You've Got Mail

For years, I used to dread Valentine's Day. I told myself it was superficial, overhyped, and proof that love shouldn't be reduced to one day. But looking back, I don't think I hated the holiday — I think I hated how performative love felt in my early twenties. In this episode, I'm talking about performative romance, social media relationships, and the pressure to express love in ways that look impressive instead of feeling honest. When you're in your early twenties and still learning how to trust yourself, it's easy to confuse what love looks like with what love actually feels like. We'll explore: Why love can feel performative in your 20s The pressure to “prove” your relationship publicly How social media shapes our expectations of romance Why Valentine's Day isn't the problem — our understanding of love might be Learning to trust your own definition of love This episode is about emotional maturity, self-trust, and redefining love beyond grand gestures, aesthetics, and expectations. If you've ever questioned whether you genuinely feel something — or just feel like you should — this conversation is for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of You've Got Mail, we're unpacking the pressure of success in your twenties — from promotions and salary expectations to comparison, productivity guilt, and the fear of falling behind. When we were younger, success felt simple: work hard, get the result. But adulthood doesn't work like that. And when your self-worth is tied to outcomes you can't fully control, it's exhausting. If you've been feeling behind, not good enough, or quietly anxious about your career path, this conversation will feel like a deep exhale. We're talking about ambition, external validation, imposter syndrome, and what it really means to define success on your own terms — instead of chasing someone else's timeline. Because maybe success isn't about being ahead. Maybe it's about choosing what's actually worth caring about. Love, Bella Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're working hard. You're doing “all the right things.” So why does success still feel slightly out of reach? In this episode of *You've Got Mail*, we're unpacking the pressure of success in your twenties — from promotions and salary expectations to comparison, productivity guilt, and the fear of falling behind. When we were younger, success felt simple: work hard, get the result. But adulthood doesn't work like that. And when your self-worth is tied to outcomes you can't fully control, it's exhausting. If you've been feeling behind, not good enough, or quietly anxious about your career path, this conversation will feel like a deep exhale. We're talking about ambition, external validation, imposter syndrome, and what it really means to define success on your own terms — instead of chasing someone else's timeline. Because maybe success isn't about being ahead. Maybe it's about choosing what's actually worth caring about. Let's rethink it together.

Returning to London always makes me think of the 22-year-old version of me who moved there with no real plan, no clear sense of who she was, and no idea how life in her twenties was supposed to look. She built a life for herself from scratch — navigating uncertainty, independence, and self growth all on her own. Every time I revisit, I'm reminded of how brave I was back then. How doing the thing that scares you — even when it costs you comfort, certainty, or familiarity — is often the most important step in growing into who you're meant to be. This chapter of my life taught me that trusting yourself, especially in your twenties, can change everything. Big sister advice for anyone feeling lost right now: if it scares you, it might just be worth doing

After watching Hamnet, I couldn't stop thinking about grief — not as something isolating, but as one of the most deeply shared human experiences we have. In this episode, I talk about how grief shows up in quiet, unexpected ways, how loss connects us more than it separates us, and why stories like Hamnet can make us feel less alone in our pain. We explore the idea that grief is love with nowhere to go, the strange comfort of knowing others have felt this too, and what it means to sit with sadness rather than rush to heal it. This is a gentle conversation about loss, love, and being human and it's for for anyone who is grieving, has grieved, or loves someone who is. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi! You've got mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing friendships, how they change, and how normal this is! make sure you're following me on IG and tiktok @mailfrombella Love, Bella

Hi, You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing why your self talk matters!! how it impact every part of what you do! Let me know what you think in the comments, and if you have any self-talk tips :) Follw me on instagram and TikTik @mailfrombella Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2026 is going to be our year... I can just feelt it!! so I hope you enjoy this podcast episode where we lay out the goals for our 2026. Make sure you're following me on IG and on TT @mailfrombella Love, Bella Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi! You've got mail from mw, bella, and this week we are reflecting on what 2025 taught me so that when we set our 2026 goals next week everything feels a litttttle more in context. Make sure you're following me on social media @mailfrombella and I can't wait to chat next week! Thanks for llistening :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing the point in the year things weren't going great to show you how quick your luck really can change. Make sure you're following me on insta and on tiktok @mailfrombella. Love, Bella

Hi! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing the final part in this mini series: why loving yourself regardless of your achievements was the key to me becoming happier. Make sure you're following me on Instagram and TikTok @mailfrombella Love, Bella

Hi! You've got mail from me, Bella, and this week we are talking about how I built a softer life that I don't need a holiday from. Make sure you're following me on socials @mailfrombella, and I can't wait to catch up again next week

Hi! You've got mail from me, bella, and this week we are chatting about success, ambition, and feeling behind in your twenties. Make sure you're following me on social media @mailfrombella

Hi! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing how to deal with a groundhog day moment because trying the squeeze the most amount of joy out of every moment has cvhanged everything for me

Hi! You've got mail from me, Bella, and this week we are dicussion hoe to deal with other people opinions and why i think caring about the *right* people's opinions isn't the worst thing in the entire world

Hi! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this wee we are discussing how you can deal with the winter blues. Let me know ur top tips in the comments! Love, Bella

Hi! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussion how you can manifest you dream life. I first learnt about manifestartion when I was 20 and I've learnt a LOT over the passt five years (and want to save you some lessons along the way!) Make surre you leave a review, press follow and share thi episode with someone you love so they can join our chat!! YOu can also follow me on socials @mailfrombella Love, Bella

Hi! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing comparison and why it really is one of the worst things for us! Thank you for listening, make sure you're following me @mailfrombella and pls leave a review if you can! Love, Bella

Hi! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing why having grit is so so SO important. The person Mel Robins interviewed about grit was Angela Duckworth (a great episode pls go and listen!) Thank you for listening, please make sure you subscribe and follow me on socials @mailfrombella. Love, Bella

clue: you never really lost it in the first place :) Hi! You've got mail from me, bella, and this we we are discussing finding your spark again after you feel like its been gone for far too long. Make sure you're following me on insta and on tiktok @mailfrombella and I can't wait to chat to you again next sunday! Have the best week

HI! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing university. The pressure, the expectation and the reality of an experience that is pretty defining in our early twenties! Make sure you're following me on Ig and on TT @⁠mailfrombella⁠. Can't wait to chat next week xx Love, Bella Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi! You've got mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing finding your purpose as it's something i spend faaaaar too long thinking about. Make sure you're following me on socials (⁠linked here⁠) or search mailfrombella on Instagram, TikTok and YouTube. Thank you for listening ❤️ Love, Bella

Hi!! You've Got Mail form me, Bella, and this week we are discussing my return to the 9-5 after 7 months away.... Make sure you're following me on social media @mailfrombella Thank you for listening! Love Bella

Hi! You've got mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing friendship, girlhood, sisterhood, and how all of these things have ultimately allowed me to let go of regret and live a more forgiving life (I promise the link for these makes sense in the episode). In this episode we also touch on regret, and how this feeling shows that you have grown. Thank you for listening ❤️ Love Bella

Hi!! You've got mail from me, Bella, and this week we discuss why leaning into change protects your energy, allowing you to build a life you really want. I am so so sorry for the radio silence... turns out the wifi in every place i visited could not hack uploading such a big file size

You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we discuss why following ur dreams is not always easy but is always the right thing to do. Make sure you are following me on insta and tiktok @mailfrombella Love Bella

Hi! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing my early twenties and everything they have taught me. Thank you for listening to this week's podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe! Follow me on socials by following this link: https://linktr.ee/youvegotmail Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVENT INFO: I am having an event in London on the 16th Aug and I would LOVE to see you!! Follow this link to access the tickets: https://lu.ma/04y3zmqy Hey you! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week I'm probably being a little too honest and sharing how recieving my A-Level results went. As someone who had validatedbtheir entire existance on thair achievments, not getting into my univeristy course because of my grades was a low point. But, in this episode I explain why it was actually one of the bet thngs to happen to me. Love Bella ❤️ Follow me on socials @mailfrombella Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey!! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing why your perspective matters and how you can make the most out of every moment (but not in a toxic positivity way!!) Follow me on insta and on tiktok @mailfrombella Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we are discussing creativity, self-expression and why it is so important as a stepping stone to finding who you are and working out who you want to be! Thank you for listening, it means the world

Hi you! This week you've got mail from me, Bella, and we are discussing everything I have learnt about being in a relationship in my early twenties as my boyfriend and I celebrate our five year anniversary! Love, Bella

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Hey you! Moving in with your partner is such a big decision, so here I am discussing all of this... It's weird, finally coming to this chapter of my life because I don't feel old enough, but I guess here we are... Love Bella

Hi! You've Got Mail from me, Bella, and this week we discuss burnout and the small actions you can take to make sure burnout doesn't become your new normal. Let me know what you think about this episode in the comments! Love, Bella Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices