Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage Podcast

The three experts in a mixed faith marriage talk about expectation.In this episode we discuss expectations. What were some of the expectations you had for your marriage? Were they realistic or not? Many couples enter marriage assuming shared faith will always be part of their relationship. How does a faith transition affect those expectations?What are some common unrealistic expectations in mixed faith relationships, and how can couples shift toward more flexible, supportive ones?How do unspoken expectations impact our interactions with our spouse and family members, and what strategies can we use to navigate them?What's an expectation you've had to let go of, and how did that impact your relationship?How do we know when it's time to adjust, communicate, or let go of an expectation?If you need additional help with your mixed faith marriage go to brookeboothcoaching.com.

The panel of experts meets again (Brooke Booth, Suzette Halterman and Chris Rich) to discuss Momon mixed faith marriages. Here we talk about GRIEF. -Our own experience with grief-How does grief manifest for your clients? What do they grieve? How do you help your clients work through their grief?-How do you help clients process the grief of not sharing spiritual milestones, traditions, or beliefs with their partner?-How do you help your clients cope with the loss of a shared spiritual vision for their future, family, or children?-Have family or religious communities contributed to grief ?-Do you think the grief of a mixed-faith marriage ever fully resolves, or is it something to continually navigate?-What advice would you give to other mixed-faith couples navigating grief?If you need more help go to brookeboothcoaching.com

The three experts in mixed faith marriage talk about parenting .In this episode we discuss:What are your thoughts about handling this weight that we experience as parents and living in this state of parent anxiety and fear of doing it wrong and messing up our kids? Especially when this journey is constantly changing as our kids are going through their own developmental processes?What can we control? What can't we control? What is our responsibility in this area as parents that IS under our control, and what are we trying to take responsibility for that is not actually ours to manage? How can we work on letting go of these things that really aren't in our control?Do we try to control the other parent as far as what they share, when they share it, how they share it, etc? What does that attempt at control do to the parent partnership and to the relationship?How can we work on managing ourselves when our partner shares something that we don't want them to or that we disagree with? Or if they aren't as supportive of what we share as we would want them to be in our ideal world?What about the kids being confused if they hear different things, different perspectives from their parents, opposing beliefs? What are your thoughts about this?Go get more free resources at brookeboothcoaching.com

In this panel discussion we tackle one of the basic relationship skills: communication.We talk about:Our struggles with communicationWhy communication can be challengingCommon communication pitfalls in a mixed faith marriageHow to navigate conversations with deeply held beliefsStrategies to implement when there is a fundamental disagreementHow to create a safe space for honest communicationIf you need more help with your mixed faith marriage go to brookeboothcoaching.com

Here is part two of my serious on emotional awareness and its benefits in a mixed faith marriage. Spiritual bypass is when one uses religion instead of doing emotional work (processing emotion, awareness of emotions, talking about emotions, allowing emotions, etc). It is unfortunately common in a mixed faith marriage due to social programming. There are VERY REAL impacts of spiritual bypass on a marriage. Go to BrookeBoothCoaching.com to get a course to help you with your mixed faith marriage.

This month we tackle the topic of BAPTISM. In this recording we cover: - Our own memories from our baptisms -How do you deal with a client or couple that is struggling with the idea as of choosing to get baptized v the social pressure to get baptized. How did you deal with this in your own families?  -Many post mormon parents I talk to like the idea of taking this day to celebrate this child and let it be a day to focus on the kid and in this culture that is done though the vehicle of baptism. And they struggle with the idea of supporting an organization like the church that has caused so much shame and hurt or teaching their kids to support this organization.  How to deal with this? -How to deal with the fact that their co-parent does not agree with the premise behind baptism but for them this is crucial to salvation and getting the gift of the holy ghost and other things like priesthood and temple ordinances?  -Sometimes the couple isn't struggling with the decision so much as they are trying to appease extended family and ward family. How to make this very personal decision on a public stage? -How do you deal with great to be 8 and all the hype around it? How to talk to your kid about baptism if you are not a believer and your spouse is? How to talk to your kid if you are a believer and your spouse is not?

I am doing a little series on developing emotional awareness and maturity in a marriage. This skill helps those with good intensions also create a good impact. (Good intentions do not guaranty good impacts!). In part one we are talking about gaslighting - really internalized gaslighting. The gaslighting you do to yourself!. Gaslighting is the the act of invalidating one's own, true experience. Here I give: -tons of examples of what it looks like -reasons why we fall into this habit -tips to consider if you want to change this behavior. For help with your mixed faith marriage go to brookeboothcoaching.com and click on "COURSES".

Three experienced life coaches you specialize in mixed faith marriages get together to talk about how to speak up in your marriage. Brooke Booth, Chris Rich and Suzette Halterman discuss the following: 1. How can you initially broach a difficult topic and bring something up to your spouse when that feels scary to do,  maybe because it's scary to bring up something that you have never talked about, or because  in the past it has led to conflict or not gone anywhere productive?  What are your tips or strategies? What if your spouse is unwilling to work with you with you when you do speak up or your bring it up but it doesn't go well? Any personal experiences? how can you make requests as a way of speaking up and asking for things that you want in the relationship? What if your spouse does not honor your requests? Any tips, thoughts, or personal experiences about making requests? 3. What exactly does it mean to set a boundary? What are some tips for doing this? Do you have any examples from your mixed-faith marriage? 4. How can you speak up about what matters to you in ways that are productive? What might be an unproductive way to speak up about what matters to you? Any thoughts,tips or personal experiences? 5. One way to speak up is to be aware of whether you are beating around the bush, dropping hints, alluding to things, using body language instead of words to communicate etc. How can you translate those more passive approaches to very direct and clear communicating? 6. If you struggle with speaking up in your relationship, any thoughts on how to work on this?with

The election has come and gone. How is your marriage? A mixed faith marriage can often mean a mixed political marriage. This election cycle may have been challenging for you with either your spouse or your extended family. In this podcast I give 4 principles to consider if you are in a mixed political relationship . As always go to brookeboothcoaching.com to get a course to help your mixed faith marriage.

Three experienced life coaches talk about extended family in a mixed faith family. In this podcast we discuss: What has been your experience with your extended family as you have navigated your MFM? How do you balance maintaining relationships with extended family while staying true to your own beliefs and marriage? What are some ways to handle unsolicited advice or pressure from family about your mixed faith marriage? How do you handle family gatherings or traditions when they conflict with your faith choices as a couple? How can couples maintain their own emotional well-being when dealing with tension or conflict with extended family due to faith differences? How can I set healthy boundaries? What advice would you give to someone whose extended family is struggling to accept their spouse's or their own change in faith? including

I have spoken in the past about the importance of preferences in communication. In this podcast I go a little deeper and explore one thing that can really prevent knowing and sharing your preferences and that is when you water them down before you even share then with yourself or with your spouse. I also share what I think is the single most impactful antidote to watering down your preference and that is COURAGE. For help with your mixed faith marriage go to BrookeBoothCoaching.com.

Three mixed faith marriage life coaches talk about sex and sexuality in this episode. Join myself, Chris Rich, and Suzette Halterman as we discuss how a faith transition can impact sex and one's relationship with their own sexuality. We discuss questions such as: How to deal with a partner exploring their sexuality? How to deal with masturbation or porn? How to deal with different sexual drives? How to talk to kids about sex? Get more support for your mixed faith marriage at BrookeBoothCoaching.com.

Weaponized incompetence has a real impact in a marriage. It can be exacerbated in a mixed faith marriage or it can be one more thing that strains a mixed faith marriage. In this podcast I give some examples on weaponized incompetence in daily life and specific to a mixed faith marriage. Weaponized incompetence that is going on unchecked can lead increase in resentment, a breakdown in communicate and eventually emotional disconnection. Go to BrookeBoothCoaching.com to get help for your mixed faith marriage!

Blame is the topic of this month's panel discussion. Each month three mixed faith marriage coaches gather to talk all things mixed faith marriages. In this episode we tackle blame. Here is what we cover: - The human tendency to blame and why that happens -How to deal with being the receipt of blame - How to deal with being the one who is blaming others or things We go pretty deep in this one! If you need help with your mixed faith marriage and are looking for a course go to BrookeBoothCoaching.com

There can be anxiety when a marriage becomes a mixed faith marriage. Sometimes there is A LOT of anxiety. In this episode I talk about anxious and avoidant attachment. Then talk more about how anxious attachment can show up in a mixed faith marriage. Finally, I talk about the benefit of each adult taking care of their own emotional regulation and not outsourcing that to their spouse. Go to BrookeBoothCoaching.com to get more help for you mixed faith marriage.

When there has been hurt and pain in a mixed faith marriage there needs to be both apologies and trust building. But PLEASE note they are not the same thing! An apology does not automatically restore trust and safety. An apology is a start and an important first step to re establishing trust. In this podcast I give an example of a great trust building practice to develop in your marriage. Get help for your mixed faith marriage at BrookeBoothCoaching.com.

Chris Rich, Suzette Halterman and myself (Brooke Booth) meet again to discuss mixed faith marriages from both our personal and professional experience. In this month's discussion we talk about Sunday. We cover: -What has worked and not worked for us -Why Sunday is a hard day -How to manage things like -Issues we see when a spouse stops attending -What about when a kid wants to stay home or go to church -How to support kids/spouses re talks, primary programs etc -How to manage Sunday dress and getting the kids ready -What about social activities and keeping the Sabbath day holy As always it is a rich and varied discussion. To get more help with your mixed faith marriage go to BrookeBoothCoaching.com

Here I share three lessons I have learned as I have worked with countless individuals and couples as they navigate a mixed faith marriage. The 3 lessons are : 1. Perfection is not the goal 2. Talk about the issues 3. You are Okay Go to BrookeBoothCoaching for more help for your mixed faith marriage.

I have heard clients express frustration that their partner is not working as hard on the marriage as they are. They are not trying as hard. They are not investing as much. That hurts. A lot. In this episode I explore what this kind of story tends to create in a marriage and offer some suggestions. Ready for more help go to BrookeBoothCoaching.com.

In this month's mixed faith marriage panel discussion we talk about parenting. As always we share our own wins and failures as well as the following: -What are the pros and cons of being on the same page in parenting? -How to deal with different parenting approaches to church activities, family prayer, and alcohol? -How to manage when a child does not follow your faith footsteps? -Tips on talking to your kids about the mixed faith marriage and faith transition. If you need more help in your mixed faith marriage check out my full length on line course at BrookeBoothCoaching.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

In this episode I explore dismissing, deflection and gaslighting. I find it helpful to explain these terms so we can have awareness and see them in our own relationship. Sometimes we engage in this behavior without realizing what we are doing! The more we can understand and educate ourselves the better choices we can make in our relationships. I also give some suggestions on how to deal with these three things if they are in your mixed faith marriage. As always you can find help for your mixed faith marriage at BrookeBoothCoaching.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

When big things happen like a faith transition or a mixed faith marriage it's not uncommon to find ourselves or our spouses on a pendulum. The pendulum swing is often what is needed in order to find center and homeostasis. In this podcast I talk about one type of pendulum swing I see in a LDS mixed faith marriage - where we become too demanding on one side and then too permissive on the other. I call the too demanding version a vending machine marriage. Listen to learn more. Want some help for your mixed faith marriage? That is what I do! Go to BrookeBoothCoaching.com for more information. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

The panel meets again (Suzette Halterman, Chris Rich and Brooke Booth) to talk about being adaptable and flexible. In this discussion we get into the following: - The importance of being adaptable and the harm in rigidity. -The difference between being adaptable and being a doormat - How to handle our own lack of flexibility -How to handle our spouse's lack of flexibility As always it's full of our own journey and what we have learned and seen on our own paths. If you are interested in getting help for you mixed faith marriage check out my website : https://brookeboothcoaching.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

In this episode I share some of my musing on love and approval that have been eye opening for my own self development. Love is often considered the highest and best gift we give to another. For me, I realized I was actually seeking approval. Here I share why I was seeking approval (it is part of my religious upbringing) and share three steps to try if you are also seeking approval. If you are interested in working with me go here: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

Here I talk about the intersection between emotions and communication. Many people ask me how they can communicate with less emotions and with a better tone. This is not a bad question but I want to go further and explore why are we not allowed to modulate our voice and use different tones in our communication? Why is that? Why do emotions have such a bad reputation when it comes to communication? I talk about how when we use emotions on purpose that is not the same as policing or eliminating certain emotions for our experience. I invite you to find a balance where you can share and communicate emotions and not eliminate them from your communications. Go to BrookeBoothCoaching.com to get additional support. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

Suzette Halterman is back on the podcast as an expert in mixed faith marriage dynamics. I always love to get her valuable insight.  In this conversation we talk about church attendance, resignation, kid's attendance at church and co-parenting in a mixed faith marriage.  Suzette attends the LDS church but does not believe and we discuss how she personally came to that position as well as how to figure that out for yourself.  Looking for help for your mixed faith marriage check out Suzette's work @SuzetteHaltermanCoaching or check out my course at ⁠https://brookeboothcoaching.com/mfm-course-sales-page/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

In this panel discussion with Chris Rich and Suzette Halterman we talk about the sometimes delicate topic of tithing. We talk about: -How we deal with it in our marriages -How we see clients deal with tithing -Why is can be such a hot topic -Tips on how to talk about tithing If you want to learn more about my course to help you LOVE your mixed faith marriage - go here: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/mfm-course-sales-page/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

I get a lot of requests on how to talk to kids about a faith transition. Good news, I put together a script for you to use and modify to make your own. In this podcast I give some general tips on how to talk to kids about hard things (like a faith transition) and I share some steps to follow and even provide a sample script. Ready to get more help? Go to BrookeBoothCoaching.com to learn more about working with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

Chris Rich, Suzette Halterman and myself talk about respect in a mixed faith marriage. We share: - Our definitions of respect (what it is and what it is NOT). - How lack of respect can be a big deal or small potatoes - How our own judgment can stop us from showing respect. -How respect looks like in conversations (interrupting or not) -How to respect someone who has different religious beliefs AND SO MUCH MORE! Go here to learn about my course to help you fall in love with your mixed faith marriage: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/mfm-course-sales-page/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

This is a little addendum to the last podcast on codependency. In this episode I dive into what it looks like to be passive and active in a marriage and in life. I invite you to be a little more active in your mixed faith marriage and provide examples to help you see where you may be passive. Get more help at BrookeBoothCoaching.com! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

Listen to episode 44 for the first part of this series! In episode 44 I talk about what codependency is and how it presents. Here I talk more about what to do about it. I share 13 things to help you stop being codependent in your mixed faith marriage. Looking for help? Check how how to work with me at Brookeboothcoaching.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

This is a raw and real podcast about faith transitions, mixed faith families and friendship. Samantha Conley shares her experience of being a single member who has a faith transition and how that played out in her family and friendships. We discuss relationship and personal development and how they change over time. This is a great podcast if you have had a faith transition or love someone who has had a faith transition. FYI - The background is a bit noisy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

Talking about the Sunday school lesson, who you saw at the RS activity and how your primary lesson went used to be normal topics of conversation ... until the faith transition. Talking about church can be hard. In this podcast I re-visit emotional bids and offer a few ideas on talking about church. Learn more about working with me here: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/work-with-brooke/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

In this podcast episode I talk about a coaching I tool I love to use with my clients in a mixed faith marriage. It's the basic idea that a marriage is going to be both awesome and awkward and that is okay! However, I also think that this tool should be used with discretion. Not all coaching tools apply to all situations equally. Here I walk you though the criteria to apply when deciding if this took is a good fit for you. To learn more about working with me go to brookeboothcoaching.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

"If I had known about this .... I would not have married you" is something that comes up in a mixed faith marriage after a faith transition. In this mastermind panel discussion Suzette Halterman, Chris Rich and myself discuss this phrase. We talk about : -Our own personal experience with this kind of phrase - When it might be a valid and important part of communication -How much conscious choice we exercise when choosing our spouse -How to choose your spouse now if that is the right decision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

In the third installment of my three part series on patriarchy I talk about invisible labor and more specifically emotional labor. Emotional labor is disproportionately the responsibly of women. In this episode I share how this may show up in a mixed faith marriage. For more individual help go to brookeboothcoaching.com. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

Part 2 in my 2 part series on patriarchy in a mixed faith marriage. In this episode I talk about a cycle I see with many women that often ends in feeling suppressed or expressed anger and frustration. Spoilers, this is often a because of how women as socialized in a patriarchy and this cycle can be part of a mixed faith marriage. Learning about the cycle can help you have the awareness needed to break the cycle. Reach and to set up a free consult if you are looking for more help! https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=21674062&appointmentType=19524597 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

I am doing a three part series on the impacts of Patriarchy in a mixed faith marriage. In part one I am exploring some of my own musing and conclusions based on my own observations and training (I have completed the Advanced Feminist Certified Coaching program). In this podcast I walk through the differences men and women may face in a mixed faith marriage. They are both challenging but it can be helpful to have language around the differences to understand your own experience better. If you are ready to get some help, let's talk. Reach out and grab a slot for a free consult. I have a few spots available. https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=21674062&appointmentType=19524597 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

