Podcasts about anxious attachment

Welcome back to the Restoring the Soul podcast with Michael John Cusick. In this episode, Michael and AJ Denson dive deeper into the transformative concepts from Michael's book, Sacred Attachment: Escaping Spiritual Exhaustion and Trusting Divine Love. Picking up where they left off, the conversation centers on the “Four S's” of attachment—Seen, Soothed, Safe, and Secure—and explores how these elements shape our spiritual and relational lives.Together, they reflect on the nuances of secure and insecure attachment, the power of rupture and repair in relationships, and how even well-intentioned parents and caregivers can struggle to meet these needs. Michael brings personal stories and practical insights, offering hope for healing attachment wounds, whether through new relational patterns or divine love.The episode also tackles the complex reality that attachment styles are not fixed but evolve with our circumstances and emotional states. Through compassionate storytelling and relatable examples, the hosts unravel what it means to be “soothed”—the crucial experience of knowing someone has “got you” in moments of distress, vulnerability, and everyday life.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Avoidant attachment isn't one category. Dismissive and fearful avoidant patterns respond very differently in conflict, and using the wrong repair strategy can make things worse. If one of you demands calm and the other escalates to be heard, this episode is for you. Kim covers the real issue beneath tone, intensity, and shutdown: distress tolerance. Timestamps: 00:00 When Only One Emotional Tone Is Allowed 00:55 This Isn't Incompatibility. It's Capacity. 03:01 What Attachment Theory Is (And Isn't) 05:28 Dismissive vs Fearful Avoidant: The Critical Difference 08:06 Why Repair Depends on the Pattern 09:15 "I Just Want Calm" vs "I Just Want to Be Heard" 11:28 Is Wanting Calm Unreasonable? 12:34 Boundary vs Emotional Control 14:38 The Real Issue: Distress Tolerance 15:03 Why Insight Isn't Enough 17:35 Reps for Anxious Preoccupied Patterns 18:15 Reps for Dismissive Avoidant Patterns 19:05 Reps for Fearful Avoidant Patterns 20:39 Why Skill Requires Practice 21:05 Join The Practice If you're serious about widening your emotional lane instead of having the same fight again next week, The Practice is opening soon.  Comment Waitlist to be sent the registration link.

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-02-25-26&el=podcast Do you feel overwhelmed by panic, fear, or loneliness when someone pulls away? Do your emotions feel sudden, intense, and impossible to calm, even when you know you're safe? If you have an Anxious Attachment Style, this isn't a personal flaw, it's a trauma response rooted in early attachment experiences. In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why Anxious Attachment triggers feel so intense, what “arrested development” really means, and how somatic processing can help soothe your nervous system so you can self-soothe without self-judgment or shame. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why struggling to self-soothe is not weakness, it's survival conditioning How early abandonment fears create intense adult triggers What arrested development looks like during emotional activation How somatic processing helps regulate panic and fear Why your triggers are trauma responses, not personality flaws Key Insights Covered: Anxious attachment panic is often a subconscious fear of abandonment and survival Emotional overwhelm can pull you into a younger, frozen emotional state Trauma lives in the body, not just the mind Somatic tools help you witness emotions instead of being consumed by them Compassion and nervous system regulation are essential for healing Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she's helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources:

What if your relationship with food isn't just about food?In this episode, I share my own struggles with disordered eating and anxious attachment, and the surprising parallels I've noticed between the two. From craving reassurance in relationships to seeking comfort or control through food, these patterns often stem from the same place - fear of abandonment, lack of safety, and a deep need for control.This is a conversation about the emotional roots beneath these behaviours and what healing has looked like for me as I've started building more security within myself.PS. On March 5th I'm hosting "The Language of the Body Workshop" which is a perfect intro to somatic therapy and will give you frameworks for understanding what it means to rewrite patterns on a subconscious level and free you of old stories, blocks, and even symptoms.Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment

What if the story you've been telling yourself — that you're “too much,” too sensitive, or too difficult — was never actually true? In this listener call, Jillian helps a woman unpack a lifelong belief that she's “too much” and shows how that story can follow you into adulthood—especially in relationships. They explore what happens when sensitivity gets labeled as “difficult,” how a parent's emotional limits shape your self-image, and why heartbreak can pull you back into old wounds. Download Jillian's FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki Threads: @jillianturecki YouTube: @jillian.turecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to another episode of Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. In today's conversation, Michael is joined by AJ Denson as they dive into the foundational building blocks of healthy relationships and spiritual well-being—the "Four S's" of attachment: seen, soothed, safe, and secure.Picking up from their previous conversation on Attachment Neuroscience and the Trinity, Michael unpacks how the story of God is ultimately a story of profound attachment, beginning with the indivisible unity of the Trinity itself. The discussion explores how these four components of attachment shape not only our childhood experiences but also our spiritual lives and adult relationships.Together, they reflect on what it means to be truly seen and delighted in, drawing parallels between the secure love a child needs and the way God knows and loves us deeply. With honest stories, cultural insights, and a grounding in Scripture, this episode offers hope for healing and restoration, even in the places where attachment may have been broken.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Take Our FREE Quiz To Create A Relationship Where You Feel Safe, Chosen & Cherished Without Loneliness, Hot-And-Cold Men Or Ending Up Alone Click: http://MagnetizeYourMan.com/PDhttps://youtu.be/xIFsFm1SnJo00:00 Introduction00:28 What is Attachment Theory01:35 Turning Love Into a Struggle 05:58 Taking His Behavior Personally 10:26 Believing You Must Be Perfect to Be Loved14:18 Stop Waiting for Him to Change18:59 Twisting Yourself Into a Pretzel 24:25 Action Plan for the Anxiously Attached#anxiousattachment #datingadvice #attachmentSupport the show

