Fire and Earth Podcast

Much of what the world teaches about the roles in relationships is twisted and doesn't account for the divine feminine and masculine. We all have feminine and masculine characteristics and when these energies are balanced in an any relationship it can flourish. So many relationships issues are a result of the yin / yang energy not flowing as divinely appointed. In this #podcast episode we discuss how embracing the divine masculine can improve your relationship and how it may look different than you first expect. Every relationship is different, so to the outside world it may break the social norms, but what's important is that it works for you and your partner. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth299/

Much of what the world teaches about the roles in relationships is twisted and doesn't account for the divine feminine and masculine. We all have feminine and masculine characteristics and when these energies are balanced in an any relationship it can flourish. So many relationships issues are a result of the yin / yang energy not flowing as divinely appointed. In this #podcast episode we discuss how embracing the divine feminine can improve your relationship and how it may look different than you first expect. Every relationship is different, so to the outside world it may break the social norms, but what's important is that it works for you and your partner. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth298/

“Every time you victimized someone,” I said, “you were victimizing yourself. Every act of kindness you've done, you've done to yourself. Every happy and sad moment ever experienced by any human was, or will be, experienced by you.” - excerpt from "The Egg" by Andy Weir In this #podcast episode we discuss the concepts discussed in "The Egg." Our connected-ness, our evolvement and incarnations and the real purpose of life shared in this powerful short story. We provide our perspectives, what stands out to us, and how we can start living a life of potential of the egg. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth297/

If you were a FedEx driver to your customers or clients, what are you really delivering? In this episode we talk about what's really behind whatever we do to make a living, and what's behind how we really do everything in our life. What are you delivering? Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth296/

We all have a name, but what's really in a name? Hear about no-name-baby Mefford and things about our names. Is your name really who you are? What does your name mean, and what does that tell you about yourself? This an so much more in this episode. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth295/

Our emotions and moods are a lot like the weather. Some days it's sunny. Some days it's partly cloudy with a chance of precipitation. Some days it's thunder, lightning, and flash floods. In this episode we discuss ways to be more aware and prepare for what's likely to happen each day. That way you are prepared for whatever weather the wind may blow your way. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth294/

Are you dealing with a narcissist? In this episode we explain how to identify if you are dealing with someone who is a narcissist, ways to look for patterns, how to engage and set boundaries, and how to have compassion for yourself knowing it really is them, not you that is the problem. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth293/

Keeping things simple requires a lot less energy and effort. In this episode we discuss why most people prefer to make things complex, the traps in doing that, and how you can keep it simple. There is a lot of power in simple things. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth292/

Why do we resist change? Why don't we adapt as quickly as animals? In this episode we share stories to make a point and see how we can start adapting quickly, and see those opportunities when we need to adapt as the happy times when we are actually learning and growing. With the right perspective you will start to embrace the need to adapt and learn how to do faster and faster. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth291/

Do you have a job, career or calling in how you earn money? What are you most grateful for in your career? In this episode we share what we are grateful for and more important than "what" you do is "why" and "how" you do things. And... you probably won't guess what we are actually most grateful for, and our why and how, until you watch the episode. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth290/

In this episode we discuss Kathy's recent ketamine trip, how to prepare for a trip, integrating, and making sure one is safe during the process. Whether you choose to participate or not in entheogen use, the concept discussed are relevant for preparing and integrating any visionary quest or other experiences. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth289/

Home is never the same once you leave. Either you change, home changes or both change... and that is just part of the heroic journey. In this episode we discuss stories of our return home, what we learned, how to release past history and beliefs you are holding onto about your past, and how to heal. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth288/

How long does it take you to make a decision? Are you stuck where you are or settling for good, when you could have great if you made a different decision? Life is choice and in this episode we discuss some ways to make quicker decisions that are more in line with your higher self and avoiding decision fatigue. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth279/

Joys and miracles happen every single day. Do you recognize when they are happening or are you focused more on the negative things? What if you started placing more awareness and attention on the little miracles and joys in your life? What if you started spending more time in the present moment enJOYing? In this episode we discuss how we are spending more time enjoying and how you can too! Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth286/

Most spend a lot of time "shoulding" on themselves and others. Do you use the word "should" and do you realize how often you say it? There is a lot of judgement and control in should. In this episode we dig into the reasons why we use the word should, why others may be using should, understanding the deeper intention and reason why we are using the word, and ways to start replacing it with higher and better words that will strengthen our relationships and help us uncover shadows and ways we can know our self better and improve. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth279/

Do you try to control everything and rarely ask for help? It can be exhausting and use a lot of energy. In this episode we share some ways we have recently given up control, and how relinquishing control can make you lighter and happier, as if someone just removed a great weight off your back. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth278/

Are you hesitating in your life? Is there a big or small decision you need to make, but just feel stuck in freeze mode? In this episode we discuss reasons why we hesitate and how to determine whether to make a choice and move on, or take a little time. We share how you can make little changes in your life that will help you avoid most of the pain and suffering we feel when we are hesitant to make a decision. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth283/

