Podcasts about emotional adulthood

If we want to increase the intimacy and connection in our relationships, it is imperative that we show up as a safe person who creates a safe space. Often, the patterns we have established in our relationships are the opposite of safe, they cause our primitive brains to go into hyper protective mode and want to run away emotionally and physically. But when we can learn to show up safe, time and time again, we can create a space where our spouse may be willing to start engaging in vulnerability, in the openness and honesty necessary to deepen our engagement. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #3 Resolving Conflict #20 Blame and Responsibility #51 The Silent Treatment #60 Mental and Emotional Abusive Behaviors #61 Charity is the Antidote #75 Emotional Adulthood #143 Stuck in Perfectionism #193 No Back-Burner Issues #197 Connecting Through Conflict #230 People Pleasing #239 How to Own Your Own #240 Passive-Aggressive Behavior #242 Circling Back Around #270 People Pleasing and Kindness – What's the Difference? #304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives #319 Get Ready to Rock the Boat #357 How to be More Understanding Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

Difficult emotions can be, well, difficult. And because they don't feel good, we will often dismiss, ignore, or resist them, which can be unfortunate when there is so much amazing information behind the emotions we are feeling and why we are feeling them. When we can learn to be aware of the emotion and then step into curiosity to figure out what it is teaching us about ourselves, we become empowered to make the changes necessary for positive movement in our lives. And living in alignment with who we really want to be is one of the most empowering things we can do. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #75 Emotional Adulthood #194 When You Feel Sad, or Bad, or Mad #219 The Truth About the Struggle #225 Shame, Blame, and Disempowerment #252 How to Courage Up In the Face of Fear #254 When You Feel Resentment #306 The Problem with Happiness #348 Entitled Expectation Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

What if embracing your emotions during a divorce could be the key to finding independence and fulfillment? Join me, Karen Nelson, as we explore this transformative idea in "Becoming You Again." Society often tells us to hide hard emotions, like anger, fear, and sadness. But the most effective way to heal from your divorce is to create a safe space to process these emotions fully and develop the emotional resilience needed to thrive post-divorce.  I'll walk you through a gentle approach to navigating difficult emotions. From initial resistance to eventual acceptance, I discuss the five stages of opening up to our feelings, emphasizing the importance of understanding and embracing them. By the end of this episode, you'll know how to reconnect with yourself, creating a lasting foundation of emotional resilience that supports a fulfilling and independent life.This episode focuses on emotional healing during and after divorce, emphasizing the importance of allowing difficult emotions rather than resisting them.  This episode: • Explores the common resistance to difficult emotions • Teaches healing through embracing rather than avoiding feelings • Teaches the five stages of emotional healing  • Promotes self-compassion as a critical part of the healing process • Offers tools to support emotional resilienceIf this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep201 

When was the last time you felt frustrated, annoyed or downright angry at something your ex did? If it was recently, or if you've ever thought, it would be so nice if they'd just do things the way I do them, then this episode is for you.  In this episode, we'll explore the concept of 'manuals'—those pesky expectations we impose on others—and how releasing them can lead to dropping the excess suffering you're feeling.  You'll learn that ‘manuals' are the unwritten expectations we create about how others should behave to make us feel good. By recognizing these manuals, we learn to let go of unnecessary emotional burdens, improve our relationships, and embrace the dualities of life, particularly during challenging times like divorce. In this episode I'll cover:  • Exploring the 50-50 principle in life • Understanding the concept of manuals in relationships • How expectations create emotional resistance • Recognizing personal autonomy in interactions • Emphasizing self-responsibility for our feelings • Empowerment comes from owning what you can actually controlIf this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep198

Divorce is often full of complex emotional pain and suffering during/after divorce.  Imagine transforming your experience of pain into a manageable part of life by recognizing how self-imposed suffering makes everything feel worse. In this episode you'll gain insight from Buddhist analogy, and learn to empower yourself to take control over your emotional life. By the end of this episode you'll have a new tool to create self awareness designed to identify and reassess the narratives you're holding onto and reduce unnecessary suffering during your divorce. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Make sure to follow and rate the podcast on your favorite podcasting app.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep192

Navigating the emotional whirlwind of divorce can feel overwhelming and isolating, but it doesn't have to be. In this episode you will learn a transformative emotional processing tool that can help you manage the complex feelings you're experiencing. I'll guide you through the practical exercise that will help you shift your focus from distressing narratives to your physical sensations. This technique will help you gain power over even the seemingly scariest emotions, making them less intimidating and easier to handle.Tune in for a path to emotional empowerment and a brighter, self-sufficient future.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Make sure to follow and rate the podcast on your favorite podcasting app.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep182

Do you ever feel like you're not truly reflecting the life you want, even though you're doing all the right things? Do you find yourself wishing for more connection, better results in your personal life, and perhaps even a more fulfilling quilting experience? This episode dives deep into how life coaching tools, just like quilting tools, can help you create the results you've always wanted in your life. I'm here to show you how these tools, which have changed my life, can also change yours. In this episode, I explain why I rebranded the podcast and membership and what it means to be the "Quilters Coach." I share the importance of using the right tools to achieve both quilting and life goals, from helping quilters lose weight to improving their relationships, businesses, and overall productivity. I walk through three key life coaching tools—The Model, 50/50, and Emotional Adulthood—that have had a transformative effect on my own life and the lives of my members. By the end, you'll understand how these tools can create lasting change and help you solve any problem in your life. What you will learn in this episode: The Model: How organizing your thoughts can directly impact the results you're getting in life. The Law of 50/50: Understanding the balance of positive and negative experiences in life. Emotional Adulthood: How to stop taking responsibility for other people's feelings and gain control over your own. Grab the worksheet HERE. Checkout other episodes HERE. Watch this on Youtube.

In this episode of This Daring Adventure podcast, I discuss the liberating concept of 'Staying in Your Own Lane.' Based on the work of Byron Katie and The Life Coach School, it's the idea of minding one's own business and letting go of the need to control others. According to Katie, there are three types of business—your own, someone else's, and the universe's. I also talk about the idea of emotional adulthood and how adults have the right to live their lives as they choose. Trying to fix or control others often stems from our own desire for peace and relief, which ultimately leads to unnecessary suffering for both parties. Instead, if we "allow" adults to live their life as they chose and we embrace unconditional love, we can support others without the need to control them, thereby alleviating our suffering.When we reflect on answering the question 'What would love do?' we can ultimately untie our emotions to the other person's life and experience an ease and release that can enable us to support and help the other person, if we so choose from a place of love. Your suffering does not help them, nor does it help you. Key moments:02:11 Byron Katie's Concept of Business02:53 Emotional Adulthood and Personal Responsibility04:41 The Illusion of Control and Its Consequences06:19 Supporting Others Without Suffering09:37 Unconditional Love and Letting Go11:16 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsBook a consult call and learn more about my newest program, the 6 Week Jumpstart to Building a Better Relationship with Yourself. This 1:1 coaching program with me will help you build the foundation you need to create the life you want. You don't have to stay stuck. Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have and it is time to invest in it. You'll feel better, think better and show up completely different in your life and relationships. Book your call HERE.Connect with me on Instagram.Visit my website here. If you have a minute to rate, review, share and subscribe on Apple Podcasts, I would appreciate it. You can review the podcast on Apple Podcasts HERE.

