Going (Not Too) Deep

Hey Freaky Friend Fam! We got dragged a bit in our review section about this season's opener - "Ep 74 Is Bussin It Before Marriage A Sin Fr Fr?"We wanted to share our raw thoughts, pick up where we left off, and continue the conversation. Come listen in as we share our hearts with yall. 

Our 80th episode is a real candid conversation about relationships with sex as parents. We brought back a favorite guest for this one - Jamika Carter from the Prayer Plug and MillMom Podcast.Get into girl talk with us!

I mean... the topic is in the title. Lol.IF this topic is discussed in the church, it's debated on both ends of the spectrum.We discuss how our thoughts have evolved on the topic.Listen in and join in on the coversation!

We're continuing this season doing what we've been doing - challenging the norm!We've all heard about "accountability" in the church, especially in terms of sexuality. But is this even biblical? Are we supposed to each other accountable or participate in mind your business ministries?We discuss! Listen in and join in the conversation. Engage with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast.

If you've grown up in church, you've likely heard this:"Men NEED sex."But do they really though? Like, what does this even mean? How is this a thing? Where did this even come from?Join us as we discuss!

Have you ever had a wild, crazy, and just inappropriate sexual thought?Be honest. It's ok. We won't judge. Well, we have. We share ours and how to navigate these as a Christian woman.Listen in. 

With so many new podcasts out there, this new season is the perfect time to reflect.... Why a Christian sex podcast?This episode we break down the true purpose behind GNTD podcast - taking sex back for the Kingdom and what that truly means. Check it out!

We're back, Freaky Friends!We're so grateful for the time we had to get rest and handle life. We got some major life updates for y'all. And in true, GNTD fashion, we got a hot topic right off jump.Purity culture preaches that sex before marriage is a sin. Is that bible though? Like is it REALLY a sin?? We got part 1 discussing our thoughts. Welcome back and dive in with us!

Hi Freaky Friends!Can you believe it's the season 5 finale already?!Don't worry, we're leaving you with a banger!We've been wanting to do this episode for a while. You can't have a Womanhood series without learning about the woman's body!Enter Kavya Davuluri - MD/MBA student at the University of Michigan training to be an ObGyn. She breaks down all we need to know about the female reproductive system and breaks down the most common vagina myths. So, grab your headphones and mirror (yes, your mirror) and get into it!

Hey Freaky Friends!With soon-to-be 5 kids between the two of us, we know a little something about being pregnant. But, you know what's not talked about enough? Doing the thing that got you pregnant while pregnant!That's right. Pregnant P***y. Pregnant sex. We got all the info, tips, and juicy details (no pun intended) on it.Tap in to hear more and share with a pregnant or want-to-be pregnant friend!

Guess who's back, Freaky Friends!Ever wondered how far is too far sexually? Or how many times do you need to try something before getting more comfortable with exploring new sexual things? Or why your spouse might love something sexually that you're just not that into?We brought back guest favorite - Certified Sex Therapist De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson to help us answer those questions. The last time when she was on, she mentioned sexual ethics. This time, she got real and answered all our questions about it. Tap into Episode 71 to hear all about it!

Hi Freaky Friends!We're back in our Womanhood series, and this episode is one we can all relate to. Who hasn't heard about submission as a woman? Well, we're sharing our thoughts on it as well as how it connects to the intersectionality of black, woman, and sexuality.Some great think pieces in this one forsure!Tap in to listen!

Freaky Friends... You know what it is!We made it to episode 69, so you know we had to do something special to celebrate. We have licensed, credentialed sexpert Goody Howard on with us to answer some of our most asked questions about all things oral. This is a don't miss episode with some free gems guaranteed to have you enjoying pleasure in ways you wouldn't expect. Get into it and listen!

Welcome back Freaky Friends!We're in our Women's Series and this week, it's all about the sex talk. As women, a lot of what we hear and learn a lot about sex that shapes our sexuality our entire lives.  But how does God handle this type of convo with us? I'm sure it's very different from the talk our parents (if we even had one!).Get into this latest drop as we dive into the talk... but make it like God tho!

We've all heard of the virtuous qualities of the woman in Proverbs 31. But is a Proverbs 31 woman sexual?We've NEVER heard that narrative preached before, but we have some thoughts...Tap in as we dive into another week of our Womanhood series.

Welcome back, Freaky Friends!This is for the ladiessss.......This season is all about womanhood. So, we're kicking off this series talking about our journey as women in regards to our sexuality and the intersectionality that intertwines it all. Y'all, it's a good season and a good episode.Get into it!

We're baccckkkkk!!!!!Can you believe we're in the 5th season?! Some things have changed since we first launched. So, we're kicking off Season 5 with some real talk about sexual evolution. Tap in to check it out!

It's the most wonderful time of the year.... and the last episode of 2021! Freaky Friends, thank y'all for rocking with us through a rocky 2021. We made it THO!So, we're gonna close out the last episode of the year with another edition of the Undefiled Series: Peace on Earth.We know the holiday times can be full of joy, but not always void of stress. What's the best way to handle conflict around the holidays? How do you make sure you and your boo stay "TEAM US"? How do you and your spouse stay getting freaky in a house full of people?Tap in to listen to our thoughts on all this and more!Resources mentioned: yandy.com, Ultimate Intimacy App

In our Undefiled marriage series, we're talked a lot about sex-ploration. But in our journey, it's normal to wonder.... how far is too far?If you've wondered about boundaries to set or find yourself in too deep with your spouse, check out this great episode with our girl Kim Miller from the Hey, Girl Hey podcast!It's a must listen!Get into it!

A mom? A wife? A Christian? An influencer/marriage social media specialist? A full time lawyer? A woman?Doing it all isn't easy. But doing it all and still being intentional with sex with your husband? Our girl, Lachauna (IG: @mrsmommyesquire), wears all these hats, and comes through and gives us the tips she's learned through her marriage journey that makes her the expert at Sex as a Supermom!If you have any of these titles, this latest episode is a must hear!Tap in to check it out!

Freaky Friends, You know we can't do our Marriage Series, Undefiled, without talking about Sex Toys!We brought in a toy and gift expert, Ese, to break it down for us. And yall..... she broke it ALLL the way down! Everything you wanted to know about sex toys - from where to start to how to convince your partner to level up - is all in this episode!Get into it!

Friends.... How many of us have them?Ok, that may be a stretch. But, we all have heard the advice that when it comes to friends, you should keep your marriage bed details to yourself.But, I mean, what about YOUR friends?We discuss if it's really ok to talk about your sex life with your friends. Can they really be trusted? Can it actually be good for your relationship?Tap in to listen and hear our thoughts!

Sex is usually something painted as you either have the juice, or you don't. But can it change? How does sex evolve in marriage and with age?5 years married and almost 2 years from starting the podcast, we've learned this saying  to be true:" It's about the journey... not the destination."Tap in to learn more!

Szn 4 and we're backkkkk!In the season 4 opener, we're kicking off our Marriage Series with HOW to get in the mood. I mean, sometimes,  you want to....  but you don't WANT to. Kids, work, hormones, just being tired... it can take a toll on your sexual desire. So, we got you covered. Tap in to get all the tips (slight pun intended!) 

Another episode, another month, another season!As we reflect on the Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You series, we share our favorite moments from the season, what we learned and what we're looking forward to ahead!Get into this finale, y'all, and enjoy whatever kind of summer you're planning to have!Connect with us over the break and let us know your favorite moments from this season!!Email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com or hit us up on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast.

We've all heard you have to give your man sex to keep him from cheating, but is it true?This week in the Sex Talk Your Mama Gave You, we're finding out if this age-old saying is true as it relates to our experience.Get into it!Connect with us via IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or via email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

Ok, so we know this is usually a part of the sex talk your Mama did give you, but we're taking it a step further...What's the best birth control?How should you handle it if you're struggling to get pregnant?Does God tell you when to have babies?Get into it to hear this version of the making babies talk your Mama never gave you!Like what you hear?Connect with us via IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or by email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

It's one of the oldest questions....Can men and women really be friends?Well, we're talking about it this week in our Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You series. We share our experiences and what we've learned with our male friends.Tap in to listen!Connect with us! Let us know your thoughts and join the converstaion via IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or via email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

It's no surprise that we're advocates of foreplay on this podcast... but a whole episode thought?Yes sis. It's necessary. lol.We discuss why it's important and the different variation of ways to get into it (pun intended ;-).Get into it.Engage with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or via email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

Freaky Friends, raise your hand if you've ever been talked to about how to ride.No hands?No worries, Waka. We got you covered. This week in the Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You, we're reviewing riding basics. Tap in for the lesson.Got other tips you want to share? Got topic ideas you want us to cover?Connect with us!Email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com or on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast.

Happy Hump Day Freaky Friends!Today in the Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave  You, we're having Sex Therapy!No, not the Robin Thicke kind.... but we're talking with a REAL, CREDENTIALED Sex Therapist y'all. Because who better to school you on the realities of sex than someone licensed to talk about it every day!Our Sexpert DeAndrea  shares what she sees as common reasons that put people hire her as their Sex Therapist, how to navigate being sex positive as a Christian, ways to maximize your sex life, and how to live your life more sensually.It's a JUICY episode!Get into it!To connect with DeAndrea, follow her on IG @sankofasex. To connect with us, follow us @goingnottoodeeppodcast on IG or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.Resources from this episode:@sexpositive_families@revlesexandfaith

Freaky Friends!We're 50 episodes in! Can you believe it?!And what better to commemorate episode 50 than to talk about the first time!We've got everything you need to know about getting it poppin for the first time. Whether it's you and hubby's first time after a long time, your first time  with your spouse or your first time ever, these tips have you covered!So, get into it!Connect with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast ir by email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

This week's Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You includes what you see.... Holy Spirit and Heaux.After we fan girl in an extended Get This Off My Chest (per usual), we discuss if every girl really should have a hoe phase. Somehow, the two tie in together. lol.It's the episode we never knew we needed. Get into it!Like what your hear?Engage with us!Follow us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

There are a lot of stereotypes out about sex, but what's "normal"?How long does it last? What's an average "size"? How many people are actually doing it?Well, Men's Health came through with some answers in an old article.... and we had to talk about it.Get ready y'all.... this episode holds nothing back!Connect with us! Email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com or on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast.

In an unsuspected twist, we took a break from our Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You (STYMNGY) series to discuss a lil DMX and Jesus. Like sex, death is never really talked about until it happens, and by then, we're usually not prepared to deal. Check out our thoughts surrounding Earl "DMX" Simmons' legacy and how it's impacted us and our relationship with Jesus.We'd love to connect with you! Follow us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeep@gmail.com

This week in the Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You series, we're talking sex and technology. It's no surprise that technology has changed the rules of the game. From sliding in the DMs to sending nudes and everything in between, we discuss how to navigate these new norms while being true to yourself, your sexuality, and your spirituality.Check it out!In this week's episode, we reference our podcast friends - the Mill Mom Podcast with Elena Bless the Body and Jamika the Plug. Make sure to check them out here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mill-mom/id1501902625We'd love to engage more with you! Follow us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com to see more!

This week, in our Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You, we go there.... Have you ever woke up to one of THOSE dreams? Yep. The ones may have you waking up feeling a bit "relieved"... Or maybe you wake up feeling guilty. It's hard to know what to feel when no one talks about it.... So this episode, we do! Are sex dreams sinful? Can women have wet dreams? What does it all mean? Is it bad or of God? Listen to this week's episode to hear our discussion!Follow us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com to engage with us and join our Freaky Friend Family!

Another week, another sex talk!This week in the Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You series, we're diving into sexploration.How do you explore sexual things without going "too far"? We share our thoughts!Connect with us @goingnottoodeeppodcast on IG or through email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.Also, if this episode has you "'bout that life" download the Ultimate Intimacy app on your iPhone or Android.

