Podcasts about anxious attachment

She thought everything was fine. Then, he dropped a bombshell/ “I'm not sure I'm in love with you anymore.”Trying to be understanding, she gave him an easy out. She said, “It's okay if we need to break up.”But he wouldn't take it. He was confused. He wanted to keep trying.And just like that, they were trapped in a exhausting cycle of push-and-pull-a classic anxious-avoidant trap-until he finally ended it for good.Now, she's left heartbroken and overthinking everything. She's asking all the classic questions:How do I get over a breakup when I still have feelings?What does it mean when he says he loves me but isn't in love with me?Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners?Is there any chance of getting back together?If this story hits home, you're not alone. These painful patterns often point directly to our attachment styles.In this recorded session, we sit down with Sarah to understand her anxious attachment style and how it showed up in her relationship. We'll break down-The hidden signs of an anxious attachment style.How fear of abandonment can accidentally sabotage your love life.Practical steps for healing a broken heart and creating secure attachment.How to stop the cycle of on-again, off-again relationships and learn how to move forward for good.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

In this powerful call-in episode of Dr. Judy WTF, Dr. Judy unpacks the difference between being in love and truly loving someone. She explains why the dopamine-filled highs of infatuation can feel like a drug, why those “butterflies” rarely last, and how real love is built on stability, shared values, and emotional safety. Using her Mind Map® system and attachment theory, Dr. Judy traces how childhood wounds, “holes in the soul,” and inconsistent parenting create anxious and avoidant attachment styles that play out in adult relationships.A courageous caller shares how growing up with emotionally unavailable parents led him to repeatedly fall for partners who don't have time for him. Dr. Judy walks him through her “What the Freud”® repetition principle—why we keep choosing rejecters and secretly hope they will finally heal our original pain. She also explores whether the in-love feeling can come back in long-term relationships, how to rekindle sparks with date nights, play, sex, and shared growth, and why becoming the cause of your healing (instead of at the effect of others) is the real path to healthy, mature love.

Samantha Reed Cleaver is an Attachment Trauma Specialist and host of The Relationship Rehab Podcast on a mission to help people who feel anxious in their relationships heal inner child wounds, trauma, and sabotaging patterns so they can feel calm, confident, and secure in love. Through her own healing journey, she discovered that her anxious attachment style was the biggest block keeping her stuck in toxic dynamics and disconnected from herself.In this conversation, Samantha and Kate discuss why ambitious women often struggle with feeling anxious in relationships and how this trauma leaks into their business and career success.Are you ready to stop losing yourself in relationships? Tune in to learn:

In today's episode we're covering some deep territory with my returning guest, Trevor Hanson, as we explore anxious attachment. It's crucial to understand how our attachment styles, shaped by our upbringing and personal experiences, influence our daily habits and relationships. Learning to trust ourselves and engage in self-care can transform insecurities into self-compassion. Trevor shares profound insights into how recognizing and healing our "inner child" is essential for personal growth and development. He emphasizes the importance of daily habits that promote self-improvement and how to stop being a perfectionist. Join us to learn how understanding and healing attachment patterns can lead to personal fulfillment and genuine happiness. Celebrate 9 years of About Progress by submitting to our annual Favorite Things Giveaway! Simply leave a rating/review on Apple Podcasts. Favorite things + details on who won HERE. Past Episode to support: prior episode with Trevor: https://www.aboutprogress.com/blog/keys-to-overcoming-conflict-and-healing-connection-for-couples Sign up as a Supporter to get access to our private, premium, ad-free podcast, More Personal. Episodes air each Friday! Get up to 40% off at ⁠Cozy Earth⁠ with code "COZYPROGRESS" More for Moms Conference use code “LISTENER” for $20 off Leave a rating and review Check out my ⁠workshops⁠! Follow About Progress on YOUTUBE! Book Launch Committee Free DSL Training Full Show Notes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we dive into the mind of an avoidant- - what makes them shut down? - what are the thinking when they shut down? - what are the feeling when they have the urge to run away or shut down? - why do they walk away? And what you and your partner can do to save your relationship. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

