Podcast appearances and mentions of laura gauld

Our podcast today will explain the answers to the above questions, as we talk with Laura Gauld, Head of School and President of the Hyde School Organization. Hyde School’s Inner Leadership Program, where the journey of your unique potential begins, is the promise to all students who graduate from the school. There are five deliverables within this promise: Self awareness: what are my strengths? What is my vision? What are my obstacles? Public speaking confidence The importance of taking on challenges outside one’s comfort zone Meaningful relationships: understanding what they are and how to create them The family context: understanding the dynamics and influence of my family Listen to this podcast and hear how these deliverables are accomplished at Hyde School.  

"The greatest impact on children are the unlived lives of adults.”  Carl Jung In our last five parenting mantras, Laura Gauld, co-author of the book, The Biggest Job We’ll Ever Have, mentions this quote.  “We need the help of others to get to our own greatness as parents.” The mantras in this podcast are about living the kind of life as a parent that will inspire our children; that will model character for them; and that will show our kids our spirit. The final five mantras are: Others see you as you cannot see yourself. Embrace curiosity and learn something new each day. IPSES: Intellectual, Physical, Spiritual, Emotional, Social No one taps into their greatness without the help of others. Inspiration: Job # 1

This is a great way to help ourselves, as parents, keep our kids from manipulating us says author, Laura Gauld.  The mantras in today’s podcast are: View each day as an opportunity for growth Do the unexpected (and keep your child off guard.) Let go of perfection. Take hold of excellence Be a good friend and make new friends.

We learn in today’s podcast with speaker and author, Laura Gauld, that the word “accept” is an important part of parenting.  Laura talks about accepting what our own parents gave us, taking a look at how we listen, and actually reaching out and seeking honesty about how others see us.  Today’s mantras are: Accept what your own parents gave you, what they tried to give you and what they were unable to give you. Get up every day and model character in the little moments. Give others permission to be totally honest with you. Do something each day for your pure joy. Share successes and failures with your child.

“Our conscience is the compass of our destiny.”   - Laura Gauld So how do we teach conscience to our kids? Advice on that, and the last five mantras of Parenting Fundamental # 4 are discussed in today’s podcast with Laura. Let your conscience be your guide. See the small moments of inspiration. The darkest times bring about the deepest lessons. Do not compare yourself or your child to others. Trust in a higher power. Discover more advice from the parenting village at www.biggestjob.com.

“Parenting is messy,” says Laura Gauld. When I think about this, it’s really true! Parenting is messy. Just accepting this might make the job a little easier, don’t you think? We might not get so caught up in how we look as a parent or how we’re doing at the job. It’s also important to remember that humor and humility are two very important traits in parenting. In this podcast, Laura shares with us the following mantras from Fundamental #4 (Have faith in your child’s unique potential and the larger forces at work): Take hold and let go. Humility to ask for and accept help. You may not always see the teacher in your child’s life. “Turn that attitude into gratitude.” Let go of yesterday and tomorrow.

“You are in this game for the long haul!” I know you’ve heard this said before, or in different ways, but hang on to this mantra, as it’s so important. Hang on, too, to the vision you have for your child. Sometimes they may say they don’t have a vision for themselves, or they don’t care, but they do; “every child wants to be somebody.” Today’s mantras are important (aren’t they all?) – but they can escape our memories and our practice of parenting when we get caught up in so much “every day stuff.”  So listen carefully, listen twice, even, and share this and all our podcasts with your friends. (We can add your friends to our list so they receive the notices directly.) Included in today’s podcast are the following mantras: Set High expectations and let go of the outcome. (Parenting Priority 4) Hold on to both the reality and vision you have for your child. Believe in yourself and the best of your child. Let go of all the “what ifs” and believe that your child is capable of figuring it out. You are in this game for the long haul.

Parenting Fundamental 4: Have faith in your child’s unique potential and the larger forces at work. This 13th podcast with Laura Gauld is a special one. (Not that they aren’t all great!) This fourth fundamental is a wonderful tool to help us as parents let go when things go off track – getting out of the way so our kids can experience some short-term struggles for long-term gain - learning something about themselves, acquiring some grit and some courage. Laura also talks about labels we put on our kids and the importance of creating a partnership based on trust with your child’s teachers and coaches. Today’s mantras are: Allow obstacles to become opportunities Resist labels of any kind Give others permission to challenge your child Who you are is more important than what you can do. "Your children are not your children."

Do you remember the power of a “look” from your parents when you were growing up? That’s the first mantra discussed on this podcast with Laura Gauld, as we wrap up parenting fundamental #3 on building family traditions.  How did we know what our parents meant when they gave us the “look”, and how can we get back to that in parenting today? Full of great tips, this conversation covers Mantras 56-60: Remember the power of a “look” Always call the other parents What you pay attention to is what you reinforce Go to your children’s physical location Keep one foot in front of the other.

"Focus on family spirit and not family image." What an important and thought-provoking mantra, especially in a world where image seems to be everything.  But how do we do this?  “It’s not easy,” says Laura Gauld; “and it’s usually a struggle or challenge in the family that gets us to the point of understanding that each family does have a family spirit, and that family spirit is more important than our family image.” The mantras in this podcast are: Plan an activity with each child. Value and expect manners Teach a firm handshake and eye contact. Teach a family motto and live it. Focus on family spirit and not family image.

“If you want to go fast in your life, go alone; if you want to go far, go together.”  African Proverb “Life is not just about taking care of ourselves.”  Laura Gauld Both of the above quotes are covered in this podcast, as well as many other meaningful tips from mantras 46 – 50 under Parenting Fundamental # 3: Build Family Traditions: Light candles at the dinner table (or at breakfast or lunch!) Talk to your child when you are in the car (and listen to them also.) Family jobs (Are you teaching your child how to work?) Reach out and give back as a family (Kids will remember this family experience.) Bring rigor, synergy and conscience into the home. (What does this really mean?)

"The big picture of raising children is done with the actions, routines and practices that make up lifetime memories, habits and character," says Laura Gauld, author and head of Hyde School. "It is never too late to start a family tradition and often the value of these actions is seen looking back at one’s upbringing." In this podcast, she covers the first 5 mantras for Parenting Fundamental #3 -  Build Family Traditions (#41-45): Make attitude everything Center the family on honesty Write letters Family meeting Mandatory fun

One of the mantras Laura Gauld discusses with us in today’s podcast is “don’t lie, don’t quit.”  This is a great lesson for kids and adults and a very simple thing to remember.  If I’m off track in my life, I won’t lie about it and I won’t give up. I can imagine our kids remembering this mantra when they are adults if they hear it often enough from us, and probably repeating it to their kids. (See below for all the mantras in today’s podcast.) There are other great tidbits and lots of helpful information in this conversation, as we wrap up the lessons for our second parenting fundamental: Raise children to be accountable to life.  Mantras 36-40: “Is this my issue?” “Look for the positive but do not over gush.” “If you think they are doing a little, they are doing a lot.” “Don’t lie, don’t quit.” “Show up early and stay late.”

Can you laugh at yourself during some tough parenting moments? Sounds like an oxymoron, doesn’t it? It is possible, says Laura Gauld in our 7th podcast interview in which she shares with us more wisdom from Parenting Fundamental #2: Raise children to be accountable to life. Laura also shares with us the necessity of teaching our children to delay gratification, and the importance of teaching them how to work.  Mantras 31-35: Never negotiate with a terrorist attitude Delay gratification Look for humor and laughter Principles over rules Teach your child to work.

This sounds like a parenting conundrum, doesn’t it? So many parenting moments are moments of doubting what the outcome will be, and often doubting ourselves. That’s when we need to go back to our principles, and assure ourselves that even a bad outcome will move us into a new place of learning – about ourselves, as well as our children. This podcast is filled with gems of parenting wisdom from author and head of Hyde School, Laura Gauld.  The mantras we discuss include, This could be good, or this could be bad. Be ready to go to the wall. Let your child struggle without stepping in to lessen the discomfort. When your child screws up, take them back to the scene of the crime to make amends. Allow your children the same struggles that shaped you.

Just the title of this parenting fundamental tells us that parenting is a big job! If we want to help our children grow into responsible adults, with a moral compass and a conscience that guides them, we need to keep in mind that our goal, even when they are teens, is to help them thrive and become independent. As Laura says in this podcast, “The world is not their mother.” The five mantras Laura Gauld and I discuss are, Do not do for your children what they can do for themselves. The truth will set you free, but first it will make you miserable. Value success and failure Treat your child as if they were someone else’s As a matter of practice, expect your child to do things they may not want to do, just because.

With more than 30 years of classroom and public speaking experience, Laura Gauld has earned a national reputation as a top motivational speaker on parenting, family dynamics, and character education. She has been featured on PBS, in her own parenting series on NBC in Portland, and in numerous television shows, radio programs, and publications throughout the country. After serving as head of school since 2006, she began her tenure as president of Hyde School in January of 2018. With her husband, Malcolm, she is the co-author of the groundbreaking book The Biggest Job We’ll Ever Have (Scribner). Unlike other education books that focus on the child, The Biggest Job We’ll Ever Have focuses on a child’s primary teacher—the parent. Laura previously directed the family education curriculum for Hyde School. In addition to Laura’s experience as a teacher, administrator, and parenting coach, she has created national programs for families, including Family Workshops in the Wilderness, a family renewal program at Hyde’s 600-acre Black Wilderness Preserve in Eustis, Maine. She has also created The Biggest Job workshops offering practical ideas and experiences in an informal, interactive format. She lives in Bath with her family. Malcolm Gauld is recognized as one of the nation’s leading experts on character education and parenting. He has been president of Hyde School since 1998, and he recently became executive chairman. Hyde’s program of family-based character education has been featured on The Today Show, 60 Minutes, 20-20, PBS, among other programs. An educator for four decades, he is an unapologetic speaker and award-winning writer on the decline of effective parenting. He has published articles on topics about inspiring children to develop their character, why good teaching cannot overcompensate for bad parenting, and why cheating is rampant in America’s schools. He and his wife, Laura, addressed these challenges in their acclaimed book, The Biggest Job We’ll Ever Have (Scribner), a unique educational resource that focuses on a child’s primary teacher–the parent. In their book, and in The Biggest Job Workshops that emerged from it, the Gaulds' articulate ten core beliefs to parents that address how families can raise successful children of strong character in an achievement-at-any-cost culture. He lives in Bath with his family. https://www.themainemag.com/radio/radio-guests/malcom-laura-gauld/

In this podcast, Laura Gauld and I look at parenting lessons that will teach us about the different moments we experience in parenting; there are many easy ones, but then there are some that are “calculus moments.” (Tune in to see what these are!) Be prepared for these calculus moments by listening to the third group of lessons or mantras of Parenting Fundamental # 1: Understand your job as parents: Do only those things that keep you strong You are not expected to be right, just to do your best. Don’t beat yourself up unless it is helpful. Remember that you are the parent. What is the challenge here for me?

Did you like the first 5 lessons that taught us more about Parenting Fundamental #1? If so, you’ll also like this quick session with Laura Gauld on the second five lessons for this fundamental: Do not engage Truth over Harmony Do not take it personally Liberate yourself from looking good Expect and demand respect from your children (and you will get their love.) Tune in, and discover the courage to stop your own dance of deception and embrace your job as parent. As we say with parenting, it's hard, it's doable, and it's never too late. Resources: Hyde School's Biggest Job Family Program

Do you ever wish you had a map and compass for parenting? The 100 Lessons that go with The Five Fundamentals of Parenting might be the closest thing you will find. In this series, Laura Gauld, co-author of The Biggest Job We’ll Ever Have, will talk about 20 lessons that go with each of the Five Fundamentals. Tune in to the first five lessons, and learn how to do the right thing as a parent, present a united front, and the importance of parenting from your principles, rather than from fear, guilt or control. Here is a break down of the first 5 Lessons Laura talks about in this podcast of the first Parenting Fundamental, "Understand Your Job as Parents"; Parents are the primary teacher and home is the primary classroom.There are many influences in today’s youth culture that threaten the important growth process of a child. We must remember that the parent is the primary role model and the home is the primary atmosphere for developing character. Our job is to raise our children to be adults that are honest, decent contributors to the world. We can be friendly, but we can’t be friends.Our parenting culture has shifted to a model that encourages “friendship” which misses the point. We can have friendly moments but our children need us to be their parents. Parents now leads to friends later. Do the right thing, even if it goes against the culture or your earlier stance.Our job is not to be right, it is to do the best we can each day. As new information comes our way, we continue to make the next right step. Never feel guilty for changing your answer or stance if you know it is the right thing. Your child will thank you later. Parent from your principles, not from fear, guilt or control.Fear and guilt will not inspire yourself or your child. Have the courage to acknowledge your core principles and build your foundation of parenting around them. Present a united front.So many parents miss this simple but powerful truth; divided you will fall! Your children will manipulate if she can and you will be left fighting with each other. Work to stand together with either your spouse, partner, or committed adult in your child’s life. Resources: The Biggest Job We’ll Ever Have (Scribner, 2002) by Laura and Malcolm Gauld Biggest Job website, www.biggestjob.com Hyde School www.hyde.edu

Wouldn’t it be great to have a map and a compass for our parenting? A “true north” answer for every situation that challenged our parenting decisions and wisdom? In our second interview with Laura Gauld from Hyde School, we are introduced to 5 Fundamentals of Parenting that might be that kind of guide.  While not actually being answers, these 5 Fundamentals give us a grounded place from which to look at each parenting challenge, and a kind of compass to keep heading in the right direction. Understand our job as parents. Raise children to be accountable to life. Build family traditions. Have faith in your child’s unique potential and the larger forces at work. Your growth will be your true legacy to your child. You can reach Laura Gauld through the BiggestJob.com website and Hyde.edu.