Lessons of the Six Figure Woman

#090 In this episode Chichi and NG delve into the controversial conversation between Eboni K. Williams and Iyanla Vanzant where Eboni made it clear that she would only be dating a bus driver if he owned the bus! The ladies tackle this question from their perspective as high earning woman and they discuss whether they feel like Eboni was justified in her answer. They talk through some of the commentary being made by several people who felt offended by Eboni's stance. The ladies also address the elephant in the room which is whether race plays or role? Are black women ridiculed for having these type of standards? If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#089 In this episode Chichi and NG are discussing some relationship hot takes! The ladies give their opinion on various sound bites from social medial. They discuss whether they agree or disagree with statements like "The reason he doesn't give you princess treatment is because you're not his dream girl" and "White woven marry up, black women marry down." If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#088 In this episode Chichi and NG are discussing the highly publicized drama between Achraf Hakimi and Habi Abouk. After filing for divorce from the wealthy soccer star, Habi found out that everything he owns is in his mother's name! The ladies discuss the entire situation and talk through the lessons one can learn from this situation. They discuss whether they think Habi planned to take his money all along and whether Achraf was justified in what he did or if this is just another case of a mommy's boy who hasn't quite come out from under his mom's wing. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#087 In this episode NG and Chichi delve into the often overlooked toxic side of “feminine energy” content. With the rise of influencer culture and the proliferation of curated content, social media platforms have often perpetuated toxic expressions of femininity, leading to harmful impacts on women's mental health and self-esteem. The ladies talk through three ways feminine energy content on social media has bamboozled women by often prioritizing external appearance, material possessions, and relationship status, promoting a narrow and often unattainable definition of femininity.If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#086 In this episode Chichi and NG attempt to tackle the topic of submission AGAIN! The ladies discuss this topic for the third time and this time Chichi brings a new perspective to the meaning of submission. They talk through how they think submitting is completely different from being obedient. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#085 In this episode Chichi & NG talk about how crucial it is for women to have PLATONIC INTIMACY with other women! They breakdown the levels of friendship and discuss what it means to be in an intimate relationship with a female friend. The ladies give examples from their own relationship with each other and they also open up about the struggles they've had in achieving true platonic intimacy with women.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#084 In this episode Chichi and Ng discuss how women who are in a relationship with rich men are idolized or considered to be "goals" by other woman. They use Lori Harvey as an example of a woman who tends to primarily be in the headlines when they're reporting on the new man she's dating. The ladies link this concept of whether the man you're with increases your value back to their Nigerian culture. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#083 In this episode NG and Chichi discuss the false belief that once you get to the alter "you've arrived." NG drops some lessons she's learning in marriage in real time! The ladies talk about why marriage actually takes a lot of active work. They get into a discussion about feeling safe in your marriage and even touch on sex in marriage too.If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#082 In this episode Chichi and NG's conversation is inspired by a Youtube video by Breeny Lee which talks all about how a man is supposed  to cover his woman. The ladies discuss how a woman actually deserves to be covered versus how many woman have been fooled into thinking they should be covered. Chichi talks about how she had a life transforming epiphany surrounding this topic and how it will change the type of men she entertains going forward. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#081 In this episode Chichi gets super vulnerable when she opens up about her willingness to become a single mom by choice. She talks about how she has always had the desire to be a mother and is willing to go through pregnancy and raising a child on her own even if she doesn't end up getting married. The ladies discuss the challenges that come with making this choice as well as how Chichi's family reacted when she told them.  If you're curious about hearing other women's stories or want  to find a community of women who are going through this process but you don't  know where to begin, try searching the hashtag #SMBC (single mom by choice).  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#080 In this episode Chichi and NG delve into the topic of sexual liberation which was inspired by a recent YouTube video by For Harriet. They talk about what social media has led us to believe sexual liberation means for women versus the deeper meaning that sexual liberation actually could have. The ladies can't help but link the current state of the sexual liberation movement back to patriarchy. This is a discussion that women need to be having. You don't miss out on this conversation. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#079 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss emotional unavailability…finally! In multiple past episode the terms ‘emotional unavailability' and ‘emotional intelligence' have come up. The ladies decided to finally tackle the topic head on. They discuss how and why they think emotional unavailability may be one of the biggest things destroying relationships.If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#078 In this episode Chichi and NG talk about marriage advice. But not just any marriage advice, they discuss "African" marriage advice. They talk through some of the cultural norms about marriage that are often toxic and can be damaging to newly married couples.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#077 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss a topic that the whole world seems to think is their business; black women's hair. They discuss the experiences with feeling "other-ed" especially in professional settings because of their hair. They also talk through some of the trauma  that they, and many other black women with textured hair continue to have to deal with. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#076 In this episode Chichi and NG are back for the new year with a very juicy story time! The ladies went on a double date together and *spoiler alert* it was a DISASTER! They talk about the date and where it went completely left. This is a conversation you do not want miss! If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#075 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss the accusation that Nigerian woman are bad in bed! The topic was sparked by a conversation with a Nigerian man who made the claim that "most Nigerian woman just lay there." The ladies go into a deep and interesting discussion about whether or not this is true. Of course they couldn't tackle this topic without holding the men accountable for their sex skills as well (or lack there of!).If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#074 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss the question of what's your plan if marriage never happens for you? They explore whether or not they think marriage should even be your plan A. The ladies get into a deep discussion about their different interpretations and view points on this question. What would your answer be? If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#073 In this episode Chichi and NG weigh in on the viral discussion about what men should be "required" to pay for in order to date a woman. A video by Iamgabbyfe on tic tok went viral after she outlined all the things she expects a man to pay for to even have a chance at keeping her attention. From hair and nails to waxes and rent,  Chichi and NG breakdown their thoughts on this list. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#072 In this episode Chichi and NG center their conversation around a viral tweet that talked about the experience of 'the ugly friend'. They discuss their thoughts on the little talked about experience as the friend who never gets picked and whether they think a suitor is obligated to acknowledge or entertain the friends of the woman he's trying to talk to.  The ladies talk about whether men or women have it worse when it comes to rejection and finally they discuss why 'medium ugly' is the sweet spot.If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#071 In this episode Chichi and NG talk about being in relationships with older men. They discuss if they think it's actually better for women to choose men that are significantly older than them and whether or no this leads to a more successful relationship. They talk through all the pros and cons of being with an older man and whether men in their 40s are still on the same nonsense as men in their 20s! If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#070 In this episode Chichi and NG sit down to talk about all these recent celebrity divorces! It seems like every time you turn around another couple is calling it quits. They talk about the breakup of Tia Mowry and Corey Hardict and how social media is highlighting the fact that Tia "married down." The ladies discuss a few other celebrity divorces and talk though their differing thoughts on whether or not women of this generation are less willing to stay in failing marriages. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#069 In this episode Chichi and NG tackle a topic that is rarely discussed. The ladies discuss men's insecurities about sex. They talk about everything from package size, men's ability to actually  please women, and how porn has ruined sex for everyone! This is a conversation you'll definitely want to weigh in on! If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#068 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss what seems to be the theme of the past few weeks, cheating men! They discuss their thoughts and opinions on the Ime Udoka and Adam Levine cheating scandals. Should someone get fired for indiscretions in their personal life? Why are these men willing to risk it all to cheat with an IG model? The ladies get into these questions and much more in this episode. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#067 In this episode Chichi and NG talk all about sacrifices in relationships. They start off the conversation by discussing the infamous statement "happy wife, happy life." They specifically discuss an interesting opinion going around social media of what the statement actually means. The also delve into career sacrifice when it comes to relationships and NG asks Chichi if she would move to a different state for love. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#066 In this episode Chichi and Ng discuss struggle love and whether it's really worth it to be a "ride or die" chick. The ladies give some popular examples in the media such as Jay-z and Beyonce and Kim and Kanye and they dissect each situation. They also come to some important revelations when it comes to what it means to be in a struggle love relationship. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episode OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#065 In this episode Chichi and Ng invite a special guest, Chichi from The Regal Woman Project, to have a real and honest conversation about her journey through infidelity in marriage, divorce as a Nigerian American woman, and healing from trauma. Chichi walks them through going from being suicidal at her lowest point to opening her heart again. This is by far one of the best conversations on the podcast yet!   If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#064 In this episode Chichi and NG are talking all about "hot girl season" vs "hot boy season."  They discuss how women and men go through their "hot season" at completely different age ranges and how this has a huge impact on women in their 30's attempting to date their same age male counterparts. The ladies also delve into whether or not they each feel like they missed out on their "hot girl season."If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#063 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss the topic of vulnerability in relationships. They're discussing whether of not women truly want a vulnerable man. They talk through their own ideas of what it means to be vulnerable and their experiences (or lack thereof) with vulnerable men. They also talk about why men have such a hard time being vulnerable and whether or not women hold some responsibility in that. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#062 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss the topic of women humbling or shaming other women. The conversation was inspired by a fellow black female podcaster who released a video about her journey towards not being willing to settle and was smacked in the face with comments from people, especially women, trying to humble her and telling her to lower her expectations. Chichi and NG couldn't resist diving into this topic of women shaming women and even taking a look in the mirror at how they've been guilty of this. They wrap up the conversation by talking about women having standards and the concept of settling vs. compromise. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#061 In this episode Chichi and NG discuss men's misrepresentation of what they are actually looking for. They talk through their past experiences with men who say one thing but their actions don't match. The ladies discuss how difficult this makes navigating dating and relationships. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#060 In this episode Chichi and NG have an unfiltered, candid, HONEST conversation with Uche, a six figure earning Nigerian American man, about his true thoughts on being in a relationship with a six figure earning woman. The ladies are not holding back in this conversation as they explore Uche's ideas on 50/50 in relationships, having a submissive wife, dating non-black women, and so much more. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#59 In this episode Chichi and Ng discuss Chichi's epiphany about whether or not she is simply "undateable." More specifically the question is whether high earning black women, especially millennials, are just not dateable in the eyes of our male counterparts. They discuss how this is the first generation where woman are more independent, more successful, and aren't willing to shrink themselves to make a man feel bigger. This juicy discussion is one you do not want to miss! If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com

#058 In this episode Ng and Chichi revisit this idea of submission. They discuss their thoughts on Jazzy Brown's vita take on how she submits to her man. The ladies discuss whether or not submission has to mean servitude and whether they think that form of submission is sustainable in a long term relationship.  If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#057 in this episode Chichi and Ng discuss approaching men! They talk through all the juicy details of a recent night out that centers around the question of whether women should approach men or not? And are women who do make the first move seen as desperate or is it seen as a sign of confidence? This is an episode you don't want to miss! If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#056 In this episode Chichi and Ng tackle the array of feelings they've been having about the injustices woman are currently facing. Ironically this conversation took place on “independence” day and they point out how as women in America right now, they are anything but free. The ladies have a raw and emotional conversation about their thoughts on Roe v. Wade and the effect this will have on all women but especially black women. They get into some other topics surrounding their struggles as black woman in today's world. 

#055 In this episode Chichi is in the hot seat as NG asks her questions about her single status. She opens up and answers one of the most dreaded question a single person can be asked, "why are you single?" The ladies dig deep into the things that may be holding Chichi back from a good relationship while also acknowledging all the positive and beautiful things that have come out of her single season. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#054 This episode marks the ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY of Lessons of the Six Figure Woman Podcast!! In this episode Chichi and Ng celebrate one the best decisions they've made in starting this podcast! They discuss some of the best things about growing this podcast and community. They also reminisce on some of their juicy previous episodes and how those topics are related to some spicy current events. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#053 In the episode Chichi and NG switch it all the way up! Chichi puts on her interview hat and NG takes on the guest role, answering questions all about her experience so far with marriage counseling! She opens up about going to marriage counseling as a Nigerian American woman married to a traditional Nigerian man. The ladies discuss all the ups and down of therapy as a couple and ultimately NG gives her final verdict on whether or not it's worth it thus far. You don't want to miss this one! If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#052 In this episode Chichi and Ng discuss how slim the pickings are when it comes to finding a husband! They talk through what it actually means to be husband material. Of course from the male perspective there are many women but few wives, so they also discuss whether there is any truth to that. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#051 In this episode Chichi and Ng are talking all about the soft life! They explore why it's taken this long for black women to allow themselves to enjoy everything relaxation, peace, and good vibes. They discuss how the 'strong black woman' narrative has played such a significant role in their own difficulty with embracing the soft life. The ladies also go back to their origin stories and talk about how growing up Nigerian has contributed to their inability to sit down and rest! If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#050 In this episode Chichi and Ng take a second to acknowledge their fiftieth episode!! This episode they discuss backlash black women get for being "modern women." Rather than being celebrated for their accomplishments and achievements in their single-hood, black women seem to be getting punished. They also delve into the problems they have noticed with the "modern man."If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#049 In this episode Chichi and Ng are discussing settling. Settling means something different for every woman but the question is, are women being forced to settle? Should women expect to get everything they want from a partner? These the are the questions that need answers and the ladies are not holding back! If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#048 In this episode Chichi and Ng talk all about the trauma that is cheating! They get into some statistics about how many black men cheat vs how many black women cheat. They also talk about the surprising time line of how soon married men start to think about cheating vs how soon in crosses the mind of married women. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#047 In this episode Chichi and NG talk about how in relationships, both parties are often guilty of expecting the other to read their mind. They discuss the biggest determinant of a good relationship, communication! And how hard it seems to effectively communicate with your partner. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#046 In this episode Chichi and Ng talk through the top professions to avoid in a partner. They discuss the patterns and personality traits that men in these professions can sometimes have that are problematic in relationships. If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#045 In this episode NG and Chichi talk about relationships with low earning or no earning men. They get into what actions women take that emasculate men, resentment that can build and the difference between lack of ambition and laziness. The ladies also discuss the idea of prenups and whether they believe a prenup is necessary.If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#044 In this episode the ladies talk about the ground breaking reality show, Young, Famous and African. This is the first time Africans have been put on a main stage like Netflix and NG and Chichi break down all the tea. They also discuss representation of Africans.If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#043 In this episode Chichi and NG talk about the scrutiny experienced by black women. They discuss the slap heard around the world and the blame Jada is experiencing, the first black woman supreme court justice and their personal struggles being forced to explain themselves in spaces where they are overqualified.If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#042 In this episode NG and Chichi are back with another interesting topic, Double Standards! Do you ever wonder what double standards favor women over men? These ladies will be digging into how these double standards impact both men and women and sharing their opinions.If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#041 In this episode Chichi and NG attempt to debunk 5 of mens turn-offs. As the ladies get deeper into the discussion they begin to see some truth in the reason for these turn-offs. The ladies put themselves in the shoes of a man and further discuss their thoughts.If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.

#040 In this episode, NG and Chichi talk finances in relationships. Is it okay to ask how much your partner makes, do you have the right to know their credit score? The women discuss the importance of financial compatibility and the downfalls of withholding financial information from your partner. This is a great episode that you don't want to miss!If you have a question or comment that you want featured on a future episodes OR if you just want to say hello DM us on instagram @lessonsofthesixfigurewoman or email us at LOTSFW@gmail.com.