What was wounded in relationship needs to heal in relationship. In this powerful conversation, Christa sits down with licensed psychotherapist and attachment expert Jessica Baum, author of the new book "Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building Secure Relationships," to explore why anxious attachment can't be healed in isolationm and what to do instead. Jessica reveals how implicit memories from childhood live in our bodies and change our felt sense in the world. Maybe a parent, teacher, or friend made you feel a certain way, and your body created protective spaces to keep you safe. Now, when your partner echoes that old wound, your nervous system reacts before your mind can catch up. Learn how healing happens through empathy, co-regulation, and anchoring relationships with safe people who can help you hold what you've been carrying alone. Discover what co-regulation actually looks like, why the earlier the wound the more relational support you need, and how to create secure attachment in your marriage even if you didn't have it growing up. Jessica's book includes exercises that help you regulate as you read, making it a healing companion for anyone ready to move from anxious patterns to secure connection. You can't do this work alone, and you don't have to. Get the book here! https://www.amazon.com/Safe-Attachment-Informed-Building-Secure-Relationships/dp/0593850815 Get the somatic meditation and other gifts along with your purchase! https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/interview More show links: ⁠Use this brief form to tell us more of what you'd like to hear and see on the pod in our E + M Pod survey!⁠ https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSc3QManM8zj6ODWSOAM3BdDLoLh-A4AzUO3zXu5xGq6bjUgsg/viewform?usp=header Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave Christa a podcast question anonymously by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you find yourself constantly overthinking in new relationships, fearing abandonment, or needing immediate resolution after every minor conflict? As someone who is formerly (and sometimes still a little bit!) anxiously attached, I know this feeling all too well.That's why I was so excited to sit down with psychotherapist Emma for a deep dive into the challenging (and often painful) intersection of anxiety and dating. We explore where anxious attachment comes from, how it shows up in modern relationships (especially with avoidant partners), and the practical steps you can take to heal and build self-trust.CHECK OUT MY MASTERCLASSES HERE AND START EXPERIENCING LOTS MORE PEACE, JOY, & FREEDOM: https://www.ahealthypush.com/anxiety-classesTAKE MY FREE QUIZ AND FIND OUT WHAT'S CAUSING YOU TO STAY STUCK: https://www.ahealthypush.com/blocking-quizA HEALTHY PUSH INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ahealthypush/GET THIS EPISODE'S SHOW NOTES: Connect with Emma: @perfectly_emmperfect

Attachment styles have become a big topic lately, and for good reason. They shape how we love, communicate, and respond in our relationships. In this episode, I'm diving into the five key traits of anxious attachment and how they show up in marriage, especially after kids.If you've ever found yourself overthinking, craving reassurance, or feeling more impacted by emotional distance than your partner, this conversation will help you understand why. I'm sharing personal insights from my own anxious attachment style, what I've learned through years of research and client work, and how to begin creating more security, confidence, and peace in your relationship.Tune in to discover:• The core fear that drives anxious attachment and how it shows up in marriage• Why emotional closeness can feel like safety and distance feels so threatening• How inconsistency and uncertainty fuel anxiety and disconnection• The link between overthinking, control, and emotional burnout• How comparison and jealousy often stem from fear rather than factThe Holiday Connection Challenge: https://marriedafterkids.com/holiday-connection-challegeConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callThe Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-systemFREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptinGet your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

I sat down with AnxiouslyAlej, the dating strategist for successful women to talk about why so many successful, emotionally intelligent women still attract emotionally unavailable men… and how to stop repeating the same pattern.Find Alej here: https://www.instagram.com/anxiouslyalej/?hl=en Check out my programs & more here: https://stan.store/hothighpriestess

In this episode, I dive into one of the hardest truths many men face after becoming fathers: the woman you married may not be the same woman after the baby arrives.For a lot of men—especially the more sensitive or anxiously attached ones—this change feels like emotional whiplash. The affection disappears, the intimacy vanishes, and suddenly you feel like a stranger in your own home. I read and discuss a real Reddit post from a man who experienced this after 20 years of marriage... and what his story reveals about millions of couples worldwide.We'll talk about:Why this shift happens biologically and emotionallyThe reality of “Wife 1.0” vs. “Wife 2.0”How men can respond without falling into resentment or despairWhat to do when your wife refuses counseling or intimacyHow anxious attachment can make this pain even worseAnd why community and brotherhood are vital for recoveryThis is a brutally honest but deeply empathetic look at one of the most misunderstood transitions in modern marriage.

You're not needy. You're just healing! In this episode, I'm sharing how I accidentally rewired my anxious attachment into a secure one...without forcing it, faking it, or labeling myself as “crazy.” If you've ever found yourself wondering: “Why am I spiraling when everything is fine?” “Why do I panic when things finally feel safe?” …or “Why can't I just stay calm in a good relationship?” This one's for you, bb

Support the showHeal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles and start thriving in life and love. Let's connect: https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships. Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on: ✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency ✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress. However if you do want to discuss your situation further, click here https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy...