In this episode, I bring you a life coaching tool called Emotional Adulthood. Listeners love the podcasts that they can apply to the rest of their lives outside of dance, so this one is for YOU! When we are in Emotional Childhood, we are operating more like children in our emotional lives. It is characterized by a relinquishing of responsibility for how we feel and act. In this state, you would find yourself making other people responsible for how you feel. You are unhappy because your spouse doesn't text you enough during the day. You are angry because your children don't listen. You are fearful because of your parents or your childhood or something else outside of you. It's not that these things don't contribute, they do, but in this episode I teach you how to be an emotional adult, take responsibility for how you feel and act so that you can be the person that you want to be more of the time. In emotional adulthood, we don't have to wait for others to behave in the ways we prefer in order for us to be happy. We take out the middle man. I should warn you though...emotional adulthood isn't easy. But it's worth it and this tool can change your life. Enjoy! For help figuring out this for yourself, might I recommend a free ⁠⁠⁠Dance Strategy Call⁠⁠⁠ If you want a ballroom community with a hefty side of mental and emotional resilience, join my Facebook Group, ⁠⁠⁠Joyful Ballroom⁠⁠⁠

When you first hear the term “emotional adulthood,” you might think it's connected to when our brains finish developing in our mid-twenties.  But emotional adulthood has everything to do with your awareness of how your thoughts affect your feelings—and very little to do with when your brain finished forming.  I realized I was still in emotional childhood just a few years ago, in my forties. But from that realization, I've grown into emotional adulthood. And I'm excited to announce that I'm in the process of becoming a certified life coach to help you reach emotional adulthood, too. For show notes, including links to anything mentioned in this episode, visit www.savvyshopkeeper.com/episode200. Connect With Kathy Kathy Cruz is a brick and mortar store owner and retail coach. She helps shopkeepers work less, profit more, and grow their brick and mortar businesses through her podcast, quiz, and retail coaching mastermind. Website: www.savvyshopkeeper.com  |  Instagram: @savvyshopkeeper

In Today's episode of Champion Your Life, Leighanne will be continuing her discussion from the last episode by discussing emotional adulthood. By embracing emotional adulthood, we can begin to better assess our own emotional health, and then make informed decisions toward growth. A little bit about Leighanne Champion:Leighanne is a top-tier Life Coach, accredited by the Life Coach School, Ipec Coaching in NYC, and the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in NYC.  A master practitioner of energy leadership and ELI assessment, she specializes in Transitional Life Coaching for adults and students.  Her goal is to empower clients to take control of their minds and suffer less.Champion Your Life is a coaching platform dedicated to empowering individuals to live with purpose and joy.  Specifically, I focus on women seeking reinvention, 1:1 Coaching, Newlyweds striving for fulfilling relationships, and Life Skills/Emotional Intelligence for students.  Workshops , Retreats, and Online Courses available at ChampionYourLife.comMusic by t.a. champion

In Today's episode of Champion Your Life, Leighanne will be unpacking two frameworks: emotional childhood and emotional adulthood. By understanding these two positions, we can begin to better assess our own emotional health, and then make informed decisions toward growth. A little bit about Leighanne Champion:Leighanne is a top-tier Life Coach, accredited by the Life Coach School, Ipec Coaching in NYC, and the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in NYC.  A master practitioner of energy leadership and ELI assessment, she specializes in Transitional Life Coaching for adults and students.  Her goal is to empower clients to take control of their minds and suffer less.Champion Your Life is a coaching platform dedicated to empowering individuals to live with purpose and joy.  Specifically, I focus on women seeking reinvention, 1:1 Coaching, Newlyweds striving for fulfilling relationships, and Life Skills/Emotional Intelligence for students.  Workshops , Retreats, and Online Courses available at ChampionYourLife.comMusic Provided by t.a. champion

We all know the difference between a child and an adult, but do we know the difference between emotional childhood and adulthood? In this episode, I dive into the differences between emotional childhood and emotional adulthood and what you can do to grow into the emotional adult you need to be. Weekly Challenge:Start becoming the emotional adult you want to be. FEELINGS WHEEL & DETAILED FEELINGS LISThttps://erinwoodruffcoaching.com/feelingswheelReady to finally have the hard conversation that could change everything? https://erinwoodruffcoaching.com/toolbox Are you married to an introvert? Find out right now with this FREE quiz!https://erinwoodruffcoaching.com/quiz-are-you-married-to-an-introvertTake the FREE quiz right now to see where you fall on the introvert/extrovert spectrum.https://erinwoodruffcoaching.com/quiz-introvert-extrovert-spectrumMusic: https://pixabay.com/music/id-112179/

We all know the difference between a child and an adult, but do we know the difference between emotional childhood and adulthood? In this episode, I dive into the differences between emotional childhood and emotional adulthood and what you can do to grow into the emotional adult you need to be. Weekly Challenge:Start becoming the emotional adult you want to be. FEELINGS WHEEL & DETAILED FEELINGS LISThttps://erinwoodruffcoaching.com/feelingswheelReady to finally have the hard conversation that could change everything? https://erinwoodruffcoaching.com/toolbox Are you married to an introvert? Find out right now with this FREE quiz!https://erinwoodruffcoaching.com/quiz-are-you-married-to-an-introvertTake the FREE quiz right now to see where you fall on the introvert/extrovert spectrum.https://erinwoodruffcoaching.com/quiz-introvert-extrovert-spectrumMusic: https://pixabay.com/music/id-112179/

We all know the difference between a child and an adult, but do we know the difference between emotional childhood and adulthood? In this episode, I dive into the differences between emotional childhood and emotional adulthood and what you can do to grow into the emotional adult you need to be. Weekly Challenge:Start becoming the emotional adult you want to be. FEELINGS WHEEL & DETAILED FEELINGS LISThttps://erinwoodruffcoaching.com/feelingswheelReady to finally have the hard conversation that could change everything? https://erinwoodruffcoaching.com/toolbox Are you married to an introvert? Find out right now with this FREE quiz!https://erinwoodruffcoaching.com/quiz-are-you-married-to-an-introvertTake the FREE quiz right now to see where you fall on the introvert/extrovert spectrum.https://erinwoodruffcoaching.com/quiz-introvert-extrovert-spectrumMusic: https://pixabay.com/music/id-112179/

Are you willing to feel any emotion? If you are, you open your life up to so many possibilities! Life is 50/50, and you'll feel both positive and negative emotions. When we can take 100% ownership and accountability for all the emotions we feel, that is empowerment. Realizing that every emotion you feel is because of a thought you attach to a circumstance puts you in the driver's seat of your life. Emotions are the fuel that runs your life. Your emotions will drive which actions or inaction you take in your life. Once you can tune into the emotions you are feeling and the thought it is tied to, you are in control of how you feel. This is called Emotional Adulthood. This means you take 100% responsibility for your life and emotions. No one needs to change. It's always an inside job. It may seem a whole lot easier to blame everything and everyone around you, but as you do this, you become the victim and give all your power away. This is Emotional Childhood. In the Hero's Journey, you will be faced with trials, traps, temptations, and challenges. You'll hit rock bottom, but it is only through those experiences that you can re-emerge as the hero that you are. When you process your pain and turn it into purpose, you become the HERO of your own story!! Want to get coached on this?? Send me a message at: www.stacyharmer.com/contact We have a whole amazing community of women that are taking control of their lives, thoughts, and feelings, and BECOMING extraordinary! Check it out at: www.stacyharmer.com/becoming Want to join us on our next incredible Vibrant Living Health and Healing Retreat in October??!! Get on the waiting list. We'll be opening the limited spots for this retreat in the next week. Get on the list!! www.stacyharmer.com/retreat

Are you living in emotional childhood or emotional adulthood?Emotional Childhood means you blame your partner for how you feel. Emotional Adulthood means you take ownership of your own emotional state. So if you and your partner are just constantly REacting to each other, then this episode is for you!Learning to be an emotional adult is absolute freedom! Imagine being able to regulate how you feel regardless of what your partner does or says?Is it easy? No. Is it worth it? Hell yes.Want to learn more? Hit play and learn all about this concept and how it can improve your relationship drastically!Free Guides:FREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!