They act like they are over you the moment you breakup and that is crushing. But is that what they really feel? There is a lot of "experts" on what avoidant attached person feel during breakups. I have on average 70 avoidant attached people on speed dial and I am sharing what they all say they go through during breakups. It's astounding how they all have the same breakup story. Leave a comment and let me know your thoughts on this podcast. Much love, AnnalisaI would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships I'm breaking down nine ways anxious attachment quietly sabotages intimacy, even when you're self-aware, emotionally intelligent, and “doing the work.” This episode is for the woman who knows she's anxious, she's read the books, can articulate her wounds and understands her triggers. But her relationships still end the same way. This isn't about understanding yourself better, it's about taking responsibility for how you show up in you relationships.We're looking at the behaviours that feel justified, loving, and understandable… but are actually pushing connection away underneath the surface. Because awareness without responsibility doesn't change anything. It just gives you better language to explain the same patterns. If you're ready to stop explaining your patterns and start changing them, this episode will shift somethingWORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-02-13-26&el=podcast If you have an Anxious Attachment style, the urge to get closure from someone who pulled away, ghosted you, or shut down can feel overwhelming. But chasing closure from the wrong person often keeps you stuck, emotionally drained, and unable to move on. In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why seeking closure isn't actually the need and what to do instead to regain emotional stability, certainty, and peace.

If you have anxious attachment and you're trying to manifest love, this episode will explain exactly why it can feel harder for you - especially when using the Law of Assumption..You've been told to “just assume you have it.”.To “live in the end.”.To “stop checking the 3D.”.But when you're in no contact… when you're trying to manifest your SP back… when you're shifting a current relationship… or when you've never experienced healthy love before - it doesn't feel simple..In this episode, I break down:.• Why anxious attachment makes it harder to stay in the state of the wish fulfilled..• How hypervigilance and checking the 3D delays your manifestation..• Why your nervous system is wired for loss (and how that affects manifesting an ex back or new love)..• The real meaning of “feeling is the secret”..• How self-concept and safety within yourself changes everything.I share my own journey from severe anxious attachment to manifesting my fiancé, shifting past relationships, and helping clients reconnect with someone from the past, attract secure love, or transform their current dynamic....If you've been doing the affirmations, the techniques, the Law of Assumption work - but still feel anxious, triggered, or stuck - this will give you the clarity you've been missing..You're not failing at manifestation.You just need it explained in a way that understands your nervous system..And if this resonates, join my free 7-day series: Seven Manifestation Mistakes Anxious Attachment Makes When Manifesting Love - where I break down the patterns that could be blocking you without you even realising..Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Quiz: ⁠ Take the free Chasing to Chosen Quiz here⁠⁠Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

Anxious attachment. One sided relationships. Emotional overgiving. Modern dating detachment.What if loving deeply was never the problem?In this two hour monologue, I examine how to stay warm, expressive, and hopeful without becoming a doormat. We talk about anxious attachment styles, mixed signals, emotional inconsistency, and the difference between romance and self abandonment.This episode explores:• Why anxious attachment is often a response to emotional inconsistency• How overgiving becomes self erasure• The line between patience and self abandonment• Why detachment is being mistaken for strength• How to maintain self respect without becoming coldThis is not about becoming avoidant.It is about loving with discernment.If you have ever felt torn between protecting your heart and staying true to who you are, this episode will resonate.

"Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness. The salvation, then, is to be found in the body..."What if trauma isn't something to heal or release but something that formed intelligently in response to life?In this episode, I sit down with Will Rezin of Trauma & Somatics for a deep, grounding conversation on trauma, attachment, procrastination, nervous system regulation, and why so many of us never actually feel completion, only “what's next?”This episode isn't about fixing yourself. It's about understanding how you formed and what becomes possible when survival isn't the only goal anymore.

If you know you're someone who gets easily triggered in relationships and spirals into an anxious state, save this episode as your next lifeline. This is for when you're in the thick of it when you want to find sanity, come back to yourself, and swim to safety without drowning in the anxiety or creating a huge mess along the way.Socials, Programs & More from Unlearn with Louisa⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/unlearnwithlouisa⁠⁠⁠Coaching Questions & Enquiriescoaching@unlearnwithlouisa.comPodcast Questions & Enquiriespodcast@unlearnwithlouisa.com 

Most men in sexless marriages did exactly what they were told to do.They opened up more.They communicated better.They became more emotionally available.They went to therapy.And somehow, the sex life didn't come back.In many cases, it disappeared completely.In this episode, I explain why that happens — especially when you're married to a dismissive-avoidant partner.We'll talk about:Why “more emotional connection” can actually create less attractionHow anxious and avoidant attachment styles quietly kill desireWhy many men work on themselves and then realize the relationship itself isn't healthyWhy dismissive-avoidant partners often resist getting helpAnd why effort and effectiveness are not the same thing in long-term relationshipsThis isn't about blaming women.It's about understanding dynamics most men were never taught — and why doing everything “right” can still lead to a sexless marriage.If you're confused, frustrated, or starting to question your relationship, this conversation will likely hit close to home. Check out my book! https://deadbedroomfix.comJoin the Brotherhood! https://helpformen.com/join

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In this episode, I chat with Bryan Power about attachment styles and how our greatest failures—in life and relationships—can lead to our greatest successes.In 2024 Bryan Power and his wife went from having a pretty good relationship to experiencing a complete relationship failure—one that culminated with a restraining order that his wife put against him for her emotional safety. During their time apart Bryan and his wife would work on themselves and that work would ultimately allow them to put their relationship back together. Now Bryan shares his story and teaches others how to use the integrated attachment theory program that helped save his marriage and provides the tools necessary to continue having the healthy, happy relationship today.Connect with Bryan:Website - www.myrelationshipfail.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/myrelationshipfail/Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@myrelationshipfailLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/bryanwpower/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/groups/myrelationshipfailWork with me—schedule a free 30-minute breakthrough consultation today. Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for entertainment and informational purposes only and does not substitute individual psychological advice. No AI—all content and episodes created and written by Ashley Melillo. *This is an affiliate link. Purchasing through affiliate links supports The Soul Horizon at no extra cost to you. Thanks for your support!

Hi lovers, it's officially love month, and leading into Valentine's Day, we're revisiting some of the most powerful relationship advice we've heard on the podcast, from 3 of the internet's top couples therapists and relationship experts.Whether you're single or in a long-term relationship, this episode is for you if you're grappling with an anxious or avoidant attachment, fear around intimacy/relationships, or learning how to regulate and rebuild during conflict.Thankfully, I've had the privilege of talking with the best when it comes to navigating love and partnership, which has helped me immeasurably in building the foundation of my own relationship. So today, I'm bringing you a roundup of the top advice from:❤️ Baya Voce, MSW, Relationship Repair Expert (Supervised by Esther Perez): The art of repair, and how to maintain love and connection through conflict. Baya's 4-step relationship repair framework, why curiosity is the antidote to defensiveness, and how to stay regulated during conflict. (Listen to our full episode here.)❤️ Trevor Hanson, Marriage & Family Therapist, Founder of The Art of Healing: Why fear is the #1 killer of relationships and how to communicate through it. Plus, how to navigate common communication “landmines” and how anxious & avoidant partners can build safe emotional intimacy. (Listen to our full episode here.)❤️ Jess Baum, Psychotherapist, Couples Counselor, & Author of Anxiously Attached: How our attachment styles are amplified or healed based on your relationship, breaking our anxious attachment patterns and prioritizing consistent love, recognizing red and green flags in chemistry, and moving from codependency to interdependence. (Listen to our full episode here.)Wherever you are in your relationship journey, know that you are loved!  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

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I wish someone had told me this when I first started dating. I made so many mistakes that landed me in some questionable relationships. The tips I share here has helped me choose a partner I enjoy life with. I'm breaking down the red flags to look out for, the green ones to pay attention to, the pace to move at so you don't end up with someone who blindsides you. This would help if you've been dating someone for a while or if you're now getting into the dating work. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

What happens when you've been in a long distance romance with an avoidant attached person and it feels intense even if you've just met a handful of times? You want answers...What is happening here? Can this be anything more? Why do they ghost me and return? As Sarah shares her stories, we try to find her answers that would soothe her troubles heart. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

What happens when you have been friends for what seems like forever - you lose each other and find each other and in your older years decide to date but then to be blindsided by the avoidants pull away???Sarah shares her journey through friendship to falling in love with her friend and then the heartbreaking pulling away that started a journey into examining her anxious attachment style and healing. This is for you if you've ever been confused about your relationship going great and then suddenly coming to a halt. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

