Healing for Women

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Be 'Authentic' = Be Real ! Look like you, not somebody else. Walk like you, not like somebody else. Be the age you're at- not younger or older. Be who you are, not because "being authentic" is "in" at the moment, but because you want to be real. You might feel fake in yourself, somehow. You might be observing the life of a loved one and you can see that who they're presenting to the world, isn't who they are. You or your loved one, is enough. You are enough without being tough, without the glitz, without the happy-life-is-fine, face. You are ok as you are now. Growing and developing is great, important and 'should' always be a priority- I'm not saying don't improve yourself. But the more real you can be to yourself, the more real people you will attract into your work, friendship, relationship and creative life.

When you have a realization, you will instantly create a whole new reality in your life- within your body, within your environment, with every situation and with all the people you know. A realization is that "ah-ha" moment when something suddenly occurs to you to help you understand something. To have realizations, you need awareness, to build awareness, you can use this meditation: Hear the words "I Am" over and over in your mind, breathe slow and deep in through your nose, out through your mouth and bring all the focus to your heart, holding a crystal at your heart will help a lot too. As you do meditation, your awareness will increase which will lead you to have realizations, that will stop the things that you don't want, from happening and you will move toward to reality you want, automatically. You're reality will improve quickly and for the better.

Make the change you know you need to make. Do it today. Even if it's a little, tiny change, do it. If you have courage, make a big change. Most people are scared of change and scared of the unknown. If you don't want to change, I understand. Generally, when you don't change, your life can get stuck and even go backwards. Help yourself move forward, by changing. Do congratulate yourself for the changes you have made in the past or recently. Well done. Make another important change. Keep changing. Everything will improve!

The most important thing to remember about your age in general is: you are the youngest today than you will ever be. Think about that... Focus on your age today. Nobody knows what you'll look like in years to come. Photos from the past don't matter. Only you in the flesh matters today. There is no time machine. Nobody can go back in the past and be younger. Nobody can travel years into the future and see what they'll look like in years to come. Forget the fantasy. There is no time machine. Accept where you are today. Be real. Be in the present. Celebrate today as the youngest you will ever be :-D !

When you feel your life improving, do feel good about it because of the effort you've put in, but doing stop now. Just because things have improved, don't give up your continuous efforts and tell yourself that it's good enough for now. There is so much more happiness, financial/ freedom, better health amidst other things for you to come, but you have to keep going to get there. Stay focused, steady disciplined. Good job so far! And keep going!

If possible, let yourself say something to somebody you care about or used to care about: a partner, friend, family member, colleague or boss. If the other person hurt you and they never acknowledged it or said sorry, you're unlikely to forgive and forget. Especially if there is still some vague and seemingly insignificant contact between you. Communicate your feelings. Honor them. You owe it to yourself.

PROTECT YOUR LIFE What's in your life? Who are the important people and tasks and elements that make up your life? Your life needs to be protected from other people's selfish demands. Other people and their problems are not your responsibility. They are probably not worth your precious time. You need to get back to your centredness. The wellness of your body will tell you if you're prioritising your life. Protect your life and all that's in it.

If it's crossed your mind that you need to reach out for help, then you probably need to do just that. Unfortunately, most people are put off by their own and other's judgements about why they shouldn't. Judgements can't delete your emotional need to be heard by somebody who could understand and help you get passed something you've been stuck on ages. Until you have resolution, you won't be at peace. Getting help could be one of your best decisions.

As often as possible, remind yourself that you are enough as you are. You don't need anything extra to be acceptable. Tell yourself often that you are good enough. You're just as good as somebody else to receive something. When you're feeling tired but disappointed with results, be your own best friend and remind yourself that you are doing enough. The next time you feel that somebody isn't happy with you, tell yourself that you are giving enough. You could feel tired because you are not acknowledging or appreciating your own efforts. This will cause others to ignore your efforts, which might make you push yourself to do more. Feel respect for yourself. Help yourself relax. Support yourself enough to stop. Remind yourself you are enough as you are and you are doing enough as it is.

(The first minute of this recording is about my talking about the name change from Daily Boost to Healing Insights. From about one minute onward, is the first message in the Healing Insights series.) The first Healing Insight, is about easing into a brand new stage of life which you might be in right now. You might never have been at this stage before, ever. Say in the past, you thought "one day in the future, I will be free to explore certain options, live a new lifestyle, pursue certain passionate interests". But you might have arrived..! You're not in the past anymore, wishing for "that day" in the future, it could be here now, where you are indeed free to live very differently. My advice is: help yourself ease into it. If you are in a brand new stage of life, you're not going to suddenly have the clarity to know what you're doing day to day, week to week. Maybe the new stage began a little while ago, maybe it's only just started... Wherever you're at, give yourself time to get used to things. You could be living a whole new timetable... you could be playing a whole new ballgame... Give yourself time to get your head around everything. You will eventually build up speed and potentially, you will start living the life you've always wanted.