Understanding your attachment style gives you deeper insight into how your past experiences shape your patterns in adulthood. It's also one of the greatest relationship tools available to all of us.  In this episode, we dig into the signs of common attachment styles and how to go about changing behaviors that don't serve you. We highlight why it's so important to be aware of what your needs are and approach that journey from a ‘we' perspective. Plus, we discuss how to know when it's worth it to heal together in a partnership or if it's healthier to move on.    IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT: The vulnerability and courage it takes to work toward secure attachment  How your attachment style affects who you attract into your life  Examples of anxious and avoidant behaviors  Tools to help identify, honor, and express your emotional needs  Ways to resolve conflict and come to a true compromise in your partnership    RESOURCES MENTIONED:  Episode 13. What Codependency Really Means & The 5 Ways Codependent Patterns Show Up   Episode 30. Emotional Adulthood vs. Emotional Childhood   CONNECT WITH ASHLEY HUGHES Follow her on Instagram: @ashleynhughes Follow her business, Wilona Marketing: @wilonamarketing   CONNECT WITH ASHLEY GREENE Follow her on Instagram: @ashleydgreene Follow her business, Effective Fitness: @effective_fitness_ Follow her business, Fork It: @fork_it_food  

Have you ever wished you had been taught how to avoid all the unnecessary drama in your relationships and life? In today s podcast, we're going to learn the difference between living in Emotional Childhood Vs Emotional Adulthood. Once you learn to embrace this concept, watch your life soar!

Have you ever wished you had been taught how to avoid all the unnecessary drama in your relationships and life? In today s podcast, we're going to learn the difference between living in Emotional Childhood Vs Emotional Adulthood. Once you learn to embrace this concept, watch your life soar!

This episode is part 3, the final part, of our evaluation of Signs of Emotional Adulthood according to americalbehavioralclinics.com. Signs 8-10 of Emotional Adulthood: 8. Believes in him/herself 9. Approachability 10. Sense of humor Referenced article: americanbehavioralclinics.com: “10 Signs of Emotional Maturity”

In part 2 of our journey through discovering what Emotional Adulthood looks like, we discuss how we can learn from every experience, seek to understand each other and how to build our resiliency. There are so many fantastic examples in this show and they are so applicable to today's modern family and relationships. So sit back and enjoy the doc's discussion on what mindsets we can develop to propel us into our emotional adulthood. Emotional Adulthood: 1. Looks for Learning and Growth From Every Opportunity 2. Actively seeks out multiple points of view to help inform their own 3. Able to stay resilient Next week we will wrap up the final thoughts on this topic! Enjoy! Credit to: Americanbehavioralclinics.com, “10 Signs of Emotional Maturity” https://americanbehavioralclinics.com/10-signs-of-emotional-maturity/

In this episode, we discuss how to go from emotional childhood to emotional adulthood and what that looks like as we progress from one into the other. We share some candid and real stories in our own lives of becoming aware of when we moved into emotional adulthood from a place of victimhood and blaming. Enjoy our show! Commentaries: Amanda, "When we stay in that disempowered place, that's called emotional childhood. When we move into an emotional adulthood, that is when we start taking responsibility and realizing that only we have control of how we feel." Laura, "Instead of judgment, I started to look with curiosity myself and decided that I could have a relationship with my dad that was positive. And even, he passed about five years ago, I still have a relationship with him. The relationships that we have are in our minds and even the ones that we have from the past, whether they're good or bad, that's also in our minds." Laura: "Instead, I now am Laura and I've had experiences that have changed me. But now I've allowed them to be a source of strength and a source of love and compassion and grace for other people." Kendra, "But when we operate from an emotional childhood, we actually use a lot of blame. And so we blame others for how we're feeling or we blame others for the actions they do because in a way we're kind of trying to control their actions. Because we want the result that will make us feel better. When, in reality, we can't control other people. We can't control what they're thinking, what they're saying or what their actions are."

Can you be happy and independent in marriage? Bonnie and Audrey answer this question and cover not only the WHY but also share 5 ways to gain independence and how it benfits your marriage. Please support our podcast on Patreon! Mentioned in this episode: Chip Gaines article about supporting Joanna Episode 151: Intimacy in Marriage Episode 107: Finances in Marriage Episode 115: Date Night Ideas Life Coach School Episode 25: Emotional Adulthood

We are responsible for how we feel at every moment. Our feelings are caused by our thoughts and what we make that mean. When we are reacting out of emotional childhood, we often blame other people for how we feel, how we act, and for the results we get in our life. However, when we operate from a place of emotional adulthood, we practice emotional maturity, control, regulation, and expression. This is where all of our power is. We dive into how to go from emotional childhood to emotional adulthood and share how this shift has had an enormous positive ripple effect on our lives and the people around us.    IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT: Recognizing when you're in an emotional childhood space and what triggers that reaction  Why we believe that personal responsibility is so important The path to finding personal power in situations that make you feel so powerless The distinction between fault and responsibility Examples of emotional maturity  Why you shouldn't surround yourself with people who validate your emotional childhood responses    CONNECT WITH ASHLEY HUGHES Follow her on Instagram: @ashleynhughes Follow her business, Wilona Marketing: @wilonamarketing   CONNECT WITH ASHLEY GREENE Follow her on Instagram: @ashleydgreene Follow her business, Effective Fitness: @effective_fitness_ Follow her business, Fork It: @fork_it_food  

This week I'm talking all about emotions. It's normal for women after divorce to feel like we are on an emotional rollercoaster that we can't get off. Our emotions can feel heavy, hard, exhausting and by the end of each day we lay down on our bed feeling emotionally and mentally overwhelmed wishing all the pain would just stop. In today's podcast episode I'll be teaching you the three typical ways we've been taught to deal with our emotions and why those never work. I'll also be walking you through my 3 step method of processing through ANY emotion (even the hard and scary ones) so that you can step off the emotional rollercoaster of divorce and instead live a rich, full life. Things you'll learn from this episode:1.  What an emotion actually is.2. The three ways we've been taught to 'deal' with our emotions and why those aren't helping you to feel less emotional exhaustion and overwhelm.3. My 3 step method to processing through any emotion. Make sure to follow and rate the podcast on your favorite podcasting app.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/processing-emotions

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Being an emotional adult is not something we generally are taught. In this episode, I explain how we have the ability to take responsibility for our feelings, actions, and the results we get in our lives and stop blaming others. Owning your own happiness and not relying on others to make you happy brings a level of power that can propel you to the next chapter of your amazing life and help you to create happier more satisfying relationships.

www.giaguidry.com In this episode, explore emotional adulthood versus emotional adulthood? Are you ready to step into a life where no one else controls your emotions?

Today I am sharing a solo episode that I recorded in 2021 on what I believe is the most game-changing concept that I share with my clients: Emotional Adulthood.   As I am getting ready to invite you all to me next Reclaim group, I have been reviewing the work I have done with past clients and their testimonials, and almost every client I have worked with says learning about emotional adulthood and applying it to their lives created a huge shift in how they showed up and their relationships (with themselves and others).   In this episode, you'll learn: ⁣The difference between emotional adulthood and emotional childhood, ways emotional childhood could be showing  up in different areas of your life and limiting  you from achieving the results you desire, how our own stories keep us stuck, and practical tips to rewrite a more empowering life narrative.    This is for you if you're ready to take control of your own emotions so you can find happiness and contentment, no matter what's going on around you.   Reclaim Group Waitlist: https://chipper-builder-227.ck.page/e03c3b1a53 Instagram: @turning30coach Website: www.turning30coach.com

What is emotional adulthood? Emotional adulthood is deciding not to blame and complain and instead take responsibility for you emotions and the energy you are experiencing and putting into motion. Rather than do this, a majority of adults choose to run, numb, complain and blame.  All of which lead to chaos, confusion, frustration and overwhelm.  In other words, they prolong your progress, cancel your momentum and sometimes creates messes that take more of your energy to manage.  Yea.... A great sell for why you might consider investing in developing a healthy inner life.  This is not just your thoughts and renewing your mind.  While that's part of it, your emotions indicate what is going on for you on the inside which absolutely affects your outside. As you can imagine, when you have no idea what's happening in you, this will shift what's happening around you, at least your perception of it all. Ahhh, adulting.  All it's cracked up to be!   Tune into Spirit Real Talk today! Be a blessing! Subscribe and share Spirit-Filled Real Talk on Spotify or Apple Podcasts! No more waiting, subscribe, rate it and leave a comment to receive a FREE gift.  Once you've done this, visit julianapage.com/podcast to claim your "Free Gift!"

