BackPorch with Dale and Jonalyn

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We often tell our kids that God speaks to a rare few in the Bible, yet people expect God to talk to them today. Today the Finchers share some lessons from Jonah, the prophet God spoke to. Jonah didn't like what he said. But why? Let's follow along with Jonah, his running, his reluctance, his visit to an unlikely group. A judgmental man who didn't want to be judgmental for fear of the outcome. His worst fears come true. _________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Back Porch on Facebook and Twitter: @Soulation Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram and Twitter: @ChartingLiberty  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  _______ Music credit: https://uppbeat.io/t/simon-folwar/happy-places. License code: J4YSC25BAPNBURAX Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Finchers explain their journey of how they started homeschooling their two boys. They connect friendship to their parenting. Listen to how they define education and socialization in ways you may have never heard. Show notes: Cathy Duffy Reviews website Immune: The new book from Kurzgesagt - a gorgeously illustrated deep dive into the immune system Ep 63: Artificial Intelligence with Special Guest (our 13yo son!) ______________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Back Porch on Facebook and Twitter: @Soulation Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram and Twitter: @ChartingLiberty Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com _______ Music credit: https://uppbeat.io/t/simon-folwar/happy-places. License code: J4YSC25BAPNBURAX Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Finchers take questions from their audience starting off with this one about the differences between expectations and rules and laws. Hang onto your seats as Dale and Jonalyn tease apart these ideas and show how many good-sounding laws are breaking the backs of good people.  The question from a listener we cover in this episode: “Is making a rule or law that is morally good ever wrong? Is there a distinction when having expectations, rules and laws in different spaces? i.e. between family or community groups, such as schools or clubs or neighborhoods and larger communities such as countries? And then of course, God.”  Have your own question? Send it to hello@dalefincher.com. Show Notes:  Ep 41: Hope vs Exceptions Ep 58: The Jesus You Thought You Knew Ep 60: Evangelism - The Art of Inviting Others into Your Life ______________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Back Porch on Facebook and Twitter: @Soulation Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram and Twitter: @ChartingLiberty  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  _______ Music credit: https://uppbeat.io/t/simon-folwar/happy-places. License code: J4YSC25BAPNBURAX Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

With some exciting snacks to give this episode a true laid-back flair, the Finchers explain why kids make friends quicker than adults. They share how they've found adult friendships to work. Two favorite lines, “We get everything we need from God but he's not everything we need.” And “You don't have to be sad that friendships are gone, you can be glad they happened.” ______________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Follow Back Porch, now on Twitter! @soulation Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  _______ Music credit: https://uppbeat.io/t/simon-folwar/happy-places. License code: J4YSC25BAPNBURAX Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Finchers unpack the phrase, “My brother's keeper,” which has been used by politicians, pastors, and influencers--from local parishes to presidents like Obama--to justify a range of political and social actions. Listen to understand why this phrase, originating from the Bible's first murderer, is poor reason for any policy. Favorite line: “This verse has been used to justify control over things that don't belong to us.”  Show notes: Ep 4: Do We Have a Right to Privacy? ______________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Follow Back Porch, now on Twitter! @soulation Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com _______ Music credit: https://uppbeat.io/t/simon-folwar/happy-places. License code: J4YSC25BAPNBURAX Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Finchers tease apart SELFISHNESS from SELF-INTEREST. Jonalyn talks about binge/abstinence culture and Dale gives one of the most powerful explanations of how God is the most self-interested Person in the universe. Listen to the end for some real vulnerability from this husband-wife team.  ______________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com _______ Music credit: https://uppbeat.io/t/simon-folwar/happy-places. License code: J4YSC25BAPNBURAX Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Finchers bring their thirteen-year-old son--gamer, YouTuber, and 3-D designer--to discuss this hot topic. Is artificial intelligence really intelligent? And what can it offer us? ______________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com _______ Music credit: https://uppbeat.io/t/simon-folwar/happy-places. License code: J4YSC25BAPNBURAX Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