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What if your anxious attachment wasn't something to fix—but a survival response to be understood and healed? In this powerful conversation, I'm joined by trauma-informed somatic coach Valerie Rubin to explore the deeper roots of anxious attachment and why nervous system regulation—not mindset work alone—is the missing piece for so many.Valerie shares her own journey from anxiety and people-pleasing to emotional safety and secure connection, as well as the body-based tools she now uses to support clients in transforming their relationship patterns. We talk about how anxious attachment shows up in everyday life, how to navigate dating and relationships when you fear abandonment, and why true healing starts by coming home to your body.Whether you're stuck in anxious loops, craving a more secure love, or feeling exhausted by chasing validation—this episode offers a hopeful, grounded path forward.Connect with Valerie:https://www.valrubin.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/?hl=enFacebook: https://m.facebook.com/valerie.rubin.39/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/valerierubin?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=ios_appMy podcast: https://spotify.link/75rKte7pRJbMy free masterclass on how to break your attraction to emotionally unavailable partners: https://stan.store/healwithval/p/get-my-templateebookcourse-now-ora8z2gu---------------------------------EASE: THE MASTERCLASS—> REGISTER HERE; LIVE JAN 21st:https://marinayt.com/ease-masterclass ❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform❥❥❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ ❥❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggersTRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERSThis powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your lifeDownload here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"Anxious attachment is not a flaw—it's your body asking for safety.""Before I could show up securely in love, I had to re-parent the parts of me that never felt seen.""Healing anxious attachment is less about fixing and more about softening into yourself.""Somatic work helps you rewire what love feels like in your nervous system.""You can't think your way to secure attachment—you have to feel your way there."anxious attachment, attachment healing, somatic therapy, nervous system regulation, secure relationships, inner child healing, trauma-informed coaching, embodied healing, emotional regulation, attachment style, healing relationships, relationship anxiety, self-worth, nervous system healing, trauma recovery

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Social media will tell you that anxious-avoidant relationships are doomed. That avoidants are narcissists. That anxious people are just codependent. I'm here to tell you that's oversimplified BS that keeps people stuck.In this episode, I'm breaking down the anxious-avoidant dynamic with the nuance it actually deserves. After healing my own anxious attachment and being in a relationship with someone who's fearful-avoidant and has been actively working in therapy for over three years, I've learned that this isn't about finding a villain - it's about two nervous systems trying to feel safe in completely different ways.We're covering:The protest-withdrawal cycle: what it actually looks like and why it happens4 damaging myths social media spreads about this dynamic (and why they're wrong)What secure attachment would actually do in these moments - not as theory, but as a real, usable frameworkHow to hold both empathy AND boundaries at the same timeThe real questions to ask yourself if you're in this cycle right nowWhy "just stop chasing" and "just communicate better" aren't solutions -they're oversimplificationsThis episode doesn't tell you to leave or stay. It gives you the tools to make that decision from a grounded, informed place. Because you deserve relationships that feel secure, and you're capable of creating that - but only if you're willing to do your own work.Whether you're anxious, avoidant, or watching this pattern play out in your relationship, this one's for you.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

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Do you ever feel like you're doing everything right—working hard, showing up for everyone, holding it all together—yet you're still exhausted, anxious, and secretly wondering why it never feels like enough? In this episode, I'm talking with Trevor Hanson, coach and founder of The Art of Healing, about anxious attachment—how it shows up in high-achieving women, why it fuels people-pleasing and overworking, and how it often leads us to drink at night just to turn our brains off. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/why-youre-exhausted-overperforming-and-drinking-to-cope-anxious-attachment-explained-and-how-to-feel-secure-instead/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I'll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday 

#shadowwork #anxiousattachment Are you tired of endless healing and trying to fix yourself for love! 2026 is the years you want to actualise your desires of soul mate love , soul aligned friendships, money, clients and community through easeful receiving not the chasing and imbalanced relationships you have had up until this point. Break this cycle by facing these shadows patterns of anxious and disorganised attachment that no one talks about! Shift these thoughts, feeling and actions that you are doing unconsciously and change your frequency to be the MAGNET so your relationship desires chase you! Free resources & work with me hereBook 121 here if available  Email manpreet@heartshappiness.co.uk to apply for long term coaching for 4 or 6 months  0:00 Healing Anxious Attachment Shadows 06.20 1. Being Chosen 09.44 2. Audit relationships 14:27 3. Shrinking Authentic Energy 21:49 4. Emotional Addiction 24:39 5: Lack of Emotional Boundaries 27:18 6. Avoidance 34:34 7. Self Concept Follow me on socials: Instagram: Tik tok: You tube:Substack: Details on how to work with me here