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I'm sharing the key indicators that you might be living in emotional childhood, why staying in this place brings up so much pain and agony for us, and how to start using the tool of emotional adulthood to create your dream future and step into the highest version of yourself.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.kymshowerslifecoach.com/33

Here I offer more detail around the concepts of emotional adulthood and emotional childhood. When you can step into emotional adulthood you can create more space in your marriage for acceptance and connection. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/brooke-booth7/message

Emotional Adulthood and Role Modeling Saying Sorry. Saying sorry, when it is real, is one way that I have intentionally shown up like in emotional adulthood by modeling saying sorry for my little one. When I notice that I have not kept my word or behaved rudely, or just simply messed up then I have said sorry. And now, she does the same.Chandra Zas is on a mission to help people understand and solve their digestive issues. She coaches people who are ready to make lifestyle changes, particularly with food and stress. She refused to be defined by her diagnosed digestive disorder and so can you. Live More Stress Less. She lives her version of a meaningful life while traveling the world with her Man and Toddler. Food and Mood Expert.Chapters:0:00 Intro - Emotional Adulthood and Role Modeling Saying Sorry0:41 My own psychological experience 1:38 My last week experience 3:00 Saying sorry6:42 She said "I'm sorry"8:27 It's possible to role model9:47 Sign up for a call with meSign up for a free coaching session today:https://CoachChandra.as.me/healthstrategyMore about Chandra Zas:https://zenodyssey.com/my-comeback-story/https://youtu.be/F-jMEI2qaxcGet free recipes, courses, and more:https://zenodyssey.com/courses-workshops/Zen Odyssey email:chandra@zenodyssey.comSocial media:https://www.facebook.com/ChandraLynnZas/https://twitter.com/zenodyssey/https://www.instagram.com/zenodyssey/Music:All music is from epidemic sound, try it for free herehttps://www.epidemicsound.com/referral/4mnfht/The content of this YouTube channel is provided for informational purposes only and is not intended to constitute other health services. You should not rely upon any information contained on this YouTube channel for your health. This YouTube channel is provided "as is," which does not represent that any outcome or result from viewing this channel. Your use viewing of this YouTube channel is at your own risk. Enjoy this YouTube channel and its contents only for personal, non-commercial purposes. Neither Chandra Zas, Zen Odyssey, nor anyone acting on their behalf, will be liable under any circumstances for damages of any kind.#zenodyssey #chandrazas #foodandmoodcoachSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/zen-odyssey/donations

When we are living in emotional childhood we are not owning our attachment wiring, we are not stepping into awareness of how our primal panic affects our reactions, or we don't acknowledge how our selective feedback, selective memory and selective interpretation may be influencing how we are currently perceiving our partners words/actions. So what does this mean? This means we have to learn how to develop Emotional Adulthood. We have to develop skills and strategies for when our primal panic is activated.What is emotional adulthood?Emotional adulthood is when we take responsibility for our thoughts, our feelings, or actions and we practice being aware of our attachment system triggers and our response to it. It's when we take responsibility for developing our new belief systems. It takes back our power. Learning how to love ourselves, be there for ourselves and not make someone else's actions or reactions to us mean anything about us as a person or our worth. Emotional adulthood is when we are able to learn to hit the pause button, set away with communication: I need a minute, I can feel my body and brain want to react a certain way but I want to choose how I show up so I am going to walk away for a minute. Emotional adulthood is learning to think, act and feel on purpose and allow others to do the same. We no longer take ownership of how someone else feels. We no longer think we can earn love through actions. We no longer lose ourselves inside of a relationship because we need to “prove” that we are all in by being overly committed to someone else and loosing our commitment to ourselves. Emotional Adulthood is learning to develop a relationship with yourself that looks like learning to feel all of our emotions. It is learned to allow them, even when it is the last thing we want to do, trust me sitting through anxiety is one of the hardest emotions for me to sit with, I have learned that this may be my life's work, to learn to sit with my emotion of anxiety, but I am going to continue to work on it and I hope you do to.It's learning to develop new core beliefs that serve you in developing healthy relationships.Developing Core Beliefs takes practicing new neutral thoughts on purpose. So if you have the belief you are not loveable. Even practicing to some people I am loveable, will slowly allow you to change it to I am loveable. If you have the core belief, They will always leave and you change it to “Some people will stay” it will slowly allow you to change it to “the person for me will stay”. I will never find someone who can love me. Practice “ There are some people who could love me”, to “there are an infinite number of people who could love me”Remember practicing self love and self compassion when your primal panic is triggered: looks like, you showing up for yourself, you acknowledging your brain patterns, feeling your emotions, and then choosing how you will respond or react. It does not look like judging yourself, comparing yourself to securely attached people, or calling yourself negative names like “too much, too needy, or crazy” .When we are walking around with these yucky core beliefs that don't feel good, we do not show up confidently, we do not show up with feelings that will emulate that we love, trust and care about ourselves and as a result we do not attract those that will love, trust and care about us. So if you want to feel confident, if you want to feel secure, if you want to learn that you will choose a better partner for yourself, one that you DO ACTUALLY deserve, then it starts with practicing new thoughts, new thoughts consistently practiced become new thought beliefs, new thought beliefs eventually become core beliefs. This takes LOVE and PATIENCE and CONSISTENCY.

85 - 90% of adults function in emotional childhood. We outsource our happiness to others. We blame, rage, lash out and generally avoid taking full responsibility for how we think and feel. It's what we've been taught our entire lives - but unfortunately what we've been taught significantly disempowers us.   The truth is, to have the lives we want, we have to move into emotional adulthood, but how do we change the way we've functioned for so long?     In today's episode, we have a special guest taking over the Simply Worth It podcast. OBGYN and life coach, Krista Olsen shares the power of emotional adulthood and how to achieve it.  Three Things You'll Learn In This Episode    - Emotional childhood vs. emotional adulthood Emotional childhood is like putting your emotions on a silver platter and giving them to someone else. How do we stop letting others have so much power over us?    - The two questions to constantly ask yourself Who do you want to be and how do you want to act in this world?    - Why emotional childhood takes away our power  What goes wrong when we blame everything, from our jobs to our relationships, for our lousy outcomes? Guest Bio    Krista Olsen is a board-certified OB-GYN, partner with OB-gyn Specialists based in Edina, Minnesota. She became certified as a weight loss and life coach in 2019, and began True Life, MD in 2020. She lives in Minnesota with her husband, 2 kids, ages 4 and 5 and Goldendoodle, Cedar.  For more information about Krista's life coaching, head to https://www.truelifemd.com.

One of our main jobs as a parent is to be a leader for our family. We want to guide, help, inspire, and be a cheerleader for our children! Today, we talk about how to become the leader we want to be. Some of the best ways to do this are: 1. Leading by example (see Emotional Adulthood), 2. Having a clear vision, which we can then share with our children 3. Truly understanding and connecting with our children 4. Believe in them! Luckily for us, we have the BEST example of leadership- our Savior Jesus Christ. With Him as our leader, and these four pillars, we CAN fulfill that leadership roll in our children's lives in a loving and effective way!

