Death Prattle

We recorded an episode! And the because it turns out taking care of a baby while working full time is brutally hard and turns your brain to mush, Tara forgot to upload it for a month!  Enjoy this discussion of all the grief stuff that's happened in the last several months!

We're back! This week Tara talks about her birth experience, which did not go as planned (but, spoiler, everything works out in the end). Content Warning: We do go into a fair bit of detail about a traumatic birth experience.

This week we talk about how Jane the Virgin became one of our favorite depictions of grief and loss of a spouse we've ever seen. Major spoilers for seasons 3 and 4 in our discussion. Plus Tara has had a bananas week and Talcott is finding milestones are passing a little more gently.  If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

Content Warning: We are going to discuss thoughts of pregnancy and infant loss in this episode.   This week we talk about existential worries about death while being pregnant. Also Talcott talks about watching Sleepless in Seattle for the first time and Tara is a monster who doesn't know how to let people do nice things for her.    If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

This week we talk about losing a pet as we mourn a member of the Death Prattle cat family. We discuss unexpected loss of a pet and how our relationships to our pets sometimes reflects our relationships with people.  CONTENT WARNING: This episode includes a discussion of pet euthanasia.  If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

Solo episode for Talcott this week while we get back into our regular recording routine. 

This week Talcott talks about taking his third sadness vacation on the anniversary of Val’s death and how what started as a type of escape is becoming an annual tradition. 

Content Note: This weeks episode contains some discussion of pregnancy loss throughout the episode.  This week we make a special announcement that explains why the episode release has been so weird lately. Tara basically talks at Talcott for 35 minutes about all the feelings she's been feeling about being pregnant after losing her first pregnancy earlier this year.    We are switching to an every other week schedule for the foreseeable future while Tara adjusts to the growing an entire whole person situation.   If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

We catch up a little after our slightly erratic release schedule to talk about going to a loved one's wedding as a widower and struggling to read books that reflect our own experience with loss. 

This week we talk about how a trauma response training triggered a very meta existential crisis for Tara about the podcast.  We had some technical difficulties with recording this one so there might be some blips in the audio here and there. If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

This week we answer listener questions. We talk funeral preferences, how much is too much to talk about lost loved ones, and how Talcott should definitely throw out a can of beans that is definitely poison. 

Talcott talks about coming up on the three year anniversary of Val’s death.

This week we talk about the bizarre feeling of thinking maybe your loved one faked it all along. We discuss the coming back from the dead trope in pop culture and how we'd feel if someone actually did that to us.    If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

It's an actual play podcast! Sort of. We record in the same room for the first time in over 80 episodes. We are joined by Tara's partner Ben to play and review Hello, a game designed to start conversations about the end of life. We discuss everything from who we'd turn to in a health crisis to what we want our funerals to be like. Even as people who often talk about death all the time we were surprised how much the questions made us think.    If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223  

Talcott is off this week so we have a short episode where Tara talks about an existential question someone asked her recently. 

This week Talcott goes on a metaphorical journey as he makes sense of some of the feelings around being a widow. We also discuss why reading about death and dying is so much harder for us than hearing about it, and make just an unreasonable number of Star Trek references.    If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

We try a new format as Talcott records some in the moment reactions to getting, and getting rid of his wife's ashes. We talk about how a comfort for some is a weirdly unsettling item for others, and how our reactions to new stages of grief can surprise us. 

We talk about some of the ways social media can trigger grief responses, from pregnancy announcements to people pretending they have cancer for post engagement (yes this is a real thing people do Apparently.)  content note that we discuss a bit about pregnancy loss again in this one. 

This week we’re talking about how our grief can come unstuck in time.   *This episode is being released out of order because of some audio issues with an earlier episode. We might make references to an episode that doesn't exist yet because the show - like our grief, got unstuck in time. If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

Talcott is joined by special guest Daniel Baruela (@danielbtweets) of @justaangin to talk about death and Star Trek. Lots of spoilers from Discovery so catch up before you listen! Check our Daniel's podcast Just Aangin' Around 

This week we talk about events we associate with our loved ones and the audacity of the rest of the world to keep moving forward when we want to hold on to the nostalgia of the moment. 

This week Tara shares a story about experiencing early pregnancy loss, rapidly cycling through stages of grief, and making choices about in whom to confide.  If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

Special guest Tony Bowens joins us to talk about making friends while a loved one is in hospice, poorly timed hospital announcements, and and frustration with well meaning platitudes.    If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

This week we are joined by Aubrey to talk about losing a parent in your 30s, getting "the call" twice, and Talcott's irresponsible use of his weather machine.  If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223  

This week Tara struggles with whether or not she should go to the funeral of someone she only kind of knows. We discuss anxiety about grieving wrong, not wanting to hurt people and weird morbid curiosity when someone's cause of death is unknown to us.    If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

Tara saw Coco over vacation so we are talking about death and grief in Pixar movies. And not just Up! Thank you to everyone who has been on the show this past year and before. We have really grown over this last year and that has been because of you. If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

This week special guest Dawn Gildenmeister of the Beckett to the Future podcast joins us to talk about losing her dad, making decisions about life support, and being allergic to your best friend.  If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223 Check out Dawn's show at their website Beckett to The Future or wherever you get your podcasts. Follow the show on twitter @BeckettFuturePod  

This week we remember Zoe the lich cat whose necromancy finally gave out. Talcott talks about making the decision to put down a pet and what those last moments were like. Content warning we do talk about euthanizing a sick animal. It is not graphic but Talcott described the process and some experiences in the room. 

Friend of the show Alan White joins us to talk about how his cancer treatment went, bird people, and experiencing loss when you’re far away from home. 

This week we talk through our plans to try to start capturing some of the instances of mourning in pop culture. Talcott gets to talk about Hallmark Christmas movies and Tara gets to talk about spreadsheets so we are both really in our element. If you saw loss of a partner depicted in pop culture, help us out and log a few details about it here!   If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223  

We talk about wedding anniversaries after being widowed, feeling like your life the first act of a Hallmark Christmas movie, cat cannibalism, and German words to express confusing feelings If you saw loss of a partner depicted in pop culture, help us out and log a few details about it here!   Learn more about that word we found here    If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

This week we talk about how podcast homework can make you sad. We also discuss possible reasons for Tara's obsession with time travel and alternate time lines. We get an update on Zoe the lich cat and talk about how Talcott is totally not projecting and everything is definitely totally 100% just about this cat. 

This week we are joined by special guests Katie Ortlip and Jahnna Beecham, authors of Living with Dying: A Complete Guide for Caregivers. We talk about end of life care, how to have tough conversations about death, and whether it's ok to sell your dad's art at a garage sale.  To learn more about their work or to get a copy of their book check out their website http://livingwithdying.com   If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223    

In what is now becoming an annual conversation, this week we try to unpack some of our complicated feelings about breast cancer awareness campaigns. We talk about a lot from feeling left out of survivor narratives to the potential power of symbolism and community. We also ask the big question: are pumpkins the new pink ribbons?   If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

Talcott watched Billboard Dad so we talk about what it gets really right and really wrong about the grieving process after losing a spouse. We also discuss wedding anniversaries, Star Trek (of course), and Tara has a big announcement. (Spoiler, it's that you have to call her doctor now).   If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

This week we are catching up on a bunch of partial topics we've had rolling around. We talk about trying to recognize the privilege in being flippant about death, discovering triggers for grief, happy moments about loved ones, and a very bad idea for a billboard.  Here is the article we briefly discuss this week. Go read it because it covers the topic way better than we could.  https://theestablishment.co/who-gets-to-have-a-good-death-201c29badb3c   If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

