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Hi, welcome to the 2 LADS podcast, from actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. The 2 LADS podcast tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These convos are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing. Follow the conversation on Instagram: @The2LadsPodcast

Daniel Sharman & Christian ‘Leggy’ Langdon


    • Mar 15, 2022 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 48m AVG DURATION
    • 26 EPISODES


    Latest episodes from The 2 LADS Podcast

    Aubrey Marcus

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 15, 2022 62:35


    This week the lad's close out season 2 with Aubrey Marcus (IG: @https://www.instagram.com/aubreymarcus/ (aubreymarcus)). Aubrey currently hosts the https://www.aubreymarcus.com/blogs/aubrey-marcus/tagged/aubrey-marcus-podcast (Aubrey Marcus Podcast), a motivational destination for conversations with the brightest minds in medicine, business, spirituality, athletics, and philosophy. He has been featured on the cover of Men's Health, is the host of https://fitforservice.com/ (Fit For Service), and is the author of the NYT Bestselling book https://www.aubreymarcus.com/pages/own-the-day (Own The Day, Own Your Life) from HarperCollins. If you ask Aubrey the cause he is most passionate about, it is raising awareness for https://www.aubreymarcus.com/pages/the-cure-is-near (psychedelic medicine), through organizations like MAPS.org and Heffter Institute. He is a 20 year native of Austin, Texas where he currently resides. Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review + follow us on social: https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (@the2ladspodcast) And if you like the show, tell a friend!

    BEQOMING

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2022 96:19


    This week the lads talk to Azrya & Benjamin Bequer of BEQOMING. http://www.beqoming.me/ (www.BEQOMING.me) IG: https://urlgeni.us/instagram/beqoming (@BEQOMING) IG: https://urlgeni.us/instagram/azryabequer (@AzryaBequer) IG: https://urlgeni.us/instagram/benjaminbequer (@BenjaminBequer) Azrya and Benjamin Bequer are the co-founding stewards of BEQOMING, a platform that provides transformational tools, media, and experiences to help people see beyond the veil of who they thought they were supposed to be and awaken their full-spectrum aliveness.  They also co-authored a book titled BEQOMING: Everything You Didn't Know You Wanted. To purchase the special edition hardcover (not available on Amazon) please visit http://www.beqoming.me/book (www.BEQOMING.me/book) or download at https://urlgeni.us/audible/BEQOMINGaudiobook (www.Audible.com/BEQOMING.)  Warning: This book may inspire you to face off with your darkest subconscious shadows, claim your Truest Truth, and embody the greatness you're here to share with the world. Side effects may include becoming radically unfuckwithable.   You can also receive The 3 Stages of BEQOMING directly to your inbox at http://www.beqoming.me/3stages (www.BEQOMING.me/3stages)

    Dr. Drew Ramsey

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 1, 2022 66:48


    This week the lads talk to Dr. Drew Ramsey: Food Shrink, Nutritional Psychiatrist and Medical Adviser at Men's Health Magazine. Drew Ramsey, M.D. is a psychiatrist and author of https://drewramseymd.com/books-publications/eat-to-beat-depression-and-anxiety/ (Eat To Beat Depression and Anxiety). He co-hosts Friday Sessions, an IGTV series on male mental health for Men's Health Magazine and delivered three recent TEDx talks, a video series with Big Think, and the BBC documentary Food on the Brain. To learn more about Dr. Drew Ramsey, Visit his website: https://drewramseymd.com/ Follow him on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrewRamseyMD And on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drewramseymd/ Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review + follow us on social: https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (@the2ladspodcast) And if you like the show, tell a friend!

    Rich Roll

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 22, 2022 67:03


    This week the lads talk to Rich Roll. Rich is a vegan, ultra-endurance athlete and full-time wellness & plant-based nutrition advocate, popular public speaker, husband, father of 4 and inspiration to people worldwide as a transformative example of courageous and healthy living. To learn more about Rich... Visit his website: https://www.richroll.com/ Follow him on Twitter: https://twitter.com/richroll And on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/richroll/ Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review + follow us on social: https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (@the2ladspodcast) And if you like the show, tell a friend! Thanks to our SPONSORS: SEED: visit https://my.captivate.fm/SEED.com (SEED.com) and use code 2LADS at checkout to receive 15% off your first month of SEED delivery. 

    Teal Swan

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2022 56:30


    On this week's episode the lads talk to spiritual teacher Teal Swan. Teal's work has been a huge influence on the lads, helping both Daniel and Leggy when they went through difficult breakups. The conversation also touches on how Teal discovered her spiritual path, how to get better at not reacting when triggered, and finally her perspective on the dance/fight between the masculine and feminine in today's culture. To learn more about Teal... Visit her website: https://tealswan.com/ Follow her on Twitter: https://twitter.com/_tealswan And on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tealswanofficial/ Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review + follow us on social: https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (@the2ladspodcast) And if you like the show, tell a friend! Thanks to our SPONSOR: SEED: visit https://my.captivate.fm/SEED.com (SEED.com) and use code 2LADS at checkout to receive 15% off your first month of SEED delivery. 

