Heart & Soul

It's the end of the year. In a rare moment, Mistress Alisa decides to become a bit more personal about her own journey, in an attempt to help listeners embrace life, as opposed to being stuck in the past. One of the biggest struggles for sex addicts is running from the things that haunt them. Mistress Alisa talks about making choices that present more opportunities to live life to the fullest and that increases one's chances of finding true fulfillment.

Mistress Alisa talks to sex addicts about the difference between wanting change in their lives and wanting to actually do the work to affect change in their lives. This is more real talk for those who are on the journey to sex addiction recovery. If you feel stuck on your journey, then this might be just the message that you need to hear.

Mistress Alisa challenges a deceptive mindset that prevents many men from embracing a healthy way of life that could ultimately lead to better relationships and significantly better sex lives. Listen up, guys!If you find yourself constantly in trouble, constantly behaving in an inappropriate manner (and trying to cover those things up), constantly doing things that have an immediate payoff, but that do not offer much fulfillment in the long-run, this episode is for you.

NOTE: This episode is not for the faint of heart. Mistress Alisa digs deep and issues a heart-felt warning to those who make light of sex addiction. After years of having clients and potential clients play games with their lives, Mistress Alisa has decided to shine a light on the issue, in hopes that this important message will help someone who needs to hear it. Again, the overall tone of this episode is considerably heavier than what most listeners may be accustomed to.

Mistress gives the listener deeper insights into the inner workings of a true Domme. This segment will help other Dommes to understand their own true potential within the context of D/s, while simultaneously a helping submissive men to better understand their own value as the goodboy who serves. No games. No gimmicks. Just pure heart and soul.

In part two of this 2-part series, Mistress Alisa builds on part one and moves forward with teaching men how to take the next step in achieving a more gratifying sex life with their partners. This segment contains graphic adult content and is not appropriate for those under the age of 21.

In part one of this 2-part series, Mistress Alisa teaches men how to understand the needs of their female partners. The overall goal is to help men have better sex lives with their partners. However, the way to that goal is through connecting on a deeper level with one's female partner, first.

Mistress Alisa gives an overview of what it looks like for a submissive man to follow a Dominant Female, in a healthy, loving, and productive relationship.

Mistress Alisa revisits a familiar topic and helps listeners to push ahead with clarity and focus. She speaks directly into the life of the listener on sensitive topics and helps them to identify areas in their lives that may be holding them back. If you are tired of being stuck, and you are ready for change, this podcast is for you!

Mistress Alisa addresses the ramifications of men embracing "the victim card" in order to avoid accepting responsibility for their own actions. She talks about what playing the victim card looks like and how doing so can negatively impact one's life and relationships.

This segment addresses the ways in which dominant women can learn to bring out the best in their submissive men. When a balance is reached in the relationship, it becomes extremely gratifying and fulfilling.

In one of the sex addiction support groups that I belong to, a man posted, seeking support and accountability for the situation that he found himself. He had been struggling with an addiction of a sexual nature, which had played a role in the demise of his first marriage, and which was playing a role in creating problems in his second marriage. It became a relatively popular post, especially since there were so many that could relate to the details of his story. Having helped my clients to work through similar issues, I shared some general advice with him.

Once all of the clutter has been stripped away, you are left with that which is yours. You will be much closer to your truth when the distractions have been removed from your space. This is the ultimate goal. It is for you to live your truth. Not anyone else’s, but your own. Accomplishing this level of living is more valuable than gold.

How do you get to the point of living the life you want to live? It doesn't happen by mistake. Some people stumble into success, but no one ever finds themselves living an amazing life simply by chance. In order to get to the point that you are living your best life possible, you have to wake up. You must realize that some of the choices that you have been making aren't working for you. Then, you have to be willing to actually do something about your situation.