Let's be real, freaky friends....Sometimes sex can create regret, tears, guilt, shame.... heartbreak.On this week in our The Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You series, we discuss bouncing back and how to move on after a sexual experience leaves you with a broken heart. Connect with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or via email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

Part of being a woman is owning your sexiness. This week, we continue The Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You" as we discuss sexiness. Is it wrong to be sexy? How can you be sexy and saved? How do you feel sexy and what does it mean for your sexuality?This is something unique to us women, so let's discuss!Want to engage with us more? Follow us @goingnottoodeeppodcast on IG or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

Ok, first things first.... We know Pt. 1 was rough (definitely a reflection of last week).But, thank yall for rocking with us, and this week, call us Ciara because we leveled up!So, if last week was a bit too much (we get it, sis), listen to this week! We recap some of the best points from Pt. 1, and continue the conversation on desire... like how to create it and get it back.So, get into it y'all. This is the Remix.Like what you hear? Engage with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

After a week of not power, no heat, and no cell service, we cranked out the first episode of our new series - The Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You. To kick it off, we discuss the first thing that makes you realize your sexuality is real  - Desire. We've all experienced it, but where does it really come from? And what's it really mean? And how are you supposed to handle it? Or handle a lack of it?Get into this new series with us as we kick it off with something that's been around forever - fire & desire.(Please bear with us. We had some audio issues this episode.)Want to know more about our podcast? Follow us @goingnottoodeeppodcast on Instagram or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

This has been one of our most asked questions since we've started...Owning your sexuality can sometime mean taking charge. We're talking initiation.It may not be  Valentines Day anymore, but it's always a good time to learn about ways to initiate with your spouse. Listen in to hear our spectrum of "soft" and "hard" ways to initiate intimacy.Want to know more about our podcast? Follow us @goingnottoodeep on Instagram or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

Someone cue up Tony! Toni! Toné! because it's our Anniversary!Y'all, it's been 1 year since we launched this podcast. Can you believe it?!We're kicking off Season 3 with some catch up and reflection...as well as our thoughts on the show that had the whole Internet talking during our sabbatical. Get into it and celebrate with us!References:Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski - Book and WorkbookWant to know more about our podcast? Follow us @goingnottoodeep on Instagram or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

We have one more bonus during our Season 2 Sabbatical - real, unplugged conversation with our first male (non related) guest of the series - Phillip. Listen in to our raw convo with him after the original recording stopped, and get even more insight into what the dating world is like when you think like a man.

This bonus is an unreleased snippet from our last guest, Martina, who shares some tips on how to avoid repeating olds cycles and raising sexually healthy kids.

It's the last episode of 2020, Freaky Friends - and we wanted to leave y'all with one of our most requested topics for the Single Series: maturbation. We go where the church usually won't and answer all the questions they usually don't, like...Is it wrong? Will I go to hell if I do it? Is it ok if it's keeping me from having sex? How can I explore my body/sexuality without going too far? We address the "elephant in the room" (insider for our long term Freaky Friends) in this last episode of the year!Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to our listener family. Thank you for making us a part of this memorable 2020!! Continue to engage with us during this holiday break on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

It's been 84 years...We brought back our girl Fredrica to talk more about how to cope when your single season is going longer than you ever imagined. If you recall, Fredrica waited until she was in her 40s to get married and, subsequently, have sex for the first time. In this episode, we tackle how to handle feeling some type of way when it's not your turn and when you get to the point of either trust God or settle. Contact our guest Fredrica at fccudjoe@hotmail.com. Want to know more about our podcast? Follow us @goingnottoodeep on Instagram or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

Freaky Friends!Y'all asked, and we answered! Cue our first male guest of our single series - Phillip. We got real as we probed into the mind of a single, celibate Christian man to ask all your questions - from dating a virgin, to shooting your shot, to when to bring up celibacy, to how to navigate a relationship while doing it God's way.Get into it!Connect with our guest Phillip on IG @dj.couragous on IG. And connect with us on our social media! Follow us @goingnottoodeeppodcast and email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.

We've been talking about abstaining from sex all throughout out Single Series. But, that's impossible without boundaries. In the last episode before the Thanksgiving holiday, Trece and Ash kick it solo to discuss boundaries as it relates to singleness and life.Connect with us @goingnottoodeeppodcast on IG or by email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com,

I know y'all didn't think we were going to have a Single Series and NOT talk about this... This week, our guest is Shanacee Dunn has an incredible story about how wjen she let God into her relationship she and her now-husband went from having sex for 3 years to NOT having sex for the next 4 years until they got married. It's basically a guide on how to stop having sex with your boyfriend...Let's get into it!Connect with Shancee on her Youtube Channel (search 'Shanacee') or on IG @_shanacee. And connect with us @goingnottoodeeppodcast or via email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.