    Communication

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2022 76:55


    This week we're back to Daniel and Leggy discussing another deep topic "Communication." The lads -- together in the same room for the first time this season -- discuss why communication is the backbone of any relationship; and why listening to our emotions, our truth and being able to communicate it ultimately sets us free regardless of the outcome. JUMP TO: (22:34) Main Topic of "Communication" Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review + follow us on social: https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (@the2ladspodcast) Thanks to our SPONSORS: BetterHelp: The 2 LADS Podcast listeners get 10% off their first month. Visit: https://betterhelp.com/2lads (https://betterhelp.com/2lads) SEED: visit https://my.captivate.fm/SEED.com (SEED.com) and use code 2LADS at checkout to receive 15% off your first month of SEED delivery.  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/introducing-before-it-happened/id1571396481?i=1000524712304 (Before It Happened Podcast): Tune into one of our favorite podcasts, hosted by Donna Loughlin and remember to rate & review! Before It Happened is available wherever you get your podcasts. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beforeithappenedshow/ (@BeforeItHappened)

    Duncan Trussell

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2022 75:34


    This week the lads talk to comedian and psychonaut Duncan Trussell about consciousness, psychedelics, realizing you've moved the wrong town -- and what it means to be a man in 2022. To learn more about Duncan... Visit his website: http://www.duncantrussell.com/ Follow him on Twitter: https://twitter.com/duncantrussell And on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/duncantrussell Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review + follow us on social: https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (@the2ladspodcast) And if you like the show, tell a friend! Thanks to our SPONSORS: BetterHelp: The 2 LADS Podcast listeners get 10% off their first month. Visit: https://betterhelp.com/2lads (https://betterhelp.com/2lads) SEED: visit https://my.captivate.fm/SEED.com (SEED.com) and use code 2LADS at checkout to receive 15% off your first month of SEED delivery.  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/introducing-before-it-happened/id1571396481?i=1000524712304 (Before It Happened Podcast): Tune into one of our favorite podcasts, hosted by Donna Loughlin and remember to rate & review! Before It Happened is available wherever you get your podcasts. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beforeithappenedshow/ (@BeforeItHappened)

    Fear

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 25, 2022 74:01


    Daniel & Leggy discuss fear and what we can learn from it. Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review + follow us on social: https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (@the2ladspodcast) Thanks to our SPONSORS: BetterHelp: The 2 LADS Podcast listeners get 10% off their first month. Visit: https://betterhelp.com/2lads (https://betterhelp.com/2lads) SEED: visit SEED.com and use code 2LADS at checkout to receive 15% off your first month of SEED delivery.  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/introducing-before-it-happened/id1571396481?i=1000524712304 (Before It Happened Podcast): Tune into one of our favorite podcasts, hosted by Donna Loughlin and remember to rate & review! Before It Happened is available wherever you get your podcasts. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beforeithappenedshow/ (@BeforeItHappened)

    Episode 17: Peter Crone, the Mind Architect

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2022 77:53


    We have been thinking about how we can level up the podcast and what better way to add to the conversation than by bringing in people we admire and that we can learn from as guests. As the saying goes... "If you're the smartest person in the room, get out of the room." This week we talk to Peter Crone, the mind architect.  Peter is a writer, speaker and thought leader, specializing in spiritual freedom, mental peace and physical vitality. He has worked with world-class entertainers, pro-athletes and global organizations, such as Arizona Diamondbacks all-star Paul Goldschmidt, LPGA Champion I.K Kim and Goop founder Gwyneth Paltrow -- just to name a few. His philosophy is simple, redesign your subconscious mind to inspire a new way of living in freedom and joy rather than limitation and stress. In this conversation we talk to Peter about his journey, how he went from a lad growing up in rural south England to living his best life in sunny Southern California and helping people from all walks of life unlock their potential. We get Peter's take on truth, love & understanding and trusting our own perceptions of reality and the decisions we make in life. For more information on Peter, visit http://petercrone.com/ (petercrone.com) and follow him on social https://www.instagram.com/petercroneofficial/?hl=en (@petercroneofficial ) Please remember to subscribe, rate, and review! Enjoy the show! Daniel and Leggy

    Breakups, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2021 45:25


    Leggy and Daniel revisit the topic of breakups in this week's episode of 2 LADS, but first they check in with Daniel at an 8 while working on location in South Africa and Leggy at a 7.5 and discussing some recent activity on social media and concluding that the podcast won't be for everybody. Then the 2 LADS get back into breakups—a conversation they started earlier in the season—and how they believe you can use the pain of breakups to build yourself up stronger. They also discuss going into relationships consciously trusting that you'll be ok even if it doesn't work out, being so dialed you don't want a relationship and Daniel's journey to getting to know his body better.  The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing.  JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (01:50) - The check in - “It's not going to be for everybody, this. And you get to decide whether you enjoy it or you don't, and we're down for it all.” (14:20) - Expecting every need from one person - “These are the building blocks of you being a fucking man in the world or being a functioning adult. You've got all these basics covered so that you can actually enter into a relationship with someone else on a higher level.” (17:25) - Breakups can build you back up - “When you're in it, it feels like hell and it will last forever, but there's building blocks that get built up over time and they reprogram your brain to feel much more supported.” (26:16) - Picking and choosing - “It's like five of your girlfriend are on this carousel, and one of them, you love, right? And you're like, ‘I like that one, that one, but only be that. I don't like any of this other stuff. I want you to change all this other stuff.” (29:15) - Being too dialed for a relationship - “Ultimately, in order to love, you have to risk getting hurt. You can't do it any other way. You have to know that you can be open and accept love, and know that you are going to survive it if that goes away.” (30:33) - Sit in your feelings - “Your relationship to love and sex is skewed in some way, because it is giving you the endorphins of not feeling your feelings. So if you take it away, then  it comes to the forefront of your mind.” (37:06) - The green light of approval - “Even the act of going into a program, it was about approval, you know, because in some way I did it to prove it to somebody.” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! And for additional 2 LADS content including bonus episodes, newsletters and more, sign up for the https://www.patreon.com/2LADS (Lad Club) on Patreon now. #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Graphic design/video editing by Aldona Kowal. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    Love, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 26, 2021 48:05


