Janny Juddly, The Therapist in my Pocket's Podcast

We don't like feelings very much, do we? At least, not the unpleasan  ones. We fight and resist them, or try to deny or numbing them.And that puts us into a state of high alert, takes us into fight or flight, and creates the sensations and reactions in our body we have learned to dread.However, there's another way. One that's more helpful, and so much healthier.We can learn to sit with our feelings until they teach us what we need to understand. We can be with them until their message and wisdom makes itself known.This takes us through a process that will ultimately bring a sense of peace and calm, the ability to reflect and find both clarity and a way forward.Janny explains.

Pain hurts. Especially inflicted on us by those we believe should love us. How do you forgive that? The pain is endless.Not forgiving also hurts. The pain of holding on to hurt is also endless . And has nowhere to go.Janny answers a question about how to forgive a mother who abandoned her child. In the process, she shares insights into forgiveness in general - what it is, what it isn't , how the process works, and why it's worth it.

How can we let things go? Move on? When we find our self replaying what happened in our head, over and over again? When the sense of injustice and unfairness wakes us up in the night and gives us no peace?How do we stop telling the same old story, and find a way to tell a new one?How do we reclaim our life? Break free?Janny shares some wisdom and insights about what we need to change if we are to heal.

So many of us struggle to manage the thoughts that rush through our head, frenetically pulling us first in one direction, then another. Never allowing us to switch off, to be still, to find some peace.We try to control our thoughts by going into battle with them. Telling them they're silly, ridiculous. Reprimanding ourselves for indulging such thoughts, reproaching ourselves for thinking such crazy things, knowing they're exaggerated or not true.Where are we going wrong? Janny uses the analogy of a kite to help us to understand how to see it all quite differently, to fly the kite rather than being the kite. And shows us how this can give us the peace we're searching for.

How bewildering it is when we gradually realise that others don't want to spend time with us. The hurt, the shame, the resentment feels so hard. Why, we ask our self? What am I doing wrong? I do everything I can to fit in, and to make people like me. How come I'm not good enough?In this  episode of "DEAR THERAPIST IN MY POCKET",   Janny responds with some thoughts that might seem surprising, and offers some possibilities of how to do it differently.

The pain of feeling empty, endlessly needy, and that there is no hope or help is one of the bleakest human experiences any of us can have.Nothing reaches us, and we find we are unable to hold on to anything good. What we have lived and felt has become who we believe ourself to be, and we have no idea how to break out of the cycle of the story we believe defines us.In this episode of "DEAR THERAPIST IN MY POCKET" Janny responds to a message from someone for whom this is a daily reality, and helps to unpick the assumptions and perceptions that keep us locked into the belief that nothing can ever change.

UNCERTAINTY! How many of us fear it! We want to know what's going to happen. Not knowing can feel terrifying, as we play each out imagined outcome in our mind, as our heart pounds and our ability to think rationally or to calm ourselves dissolves into thin air!And the times we live in, with so much extra to worry about, and to try to keep ourselves and our lived ones safe, make things even harder!So this session of "Dear Therapist in my Pocket" is going to address this. We'll unpick the fear and dread, rationalise and make sense of 'out of control', and look at some techniques that will help.All will be well, because it has always been well. Let's do this!

Things feel personal, don't they? People make us feel hurt. Or angry. Or humiliated. Or silly.Or do they? Is it really that other people or situations make us feel these things, or are they simply catalysts that trigger old experiences for us to relive them and work them out?Janny talks about 'The Set Up' and how our early experiences set us off on a human journey of working out and resolving them. She explains how this knowledge allows us to walk through our life differently, noticing the way that we all play important roles in each other's stories.And how this evolving wisdom leads us back to a spiritual awareness of our Oneness and interconnection and to remember who we really are.

We talk and read so much about manifesting what we want. So much is spoken about how to make The Universe produce what we hope and long for.But how does it all work? What - if any - is our part in the process? What are the necessary ingredients? What parts might we have misunderstood?Janny talks about these questions and more, focusding on our place in this conscious Universe as co-creators with All That Is, ever has been and ever will be.

THIS SHOULDN'T BE HAPPENING! - or should it? A different perspective on pain, the challenges of life, and how we can most helpfully respond rather than react.Janny receives a "Dear Therapist in my Pocket" message: 'How do I stop being pulled into everyone else's drama, stop absorbing everyone else's feelings...?'How often do we hear of something happening to someone else, see something on the TV, or hear something on the radio, and immediately feel flooded with fear or panic as we imagine what that must be like?Jumping into the other person's  shoes, and experiencing everything AS IF it's happening to US causes us so much pain and so many sleepless nights. Janny offers a different perspective, one that empowers rather than leaves us full of dread.

We dread fear, don't we? The sensations, the pictures, the stories it tries to make us believe?In this livestream, we unravel fear and examine its component parts. We consider its purpose, its nature, and its invitation.And we think together about how we can allow it to serve us, and the journey we are all embarked upon.

Yesterday, this email pinged into my inbox:"Hello Janny,  I've followed you for quite a few years now. I need some help with fear. I know that it's not about what's happening, but rather how we react to what's happening, but I can't stop the panic and dread.I seem to want to fight reality, and am always expecting the worst thing to happen.Any thoughts or advice as to how I can stop this nightmare would be so appreciated.This podcast arose out of that email request, and will be the first in a series looking more closely at Fear and our relationship with it.I hope it's of help xx

Meet Sarah, who wants some help with finding her voice.Sarah explores with Janny the childhood experiences that have led to her feeling fearful to speak her needs, and to dread the consequences of doing so to such an extent that she would rather avoid situations that feel challenging.Janny helps Sarah to think about the way memories can get cut and pasted onto current situations, triggering old feelings and making us feel like a child again, and suggests techniques to help separate out the child she was from the empowered adult she is now.

Why do we sometimes find ourselves putting on weight despite dieting and exercising, and in the absence of any medical condition that doctors can find?In this episode of "HOW DO I HEAL FROM THIS?" we meet someone who is grieving a number of major losses, not all of them physical.Janny helps them to think about what purpose the weight gain might be serving, and the invitation and wisdom this might offer for their healing process.

EVERY ENDING IS A BEGINNING...I looked at all that had just happened, seeing only loss and pain. And the voice inside me said, "You're missing the beauty. Look deeper."So I looked again, and saw all that the voice had told me to look for...I saw that in and through it all, love and kindness had moved through the pain...I saw that we had been invited to soften, to flow, to understand, to become more...I saw that we were emerging out of the old and into a fragile newness, shimmering with possibility......that we were being shown what our separateness and lack of connection had brought about......and that we were being invited to remember our oneness, who we really are, beneath the illusion.And suddenly, I found that tears were flowing. Not mine alone, but ours, the tears of all of us.And in those tears was the most profound grief at all we had forgotten, all we had lost...And then there was the voice again, saying with the utmost tenderness, "Remember who you really are."And I remembered how we were all one, all light emerging and re-emerging. I remembered the love we truly are...And when I looked back through new eyes, eyes that now saw clearly, I knew I was seeing the invitation to choose. To awaken.And I knew that there was purpose in the tears, and meaning. And I stood in awe at all the voice had shown me.I saw, finally, why we had been through this, and all that we would become as a result. And the tears that now flowed were those of relief.I saw our full humanity and our full divinity. And that we were held, always held......and that we had always been, and would always be. Forever expanding and becoming more......and that nothing was ever accidentally or random, and that we could trust this truth, rest in it...And I looked up, and into the eyes of every fellow soul, and saw the beauty of their journey, and our journey......and I knew that what the voice had shown me was the answer I had been looking for......and I felt an energy flowing through me, an aliveness, a remembering...And I knew I had finally come home.©️ jannyjuddly 2020

As always, particular themes emerged as we shared thoughts and questions and ideas this evening. Of loss and change, of losing our health, our loved ones, and our predictable normality.And alongside these, the most wonderful sharing of our joint experiences of the awakening process.Thank you to all who shared. You have changed lives and realities this evening.Big love and stay blessed

So early one morning, an email pinged into my inbox, and the following day this happened!Thank you, Ric, for the opportunity, and for a wonderful interview!

So many thanks to Lucy,  Kinga and Surhaila for dropping by to ask some really profound questions about our Soul Signature, Soul Path, Oneness and healing our Inner Child.I hope some of what we said resonates with you and is helpful.Big love

Shame is the experience which has the power to separate and divide us like no other, lovely one.Fear of judgement or disapproval from others, together with a crushing sense of failure and isolation, give rise to the belief that we are unworthy and unlovable.Know the truth? The profound truth that can free us if we can let it?We are all one, and there is actually no difference or separation beyond the illusion of aloneness we create. All our rivalry, our envy, our shame comes from the forgetting that happens to us when we lose touch with the oneness from which we come and to which we return. Once we finally remember, and move from fear back into love, all judgement - and therefore the cause of shame - is suddenly removed and replaced by compassion, understanding and open-heartedness."LOVE'S TEARS" from my book 'DANCERS AMONGST THE STARS' speaks of my own journey from a state of forgetting into the most profound experience of remembering. May it resonate. Big love, Janny

Hey lovely one, you're trying too hard. Thus isn't a race, it's a journey. And this journey takes a whole lifetime.So much more us going on than you think, but it's going on inside you, not out there. Embrace this, allow the nit knowing. It's all good. You are standing on sacred ground.We get so impatient, lovely one. We want it to happen right now. We believe it can be quick and easy. We have a vision of how we think this should all be, and we feel frustrated and bewildered, even despairing, when that isn't how it seems to be going.⠀⠀See, this is a journey. A really long journey. It's going to take so many twists and turns, and unexpected adventures and seemingly insurmountable challenges are going to happen.⠀⠀Expect them, don't be surprised by them. It's all exactly as it's meant to be. And you are exactly where you're meant to be.⠀⠀Here's where we come unstuck, brave soul: we measure the journey and its progress - or apparent lack of it - by what is happening in our life OUT THERE. Whereas, actually, the journey is happening IN HERE. ⠀This isn't a body's journey, sweet soul. It isn't a physical journey. That's just the vehicle, the device, the way the journey is facilitated.⠀⠀In reality, this is a journey of the soul. Our journey not just through this life, in this body. But rather, our journey is through eternity as a spiritual being.⠀⠀Do you see how wanting it all to be sorted RIGHT NOW makes no sense when you see it from this perspective? Do you see how pointlessly and unnecessarily you are exhausting yourself?⠀⠀Don't make it all about work, precious soul. Make it an adventure of curiosity, where you enjoy every new unfolding. Play, have fun, walk lightly. Nothing is fixed, all can change. ⠀You came into this world so eagerly, with everything you needed for the journey already inside you.⠀⠀Relax, let go, be easier, lighter. And you'll remember

Wow, look at you! ⠀ Look where you've come from, and think where you've been.⠀ ⠀ My, you chose some pretty major scenarios to find your way through this lifetime, brave soul.⠀ ⠀ You are taking on years of generational trauma, and with enormous courage you are healing it. Through your own inner work, you are releasing the pain and realising the hopes of thousands. ⠀ I hope you know what an old accomplished soul that makes you. Young souls would never take on this degree of challenge. Ever.⠀ ⠀ And you are doing brilliantly at gradually working it out. ⠀ Oh if you could see yourself through our eyes, and see the admiration and respect, if you could hear the cheers, if you could feel the awe!⠀ ⠀ Keep on keeping on, lovely one. You're moving mountains of ancestral pain and fear. And you're evolving way beyond anything you could possibly understand right now.⠀ ⠀ Oh the love! That heart of yours! You bring tears to our eyes!

Ponder this, lovely one. Why stay addicted to the pain? How does it help you?⠀ ⠀ You need them to get it? To say sorry? To put it right?⠀ ⠀ If they were going to, wouldn't they have done it? Already? ⠀ Maybe they're not even here anymore. So it feels unfinished and you're left holding it all, because some things just never got said, couldn't be said, were beyond being able to be said.⠀ ⠀ So now, all that's left is you, waiting for the apology you're never going to get. At least, not in the way you have imagined.Why not you decide? Just decide. It doesn't really matter where the apology actually comes from. So much better from one who gets it than from one who never did.Do it for you. Because this is about you. Not them. Don't make it about them. Stop giving them so much power. If they didn't get it, take their power to withhold yet again away from them, and take that power onto your own hands. Just take it back.Sometimes, we free ourselves by walking away.Sometimes we give ourselves the apology we never got, or the love we yearn for. Healing is always from the inside out, gentle soul. Always.And that's where the hope and the healing lies. That means that it's in your power, no one else's. It never was theirs to withhold, you have just believed it was. That apology can happen any time you choose.  Do you see? You don't have to wait, or try to convince or to demand. Or beg. There doesn't need to be a battle. There's no one to confront. Maybe you've waited long enough.You simply forgive yourself and break free. Forgive yourself for hoping, forgive yourself for waiting, forgive yourself for not seeing the con, and for not taking your power back sooner.They are not your responsibility. But you are, and this is your moment

IF YOU HAVE FORGOTTEN HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF, READ THIS:   “Dear Therapist in my Pocket, can I please ask you something? I'm so desperate!”  The message pinged into my inbox as I sat with my morning cuppa, having just opened my computer ready to start writing.  “Sure, go ahead!” I typed back.   “I don't know how to love myself! I hate me! I loathe me! Please, please, please, can you teach me how to love myself?”  I set my cup down and felt the full impact of those words. The pain. The desperation. The fear. The need. I sat with that for a good few minutes, letting the enormity of this young woman's confusion sweep right through me, finding all the bits of me that have also known this place once. Long ago now, but I can still remember.  Then I put the kettle back on and made a pot of tea as I tried to come up with what might help, be a starting point. Something.  I sat back down at the computer to reply. I want to share that reply, in case it might help anyone else who also knows this place. Here's what I wrote:............#jannyjuddly #thetherapistinmypocket #loveheals #Lightworker #meditation #spiritualawakening #consciousness #mindfulness #energyhealing #bewhoyouare #kindnessmatters #freeyourself #oldsoul #empath #shineyourlight #spiritual #lawofattraction #awakening #healyourself #oneness #findyourtribe #itsokaynottobeokay #believeinyourself #youmatter #itsinthelittlethings #seethemagic  #thistooshallpass #dancersamongstthestars #miraclesareeverywhere #youcandothis

We humans worry a lot, don't we? Get bothered and troubled and perplexed? Want and yearn and doubt a great deal.This is a piece that talks about that from a very particular perspective - that if an Animal Guide who's been sent to tell us Humans what we're getting wrong.It's from my book, 'DANCERS AMONGST THE STARS' and is called simply: "LETTER FROM AN ANIMAL GUIDE."I hope you enjoy it, and that it speaks to you.Big love, Janny x#jannyjuddly #thetherapistinmypocket #loveheals #Lightworker #meditation #spiritualawakening #consciousness #mindfulness #energyhealing #bewhoyouare #kindnessmatters #freeyourself #oldsoul #empath #shineyourlight #spiritual #lawofattraction #awakening #healyourself #oneness #findyourtribe #itsokaynottobeokay #believeinyourself #youmatter #itsinthelittlethings #seethemagic  #thistooshallpass #dancersamongstthesrars #miraclesareeverywhere #youcandothis

The storms of life can batter us, lovely one. Oh how they force us to bend and turn, to learn to flow with current, to become one with the storm. To let go. To let be. To allow...What I find helps me so much is remembering, as I try to express in this poem, "STORM" from my book, 'DANCERS AMONGST THE STARS', that where I find myself, right here and now, in this moment, is where we have all once stood. That what I am going through, believing that I can't survive, that I will break, that I can't hold on any longer, is what we have all felt and known, every one of us, down the ages.I take great comfort, and draw so much strength and courage, from that knowing. I hope that maybe this thought, through this poem which I wrote during a dark period in my own life, might in some small way help you, too.Big love, Janny xxx

Know how to recognise when you've forgotten who you really are, lovely one?⠀⠀It's when you get scared. When you can't see. When you start to believe the illusion that you are alone in a hostile world and there is no help. ⠀When you want to run but there's nowhere to run to. When you find yourself in Hell.⠀⠀See, that's the nature of this earth plane, brave soul. It's that we forget. How else could a spiritual being experience what it is to be human? Fully immersed in all that means?⠀⠀And so, in those times of living Hell on earth, those times of forgetting, we have to come home to the essence of who we really are, and ground ourselves in Oneness.⠀⠀Oneness is always with you, gentle soul. You can never be separate, because Oneness is your true source and your infinite nature.⠀⠀So go inside, lovely one. Breathe slow, reach deep. Travel inwards to where your knowing and remembering resides. ⠀You will find calm there, and wisdom, and you will find your strength again.⠀⠀You will feel again the love of the thousands who walk with you, guide and support you, and your unbreakable connection to the field of infinite intelligence which we know by many names, but which is who we really are.⠀⠀Come home to yourself, sweet soul. In this moment, you are safe and all is well. There is no Hell except fear and forgetting. This moment does it. Always this one moment. ⠀And this moment is the door to all other moments

Things really are always okay, lovely one. Moment by moment. In the moment.⠀⠀As long as, in this moment, all is well, that is all you need to know. Sit with that. Be with it. Lean right in, because this is the secret to trusting life.⠀⠀Why? Because it is always this moment. You only ever have this one moment. Now is all you ever know. And in this moment all is well.⠀⠀You have survived every single moment. Every time, the moment has been okay. ⠀You have lived so many moments, brave soul. Your entire life has been made up of them. And when one now has become another now, in that moment all has been well.⠀⠀Do you see? You have never encountered a moment in which you were not okay, or which you have not survived and grown from.⠀⠀The only time things don't feel okay is when you're looking back, remembering the shock or pain of a moment you have since survived, or when you're looking ahead imagining how you will feel in a moment you haven't encountered yet. A moment which, when it arrives, will also be okay.⠀⠀In this moment, brave soul, all is well, and this moment becomes all other moments. It is always now. There is no other reality but now. Ponder that. Hold it close. ⠀⠀All is well

Georgie is in terrible pain. It's the kind of pain that we all know but can hardly bear to acknowledge.We've all come close to drowning in it.It's messy and dirty and complicated.It goes way beyond simple pain, like when someone has said something cutting and we're stinging from the hurt of it, or where someone we love is in agony and it's tearing us apart, too.The source of this kind of pain is harder to find, and we avoid its truth.We often call it being stuck. It's the pain of denial.Let me try to make it real with a story: Let's meet Georgie...A client, a young woman, probably in her early twenties, is sitting opposite me in my therapy room.“But he mustn't forget! I can't let him! I make sure he remembers! Every 10th of every month I remind him. I make sure he knows what he's done and what he's put me through. He must always know, always. He's the father of my baby, andhe must never forget!”The young woman in front of me is utterly exhausted, drained from lack of sleep and wrung out from raw emotion. She's stuck. She goes round and round in ever decreasing circles of impossibility, and there's no way out. She can see no prospect of relief. She is stuck. This is what happened in her therapy session...

From the book "DANCERS AMONGST THE STARS" written and read aloud by Janny Juddly, The Therapist in my Pocket.Danny is a modern fairy tale, but fir grown-ups. Danny has learned to live by the world's rules and expectations so completely that he has forgotten eho he really is.This is the story of how he comes to be shown how to remember.

Pain and seeming failure are always the catalysts, lovely one. You are light emerging.⠀⠀A bruised heart is not an event. Ever. You are light emerging.⠀It is always and every time the beginning of a process, part of something so much bigger than it feels to be in the moment.⠀⠀We never know what we have inside us until we are called upon to seek it out. Your light is emerging.⠀Each time we face pain, we discover more of who we really are. But we have to lean into it. Always we must lean in.⠀⠀Stand your sacred ground, and sit with it until it shows you the way. This bruising, this heart breaking open, is your greatest ally.⠀⠀It will make you fearless.⠀⠀You are in the process of becoming. You are light emerging.Deepest bow

Always look for the helpers, lovely one. Notice the random acts of kindness. See the healers, those who achieve great things through simply loving.⠀⠀Those who are blind to goodness will never see it. The haters, the cynics, the jaded, the world-weary, the embattled and embittered.⠀⠀And they will churn out their stories of ugliness and dissension, self-serving and greed.⠀⠀It's so easy to give in to the pressure, brave soul. To let those stories harden you, and make you despair.⠀⠀But look, sweet soul. In every news bulletin, in every photo, look more closely. See the other stories. The ones that are never reported. Never spoken about, because that isn't how scaremongering works.⠀⠀Look behind and beyond. The stranger holding a child close, the child giving a stranger a drink of water, the neighbour sharing bedding, the family sharing their table, the anonymous donor. The tears in the eyes of a stranger, a hand reaching out and being held. Look and let yourself see.⠀⠀Don't let others make you hard, sacred soul, or make you stop believing in the goodness of people.⠀⠀Some of us know that we are love, while some of us are confused and have forgotten. But that is all, they have simply forgotten.⠀⠀Let us be amongst those whose words and actions help them to remember

So many of us feel guilty, or responsible, even when we're really not.This podcast helps explain how we learn these feelings in childhood as a way of managing our complicated feelings about our very human parents, and the various ways they inevitably fail to live up to what we think they should be.It also shows us how to move beyond this predicament by giving ourselves permission to see through adults eyes and, in doing so, free ourselves.

Hold a new vision, lovely one. Tell yourself a different story. You are more powerful than you think, and braver than you dare to believe.⠀In any given moment, there are always choices. We may not always like the choices, they may not be our preferred or favourite choices, but choices are there, nevertheless.Sometimes, tender soul, we have to be very brave. We have to take the leap. And often, lovely one, any leap is better than not leaping at all. Why? Because once you've made the leap, you discover that it's okay and that the Universe is on board and helping you make it work. See, thing is, that leap was the one we were always going to make, and the Universe was always going to be there to catch us. Fear and resistance is always a sign that the Universe is nudging us towards becoming more.Are you coming to notice, yet, how this all works? How you're never actually alone? How you're always being guided, always being held? And how the Universe is forever wanting to give you what you need?⠀So think again, courageous soul. Tell a different story. Find the hope. Rediscover your fire.Why can't this be for you?

Sometimes, lovely one, our pain doesn't belong to us.....

There are so many reasons we find that we have lost our voice, lovely one.⠀⠀Sometimes, our voice simply stops working, usually because of a terrible shock, or unexpected loss, or terrible sadness. ⠀But more often, losing our voice is a more gradual process. Hardly noticeable. So much so that, when we finally realise that we are no longer making any noise, we can't really remember what it used to be like before.⠀⠀We gradually stop speaking for  one of a few reasons, tender soul. Maybe you'll find your own reason here:⠀⠀We are afraid we will make people angry; or upset; or worried; we believe people won't like us or love us if we say what we want to say; we believe we will cause awful consequences, which will be our fault; we believe no one will understand; we believe our feelings are too much; we fear our feelings will get out of control.......and many more.⠀⠀All of these can lead us to become silent, brave soul. And to lose the courage to speak our truth, in our way, with our own authentic voice.⠀⠀And this is scary stuff. But staying silent, in the long run, can be scarier still - because with it comes the possibility of regret.⠀⠀Start somewhere, gentle soul in pain. Start where it feels safe, and look for someone who feels safe. Take your time, there's no need to rush.⠀⠀Permission to begin is all that's needed. And being heard can be enough. That's all that our voice ever needed. And it is never too late to begin that healing journey.⠀⠀Make it important enough. This is your moment

It's okay not to be okay. It's also okay not to be not okay all the time. The only thing that matters us to be real.You did know that. Didn't you?

Allow yourself to feel the excitement of this, lovely one. You have felt so much fear in the midst of change, so much dread.⠀⠀You have clung on so insistently to the way you needed things to work out. The one and only way that things have got to be.⠀⠀In the midst of all that fear, you've held on tight to your vision of how things must work out. And that fear has blinded you to the multitude of greater and better possibilities that have been falling in your path, meant for you. Daily.⠀⠀And then, one day, you became so tired by all the need to know, the need to make everything go a certain way. ⠀And that day, you simply surrendered. You said to the Universe, okay, I'm done. This is too hard for me. I'm going to stop fighting you. Do it your way.⠀⠀And hey, look at you now. Just look at you!⠀⠀Look at how change moved through you, and carried you to where you are now. And is still moving through you. And you are okay.⠀⠀Bruised. A little sore. But so much wiser. So much stronger. So much softer. So much more open.⠀⠀You've had your rough edges dismantled, brave soul. All that rigidity, all that need to be in control, to be right.⠀⠀And it's glorious, because you are still okay. As you will always be okay. Always and every time.⠀⠀Deep bow!

Polly has a painful and difficult relationship with her Dad. Recently it's been so destructive that she has reached the point of feeling that she must break all contact.Here is Polly talking to Janny about her dilemma

Sometimes, lovely one, the Universe makes us catch our breath. The blow is so big we fall to our knees and gasp. And for a few minutes, that's where we stay, trying to get our heads around something that seems unthinkable, impossible to bear.And then a miracle happens. We begin to notice where we are. And where we are is right here, right now, in this moment.Know what, brave soul? It is only ever and forever and always this moment. Anything else is memory or imagination. Do you see the miracle unfolding?Let this miracle calm you, sweet soul. Let it soothe you and hold you. And then you find yourself sitting up. Thinking. Focussing. Growing into thos new situation. This new you.In this moment, you are always safe, beautiful soul. And in this moment, a new you is emerging.We are watching in awe. Deepest bow!

It's so easy to get pulled into the drama. To lose ourselves, forget who we really are.Here are some thoughts to help you steady yourself.

It's such a con, lovely one. But you learn to believe it and live it. The con? That only you are strong enough, and that you must carry everyone else. Free yourself, brave soul. Do it now!

LIFE HAS MUCH IN COMMON WITH A MOVIE.You are both the Hero and the Director. There is always a back story, and always a series of chalkenges and dilemmas through which you, as the Hero, are invited to make choices and to grow.What will you, as the Director, decide will be the way this Movie will go?

Vicki shares a dilemma with Janny Juddly, The Therapist in my Pocket.She's not sure if she can stay. She feels disappointed and let down by him, and that he doesn't notice or care about her needs.Janny helps Vicki watch some of the key movie clips of her life to help her understand some of what might be going on, and helps her find a way forward.