Matthew of the In Momormium Podcast joins us to talk about in project exploring his mother's life and death through recordings and writings she left behind. We talk about his experience making the show and how its been received by friends and family. We also discuss how things like a journal of fish biology can make you realize how big the world really is.  Check out In Momorium on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher.  You can follow In Momorium on Twitter @momoriumpodcast on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/inmomoriumpodcast/) and on Instagram @inmomoriumpodcast Check out original music from the show at bandcamp and support the show on patreon    If you'd like to get in touch with Death Prattle follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

We watched The Neverending Story this week. It turns out we have a lot of feelings about it. We also talk about bittersweet moments of unexpected grief and endings of a different sort.  

Tara's taking one last (she hopes) dissertation break so Talcott talks about his experience rewatching the episodes of The Simpsons that deal with Ned Flanders as a widow. He talks about the good and bad ways grief is represented and what has resonated with him over the years. 

This week we talk about the etymology of widow and widower and discuss some of the complex feelings around the gendering of these terms.  If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223 Past guest Glen Tickle is bringing his story about losing his brother to the stage at the Scranton film festival September 28th - 30th. For more information and tickets visit bit.ly/goodgriefcomedy

We get back in the swing of recording with a quick episode to catch up. We talk about weird flashbacks, sudden realizations, and very spicy soup. 

While Tara deals with the fragility of her mortal body (she has bronchitis from going to a convention this weekend) Talcott goes solo and talks about a corner of his desk where some mementos of his later wife live.  Regular episodes resume next week! 

Special guest Elissa joins us to talk about working in a cemetery and teaches us a ton of new stuff we didn't know about how burials work. We also talk about headstone capers, phallic grave markers, frustrating old timey handwriting, and high school biology lab.  If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

This week Talcott takes a step towards maybe thinking about dating and we talk about some of the confusing feelings that come along with that. We also talk about using big life events as calendar markers, old video games, and Tara comes up with a horrible slogan for an imaginary dating service. 

This week we ask if you could change it, would you?? We also talk about the practical implications of time travel and how Janeway plays it fast and loose with the timeline.    If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

This week we talk about sadness vacations, making new traditions after loosing someone, living in a Hallmark movie by accident, and celebrate a year of making this show.  If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

We are joined this week by Jake and Carrie, the hosts of Lova YA Like Crazy to talk about the depictions of grief and mourning the YA Novel The Boy in The Black Suit by Jason Reynolds.  If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223 Check out Jake and Carrie's great podcast where they review YA literature at LovaYAlikecrazy.com

This week we are joined by special guest Alan White to talk about the experience of facing his own mortality after a cancer diagnosis.  CONTENT WARNING: There are some descriptions of some of the kinds of trauma you might encounter working in an emergency room from about 15:45 - 20:30 and a brief discussion of suicidal thoughts from about 26:00-29:30 If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

This week we talk about memories that couldn't possibly exist, mourn friendships that never were, and shoehorn in some dinosaur metaphors to make ourselves feel better about all of it.   If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223 or send us an email!

This week we talk about changes to places we've lived and how, sometimes, it can feel like our lost loved ones or our memories related to a place are being left behind. We also get a little ranty about how sometimes you just hate change because it is change.   If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223

This we we are joined by Alexandra Bowser of Arthur, Mommy, Movie Time to talk about how being a care-giver at end of life can all blur together in our memory. Also we talk about Star Trek because of course we do.    Check out Alexandra's podcast Arthur, Mommy, Movie Time where she reviews kids movies with her co-host, her 2 year old son Arthur.  https://www.facebook.com/ArthurMommyMovieTime/ If you'd like to get in touch with the show follow us on Twitter @PrattlePod, like us on facebook at facebook.com/prattlepod or e-mail us at deathprattle@gmail.com Visit our webpage at www.prattlepod.com Our music is courtesy of Matthew Pryce. Visit facebook.com/MatthewPryceMusic to learn more about his work To share a memory call and leave us a message at 347-687-8223