    After catching up on what they've been doing since their last check in—journeying, seeing psychics, visiting family, and filming on location among other things—Leggy and Daniel revisit the topic of love in this episode. This time they focus a little more on the unconditional variety and discuss whether love without expectations is even truly achievable or not and how Jesus, their dogs and glory supporters relate. The LADS also discuss what it means to ‘live in love' and determine that we're all nuts and we'd be better off if we'd just lead with that.  The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing.  JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (01:50) - Leggy sees a psychic and other updates - “That's what we try and bang on about is like, ‘If you can know yourself, then at least you can tell people the truth about where you're at.” (20:47) - Is love an absolute? - “I'm not into absolutes and yet at the same time, I believe in truth. I am confused. That's the truth.” (21:46) - Unconditional love and what Jesus taught - “You are expecting something in return and that's pernicious and unhelpful.” (23:21) - On parental love - “Discipline I believe in, but not discipline for discipline's sake. You have to have a person understand why that's happening to them right now.” (28:09) -  What love feels like, physically - “The reason I'm asking you and badgering you about what love feels like is because I'm beginning to get the reference point of what it feels like in your body.” (32:33) -  Love is not for the glory supporters - “If I'm on the front lines with someone, I want to be with someone that is fucking right there with me, giving it to me straight. The whole thing.” (37:22) - Spreading love out - “If you have deep intimate relationships in your friendships, then you get so much out of that, that the requirement for the romantic side of your life is less, actually.” (41:19) - Living in love - “Taking the time at any point in your life to do things slowly and to understand what's going on with you is one of the most loving things you can do.” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! And for additional 2 LADS content including bonus episodes, newsletters and more, sign up for the https://www.patreon.com/2LADS (Lad Club) on Patreon now. #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Graphic design/video editing by Aldona Kowal. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    Dating Apps, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2021 29:11


    To say that dating apps are the same as meeting someone in real life is bollocks according to the 2 LADS. We learned that last week in the first part of their discussion on online dating. So go back and have a listen to that now if you missed it. Then come settle in for the second part of the discussion where Leggy gets into his personal experience with dating apps, Daniel recounts a few more adventures from his own online dating days and the LADS continue to work through why they believe dating apps are all taste and no substance, like having a big mac over a quinoa bowl.   The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing.  JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (01:52) - The ritual of meeting people IRL - “That process is a needed and necessary part of intimacy.” (04:01) - Leggy on dating apps - “I was giving it too much credit, the app world.” (13:38) - Women and dating apps - “Women now, I think they'd rather you meet them on the app.” (15:18) - Daniel's dating app shenanigans - “I knew it was getting bad.” (17:05) - Keys to the kingdom - “If you could hand that to anyone, they would want it initially, and then they would go, ‘I don't want this anymore.'” (19:53) - Addiction based - “These people that are making these apps are very very smart. And it's all built into the system for you to pay to get the hit, to get the dopamine hit, to get more likes, get more appreciation. All from the comfort of your fucking armchair.” (23:04) - Autonomizing our humanity - “We're outsourcing the ability to be intimate.” (24:15) - We need our own village - “You need your own village, a small amount of people that can hold you accountable.” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! And for additional 2 LADS content including bonus episodes, newsletters and more, sign up for the https://www.patreon.com/2LADS (Lad Club) on Patreon now. #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Graphic design/video editing by Aldona Kowal. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    Dating Apps, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 12, 2021 52:40


    In the first part of another 2-part discussion, the 2 LADS go a little lighter with the topic of dating apps, including Daniel's experiences with them and why he says they felt more powerful than drugs. Daniel also explains what the terms somatic and corpsing mean while Leggy talks about being impulsive and how he feels about meditation. Come back next week when the lads continue the discussion, getting into Leggy's experiences with online dating along with a few more dating app shenanigans from Daniel.   The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing.  JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (03:02) - Corpsing explained - “I am a notorious corpser.” (12:57) - On somatics - “It's wild how much your mind is so sneaky, you know? And actually your body, it always tells you the truth.”  (17:50) - Things that are ‘woo woo' - “We have a tendency as human beings to make up narratives if we can't explain something. It's like the placebo effect, right? Very often we can make things up in our heads and empirical data often allows you to make much clearer decisions.” (18:47) - Music as a metaphor for how we look at the world - “You can either go to a concert and spend a lot of time listening to cat guts being drawn against horse hair creating vibrations, or you can go and listen to a violin play a beautiful concerto. And both are true.” (21:39) -  Leggy's patterns in relationships - “If it's just you in a room, then you're a genius, you know? Because there's no potential pushback.” (32:55) - Bonus Question for Patrons - “Where are your limitations in a relationship? How do they come up and how do they manifest?” (35:01) - Daniel on dating apps - “Dating apps essentially remove the discomfort of that rite of passage, accountability and putting yourself out there.” (46:12) - The objectification and projection that dating apps proliferate - “You can't possibly read the energy of a person when you're just looking at pictures.” (47:31) - The unlimited access that dating apps offer - “It's like an all-you-can-eat buffet. There's no value to it because you've paid $2.99 and now you can just eat whatever you want.” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Graphic design/video editing by Aldona Kowal. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon. 

