Podcast appearances and mentions of Marshall Rosenberg

Last week we talked about emotional maturity. This week we have some guiding principles for practicing this, care of Marshall Rosenberg's method, Nonviolent Communication. Similar to the 8 limbs of yoga, where we have yamas (what we abstain from) and niyamas (what we cultivate), he offers a list of behaviors we don't want to participate in. These, like the yamas in yoga: ahimsa (non-violence), satya (truthfulness or non-lying), asteya (non-stealing), brahmacharya (energetic containment), and aparigraha (non-greed), show us what to avoid in order not to contaminate our good relations. The first step is cutting out the bad stuff, ie in our diet, and in our behaviors, in order to have a better experience. His list is as follows:1. Stay away from right vs. wrong (moralistic judgments)2. Don't make comparisons3. Don't deny your responsibility (blame)4. Don't communicate your desires as demands5. Don't offer punishment and rewards6. Don't give praise and compliments as bribes 7. Don't correlate observations with evaluations8. Stay away from always and never statementsTo learn more about yoga and coaching on my website here. Check out my Substack for the Astrology here.Sign up for my mailing list here.Thanks for listening, and have a great week!

Cultivating Spiritual Growth: A Journey with Dina van Klaveren Join Jon and Lauren as they welcome the Rev. Dina van Klaveren, an Episcopal priest with a rich history in parish ministry, now serving on the diocesan staff in Maryland. Dina discusses her journey from parish ministry to her current role, her passion for development and stewardship, and her dedication to congregational vitality. She shares insights into the breadth of ministry across the diocese, her personal spiritual practices, and her transformative experience as a Master Gardener. Dina's discussion highlights the importance of humility, intentionality, and gentle stewardship of our environment.00:00 Welcome and Introduction00:11 Dina's Journey in Ministry00:48 New Role and Responsibilities02:51 Surprises and Challenges05:11 Personal Joys and Practices14:07 Gardening and Spirituality26:37 Final Thoughts and AdviceResources mentioned by Dina:"Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships" by Marshall Rosenberg https://a.co/d/bNWi1Mz"Nature's Best Hope: A New Approach to Conservation That Starts in Your Yard" by Douglas W. Tallamy https://a.co/d/etfcAE7"How Can I Help?: Saving Nature with Your Yard" by Douglas W. Tallamy https://a.co/d/5cXkZjx"Native Plants for Wildlife Habitat and Conservation Landscaping (Color Print): Chesapeake Bay Watershed" https://a.co/d/i0Qk2GRThe Episcopal Diocese of Maryland: https://episcopalmaryland.org/Audio version of this episode is available at podcast platforms linked to https://listening-for-clues.captivate.fm/listenThe Good News! podcast series is part of the ListeningforClues portfolio. Catch us at https://listeningforclues.com/© 2025 Listening for Clues

"...through, just, love and committing to your own journey within a culture and within a craft and within a practice, you can embody whatever you want to. And there's nobody to tell you that it's not authentic or real or enough." Co-founder of Oxygen Tango School and Awaken Tango Mitra Martin talks about her Persian heritage and the value of research, innovation, acceptance, and attention in tango. Producer/Host: Liz Sabatiuk | Music: “Zorzal”, arranged and recorded by Orquesta Típica Misteriosa Buenos Aires with music and lyrics by Dorita Zárate | Image Credit: Glenn Campbell Show Notes Learn more about Mitra's perspectives and work on her website. (Bonus points if you learn more about “The Romance of the Rose” and gardens in Persian poetry or even read Mitra's thesis!) Read some background about Iran's history and government, then read Mitra's reflections on Iran's 2022 protests. TriANGulO changed locations but is still going strong as a studio and community under the leadership of its founder, Carina Moeller. Listen to “Instinct Tango, with Aníbal Dominguez” for another perspective on how contact improv relates to tango. Read why Mitra recommends learning tango one-on-one rather than in conventional group classes. Listen to different versions of the same song, “El Choclo,” to get a sense of the different styles of Carlos Di Sarli and Juan D'Arienzo. Learn more about Marshall Rosenberg's framework of nonviolent communication and read a post by the student Mitra mentioned, Andrei Andreev, applying Rosenberg's framework to tango. Listen to “Flowing together, with Avik Basu” and visit Awaken Tango to read the Inner Experience of Tango report. Mitra shouted out the following folks as key sources of inspiration and support in her tango journey: Avik Basu, Stefan Fabry, Jaimes Friedgen, Korey Ireland, Dave Lampson, Carina Moeller, Rebecca Shulman, Daniel Trenner, and Brigitta Winkler. Read a transcript of Mitra's episode here.

✨ Episode Highlights: What is Nonviolent Communication? A framework developed by psychologist Marshall Rosenberg that centers empathy, clarity, and connection instead of blame, criticism, or control. Why It Matters: 70% of sentinel events in hospitals are linked to communication breakdowns! Plus, as Brené Brown says, "Clear is kind, unclear is unkind." The 4 Components of Nonviolent Communication: Observation - State facts without judgment Feeling - Express your emotions about what you observed Need - Identify the underlying need or value Request - Make a clear, actionable request Real-Life Examples that transform challenging conversations into opportunities for connection with: Nurses questioning your medical decisions Colleagues who are consistently late Partners after a long, exhausting shift Children needing your attention while you're working Inexperienced staff members who need guidance

I've already received a lot of great feedback from those who joined the Circle live about this one. Steve Torma is a busy guy and doesn't do many podcasts. He is also, now, my only remaining friend who doesn't own a cell phone! Good for him!

If you've ever swallowed your truth to keep the peace—only to feel drained, resentful, or invisible—this conversation will show you a powerful new way to speak up without shame, blame, or regret.In this episode, I'm joined by Éva Rambala, a certified trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication and a leading voice in spreading Marshall Rosenberg's legacy across Eastern Europe and beyond. Based in Hungary, Éva has participated in more than 40 international intensive trainings (IITs) and brings a unique blend of warmth, humor, and practical insight to her workshops. Originally trained in business, her life took a transformative turn when she discovered nonviolent communication. Today, through her organization Rambala.hu, she offers NVC trainings tailored for parents, educators, social workers, IT professionals, and spiritual seekers alike. Éva believes that creating compassionate, honest connection is a life practice that transforms not only relationships but society as a whole—especially in times when inner peace is most needed.Throughout this episode, Éva brings that same clarity, presence, and depth she's known for in her trainings. Drawing from her personal journey and close collaboration with Marshall Rosenberg, she demystifies the principles of nonviolent communication, emphasizing its goal of fostering connection where everyone's needs matter. She shares powerful stories from her decades of experience, offers insight into how NVC is practiced around the world, and gives listeners a vibrant look at the upcoming training retreat in Hungary. Her perspective combines grounded wisdom with a light touch of humor, offering a heartfelt invitation to choose empathy over judgment—even amid global uncertainty.Tune in to episode 60 of RADitude and explore the lived wisdom of Éva Rambala, as she shares how Nonviolent Communication—rooted in empathy, presence, and human connection—can help you navigate conflict, deepen relationships, and find inner peace in even the most challenging times.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Meet Éva Rambala and her love for Budapest (1:50)What is the Center for Nonviolent Communication? (3:00)The heart of NVC: “Don't be a good girl” (4:40)Defining Nonviolent Communication (6:45)Why IT guys are her favorite audience (8:20)What really happens at a 9-day NVC training (10:58)Éva's unexpected journey into NVC—and into Marshall's life (18:51)Nature, connection and the Hungary retreat (23:28)Connect with Éva Rambala:WebsiteFacebookLinekdInYouTubeLet's connect!WebsiteContact UsLinkedInInstagramFacebookTwitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever felt torn between staying true to yourself and keeping the peace in your relationships? In this episode, we walk with three courageous guests as they navigate the messy middle of relational repair, where heartbreak, hope, and healing often collide.Throughout the episode, I offer grounded coaching and relational insight, modeling how to make peace with not getting your way, how to advocate without attachment, and how to hold your truth with both gentleness and strength.Plus, I share my favorite Marshall Rosenberg quote that gives us all permission to show up imperfectly.The big insight?  Sometimes, the conversation is less about the thing and more about the way we talk about it. Tune in to learn how to shift from “I need you to agree with me” to “Can we co-create a process where we both matter?”Key Questions ExploredWhat do I do when I want something deeply - but no one else agrees?How can I reconnect with someone after months or years of silence?How do I set boundaries with people who steamroll my needs?What if honoring myself means disappointing people I love?Listener Takeaways/Show Notes A step-by-step process for advocating without demandingHow to hold space for grief when connection doesn't go as hopedThe “thermometer tool” to surface hidden family dynamicsLanguage to use when you're overwhelmed but still want to show upHow to shift from self-judgment to healthy regret when you're not perfectListen for heart-centered coaching, clear language templates, and real-life examples of relational courage.Feeling overwhelmed with the current state of the world? You're not alone, and I can help. Join me on Thursday, May 29th as I host The Soft Revolution Begins With You: Living Love As Daily Resistance. This FREE webinar will explore how to stay rooted in love when the world feels harsh, broken, or chaotic and what it means to live your values as a form of daily resistance. Sign up today! For ongoing practice and deeper learning, join my monthly membership program. You will find a safe space for live discussions and a supportive community of like-minded, open-hearted humans. Stay updated on new episodes and resources by subscribing wherever you listen to podcasts or visiting yvetteerasmus.com. Here are more ways to connect with me: Become a member of my online learning community Join my Spring Deep Dive: The Art of Repair Work Join our calls live Set up a private session ...

In today's episode, Janice talks about the communication tool of Non-Violent Communication created by Marshall Rosenberg.

Sun, 20 Apr 2025 14:58:58 +0000 https://gewaltfreie-kommunikation.podigee.io/272-lass-andere-in-ruhe-mit-gewaltfreier-kommunikation fa1b6851fd8a053ef7b64ed7cb208539 Gewaltfreie Kommunikation macht man mit niemandem außer sich selbst. Das ergibt gar keinen Sinn, weil es in der GFK um Selbstverantwortung geht und Verantwortung kann ich nur für mich übernehmen, nicht für jemand anderen. Welches GFK-Angebot passt zu Dir? Gratis Online-Kurs Gewaltfreie Kommunikation Vertiefe die GFK im Lernforum Online-Ausbildung Empathisches Coaching Coaching-Ausbildung Empathische Biografiearbeit Kontakt: Schreibe mir an +49 157 75 22 88 23 oder E-Mail an fischer@knotenloesen.com 272 full no Marshall Rosenberg,Gewaltfreie Kommunikation,Therapie,Persönlichkeitsentwicklung,Buch,Gfk,GFK Mit Kindern Markus Fischer

Morning Mantra: "Empathy allows us to be present without opinion."Opinions are really the lowest form of human knowledge. They require no accountability, or understanding.The highest form of knowledge is empathy. This requires us to suspend our egos and live in another's world. It requires us to recognize that everyone has an opinion, and that many opinions are not based on actual fact, but rather on emotion.Empathy is not relating to someone's experience but rather connecting to how someone is feels about the experience.  Empathy is like a bridge that connects hearts and minds.If you can understand how they feel and how they respond, you can understand that not everything is a choice they made.  That they may be doing the best they can with the circumstances they were dealt.  How they FEEL about this is what you are connecting to.#BeEmpatheticNotOpionated #BeHappy #BeHorsey #BeHippie #HorseHippie #HorseHippieBoutique #InspirationalQuotes #Inspire #QuotesToMakeYouFeelGood #QuotesFromTheHeart #morningmantrasQuotes: Bill Bullard and Marshall Rosenberg

BONUS: NVC, Walking Towards Conflict with Love With Maria Arpa and Bob Marshall In this BONUS episode, we explore Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a powerful tool that has changed how many people work and relate to family, friends, and colleagues. Maria Arpa, a previous guest on the podcast, and who studied directly under Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of NVC, shares her insights on this transformative practice. Joining us is Bob Marshall, an NVC advocate and practitioner who applies these principles in organizational settings. Understanding the Foundation of Nonviolent Communication "We have universal needs... what we try to distinguish is the need and the strategy I'm using to meet the need." Nonviolent Communication is both a practical communication tool and a spiritual practice designed to help us connect more authentically with ourselves and others. Maria explains how NVC emerged from the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, who studied under Carl Rogers, the developer of person-centered therapy. At its core, NVC represents a paradigm shift away from what Maria calls "domination culture" – a system built on hierarchy, punishment, and obedience to rules. The dominant culture in which we live often relies on fear, guilt, and shame to motivate behavior. In contrast, NVC comes from the philosophy of nonviolence, encouraging people to be independent thinkers who make choices from their own internal compass. This approach recognizes that all people have the potential to manifest love, even in challenging situations. The Power of Needs-Based Theory "If I take a need for fairness or respect... how many ways are there to meet that need? And what if you believe you're meeting your need for fairness using whatever strategy you're using, and I believe that is impacting on my need for respect? We have a collision in strategies." A fundamental aspect of NVC is needs-based theory. Maria explains that while we all share universal needs – from basic physical requirements like air and food to psychological needs like creativity, recognition, and fairness – conflicts arise not from the needs themselves but from the strategies we use to meet those needs. This distinction between needs and strategies offers a powerful framework for resolving conflicts. When we understand that we're arguing over strategies, not the underlying needs, we can empathize with each other and explore different approaches that honor everyone's needs. As Maria advises, "Don't try to strategize until you understand all the needs on the table." Breaking Free from the Debate Model "The debate model of conversation is about one argument prevailing over all others... it's a terrible idea for when we want to meet as humans and have a conversation." Maria highlights how our society has embraced the debate model of conversation, where one perspective must win over others. This approach, while potentially useful in controlled settings like scientific research, creates significant problems in human interactions. When operating in debate mode, we're focused on overpowering others or protecting ourselves from humiliation rather than genuinely connecting. The dialogue roadmap that Maria developed offers an alternative to this debate model. It allows people to express themselves fully – to "empty out" everything they're carrying, even if it doesn't initially make coherent sense. This process helps people make sense of their experiences and move toward authentic dialogue rather than competitive debate. NVC in Organizations: Addressing Collective Needs "Needs are getting ignored in most organizations... it's not that we have shared needs and we debate about the strategies for getting those needs met." Bob Marshall, an organizational psychotherapist, explains how NVC principles can transform workplace dynamics. He observes that many organizations operate through "fear, obligation, guilt, and shame" – what he calls "the four horsemen of the work apocalypse." These mechanisms are used to control behavior but create toxic environments that diminish both productivity and well-being. By applying NVC in organizational settings, Bob helps collective entities recognize and address their needs. Many companies are unaware of their collective needs, and some cultures even shame people for acknowledging needs exist. Helping organizations understand their shared needs creates a foundation for healthier, more productive workplaces where people can thrive rather than merely survive. In this segment, we refer to an episode with Michelle Pauk, where we explore the lessons from Foucault's Book Discipline and Punish, and to Manfred Max-Neef, a Chilean economist. The Connection Before Correction Principle "One of the most wonderful things is connection before correction." Maria emphasizes the importance of building relationships before attempting to change behaviors or address problems. She suggests that our fast-paced world has created a situation where our emotional processing cannot keep up with the speed of our actions and decisions. We've become skilled at multitasking and meeting deadlines but haven't paid adequate attention to our emotional needs. The result is that many people are emotionally "backed up" or "constipated" – unable to process their feelings in healthy ways. Maria's work involves slowing things down to create space for authentic connection and emotional integration. This approach doesn't sacrifice efficiency – as she notes, "We get more done with less resource once we've been through the tunnel." Learning Directly from Marshall Rosenberg "Marshall Rosenberg said, 'The people that are going to take this forward will have the right balance of compassionate understanding and political savvy.' And I just went, 'That's me.'" Maria shares her personal journey with NVC, beginning with a chance encounter at her son's school that led her to attend a presentation by Marshall Rosenberg. She was immediately captivated by his approach, which answered questions she had been unable to resolve through other therapies and educational frameworks. Her pivotal experience came in 2005 when she joined Rosenberg and others for a 15-day intensive in Switzerland focused on social change. This immersive experience transformed her understanding of communication and human connection. When she asked Rosenberg who would carry his work forward, his answer about needing both "compassionate understanding and political savvy" resonated deeply with her, setting her on a path to develop her own applications of NVC principles. In this segment, we refer to the book The Surprising Purpose of Anger by Marshall Rosenberg. About Maria Arpa and Bob Marshall Maria Arpa is a facilitator, mediator, and trainer who describes her work as "walking towards conflict with love." She developed the Dialogue Road Map, a framework that builds on NVC principles to guide people out of debate-style conversations into authentic dialogue. Maria studied directly under Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and has applied NVC in various challenging contexts, including working with gang violence and facilitating dialogue between concentration camp survivors and a business that had purchased a former concentration camp site. You can link with Maria Arpa on LinkedIn and follow Maria's work on her website. Bob Marshall is an organizational psychotherapist who works with the collective psyche of organizations. He has been studying and practicing NVC for over 15 years, incorporating it into his work helping organizations understand and meet their collective needs. Bob believes in creating more joyful work environments and has dedicated his career to helping people have more pleasant experiences in the workplace. Bob Marshall is the author of several books on organizational psychotherapy. You can link with Bob Marshall on LinkedIn and follow Bob Marshall's blog.