What does it mean to be "judgmental"? How can we keep from this smug attitude of superiority? Dale and Jonalyn parse how many different ways this word is used, both positive and negative. You'll find this helpful for your conversations. Favorite line: "Calling someone judgmental allows the immoral person to take the moral high ground." ______________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  _______ Music credit: https://uppbeat.io/t/simon-folwar/happy-places. License code: J4YSC25BAPNBURAX Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Bible does not present itself as a religious book or a therapeutic text. It presents itself as knowledge. Find Dale's four accessible steps to bring Bible study back into your home. If you love God, you can do this! ______________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  _______ Music credit: https://uppbeat.io/t/simon-folwar/happy-places. License code: J4YSC25BAPNBURAX Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Finchers explain why “evangelism” has become the toilet cleaning chore for the average Christian who want walk in God's freedom. They discuss the book they've written on this topic: "Coffee Shop Conversations: Making the Most of Spiritual Small Talk." They share horrible stories of their own failures and why “evangelism” needs to be refreshed for most Christians and re-centered on the Biblical story. Favorite line: “Shame and blame conversions have no staying power.” ______________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  _______ Music credit: https://uppbeat.io/t/simon-folwar/happy-places. License code: J4YSC25BAPNBURAX Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Finchers switch seats tonight and Dale interviews Jonalyn on what brought her to paint the COVID years. Jonalyn tells the story of her first art contest she she was 5! They discuss the artistic process, how much an artist's work is a metaphor for all of us practicing the art of living, and how NONE of us benefit when we simply copy the accepted trends and styles, even if it comes with applause. Jonalyn's show launches July 1 in Exeter, NH. Go to jonalynfincher.com for details. __________________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Most people who reject Jesus don't reject him but an idea of him. With so many voices talking about Jesus, who can we really trust? And is it worth the effort even finding out? Yes! Find out why Dale spent his COVID years telling the stories of Jesus from the book of Mark. Jonalyn interviews Dale about the whys behind his “Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family”. From learning like the 13th disciple to emigrating to the country of Jesus, Dale explains what drove him to this year-long project. Here, he is “handing people off to Jesus”. If you only listen to one Back Porch Conversation, this is it. ___ To get your own copy of "Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family" go here: https://mysoundwise.com/publishers/1610466269368p If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

You've heard of "woke" corporations. But what makes them so? Why do so many fall lockstep together even when the public doesn't want to buy it? That's what ESG and DEI is all about.  Dale and Jonalyn explain how these terms, like ESG and DEI, have seduced Christians. If you care about seeing the ways the purity fetish has seeped into the Progressive Christian mind, start with this one. These devices are just authoritarianism and spiritual abuse with new features. Favorite quote: “If your Jesus believes the same things the Post Modern Marxist coropration's believe, someone has tweaked your Jesus.” ___ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Dale and Jonalyn talk about their own vulnerable struggles though the choice to be child-free into the choice of having children. Along the way, they discuss the trends today to celebrate being child-free and the reasons and excuses that come with it. Favorite line: “Refusing to have kids because the world is so bad is a phobic way of living.” __________________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