    Judgement, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2021 38:31


    In the second part of Daniel and Leggy's discussion on judgement, the 2 LADS conclude that judgement can be a dead end in any relationship, then they talk through ways to recognize when and why we are judging a situation in order to find a healthier and more productive pathway forward. They also explain why they believe it's important to investigate where our own judgment comes from and recognize that we all have the capacity to do the things we're judging. Daniel sums up his thoughts saying, “You're always a foot away from the ditch.” And Leggy offers some closing advice: “Keep checking yourself before you're wrecking yourself, brothers and sisters.” The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing.  JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (02:50) - The danger with judgement - “All I can distill it down to is trying to be more discerning with what judgment is all about.” (08:51) - Judgement vs. Accountability - “I think judgment just stops. Once it has come down, that's where it ends. Whereas accountability is more ongoing.” (09:42) - The Big Ugly and projecting - “It's pretty rare where you can just find a human that hasn't got any Skeletons in the closet.” (14:10) - The real power of non-judgement - “I want to be a person that you can come to with anything.”   (18:00) - Baggage and wounds - “We've all got this problem, which is life is fucking painful and really ruinous. And we all are trying to figure out the best strategies and some people's strategies are more socially acceptable.” (22:22) - The relationship between judgement and control - “We put all these things up that make us think we're in control of the universe. Then a fucking hurricane comes and your whole house blows up.” (24:31) - Insecurity begets judgement - “Really secure people, they're really interesting in how they deal with the world. I've always admired that they don't have that judgment.” (30:20) - Self judgment and the judgment paradox - “There is an element of like your judgment doesn't matter, but then it also does to keep you in society a little bit.” (34:36) - Judgment needs to be looked at more closely - “You've just got to keep investigating it and keep accessing your humanity in order to understand that you are the same as everybody else and you also have the capacity to do those things.” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram) and join the LAD Club on Patreon for bonus episodes, additional lessons and exercises to help you manage your emotions and even a LIVE monthly check-in zoom meeting with the 2 LADS for premium members. And don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Graphic design/video editing by Aldona Kowal. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    Judgement, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2021 43:31


    The 2 LADS start this 2-parter off with a discussion on the never-ending stress of pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone while Leggy checks in at a 2 and a 9. Then Daniel and Leggy dive into a deeper discussion on judgment and whether it's helpful, relevant or even necessary in modern society. The 2 LADS also talk about what makes Leggy act like a lizard, judgement loops, narcissists and sociopaths. And as is becoming a bit of a pattern, Leggy judges Daniel's mic etiquette. So stick around and then stay tuned for Part 2 out next week with more on the topic of judgement. Also in this episode, the 2 LADS introduce the question they will discuss in a bonus episode for their Patrons: What thing are they neglecting most in their lives right now. Sign up for the https://www.patreon.com/2LADS (Lad Club) on Patreon now to hear their answers and get additional 2 LADS content including a newsletter written by the LADS, playlists curated by Leggy, artwork by Daniel, and monthly lessons and exercises to help you recognize and manage your own emotions. The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing.  JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (02:40) - The Check In - “I'm a 9. Actually, this is weird because I'm a 9, but then I'm also sometimes a 2.” (21:27) - Bonus Question for Patrons - “What area of your life are you most neglecting right now?” (24:05) - Why Daniel is angry - “We wanted to do judgment because I'm feeling a lot of judgment, and therefore I'm judging.” (26:28) - Judgment is narcissistic  - “I wrote, ‘I don't have anything to prove to you.' And it felt like such a relief.” (31:57) - Leggy's thoughts on where morals come from - “I don't think you're born good. I think you are born to try to stay alive.” (36:54) - Is judgement appropriate any longer? - “We're not investigating that judgement. We're just going, ‘That person is a bad person for doing that.'” (41:26) - Leveling up from judgment - “You're human. You're going to have a reaction. I think that maybe it's about commitment to come back to reassess things as you've calmed down.” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Save 20% at https://www.michaelstars.com/ (Michael Stars) with the code 2LADS Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram) and join the LAD Club on Patreon for bonus episodes, additional lessons and exercises to help you manage your emotions and even a LIVE monthly check-in zoom meeting with the 2 LADS for premium members. And don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Graphic design/video editing by Aldona Kowal. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    Addiction, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 21, 2021 40:13


    In this second part of the 2 LADS' discussion on addiction, Leggy goes deeper into his own journey with drugs and alcohol, from working out why he couldn't walk away from drugs in his teens and twenties to how he thinks about addiction now and what has helped him move past it. The 2 LADS also talk about the role pain and trauma play in addiction and the pattern of seeking short-term relief over truly facing trauma and healing the pain that comes from it. Daniel also talks about finding balance and what he thinks we should all be doing to move forward as a society that holds space for people struggling with addiction. Join the discussion now for all that and more.  The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing. JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (02:50) - The relationship between pleasure and pain - “They are located in the same part of your brain, so the amount of pleasure that you feel is directly proportional to the pain.”  (03:58) - Striving for balance - “If you let me into the candy store, I'm going to eat all of it.” (07:09) - Leggy's journey with addiction - “When I first took speed when I was 16, why was it that I spent three days awake doing speed and all my mates went home?” (17:31) - Addiction is a symptom of trauma - “You have to feel the pain in order to heal the wound, and so the addiction part, the thing that's shutting down the pain, is selling you out of the healing.” (23:12) - Getting past addiction - “When you're on the rock bottom, you know everybody don't like you. A lot of people are not trusting you. You probably own people money. You've let people down. Everyone's sick of you, right? You go into an AA room and they welcome you in and they treat you like a human.” (30:42) - On self protection - “It's about commitment. To know that you can commit to something and give it your all and not hedge your bets because the hedging of the bets is part of a fear of the failure.”  (34:04) - Connection is a path to healing - “The tribe we're trying to evolve as will only get better with knowledge of self-love. And the addictions that we're all in will only be healed by vulnerability, honesty and transparency.”  (36:20) - It's easier to stay where you're at and not grow - “It really is hard. And every time we go through a layer, there is another layer. It's ongoing.” (37:13) - Addiction affects everything - “Everything that we do, there's this addiction thing attached to it. How does addiction affect love? How does addiction affect my career? How does my addiction affect my health and fitness?” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Graphic design/video editing by Aldona Kowal. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    Addiction, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2021 54:59


    In the first of another two-parter, Leggy and Daniel go hard, vulnerable and honest about another not-so-small topic: addiction. There's a lot to cover so Leggy's story will have to wait until Part 2 (out next week!), but first, in this extended first half, the 2 LADS discuss Daniel's thoughts on addiction, from believing everybody's an addict to how he came to recognize it in himself and begin to work through it. The 2 LADS also discuss comfort zones, being young and ruthless, training for a triathlon and the surprising silver lining to struggling with extreme addiction. Settle in because tackling the topic of addiction is going to take a while. The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing. JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (02:47) - The Check In - “When you hug Leggy, you feel worse. It's like hugging a bag of hammers.” (04:41) - Thriving vs. being in survival mode - “I've always been in a state of making it up on the fly and I don't know what it is to be living or what it is to take care of myself.” (12:29) - Leggy's comfort zone - “I think I've honestly jeopardized my career over the years because I always would rather be in my comfort zone.” (20:31) - Failure knocking the lads down a peg - “I was ruthless. I had no experience so I was just like, ‘I'm the shit.' I was just the biggest narcissist in the world.” (26:57) - Daniel's definition of addiction - “Addiction is not necessarily the pursuit of a high, it's more the escape of pain.” (28:32) - Daniel's story of facing addiction - “For me, drugs and sex became a way of just feeling something different for a little while and it felt ‘in control.'” (35:10) - Daniel's want to be impressive - “My biggest struggle my whole life is that I'm so fucking desperate to be respected.” (43:21) - Combating addiction with community - “God knows where I'd be if I didn't have you lads.” (46:17) - Leggy asks Daniel if he's an addict - “I think everybody's an addict.” (53:18) - Addiction forces self reflection - “God help you if you're in the middle zone where it doesn't show up as that bad that you have to look at it. And that happens to a lot of people, and it's like what do you do then?” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Graphic design/video editing by Aldona Kowal. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    Conflict

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 7, 2021 51:30


    In this episode of 2 LADS, Daniel and Leggy walk us through a recent conflict they had while on holiday—not in Wales—in an effort to break down how tricky conflict can be and how important it is to set our weapons down and get back to loving each other. Daniel also discusses the dilemma he sees between being agreeable and being untrustworthy. Leggy talks about what's usually going on on the surface versus the feelings you don't even realize you're experiencing in real time. And they both agree that we often build up stories about others in order to justify our negative feelings. The 2 LADS eventually conclude that you can get past conflict and even grow from it, tyrants and lads on tour included. Their final take-away being to always bring a life coach on holiday. The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing.  JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (02:51) - The Check In - “Part of why I didn't want to reveal stuff is that I'm actually pretty fucking boring. Mystery is more interesting than the facts.”  (14:01) - Conflict can strengthen a relationship - “With us, the more conflict we have, the more I trust you. The more I trust our friendship.” (16:11) - Conflict to get your way in the world - “Is being aggressive wrong all the time? Is conflict wrong? No, it's not. It's just when to use it, and is it serving you?” (19:02) - Deescalating conflict - “The idea of expressing any vulnerability is really scary and very difficult, and yet it's the only thing that will deescalate the problem.” (20:34) - Daniel and Leggy's holiday conflict, an example of conflict - “You were looking at a tyrant and it was your job to fight him?” (25:23) - The conscious vs. the unconscious - “That's another fucking minefield that you're dealing with where you might be pissed off at me for something that you don't even know that you're pissed off about.” (27:19) - The stories we tell ourselves - “If you see someone day to day and you're in a relationship with them, you start to see their humanity. Their good parts. Their bad parts. But you have a relationship with them that means that the stories don't build up.” (31:51) - Getting on the same page - “This is where it's hard because you want it to be dialed. You want everyone to be in the same place so that we can just get to where we need to get to to resolve.” (39:40) - Coming to a resolution - “I think it was the first big blowup that we've had. And that happens in relationships all the time, but it's also knowing, ‘Hey, like there are going to be things that come up that aren't going to be resolved, but we will eventually resolve them.'” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Graphic design/video editing by Aldona Kowal. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    Shame, Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 31, 2021 25:35


    Daniel and Leggy finish out their two-part conversation on shame in this episode, touching on why we default to shutting down shame with bad behavior and why just sitting with shame can be difficult but important to our personal growth. The 2 LADS also talk about forgiveness and how we've lost some room for redemption in modern day society. Finally, they conclude that there is an antidote to shame, though you'll never avoid the feeling altogether. If you haven't already heard Part 1 of this conversation, then go back now and listen to that episode first to get the whole, full enchilada on shame. The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing.  JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (02:57) - Daniel's shame around acting - “I have a lot of shame about having to do some work to survive.” (04:55) - Numbing shame with sex, drugs, etc. - “It sucks to feel shame, so obviously you're going to double down on some sort of pleasure seeking situation to just fucking shut it down, whether it be sex, drugs, you know, whatever your poison is, to just turn it off.” (05:31) - Using shame to check in with yourself - “It's very, very fucking hard to sit in the shame, just sit in it, which is the thing to do ultimately to shine a light on it.” (06:04) - Patterns of how we deal with shame - “As a kid, I'd get told off for stuff, right? So I'd be shamed, which is why there's an old pattern in me which made me not want to tell you, because I didn't want to get shamed.” (06:55) - Shaming others ignores your own humanity - “It's so difficult to not judge, to actually love someone when they fucked up.” (10:25) - As religion has receded, so has redemption - “Once you're thrown out, there isn't a pathway back. That's one thing that's missing from our current culture.” (15:23) - Not being honest about who you are - “It's very weird for me to really be totally honest about what I like.” (19:39) - Men don't have the same healthy outlets as women - “There's a great kind of culture of women taking care of themselves, pampering themselves, they go into a kind of selfcare mode and we don't really have those rituals.” (22:21) - Shame is inevitable - “You're never a master of this. You're always a student.” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and StudioPod Media. Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Graphic design/video editing by Aldona Kowal. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    Shame, Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 24, 2021 29:25


    In the first of this two-part conversation, Leggy and Daniel discuss shame, from how they experience it, to recognizing its effects and why it's important to talk about. The 2 LADS also talk about the relationship between shame and judgement, and how we can fall into the trap of projecting our own moral standards on others leading to unnecessary shame. And they even get into how shame has affected their sex lives and personal relationships. Listen now for another candid conversation on a topic you don't often hear men talking about so openly.  The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing.  JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (02:58) - Recognizing when you're acting in shame - “Shame is a tricky one because a lot of the time you don't even know that you're in shame until you reflect on what you've just done.” (05:17) - Shame and sex - “There's something about the shame of giving your wholeself to something. There's a shame in that.” (10:34) - Shame and judgment - “The influence of other people's version of shame—often their own projection by the way—is where people get into trouble.” (12:36) - Shame is a sign something is out of alignment - “I believe it is on me to get clear about how I want to operate in the world, and then if shame comes in, it means to me now that something is not aligning.” (13:39) - Forgiving yourself for your mistakes - “Acknowledge that you fucked up, but you also have to be kind to yourself because you're already in shame.” (15:16) - The strange things we do out of shame - “I think subconsciously underneath that, there was a kind of fishing line out to try to get some kind of the connection that would validate the other feeling.” (20:57) - Shame spirals and talking about shame - “Men aren't good at dealing with that because we don't talk very much. We never get to bounce something off somebody else and stop the spiral in its tracks.” (24:42) - Estimable acts and Shame pits - “There's so many shame pits now. There are just shame pits everywhere. You can't do anything other than stumble into a shame pit.” (26:54) - Front loaded vs. back loaded shame - “The back end of the shame is equal and proportionate to how easy the first part was.” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Graphic design/video editing by Aldona Kowal. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    Psychedelics

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2021 28:14


    In this episode of 2 LADS, Leggy and Daniel discuss their own experiences with psychedelics as well as other drug use, addiction, and subsequently sobriety. With psychedelics being a hot topic at the moment, they speak about how the process of “journeying” can be helpful, if the right steps are taken post-journey. They also discuss how pain can be an indicator of trauma; and how our innate life force or ‘eros' gets numbed over time by painful experiences. Join the LADS in a convo about how they've found a healthier way to face their own demons and work to heal.   The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing.  JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (04:44) - Taking drugs to numb emotions - “When I would take drugs, it was like self medication. It would make me almost feel like, ‘Oh, this must be what it feels like to be normal.'” (07:35) - On Journeying with Ayahuasca - “I just went into a total acceptance of me. It was almost like I could just put the reins down. Like I've been holding on so tightly in my sobriety.” (16:05) - Discovering the benefits of Heart Medicine i.e. Psychedelics - “This is so much more powerful than just getting high or feeling connected, and that took me a couple of years.” (21:37) - How psychedelics can help you face emotional pain in the same way anestesia helps people with physical pain - “They put you under general anesthetic because if you went over to someone with a scalpel trying to work on someone's heart, they're going to go, ‘Get the fuck off me!' You know?” (23:46) - Why people are apprehensive about Journeying - “I also understand the idea of like, ‘There's so much darkness in me that I don't want to go there.' The association is that it will reveal this thing. And it does! But it doesn't do it in a way that is about you not being able to feel or receive it.” (25:45) - The free, childlike state that can come from psychedelics - “As adults, we're all going mental all the time. We're just trying to ‘achieve, achieve, achieve.' We're trying to get to this never ending place of success, whatever that means. And I think that we forget how important play is.” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Graphic design/video editing by Aldona Kowal. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    Breakups

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 10, 2021 29:49


    The 2 LADS know only too well that breakups are often painful, yet present opportunities to grow. In this episode, Leggy discusses a particularly traumatic breakup and Daniel talks about his experience in a 12-step program for sex and love. They also get into how we can use the pain as a roadmap to healing; and how we need to determine our “terms” in order to show up better in relationships. As Leggy says, “breakups give you a window of opportunity to reflect on what went wrong and use that to grow and enter into healthier relationships in the future.” The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing.  JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (02:23) - The breakup that led to Daniel and Leggy's friendship - “I'd had lots of breakups before, and you had a marriage end, but there's one breakup in your life where you can't avoid the pain anymore.” (03:46) - Breakups can be an opportunity to learn important lessons about yourself - “Every time we go through a breakup, it means something's not worked. We've got ourselves into a situation. It has ended, right? And there's a window of opportunity at that moment of breakup where you get to reflect.” (07:09) - Falling into bad patterns in relationships - “I bounced from relationship to relationship and I had always thought, ‘Well it's because I haven't found the right person.' I'd never asked myself, ‘Why am I attracted to the things that I'm attracted to?'” (12:12) - How difficult breakups can be - “I've talked to people who were in a lot of different twelve step programs and a great deal of them say of all things to come off of, sex and love is by far the hardest.” (13:05) - Trying to ignore pain - “I've had all the addictions in my life. I've done extensive research on most addictions. It all comes down to pain management and understanding that pain is part of the game, you know? And we didn't get taught that. I didn't. I got taught that you're not supposed to feel pain. So whenever it comes up, do whatever you can to get rid of it as quickly as possible, rather than understand that that pain is there to teach you something.” (14:09) - A healthier way to enter into relationships - “If you're a person like I have been that hasn't had a solid sense of self, a strong sense of self, where I'm like, ‘I'm drawing the line here. This is who I am. This is what I believe. These are my values. Let's do it.' I've never entered into a relationship from that position.” (15:41) - Leggy's traumatic breakup - “It is death, but in a weird way, in some ways, worse than death because this person is choosing to be gone from your life.” (19:49) - Figuring out your terms - “When people say, ‘You can't love somebody until you love yourself,' I remember just thinking, ‘What a load of bollocks. I don't understand what that means.'” (25:50) - Love can be more about you than the other person - “I can't even ever know what she felt, even if it was true or not. It doesn't matter. What matters is… me. I felt like I was in love. I also felt like I was in a lot of pain. Everything that I went through was my experience. And it was what I chose to do, unconsciously chose it due to my own place in my life at that time where I was completely unaware of all of these unhealed sections of myself.” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate...

    Sex

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 3, 2021 30:28


    Let's talk about sex. Discussing their own sexual journeys from young lads to now, Leggy & Daniel touch on what factors have influenced their sexual experiences over time; including shame, drugs, and loneliness. This is an extremely honest conversation between 2 LADS.  The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing. JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (03:27) - Discovering sex - “I would be on the bus going to school, and I couldn't get off at the stop because the bumps would cause me to have an erection.”  (08:51) - Sex and shame - “It's part of the human experience, and it's so close to the shadows and the darkness and the shame. It's such a tragedy that we all get lost in that. Sex, sexuality, the shadow, all of these things are all linked.”  (09:51) - Enjoying sex - “There's something about the feeling being so good—as in so complete—that feels very close to feeling like you shouldn't be that free.” (10:47) - A confusing and lonely journey - “You can't talk to your parents about it. It's hard to even really talk to your mates about it. So you're having these monumental, life-changing experiences on your own without too much information about it.” (18:32) - Instant gratification - “Sometimes I'm still adolecent in regards to sex in that the gratification becomes very important very quickly.” (20:27) - Struggling with sex while sober - “The first relationship I had after getting sober was a long-term relationship, and that was difficult for me to show up sexually, because what I associated my high sexuality with was bad behavior. So when I got sober, for example, from drugs and alcohol, my promiscuity also went out with all that.” (23:01) - Sex can be about different things - “There's different kinds of sex. There's sex with someone that you're in love with, and then there's disconnected sex.” (25:06) - Extreme sex - “It would be like diving into a pool of skittles and then just opening your mouth and swimming. Like, ‘What flavor is that?' It doesn't matter. There's strawberry. There's all the flavors happening all at once.”  (28:51) - Sex and connection - “Ultimately, I think that the deepest sexual experiences come when you do have a spiritual and emotional connection. That's the goal. That's the hope. There's fear around that as well, because you're being seen by someone that you are intimately connected to.” (29:21) - Sex is the crux of everything in the world - “Everything that's been made is so that somebody could have sex with somebody else, ‘We are making these objects, so that I can make a profit to make money so that I can have more sexual partners.'” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    Love

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2021 25:58


    In this episode of 2 LADS, Leggy and Daniel talk about the not-so-small topic of love. From learning to see beyond the singular expectations that Hollywood and the media set out for us to finding the right balance between passion and compatibility, the 2 LADS ultimately conclude that the movie version of love covers just one small part of the story. The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing.  JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (02:23) - The various stages of what we expect love to be like - “You grow up and you think, ‘Somebody is meant to come in and complete me.' Then the next stage is to be disappointed with people not completing you and then taking it out on either them or yourself.” (06:19) - On self-love - “If you can wake up at three in the morning alone, and you're okay, when your brain can do the most crazy shit to yourself, and if you can sit there and go, ‘I'm okay. I am in control of this ship.' I think that takes time.” (08:36) - Fear can drive people into relationships - “In this society, doing that, having a long-term partner, getting married, all these kinds of things in the name of love is looked highly upon. It's easier to live in society if you buy into that.” (10:52) - Your relationships reflect where you're at in your life - “You attract the level you're at. There's no point in blaming the other person and saying, ‘Oh, they're mental. They're absolutely mental.' That's where you're at.” (17:19) - Attraction vs. Compatibility - “Sometimes I'm dating a lover and then it's chaos because there's no safety. It's all like chaos, but it's very passionate. Or I'm in safety, mothering, and there's no sex. There's no passion.” (19:08) - Trying to make sense of love and the the human experience - “I'm on this whole thing about love in the fact that we're all humans, and so we're all here in this consciousness, trying to fucking make sense of it all. And so in a way, I'm trying to love everyone.” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    The Work

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2021 35:53


    In this first episode of the 2 LADS podcast, actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon talk about what listeners can expect from their podcast: honest and open discussions about the issues they're facing in their daily lives. Leggy and Daniel also explain how they met, what ‘The Work' means to them, why they believe relationships among men are so important, how they're working to tune into their emotions and better learn from pain and trauma and what they believe courage and leadership look like. So grab a cuppa and get comfortable... The https://the2lads.com/ (2 LADS podcast) tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These conversations are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny... and ongoing. JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (04:18) - On self-awareness - “It's having the intimacy with yourself and to know, ‘Oh yeah, I do that. I am capable of cruelty and anger, and I'm also capable of being a good man.” (07:12) - Building deeper relationships - “I didn't have any friendships in my life that were really about talking about the elephants in the room.” (18:24) - On how ‘The Work' grounds you - “I'm single going through a breakup and not working and I'm the best I've ever been because I have this work.” (19:57) - Accepting emotional pain - “Use the pain as a roadmap to show you where your shit is, to show you where your wounds are. It's why we feel pain. If we've got a cut on our arm, if you prod it, you go, ‘Oh, there's the cut. Got to deal with that now.” (22:01) - Why intimate relationships among men are so important - “Men are so safe when they're in this space.They're strong. They protect you. They are compassionate.” (26:39) - How men typically express their emotions - “The way that we process that emotion, it tends to come out physically rather than in an articulated way, which isn't useful if we're just like losing it with people and just like punching lads in the face and yelling at our girlfriends.” (28:21) - We're all capable of good and bad - “We are capable of great love and beauty and joy and great horror and malevolence. That is the human condition. We're all dealt those cards.” (31:51) - What courage looks like - “Being courageous is saying we're not always going to get every subject right. There's nothing that we need to get right. The point is, ‘Here's what it looks like to be just honest about things.'” RESOURCES: Connect w/ Daniel on https://www.instagram.com/danielsharman/ (Instagram), https://twitter.com/daniel_sharman (Twitter) and https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1528476/ (IMDB) Connect w/ Leggy on https://www.instagram.com/leggylangdon/ (Instagram) and https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1Aw91qm9YH0DQF8vsOKMM1?si=d435ebe70b284ad4 (Spotify) Thank you for listening! Follow 2 LADS on https://www.instagram.com/the2ladspodcast/ (Instagram), and don't forget to follow, rate and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts!  #The2LADS The 2 LADS podcast was created and produced by actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. With additional editing and production by Katie Sunku Wood and https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media). Sarah Jade Wilson is the Brand Director. With photography by Diana Mantis. Music Composed, Mixed and Mastered by Christian ‘Leggy' Langdon.

    The 2 Lads Podcast - Trailer

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 8, 2021 1:56


    Hi, welcome to the 2 LADS podcast, from actor Daniel Sharman and music producer Christian 'Leggy' Langdon. The 2 Lads podcast tackles big topics with brutal honesty and vulnerability; replacing shame and guilt with truth and love in the quest for emotional and spiritual growth. These convos are unflinching, uncomfortable, funny ... and ongoing. Follow the conversation on Instagram: @The2LadsPodcast

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