เราอาจเคยได้ยินประโยคที่ว่า “ที่ใดมีรัก ที่นั่นมีทุกข์” อยู่บ่อยๆ แต่เคยสงสัยไหมว่าแล้วทุกข์นั้นเกิดจากอะไร? . พอดแคสต์ 5M ในวันนี้จะพาทุกคนไปสำรวจความสัมพันธ์ที่เต็มไปด้วยความรัก  และความกลัวว่าจะไม่ถูกรักของผู้คนที่เติบโตมากับประสบการณ์ในวัยเด็ก ที่ทำให้ความวิตกกังวลกลายเป็นอุปสรรคสำคัญของความรัก พร้อมวิธีรักษาความสัมพันธ์ที่เหมาะกับเหล่า Anxious Attachment โดยเฉพาะ . #goodtime #5minutespodcast #missiontothemoonpodcast

เราอาจเคยได้ยินประโยคที่ว่า “ที่ใดมีรัก ที่นั่นมีทุกข์” อยู่บ่อยๆ แต่เคยสงสัยไหมว่าแล้วทุกข์นั้นเกิดจากอะไร? . พอดแคสต์ 5M ในวันนี้จะพาทุกคนไปสำรวจความสัมพันธ์ที่เต็มไปด้วยความรัก  และความกลัวว่าจะไม่ถูกรักของผู้คนที่เติบโตมากับประสบการณ์ในวัยเด็ก ที่ทำให้ความวิตกกังวลกลายเป็นอุปสรรคสำคัญของความรัก พร้อมวิธีรักษาความสัมพันธ์ที่เหมาะกับเหล่า Anxious Attachment โดยเฉพาะ . #goodtime #5minutespodcast #missiontothemoonpodcast

เราอาจเคยได้ยินประโยคที่ว่า “ที่ใดมีรัก ที่นั่นมีทุกข์” อยู่บ่อยๆ แต่เคยสงสัยไหมว่าแล้วทุกข์นั้นเกิดจากอะไร? . พอดแคสต์ 5M ในวันนี้จะพาทุกคนไปสำรวจความสัมพันธ์ที่เต็มไปด้วยความรัก  และความกลัวว่าจะไม่ถูกรักของผู้คนที่เติบโตมากับประสบการณ์ในวัยเด็ก ที่ทำให้ความวิตกกังวลกลายเป็นอุปสรรคสำคัญของความรัก พร้อมวิธีรักษาความสัมพันธ์ที่เหมาะกับเหล่า Anxious Attachment โดยเฉพาะ . #goodtime #5minutespodcast #missiontothemoonpodcast

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Emily Bradbury is a relationship and empowerment coach specializing in attachment theory and growing your emotional intelligence and regulation tools. She's uniquely equipped in masculine/feminine energetics and polarity. Emily helps her diverse client base across the world, with different ages, backgrounds, and beliefs. In this interview, we discuss rewriting your identity and personal stories as a part of the healing journey from anxious attachment to healthy secure attachment. Emily describes what the process looks like, how it worked for her, and why it's such a powerful tool when combined with coaching. Healing anxious attachment is a process Avoidant + Anxious attachment relationships Rewriting your personal story Masculine/feminine polarity Social links Instragram: emily.bradbury.coaching TikTok: @emily.bradbury.coaching Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Support the showHeal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles and start thriving in life and love. Let's connect: https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships. Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on: ✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency ✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress. However if you do want to discuss your situation further, click here https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy...

In this week's show Lian is joined by Serdar Hararovich. Serdar is a Relationship & Secure Attachment Specialist offering integrative, attachment-based coaching and healing. He supports both men and women to heal early attachment wounds, establish inner security, reclaim their deepest self, and cultivate the emotional skills required for deep, soulful, and secure love. Serdar works with a wide variety of individuals - including, but not limited to, therapists, relationship coaches, and other practitioners. The common thread among his clients is a deep desire to go beyond the surface - people tired of quick-fix techniques and oversimplified approaches to healing. Those ready to do the kind of work that awakens their deepest potential - allowing them to master the art of true intimacy and experience the kind of love that transforms everything. In this episode, Lian and Serdar explore what it really means to honour the differences between men and women without turning them into prescriptions or performances. They touch the gap in how partners want to communicate between dates, why anxious attachment can pile five issues into one talk, and what withdrawal can really signal. They look at emotional safety in plain terms, the pull of projection and transference, and how simple, steady awareness shifts the tone of a relationship. They look at what actually helps: recognising difference without blame, letting curiosity replace judgement, and using relationship as a mirror for self-knowledge. Listen if you've ever wondered why men and women so often miss each other, felt uneasy naming masculine or feminine traits, or wanted a way to see those forces as sacred, human, and alive rather than stereotyped. We'd love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let's carry on the conversation… please leave a comment wherever you are listening or in any of our other spaces to engage. What you'll learn from this episode: How honouring difference deepens intimacy without falling into polarity roles Why curiosity and emotional safety make real understanding possible What happens when you stop performing gender and start living it as energy and truth Resources and stuff spoken about: Visit Serdar's Website Serdar's upcoming course Join UNIO, the Community for Wild Sovereign Souls… Discover your kin & unite with your soul's calling to truly live your myth. Be Mythical Join our mailing list for soul stirring goodness: https://www.bemythical.com/moonly Discover your kin & unite with your soul's calling to truly live your myth: https://www.bemythical.com/unio Go Deeper: https://www.bemythical.com/godeeper Follow us: Facebook Instagram TikTok YouTube Thank you for listening! There's a fresh episode released each week here and on most podcast platforms - and video too on YouTube. If you subscribe then you'll get each new episode delivered to your device every week automagically. (that way you'll never miss a show).