Most of us growing up, were taught to think of the other person and not hurt their feelings. We weren't encouraged to think about our own feelings and what we want. What do you f-e-e-l like doing? Do you really want to spend time with certain people and go certain places to please them? Be loyal to yourself and stick to your guns regardless of the negative attitudes of others and the guilt they may aim at you. Be loyal to your feelings first, be loyal to your thoughts first, be loyal to your opinions first. Don't let yourself down.

You might want to be happier about being in the present, but your mind keeps going back to somewhere in the past where you think things were better. Do yourself a favor and bring your attention to right here and right now. You've grown in yourself and you've learnt important stuff that you weren't aware of back then. Life is actually better now.

It's hard to wake up and feel motivated about your day if you're not sleeping properly. It's so easy to feel negative when you're tired. Prioritise your timetable, your professional and personal life around getting to bed at a regular, early time. You'll feel so much more positive about yourself and your life when you have rested properly.

The needs of your loved ones can feel they are just as important or more important than your needs. But your needs for you, are the most important for you. Your needs can get lost amidst the pressing needs of your loved ones. But you're important too. Your needs are important too. Find the strength, determination, commitment and focus to get back to catering for your own needs now. Now :-) !

You might feel like polished silver- where you look in the mirror and feel happy with what you see, because you put effort into your physical appearance. Or you might feel like unpolished silver- where you don't take the time to appear more attractive in your opinion, because you're not prioritising it. You might have many more important things to do at the moment and don't perceive beautifying yourself to be a priority or relevant to your demands and commitments. Just because you're not prioritising the polishing of your silver, doesn't mean the silver can't be polished at some point when you choose to prioritise it. In the meantime, you're still just as beautiful...

If you don't want to be the one who lifts others up; you're tired of being the counselor, entertainer and comedian for others who always seem down, then remove yourself from them or say sorry. Don't get involved. People who don't want to fix their life, always complain. You might feel they're making you more negative than you already are or you might feel they're ruining your positive mood or sucking all your energy. All you can do in those situations is physically leave or say "sorry to hear that or sorry you feel that way". Keep your energy in tact. Don't get involved with negative people who constantly complain.

Feel better about yourself by having more respect for the things you're interested in, particularly if they have childhood links. Whatever you used to do as a child, whatever you associate with having childlike play time, if you're interested in those things now as an adult, GREAT! You're healing your creativity and reclaiming time that you might have missed out on as a child. Feel good about your interests. Enjoy them. Have respect for what you like!

Nothing in you has been lost. Everything about your ace qualities and behaviors are still there, they're still in tact, even though they're not practised as much as they might have been in the past. You can't expect successful results if you haven't practised the lifestyle elements that were in force in the past, that got you to where you were then. Work your way back up, build momentum and you'll be up there again, if not ten times higher than before!

To achieve a boost of positivity and energy for yourself and your life, can be achieved in a counter intuitive way, that is, to strive less and withdraw a little. You might need to cut back on your involvement or ideals at the moment because you might be disappointing yourself regularly by aiming higher than you can manage. However possible, come back down to a minimum level of functioning and when you've got that maintained for a while, work your way up again.

You are likely to easily, automatically and frequently think to yourself "I should have x by now": the great relationship, the beautiful house, the dream job, a certain amount of money in the bank... etc. You can turn the pressure up with expectations like: you should have x by now because of your age, gender, culture... etc. None of that matters. None of those things apply to you, as an individual. What matters is what you have achieved so far. What matters is that you remember that when you're ready, you will gradually move toward all the things you want. Your future could be great!

Say aloud now: I am worthy. You are worthy of the health you have and the health you want. You are worthy of the money you have and the money you want. You are worthy of the peace you have and the peace you want. You are worthy of the happiness you have and the happiness you want. Say aloud: I am worthy of good health. I am worthy of lots of money. I am worthy of peace. I am worthy of happiness.

Underestimating What You've Been Through? When you're wondering what's happened to your energy, motivation and focus, do take into account what you've been through lately. You could be used to dismissing the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual adjustments and changes you have made lately. Enormous shifts might have occurred in your life, that could still be taking their toll. Have compassion for yourself and your experiences lately. You could have lost some of your mojo for a very good reason.

You're doing all you can... You arrre doing all you can do... You are doing allllll you can... Because you're doing all you can, you can't do anymore. You're doing all you can, so there's nothing more you can do. Try to relax, breathe and focus on your needs because you are acknowledging that you're doing all you can.

Sit and be. Sit with 'it' and be. Sit with the animal, sit with the person, sit with the project, sit with the feeling, sit with the situation, sit in the space in your home or outside or somewhere else. Sit with it, without doing anything else. After sitting for a while: 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 30 minutes, one hour maybe... you will feel more clarity, enjoyment and peace. Things will organise themselves within you after a short time of sitting and being. A great exercise to do regularly.

It's generally difficult to stay in today, without thinking about tomorrow or next week, particularly about a stressful person or situation, but do your best and stay in today. At the end of today, you can decide about what the needs might be for tomorrow. You might not actually get a clear picture about tomorrow, until today has progressed further. See what today brings and based on how things are by the end of today, you can decide on tomorrow.

When you get taken off guard and your focus gets thrown off track, it can be because you weren't in an expecting mode for certain things to happen. With certain people, with certain situations, what is likely to happen? Expect those things to happen and be calmly prepared. Being in an expecting mode, can help you stress less and feel more confident.

Just because you can only think of a certain amount of options, it doesn't mean that's all there is. You might convince yourself very well, that after the options have been exhausted, something bad might happen. Not at all... You might not have discovered the option that will work yet. But you will! Just by reminding yourself that you want to stop limiting yourself, you will create other possibilities. Help yourself feel like things are unlimited for you. Yay!

You might feel very out of touch with your own life, business or occupation as far as your prospects go for getting back into it. Maybe you're feeling too much time has passed for you to rescue the situation. You might be right in feeling like you're out of touch, but maybe not to the extreme extent that exists in your head. You can reclaim what you believe is lost! You might even do better than you did before :-)

Look to yourself for what you need in terms of new ideas, different perspectives, direction, ways to feel better. Your intuition has the answers, your higher self has the answers, your dreams over night hold the answers, your gut feelings have the answers for you. You have the answers for you!

You might be perfectly capable telling yourself positive things to think and feel, but instead you might be spending your energy scaring yourself. You could be thinking of all the bad things that could happen IF... And little or no time thinking about all the great things that could ALSO be coming your way. Good things could happen to you re new people coming into your life, new or renewed form of income, gift and much more... Think about those things!

In order to be happier about yourself and your life, you need to stay focused on your current needs sometimes, rather than those of the future. If you need to do something now, to make your situation better, now, then do it. I'm not saying be irresponsible, but perhaps you need to do what feels right, now, instead of doing now, what feels right for the future.

If you're feeling down on yourself because you're wondering why you're tired when you supposedly shouldn't be, it could be because you need to stop. Stop working. Stop socializing. Stop cleaning the house. Stop. Perhaps after you've stopped for a bit, your energy will return and then you'll feel better about yourself, then... you can get back to it all.

If you can recognise your limits regarding time, energy and resources, you're more likely to feel calm and content. You do have a maximum and you need to help yourself by allowing yourself to take your maximum into account. From the point of view of being reasonable, rather from the viewpoint of judging yourself for not pushing hard enough, recognise your limits and feel happier for yourself.

The day can feel longer and harder when you don't acknowledge that you're doing your best. If you can really stop and look at how well you're doing, you would feel lighter and like you're getting somewhere. You've gotta believe that you're doing your best, even when you're feeling tired or distracted or upset. Your best is the best version of the best effort you can give under any one circumstance. Your best is great!

If you feel that there have been a lot of changes in your life recently and you have adapted to them, but still finding it hard... it could be because you're hoping for the changes to stop. Be ahead of the change. Don't relax into how things are now. Be prepared. Be organised. Help yourself by expecting another change very soon.

If you took the flexible and adaptive approach to the circumstances and the situation that you're in now, it can help you feel better about where you're at. Sometimes the stress that you experience comes from wanting to stick a certain regime that doesn't actually work for what's happening now. Letting yourself change with the circumstances. It can help you.

You might be so decided on a gloomy future and heading for doom, without allowing for the possibility that things could improve. You might be so convinced about 'the end' of something because you didn't know that if only a small thing was fixed, everything would be alright. Things can improve even though you might be so convinced that they can't. Isn't it great that we don't know everything!

You might not want to be where you're at in life right now. There could be something going on that you want to speed up so you can be at some point in the future. There could be very important growth you might be avoiding in thinking like this. Also, you don't want to get to some point in the future, wishing and regretting you were present in the here and now. For your own growth and future happiness, find something good to enjoy about being here now. Feel good somehow, about today. You'll be doing yourself a greater favour than you realize :-)

Just let go. Breathe in... slowly and deeply... breathing out... make a sighing sound... haaah... Let go wanting things to happen at a certain time. Let go of things not being completely right. Let go thinking about the time. You're doing your best, just do whatever you can do and letting go will make everything eeeasier.

Forcing good things to happen isn't necessary. If you think back to any good thing that's happened to you, it generally occurred without you forcing it. It kind of just landed in your lap. When you catch yourself forcing things, stop and let go. Keep the end result of how you'd like things to work out, quietly in your mind. Let life and successful outcomes work easily for you.

38 Trust that you're making the right decisions. Trust that you're doing the right thing, at the right time, in the right order. Go with your gut instinct, go with your intuition about what you feel you ought to do in that moment. You will save yourself a lot of energy that would otherwise go into doubting yourself. You will feel happier and more relaxed in life when you trust yourself and trust your decisions.

Have you watched ants...? They're fascinating... They never stop, they're always working toward something. They're so tiny and heaps of massive things get in their way, but they keep going despite everything. An ant will try 100 paths in order to succeed once, they don't give up. We could succeed if we kept persevering and kept being determined against all odds.

There might be so much to do at home or work, with your study or in your personal life. You might be working against the clock or the calendar feeling like certain things "should have been done by now"... Be at peace... Give yourself the gift of peace and enjoy where you're at and the pace you're going at. As you be in peace, you will actually be able to do things faster and more efficiently in the near future.