Podcasts about anxious attachment

Many anxious and secure attached persons have dated avoidant attached persons who seemed really ready for a long term committed relationships until.... things got heavy. Many were left confused at their behaviours as some avoidant back-peddled, withdrew, seem to gaslight or altogether ghosted. In this episode, one of my guests shares her distress in trying to navigate her relationships as she tries to learn about her ex's behaviours, and her own. Give this a listen if you want to feel seen and validated while gaining some insights into the mind (and actions) of an avoidant attached person. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

You sent the text. Now you're spiraling. Rereading it. Analyzing their response time. Convincing yourself you said too much, came on too strong, ruined everything. You're not crazy. You're not broken. You're running on outdated childhood wiring—and it's time to update the code.In this raw solo episode, Raj shares his personal journey from crippling relationship anxiety after a nine-year relationship to finally feeling secure in love. No fluff. No generic advice. Just the actual map he walked to heal patterns of self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and the constant fear of saying the wrong thing.In this episode, you'll discover:→ Why your anxious attachment isn't a flaw—it's a child frozen in your nervous system between ages 4-7→ The reason meditation and talk therapy alone can't heal relationship anxiety→ How the wiring you developed to survive childhood is now sabotaging your adult relationships→ The counterintuitive truth: you can't heal attachment wounds alone because you didn't get them alone→ A simple reframe that transforms how you relate to your anxiety (hint: it involves compassion, not control)→ The exact script Raj uses to communicate vulnerability without self-abandoning→ Why risking losing the other person is actually the path to keeping them→ What becomes possible when you finally stop operating from outdated programmingYou're not too much. You're not too needy. You're carrying pain that was never yours to hold in the first place. This episode is your permission slip to put it down—and your roadmap to relationships that actually feel safe. Listen now and take the first step toward secure love.Connect with Raj:Newsletter – Sign up here: https://www.rajjana.com/staygrounded/Website: http://www.rajjana.com/Instagram: @raj_janaiTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/rs/podcast/stay-grounded-with-raj-jana/id1318038490Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/22Hrw6VWfnUSI45lw8LJBPYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@raj_janaLegal Disclaimer: The information and opinions discussed in this podcast are for educational and entertainment purposes only. The host and guests are not medical or mental health professionals, and their advice should not be a substitute for seeking professional help. Any action taken based on the information presented is strictly at your own risk. The podcast host and their guests shall have neither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any loss, damage, or injury caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly by information shared in this podcast. Consult your physician before making any changes to your mental health treatment or lifestyle. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Many of us believe that holding an avoidant accountable means talking to them like they are an idiot and we are their parent. How many of us liked it when our parents, or anyone in authority held us accountable? No one! We revelled and worse, you ignore and avoided as much as we could. Yes- my anxious attached friends. Even you did that.Most people are online telling us that we need to hold avoidant attached persons accountable and that is true. However, what we think is "holding them accountable" is actually coming across to them as "control."Let's sort out this messy issue but highlight what we think is an ultimatum, what the avoidant hears and how we can do "accountability" right.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Most people think anxious attachment means someone "loves harder," cares more, or is just afraid of losing you… but the truth is deeper and far more complicated. In this episode, we break down the psychology and neuroscience behind anxious attachment and why it can turn relationships into emotional pressure rather than connection. If you've ever felt smothered by someone's "love," guilty for needing space, or responsible for someone else's emotional stability, this episode will give you clarity and tools to break the cycle. We'll explore: ◼ why anxious attachment turns affection into urgency ◼ how fear becomes disguised as love ◼ the brain chemicals responsible for panic-bonding ◼ why they want YOU to regulate their emotions ◼ how guilt is used (consciously or unconsciously) to keep you close ◼ why you get trapped in rescuing ◼ how your nervous system gets hooked by their panic ◼ what to STOP doing immediately ◼ how to step out of caretaker mode without abandoning yourself ◼ how to set boundaries without becoming the villain You'll learn how to recognize the difference between real intimacy and emotional dependency, how to protect your peace, and how to stop being someone's emotional stabilizer. This episode will give you clarity, language, tools, and permission. Especially if you're tired of feeling responsible for other people's emotional worlds. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepostivityxperience Get The Journals & Let's Work Together: www.thepositivityxperience.com  

What if the way your needs were met in infancy still shapes your ability to feel safe, seen, and supported today?Welcome to the end-of-year challenge: The Return to Magic. Today, Lacy, Jessica, and EMDR-certified LMFT Janelle dive deep into the foundation of all manifestation work: your earliest subconscious blueprint set in childhood. This episode explores the powerful programming from ages zero to 18 months. It's a period most people don't remember, but it's when your soul touched down into your human body—and profoundly shapes who you are today. This early stage is where safety, secure relationships, and boundaries are formed, and Janelle helps us understand how the presence (or absence) of these things can leave us feeling out of balance.This conversation is a reminder that our TBM practice is here to bring us back to our most whole selves. We are not destined to stay stuck in old patterns or loops that don't serve us. We can start from the very beginning and manifest the lives we're meant to embody. This is the work that changes everything. It's time to return to your magic.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Big End of Year SALE - 30% off Annual and Monthly Subscriptions Return to Magic - 15 Day Manifestation ChallengeA 15-day guided journey to reparent your inner child, reconnect with your magic, and step into this new year as your most confident, regulated, and magnetic self yet. Join our membership to access! 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Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: ARMRA - Use code TBM for 15% off Colostrum: Immune Revival - Immune barrier superfood  Fatty15 - go to fatty15.com/TBM use code TBM at checkout to get an additional 15% off your 90-day subscription Starter Kit In this episode we talk about:The real reason your manifestations feel stuck — and how early unmet needs are the causeWhy the most formative manifestation blueprint is set between 0–18 monthsThe power of skin-to-skin contact and early co-regulation with caregiversHealing the nervous system through somatic reparenting and new DI'sHow trauma from inconsistency or neglect creates current-day self-worth blocksCreating secure attachment with the universe — the TBM method's deeper layerReclaiming trust, touch, routine, and reliability through new subconscious experiencesOverwriting your origin story through the reparenting processWhy boundaries, autonomy, and safe exploration matter so deeplyReleasing perfectionism, people-pleasing, and rebellion patterns from toddler yearsRediscovering intuition, creativity, and authenticity buried beneath early shameHow to self-soothe as an adult by attuning to your inner child's unmet needsRecognizing that your inner child is your spiritual guide back to wholenessMentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 383 - The Return to Magic: How to Cut Through the Noise and Get Your Spark BackExpanded x Ep. 186 - The Difference Between Fear & Intuition with Taylor Paige - Angel Reader & Intuitive242 Manifestation Blocks, Navigating The Unknown, And Creating Our Most Magical Lives with Jessica Gill of TBMJoin our HTM Book Club! Walk step by step through the TBM Manifestation Process with Lacy and Jessica as we read HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Shadow DI, Safe DI, and Purpose & Soul's Essence DI) Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!LA 12/6Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

If you've ever thought "I'm too much," felt shame around your jealousy, or struggled with feeling "needy" in relationships, this episode will be a relief and a revelation. Shanenn sits down with Trevor Hansen, coach and founder of The Art of Healing, to dismantle the shame loop of anxious attachment and show how it can be transformed into self-trust and secure connection.Trevor shares his raw personal story—from toxic relationships and a broken jaw to leaving a high-powered career at Tesla—and the powerful tools he discovered to move from fear to security. This is a must-listen for anyone stuck in the cycle of over-functioning, people pleasing, or "proving" their worth in love.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:Why awareness alone won't heal your insecure attachmentHow childhood experiences can create a "love gap" that fuels jealousyWhat emotional reprogramming looks like in practiceWhy inner child work isn't woo-woo—it's essentialA powerful shift from controlling to compassionately curious in relationshipsGOLDEN NUGGETS:You're not too much. It's the behavior that needs support, not your worth.Anxious attachment is just a part of you—not all of you.You can turn your jealousy into a catalyst for deeper connection.Emotional healing > intellectual awareness.When you stop outsourcing your worth, you stop fearing abandonment.GUEST BIO: Trevor Hansen is a relationship coach and the founder of The Art of Healing. After navigating his own journey through anxious attachment and emotional wounding, he now helps individuals break the cycle of fear-based relationships and build secure emotional foundations. His Secure Self Club is transforming lives by helping clients go from insecure to grounded in just months.QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "You're no longer a problem to be solved, but a person to be loved."PERFECT FOR LISTENERS WHO...Feel shame around their jealousy or emotional needsStruggle with anxious or insecure attachment stylesWant to stop overthinking and start feeling secure in loveAre tired of outsourcing their peace and self-worthCrave emotional safety, clarity, and confidence in their relationshipsLoved this episode? Be sure to leave a review and share how you're starting to show up for your inner child.Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Call to see how I can help.Grab the 5 Must-Haves To Overcome Jealousy DisclaimerThe information on this podcast or any platform affiliated with Top Self LLC, or the Top Self podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with Top Self podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment, Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast or website.

Friendship is one of the topics we get asked about most, so we brought back Dr. Marisa Franco, one of the world's leading voices on human connection. We dive straight into the heart of modern friendship and start with something that influences every relationship we have: attachment styles. Marisa explains how these patterns begin in childhood, how they show up differently in adulthood, and why none of us fit neatly into one category. We explore one of the biggest questions we hear from listeners: if you tend to be anxious or avoidant, do you end up attracting friends with the same tendencies? Marisa shares one of her biggest challenges in her research—secure people continue to find each other easily, while those who struggle with connection often repeat the same patterns with similar types of friends.Since many of you are new moms or navigating school-aged seasons, we ask Marisa what to do when a friend needs more from you than you can realistically give. She reminds us that it's okay to say no and that saying no with kindness helps preserve the relationship.Although friendship looks natural from the outside, we share honestly that it hasn't always been effortless for us either. Amy opens up about how isolating early motherhood felt and why making new friends during that time was unexpectedly hard. If you're in a season where friendship feels like it has to fall to the bottom of the list, Marisa offers a powerful reminder of why connection still matters—and what small steps can help bring it back to the forefront.Finally, we talk about the hardest part of friendship: knowing when it's time to end one. Should you let the relationship fade or have a more direct conversation? Marisa shares how to discern which path is right, and she gives guidance on something we rarely talk about—grieving a friendship.LINKS AND RESOURCES:Listen to HERself episode #145 Dr. Marisa Franco on the Importance of Adult Friendship; https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/adultfriendshipRead Dr. Marisa Franco's Book; Platonic: https://amzlink.to/az0lb2DLKWeWk Follow Marisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/Dr. Marisa's Website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELFLet's connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Most people believe anxious attachment is a personality type.It isn't..In this episode, I reveal the truth almost no one is teaching:.Your anxious attachment style is not who you are - it's a state created by the assumptions you hold about yourself, love, and your worth..And when you understand that, everything changes.This is the foundation of The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ - my signature state-based approach that combines subconscious reprogramming, nervous system regulation, identity work, and the Law of Assumption into one cohesive, transformational framework..Inside this episode, I take you deep into:✨ Why anxious attachment isn't an identity - it's a conditioned state.✨ How subconscious assumptions become your lived experience.✨ How your nervous system stores old emotional imprints.✨ Why awareness alone isn't enough to create change.✨ The mechanics of shifting into a secure state.✨ The three pillars of The Candice Tamara Secure Method™: • Belief Reprogramming • Nervous System Regulation • Secure Identity Embodiment.✨ How state-shifts transform your relationships and your life.This is where psychology meets consciousness.Where the nervous system meets the Law of Assumption.Where you stop trying to “fix” yourself and step into a new state of being..Your attachment style was learned.It can be unlearned..And the path back to security is far more powerful and far more possible than you've been told..If you're ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full..Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠Becoming Secure You⁠⁠Masterclass: ⁠⁠Stop Attracting Avoidants⁠⁠Masterclass: ⁠⁠Stop Them Pulling Away⁠⁠Signature Program: ⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠.Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

Send us a textIn this powerful episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, Nadine sits down with Bryan Power to explore how attachment styles, childhood wounds, emotional triggers, and deep inner work can transform relationships from the inside out.Bryan shares his remarkable journey—from a sudden breakup and restraining order to rebuilding a healthier, stronger marriage through self-awareness and integrated attachment theory. Together, they unpack the six pillars of emotional healing inspired by Thais Gibson's work: core wounds, needs, emotions, boundaries, communication, and behaviors.This episode offers actionable tools for anyone navigating relationship challenges, breaking toxic patterns, or healing from trauma. Whether you're partnered, single, or somewhere in between, Bryan's story is a reminder that change is possible—and love can be rebuilt when we learn to understand ourselves.Resources Mentioned:

Struggling with relationship anxiety and fear of intimacy or rejection? This episode will guide you through anxious and avoidant attachment patterns, to the core healing that can help us find confidence and security in relationships.I'm joined by Trevor Hanson, a marriage and family therapist who has helped thousands of individuals and couples heal attachment wounds and build secure, connected, confident relationships. His work has been featured by the Gottman Institute, and he's the founder of The Art of Healing, where he teaches frameworks for transforming insecurity into emotional safety.We break down the real reasons we often feel insecure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful in relationships… and how to finally feel secure, grounded, and confident in love. You'll learn the tools, communication shifts, and emotional skills that create safe + connected relationships.In this episode, we cover:How to build real confidence in relationships (and the cost of not working on your confidence)Why insecurity, fear, and jealousy appear — even in good relationshipsPractical tools for anxious attachment self-soothingWhy fear is the #1 killer of relationships and how to move through itHow avoidant partners can build emotional intimacy without feeling overwhelmedFear-based motivation vs love-based motivationHow to navigate communication “landmines'How to support a partner who feels fear or anxiety in the relationshipThe TEMPO framework and how it interrupts anxious spiralsFollow Trevor on InstagramTrevor's website: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Today's episode is a special one: I'm sharing my own healing story and how I went from anxious and insecure to confident, grounded in my worth, and in a loving partnership. My hope in sharing is that you can see we aren't all that different, and that you feel encouraged to continue on the courageous path of healing.

If you've ever felt like your emotions take over the moment a connection feels uncertain… or you find yourself spiraling, overthinking, and craving reassurance even when you know it's “too much,” this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. Today, we're diving into anxious attachment through a compassionate, science-backed lens, exploring your nervous system, your past relational experiences, and the truth that nothing is wrong with you. Your reactions make sense. And yes, you can absolutely heal.Inside the episode, we cover:The nervous system science behind anxious attachment - why your body stays in threat anticipation mode and why reassurance-seeking feels uncontrollable.The real roots of anxious attachment - inconsistent caregiving, emotional invalidation, early relationship trauma, and how those patterns shape adult relationships.The cultural pressure cooker - how modern dating, ghosting, and the “cool girl” narrative intensify anxious attachment and dysregulate your system even more.If this episode resonated and your heart is saying, “I can't do another year of these patterns…” I want to lovingly encourage you to take action now.Applications for the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program close this year, and we have extremely limited spots left. If you know you're ready to become securely attached and change your relationship patterns for good, this is your chance.And because it's Black Friday, you can also unlock the Secure Love Accelerator for over 70% off, but only while spots last. This is the most affordable way to start transforming your attachment system, and the offer will not return.Apply to ESL now or grab your Accelerator spot before the Black Friday offer closes.Your future self (the secure, grounded, loved version of you) will be so grateful you said yes.

Ever feels like your avoidant partner never wants to do anything during the holidays? Avoidant attached persons can have a love/hate relationship with holidays and it had everything to do with their attachment styles. As an anxious attached partner, you probably love the holidays - getting the perfect presents, planning get-togethers and meals, involving your partner in everything... While on the other hand, your avoidant partner wants to do anything (crawl on a hole) but be a part of what they see as too much. This episodes dives into why the avoidant attached partner wants to hide from the holidays, your friends and most of their own people. We share five things avoidant attached persons don't want during the holidays and what you can do to help them feel more relaxed - and get them involved. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

She thought everything was fine. Then, he dropped a bombshell/ “I'm not sure I'm in love with you anymore.”Trying to be understanding, she gave him an easy out. She said, “It's okay if we need to break up.”But he wouldn't take it. He was confused. He wanted to keep trying.And just like that, they were trapped in a exhausting cycle of push-and-pull-a classic anxious-avoidant trap-until he finally ended it for good.Now, she's left heartbroken and overthinking everything. She's asking all the classic questions:How do I get over a breakup when I still have feelings?What does it mean when he says he loves me but isn't in love with me?Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners?Is there any chance of getting back together?If this story hits home, you're not alone. These painful patterns often point directly to our attachment styles.In this recorded session, we sit down with Sarah to understand her anxious attachment style and how it showed up in her relationship. We'll break down-The hidden signs of an anxious attachment style.How fear of abandonment can accidentally sabotage your love life.Practical steps for healing a broken heart and creating secure attachment.How to stop the cycle of on-again, off-again relationships and learn how to move forward for good.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

In this powerful call-in episode of Dr. Judy WTF, Dr. Judy unpacks the difference between being in love and truly loving someone. She explains why the dopamine-filled highs of infatuation can feel like a drug, why those “butterflies” rarely last, and how real love is built on stability, shared values, and emotional safety. Using her Mind Map® system and attachment theory, Dr. Judy traces how childhood wounds, “holes in the soul,” and inconsistent parenting create anxious and avoidant attachment styles that play out in adult relationships.A courageous caller shares how growing up with emotionally unavailable parents led him to repeatedly fall for partners who don't have time for him. Dr. Judy walks him through her “What the Freud”® repetition principle—why we keep choosing rejecters and secretly hope they will finally heal our original pain. She also explores whether the in-love feeling can come back in long-term relationships, how to rekindle sparks with date nights, play, sex, and shared growth, and why becoming the cause of your healing (instead of at the effect of others) is the real path to healthy, mature love.

Samantha Reed Cleaver is an Attachment Trauma Specialist and host of The Relationship Rehab Podcast on a mission to help people who feel anxious in their relationships heal inner child wounds, trauma, and sabotaging patterns so they can feel calm, confident, and secure in love. Through her own healing journey, she discovered that her anxious attachment style was the biggest block keeping her stuck in toxic dynamics and disconnected from herself.In this conversation, Samantha and Kate discuss why ambitious women often struggle with feeling anxious in relationships and how this trauma leaks into their business and career success.Are you ready to stop losing yourself in relationships? Tune in to learn:

In today's episode we're covering some deep territory with my returning guest, Trevor Hanson, as we explore anxious attachment. It's crucial to understand how our attachment styles, shaped by our upbringing and personal experiences, influence our daily habits and relationships. Learning to trust ourselves and engage in self-care can transform insecurities into self-compassion. Trevor shares profound insights into how recognizing and healing our "inner child" is essential for personal growth and development. He emphasizes the importance of daily habits that promote self-improvement and how to stop being a perfectionist. Join us to learn how understanding and healing attachment patterns can lead to personal fulfillment and genuine happiness. Celebrate 9 years of About Progress by submitting to our annual Favorite Things Giveaway! Simply leave a rating/review on Apple Podcasts. Favorite things + details on who won HERE. Past Episode to support: prior episode with Trevor: https://www.aboutprogress.com/blog/keys-to-overcoming-conflict-and-healing-connection-for-couples Sign up as a Supporter to get access to our private, premium, ad-free podcast, More Personal. Episodes air each Friday! Get up to 40% off at ⁠Cozy Earth⁠ with code "COZYPROGRESS" More for Moms Conference use code “LISTENER” for $20 off Leave a rating and review Check out my ⁠workshops⁠! Follow About Progress on YOUTUBE! Book Launch Committee Free DSL Training Full Show Notes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we dive into the mind of an avoidant- - what makes them shut down? - what are the thinking when they shut down? - what are the feeling when they have the urge to run away or shut down? - why do they walk away? And what you and your partner can do to save your relationship. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

What was wounded in relationship needs to heal in relationship. In this powerful conversation, Christa sits down with licensed psychotherapist and attachment expert Jessica Baum, author of the new book "Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building Secure Relationships," to explore why anxious attachment can't be healed in isolationm and what to do instead. Jessica reveals how implicit memories from childhood live in our bodies and change our felt sense in the world. Maybe a parent, teacher, or friend made you feel a certain way, and your body created protective spaces to keep you safe. Now, when your partner echoes that old wound, your nervous system reacts before your mind can catch up. Learn how healing happens through empathy, co-regulation, and anchoring relationships with safe people who can help you hold what you've been carrying alone. Discover what co-regulation actually looks like, why the earlier the wound the more relational support you need, and how to create secure attachment in your marriage even if you didn't have it growing up. Jessica's book includes exercises that help you regulate as you read, making it a healing companion for anyone ready to move from anxious patterns to secure connection. You can't do this work alone, and you don't have to. Get the book here! https://www.amazon.com/Safe-Attachment-Informed-Building-Secure-Relationships/dp/0593850815 Get the somatic meditation and other gifts along with your purchase! https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/interview More show links: ⁠Use this brief form to tell us more of what you'd like to hear and see on the pod in our E + M Pod survey!⁠ https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSc3QManM8zj6ODWSOAM3BdDLoLh-A4AzUO3zXu5xGq6bjUgsg/viewform?usp=header Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave Christa a podcast question anonymously by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you find yourself constantly overthinking in new relationships, fearing abandonment, or needing immediate resolution after every minor conflict? As someone who is formerly (and sometimes still a little bit!) anxiously attached, I know this feeling all too well.That's why I was so excited to sit down with psychotherapist Emma for a deep dive into the challenging (and often painful) intersection of anxiety and dating. We explore where anxious attachment comes from, how it shows up in modern relationships (especially with avoidant partners), and the practical steps you can take to heal and build self-trust.CHECK OUT MY MASTERCLASSES HERE AND START EXPERIENCING LOTS MORE PEACE, JOY, & FREEDOM: https://www.ahealthypush.com/anxiety-classesTAKE MY FREE QUIZ AND FIND OUT WHAT'S CAUSING YOU TO STAY STUCK: https://www.ahealthypush.com/blocking-quizA HEALTHY PUSH INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ahealthypush/GET THIS EPISODE'S SHOW NOTES: Connect with Emma: @perfectly_emmperfect

Attachment styles have become a big topic lately, and for good reason. They shape how we love, communicate, and respond in our relationships. In this episode, I'm diving into the five key traits of anxious attachment and how they show up in marriage, especially after kids.If you've ever found yourself overthinking, craving reassurance, or feeling more impacted by emotional distance than your partner, this conversation will help you understand why. I'm sharing personal insights from my own anxious attachment style, what I've learned through years of research and client work, and how to begin creating more security, confidence, and peace in your relationship.Tune in to discover:• The core fear that drives anxious attachment and how it shows up in marriage• Why emotional closeness can feel like safety and distance feels so threatening• How inconsistency and uncertainty fuel anxiety and disconnection• The link between overthinking, control, and emotional burnout• How comparison and jealousy often stem from fear rather than factThe Holiday Connection Challenge: https://marriedafterkids.com/holiday-connection-challegeConnect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-callThe Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-systemFREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptinGet your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebieFollow me on Instagram so you don't miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

I sat down with AnxiouslyAlej, the dating strategist for successful women to talk about why so many successful, emotionally intelligent women still attract emotionally unavailable men… and how to stop repeating the same pattern.Find Alej here: https://www.instagram.com/anxiouslyalej/?hl=en Check out my programs & more here: https://stan.store/hothighpriestess

In this episode, I dive into one of the hardest truths many men face after becoming fathers: the woman you married may not be the same woman after the baby arrives.For a lot of men—especially the more sensitive or anxiously attached ones—this change feels like emotional whiplash. The affection disappears, the intimacy vanishes, and suddenly you feel like a stranger in your own home. I read and discuss a real Reddit post from a man who experienced this after 20 years of marriage... and what his story reveals about millions of couples worldwide.We'll talk about:Why this shift happens biologically and emotionallyThe reality of “Wife 1.0” vs. “Wife 2.0”How men can respond without falling into resentment or despairWhat to do when your wife refuses counseling or intimacyHow anxious attachment can make this pain even worseAnd why community and brotherhood are vital for recoveryThis is a brutally honest but deeply empathetic look at one of the most misunderstood transitions in modern marriage.

You're not needy. You're just healing! In this episode, I'm sharing how I accidentally rewired my anxious attachment into a secure one...without forcing it, faking it, or labeling myself as “crazy.” If you've ever found yourself wondering: “Why am I spiraling when everything is fine?” “Why do I panic when things finally feel safe?” …or “Why can't I just stay calm in a good relationship?” This one's for you, bb

Support the showHeal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles and start thriving in life and love. Let's connect: https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships. Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on: ✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency ✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress. However if you do want to discuss your situation further, click here https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy...

เราอาจเคยได้ยินประโยคที่ว่า “ที่ใดมีรัก ที่นั่นมีทุกข์” อยู่บ่อยๆ แต่เคยสงสัยไหมว่าแล้วทุกข์นั้นเกิดจากอะไร? . พอดแคสต์ 5M ในวันนี้จะพาทุกคนไปสำรวจความสัมพันธ์ที่เต็มไปด้วยความรัก  และความกลัวว่าจะไม่ถูกรักของผู้คนที่เติบโตมากับประสบการณ์ในวัยเด็ก ที่ทำให้ความวิตกกังวลกลายเป็นอุปสรรคสำคัญของความรัก พร้อมวิธีรักษาความสัมพันธ์ที่เหมาะกับเหล่า Anxious Attachment โดยเฉพาะ . #goodtime #5minutespodcast #missiontothemoonpodcast

เราอาจเคยได้ยินประโยคที่ว่า “ที่ใดมีรัก ที่นั่นมีทุกข์” อยู่บ่อยๆ แต่เคยสงสัยไหมว่าแล้วทุกข์นั้นเกิดจากอะไร? . พอดแคสต์ 5M ในวันนี้จะพาทุกคนไปสำรวจความสัมพันธ์ที่เต็มไปด้วยความรัก  และความกลัวว่าจะไม่ถูกรักของผู้คนที่เติบโตมากับประสบการณ์ในวัยเด็ก ที่ทำให้ความวิตกกังวลกลายเป็นอุปสรรคสำคัญของความรัก พร้อมวิธีรักษาความสัมพันธ์ที่เหมาะกับเหล่า Anxious Attachment โดยเฉพาะ . #goodtime #5minutespodcast #missiontothemoonpodcast

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Emily Bradbury is a relationship and empowerment coach specializing in attachment theory and growing your emotional intelligence and regulation tools. She's uniquely equipped in masculine/feminine energetics and polarity. Emily helps her diverse client base across the world, with different ages, backgrounds, and beliefs. In this interview, we discuss rewriting your identity and personal stories as a part of the healing journey from anxious attachment to healthy secure attachment. Emily describes what the process looks like, how it worked for her, and why it's such a powerful tool when combined with coaching. Healing anxious attachment is a process Avoidant + Anxious attachment relationships Rewriting your personal story Masculine/feminine polarity Social links Instragram: emily.bradbury.coaching TikTok: @emily.bradbury.coaching Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

Support the showHeal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles and start thriving in life and love. Let's connect: https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships. Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on: ✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency ✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress. However if you do want to discuss your situation further, click here https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy...

In this week's show Lian is joined by Serdar Hararovich. Serdar is a Relationship & Secure Attachment Specialist offering integrative, attachment-based coaching and healing. He supports both men and women to heal early attachment wounds, establish inner security, reclaim their deepest self, and cultivate the emotional skills required for deep, soulful, and secure love. Serdar works with a wide variety of individuals - including, but not limited to, therapists, relationship coaches, and other practitioners. The common thread among his clients is a deep desire to go beyond the surface - people tired of quick-fix techniques and oversimplified approaches to healing. Those ready to do the kind of work that awakens their deepest potential - allowing them to master the art of true intimacy and experience the kind of love that transforms everything. In this episode, Lian and Serdar explore what it really means to honour the differences between men and women without turning them into prescriptions or performances. They touch the gap in how partners want to communicate between dates, why anxious attachment can pile five issues into one talk, and what withdrawal can really signal. They look at emotional safety in plain terms, the pull of projection and transference, and how simple, steady awareness shifts the tone of a relationship. They look at what actually helps: recognising difference without blame, letting curiosity replace judgement, and using relationship as a mirror for self-knowledge. Listen if you've ever wondered why men and women so often miss each other, felt uneasy naming masculine or feminine traits, or wanted a way to see those forces as sacred, human, and alive rather than stereotyped. We'd love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let's carry on the conversation… please leave a comment wherever you are listening or in any of our other spaces to engage. What you'll learn from this episode: How honouring difference deepens intimacy without falling into polarity roles Why curiosity and emotional safety make real understanding possible What happens when you stop performing gender and start living it as energy and truth Resources and stuff spoken about: Visit Serdar's Website Serdar's upcoming course Join UNIO, the Community for Wild Sovereign Souls… Discover your kin & unite with your soul's calling to truly live your myth. Be Mythical Join our mailing list for soul stirring goodness: https://www.bemythical.com/moonly Discover your kin & unite with your soul's calling to truly live your myth: https://www.bemythical.com/unio Go Deeper: https://www.bemythical.com/godeeper Follow us: Facebook Instagram TikTok YouTube Thank you for listening! There's a fresh episode released each week here and on most podcast platforms - and video too on YouTube. If you subscribe then you'll get each new episode delivered to your device every week automagically. (that way you'll never miss a show).

Support the showHeal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles and start thriving in life and love. Let's connect: https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships. Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on: ✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency ✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress. However if you do want to discuss your situation further, click here https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy...

Sarah felt seen and validated until things turned for the worse with her avoidant attached partner. He then got up and left. You will see yourself in her story? You will learn from this coaching session how to navigate feelings the confusion and feeling of betrayal after being love bombed and discarded. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Every couple faces relationship struggles—from missed appointments to moments of miscommunication. But the way we interpret those struggles often determines whether they turn into distance or deeper connection. In this episode of the Roadmap to Secure Love, Kim and Kyle explore how attachment styles shape our reactions when things go wrong and why secure couples repair quickly while insecure patterns can spiral into conflict.At Healing Moments Counseling, we know that life can be messy and that does not mean your relationship is broken—these messy moments are opportunities to build trust, intimacy, and resilience. With empathy, self-soothing, and honest communication, even the most frustrating moments can become stepping stones toward secure love.Key Takeaways:Learn to trust your partner's intentionsSelf-soothe when frustration arisesTurn relationship mistakes into repairCommunicate impact without blameBuild teamwork through conflictSecure couples don't avoid conflict—they transform it into an opportunity for growth and connection. This episode will show you how to move from blame to bonding, and how to use everyday challenges as a pathway to intimacy.Follow The Roadmap to Secure Love on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube. Until next time, stay connected and love fully. ❤️ Additional Resources for You: Take the free Attachment Style Quiz to discover your attachment style today!Sign up for the Secure Attachment Path to foster deep, secure connections within your relationships.

Support the showHeal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles and start thriving in life and love. Let's connect: https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call Welcome to Trauma Bonding to Secure Relationships with Dr Sarah — the podcast that helps ambitious individuals and couples heal trauma bonding and toxic relationship cycles to build secure attachments and loving healthy relationships. Hosted by Dr Sarah, psychologist, relationship strategist, and founder of Heal Trauma Bonding and Relationship Success Lab, this show guides you through practical tools and deep insights on: ✅ Healing from trauma bonding, anxious attachment style, and codependency ✅ Building emotional resilience and secure attachment styles a✅ Improving communication, empathy, and emotional intimacy✅ Reclaiming your identity, boundaries, and self-worth✅ Creating lasting relationship happiness and passion Whether you're recovering from betrayal, navigating codependency, or simply ready to break free from the past, this podcast gives you the clarity, strength, and strategy to move forward We hope you got massive value from this episode for your own healing and relationship progress. However if you do want to discuss your situation further, click here https://calendly.com/relationshipsuccesslab-info/discovery-call LinkedIn: Dr Sarah (Alsawy...

In this episode of The New Age Sage Podcast, I break down one of the biggest illusions in modern relationships — the anxious attachment cycle.We'll dive into why love can feel like withdrawal, how validation becomes a drug, and why so many of us keep mistaking intensity for intimacy. I explore what really happens when your nervous system mistakes fear for love, and how that pulls you into chasing, controlling, and losing yourself trying to feel “safe.”You'll learn how to recognize when you've lost your center, how to reclaim it without shutting down emotionally, and why true security comes from the inside out — not from a perfectly reassuring partner. Most of all, I'll share the practices that helped me move from dependency to devotion, from needing love to being love.———————Please like, comment, and subscribe if anything resonated with you. Thank you for watching!Lucas Salame: https://www.instagram.com/lucas__salame | https://www.new-age-sage.com

Thank you Bumble for sponsoring today's video ✨ One point of clarification on our Bumble segment today: On Bumble, all new members in the US are required to verify their phone number and photo. As part of our commitment to a safer, more trusted community, photo verification will soon be mandatory for everyone in the US.Thinking about dating again? Take this as your sign. Start your love story on Bumble. https://bumble.com/Hi my loves

It wasn't easy for her , but Sarah felt like she had no choice but to shut herself away or withdraw  from the demands and overwhelm - even if that sometimes came from her children. In this episode, Sarah tells what happens in the mind of a avoidant when they are going through their deactivation and what they think during this time. She also shares how she healed after her partner abandoned her and their children, and how she deals with romantic relationships now. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Thank you Bumble for sponsoring today's video ✨ One point of clarification on our Bumble segment today: On Bumble, all new members in the US are required to verify their phone number and photo. As part of our commitment to a safer, more trusted community, photo verification will soon be mandatory for everyone in the US.Thinking about dating again? Take this as your sign. Start your love story on Bumble. https://bumble.com/ Hi my loves

Not all anxious attachers look the same. In this episode, I explore the Passive Anxious Attacher, who protects against loss by shrinking back, and the Rigid Anxious Attacher, who holds on tightly to feel secure. You'll learn how to tell the difference, why both stem from the same fear of abandonment, and how to begin moving toward secure connection.

Very little is more devasting  than the condition of being blindsided and betrayed by an avoidant attached persons. Sure they have their reasons but that doesn't negate the pain their sudden exit cause when we are the ones left behind. In this episode, Sarah (name changed) shares her struggles to get through a breakup (divorce) with her ex and her determination to heal. We can all see ourselves in her story- we feel her pain and we root for her. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Fear of infidelity can be one of the most overwhelming and destabilising experiences for someone with anxious attachment. Even when there's no evidence a partner is being unfaithful, the possibility alone can trigger deep anxiety, hypervigilance, and constant worry.In this episode, we explore why anxiously attached people often fear cheating so much, even in the absence of proof. We'll look at the core wounds and nervous system patterns that fuel this fear, the role of past relationship and childhood experiences, and how certain dynamics—especially with avoidant partners—can make these fears even more intense.We'll also unpack the ways fear of cheating can show up in a relationship, the problems with trying to “prevent” it through control or monitoring, and practical steps to move towards a more secure, trusting dynamic.If this is something you've struggled with, this conversation will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface and give you tools to respond in a way that's calmer, clearer, and more grounded.You'll learn:The connection between anxious attachment and fear of infidelityHow past betrayal or early life experiences can amplify the fearWhy anxious-avoidant relationships can trigger cheating anxietyHow hypervigilance and reassurance-seeking can harm trustTools for building self-trust and relationship security

Thank you Bumble for sponsoring today's video ✨ One point of clarification on our Bumble segment today: On Bumble, all new members in the US are required to verify their phone number and photo. As part of our commitment to a safer, more trusted community, photo verification will soon be mandatory for everyone in the US.Hi my loves

Male attention, moving on, and the truth about fast love.MAGNETIC AFFIRMATIONS (25 MINUTE):https://youtu.be/diRQevBDhio?si=RnB1gMEk4SqYlhljMAGNETIC AFFIRMATIONS (1HR+): https://21-day-break-up-glow-up-challenge.teachable.com/p/making-mind-magnetic-affirmations-all-eyes-will-be-on-you-793498

I dive into the anxious attachment trap and why it keeps sabotaging relationships. I share the hidden beliefs and behaviors that fuel insecurity, and I break down practical strategies to move toward secure attachment.You'll learn how to interrupt the cycle, communicate clearly, and start building safety and stability in your relationships.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Understanding anxious attachment02:44 - Why it's not your fault03:57 - Common red flags and behaviors05:54 - Pre-breakup anxiety explained07:04 - Why you attract avoidant partners10:16 - Breaking the cycle of anxiety12:50 - How to communicate anxiety without pushing partners away16:45 - Expressing your needs clearly17:59 - Self-soothing strategies for anxious attachment20:29 - Building security in your relationship***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

ABOUT THE EPISODE:Trevor Hanson had accumulated a pretty good life - from living on a beach in Hawaii, to getting a great job at Tesla and engaged to be married. One year later, he was unemployed, his engagement and his jaw were both broken, and he was living alone in the Reno desert.Trevor suffered depression, nightmares, and suicidal thoughts before deciding to seek therapeutic help. He developed a real appreciation for the process of therapy – but he also had ideas about how it could be better.Today, Trevor holds a master's degree in marriage and family therapy and has helped thousands of people around the world, specializing in a topic critical for everyone, especially parents, to understand: attachment. Trevor has undergone training from some of the world's top attachment experts, and today he brings his expertise and unique concepts to the podcast.When I sat down with Trevor, we discussed the basic types of attachment styles, why our ‘style' can lead to difficulties in relationships with our kids, and why being part of a supportive community is a vital part of helping us move from anxious or avoidant attachment, to secure.EPISODE RESOURCES:The Secure Self ClubThis podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream CommunityLearn about The Stream, our private online community for momsFind us on Instagram hereFind us on YouTube hereDownload a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and AlcoholHopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.

Imagine craving the warmth of a campfire. You love the light, the comfort, the shared stories. You want to be close enough to feel its heat. But the moment someone says, "Here, tie this rope around your waist and anchor yourself to this log right next to the flames," you panic. The very thing that offered comfort suddenly feels like a trap. The fire hasn't changed; the constraint has.This is the daily reality for many with an avoidant attachment style when they hear the word "commitment." It's not the shared future, the inside jokes, or the quiet companionship they fear. In fact, they often deeply desire those things. What triggers their alarm system is the label itself. "Commitment" sounds like a contract, a loss of self, a final closing of doors. It translates in their mind to obligation, expectation, and the slow erosion of their most cherished value: autonomy.On this podcast, we're not going to villainize the avoidant or patronize the partner who wants security. We're going to climb inside this paradox. We'll explore why the same person who plans a vacation with you six months from now can freeze up when you call them your "boyfriend" or "girlfriend." It's a confusing cha-cha on the intimacy-autonomy seesaw, and understanding that this is cha-cha and not a waltz is the first step to changing the dance entirely.Support the show

Why do we keep repeating the same patterns in our relationships—no matter how much we want things to change? The answer often lies in our attachment style.In this episode of Linda's Corner: Inspiration for a Better Life, I'm joined by Jack Bohannan, a Relationship & Intimacy Coach and host of the Polarity Unscripted Podcast. Jack helps clients—most often women—heal attachment issues through embodied relationship role play using the Somatica Method. His work offers a path toward creating meaningful, secure, and lasting relationships.Together, we explore:What attachment theory is and why it matters in today's worldThe four main attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidantHow childhood experiences shape the way we connect (or disconnect) as adultsThe three essential components of healing: understanding, new experiences, and collaborationHow Somatica therapy offers a safe space to practice those components and rewire old patternsA powerful conflict repair method that ends fights and deepens connectionIf you've ever felt stuck in cycles of unfulfilling relationships or wondered why intimacy feels so hard, this conversation will bring clarity, hope, and tools for change.Learn more about Jack Bohannan: 

You are going to love today's episode! I'm joined by one of my incredible team members and dear friend, Dr. Amanda Priest. Amanda is not only a coach inside the Empowered.Secure.Love program—she also started out as one of my clients. Her journey from struggling with anxious attachment to now preparing for her secure marriage is absolutely inspiring.Inside this episode:Amanda's journey from podcast listener → client → coach inside the ESL programThe moment she realized she was the “common denominator” in her relationship patternsHow inner child healing, belief work, and attachment rewiring helped her attract her securely attached partnerWhat it really takes to build a secure relationship and prepare for marriageIf you've ever told yourself “Maybe I'll just be single forever” or felt hopeless about love, this episode will give you so much hope and encouragement.

Ever notice how your brain immediately pushes back when you try to change those old, deeply ingrained thoughts? It feels like proof you're doing it wrong—but actually, that resistance is exactly what should happen when you challenge those patterns. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into two powerful questions—one about creating new goal thoughts when nothing feels believable, and another about managing the anxiety that comes with anxious attachment (specifically when your partner doesn't text back at night).You'll learn why your brain's objections to new thoughts are a sign you're on the right track, not a reason to quit—and why you don't need to believe your goal thought just yet. I also break down how to work with thought ladders when everything feels wrong, and why anxious attachment isn't about what your partner is doing—it's about the story you're making up about it.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/413