Support the showHeal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles and start thriving in life and love. Let's connect: https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships. Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on: ✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency ✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress. However if you do want to discuss your situation further, click here https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy...

Sarah felt seen and validated until things turned for the worse with her avoidant attached partner. He then got up and left. You will see yourself in her story? You will learn from this coaching session how to navigate feelings the confusion and feeling of betrayal after being love bombed and discarded. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Every couple faces relationship struggles—from missed appointments to moments of miscommunication. But the way we interpret those struggles often determines whether they turn into distance or deeper connection. In this episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love, Kim and Kyle explore how attachment styles shape our reactions when things go wrong and why secure couples repair quickly while insecure patterns can spiral into conflict.At Healing Moments Counseling, we know that life can be messy and that does not mean your relationship is broken—these messy moments are opportunities to build trust, intimacy, and resilience. With empathy, self-soothing, and honest communication, even the most frustrating moments can become stepping stones toward secure love.Key Takeaways:Learn to trust your partner's intentionsSelf-soothe when frustration arisesTurn relationship mistakes into repairCommunicate impact without blameBuild teamwork through conflictSecure couples don't avoid conflict—they transform it into an opportunity for growth and connection. This episode will show you how to move from blame to bonding, and how to use everyday challenges as a pathway to intimacy.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

Support the showHeal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles and start thriving in life and love. Let's connect: https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships. Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on: ✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency ✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress. However if you do want to discuss your situation further, click here https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy...

In this episode of The New Age Sage Podcast, I break down one of the biggest illusions in modern relationships — the anxious attachment cycle.We'll dive into why love can feel like withdrawal, how validation becomes a drug, and why so many of us keep mistaking intensity for intimacy. I explore what really happens when your nervous system mistakes fear for love, and how that pulls you into chasing, controlling, and losing yourself trying to feel “safe.”You'll learn how to recognize when you've lost your center, how to reclaim it without shutting down emotionally, and why true security comes from the inside out — not from a perfectly reassuring partner. Most of all, I'll share the practices that helped me move from dependency to devotion, from needing love to being love.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if anything resonated with you. Thank you for watching!Lucas Salame: https://www.instagram.com/lucas__salame | https://www.new-age-sage.com

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It wasn't easy for her , but Sarah felt like she had no choice but to shut herself away or withdraw  from the demands and overwhelm - even if that sometimes came from her children. In this episode, Sarah tells what happens in the mind of a avoidant when they are going through their deactivation and what they think during this time. She also shares how she healed after her partner abandoned her and their children, and how she deals with romantic relationships now. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

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Not all anxious attachers look the same. In this episode, I explore the Passive Anxious Attacher, who protects against loss by shrinking back, and the Rigid Anxious Attacher, who holds on tightly to feel secure. You'll learn how to tell the difference, why both stem from the same fear of abandonment, and how to begin moving toward secure connection.

Very little is more devasting  than the condition of being blindsided and betrayed by an avoidant attached persons. Sure they have their reasons but that doesn't negate the pain their sudden exit cause when we are the ones left behind. In this episode, Sarah (name changed) shares her struggles to get through a breakup (divorce) with her ex and her determination to heal. We can all see ourselves in her story- we feel her pain and we root for her. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Send us a textIn this episode, we sit down with therapists Rebecca Webster and Pablo Alvarez of Connection Counselling to break down how attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, disorganized, secure) show up during separation and divorce, and what actually helps. We cover emotional regulation vs flooding, why boundaries matter, and why not bad-mouthing the other parent is non-negotiable if you want secure, resilient kids. You'll hear practical guidance on co-parenting, the danger of using kids as emotional support, litigation vs mediation, and how to avoid panic decisions (like giving up decision-making) when you're dysregulated.Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed by our podcast guest are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or the podcast. We value diverse perspectives and aim to provide a platform for thoughtful discussion and exploration of different ideas.Got any comments, suggestions or queries? We'd love to hear from you! DM us on Instagram @dirty.laundry.podcast to be featured on one of our upcoming episodes. Also, don't forget to rate and review our show on your favourite podcast player.