The dash represents the life actually lived. It represents the hopes and dreams, the love, the tears, the laughter. It also represents the disappointments, the despair, those times when the individual was absolutely shaken to his core, those times when the individual experienced the most glorious moments of his life. The dash represents that which is real and lasting. It represents legacy. And, in the midst of all of the hustle and bustle, the dash represents how the individual’s life was intertwined with, and made an impact on, so many other people’s lives, as well.Live your life. Leave your mark. Make sure that your dash counts!For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

Addiction, in any form, is a parasite. The thing to remember about a parasite is that it is never finished with its host. Ever. As long as that host is able to sustain life for itself, while also sustaining life for the parasite, the parasite will continue using the host. The parasite’s work is only done when the host is dead. It is only at that time that the parasite stops its destructive work.The good news is that it is possible to break free from sexual addiction. The breakthrough for my clients always happens when they are focused on being committed to their journey. It is in the journey that the healing takes place. It is in the journey that wholeness replaces brokenness, and the addict becomes victorious.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

One of the most common reasons that sex addicts find themselves on the losing side of their battle with sex addiction is because they no longer acknowledge that things can get better. Hope is powerful because it helps a person to endure the more challenging parts of their journey. It helps the individual to not give up. For, giving up is like embracing death. Hope infuses us with strength.It can be like a beacon in the black of night. You may not know where you are going, exactly, or how you are going to get there, but you just keep heading for the light.Read the full article on AlisaCoaches.com.

Men cheat for many reasons. Actually, both men and women cheat for many reasons. However, Mistress Alisa's speciality is in working with men. And, in this program, she takes a direct approacch to addressing many of the issues that men face while trying to heal broken relationships, due to infidelity.The steps provided in this segment are sure to yield results for those who follow the advice. Though the work will not be easy, it will absolutely be worth the effort for most men who chose to follow these steps. Let the work begin!For more information: www.AlisaCoaches.com

What goes on in the mind of a submissive male? Mistress Alisa is the "submissive whisperer" and She can crack the code. In this podcast, She points out 5 struggles that submissive men face in the lifestyle and in life, in general. She gives tips for working through these challenges and for coming out on the other side of them. This podcast is also great for women who may see that their male partners are struggling, but they do not seem to be able to put their finger on what the problem could be. This is a must-listen for submissive men in the lifestyle, as well as for women with less alpha partners.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

Young men are being attracted to the lure of addiction at younger and younger ages these days. The impact that can have on a 20-year-old is massive. By the time the young man understands that he is addicted, every aspect of his life has been impacted by his obsession with p--o--r--nography. Mistress Alisa weighs-in on the issue.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

When you know your truth and you live it, then nothing and no one can stand in your way. On the journey to wholeness and healing, many who seek recovery find themselves stuck in a rutt because they live their lives like victims. They have given their power and have therefore relinquished their own ability to be strong for themselves. Thinking like a victim and acting like a victim suck the very joy out of life.If you want to live a life that is free and beautiful, one that represents that self that you have always wanted to live, then accept responsibility for your role in the way that your life is now, and make a decision about the changes that you want to make in your life. Then start taking the steps to make those changes.It is not an easy road, but it is one that is doable.However, victims never take this journey. They sit on the side of the road sulking and complaining about what they do not have. But, you are not a victim. So, it is time to stand up and to start owning your journey.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

On a daily basis, sex addicts face extremely negative feelings like: judgment, guilt, shame, embarrassment, self-doubt, and even self-hatred. They wonder how to break free from addiction in order to be the people they have always wanted to be, and in order to live the lives that they have always wanted to live. When faced with all the unhealthy behaviors that they seem absolutely obsessed with, it can be overwhelming to even think about how it could be possible to live a full and rewarding life. It can also be quite challenging for the addict to even feel deserving of such a life.Mistress Alisa to the rescue!Not only is the sex addict worthy of living a beautiful life, but he is also capable of doing so. If you struggle with addiction, or have ever done so, this segment is for you.Be warned, though. This segment is straight-forward and hard-hitting. It is NOT for the weak of heart. This segment is for the individual who is ready to do the hard work that it takes to break free from addictive cycles.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

Mistress Alisa receives several messages of inquiry from men who identify as Dominant. In this segment, she explains why she has, thus far, refused to work with such individuals. This is the story of Mistress Alisa and the "dominant" male who inspired this segment. It is also an invitation for any truly Dominant males in the lifestyle to reach out to Mistress Alisa. She would love to hear from you!For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

This podcast was inspired by yet another real-life situation. Mistress Alisa talks about the patterns that a specific client has found himself in for over 2 decades. She uses this case study to help shine a light on the decisions and behaviors that keep people going in cycles that they claim they want to break out of. If you find yourself in the midst of tumultuous relationship cycles, there is going to be a common denominator: you. Mistress Alisa helps talks about breaking dysfunctional cycles so that you can live the life that you want for yourself.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

In this segment, Mistress Alisa helps addicts to understand what to expect from counselors, as well as what addicts need to be able to expect from themselves. Addicts are required to work for their own freedom. The truth is that no one can "fix" you. This is your journey and others can support you, at best. But there is no one who can "fix" you or take all of your problems away. Consider the amount of time that you invested in getting yourself into a precarious situation. Now, expect to have to work even harder to get yourself out of that same situation. No one can fix or heal an addict. That responsibility is his own. The best anyone else can do is support the addict; hold him accountable; hold up the mirror; require honest interactions. But the fixing - or the healing - of the addict is up to the addict, himself.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

Secrets have consistently been one of the biggest issues that keep My clients from walking in freedom and from walking in their truth. Secrets, lies, manipulations, deceptions. They all belong to the same family of untruths. We are more aware of direct deceptions, however, and not as much attention is placed on the dangers of keepingsecrets. How to reveal your secrets, when to reveeal your secrets, and to whom your secrets should be revealed. I discuss these issues while also impressing upon the listener how important it is for addicts to not keep secrets.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

There are so many definitions of what a Dominatrix is and is not. Mistress Alisa challenges the status quo and introduces personal insights into what a healthy version of a Domme looks like. Mistress Alisa has made a name for herself in BDSM as a Dominatrix who helps Her clients to peace in the lifestyle. Her clients embrace and live their personal truths. Being a Dominatrix does not give one a license to be an immoral person. Being a Dominatrix is an honor and it requires a great deal of responsibility.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

The importance of "letting go" cannot be underestimated - both in life and in BDSM. Mistress Alisa explains what it means to let go, and for the first time She publicly recounts a precautionary tale of what happened when She was in a relationship with a wolf in sub's clothing. She explains how in letting go, She was able to find Her truth and move deeper into Her own destiny - which just happened to include creating her own brand of BDSM. Mistress Alisa warns that if you are so preoccupied with running and/or holding onto things from the past that you are not able to live your truth, and you are absolutely creating problems and not solutions for yourself. This will be an important message for those who find themselves stuck. If you would like to move forward, once and for all, then learning to let go is paramount.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

I received an email request today. On the surface, the message may seem simplistic in nature, but underneath the surface, the message is full of complexity. In this podcast, I delve into an answer that will shed light on what it takes to start to work one's way out of sexual addiction.The original email message:"Hello Mistress, I am a married man who seems to have a growing interest in blackmail. I started off just reading stories and then went to having cam sessions but not showing myself. Now I am on cam and have actually showed my face a few times but believe I have not gave out pertinent information. I'm afraid I am going to cross the line and regret my actions. No matter how hard I seem to try I can't seem to stay away." -xxFor more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

One of the most important things for a sex addict to be able to do is to identify when the voice of his addiction is speaking, as opposed to the voice of his truth. Determining which voice is speaking is a game-changer in the life of an addict. In this scenario the addict becomes accountable and he becomes empowered. Which voice does he want to listen to? Will he feed his destiny or his addiction? What is he missing? Where does he hurt? What is he afraid of? What kind of help does he need. Realizing that there are two voices fighting for the ear of the addict empowers the individual (the addict). He is much more likely to become enlightened about his own journey and to make healthier life decisions.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com 

Sex addicts as well as those who love them are oftentimes overwhelmed by the challenges that face addicts on the journey to recovery. It can be difficult to know what is going on in the mind of a sex addict, especially when he has become so accustomed to checking out mentally and emotionally that he, himself, is not fully aware of where he is on his journey. Understanding what to expect as an addict can go a long way to helping you to be better prepared for the journey ahead. What are the challenges that face you? How can you face these challenges and work through them more effectively? Mistress Alisa is here to help answer these questions.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

If you struggle with , sex, or masturbation addictions, you may have considered getting counseling. This podcast will help you to know if you are, in fact, ready for that counseling. What does it take to receive support for addictions of a sexual nature? What frame of mind should one be in to receive said support? Though an unlicensed professional, Mistress Alisa is a leading expert in the field of BDSM Counseling. For those who are interested in seeking support for addictions of a sexual nature, this is what she has to say on the subject.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

Men seek assistance for sexual addiction everyday. They want to understand how they became addicted. They want to know if they can be helped, and if so, how? I received a question today that moved Me. After answering the individual's question, I decided to turn our interraction into a podcast. I hope that this will help someone.  The question:"Hello mistress Alisa, I am a married man who fantasies about this lifestyle. I cannot get it out of my head and it has been affecting my sex life. Saw your page and I'd thought maybe you could offer a little bit of advice. Thank you in advance ma'am." - xxFor more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

Have you ever thought about what constitutes a submissive male? Mistress Alisa reviews a couple of profiles of online submissive males. She points out the good and the bad of each profile, and gives Her opinion on why each selected individual is or is not a true submissive male (sub). Mistress Alisa also helps subs to understand what they may be doing incorrectly in their profiles and what may be preventing them from successfully connecting with true Dommes. Pay close attention and change your BDSM experience.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

This podcast is inspired by an instagram post that acknowledges the power of receiving a good orgasm, but that also places value in such things as receiving emotional support, and on receiving support for one's personal growth and development. Mistress Alisa talks about having a holistic approach to BDSM, when there is such an overwhelming focus on the act of "getting off." This podcast is for those who understand that there is so much more to the lifestyle.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

Do you know how to choose a good Dominatrix to serve? Mistress Alisa reviews a couple of profiles of online Dominatrices. She points out the good and the bad of each profile, and gives Her opinion on why each selected Domme is or is not a true Dominatrix. Mistress Alisa also helps subs to understand what to look for when they are looking for a true Domme to serve. Pay close attention and change your BDSM experience.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

Let's take a closer look at what BDSM Counseling is, what it is not, and why it exists. When I decided to transition from Dominatrix to kink-friendly counselor, I struggled with finding an effective way to describe to clients the service that I was offering. Finally, the term "BDSM Counseling" came to mind, and over the past few years it has stuck. In this podcast, I give a clear explanation of what this special service is all about.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

If the relationships in your life are bound by the glue of dysfunction, and you decide that you want to move out of the dysfunctional space, it is only a matter of time before the people in your life start to take notice. And chances are that the ones closest to you - you know, the ones that connected with you because of the dysfunction - are not going to like it. Here are some helpful insights.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

Holiday seasons are known for being joyous occasions, but they can be excruciatingly painful for individuals who find themselves isolated because of their past actions. And the same actions that led to isolation can, ironically, seem compelling to an individual who finds himself in the depths of despair. Add a holiday season to this mix and things can become even more challenging. This is a reminder to those who are on their journey, to keep their focus.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

During this brief podcast, Mistress Alisa issues a much-needed public service announcement to the BDSM community, and to those who may be interested in becoming involved. Drawing from a recent encounter with a potential submissive, Mistress Alisa briefly touches on the toxi situation that the client created and what her take on the situation was. The topic is: Professional Help.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

FrankS joins Mistress Alisa in an open talk about the implications of depression on sexual addiction. Tune in to hear this true submissive speak about finding himself obsessed with kink, and the methods that he is using to walk into a healthier space. Mentally, emotionally, physically, and sexually, he is healing and he has some insights to share that will absolutely help others on their journey. If you are struggling with sex, , or masturbation addiction, this is an interview that you need to hear.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

MarkX has been a BDSM Counseling client of Mistress Alisa's for close to a year and a half. Mistress Alisa and Mark begin this interview in the middle of a "heated" discussion in which Mark's ability to trust and to truly submit are called into question. Moving forward in the interview, Mark discusses the issues that he experienced with addiction and depression which lead him to contact Mistress Alisa, initially. This is a candid dialogue about the issues that commonly face sex, , and masturbation addicts. Listen to this interviewee tell his story of doing the emotional work necessary to regain control of his life. You will be inspired.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

In the world of addiction, the addict becomes so consumed with what he wants that, it is only after he gets what he wants and grows bored with it, that he even begins to consider what he actually needs. Addiction recovery has a lot to do with acknowledging what one actually needs and committing to those needs. Do you need for your penis to orgasm several times a day with strange women or do you need to save your marriage and commit to your children? Do you need to conquer the heart of "a 10" so that you can have the satisfaction of tossing her away like trash, or do you need to figure out what ails your aching soul so that you can live your life as a decent human being - one that you and your family can be proud of? When your penis speaks to you, the message is fleeting and the benefits are short-lived. When your truth is embraced, you find peace and fulfillment in life. Are you following the voice of "want" or "need"?For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

BrianR has been in submissive training with Mistress Alisa for just a little bit under a month. However, his progress has been impressive. So impressive, in fact, that Mistress Alisa decided to have him on the show to share intimate details about his journey, thus far. During this interview, Brian has been teased and denied, on and off, over the course of the past seven days. Mid-way through the interview, Brian was also subjected to another tease and denial session (off the air), before being required to complete the interview. Listen and be amused with this little submissive. You will see evidence of how well he has been trained in just a matter of weeks. (Note: Brian's voice has been altered in order to maintain his anonymity.)For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

Men have conversations with their penises all the time, but most of the time they have no idea what they are even doing. And because they are unaware of the fact that there is, in fact, an on-going dialogue going on with their penises, they would be surprised to find out that a great deal of the conversation is one-sided. The dick tells them what they need, what they need to do, how to fill the aching within, etc., and the man simply complies. With very little resistance at all, he often-times will just go along with what his cock is saying and only deal with the consequences - or the TRUTH of what he has done - afterwards.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

In her very first "story time segment," Mistress Alisa shares details of how one of her clients threw away months of hard work, all because he assigned too high of a value to a blowjob. Learning to create a safe place in which you and your partner are able to flourish together is tricky enough as it is. But when one's sexual mindset has been conditioned by years and years of extreme kink, desensitization to the needs of one's partner is bound to become a real issue. Here is "Steve's" story.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

SamS has been on a year-long BDSM journey with Mistress Alisa - a journey in which She is the Dominant female who directs his path and one in which he is the submissive male who learns to submit. He opens up about the ups and downs of his relationship with Her during that time. Sam speaks frankly about his feelings and the lessons that he has learned. He also shares some of the mistakes that he has made along the way. This is a very open conversation about matters of a sexual nature and will not be appropriate for those who are opposed to such topics. (Note: Sam's voice has been distorted in order to maintain his anonymity.)For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

The BDSM lifestyle can be quite compelling, and yet it can also be pretty intimidating. It can be harmful and yet it can be fulfilling. It can stunt one's emotional and sexual self, and yet it can free those very same parts of a person.Mistress Alisa gives an overview of 5 things to do before becoming involved in the lifestyle. Whether you are interested in becoming involved in the lifestyle or are already an active member, this list will empower you to be pro-active in making choices that will lead to a more fulfilling experience. So, do yourself a favor - before your first session, or before your next session, take a few minutes and listen to this podcast.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

Mistress Alisa explores the differences between submission and co-dependency. It is not uncommon in the BDSM lifestyle to run across individuals who try to sell co-dependency as submission. It is a problematic practice, at least. And, in most extreme cases, it can actually be dangerous. In this episode of Heart and Soul, she offers sound advice to, both, submissives and Dominants about the perils of co-dependency within the context of BDSM.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

Mistress Alisa, a professional Dominatrix and BDSM Counselor comes to the rescue. This is an introduction to the radio show that will answer your burning questions about BDSM, and revolutionize the way that people see BDSM, addiction, and relationships.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com

In the face of seeing an increase in the number of religious leaders battling with sex, , and masturbation addictions, Alisa has decided that it is time to speak up on the issue. She touches on the trends of hiding behind religious rituals and titles, of doing the right things for the wrong reasons, and of investing more heavily in creating the appearance of holiness than in actually committing to living what one teaches. This is a wake-up call for religious leaders.For more information, visit: http://www.AlisaCoaches.com