Behavior Gap Radio: Exploring human behavior...with a Sharpie

In this episode of the Deep Shift series, Carl explores how tactical curiosity—like obsessing over budgeting apps or fueling strategies—often hides something deeper. What starts as a surface-level decision can lead to a powerful emotional insight. Maybe it's not about interest rates… maybe it's about fear, identity, or old family patterns. Carl walks us through why it's easier to talk spreadsheets than shame—and how simply asking, “Why are you asking?” can crack open the truth.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In episode two of the Deep Shift series, Carl names the chase we all know too well: tactical curiosity. The frantic hunt for the perfect app, book, or tool isn't really about solutions—it's often a way to avoid the deeper, scarier questions. This episode invites you to pause the chase and ask, “What am I really trying to solve for?” Because awareness—not another download—is where real change begins.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this first episode of a new series, Carl introduces the Deep Shift framework—his attempt to map the real journey of change. It's not about picking the right tactic or finding more information, it's about uncovering what's blocking the doing. From tactical curiosity to deep ritual, Carl explores why lasting change starts below the surface… and invites you to walk through it with him.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this wrap-up to the Your Wise Money Friend series, Carl shares where the idea came from and why it matters. People don't want another financial plan—they want to feel okay. They want someone to walk with, someone who listens with golden-retriever-level curiosity. In this episode, Carl challenges us to become that kind of friend: no agenda, no judgment, just love, presence, and deep curiosity. Turns out you don't need to know anything about money to be a wise money friend. You just have to care.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In the final episode of the Your Wise Money Friend series, Carl reflects on what it means to hold the mirror gently. A wise money friend helps you see what's really there—not with blame, but with compassion. It's that rare mix of an empathetic hug and a well-timed kick in the butt. Because real clarity doesn't come from shame—it comes from being seen, kindly.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In episode nine of the Your Wise Money Friend series, Carl highlights a defining trait of true support: Instead of rushing to give answers, instead asking better questions. The kinds of questions that invite reflection, spark clarity, and open doors. Because real change doesn't come from advice, it starts with curiosity.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode of the Your Wise Money Friend series, Carl shares a simple but rare truth: A wise money friend doesn't have an agenda. They're not selling, fixing, or convincing. They're just fully present—genuinely invested in your clarity. Once you've felt that kind of presence, you don't forget it… and you stop settling for anything less.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In this episode, Carl continues the Your Wise Money Friend series with a powerful reminder: A wise money friend believes you are enough—even when you feel like you've screwed everything up. They don't excuse your mistakes, they restore your dignity. Because real change doesn't come from shame, it comes from remembering who you are.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In episode five of Your Wise Money Friend, Carl reflects on how true wisdom isn't pushy. A wise money friend doesn't rush your process or pressure your decisions—they wait with you. Because they know money decisions are rarely urgent, and often about something much deeper: identity, emotion, and transition.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In episode four of Your Wise Money Friend, Carl shares how a wise money friend helps you pause, not to stop you, but to give you space. Space between the impulse and the action. Space to breathe, to feel, and to choose. Because the point isn't control—it's clarity. And that little pause? That's where alignment begins.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In episode three of Your Wise Money Friend, Carl reminds us that to a wise money friend, your story is never just about money. They listen between the lines—because behind every financial decision is something deeper: fear, joy, dreams, love. A wise money friend knows it's all connected, and that's where the real conversation begins.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

In episode two of Your Wise Money Friend, Carl explores the idea that wisdom isn't about being right—it's about being present. A wise money friend won't hand you a to-do list or correct your choices. Instead, they ask the deeper questions that help you see yourself more clearly. Because the goal isn't certainty, it's clarity.Want more from Carl? Get the shortest, most impactful weekly email on the web! Sign up for the Weekly Letter from Certified Financial Planner™ and New York Times columnist Carl Richards here: https://behaviorgap.com/ 

We've all heard it: “More money, more problems.” But what if that's only one way to see it? In this episode, I share a conversation with Rabbi Shira Stutman that helped shift my perspective from viewing money as a burden to seeing it as a tool for possibility. It's a simple lens change… but it might just change everything, especially if you've ever felt guilty, ashamed, or stressed about wanting more.This isn't just about money.It's about how we see the world:Problems… or possibilities?

A real email exchange about a home repair gone wrong reveals something deeper: how writing without curiosity—especially when we're certain we're right—can turn a simple message into emotional kindling.

If you're frustrated by bottlenecks in your projects, teams, or creative work... look closer. It might be you. In this episode, Carl shares why that's actually good news—and how entrepreneurship, at its best, is a brutal but beautiful path to personal growth.

We all say money can't buy happiness. But deep down, are we hoping it can remove our unhappiness? In this episode, Carl flips the script—and asks what hole we're really trying to fill.

Feeling stuck in a loop? Like every day is just… the same? In this episode, Carl explores what happens when purpose goes missing—and why the smallest spark can change everything. From “bullshit jobs” to freshman soccer referees, this one's about reclaiming meaning in ordinary moments. You don't need a big dramatic change. But you do need to decide not to throw in the towel.

Ever felt that spark when watching someone do something incredible—like you're catching a glimpse of pure passion in action? That feeling isn't random. It's a clue, a breadcrumb, guiding you toward what makes you come alive. In this episode of Behavior Gap Radio, Carl reveals exactly how to decode these moments, uncover your own passion, and turn inspiration into action. Because the world doesn't need more people just getting by—it needs you to Find Your Fire.

When everything feels risky, uncertain, or just plain overwhelming, the answer isn't to do more—it's to do less. In this episode, Carl shares a simple, surprising way to find solid ground when life feels like it's spinning. It starts with one square inch. And it might be enough to change everything.