Fear of infidelity can be one of the most overwhelming and destabilising experiences for someone with anxious attachment. Even when there's no evidence a partner is being unfaithful, the possibility alone can trigger deep anxiety, hypervigilance, and constant worry.In this episode, we explore why anxiously attached people often fear cheating so much, even in the absence of proof. We'll look at the core wounds and nervous system patterns that fuel this fear, the role of past relationship and childhood experiences, and how certain dynamics—especially with avoidant partners—can make these fears even more intense.We'll also unpack the ways fear of cheating can show up in a relationship, the problems with trying to “prevent” it through control or monitoring, and practical steps to move towards a more secure, trusting dynamic.If this is something you've struggled with, this conversation will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface and give you tools to respond in a way that's calmer, clearer, and more grounded.You'll learn:The connection between anxious attachment and fear of infidelityHow past betrayal or early life experiences can amplify the fearWhy anxious-avoidant relationships can trigger cheating anxietyHow hypervigilance and reassurance-seeking can harm trustTools for building self-trust and relationship security

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I dive into the anxious attachment trap and why it keeps sabotaging relationships. I share the hidden beliefs and behaviors that fuel insecurity, and I break down practical strategies to move toward secure attachment.You'll learn how to interrupt the cycle, communicate clearly, and start building safety and stability in your relationships.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Understanding anxious attachment02:44 - Why it's not your fault03:57 - Common red flags and behaviors05:54 - Pre-breakup anxiety explained07:04 - Why you attract avoidant partners10:16 - Breaking the cycle of anxiety12:50 - How to communicate anxiety without pushing partners away16:45 - Expressing your needs clearly17:59 - Self-soothing strategies for anxious attachment20:29 - Building security in your relationship***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

ABOUT THE EPISODE:Trevor Hanson had accumulated a pretty good life - from living on a beach in Hawaii, to getting a great job at Tesla and engaged to be married. One year later, he was unemployed, his engagement and his jaw were both broken, and he was living alone in the Reno desert.Trevor suffered depression, nightmares, and suicidal thoughts before deciding to seek therapeutic help. He developed a real appreciation for the process of therapy – but he also had ideas about how it could be better.Today, Trevor holds a master's degree in marriage and family therapy and has helped thousands of people around the world, specializing in a topic critical for everyone, especially parents, to understand: attachment. Trevor has undergone training from some of the world's top attachment experts, and today he brings his expertise and unique concepts to the podcast.When I sat down with Trevor, we discussed the basic types of attachment styles, why our ‘style' can lead to difficulties in relationships with our kids, and why being part of a supportive community is a vital part of helping us move from anxious or avoidant attachment, to secure.EPISODE RESOURCES:The Secure Self ClubThis podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream CommunityLearn about The Stream, our private online community for momsFind us on Instagram hereFind us on YouTube hereDownload a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and AlcoholHopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.

Imagine craving the warmth of a campfire. You love the light, the comfort, the shared stories. You want to be close enough to feel its heat. But the moment someone says, "Here, tie this rope around your waist and anchor yourself to this log right next to the flames," you panic. The very thing that offered comfort suddenly feels like a trap. The fire hasn't changed; the constraint has.This is the daily reality for many with an avoidant attachment style when they hear the word "commitment." It's not the shared future, the inside jokes, or the quiet companionship they fear. In fact, they often deeply desire those things. What triggers their alarm system is the label itself. "Commitment" sounds like a contract, a loss of self, a final closing of doors. It translates in their mind to obligation, expectation, and the slow erosion of their most cherished value: autonomy.On this podcast, we're not going to villainize the avoidant or patronize the partner who wants security. We're going to climb inside this paradox. We'll explore why the same person who plans a vacation with you six months from now can freeze up when you call them your "boyfriend" or "girlfriend." It's a confusing cha-cha on the intimacy-autonomy seesaw, and understanding that this is cha-cha and not a waltz is the first step to changing the dance entirely.Support the show

Support the showWelcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships. Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on: ✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency ✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress. However if you do want to discuss your situation further, click here https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy) DaviesInstagram handle: @dr.sarahalsawy https://www.healtraumabonding.com https://www.relationshipsuccesslab.com