A real-life example of how to grow up into (and be in) emotional adulthood. I'm getting kinda bored of you," my man said to me. I could have let these words ruin the wedding where we were about to arrive. Instead, I applied my coaching skills to my own brain and took responsibility for my 'hurt' feelings. Episode 73.Chandra Zas is on a mission to help people understand and solve their digestive issues. She coaches people who are ready to make lifestyle changes, particularly with food and stress. She refused to be defined by her diagnosed digestive disorder and so can you. Live More Stress Less. She lives her version of a meaningful life while traveling the world with her Man and Toddler. Food and Mood Expert.Sign up for a free coaching session today:https://CoachChandra.as.me/healthstrategyMore about Chandra Zas:https://zenodyssey.com/my-comeback-story/https://youtu.be/F-jMEI2qaxcThis week blog post:https://www.zenodyssey.com/blog-posts/emotional-adulthood/Get free recipes, courses, and more:https://zenodyssey.com/courses-workshops/Zen Odyssey email:chandra@zenodyssey.comSocial media:https://www.facebook.com/ChandraLynnZas/https://twitter.com/zenodyssey/https://www.instagram.com/zenodyssey/Music:All music is from epidemic sound, try it for free herehttps://www.epidemicsound.com/referral/4mnfht/The content of this YouTube channel is provided for informational purposes only and is not intended to constitute other health services. You should not rely upon any information contained on this YouTube channel for your health. This YouTube channel is provided "as is," which does not represent that any outcome or result from viewing this channel. Your use viewing of this YouTube channel is at your own risk. Enjoy this YouTube channel and its contents only for personal, non-commercial purposes. Neither Chandra Zas, Zen Odyssey, nor anyone acting on their behalf, will be liable under any circumstances for damages of any kind.#zenodyssey #chandrazas #foodandmoodcoachSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/zen-odyssey/donations

Join me for continued uncovering of my life in Nome. If you see the youtube version I am wearing a kuspuk which is a traditional native women's blouse made by an elder in St. Michaels. I discuss my life in Nome and the wonderful support from the Shut Up and Act Dumb, parenting teen/tween community has shown. This episode we delve into the difference between emotional childhood and adulthood and how becoming an emotional adult will be an important part of going from conflict to connection. Come join us while we head down the road of life and move from hostility to harmony with your teens and tweens. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/drnikkineretin/message

We spend our whole lives blaming other people for the way we feel because we do not know any better. With emotional maturity comes emotional adulthood. It is time to learn how to choose the way we want to feel on purpose and take responsibility for our own emotions.

Join me this week as I discuss the concept of emotional adulthood. It is the understanding that we are in change of how we think and feel, always. I explain the difference between emotional childhood and emotional adulthood and how this concept can be the most empowering thing you do in your life. 

I want to share the biggest light bulb moment I've ever experienced in my life: I have full control over both my thoughts and my feelings. Not my husband. Not my mom. Not my kids (if I had any) Not my boss. Not my friends. Not the person making me feel small, dump or like I don't know what I'm doing. I - and only I - have full control over my thoughts and my feelings - and that is the BEST NEWS EVER. Because if you understand God's model for your human life, then you know that means, along with God, it's YOU and only YOU who controls your life on this earth. You control the actions you take or don't take, you control the results you experience in your life. If you're like me and didn't know this - don't beat yourself up - because this is NOT what the world teaches us. The world teaches us it's other people and our circumstances that control our thoughts and feelings. So that's how many of us live our lives and it's why so many of us have this strong desire to control everything - because we believe that's how we will feel better. Unfortunately there's many things in our earthly life we can't control so that leads to us feeling helpless and powerless. Join me for this podcast as I share the truth about this and how Emotional Adulthood is the path to living your most empowered life. People who cannot control themselves are like cities without walls to protect them. Proverbs 27:28 ERV

We call ourselves adults, but most of us are still functioning as emotional children.  Are you living in emotional adulthood or childhood? Tune in to today's episode and find out!

We share with you what it means to be in emotional adulthood. Once you learn to fully take ownership of your own emotions, you regain power in your life.

Rise up, witches! Today we are chatting with Life Coach, Actor, & Fitness Instructor, Connor Padilla. We dive deep on Emotional Adulthood, Toxic Positivity, How to Own your Shit - and Cheyenne finally has a moment to nerd out with someone about Buffy the Vampire Slayer. This episode is chock full of wisdom, humor and advice for showing up fully in the world exactly as you are. ENJOY! GET MORE CONNOR HERE Instagram - @connorpadilla Email Consult - connorpadilla1408@gmail.com JOIN OUR COVEN Instagram - @ouijaboardsandmidnightmargs TikTok - @ouijaboardsmidnightmargs Twitter - @OuijaMargsPod

Rise up, witches! Today we are chatting with Life Coach, Actor, & Fitness Instructor, Connor Padilla. We dive deep on Emotional Adulthood, Toxic Positivity, How to Own your Shit - and Cheyenne finally has a moment to nerd out with someone about Buffy the Vampire Slayer. This episode is chock full of wisdom, humor and advice for showing up fully in the world exactly as you are. ENJOY! GET MORE CONNOR HERE Instagram - @connorpadilla Email Consult - connorpadilla1408@gmail.com JOIN OUR COVEN Instagram - @ouijaboardsandmidnightmargs TikTok - @ouijaboardsmidnightmargs Twitter - @OuijaMargsPod

Toxic People can really get us in a negative mood if we let them. Come along and listen today to find out my Secret to dealing with them. I'll also share the concept of Emotional Childhood and Emotional Adulthood, which is a something I teach my coaching clients to help them take charge of their emotions 100% of the time. I also am discussing my new coaching program, "Quit your Burnout, not your Job," which starts enrolling on January 1st, 2021. If you are interested in details, listen in, or go to my website coach-miles.com or find me on Instagram at CoachMilesMD .

Are you ready to start out the new year taking responsibility for your emotions, successes and even your failures? Believe me when I say it can be a game changer when it comes to the success you hold in your future! In this episode, we're talking about the difference between emotional childhood and emotional adulthood and how you can start taking responsibility for your future by not allowing others to have control over your feelings, your success and your destiny. By the end, you will realize just how much this simple mindset switch can impact both your home life and your business. Being able to make the transition away from emotional childhood into emotional adulthood will change the results you're getting in your life! If you're ready to take responsibility so you can level up your life, you don't want to miss this episode! I would love to connect on Facebook or Instagram! Show notes available at www.andrealiebross.com/6The Get a Grip Masterclass starting September 12th will teach you how to get a clear picture of each and every facet of your business, in just 5 20 minutes increments, so that you'll easily know what needs work or needs to change in order to get to that next level. Andrea will guide you through understanding the people, the marketing, the systems, the goals, the numbers (ugg)- all of it - in just 5 easy steps. Head to andrealiebross.com/getagrip2022 to register NOW.

How to feel your feelings and still be in control of your life. To increase your emotional agility schedule your call with me at https://courtneylovegavin.com/contactFeelings drive everything we do. Whatever it is you want in your life, it’s because you believe you will feel better having it. Learn how to powerfully control the precise way you want to feel.WHAT'S

This episode covers all the amazing questions you submitted on Instagram that distinguish your inner child and emotional adulthood. Starting next week, I'm doing a series of episodes dedicated to goals, achievements, believing in yourself, accomplishing big things, etc. in preparation for the new year...don't miss out! Click here if you'd like to find out more about how I work with my clients or email me directly at sophie@codependentmillennial.com. Find me on Instagram @codependentmillennial for more tips on how to move beyond your codependency and build a life you truly love!

Contempt, criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling...the 4 big DON'Ts in marriage! In this episode, we take on these 4 conditions by defining each one, sharing what it looks like in a marriage, and then most importantly, how to FIGHT each of them. We really want your marriage to be successful, so this episode is for you! Mentioned in this episode: Marriage with Kids: The Essence of Communication {Episode 92} Original research on the 4 don'ts Gottman 4 Horseman article Life Coach School episode on Vulnerability vs Victim Mentality Life Coach School episode on Emotional Adulthood

This is going to be a short, sweet and IMPACTFUL episode this week on emotional adulthood. While most of us think that we're adults, I'm willing to bet that we aren't taking responsibility for our emotions...aka we're stuck in emotional childhood. On today's episode, we're covering what it means to be an emotional adult, how to recognize when you're in emotional childhood, and how to move from emotional childhood to emotional adulthood. For full show notes, head to sarahmoody.com/podcast16.

In this episode, I will talk about the third of five pillars of the foundation of balance: Emotional Adulthood. Full disclaimer: Some might be resistant to this topic; I recommend keeping an open mind. Approaching the topic with an open mind might be the thing that can make a significant shift in your life. Now, back to the subject. Emotional adulthood is similar to emotional maturity or emotional intelligence kind-of.  It addresses a specific part of emotional maturity that doesn't normally get addressed. It's the part where we legitimately take full responsibility for our emotions and use that responsibility to serve our highest thoughts and desires. Join me in this episode of Balanced and Free Mom Boss as we dive into the subject of emotional adulthood and learn ways to control our emotions better to attain the balance and clarity we need.  Key points: Emotional adulthood is outgrowing the default immature emotional bubble and taking full responsibility for all our feelings, no matter what someone else does or doesn't do. When you're in an emotionally adult space, you will be more empowered to be the person you want to be and be in control of your life and its direction. Taking responsibility for how you feel, making choices on what you want to feel, and not blaming others or other things is an indication that you're an emotional adult. Our thinking is what creates emotional maturity or immaturity. It is where all the power and responsibility lie for our personal experiences and create what we truly want.  Connect with Me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/balancedandfreemomboss/ Linktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/balancedandfreemomboss Website: https://brittanydowcoaching.com/ Coaching: https://balanced-and-free-mom-boss---brittany-dow-coaching.mykajabi.com/

Today we pose the question: What do you really want your relationship with alcohol to look like and why? It's good to start with a question to start to understand the process of what you want. I review the 5 shifts to getting alcohol out of your way that I teach my clients. I also give you the recipe to my favorite holiday elixir also. For Podcast Inquiries: mary@marywagstaffcoach.comSchedule your Free Alignment session with Mary HERE!

Do you ever stop to ask yourself, how will I know when I have arrived, that moment where I can be at peace and I have made it? What if THIS is the moment? How would you know? Alcohol has a way of keeping you ANYWHERE but the present moment, which is the only place where true peace can exist. Either we are nostalgic about the subjective past of the "good old days", or terrified of the future yet to be told. Every moment is the opportunity to experience the fruits of your labor, until you step into that place of the compassionate witness, you will never be honouring you, and your life as it is in this moment, alcohol will always win the illusion of better. Today, you get the change to hear me interview on the Podcast The Evolutionary, by David Knox. My journey evolving past alcohol and my passion for helping Women find freedom on the other side of their desire.Please check out and Subscribe to David's Amazing Show HERE! Remember, taking your last sip isn't your first step! Schedule a time to talk about my 1:1 Coaching mentorship HERE

Are you an emotional child trapped in an adult's body? Welcome to the class that every school should teach, but didn't. -------- Come say hi! www.litolabs.com instagram.com/litolabs facebook.com/hellolito Rebecca online: instagram.com/rebecca_toh www.rebeccatoh.com www.rebeccatoh.co Dan online: instagram.com/happydannybunny www.dannybunny.co --------- Your well-being is everything. If you're looking to have 1:on:1 life coaching from Dan, please check out: www.howtofeelbetter.co

In the last episode, we started a dialectic to investigate the truth about adulthood. When does it start? What does it mean to be an adult? The answers to those questions aren’t so simple, though, and the definitions seem to keep shifting over time, both for us as individuals and for society as a whole. This week, we’re going to move past the logistics and legal considerations for adulthood and start addressing the concept of Emotional Adulthood and the “I have to” delusion. If you want to go even deeper on the subject, you’ll find this included as part of (https://courses.clearandopen.com/courses/accountability-path-2).

On this episode of The Marriage Life Coach Podcast, one of my coaching clients, Kati Rehm, shares her experience of being coached and how it affected her marriage when she struggled with the question: “should I stay or should I go?”  We talk about emotional childhood versus emotional adulthood, the power of life coaching and the groundbreaking moments Kati experienced while being coached, and how it transformed her marriage. Find full show notes, transcript, and links to resources at http://maggiereyes.com/podcast/34

This week Judith and Sonya talk about taking responsibility for our actions and the empowering results!

Episode 1 out of 7 in my series about the 7 Essential Steps to Moving Beyond Codependency. To get the full 7-day guide, including the corresponding worksheets and written guidance, email support@codependentmillennial.com. Click here to apply for 1:1 coaching with me. Find me on Instagram @codependentmillennial for more tips on how to move beyond codependency and build a life you truly love!

"If you tend to be hard on yourself, this is the episode for you...." Listen in while Melissa explains how to better control your perspective when dealing with disappointment, and avoid falling into the trap of "layered thinking." If you haven't already, listen to Episodes 10 and 11 to get the basics of Emotional Adulthood and Superthinking.

Sometimes it seems like our feelings or emotions are caused by what someone else is doing or saying.  But if that is true... then we are never completely in control. In this episode we'll talk about what it means to be an emotional adult. We'll talk about why and how to take full ownership over our thoughts and feelings. Quote by Russell M Nelson from this talk. The Hiding Place by Corrie ten Boom can be found here. 

"Mom and Dad, you're fighting like kids." Has your child ever said this or have you ever thought this? When you take responsibility for your actions and take care of how you think, you have crossed over into emotional adulthood.    SHOW NOTES: Find out more about Warrior Women. CLICK HERE. FREE DOWNLOAD from Episode 49: Who Are You? If you want help developing emotional adulthood, sign up for your one FREE coaching call. You will love the change your new thoughts can give you. Join my e-mail list HERE.   Previously published here.

Today I wanted to give you real life examples of applying this work! Emotional adulthood vs. emotional childhood. If you know what both of these are and have them in your awareness, you can hopefully do some self-coaching when you experience high emotion or negative emotion! Especially if there is a part of you that feels like, "Why am I so upset over this?"Hope you enjoy!By the way, I LOVE hearing about your love for this podcast! I enjoy getting random messages sharing how this content is helping you! If you are loving it, please leave a written review or rating! I love reading them!!Website: macierenae.comFacebook: Macie RenaeInstagram: @macierenae_

Emotional Adulthood.  It's a beautiful thing when we learn how to take full responsibility for all of our emotions and stop blaming others for how we feel and for our behaviors.  It can be a process to learn because most of us were taught from the time we were young that other people were responsible for how we feel, but taking back the control over ourselves is an amazing, empowering process!

Do you want to reach every goal you have for yourself? Try in some of these thoughts to see if being an Emotional Adult sounds like something you want to do.

On this episode of the podcast Julie and her daughter Bridget have a back and forth discussion on the topic of emotional childhood.  Often when we are feeling stress in our lives, we have a tendency to attempt to avoid our negative emotions.  Instead of feeling them and owning them, we want to blame our circumstances or the other people in our lives for our suffering. When you show up as an emotional adult, you will no longer blame others for the way you are feeling.  

Simply stated, emotional adulthood is when we take responsibility for how we feel. Learn about the opposite of emotional adulthood, which is emotional childhood, to get a better understanding of what it looks like to operate from emotional adulthood. When we learn how to be responsible for our own happiness and unhappiness (it turns out we're the best ones), we are empowered to be the person that we want to be in the world.

It can be so easy to act like a child by yelling, blaming others or playing the victim. But owning our emotions creates powerful parenting. Emotional adulthood might be the most powerful tool for getting along with other people-- especially our teens. Simply put, emotional adulthood means taking responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings rather than blaming other people. Emotional adults don't get offended easily (or at all!) and they recognize that when people hurt us they usually act out of ignorance, not cruelty.It sounds so basic, but once you start thinking about emotional adulthood, you'll recognize many situations where adults act like emotional children-- throwing tantrums, getting offended at small slights and blaming others for their feelings. On the flip side, we can't expect full emotional adulthood from our teens. But we can teach emotional adulthood by modeling it ourselves.

In this episode, we'll talk about emotional adulthood and why it's a great antidote to those moments where our inner child considers having a tantrum. We'll explore what emotional adulthood looks and feels like, why it's so empowering, and how to start building up your emotional adulthood toolbox. And we'll discuss the importance of taking responsibility for your own emotional and physical wellbeing while resisting the temptation to take on other people's wellbeing, too.  Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/24

In this episode I talk about a concept called Emotional Childhood and explain how it is keeping so many of us stuck in negative patterns in our relationships and in other areas of our lives. I teach you how to understand and achieve Emotional Adulthood, and why doing so has such an impact on the experience we are having and the results we are creating for ourselves. Good stuff!

It’s time we have the talk…you know, the one before you start going through emotional puberty. If you haven’t had “the talk” yet, you’re in for a ride. Emotional childhood is when we are emotionally acting like a child.  It shows up when we don’t take responsibility for how we feel, or when we blameRead More

Most people go through life living in a state of emotional childhood, blaming external circumstances for their feelings. When you combine kids who have no ability to manage their minds with parents who don't manage their own, it can spell trouble. Join me for today's episode, where I talk about the concept of emotional adulthood and why you should strive to attain it.www.lessdramamoremama.com/036

When you rely on yourself to feel good, you have better ideas to drive your own prosperity When you stop relying on other people, on circumstances to make you feel good, you will take control of yourself and your own feelings You are going to become aware of what your feelings feel like in your body. What it feels like when you surrender power to someone else When you leave emotional childhood and step into emotional adulthood, everything changes. You ARE the person the universe calls you to be.

Part of being an emotional adult is taking responsibility for our own emotions.  Even in our marriage.  It is not our partners responsibility for making us feel loved, secure, and happy.  We have to do that for ourselves.  Listen in to find out how… Play In A New Window Download       Show Notes So today we are going to talk about how to quit blaming others for how you feel.  So in the world of life coaching we call this emotional childhood vs. emotional adulthood.   As children, most of us were taught that we can make others feel a certain way.  We’ve probably inadvertently taught that to our children as well “Don’t do that or Mommy will be sad”   “We need to share so that Sally’s feelings won’t be hurt” “You need to invite Johnny to your party so that he doesn’t feel left out” So all of these little things taught us (and we in turn teach our children) that we  have control over how someone else feels by what we say or how we act. So if we have power over someone else’s emotions, people can have power over ours as well, right? We believed that whatever is happening in our lives in the cause of our pain rather than being aware of the thoughts that we are thinking that are creating these emotions in us.  But if you remember in our model (which I teach in Episode 17) our thoughts come from our circumstances, and that is what gives us our emotions. But, as children we were not taught this or taught how to understand our own emotions or how to deal with them.  So even as adults we react to our emotions, act out, or avoid emotions, rather that taking full responsibility for them and choosing thoughts that will create the emotions we want to experience. Essentially as adults we are still functioning as emotional children. This is what we call Emotional Childhood. So much of what we have learned in this life is how to avoid pain.  We use things to “buffer” away our feelings - food, shopping, pornography, sex, netflix, social media, exercise, work, etc.   The only way to achieve emotional maturity or Emotional Adulthood is through self-responsibility.  So what does that mean?  What does Emotional Adulthood entail? We take control of our own thoughts and don’t blame other people for our emotions or the results we are getting in our life. Take responsibility for our own pain and also for our own joy Not expect others to make us happy Not expecting others to make us feel secure. Appreciating that we are the only ones who can hurt our feelings, and that we can do that with our own thoughts. And we need to do this at all times! No wonder it feels like such hard work to begin thinking about our own thinking and realize that we can actually choose how went to feel, no matter what other people do or say. This is awesome news, because this means we have power over our own lives.  When we blame someone else for how we are feeling, we are handing our power over to another person.  Handing over that power makes us dependent on that person for how we feel…a dependent is otherwise known as a child.  But when we understand that we are in charge of how we feel because of our thoughts, we get to take all that power back. So let me give you an example -  I have a client who has quite a temper.  When he gets stressed out at work, he likes to blame everyone else for his frustration and anger.  He does NOT like to take responsibility for it.  It’s always someone else’s fault that he is angry.  This is so disempowering!  He’s handing over control of his emotions to someone else.  But really, his emotions are coming from his thoughts about what is happening at work.  And if he would take responsibility for those thoughts, realize that he gets to control his thoughts and therefore how he feels about what is happening, then he gets all of his power back.  Now, he may still choose to be angry about the situation, but understanding that the anger is coming from his thoughts and not blaming the other person, he is still acting like an Emotional Adult. So when applying this to marriage - we are often looking to our spouse to make us feel loved, secure, sexy, and happy.  But as we know, how we feel comes from our thoughts.  And no one can make us THINK certain things, all of our thoughts are a choice.  So if we want to think thoughts about being loved, secure, sexy, and happy, then we have to choose to purposely think those thoughts and that is what will make us feel that way. But because we tend to think that our partner can make us feel these things, this is why traditional therapy often doesn’t work.  You sit down in a room with your spouse and the therapist says “ok tell your spouse your needs in this marriage and vice versa, and then the spouse is supposed to do what they can to meet your needs to make you happy.   But it never does, because they never can.  You are the only one who can meet your needs.  You are the only one who can choose your thoughts to make you feel how you want to feel.  Your spouse, even if they are trying, will never be able to meet your needs.  They may make it EASIER for you to think thoughts that make you feel loved, and secure, and happy.  But you are the ONLY one that can think the thoughts to make you feel that way. A couple sits down in marriage counseling and the the therapist says “Ok - wife, I want you to list all the things that make you feel loved and secure in this marriage” I need you to tell me you love me every day I need you to bring me flowers I need you to tell my I am beautiful I need you to come home from work and help me with the kids etc. If you do all that you will make me feel loved and secure.  And the husband says…”ok..I can do that”  - And he tells hers “I love you” every day Now she can choose to think “Oh, he does love me” and she feels loved or she could think “well he’s only telling me he loves me because I told him to” and then she doesn’t feel love - she feels resentment and anger See how her choice of what she thinks impact how she feels even if he does the exact same things??? So if everyone is responsible for how they feel, does that mean we can say or do whatever we want?  Are we responsible for how we treat our spouse and others?  Ultimately how they feel is on them, right? Even though you aren’t responsible for someone else’s feelings, you are still responsible for how you behave.  It’s up to you to decide how you want to show up in the world. Being an emotional adult is hard.  It definitely takes more work and more effort.  But it really is worth it. Taking the step to manage ourselves and our minds so we aren’t dependent on other people for how we feel is awesome!  Because that is how we can truly be happy.

What if you thought you were just going to spend one night away from home, so you packed a little stuff and left ...then never saw anything you owned again?  Matt and Nikki lived is and instead of beating them down, it is making them strong.  Check out their story as we wrap up our series on emotional adulthood. Nikki's Blog: Fun after Fire Then follow her on Instagram & Facebook

In Part 3 of our 4 part series about Emotional Adulthood and taking responsibility no matter what.  There are some pretty natural questions that come up: If I take responsibility when the other person was in the wrong doesn't that let THEM off the hook?  Doesn't it prevent me from teaching them a lesson?  Doesn't it prevent justice?  Won't it make it seem like I think what they did is OK?  Basically - NO ...because it's not about them, its about YOU! Don't forget to go to www.fit-bar.com and click subscribe to get your free "Emotional Age Quiz"

As I’m sure you’re aware, summer is in full-swing, which means it’s time to deal with a touchy subject; family relationships. Sure, some of us have a great time with our families, however, for others, it can leave us wading through old emotions we thought we’d left behind. Tune in to learn how tracking your thoughts throughout will make your time back home so much more enjoyable for you and everyone else. Get full show notes and more information here: http://angelakellycoaching.com/27

Yep, my dear Millennials, it's time to be an adult at work. Sorry about that. First, let's define emotional adulthood. Emotional adulthood is where you take responsibility for what you think, feel, and do. What's the opposite? Emotional childhood, where you blame others for how you are thinking, feeling, and acting. Emotional adulthood means you are not at the affect of your circumstances. You aren't blaming your boss, coworkers, or the company you work for. You understand that, no matter what is or isn't happening at your work, it is totally within your control to think positive thoughts, feel good, and act in a way that serves you. I can hear you now. “You don't know my situation.” You think you are a special snowflake…that your circumstances do cause you to feel bad. Let me ask you this: What's the upside of abdicating responsibility for your life to someone else? Especially someone you may not even particularly like. You are giving that other person far too much power over your emotional life. Abdicating responsibility for how you feel at work is incredibly disempowering. You become a victim, and the other person becomes the villain. Do you really want to think of yourself as a victim? I didn't think so. By abdicating responsibility, you will fuel an action you don't want to be taking. You might: -Avoid the other person. -Talk about the person behind their back. -Vent your rage to your significant other. -Slack off on your job performance. -Become passive-aggressive toward that person. None of these actions will get you the results you are seeking at work. None of these actions are fueled by thoughts you truly want to be having. None of these actions generate positive feelings for you. Here's the problem: from childhood, we've been told by our parents, teachers, and other significant adults that we have the ability to hurt another person's feelings. To make them feel bad. This is absolutely untrue. When we understand that only we can affect our own feelings, the onus is off of others to make us feel a certain way. The reverse is also true. Nothing we say, do, don't say, or don't do can make another person feel a certain way. Only what they think about what we say, do, don't say, or don't do can make them feel something. An emotional adult doesn't blame anyone at work for their mistakes. An emotional adult doesn't throw temper tantrums when they don't get that promotion, that tony project, that recognition. An emotional adult owns their mistakes and takes responsibility for them. An emotional adult doesn't blame himself or herself for mistakes, either. There's no upside to blame. Ever. Rather, an emotional adult is interested and curious in the thoughts, feelings, and actions that led to the result they didn't want…the so-called mistake. An emotional adult knows that the only way to get a different result is to start with a different thought. This probably makes sense in the abstract, but will be much more difficult to do when a situation arises at work. Your challenge is to be aware of the temptation to slip into emotional childhood and try to catch yourself at the thought phase. Then, gently and kindly reframe your thought so that you get a different outcome. Replace “He's such an idiot!” with “He's doing the best he can.” Replace “She should never have been given that job” with “She is good at _____.” Replace “My boss never recognizes me” with “I know I'm doing a great job.” So the goal is emotional adulthood. And the path to emotional adulthood is self-awareness. Of your thoughts. Of when you slip into blame or a victim mentality. Of when you're beating yourself up for negative thoughts. One more aspect of emotional adulthood: People-pleasers are liars. If you're trying to control other peoples' opinion of you at work by acting in a certain way or saying certain things, you are in emotional childhood. You CANNOT control how other people feel about you, because their feelings about you are a reflection of themselves, not you. Just be you, and continue to grow and evolve as the human you are. Show up at work as the best possible version of yourself, and “let” others think what they will about you. (You don't have a choice in the matter, anyway.)   To visit my website: www.exclusivecareercoaching.com Follow My YouTube channel (Lesa Edwards); it's chocked full of value career management content is easily digestible bites.   Want to speak with an expert about your career/job search goals? Need help figuring out what's holding you back from achieving your dream career? Let's talk. Here's the link to schedule a 30-minute consult call with me:  www.timetrade.com/book/D6KLN. Hope to see you soon!   

Yep, my dear Millennials, it's time to be an adult at work. Sorry about that. First, let's define emotional adulthood. Emotional adulthood is where you take responsibility for what you think, feel, and do. What's the opposite? Emotional childhood, where you blame others for how you are thinking, feeling, and acting. Emotional adulthood means you are not at the affect of your circumstances. You aren't blaming your boss, coworkers, or the company you work for. You understand that, no matter what is or isn't happening at your work, it is totally within your control to think positive thoughts, feel good, and act in a way that serves you. I can hear you now. “You don't know my situation.” You think you are a special snowflake…that your circumstances do cause you to feel bad. Let me ask you this: What's the upside of abdicating responsibility for your life to someone else? Especially someone you may not even particularly like. You are giving that other person far too much power over your emotional life. Abdicating responsibility for how you feel at work is incredibly disempowering. You become a victim, and the other person becomes the villain. Do you really want to think of yourself as a victim? I didn't think so. By abdicating responsibility, you will fuel an action you don't want to be taking. You might: -Avoid the other person. -Talk about the person behind their back. -Vent your rage to your significant other. -Slack off on your job performance. -Become passive-aggressive toward that person. None of these actions will get you the results you are seeking at work. None of these actions are fueled by thoughts you truly want to be having. None of these actions generate positive feelings for you. Here's the problem: from childhood, we've been told by our parents, teachers, and other significant adults that we have the ability to hurt another person's feelings. To make them feel bad. This is absolutely untrue. When we understand that only we can affect our own feelings, the onus is off of others to make us feel a certain way. The reverse is also true. Nothing we say, do, don't say, or don't do can make another person feel a certain way. Only what they think about what we say, do, don't say, or don't do can make them feel something. An emotional adult doesn't blame anyone at work for their mistakes. An emotional adult doesn't throw temper tantrums when they don't get that promotion, that tony project, that recognition. An emotional adult owns their mistakes and takes responsibility for them. An emotional adult doesn't blame himself or herself for mistakes, either. There's no upside to blame. Ever. Rather, an emotional adult is interested and curious in the thoughts, feelings, and actions that led to the result they didn't want…the so-called mistake. An emotional adult knows that the only way to get a different result is to start with a different thought. This probably makes sense in the abstract, but will be much more difficult to do when a situation arises at work. Your challenge is to be aware of the temptation to slip into emotional childhood and try to catch yourself at the thought phase. Then, gently and kindly reframe your thought so that you get a different outcome. Replace “He's such an idiot!” with “He's doing the best he can.” Replace “She should never have been given that job” with “She is good at _____.” Replace “My boss never recognizes me” with “I know I'm doing a great job.” So the goal is emotional adulthood. And the path to emotional adulthood is self-awareness. Of your thoughts. Of when you slip into blame or a victim mentality. Of when you're beating yourself up for negative thoughts. One more aspect of emotional adulthood: People-pleasers are liars. If you're trying to control other peoples' opinion of you at work by acting in a certain way or saying certain things, you are in emotional childhood. You CANNOT control how other people feel about you, because their feelings about you are a reflection of themselves, not you. Just be you, and continue to grow and evolve as the human you are. Show up at work as the best possible version of yourself, and “let” others think what they will about you. (You don't have a choice in the matter, anyway.)   To visit my website: www.exclusivecareercoaching.com Follow My YouTube channel (Lesa Edwards); it's chocked full of value career management content is easily digestible bites.   Want to speak with an expert about your career/job search goals? Need help figuring out what's holding you back from achieving your dream career? Let's talk. Here's the link to schedule a 30-minute consult call with me:  www.timetrade.com/book/D6KLN. Hope to see you soon!   

Today, I want to give you a sense of what the deeper, second level teachings that we do in the UnF*ckYour Brain program look like and teach you an advanced level topic - taking responsibility for other people’s feelings (Emotional Adulthood 2.0). We take a look at how your prior programming is causing you to feel responsible for how other people feel and act, and why it is actually not a loving thing to do. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/26

Alice enthusiast Trishel and I go down the rabbit hole to explore what happens as we start to differentiate and grow up emotionally.

On this episode of The Life Coach School, we're taking a deep dive into relationships. We cover how you can use life coaching tools like The Model, Emotional Adulthood, and The Manual to improve your relationships and enjoy them to best of your ability.

On this episode of The Life Coach School, we’re taking a deep dive into relationships.  We cover how you can use life coaching tools like The Model, Emotional Adulthood, and The Manual to improve your relationships and enjoy them to best of your ability. Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelifecoachschool.com/139

This week, I am talking to you about a concept that has developed for me over the years of life coaching and teaching – emotional childhood and emotional adulthood. The idea behind this concept is that we are responsible for how we feel in every moment. Emotional childhood is when we choose not to take this responsibility. It is one of the most disempowering things we can do is to keep ourselves in this place of emotional childhood and blame. Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelifecoachschool.com/25/

This week, I am talking to you about a concept that has developed for me over the years of life coaching and teaching – emotional childhood and emotional adulthood. The idea behind this concept is that we are responsible for how we feel in every moment. Emotional childhood is when we choose not to take this responsibility. It is one of the most disempowering things we can do is to keep ourselves in this place of emotional childhood and blame. Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelifecoachschool.com/25/