Podcast appearances and mentions of Marshall Rosenberg

„Błędy młodego mecenasa” - trzeci odcinek podcastu „Toga bez wroga”, do którego serdecznie zapraszam. To takie mało popularne, takie nieprawnicze, powiedzieć „popełniłem mnóstwo błędów w tej robocie”. Prawnicy nie popełniają błędów! This is Sparta… and we are the champions. Dlatego też dziś śmiało mogę napisać… Popełniłem, przez 18 lat, mnóstwo błędów w tej robocie. I cieszy mnie to… Dlaczego cieszy? Posłuchaj podcastu. Marshall Rosenberg, wspaniały człowiek uczący komunikacji bez przemocy (nonviolent communication) napisał: „Nie ma czegoś takiego jak błędy. Błąd to nic innego tylko działanie, które podjęliśmy kiedyś, ponieważ nie wiedzieliśmy tego, co wiemy dziś”. Tym razem w podcaście szczerze dzielę się błędami, które popełniłem na zawodowej ścieżce :) Wróć! Nie błędami, a doświadczeniami, które sprawiają, że jestem tu gdzie jestem i robię to, co kocham robić. Na pewno odnajdziesz w mojej historii kawałek swojego prawniczego życia. Te błędy, to nie tylko „moje” doświadczenia. Na każdej sesji, któryś z tych błędów pojawia się w narracji mojego klienta. Po prostu wszyscy to robimy (do czasu!) - jedni mniej, inni bardziej. Jednak każda prawniczka, każdy prawnik, część z tych błędów ma wpisane w swoje codzienne funkcjonowanie. Ten kto błądzi, rzadko to widzi. Być spojrzenie na kogoś innego, kto błądził, pomoże Ci zobaczysz własne błądzenie. Mnie te wszystkie „błędy” ciągle pchały do przodu, w kierunku życia takiego jakiego chcę - zdefiniowanego, a nie takiego, które było dziełem przypadku. Do takiego spojrzenia na błędy i porażki dziś Cię zapraszam.

After two years, Rachelle returns to revisit the foundations of Nonviolent Communication.What Nonviolent Communication Was Meant to Be, and What It's BecomeBeginning with the opening page of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg, this episode centers on two defining questions:• What disconnects us from our compassionate nature?• What allows us to remain connected to it, even under the most trying circumstances?From there, this episode explores how Nonviolent Communication is often criticized as ineffective, overly focused on feelings, or disconnected from reality.Drawing on the example of Etty Hillesum, this conversation points to a form of compassion that is not sentimental, but grounded, discerning, and rooted in a wider understanding of the human condition.This marks the beginning of a broader exploration into relationships, culture, and what it means to relate, not only from personal needs, but in response to life itself.If you'd like to stay connected and hear about future episodes, writings, and offerings, you're welcome to join my mailing list:https://www.rachellelamb.com

In this episode, I am once again joined by Dr Christopher “Hareesh” Wallis, a Sanskritist and scholar-practitioner of Classical Tantra. Christopher shares how he became a spiritual teacher, explains the dangers of guru idealisation, and considers if he may be misleading his students. Christopher discusses his own series of religious peak experiences, explores their causes, and reflects on their consequences. Christopher recalls his time studying with American spiritual teacher Adyanshanti, the influence of Marshall Rosenberg, and reveals how his ability to spot fake gurus improved after his awakening. … Full episode at www.guruviking.com. Also available on Youtube, iTunes, & Spotify – search ‘Guru Viking Podcast'. … Topics include: 00:00 - Intro 00:43 - Studying under Alexis Sanderson 04:16 - Faithfulness to the traditions 05:38 - The requirements to understand tantric sources 06:24 - Secrecy and the oral tradition 09:07 - Did Sanderson receive Lakshmanjoo's energetic transmission 12:28 - Academic approaches to religion 13:28 - Public vs private religion 14:23 - Why isn't Sanderson religious? 16:40 - Is Shaivite Tantra a relic of the past? 17:42 - Does religious affiliation contaminate academic objectivity? 20:43 - Cabezón on the benefits of an insider perspective on religious 21:44 - Piety and devotion as motives 23:02 - Humanists can have devotion too 23:43 - Cynicism about human motives 24:50 - Loss of trust in gurus 26:39 - Famous gurus want to be famous 28:30 - How gurus fall 31:25 - How Christopher became a spiritual teacher 33:33 - Switching from academia to freelance spiritual teaching 25:22 - Is Christopher a guru? 39:30 - Does Christopher mislead his students? 44:21 - Christopher's experience of flow when teaching 47:20 - Feeling the presence of past masters 49:30 - Self-deception and collusion with students 53:02 - Student-teacher projection 54:29 - Christopher's experience with naive projection 56:23 - How Christopher deals with idealisation 57:52 - Why your biggest fans can become your greatest haters 59:14 - A story of praise and blame 01:01:55 - Christopher's spiritual journey 01:05:22 - Studying with Adyashanti 01:08:26 - Christopher's awakening 01:09:45 - What is vs one's mental representation 01:14:39 - Sudden or gradual? 01:18:08 - Freedom from mental constructs 01:20:08 - Non-violent communication 01:24:13 - Am I good enough? 01:26:31 - Aftermath of an awakening experience 01:29:58 - Glimpse vs abiding shift 01:33:42 - Spotting fake gurus after awakening 01:35:57 - Changes in doctrinal understanding 01:40:22 - Challenging the true believer 01:42:29 - Denying the Buddhist doctrine of no-self 01:43:26 - 3 stages of awakening 01:47:41 - Christopher's “Tantra 112” meditation app … Previous episode with Christopher Wallis: - https://www.guruviking.com/search?q=wallis To find our more about Dr Christopher Wallis visit: - https://hareesh.org/ For more interviews, videos, and more visit: - https://www.guruviking.com Music ‘Deva Dasi' by Steve James

Est-ce que vous avez parfois du mal à vous pardonner, même après avoir commis des erreurs ou fait des choix que vous regrettez ?Vous vous sentez bloqué·e par votre propre juge intérieur ? Vous avez l'impression de ne jamais être à la hauteur, ni pour vous-même ni pour les autres ?Peut-être que ce poids que vous traînez influence vos relations, votre bien-être, et votre capacité à vivre pleinement.Dans ce podcast, on parle beaucoup de pardon, mais qu'est-ce que se pardonner vraiment signifie au quotidien ?Dans cet épisode, on explore le lien profond entre pardon, amour de soi et liberté intérieure.J'accueille Olivier Clerc, auteur du livre "Le Pardon à soi".Olivier Clerc est un écrivain d'origine suisse, conférencier international et facilitateur expérimenté, installé en France. Fort de 40 ans d'expérience, il est l'auteur de 26 ouvrages – dans les domaines de la spiritualité, du développement personnel et de la littérature jeunesse – avec des traductions en 17 langues.Il est le fondateur des Cercles de Pardon, une pratique transformatrice aujourd'hui présente dans 16 pays, et Président d'honneur de l'Association Pardon International.Il a collaboré étroitement avec plusieurs figures majeures telles que Marshall Rosenberg, Charles Rojzman, Don Miguel Ruiz, Stanislav Grof ou encore Deepak Chopra, dont il a traduit et publié de nombreux ouvrages en français.Aujourd'hui, Olivier Clerc est largement reconnu comme l'une des voix majeures sur le thème du pardon, une question essentielle tant sur le plan personnel que collectif, à laquelle il a consacré l'essentiel de son œuvre.