In this In The Trenches listener Q&A episode, Sabrina answers real dating and relationship questions submitted by the community, covering workplace flirtation, mixed signals, age gaps, anxious attachment, and what to do when someone doesn't say “I love you” back. She breaks down how uncertainty, overthinking, and “going with the flow” often lead to self-abandonment instead of clarity. From navigating emotionally unavailable partners to trusting your gut and having uncomfortable but necessary conversations, this episode is a raw, no-nonsense deep dive into choosing self-respect over confusion. If you're stuck reading between the lines, questioning someone's intentions, or struggling to trust yourself in dating, this episode is for you. Want to be featured on a future episode? Send in your question, your screenshots, or your dating profile to inthetrenches@sabrinazohar.com If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Head to DRINKAG1.com/ZOHAR to get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2, when you first subscribe!  Get started with Stich Fix today at stitchfix.com/sabrina to get $20 off your first order—and they'll waive your styling fee. As an exclusive offer, my listeners can get their choice between filet mignon, ny strip or chicken breast in every box for a year, PLUS $20 off when you go to ButcherBox.com/SABRINA Head to cozyearth.com and use my code SABRINA for up to 20% off and 100 night sleep trial. ============================= Chapters 00:00 – Why You Don't Trust Yourself in Dating 04:18 – In The Trenches: Mixed Signals With a Coworker 09:42 – Flirting at Work vs Real Romantic Interest 14:36 – Why “Going With the Flow” Is Self-Abandonment 18:55 – Saying “I Love You” First and Rejection Sensitivity 23:44 – Anxious Attachment, Overthinking, and Fear of Loss 28:31 – Reconnecting With an Emotionally Unavailable Ex 34:52 – When Chemistry Isn't Intention or Commitment 40:05 – Dating Apps, Bans, and Being Honest With a New Partner 44:05 – Final Takeaways: Clarity, Boundaries, and Self-Trust Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Living with an anxious mind doesn't mean happiness is out of reach. In this episode I explore with you what it's really like to build a fulfilling life while overthinking, worrying and feeling everything deeply, and how happiness can still show up anywayYou might think happiness isn't possible, or it doesn't last for you - but happiness is something you can create, even when you have an anxious mind. So listen in if you're craving more happiness in your lifeanxious attachment | self esteem | mental healthSign up for Hidden Gems for Anxious Minds ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠Follow Carly Ann ⁠⁠HERE⁠

Why do people who “try the hardest” in relationships often end up feeling unseen, resentful, or stuck in situationships? In this episode, Sabrina breaks down how people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and anxious attachment patterns quietly sabotage intimacy. Drawing from psychology, attachment theory, and trauma research, she explains why fawning is not love but a nervous-system survival response, and how suppressing your needs leads to emotional disconnection, resentment, and unhealthy power dynamics in dating and relationships. This episode dives deep into boundaries, self-abandonment, and why being willing to walk away is the most underrated relationship skill no one teaches you. Sabrina explores how fear of abandonment, low self-worth, and childhood conditioning keep people stuck accepting breadcrumbs, avoiding conflict, and performing for love. If you're struggling with anxious attachment, people-pleasing, situationships, or feeling lonely inside a relationship, this conversation offers neuroscience-backed insight and practical tools to help you stop losing yourself and start building secure, authentic connection. If you're ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! If you're serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Give your skin a rest with clean, clinically tested skincare from OSEA. Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SABRINA at OSEAMalibu.com For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to Hungryroot.com/SABRINA and use code SABRINA ============================= Chapters 0:00 Why Being “Too Loving” Is Blocking Real Connection 2:10 People-Pleasing Isn't Love, It's a Trauma Response 5:10 Fawning, Anxious Attachment, and Self-Abandonment 8:20 Why the “Cool Girl / Easy Partner” Always Loses 11:30 Conflict Avoidance Is Quietly Killing Your Relationships 15:10 The Psychology of Power: Why Being Willing to Leave Matters 18:40 How Fear of Abandonment Keeps You Accepting Breadcrumbs 22:10 What Secure Relationships Actually Look Like (Repair Over Perfection) 26:00 How to Stop Self-Abandoning and Start Speaking Up 30:10 Tool of the Week: The Self-Abandonment Check-In Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In today's episode, I read an email from a husband living one of the most brutal modern realities: his wife says she's “touched out” and has no energy for intimacy… yet somehow has unlimited emotional energy for another man at the gym.This is the pattern I see over and over in dead bedrooms:She didn't lose desire.She redirected it.If you're a man dealing with a sexless marriage, emotional disconnect, or a wife who has checked out but won't leave — this one's going to hit hard.Grab my book The Dead Bedroom Fix: https://deadbedroomfix.comJoin The Brotherhood here: https://helpformen.com/join

Start 2026 With Secure Love & True Emotional Wholeness. Get a Free 7-day Trial and keep our Key Pillars for a Secure Relationship Course ($250 Value) FREE for Life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/new-year-new-you?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-new-you&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-07-26&el=podcast If you have an Anxious Attachment style, the urge to get closure from someone who pulled away, ghosted you, or shut down can feel overwhelming. But chasing closure from the wrong person often keeps you stuck, emotionally drained, and unable to move on. In this video, Thais Gibson explains why seeking closure isn't actually the need and what to do instead to regain emotional stability, certainty, and peace.