Sun, 16 Mar 2025 17:00:00 +0000 https://gewaltfreie-kommunikation.podigee.io/271-kinder-brauchen-keine-gewaltfreien-worte-sondern-erwachsene-eltern 32213bfba9a2b2d07985035cd68ecbe7 Marshall Rosenberg war immer sehr klar darin, dass es keine gewaltfreie Sprache gibt. Es geht vielmehr darum, die Methode der Gewaltfreien Kommunikation zu nutzen, um eine gewaltfreie(ere) Bewusstseinsebene zu entwickeln, aus der heraus man dann ganz “normal” reden kann. Das gilt natürlich auch, und besonders für unser Zusammenleben mit Kindern. In diesem Podcast erkläre ich, warum man nicht Gewaltfreie Kommunikation “mit Kindern” machen sollte. Das führt nur zu unauthentischem oder sogar manipulativem Verhalten. Eltern müssen erwachsen(er) werden, also sich verantwortlich machen für die eigenen Bedürfnisse und die ihrer Kinder. Welches GFK-Angebot passt zu Dir? Gratis Online-Kurs Gewaltfreie Kommunikation Vertiefe die GFK im Lernforum Online-Ausbildung Empathisches Coaching Coaching-Ausbildung Empathische Biografiearbeit Kontakt: Schreibe mir an +49 157 75 22 88 23 oder E-Mail an fischer@knotenloesen.com 271 full no Persönlichkeitsentwicklung,GFK,Gewaltfreie Kommunikation,Marshall Rosenberg,GFK mit Kindern,GFK Erziehung,Selbstwert,Therapie Markus Fischer

Sun, 02 Mar 2025 16:00:00 +0000 https://gewaltfreie-kommunikation.podigee.io/270-wie-wirkt-coaching-wirklich 320ed8a72bed1fb9b3343c0aad22acf0 Eine simple Frage, deren Antwort jedoch nicht so einfach ist. Die Wirkungsforschung der Psychotherapie zeigt, welche Faktoren im Coaching wirklich helfen und welche nicht. Spoiler: "Coaching-Methoden", "Werkzeugkoffer" oder „smarte“ Ziele sind es nicht! Die wirksamen Faktoren im Coaching sind viel „einfacher“ und doch viel schwerer zu entwickeln. Stichworte: Persönlichkeitsentwicklung und Beziehungsfähigkeit. Lies hier weiter: (Wie) wirkt Coaching wirklich? Welches GFK-Angebot passt zu Dir? Gratis Online-Kurs Gewaltfreie Kommunikation Vertiefe die GFK im Lernforum Online-Ausbildung Empathisches Coaching Coaching-Ausbildung Empathische Biografiearbeit Kontakt: Schreibe mir an +49 157 75 22 88 23 oder E-Mail an fischer@knotenloesen.com 270 full no Persönlichkeitsentwicklung,Gewaltfreie Kommunikation,Buch,Selbstwert,KI,Empathie,Marshall Rosenberg Markus Fischer

Micah Salaberrios is an expert in the field of Nonviolent Communication and has been teaching since 2016. He wrote the bestselling book "The Art of Nonviolent Communication", and hosts a popular podcast, "The Art of NVC", with over 70,000 downloads. In this conversation, Nate and Micah discuss the practical application of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in real-life situations. Micah shares examples of how to use emergency empathy to de-escalate heated moments and identify underlying needs. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the need for practice and flexibility in using NVC and the importance of using it in your natural voice.Micah SalaberriosWebsite, Podcast & Practice Group: The Art of NVCMicah's belief in the transformative power of NVC has been the driving force behind his work, helping people to resolve conflicts peacefully and fostering deeper understanding in their relationships. About the Host:Nate Guadagni is an NVC based Life Coach with over 15 years of experience in coaching and group facilitation. He is also a ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Qigong⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ teacher, the founder of ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Bo Yoga⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, an accessible yoga system and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Balance for Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a senior fitness program. Tools discussed in this episode:1) ⁠⁠DOWNLOAD⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ the NVC Template Pack here:• The Magic Formula - 4 Step NVC Process• List of Basic Needs We All Have• Feelings When Your Needs Are Not Satisfied• Feelings When Your Needs Are SatisfiedAdditional Resources:Language of Life Community - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Weekly Group Classes⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Templates, Coaching, & Resources: ⁠⁠⁠Language of Life Website⁠⁠⁠NVC Teaching Videos - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply to be a guest on the Podcast - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Free NVC Coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Books and Trainings - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CNVC Official Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Key Points: Micah Salaberrios wrote 'The Arts of Nonviolent Communication' to complement Marshall Rosenberg's original book on Nonviolent Communication (NVC). The language and approach of NVC need to be updated to fit the current times and the way we communicate. Sounding natural and authentic is crucial when using NVC to avoid sounding formulaic or robotic. Emergency empathy is a powerful tool in resolving conflicts, as it allows us to identify how someone feels and why without blaming or judging them. Practicing NVC involves thinking about possible feelings and needs in difficult conversations and going deeper to uncover the core issues. NVC can turn conflict into connection and lead to a deeper sense of understanding and empathy. Using emergency empathy can help de-escalate conflicts and create a sense of calm in heated moments. Connecting feelings to needs can provide clarity and understanding in emotional situations. NVC tools can be helpful in navigating power struggles and resolving conflicts in relationships. NVC is a lifelong practice that can lead to deeper connections and more effective communication.Sound Bites "The Arts of Nonviolent Communication: A Complement to Marshall Rosenberg's Book" "Emergency empathy is just guessing or asking how someone feels and why they feel that way." "NVC can turn conflict into connection and lead to a deeper sense of understanding and empathy." "Let me just multiple choice here. I'm feeling this. Which one are you feeling?" "If I'm feeling something, it's because a need is being satisfied or not satisfied in this moment." "Just the sensory somatic feeling in the body is the first level of just accepting, honoring it, understanding, and then the intellectual understanding will come out."

Did you know that until you are truly compassionate to yourself, you can’t be compassionate to any other person?In Episode #192 of The Gathering Room, I’m talking about building compassionate communities—and how a safe, loving, mutually supportive community is probably the most important thing we can ever have, especially during chaotic times.I’ve been reading my way through all the skills that make you a good community creator, and one of my favorites is the book Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, who talks about creating community by first becoming your own good company. We have such an individualistic, fragmenting society where we’re always pitted against each other in competition, but we long to experience moments of beautiful company where everyone feels lifted by everyone else. This kind of community is a basic human need.Marshall Rosenberg says that everything we do is trying to meet our basic needs, and we go off course by trying to meet our needs with things that don’t work. He describes bringing ourselves into that sense of loving community by following a few basic steps: * Identify any “mistakes” or behaviors you’re upset with yourself about.* Notice any shaming language you use around those behaviors (words like “should”). * Understand the need you were trying to meet with those behaviors.* Allow yourself to mourn the fact that what you tried didn’t work.Then, if you can empathize with the part of yourself that was trying to get a need met in an ill-advised way, there’s a kind of embrace that happens automatically—and in that embrace is forgiveness. That’s when, within yourself, you have all of your parts, including what I call the “compassionate witness.” There are all the parts who’ve been trying so hard, and everyone is empathizing with everyone else. There is mutual forgiveness for everything you ever thought you did wrong, and no one is being blamed. That’s the way into being your own best company. And from there on, Marshall Rosenberg tells us, everything is play.To find out more about forgiving yourself, becoming your own best company, and creating supportive, compassionate communities, tune in for the full episode. I’ll also guide you through my Space, Silence, and Stillness meditation with a special focus on bringing your inner collective into loving harmony. Join me! CONNECT WITH US Follow Martha on Instagram The Gathering Room Show Notes Join Martha for a Live Episode of The Gathering Room via Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

True connection begins when we let go of the need to be right and open our hearts to understanding. In this episode, I sit down with love coach Scott Thomas to explore how compassionate communication can transform our relationships—from the way we navigate conflict to the way we connect with ourselves. Scott shares his journey from educational television to coaching, inspired by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg's nonviolent communication, and offers practical techniques for managing emotional triggers, setting compassionate boundaries, and cultivating self-empathy. We also discuss the role of intuition in communication, the impact of media on our perceptions, and why being fully present is key to building healthier, more authentic relationships. If you're ready to shift from defensiveness to deeper connection, this episode is for you. Key takeaways: How to shift from a mindset of being “right” to one of true connection The power of nonviolent communication and how it can transform relationships Practical techniques for managing emotional triggers with self-empathy Scott's “boundary sandwich” method for setting boundaries with compassion The role of intuition in communication and decision-making How media shapes our perceptions and influences our interactions The importance of presence and deep listening in creating meaningful connections Watch The Awakening World, a dynamic online show featuring inspiring guests, engaging discussions, and live music. Learn more and join the community at GlobalPeaceTribe.com Work with Scott by reaching out directly at SC@LoveCoachScott.com. Be sure to include a personal subject line like "Heard you on Victoria's podcast!" so he knows how you found him. Learn more about Scott's coaching, workshops, and events at LoveCoachScott.com. Get ready to explore powerful insights, spiritual wisdom, and tools to help you align with your highest self. Living in Alignment is now streaming on SoulSearch TV! Watch now: https://tinyurl.com/Living-in-Alignment Connect with your soul tribe in the Intuitive Connection Premier Community!  Enjoy Bi-weekly group intuitive readings and support in strengthening your own intuitive connection.  https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/46947  Awaken the magic in you and experience a one-of-a-kind in-person retreat experiences at Cactus Blossom Retreat in Escondido, California: https://cactusblossomretreat.com Did you know I offer intuitive readings and coaching sessions to clients all over the world?   You can book your session here:  https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages?provider_id=13555 Connect and learn with me here: https://victoriashawintuitive.com/ www.instagram.com/victoriashawintuitive https://www.facebook.com/victoriashawintuitivecounseling/  If you would like to connect with other like-minded souls, take a deeper dive into the topics discussed in these episodes, or learn more about how to awaken to your own inner magnificence, please join us in my Facebook group, Intuitive Connection Community here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Intuitiveconnectioncommunity Are you ready to take the next steps in awakening your intuition?  Please enjoy and download a copy of my Free Activate Your Intuition Ebook: https://victoriashawintuitive.com/free-e-book/ If you would like to take a deeper dive into leveraging the power of your intuition, please check out my self-paced, online course, Activating Your Intuition at: https://victoriashawintuitive.com/courses/activating-your-intuition/ Books mentioned in the episode can be found: https://bookshop.org/shop/Victoriashawintuitive Disclosure: I am an affiliate of Bookshop.org and I will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Le parole che usiamo con i nostri figli possono essere mattoni che costruiscono o crepe che distruggono. In questo episodio esploriamo come il linguaggio rifletta le nostre aspettative e influenzi profondamente la relazione con loro. Con l'aiuto della Comunicazione Nonviolenta di Marshall Rosenberg, scoprirai come trasformare i conflitti in connessione e come scegliere parole che rafforzino il legame con i tuoi figli. ...e non perdere il prossimo episodio, in cui parleremo di come affrontare quei comportamenti che spesso ci mettono alla prova! [Entra nella lista d'attesa della mia Dolce Guida: CLICCA QUI]

Aujourd'hui, je pars à la rencontre de Thierry Gautret de la Morcière, Créateur du Forum des Acteurs de la Non-Violence qui, à travers des conférences, des ateliers et des échanges, entend développer la conscience que la paix commence en soi, se tisse avec les autres et s'étend au monde par des actions concrètes. Ensemble nous parlerons de joie, de communication non violente, de nouveaux récits et de la paix en 2030 Glorieuses ! Pour en savoir plus sur le travail de Thierry, je vous invite à visiter le site Web du Forum des Acteurs de la Non-Violence. Pour continuer la lecture de Thierry, il s'agissait du livre “Parler de paix dans un monde de conflit” de Marshall Rosenberg. 2030 Glorieuses c'est le podcast des nouvelles croissances. Car non, demain n'est pas foutu ! Oui, le futur peut se révéler être autrement plus enthousiasmant que la période actuelle. À condition de se mettre (enfin) à la hauteur des enjeux de notre siècle…C'est ce que nous explorerons ensemble toutes les deux semaines dans le podcast 2030 Glorieuses. Quelles sont nouvelles croissances qui nous attendent dans la société durable, solidaire et joyeuse de demain ? Avec nos invité·es, nous imaginerons les valeurs fortes qui vont se déployer largement et pour quels bénéfices. Nous évoquerons les indicateurs qui nous permettront de mesurer ces changements souhaitables. Et nous tenterons même de deviner quelles étapes et quelles ruptures ont été nécessaires pour y parvenir. Et pour retrouvez notre galaxie utopiste, rendez-vous sur 2030glorieuses.org. Le podcast est soutenu par La Nef, la coopérative bancaire citoyenne qui soutient depuis plus de 30 ans les porteurs de projets sociaux, écologiques et culturels. Plus d'infos sur lanef.com.

Bring it to the people. The Tzadik shines the light of his righteousness into the broken hearts of the people. and this is what we need to learn how to do. this process is through the power of speech. most of us, unfortunately have been trained to speak in a negative way, whether it's in our communication with others or whether it's in our internal communication, we are not effective. And we're going to use this teaching of Rebbe Nachman to go into the teachings of Marshall Rosenberg, Lahavdal, when anybody studies a subject for the sake of heaven, to help the world, he will come up with the absolute truth. And I feel that this person who is not even religious has come up with the absolute truth that I want to share this with the world right now.

¿Qué pasaría si aprendieras a comunicarte desde la conexión, incluso en los momentos más desafiantes?En este episodio de Agentes de Transformación, tengo el placer de conversar con Elena Diéguez Basalo, experta en comunicación no violenta y formadora acreditada en esta poderosa metodología creada por Marshall Rosenberg. Elena nos guía en un recorrido fascinante para entender cómo transformar conflictos en oportunidades de conexión, comenzando desde dentro.Hablamos sobre:Qué es realmente la comunicación no violenta y cómo puede transformar nuestras relaciones.El poder de escuchar nuestras emociones como mensajeras de nuestras necesidades.Estrategias prácticas para manejar críticas y situaciones tensas en el emprendimiento.La importancia de la autocompasión y cómo escuchar nuestra propia voz antes de comunicarnos con los demás.Si alguna vez te has sentido atrapada en el caos emocional de un conflicto, este episodio te abrirá un nuevo camino hacia la claridad, el entendimiento y la colaboración. Elena comparte herramientas prácticas que podrás aplicar tanto en tu vida personal como profesional, especialmente si eres emprendedora en el ámbito del desarrollo personal y la espiritualidad.

I'm so delighted to be starting the reparenting series. I'd love to make it very clear that this is NOT Aware Parenting. It's The Marion Method. However, it was profoundly influenced by Aware Parenting, and in some ways is like practicing Aware Parenting with ourselves. Aware Parenting of course includes the importance of honouring our own needs, having community, and listening to our own feelings, but does not include any particular processes – beyond prompts for inner reflection about our childhood and the importance of meeting our needs and expressing our feelings – about of how to do that. Just as the sleep series went alongside me editing my 'Sound Sleep and Secure Attachment with Aware Parenting' book, this series goes with my next book, 'All of Your Feelings are Welcome', which is a combination of The Marion Method and Aware Parenting, and is designed to support reparenting so that we can more easily practice Aware Parenting. This reparenting series also goes alongside the publishing of my oracle cards, which also include inner loving phrases, and a live round of my Inner Loving Presence Process Course, which is a part of The Marion Method. In this episode, I share about my journey as a researcher in infant development, and psychotherapist, and how I saw that practicing Aware Parenting was far more effective than waiting until adulthood and having therapy. However, in my own journey of mothering, and which I saw replicated when I became an Aware Parenting instructor nearly twenty years ago, I was seeing all the ways in which mothers were tending to their children in terms of the three aspects of Aware Parenting, but ignoring their own needs, judging themselves and their parenting, and being harsh with themselves when their own feelings from the past came up to be healed. So I developed the Inner Loving Presences and Inner Loving Presence Process work, which is the Love part of The Marion Method. There is also Will work and Conversations with Life in The Marion Method too. This work was not only Inspired by Aware Parenting. It was also influenced by Nonviolent Communication, by Marshall Rosenberg, Psychosynthesis by Roberto Assagioli (including the sub-personalities work) and The Field Project by Philip Golabuk. In the episode, I share about how the Inner Loving Presences and Inner Loving Presence Process work and the Will and Willingness work work with reparenting. You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/ You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

It really is possible to get free from guilt! I'd love to emphasise again that this is NOT Aware Parenting. This reparenting series is based on The Marion Method. I'm so grateful to Marshall Rosenberg, who created Nonviolent Communication. It was from him, back in 2002, when my daughter was 9 months old, that I learnt about the true origin of guilt, and how it is simply a form of cultural conditioning. It's not an innate feeling. I also borrowed the term 'Domination Culture' from him. He in turn borrowed it from Walter Wink. I added 'Disconnected' to it, i.e. 'Disconnected Domination Culture', to emphasise that disconnection needs to happen in order for domination to happen. In contrast, in The Marion Method, I see our true nature as Love and Will - in other words, we are LOVE: deeply interconnected with all that is, and WILL: deeply powerful and connected with the power of Life, particularly through our yeses and noes. So, back to guilt! In this episode, I talk about how guilt is related to both Love--Hurts and Will-Hurts. Guilt has two functions: to coerce us into doing things, and to lead to uncomfortable feelings if we don't act as we think we 'should'. The first is related to will. The second to love. In comparison, with The Marion Method, we can transform self-coercion into acting from willingness, or being unwilling to do something. And we can transform the pain of self-judgment to deep self-compassion. Getting free from guilt is so life-changing, in ways that I explain in more depth. You can find out more about my work at www.marionrose.net and my books at: https://marionrose.net/books/ The Get Free From Guilt Course is in a Facebook group and is here: https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/get-free-from-guilt-for-good/ You can also find me here: https://www.instagram.com/theawareparentingpodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/_marion_rose_/ https://www.instagram.com/awareparenting/ www.facebook.com/MarionRosePhD

Today we go back to our book club and talk about Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. It's really foundational work that has elements pulled into a lot of other books that we've already discussed, and I think it's essential for people who are looking to be better leaders. It's also great to learn how to communicate with more empathy, to frame and phrase questions and engagement that explains your feelings, needs and intents, and hear other people's needs. If that sounds a little bit too foo-foo for you, bear with me. This is a really, really, really powerful communication technique. Transcript: https://otter.ai/u/2p1NpJOZbuLxixQVOKETzFZWk8A?utm_source=copy_url

Nonviolent Communication is a robust framework developed by Marshall Rosenberg that focuses on empathy and compassion in communication. A key aspect of NVC is building awareness of one's needs and wants and those of others. Here are several steps to enhance this awareness: Self-Observation: Begin by observing your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Recognize what triggers your emotions and consider how these relate to your needs. Identify Needs: Reflect on universal human needs (such as safety, connection, and autonomy). Identify which of these needs are not being met when you experience certain feelings. Express Feelings: Learn to articulate your feelings honestly and clearly. Use “I feel” statements to convey your emotions, linking them directly to your unmet needs. Request Clarity: Once you understand your own needs and feelings, strive to communicate this to others. Make specific, actionable requests instead of vague statements. For example, instead of saying, “I need help,” specify, “Would you be willing to help me with this task?” Practice Empathy: When engaging with others, strive to listen actively. Acknowledge their feelings and needs, which can help create a safe space for open communication. Through these steps, individuals can build awareness of needs and wants, foster healthier relationships, communicate more effectively, reduce conflict, and promote understanding.

↓Click here for Limited Edition 'Magic in the Mud' merch! ↓ www.children-of-the-forest.com/forestsschoolpodcastshop Summary: In this milestone 200th episode, hosts Lewis and Wem reflect on their podcasting journey, discussing the evolution of their content, memorable guest interviews, and the growth of the Forest School movement. They explore the integration of technology in outdoor education, the importance of inclusivity, and share personal anecdotes that have shaped their perspectives. Timestamps: 00:01 – 00:09: Celebrating 200 episodes and the podcast's evolution. 08:50 – 09:30: Memorable guest insights, including Naomi Fisher and Merlin Sheldrake. 13:21 – 14:08: Transition from activity-focused content to deeper discussions. 14:12 – 14:40: Dream field trips to unique outdoor education settings. 21:12 – 22:39: Debate on the role of technology in Forest School. 27:14 – 28:56: Wishlist of future podcast guests, from philosophers to modern educators. 28:40 – 28:54: Philosophical musings on play and education. 18:44 – 19:28: Gratitude to listeners and aspirations for future episodes. Resources Mentioned: Naomi Fisher's Work: Dr. Naomi Fisher is a clinical psychologist specializing in trauma, autism, and alternative learning methods. Explore her publications and insights on her official website: Naomi Fisher Merlin Sheldrake's Research: Merlin Sheldrake is a biologist and author known for his work on fungi and mycorrhizal networks. Learn more about his research and publications here: Merlin Sheldrake Nonviolent Communication: Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a communication process developed by Marshall Rosenberg. It focuses on empathetic listening and expressing needs without judgment. Find more information at the Center for Nonviolent Communication: For the Wild The Art of Holding Space: This concept involves supporting others without judgment, maintaining an open and empathetic presence. For a comprehensive guide, refer to Heather Plett's work: Subscribe to the Forest School Podcast on your preferred platform to stay updated with our latest episodes. Leave a review to share your thoughts and help others discover the show. Follow us on social media for updates and discussions: Forest School, outdoor education, podcasting journey, inclusivity in education, technology in outdoor learning, nonviolent communication, play-based learning.

Comedian and podcast host Rob Stern (The Rob Stern Show) is back, this time to defend the creepy man Marshall Rosenberg's NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION -- a formula that might just help you navigate a tough conversation... or not. Episode Links: Rob's IG Rob's TikTok Rob's YouTube Channel Rob's X Rob's Facebook Joe's Patreon Mr. Owl's Website

In this episode, my guest is a teammate, conflict transformation facilitator, organization transition coach, and dairy farm partner from Chihuahua, Mexico, Crisol Gonzalez. Tune in to hear our discussion on how being aware of and taking personal responsibility for the role you play in conflict is crucial for success. We explore what the Karpman Drama Triangle has to do with dysfunctional dynamics in an attempt to bring awareness to what roles you and your farm family members may be playing to contribute to conflict. Additionally, we discuss the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and nonviolent communication, the difference between an emotion and a feeling, and a range of useful tools for conflict resolution. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Crisol Gonzalez Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE   CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 Introduction Crisol Gonzalez  0:01:18 Karpman Drama Triangle  0:04:23 Who in your farm family is playing the ‘victim' role? 0:06:15 Why the ‘villain' gets nothing accomplished in family meetings 0:07:37 How to get everyone to the table  0:08:27 Women are tired of being the mediator in the middle 0:10:55 Getting triggered quickly 0:11:13 Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and nonviolent communication 0:11:47 Crisol's work in the local school system  0:12:36 The difference between an ‘emotion' and ‘feeling' 0:15:45 The Conflict Dynamics Profile 0:17:50 Writing it out before talking is a powerful tool 0:21:59 Using voice notes if you don't like to write 0:22:55 Asking permission before offering feedback 0:25:03 Conflict Basics 101 and dysfunctional dynamics 0:28:30 Having each other's back  0:29:36 Are farm women getting what they need? 0:30:34 The Farm Family Transition Membership and breakout rooms

This episode is part of the upcoming online event called Behavior Connect. Behavior Connect is all about moving beyond traditional behavior strategies to foster authentic connections with children. In this episode, I am joined by Julia Kharlamenko, M.S. CCC-SLP TSSLD B.E as we discuss the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and their application in speech therapy sessions. Julia shares how observations, listening, and compassionate interactions help move away from compliance-based therapy, fostering meaningful connections and positive outcomes. Detailed insights into Dr. Marshall Rosenberg's NVC framework are provided, emphasizing the importance of empathy, self-regulation, and honest expression. Julia also explains how these principles can enhance both professional and personal relationships through practical examples and goal-setting. To be part of Behavior Connect, grab your ⁠⁠⁠FREE LIVE TICKET ⁠⁠⁠now!

Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication (NVC) framework emphasizes compassionate communication and understanding. Within this framework, life-serving and life-alienating concepts guide how we interact with ourselves and others. Life-Serving Concepts: Empathy: Involves active listening and understanding others' feelings and needs without judgment. It fosters connection and compassion. Honesty: Clearly expressing one's feelings and needs encourages authentic dialogue, reducing misunderstandings and fostering trust. Mutual Respect: Recognizing and honoring the needs of both oneself and others lays the groundwork for collaboration and peaceful resolution of conflicts. Willingness to Learn: Approaching conversations with curiosity and a desire to understand diverse perspectives allows for growth and deeper relationships. Life-Alienating Concepts: Judgment: Labels and assessments of others lead to division and conflict, making it harder to connect with their underlying needs or feelings. Demanding: Communicating in a way that implies coercion, such as ultimatums or threats, can create resentment and a lack of cooperation. Criticism and Blame: Focusing on what people did wrong, rather than expressing one's needs, creates defensiveness and disconnection. Inflexibility: Being rigid in one's thinking or refusing to consider other viewpoints inhibits dialogue and problem-solving, leading to isolation and misunderstanding. Nonviolent Communication aims to enhance understanding, connection, and cooperation among individuals by focusing on life-serving interactions and avoiding life-alienating behaviors. ⁠An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication⁠ (p. 3)

Hello and welcome to another episode of Colombia Calling – I'm Emily Hart and this week we have something a little bit different – the radical linguistic technique which is building peace - personal and political - all over the world, and the inspiring woman bringing it to Colombia.    This week, I have with me Camila Reyes Azcuénaga – the founder of Resuena, the organisation bringing the school of thought known as ‘Nonviolent Communication' (NVC) to Colombia, a way of structuring our thoughts and communications to prevent and heal conflict, breaching the divides of culture, politics, and identity.    Developed in the late 20th Century by psychologist Marshall Rosenberg, NVC now has trainers and centres in more than 60 countries around the world. This simple technique aims to humanise the ‘other', and forge communication, collaboration, and trust – from our daily life, to our work, and well beyond.    Camila studied law and political science and worked with indigenous communities and landmines here in Colombia, but felt the country needed a more fundamental change than she could achieve with that work. She left Colombia in search of something which would shift the paradigm of violence and conflict entirely.    After stumbling across Nonviolent Communication training during Occupy Wall Street, she felt she'd found what she was looking for – she spent years training and finally returned to Colombia, founding Resuena in 2011, running free workshops for years.   Resuena has now trained thousands, from institutions like the United Nations, the Truth Commission, and the Search Unit for Missing Persons, to grassroots social leaders in conflict-stricken areas of Colombia's South-west. The group helps people to navigate interpersonal relationships and conflicts, as well as maintain cohesion within movements and groups.    Through guided discussions, participants are trained to identify the patterns of behaviour that divide them and weaken their collective campaigns and processes, and then to replace them with a focus on acting from common ground. This year, Resuena also launched the ‘Sowers of Nonviolent Communication' network – so that trainees can go into their own communities and pass on the training.    So today, Camila is going to give us a masterclass in these techniques and their underlying ideas, talking us through the four steps – observation, feeling, need, and request – along with some everyday examples. She'll then tell us about her amazing work in some of Colombia's most difficult contexts, and why this work is so necessary not just for the country – but for all of us.