If you listen to this podcast or have worked with me in any of my programs, you are already practicing Nonviolent Communication (whether you realize it or not). Today's guest, Margot Magowan, is an expert on Nonviolent Communication, and she's here to show you how to use those principles for better connection with your kids. You'll Learn:The basic principles of Nonviolent Communication and how to use them in parentingExamples of using NVC in real-life situationsWays that your own needs show up in your parenting (and healthier ways to meet them)How to focus on how your child is feeling, even if their story isn't totally factual-----------------------------------------------------Margot Magowan, a mom of 3, says that learning about Nonviolent Communication helped to transform everything for her family. When her oldest daughter was 15 years old, she started having behavioral health challenges, like refusing to go to school, abusing drugs, and stealing. Over the course of 3 years, she went to various wilderness and residential programs, receiving access to all kinds of support and resources. Now, at age 22, Margot's daughter is thriving. She says, “I really credit it to me and my husband learning how to listen to her.” In her coaching practice, Margot supports other parents in learning how to truly listen to their children with presence and curiosity.The Basics of Nonviolent CommunicationNonviolent Communication (NVC) was created by Marshall Rosenburg, who believes that all human behavior is motivated by an attempt to meet certain universal needs. Margot explains that NVC is made up of 4 parts: observations, feelings, needs, and requests. Take the example of you and your partner getting ready to go to a party, and you're worried you're going to be late. Instead of saying, “We're gonna be late. Hurry up!”, using NVC might look like this:Observation - The invitation says 7:30, and it's 6:30 nowFeeling - I'm feeling anxiousNeed - My need for security isn't being metRequest - Would you be willing to leave in 15 minutes?Margot says that when she first learned this, it felt a little robotic (and her kids hated it when she talked to them that way). She says that what really helped it to feel more authentic was when she focused on her energy rather than her language.Basically, it's not about the script. It's about focusing on connection. This is called NVC Consciousness, which Margot explains as “being open and curious and present and compassionate to whatever is happening.” You're not trying to fix anything (sound familiar?).It goes hand in hand with the Connection Tool that I teach. You're going into the situation as a neutral witness and viewing your child's behavior as an expression of needs or feelings that they don't know how to handle. Ultimately, Nonviolent Communication is:Focusing on your feelingsIdentifying the universal needs underneath those feelingsExpressing that truth honestly, while staying connected to a person's humanityIt's important to keep in mind that the goal of NVC is not to get to the other emotion. Or to get compliance out of our kids. Although these things do sometimes often happen when we show up in a compassionate way. The Universal NeedsThere are quite a few universal needs within NVC (if you want to see them all, Margot has a free list for you here). She helped us out by breaking it down into a few key categories:Connection MeaningAutonomyHonestyPhysical Well-BeingPeacePlayFor example, if you walk into your child's room and find them lying in bed when they're supposed to be cleaning their room, your first thought might be, “Ugh, my kid is lazy. They're not doing what they're supposed to do.”After that initial thought passes, ask yourself, “What need are they trying to meet?” Maybe it's comfort or ease, and this is their best strategy to do that. Then, you can look at the behavior through a more neutral lens.And as a parent, if you're feeling angry, resentful, or frustrated, you probably have some sort of need that's not being met. Be really gentle with yourself in wondering why the situation is upsetting you so much.Margot says that NVC has made her more aware of her own needs and how to get them met. She says, “I was using all 3 of my kids to meet my own needs…I didn't need to shift my kids' behavior to meet my needs.” She figured out new strategies to take care of herself. Now, she sees that a lot of moms hold to strict rules for their kids because they are trying to meet their own need for safety. If you find yourself being rigid somewhere, ask yourself, “What am I scared of? What am I making this mean?” This is how you get to CALM. By managing your own needs and taking care of yourself, you can then show up in a connected, compassionate way for your child. The Giraffe and the JackalIn Nonviolent Communication, Marshall Rosenberg uses two animal metaphors: a Giraffe and a Jackal.The Giraffe is compassionate, open, and curious. The Jackal is more judgemental and angry. One of the things that Margot coaches parents on is spending time with the Jackal when it shows up. And how to get your needs met from someplace other than your kid (having a safe container, like a coach, to bring these feelings and needs to is super helpful). You can ask for this clearly if you're talking to your partner or a friend. Say something like, “I just want empathy. I just want you to listen to me and not try to make it better or fix it or take it away.” You can also do this for yourself in a journal if you need to. Here's the magic. When you show up as the Giraffe and listen to your kid and they feel safe and their nervous system regulates, they reach that state of compassion and curiosity in themselves. Margot says, “I feel like we're doing such a service of actually modeling how to show up for them so they can show up for themselves and be healthy adults.”Challenging ChangeThere is a real obstacle that happens when we change our parenting. Our children want what is reliable and predictable. So even if you've been yelling, this is what they know and expect. When you change your behavior, your kid might not feel like it's trustworthy or safe right away. It's unfamiliar, like you're an imposter. It freaks them out. Margot explains that her kids thought the yelling parents were the authentic ones. They didn't totally trust them when they stopped yelling and started trying this new approach. Your child might even try to pull you back into your own pattern. Their behavior will escalate and they'll almost want you to yell, because that's what they're used to. You have to restrain yourself and stay within your new value system long enough to get all the way through that emotion.Eventually, they will catch up to the new version. And they'll really like this calmer, more connected parent that you're becoming. It just takes some time. Doing something different isn't always easy in the short term, but the long term gains are so worth it.Previous Episodes:Episode 2.16 - The Connection Tool [New & Improved]Connect with Margot:Get the “Feelings & Needs List” that Margot talked about in this episode: https://listen2connectcoach.com/resourcesFollow Margot on Instagram @listen2connectcoach Learn more about her coaching, workshops, and more at https://listen2connectcoach.com/ Free Resources:Get your copy of the Stop Yelling Cheat Sheet!In this free guide you'll discover:✨ A simple tool to stop yelling once you've started (This one thing will get you calm.)✨ 40 things to do instead of yelling. (You only need to pick one!)✨ Exactly why you yell. (And how to stop yourself from starting.)✨A script to say to your kids when you yell. (So they don't follow you around!)Download the Stop Yelling Cheat Sheet hereConnect With Darlynn:Book a complimentary session with DarlynnLearn about the different parenting programs at www.calmmamacoaching.comFollow me on Instagram @darlynnchildress for daily tipsRate and review the podcast on Itunes

In this exploration of divine connection and emotional awareness, Madison Margolin and communication coach Tsiporah Gottesman Bortz frame communication as a sacred practice for healing and self-expression.Learn more about Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and its developer here. This time on Set & Setting, Madison and Tsiporah have a conversation about: Tsiporah's connection to Ram Dass after his death, and asking his spirit for guidanceHow spiritual teachers make themselves known in auspicious ways Seeing our life as a movie: objective narration in order to gain more perspectiveLinking NVC & Hisbodedus (a Jewish practice of personal and heartfelt conversation with God)Tips for people who have communication blocks with the divine Bringing mindfulness and deep listening to our conversationsTuning into feelings rather than language Communication as a type of prayer and accessing the deepest part of us that wants to be expressedKeeping a “feelings & needs” journal, allowing our feelings and needs to existMoments of peace through Katonah Yoga, a hatha practice woven with sacred geometry and metaphor Psychedelic experiences and seeing how psychedelic life can be without plant medicineAbout Tsiporah Gottesman Bortz:Tsiporah Gottesman Bortz is a communication coach, mediator, and teacher with over 15 years of experience guiding individuals and groups in practices of presence, awareness, and connection. She teaches yoga, most recently through Katonah Yoga, and has completed Vipassana meditation training, which continues to inform and shape her work.Her approach to communication is rooted in Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication and is enriched by somatic practices, including Somatic Experiencing. She supports people in cultivating deep self-understanding and the ability to remain present and grounded, even in the midst of challenge.Tsiporah also draws from her experience in integration work, helping individuals make sense of and find meaning in profound inner experiences. Keep up with Tsiporah on her Instagram."Stagnant water is like a swamp or puddle. Healthy water is a river you can drink from; it's moving, it's alive. Those things inside of us that can feel really heavy, when we allow them to move, the stagnation starts to go away, and life force moves through us. It's moving to allow it to be part of us, when it can be alive in us, it doesn't create lethargy or stagnation. Hisbodedus is this way of expressing from our heart, speaking to creation, and staying big and alive even when we feel like something is closing in on us." –Tsiporah Gottesman BortzSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do so many conversations leave people feeling worse instead of better?In this episode, John walks through a powerful framework for communicating without condemnation, based on the work of Marshall Rosenberg:observe without evaluatingname your feelingsidentify your needsmake clear requestsThen he shows what it looks like in real life through one of Jesus' most famous conversations — His encounter with the Samaritan woman in John 4.Instead of judging or correcting her, Jesus:crosses social and relational barrierslistens beneath the surfacespeaks truth without shamecreates connection before correctionAnd the result?A woman who felt fully known… and still accepted.You'll learn:why most communication quietly damages relationshipshow to speak truth without condemnationwhat it means to listen for deeper needshow curiosity can transform difficult conversationswhy being known and accepted changes everythingBecause the goal isn't to win the conversation.It's to love the person.

Oliver Heuler ist Golflehrer, Autodidakt, Philosoph und Buchautor. Seit 38 Jahren unterrichtet er Golf. Eine Sportart, die er mit 16 Jahren für sich entdeckte und die ihn bis heute nicht losgelassen hat. Nebenbei hat er rund 30 weitere Sportarten erlernt, darunter olympisches Gewichtheben, das er mit 45 Jahren begann, und Backgammon, in dem er den Titel des internationalen Meisters trägt. Aus seiner jahrzehntelangen Auseinandersetzung mit Psychologie, östlicher Philosophie und dem Werk von Ken Wilber und Marshall Rosenberg entwickelte er seinen eigenen Ansatz: den Empathiekompass. Ein Navigationssystem jenseits moralischer Normen, das er in seinen Büchern „Vom Sollen zum Sein" und dem Roman „Jenseits der Moral" beschreibt.Im Gespräch mit Jasmin Kosubek legt Heuler offen, warum er Moral nicht für ein Fundament des Zusammenlebens hält, sondern für eine der gefährlichsten Erfindungen der Menschheit — weil sie Menschen von echter Empathie entbindet und Gewalt moralisch rechtfertigt. Wir sprechen darüber, warum er seinen Sohn nie erzogen hat, wie er vom überzeugten Ökosozialist zum Libertären wurde, was der Sozialstaat mit Waffengewalt zu tun hat und warum er den freien Willen für eine Illusion hält und das Leben seitdem deutlich angenehmer findet.

Sometimes it's hard to say what you mean. Oren Jay Sofer says, "Communication is a learnable skill and it's one of the most powerful levers for making change in your life and the world." Non-violent communication is about taking responsibility for what we are experiencing using empathy, deep listening, know how to make requests.// This episode is a replay from the Sonya Looney Show. It originally aired October 22, 2020. //Author and renowned meditation instructor Oren Jay Sofer regularly teaches a mindful approach to non-violent communication. spent two and a half years of living as an Anagarika (renunciate) at branch monasteries in the Ajahn Chah Thai Forest lineage. Today, his teaching combines classical Buddhist training with the accessible language of secular mindfulness.  Since the early 2000s, Oren has had a deep interest in the relationship between contemplative practice and communication. A graduate of the BayNVC North American Leadership Training, he has taught classes and workshops in Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication (NVC) nationally since 2006. His innovative retreats and online programs in Mindful Communication offer one of the only opportunities in the U.S today to explore the intersection between formal meditation practice, Right Speech and NVC.  Oren  is the founder and Guiding Teacher of Next Step Dharma, an innovative online course focused on bringing the tools of meditation to daily life, and co-founder of Mindful Healthcare.  Oren has created mindfulness programs for organizations, companies, and apps including Apple, Kaiser Permanente, Lumosity, Calm, 10% Happier, Simple Habit and others.I loved his book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.  In the book, a main theme is that every thought or feeling is there to try to meet a need.  If you can try to figure out what need your thoughts are tied to, it's easier to articulate what you need to those around you.  It's also useful when listening to someone in a disucssion or conflict to tease out what need they are trying to have met.  I also enjoyed learning about conflict and viewing it as a way to deepen relationships. I also learned that non-violent communication and conflict resolution isn't necessarily to try to get someone to do things your way, it's about deepening understanding of one another because sometimes we simply can't agree to have the same viewpoint.   Non-violent communication has a framework of observation, the feeling, the needs and values to be met, and the request.Three questions you can ask yourself are what happened, how do I feel about it, and why?I also loved learning about how to use mindfulness in listening and communication as well as how to ground yourself in your own body when tensions rise.Topics Discussed in the Podcast from childhood actor to meditation instructor4 types of conflict avoidanceself-empathytools for internal pressureNo mud, no lotusaddressing the voiceless and gender constructshow to make requests of othersResourcesOren Jay Sofer's websiteGet Oren's book: Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication--------------The Grow the Good Podcast is produced by Palm Tree Pod Co. 

There's a voice in your head that never stops talking.But not every voice deserves to be trusted.In this episode, John Ortberg explores the difference between self-condemnation and conviction. Drawing on insights from Ignatius of Loyola, Marshall Rosenberg, and Michael Singer, John shows how comparison and inner criticism can spiral into despair.But the voice of God works differently.Self-condemnation attacks your identity.Conviction speaks to your actions.Self-condemnation leads to hiding.Conviction leads to hope and change.Learning to recognize the difference may be one of the most important spiritual skills you ever develop.Because the voice you listen to insideis usually the voice you use with others.There is now… therefore… no condemnation.

Dear Listener, does communicating with your partner sometimes feel like an uphill battle? Do you find yourself saying things you don't mean—or struggling to say what you do mean without it landing as an attack? What if there were a way to communicate that actually brought you closer, even during conflict?In this episode, we're joined by Relationship Center therapist and couples counselor Nicole Penrod to explore Nonviolent Communication (NVC)—a powerful framework for transforming how you and your partner talk to each other.Nicole breaks down the basics of NVC (also called compassionate communication), originally developed by Marshall Rosenberg. At its core, NVC helps us move from reactive, judgmental communication to empathetic, connecting conversation. Think less jackal (defensive, fear-driven) and more giraffe (big-hearted, slow, and steady).We walk through the four steps of NVC—Observation, Feeling, Need, Request (OFNR)—with real examples, including Jessica getting pretend-mad at Josh about socks on the floor. You'll learn why "I feel abandoned" isn't actually a feeling, how to set your partner up for success (and vice versa!), and why asking for what you want can help heal attachment wounds.If you're tired of the same old fights and ready to communicate with more compassion—for your partner and yourself—this episode is for you.Key Takeaways0:00 Intro06:07 What is NVC?10:45 What are the NVC basics?18:28 Name the Need21:04 Requests Without Demands32:01 How do I actually use NVC with my partner?Resources and linksDecolonizing NVCBook: Decolonizing Non-Violent CommunicationPodcast episode with the author: https://www.skepticspath.org/podcast/decolonizing-nonviolent-communication-with-meenadchi/Feelings and Needs Lists: https://www.sociocracyforall.org/nvc-feelings-and-needs-list/Nicole's favorite video introduction of the basics: https://roxannemanning.com/an-introduction-to-nvc/On the 4 listening modes: https://seedofpeace.org/nvc-introductory-articles/four-ways-of-listening/Have a question or comment? Email us at podcast@relationshipcenter.com. We love hearing from you!If you'd like to work with one of the talented clinicians on our team, go to relationshipcenter.com/apply-now to apply for a free 30-minute consultation.To get a monthly email with our best content, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter.If something in this episode touched you, will you share it with a friend? That helps us reach more sweet humans like you.Lastly, we'd love it if you would leave us a rating and review wherever you listen to podcasts. And be sure to hit subscribe while you're there so you never miss an episode!

In dieser Episode erklärt Markus Fischer, wie alles, was Menschen sagen oder tun, Ausdruck ihrer Bedürfnisse ist – entweder als unausgesprochenes „Bitte“ oder „Danke“. Du erfährst: • Wie du Gespräche bewusster wahrnimmst und verstehst • Wie Kritik und Konflikte empathisch begegnet werden können • Wie du deine eigenen Bedürfnisse erkennst und Verantwortung dafür übernimmst • Praktische Übungen, um die Bedürfnis-Brille im Alltag zu nutzen Diese Methoden aus dem Rosenberg-Modell der Gewaltfreien Kommunikation helfen dir, mehr Gelassenheit, Klarheit und Empathie in Beziehungen zu entwickeln – sowohl zu anderen als auch zu dir selbst.

In dieser Episode von Gewaltfreie Kommunikation – bewusst und intelligent kommunizieren lade ich dich dazu ein, den Zusammenhang zwischen Kommunikation und Gesundheit neu zu entdecken. Du erfährst, warum schwierige Gespräche nicht nur emotional, sondern auch körperlich wirken – und wie stark unser Nervensystem auf Worte, Bewertungen und innere Dialoge reagiert.Ich spreche über:Die enge Verbindung zwischen Nervensystem, Stressreaktion und Kommunikation.Das Konzept der „Wölfe“ nach Marshall Rosenberg – innere und äußere Angriffe durch Kritik, Schuld und Bewertungen.Wie wölfische Kommunikation zu Anspannung, Erschöpfung und langfristigen gesundheitlichen Folgen führen kann.Warum unterdrückte Gefühle und unerfüllte Bedürfnisse körperliche Warnsignale senden.Wie Gewaltfreie Kommunikation (GFK) zu mehr Selbstkontakt, Resilienz und ganzheitlicher Gesundheit beiträgt.Du bekommst Impulse, wie du Körpersignale als Botschaften verstehen kannst – nicht als Störung, sondern als Einladung zurück in die Verbindung mit dir selbst.Diese Folge zeigt, warum Gewaltfreie Kommunikation weit mehr ist als ein Konfliktlösungs-Tool: Sie ist eine heilsame Praxis für emotionale Balance, Stressreduktion und nachhaltige Gesundheit.Begleite mich auf einer Reise zu mehr Selbstempathie, innerer Klarheit und einer Kommunikation, die stärkt statt belastet.

Du kennst das: Du sagst etwas ganz normal und plötzlich ist die Stimmung im Keller, als hättest du aus Versehen „Wir müssen reden“ gesagt. In dieser Folge bekommst du Rosenbergs 4 Schritte, mit denen du Missverständnisse sofort stoppst, ohne geschniegelt zu klingen: Du lernst, wie du Angriffe entschärfst, bevor sie überhaupt entstehen, wie du aus „Tonfall-Krieg“ wieder echte Verständigung machst, und welche 10-Sekunden-Formel du nutzen kannst, wenn du merkst: „Aha… jetzt geht's los.“ Wenn du willst, dass Gespräche wieder Verbindung statt Verteidigung sind, hör rein und probier's direkt beim nächsten WhatsApp, im Team oder zuhause aus. Kostenloser Vortrag "Veränderungen beginnen im Kopf": https://www.alexander-schelle.de/Academy/veraenderungen-beginnen-im-kopf-hypnose-hilft-dir-dabei/ Kostenfreie Hypnose „Hypnoenergie“: https://www.alexander-schelle.de/hypnose-sichern/ Mein Buch "Die Geheimnisse eines Mentalisten" bekommst du mit Klick hier https://amzn.to/475gBrI Mein Selbsthypnose Buch bekommst du hier: https://amzn.to/3D2i3lf ___________________________________________________ Mein Name ist Alexander Schelle und ich stehe seit mehr als 20 Jahren als Mentalist und Hypnotiseur auf der Bühne. Ich bin ausgebildet als Hypnose- und NLP-Coach und biete neben meinen Shows auch Seminare und Vorträge. Der Podcast ‘Die Geheimnisse eines Mentalisten' soll auf unterhaltsame Weise einen Einblick in die Welt des Unterbewusstseins geben – in die Welt der Psychologie und der Hypnose. In den psychologischen Folgen werde ich einen Blick auf ansonsten weitgehend verborgene Seiten unserer Persönlichkeit werfen – auf unbewusste Muster in unserer Kommunikation und Motivation, aber auch unserem Wahrnehmen, Fühlen, Denken, Entscheiden und Handeln. Ich werde beleuchten, wie wir Menschen ticken, wie es mit unserer Menschenkenntnis aussieht und auch Schlussfolgerungen für den konkreten Alltag oder ein Coaching daraus ziehen. Jene Folgen, die sich der Hypnose oder der Meditation widmen, bietet dir einen Einblick in die faszinierende Welt, die sich öffnet, wenn wir einen gezielten Blick hinter die Kulissen unserer bewussten Entscheidungen werfen. Was du schon immer über Hypnose oder Selbsthypnose, beispielsweise zur Gewichtsreduzierung, Nichtraucher werden, Ängste besiegen oder der Burnout Prävention, wissen wolltest – hier erhältst du in kurzen Podcast Folgen einen Überblick. Firmen können mich auch für Vorträge oder Veranstaltungen zu den Themen Bewusstsein, Unterbewusstsein, Persönlichkeitsentwicklung, Motivation, Kommunikation, NLP, Hypnose, Meditation, Selbsthypnose, Empathie, Menschenkenntnis, Stressabbau, Selbstverwirklichung und Burnout Prävention buchen. In individuelles Coaching helfe ich Menschen, ihre work-life-balance zu finden. Wenn du mehr über die Angebote von mir erfahren möchtest, findest du unter www.alexander-schelle.de weitere Informationen. Selbstverständlich bin ich auch auf Linkdin, Facebook und auf Instagram für dich zu erreichen.

Ep. 223 | Four solid years since Russia's full-scale invasion of Ukraine, integral thinkers Kateryna Yasko and Vytautas Bučiūnas relate what life in Ukraine is like—emotionally, physically, spiritually. Far from what you might expect of a conversation about the state of Ukraine after four years of war—far from being battered and downtrodden—this is a story of resilience, resourcefulness, courage, and accelerated human development. Kateryna likens Ukraine to a living laboratory of transformation—with everyone united in the fight to preserve democracy and their identity as a nation, “the social fabric is strong, the resilience is astonishing…heroes receive a lot of gratitude from the people they serve.” On a personal level, Kateryna and Vytas share how they have grown in ways they wouldn't have expected: capacities have widened, appreciation of life has deepened, and experiences of profound joy arise in giving their all, together with their compatriots, for the future of the next generation.Leadership in Ukraine is in an evolutionary elevator, Vytautas, an integral leadership development consultant, tells us. Leaders no longer have the option to be reactive or habitual, and this has generated extraordinary creativity and courage in leadership in the military, business, politics, and social groups. Kateryna, a pedagogical psychologist, points out that human rights, democracy, and freedom are foundational for spiritual growth. People need to understand how to manifest their political self, she says, because if they don't, they will tend to escape into spirituality in a form of spiritual bypassing. “What can we do to help? co-host John Dupuy asks. “Come to Ukraine!” Kateryna and Vytas respond. Come experience and co-create the vertical development happening in this living laboratory of modern crisis. Recorded February 8, 2026.“The best way to practice spirituality is human rights assurance and activism; all the rest is secondary.”Topics & Time StampsIntroducing from Kyiv, Kateryna Yasko, pedagogical psychologist & Vytautas Bučiūnas, integral coach & leadership development consultant (01:01)What is the psychological and physical weather in Ukraine after 4 years of war? (03:36)Russia is using this very cold winter as a weapon, deliberately targeting infrastructure that supplies electricity & heat (04:08)The social fabric is strong, the resilience is astonishing (06:34)There's no choice—surrendering is not an option; the war would not end (12:10)Transformation has to include politics: assuring free speech and democracy comes before spiritual work (14:12)What forces are keeping Ukrainians together? (18:14)Humor is a big help (22:15)Leadership in Ukraine is in an evolutionary elevator (24:38) Courage, creative thinking, and gaming logic in the military (27:17)In Kyiv, with guns everywhere, the level of crime is very low (33:14)Putin is hostage to this war now; there are up to 50,000 Russian casualties per month (35:09)John shares his Ukraine! song and the accompanying YouTube video, created by Kateryna's daughter (36:44)Come to Ukraine! Experience the vertical development happening in this living laboratory of modern crisis (42:10)Measuring teenagers' developmental levels: Ukrainians are maturing faster, evolving faster (43:59)Donations are welcome (see recommended options under Resources below) (46:04)Passing the 1,418 days of war mark: this war has now run longer than Russia's “Great Patriotic War,” so glorified after WWII (47:28)Resources & ReferencesJames Hillman & Michael Ventura, We've Had a Hundred Years of Psychotherapy and the World's Getting WorseKeeping the Soul of Ukraine Alive: Maintaining Personal & National Ideals while Under Fire in Ukraine (Deep Transformation podcast)Валерій Пекар, Бесіди майстра Хай Тао про стратегію (Master Hai Tao's Conversations About Strategy by Ukrainian Integralist Valeriy Pekar – as of this writing, this book is not yet available in English, but here is a YouTube interview with the author: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=btADES9iwfYUkraine! Song by John Dupuy (YouTube video)Daniel Kirkpatrick, At The Edge of Democracy: A Pacifist's Visit to UkraineRobert Kegan's Stage Theory of Adult DevelopmentSusanne Cook-Greuter, Stages of Human Development (Elevating Consciousness podcast YouTube video)Recommended Donation Sites – Support Ukraine!United24, the official fundraising platform of Ukraine initiated by President Zelenskyy, founded to protect, save, and rebuild UkraineCome Back Alive, the Foundation for Competent Assistance to the ArmyYou are also welcome to donate to a cause of your choice (i.e., evacuating soldiers from the front lines, buying rifles, saving Ukrainian culture, and more, through Kateryna's PayPal email below, full transparency guaranteed.Support via PayPal---Kateryna Yasko (Ukraine) is a psychologist and business trainer specializing in the development of emotional intelligence, trust, cooperation, effective communication, and peaceful conflict resolution. She is the co-founder of the civic and cultural initiatives Embassy of Ukrainian Sense-making and Prōstory. Her academic background includes degrees in international relations and law (MSc), business administration (MBA), and psychology (MSc). Kateryna's programs are grounded in Integral Theory developed by Ken Wilber, Nonviolent Communication created by Marshall Rosenberg, Speech Act Theory, and the commitment-based organizational culture approach of Fernando Flores. She holds certifications from the Center for Nonviolent Communication, Spiral Dynamics Integral, Harthill Consulting (Leadership...

Valentine's Day can stir up all kinds of longing, worry, and relational anxiety — especially if you love deeply and notice closeness and distance acutely. In this episode of Love Each Other Better, I dive into Marshall Rosenberg's famous metaphor: "I want to be flowers on your table, not oxygen for your lungs." I break down what this means through the compassionate lenses of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and attachment theory, including: The difference between universal human needs (like connection) and the particular ways we meet them in a relationship How anxious attachment patterns show up, and how I suggest caring for your inner child without making your partner responsible for your emotional survival What "flower-love" looks like in practice: freely chosen, generous, and joyful You'll come away with practical insights for nurturing secure, adult love — honoring both your need for connection and your partner's autonomy. ✨ Learn how to love each other better, without shame, pressure, obligation, or resentment. Connect with your host, Ali Miller: Training + Coaching Explore current ways to work with me: https://www.AliMillerCoaching.com Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: https://www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In https://www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples https://www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: https://www.alimillercoaching.com

Cristina Cranga: Coaching Product Owners From Output Obsession to Value Conversations Read the full Show Notes and search through the world's largest audio library on Agile and Scrum directly on the Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast website: http://bit.ly/SMTP_ShowNotes.   In this episode, we refer to the work of Esko Kilpi on conversations and episodes on Nonviolent Communication (NVC) on the podcast. The Great Product Owner: A People Person Who Clarifies Before Deciding   "He was comfortable saying 'I don't know yet. What do you think?' It was a bi-directional conversation, not just one-way." - Cristina Cranga   The best Product Owner Cristina worked with was fundamentally a people person and a leader—human skills, not just hard skills. What made him exceptional was his approach to conversation: he started by clarifying the problem first, then decided. By doing this, he separated requests from decisions and made trade-offs explicit.  He was comfortable admitting uncertainty, asking "What do you think?" and engaging the team in co-creation rather than issuing directives. Cristina emphasizes that between the PO and Scrum Master, there's a special bond—a strong leadership partnership that teams look to as a reference. She highlights the concept of "ask more, say less": when you ask questions, you collect information that leads to better, more validated decisions.  The communication process, as outlined in Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, has four components: observation, feelings, needs, and requests. Great POs embody this by treating uncertainty as part of their job, engaging teams more deeply, and connecting work to value rather than just output.   Self-reflection Question: How often does your Product Owner ask "What do you think?" and what would change if they separated requests from decisions more explicitly? The Bad Product Owner: Output Obsession and the Velocity Trap "Success is measured by how much is delivered, not what changes. Teams get faster, but not smarter." - Cristina Cranga   The worst Product Owner anti-pattern Cristina has witnessed is output obsession—measuring success by how much is delivered rather than what actually changes for users or the business. When velocity replaces outcomes as the primary metric, teams get faster but not smarter. Faster doesn't equal smarter. This anti-pattern is particularly dangerous in an AI-accelerated environment where delivery speed is no longer a constraint. The challenge for practitioners is shifting this mindset. The strongest POs make different choices: they own their decisions at the team level, make decisions explicit, treat uncertainty as part of the job, and connect work to value. When POs break free from output obsession, the results are powerful: faster alignment, no decision hallucinations, more engaged teams willing to experiment, and genuine connection between work and value.   In this segment, we refer to Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg.   Self-reflection Question: If you removed velocity from your team's dashboard tomorrow, what conversations would emerge about actual value delivered?   [The Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast Recommends]

Ali Merchant reveals the small shifts you can implement today to become a better leader immediately. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) How to make difficult conversations easier 2) The three things exceptional managers do3) How to upgrade your one-on-ones with one questionSubscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep1121 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT ALI — Ali Merchant has spent two decades scaling Learning & Development departments for public companies, tech brands, and the world's largest ad agencies. Today, he's the founder of All-In Manager, a leadership development firm that trains and coaches managers to become leaders. Since 2018, Ali has trained thousands of managers and coached hundreds of senior leaders worldwide. He's also the author of The All-In Manager: Become a better leader today, not someday. Ali lives in Chicago with his wife, Sarah, and their dog, Lenny. • Book: The All-In Manager: Become a better leader today. Not Someday• LinkedIn: Ali Merchant• Website: AllInManager.com— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Study: “The rocky road from actions to intentions” by Elizabeth Newton• Tool: Descript• Tool: Google NotebookLM• Book: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides) by Marshall Rosenberg and Deepak Chopra• Book: Pre-Suasion: A Revolutionary Way to Influence and Persuade by Robert Cialdini• Book: How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen by David Brooks• Book: Firefighter Zen: A Field Guide to Thriving in Tough Times by Hersch Wilson— THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Monarch.com. Get 50% off your first year on with the code AWESOME.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

So much of our world today can be summed up in the cold logic of “if I don't, they will.” This is the foundation of game theory, which holds that cooperation and virtue are irrational; that all that matters is the race to make the most money, gain the most power, and play the winning hand. This way of thinking can feel inescapable, like a fundamental law of human nature. But our guest today, professor Sonja Amadae, argues that it doesn't have to be this way. That the logic of game theory is a human invention, a way of thinking that we've learned — and that we can unlearn.In this episode, Tristan and Aza explore the game theory dilemma — the idea that if I adopt game theory logic and you don't, you lose — with Dr. Sonja Amadae, a professor of Political Science at the University of Helsinki. She's also the director at the Center for the Study of Existential Risk at the University of Cambridge and the author of “Prisoners of Reason: Game Theory and the Neoliberal Economy.”The history of game theory as an inhumane technology stretches back to its WWII origins. But humans also cooperate, and we can break out of the rationality trap by daring to trust each other again. It's critical that we do, because AI is the ultimate agent of game theory and once it's fully entangled we might be permanently stuck in the game theory world.RECOMMENDED MEDIA“Prisoners of Reason: Game Theory and the Neoliberal Economy” by Sonja Amadae (2015)The Cambridge Centre for the Study of Existential Risk“Theory of Games and Economic Behavior” by John von Neumann and Oskar Morgenstern (1944)Further reading on the importance of trust in FinlandFurther reading on Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of NeedsRAND's 2024 Report on Strategic Competition in the Age of AIFurther reading on Marshall Rosenberg and nonviolent communicationThe study on self/other overlap and AI alignment cited by AzaFurther reading on The Day After (1983) RECOMMENDED YUA EPISODESAmerica and China Are Racing to Different AI FuturesThe Crisis That United Humanity—and Why It Matters for AILaughing at Power: A Troublemaker's Guide to Changing TechThe Race to Cooperation with David Sloan Wilson Clarifications:The proposal for a federal preemption on AI was enacted by President Trump on December 11, 2025, shortly after this recording. Aza said that "The Day After" was the most watched TV event in history when it aired. It was actually the most watched TV film, the most watched TV event was the finale of MASH Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Benedikt turns a year older. Benedicte moves forward despite the curveballs.Benedikt took a week off work to celebrate his 40th birthday. He spent his birthday week with a few parties with family and friends, and seeing two concerts. On the work front, he and the team built a Snowflake integration. And with the ETL infrastructure now in place, this potentially opens doors for other integrations.Despite another major extended family upheaval, Benedicte carries on by going on morning walks and focusing on her projects. She recently shipped the new Framer plugin version, made demos, and is planning to get the documentation for the plugin.Benedikt and Benedicte talk about books, how fast the internet is breaking nowadays, and more.Mentioned on the show:Surrounded by Idiots – a book by Thomas EriksonAntifragile – a book by Nassim Nicholas TalebNonviolent Communication – a book by B. Marshall Rosenberg

Jon Rosemberg discusses how to break free from limiting beliefs and reclaim control over your life. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) The difference between succeeding and thriving2) How to shift out of survival mode with A.I.R.3) How to spot and challenge limiting beliefsSubscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep1114 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT JON — With over two decades coaching Fortune 500 executives and global teams through deep transformations, Jon Rosemberg has learned firsthand that growth begins when we courageously reclaim our agency. His personal journey, forged by immigration, loss, and career reinvention, inspires him to blend hard-won business insight with cutting-edge research to guide others toward greater meaning. Driven by his belief in human potential, Jon co-founded Anther, a firm dedicated to transforming uncertainty into possibility. He previously led high-impact initiatives at Walmart, Procter & Gamble, Indigo, and GoBolt.Jon holds an MBA from Cornell University and a Master of Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where he serves as an assistant instructor. Originally from Caracas, Venezuela, he now lives in Toronto with his wife, Adriana, and their two sons.• Book: RA Guide to Thriving: The Science Behind Breaking Old Patterns, Reclaiming Your Agency, and Finding Meaning• LinkedIn: Jon Rosemberg• Website: JonRosemberg.com— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Study: "Workplace Wellbeing and Firm Performance" by Jan-Emmanuel De Neve, Micah Kaats, and George Ward• Study: “Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation: The U.S. Surgeon General's Advisory on the Healing Effects of Social Connection and Community” • Book: Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl• Book: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides) by Marshall Rosenberg and Deepak Chopra• Book: Building a Life Worth Living: A Memoir by Marsha Linehan• Video: “You're More Stressed Than Ever - Let's Change That” by Kurzgesagt – In A Nutshell• Past episode: 500: Building Unshakeable Self-Esteem and Confidence with Victor Cheng— THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Vanguard. Give your clients consistent results year in and year out with vanguard.com/AUDIO• Quince. Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your order with Quince.com/Awesome• Taelor. Visit Visit taelor.style and get 10% off gift cards with the code PODCASTGIFT• Cashflow Podcasting. Explore launching (or outsourcing) your podcast with a free 10-minute call with Pete.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sara Di Gregorio: Rebuilding Agile Team Connection in the Remote Work Era Read the full Show Notes and search through the world's largest audio library on Agile and Scrum directly on the Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast website: http://bit.ly/SMTP_ShowNotes.   "The book helped me to shift from reacting to connecting, which completely changed the quality of conversation." - Sara Di Gregorio   When COVID forced Sara's team into full remote work, she noticed something troubling—the team was losing real connection. Replicating in-office meetings online simply didn't work. People attended meetings but weren't truly present. The spontaneous coffee machine conversations that built relationships and surfaced important information had vanished.  So Sara started experimenting. She introduced 5-minute chit-chat sessions at the start of every meeting: "Guys, how are you today? What happened yesterday?" She created "coffee all together" moments—10-minute virtual breaks where the team could drink coffee or have aperitivos together, sometimes three times per week. She established weekly feedback sessions every Friday morning—30 minutes to recap the week and understand what could improve.  These weren't just social niceties; they were deliberate efforts to recreate the human connections that remote work had stripped away. Sara recognized that mechanized interactions—"here are the things I need you to do, let's talk next steps"—kill team dynamics. Teams need moments where they relate to each other as people, not just as functions.  The experiments worked because they created space for genuine connection, allowing the team to maintain the trust and collaboration that makes effective teamwork possible, even when working remotely.   In this episode, we refer to Non-Violent Communication concepts and practices.   Self-reflection Question: How are you creating moments for your remote or hybrid team to connect as people, not just as colleagues executing tasks? Featured Book of the Week: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg Sara credits Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg (translated in Italian as "Words are Windows, or They are Walls") as having a deep impact on her career. The book explores how to listen without judging, how to ask the right questions, and how to observe people to understand their real needs. But above all, it teaches how to communicate in a way that builds connection rather than creating barriers.  For Sara, the book was remarkably practical—she didn't just read it, she experimented with the techniques afterward. She explains: "I think that without this mindset, it's easy to fall into reactive communication, trying to defend, justify, or give quick answers. But that often blocks real understanding." The book helped her shift from reacting to connecting, which completely changed the quality of her conversations.  As a Scrum Master working with people every day—facilitating meetings, mediating conflicts, supporting teams—the way we communicate determines whether we open dialogue or close it. Sara found that taking time to reflect instead of giving quick answers transformed her ability to help teams discover dependencies, improve dialogue, and address communication issues. For anyone in the Scrum Master role, this book provides essential skills for building the kind of connection that makes true collaboration possible. In this segment, we also refer to the NVC episodes we have on the podcast. Check those out to learn more about Nonviolent Communication   [The Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast Recommends]

#130:  Il était une fois un peuple qui gérait les déviances sociales avec beaucoup de bienveillance. Si ton voisin avait volé ton bœuf ou ta femme, il était mis au centre du village, et recevait... de multiples compliments sur ses actes généreux du passé, sur toutes les fois où il avait servi la communauté au lieu de la spolier. Ce bain de bonté réveillait la nature bienveillante du coupable qui se repentait et s'engageait de nouveau à servir la communauté. Cet us-et-coutume s'apparente à un paradigme inventé par Marshall Rosenberg dans les années quatre-vingts, et que j'introduis à ta réflexion par le biais de cet épisode. Je te souhaite une belle écoute.http://savouretesvies.com/feedbackhttp://savouretesvies.com/replayfocushttp://savouretesvies.com/ressourceshttp://savouretesvies.com/programmecomplethttp://savouretesvies.com/aviscoaching@savouretesvies.comBibliographie sur la communication non violente: https://cnvformations.fr/bibliographie/Pour soutenir Déclic Education: https://www.helloasso.com/beta/associations/declic-cnv-et-education/formulaires/1

Episode Summary: Michelle Bennett1. Best Coaching Advice Received“Make the implicit explicit.” Pause the moment and name what's not being said.“When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” Use client frustration to invite reflection and reframe.Moments of tension are often invitations for deeper understanding, not obstacles.Great coaching is about holding space and gently guiding insight—not forcing it.Key insight: Learn to stop, notice, and ask “what's really going on here?” 2. Still Improving in CoachingMain focus: Working on herself to grow as a coach.Strives for congruence between values, beliefs, and behavior.Wants to respond vs. react—particularly when under stress or lacking sleep.Practices pausing and reflection, using “Stop, Breathe, Think, Act” (from SCUBA training).Committed to maintaining presence and awareness, even during challenging moments. 3. Most Outrageous Coaching MoveDoesn't see herself as “outrageous,” but has grown more flexible with time.Used to strictly follow coaching rules—now plays creatively within the guardrails.Embraces applied improvisation (Yes, and…) in team workshops.Developed an improv-based exercise progressing from “No, but” → “Yes, but” → “Yes, and.”Integrates play and embodiment to help teams move from resistance to collaboration. 4. What Still Makes Her UncomfortableSilence. Used to feel awkward and overthink during pauses.Now more comfortable—relies on observation (e.g., body language) to determine when to re-engage.Learned silence can be powerful and productive, especially when used intentionally.Coaches herself to avoid jumping in too quickly.Uses curiosity and visual cues to guide next steps. 5. Advice for New CoachesStudy nonviolent communication (Marshall Rosenberg).Focus on unmet needs as the root of emotional responses.Ask: “What need, if fulfilled, would change how you feel right now?”Helps clients slow down, reflect, and better understand their own emotions.Recognizes empathy as a foundational tool—both for self-awareness and coaching impact. 6. Challenge Conquered on the Path to CoachingHad to dial down her task-focused, checklist-driven scientist brain.Used to skip over small talk—now intentionally builds relationships.Has trained herself to add warmth and connection to communication.Sees this shift as authentic personal growth, not just behavioral adjustment.Believes her relationship side is now integrated—not just “an add-on.” 7. Using AI in CoachingExploring how AI can assist in workshop design and experiential learning.Uses prompts to help create exercises that illustrate coaching principles (e.g., ladder of inference).Finds AI helpful but still in early experimentation phase.Appreciates others' creativity with AI and is learning through observation.Believes AI will help her expand her impact beyond her current reach. 8. What She's Learned About Herself Through CoachingShe's been living to meet others' expectations—and is now learning who she truly is.Coaching has helped her drop the masks and embrace her authentic self.Less afraid to experiment, take risks, and “just try stuff.”Feels like she's in a stage where everything is starting to click.Embracing “not knowing” and trusting her voice—hallmarks of personal transformation.

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2787: Stella Grizont explores how to build emotional resilience by not taking things personally, offering practical tools to shift from reaction to curiosity and compassion. She then shares a heartfelt reflection on unconditional love through a simple yet powerful moment with her daughter, reminding us of the profound healing in being seen and accepted as we are. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.stellagrizont.com/blogs/the-abcs-of-not-taking-things-personally AND https://www.stellagrizont.com/blogs/what-my-daughter-taught-me-about-love Quotes to ponder: "Most of us walk around with a fragile sense of self-worth." "People's behavior is a reflection of their reality, not yours." "Even if someone intends to hurt you, it's still about them and their own pain." Episode references: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg: https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X The Four Agreements: https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2787: Stella Grizont explores how to build emotional resilience by not taking things personally, offering practical tools to shift from reaction to curiosity and compassion. She then shares a heartfelt reflection on unconditional love through a simple yet powerful moment with her daughter, reminding us of the profound healing in being seen and accepted as we are. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.stellagrizont.com/blogs/the-abcs-of-not-taking-things-personally AND https://www.stellagrizont.com/blogs/what-my-daughter-taught-me-about-love Quotes to ponder: "Most of us walk around with a fragile sense of self-worth." "People's behavior is a reflection of their reality, not yours." "Even if someone intends to hurt you, it's still about them and their own pain." Episode references: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg: https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X The Four Agreements: https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at:⁠ OLDPodcast.com⁠. Episode 2786: Vironika Tugaleva shares a transformative perspective on romantic relationships by revealing how our emotional baggage often drives conflict, not our partners' actions. Through deep self-awareness and compassion, she invites us to stop blaming and start healing, offering insight that empowers genuine intimacy. Read along with the original article(s) here:⁠ https://www.vironika.org/important-relationship-advice/⁠ Quotes to ponder: "Most of our relationship problems are not about the relationship at all. They're about our own unresolved issues." "When we are in pain, we lash out. We blame, we attack, we defend." "Blame is a lazy substitute for introspection." Episode references: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg:⁠ https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/⁠ The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz:⁠ https://www.amazon.com/Mastery-Love-Practical-Relationship-Toltec/dp/1878424424⁠ The Untethered Soul:⁠ https://www.amazon.com/Untethered-Soul-Journey-Beyond-Yourself/dp/1572245379⁠

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2786: Vironika Tugaleva shares a transformative perspective on romantic relationships by revealing how our emotional baggage often drives conflict, not our partners' actions. Through deep self-awareness and compassion, she invites us to stop blaming and start healing, offering insight that empowers genuine intimacy. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.vironika.org/important-relationship-advice/ Quotes to ponder: "Most of our relationship problems are not about the relationship at all. They're about our own unresolved issues." "When we are in pain, we lash out. We blame, we attack, we defend." "Blame is a lazy substitute for introspection." Episode references: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg: https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/ The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz: https://www.amazon.com/Mastery-Love-Practical-Relationship-Toltec/dp/1878424424 The Untethered Soul: https://www.amazon.com/Untethered-Soul-Journey-Beyond-Yourself/dp/1572245379

Renee Troughton: The Hidden Cost of Constant Restructuring in Agile Organizations Read the full Show Notes and search through the world's largest audio library on Agile and Scrum directly on the Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast website: http://bit.ly/SMTP_ShowNotes. "Trust and safety are the most fundamental foundations of a team to perform. And so you are just breaking the core of teams when you're doing this." Renee challenges us to look beyond team dysfunction and examine the "dirty little secrets" in organizations—leadership-driven anti-patterns that destroy team performance. She reveals a cyclical pattern of constant restructuring that occurs every six months in many organizations, driven by leaders who avoid difficult performance management conversations and instead force people through redundancy rounds. This creates a cascade of fear, panic, and victim mindset throughout the organization. Beyond restructuring, Renee identifies other destructive patterns including the C-suite shuffle (where new CEOs bring in their own teams, cascading change throughout the organization) and the insourcing/outsourcing swings that create chaos over 5-8 year cycles. These high-level decisions drain productivity for months as teams storm and reform, losing critical knowledge and breaking the trust and safety that are fundamental for high performance. Renee emphasizes that as Agile coaches and Scrum Masters, we often don't feel empowered to challenge these decisions, yet they represent the biggest drain on organizational productivity. Self-reflection Question: Have you identified the cyclical organizational anti-patterns in your workplace, and do you have the courage to raise these systemic issues with senior leadership? Featured Book of the Week: Loving What Is by Byron Katie "It teaches you around how to reframe your thoughts in the day-to-day life, to assess them in a different light than you would normally perceive them to be." Renee recommends "Loving What Is" by Byron Katie as an essential tool for Scrum Master introspection. This book teaches practical techniques for reframing thoughts and recognizing that problems we perceive "out there" are often internal framing issues. Katie's method, called "The Work," provides a worksheet-based approach to introspection that helps identify when our perceptions create unnecessary suffering. Renee also highlights Marshall Rosenberg's "Nonviolent Communication" as a companion book, which uses language to tap into underlying emotions and needs. Both books offer practical, actionable techniques for self-knowledge—a critical skill for anyone in the Scrum Master role. The journey these books provide leads to inner peace through understanding that many challenges stem from how we internally frame situations rather than external reality. We have many episodes on NVC, Nonviolent Communication, which you can dive into and learn from experienced practitioners.  [The Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast Recommends]

Hello, wonderful readers. I am taking a break from Misseducated in the coming weeks as I focus on The Intimacy Journal, which will be launching on Kickstarter very soon. I can't wait for you to get your hands on a copy!

What if generosity isn't something we have to teach or force — but something we're born with? In this special episode honoring the birthday of Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), I share a personal story about my 5-year-old daughter — and how her spontaneous, joyful act of giving reminded me of one of Marshall's most powerful teachings: “What I want in my life is compassion — a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart.” We'll explore: Why generous giving flows naturally when we feel connected and free How this principle applies not just to parenting, but to romantic relationships What gets in the way of that generosity in couples — and how NVC can help restore it A simple question to reflect on in your own relationship today Plus, I'll share how you and your partner can go deeper with NVC through my 9-Week Private Coaching Program for Couples: Stop Fighting (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs) If you're longing for more joy and spontaneous generosity in your relationship — this one's for you. Want to learn NVC with Ali? Explore my 9-week private coaching program for couples: Stop Fighting! (without stuffing your feelings or sacrificing your needs). Includes my signature training: Hearing Each Other's Hearts: NVC Essentials for Couples Learn more: www.alimillercoaching.com/stopfighting Free Resources Feelings & Needs Cheatsheets: www.alimillercoaching.com/feelingsandneeds Free Mini-Course: The 4 Steps to Stop Any Fight Without Giving In www.alimillercoaching.com/freeminicourse Connect with Ali Instagram: @alimillercoaching Free Private Facebook Group: NVC for Couples www.facebook.com/groups/nvcforcouples Email: ali@alimillercoaching.com Website: www.alimillercoaching.com Important note: The tools I share in this episode and all of the episodes on this podcast are suited for people who are in a safe relationship. If you do not feel safe in your relationship, please prioritize your safety. For support with priortizing your safety, in the U.S. you can chat with someone live at The National Domestic Violence Hotline at www.thehotline.org, or call them at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788. 

Alexander Dunlop is author of Play Your Cards Right: A Sacred Guide To Life On Earth. Join us as we discuss what the Source Cards say about Charlie Kirk.(03:00) Kirk's Public Platform & Bobby Kennedy ConnectionAlexander shares how Kirk welcomed Bobby Kennedy into dialogue and his impressions of Kirk's debates and openness.(05:25) Personal Awakening & The CallingAlexander parallels Kirk's teenage mission with his own spiritual awakening at 17, describing his role as “a priest in the world with no religion.”(06:40) Christian Conservatism & Cultural DivisionA deep dive into Kirk's respectful debating style, but also Alexander's critique of Christian conservatism as a root of cultural conflict.(08:16) Violence in the Name of BeliefDiscussion of the historical roots of violence tied to biblical monotheism and the dangers of us-versus-them ideology.(11:20) Empathy, Sympathy & Evolving ThoughtExploring Kirk's views on empathy versus sympathy, his young age, and potential for evolving beliefs.(17:28) Purity, Sin & Cultural ConditioningTracing the Christian mythos of purity, Virgin archetypes, and the ingrained assumption of imposing morality “for your own good.”(23:13) Beyond Biblical MonotheismAlexander argues for uprooting monotheistic frameworks to return to astrology, numerology, and source cards as systems of personal truth.(26:39) Charlie Kirk's Birth & Personality CardsReading Kirk's Eight of Clubs birth card and Four of Spades personality card, revealing his mental power, stubbornness, and vision.(31:41) Dialogue & Nonviolent CommunicationScott and Alexander emphasize listening, needs-based dialogue, and Marshall Rosenberg's framework as antidotes to polarization.(35:01) Submitting to “One Truth”Unpacking how biblical monotheism entrenches binaries of true/false, creating cycles of domination, repression, and backlash.(43:41) Healing Collective TraumaConnecting monotheism to the psychological split of conscious/unconscious; Alexander frames the work ahead as collective healing.(46:44) God, Substance & the SplitContrasting pantheistic unity with biblical monotheism's sinner/saint dichotomy and its impact on cultural divisions.(49:17) Pluto in Aquarius & Future ReckoningsSpeculation on whether Kirk's death may fuel right-wing violence and how astrology frames cultural turning points.(52:27) Synchronicity of Numbers & Memorial TimingAnalyzing Kirk's assassination on September 10 and his memorial on September 21, highlighting 33 numerology and the Jack of Diamonds.(57:44) Meaning of Threes in MemorialAlexander interprets 33 as creative energy pointing a new way forward, urging dialogue over conservatism as the solution.(1:02:03) Confusion, Propaganda & ControlExploring CIA-style disinformation tactics, societal distrust of media, and the deliberate obfuscation of truth.(1:06:01) As Above, So BelowScott and Alexander reflect on whether events are staged or simply esoteric mirrors of astrological energy.(1:11:10) The Search for PatternsHow the human need for order can lead to paranoia or faith, depending on awareness of intelligent design and cosmic codes.(1:17:22) Turning Point & LegacyKirk's founding of Turning Point, his Eight of Clubs idealism, and how his life and death represent a compass for future directions.Alexander Dunlop: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.thesourcecards.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.theweeklytransit.com/⁠⁠⁠

Companion Guide Alert!Enhance your listening experience with our brand-new Assumptions That Destroy Communication Workbook, designed to accompany this episode! This guide will help you transform your communication skills. Grab it now for just $4 at: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/assumptions-that-destroy-communication-workbookEpisode Overview In this episode, Part 3 of our communication series, Robert and Sharla dive into the hidden power of judgments in our everyday language and how they sabotage the intimacy we crave in relationships. Building on Part 1 (the cost of not speaking up) and Part 2 (three communication goals: mutual understanding, connection, and empathy), we explore why we're conditioned to judge—especially in Western culture—and how this “conflict-escalating” language disconnects us from our partners' needs. Featuring a powerful story from NVC founder Marshall Rosenberg and practical tips from Nonviolent Communication (NVC), this episode offers a roadmap to shift from judgments to observations. Plus, we introduce our new workbook to guide you step-by-step!Key Takeaways - A judgment is any thought or statement that labels or diagnoses someone (e.g., “You're lazy”), implying fault and escalating conflict by cutting off empathy and understanding. - We're indoctrinated into judgmental language from childhood through family (“You're naughty”), media (heroes vs. villains), school (grades), and Western culture's emphasis on blame over needs. - The Rosenberg story from Malaysia highlights how language shapes thought—without a “to be” verb for judging, a culture avoids pathologizing others. - Shift to observations (e.g., “I noticed the dishes were left undone”) to open doors to connection instead of closing them with judgments. - Practice daily with our workbook's exercises to rewire your communication habits! Action Steps 1. Download the Workbook: Get your Assumptions That Destroy Communication Workbook at: https://stan.store/masteryourmarriage/p/assumptions-that-destroy-communication-workbook2. Take the Challenge: This week, make one observation instead of a judgment (e.g., “I noticed your clothes on the floor”) and email us at masteryourmarriage@gmail.com with your experience! 3. Leave a Review: Head to Apple Podcasts, rate us five stars, and write a quick review to join our weekly giveaway—your feedback helps us grow! 4. Tune In Next Week: Part 4 will focus on expressing needs and desires—don't miss it! Connect with Us:Email: masteryourmarriage@gmail.com – Reach out for coaching, share wins, or pitch episode ideas.Instagram: @masteryourmarriage – Daily tips, behind-the-scenes reels, and a healthy dose of Snow-family humor.Reviews Matter! If this episode sparked an aha moment, drop a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and send it to a friend who could use a vision upgrade.

Marshall Rosenberg is an American psychologist, mediator, author and teacher who has pioneered work in non-violent communication. His book I've been reading is Non-Violent Communication: A Language of Life. In this episode I go over what he calls life alienating communication. It's great

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 1766: Christopher Wallace explores how challenging colleagues can serve as unexpected mirrors for our own growth, encouraging us to approach irritation with curiosity instead of judgment. By tuning into our emotional triggers and reconnecting with our values, we can turn everyday frustrations into moments of self-mastery. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://digtofly.com/the-zen-of-working-with-annoying-people/ Quotes to ponder: "Every annoying person we encounter is actually a gift, a reflection of something inside of us that needs attention." "When we understand our values, we start to understand why certain people annoy us." "It's not about changing the other person; it's about changing how we respond." Episode references: The Work by Byron Katie: https://thework.com Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg: https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 1766: Christopher Wallace explores how challenging colleagues can serve as unexpected mirrors for our own growth, encouraging us to approach irritation with curiosity instead of judgment. By tuning into our emotional triggers and reconnecting with our values, we can turn everyday frustrations into moments of self-mastery. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://digtofly.com/the-zen-of-working-with-annoying-people/ Quotes to ponder: "Every annoying person we encounter is actually a gift, a reflection of something inside of us that needs attention." "When we understand our values, we start to understand why certain people annoy us." "It's not about changing the other person; it's about changing how we respond." Episode references: The Work by Byron Katie: https://thework.com Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg: https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Drawing on her two decades of experience in theatre and conflict resolution, Alice offers eye-opening insights for fostering connection over control, using negotiation to build life skills, and showing up with curiosity instead of judgment.From funny anecdotes about coconut popsicles to powerful techniques based on Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication framework, Alice reminds us that great communication begins with listening—whether you're talking to your teen, your Toastmasters club members, or your colleagues.We also touch on her new book, Don't Sleep on the Couch – Negotiating with Your Spouse, and her podcast Negotiation with Alice.Whether you're a parent, a mentor, or simply someone who wants to communicate better, this episode is packed with tools you can use today.Listen now and discover:The “two-choice” technique that diffuses argumentsHow to open up authentic conversations without forcing themWhy negotiating with your kids today sets them up for lifeWhat NOT to say when your teen says, “I hate my math teacher”Why showing your own vulnerability is a strength, not a weaknessYou can read Alice's article: Tips for Communicating With Your Teen, Using effective talking and listening skills benefits both of you, in the May 2025 Issue of the Toastmasters Magazine.Alice Shikina is a mediator and negotiation/communication coach who handles divorces, workplace, and family conflicts. She draws on two decades of theater training in acting and directing to enhance her mediation work.Some may remember Alice from the 100th anniversary Toastmasters International Convention, where she presented on conflict resolution. In June 2025, she received the Peacemaker Award from Community Boards in San Francisco for her work in mediation and conflict resolution.She's the author of Negotiating with Your Kids and is currently writing her second book, Don't Sleep on the Couch – Negotiating with Your Spouse. In her free time, she rows with a team and plays violin in a community orchestra.Alice lives in Oakland, CA and can be reached at https://shikinanegotiationacademy.com/

Here's a quote from Dr. Marshall Rosenberg's book, Nonviolent Communication, A Language of Life, that sums up Connecting Compassionately With Ourselves: “When we are internally violent towards ourselves, it is difficult to be genuinely compassionate towards others.” To exercise self-compassion we can evaluate ourselves in ways that promote growth instead of self-hatred. When we have been less than perfect, we can focus on a desire to enrich life for ourselves and others rather than to shame or guilt-trip ourselves. We can avoid “shoulding” ourselves.We can recognize judgmental self-talk when it happens and then quickly focus our attention on underlying needs that may not have been met. Feelings and unmet needs may have stimulated past actions which we now regret.When we acknowledge that possibility, we can better exercise self-forgiveness. Going forward, we can then be conscious of what need is being served by the choices we make.Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/.Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/

Send us a textIn this episode, we take a journey from the Prime Meridian to the emotional equator, where gratitude, fragility, and fierce compassion intersect. Drawing inspiration from Emile Durkheim, Jonathan Haidt, Marshall Rosenberg and Dr. Bernie Siegel, we explore how to stay grounded and emotionally regulated in high-stakes conversations without losing yourself, or the other person.We dive into the psychology behind emotional contagion and vicarious trauma, and how your presence, not your prescription, is often the most powerful gift you can offer. You'll learn why advice often fails, how to recognize when you're stealing someone's power instead of supporting them, and what "naming it to tame it" really looks like in a real conversation.We'll unpack the difference between sympathy and empathy, explore theory of mind, and show how non-violent communication and empathetic reflection can transform not only how we communicate, but how we believe in the people we're speaking to.Because in a world full of noise, the most radical thing you can do… is listen.Visit us at:www.theselfhelpantidote.com

What does it take to build a $100 billion cybersecurity company in today's cloud-first, AI-infused world? And how do you balance relentless technological change with the practical realities of compliance, risk, and leadership? In this episode of Tech Talks Daily, I sit down with Sumedh Thakar, CEO of Qualys, during his visit to the UK for the company's QSC conference. From starting out as one of Qualys' first engineers to leading the company through a new era of risk-centric cybersecurity, Sumedh brings a unique blend of technical insight and lived experience. We discuss why compliance remains such a challenge for enterprises, how the conversation is shifting from attack surfaces to risk surfaces, and why many businesses are overwhelmed by security signals but underwhelmed by strategic clarity. Sumedh shares his view on the growing importance of the Risk Operations Center (ROC) and how AI is complicating risk profiles in new and unpredictable ways. He also reflects on the future of cloud security and why the market remains wide open for innovation, even as it becomes more crowded. Beyond the tech, Sumedh opens up about his personal journey from Pune to Silicon Valley, how a threatened farm purchase changed his life, and why leadership is ultimately a game of time, trust, and communication. He leaves us with a powerful book recommendation, Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, which he credits with transforming his leadership style and helping him build stronger relationships across the board. Are we thinking about risk in the right way or simply throwing money at the latest acronyms? And how do you build a meaningful legacy in cybersecurity without losing sight of the human side? Join the conversation and let me know what resonated with you most.

Dr. Marshall Rosenberg developed the concept of Nonviolent Communication – or NVC.  His book, Nonviolent Communication, A Language of Life, begins with this quote, capturing the fundamental premise of NVC: “What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart.” Specific forms of language are identified as alienating us from our natural state of compassion, including moralistic judgments, making comparisons, and denying responsibility. Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com! And you can learn more about me and my work as a mediator and a Certified CINERGY® Conflict Coach at www.dovetailresolutions.com and https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebeddall/.Enjoy the show for free on your favorite podcast app or on the podcast website: https://craftingsolutionstoconflict.com/

Im harten Alltag der Führungskräfte zeigt sich die wahre Kunst: richtig reagieren, wenn Kolleg:innen emotional eskalieren. Tränen, Wut, Verwirrung – was tun, wenn der Mensch vor dir weint oder laut wird? Vanessa Laszlo, bekannt für ihre Expertise und Arbeit mit Psychopathen im Gefängnis, gibt klare Antworten. Sie betont die Macht der Emotionen: Ein benanntes Gefühl verkleinert sich, ein ignoriertes wächst. Kein Trösten bei selbst verursachtem Leid. Stattdessen: Offenheit und Geduld. Finde selbst heraus, wie du diese klugen Ansätze in deinem Führungskontext anwenden kannst. Du erfährst... …wie du emotionale Eskalationen souverän meisterst …warum das Ansprechen von Gefühlen Konflikte entschärft …wie du mit klarer Kommunikation Vertrauen schaffst …warum Distanzierung und Verlangsamung oft Wunder wirken …wie du durch Prophylaxe emotionale Ausbrüche vermeidest __________________________ ||||| PERSONEN |||||

"...through, just, love and committing to your own journey within a culture and within a craft and within a practice, you can embody whatever you want to. And there's nobody to tell you that it's not authentic or real or enough." Co-founder of Oxygen Tango School and Awaken Tango Mitra Martin talks about her Persian heritage and the value of research, innovation, acceptance, and attention in tango. Producer/Host: Liz Sabatiuk | Music: “Zorzal”, arranged and recorded by Orquesta Típica Misteriosa Buenos Aires with music and lyrics by Dorita Zárate | Image Credit: Glenn Campbell Show Notes Learn more about Mitra's perspectives and work on her website. (Bonus points if you learn more about “The Romance of the Rose” and gardens in Persian poetry or even read Mitra's thesis!) Read some background about Iran's history and government, then read Mitra's reflections on Iran's 2022 protests. TriANGulO changed locations but is still going strong as a studio and community under the leadership of its founder, Carina Moeller. Listen to “Instinct Tango, with Aníbal Dominguez” for another perspective on how contact improv relates to tango. Read why Mitra recommends learning tango one-on-one rather than in conventional group classes. Listen to different versions of the same song, “El Choclo,” to get a sense of the different styles of Carlos Di Sarli and Juan D'Arienzo. Learn more about Marshall Rosenberg's framework of nonviolent communication and read a post by the student Mitra mentioned, Andrei Andreev, applying Rosenberg's framework to tango. Listen to “Flowing together, with Avik Basu” and visit Awaken Tango to read the Inner Experience of Tango report. Mitra shouted out the following folks as key sources of inspiration and support in her tango journey: Avik Basu, Stefan Fabry, Jaimes Friedgen, Korey Ireland, Dave Lampson, Carina Moeller, Rebecca Shulman, Daniel Trenner, and Brigitta Winkler. Read a transcript of Mitra's episode here.

✨ Episode Highlights: What is Nonviolent Communication? A framework developed by psychologist Marshall Rosenberg that centers empathy, clarity, and connection instead of blame, criticism, or control. Why It Matters: 70% of sentinel events in hospitals are linked to communication breakdowns! Plus, as Brené Brown says, "Clear is kind, unclear is unkind." The 4 Components of Nonviolent Communication: Observation - State facts without judgment Feeling - Express your emotions about what you observed Need - Identify the underlying need or value Request - Make a clear, actionable request Real-Life Examples that transform challenging conversations into opportunities for connection with: Nurses questioning your medical decisions Colleagues who are consistently late Partners after a long, exhausting shift Children needing your attention while you're working Inexperienced staff members who need guidance

If you've ever swallowed your truth to keep the peace—only to feel drained, resentful, or invisible—this conversation will show you a powerful new way to speak up without shame, blame, or regret.In this episode, I'm joined by Éva Rambala, a certified trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication and a leading voice in spreading Marshall Rosenberg's legacy across Eastern Europe and beyond. Based in Hungary, Éva has participated in more than 40 international intensive trainings (IITs) and brings a unique blend of warmth, humor, and practical insight to her workshops. Originally trained in business, her life took a transformative turn when she discovered nonviolent communication. Today, through her organization Rambala.hu, she offers NVC trainings tailored for parents, educators, social workers, IT professionals, and spiritual seekers alike. Éva believes that creating compassionate, honest connection is a life practice that transforms not only relationships but society as a whole—especially in times when inner peace is most needed.Throughout this episode, Éva brings that same clarity, presence, and depth she's known for in her trainings. Drawing from her personal journey and close collaboration with Marshall Rosenberg, she demystifies the principles of nonviolent communication, emphasizing its goal of fostering connection where everyone's needs matter. She shares powerful stories from her decades of experience, offers insight into how NVC is practiced around the world, and gives listeners a vibrant look at the upcoming training retreat in Hungary. Her perspective combines grounded wisdom with a light touch of humor, offering a heartfelt invitation to choose empathy over judgment—even amid global uncertainty.Tune in to episode 60 of RADitude and explore the lived wisdom of Éva Rambala, as she shares how Nonviolent Communication—rooted in empathy, presence, and human connection—can help you navigate conflict, deepen relationships, and find inner peace in even the most challenging times.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Meet Éva Rambala and her love for Budapest (1:50)What is the Center for Nonviolent Communication? (3:00)The heart of NVC: “Don't be a good girl” (4:40)Defining Nonviolent Communication (6:45)Why IT guys are her favorite audience (8:20)What really happens at a 9-day NVC training (10:58)Éva's unexpected journey into NVC—and into Marshall's life (18:51)Nature, connection and the Hungary retreat (23:28)Connect with Éva Rambala:WebsiteFacebookLinekdInYouTubeLet's connect!WebsiteContact UsLinkedInInstagramFacebookTwitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

BONUS: NVC, Walking Towards Conflict with Love With Maria Arpa and Bob Marshall In this BONUS episode, we explore Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a powerful tool that has changed how many people work and relate to family, friends, and colleagues. Maria Arpa, a previous guest on the podcast, and who studied directly under Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of NVC, shares her insights on this transformative practice. Joining us is Bob Marshall, an NVC advocate and practitioner who applies these principles in organizational settings. Understanding the Foundation of Nonviolent Communication "We have universal needs... what we try to distinguish is the need and the strategy I'm using to meet the need." Nonviolent Communication is both a practical communication tool and a spiritual practice designed to help us connect more authentically with ourselves and others. Maria explains how NVC emerged from the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, who studied under Carl Rogers, the developer of person-centered therapy. At its core, NVC represents a paradigm shift away from what Maria calls "domination culture" – a system built on hierarchy, punishment, and obedience to rules. The dominant culture in which we live often relies on fear, guilt, and shame to motivate behavior. In contrast, NVC comes from the philosophy of nonviolence, encouraging people to be independent thinkers who make choices from their own internal compass. This approach recognizes that all people have the potential to manifest love, even in challenging situations. The Power of Needs-Based Theory "If I take a need for fairness or respect... how many ways are there to meet that need? And what if you believe you're meeting your need for fairness using whatever strategy you're using, and I believe that is impacting on my need for respect? We have a collision in strategies." A fundamental aspect of NVC is needs-based theory. Maria explains that while we all share universal needs – from basic physical requirements like air and food to psychological needs like creativity, recognition, and fairness – conflicts arise not from the needs themselves but from the strategies we use to meet those needs. This distinction between needs and strategies offers a powerful framework for resolving conflicts. When we understand that we're arguing over strategies, not the underlying needs, we can empathize with each other and explore different approaches that honor everyone's needs. As Maria advises, "Don't try to strategize until you understand all the needs on the table." Breaking Free from the Debate Model "The debate model of conversation is about one argument prevailing over all others... it's a terrible idea for when we want to meet as humans and have a conversation." Maria highlights how our society has embraced the debate model of conversation, where one perspective must win over others. This approach, while potentially useful in controlled settings like scientific research, creates significant problems in human interactions. When operating in debate mode, we're focused on overpowering others or protecting ourselves from humiliation rather than genuinely connecting. The dialogue roadmap that Maria developed offers an alternative to this debate model. It allows people to express themselves fully – to "empty out" everything they're carrying, even if it doesn't initially make coherent sense. This process helps people make sense of their experiences and move toward authentic dialogue rather than competitive debate. NVC in Organizations: Addressing Collective Needs "Needs are getting ignored in most organizations... it's not that we have shared needs and we debate about the strategies for getting those needs met." Bob Marshall, an organizational psychotherapist, explains how NVC principles can transform workplace dynamics. He observes that many organizations operate through "fear, obligation, guilt, and shame" – what he calls "the four horsemen of the work apocalypse." These mechanisms are used to control behavior but create toxic environments that diminish both productivity and well-being. By applying NVC in organizational settings, Bob helps collective entities recognize and address their needs. Many companies are unaware of their collective needs, and some cultures even shame people for acknowledging needs exist. Helping organizations understand their shared needs creates a foundation for healthier, more productive workplaces where people can thrive rather than merely survive. In this segment, we refer to an episode with Michelle Pauk, where we explore the lessons from Foucault's Book Discipline and Punish, and to Manfred Max-Neef, a Chilean economist. The Connection Before Correction Principle "One of the most wonderful things is connection before correction." Maria emphasizes the importance of building relationships before attempting to change behaviors or address problems. She suggests that our fast-paced world has created a situation where our emotional processing cannot keep up with the speed of our actions and decisions. We've become skilled at multitasking and meeting deadlines but haven't paid adequate attention to our emotional needs. The result is that many people are emotionally "backed up" or "constipated" – unable to process their feelings in healthy ways. Maria's work involves slowing things down to create space for authentic connection and emotional integration. This approach doesn't sacrifice efficiency – as she notes, "We get more done with less resource once we've been through the tunnel." Learning Directly from Marshall Rosenberg "Marshall Rosenberg said, 'The people that are going to take this forward will have the right balance of compassionate understanding and political savvy.' And I just went, 'That's me.'" Maria shares her personal journey with NVC, beginning with a chance encounter at her son's school that led her to attend a presentation by Marshall Rosenberg. She was immediately captivated by his approach, which answered questions she had been unable to resolve through other therapies and educational frameworks. Her pivotal experience came in 2005 when she joined Rosenberg and others for a 15-day intensive in Switzerland focused on social change. This immersive experience transformed her understanding of communication and human connection. When she asked Rosenberg who would carry his work forward, his answer about needing both "compassionate understanding and political savvy" resonated deeply with her, setting her on a path to develop her own applications of NVC principles. In this segment, we refer to the book The Surprising Purpose of Anger by Marshall Rosenberg. About Maria Arpa and Bob Marshall Maria Arpa is a facilitator, mediator, and trainer who describes her work as "walking towards conflict with love." She developed the Dialogue Road Map, a framework that builds on NVC principles to guide people out of debate-style conversations into authentic dialogue. Maria studied directly under Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and has applied NVC in various challenging contexts, including working with gang violence and facilitating dialogue between concentration camp survivors and a business that had purchased a former concentration camp site. You can link with Maria Arpa on LinkedIn and follow Maria's work on her website. Bob Marshall is an organizational psychotherapist who works with the collective psyche of organizations. He has been studying and practicing NVC for over 15 years, incorporating it into his work helping organizations understand and meet their collective needs. Bob believes in creating more joyful work environments and has dedicated his career to helping people have more pleasant experiences in the workplace. Bob Marshall is the author of several books on organizational psychotherapy. You can link with Bob Marshall on LinkedIn and follow Bob Marshall's blog.

Did you know that until you are truly compassionate to yourself, you can’t be compassionate to any other person?In Episode #192 of The Gathering Room, I’m talking about building compassionate communities—and how a safe, loving, mutually supportive community is probably the most important thing we can ever have, especially during chaotic times.I’ve been reading my way through all the skills that make you a good community creator, and one of my favorites is the book Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, who talks about creating community by first becoming your own good company. We have such an individualistic, fragmenting society where we’re always pitted against each other in competition, but we long to experience moments of beautiful company where everyone feels lifted by everyone else. This kind of community is a basic human need.Marshall Rosenberg says that everything we do is trying to meet our basic needs, and we go off course by trying to meet our needs with things that don’t work. He describes bringing ourselves into that sense of loving community by following a few basic steps: * Identify any “mistakes” or behaviors you’re upset with yourself about.* Notice any shaming language you use around those behaviors (words like “should”). * Understand the need you were trying to meet with those behaviors.* Allow yourself to mourn the fact that what you tried didn’t work.Then, if you can empathize with the part of yourself that was trying to get a need met in an ill-advised way, there’s a kind of embrace that happens automatically—and in that embrace is forgiveness. That’s when, within yourself, you have all of your parts, including what I call the “compassionate witness.” There are all the parts who’ve been trying so hard, and everyone is empathizing with everyone else. There is mutual forgiveness for everything you ever thought you did wrong, and no one is being blamed. That’s the way into being your own best company. And from there on, Marshall Rosenberg tells us, everything is play.To find out more about forgiving yourself, becoming your own best company, and creating supportive, compassionate communities, tune in for the full episode. I’ll also guide you through my Space, Silence, and Stillness meditation with a special focus on bringing your inner collective into loving harmony. Join me! CONNECT WITH US Follow Martha on Instagram The Gathering Room Show Notes Join Martha for a Live Episode of The Gathering Room via Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.