What is the purpose of the laws in our life and what does the wise person need to do? Dale and Jonalyn share their own stories of "legalistic" places and how they navigated them. St. Paul said the "letter kills." What does that mean?? Tune in to see how LAW functions in our lives from family to governments to God. Favorite Line: “Obeying someone out of fear is not a virtue.” You'll also find out why Dale and Jonalyn don't like to cook together!! Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Dale explains why gender and roles has troubled him for the last 30 years. Find out why and where male and female roles came from. Jonalyn joins him to share why she is so concerned about the trans movement. Listen to the end for the number one practical thing you can do to stop gender confusion. Favorite line: “You can't live out your gender and contradict your body." __________________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Dale explains why most churches create exhausted and unhappy Christians. Jonalyn shares how she figured out how to listen to the Spirit. Together they discuss what it means to walk with the Good Shepherd with their unique gifts. Favorite line: “When I meet someone new, I want them to see the kind of person Jesus makes.”  Show notes: PCC videos, Living with Questions, Coffee Shop Conversations, Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family. __________________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Answering a question from their listeners, the Finchers explain the problems with the “two kingdoms” view, how reality is bigger than "us versus them," "church versus world." They sort out several misconceptions to help the listener live larger in the world as God's people. Favorite quote: “If you are a follower of Jesus and you have a barbecue at your house, that is a church event.”  Show notes: Episode 3: Are Church Buildings Necessary? _________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Buckle your seatbelt for this one. In this episode, Jonalyn shares what she's always thought we should be grateful we have a chance to contribute on tax day. Dale explains why it's the hardest day of the year for him. Favorite line: “You cannot tax someone and claim to love them.” _________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

This one is for anyone who wants to understand how helping hurts and the tools for recovering from codependency. Dale gives an amazing metaphor at the end about an “emotional escape room” and Jonalyn explains why so many people in ministry have kids who leave the faith.  __________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Finchers explain their understanding of the gun debate. They're in rare form as they explain who is worth protecting, who gets to decide what tools we need, and how word games have twisted the clear path all responsible adults should take.  Show notes: Thunder Ranch with Clint a nd Heidi Smith. __________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Dale and Jonalyn share what is ahead for their family and Dale's new transition on social media. They share more of their personal backstory of how they got here too. Favorite line: “You need to chase your dreams as much as you wish for others to chase theirs.” ** Show notes: Patrick Cairnes, Betrayal Bond . Dale's PCC Videos on Vimeo. __________ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @ChartingLiberty  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

You'll hear the Finchers respond to a recent question, “If Paul says love keeps no record of wrongs, does that mean we forget wrongs?” Dale and Jonalyn explain how amnesia is not next to godliness. And they explain what love and forgiveness actually mean and how getting them wrong leads to more abuses. Favorite line: “Love creates a safe space to face the truth of things.” Show notes: Get Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family (details at dalefincher.com). Listen in order or jump to sections of Jesus teachings that have always puzzled you.  ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com or hello@jonalynfincher.com Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Mark Twain said, "Faith is believing what you know ain't so." His quote from over a century ago would fit perfectly into today's society. Dale and Jonalyn share how many false definitions of “faith” have gotten into our water. They start with Twain and finish by connecting faith to friendship. Favorite quote: “If you get faith wrong, you cut yourself off from everyone, not just God.”  Show notes: Coffee Shop Conversations: Making the Most of Spiritual Small Talk by Dale Fincher and Jonalyn Fincher. See "Lost words" section for more about "faith" and a few other important words we care about. ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Get ready to rethink everything you've heard about FORGIVENESS. Dale explains the obligations and conditions for forgiveness. Jonalyn shares how forgiving and forgetting isn't even Biblical. And together they talk about forgiveness as a strategy for something even bigger. Favorite line: “You can heal without forgiving. And you can forgive without healing.” Show notes: Read Matthew 18. ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

In this part two on Persecution, the Fincher duo explains the benefits people reap when they claim to be oppressed. Dale lists six perks you receive when you trade your agency for persecution and wear the victim mask. You'll also get an fresh take on the Romans 13 passage on submission to authority and why cults always claim to be oppressed.  Show notes: Dale's "PCC Videos" Book recommendation: Co-dependence: Misunderstood -- Mistreated by Anne Wilson Schaef ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Find out the difference between suffering for a foolish life as a Christian and suffering for Jesus' sake in this inspiring episode. You'll find how persecution is misused and why it's so different. Favorite line: “So many choose the appearance of persecution because of the luxuries and prestige it brings.” ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Hear the ways the culture around us has gotten into the air we breathe. Dale and Jonalyn tease apart the Host Culture from the goodness of God's world. You'll find so many Host Culture ideas are in our churches, too. Favorite line: “Empathy is not an ethic--it's just the beginning of the journey.” And watch for the new helpful phrase Dale coined “Rainbow Globalism” and why it hurts our humanity.   ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Dale explains why many Christians overemphasize grace and mercy at the expense of distorting it. Favorite line: “Grace and mercy are a plane ticket to go somewhere”. Find out where and what happens when we refuse to get off the plane. Book mentioned: Streams of Living Water: Celebrating the Great Traditions of Christian Faith by Richard Foster ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Dale and Jonalyn wrestle out how hope, expectations, and wishful thinking are different. Using a real life conversation from their lives, they explain how hope can be a virtue and not just a wishful fantasy. Favorite line: “Hope cannot be marching orders for God.”  ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com. Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

As we approach Christmas and the end of the year, talk of giving and generosity fills the air. In this episode, Dale and Jonalyn talk finances and offer 20 years of experience from running a non-profit to sitting on a board of a multi-million dollar philanthropic foundation. You'll hear some of the pitfalls of generosity, all the creative ways to be generous, and advice to give more strategically as a family.  Favorite line: “Those who walk in the kingdom of God always walk in abundance. And I'm not just talking about money.” ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Dale and Jonalyn look at Matthew 5 (Sermon on the Mount) and share a live experience of good ways to read the Bible in context. You'll find yourself again confident that you can do this without someone mediating the meaning. If you've listened to Episode 38 on "perfectionism," you'll love exploring more deeply why Jesus says "Be perfect!"  Favorite line: “Read for pleasure!" ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Does God want you to be perfect? Well, does he? Taking a question from their audience, the Finchers tease apart perfect and perfectionism and why God's laws are never too heavy for us. Doubt this already? Listen to "Fire Those Gods" after this one.  Favorite line: “Most Christians think Jesus asks us to do something we can never do.”  Book mentioned: Walking on Water: Reflections on Faith and Art by Madeleine L'Engle. ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Finchers talk about fundamentalism on the Right and Left, how to see it and how to fire the false gods that fuel it. Favorite line: “You want to defend the false god so your kids stay in the fundy cult.”  ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd  Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

This dynamic duo get very honest about their own fears as they unpack what the fear of the Lord means. Some Narnia in this one and Annie Dillard. Favorite line: "Faithfulness is about the direction you're headed." ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family at dalefincher.com. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online:Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincherDale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.comDale's website: dalefincher.com  Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Dale and Jonalyn share some ugly pictures of heaven that they've heard over the years and explain why they miss the mark. You'll want to hear about the "codependent paradise." Favorite line: “My favorite way to talk about hell is a place that magnifies scarcity.” ______ Get your Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family. If you have a topic of question for us or interest in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincherDale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.comDale's website: dalefincher.com Find our books on Amazon: Living with Questions, Ruby Slippers, Coffee Shop Conversations.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Dale gives his new definition of apologetics and explains what it means for a whole family to live with questions together. Favorite line: “Different questions haunt different people.” If you have a topic of question for us or interesting in Dale speaking at your event, email hello@dalefincher.com. Find Dale and Jonalyn online: Audio Stories: Stories of Jesus for the Modern Family Jonalyn on Instagram: @jonalyn_fincher Dale on Instagram: @voiceofthe2nd Jonalyn's original paintings and blog: jonalynfincher.com Dale's website: dalefincher.com Find our books on Amazon:  Living with Questions Ruby Slippers Coffee Shop Conversations Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