Are heated toilet seats, comfortable underwear, boots or clothing indulgences? In this episode we discuss what at first may seem to be indulgences, but are actually a way to show yourself love and put you in the right frame of mind and emotion. What are your indulgences and can you show yourself more love by having more simple, quality things and experiences in your life? Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth282/

What if you could start each day with a blank sheet of paper and write the story you want in your life? Would you write the same thing as yesterday? Would you make different choices? In this episode we discuss big and small changes in life that give us the opportunity to write the story we want to live. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth281/

Getting out of your comfort zone isn't just about doing adrenaline rush activities like sky diving, trapeze, or scuba diving, but can also be little things you choose to do differently each day. In this episode we discuss why getting out of your comfort zone is so important to your growth, and some simple, practical ways you can do it starting today. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth280/

How long does it take you to make a decision? Are you stuck where you are or settling for good, when you could have great if you made a different decision? Life is choice and in this episode we discuss some ways to make quicker decisions that are more in line with your higher self and avoiding decision fatigue. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth279/

Do you try to control everything and rarely ask for help? It can be exhausting and use a lot of energy. In this episode we share some ways we have recently given up control, and how relinquishing control can make you lighter and happier, as if someone just removed a great weight off your back. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth278/

There are lots of traditions and expectations around the holidays, and there are lots of traditions and expectations in our daily lives you've been indoctrinated to believe. Do these traditions still serve you? Would you like to start new traditions? In this episode we discuss the importance and unimportance of different traditions so you can decide for yourself what traditions and whether you will allow the expectations of others to rule what you do, or if you will take control of your life and create the dream you want to live. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth266/

Most people understand the importance of taking time for oneself, but most don't thinking it will take hours out of their day that they don't have. But what if you can take time for yourself while doing other tasks, or in ways that only take a few seconds or a few minutes? In this episode we discuss some practical ways you can start taking time for yourself each day and recharge your battery so you can live your best life. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth265/

Would you change one thing in your life, or take $1 million dollars? Do you love who you are becoming? In this episode we discuss how we are loving the people we are becoming and some of the changes we both have made in the last five years as we have done the Fire and Earth podcast. Can you love who you are, and who you are becoming? Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth264/

Is something holding you back from having what you really want? It may even be a secondary gain that you are not consciously aware of that is making it hard to change. In this episode we discuss some of the most common excuses people make for not improving their life and how to overcome them. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth263/

Most people have a poor relationship with money. It is often one the greatest stresses and obsessions. How can we think about money differently is valuing what we are worth? How can we do business differently? What's the difference between being rich and wealthy? This an so much more in this #podcast episode on #money. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth273/

Consciously we may think we are a whole human, but we are actually made up of smaller parts physically, emotionally, and spiritually. How would your life change if you started seeing and appreciating the different parts of you? In this episode we discuss how to start perceiving differently and take care of the needs your smaller parts have of love and acceptance. What about the butt you are probably sitting on right now? What about your back or feet? What about the 5 year little boy or girl in you? Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth272/

The words we use carry an energy and meaning, and sometimes the same word means very different things to different people in different circumstances. In this #podcast episode we discuss how some generic words like happy, angry, why, and sorry are so limiting and can be misunderstood easily by others, leading to communication breakdowns. We can use better words to be more specific that carry a better energy and are closer to what we are actually thinking or feeling. What do you mean by that? Can you say that a different way? Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth271/

Have you ever watched ducks fight and then shake their feathers? Have you ever watched a dog shakes themselves? Wonder why? In this episode we discuss how we can literally shake off things just like the animals, and avoid the risk of experiences and situations getting stuck in our bodies. Taking cues from the animals is good medicine for our bodies, spirits, and souls. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth270/

Contrary to popular belief, the law of manifestation isn't about day dreaming on the couch and walking out to see a new Lamborghini on your driveway. Learn how you can actually attract wealth and abundance (and yes they are both every different things) and increase your overall sense of well-being each and every day. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth269/

What's on your desk and why? Tune in to see what rosemary, a terracotta pig, a tree of life coin, an owl picture, an Incan cardinal image and rose oil are doing on our desks in another "What's on Your Desk" episode. We start the discussion and follow the rabbit hole on where the discussion takes us. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth268/

Can you take a few minutes each day to incorporate self care, even while you are doing something else? Absolutely! We discuss how you can find self care practices that work for you and share some examples like a hand massager, audio books, and breathing are simple examples that can make a big difference to your day. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth267/

There are lots of traditions and expectations around the holidays, and there are lots of traditions and expectations in our daily lives you've been indoctrinated to believe. Do these traditions still serve you? Would you like to start new traditions? In this episode we discuss the importance and unimportance of different traditions so you can decide for yourself what traditions and whether you will allow the expectations of others to rule what you do, or if you will take control of your life and create the dream you want to live. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth266/

Most people understand the importance of taking time for oneself, but most don't thinking it will take hours out of their day that they don't have. But what if you can take time for yourself while doing other tasks, or in ways that only take a few seconds or a few minutes? In this episode we discuss some practical ways you can start taking time for yourself each day and recharge your battery so you can live your best life. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth265/

Would you change one thing in your life, or take $1 million dollars? Do you love who you are becoming? In this episode we discuss how we are loving the people we are becoming and some of the changes we both have made in the last five years as we have done the Fire and Earth podcast. Can you love who you are, and who you are becoming? Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth264/

Is something holding you back from having what you really want? It may even be a secondary gain that you are not consciously aware of that is making it hard to change. In this episode we discuss some of the most common excuses people make for not improving their life and how to overcome them. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth263/

You are probably grateful to have a roof over your head, but how do you express it? There are several ways to express gratitude that we discuss in this episode, and some of them you probably never even considered... and we aren't just talking about houses. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth262/

You probably think you are protecting kids and adults when you don't share certain information or make choices for them, but what if you are actually hurting them and just delaying the inevitable. It's much easier to control the narrative than have the narrative control you when things come out anyway. And what if your protection is actually taking away others free will? This and so much more in this episode. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth261/

Once you know, you cannot un-know what you have seen or experienced. You are forever changed. In this episode Kathy shares what she learned from one of her psychedelic journeys and how we are all dying a little each day and becoming new as we experience and shed our old self. Actually dying a little every day is the only way we can become a new person. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth260/

How much progress are you making each day? Probably a lot more than you give yourself credit for. In this episode we discuss changes and how to assess your progress including comparing yourself, reference points, celebrating wins, and so much more... Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth259/

Are you interested in psychedelics and plant medicine, but don't know how to get started or know if it's right for you? In this episode we discuss some of the basics around intention, self or guided journeys, sitters, guides, integration, and what you should know and be aware of if you want this experience. You get the trip you need, not the one you want, and your life won't be the same after the experience so it's best to know what you are doing. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth258/

What makes you unique may also make you very special. In this episode we discuss a unique quality each of us have, how we use it, why we love it, and how the world benefits from everyone's unique gifts and helps us connect and serve others. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth257/

Has anyone ever done a kind things for you? How did you feel? Have you ever done a king thing for someone else? How did you feel? In this episode we dig into ways you can show kindness and literally change the course of human events by doing small acts of kindness that only take a few seconds. Those acts come back over an over again and make you and others feel better. And as an extra bonus, in this episode you will get to see both Kathy and Jason cry a little as they share some of their own personal experiences. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth251/

Do you ever make assumptions when you make decisions? Whether you realize it or not, you make lots of assumptions and those assumptions hurt you and hurt your relationships. In this episode we discuss how sometimes having the awkward or uncomfortable discussions, giving people an option to serve and work through things with you, and having more open and honest communications can really deepen your relationships and make you feel happy. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth250/

When we make assumptions, we usually suffer twice... and the suffering in anticipation, anxiety, or fear of what may happen is usually much worse than the event itself. In this episode we discuss getting rid of assumptions so you can get on with your life. Listen in at:  http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth248/

Do you feel weighed down because you haven't forgiven someone? Are you holding a grudge because of something someone else did to you? Have you actually forgiven yourself? In this episode we talk about forgiving yourself and others so you can get back to a place of self and lighten burdens you may still be carrying around. You can't fly if you are heavy, and forgiveness is really for YOU and not the other person. Listen in at:  http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth247/

Have you ever received great inspiration in odd places: the shower, the toilet, the beach? In this episode we discuss where we have received some of our best ideas and why allowing, surrendering and asking the right questions and then letting the universe work its magic is usually the way to receive your greatest downloads. Listen in at:  http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth241/

Has anyone ever done a kind things for you? How did you feel? Have you ever done a king thing for someone else? How did you feel? In this episode we dig into ways you can show kindness and literally change the course of human events by doing small acts of kindness that only take a few seconds. Those acts come back over an over again and make you and others feel better. And as an extra bonus, in this episode you will get to see both Kathy and Jason cry a little as they share some of their own personal experiences. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth251/

Do you ever make assumptions when you make decisions? Whether you realize it or not, you make lots of assumptions and those assumptions hurt you and hurt your relationships. In this episode we discuss how sometimes having the awkward or uncomfortable discussions, giving people an option to serve and work through things with you, and having more open and honest communications can really deepen your relationships and make you feel happy. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth250/

Can you accept what is, and be present in the moment? Are you judging and calling things good or bad, instead of saying "we'll see?" "When people see things as beautiful, other things become ugly. When people see some things as good, other things become bad." Lao Tzu. Can you withhold judgement and be grateful for the unanswered prayers and choices you've made that have gotten you to where you are today. Maybe that broken leg, bad relationship, person you never got to date, etc... was a necessary part of you becoming who you are today. Listen in at: http://www.jasonmefford.com/fireandearth232/