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The Virtual Couch
Waving the White Flag Against Violent Communication - A Waking Up to Narcissism Crossover Episode

The Virtual Couch

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2022 54:24


Thanks for a slight error in uploading the correct file on Tony's "Waking Up to Narcissism" podcast; he shares the correct episode as a "crossover" on The Virtual Couch. Tony adds "The Mailbox Metaphor," a powerful Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) metaphor about how we decide to look at the "clutter" of our virtual, physical, or mental inboxes. Can communication be a form of violence? According to communication expert Marshall Rosenberg, it can if you consider "violence" to include attempts at cutting others down to size and/or coercing them into doing what we want. Tony discusses "Nonviolent Communication," and the importance of separating an observation from a judgment, something narcissists or highly emotionally immature people struggle to do to manage their own anxiety. Tony references Pamela Hobart's review of Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life https://fourminutebooks.com/nonviolent-communication-summary/ If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

Waking Up to Narcissism
Waving the White Flag Against Violent Communication

Waking Up to Narcissism

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2022 48:37


Can communication be a form of violence? According to communication expert Marshall Rosenberg it can if you consider "violence" to include attempts at cutting others down to size and/or coercing them into doing what we want. Tony discusses "Nonviolent Communication," and the importance of separating an observation from a judgement, something that narcissists, or highly emotionally immature people struggle to do in an attempt to manage their own anxiety. Tony references Pamela Hobart's review of Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life https://fourminutebooks.com/nonviolent-communication-summary/ If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

Waking Up to Narcissism
Waiving the White Flag Against Violent Communication

Waking Up to Narcissism

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2022 48:37


Can communication be a form of violence? According to communication expert Marshall Rosenberg it can if you consider "violence" to include attempts at cutting others down to size and/or coercing them into doing what we want. Tony discusses "Nonviolent Communication," and the importance of separating an observation from a judgement, something that narcissists, or highly emotionally immature people struggle to do in an attempt to manage their own anxiety. Tony references Pamela Hobart's review of Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life https://fourminutebooks.com/nonviolent-communication-summary/ If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

Cuke Audio Podcast
With Guest Paul Shippee

Cuke Audio Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 5, 2022 65:24


Paul Shippee was one of our first guest podcasts. He's an old Suzuki and Trungpa student. In this podcast he talks about his workshops in NVC, Nonviolent Communication, and Buddhism. To learn more about it go to paulshippee.com and then to the Workshops dropdown and choose Buddhism/NVC then Info. 

The Autoimmune Hour
How To Return To A Sense Of Agency, Choice, And Confidence Using I-You Language with Sarah Peyton

The Autoimmune Hour

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2022 51:45


A long-term illness or chronic condition can leave one feeling lost and confused. In (our 400th!) episode, we welcome back Sarah Peyton, international trainer and author of 'Your Resonant Self.' In this fascinating chat, Sarah shares the connecting and, dare I say, the healing power of the I-You language for all parts of us: physical, mental, emotional, social, and spiritual. I got ‘goosebumps' when she explained it to me...During our time together, Sarah will also share:• How we can begin to heal old trauma through resonance and I-You language and create a more profound warmth for ourselves and others,• Tips on maintaining a solid sense of self even after a diagnosis,• Discover how to practice gratitude as expressed in I-You language,• • How to release unconscious contracts, including those that sound ‘good' on the surface, such as ‘not to hurt others.' Hint: Holding on to these contracts stops genuine connection and authenticity... plus so much moreMore About Our Guest: Sarah Peyton, Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and neuroscience educator, integrates brain science and the use of resonant language to heal personal and collective trauma with exquisite gentleness.Sarah is a sought-after expert who brings neuroscience expertise together with depth work, self-compassion, and the transformative potential of language. She works with audiences internationally to create a compassionate understanding of the effects of relational trauma on the brain and teaches people how words change and heal us.She teaches and lectures internationally and is the author of three books: Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations and Exercises to Engage Your Brain's Capacity for Healing, the companion Your Resonant Self Workbook: From Self-sabotage to Self-care, and Affirmations for Turbulent Times: Resonant Words to Soothe Body and Mind. Learn more at www.sarahpeyton.comShare this link with family and friends:https://UnderstandingAutoimmune.com/Sarah-IU2022This show is not intended to diagnose, prevent, or treat autoimmune diseases or other illnesses. The information presented within cannot substitute for the advice of your physician or other trained healthcare professionals. The information provided on UnderstandingAutoimmune.com, Life Interrupted Radio.com, and The Autoimmune Hour are for educational purposes only.

The Virtual Couch
The Benefits of Being Authentic, Healthy Ego vs Narcissism, and Non-Violent Communication

The Virtual Couch

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2022 47:18


How do you know what you don't know? Tony shares an example of what it feels like to speak to a group of people when you seek validation versus speaking because you care deeply about the topic you are presenting. Often we hear people talk about being authentic, but what does that look like in real life, and what additional benefits come when you live and operate from a place of authenticity? Tony also discusses what it means to stand in your “healthy ego” vs. “pathological defensive narcissism,” and finally, he discusses Marshall Rosenberg's book Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life from a summary by Pamela Hobart https://fourminutebooks.com/nonviolent-communication-summary/ If you are interested in being coached in Tony's upcoming "Magnetic Marriage Podcast," please email him for more information. You will receive free marriage coaching and remain anonymous when the episode airs. Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts. Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

WERU 89.9 FM Blue Hill, Maine Local News and Public Affairs Archives
Healthy Options 11/2/22: Non-Violent Communication

WERU 89.9 FM Blue Hill, Maine Local News and Public Affairs Archives

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2022 58:43


Host/Producer: Rhonda Feiman Co-Producer: Petra Hall Healthy Options: For Well-being & Being Well This month: How might we communicate with more awareness, compassion, and empathy, and how can our nervous system play a vital role in our being calm in ourselves, and in our interactions with others? Rhonda Feiman speaks with Peggy Smith, co-founder of the Maine Non-Violent Communication Network, & certified trainer with the International Center for Non-Violent Communication. -What is Non-Violent Communication? -What are some techniques to help calm strong emotions? -What is empathy? What is “self empathy”? Can you learn how to be empathetic? -What do we mean when we speak of “warm accompaniment”? -What do we mean when we say that struggle and conflict can be about the perception of needs being met, or not met? -What is the amygdala and what does it have to do with our emotions and our nervous system? -What does it mean to self-regulate the nervous system and emotions? -What role does our nervous system play in Non-Violent Communication? What are techniques that can be used to help our own nervous system and strong emotions as we communicate with others? -What is “shoulding” and why “should” we stop doing that :-)? -Non-Violent Communication is more than just learning a script; what is the thought process behind Non-Violent Communication? Guest/s: Peggy Smith, co-founder of the Maine Non-Violent Communication Network & certified trainer with the International Center for Nonviolent Communication. She is also a certified trainer with the International Center for Nonviolent Communication, and has worked both in Maine and internationally, with the Seeds of Peace International Camp, sharing Non-Violent Communication skills with educators from the Middle East and South Asia. A student of Mindfulness since 1991, Peggy Smith was ordained as a teacher by Zen Master and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh, and has incorporated Mindfulness practice in the teaching of Non-Violent Communication. She holds a Master's degree in Literacy and Language Arts from the University of Pennsylvania, and taught in public and alternative schools for 32 years before devoting herself full time, to Non-Violent Communication training. Nonviolent Communication, (NVC), is based on the principles of nonviolence– the natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart. NVC begins by assuming that we are all compassionate by nature and that violent strategies—whether verbal or physical—are learned behaviors taught and supported by the prevailing culture. NVC also assumes that we all share the same, basic human needs, and that all actions are a strategy to meet one or more of these needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, Increased understanding, deepening connection and conflict resolution. The NVC community is active in over 65 countries around the globe. Websites of Interest: The Center for Nonviolent Communication Clarity Services, Open Communication at Work About the host: Rhonda Feiman is a nationally-certified, licensed acupuncturist practicing in Belfast, Maine since 1993. She primarily practices Toyohari Japanese acupuncture, using gentle and powerful non-insertion needle techniques, and also utilizes Chinese acupuncture and herbology. In addition, Rhonda is a practitioner of Qi Gong and an instructor of Tai Chi Chuan in the Yang Family tradition. The post Healthy Options 11/2/22: Non-Violent Communication first appeared on WERU 89.9 FM Blue Hill, Maine Local News and Public Affairs Archives.

Relationship Alchemy
Dating After 40 with Paul Aaron Travis

Relationship Alchemy

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2022 32:58


Returning to the dating scene middle-aged and post-divorce can be terrifying for most. But Paul Aaron Travis has been on over 100 dates and counting – the experience proving to be fruitful and life-changing. He shares with us his advice for individuals like him about letting go of expectations, authenticity vs intimacy, tracking your dates and potential partners, and finding your partner through effective questioning. Tune in to this episode: Dating After 40 with Paul Aaron Travis. Key points covered in this episode: ✔️ Utilize helpful tools. Paul recommends attending gatherings such as his Singles Salon, follow a blueprint like his 40-Plus Dating Reset, and use a dating log to list key details of your dates, such as: Last time they contacted you How long you've been dating Any red or green flags ✔️ Authenticity vs. Intimacy. Although interconnected, they are different. Authenticity is presenting who you really are to the world and how you live. Intimacy is being genuine within to allow others to enter your world. ✔️ Do a vibration check. Consider why you're dating in the first place. Then, don't rush the process of meeting new people. As we are experiencing collective anxiety about the future, it's important to choose someone who strikes the right chords. ✔️ There is power in questions. People who've had bad breakups and bad dates may feel cynical. But engaging in deep conversations with your dates can help change your mind. Listen to their dreams, dealbreakers, what turns them on, and what doesn't. Don't let your fear win over meeting your potential partner. ✔️ Practice detachment. Letting go of expectations can help you be more vulnerable and cushion the pain during rejections. Be open to whatever can happen. You may meet a new best friend or someone that can benefit from your knowledge or support. ———————————————————————————————— Paul Aaron Travis's commitment to making dating joyful, respectful, expansive, and consensual comes from extensive training in interpersonal relations - from Nonviolent Communication to the Wheel of Consent, from Landmark Education to Human Awareness International, from Body Electric to ISTA/Tantra. For years, Paul co-facilitated the Seattle Men's Wisdom Council, working with hundreds of men every month. In the years since his divorce, he has dated 100 women – mostly first dates which didn't yield sufficient chemistry to continue yet helped him create the technique he now teaches that manifested three wonderful, multi-year relationships. Website: www.Pandemic.Love Facebook: www.fb.me/pandemc.love Instagram:  www.instagram.com/pandemc.love TikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@pandemic.love  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paulaarontravis Free Gift: 4 Big Dating Mistakes Spiritual Singles Over 40 Are Making in '22: https://pandemic.love/4biggies/ ———————————————————————————————— ★★★ About Marie-Elizabeth Mali ★★★ Marie-Elizabeth is the founder of Relationship Alchemy, where she helps women transform the patterns that get in the way of having the loving, intimate, and connected relationships they've always wanted. ★ TAKE THE RELATIONSHIP ALCHEMY ASSESSMENT ★ The relationship you desire is possible! Click here to discover what missing pieces are stopping you from having the passion and connection you desire. For Single Women: https://relationshipalchemysinglesassessment.com For Partnered Women: https://relationshipalchemyassessment.com ★ RELATIONSHIP ALCHEMY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP (FOR WOMEN) ★ Join for more tips, Q&A, connection, and community: https://facebook.com/groups/relationshipalchemyfree ★ COACHING ★ Want to work with Marie-Elizabeth to have a relationship and life that truly lights you up? Serious inquiries only please. We are accepting applications to work with Marie-Elizabeth 1:1 and in group programs. Apply and book a call here: https://relationshipalchemy.com/catalyze-love ツ CONNECT WITH ME ツ Relationship Alchemy Free Group (women only): https://facebook.com/groups/relationshipalchemyfree Facebook: https://facebook.com/relationshipalchemymem Instagram: https://instagram.com/relationshipalchemymem LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/relationshipalchemymem/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/memali108 As a Relationship Alchemist, two-time TEDx Speaker, and host of the Relationship Alchemy podcast, Marie-Elizabeth Mali shows women leaders how to cultivate deeper love and connection in their intimate relationships. Drawing on her Master's degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and over 20 years of working with clients, she teaches women how to show up as authentic leaders in their relationships and work instead of twisting themselves to fit in. Marie-Elizabeth's work has been featured in Thrive Global, SWAAY, and Forbes. She is also a member of the Forbes Business Council, a published author with an MFA in Poetry from Sarah Lawrence College, and an underwater photographer who has a thing for sharks. Learn more at https://relationshipalchemy.com.

TILT Parenting: Raising Differently Wired Kids
TPP 073a: Non-Violent Communication, Whole-Person Learning, and Neurodiverse Students

TILT Parenting: Raising Differently Wired Kids

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2022 46:51 Very Popular


This week I'm talking with Zach Morris, the executive director and development of curriculum and instruction at LEARN Inc. LEARN Inc. is an non-for-profit school in Missoula, Montana in the United States which is approaching education in a thoughtful and alternative way, and with powerful results, especially for their neurodivergent students, which make up to 75% of the student body. Their mission is to facilitate individualized learning opportunities that honor neurodivergence, encourage social collaboration, and foster whole-person growth. And as a result, the kids at LEARN are getting the opportunity to develop with confidence and feeling seen for who they are.I know that this education piece—figuring out how to help our child develop a love of learning and reach their full potential—is one of the most challenging pieces of raising differently wired kids, and I just have to say that talking with Zach left me feeling inspired, hopeful, and motivated. Zach believes there is a different way, and he's doing his part to push the needle forward. Together we talk about the the philosophy of nonviolent communication, what can happen for our kids when we practice compassion with them, and how parents like us can bring some of Zach's philosophy into our lives to support our kids. This was one of those mind = blown conversations for me. I hope you like it. Zach Morris M.Ed is a leader in education. He holds a Montana State educators license, he is HANDLE level 1&2 certified, and he is an active pursuant of Non-Violent Communication practices. His current research targets neurodiversity and learning. Things you'll learn from this episodeWhat it looks like when education is grounded in compassion and the principles of nonviolent communication, ecological literacy, and whole person learning (social, emotional, physiological, and academic)Why Zach believes the key to education is individualization and diversity within the systemHow a child can be shifted from feeling they do everything wrong to feeling like they can are heard and can contributeHow Zach helps a child with PTSD from their previous educational experiences recoverHow parents can incorporate Zach's philosophy into their daily livesWhy Zach believes that we have choice in everything Resources mentioned for whole-person learningLearn IncA Deep Dive Into Diagnoses, Assessments, and Labels, with Dr. Melissa Neff The Center for Nonviolent Communication Speak Peace in a World of Conflict Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life Dr. Devon MacEachron on Assessing and Supporting Twice-Exceptional Learners Support the showConnect with Tilt Parenting Visit Tilt Parenting Take the free 7-Day Challenge Read a chapter of Differently Wired Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram

10% Happier with Dan Harris
515: A Meditation for When You're in a Fight With Somebody You Love | Bonus Meditation with Oren Jay Sofer

10% Happier with Dan Harris

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2022 11:31


Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. By identifying what really matters to us, we can strengthen our most meaningful connections.About Oren Jay Sofer:Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation, and Nonviolent Communication in secular and Buddhist contexts. Oren has practiced meditation in the early Buddhist tradition since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India with Anagarika Munindra and Godwin Samararatne. He is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and a graduate of the IMS - Spirit Rock Vipassana Teacher Training, and current member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council.Oren is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations.To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “When We Fight With People We Love,” or click here: https://10percenthappier.app.link/content?meditation=4de9fcbb-c18d-44c0-bdca-328c38289a9f.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dharmabytes from free buddhist audio
What Is Alive In Your Heart

Dharmabytes from free buddhist audio

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 27, 2022 3:58


Jayaraja's take on the connection between traditional Dharma practice and non-violent communication as taught by Marshall Rosenberg. From the talk Buddhism and Non-Violent Communication (NVC) given at the Triratna [Western] Buddhist Order Convention, 2005. *** Subscribe to our Dharmabytes podcast:  On Apple Podcasts | On Spotify | On Google Podcasts Bite-sized inspiration three times every week. Subscribe to our Free Buddhist Audio podcast:  On Apple Podcasts | On Spotify | On Google Podcasts A full, curated, quality Dharma talk, every week. 3,000,000 downloads and counting! Subscribe using these RSS feeds or search for Free Buddhist Audio or Dharmabytes in your favourite podcast service! Help us keep FBA Podcasts free for everyone: donate now! Follow Free Buddhist Audio: YouTube  |  Instagram  |  Twitter  |  Facebook  |  Soundcloud

Wellness Force Radio
Wayland Myers | NonViolent Communication: How to Stop Arguments In 60 Seconds + The Power of Loving Detachment

Wellness Force Radio

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 25, 2022 126:22


Nonviolent communication is powerful because it has really understood some very key things about what creates a connection between people. It helps people create an environment in which what is talked about is done in a value-free, non-judgmental way. So then what is talked about is focused on what is going on in each person on a vulnerable level rather than a 'let's have a dialogue and debate' approach. Sometimes it's like an archeological dig to get to the root of why one person feels the way they do. The outcome is a bi-directional desire to be, to cooperate, to help, and it's spontaneous.  - Wayland Myers Are You Stressed Out Lately? Take a deep breath with the M21™ wellness guide: a simple yet powerful 21 minute morning system that melts stress and gives you more energy through 6 science-backed practices and breathwork. Click HERE to download for free. Is Your Energy Low? Get more superfoods to improve your energy, digestion, gut health plus also reduce inflammation and blood sugar. Click HERE to try Paleovalley's Apple Cider Vinegar Complex + Save 15% with the code 'JOSH' *Review The WF Podcast & WIN $150 in wellness prizes! *Join The Facebook Group Wellness + Wisdom Episode 483 Clinical psychologist and Author of Nonviolent Communication: The Basics As I Know and Use Them, Wayland Myers, explains the 4 steps of the life-changing nonviolent communication (NVC) model, what it means to "reside in the heart of the giraffe," how to let go of your jekyll approach when faced with interpersonal conflict, and how to use this communication tool when you are feeling especially triggered. At its core, why should you care about or want to learn the nonviolent communication model? By the end of this episode, you will understand the incredible potential that this simple framework has to change your life and relationships. Listen To Episode 483 As Wayland Myers Uncovers: [1:30] The Evolution of NonViolent Communication (NVC) Wayland Myers Nonviolent Communication: The Basics As I Know and Use Them by Wayland Myers The Center for Nonviolent Communication Marshall Rosenberg Nootopia - Save 10% at checkout with the code "JOSH10" Why Wayland sought out Marshall Rosenberg's help with nonviolent communication to improve one of his own relationships. How this language tool has helped Wayland improve his overall communication skills in everyday life. What Wayland wants people to know including the fact that we all come from the same evolutionary process. How Wayland would explain what nonviolent communication (NVC) is in its simplest terms.  What to do instead of making very quick assessments and judgments when we encounter something by neutrally observing the situation. How to get curious about someone and what they're saying instead of reacting quickly. Conscious communication skills to help you open up to someone about your emotions. [21:15] Examples of Practicing NVC in Everday Life Why it can be harder to practice the NVC model the higher the intensity of feelings and emotions that you are feeling. A specific example of how Wayland used NVC to help a friend including share his honest emotions with him. How Wayland and his wife were able to work out a difficult moment of tension through NVC when he shared with her that he was thinking of not coming to her book club anymore. Why Marshall came up with the examples of the jekyll and the giraffe for his NVC method. The power of NVC and how it has helped Wayland understand what really creates a strong connection between people. How to speak to your partner when you have an unmet need and they're not willing to help you with it. Josh and Wayland role-play a situation many couples face and how to apply NVC to the situation. Why it's natural that you're going to fumble the first couple of times using NVC. What takeaways you can use from Josh and Wayland's role-play situation and apply to your own relationships. The 4 important pieces of information someone needs to use NVC to help repair a relationship or to heal or situation. How Wayland tries to "reside in the heart of the giraffe" and why that is key for him when practicing NVC in his personal life. [45:00] Political Divison + How We Can Be Whole Again Why Wayland believes that underneath it all, we all have the exact same needs despite our different opinions about politics. What Josh and Wayland would like to see from the US government especially honesty and open communication rather than just mandates. The long way we have to go yet as a species and why we're like a 13-year-old behind the wheel of a Ferrari. Why we might find ourselves being drawn to one side of politics over the other. Wayland's views on politics and why the Left and Right may have different beliefs on methodology and what we think is important but we all want a government to do what it can do for us and do it well. How we can switch our mindset and be more curious than judgemental when it comes to other people's different thoughts, opinions, and beliefs. The software vs hardware in our brain and why some beliefs are just naturally wired within us. I Feel, Therefore I Am: Neuroscientist Antonio Damasio on Consciousness as a Full-Body Phenomenon [1:01:00] Wellness Tools for Greater NVC + Loving Curiosity Exploring whether or not NVC is enough or what other tools we can use to bring more loving curiosity into our lives and relationships. Why taking care of your own health and physical needs is key before helping others. How Wayland's wife has been one of his greatest teachers. The difference between male and female brains when it comes to social skills and problem-solving. Why females often just seek comfort instead of resolution when speaking about their current thoughts, problems, and conflicts. [1:07:00] Loving Detachment: Why It's a Gift Unpacking what loving detachment is and why Josh is working on it right now in his own wellness journey. Wayland's own definition of loving detachment and how to apply that to different close relationships. Why loving detachment can actually be a gift and plays a positive role in the human evolutionary process. Wayland's daughter's addiction and the struggles she went through at a young age. How Wayland's loving detachment allowed his daughter to naturally experience the consequences of running away while he also kept a close eye on her. The fork in the road we experience when we determine whether or not we can continue with a loving detachment or not. Christine's moment of hitting rock bottom and realizing that she really needed to make a change in her life and heal her addiction. What helped Christine thrive and be successful in her addiction recovery and life afterward compared to others who would still struggle. The Creative Act: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin The most important factors that will help a person be creative, heal and grow in life. [1:24:00] Living Life on Life's Own Terms The life-changing moment Wayland's father went through when his father passed away from the Spanish flu and his grandmother told him that he was now the man of the house. How his father's childhood impacted the way that Wayland was raised to not accept life on its terms but to take charge and be responsible until he tried the 12-Step Program. Wayland's atypical depression and having the need to take medication for it for about 30 years. Exploring epigenetics and how events in the mother's life can impact a baby's health while in utero. The hard life Wayland has experienced and the gratitude he has for what he has done with it. [1:30:00] The Four NVC Components: Observation, Feeling, Needs, Request The polarization that Wayland sees in our society today and why that concerns him so much. Cultural differences such as in Holland where they don't show appreciation or say, 'Thank you.' How we can tell if a need is coming from a wounded and unhealthy place or from the heart and soul. Inner work practices for peeling back the layers of the needs that we had when we were younger and why they no longer mean something to us now. The impact of Wayland's father forbidding talking about emotions as a family. Similarities in both Wayland and Josh's own families growing up. Why we have such a righteous need to be correct and "win" an argument. The three things that are true when we are angry according to Marshall. [1:40:30] Building Resiliency with NonViolent Communication How NVC can help us build greater resiliency. The current state of the USA's democracy that is pushing people to be more resilient, use their voice and get more involved. Wayland's ideal world and how he believes we can get there together.  The call for both political parties to learn how to engage in constructive dialogue because we need both perspectives and diversity for us to learn how to enrich the value of our lives as a result of it. Why our fundamental need is not to feel safe; we just want to feel safe. How, in a heterosexual relationship, a woman can share with her male partner that she does not feel safe. Also how, in a heterosexual relationship, a man can share with her female partner that he does not feel respected. How Wayland has gotten to a place where he now trusts his inner compass completely to follow his dreams and what brings him joy. Nootopia - Save 10% at checkout with the code "JOSH10" Feeling & Knowing: Making Minds Conscious by Antonia Damasio Power Quotes From The Show How Loving Detachment Helps People Heal "Loving detachment is where we allow the other person the opportunity to encounter the natural consequences of their choices. The dignity of being autonomous and capable is so powerful. I always used to think that the concept of loving detachment sounded like abandonment but my daughter needed to encounter that consequence because it was her turning point. That was her springboard and that's the thing about hitting rock bottom, you can push off." - Wayland Myers Men vs Women's Approach to Handling Conflict "One of the things that has really helped eliminate about 9 out of 10 arguments in our home is to ask yourself, 'Are you looking for comfort or solutions?' For males such as myself, my very first impulse is to get in there and fix it but maybe your partner just needs you to listen to them. In the example of my wife, 80% of the time she just wants to be able to talk about something openly to help her work through it; she doesn't want me to give her a solution." - Wayland Myers How to "Reside in the Heart of the Giraffe" "When you have two people in a situation of being in a heightened state of emotional pain, as I call it, try to reside in the heart of the giraffe. To do this, look at the other person and say to yourself, 'They have the same set of needs for connection but the way they're going about it really isn't working.' For whatever reason, they have gotten desperate but there is a very positive vulnerability behind all of that front that they're putting up. I just hold that awareness and know that this is a good person because I know they're a good person and we're just really fumbling and stumbling because we really haven't figured out how to sort this thing. That other person may only know to take my inventory and try to shame me or something but what they're wanting is something that I know is good." - Wayland Myers Links From Today's Show  Wayland Myers Nonviolent Communication: The Basics As I Know and Use Them by Wayland Myers The Center for Nonviolent Communication Marshall Rosenberg Nootopia - Save 10% at checkout with the code "JOSH10" I Feel, Therefore I Am: Neuroscientist Antonio Damasio on Consciousness as a Full-Body Phenomenon The Creative Act: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin Feeling & Knowing: Making Minds Conscious by Antonia Damasio Shop the Wellness Force Media Store breathwork.io Paleovalley – Save 15% on your ACV Complex with the code ‘JOSH' Seeking Health - Save 10% with the code 'JOSH' Organifi – Special 20% off to our listeners with the code ‘WELLNESSFORCE' Drink LMNT – Zero Sugar Hydration: Get your free LMNT Sample Pack, you only cover the cost of shipping Feel Free from Botanic Tonics – Save 40% when you use the code ‘WELLNESS40' PLUNGE - Save $150 with the code "WELLNESSFORCE' MitoZen - Save 10% with the code "WELLNESSFORCE" Activation Products - Save 20% with the code "WELLNESSFORCE" Essential Oil Wizardry: Save 10% with the code 'WELLNESSFORCE' Cured Nutrition – Get 15% off of your order when you visit wellnessforce.com/cured + use the code ‘WELLNESSFORCE' M21 Wellness Guide Wellness Force Community Leave Wellness Force a review on iTunes About Wayland Myers Clinical psychologist Wayland Myers extensive career extends from beginnings in mechanical engineering to the world of social studies and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the CA School of Professional Psychology in San Diego. Followed by work in management consulting for various types of business, two 11 year stints of private practice, founding a hospice patient care and volunteer program, serving as president of the board for a second hospice for a 10 year period and working as a roving psychologist at a large medical hospital for two years. He has vast experience in the method of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and worked closely with the practice's founder, Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D. In addition, Wayland is author of a very popular book: Nonviolent Communication: The Basics As I Know and Use Them.

Stoic Coffee Break
229 - Conscious Communication

Stoic Coffee Break

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 24, 2022 8:50 Very Popular


Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there. —Rumi How you ever thought about how often we have judgments in our language? Are you even aware of how often we communicate our our opinions and feelings about others? What if we could remove judgments from our language? Today I want to talk about ways that we can make our language more clear, and increase our ability to communicate non-judgmentally with others.

40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk.
195: A Gay Man's Guide To Life – Britt East

40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk.

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2022 45:06


Living life is messy. Messy, messy, messy. Now add to it being a gay man, and Lord help us, it can get real messy. Helping us undo some of that mess when we think it is impossible is Author Britt East, sharing wisdom from his book "A Gay Man's Guide To Life." Listen up and you just might learn something that you need to. https://amzn.to/3AUGzS9 ()About Britt BRITT EAST is an author and speaker who uses his experience, strength, and hope to challenge and inspire change-oriented gay men to get down to the business of improving their lives. With over two decades of personal growth and development experience in a variety of modalities, such as the 12 Steps, Nonviolent Communication, yoga, meditation, talk therapy, and the Hoffman Process, Britt is committed to building a personal practice of self-discovery that he can then share with gay men everywhere. He lives in Seattle with his husband and their crazy dog.  Connect With Britt https://www.britteast.com/ (Website) https://twitter.com/britteast?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor (Twitter) https://www.linkedin.com/in/britteast/ (LinkedIn) Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you're going to do, but never do? Then it's time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - https://rickclemons.com/mens-chats/ (Learn More!) Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies P.S. get your free My Bold Life Manifesto, right here - https://rickclemons.com/manifesto/ (rickclemons.com/manifesto/) You can also listen to the podcast on… https://apple.co/2Q4nnbt ()   https://open.spotify.com/show/3D4LvaRQjd5EcHWW4nKmQp ()https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/rick-clemons/forty-plus-real-men-real-talk ()   http://tun.in/pjrug ()https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/40-plus-real-men-real-talk-854094 ()   https://radiopublic.com/40-plus-real-men-real-talk-WoBlp5 ()  

The School of Atypical Insights
Episode 12 - Simple Formula to Improve Your Communication in Relationships

The School of Atypical Insights

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2022 16:18


I'm very excited to announce our very first solo episode today! There are many, many more on the way and I'm joyed to share with you a very present and important topic that you can use immediately in your life for maximum benefit. (MAXIMUM BENEFIT YOU SAY?"For those of you who don't know, I lay out the framework for what Non-Violent Communication is, and a simple model to test out with someone in your life.   Communication is crucial to getting our point across and feeling heard, and so many of the methods we've defaulted to over the years can lose their utility.  Learning to better communicate will make you more persuasive, and understand others and yourself to a much higher degree.As always, I love hearing your feedback on what you learned, how you integrated it into your life, and any other takeaways.  Feel free to send me a message (I always get back).LinksNonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy RelationshipsFreedom from the Known (Jiddu Krishnamurti)Themes: Relationships, Communication, Language,  HealingConnect with me: Instagram | @tylerjameswall YouTube | Contrast by Design Twitter | @tywall LinkedIn | Tyler Wall Work with me Contrast by Des...

Soul of Islam Radio
Sacred Manhood and Masculinity with Jamil Popatia

Soul of Islam Radio

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2022 68:28 Very Popular


In an age in which cultural confusion is pushing for the ever increasing androgenization of human beings and the increasing blurring of gender differences, it is high time we in the Muslim and faith-based communities begin discussing the importance of a return to sacred manhood and masculinity which seeks to uphold the original purpose of creation with excellence, beauty, wisdom, light and love. In this episode of Soul of Islam Radio, join myself and coach and counselor Jamil Popatia as we discuss the role of men within the community and the unique roles they must again embrace as pillars of faith and strength so as to better guide and lead ourselves as well as our families and communities towards that which matters most—the divine pleasure of God. Jamil Popatia is a certified coach and counselor in Nonviolent Communication, and currently coaches young men towards noble and dignified leadership within their homes and communities. You can learn more about Sidi Jamil via his website, Dignified Dialogue.

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.
Lovingkindness As Insight. A Guided Meditation

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2022 18:31


Here I offer a guided meditation designed to allow one to connect to their resistances toward kindness. When we can see these resistances clearly, we may be able to hold compassionate space for them, and eventually they no longer inhibit our innate capacity for kindness. Meditation can be challenging at times. Occasionally we may experience things which surprise as a result. If you have any questions or concerns in regards to this, or other meditation practices, please feel free to message me through my website: www.suchsweetthunder.org I have been practicing meditation for 36 years and has been successfully teaching meditation worldwide since 2009, giving talks, facilitating retreats, and have authored two books. I have received formal training in Theravada, Mahayana (Tibetan, Zen,) and Vedanta meditation techniques as well as Trauma Sensitive Mindfulness, MBSR, Neuroplasticity, Nonviolent Communication, and Buddhist Psychology. I teach from a secular voice and I am passionate about bringing timeless wisdom teachings to people of any faith, belief system, or tradition. If you find these podcasts helpful please consider making a donation: PayPal.me/suchsweetthunder May All Benefit.

The Blindspot An Enneagram Podcast
Episode 12 - SO/SP/SX 8 Shares Her Story

The Blindspot An Enneagram Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2022 63:32


Meet Chris and hear about her life path as a SO/SP/SX 8. We cover what a traumatized 8 can look like and what a recovery journey for this type can be. We talk about trauma and how the rejection types deal with stress.  Check out the free trauma summit going on right now for some access to great learning! https://collectivetraumasummit.com/ Please contact me at contact@enneagramblindspots.com if you would like to be interviewed or have concepts you'd like me to talk about on a current episode. I'm also available for coaching on Enneagram, MBTI, Nonviolent Communication or Resonant Healing. Call 847-207-2705 if you'd like a free consultation.

What Then Must We Do?
How the West Brought War to Ukraine

What Then Must We Do?

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2022 75:16


I talk with Benjamin Abelow, author of "How the West Brought War to Ukraine."Ben explains what's wrong with the narrative you'll hear on TV about this conflict, and gives a brief rundown of the decades-long history that led up to it. We then talk about the psychological and financial incentives that drive the war machine, and he gives his thoughts on the Nord Stream pipeline attacks, and what we might do to encourage  peace in the world.Abelow's book is here, and David Gordon's review of it is here.His interview with Tom Woods is here.His interview with Useful Idiots is here.The books he mentions are:"War with Russia?" By Stephen Cohen"The War State" By Michael Swanson"Nonviolent Communication" By Marshall Rosenberg

You Want a Peace of Me?
10/4/22 – Weekly Podcast. “Building Our Peacemaking Skills: An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication”

You Want a Peace of Me?

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2022 16:12


Simblified
Non Violent Communication

Simblified

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2022 38:33


How often have you felt the need to yell your head off at someone or reach out and slap someone? But surprisingly, this is not the best way to deal with interpersonal conflicts or differences of opinion. The best way, according to psychologists, is to communicate non violently. Join your Simblified hosts as they find out what these non violent methods might be, while resisting the impulse to inflict violence on them for their dreadful punsA weekly podcast to help you appear smarter, to an audience that knows no less! Your four hosts - Chuck, Naren, Srikeit, and Tony attempt to deconstruct topics with humor (conditions apply). Fans of the show have described it as "fun conversations with relatable folks", "irreverent humor", "the funniest thing to come out of Malad West" and "if I give you a good review will you please let me go".Started in 2016 as a creative outlet, Simblified now has over 200 episodes, including some live ones, and some with guests who are much smarter than the hosts. Welcome to the world of Simblified!You can contact the hosts on:Chuck: twitter.com/chuck_gopal / instagram.com/chuckofalltradesNaren: twitter.com/shenoyn / instagram.com/shenoynvTony: twitter.com/notytony / instagram.com/notytonySrikeit: twitter.com/srikeit / instagram.com/srikeit

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.
Boundless Lovingkindness. A Dharma Talk

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2022 44:17


"...the great, the mighty, the medium the short and the small, those living near and far away. Those born and to be born. May all beings be at ease." Buddha. The Metta Sutta. Please join meditation teacher Chris Luard in an upcoming talk: "Boundless Lovingkindness, Reaching All" Sat. Oct. 1st. 8am Thailand Time Friday, Sept 30th 9pm East Coast Facebook and Instagram Live! Chris has been practicing meditation for 36 years and has been successfully teaching meditation worldwide since 2009, giving talks, facilitating retreats, and have authored two books. He has received formal training in Theravada, Mahayana (Tibetan, Zen,) and Vedanta meditation techniques as well as Trauma Sensitive Mindfulness, MBSR, Nonviolent Communication, and Buddhist Psychology. Chris teaches from a secular voice and he is passionate about bringing timeless wisdom teachings to people of any faith, belief system, or tradition.

Paul Green's MSP Marketing Podcast
Episode 151: Why cause-related marketing works for MSPs

Paul Green's MSP Marketing Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 3, 2022 32:39


Episode 151 includes: 00:00 Why you should always question every process within your MSP 06:14 What is 'cause-related marketing'... and how could it work for your MSP? 14:15 How MSPs can better manage 'software as a service' 30:55 A great book recommendation about using the right words in sales conversations Featured guests: Thank you to George Smith from Augmentt for joining Paul to discuss how MSPs can tackle managing their SaaS solutions. George is a dynamic and results-focused senior sales and marketing leader. He's recognised for strong communication and the ability to lead the professional development of individuals and support teams. He's also a certified canoe and climbing instructor with a passion for rugby. Connect with George on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/george-smith-augmentt/ Extra show notes: Out every Tuesday on your favourite podcast platform Presented by Paul Green, an MSP marketing expert: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-green-msp-marketing/ https://www.paulgreensmspmarketing.com/about/ On the subject of creating a good system within your MSP, Paul recommended the book Traction by Gino Wickman: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Traction-Get-Grip-Your-Business/dp/1936661837 Find out more about Paul Green's MSP Marketing Edge: https://www.mspmarketingedge.com/ Thank you to Harold Mann from Mann Consulting for recommending the book Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Guides/dp/189200528X https://www.linkedin.com/in/hmann Subscribe to Paul's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/mspmarketing Subscribe to this podcast using your favourite podcast provider: https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/Paul-Greens-MSP-Marketing-Podcast-Podcast/B08JK38L4V https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/paul-greens-msp-marketing-podcast/id1485101351 https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/paul-greens-msp-marketing-podcast https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucGF1bGdyZWVuc21zcG1hcmtldGluZy5jb20vZmVlZC9wb2RjYXN0?sa https://music.amazon.co.uk/podcasts/b03a9638-adf4-4491-93f1-569183e079d7/Paul-Greens-MSP-Marketing-Podcast

The Blindspot An Enneagram Podcast
Episode 11 - SX/SO/SP 9w8 Shares Her Story

The Blindspot An Enneagram Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2022 63:35


This week we meet Natalie and hear about her life path as a SX/SO/SP 9w8. If you would like to work with Natalie you can email her at natazolg@gmail.com.  Her new wellness coaching business is mindyourwellnesscoach.com where she uses her enneagram informed techniques to help others navigate the places in their lives they feel stuck.  Kara Nance is offering free consultations to work on typing, Enneagram coaching, Nonviolent Communication, Resonant Healing for Trauma, and mindfulness based strategies for working with unhealthy habits. Please email her at contact@enneagramblindspots.com if you would like to schedule. Please also email if you would like to be interviewed on The Blindspot or have questions or topics you would like to have addressed.

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.
Heartfelt Awareness Of The Body. A Guided Meditation.

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2022 25:57


Here I offer a meditation where we are invited to bring into awareness a memory or experience which opens our heart. We then are invited to bring that open hearted warmth to our entire body and sounds. Meditation can be challenging at times. Occasionally we may experience things which surprise as a result. If you have any questions or concerns in regards to this, or other meditation practices, please feel free to message me through my website: www.suchsweetthunder.org I have been practicing meditation for 36 years and has been successfully teaching meditation worldwide since 2009, giving talks, facilitating retreats, and have authored two books. I have received formal training in Theravada, Mahayana (Tibetan, Zen,) and Vedanta meditation techniques as well as Trauma Sensitive Mindfulness, MBSR, Nonviolent Communication, and Buddhist Psychology. I teach from a secular voice and I am passionate about bringing timeless wisdom teachings to people of any faith, belief system, or tradition. If you find these podcasts helpful please consider making a donation: PayPal.me/suchsweetthunder

Ask An Advanced Bitch
13. Nonviolence and effective Confrontation

Ask An Advanced Bitch

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2022 87:40


In part 1 answer a listener question about how to approach confronting a Fight Mode person about their upsetting behavior. I first detail why assessing other people's trauma responses in times of crisis is not conducive in achieving the desired outcome of mutual understanding, respect and boundaries. Diagnosing people can have the unintended effect of creating hierarchies and power dynamics in our heads that don't aid conflict resolution. I then recommend the highly effective tool of Nonviolent Communication coined by Marshall Rosenberg. This framework advocates for a formulaic approach to confrontation that distinguishes fact from emotion in order to facilitate resolution. In part 2, Trent, Taylor and I discuss The Vow Episode 4 To submit a question, you can email it or send a voice recording of your question to be played on the podcast to hello@advancedbitches.com   LINKS   The Advanced Bitchifesto - https://www.advancedbitches.com/the-bitchifesto Advanced Bitches Bingo - https://www.advancedbitches.com/bingo-instructions Taylor Wallis - https://www.instagram.com/taylorwallis/ NonViolent Communication book by Marshall Rosenberg - https://amzn.to/3drVSZy The Center for NonViolent Communication - https://www.cnvc.org/   Keep up with me: https://www.instagram.com/advancedbitches/ https://www.advancedbitches.com/membership https://www.tiktok.com/@advancedbitches https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCND6RMWO-erRUYMXVOAynWQ   My books:   The Irreverent Grief Guide:  How to F*cking Survive Months 1-3 https://amzn.to/3sZYalY The Irreverent Trust Guide:  How to Trust Again after Past Trauma F*cked You Up  https://amzn.to/3JJbIKA   Produced by Wowow     

Romanistan
The Art of Dream Divination

Romanistan

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 27, 2022 62:42


Paulina and Jez interview each other about the art of dream interpretation & divination to kick off our spooky season themed episodes this October. This episode also launches the first advice column, and we invite listeners to write in with their problems, and we will pull a tarot card each and give you some advice as best we can. Take it with a grain of salt— we're fortune tellers, not therapists. Paulina & Jez also shout out some wonderful Romani fortune tellers that they have gotten readings from recently: Bibi Jaz, Katelan Foisy, Bimbo Yaga (Ylva Mara Radziszewski), Opulent Witch (Kiki Robinson), & Sasha Ravitch. We highly recommend. Our advice column this month is about how to repair a wounded friendship. We mention the podcasts Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel, Best Friends with Nicole Byer & Sasheer Zamata, and the book Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Jez started that Patreon too!   https://www.patreon.com/jezminavonthieleThank you for listening to Romanistan podcast.You can find us on Instagram @romanistanpodcast, and on Facebook under the same name, and on Twitter @romanistanpodWe started a Ko-fi fundraiser to help us expand. Our goal is to continue releasing 2 episodes a month, including our advice column, and we would eventually like to expand so we can produce content by other Romani & Sinti creators. We are hoping to cover production costs, like paying for our hosting site, website, editing and producing, and all the rest. We would love it if you could contribute and spread the word. The link, Ko-fi.com/romanistan, is in our bio on Instagram too.Please rate, review, and subscribe. It helps us so much. If you would like to advertise with us, write in for our advice column, or otherwise reach out, email us at romanistanpodcast@gmail.com. We offer sliding-scale for Romani, Sinti & related businesses.You can find Jess on Instagram @jezmina.vonthiele, and you can find Jess' vintage and curiosities shop Evil Eye Edit on Instagram @evileyeedit & Etsy.You can find Paulina Verminski on Instagram @_paulina_v_ and at https://romaniholistic.com/. Follow Paulina's store, Romani Holistic, in Corona Del Mar, CA, on Instagram @romaniholistic Romanistan is hosted by Jessica Reidy and Paulina VerminskiConceived of by Paulina VerminskiEdited by CherubWith Music by Viktor PachasAnd Artwork by Elijah Vardo

The Bike Shed
356: The Value of Specialized Vocabulary

The Bike Shed

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 27, 2022 39:20


Guest and fellow thoughtbotter Stephanie Minn and Joël chat about how the idea of specialized vocabulary came up during a discussion of the Ruby Science book. We have all these names for code smells and refactors. Before knowing these names, we often have a vague sense of the ideas but having a name makes them more real. They also give us ways to talk precisely about what we mean. However, there is a downside since not everyone is familiar with the jargon. This episode is brought to you by Airbrake (https://airbrake.io/?utm_campaign=Q3_2022%3A%20Bike%20Shed%20Podcast%20Ad&utm_source=Bike%20Shed&utm_medium=website). Visit Frictionless error monitoring and performance insight for your app stack. Stephanie's previous talk (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0dC5RmxcFk) Non Violent Communication (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/71730.Nonviolent_Communication) RubyConfMini (http://www.rubyconfmini.com/) Ruby Science book (https://books.thoughtbot.com/books/ruby-science.html) Connascence as a vocabulary to discuss coupling (https://thoughtbot.com/blog/connascence-as-a-vocabulary-to-discuss-coupling) Wired series "5 levels of teaching" (https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLibNZv5Zd0dyCoQ6f4pdXUFnpAIlKgm3N) Transcript: JOËL: Hello and welcome to another episode of The Bike Shed, a weekly podcast from your friends at thoughtbot about developing great software. I'm Joël Quenneville. And today, I'm joined with fellow thoughtboter Stephanie Minn. STEPHANIE: Hey, Joël. JOËL: And together, we're here to share a little bit of what we've learned along the way. Stephanie, what is new in your world? STEPHANIE: Thanks for asking. I am on a new project I just started a few weeks ago, and I'm feeling the new project vibes, I think, kind of scoping out what's going on with the client with the work that they're doing. Trying to make a good impression. I think lately I've been in that mode of where can I find some work to do even when I'm just getting on boarded and learning the domain, trying to make those README updates in the areas that are a bit outdated, and yeah, just kind of along for the ride. One thing that has been surprising already is that in my second week, the project pivoted into a different direction than what I was expecting. So that has been kind of exciting and also pretty interesting to see sometimes this stuff happens. I was brought on thinking that we were working on rebuilding the front end in React and TypeScript, pulling out pieces of their 15-year-old Rails monolith. So that was kind of one area that they decided to start with. But recently, they actually decided to pivot to just revamping the look of the existing pages in the Rails app using the same templates and forms. So it's kind of shifted from more greenfield-esque work to figuring out what the heck's going on in this legacy codebase and making it a little bit more modern-looking and cleaning out the cobwebs, I suppose as we find them. JOËL: As a consultant, how do you deal with that kind of dramatic shift in expectations? STEPHANIE: I think it's tough because I necessarily wasn't in those conversations, and so I have to come at it with the understanding that they have a deep knowledge of the business and things that are going on behind the scenes that I don't, and I am coming in kind of with a fresh set of eyes. And it definitely raises some questions for me, right? Like, why now? What were the trade-offs that were made in the decisions? And I hope that as a consultant, I can poke and prod a little bit to help them with the transition and also figuring out its impact on the rest of the team in a way maybe someone who is more familiar with the situation and more tied to the politics of the org might not have that perspective. JOËL: I have a lot of questions here. But actually, I'm thinking that onboarding as a topic would probably make a good standalone episode. So maybe we'll have to bring you back for a future episode to talk about how to onboard well and how to deal with surprises. STEPHANIE: Yeah, I think that's a great idea. What about you, Joël? What's going on in your world? JOËL: I'm doing an integration with a third-party gem, and I am really struggling. And I've gotten to the point where I'm reading through the source of the gem to try to figure out some weird errors, some things that come up that are not documented. I think that's a really valuable skill. Ideally, you're not having to bring it out too often, but when you do, being able to drop into the code can really help unblock you or at least make some amount of progress. STEPHANIE: Are you having to dig into the gem's code because you weren't able to find what you needed from the documentation? JOËL: That's correct. I'm getting some cryptic errors where the gem is crashing, and I'm finding some lines in my logs that point back to the gem. And now I'm trying to reconstruct what is happening. Why is it not behaving the way it should be based on the documentation that I read? STEPHANIE: Oh, that's tough. Getting into gem code is uncharted territory. JOËL: It's nice when you're working with an open-source gem because the source is there, and you can just follow the stack trace and go through the code. Sometimes it's long and tedious, but it generally gives you results. It definitely is intimidating. STEPHANIE: Yeah. When you're facing this kind of problem where you have no idea where the light at the end of the tunnel might be, how long do you spend with it? At what point do you take away with what you've learned and try to figure out a different approach? JOËL: That's a good observation because digging through the source of a gem can definitely be a time sink. I think how much time I want to budget depends on a variety of other factors. How big of a problem is this? If I can't figure it out through reading the source, do I have alternate approaches to debug the problem, such as asking for help, opening an issue, reaching out to somebody else who's used it, complaining about it on The Bike Shed and hoping someone responds with an answer? There are other options that I can do that might leave me blocked but maybe eventually give me results. The advantage with reading the source is that you're at least feeling like you're making progress. STEPHANIE: Nice. Well, I wish you luck on that journey. [laughs] It sounds pretty tough. I'm sure that you'll get to one of those solutions and figure out how to get unblocked. JOËL: I hope so. I'm pursuing a few strategies in tandem. So I've asked for help, but I'm also reading the source code. And between the two of those, I hope I'll get to a good solution. So, Stephanie, last time you were on the show, you talked about your experience creating talk proposals for RubyConf. Have you heard back from them since then? STEPHANIE: I have. I will be speaking at RubyConf Mini this year. And I'm really excited because this will be my first IRL conference talk. So last time, I recorded my talk for RubyConf, and this time I will be up on a stage in front of real people. JOËL: That's really exciting. Congratulations. STEPHANIE: Thanks. JOËL: What is the topic of your talk? STEPHANIE: I will be talking about pair programming and specifically pair programming through the lens of a framework called Nonviolent Communication, which is a framework I learned about through a friend who recommended the canonical book on it. And it's a self-help book, to be totally frank, but I found it so illuminating. It really changed how I communicated in my relationships in my personal life. And the more time I spent with it, the more I realized that it would be a great application in pair programming because it's so collaborative and intimate. I've experienced the highs and lows of pair programming. You can feel so good when you are super connected with your pair. You make a lot of progress. You meet whatever professional goals that you might be meeting, and you have someone along for the ride the whole time. It can be just so rewarding. But it can also be really challenging when you are having more of those interpersonal conflicts, and navigating that can be tough. And so I'm really excited to share this style of communication that might help others who want to take their pair programming to the next level and get the most out of that experience no matter who they're pairing with. JOËL: I'm excited to hear this talk because pair programming has always been an important part of what we do at thoughtbot. And I think now that we're remote, we do a lot of remote pair programming. And the interpersonal interactions are a little bit different there than when you're physically in a room with each other, or you have to maybe pay a little bit more attention to them. I'm really excited to hear that. I think that's going to be really useful, not just for me but for a lot of the audience who are there. STEPHANIE: Thanks. Joël, you have a talk accepted at RubyConf Mini too. JOËL: Yes, I also had a talk accepted titled Teaching Ruby to Count. And it's going to be all about series, enumerators, enumerables, and ranges in Ruby and the cool things that you can do with them. So I'm really excited to share about that. I've done some deep dives on these topics, and I'm excited to share that with the broader Ruby community. STEPHANIE: Nice. I'm really excited to hear more about it. JOËL: Did you submit more than one proposal this year? STEPHANIE: This year, I didn't. But I would love to get to a point where I have a lot of content on the backburner and can pull it out when CFP season rolls around to just have some more options. Yeah, I have all these ideas in my head. I think we talked about how we come up with content in our last episode. But yeah, having a content bank sounds really nice for the future, so maybe when that season rolls around, it is a lot easier to get the ball rolling on submitting. What about you? Did you submit more than one? JOËL: I submitted two, but this is the one I was most excited about. I think the other idea was maybe a little bit more polished, but this one was a newer one I came up with towards the end of the CFP period. And I was like, ooh, I'm excited about this. I've just done a deep dive on enumerators, and I think there are some cool things to share with the community. And so that's what I'm excited to share about, and maybe that came through the proposal because that is what the committee picked. So I'm super happy to be talking about that. STEPHANIE: Nice. Yeah, I was just thinking the same, that your excitement about it was probably palpable to the committee. JOËL: For any of our viewers who are interested in coming to watch the talks by Stephanie and myself and plenty of other gifted speakers, this will be at RubyConf Mini in Providence, Rhode Island, from November 15th to 17th. And if you can't make it in person, the videos will be published online early in 2023. And we'll definitely share the links to that when they come out. So as we mentioned in your last episode, thoughtbot has a book club where we've been discussing the book Ruby Science, which goes through a lot of code smells and talks about some various refactoring patterns that can be used to fix them. Most recently, we looked at a code smell that has a very evocative name; it's called shotgun surgery. STEPHANIE: Yeah, it's a very visceral name for sure. I think that is what prompted this next topic that we're about to discuss because someone in the book club, another thoughtboter, mentioned that they were learning this term for the first time. But it made a lot of sense to them because they had experienced shotgun surgery and didn't have the term for it previously. Joël, do you mind giving the listeners a recap of what shotgun surgery is? JOËL: So shotgun surgery is when in order to make a change to a codebase, you have to make a bunch of little changes in a lot of different files, a lot of different locations. And that means that all of these little pieces are weirdly coupled to each other in a way that to make one change, you have to make a bunch of little changes in a lot of places. And that results in a very high churn diff, and that's a common symptom of this problem. STEPHANIE: Nice. Thanks for explaining. MID-ROLL AD: Debugging errors can be a developer's worst nightmare...but it doesn't have to be. Airbrake is an award-winning error monitoring, performance, and deployment tracking tool created by developers for developers that can actually help cut your debugging time in half. So why do developers love Airbrake? It has all of the information that web developers need to monitor their application - including error management, performance insights, and deploy tracking! Airbrake's debugging tool catches all of your project errors, intelligently groups them, and points you to the issue in the code so you can quickly fix the bug before customers are impacted. 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STEPHANIE: I think I came away from that conversation thinking about the idea of learning new terms, especially technical ones, and the power that learning those terms can give you as a developer, especially when you're communicating with other people on your team. JOËL: So you mentioned the value in communication there. Some terms have a very precise meaning, and so that allows you to communicate a very specific idea. How do you balance having some jargon and some terminology that allows you to speak very precisely versus having to learn all the terms? Because the more narrow the term is, the more terms you need to talk about all the different things. STEPHANIE: That's a great question. I don't know if I have a great answer because I think I'm still on my journey. I have always noticed when developers I work with have that really precise, articulate technical vocabulary, probably because I don't. I am constantly referring to functions or classes as things, like, that thingy over there talks to this thing over here, and then does something. [laughs] And I think it's because I maybe didn't always have that exposure to very precise technical vocabulary. And so I had an understanding of how things worked in my head, but I couldn't necessarily map that to words. And I'm also from California, so, I don't know, maybe some of that is showing through a little bit. [laughs] But I've been trying to incorporate more technical terms when I speak and also in written form, too, such as in code review, because I want to be able to communicate more clearly my intentions and leave less room for ambiguity. Sometimes I've noticed when you do speak more casually about code, turns out other people can interpret it in different ways. And if you are using, like you said, that narrower technical term for it, that leaves less room for misunderstanding. But in the same vein, I think a lot of people are like me, where they might not know the technical terms for things. And when you start using a lot of jargon like that, it can be a bit exclusive to folks earlier in their career, especially since software as an industry we have folks from all different backgrounds. We don't necessarily have the expectation of assured formal training. We want to be inclusive of people who came to this career from different places and make sure that we are speaking the same language. And so it's been top of mind for me thinking about how we can balance those two things. I don't know, what do you think? JOËL: I want to speak to some of the value of precision first because I think there are a few different points. We have the value of precision, then we have the difficulty of learning vocabulary, and how are we inclusive of everyone. But on the topic of precision, I don't know if you saw not too long ago, another fellow thoughtboter, Matheus Sales, published an article on the thoughtbot blog about the concept of connascence. And he introduces this as a new set of vocabulary, not vocabulary that he's created but a vocabulary that is out there that not that many developers are aware of for different ways to talk about coupling. So it's easy in a pull request to just say, "Oh, well, that thing looks coupled. How about this other way?" And then I respond, "Well, that's also coupled in a different way." And then we just go back and forth like, "Well, mine is more coupled than yours is," or whatever. And connascence provides a more precise, narrow vocabulary to talk about the different ways that things are coupled and which ones are more coupled than others. And so it allows us to break out of maybe those unproductive discussions because now we can talk about things in a more granular way. STEPHANIE: Yeah, I loved that blog post. It was really exciting for me to pick up a new term to describe something that I had experienced, or seen in codebases, or felt the pain of, and be able to describe it more accurately. I'm curious, Joël, if you were to use that term next time, how would you make sure that folks also have the same level of familiarity with it? JOËL: I think on a pull request, I would link to Matheus' article depending on...I might give a little bit of context in a comment. So I might say something like, "This area here is coupled. Here's a suggested refactor. It's also coupled but in a different way. It's because we've moved up this hierarchy of connascence from, you know, connascence of names to some other form" (I don't have them all memorized.) and then link to the article. And hopefully, that becomes the start of a productive discussion. But yeah, having the resources you can link to people is great. And that's one of the nice things about text communication on a pull request is that you can just link to external resources that people can find helpful. STEPHANIE: To continue talking about the value of precision and specialized vocabulary, Joël, I think you are a very articulate communicator. And I'm curious from your perspective if you have always been this way, if you've always wanted to collect technical terms to describe exactly what you want to convey, or if this was a bit of a journey for you to get to this level of clear communication in your technical speaking and writing. JOËL: It's definitely been a journey. I think there are sort of two components to this; one is being able to communicate clearly to others; make sure that they understand what you're talking about. So for that, it's really important to be able to put yourself in somebody else's shoes. So when I'm building a conference talk or writing up a blog post, I will try to read it or go through my slide deck and try to pretend that I am the audience. And then I ask myself the questions: where do I get confused? Where am I going to have questions? Maybe even where am I going to roll my eyes a little bit and be like, eh, I didn't agree with that leap of logic there; where are you going? And then shift back in author mode and say, how can I address these? How can I make my content speak to you in an area where maybe you disagreed, or you were confused? So I kind of jump between moving from the audience seat to back to the author and try to make that material as much as possible resonate with those people. STEPHANIE: Do you do that in more real-time communication, such as in meetings or in pairing? JOËL: I think that's a little bit harder to do. And then it's maybe a little bit more of asking directly, either pausing to let people interject, or you can ask the question directly and say, "Are you familiar with this term?" That can also sometimes be tricky to manage because you don't want to make it sound like you think they don't know anything. But you can also make it sound really natural in a conversation where you're like, "Oh, we're going to do this thing with a strategy pattern. Have you seen a strategy pattern before? Are you familiar with this? Great, let's keep moving." And if not, maybe it's like, "Hey, let's take a few minutes to talk about what the strategy pattern means." STEPHANIE: I think you are really great at asking the audience about their level of familiarity with the content, especially in book club. I have definitely experienced just as a developer pairing, or in meetings, or whatnot times when people don't pause and ask. And usually, I have to muster up the courage to interrupt and ask, "Hey, what is X, Y, and Z?" And that is tough sometimes. I am certainly comfortable with it in a space where there is trust developed in terms of I don't feel worried that people might question my level of familiarity or experience. And I can very enthusiastically say, "Hey, I don't know what this means. Could you please explain it?" But sometimes it can be a little tough when you might not have that relationship with someone, or you haven't talked about it, talked about assumptions about your knowledge or experience level upfront. And so I have found that to be a really good way to build that trust to make sure that we aren't excluding folks is to just talk about some of that stuff, even before we start pairing or before a meeting. And that can really help with some of those miscommunications that might come down later in the process. JOËL: It's interesting that you bring up miscommunication because I think sometimes, even though certain jargon can be very precise, sometimes people will not use it to mean exactly what its dictionary definition is. And so sometimes two people are using the same term, and you're not meaning quite the same thing. And so sometimes I'll be pairing with someone, and I'll have to sort of pause and say, "Hey, wait a minute, you're using the term adapter in a certain way that seems to be a little bit different than the way I'm using it. Can you maybe tell me what your personal definition is? And I'll tell you mine, and we can reconcile those two together." Sometimes that can also feel like a situation where maybe I'm hazy on the topic. Like, I have a vague sense of it, and maybe it does or does not align with the way the other person is using it. And so that's an opportunity for me to ask them to define the term for me without completely having to say, "I have no idea what this term is. Please, oh, great sage, explain the meaning." STEPHANIE: Are there times that you feel more or less comfortable doing that kind of reset? JOËL: I think sometimes the fear is in breaking flow. And so you're doing a thing, and then somebody is trying to explain something, and you don't want to break out of that. Or you're trying to explain something, and you have to decide, is it worth making sure to explain a term, or do you keep moving? So I think that is a big concern. And there is just the interpersonal concern of if there is less trust, do I want to put myself out there? Does somebody else maybe not feel comfortable you asked them to explain a term? Maybe they're using it wrong. It's not always good in a pairing situation to just come up and say, "Hey, that's not technically the adapter pattern; you're wrong. Let me pull out The Gang of Four book. You see on page 54..." that's not productive. STEPHANIE: Yeah, for sure. JOËL: So a lot of it, I think...and maybe this ties into your topic of communication while pairing. But ideally, you're working constructively with a person. And so debating definitions is not generally productive but asking someone, "What do you mean when you say this?" I find is a very helpful way to lead into that type of conversation. STEPHANIE: Yeah, that's a great strategy because you're coming from a place of curiosity rather than a place of this is my definition, and it's the right definition, and so, therefore, you are wrong. [laughs] JOËL: It's interesting the place that jargon occupies in our imagination of expertise. If you've ever seen any movie where they're trying to show that somebody is technically competent, they usually demonstrate that a person is competent by having them just spout out a long chain of jargon, and that makes them sound smart. But I think to a certain extent; maybe we believe it in the industry as well. If somebody can use a lot of terms and talk about a system using this very specific jargon, we tend to think that they're smart or at least look up to them a little bit. STEPHANIE: Yeah, which I think isn't always the best assumption because I've certainly worked with folks who did throw out a lot of jargon but weren't necessarily, like you were saying, using it the way that I understood it, and that made communicating with them challenging. I also think what true expertise really is is having the knowledge that when you use a jargony term that not everyone might be familiar with it, having the awareness to pause and ask someone how they're doing with the vocabulary and be able to tailor how you explain that term to that other person. I think that demonstrates a really deep level of understanding that doesn't get enough credit. JOËL: I 100% agree. Jargon, vocabulary, it's a means to an end, not an end in and of itself. So the goal is to communicate clearly to others and maybe to help yourself in your own learning. And if you're not accomplishing those goals, then what's the point? I guess maybe there is another personal goal which is to sound smart, but that's not really a good goal, [laughs] especially not when the way you do that is by confusing everybody else in the room because they don't understand you, to make you try to feel smarter than them. Like, that's bad communication. STEPHANIE: Yeah, for sure. I've definitely experienced listening to someone explain something and have to really think very hard about every single word that they're saying because they were using terms that are just less common. And so, in my brain, I had to map them to things that made sense to me, and things that I was familiar with that were the same concepts. Like, I was experienced enough to have that shared understanding, but just the words that they used required another layer of brain work. Maybe we could have found a happy medium between them communicating the way that they expressed themselves the best with my ability to understand easily and quickly so that we could get on the same page. JOËL: So you mentioned that there are sometimes situations where you're aware of a particular concept, but maybe you're just not aware that the term that somebody else is using maps to this concept you already understand. And I know that for me, oftentimes, being able to give a name to something that I understand is an incredibly powerful thing. Even though I already know the idea of passing objects to another object in this particular configuration, or of wrapping things in some way or whatever the thing that I'm trying to do, all of a sudden, instead of it being a more nebulous concept in my head or a list of 10 steps or something like that, now I have one thing I can just point to and say it is this. So that's been really helpful for me in my learning to be able to take a label and put it on something that I already know. And somehow, it cements the idea in my head and also then allows me to build on it to the next things that I want to learn. STEPHANIE: Yeah, absolutely. It's really exciting when you're able to have that light-bulb moment when you have that precise term, or you learn that precise term for something that you have been wrestling with or experiencing for a while now. I was just reminded of reading documentation. I have a very vivid memory of the first time I read; I don't know, even the Rails official docs, all of these terms that I didn't understand at the time. But then once I started digging into it, exploring, and just doing the work, when I revisited those docs, I could understand them a lot more comprehensively because I had experience with the things (There I am using things again.) [laughs] and seeing the terms for them and that helping solidify my understanding. JOËL: I'm curious, in your personal learning, do you find it easier to encounter a term first and then learn what it means, or do the reverse, learn the concept first and then cap it off by being able to give it a name? STEPHANIE: That's a good question. I think the latter because I've certainly spent a lot of time Googling terms and then reading whatever first search results came up and being like, okay, I think I got it, and then Googling the same term like two weeks later because I didn't really get it the first time. But whenever I come across a term for a concept I already am familiar with, it is like, oh yes, uh-huh! That really ends up sticking with me. Matheus Sales' blog post that you mentioned earlier is a really great example of that term really standing out to me because I didn't know it at the time, but I suppose was seeking out something to describe the concept of connascence. So that was really cool and really memorable. What about you? Do you have a preferred way of learning new technical terms? JOËL: I think there can be value to both approaches. But I'm with you; I think it generally is easier to add a name to a concept you already understand. And I experienced this pretty dramatically when I tried to get into functional programming. So several years ago, I tried to learn the language Haskell which is notorious for being difficult to learn and very abstract and technical. And the way that the Haskell community typically tries to teach things is learn the fundamentals first, very top-down, learn the theory, and then, later on, you can do things in practice. So it's like before you can write an actual program, let us teach you about applicatives, and monads, and all these things that are really difficult to learn. And they're kind of scary technical terms. So I choked out partway through, gave up on Haskell. A year later, got back into it, tried it again, choked out again. And then, eventually, I pivoted. I started getting into a similar language called Elm, which is similar syntax but compiles to JavaScript for the front end. And that community has the opposite philosophy when it comes to teaching. They want to get you productive as soon as possible. And you can learn some of the theory as you go along. And so with that, I felt like I was learning something new all the time and being productive as well, like, constantly adding new features to things in an application, and that's really exciting. And what's really beautiful there is that you eventually learn a lot of the same concepts that you would learn in something like Haskell because the two languages share a lot of similar concepts. But instead of saying first, you need to learn about monads as a general concept, and then you can build a program; Elm says, build a bunch of programs first. We'll show you the basic syntax. And after you've built a bunch of them, you'll start realizing, wait a minute, these things all kind of look alike. There are patterns I'm starting to recognize. And then you can just point to that and say, hey, that pattern that you started recognizing, and you see a bunch of times that's monad. You've known it all along, and now you can put a label on it. And you've gotten there. And so that's the way that I learned those concepts. And that was much easier for me than the approach of trying to learn the abstract concept first. STEPHANIE: Monad is literally the word I just Googled earlier this week and still have a very, very hazy understanding of. So maybe I'll have to go learn Elm now. [chuckles] JOËL: I recommend a lot of people to use that as their entry point into the statically typed functional programming world, just because of how much more shallow the learning curve is compared to alternatives. And I think a lot of it has to do with that approach of saying, let's get you productive quickly. Let's get you doing things. And eventually, patterns will emerge, and you can put names on them later. But we'll not make you learn all of the theory upfront, all the jargon. STEPHANIE: Now that you do understand all the technical jargon around functional programming, how do you approach communicating about it when you do talk about Elm or those kinds of concepts? JOËL: A lot of it depends on your audience. If you have an audience that already knows these concepts, then being able to use those names is really valuable because it's a shortcut. You can just say, oh yeah, this thing is a monad, and so, therefore, we can do these actions with it. And everybody in the audience just already knows monads have these properties. That's wonderful. Now I can follow to step two instead of having to have a slow build-up. So if I'm writing an article or giving a talk, or even just having a conversation with someone, if I knew they didn't know the term, I would have to really build up to it, and maybe I wouldn't introduce the term at all. I would just talk about some of the properties that are interesting for the purpose of this particular demo. But I would probably have to work up to it and say, "See, we have this simpler thing, and then this more complex thing. But here are the problems that we have with it. Here's a change we can make to our code that will make it work." And you walk through the process without necessarily getting into all of the theory. But with somebody else who did know, I could just say, "Oh, what we need here is monad." And they look at me, and they're like, "Oh, of course," and then we do it. STEPHANIE: What you just described reminds me a lot of the WIRED Video Series, five levels of teaching where they have an expert come in and teach the same concept to different-aged people starting from young kids to an expert in their field as well. And I really liked how you answered that question just with the awareness that you tailor how you explain something to your audience because we could all benefit from just having that intentionality when we communicate in order to get the most value out of our interactions and knowledge sharing, and collaborative working. JOËL: I think a theme that underlies a lot of what you and I have talked about today is just that communication, good communication is the fundamental value that we're going for here. And jargon and vocabulary can be something that empowers that but used poorly; it can also defeat that purpose. And most importantly, good communication starts with the audience, not with you. So when you work back from the audience, you can use the appropriate vocabulary and words that serve everybody and your ultimate goal of communicating. STEPHANIE: I love that. JOËL: So, Stephanie, thank you so much for joining us on The Bike Shed today. And as we wrap up, I wanted to ask you, what is a really fun piece of vocabulary that you've learned that you might want to share with the audience? STEPHANIE: So lately, I learned the term WYSIWYG, which stands for What You See Is What You Get to describe text editing software that lets you see and edit the content as it would actually be displayed. So that was a fun, little term that someone brought up when we were paring and looking at some text editing code. And I was really excited because it sounds fun, and also, now I had just an opportunity to say it on a podcast. [laughs] JOËL: It's amazing that an acronym that is that long has enough vowels in the right places that you can just pronounce it. STEPHANIE: Oh yeah. JOËL: WYSIWYG. That's a fun word to say. STEPHANIE: 100%. I also try to pronounce all acronyms, regardless of how pronounceable they actually are. [laughs] Thanks for asking. JOËL: With that, shall we wrap up? STEPHANIE: Let's wrap up. JOËL: The show notes for this episode can be found at bikeshed.fm. This show is produced and edited by Mandy Moore. If you enjoyed listening, one really easy way to support the show is to leave us a quick rating or even a review in iTunes. It really helps other folks find the show. If you have any feedback, you can reach us at @_bikeshed, or reach me at @joelquen on Twitter, or at hosts@bikeshed.fm via email. Thank you so much for listening to The Bike Shed, and we'll see you next week. Byeeeeeeee!!!!!! ANNOUNCER: This podcast was brought to you by thoughtbot. thoughtbot is your expert design and development partner. Let's make your product and team a success.

Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson
How to Effectively Communicate What You Want

Being Well with Dr. Rick Hanson

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2022 61:14 Very Popular


On the previous episode of Being Well, we talked about how to identify our wants and needs...but identifying our needs is just the first step. After that comes the tricky business of coming to terms with those needs, and communicating them effectively to other people.In this episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson explore best practices for claiming and expressing our needs. This includes how to navigate shame and inhibition, make effective agreements, be considerate of the person on the receiving end of our wants, and become more skillful at negotiation and repair. Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Introduction2:05: Getting real about meeting our needs.7:10: Suppressing needs due to self-worth challenges8:35: Patience, making your offering, and tipping points11:45: Inhibition, and negotiating our needs with other people15:50: Non-Violent Communication and “Wise Speech” models26:30: The need for multiple cycles of communication28:20: Expecting defeat, and two big moments of pain32:10: Keeping agreements37:45: Confidence in the ability to repair39:35: Considering the person on the receiving end of your communication43:00: Generosity45:15: Questions to ask when feeling uncertain about how to express a need49:30: Death by a thousand cuts, and facing discomfort52:10: Asking others, “What else do you want from me?”54:30: Recap Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:Listen to Season 2 of Turning Points from Boston Globe Media wherever you get your podcasts!Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.MDbio is a plant-based medicine company with natural products that address sleep, anxiety, pain, and immunity. Get your FREE 10-count sample pack by going to mdbiowellness.com and entering the promo code BEINGWELL at checkout!Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

The Dream Journal
Your Resonant Self with Sarah Peyton

The Dream Journal

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 26, 2022


Do you want to make your own brain a safe haven? We explore the idea that healing happens when we resonate with other human beings and with ourselves. In this replay from a popular show recorded in January 2021, our guest neuroscience educator Sarah Peyton talks about how our inner voice is part of our default mode network, the automatic part of the brain that is formed by our experiences, and about how we typically model our own thoughts after our parents' mental habits. We talk about inner voices and how we can tame them by offering them empathy guesses in the mode of NonViolent Communication (NVC). Sarah offers suggestions about using these techniques to help people working with their dreams. We take a call from Jaya from Hawaii who shares a series of recurring dreams about being trapped underwater by huge waves. Sarah works with Jaya helping her to have a sense of accompaniment with these big images and with the big feelings that come with them. We end with Sarah sharing that she has been incubating dreams of beauty. Bio: Sarah Peyton, Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, constellation facilitator and neuroscience educator, integrates brain science and the use of resonant language to heal trauma and nourish self-warmth with exquisite gentleness. She teaches and lectures internationally, and is the author of the book “Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations and Exercises to Engage Your Brain's Capacity for Healing.” Her second book from W.W. Norton, “The Your Resonant Self Workbook”, is available for preorder on Amazon and will be published May 25, 2021. Her work with dreams explores how dream images unfold when we hold them with resonance. SarahPeyton.com YourResonantSelf.com Books mentioned in this episode: Your Resonant Self  by Sarah Peyton, A General Theory of Love by Lewis, Amini and Lannon, and Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker. Today's ambient music is created by Rick Kleffel. Many thanks to Max Deaton for answering the phones. Show originally broadcast January 13, 2021. Updated version aired on September 24, 2022. The Dream Journal is produced at and airs on KSQD Santa Cruz, 90.7 FM, streaming live at KSQD.org 10-11am Saturday mornings Pacific time.  Catch it live and call in with your dreams or questions at 831-900-5773 or at onair@ksqd.org. If you want to contact Katherine Bell with feedback, suggestions for future shows or to inquire about exploring your own dreams with her, contact katherine@ksqd.org, or find out more about her at ExperientialDreamwork.com. The complete KSQD Dream Journal podcast page can be found at ksqd.org/the-dream-journal. You can also check out The Dream Journal on the following podcast platforms:  Rate it, review it, subscribe and tell your friends. Apple Podcasts Google Play Stitcher  Spotify

The Liturgists Podcast
Nonviolent Forgiveness (I Forgive You)

The Liturgists Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2022 27:11


Can the idea of forgiveness actually be violent? In this episode, Michael talks about Gungor's new single "I Forgive You" and explores the idea of forgiveness looking through the different lenses presented in Marshall Rosenberg's "Nonviolent Communication".

Okay Sis
Erin Gilmore at Open: Bringing Silliness to Meditation, Non-Violent Communication, & Motherhood Intentions

Okay Sis

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 19, 2022 60:34


Mady and Scout chat with Mady's favorite Open teacher, Erin Gilmore. They cover breath work, bringing silliness into meditation, non-violent communication, and motherhood intentions. You can download the Open app here and use code OKAYSIS for a discount :) JOIN OUR COMMUNITY CENTER ON GENEVA! LEAVE A VOICEMAIL FOR THE SISTERS HERE! GET OUR MERCH HERE :) SUBSCRIBE to the new Okay Sis newsletter here- TGIM is about to take on a whole new meaning! Follow us! Erin: @eringilmore Okay Sis: @okaysispodcast Scout: @scoutsobel Mady: @madymaio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Love Light
Using Non-violent Communication in the Workplace

Love Light

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2022 60:00


Empathy, active listening, perspective-taking, and many other soft skills are seldom used in the workplace, especially in high-stakes conversations. Get clear on how to combine your leadership style with a process called Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Guest, Monique Daigneault, President and CEO of MD Consulting and executive coach with over three decades of experiences developing corporate executives into successful leaders, will share the NVC method that takes empathy to the next level and is something that can be applied in all areas of your life, with groups or individuals. You no longer need to use slick negotiation techniques, dread difficult conversations, or deal with the anxiety of giving tough feedback. Monique will empower leaders on how to leverage natural abilities, plus NVC, to master confidence and assertiveness in the workplace, build trust, and resolve conflict.

Oh Crap I Love My Toddler... But Holy F*ck
Patreon Unlock: Effective Communication: Askers, Guessers, and Boundaries

Oh Crap I Love My Toddler... But Holy F*ck

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 15, 2022 38:57


Today's episode is going to be a doozy as I talk to you once again about one of my absolute favorite topics – boundaries. This time, I'm adding in the component of effective communication as well and the impact it has on boundaries, so buckle up! I start by reviewing my well known love of boundaries, and then explain nonviolent communication and the impact that our caregivers' responses to our needs as children have upon our ability to communicate needs and set boundaries later on in life. We'll also explore family culture, codependency, and emotionally clean transactions through a fascinating analysis of ‘Ask Culture vs. Guess Culture' which I have recently discovered. As you will hear, this topic is extremely important to me, not just professionally, but personally as well, and that is precisely why I am so very passionate about this episode. Join me today, and let's learn together more about ourselves, and how we can enhance all of our relationships with effective communication.   The Finer Details of This Episode: Having boundaries and knowing when to keep them strong and when to bend them is everything Nonviolent communication is a way to get your needs met through effective communication How our caregivers responded to our needs has everything to do with how we communicate our needs and how we set boundaries, and when our caregivers respond poorly to our emotional needs, we grow up with horrible boundaries Your family culture determines how good or bad you are at boundaries Making people guess at what you're thinking or feeling is not a style of communication, it's a dysfunction in your family culture Guessers think that somehow they're responsible for your feelings Nobody is so clairvoyant that they can tell what a person is thinking or feeling at all times Healthy askers accept ‘No' for an answer We re drawn to people that make us have to work through our shit In a emotionally clean transaction, you don't have to explain yourself Codependency is defined by investing a lot of time and energy in making sure the other person is not hurt, upset, or disappointed If anybody ever tells you, ‘See what you made me do? You made me…', that's a dysfunction and needs to be addressed.   Quotes: “I think boundaries are the secret sauce to life.” “Communication, communing, communion with other human beings in an effective way that gets both our needs met is the closest thing I know to holy – it's amazing.” “If you're a guesser, you're expecting me to read your mind.” “My family would turn on me…I was kicked out of the tribe. That's a really powerful motivator to not speak your truth.” “It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.” “Finding the need, I think, is the crux of all of this.”   Links: Jamie's homepage - http://www.jamieglowacki.com/  Oh Crap! Potty Training - https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting-ebook/dp/B00V3L8YSU Oh Crap! I Have A Toddler -  https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Oh-Crap!-I-Have-a-Toddler/Jamie-Glowacki/Oh-Crap-Parenting/9781982109738 Jamie's Patreon Page: https://www.patreon.com/join/jamieglowacki? Nonviolent Communication audiobook:  https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00TKMBJKE/ Ask Culture vs. Guess Culture Facebook link: https://www.facebook.com/MKEManKindProjectOpenMensGroup/posts/ask-culture-vs-guess-culture-were-you-able-to-ask-for-what-you-wanted-or-did-you/3105247169499428/ ‘The Invitation' link:  http://www.oriahmountaindreamer.com/

Neurocareers: How to be successful in STEM?
Interpersonal Neurobiology & Resonant Movement with Sasha Soreff

Neurocareers: How to be successful in STEM?

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2022 54:32


Interpersonal Neurobiology & Resonant Movement with Sasha Soreff Are you willing to take 15 seconds to move your body right now? What about taking 15 seconds to tune inside and say: "Oh... What am I sensing? Do I find any sensation going on in my body?" and to do it as many times as you think of it in the days to come? See how it feels for you and discover what benefits the Interpersonal Neurobiology and Resonant Movement bring you! Sasha Soreff - a New York City-based choreographer, dance teacher, and empathy/movement facilitator, will guide you throughout this process in Episode 15 of our Neurocareers podcast! Sasha brings her extensive training in Relational Neuroscience and Nonviolent Communication along with the creative movement to support self-connection and open new possibilities.     About the Podcast Guest The best way to learn more about the Neurocareers podcast guest Sasha Soreff and Resonant Movement is at: https://sashasoreffdance.com/   or follow Sasha on Instagram: @sashadancecreate   About the Podcast and Its Host The Neurocareers podcast is brought to you by The Institute of Neuroapproaches and its founder - Milena Korostenskaja, Ph.D. (Dr. K) - a neuroscience educator, neuroscience research consultant, and career coach for students and recent graduates in neuroscience and neurotechnologies: https://www.neuroapproaches.org/ You will benefit from neuroscience-based coaching if you want to... Get your projects DONE instead of procrastinating and feeling stuck. Step out of burnout ONCE AND FOR ALL without overeating, overdrinking, or binge-watching. STOP feeling anxious, stressed, and overwhelmed when managing your time and responsibilities. OVERCOME FEAR of public speaking and improve your communication skills. Get rid of your chronic IMPOSTER SYNDROME and boost your SELF-CONFIDENCE instead. ACHIEVE your goals and BUILD a successful career instead of failing. Get in touch with Dr. K. by sending an email: neuroapproaches@gmail.com Schedule a free consultation session with Dr. K. by following this link: https://neuroapproaches.as.me/

Engineering Peace with Thom Bond
Breakthrough Virtual Reality Empathy Training For Police - Coming to a Police Department Near You

Engineering Peace with Thom Bond

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2022 32:41


In this "What Peace Sounds Like" Episode, Thom brings  listeners up to date on a project that has formed through his work here on this podcast. It is the next chapter in this real-life practice of Peace Engineering, a chapter which began with his series here with Reverend Dr. Michael Christie titled "A Conversation Between Two Americans".That episode led to a revival of Thom's work with his former student, retired NY Police Detective, Anthony Torres, who is featured in Thom's Engineering Peace episode, Feelings, Needs, and Police Work.Today's episode features Anthony Torres and Mike Roberts, a new partner in the journey. Mike is a software engineer that has tipped the scales in the direction of progress, by bringing the expertise that completes the team that's creating a whole new future for police and the public they serve. Thom, Anthony and Mike talk about their project's genesis, it's current status, and it's future.Support the show

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.
Big Sky. A Guided Meditation

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2022 20:34


Based on the meditation created by Jospeh Goldstein, this meditation allows us to connect with the spaciousness of awareness, loosening our attachments to thoughts and feelings, and coming to rest in the open awareness. Bon Voyage! Meditation can be challenging at times. Occasionally we may experience things which surprise as a result. If you have any questions or concerns in regards to this, or other meditation practices, please feel free to message me through my website: www.suchsweetthunder.org I have been practicing meditation for 36 years and has been successfully teaching meditation worldwide since 2009, giving talks, facilitating retreats, and have authored two books. I have received formal training in Theravada, Mahayana (Tibetan, Zen,) and Vedanta meditation techniques as well as Trauma Sensitive Mindfulness, MBSR, Nonviolent Communication, and Buddhist Psychology. I teach from a secular voice and I am passionate about bringing timeless wisdom teachings to people of any faith, belief system, or tradition. If you find these podcasts helpful please consider making a donation: PayPal.me/suchsweetthunder May All Benefit

Mothers Who Know
#135 Roslyn Geertsen - “Heartbreak to Healing with Heaven's Help”

Mothers Who Know

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 8, 2022 78:30


Roslyn is authentic in sharing her experiences with grief and will have you consider what you might be grieving now. We all experience grief, whether it's unrealized expectations, loss of a relationship due to choice or illness and of course death. In Roslyn's kind way, she explains what grief is and teaches that we must grieve and what we need to do to be willing to do to release that grief. You'll learn the benefits of and purpose of crying. Roslyn also shares many tools and resources to help with grief. You will appreciate this spirit-filled, helpful, hopeful message. Through your acts of faith and through the power of our Savior, Jesus Christ, there can be healing to your heartbreak. *Slides used in presentation *Roslyn Geertsen's Handout for Grief Presentation *Roslyn shows this YouTube video of "Hold On, the Light Will Come" - music by Michael McLean featuring Sean Hyte *BYU Men's Chorus – Music Downloads Roslyn refers to a “Feelings Wheel” Based on Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D To Connect with Roslyn: Roslyn Romney Reynolds Geertsen is a Life Coach and Mentor with Life Changing Services. Roslyn's website Heartbreak to Healing To email Roslyn click here Download a FREE copy of Roslyn's book, “SOLO, Getting It All Together When You Find Yourself Alone”, for a hard copy just pay shipping and handling $5.50 you can Venmo her at @Roslyn-Geertsen-1 remember to provide your name and shipping address. Roslyn is often featured on Like Dragons Did They Fight Podcast sharing her insights, coaching and wisdom. Learn more about the helpful programs and many of the FREE services Mothers Who Know offers: There are many resources at Mothers Who Know Website please come see us. Join our FREE online training at MOM POWER. If you are looking for resources for a loved one in need you'll find help at Life Changing Services. Knowledge is Power! Take a look.(see all the programs and services under the groups/workshops and support/training tabs) Looking to gain some tools in your own self mastery visit our Eternal Warriors Program at Life Changing Services We invite you to consider working with Karen, including scheduling a complimentary 30-minute visit. Please check out our Stay by the Tree often to learn about future 3-week, FREE webinar series we host every 10 weeks. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/motherswhoknow/support

Face2Face with David Peck
The Beatles, Love & Inner Peace

Face2Face with David Peck

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2022 52:54


Paul Saltzman and Face2Face host David Peck talk about his new film Meeting The Beatles in India, John Lennon and following your heart, politics, civil rights andhow storytelling can do magical things and what it might mean to look for inner peace.TrailerVisit Paul's other sites: Moving Beyond Prejudice and Prom Night in MississippiFor More InformationSynopsis:Filmmaker Paul Saltzman retraces his journey of 50 years ago when he spent a life-changing time with the Beatles at the Maharishi Mahesh Yogi's ashram on thebanks of the Ganges River. In 1968, he discovered his own soul, learned meditation, which changed his life, and hung out with John, Paul, George and Ringo.Fifty years later, he finds “Bungalow Bill” in Hawaii; connects with David Lynch about his own inner journey; as well as preeminent Beatles historian, Mark Lewisohn;Academy Award nominated film composer, Laurence Rosenthal; and Pattie and Jenny Boyd. And much of this is due to Saltzman's own daughter, Devyani, remindinghim that he had put away and forgotten these remarkably intimate photographs of that time in 1968.Narration by: Morgan FreemamExecutive Producer: David Lynch & OthersAbout Paul:Paul Saltzman is a two-time Emmy Award-winning, Toronto-based director-producer of over 300 film and television productions. In 1968, he learned meditation at theMaharishi Mahesh Yogi's ashram in India, an experience that changed his life. There, he photographed the Beatles, Jane Asher, Cynthia Lennon, Pattie BoydHarrison, Maureen Starkey, Mia Farrow, Donovan, Mal Evans and Mike Love.In 1968-69 he assisted in the birth of a new film format as second-unit director and production manager of the first IMAX film. He later attended the original WoodstockMusic Festival, produced a Leonard Cohen concert tour, and made his first film, a documentary on Bo Diddley. In 2000, Viking Penguin released Paul's first book, TheBeatles in Rishikesh. In early 2006 Paul created the Deluxe Limited-Edition box set, ‘The Beatles in India'.Today, Paul continues to make films; leads small tour groups to India; and does film screenings and workshops worldwide on the Beatles, Moving Beyond Prejudice,Meditation, Maximizing Creativity, Conflict Resolution and Nonviolent Communication, and Overcoming Performance Anxiety.Image Copyright and Credit: Paul Saltzman.F2F Music and Image Copyright: David Peck and Face2Face. Used with permission.For more information about David Peck's podcasting, writing and public speaking please visit his site here.With thanks to Josh Snethlage and Mixed Media Sound. Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.
Resting in the balance between order and chaos. A Guided Meditation

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2022 25:07


In this guided meditation we are invited to explore the unspoken middle ground between the seemingly opposing qualities of experience. As we enter into the present moment, we are invited to explore the spectrum of experience between like and dislike and then order and chaos. By cultivating a practice such as this one we may have a glimpse into a more restful, peaceful, and balanced way of living. Meditation can be challenging at times. Occasionally we may experience things which surprise as a result. If you have any questions or concerns in regards to this, or other meditation practices, please feel free to message me through my website: www.suchsweetthunder.org I have been practicing meditation for 36 years and has been successfully teaching meditation worldwide since 2009, giving talks, facilitating retreats, and have authored two books. I have received formal training in Theravada, Mahayana (Tibetan, Zen,) and Vedanta meditation techniques as well as Trauma Sensitive Mindfulness, MBSR, Neuroplasticity, Nonviolent Communication, and Buddhist Psychology. I teach from a secular voice and I am passionate about bringing timeless wisdom teachings to people of any faith, belief system, or tradition. If you find these podcasts helpful please consider making a donation: PayPal.me/suchsweetthunder May All Benefit

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.
RAIN guided meditation

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 31, 2022 19:36


In this meditation I gently guide us through a RAIN practice designed to give us a set of tools to work with anger. With a practice such as this one, we may come to understand the difference between the emotion and the reactivity which arises. In that understanding we can free ourself from harmful reactive patterns. This practice was designed by Michelle McDonald and modified by Tara Brach. RAIN= R=Recognize A=Allow I=Investigate N=Nurture. Chris has been practicing meditation for 36 years and has been successfully teaching meditation worldwide since 2009, giving talks, facilitating retreats, and have authored two books. Chris has received formal training in Theravada, Mahayana (Tibetan, Zen,) and Vedanta meditation techniques as well as Trauma Sensitive Mindfulness, MBSR, Neuroplasticity, Non Violent Communication, and Buddhist Psychology. Chris teaches from a secular voice and he is passionate about bringing timeless wisdom teachings to people of any faith, belief system, or tradition. May All Benefit

Accidental Gods
Beyond the tribal divisions of right and wrong: Exploring Restorative Engagement with Sophie Docker

Accidental Gods

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 31, 2022 70:13


Sophie Docker is a highly experienced workshop leader, facilitator and mediator working in organisations, education and community. She is Level 3 trained in restorative Justice and CNVC Certified Nonviolent Communication trainer with a number of other decision-making, dialogue communication and conflict engagement tools up her sleeve. She has a degree in Politics and Economics and a Postgraduate diploma in Law but most of her learning came from meditation, and wide and wild experiments in living, being in community, collaborating and organising in economic, social and environmental justice campaigns and movements. Sophie's approach is underpinned by Nonviolent Communication and Restorative Practice, which she has been working with since 2012. She is a Restorative Justice practitioner registered with the Restorative Justice council and a Certified Trainer with the Centre for Nonviolent Communication and brings a systemic lens to these approaches using them personally and professionally to engage with presenting issues.Sophie's work focuses on transforming internal and external domination systems and experiencing ourselves as essential to life, and as part of a complex adaptive living system.  Her work is influenced by relational neuroscience, transactional analysis, meditation, multiple conflict engagement modalities and a deep exploration into the dynamics of personal and structural power, privilege, violence and its impacts. In this episode, we explore the nature of our binary tribalism, our tendency to 'other' that which we don't understand and to become triggered when challenged.  And then, with Sophie's guidance and experience, we talk of the ways we can move beyond that - how she has learned and is learning to step beyond our age-old tools of domination and power-over, into something where we allow our own pain but don't feel the need to project it out - and by being different, allow different outcomes. Links: Restorative Engagement Forum: https://restorativeengagementforum.comOpen Edge: https://www.openedge.org.ukSophie's page on the Nonviolent Communication Training portal: https://nvctraining.com/nvc-trainer/sophie-docker

Owners-Guide for Humans
The Evolution of Health Care, The New System!!

Owners-Guide for Humans

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 30, 2022 31:00


The Religion of medicine requires faith in drugs and injections that have a miriad of effects on your health and life! People are waking up to the propoganda of "Listen to the Science" "Science" is always questioning their results, "Science" is Never settled! One drug, one injection forced on all is not "Science " and a violation of the God given rights of your freedom to choose what is done to your body and the bodies of your children. This system will end and we are seeing the end of a disasterous and deadly system! This episode we will empower you with the new Health Care System that will retake our world! Don't miss this life changing episode!

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.
Heartfelt Awareness to Mind. A Guided Meditation.

Such Sweet Thunder Meditation Podcast.

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 27, 2022 20:38


Here I offer a guided meditation into observation of the activity of the mind. We begin by resting with sounds and the breath, we then open to the feeling tones of the body, and come to rest in observation of the activity of the mind. Meditation can be challenging at times. Occasionally we may experience things which surprise as a result. If you have any questions or concerns in regards to this, or other meditation practices, please feel free to message me through my website: www.suchsweetthunder.org I have been practicing meditation for 36 years and has been successfully teaching meditation worldwide since 2009, giving talks, facilitating retreats, and have authored two books. I have received formal training in Theravada, Mahayana (Tibetan, Zen,) and Vedanta meditation techniques as well as Trauma Sensitive Mindfulness, MBSR, Neuroplasticity, Nonviolent Communication, and Buddhist Psychology. I teach from a secular voice and I am passionate about bringing timeless wisdom teachings to people of any faith, belief system, or tradition. If you find these podcasts helpful please consider making a donation: PayPal.me/suchsweetthunder May All Benefit

Cultivating Second Chair Leaders
Episode #012: Grow in Wisdom

Cultivating Second Chair Leaders

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2022 36:41


On this episode of Cultivating Second Chair Leaders We discuss the importance of keeping our mind sharp with opportunities for continuing education, not just in an academic setting, but growing in wisdom as it shapes us to be more Christ-like as servant leaders in the second chair. Our guest, Kyle Blake (@khblake), also shares about his unique roles and experience as both a 1st and 2nd chair leader. Resources mentioned in today's episode: Quote about Second Chair Leaders “Leading from the Second Chair Serving Your Church, Fulfilling Your Role, and Realizing Your Dreams '' by Mike Bonem and Roger Patterson, 2005. Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg: https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X Emotionally Health book series by Pete Scazzero: https://www.christianbook.com/page/christian-living/emotionally-healthy Go to www.kindleservantleaders.org/podcast to learn more about the organization, download an episode discussion guide (including the ARK Team Communication model referenced in the episode) and support our work!Connect: Instagram: @emilyphoenix or @kindle_social Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KINDLEServantLeaders Email: emily@kindleservantleaders.org and we may share your story in the future! Share this episode with a friend and leave us a review. 

Preparing For Pregnancy After Loss
Ep 43: Healing Relationships with Compassionate Communication

Preparing For Pregnancy After Loss

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 14, 2022 93:48


I consider myself a life-long learner, so it means a lot when I say that Compassionate Communication or Nonviolent Communication (NVC) has been one of the single most important practices I've learned. As my teacher, Steve Torma, puts it, Compassionate Communication isn't just a tool for communication but a shift in consciousness.    I've referred Compassionate Communication to clients of mine because it becomes a game-changer for ANY conversation or relationship. And today, we have the pleasure of hearing Steve Torma share more about Compassionate Communication and how it can benefit you and your relationships.  We discuss:  What Compassionate Communication or NVC is and some of its many benefits What violence looks like in conversations (it's not just physical!) How the “Dominator Culture” we're socialized in shows up in our self-talk and relationships  Why men will likely grieve differently from women The patterns/imbalances that may become prevalent in relationships between men and women How Compassionate Communication can help create inner peace, as well as bring empathy and healing to relationships    Steve Torma's Bio:  Steve (he/him) was born and raised on a family farm in Ashtabula, Ohio, and is a 25-year member of Earthaven Ecovillage. His ancestors are Hungarian and French Canadian.   Steve co-founded an intentional community in Ohio in 1980, where he lived until joining Earthaven Ecovillage in 1996. At Earthaven, he co-founded a thriving neighborhood, was president for three years, and has taught Nonviolent Communication for twelve years. In addition to his passion for community, Steve co-managed a natural foods co-op for 10 years, ran his own traveling bookstore business for over 20 years, and now teaches Nonviolent Communication and other relationship and community building skills through The REAL Center, which he co-founded in 2009.    As a lifelong peace, justice, and ecology educator and activist with over 40 years of community living, Steve has sought to integrate personal and social transformation in his own life, in the communities where he lives, and in the larger society. His passion for integral living and thinking has led him to study and experiment with a wide range of spiritualities, psychological systems, and social theories as they relate to creating a more just and sustainable world.   Steve has taught Nonviolent Communication for a variety of intentional communities, organizations, and regional gatherings, including Celo Community, The Mountain Retreat Center, Firefly Gathering, Southeast Permaculture Gathering, Organic Growers School, Kinnection Campout, LovEvolution Gathering, Compassion Camp, and many others.   Steve's Website: http://therealcenter.org/ Seve's Email: steve@therealcenter.org     The Resources We Reference: Book: The Chalice & The Blade by Riane Eisler: https://rianeeisler.com/the-chalice-and-the-blade-our-history-our-future/ Books: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenburg (and related books through PuddleDancer Press): https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/shop/  The Mankind Project: https://mankindproject.org/ NVC Asheville: https://www.nvcasheville.com/   Earthaven Ecovillage: https://www.earthaven.org/ —   If you're curious as to what support might look like for you on your journey, here are some next steps to explore: 1. Get on the Birth Warrior Mailing List to receive inspiration and resources for your emotional healing. You'll also be the first to learn about upcoming workshops and Healing Circles. AND you get two bonus gifts lovingly created by me when you sign up!  https://www.subscribepage.com/k8l9d0   2. Schedule a Free Consultation Call to get clarity on what next steps can help with your healing and pregnancy journey. This entire journey can be so tough, and you do not have to feel overwhelmed, defeated, or alone. You've been through enough, warrior! And you are so much stronger with the right support! Book a complimentary call via this link: https://calendly.com/nataleefacey/20min     3. Book an Emotional Release Session to identify where emotions are being stored in the body and to release them using gentle techniques that are a part of your body's blueprint. Sessions are a paced, meditative experience, with the results being quite profound. You can receive support with any emotions you're struggling with, including, releasing fears and anxiety, releasing grief, creating a more loving connection with the body, increasing forgiveness and self-forgiveness, etc.    Learn more or book your session here: https://www.nataleefacey.com/emotional-release LEARN MORE ABOUT ME >> Learn more about who I am and why I love to do this work at nataleefacey.com  SAY HELLO >> On Instagram: @thebirthwarriors  >> Via Email: hello@nataleefacey.com 

Whole Body Healing
Family Constellation Therapy with Meenadchi

Whole Body Healing

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 11, 2022 37:20


Meenadchi is a somatic healing practitioner whose work centers on the softness of meeting our best self and deepening into our collective light. Using a blend of Family Constellation Therapy and Non-Violent Communication, Meenadchi supports inquisitive individuals and entrepreneurial changemakers in reconnecting with the intuitive wisdom of your bodies so that we can co-create intergenerational healing by changing the way we speak to ourselves, each other, and the universe. In today's episode, Meenadchi breaks down what family constellation therapy is, how it works, why we carry ancestral trauma, who can benefit from the work, and much more. Georgia and Meenadchi dig into why we carry trauma in our bodies, and how we can release it. MeenadchiWebsite: https://www.meenadchi.com/Instagram: @with.meenadchiBook: https://co-conspirator.press/Decolonizing-Non-Violent-CommunicationCurrent services include 1:1 individual family constellation sessions and communication and ancestral healing practice groups.Open enrollment for the August back-to-school session of NUTRITION BUSINESS BOOTCAMP is available now!Apply today.Whole Body HealingWholeBodyHealingNutrition.comIG+TikTok: @wholebodyhealinggeorgia@wholebodyhealingnutrition.com

The Omni-Win Project Podcast
Reclaiming Our Power with Nonviolence with Miki Kashtan

The Omni-Win Project Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 9, 2022 61:34


Welcome to the Omni-Win Project Podcast. It's time to upgrade our democracy. If you're fed up with the status quo and want to catalyze political and societal change, you're in the right place. The Omni-Win Project Podcast is ready to shed light on the many opportunities we have to revolutionize our political culture. We're all in this together, so join us in co-creating the future of democracy. “No one would engage in violence if their needs were met.”Do you understand the power of nonviolence? Discover one earnest change that could prevent violence with Miki Kashtan. She takes us on a journey through the history of nonviolence, demonstrating Gandhi's lasting influence. We're in the midst of a climate crisis, and Miki tells us how we can adapt our consumption to our resources.You'll also learn about the three pillars of nonviolence and hear a profound account of how we can leverage our sphere of influence to make a difference to those around us. We all need to be a positive force for good in our divided world, and Miki teaches us how.  Highlights in this episode:Discover the three pillars of nonviolence.Learn about Gandhi's lasting influence on the world of nonviolence.Understand what flow functions are and how they impact us.Uncover the importance of shifting from incentives to willingness.Miki explains how conflict and our low capacity are deeply affecting the US.Unearth the powerful change that could stop violence.Learn how we can adapt our consumption to our resources.Miki talks about leveraging your sphere of influence.About this episode's guest:Miki Kashtan is a practical visionary pursuing a world that works for all, based on principles and practices rooted in feminist nonviolence. Miki is a founding member of the Nonviolent Global Liberation community and has taught and consulted globally. She is the author of Reweaving Our Human Fabric and The Highest Common Denominator and blogs at The Fearless Heart.Connect with Miki Kashtan:Blog: http://thefearlessheart.orgEmail: miki@nglcommunity.orgWhere Else can you find this episode? Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xq8WaZuUw2cOn Substack: https://omniwin.substack.com/p/miki-kashtanEpisode Page: https://omniwinproject.com/miki-kashtan

You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist
17. Lisa Swallow: Crossing Party Lines

You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 8, 2022 75:46


Lisa K Swallow is the co-founder and Executive Director of Crossing Party Lines, Inc., a national nonprofit dedicated to reducing toxic polarization by creating open dialogue between Americans with dissimilar political views. In this interview, she shares a wealth of wisdom derived from helping hundreds of people heal the political divide in their families and communities, exploring insights and tools derived from mindfulness, relational neurobiology, Nonviolent Communication, and Moral Foundations Theory. Trained in Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Lisa hadn't considered bringing her work into the political arena until 2016, when politics became personal. That year, a long-awaited reunion with a conservative cousin turned contentious as soon as conversation became political, which it did regardless of what topic they chose. Then, on the second day of her visit Lisa thought to apply her active listening skills and the conversation shifted from toxic to respectful. On returning to her home in Portland, Oregon, Lisa set about identifying the specific skills that lead to civil, productive political conversations. She learned that the key to talking across differences lies in cultivating a curious, open mind and listening to understand why another person's views make sense for them. Her nonprofit, Crossing Party Lines, provides two crucial services: workshops teaching the concepts and skills and weekly facilitated meetings where members can practice those skills. Her work is rooted in NVC, inspired by the work of John and Julie Gottman and Stephen Stosny, and draws from cognitive science, neurobiology, and evolutionary psychology. Her workshops emphasize mindfulness, active listening, clear boundaries, and understanding the unspoken contracts at play in any conversation.  Lisa has written two books on the subject: her memoir, No One Was Listening, and a workbook, Yes, You can Talk Politics, which makes it possible for anyone, anywhere, to learn the skills for listening and talking across differences. Find Lisa at www.LisaKSwallow.com. Learn more about Crossing Party Lines at Crossingpartylines.com. Follow CPL on Twitter @crosspartylines or Instagram @crossingpartylines. If you enjoyed this conversation, please rate & review it on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Share this episode with a friend, or on social media. You can also head over to my YouTube channel, subscribe, like, comment, & share there as well.To get $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover visit EightSleep.com & enter promo code SOMETHERAPIST. Be sure to check out my shop. In addition to wellness products, you can now find my favorite books!MUSIC: Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission. www.joeypecoraro.comPRODUCTION: Thanks to Eric and Amber Beels at DifMix.com ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

10% Happier with Dan Harris
462: How to Be With What's Bugging You | Bonus Meditation with Oren Jay Sofer

10% Happier with Dan Harris

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2022 6:55 Very Popular


Build resilience for tough situations. Learn the tools to develop self-empathy, clarifying what matters to you most and how to move forward.About Oren Jay Sofer:Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation, and Nonviolent Communication in secular and Buddhist contexts. Oren has practiced meditation in the early Buddhist tradition since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India with Anagarika Munindra and Godwin Samararatne. He is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and a graduate of the IMS - Spirit Rock Vipassana Teacher Training, and current member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council.Oren is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations.To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Self Empathy,” or click here: https://10percenthappier.app.link/content?meditation=c547f8dc-f150-464a-ba59-3131a4bf6944.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.