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"Engineering Peace with Thom Bond” is a real-life look at how peace is becoming a reality on our planet. It's also a personal resource to help empower us to create the change we want to see in the world. Thom shares peacemaker updates and interviews in his "What Peace Sounds Like" episodes. In the "Q & A" episodes, listen to practical tips, and wisdom from Thom's workshops and training sessions to help make peace a reality in your own life. Episode by episode, witness and be part of the story of peace on our planet.

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    • Nov 19, 2024 LATEST EPISODE
    • monthly NEW EPISODES
    • 18m AVG DURATION
    • 39 EPISODES


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    Latest episodes from Engineering Peace with Thom Bond

    Self-care and Needs Awareness

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 19, 2024 37:58


    Thom and his colleague, Dr. Clara Moisello talk about how needs awareness effects how we take care of ourselves (or don't).Support the show

    Changing the Conversation - Difficult Conversations and Needs Awareness

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2024 45:15


    Thom and his colleague, Clara Moisello, PhD (Co-Director of NYCNVC), team up in this second installment of their "Needs Awareness" series. In this episode, they explore how we can reimagine and navigate difficult conversations, through the lens of Needs Awareness.Support the show

    The Power of Needs Awareness

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2024 55:48


    Send us a Text Message.In this episode, Thom and Clara Moisello talk about the development and application of "Needs Awareness". They discuss what it is, how it changes the nature of human interaction, and brings hope to those seeking a more peaceful and compassionate existence for themselves and the world at large.Support the Show.

    Waging Peace from New York to Tel-Aviv - The Work, Dreams and Sorrows

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2024 45:46


    In this episode Thom talks with Israel-based psychologist, counselor, mediator and NVC trainer,  Eran Teicher about their experiences, challenges and perspectives as peace activists, educators, and two earthlings doing their best to make a difference.In this episode, listeners will get insights, inspiration and know-how from these two peace educators, in their roles as lead  trainers in The Compassion Course Online (Thom in English, Eran in Hebrew), who share a common goal of creating a more peaceful existence for all of us.Support the Show.

    Peace Educators Speak Out - Tending the Garden of Nonviolence in 2024

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 12, 2024 70:56


    In this insightful, inspiring episode, Thom Bond (from New York), talks with fellow peace educators, Cory Tyler (from Los Angles) and Samuel Odhiambo (from Kenya) to share the big picture of nonviolent systems in a world full of hatred and violence, including how they (and you) can be hopeful, living on such a turbulent planet.Subjects include, The Compassion Course (compassioncourse.org), the role of "enemy images", human needs awareness, conscious mourning, and celebration, culture, evolution and more...Support the show

    Fear = Attention... why?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2024 2:07


    In this thought-provoking installment of "Engineering Peace with Thom Bond" Season 3, Episode 4: "Fear = Attention... Why," Thom delves into the intricate dynamics of fear, safety, and the internal mechanisms that generate attention within us. Join us as Thom unpacks the profound connections between fear and our sense of security, offering deep insights into the experience of fear and its role in directing our attention. Prepare for a captivating exploration that sheds light on the intricate workings of our inner world, offering valuable perspectives on cultivating awareness and navigating the landscape of fear. Tune in for an enriching journey into the depths of our emotional intelligence!Support the show

    The Radar System of Feelings

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2024 3:32


    In this enlightening installment of "Engineering Peace with Thom Bond" Season 3, Episode 3: "The Radar System of Feelings," Thom unveils the profound purpose behind our emotional landscape, revealing how feelings serve as our radar system, guiding us to recognize when our needs are either fulfilled or unmet. Join us as Thom sheds light on this fundamental aspect of humanity, offering invaluable insights into how our emotions act as powerful indicators of our well-being. Prepare for an illuminating journey that seamlessly blends wisdom, compassion, and practical understanding. Tune in for a transformative exploration into the depths of our emotional intelligence!Support the show

    Turning Judgments into Something Useful

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2024 6:56


    In this episode of "Engineering Peace with Thom Bond" Season 3, titled "Turning Judgments into Something Useful," Thom explores the art of understanding needs behind judgments. Join us for a transformative journey as he reveals the power of turning judgments into valuable insights. Gain practical wisdom on connecting judgments to unmet needs, fostering personal growth and empathy. Don't miss this insightful episode blending wisdom, compassion, and practical understanding. Tune in for a perspective-shifting experience!Support the show

    Everything We Do, We Do To Meet a Need

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2024 2:16


    In this captivating episode of "Engineering Peace with Thom Bond" Season 3, Thom delves into the profound concept of "Everything We Do, We Do to Meet a Need." Join us as Thom shares the invaluable gift of vision and heightened awareness of our needs. Get ready for an insightful exploration that seamlessly combines wisdom, compassion, and practical understanding. Tune in for more!Support the show

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    Breakthrough Virtual Reality Empathy Training For Police - Coming to a Police Department Near You

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2022 32:41


    In this "What Peace Sounds Like" Episode, Thom brings  listeners up to date on a project that has formed through his work here on this podcast. It is the next chapter in this real-life practice of Peace Engineering, a chapter which began with his series here with Reverend Dr. Michael Christie titled "A Conversation Between Two Americans".That episode led to a revival of Thom's work with his former student, retired NY Police Detective, Anthony Torres, who is featured in Thom's Engineering Peace episode, Feelings, Needs, and Police Work.Today's episode features Anthony Torres and Mike Roberts, a new partner in the journey. Mike is a software engineer that has tipped the scales in the direction of progress, by bringing the expertise that completes the team that's creating a whole new future for police and the public they serve. Thom, Anthony and Mike talk about their project's genesis, it's current status, and it's future.Support the show

    The Power of Self-Empathy

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 21, 2022 3:08


    Thom talks about how being connected to oneself first increases our ability to create more connection with others, and self-care for ourselves.Support the show

    The Vital Self-Empathy Skills of Mourning and Celebration

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 14, 2022 4:53


    Thom talks about two self-empathy practices that help us take care of ourselves in a world full of horrors and miracles.Support the show

    The Secret Need

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 7, 2022 1:58


    Thom talks about the importance of empathy from others in overcoming "stuckness" in our self-empathy process.Support the show

    What Marshall Rosenberg Didn't Like About Nonviolent Communication

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2022 12:24


    In this episode Thom discusses the things that were troubling for NVC creator, Marshall Rosenberg and how that effected the creation of The Compassion Course.Thom also discusses the "technology" of the course and what he has done to improve the way that we learn Marshall's work.Support the show

    Who am I Right Now?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2022 2:10


    Thom talks about how self-empathy can help us make life-serving choices when we are triggered or upset.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    The Layered World of Needs

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2021 4:30


    This is a workshop clip where Thom gives us a powerful and practical way to explore the breadth and depth of our shared human needs.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    When Marshall Rosenberg Got Angry

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 27, 2021 2:17


    This is a workshop clip from Thom about the discipline of not speaking while angry, and a moment Thom had with his teacher and friend, Marshall Rosenberg.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    What Goes on for You? The Life Energy (feelings and needs) under Dirty Dishes and Bedrooms

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2021 1:36


    Thom talks about the profound value of asking about Life Energy (feelings and needs) in the current moment.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    Empathy Passport

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2021 2:30


    Thom describes a way to see ourselves as an empathic presence.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    How to Deal with Narcissists

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 29, 2021 2:20


    Thom talks about how we can start to deal with people we call Narcissists.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    Is Chocolate a Need?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2021 1:18


    A closer look at why we like chocolate so much.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    Two Pandemic Conversations

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2021 4:06


    Thom talks about choices we can make when we don't have a shared understanding or "shared reality" with others.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    Retired NYC Detective recalls his Ah-ha Moment in Dialog and Deescalation Training

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2021 0:29


    New Dialog and Deescalation Training for Police starts July 7th.  For the whole talk, listen to Episode 3.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    Are Humans Naturally Compassionate or Violent?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2021 4:17


    Thom answers a seemingly deep question about our nature.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    Feelings, Needs. and Police Work

    Play Episode Play 30 sec Highlight Listen Later Mar 15, 2021 53:45


    In this episode, Thom interviews his former student and current training partner- a seasoned police officer from NYC who has successfully used, and now teaches, empathic interaction to encourage nonviolent resolutions and arrests.In this session Thom and Ret. NYC Police Detective Anthony Torres talk about their history and how Anthony applied what he learned in a class, on the streets of New York.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    Ahhh - Remember a room full of people laughing?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 9, 2021 1:10


    Breaking My Dishes - ReduxSupport the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    Angry Planet

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 23, 2021 52:00


    This is a segment of Thom's recent Compassion Course Anger workshop where he paints a big picture of where we are today as individuals and as a planet when it comes to anger - and shows us something we can all do about it. In this session, Thom talks us through the transformation of anger with needs awareness. From the inner process of self-empathy and embodying needs to the outer process of expressing ourselves powerfully without anger.Listen in on this step by step journey to deconstruct anger and harvest new inspiration and creativity.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    Inner Dialog, Covid, Holidays, Masks, and Mourning

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 24, 2020 14:38


    This is an excerpt from a conversation between Thom Bond and Reverend Dr. Michael Christie. They discuss how Needs-Based Relating (NBR) can help us navigate the inner and outer relationship challenges of family holiday celebrations, differing beliefs, masks, and more, in a Covid world.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SUU8BESM4ZXUY)

    "Q & A" - The Inner and Outer Work of Intense Emotions

    Play Episode Play 35 sec Highlight Listen Later Jul 8, 2020 11:57


    This is a workshop excerpt where Thom discusses the inner and outer perspectives of connecting with people who are experiencing intense emotions - plus how to express your own intensity without judgment.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=64R63YVG5U79Y&source=url)

    A Conversation Between Two Americans - Part 3

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 30, 2020 58:12


    This is the continuation of a conversation between Thom Bond (author of The Compassion Course) and Reverend Dr. Michael Christie (Chaplain). They discuss, race, fear, disconnection, slavery, universal human needs, police violence, and much more. It provides a perspective on where we Americans are, how we got here, where we're headed, and what we can do right now.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=64R63YVG5U79Y&source=url)

    A Conversation Between Two Americans - Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2020 60:46


    This is the continuation of a conversation between Thom Bond (author of The Compassion Course) and Reverend Dr. Michael Christie (Chaplain). They discuss, race, fear, disconnection, slavery, universal human needs, police violence, and much more. It provides a perspective on where we Americans are, how we got here, where we're headed, and what we can do right now.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=64R63YVG5U79Y&source=url)

    A Conversation Between Two Americans - Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2020 52:43


    This is a generative conversation between Thom Bond (author of The Compassion Course) and Reverend Dr. Michael Christie (Chaplain). They discuss, race, fear, disconnection, slavery, universal human needs, police violence, and much more. It provides a perspective on where we Americans are, how we got here, where we're headed, and what we can do right now.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=64R63YVG5U79Y&source=url)

    Feelings, Needs, and the Coronavirus - Part 3

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 16, 2020 13:26


    In this 3rd episode, Thom talks about transforming our awareness of feelings and needs (discussed in Parts 1 and 2) into action by living powerfully and compassionately in "Request Mode" - even in hard times.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=64R63YVG5U79Y&source=url)

    Feelings, Needs, and the Coronavirus - Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2020 16:59


    A followup to Thom's previous episode, Feelings, Needs, and the Coronavirus, this episode explores more ways for us to use the skills of The Compassion Course, Needs Awareness and Nonviolent Communication to keep us more connected in these trying times.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=64R63YVG5U79Y&source=url)

    Feelings, Needs, and the Coronavirus - Part 1

    Play Episode Play 40 sec Highlight Listen Later Mar 15, 2020 14:49


    This is a little talk on how the work of Nonviolent Communication and Needs Awareness can make a difference in how we respond to the Coronavirus.Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=64R63YVG5U79Y&source=url)

    How to Connect More Deeply to Needs - Meditation

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 29, 2020 5:31


    Thom talks you through a meditation to help you move beyond the intellectual identification of your needs to a deeper experience and understanding of them. This meditation can be learned and repeated to increase our connection to any need - see http://nycnvc.org/needs.Please visit ThomBond.com for more info on Thom and his schedule, purchasing The Compassion Book and joining the Compassion Course. Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=64R63YVG5U79Y&source=url)

    Thank You for Breaking My Dishes

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 29, 2020 2:38


    Breaking My Dishes is a recording from one of Thom's workshops where he talks about a creative way to view adversity - one that can greatly increase the likelihood of getting your needs met.Please visit ThomBond.com for more info on Thom and his schedule, purchasing The Compassion Book and joining the Compassion Course. Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=64R63YVG5U79Y&source=url)

    What Peace Sounds Like

    Play Episode Play 30 sec Highlight Listen Later Feb 29, 2020 12:00


    This Engineering Peace Episode is an excerpt from a meeting I had with a group of educators and peace activists from Lebanon, Egypt, and Sudan.It was my first real introduction and it gave me the opportunity to share my background, the work I've done so far and lay the groundwork for the coming months and years as work towards a more peaceful and productive life for all of us.I thought it was a good way to share the "big picture" of "Engineering Peace".Please visit ThomBond.com for more info on Thom and his schedule, purchasing The Compassion Book and joining the Compassion Course. Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=64R63YVG5U79Y&source=url)

    Ice Cream in a Hardware Store

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 29, 2020 4:00


    Ice Cream in a Hardware Store is a recording about from one of Thom's workshops with a little extra commentary. He talks about how we can find ways to get along with people - even when their actions don't seem to meet our needs.Please visit ThomBond.com for more info on Thom and his schedule, purchasing The Compassion Book and joining the Compassion Course. Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=64R63YVG5U79Y&source=url)

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