Today, I'm excited to share my conversation with Ali Miller on how nonviolent communication (NVC) can help navigate co-parenting dynamics and couple relationships. When raising a neurodivergent child, there are often many opportunities for parents to disagree—whether it's about the therapies to explore, whether or not to disclose a diagnosis to family members, or even if a diagnosis exists at all. These discussions can be tough and can definitely place a strain on the relationship. But with nonviolent communication, we can learn how to have conversations that feel like a win-win for everyone involved. Ali Miller is an expert in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and has been a marriage and family therapist for over twenty years. In 2021, she became certified as a Clini-Coach® specializing in couples communication. As an online coach, she helps couples worldwide improve their communication and conflict resolution skills, allowing them to experience more peace, passion, and possibilities in their relationships. In this conversation, Ali and I discussed what NVC is and why it's a comprehensive model that supports all kinds of relationships. We explored how understanding our feelings—and more importantly, the underlying needs behind them—is crucial for effective communication. Ali also emphasized the importance of empathy and self-empathy in the NVC model, and shared how to express our needs to our partners without blame or judgment (while also acknowledging that this doesn't absolve our partner of responsibility). This conversation truly highlights how NVC can transform conflict into connection by fostering empathy and understanding between partners. I hope you enjoy it!   About Ali Miller Ali Miller, an expert in Nonviolent Communication (NVC), has been a Marriage & Family Therapist for over twenty years. In 2021 she became certified as a Clini-Coach® specializing in Couples Communication. As an online coach, she helps couples all over the world level up their communication + conflict navigation skills so they can experience more peace, passion, and possibilities in their relationship.   Things you'll learn from this episode What nonviolent communication (NVC) is and why it's a comprehensive model that can support any and all relationships How understanding feelings, and more importantly, our underlying needs, is crucial for effective communication The importance of empathy and self-empathy in the NVC model Why recognizing universal human needs can bridge gaps in understanding and foster true compassion and understanding How to express our needs to our partner without blame or judgment (and why it doesn't mean our partner bears no responsibility)   Resources mentioned Ali Miller's website Ali on Instagram Ali's Private Facebook Group The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In (free mini-course) Feelings and Needs Cheatsheets Ali's Podcast: Love Each Other Better 8-Week Private Coaching Program for Couples — Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) Marshall Rosenberg and the Center for Nonviolent Communication Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall Rosenberg Zach Morris on Nonviolent Communication and Whole Person Learning (Tilt Parenting podcast) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  Contributors are listed here: Danielle S. Castillejo (Rueb), Cyon Edgerton, Rachael Reese, Chasity Malatesta, Debby Haase, Kim Frasier, Briana Cardenas, Holly Christy, Clare Menard, Marjorie Long, Cristi McCorkle, Terri Schumaker, Diana Frazier, Eliza Cortes Bast, Tracy Johnson, Sarah Van Gelder, Marwan, and more Welcome to the Arise Podcast, conversations on faith, race, justice, gender, and spirituality. You'll notice there's going to be some updated changes and different voices on the podcast this season. It's season five. It's October 1st, 2024. I haven't recorded a podcast since June of 2023, and at that time, if you've been following along in my town in Kitsap County, we were working through what would prove to be an extensive and prove to be an extensive fight for justice in our school district. And at this time, we have made some very significant shifts. I want to get into this episode to kind of catch you up on where I'm at, where the podcast is at, and hopefully as you listen to myself and some different voices on these upcoming podcasts, you understand that we have this fundamental common theme amongst us, which is our humanity. And when we drop down into that humanity, because our work, our lives, our families, there's all these poles and all these different ways for us to separate ourselves from our humanness and be busy or accomplish this or accomplish that.(00:01:52):And I know because I'm in there too, we actually separate ourselves from our neighbor. And so I'm hoping as we engage tough topics of politics and we get into the sticky points of it, that there's a sense that, yeah, I don't agree with that person or I agree with that person, but there is a sense that there is shared humanity. And so as we talk about these different subjects, I wanted to emphasize that first, an article was released in the fall last year saying in September of 2023 saying that there was, the school district's investigation had concluded and they had deemed that there was no racism in the North Kitsap School district. As you can imagine, a report like that on the front page of the paper, after all we'd been through after sitting through numerous hours of meetings listening to families and their experiences was disheartening.(00:02:45):We came to find out that some of the families felt or experienced what they deemed to be threatening tones from the investigators or understood that they could possibly be under penalty of perjury depending on what they answered. And I'm not saying that this was always the case, but the threat was on the table. And when you're dealing with working with majority world peoples who are marginalized in the United States, that threat can be very real. And the impact of it is very great. So I began to understand that this investigation wasn't actually looking for the truth and how to solve the problem. It was actually looking for a way of complete and utter defense against what these families had reported their students had experienced. It's a very different thing. And I think there were rumors like were these families going to sue the district, bring a lawsuit to the district?(00:03:41):And we've seen in neighboring school districts, just in recent times, lawsuits have been filed for much less. I mean, we had 90 original complaints. We have more people that had come forward as time had moved on. And yet there was never a move to actually file a lawsuit. We didn't file a lawsuit. We continued to move forward with our lives and think about our students. I think at some point in last fall of 2023, there was just a sense of deep despair like we put in years of effort. And the result was this report that basically attempted to delegitimize all the stories of all these families. It was horrible and heartbreaking and followed the fall. And in the late winter there was going to be a vote for this school bond. And as the yes for the bond campaign rolled out, led by a committee of yes folks, which included some Paul's Bowl rotary members and then the superintendent, it became clear to different community members that there were a lot of questions still to be asked, a lot of information we wanted to have and a lot of things that just felt like they were missing.(00:04:57):I'm not saying they were all missing, but there were pieces and details that appeared to be missing. And when we asked the questions similar to what happened with the complaints, we didn't get answers. The answers were couched in long paragraphs or explanations, and the architects seemed like they didn't have access to the buildings. Again, we didn't know all the details of what happened. And this is just a general recap. You can look at the ensuing political drama online. If you Google superintendent signs and polls Bowl, Washington, P-O-U-L-S-B-O Washington, you will find articles on NBC to Fox News to video clips, all of the above. There were signs all over our county, as I'm sure in your different counties or if you live in Kitsap, you've seen them political signs, vote yes on the bond, vote no on the bond, et cetera. And it appeared that signs were going missing.(00:06:02):And in one case, the signs were going missing often in one particular location and a pair of folks who are not married who became allied because they were both against the bond and had been putting up no on bond signs, decided to put up a wildlife cam and we're able to capture a person destroying the signs on video. And again, Google sbo, Google signs, Google Superintendent look for February 20, 24 articles and you'll see the ensuing reports of what happened. This became a chance for us actually to revisit our story because there's a theme of dishonesty from the top leadership. There was a theme of hiding. There's a theme of not giving all the information a theme of there's any extent we can go to that bumps up against the law. By the way, I think it's against the law to destroy political signs. So there's just this theme that you could break the law and get away with it.(00:07:08):We've seen in the top politics of our country down to the low level politics of our country. And what was our community going to do with all of this? We rallied together. For the first time in many years, there were literally hundreds of people on a zoom call for a school board meeting. News agencies showed up again, and sadly, our district was in the news for something else negative related to the top leadership. And it was very sad. The process. The superintendent was put on leave and resigned in June, but stopped working essentially closely with the school board. I think it was in March or April of 2024. I just remember that when the harm stops, when someone harmful is told by law enforcement or the law or someone else in a higher power to stop harming it, it's a relief. But also that's the time when all of the residual trauma sets in the trauma that you've been going through to be in proximity to someone in leadership and you're literally powerless to address it.(00:08:19):And I guess I bring this up to say that as we think about politics nationally, locally, whether it's a school board member or a president, I remember feeling challenged When I live in a small town, paulville was a small town. It is not like Seattle size. It's like got rural folks. There's folks that commute into the city of Seattle. We're, we're a mix of all different kinds of socioeconomic backgrounds. Our school district is now 38% Spanish speaking this year. There is a genuine mix. So when you're out and about in this small container, Kitsap's also very small too. It's rural, it's small. We're kind of contained on our own peninsula. When you're in this environment, the chances that you're going to see someone that you're know are really high, it's not like if you hate someone about, you're not going to run into Donald Trump here.(00:09:11):You're not going to run in here, run into Kamala Harris here. It's not like you're running into those folks, but you might run into your representative. You might run into the school board member from this district or another district. And how are you going to see that person that actually you not only disagree with, but you felt has been unjust to you? Costs a lot. I mean, money's one thing, but time, effort, family, reputation, allies, there is so much time involved and the way forward. You think it's clear when you're fighting on behalf of kids, you're advocating on behalf of kids. That feels really good. But the process to work through that advocacy often doesn't feel that great. You have to become allies with people you don't agree with. And so I think that just brings me back to where do we find our common humanity?(00:10:06):Where do we find space to occupy a same piece of land or a same meeting or a similar, we have similar causes, but maybe there's deep hurt between us and maybe that hurt is to the point where we're not going to ever talk to that person again, and how do we still see them as human? How do we still see them as valuable in this world? How do we still gain compassion? Those are things I ask myself and I don't have the answers. So I've included a number of folks asking a similar questions about humanness, about politics, about where they locate themselves in their various positions, their race, ethnicity, et cetera, and how do they come at this? And I hope you enjoy the following conversations because I conversations or talks from these people, commentary from these people as we hear all different perspectives. Now you may hear someone and be like, I can get down with that. I agree with that. And then there's another person you might be like, no way, no effing way. And so I encourage you to listen, stay curious with yourself and have talks with your family about how you're going to engage this political season.Speaker 2 (00:11:26):Danielle asked me how I see being human in the age of politics, and I'm struggling answering this because A, I am not a politician or have really any experience as a politician. I have experience as a community based organizer. So I am speaking on this on the outside of things. And then also I'm a white woman able bo, heterosexual woman. And the politics and the systems of power were built for me as a white person to thrive. And so I just want to locate myself in that because my view is of a privileged view. White folks can step in and out of politics without it really harming us. And that's a problem, obviously, and it distorts our view of politics.(00:12:55):But with this question, I have become more and more angry and upset with politics, policies, systems of power, the more that I unlearn and learn about my internal white supremacy culture and ways of being. And as the genocide in Palestine and other countries continue, I don't think the political structures are here for us. They're not people centered, they're not community centered. I think all politics are really about power. And so as an outsider, as not a politician and as a white woman, so those are flawed views. I'm coming from a flawed view. I see how politics change people or they make bad people even worse. I know local white folks that are in it for power and just continue on searching for more and more power. And I've witnessed community organizers join politics to really try to change the systems. But I don't think politics or the system was made to help humans. I don't think the system is for humans. And it hurts people, it divides people. I don't really know how to answer this question because I don't think politics and humanists can actually go together, not the way that they're set up now.Speaker 3 (00:15:09):These questions are so beautiful and just so right on time for this time, we're in right before an election where there's so much stress. My name is Sara Van Gelder and I am a friend of Danielle's and a resident of Kitsap County for many years have I was one of the founders of YES magazine. I also founded a group called People's Hub, which teaches community folks how to do local organizing, actually peer to peer teaching. I didn't do the teaching, but connected people together to teach each other and been associated as a ally of the Suquamish tribe at various times in my life, but I did not ever speak for them.(00:15:54):So my own humanity in the context of this political moment, I like to stay in a place of fierce love and do when I can. I can't say I'm always there. I'm often triggered. I often go into a place of feeling really fearful and anxious about what's going on in the world and more particularly the polarization and the rise of which what I don't like to call, but I think is actually a form of fascism. And when I talk about fierce, it means being willing to say the truth as I see it, but also love, which is that that is the motivator. I don't like seeing people get hurt and I'm willing to stand up and be one of the people to say what I see, but not in a way that is intended to degrade anybody. I am a mother, I'm a grandmother, I'm a daughter, I'm a sister. And being connected to people through love and that sense of willingness to protect one another, that's at the core. So even if I disagree with you, I'm not going to wish you harm.Speaker 1 (00:17:12):Wow. Wow. Even if I disagree with you, I'm not going to wish you harm. And I think what I've heard just particularly lately around the talk of immigration, let's say for an example, is the talk about immigration in the context of a particular city. For instance, they've used Springfield, Ohio over and over. It's come up many times and the demonization, the dehumanization of those immigrants, the miscategorizing of their status, it seems like some of this can get point hyper-focused on one particular example to make a political point or to drive fear home across different context, different communities. So when you think about that, do you wish those people harm that are making those accusations? How do you engage a tough subject like that?Speaker 3 (00:18:15):Yeah, it's a really hard one, and I could tell you what I aspire to do and what I actually do a lot of times is avoid people who have that level of disagreement with, because I'm not sure I have enough in common to even have a good conversation. So I don't feel like I'm as good at this as I'd like to be. But what I try to do is to first off, to recognize that when we're in the fight or flight sort of reptilian brain, when we're super triggered, we have the least capacity to do good work of any kind. So I try to get out of that mindset, and in part I do that by trying to listen, by trying to be an active listener and try to listen not just for the positions. The positions are ones that will likely trigger me, but to listen for what's beneath the positions, what is somebody yearning for?(00:19:10):What is it that they're really longing for beneath those positions that I find so harmful and so triggering. So in many cases, I think what people are looking for in this immigration debate is a sense of belonging. They want to believe that their community is a place where they belong and somehow believe that having other people who are from different cultures move in reduces the chances that they'll be able to belong. So what would it mean if they could feel like they belonged along with the Haitians in their community that it didn't have to be an either or is there a way to have that kind of conversation that what if we all belong(00:19:54):In that respect? The thing that I am sometimes most tempted to do, which is to cancel someone, if you will, that actually feeds into that dynamic of not belonging because I'm telling that person also, you don't belong in my life. You don't belong in my community. So it's not easy to do, but I do feel like we have a better chance of doing that locally than we have doing it nationally because locally we do have so many things we have in common. We all want to drink clean water, we want clean air. We want places our kids can go to school where they will belong and they will feel good. So if we can switch the conversation over to those deeper questions, and I think one thing I've learned from hanging out with indigenous folks is the way in which they think about the seven generations and how much more expansive of you that can give to you when you think that way.(00:20:54):Because instead of thinking about again, that immediate threat, that immediate personal sense of anxiety, you start thinking, well, what's going to work for my kids and my grandkids? I don't want them to be experiencing this. Well, that means something about having to learn how to get along with other people, and we want our kids to get along with each other. We want them to have friends and family, and when they marry into a different culture, we want to feel good about our in-laws. I mean, we want our neighborhood to be a place where our kids can run around and play outside. I mean, there's so many things that once you start expanding the scope to other generations, it makes it so clear that we don't want that kind of society that's full of hate and anxiety.Speaker 1 (00:21:44):Wow, seven generations. It is true. I do a lot of reading and I think about res, are you familiar with Resa and my grandmother's hands? And he talks about that the shifts we want to make in society, the shifts towards being more in our actual physical bodies and present with one another and the reps that it takes, the way we're disrupting it now to make a dent in the 400 plus year history of slavery and the act of embodying ourselves from the harm that has been done is going to take five to seven generations. It's not that he's not for change now. He absolutely is. And just having that long term, almost like marathon view perspective on what change has either for ourselves that can give ourselves grace and that we can also give others in our proximity grace, while also not engaging in active harm. I think there's an important part there. Does that make sense?Speaker 3 (00:22:51):Oh, it makes so much sense. And it's like that long-term view doesn't suggest we can put off working. It only even happens in the long term if we start today, we take the first steps today. So yes, absolutely makes sense. I'm not sure I'm patient enough to wait for all those generations, but I want to be keeping them in my mind and heart when I act. How is this going to contribute to their possibilities? So part of that is by thinking about these questions of belonging, but it's also questions of exclusion more structurally. I think the fact that our society has such deep exclusion economically of so many people, there's so many people across the board who feel so precarious in their lives. I think that sets us up for that kind of scapegoating because ideally what we'd be saying is, if you can't afford to go to college, if you can't afford a medical bill, if you can't afford a place to rent, there's a problem with our economy.(00:23:56):Let's look at that problem with our economy and do something about it. And I believe people have gotten so disempowered. So feeling that that's beyond them to do that. Then the next thing that the demagogues will do is say, well, let's look for a scapegoat then. Let's look for a scapegoat of somebody who's less powerful than you and let's blame them because that'll give you a temporary sense of having power. And that's how, I mean it's not unique to our situation. It's how fascism so often unfolds and how historically groups have been scapegoated. And I think we need to turn our attention back to what is the real cause of our anxiety. And I think the real cause of our anxiety is economic and political disfranchisement. Once we can actually tackle those topics, we can see how much more we can do when we work together across all isms and make things happen for a world in which everyone has a place.Speaker 1 (00:24:55):So then if you know people in your sphere, let's say, and don't name them here, that border on the narrative that says, if you disenfranchise someone less powerful than you, that will bring you some relief. If you have people like that in your life, Sarah, how do you approach them? How do you engage with them if you're willing to share any personal experience?Speaker 3 (00:25:28):Yeah, so my biggest personal experience with that was working as an activist alongside the Suquamish tribe when a lot of their immediate neighbors were trying to keep them from building housing, keep them from building relationships with other governments and actually took them to court trying to actually end their sovereign right to be a tribe. So that was my most direct involvement and that was 20 years ago. So it seems like ancient history, but I learned a lot from that, including from working with tribal elders who provided a lot of leadership for us and how we should work. And one of the things that I've learned from that and also from being a Quaker, is that the notion of how you talk to people in a nonviolent way, and a lot of that starts with using I statements. So when people in my neighborhood would say really disparaging things about the tribe, I would respond with, I feel this. I believe the tribe has sovereign rights. I believe they have always been here and have the right to govern themselves and build homes for their members. And it's harder, it's not as triggering when somebody says, I instead of starts with a word(00:26:58):When somebody says, you immediately have this responsive defensiveness because it's unclear what's going to come next and whether you're going to have to defend yourself when you say I, you're standing in your own power and your own belief system and you're offering that to someone else with the hope that they might empathize and perhaps even perhaps be convinced by part of what you have to say. But in the meantime, you haven't triggered a worsening of relationships. And one of the things I really didn't want to do was create anything that would further the violence, verbal most cases, violence against the tribe, sort of getting people even further triggered. So it was just really important to always be looking for ways to be very clear and uncompromising on really important values, but be willing to compromise on ones that were not important. So for example, when we were working on getting the land return to the tribe that had been a state park, we asked people what's important to you about how this park functions in the future? Because the tribe can take that into account they, but the idea that it is their land, the home of chief Seattles, that was not something we could compromise on.Speaker 1 (00:28:17):I love that using I statements intentionally checking in with yourself so you're not engaging in behaviors that trigger another person further into more defensive mode. Sarah, what are some resources or recommendations you could leave with me or us? When you think about engaging people and staying very present, it's a very human stance to say, I think I believe this versus an accusatory tone like you are this, you are that.Speaker 3 (00:28:50):I think the nonviolent communication that Marshall Rosenberg developed is very powerful. He has a very specific technique for having those kinds of conversations that are very focused on that notion about the I statement and also reflecting back what you hear from other people, but then being willing to use statements about what I need because saying that puts me in a position of being vulnerable, right? Saying I actually need something from you. You obviously have the choice of whether you're going to give it to me or not, but I need to be in a place where I can feel safe when we have these conversations. I need to feel like I live in a community where people are so then the other person has that choice, but you're letting them know and you're again standing in your own power as somebody who's self-aware enough, it also invites them to be self-aware of what they need.Speaker 1 (00:29:46):I love that. Yeah, keep going.Speaker 3 (00:29:50):I think there are other resources out there. I'm just not calling 'em to mind right now, but I think nonviolent communications is a really good one.Speaker 1 (00:29:58):And locally, since you talked locally, what are maybe one or two things locally that you regularly engage in to kind of keep up your awareness to keep yourself in a compassionate mode? How do you do that for youSpeaker 3 (00:30:16):Being out in nature? Okay,Speaker 1 (00:30:19):Tell me about that.Speaker 3 (00:30:22):Oh, in Japan, they call it forest bathing, but it's just a fancy term for being in some places it's really natural. There's beautiful walks. We're very fortunate here in the northwest that there are so many beautiful places we can walk. And when you're surrounded by preferably really intact ecosystems where you can feel the interactions going on among the critters and the plants and just let that wash over you because part of that as well, it kind of helps take some of the pressure off. It sort of releases some of us being kind of entangled in our own ego and lets us just have greater awareness that we're actually entangled in this much larger universe. It's much, much older and we'll go on way after we're gone and extends to so many different ways of being from a bird to a tree, to a plate of grass, and we're all related.Speaker 4 (00:31:33):Hey, this is Kim. So just a brief background. I am a 41-year-old biracial woman. I am a mom, a nurse, a child of an immigrant, and I identify as a Christian American. Thanks Danielle for asking me to chime in. I just wanted to touch base on this current political climate. I would say as a liberal woman, I really enjoy diversity and hearing and seeing different perspectives and engaging in meaningful conversation. Unfortunately, I feel like right now we are so polarized as a country and it's not like the air quote, good old days where you could vote for a politician that you felt like really represented your ideals and kind of financially what you value, policies, et cetera. Now I feel like it has become really a competition and an election of human rights, and I think for me, that's kind of where I draw my own personal boundary.(00:32:40):I think it's important to share different perspectives, and I think I do have a unique perspective and I enjoy hearing others' perspectives as well, but for me, I do draw the line at human rights. So I have learned over the years to just not engage when it comes to issues of individuals being able to choose what to do with their body, women in particular, it's terrifying to me as a nurse and a woman and a mother of a daughter who could potentially be in a situation at some point and not be allowed to make choices about her own body with a doctor. Also as the child of an immigrant, I was raised by a white mother, Irish German Catholic, and my father is an immigrant that has been here since 19 76, 77. He is from Trinidad and Tobago. He's actually served in the military and I have a hard time with vilifying people of color trying to come to this country and make a better life for themselves and for their future and their future generations, which is exactly what my dad was doing. So to me, it's a no-brainer, right? Not to tell anybody what to do or how to vote, but I think that it's really hard right now to hold space for individuals who may be attacking my rights as a woman, my ability as a nurse to be able to care for patients and really what this country was supposedly built on, which is being a melting pot and allowing any and everyone here to be able to pursue the American dream and make a life for themselves and their loved ones.Speaker 5 (00:34:34):As soon as the topic turns to politics, I feel myself cringe, and then I want to internally retreat a bit. Looking back over the past eight plus years, I realize I have been feeling like this for a long time. My body holds memories of heated, uncomfortable confrontive distancing and sometimes horrifying conversations with friends and at times, even with family, I'm tired as most people tired from the collective traumas. We have all lived through political, racial, and pandemic related. Eight years ago, I think I worked to try and remain objective. I told myself that my job was just to hear the other person with curiosity, but doing that was not enough to help me stay well in the midst of what I truly could not then and cannot still control. I've come to realize that I have to stay connected to my own feelings, to my own limitations.(00:35:37):I have to make space to feel my disappointment, my disgust, my fear, my sadness, my powerlessness, my ache, even my longing still when it comes to the realm of politics, I have to make room for my own humanity and then I have to be willing to share that, not simply be a listening ear for others. What's been most difficult for me as politics has driven division and disconnection is the loss of healthy dialogue and conversation. It feels to me like relational loss is there where it doesn't seem like it always has to be. I am passionate about the table, about creating and cultivating space at a table for all the voices and for all of the stories to belong. I still believe in this, and when I'm connected to my own humanity, it makes me far more open to the humanity of another, knowing my own stories that are being stirred up and activated by injustice, by what I perceive to be irresponsible politicians and policies that don't make sense to me and at times scare me when I'm in the presence of those who hold very different political views from me.(00:37:02):I have to actively choose to not just tolerate listening to them, but instead to try and listen for something more. I try to listen for the fear that often fuels their positions. The fear is always storied and the stories offer taste of their humanity and oftentimes their experience of suffering, which always offers the opportunity for empathy. I can't do it all the time. Some situations don't afford the time for curiosity and sharing. When that happens, I need space afterwards, space to release what I don't need or want to hold that I heard space to feel my own humanity again, and then space to choose to remember the humanity of the other person, and that is all an active practice. I think that othering people into political camps and categories is easily available and every time it happens, we lose more and more of our collective humanity and we feed the machine of hate that profits from our conversational and emotional laziness.Speaker 6 (00:38:11):I can't say it's always easy, that's for sure. What I try to do is see another person, whether it's around the political views or other things that I may not agree with somebody about or I might even actually see them as a quote enemy, is for one thing, I drop into my heart and get out of my head about ideas, views, and just try to be present in my heart as much as possible with as little judgment as possible and recognize the essence of the other person, the essence that's inside all the beliefs and the views, and recognizing also that we all have some sort of wounding from our lives, maybe our lineages, our generations, maybe even past lives and or trauma, and that that can obscure the essence of who we are, and I try to really remember that essence in another person.(00:39:34):And in relation, how do you see your own humanity? The other question you ask, how do you see your own humanity in the context of political dialogue? I have to say that's not really a question I thought about. I thought about how to see the humanity in others, so I really appreciate this question. I think if I start othering the other, if I get into too much judgment, I feel like I lose my own sense of humanity or at least the type of human I hope and wish to be. What helps me to I guess, discern when I'm in my own humanity, when I'm in the best of places, I guess I don't know how else to word that is I tune into my values. What do I value most and am I living by those values in the way that I want to be human In this world, for example, for me, integrity is super important as well as respect and compassion.(00:40:44):I'm not saying I'm always in this place, but these values that I aspire to live by help bring me into my own humanity and almost like check, checking in, tuning in checkpoints in a way, when I speak about compassion, sometimes people, all of what I'm saying, I want to, even though I'm maybe trying to see the essence of someone, I do try to discern that if there's being harm done, I'm not okaying any harm at all. And when I try to live by compassion, I feel like that's when I can really see the humanity in others and compassion for myself. I view compassion as a very active verb, a little bit different than empathy. Just that compassion is seeing the suffering, but wanting to do something about it and doing something for me. Compassion includes action, and sometimes that action is helping to disrupt or interrupt harm that's happening, and that's how I can show up in my humanity for others is the best I can do is acting as well as being that balance both, andSpeaker 7 (00:42:23):I'm Diana, she her and I didn't use to see myself in politics the way that I do now. It took decades for me to really start to get a grasp about who I actually am and how the ways I view politics, the ways I vote, who I support, how it actually affects me, and I spent a lot of years voting for things that hurt me without even realizing I was doing that because I was following the messaging and believing it. Ultimately that being a good fill in the blanks meant voting for fill in the blanks or being a good fill in the blanks meant donating to or supporting or whatever, fill in the blanks. And I hurt myself by doing that because I wasn't listening to my own knowing or my own intuition or looking in the mirror at who am I? What kind of world do I want to live in? I didn't ask myself those questions. I did what I thought I was supposed to do to fall in line, and there were people in my life during that who spoke truth, and it was true because it was individual to them. It was, here's what I know about me and here's what this policy means for me. And I didn't get it. I certainly didn't get it.(00:44:09):I judged it inside my own head, and yet those people who spoke their own individual truth are the people who were able to shed light through the cracks in my facade. And years later, I remember some of the things that people said or that they posted or whatever because those were the light that I saw through the cracks and it was so memorable, even though at the time I might have been irritated by it, it was memorable because I loved and respected these people and so their words didn't matter to me, even though at the time I very much disagreed and I hope that I will be allowed to be the light in some people's cracks because I know for a fact there's so many people like me who haven't actually looked at who they are, what they want, what kind of world do they want to live in if they separate themselves from the ideology of where they work or where they go to church or their family of origin or what their spouse is telling them, no honey, who are you? What do you want? And when people can be brave enough to do that, its everything up.Speaker 8 (00:45:46):My name is Marwan Cameron, and I was asked to answer a couple questions here, and the first question was, how do you see your own humanity in the context of political dialogue? And I had to think about this question. Our humanity is front and center when we talk about politics primarily because the issues that affect us, meaning the black community are often sidelined or ignored. I'll share some examples of that. Democrats and Republicans both speak about healthcare, the economy crime, but when they have centered those conversations around the realities they face, when do you actually see that take reparations. For example, we hear a lot about tax cuts or healthcare reform, but nothing about reparations for chattel slavery, for foundational black Americans which are owed to black people for centuries of exploitation. You can even look at our prison system where men are going to prison without HIV and very low percentages and then coming out several times higher when they are released from jail and prison, and I'll get into some of those stats. Also.(00:47:15):When we look at black men that are falsely accused of sexual assault, unfortunately we go back to Emmett Till and we never really talk about the contemporary men. I have a list of a hundred black men that have been falsely accused in the last five years alone. Albert Owens 2023, Christian Cooper, 2020, Joshua Wood, Maurice Hastings, Jonathan Irons, 2000, Anthony Broadwater, 2021, Mark Allen, 2022, Franklin, west 2020, Michael Robertson, Shaw, Taylor, Dion, Pearson 2021, Stanley Race 2019 Rashan Weaver 2020. Henry Lee McCollum, 2020. David Johnson, Jamel Jackson, Charles Franklin, Kevin Richardson, Raymond Santana, Corey Wise, you, Celine, Aron McCray, Brian Banks, which is a pretty famous name, Wilbert Jones. That's just 20 names in the last five years of a list of a hundred that I have that have been falsely accused of sexual assault, these aren't things that we talk about. Question two, how do you make space for folks in your proximity who did not share your political views as a heterosexual black male in this country, you really have no choice but to make space for others' Political views as in question number one, we are really only allowed to speak about injustices or political needs in the framework of the black community as a whole.(00:49:25):Matter what side you find yourself on, whether you're a Republican, we're oftentimes they straight up say, we're not acknowledging what your needs are. We're not going to do anything about your needs. You can come over here and vote with us if you want. As Trump said, what have you got to lose? What have Democrats done for you? Or you can look at the democratic side where in the last three elections, it's been existential against Donald Trump. And when Donald Trump won and then lost and is running again, we still haven't seen things like the repeal of qualified immunity, things like atoning for the most heinous crimes that the United States has committed in chattel slavery against black men. I've made space. We have made space as black men in regards to those who do not share our political views. Black men have fought in every war for the United States of America. We have stood up, stood behind, been sacrificed for the good of almost every cause, and we're told not yet. It's not the right time. We too need, have needs, and it becomes a zero sum game.Speaker 9 (00:51:19):Growing up, we had Sunday dinners at my grandparents. Conversation was always lively with my family, talking loudly, fast, and often right over each other. We talked about everything, what was happening around us, our community, what was in the paper and on the news that evening. We didn't always agree. In fact, I think my grandparents debated opposite sides. Just for fun, I fondly remember my grandmother saying, your grandpa and I are canceling each other's votes at the polls. They would both smile and sometimes laugh. Considering my upbringing, I was surprised to hear my instructor at cosmetology school lay down the law. Politics and religion were never to be discussed, not in school, and certainly not if we wanted to be successful professionally. I learned to smile and nod. I strive to find common ground with the opinion of guests. I was raised not to look for any offense with ideas that contrasted my own.(00:52:16):It takes both a left and a right wing to make the eagle fly and what a boring world this would be in if we all agreed. But then Trump happened up until he achieved power. Generally speaking, whether the law or policy was written by conservatives, liberals, moderates, there was a basis of bettering the American way of life. To be clear, this wasn't always the advancement of protection we agreed with, but we could see the logic of it. For the most part, Trump's leadership consists of a hatred for people who are not like him. Early on in his campaign, he told Americans to police their neighbors if they were of a specific religion he has built upon dehumanization and vilification every day sense. My mother lived in Germany for a few years and a town not far from Dau. It was the early 1960s and not yet recovered from World War ii.(00:53:21):This quaint little town overlooks the Bavarian Alps with architects right out of a storybook and a stunning view of Munich. It was evidence that the residents of this charming quiet village were aware that 800,000 people came in and no one left. History books paint the picture that everyone was scared of speaking up for fear they would be next. But with critical thinking, we know many of those approved. They've been listening to the nonsense of their leaders, their beliefs that Jews, the disabled homosexuals, immigrants were a burden on the healthcare system, education system, taking their German jobs, businesses, and homes. They were demonized so strongly, so powerfully. They were no longer human, no longer their neighbors, doctors, teachers, bakers seamstresses their talents, their skills and their very humanity no longer existed. We know this to be true, but what we don't talk about is the slope that good people slid down that enabled this to take place in the coffee shops, birthday parties, sitting with friends, playing cards, Sunday family dinners, these words came up.(00:54:43):Hitler's rhetoric spread and thoughtful kind people did not correct their friends, family, guests and clients. There were Nazis and sympathizers, but there were good people that saw through Hitler's dumpster fire of lies. These are the people I wonder if they ever slept well again. Could they ever look at themselves with honor and integrity? Trump proudly uses this method. He has people willing to do his bidding. He has sympathizers, but what he doesn't have is my silence, my obedience. My voice is the born power. I have to stand strong and correct the lies he tells and the people in my circle repeat. I will lose clients and friends taking this action, and that's a price I'm willing to pay, but I'm not willing to live out the rest of my days knowing that I didn't do everything in my power to stop in.Speaker 10 (00:55:49):How do you make space for folks in your proximity who don't share your political views? I am lucky that I live next to my parents and that my mother-in-law lives in a small home on our property. For years, there was a constant strife between my parents, myself, husband, and my mother-in-law due to political and religious beliefs, uncomfortable dinners, having to watch what you say, an aura of judgment that would seem to permeate family gatherings. They were quite the norm. And each time that they would leave, I would feel a sense of relief. Sometimes someone would decide not to come or just tell us that they needed a break. This would create less tension, but I worry that someone would feel left out or that they would feel judged if they weren't present. And actually that would happen more often or not, especially in my time of anger before and during Covid.(00:56:40):As mentioned before, when I decided that I needed to focus on my own sense of happiness and live up to my values and beliefs, I decided that my home would become a politics, religion free zone. I wanted my home to be a safe for everyone. And this was a tough transition. And what was most difficult was creating boundaries for our parents, having the hard conversations about why we're asking people to withhold their opinions on politics and religion and to focus on grandkids sports and family celebrations, et cetera. For the first few months, I was constantly reminding everyone of the rule, but eventually we all seemed to settle in and even catch ourselves when we deviated from how sex expectations, dinners and events became more pleasant. And when our guests would leave, I didn't have to decompress or worry about how to fix an issue or soothe someone's feelings.(00:57:27):This one simple step has been a game changer, and it's not always perfect, and sometimes people will slip up, but instead of taking on the issue, we will move the conversation to another topic. Some would say that we need to talk about the issues and debate their merits so that we can grow and come together. But no, after finding my purpose, I don't believe that being right is more important than someone else's feelings. I want everyone who sits at my table and breaks spread with me to feel loved and valued. It's not perfect because we're human, but we're trying one dinner at a timeSpeaker 11 (00:58:03):To how do I hold my own humanity? In the context of political dialogue, one of the first things that comes to mind for me is, at least in political conversations, what defines my humanity? When I think about politics, much of our politics is really about power and privilege, of which I happen to have both. And so when I'm thinking about politics, I'm thinking about my social location as a able-bodied, middle class, heterosexual Christian White woman, I carry privilege in almost every aspect of that identity, at least here in the United States. And so when I'm thinking about humanity and political dialogue, our political system has historically always been and continues to be set up to serve people with my type of humanity very well. The thing that I'm constantly trying to keep in my mind is what about the humanity of my brothers and sisters experiencing oppression, marginalization when it comes to my voice and my vote in political situations, I have over the years had to learn to think less about how can I use my vote and my voice to engage in politics in a way that benefits me because I'm already benefiting from our system.(00:59:42):Our system is set up to benefit people like me who carry great levels of social privilege. What I really want to know as I'm trying to use my voice and my vote wisely now, is how do I leverage both of those things, my voice, my vote, as well as my power and privilege to engage in political dialogue in ways that fix broken systems. So I am oftentimes not actually voting or advocating for the things that would benefit me the most or necessarily align perfectly with my theological or political ideals. I'm looking at where are the most broken places in our system? Where is our government currently oppressing individuals the most? And how can my vote and my voice be used to leverage our politics in such a way that those broken systems begin to get fixed and healed over time so that those whose humanity looks different than mine are receiving the same amount of privilege of assistance of power that they should be.(01:00:57):And when it comes to dealing with those that I'm in proximity with who have very different political ideologies than myself, of which I will say in my current context, there are quite a few. I am constantly having to remind myself to focus on core values, values over stances that our conversations and our engagement with one another centers not so much around opinions about specific political stances or issues as much as the core values that we share. If my core value is for equality and equity, if my core value is that we're caring for the poor and the marginalized, then regardless of what stances I might have on certain issues, my voice and my vote represents those core values. And I've found that even when certain stances might be different, when we dig into the core values that are at the root of our decision-making, there's oftentimes a lot more common ground than I ever expect there to be.Speaker 12 (01:02:06):This recording is for the fabulous Danielle Castillo. I think what I am seeing right now as I think about how to welcome people's humanity and politics are a few key things that are both shocking and I would say disappointing in a day and age where we seem to want to tolerate people not being locked into binary spaces, we have relegated differences and opinion and viewpoints into a bipartisan politic. And what that does is that means that there are people who are in and who are out. And we've had to embrace things that we both love and hate if we ascribe to any one of those bipartisan objectives. And so we've had to in some ways, in our own humanity, violate pieces of ourselves to say, well, I align this part one way, but even though I categorically reject their views on this another way. And then regardless of whatever spectrum you're on inside of that political continuum, and it's hard because at that point, if we say in a lot of other spaces that there's space for nuance and there's space for gray, then why here do we land in those spaces?(01:03:16):And so that would be the first that it is an either or, and we seem to be comfortable, most comfortable that way. And then to demonize and villainize somebody who's in the either or space, instead of allowing for the gray, you're either all for me or all against me, and you can't live somewhere in the middle. The second thing that would be shocking and disappointing for me is the way that we've been able to start arranging the things that we can tolerate. And so I can say, well, I love this candidate because I love these three things and I agree with them and I hate these four things, but they're not that bad. And you love this candidate, you love the other candidate for these three things, but you hate them for those four things. And the fact that you don't hate 'em enough over those four things means that you're a terrible person.(01:04:02):And I find that just so interesting and so sad that we've been able to say, well, the four things I can stomach that I don't like are somehow more or less worse than the four things you feel like you could tolerate or not tolerate. And so my list of sins or offenses that are easily navigable, somehow I get to become the moral compass over what should be enough or not enough to disqualify somebody for public service. I think at the end of the day, what makes us hard is that we see people in the middle as somehow exhibiting some sort of cowardice. And I think we're pushing people to violate their own humanity and say, as my experience changes and as the neighborhood changes and the people around me change, and my own philosophy changes that I can't stand in a faithful middle and say, well, I agree with some of this, but I don't agree with some of that.(01:04:54):And we've called those people cowards instead of principled moderates, and we've shamed them into saying, well, you have to choose something. And I think that is so unkind. And I think really at the end of the day, we are asking people to violate their own humanity and their own understanding of who they are and their own sense of who they are as a person by saying that they have to agree one way if they want to be a human or be a woman or be a person of color or be a person of faith. And I think it's both sides. I think every side is complicit. At the end of the day, what is really hard is that I think most people want to vote for the person that is going to lead well, and they want that person to be a good person. They want them to be an upright person.(01:05:37):They want them to be an authentic person, the same person behind closed doors as they are in the public face. And I would say, I don't think that's most people who choose politicking as a vocation, I believe that so much of their job is diplomacy and having to be a lot of faces in a lot of places. And so asking for that kind of authenticity and consistency in a social media world is almost asking the impossible. I don't think it totally is impossible, but I think it's exceptionally hard. Many of the things that we want to ascribe to one individual and how they uphold or represent their own party are carefully crafted narratives by a team of people who are professional politicians and marketers, and to ask them to give you an authentic person, their job is to not give you an authentic person. Their job is to give you an avatar that you feel you can most connect with so you can make the decision they want you to make.(01:06:33):And that is really for me, the reality of what we're up against right now is that we want to say we're voting for ideologies, and in reality we're voting for a carefully crafted narrative that is crafted by people who want you to believe a particular way. And I know that feels kind of negative, and that makes me so sad to even voice that out loud and to vocalize that out loud. But I would say that I hope in some way that we experience real freedom and real understanding of what it means to be a global citizen and to be a citizen of this country, is that we understand that. And the complexity of who I am as a person and how I interact with other people and how they understand their own complexity and their own humanity means that I can believe a lot of things that belong in a lot of different camps.(01:07:19):And that's okay. That's what honestly, being intrinsically American means, but also just to understand our own humanity in the global context is there are things that I will feel one way about and they squarely belong in one camp, but there are other things I believe that belong in another camp. And both of those things can be true for me without somebody demanding that I carry some sort of alliance or allegiance to one person. I think that's so gross and so foul at the end of the day. I think what makes America so interesting and so fascinating, but I also think so beautiful and so compelling and so desiring for people who are coming into our borders, is that there is this understanding that I can stand squarely as an individual person and be able to express myself as who I am as an individual and also belong to a collective that makes space for that.(01:08:14):And that is intrinsically what it means to be America. I'm free to be us, but I'm also free to be me. And so I think politics pushes us into a narrative that is against intrinsically who we say we are, and that really is the basis of freedom. And so that's what I would feel about that. Now, this is an added bonus, and I know you didn't ask for this, Danielle, but I'm going to give it to you anyways because I firmly believe this. I think it is more dehumanizing, and I think it is so incredibly sad that we don't allow for people to be principled moderates. That we are sanctifying the ability to castrate people's ability to be able to stand in the middle. And we vilify them as being weak or vilify them as being cowards because their understanding of what is actually evil is.(01:09:09):It's a broad spectrum. And to say that there is good everywhere, it is true to say there is evil everywhere is true. And how people interface with both of those things is true. And so I hate that we have become okay at using our theology and using our social media platforms and using our politicking as throwing stones for people who say, I want to hold a faithful middle. And that faithful middle means that I can believe a multitude of things and that I stand in the own gray and the nuance of who I am and how I understand my neighbors and what that looks like. And we know that some of those people are standing with compassion and with courage. And to call those people cowards, I think is the most ignorant, I'm trying to find the kindest way to say this, right? So I think it is just absolutely ignorant.(01:10:00):And then we've used quotes out of context and scriptures out of context to tell those people that somehow they're bad and evil people. And it's just not true that they're honestly sometimes the bridge builders and the unifier in places where they are trying to be peacemakers and they're trying to be people of peace. They're trying to be people of belonging and welcome. And so they're holding a faithful middle to say, my heart is going to take enough of a beating where people may misunderstand me, but I'm going to make it big enough and available enough where everybody can come sit under my tent. And I think that's brave work. I think that is courageous work, and I think that is humbling work that we could learn more from instead of castigating really more than anything else. So those are my 2 cents, honestly, more than anything else.(01:10:51):The last 2 cents I could probably give you that I think is so shameful is I am tired of any political party that tells me that they are doing more for working class Americans or doing more for poor people, and yet they're spending 2 billion to fly somebody around and send me junk mail to my home. I would much rather you stop buying ad space and then you actually go and serve the poor and somebody takes a picture of you doing that on accident. And I actually get to see that and go, oh my gosh, they're actually serving the poor. Do not tell me you're serving the poor or serving working class Americans and you haven't talked to one or seen one in a very long time. And my God, you have not lived in our shoes. You have not lived on our pay scales. You have not come in and volunteered regularly, and you only show up when there's a camera crew doing that.(01:11:34):That is so gross to me, and I hate that you send me mail about it and spend 2 billion fundraising for things like that. And yet that money could go to the poor and that money could go to programs. If there's one thing that makes me want to soapbox so bad, it is that more than anything else, I don't want to hear what your fundraising dollars have done to actually help your campaign. And that thing becomes a total waste when you lose. And that money doesn't go into the pockets of people. That money goes into the pockets of advertisers and radio stations and TV stations and social media influencers and all sorts of nonsense and actually doesn't go into the pockets and the hands of people who are feeding the poor that is garbage. So I feel very strongly about that, but I dunno if this is what you need, but that's how I make space. I make space for people who live at Principled Middle because I think blessed are the peacemakers and I want them to feel safe with me.Speaker 13 (01:12:26):Good morning. My name is Luis Cast. How do I see my own humanity in this political context? Well, it's simple as that. I'm a human being. I'm not a pawn or a little peace on a game. I'm a human being born and raised in Mexico, but I live here in the United States over half of my life now, and I'm a human being. And no matter what the promises they give me or what they're going to do in government, I'm still just a human being that wants the best for me and my family. And that's what they need to address the human being in us regarding not regarding color or race or where they come from. Treat us a as human beings. And the other question, how do I make space for folks who do not share my political view?(01:13:46):Well, again, it's just simple. I was taught that love whoever disagree with you or even your enemy. But to be honest, that's the hardest thing to do. People that don't agree with you or you don't agree with them, and sometimes they even hurt you. But I try to do my best, honestly, just to listen and sometimes put myself in their shoes because everybody has been brought up differently in families, cultures, regions of the country from the south, from New England, they call in the west in California. So we all have different views. So I just don't have an ear and sometimes an opinion, but mostly an ear so they can really listen to what they, I believe, where they come from, where they come from. So that is what I try to do. No, perfect, but that's what I try to do.Speaker 14 (01:14:59):Hi, my name is Claire. I am a white, cisgender, heterosexual woman. I live in Paulsboro, Washington. So the first question is how do I see my humanity in the context of this current political moment? And I'd start off by saying I come from a pretty privileged place, like my own personal humanity isn't very threatened just because I'm white, I'm straight, and yeah, my own family background. I have a lot of support and I'm not ever threatened with becoming homeless or something if I can't pay my bills. But still things are really scary for so many people right now. So I definitely feel that all the time. And I would say that it's just a really disheartening time. A lot of the, I mean, pretty much all politicians, I'd say are very untrustworthy at a local and national level. And I think we're all seeing that, especially in the context of what's happening in Gaza.(01:16:26):For the last over a year now, all these politicians that felt like they were progressive and would speak out when heinous things happened, most of them have gone silent or completely denied what's happening in Gaza, or just said really brief empty words, always proceeded by talking about Israeli hostages. So yeah, it's been terrifying because we realize the extent of politicians care for the general public and for the global wellbeing of humanity. And it only stretches so far because first and foremost, they're concerned about their own and standing in the political world because we've seen a lot of people lose their reelections for standing up for Palestinians.(01:17:38):And I think what's really disheartening is seeing it at a local level. In some ways, we expect national politicians to be pretty sleazy and skirt around really big, terrible, important issues. But seeing it at a local level has been really terrifying because I mean, they said it was then a couple decades ago, like 30, 40 years ago, there's more crises going on. And that really, for me, I've always thought, well, this is how it's always been. There's just the media reports on more stuff. We have social media, we can't hide a lot of things. So I don't know if that's true or not, but I mean, it probably is. We're in a time of climate crisis too, so it makes sense that things are just, they're not slowing down.(01:18:49):I don't know where I was going with that, but yeah, I guess I would just say humanity. It feels threatened on so many levels for my queer friends, for my friends of color, for any women or female identifying people just on so many levels, it just feels like our rights are being threatened and everything feels tenuous. If Trump wins, what the hell is going to happen to this country? And if Kamala wins, what the hell is going to change? I don't believe in politicians. They're not going to save us. That's how it feels. We have to save each other that are diehard Trumpers or something. I'd say all those people are my relatives that live in Wisconsin or a couple of coworkers, and we don't talk about politics, but on a deeper level, I try to remember that it's hard, right? Because hard, it's hard not to hate people for what they believe. I guess that's a horrible thing to say, isn't it? But I see the consequences of people who vote for Trump and put him in office the first time, their direct consequences because they voted for Trump and because of their beliefs and because of what they repost online. That just has bred so much hatred, and it's led to people being terrified for their lives and people losing their lives. There's so much propaganda being shoved down people's throats, the people that have Fox News plane 24 7.(01:21:06):I don't know the last time I watched Fox News, but I've overheard it. That stuff is crazy. They're being fed lie after lie after lie. So yeah, it's like people are also a product of their culture and it's hard to fight against your culture. So I try to give people some grace with that, but I also don't know how they can't see their own beliefs as harmful and full of hatred. I really don't understand. So yeah, it's hard. It's hard to remember people's humanity, but I have obviously my own blind spots and my own ways that I'm super ignorant and willfully ignorant in the things I look away from and the things like I'm resistant to learning because it's inconvenient or uncomfortable for me. So I try to hold that space for people too, because we're all learning. Yeah, it's a process of trying to remember people's humanity. And I think, yeah, but it just feels like when people support someone that spews so much hatred, it's really hard not to pin that blame on them as well, because they're also at fault for putting people like that in power. So I don't know. Yeah, it's a tough one.Speaker 15 (01:22:55):I feel like as somebody with various subordinated identities, whether that's being queer, being Latina, having a disability, being a woman, all of those things are increasingly politicized. And so for me, I find that political discourse specifically is often really dehumanizing and even performative on the other end of the spectrum. So our two major parties, Republican and Democrat with Republican, it's we well known that those political parties as they exist currently are working to strip away rights from people in all of those identity and affinity groups. While the Democrats, which I won't even say left, because current Democrats are right of center, when you look at a global pe

(NOTAS Y ENLACES DEL CAPÍTULO AQUÍ: https://www.jaimerodriguezdesantiago.com/kaizen/qa12-sistemas-de-aprendizaje-comunicacion-no-violenta-maternidad-y-paternidad-perfiles-hibridos-incentivos-al-educar-dolor-y-cambios-sociales/)¡Primer capítulo de preguntas y respuestas de esta temporada! Y con este, además, creo que me pongo al día de los mensajes acumulados. De hecho, me estoy planteando cambiar el formato y organizar de vez en cuando alguna grabación en streaming en la que podamos interactuar de forma más directa, pero no lo tengo del todo decidido y no sé tampoco si voy a tener realmente el tiempo de hacerlo, porque es probable que dentro de poco mi tiempo disponible se reduzca por un buen motivo, pero ya te lo contaré más adelante. Hoy el menú es de lo más variado, hablamos de sistemas de aprendizaje, de comunicación no verbal, de maternidad y paternidad, de cómo encajan los perfiles híbridos en el mundo laboral, del uso de incentivos al educar, del dolor y de cambios sociales. Casi nada.PATROCINADOR DEL CAPÍTULO: VDS.tech ¿Te gusta kaizen? Apoya el podcast uniéndote a la Comunidad y accede a contenidos y ventajas exclusivas: https://www.jaimerodriguezdesantiago.com/comunidad-kaizen/

Have you ever wondered why conflict within teams sometimes spirals out of control, while other times it propels the group to new heights of productivity? Join us on this episode of "The Reload" as we unpack the intricate dynamics of team conflict and reveal how to harness it for positive outcomes. You'll discover why highly intelligent team members often struggle with criticism and how posturing can derail crucial conversations. We stress the need for emotional awareness and provide actionable strategies to recognize and address toxic behaviors that can erode team cohesion.As a leader navigating uncertainty and high-stakes discussions, how can you ensure your team thrives? We explore the impacts of various leadership styles on team culture, including the dangers of favoritism and the power of curiosity-driven questioning. Learn practical techniques for neutralizing destructive communication and fostering continuous improvement by challenging biases. Gain insights on reframing discussions, managing emotional topics, and leveraging Marshall Rosenberg's "Nonviolent Communication" to enhance team dialogue. Equip yourself with effective tools to cultivate a healthier, more productive team environment.Are you an executive, entrepreneur, or combat veteran looking to overcome subconscious blind spots and limiting messaging to unlock your highest performance? Feel free to reach out to Sean at Reload Coaching and Consulting.

Thom and his colleague, Clara Moisello, PhD (Co-Director of NYCNVC), team up in this second installment of their "Needs Awareness" series. In this episode, they explore how we can reimagine and navigate difficult conversations, through the lens of Needs Awareness.Support the show

Enjoy the voice of the late progenitor of Nonviolent Communication, Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, as he introduces the foundational principles of healthy human connection and a language of empathy. Hosted by Timothy Regan. The post Back to the Basics of Nonviolent Communication with the Founder, Marshall Rosenberg appeared first on KPFA.

Morning Mantra: "Empathy allows us to be present without opinion."Opinions are really the lowest form of human knowledge. They require no accountability, or understanding.  Opinions are like a wall, not only for yourself but also for others.  When you close your mind you close it to possibility.The highest form of knowledge is empathy. This requires us to suspend our egos and live in another's world. It requires us to recognize that everyone has an opinion, and that many opinions are not based on actual fact, but rather on emotion.Empathy allows us to be at peace with this.  To still be kind, respectful and considerate.#BeEmpatheticNotOpionated #BeHappy #BeHorsey #BeHippie #HorseHippie #HorseHippieBoutique #InspirationalQuotes #Inspire #QuotesToMakeYouFeelGood #QuotesFromTheHeart #morningmantrasQuotes: Bill Bullard and Marshall Rosenberg

In this solo episode, Amy Wheeler delves into the profound relationship between yoga and emotional intelligence, exploring how ancient wisdom and modern techniques can help us navigate our emotions and improve our interactions with others. This episode covers key concepts from the pancha maya model in the Upanisads, Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and Kristin Neff's principles of self-compassion. Amy provides a comprehensive look at emotional intelligence, its benefits, and common misconceptions.Key Concepts and Highlights1. Understanding Emotional Intelligence:Emotional intelligence involves recognizing, understanding, and managing our own emotions and the emotions of others. It encompasses self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.Emotional intelligence is crucial for personal and professional success, fostering better relationships, decision-making, and overall well-being.2. The Pancha Maya Model and the Vijnanamaya Layer:The pancha maya model from the Upanisads outlines five layers of personality: annamaya (physical body), pranamaya (energy body), manomaya (mental body), vijnanamaya (wisdom body), and anandamaya (bliss body).The vijnanamaya kosha, or wisdom layer, plays a pivotal role in emotional intelligence. It involves higher cognitive functions such as wisdom, perception, and communication style.By cultivating the vijnanamaya kosha through yoga practices, we can enhance our ability to perceive and respond to our emotions wisely and effectively.3. Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication (NVC):NVC is a powerful tool for developing emotional intelligence, focusing on empathetic and compassionate communication.The four steps of NVC are:Observation: Clearly and objectively describing what is happening without judgment.Feelings: Identifying and expressing emotions related to the observation.Needs: Recognizing the underlying needs driving the emotions.Request: Making a specific, actionable request to address the unmet needs.4. Kristin Neff's Three Steps to Self-Compassion:Self-compassion is essential for emotional intelligence, allowing us to be kind to ourselves and manage our emotions healthily.The three steps to cultivating self-compassion are:Self-Kindness: Treating oneself with understanding and warmth rather than harsh judgment.Common Humanity: Recognizing that suffering and challenges are a shared human experience.Mindfulness: Maintaining a balanced awareness of our emotions without suppressing or exaggerating them.5. Benefits of Emotional Intelligence:Improved relationships and communication.Enhanced ability to handle stress and conflict.Greater empathy and understanding of others.Better decision-making and problem-solving skills.Increased overall well-being and life satisfaction.6. What Emotional Intelligence Is Not:Emotional intelligence is not about suppressing emotions or avoiding difficult conversations.It is not manipulative or insincere; genuine empathy and honesty are key.Emotional intelligence is not innate; it can be developed and strengthened through practice.Practical Tips and Yoga Practices:Amy shares practical yoga techniques and mindfulness practices to enhance emotional intelligence, such as breathwork, meditation, and reflective journaling.She provides insights into integrating these practices into daily life to cultivate greater self-awareness, empathy, and emotional resilience.Join Amy Wheeler in this enlightening episode as she unpacks the synergy between yoga and emotional intelligence, offering valuable tools and insights for personal growth and harmonious living.Additional Resources with Amy Wheeler:University of Minnesota Therapeutic Yoga SeriesPolyvagal Institute Mighty App7-Week Course on Yoga, Yoga Therapy & Polyvagal TheoryOptimal State Mobile AppOptimal State and Yoga Therapy Hour Patreon·        Monday Night Yoga Therapy Clinic on www.TheOpimtalState.com·        Join us for our Monday night Yoga Therapy Clinics, specially designed to address specific health and wellness topics. The sessions are held every Monday from 4:00-5:15 PM PST and are led by Amy Wheeler, a seasoned expert in yoga therapy. This clinic provides a supportive environment where participants can explore therapeutic yoga techniques to aid in addiction recovery and overall well-being.·        For those seeking professional development, there is an option to stay longer after class and earn Continuing Education (CE) credits. This extended session offers in-depth training and valuable insights into integrating yoga therapy with addiction treatment.

In this episode of SLP Coffee Talk, we are joined by Stephanie Sweigart from Golden State of Mind, a renowned expert in mindfulness and compassion-based practices within the realm of special education. Stephanie brings her wealth of experience as a certified Teacher of Mindfulness Meditation and a seasoned Speech-Language Pathologist. As a featured presenter at the 2023 American Speech-Language-Hearing Association's national convention, she is also the founder of Golden State Speech Pathology Services, Inc., a woman-owned Non-Public Agency established in 2013.  Her insights have been showcased on various podcasts such as “Speechie Side Up” and “First Bite” where she delves into her enthusiasm and expertise in holistic professional practices. Her steadfast commitment to empowering individuals through clear and compassionate communication highlights her mission to create a significant impact in the realm of special education. Tune in to learn how to transform conflicts into productive dialogues, master deep listening and empathy and empower yourself with Nonviolent Communication techniques for better workplace harmony as an SLP.Bullet Points to Discuss:-Nonviolent Communication principles for the workplace-A framework for peaceful collaboration-How to listen, think, and speak with compassionHere's what we learned:Developing inner resources alongside technical skills can help maintain a balanced work environment.Transforming conflicts can prevent burnout and emotional stress. Enhancing listening skills by addressing common blocks and adopting an empathetic approach.Understanding underlying emotions and needs is significant.Dr. Marshall Rosenberg's four-step process— observation, feelings, needs and requests.Focusing on empathy and collaboration to transform conflicts into productive dialogues.Prepare for conflicts by building inner resources and having strategies in place.Shifting from an ego-driven approach to one of empathy and collaboration. Strategies for dealing with conflicts involving administrators and higher-ups.Learn more about Stephanie Michele Sweigart:Social Media LinksStephanie's Instagram: @golden.state.slpStephanie's Course: Experience the Power of  Compassionate CommunicationFreebie LinksFree Conflict Quiz with PDF Guide to SupportFree Workbook Companion: Transforming Conflict into Peaceful CollaborationLearn more about Hallie Sherman  and SLP:  

JJ Flizanes introduces a course on emotional healing based on nonviolent communication principles by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, encouraging individuals to accept responsibility for their emotions. The course includes tools like a feelings list to help identify and understand feelings and unmet needs, promoting emotional healing and improved relationships. The challenges of identifying and fulfilling needs are compared to starting a workout routine, emphasizing the importance of managing emotions independently.https://www.linkedin.com/in/jj-flizanes/https://jjflizanes.com/

This is the second episode of a two part series where I'm sharing the top 13 self-leadership books that have changed my life and the trajectory of my business. If you haven't already, go back and listen to last week's episode! It's linked below. Now, I talk about this a lot, but as coaches who are truly committed to our own craft, we can only go and grow with clients to the degree that we are willing to evolve with ourselves first. I understand that if I haven't had an insight or a breakthrough in my own personal journey in a specific area, then I will never see or be able to reflect that same gap in a client. In this episode, I'm sharing some of the top books that have helped me unlock new insights, deeper learnings and levels of self awareness and spiritual development in the realm of relationships, overcoming resistance, and money mindset. Again, if you pick up one of these books, I'd love to hear from you! I truly believe that these books have the possibility to change your life, and I hope you enjoy them.    Topics: The reminder that it doesn't require anyone else in our lives to be different in order for us to create a different experience of life Why shifting your relationship to habits is the number one key that will support you in creating consistency and other lessons from Atomic Habits  Learning to recognize the synchronicities and similarities of your desires and how they are aligned to connect the why with the want using insights from Worthy Knowing that we continually upper limit when we're committed to our own growth and how to overcome them using resources from The Big Leap Why The Four Agreements is one of Catherine's favorite, most highly recommended books and the importance of not taking everything and everyone so darn personally  How Drop the Ball teaches us to (re)design the partnership/marriage that we want, that works for both parties  The necessity of tuning into your body's knowing and internal wisdom to increase trust in yourself for easier decision making from The Body Keeps the Score How Living Nonviolent Communication shows us that we have to first connect with ourselves and our own tragically unmet needs to create authentic intimacy in our relationships   Episode Resources: Listen: 13 Self-Leadership Books that Changed My Life (Part 1) Listen: Dreaming and Manifesting for Sensitive Empaths Living in a Loud World Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear Worthy: Boost Your Self-Worth to Grow Your Net Worth by Nancy Levin The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz Drop the Ball: Achieving More by Doing Less by Tiffany Dufu The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. Living Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg   Connect with Catherine: Apply to join the free Unbounded community, a vibrant group of empathpreneurs who are passionate about supporting each other on our entrepreneurial journeys.  Website LinkedIn Instagram YouTube Sign up to receive my weekly digest on empathic entrepreneurship and hear from voices committed to spreading this message, sent straight to your inbox every Friday since 2016, here.    Work with Catherine: Interested in working 1:1 with a certified coach on Catherine's team, or joining her in one of her premium mastermind programs? Schedule a low-pressure call to begin the conversation here.    Visit this episode's full show notes page here ---------------- The Prosperous Empath® Podcast is produced by Heart Centered Podcasting.

Hey everybody! Episode 137 of the show is out. In this episode, I spoke with Marta Fabregat. Marta was recommended to me by a mutual friend, Cathy Coyle. Marta is one of Cathy's teachers and I trust Cathy's recommendations so I was sure Marta would have a lot to share, and she did. We spoke about Marta's background, her working in Ecuador with Huachuma, her past with activism, how that lead her to Ireland, and how she now bridges multiple approaches including somatics into plant medicine work. We spoke about her work with trees and learning directly from them via the dieta, and this was very fascinating to me as its very similar work to what I do. I was really impressed by Marta's knowledge and presence and I think you all will gain a lot out of this episode. As always, to support this podcast, get early access to shows, bonus material, and Q&As, check out my Patreon page below. Enjoy!This episode is sponsored by Real Mushrooms. As listeners, visit their website to enjoy a discount of 25% off your first order: https://www.realmushrooms.com/universe“I hold trainings in-person and online in Ireland. Spain and Turkey, teaching Focusing and Nonviolent Communication, Meditation and Nature Connection.My approach is rooted in somatic body-oriented work ( Focusing ), nature connection and humanistic approaches, meaning that: I focus on the experiences that are most relevant for you at this point in your life, in a respectful, non-judgemental and nourising space, with active support to your experience in the present moment.During our time together my core principle is to create a space that is safe and welcoming and that our relationship is at the core of our work together. I aim to offer the person a space where they can experience their authenticity and diversity and support them to discover their unique solutions and ways to find them. Improving their relationship with themselves & people around them.My interest in emotional well-being, health and compassionate relating keeps informing me of my next steps in training and personal development. I have learned over the years from Marshall Rosenberg's work (NVC and Conflict), Eugene Gendlin (The philosophy of the implicit and focusing-related research), Daniel Siegel (neuroscience), Claudio Naranjo (The eneagram and introductory training in SAT program), Peter Levine (trauma and somatic accompaniment), Thomas Hubl (Collective Trauma), Stephen Porgues (Polyvagal Theory), Bert Hellinger (systemic family system).”To learn more about or contact Marta, visit her website at: https://martafabregat.com/To view the recent documentary about us, Sacred Tobacco, visit: https://youtu.be/KB0JEQALI_wIf you enjoy the show, it's a big help if you can share it via social media or word of mouth. And please Subscribe or Follow and if you can go on Apple Podcasts and leave a starred-rating and a short review. This is super helpful with the algorithms and getting this show out to more people. Thank you in advance!For more information about me and my upcoming plant medicine retreats with my colleague Merav Artzi, visit my site at: https://www.NicotianaRustica.orgTo book an integration call with me, visit: https://jasongrechanik.setmore.comSupport this podcast on Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/UniverseWithinDonate directly with PayPal:https://www.paypal.me/jasongrechanikMusic courtesy of: Nuno Moreno (end song). Visit: https://m.soundcloud.com/groove_a_zen_sound and https://nahira-ziwa.bandcamp.com/ And Stefan Kasapovski's Santero Project (intro song). Visit: https://spoti.fi/3y5Rd4Hhttps://www.facebook.com/UniverseWithinPodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/UniverseWithinPodcast

A Comunicação Não Violenta (CNV), criada por Marshall Rosenberg, é um método que busca melhorar nossas relações e comunicações através de compaixão, empatia e conexão humana. Neste episódio, os professores voluntários, Rafael Vieira e Danilo Gomes discutem como a CNV ensina a expressar nossas necessidades e sentimentos de maneira honesta e respeitosa, enquanto nos convida a ouvir com atenção e empatia as necessidades e sentimentos dos outros. Participantes: Rafael Vieira e Danilo Gomes Trilha Sonora: Sinfonia do Novo Mundo - Allegro con fuoco, de A. Dvorak

In today's episode, I'll show you how to overcome any anger, judgment, or criticism towards others so you can heal yourself and create the life you want. We'll explore how unconscious patterns shape our reactions and how unmet needs, as suggested by Marshall Rosenberg, manifest as negative emotions. Plus, we'll look at how childhood experiences influence our adult behaviors and learn ways to transform negative emotions and build empathy. It's all about healing and growing into your best self. Don't miss it! Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you're committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here

In this week's episode of A Cup of Joe, host Joe Morton dives deep into the emotional and psychological aspects of health and wellness with his lifelong friend, Jill McPherson. Together, they explore the transformative principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as developed by Marshall Rosenberg.Joe and Jill explore practical applications of NVC in various relationships, from parenting and teaching. Learn how to observe without judgment, identify and express feelings, understand underlying needs, and make requests that foster connection rather than control. Jill provides real-life examples and shares tips on how to create a more compassionate and empathetic world through effective communication. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Patrick Donley (@JPatrickDonley) sits down with best-selling author, Charles Duhigg to discuss his latest book, Supercommunicators. You'll learn why Charles decided to become a writer, how challenges in his own life have led him to write his best-selling books, what supercommunicators do that average people don't do in conversation, how to handle hard conversations using a technique called “looping,” what his hopes for the book are, and much more! IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN: 00:00 - Intro 02:56 - Why Charles decided to become a writer. 06:47 - Why his most successful year was also one of his hardest years. 11:03 - How writing Supercommunicators solved a problem in Charles' own life. 11:03 - Why it is important to understand the matching principle. 16:27 - What do supercommunicators do that average people don't do in conversation. 23:23 - Who his supercommunicator role models are. 27:44 - What is neural entrainment. 30:27 - What are the 3 buckets of conversation. 35:46 - How to handle hard conversations using a technique called "looping". 42:53 - What his hopes for the book are. And much, much more! *Disclaimer: Slight timestamp discrepancies may occur due to podcast platform differences. BOOKS AND RESOURCES Join the exclusive TIP Mastermind Community to engage in meaningful stock investing discussions with Kyle and the other community members. Recommended Book: The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. Recommended Book: Supercommunicators by Charles Duhigg. Recommended Book: Non-Violent Communication by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg. Check out: TIP098: The Power Of Habit By Charles Duhigg w/ Preston & Stig | YouTube video. Check out: TIP131: Smarter, Faster, Better by Charles Duhigg | YouTube video. Check out the books mentioned in the podcast here. Enjoy ad-free episodes when you subscribe to our Premium Feed. NEW TO THE SHOW? Follow our official social media accounts: X (Twitter) | LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook | TikTok. Check out our Millennial Investing Starter Packs. Browse through all our episodes (complete with transcripts) here. Try Kyle's favorite tool for picking stock winners and managing our portfolios: TIP Finance. Enjoy exclusive perks from our favorite Apps and Services. Stay up-to-date on financial markets and investing strategies through our daily newsletter, We Study Markets. Learn how to better start, manage, and grow your business with the best business podcasts. SPONSORS Support our free podcast by supporting our sponsors: Toyota Range Rover Airbnb Monarch Money Yahoo! Finance Meyka Public Fundrise NetSuite Connect with Patrick: Twitter   Connect with Charles: Website | Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://theinvestorspodcastnetwork.supportingcast.fm

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2173: Discover how Dr. Laura Markham's expert guidance can help siblings develop emotional intelligence through everyday interactions. Her strategies include modeling empathy, coaching through conflicts, and teaching repair skills, all aimed at fostering a harmonious and understanding family environment. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.peacefulparenthappykids.com/read/emotional-intelligence-social-skills-siblings Quotes to ponder: "When parents talk to their children on a daily basis about what everyone in the family feels and needs, siblings become more sensitive and emotionally generous to each other." "Good judgment often develops from bad experience." "Children who find that they can help their sibling feel better are empowered, and the sibling relationship is strengthened." Episode references: NonViolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg: https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Marshall-Rosenberg/dp/1892005034 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Former hostage negotiator Scott Walker shares powerful principles for masterful dialogue when the stakes are high. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) The number one skill of master negotiators 2) Two tricks to help prepare you for any conversation 3) How MORE PIES help build rapport Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep955 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT SCOTT — Scott Walker is one of the world's most experienced kidnap-for-ransom negotiators. He has helped resolve more than three hundred cases and other crises, such as piracy and cyber-extortion attacks. He spent sixteen years as a Scotland Yard detective engaged in covert, counterterrorist, and kidnapping operations. He left the police in 2015 to support organizations, government departments, and private individuals in securing the release of hostages. He now delivers negotiation workshops to organizations all over the world and is sought after as a keynote speaker. His first book, Order Out of Chaos, is out now and is a Sunday Times bestseller. • Book: "Order Out of Chaos: A Kidnap Negotiator's Guide to Influence and Persuasion" • Website: ScottWalkerBooks.co.uk — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: "I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships" by Michael Sorensen • Book: "Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It" by Chriss Voss and Tahl Raz • Book: "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides)" by Marshall Rosenberg and Deepak Chopra • Past episode: 311: Communication Secrets from FBI Kidnapping Negotiator Chris Voss • Past episode: 693: Building Better Relationships through Validation with Michael Sorensen See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Tony shares the story of Hudson and Bailey, a couple working towards improving their marriage, particularly around communication patterns and how they deal with conflict. The episode focuses on the couple's struggle with common relationship issues that have resulted in miscommunication and misunderstandings. Tony outlines key behavioral models and strategies such as his Four Pillars of a Connected Conversation, his “pre-pillar” based on the concepts of Marshall Rosenberg's “Non-violent communication” techniques, he talks about boundaries vs. ultimatums, differentiation (ultimately it's a “me thing,”) and goes over his way to “hold the assertive frame.” Tony also addresses handling post-argument anxiety and practicing emotional maturity. The episode aims to provide viewers with practical solutions to commonplace marital challenges and ways to navigate through them. This episode is sponsored by Tony's updated “Magnetic Marriage” course. Sign up for his newsletter at http://tonyoverbay.com for more information. 00:00 Introduction and Background of Hudson and Bailey 00:26 The Importance of Effective Communication in Relationships 00:45 Understanding the Dynamics of Hudson and Bailey's Relationship 01:56 A Pivotal Argument: Unpacking the Communication Breakdown 05:54 The Aftermath: Dealing with Post-Argument Anxiety 08:03 The Four Pillars of a Connected Conversation 08:45 Addressing Hudson and Bailey's Specific Concerns 12:03 Strategies for Resolving Arguments and Managing Anxiety 23:06 The Role of Mindfulness in Navigating Relationship Challenges 24:51 The Power of Mindfulness and Meditation 25:34 Understanding the Concept of Differentiation 26:12 The Role of Emotions in Communication 27:52 The Importance of Objective Observations in Communication 33:40 The Concept of Holding the Assertive Frame 34:45 Understanding and Managing Communication Breakdowns 38:01 The Role of Emotional Maturity in Relationships 43:23 The Importance of Self-Reflection and Growth 48:18 Conclusion and Final Thoughts To learn more about Tony's upcoming re-release of the Magnetic Marriage course, his Pathback Recovery course, and more, sign up for his newsletter through the link at https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch Please follow Tony's newest Instagram account for the Waking Up to Narcissism podcast https://www.instagram.com/wutnpod/ as well as Tony's account https://www.instagram.com/tonyoverbay_lmft/ Subscribe to Tony's latest podcast, "Waking Up to Narcissism Q&A - Premium Podcast," on the Apple Podcast App. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/waking-up-to-narcissism-q-a/id1667287384 Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19, and you'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