaries "Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously." Prentis Hemphill Boundaries are not about pushing others away, as the above quote suggests, they're  about clearly identifying what you need to increase the experience of respect and love that builds happy and healthy relationships and cultures.   Today's tip: Rather then simply reacting to the needs of or demands from others, consciously pay attention to what you need and want from others so you can communicate them clearly. In doing so, you'll create the right amount of space to mutually grow with those around you. Next week's QT; the Hint: blaming and shaming...it feels so good THREE WAYS TO CONNECT  LINKEDIN - https://ca.linkedin.com/in/impactbank Listen to my Signature Story: BIG WHY STORY  - on my website Register for the next FREE ASK ROX RoundTable  or schedule a FREE Exploratory Call  https://RoxBartel.as.me/ Interested in trying out the interactive exercise to challenge your inner critic? Click HERE. Learn more on my WEBSITE:  (impactbank.ca)

Meg McClintock on boundaries, boundaries, boundaries! Setting, and maintaining boundaries is so important, and as becomes apparent in this episode, there are many ways we need to be aware of how boundaries can support us, and our communities to take care of ourselves from a place of respect and care. Here, Meg shares: How living in a smaller community shifted her ideas about boundaries How she decides what to share, and what not to share via social media Why she so passionate about safety in Nutrition Education in schools And more!   Connect with Meg: Insta @cn_meg www.choosenutrition.com.au Choose Nutrition on Facebook   More about Meg: Meg is an APD with over 16 years experience in the field. She spent the first part of her career in hospital based clinical dietetics where she developed her love for clinical reasoning, evidence based practice and multidisciplinary care. Meg started her private practice, Choose Nutrition, in 2011 and as she searched for the latest evidence in the area of weight concern, an area she hadn't needed to focus on within the hospital context, she came across the non-diet approach, intuitive eating and HAES. Almost immediately this paradigm made sense of her discomfort with weight centric dietetics  and provided, not just an alternative framework for her dietetic practice but, the missing piece of the puzzle, an understanding of weight stigma and it's harmful influence on research, on traditional dietetic practice and in the lives of the individuals who come to dietitians for help. Meg loves working with school students and teachers to support the provision of safe, eating disorder informed nutrition education is a HAES Australia advisory group member and has delivered guest lectures on HAES and the non-diet approach for dietetic students on HAES and the non- diet approach.

What are boundaries, why are they so hard? Why do we suck at boundaries with parents, exes, co-parents? Why don’t we just unfriend or block people that have hurt us? What is stopping us from letting go?! How the HECK do we do boundaries with our co-parent exes!? We tackle it ALL this week and nothing is off the table! Dr. Alexandra Solomon takes on the hardest of subjects with wisdom and compassion, if you haven't yet read her book find it in the show notes below. Episode Highlights: 3min: Boundaries, how to deal with boundary violations. 5min: Cultural differences in boundaries. 7min: Emotions and boundaries, childhood and boundaries. 14min: How do we know when a boundary is violated? 16min: Personal empowerment vs relational empowerment. 18min: Types of boundaries, secure vs porous vs rigid. 24min: Vulnerability cycles - what the heck are they? 27min: Voicing and breaking out of a vulnerability cycle. 30min: How to deliver a boundary. 31min: Tricky boundaries - exes! Why don’t we block them or delete them? 37min: Why don’t we just break contact - are we being kind to them or only to ourselves? 39min: BOUNDARIES AND COPARENTING 101 44min: How to hold space for your child - what impacts your child the most during a breakup? 49min: Types of families. Show Notes: http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/book/

In this week's episode, join us in discussing boundaries! What does it mean to have boundaries? How do we establish boundaries? Why is it important to have boundaries? Join us for a humorous and new perspective on boundaries! Instagram: @theunbotheredpodcast Email: theunbotheredpodcast@gmail.com

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Boundaries | Boundaries are a critical piece of our relationships with other people. But if you're anything like me, no one has really explained to you what they are, why you need them and how you can use them in your relationships (both platonic and romantic). In this episode, I shed a little more light on this important topic so you can start thinking about how you can define and enforce boundaries in your own life. BLOG: http://www.thealignedlife.co COACHING: https://www.thealignedlife.co/coaching/ INSTAGRAM: http://www.instagram.com/thealignedlife/

Have you ever had that feeling right before a party you were throwing starts? That creeping dread that no one will show up? Today I talk to Jesse Israel, who doesn't seem to have that fear. Jesse flips that feeling on its head. For Jesse, it's very simple: People *want* to connect. And the invitations we, as organizers and conveners, send out...they're just permission slips. The invitation gives people permission to connect. Jesse Israel is the founder of Medi Club and the Big Quiet, which hosts huge public meditations in places like Madison Square Garden and the World Trade Center's Oculus for literally thousands of people. I met Jesse Israel at a dinner party way back in early 2015 at a Rabbi's house. We had a great conversation and discovered a few shared interests. Somehow we discovered we both loved biking the city and he invited me to check out his cycle club, the Cyclones. And then he mentioned that he had a meditation club, too. As a life-long meditator (before it was cool!) I was intrigued. When I went to my first Medi Club, I was struck by the energy and the intimacy of it. How easy it was to connect with the crowd, which got larger and larger each time I came. The Medi Club meets monthly and regularly attracts a few hundred people ready to sit in silence with their peers. The Cyclones is similarly huge, and a blast, every time I make it out. So, to be clear: In Jesse's view, we connect *through* things: the bike, the meditation, is permission to connect. It's the connection we crave. He just opens the door. There are few key conversation design principles I want to pull out of this conversation, to look for as you listen, all around how to frame profoundly motivating invitations: What permission will you give for people to connect? What's the deep and clear purpose of it? What are the boundaries of the invitation? And something else I saw that Jesse does: he pre-invites. He builds a coalition of the willing early, before he opens up the larger invitation.  Deeper into the conversation, we talk about how to sustain yourself as a community builder: Jesse talks about how he's learned to develop compassionate boundaries, to maintain his internal integrity. If you don't say no to some requests, you can't continue to give. We also talk about how to trust and develop your team. When that trust is in place, that's where the growth really happens. For more in-depth consideration of this conversation, head over to the conversation factory.com and take a look at the show notes! I'd also suggest you take a listen to the episode with Daniel Mezick, founder of open space agility, who's thoughts on invitation match up with Jesse's profoundly! What Permission will you grant? At Medi Club it's okay to open up. When you step into the door, you know you're among friends. How is that permission granted? Jesse shares first. He leads the way and opens the floor. He makes the example clear: He's going to be real and so you can be, too. Over time, the community attracts more and more of this energy. Others take up the charge and spread the norm. What's the Clarity of your Purpose? Early on, Jesse wrote a medium post to declare the intentions of the community he was forming. The article lays out why Medi Club exists in extremely clear language and outlines the purpose of the club in a way that passes the T-shirt test (a rule of thumb that seems to be from Peter Drucker) Also: Is there a larger purpose? The Cyclones is a fun Saturday around NYC, but became something more when they started an Indigogo campaign to get bikes in the hands of 1,000 children in Tanzania.   Is there an authentic way to enlarge the purpose of your invitation over time? Boundaries Boundaries show up in two ways: Boundaries for the invitation and boundaries for the inviter. The Cyclones invites you to give up expectations and planning...for one afternoon. You don't know where you're going, and that's okay. Medi Club stretches that boundary with their circles: Anyone can host a Medi Club circle and create the same energy with a smaller group, anytime they want. Medi Club holds the larger circle and gives each smaller circle an "authorization" to share the same invitation. At min 26: Jesse talks about another form of boundary: A boundary for the convener. "If I don't have compassionate boundaries, I can't show up as a friend or a community builder." When he's at medi club, he's a public person, and everyone there feels some sort of connection with him. But after the club night is over, Jesse has to find a way to restore his strength and be with himself. And if he said yes to every interview, every request to "pick his brain" from the community...there'd be no time for anything else!  This compassionate boundary is a huge challenge, because saying no doesn't feel generous. Finding a way to create a generous no is a critical skill for leading communities. I'm terribly grateful that Jesse was willing to sit down with me for this conversation. I learned a ton from it and I hope you do, too. Links The Big Quiet Cyclones Bike Club Medi Club Medium Article Cyclones Indigogo

To fully understand the importance of boundaries, we have to understand where they came from. If God hard-wired us with an emotional check engine light, it’s our responsibility to know when to address our boundary issues. When we learn that God cares more about our purpose than our performance, we can begin to fully be who he created us to be.

What are Boundaries? Boundaries are foundational to our personal health and within our relationships! Join MercyTalk hosts, Melanie and Jen, as they discuss what boundaries are and the freedom they bring. Have a comment or question? Email MercyTalk. The post What are Boundaries? appeared first on Mercy Multiplied.

Boundaries - Boundaries And Yourself by Freedom Church

Boundaries - Boundaries and Work by Freedom Church

Zinnia shares the importance of keeping strong boundaries in your personal space, career and in relationships and family. Boundaries show you where someone else ends and you begin. Boundaries are a key to strong self-esteem and emotional health and help you make decisions that keep you from leaking power. Zinnia discusses what   strong boundaries look like and what happens when you lack strong boundaries. Visit www.ShaktiPriestess.com to learn more about Zinnia's new mentorship program.

Boundaries - Parenting Boundaries

Boundaries Part 1 - Why Boundaries?

What if the goal of parenting is to help our kids "make friends with reality"?