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I explore the A to Z of Sex and everything in between. Learning your erotic A, B, C’s is fun! Topics covered include arousal to bisexuality to BDSM to monogamy to polyamory. I uncover taboos and provide outside the box solutions to intimate issues. All genders, orientations and desires are welcome. My guests join me to explore all aspects of sex and relationships. We debunk myths, look at trends and set some trends of our own. On the show I use a combination of special guests including experts and ordinary individuals with experience of the issues we discuss. Please call in to the Q and A segment or submit your questions in advance via email. The only stupid question is the question that is not asked, go ahead, ask whatever you like! I guarantee that at least a dozen other people have the same question you have and are too embarrassed to ask. Each week I give you some tips, tricks and teach skills that will help you to create the sex life you have always desired.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey


    • Dec 16, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
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    T is for Topping

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2021 58:18


    This week I talk with SasistriX all about tops and topping. We cover consent, self-care, the difference between topping and being a dominant, different roles in BDSM play, kink and dynamics.

    S is for Beyond Slut Shaming

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2021 54:25


    This week I talk with the amazing Qat Wanders about how we get beyond slut shaming. We will talk about all the ways we can reclaim the concept of slut and bust the shame around sexuality.

    Encore R is for Restraint

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2021 51:36


    please enjoy this replay. Dr Lori Beth will be back next week

    P is for Pompoir

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2021 54:48


    This week we are talking about pompoir - a method of pelvic floor exercises used to increase sexual response - for you and for your partner.

    O is for Opening Up

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2021 54:31


    This episode I am covering opening up - what to consider when opening up your relationship. We will talk about the different forms of non-monogamy and what to consider when moving from monogamy to non-monogamy.

    N is for No Shame

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2021 52:53


    This week we talk about getting rid of shame in relation to female sexuality - and look at casual sex and shame. We will look at common myths around having casual sex - and how women in particular can get past these myths to create sexual relationships that bring them joy.

    M is for Mixed (Monogamous/NonMonogamous) Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2021 53:21


    This week in my series of podcasts on relationship styles, I cover mixed relationships - relationships where one person identifies as monogamous and the other identifies as non-monogamous. These relationships are often difficult to manage but can be extremely rewarding when parties take the time to learn the skills they need to negotiate, communicate and manage their emotions.

    Encore L is for Love - Non-Monogamous

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2021 55:10


    I am joined by the author of The Fifth: A Polyamorous Love Story (MP Boisvert) and the translator (Monica Meneghetti) to talk about polyamory, non-monogamy, love and relationship styles. We will talk about the book and about the issues that arise with complex love relationships. The book was critically acclaimed in the original French and is getting lots of positive attention in the English translation.

    Encore K is for Kinky Questions & Answers

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2021 54:34


    Apologies for the replay, I am down with the flu In this episode, I answer questions about kink, kinky behaviour, bdsm and fetishes submitted by you! I am joined by Lorraine Ansell who will help me gather the questions and will no doubt have some opinions of her own.

    J is for Jealousy

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2021 54:23


    In this episode, I talk with Jonathan Kent about jealousy - form, function, utility. We will talk tips to managing jealousy and the difference between jealousy and envy.

    Encore I is for Impact Play

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2021 55:13


    Apologies for the replay, I am afraid I am still under the weather. I should be back next week for J. In this episode, I discuss all things impact play. I will cover the joys of various types of play, implements, safe places to impact, different ways to impact and share some tips and tricks that make integrating impact play into your sex life pleasurable even when you are not into BDSM.

    Encore H is for Sexual Health

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2021 55:22


    Apologies for the rebroadcast, I am under the weather and will return next week. In the meantime, please enjoy this show from March 2020. I'm meeting with Jason Panda, the CEO of B Condoms, an amazing black owned business focused on sexual health and well being in the black community.

    Encore: Encore: G is for Gender and other Non-Binary Things

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2021 57:16


    Dr Meg-John Barker joins me to discuss all things gender and non-binary. We will cover current cutting edge ideas about gender, why life can be and should be seen as non-binary, the basics of gender pronouns, understanding ambivalence and shades of grey. We will finish off the show with some tips and tricks to increase your ability to deal with the non-binary and live in the shades of grey or the rainbow of colour.

    Encore F is for Fucking

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2021 53:45


    In this episode we are talking all about penetrative sex. Fucking is still the favoured sexual activity for all sexualities. This might seem strange as most women do not reach orgasm during penetrative sex. Even so, being unable to engage in fucking is often very upsetting. We will talk about the barriers to penetrative sex and the joys.

    Encore E is for Estrogen

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2021 54:08


    This week we are talking all about the impact of oestrogen on sex and intimacy. We will talk about the changes that women go through as they enter and exit menopause and how these impact upon sex. We will talk pregnancy and sex and we will talk a bit about adolescence and sex.

    Encore D is for Dealing with Desire

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 26, 2021 54:16


    In this episode, we will talk about dealing with mismatched desire, lack of desire and what is perceived as too much desire. The cultural myths that many couples judge their sexual relationships by are flawed. Desire is impacted by all sorts of things and thinking about it in new ways can lead to far higher satisfaction in all areas of life.

    Encore: C is for Creativity

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 19, 2021 53:51


    This week I will talk with Tabitha Rayne, author of erotica and creator of the fabulous ruby glow sit on vibrator all about creativity. We will talk about how we can harness our creativity in relationships, around sex and intimacy but also how hot sex can give us additional creative energy, stimulate our creative juices.

    B is for Bucket List (Sexual and Relationships)

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2021 53:52


    Do you have a bucket list relating to sex and relationships? If not, why not? Are there things you fantasise about and want to try? What stops you? This week I will talk about creating and fulfilling your sex and relationship bucket list.

    A is for Anal Pleasure

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2021 53:35


    August is anal pleasure month so we are starting this series with a new episode on anal pleasure.

    Z is for Zaps, Zipless and Other Interesting Bits

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 29, 2021 54:23


    In the final episode of this season, I am answering questions that have come in over the the season, talking about electricity play (and zaps), zipless f**ks, and all the bits and pieces I may have glossed over or not answered.

    Encore Encore: Y is for Your Kink is Not My Kink but Your Kink is OK

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2021 54:45


    This week I am talking to people about the wide range of kinks that are out there and how important tolerance and a non-judgemental attitude is to taking part in a community that serves so many different people. We will talk about toxic shame and how that can be redressed.

    Encore X is for X Rated

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 15, 2021 52:40


    This week we will talk about pornography, erotica and all things designated x rated. We will talk obsessions, habits and healthy use of x rated material. We will cover sex education and what we believe needs to be included in a healthy comprehensive sex education programme.

    Encore W is for Wanker

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 8, 2021 51:36


    We hate receiving unsolicited pictures of genitals and inappropriate propositions on social media. Some f the approaches are so sad they are funny so I decided to have a show to talk all about what not to do when you are on a dating app, social media or any other time you are meeting someone and trying to interest them in a relationship with you. We cover pictures, messages and talk about the impact on people who have been previously traumatised or who have significant anxiety. We highlight what makes someone a wanker and encourage people to change their behaviour. Zayna Ratty joins me for this episode.

    V is for Voyeur

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 1, 2021 60:00


    Do you enjoy watching? Voyeurs enjoy watching sex - in person, on film, they just love the energy of watching. S inQ and I will discuss this topic and the many ways that voyeurs show up in sexual spaces, give some ideas as to how you can watch without intruding or causing yourself problems.

    U is for Underfunded Sex and Relationship Education

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2021 58:17


    Justin Hancock joins me this week to talk about how underfunding for sex and relationship education impact all of our knowledge about sex and relationships and as a result impact the quality of these relationships. We talk about consent, understanding of sexual development, sex education, and the issues facing parents and teachers.