In this episode, Georgie opens up about her own experience with jealousy earlier this year - an emotion so many of us feel but rarely talk about honestly. She shares how comparison and envy showed up in her life, what it revealed about her deeper desires, and the surprising insights she gained by leaning in instead of pushing it away. If you've ever scrolled through social media and felt that pang of “why not me?” or found yourself comparing your path to someone else's, this conversation will help you see jealousy in a whole new light. Rather than letting it fuel anxiety or self-criticism, Georgie shows you how to use it as a guidepost, pointing you back to your own desires, alignment, and authentic self.   Need more anxiety support?   Apply for a FREE 30-Minute Anxiety Relief Call - https://anxiety-reset.mykajabi.com/apply-for-call   Ready for a deeper transformation? Sign up for Anxiety Masters here - https://georgiecollinson.com/membership   Watch my FREE Anxiety Reset Masterclass for women with high-functioning anxiety - https://anxiety-reset.mykajabi.com/free-masterclass     Get my books The Anxiety Reset Method and Master Your Relationship Anxiety here - https://georgiecollinson.com/books

“We're taught how to fall in love, but not how to stay there.” So in today's must-listen episode, I chat with renowned relationship repair expert Baya Voce, MSW, to learn the art of repair, and how to maintain love and connection through conflict.Arguments happen (they're an important part of relationships and individuation!) — but they don't have to break your bond. In this powerful episode, we dive into proven tools for transforming conflict into deeper connection, and Baya's strategies for building better communication, boundaries, and emotional safety.If you're in love, want love, or care about love, this is your roadmap for working towards interdependence, rebuilding trust, and creating love that lasts.With an MSW from Columbia University, Baya specializes in couples counselling and MDMA-assisted couples therapy research, and is supervised by the incredible Esther Perel!  Her work has been featured in a TED Talk, on Vice, Forbes, MTV, and ABC, and her videos on everything from boundaries, to using AI for therapy, to navigating jealousy, have been viewed by millions.Tune in as we explore:

Send us a textYou hit send. You see the “Delivered” tick turn to “Read.” And then... nothing. The silence is louder than any notification. Your mind starts racing: Are they hurt? Are they ignoring me? Did my message come on too strong? Was it the wrong emoji?Before you spiral into that abyss of overthinking, we want you to hit pause. The reason for that silent phone likely has very little to do with you, and everything to do with their internal wiring- their attachment style.In this episode of Decoding Attachment Style, we're applying the science of human connection to one of the most common and anxiety-inducing modern dilemmas: the unanswered text to an ex. We're moving beyond playing games and making guesses, and giving you a practical framework to understand the silence.We'll break down exactly how the four attachment styles - Anxious, Dismissive Avoidant, Fearful Avoidant, and Secure - typically process and respond (or not respond) to communication from a past partner. You'll learn…Why your Dismissive Avoidant ex might see your text as a pressure cooker of expectations and need to flee.How your Anxious ex could be overanalyzing every syllable, desperate to reply but terrified of getting it wrong.The reasons a Secure ex might respond with kindness and clarity, but not the reconciliation you hope for.What it means when a Dearful Avoidant (Disorganized) ex's response is hot, cold, and completely confusing.Stop decoding their messages and start decoding their behavior. This episode will give you the clarity you need to stop staring at your screen and start moving forward.Support the show

Warning: today's episode might just piss you off. It's to be expected, all right? I am called the Trigger Queen, after all. (If you're new here, just know: it's all said with love.) Buckle up, because today, I've got some fucking brutal truth bombs to drop about anxious attachment. If you're someone who anxiously attaches, at least a couple of these are probably going to make you fucking furious. But you know what? Fucking good.  Sometimes we need a good shakeup to get our heads out of our asses and actually start shifting things. The reality is, the patterns that you're running through right now are keeping you stuck. And until something brings you to your fucking senses, you're just going to keep running on that hamster wheel of heartbreak and dating the same damn person in a different outfit. And coming from someone who's been there…if you can actually let these land, they're going to change how you do love forever.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  These aren't just retreats. These are where we turn your inner chaos into GOLD. Sign up for THE AWAKENING RETREATS now before they sell out: https://michellepanning.com/awakening  Sign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experience Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a shadow work course for the woman who is ready to break free from the anxious/avoidant dance in relationships and step into unfuckwithable confidence, security, and self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

Why do we keep repeating the same patterns in our relationships—no matter how much we want things to change? The answer often lies in our attachment style.In this episode of Linda's Corner: Inspiration for a Better Life, I'm joined by Jack Bohannan, a Relationship & Intimacy Coach and host of the Polarity Unscripted Podcast. Jack helps clients—most often women—heal attachment issues through embodied relationship role play using the Somatica Method. His work offers a path toward creating meaningful, secure, and lasting relationships.Together, we explore:What attachment theory is and why it matters in today's worldThe four main attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidantHow childhood experiences shape the way we connect (or disconnect) as adultsThe three essential components of healing: understanding, new experiences, and collaborationHow Somatica therapy offers a safe space to practice those components and rewire old patternsA powerful conflict repair method that ends fights and deepens connectionIf you've ever felt stuck in cycles of unfulfilling relationships or wondered why intimacy feels so hard, this conversation will bring clarity, hope, and tools for change.Learn more about Jack Bohannan: 

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✨ Ever feel like your brain just won't shut off... even when everything's actually fine in your relationship? You're spiraling, checking for signs, running worst-case scenarios, and overanalyzing their every move... but you know deep down, it's you, not them.

You are going to love today's episode! I'm joined by one of my incredible team members and dear friend, Dr. Amanda Priest. Amanda is not only a coach inside the Empowered.Secure.Love program—she also started out as one of my clients. Her journey from struggling with anxious attachment to now preparing for her secure marriage is absolutely inspiring.Inside this episode:Amanda's journey from podcast listener → client → coach inside the ESL programThe moment she realized she was the “common denominator” in her relationship patternsHow inner child healing, belief work, and attachment rewiring helped her attract her securely attached partnerWhat it really takes to build a secure relationship and prepare for marriageIf you've ever told yourself “Maybe I'll just be single forever” or felt hopeless about love, this episode will give you so much hope and encouragement.

This episode originally aired on April 3, 2023 (Episode 343), and we're bringing it back because it resonated with so many of you. Whether you're reflecting on a past relationship, navigating one right now, or supporting clients through these dynamics, the lessons are worth revisiting. Why are people with anxious attachment styles and avoidant attachment styles drawn to each other? Can anxious-avoidant relationships work, and most importantly, can they be healthy and satisfying? Yes, they can. But the key is through your understanding of yourself, and of your partner. When you develop true understanding and empathy for your differences, you can create profound connection, and a genuinely secure and healing relationship for both of you. This episode is going to show you how. If you're in an anxious-avoidant relationship, or have been in one before, I hope it helps you understand these dynamics from a new perspective, and empowers you to move toward greater connection and security. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Attachment Styles Matter   02:42 Core Conflict: Desire for Closeness vs. Space   07:04 The Push-Pull Dynamic of Anxious and Avoidant Partners   11:08 Can Anxious-Avoidant Relationships Be Healthy?   16:09 Finding Compatible Partners & Building Security   17:02 Strategies for Anxious Attachment   18:06 Strategies for Avoidant Attachment   33:04 Why Anxious and Avoidant Partners Are Drawn Together   42:05 Avoidant Discomfort with Closeness & Anxious Pursuing Behaviors   45:06 Doing the Work: Self-Awareness and Self-Management   49:04 Practical Tools for Avoidant Partners   55:00 True Love as a Conscious Choice   Want to know where your relationship stands today? Try my free How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It gives you quick insights into what's working well and where you might want to focus your growth together. If this resonated with you, let's keep it going. I share more relationship advice and tools on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube, and I'd love to hear your thoughts too, whether it's feedback on the show, questions about past episodes, or ideas for what you'd like me to cover next. Let's talk! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self

Episode Description: In this episode, Ryan and Roa explore the relationship dynamics that often happen between men and women, especially as it relates to the Fearful Avoidant woman and Anxious Attachment man based on our lived experiences as well as study. We share helpful resources that will support you on your journey to call in the healthy, secure relationship you want and deserve! Connect with Ryan and Roa on Instagram: Roa & Ryan. Interested 1 on 1 work with Ryan: If you're interested in finally taking the action towards your goals of getting healthier, helping your business be more cost and time efficient or reducing your stress anywhere in your life; you can find me on The Coaching Academy with The Manifestor Community's website. Interested in Changing your Habits, The Manifestor Way: If you're interested in changing your habits like I did, check out The Manifestor's Guide to Healthy Habits! Interested working with Roa: If you're interested in working with your healing through a holistic lens with Roa you can find me on my Instagram where I offer 1:1 set-ups, written sessions & more online material to come. Interested in The Nervous System Bundle: The Nervous System Bundle is everything you need to know in order to heal or continue the journey of healing your Nervous System. As a Manifestor, your Nervous System works differently, because it needs to be in tune to fit your energetic dynamics. All of this is explained in detail from both a medical and biological lense and an energetic and spiritual lens. All of this culminated with you having access to a huge library of healing modalities, remedies, exercises, recipes etc. for healing your nervous system. Learn more about Ryan A 2/4 Splenic Manifestor here to initiate growth minded people into an aligned life and business that starts from a place of self love and internal wellness. He is a Trauma Informed, Life & Wellness Coach with 700+ hrs experience with over 100 clients from soulpreneurs to executives. Certified Business Consultant (Black Belt in Lean Six Sigma) with 14 years experience saving businesses 1,000's of hours, $100,000's in cost and massively reducing stress for business owners. He especially loves working with service based businesses like Coaches, Healers, Therapists and others that feel passionate about their work. Learn more about Roa: Roa is a 6/2 Splenic Manifestor. She is the Head of Healing for the Manifestor community. She is a Medical Doctor, an Ayurvedic practitioner, a Human Design Guide, an herbalist & Meta-health geek from Denmark, where she lives as a solo-mommy of 2 little boys. She sees us as existing entities through a holistic lens. Not just as a part of Nature, but as Nature. She views healing as a journey into finding a balance in our nature and aligning with our inner landscapes and energetics. And so she combines all of her embodied wisdom in one healing modality to truly embrace the word “Holistic” of the mind, the soul & the body.

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Ever notice how your brain immediately pushes back when you try to change those old, deeply ingrained thoughts? It feels like proof you're doing it wrong—but actually, that resistance is exactly what should happen when you challenge those patterns. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into two powerful questions—one about creating new goal thoughts when nothing feels believable, and another about managing the anxiety that comes with anxious attachment (specifically when your partner doesn't text back at night).You'll learn why your brain's objections to new thoughts are a sign you're on the right track, not a reason to quit—and why you don't need to believe your goal thought just yet. I also break down how to work with thought ladders when everything feels wrong, and why anxious attachment isn't about what your partner is doing—it's about the story you're making up about it.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/413

What if your patterns didn't define you, but showed you EXACTLY where you can grow?Why do we keep choosing the same people—even when we know better?If you've felt luckless, stuck, or so far away from the loving partnership you want in life, we've got the MOST expansive episode for you.In this powerful conversation, Jessica welcomes renowned relationship teacher and NYT best-selling author and podcast host, Jillian Turecki, for a grounded, radically honest look at why our love lives can feel stuck, painful, or endlessly cyclical—even after doing years of self-help work.They explore what it really means to take accountability without blame, why nervous system regulation is the missing piece in most relationship advice, and how to tell the difference between a need and a wound. Jillian opens up about her own divorce, how her father's betrayal shaped her patterns, and what it took to fully reclaim her worth.You'll also hear practical tools for pausing reactivity, unpacking unhealthy dynamics, and moving from “I am this” to “I'm working on this.” Whether you're heartbroken, dating, partnered, or reflecting on your past, this episode will give you a new framework for conscious love.Healing your relationship patterns isn't about finding the perfect person—it's about becoming your truest self so the most aligned dynamic can find you.**Trigger Warning: Brief mention of “Big T” childhood traumas between 50:35 through 51:18 **Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Join the Pathway MembershipUse code EXPANDED for 20% off your first month! Join our membership to access the TBM Money Challenge Now Live!The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin our Money Challenge - 3 weeks to your next level of abundanceTake our Free Money Quiz - find out what level of wealth consciousness you are at Join the Pathway now to get full access to our Money Challenge when it launches June 2nd, 2025 – Join the Pathway (use code EXPANDED for 20% off first month) New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: Seed - Use 25MAGNETIC at checkout for 25% off your first month@seed's DS-01® Daily Synbiotic Bon Charge - 15% off with code MAGNETIC Infrared PEMF MatThe BON CHARGE Infrared PEMF Mat is my absolute go-to product! I use it almost daily to ground my nervous system, drop in deeper into my meditations & help my body recover after big hikes. The highest quality and most biohacking stacked mat I've seen on the market! Use code MAGNETIC at checkout for 15% off. us.boncharge.com/MAGNETIC In This Episode We Talk About:How to take accountability in relationships without falling into self-blameThe connection between childhood wounds and adult relationship dynamicsRecognizing emotional needs vs. surface-level triggers in partnershipWhy reactivity destroys connection—and how to build the pause muscleThe myth of finding “everything” in one personHow trauma bonds are formed through shared emotional woundsHow personal accountability and nervous system regulation can lead you to your highest selfMoving from fixed identity (“I am avoidant”) to fluid healingTools for catching black-and-white thinking and inner protector partsShifting from victimhood to empowerment in family relationshipsWhy your partner is a mirror—and how to read the reflectionChoosing partners as a reflection of your evolving self-worth Mentioned In the Episode: Jillian's book: It Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership (Including the Conflict DI, Self-Love DI, and Reset DI) Connect with Jillian!Jillian on IG @jilliantureckiJillian's podcast On LoveIt Begins With You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast