The Love Lab (Uncensored)

In this episode, we are thrilled to welcome Dr Rosalyn Dischiavo—author, speaker, and founder of the Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment. Dr. Roz shares her innovative approach of applying stepfamily theory to polyamorous systems in transition, helping us understand the parallels between blended families and polycules. Together, we explore the complexities of polyamorous systems, the challenges of ongoing change, and what helps these relationships stabilize over time. Dr Rosalyn Dischiavo is the founder of the Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment (ISEE) and past president of AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists).

Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema, AASECT Certified Sex Therapists, explore the lasting impacts of purity culture, their personal journeys, and how they help clients reclaim sexual health and desire after religious trauma. Tune in for insights on navigating faith transitions, healing from shame, and embracing a sex-positive future.   Connect with Jeremiah and Julia: Substack: Relationship 101 Coaching Services: Let's Heal Together Podcast: Sexvangelicals Instagram: @sexvangelicals

In this episode, Rebecca and Kate dive into the nuanced world of ADHD and its impact on relationships. Drawing from both professional expertise and personal experience, they explore the complexities ADHD brings to partnerships, from executive functioning challenges to the emotional landscape shaped by shame, rejection sensitivity, and misunderstood behaviors. This conversation offers insights into navigating ADHD within relationships with compassion, understanding, and practical strategies.

Dr. Isabelle Morley, clinical psychologist and author of They're Not Gaslighting You In this episode, Dr. Morley breaks down the misuse of therapy terms like gaslighting, narcissist, and trauma bonding. She explains what these words actually mean, why they are often misapplied, and how therapy speak can damage relationships. We also explore the difference between bad behavior and true emotional abuse, the impact of labeling in relationships, and why not every red flag means you should walk away. Get the Book: https://a.co/d/16SEwPh Follow Dr. Morley: @drisabellemorley If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend!

In this episode of the Love Lab Podcast, Kate and Rebecca welcome Deb Schachter and Whitney Otto, co-authors of the new book, Body Image Inside Out. With over 30 years of combined expertise in body image, eating disorder recovery, and coaching, Deb and Whitney share their transformative insights on breaking through the "glass ceiling" of body image healing. The conversation dives deep into how body image shapes our relationship with ourselves and others, the ways in which societal pressures and personal histories inform our perceptions, and how to move beyond acceptance to true self-connection. They also explore the intersection of body image and sexuality, revealing how deeply our ability to experience pleasure and intimacy ties into how we feel about our bodies. Resources https://debschachterlicsw.com/book/ https://whitneyottocoaching.com/book 

Exploring the Wheel of Consent In this episode, Kate and Rebecca dive into the transformative Wheel of Consent framework developed by Dr. Betty Martin. They break down the traditional linear view of consent and introduce listeners to a multidimensional, dynamic model that explores the nuanced interplay of giving, receiving, doing, and being done to. Resources Mentioned: - Dr. Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/downloads - The Three-Minute Game: A practical exercise to explore consent with your partner. How to play the 3-Minute Game www.lovelabuncensored.com

Rebecca and Kate welcome Sarah Harmon, founder of The School of Mom (Mothering Ourselves Mindfully), for a heartfelt discussion on navigating grief, ambiguous loss, and family dynamics—especially during the holidays. Sarah shares her personal journey of healing through mindfulness, self-compassion, and boundary-setting, offering practical insights for tending to our own needs in the face of challenging relationships. She also introduces her programs, Untethered and Flourish, which support women in finding balance and emotional resilience. Discover how to mother yourself mindfully and find peace in even the most difficult moments. Learn more at theschoolofmom.com.

In this episode, Kate and Rebecca dive into the often-awkward yet essential topic of talking to kids about sex. With honesty, warmth, and humor, they explore practical ways to approach these conversations while acknowledging the challenges many parents face. Whether you're navigating curiosity from a young child or anticipating the complexities of adolescence, this episode provides guidance on fostering open communication and building your child's understanding of consent, boundaries, and body autonomy. Resources: It's not the stork by Robbie Harris

In this episode, Rebecca and Kate welcome the incredible Dr. Holly Richmond, licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapist, and author of Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life. Dr. Holly shares her groundbreaking approach to healing from sexual trauma through the integration of somatic psychology, sex positivity, and trauma therapy. Together, they explore what it means to move beyond surviving to thriving, the importance of rediscovering one's "yes" and "no," and how partners can best support survivors on their journey toward deeper connection and pleasure. Learn more about Dr. Holly's work: IG @drhollyrichmond Website: https://drhollyrichmond.com/ Resources & Links Mentioned: Dr. Holly Richmond's book: Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life Emily Nagoski's Come Together Esther Perel's work on eroticism and connection Justin Lehmiller's Tell Me What You Want (on fantasy)

In this episode, Rebecca and Kate dive deep into the complex and emotionally charged topic of affair recovery in relationships. From the initial shock and trauma of discovery to the challenging path of healing and rebuilding trust, they walk listeners through the nuanced stages of affair recovery. This conversation explores how couples can navigate the intense emotions of betrayal, the societal and personal pressures surrounding infidelity, and how to rebuild or rebirth a relationship. Whether you're struggling with trust, shame, or wondering about the future of your relationship, this episode provides insights and actionable steps toward healing and growth.

In this episode, Dr. Alex DeGrado joins Kate and Rebecca to explore the transformative impact of pelvic floor physical therapy. As founder of the Boston Pelvic Physical Therapy Practice, Dr. DeGrado treats a range of issues from pregnancy and menopause to prostate cancer and sexual dysfunction. They discuss the importance of pelvic health for all genders, how trauma and tension impact wellness, and why it's never too late to seek help. Dr. DeGrado's holistic approach bridges physical therapy, mental health, and empowerment, emphasizing that real healing is a full-body, heart-centered journey.

In this episode, Kate Graham and Rebecca Eudy interview Julia Karol, host of the Stork'd podcast. Julia shares her experience of becoming a solo parent by choice, her journey through IVF, and how this decision has affected her relationships and personal growth. They discuss the practical and emotional challenges of solo parenthood, navigating the complexities of IVF, and the support systems that can emerge for single parents. Learn more about Julia's work: https://www.storkdpodcast.com/ https://juliakarol.substack.com/      

In this episode, Rebecca and Kate dive into the complex world of sexual fantasy, asking the question, "Is fantasy cheating?" They explore the nature of fantasy as a normal and private aspect of human experience, and its role in sparking desire and enhancing sexual connection. The discussion touches on how fantasies can sometimes feel like a betrayal to a partner but also serve as powerful tools for intimacy when shared openly. Kate highlights how fantasy can deepen the sexual experience by bringing someone more into the present moment, while Rebecca emphasizes the importance of respecting the sovereignty of each person's mind. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own fantasies, consider relationships agreements regarding fantasy exploration, and understand the power of imagination in sexual expression.

Rebecca and Kate dive into the topic of neurodiversity, sex, and relationships. Kate, who is both autistic and ADHD, shares her experiences navigating relationships, sensory overload, and social interaction challenges. They explore how neurodiverse individuals often mask their traits, making it hard to separate internal struggles from outward appearances. The conversation addresses the complexities of communication, sensory sensitivities, and misunderstandings in intimacy, while also highlighting the unique strengths neurodivergent individuals bring to relationships.

In this episode, Kate and Rebecca dive into a sex-positive discussion on how pornography can be a tool for enhancing intimacy and sparking excitement in relationships. They explore the idea that sharing fantasies—whether through porn, erotica, or simple conversations—can help couples connect on a deeper level, creating space for vulnerability and open communication. Kate and Rebecca emphasize that it's not about whether a couple watches porn together or not; it's about finding ways to understand each other's desires, share those interests, and use them to strengthen their bond. They also discuss the importance of recognizing individual boundaries, starting small, and communicating openly about what feels comfortable in each partner's body. By exploring various types of porn—feminist, ethical, audio, or even written—partners can find the medium that feels right for them, without judgment or pressure. Kate and Rebecca provide insights on how couples can begin these conversations and slowly integrate fantasy into their relationship, offering practical steps for building a more vibrant and connected sex life.

In this episode, Rebecca and Kate dive into the topic of the "orgasm gap," a well-documented phenomenon where men experience more orgasms in heterosexual encounters than women. They discuss a recent New York Times article and the underlying research that highlights this issue, particularly in straight, single individuals.  The conversation explores the physiological and sociocultural factors contributing to the orgasm gap. It emphasizes the importance of shifting from a goal-oriented approach to sex to one that prioritizes pleasure. They also touch on how sexual orientation and relationship status can impact orgasm rates and why more inclusive research is needed. Tune in to hear their thoughts on how to create more satisfying sexual experiences and challenge limiting societal scripts. Gesselman, A. N., Bennett-Brown, M., Dubé, S., Kaufman, E. M., Campbell, J. T., & Garcia, J. R. (2024). The lifelong orgasm gap: Exploring age's impact on orgasm rates. Sexual Medicine, 12(3), qfae042. https://doi.org/10.1093/smoa/qfae042 Mahar, E. A., Mintz, L. B., & Akers, B. M. (2020). Orgasm equality: Scientific findings and societal implications. Current Sexual Health Reports, 12(4), 183-193. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11930-020-00237-9 IG @lovelab_podcast www.lovelabuncensored.com This podcast explores themes related to sex, parenting, relationships, and mental health. Content may include candid discussions, personal experiences, and expert insights. While we aim to provide valuable and engaging information, please be aware of mature and explicit content. Listener discretion is advised.    This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy or medical advice. For any medical or mental health concerns, please consult with a licensed healthcare provider or therapist.

In this very first episode, recorded before Kate and Rebecca officially launched Love Lab (Uncensored), Kate interviews Rebecca about her work on relationships, sex, and parenting. Rebecca discusses the happiness tax of having children, how to navigate change in the family system when a new baby arrives, what makes couples more vulnerable when expecting, what to do when the baby arrives and when to seek couples counseling.   Please enjoy this bonus episode on Parenting, Sex and Relationships!   IG @lovelab_podcast www.lovelabuncensored.com This podcast explores themes related to sex, parenting, relationships, and mental health. Content may include candid discussions, personal experiences, and expert insights. While we aim to provide valuable and engaging information, please be aware of mature and explicit content. Listener discretion is advised.    This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy or medical advice. For any medical or mental health concerns, please consult with a licensed healthcare provider or therapist.

In this episode of Love Lab Uncensored, the concept of the negative sex cycle and its impact on relationships is explored. Negative emotional patterns can extend into sexual intimacy, often causing one partner to pursue and the other to withdraw. The discussion emphasizes understanding roles and attachment issues behind these cycles, highlighting vulnerability and clear communication as keys to creating connection without pressure. Listeners will learn to recognize their relational dynamics and shift from disconnection to deeper emotional and sexual intimacy. The episode offers practical advice and resources for couples seeking to transform negative patterns and foster a healthier, more connected relationship. Tune in to learn more about breaking free from the negative sex cycle and cultivating a more fulfilling partnership. IG @lovelab_podcast  www.lovelabuncensored.com This podcast explores themes related to sex, parenting, relationships, and mental health. Content may include candid discussions, personal experiences, and expert insights. While we aim to provide valuable and engaging information, please be aware of mature and explicit content. Listener discretion is advised. This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy or medical advice. For any medical or mental health concerns, please consult with a licensed healthcare provider or therapist.

This episode explores the connection between food restriction, over-exercising, and suppressed sexual desire. The hosts discuss how eating disorders and control issues can dampen one's capacity for pleasure and stress the importance of addressing developmental stages for healing. The significance of self-exploration and masturbation in fostering healthy sexual relationships is highlighted, noting how societal norms often silence women's desires. Therapy is presented as a means to help individuals gradually increase their comfort with vulnerability and pleasure, moving from control and restriction to flexibility and choice. Listeners are encouraged to get curious about their own patterns of restriction and desire, taking small steps towards greater self-awareness and integration. The episode underscores that understanding and addressing these patterns can enhance both self-relationships and partnered relationships, leading to a fuller experience of desire and pleasure. IG @lovelab_podcast www.lovelabuncensored.com This podcast explores themes related to sex, parenting, relationships, and mental health. Content may include candid discussions, personal experiences, and expert insights. While we aim to provide valuable and engaging information, please be aware of mature and explicit content. Listener discretion is advised. This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy or medical advice. For any medical or mental health concerns, please consult with a licensed healthcare provider or therapist.

In this episode Rebecca and Kate dive into the world of female hormones and how they impact physical health, mental well-being, and sex drive during three major life stages: pregnancy, postpartum, and menopause. They break down the hormonal changes that occur during these times and how they affect everything from mood and energy levels to sexual health. We'll explore the challenges women face during pregnancy, the postpartum period, and the transition into menopause. Through heartfelt discussions and expert insights, Rebecca and Kate aim to provide valuable information and support for women navigating these significant life phases. Whether you're experiencing these changes yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers a compassionate and informative look at the complex world of female hormones and health. @lovelab_podcast www.lovelabuncensored.com This podcast explores themes related to sex, parenting, relationships, and mental health. Content may include candid discussions, personal experiences, and expert insights. While we aim to provide valuable and engaging information, please be aware of mature and explicit content. Listener discretion is advised. This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy or medical advice. For any medical or mental health concerns, please consult with a licensed healthcare provider or therapist.

In this episode Rebecca and Kate dive deep into the often unspoken world of female sexuality and pleasure. They uncover the profound silence that surrounds these crucial aspects of women's lives, exploring the importance of the clitoris and its role in pleasure and discuss the complexities of female desire and offer insights into how women can access their erotic selves despite societal expectations and pressures.  Tune in to challenge the status quo, learn about the intricacies of female pleasure, and discover ways to reclaim your erotic self in a world that often demands conformity. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand and celebrate the full spectrum of female sexuality. @lovelab_podcast This podcast explores themes related to sex, parenting, relationships, and mental health. Content may include candid discussions, personal experiences, and expert insights. While we aim to provide valuable and engaging information, please be aware of mature and explicit content. Listener discretion is advised. This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy or medical advice. For any medical or mental health concerns, please consult with a licensed healthcare provider or therapist.

In this episode, Kate and Rebecca explore key aspects of desire and intimacy in relationships. They discuss desire discrepancy, differences between men's and women's desire, and the importance of willingness in the sexual response cycle. They also delve into the distinction between the erotic self and the social self, and examine the impact of implicit all-or-nothing consent on touch in the relationship. Join Kate and Rebecca for a conversation about navigating the complexities of sexual desire in relationships. @lovelab_podcast This podcast explores themes related to sex, parenting, relationships, and mental health. Content may include candid discussions, personal experiences, and expert insights. While we aim to provide valuable and engaging information, please be aware of mature and explicit content. Listener discretion is advised. This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy or medical advice. For any medical or mental health concerns, please consult with a licensed healthcare provider or therapist.

During this introductory episode you will meet your hosts, Rebecca Eudy and Kate Graham. Rebecca is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified AASECT Sex Therapist. Kate is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Sex Therapist and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. Rebecca and Kate talk about their approach to sex and relationships. Plus, they'll let you in on a secret: while they know heaps about sex and relationships, they're still learning too.  Join Rebecca and Kate for a fun, candid, and enlightening conversation as they kick off their podcast journey together! @lovelab_podcast This podcast explores themes related to sex, parenting, relationships, and mental health. Content may include candid discussions, personal experiences, and expert insights. While we aim to provide valuable and engaging information, please be aware of the following: Mature Content: Some episodes may contain explicit language and detailed discussions about sexual topics that may not be suitable for all audiences. Mental Health Topics: Episodes may address sensitive mental health issues, including anxiety, depression, and trauma. Listener discretion is advised. Educational Intent: Our content is intended for educational and entertainment purposes and is not a substitute for professional therapy or medical advice. This podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy or medical advice. For any medical or mental health concerns, please consult with a licensed healthcare provider or therapist.