    Encore T is for Toys and Tattoos

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2021 50:59


    In this episode, I will talk with the creators of the O-Wand about how they came up with the innovations and the value of using sex toys. For my listeners, you can get a 10% discount if you use code: DRLORI10 when purchasing at https://www.mrandmrstoy.com. In the second half, I will talk with Lantz Huston, tattoo artist and owner of Shoebox Tattoo in North Hollywood about the art and sensuality in tattooing and maybe even some history.

    S is for Senses, Sensuality and Sensory Deprivation

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2021 54:23


    This week I am all about the senses. I will cover all the senses, how to enjoy sensuality, and the where's and why for's of sensory deprivation.

    Encore: R is for Relationship Skills

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2021 60:00


    This episode we will discuss the relationship skills that are needed to maintain meaningful relationships that contain great sex.

    Q is for Quim

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2021 60:00


    This week I am joined by the incredible Fran Bushe to talk all about quims in honour of the 13 May release of her new book, My Broken Vagina. We will be busting myths, talking about the care and feeding of the quim. There will be lots of laughter alongside the serious issues raised.

    P is for Play (individual, couples and public & private parties)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2021 60:00


    This week I will talk about the value of all forms of adult play. I will cover intimate and sexual play, kink, fetish and BDSM, burlesque and sex positive entertainment. We will look at the different impacts of individual play, play with partners, private parties and public ones. We will talk about the value of virtual, hybrid and live events. Finally I will share some stories from the last virtual play party and the full line up for the 30th May Virtual Play Party and Birthday Party Fundraiser.

    O is for One Year On: Dancing the Edge to Surrender

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2021 60:00


    It's one year exactly since the publication of my erotic memoir - Dancing the Edge to Surrender: An Erotic Memoir of Trauma and Survival. I look back over the year and the impact of the progression that started with this memoir and a year on has resulted in two more books. I will likely do a reading from the book as well.

    N is for Nuance

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2021 60:00


    This episode we will be discussing nuance in relationships. I will be talking about the importance of nuanced discussions, negotiations and understanding when it comes to relationships, consent, sex, gender and sexuality. Very little is binary in life. Nuance embraces the non-binary nature of our human interactions and especially intimate ones.

    Encore: M is for Men, Sex & Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2021 54:31


    In this episode, I am answering questions written and called in by male identifying, non-binary & gender fluid people about sex and relationships and how to create the sex life that they desire. Questions run the gamut from how to recognise when a female identifying person is aroused to what to do if you are embarrassed about the bend in your penis.

    L is for Love - Non-Monogamous

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2021 55:10


    I am joined by the author of The Fifth: A Polyamorous Love Story (MP Boisvert) and the translator (Monica Meneghetti) to talk about polyamory, non-monogamy, love and relationship styles. We will talk about the book and about the issues that arise with complex love relationships. The book was critically acclaimed in the original French and is getting lots of positive attention in the English translation.

    L is for Love - Non-Monogamous

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2021 55:10


    I am joined by the author of The Fifth: A Polyamorous Love Story (MP Boisvert) and the translator (Monica Meneghetti) to talk about polyamory, non-monogamy, love and relationship styles. We will talk about the book and about the issues that arise with complex love relationships. The book was critically acclaimed in the original French and is getting lots of positive attention in the English translation.

    Encore: K is for Kinky Questions & Answers

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2021 54:34


    In this episode, I answer questions about kink, kinky behaviour, bdsm and fetishes submitted by you! I am joined by Lorraine Ansell who will help me gather the questions and will no doubt have some opinions of her own.

    Encore: J is for Jumblef3ck

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2021 51:42


    In this episode we are discussing old slang for sex, sex organs and various types of sexual activities and we are starting with the 1930's term jumblef3ck which is slang for orgy. Join us for an irreverent episode!

    I is for Impact Play

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2021 55:13


    In this episode, I discuss all things impact play. I will cover the joys of various types of play, implements, safe places to impact, different ways to impact and share some tips and tricks that make integrating impact play into your sex life pleasurable even when you are not into BDSM.

    I is for Impact Play

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2021 55:13


    In this episode, I discuss all things impact play. I will cover the joys of various types of play, implements, safe places to impact, different ways to impact and share some tips and tricks that make integrating impact play into your sex life pleasurable even when you are not into BDSM.

    H is for Head

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 25, 2021 54:45


    In this episode, I talk all about oral sex - giving head in all it's forms. I cover the history of some of the terms, and what makes magnificent oral for every kind of body part. Oral pleasure is not just foreplay. Kissing is some of the best oral sex there is and talking dirty... well that can be immensely exciting.

    Encore: G is for Gender and other Non-Binary Things

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2021 57:16


    Dr Meg-John Barker joins me to discuss all things gender and non-binary. We will cover current cutting edge ideas about gender, why life can be and should be seen as non-binary, the basics of gender pronouns, understanding ambivalence and shades of grey. We will finish off the show with some tips and tricks to increase your ability to deal with the non-binary and live in the shades of grey or the rainbow of colour.

    F is For Polyamorous Families

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 11, 2021 57:49


    This episode we talk all about families that are consensually non-monogamous, the impact on children, the different ways these families are constructed, the benefits for everyone and combat some of the myths about this alternative way of living.

    Encore: E is for Erotic

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 4, 2021 57:45


    This week on the A to Z of Sex, E is for Erotic. We will talk about everything erotic and how to become more erotic. Socrates felt that eroticism was one of the four essential qualities needed for a life worth living. Eroticism was once considered a major way of learning about the world around us. It is only in modern times that eroticism seems to be downgraded and equated with all the negative forms (but not the positive forms) of pornography. Mistress Lucille is joining Dr Lori Beth Bisbey to talk about all aspects of the erotic. Dr Lori Beth will provide some tips to new patterns, new ways to approach the world that will increase your level of eroticism.

    D is for Dealing with Desire

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2021 54:16


    In this episode, we will talk about dealing with mismatched desire, lack of desire and what is perceived as too much desire. The cultural myths that many couples judge their sexual relationships by are flawed. Desire is impacted by all sorts of things and thinking about it in new ways can lead to far higher satisfaction in all areas of life.

    D is for Dealing with Desire

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2021 54:16


    In this episode, we will talk about dealing with mismatched desire, lack of desire and what is perceived as too much desire. The cultural myths that many couples judge their sexual relationships by are flawed. Desire is impacted by all sorts of things and thinking about it in new ways can lead to far higher satisfaction in all areas of life.

    C is for Censorship with Viola (Mama Vi) Johnson

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 18, 2021 50:02


    This week we are talking censorship as terms of service for all social media become more and more narrow. I am talking with Viola Johnson about what the impact of this type of censorship is and where it comes from. We talk about the patriarchy. We talk about the value of openly available sex and relationship education. We talk about the importance of safe spaces to talk about sex and learn about sex. If this resonates with you, please donate to the crowdfunder http://atozofsex.co/crowdfund

    B is for Butch

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 11, 2021 38:50


    A is for A Leather House

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2021 42:48


    We start our new series with an episode that defines what a leather house is and why we choose to live these life choices. I am joined by DK Green and Mr and Mrs Blue (of the House of Blue) and we combine all our experience to speak to the topic of leather and authority based relationships.

    Z is for Zoom Relationships, Exhaustion, Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 28, 2021 40:11


    This episode I share views and laughs with the co-hosts of GoodSex/BadSex podcast - Miranda Kane and Bibi Lynch about relationships and Zoom during COVID and beyond. We talk about skin hunger and sex parties and what we miss and what we love. What are you missing?

    Encore: Y is for Your Kink is Not My Kink but Your Kink is OK

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2021 54:45


    This week I am talking to people about the wide range of kinks that are out there and how important tolerance and a non-judgemental attitude is to taking part in a community that serves so many different people. We will talk about toxic shame and how that can be redressed.

    X is for SeX and the Internet/Social Media

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 14, 2021 54:43


    This episode I am joined by Shakir Rashaan to talk about sex and the internet. We are going to talk all about pornography, sex education and censorship and how social media treats all aspects of sex from the use of songs like WAP to an educator actually teaching what that means in real life to thirst traps, sex workers, and pornography.

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