This panel discussion is all about listening. We share our horror stories and our successes when it comes to listening. We talk about the things blocking us from being better listeners. We acknowledge listening is a hard skill and you will not always be able to listen perfectly. We share some ideas on how to develop your listening skills. This episode is packed with ideas, suggestions, and tips. Join Chris Rich, Suzette Ward Halterman and myself as we do a deep dive into listening in your mixed faith marriage. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

I hear a lot of clients tell me they should be on the same page in their marriage. However, being in a mixed faith marriage often means you are not and that can be a constant sore spot. What if it was okay or even amazing that you are NOT on the same page? In this podcast I offer the analogy of the designer and the engineer to show that not being on the same page can be a good thing. Ready to get some help for you mixed faith marriage. Grab your free consultation now! https://brookeboothcoaching.com/work-with-brooke/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

Respect is often touted as super important in a marriage (and I agree). However, there are so many definitions of respect, some of which may hurt one's sense of belonging in their marriage. What does respect mean in your mixed faith marriage? What can respect mean in your mixed faith marriage? To work with me go here: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/work-with-brooke/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

The most important work I do is to teach clients how to fall in love again after a faith transition and mixed faith marriage. As part of this process it's helpful to (1) identify what stopped you from loving and (2) kick start the practice of falling in love again. In this podcast episode, I talk about both in detail. To learn about my course where you can learn how to fall in love again in 90 days go here: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/group/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

In this panel discussion myself (@BrookeBoothCoaching), Chris Rich (@ChrisRichCoaching) and Suzette Halterman (@SuzetteHaltermanCoaching) talk about garments. We talk about the impact of taking off garments in your relationship. We tell our own experiences and share insights from our professional work. We also get into how modesty, betrayal and sex can be linked to garments. To learn about working with me click here: ⁠https://brookeboothcoaching.com/work-with-brooke/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

For years I sought to fit in to my marriage only to find I didn't actually belong. My mixed faith marriage helped me to see that my efforts to belong (i.e. fitting in) were actually stopping me from belonging. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

This episode is for those of you who have had the faith transition. If you are like me after your faith transition you believed that your spouse didn't approve of you anymore or didn't like you. I certainly believed both. This led me to create distance and withdraw even though I wanted to be close and belong. Here I talk about who to lean back into love and fall in love again. Go here to learn about working with me: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/work-with-brooke/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

In this panel discussion myself (@BrookeBoothCoaching), Chris Rich (@ChrisRichCoaching) and Suzette Halterman (@SuzetteHaltermanCoaching) talk about partnership. In this discussion we talk about definitions of partnership, how to develop a partnership (even if your spouse is not interested), and compare partnership to other types of relationships. We share our own experiences with partnership in our individual mixed faith marriages. To learn about working with me click here: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/work-with-brooke/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

Most of the time our intention is very good in our mixed faith marriage. We want what's best for our spouse and we love them. However, we stop there and do not look closely at the impact of our words and behavior. Good intention does not nullify bad impact. In this episode I give some examples of language that is probably from a good intention but may create a bad impact. To learn more about working with me go here: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/work-with-brooke/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

Self care is a bit of a cliche but also essential. A mixed faith marriage and a faith transition are not light lifts. They can be really intense. Are you taking care of yourself? In this episode I talk about the four pillars of self care: 1. Boundaries 2. Self Compassion 3. Value Based Decisions 4. Self Empowerment To learn about working with me go here: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/work-with-brooke/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

One of the reasons a mixed faith marriage can be so challenging is because we place our marriage on a pedestal. In this episode I talk about the impacts of placing our marriage on a pedestal. Here I talk about how to take your marriage off a pedestal to prevent or release a build up of stress and pressure. Looking for help in your mixed faith marriage? Go here: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/work-with-brooke/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

Suzette Halterman (@SuzettelHaltermanCoaching), Chris Rich (@ChrisRichCoaching) and myself (@BrookeBoothCoahching) continue our conversation on mixed faith marriages. The combined insight of three coaches all in their own mixed faith marriages provides many invaluable insights. In this episode we discuss: Alcohol. We address some of these questions: Why is alcohol such a hot topic/ scary? How to communicate about alcohol? Tips for those you drink and those who do not drink and much more. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message

Here I share some pretty common marriage advice. A lot of advice is great. A lot of advice is not so great. I talk about how to know if the advice you are getting or receiving is worth keeping. Learn about working with me here: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/work-with-brooke/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brooke-booth7/message