What's the problem with all these political and social projects today? What are the three tell-tales something is a purity project? Dale and Jonalyn jump right in with many examples across the religious and political spectrum that you'll enjoy exploring. Favorite line: “Purity takes a non-moral issue and forces it into a moral one.” Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Is being bigoted the same as being judgmental? Jonalyn asks Dale to explain what it means to be a bigot. Join them as they make some distinctions that explain the reason many catch phrases, like “No human is illegal!”, is sloppy reasoning. Favorite line: “We are designed to land on reality. When we touch down on reality, we call that truth.” Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Should we judge a thing based on its merits or based on others abusing it? How many people won't go to physical therapy because of a bad experience? Or go to a psychologist? Or a church? Or avoid marriage or politics? We all know people and places we avoid because of bad experiences. How do we overcome this bias of bad experience? Dale shares an embarrassing moment he judged a thing by its abuse! Favorite line: "Humility can iron out the wrinkles where we go wrong." Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Finchers take a listener's question about the muddy waters of honor, obey, and love for our parents when they aren't so honorable. Can we honor them without submitting to abuse?  Books for growth that Jonalyn recommends Howard Halpern,'s Cutting Loose and Cloud and Townsend's Changes that Heal and Boundaries. Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

This is the one to hear. Let's look at the temptations that Jesus faced, how he faced them, and how they could have derailed him. First, we must know Jesus' mission before we can understand why these temptations were so strong. We walk through these scenes and see Jesus emerge on the other side, a king ready to for his work. Favorite line: “When God makes you steady you are no longer interested in what is trendy." Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Why do so many in churches hate rights? Why do many on the Left and Right think Rights are just excuses for people to be bad without consequence? Some even think rights means only people we agree with get to talk. Favorite Quote: "The purpose of free speech is so that truth has a chance in the public square.” In this podcast, we'll discuss what rights mean, the difference between legal, human, and natural God-given rights. And why rights are absolutely necessary for us as humans to steward the life and gifts God has given us.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Dale and Jonalyn talk about their own struggles in marriage and some important tips to, not only save a marriage, but to make it an enjoyable partnership. Favorite line: “Health grows trust.” Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

We go 9-5 every day. We have a network of drama in our friendships and family, We are glued to social feeds and headlines of celebrity and political gossip. What are we in this life for? Do we have our eyes set on that? How should we expect God to show up? Favorite line: “If you want to see the Red Sea part, you need to first be a slave in Egypt.” Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

How do you respond to friends who accuse the unvaccinated and unmasked of selfishness? Jonalyn unpacks the ways the current sound-bytes follow spiritual abuse gaslighting techniques. Favorite line: “Do your inner convictions match your life's choices?” Dale explains how our need to belong gets in the way of our need to be wise. Learn how to respond to the vaccine police both in your heart and in public dialog.  Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

What do all evil things have in common? Dale reveals the infantile society among us. Confusion too is a fruit of evil. Notice how laughable so many ideas on social media were a decade ago but now bring sorrow when implemented. We'd joke "That'll never happen!" But then it does. When evil starts to lose power, it amplifies good words to keep evil's grip. They use Twitter, which was founded in democratizing free speech, into a platform that pretends it and redefines free speech. Calling people who call out misinformation as "misinformed" and calling out those who speak against propaganda as "promoting propaganda." Listen in as the Fincher's move us from darkness to light in this moving broadcast.  Favorite line: "It's not evil itself but evil's wake that what brings us grief." Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

Dale and Jonalyn talk about their experience with COVID. They share their experience being shamed for not getting vaccinated. And they talk about how bankrupt public trust has become in the current medical community. Favorite line: "Doctors have become the DJs of medical research. 'Let me play what's popular and what I'm told you need to hear'." Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Finchers discuss the problems with thinking humans are worthless. Dale gives a timely definition of sin as pollution. Jonalyn talks about how easy it is think you're confessing when you're actually groveling. They explain how confession is supposed to work. Favorite line: "Lost things are wanted things. And humans are lost, therefore, all humans are wanted." Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise

The Finchers explain how our personal stories are directly connected to why we trust abusive political leaders. Dale defines abuse, politics, rights and his personal test for a political philosophy. You won't want to miss the Finchers sharing their individual stories of identifying and healing from abuse. Favorite line: “Saying I'm wounded is not the same as healing.” Subscribe to Back Porch with Dale and Jonalyn on Soundwise