Today we're talking about something that a lot of men won't admit, but a lot of women quietly suffer through: living with an anxious husband. And yes, I'm going to make fun of us a little.This video is a tongue-in-cheek “instruction manual” for how to care for the anxious, approval-seeking, reassurance-addicted man. The guy who needs constant validation, panics at every text message pause, reads every word you say like a legal document, and assumes you're leaving him if you're quiet for more than 30 seconds.It's funny… but it's also painfully accurate.The point of this episode isn't to shame anxious guys. It's to shine a big bright spotlight on the behaviors that slowly choke the life out of a relationship. And more importantly, to show that these patterns aren't permanent. You can fix this. You can rebuild your confidence, your identity, and your internal leadership as a man.If this video hits a little close to home, that's good. It means you're ready for change.

In this episode we're breaking down the 3 most common (but sneaky) anxious attachment habits that slowly destroy connection over time... even in loving relationships! If you: - Feel like you're too much or never enough - Constantly overanalyze texts, tone, or timing - Chase closeness, but end up feeling even more alone… This episode is your wake-up call and your path to healing!   We'll dive into:

Rejection hits some men harder than others. For a lot of guys, it's not just discomfort—it feels like danger. One cold look from your wife. One delayed text. One “Can we talk later?” from your boss. Suddenly you're spiraling, apologizing, chasing, overreacting, or completely shutting down.This isn't weakness. It isn't you being dramatic.It's rejection sensitivity—and most men who grew up in chaotic, unpredictable, or emotionally unstable homes are living with it without ever knowing what it's called.In this episode, I'll break down:— Why some men live relationships on “hard mode” — How your childhood wired your brain to scan for danger — Why neutral things feel like personal attacks — Why you over-apologize, over-explain, and overreact — How rejection sensitivity contributes to sexless marriages — Why anxious men attract avoidant or narcissistic partners — And, most importantly, what you can do to rewire thisIf you're neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, etc.), this is going to make even more sense. RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) is something I see constantly in men in my audience and inside The Brotherhood.You're not broken. You're trained. And you can retrain yourself.If you want deeper work on this, my book REBUILD and our Brotherhood community are powerful tools to help you break out of this pattern and build confidence, boundaries, and emotional stability.► Get my book REBUILD on Amazon (hardcover, Kindle, or audiobook for members): https://a.co/d/e6KBqYE► Join The Brotherhood – private men's community, daily Zoom groups, 1,300+ hours of audio, coaching, and more: https://helpformen.com/join

One of the most sought after answers in our time right now is how to manage a relationship with an Avoidant Attached person and, what is really going on in their minds. This episode helps an Avoidant Attached person understand themselves better, as well as starter healing journey. It also helps those who are interested in understanding and appreciating their avoidant attached friends and partner better.Drop a comment and let me know how this particular episode changed your perspective.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Many anxious and secure attached persons have dated avoidant attached persons who seemed really ready for a long term committed relationships until.... things got heavy. Many were left confused at their behaviours as some avoidant back-peddled, withdrew, seem to gaslight or altogether ghosted. In this episode, one of my guests shares her distress in trying to navigate her relationships as she tries to learn about her ex's behaviours, and her own. Give this a listen if you want to feel seen and validated while gaining some insights into the mind (and actions) of an avoidant attached person. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

You sent the text. Now you're spiraling. Rereading it. Analyzing their response time. Convincing yourself you said too much, came on too strong, ruined everything. You're not crazy. You're not broken. You're running on outdated childhood wiring—and it's time to update the code.In this raw solo episode, Raj shares his personal journey from crippling relationship anxiety after a nine-year relationship to finally feeling secure in love. No fluff. No generic advice. Just the actual map he walked to heal patterns of self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and the constant fear of saying the wrong thing.In this episode, you'll discover:→ Why your anxious attachment isn't a flaw—it's a child frozen in your nervous system between ages 4-7→ The reason meditation and talk therapy alone can't heal relationship anxiety→ How the wiring you developed to survive childhood is now sabotaging your adult relationships→ The counterintuitive truth: you can't heal attachment wounds alone because you didn't get them alone→ A simple reframe that transforms how you relate to your anxiety (hint: it involves compassion, not control)→ The exact script Raj uses to communicate vulnerability without self-abandoning→ Why risking losing the other person is actually the path to keeping them→ What becomes possible when you finally stop operating from outdated programmingYou're not too much. You're not too needy. You're carrying pain that was never yours to hold in the first place. This episode is your permission slip to put it down—and your roadmap to relationships that actually feel safe. Listen now and take the first step toward secure love.Connect with Raj:Newsletter – Sign up here: https://www.rajjana.com/staygrounded/Website: http://www.rajjana.com/Instagram: @raj_janaiTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/rs/podcast/stay-grounded-with-raj-jana/id1318038490Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/22Hrw6VWfnUSI45lw8LJBPYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@raj_janaLegal Disclaimer: The information and opinions discussed in this podcast are for educational and entertainment purposes only. The host and guests are not medical or mental health professionals, and their advice should not be a substitute for seeking professional help. Any action taken based on the information presented is strictly at your own risk. The podcast host and their guests shall have neither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any loss, damage, or injury caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly by information shared in this podcast. Consult your physician before making any changes to your mental health treatment or lifestyle. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Many of us believe that holding an avoidant accountable means talking to them like they are an idiot and we are their parent. How many of us liked it when our parents, or anyone in authority held us accountable? No one! We revelled and worse, you ignore and avoided as much as we could. Yes- my anxious attached friends. Even you did that.Most people are online telling us that we need to hold avoidant attached persons accountable and that is true. However, what we think is "holding them accountable" is actually coming across to them as "control."Let's sort out this messy issue but highlight what we think is an ultimatum, what the avoidant hears and how we can do "accountability" right.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Most people think anxious attachment means someone "loves harder," cares more, or is just afraid of losing you… but the truth is deeper and far more complicated. In this episode, we break down the psychology and neuroscience behind anxious attachment and why it can turn relationships into emotional pressure rather than connection. If you've ever felt smothered by someone's "love," guilty for needing space, or responsible for someone else's emotional stability, this episode will give you clarity and tools to break the cycle. We'll explore: ◼ why anxious attachment turns affection into urgency ◼ how fear becomes disguised as love ◼ the brain chemicals responsible for panic-bonding ◼ why they want YOU to regulate their emotions ◼ how guilt is used (consciously or unconsciously) to keep you close ◼ why you get trapped in rescuing ◼ how your nervous system gets hooked by their panic ◼ what to STOP doing immediately ◼ how to step out of caretaker mode without abandoning yourself ◼ how to set boundaries without becoming the villain You'll learn how to recognize the difference between real intimacy and emotional dependency, how to protect your peace, and how to stop being someone's emotional stabilizer. This episode will give you clarity, language, tools, and permission. Especially if you're tired of feeling responsible for other people's emotional worlds. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepostivityxperience Get The Journals & Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com  

What if the way your needs were met in infancy still shapes your ability to feel safe, seen, and supported today?Welcome to the end-of-year challenge: The Return to Magic. Today, Lacy, Jessica, and EMDR-certified LMFT Janelle dive deep into the foundation of all manifestation work: your earliest subconscious blueprint set in childhood. This episode explores the powerful programming from ages zero to 18 months. It's a period most people don't remember, but it's when your soul touched down into your human body—and profoundly shapes who you are today. This early stage is where safety, secure relationships, and boundaries are formed, and Janelle helps us understand how the presence (or absence) of these things can leave us feeling out of balance.This conversation is a reminder that our TBM practice is here to bring us back to our most whole selves. We are not destined to stay stuck in old patterns or loops that don't serve us. We can start from the very beginning and manifest the lives we're meant to embody. This is the work that changes everything. It's time to return to your magic.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Big End of Year SALE - 30% off Annual and Monthly Subscriptions Return to Magic - 15 Day Manifestation ChallengeA 15-day guided journey to reparent your inner child, reconnect with your magic, and step into this new year as your most confident, regulated, and magnetic self yet. Join our membership to access! (pre-week Dec 1st, kickoff Dec 8th!) The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin us at the How To Manifest Speaking Tour - LA 12/6 (Early Bird Discount available) Join our HTM Book Club! Walk step by step through the TBM Manifestation Process with Lacy and Jessica as we read HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips Join the Pathway now - NEW End of Year Challenge launching Dec 1st! Big End of Year SALE - 30% off New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: ARMRA - Use code TBM for 15% off Colostrum: Immune Revival - Immune barrier superfood  Fatty15 - go to fatty15.com/TBM use code TBM at checkout to get an additional 15% off your 90-day subscription Starter Kit In this episode we talk about:The real reason your manifestations feel stuck — and how early unmet needs are the causeWhy the most formative manifestation blueprint is set between 0–18 monthsThe power of skin-to-skin contact and early co-regulation with caregiversHealing the nervous system through somatic reparenting and new DI'sHow trauma from inconsistency or neglect creates current-day self-worth blocksCreating secure attachment with the universe — the TBM method's deeper layerReclaiming trust, touch, routine, and reliability through new subconscious experiencesOverwriting your origin story through the reparenting processWhy boundaries, autonomy, and safe exploration matter so deeplyReleasing perfectionism, people-pleasing, and rebellion patterns from toddler yearsRediscovering intuition, creativity, and authenticity buried beneath early shameHow to self-soothe as an adult by attuning to your inner child's unmet needsRecognizing that your inner child is your spiritual guide back to wholenessMentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 383 - The Return to Magic: How to Cut Through the Noise and Get Your Spark BackExpanded x Ep. 186 - The Difference Between Fear & Intuition with Taylor Paige - Angel Reader & Intuitive242 Manifestation Blocks, Navigating The Unknown, And Creating Our Most Magical Lives with Jessica Gill of TBMJoin our HTM Book Club! Walk step by step through the TBM Manifestation Process with Lacy and Jessica as we read HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Shadow DI, Safe DI, and Purpose & Soul's Essence DI) Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!LA 12/6Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

If you lean anxious in relationships, this one's for you.I see it all the time—guys who crave closeness so much that they choke the relationship. You text too much, talk too much, try too hard to keep things “good.” But that desperate energy ends up pushing her away.I'll show you what's really happening under the surface—why your attachment system freaks out when she pulls away, and how to stop feeding that panic. You'll learn how to regulate yourself, stop chasing reassurance, and build the kind of calm confidence that actually creates attraction.If you want more depth, grab my book The Dead Bedroom Fix or check out The Brotherhood, our private men's community with live meetings, courses, and 1,000+ hours of member-only content:

Friendship is one of the topics we get asked about most, so we brought back Dr. Marisa Franco, one of the world's leading voices on human connection. We dive straight into the heart of modern friendship and start with something that influences every relationship we have: attachment styles. Marisa explains how these patterns begin in childhood, how they show up differently in adulthood, and why none of us fit neatly into one category. We explore one of the biggest questions we hear from listeners: if you tend to be anxious or avoidant, do you end up attracting friends with the same tendencies? Marisa shares one of her biggest challenges in her research—secure people continue to find each other easily, while those who struggle with connection often repeat the same patterns with similar types of friends.Since many of you are new moms or navigating school-aged seasons, we ask Marisa what to do when a friend needs more from you than you can realistically give. She reminds us that it's okay to say no and that saying no with kindness helps preserve the relationship.Although friendship looks natural from the outside, we share honestly that it hasn't always been effortless for us either. Amy opens up about how isolating early motherhood felt and why making new friends during that time was unexpectedly hard. If you're in a season where friendship feels like it has to fall to the bottom of the list, Marisa offers a powerful reminder of why connection still matters—and what small steps can help bring it back to the forefront.Finally, we talk about the hardest part of friendship: knowing when it's time to end one. Should you let the relationship fade or have a more direct conversation? Marisa shares how to discern which path is right, and she gives guidance on something we rarely talk about—grieving a friendship.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Listen to HERself episode #145 Dr. Marisa Franco on the Importance of Adult Friendship; https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/adultfriendshipRead Dr. Marisa Franco's Book; Platonic: https://amzlink.to/az0lb2DLKWeWk Follow Marisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/Dr. Marisa's Website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFLet's connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Today's episode is a special one: I'm sharing my own healing story and how I went from anxious and insecure to confident, grounded in my worth, and in a loving partnership. My hope in sharing is that you can see we aren't all that different, and that you feel encouraged to continue on the courageous path of healing.

If you've ever felt like your emotions take over the moment a connection feels uncertain… or you find yourself spiraling, overthinking, and craving reassurance even when you know it's “too much,” this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. Today, we're diving into anxious attachment through a compassionate, science-backed lens, exploring your nervous system, your past relational experiences, and the truth that nothing is wrong with you. Your reactions make sense. And yes, you can absolutely heal.Inside the episode, we cover:The nervous system science behind anxious attachment - why your body stays in threat anticipation mode and why reassurance-seeking feels uncontrollable.The real roots of anxious attachment - inconsistent caregiving, emotional invalidation, early relationship trauma, and how those patterns shape adult relationships.The cultural pressure cooker - how modern dating, ghosting, and the “cool girl” narrative intensify anxious attachment and dysregulate your system even more.If this episode resonated and your heart is saying, “I can't do another year of these patterns…” I want to lovingly encourage you to take action now.Applications for the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program close this year, and we have extremely limited spots left. If you know you're ready to become securely attached and change your relationship patterns for good, this is your chance.And because it's Black Friday, you can also unlock the Secure Love Accelerator for over 70% off, but only while spots last. This is the most affordable way to start transforming your attachment system, and the offer will not return.Apply to ESL now or grab your Accelerator spot before the Black Friday offer closes.Your future self (the secure, grounded, loved version of you) will be so grateful you said yes.

In today's episode we're covering some deep territory with my returning guest, Trevor Hanson, as we explore anxious attachment. It's crucial to understand how our attachment styles, shaped by our upbringing and personal experiences, influence our daily habits and relationships. Learning to trust ourselves and engage in self-care can transform insecurities into self-compassion. Trevor shares profound insights into how recognizing and healing our "inner child" is essential for personal growth and development. He emphasizes the importance of daily habits that promote self-improvement and how to stop being a perfectionist. Join us to learn how understanding and healing attachment patterns can lead to personal fulfillment and genuine happiness. Celebrate 9 years of About Progress by submitting to our annual Favorite Things Giveaway! Simply leave a rating/review on Apple Podcasts. Favorite things + details on who won HERE. Past Episode to support: prior episode with Trevor: https://www.aboutprogress.com/blog/keys-to-overcoming-conflict-and-healing-connection-for-couples Sign up as a Supporter to get access to our private, premium, ad-free podcast, More Personal. Episodes air each Friday! Get up to 40% off at ⁠Cozy Earth⁠ with code "COZYPROGRESS" More for Moms Conference use code “LISTENER” for $20 off Leave a rating and review Check out my ⁠workshops⁠! Follow About Progress on YOUTUBE! Book Launch Committee Free DSL Training Full Show Notes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices