Podcasts about Selfishness

What makes a man worth following? In this episode of The Impossible Life Podcast, Nick Surface and Garrett Unclebach dig into leadership through the lens of Jesus, faith, purpose, and biblical masculinity. Leadership is not just a title, position, platform, or personality trait. At the very least, every man leads himself, and if he wants to lead his family, business, team, ministry, or community well, he has to learn God's way. Jesus did not build by chasing crowds or demanding attention. He built through discipleship, training, transformation, and service.Nick and Garrett unpack the “superpower combination” that comes from truly following God: eternal mindset, purposeful living, and faith in God. A Christian man who sees beyond short-term comfort and into eternity lives differently. He can endure pain, resist panic, act with integrity when it costs him, and trust that God is in control even when the outcome does not make sense in the moment. This kind of leadership is not built on control. It is built on trust, obedience, consistency, and the courage to make the right play even when it requires sacrifice.This episode also exposes three leadership killers: insecurity, lack of emotional control, and selfishness. Insecurity makes a leader needy. Emotional instability makes him unpredictable. Selfishness turns leadership into a campaign to build his own castle instead of serving the mission. But Jesus shows a better way. Because He knew who He was, where He came from, and where He was going, He could take the towel, wash feet, serve, sacrifice, and still lead with unmatched authority. For men who want to live with purpose, grow in faith, lead their families, build with masculinity, and follow Jesus completely, this episode is a call to stop wearing the T-shirt and actually enroll in the program.Get With NuWave Home Lenders By Clicking HereGet a Free 7 Day Trial On The Tailored Training App By Clicking HereJoin a group of likeminded Impossible Life listeners in our FREE Skool community by clicking here.Get the Purpose Playbook by clicking hereGet the FREE Basic Discipline Training 30 Day Program by clicking hereJoin us in Mindset Mastery by clicking hereLevel up your nutrition with IDLife by clicking hereGET IN TOUCHSocial Media - @theimpossiblelifeEmail - info@theimpossible.life

In 1979, Bob Dylan released a song by this title which (through its lyrics) describes this human reality: You (and I) were created to serve and worship and "it can be the devil or it can be the Lord, but you've got to serve somebody." In this passage, we will see how Satan attempted to get Jesus to serve (and worship) him, by getting Jesus to serve himself. Selfishness is Satanism. We look at how the devil tricks us into breaking God's first command. Then we will respond by intentionally focusing our worship away from ourselves and instead upon the Father, through the Son, by the Holy Spirit.

Selfishness vs. Sacrifice ~ Rational selfishness or blind sacrifice - which one leads to happiness? A short interview with activist Lin Zinser. Listen to caller's personal dramas four times each week as Dr. Kenner takes your calls and questions on parenting, romance, love, family, marriage, divorce, hobbies, career, mental health - any personal issue! Call anytime, toll free 877-Dr-Kenner. Visit www.drkenner.com for more information about the show (where you can also download free chapter one of her serious relationships guidebook).

This podcast is a short daily audio provided by the online recovery group Transitions Daily. The daily content includes different recovery quotes from various sources, including; Twenty-Four Hours a Day, A.A. Thought for the Day, Daily Reflections, Big Book Quote, Just for Today, As Bill Sees It, and more! Transitions Daily also delivers the same content in a daily email with a secret Facebook group for discussion. Visit www.DailyAAEmails.com for more information.                               Do you want to stop drinking? Have you ever listened to sobriety podcasts? Does alcoholism or addiction run in your family? Have you tried Alcoholics Anonymous or the 12 Steps of A.A.? Are you considering how to get sober? Are you seriously thinking about sobriety for the first time? Is alcohol controlling your life as never before? If so, you will definitely want to check out this recovery podcast

Welcome to The Daily. Today, I want to give a shoutout to Jeff Baker from Palm Coast, FL. Thank you so much for your partnership with us in Project23. Grab your Hosea Scripture Journal. Our text today is Hosea 10:1: Israel is a luxuriant vine that yields its fruit. The more his fruit increased, the more altars he built; as his country improved, he improved his pillars. — Hosea 10:1 Success can be dangerous, and it rarely feels dangerous at first. Note Israel. They are "a luxuriant vine." In other words, they were fruitful, productive, expanding, and prosperous. There was progress in their time. Wealth was increasing. Structures were being built. Life felt stable and looked successful. And yet there is this underlying problem. "The more his fruit increased, the more [foreign] altars he built." Notice what's happening. Their progress did not drive them toward deeper surrender to God. It fed their independence from Him. Progress became prosperity, which became pride. They moved from God's blessing to self-congratulation. Material success has a subtle power over the human heart. It convinces us that we are the source of what only God provided. We start admiring what we built, what we earned, what we improved, what we accomplished. The operative word here is "we." Our house gets bigger. Our investments grow. Our business expands. Our upgrades increase. Our image sharpens. And with every improvement comes a hidden temptation: to believe we did this, therefore we deserve it. Success can quietly feed arrogance. Not noticeable arrogance. Refined arrogance. The kind that still mentions God occasionally while functionally trusting ourselves completely. When this happens, we stop praying with desperation because life feels manageable. We stop depending on God because systems, money, planning, and comfort seem to work just fine. We begin measuring life by visible growth instead of spiritual depth. And the frightening part is this: materialism often produces immediate dividends before it produces visible destruction. That is why it deceives so many people. Success can hide personal spiritual decay for a long time. You can be fruitful financially and barren spiritually. You can look blessed outwardly while pride is hollowing you out underneath. You can build an impressive life while slowly losing your dependence on God. But note: the danger is not the provision. The danger is provision without surrender. Because with provision comes the dangers of provision. Selfishness without submission. If pride has seeped in, surrender it today. And recognize all provisions as God's provision, not your own. DO THIS: Thank God specifically today for every success, provision, and opportunity in your life. Then ask Him to expose any pride or self-reliance growing underneath it. ASK THIS: Has success made me more dependent on God or less? Where has materialism quietly shaped my heart? What am I taking credit for that actually came from God? PRAY THIS: God, protect me from the pride that success can create. Keep my heart humble, grateful, surrendered, and fully dependent on you. Amen. PLAY THIS: "Yet Not I But Through Christ in Me"

Have you ever questioned God's decisions or struggled to understand why He shows grace to someone you think doesn't deserve it? Jonah did. As this series concludes, we discover that the story was never really about Jonah—or even the great fish. It's about a God whose wisdom, mercy, and compassion are greater than our own. While we're often tempted to make life about our comfort, reputation, or sense of justice, God invites us to trust His heart instead of demanding our own way. When we remember that the same grace extended to Nineveh has also been extended to us, we're challenged to replace resentment with compassion and to love people the way God loves them. Let's listen in.LINKS + RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:• Download the free study guide, complete transcript, and show notes here.• Scripture References: Jonah chapter 3, verse - ch. 4, verse 11; Isaiah 10, verse 5; Deuteronomy 18, verse 22• Find out more about Covenant Church at ⁠covenantchurchwv.com

Declare war on selfishness

In this week's vlog, I share as part of July being Disability Pride Month how it was important to not judge or shame others for their challenges and that not all disabled people require the same accommodations while understanding how much disabled people gone through even now and continuing to fight ableism, but me realizing that there is no shame in my disability that my needs are needs just like others with disabilities.Links:Visit my linktreeWeekly E-Blast Sign-upWebsite & BlogSocial:FacebookX / TwitterInstagramPinterestTikTokPodcast Platforms:SpotifyAnchorGoogle PodcastsAmazon MusicPocketcastsRadio Public

The believers at Corinth believe that since they have decided to follow Jesus and he has given them freedom from the bondage of sin, they can do whatever they want. In their culture, just like ours, temptation is all around them, everywhere they go. Temples with prostitutes are seen from any direction, meat sacrificed to idols is being sold in restaurants and marketplaces, and with their freedom they have in Jesus, they tend to give into temptations and sin. Paul says, “Yes, you have freedom in Christ, but not all freedoms are beneficial. The King James Version says they are not all expedient and edifying. Yes, we have been set free from sin by Jesus, but there are other people to think about, and this is what Paul is saying. Don't let your freedom cause others to sin!

Click HERE to donate to Sober Shares via PayPal.Website: www.sobershares.comEmail: mike@SoberShares.comThis episode delves into the philosophy of life, exploring how we can overcome self-centeredness and navigate the challenges of surviving a child's suicide. We talk about ways to connect with a Higher Power and address charter defects like pride and fear. Finally, we emphasize the importance of celebrating life and finding joy in sobriety.

Our self-life – self-indulgence, self-preservation, self-gratification – our self-life, as it turns out is a tyrant that robs us of real life. The life that Jesus has for us. And I believe that this selfishness, this craving of the flesh is something that Jesus came to set us free from.   OVERCOMING SELFISHNESS Selfishness is a word that we are all too familiar with but I wonder how often we stop to think about what it actually means! Self–ish-ness ... it's about our tendency to put ourselves, our needs, our plans, our reputations before other people. Problem is, we notice when other people are being selfish to us – we notice when they put themselves and their own interests before ours but we rarely notice when the shoe is on the other foot. We rarely notice when it's us who are being selfish. In fact, for most of my life, I never once thought of myself as being selfish when the reality was that 'self' was all I was interested in. How about you? How often do you think of yourself being selfish as opposed to other people being selfish towards you? That's why selfishness is such an insidious sin. It rears its ugly head all too often without us ever really noticing that we are the ones being selfish. And this putting of self above and before other people – it takes so many different forms. Whenever my interests are more important to me than your interests, the easiest thing in the world is to put mine before yours and that ... that's what we call selfishness. Over the last three weeks on the programme we have been chatting about overcoming stubborn sin and I know that there are a few people who might squirm at that little word "sin". I used to too. I thought of it as an outdated, irrelevant, judgemental, religious term that, frankly, belonged in the lexicon of those doddering old folk I saw wandering in and out of those places they call "church", and that ... that is a deception that the devil was happy for me to live under for many years. But "sin" – it's a very simple concept: it's falling short of all the good and wonderful things that God has planned for our lives. It's missing the whole point and the point is that God wants us to enjoy Him and worship Him and glorify Him with our lives and that brings such a great source of delight and wonder and peace and joy to us. It's the way things are meant to be, now and for all eternity – through every up and every down – every mountain top experience and every trial and temptation and hurt this world has to offer. And so those "sins" that are particularly stubborn, that one sin that keeps coming back again and again and again, is Satan's messenger to torments us; to try and rob us of the abundant life that God has planned for us. And this one, selfishness, is one that so many people suffer from. It's one that used to be right up there right on top of my list too. I couldn't see what was wrong with it either. I worked hard, I applied myself and I'm this outcome focused person who drives hard at life to achieve what I set out to achieve – my agenda, my success, my way or the highway. So what's wrong with getting my way? If other people want to get their way, well, they should be like me, otherwise tough, right? That's the world's template for success – climb over whoever you have to; roll over the top of whoever you have to; crash through whoever you have to, to get to wherever you are going. And here's how it changed for me. There were two parts – one to do with my heart, the other to do with my hands. In other words one part to do with my motivation and the other part to do with my practical "doing" – how I lived that out. I was always after greatness – I wanted people to recognise who I was; to recognise my achievements. And I, like most of the rest of the world, thought that that was about getting 'my' way and other people going "WOW!" isn't he fantastic? Ha, well, that a deception; that's a lie, because it doesn't work that way. Jesus, in what the theologians called the 'Great Denunciation' in Matthew chapter 23, where He rips into the religious leaders of the day; people who were selfish and were ripping off those in their charge. Right in the middle of His vehement argument against their hypocrisy and selfishness, Jesus has this to say - He says: The greatest among you will be your servant. All who exalt themselves will be humbled and all who humble themselves, will be exalted. That's Matthew chapter 23, verses 11 and 12. Now, I thought about that a lot and the truth of that first sentence really ... really started to do its work in me. "The greatest among you will be your servant." The greatest people in my life; the ones whom I truly value and honour and respect are the ones who have served me more than all the others. There's a man called Graham. He was a Colonel in the Army when I was a young Captain. Together Graham and I and another man, Mark, left the Army and formed an Information Technology consulting firm. Now Graham is not only intellectually one of the smartest people I know, but he has a deep wisdom about life; about dealing with other people – about all sorts of things. Now he's twenty years my senior and over a period of seventeen years when we worked together in this consulting firm, he was my mentor; my teacher. He taught me how to listen, how not to roll over the top of people, how to influence instead of control. He taught me any number of things – many of those come out through these radio programmes, day after day, week after week, all these years later. He served me, even when I was young and precocious; even when I didn't deserve it. Ask me who are amongst the greatest people in my life and he is right up there. Once I figured out the deep truth of what Jesus said: "The greatest among you will be your servant," my motivations changed. And then ... then it was time to live that out, minute by minute, relationship by relationship, interaction by interaction. And here's what I discovered when I took my selfishness out of the equation; when I no longer had to win every time and get my way every time, all of a sudden life became much easier. James chapter 3, verse 16: For when there is envy and selfish ambition there will also be disorder and wickedness of every kind. And that is absolutely right! Take away the selfishness and instead of disorder and wickedness, what you get, nine times out of ten, is peace. Once I learned to collaborate instead of obliterate, WOW, what a great way to live your life! You know why ultimately, selfishness has become one of the easiest of my stubborn sins to give up? You know why? Because the rewards are so great and they are pretty much instant. Stop the selfishness and conflict reduces, peace increases, relationships improve and it happens quickly. And after a while it's really easy to get addicted to those rewards. You know, I'm wondering if that isn't what God planned all along. Have a listen to a bit more of what James chapter 3 says – verses 16 to 18: For where there is envy or selfish ambition there will also be disorder and wickedness of every kind. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without a trace of partiality or hypocrisy. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace for those who make peace. When we give up our selfishness, we are sowing peace and whatever we sow we will reap – we'll reap a harvest which is peace. This really works.   OVERCOMING THE FLESH Well, I don't know about you, but for me this last few weeks on the programme, where we've been looking at overcoming stubborn sin, once and for all – it's been a real challenge and for me too, a breath of fresh air. See, as we have travelled through God's Word, you know what's really leapt out for me? The truth that Jesus truly does want to set us free from the terrible effects of those stubborn sins that linger on in our lives. How many people I know – I was just sitting the other day having coffee with a man; a really successful businessman who was telling me about something in his life – a stubborn sin. And as successful as he was in business, he completely resigned himself to the fact – as least he thought it was a fact – that this stubborn sin would never go away. He was utterly convinced of it. Man, that is such a tragedy! Does that mean, he believes that when it comes to that one particular stubborn sin, that Jesus died and rose again in vain? Does he believe that the cross of Christ is mighty and powerful and able to save everyone and everything except him from that one sin? Evidently so! Well, let me be perfectly blunt – too many people for too long have been living with stubborn sin; destructive patterns of behaviour that they could be completely free of through a simple, yet tenacious faith in Jesus Christ. Today, right now, I want to show you that this truth is for you too. But here's the problem: so many people want a foot in each camp. They want to be free of the destructive effects of stubborn sin, but they don't want to pay the price of letting it go. Let me paint a picture for you. The man who works in a company; he's incredibly competent at what he does – he knows his job backwards and as it turns out, his skills and knowledge and abilities are invaluable to his employer – BUT he's incredibly critical. No one else can ever do the job to his standards and so he complains about people – he almost always has a bad attitude, he grumbles and because no one else can do things to his standard, he becomes a control freak. So, valuable as he may well be to his employer, he just doesn't have any friends at work. When people organise to go out to lunch together, they somehow ... forget to invite him. The others seem to laugh together and enjoy each other's company but he's is always on the outer. He knows deep inside, that his attitudes are robbing him of those relationships. But the truth is, he's not prepared to let go of the bad attitudes and the destructive behaviour that is robbing him of life. And that's what happens! See, we justify our own sin to ourselves and we want to be rid of its effects – we just don't want to have to pay the price of letting the sin go out of our lives. Huh, does this sound familiar? We're double minded about our sin. We want a foot in both camps – we want to be free but we just don't want to let go. Now, here's the question – how to we take this decisive step to let go of the sin? How? Well, I believe that what's required is a decisive step; a firm decision; a firm resolve in Christ to make a change. And if you know you have been double minded; if you know that you have been struggling, trying to have one foot in each camp and it hasn't been working, I want to share this powerful few verses from the Word of God with you. Because I believe that through them the Spirit of God is going to help you to decide, once and for all, to let go of whatever stubborn sin has been tearing your life apart. I'm reading from Romans chapter 13, beginning at verse 9: The commandments, "You shall not commit adultery; You shall not murder; You shall not steal; You shall not covet"; and any other commandment, are summed up by this word, "Love your neighbour as yourself." Love does no wrong to a neighbour; therefore, love is the fulfilling of the law. Besides this, you know what time it is, how it is now the moment for you to wake from sleep. For salvation is nearer to us now than when we became believers; the night is far gone, the day is near. Let us then lay aside the works of darkness and put on the armour of light; let us live honourably as in the day, not in revelling and drunkenness, not in debauchery and licentiousness, not in quarrelling and jealousy. Instead, put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires. Here's what God is saying to us through the Apostle Paul and this chapter from Romans: you know all the obvious rules; the ones we just can't seem to keep because of the stubborn sin in our lives. You want to know what they boil down to? Love the people around you; just love them the way God loves you and then He allowed His Son Jesus to be brutally nailed to that cross for you. Let me ask you: can you do that? Are you prepared to love others the way Jesus loved you? That's the question God's asking each one of us right now. "Take a good hard look at My Son, nailed hands and feet to the cross," God's saying, "gasping for breath, dying, bearing the price of your sin in His flesh that you might be forgiven. Take a good, hard look. Now, tell Me, now that you have seen My great love for you, will you love others with that same love with which I loved you? The day's coming; the time of your salvation is much, much closer than you might imagine. It is time ... it's time My child, for you to live in that light, to lay aside the works of your darkness and put on the armour of light. Replace whatever sin it is that's tearing you apart, replace it with a love that you have in My Son, Jesus Christ." Here's the problem: God's saying through this passage: you have been making provision for your flesh to gratify your worldly desires. It is time ... it is time for you, for each one of us to decide instead to clothe ourselves in Christ – to put on the Lord Jesus Christ and stop making provisions for your flesh – stop pandering to your desires. And this, my friend, is the crunch point: we start off with all these great intentions ... "No, no, I won't be selfish anymore; no, no, I won't get involved in sexual immorality anymore; no, no, I won't let anger ruin my life" ... but then ... then the flesh cries out. See, the flesh never wants to let go; it never wants to die to self and when it hurts; when it screams out; when we can't get the gratification that we have become addicted to ... a gratification no less destructive than heroin or ice, mind you, when we can't get it anymore, what we do is pander to the flesh. And just continue on that downward spiral of self destruction that sin is all about. Today ... today, God is calling you and me to a decisive point in our lives. Listen again to the very call of God to you and to me – listen, allow it to rest on your heart. Romans chapter 13, verse 14: Instead, put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires. Now I have a question – as the Holy Spirit takes that Scripture and begins to do His work in your heart by it, are you prepared to make the decision to die to self – to stop making provision for the flesh each time it cries out and once and for all, clothe yourselves in Jesus Christ? Because that's what God is calling each one of us to do. I can't answer that call for you, only you can. As you stand and behold the Lamb of God, suffering on that cross for you, let me ask you this: do you hear His call? "Die to self and come ... come and enjoy the new life that My Son died to give to you." Do you see how much God loves you? "Come! Do you hear the call? How do you answer?   THAT WE MAY STAND As we come to the end of this four week series "Overcoming Stubborn Sin Once and For All", I know that there is still some among us, whilst they hunger in their hearts after God, find that something ... an elusive something is holding them back. Something is not quite right. If that's what going on inside you right now, then you should not be surprised – you're not alone. There is indeed an elusive something holding back many a man and many a woman – holding them back from giving their lives; all of who they are over to God - holding them back from letting go of this stubborn sin that has been ruling their lives all too long. I'm going to read something to you that was written by the well known author A.W. Tozer in the mid-twentieth century, in his book "The Pursuit of God". The language and the turn of phrase may have dated a little but it makes the truth of what he says no less true and no less powerful. Have a listen to what he writes: There is something more serious than coldness of heart; something that may be back of that coldness and be the cause of its existence. What is it? What but the presence of a veil in our hearts. A veil not taken away as the first veil was but which remains there still shutting out the light and hiding the face of God from us. It is the veil of our fleshly fallen nature living on, unjudged within us; un-crucified and un-repudiated. It is the close woven veil of the self life which we have never truly acknowledged, of which we have been secretly ashamed and which, for these reasons we have never brought to the judgement of the cross. It is not too mysterious, this opaque veil, nor is it hard to identify – we have but to look in our own hearts and we shall see it there – sewn and patched and repaired it may be, but there, never the less, an enemy to our lives and an effective block to our spiritual progress. This veil is not a beautiful thing, it is not a thing about which we commonly care to talk but I am addressing the thirsting souls who are determined to follow God and I know they will not turn back because the way leads temporarily through the blackened hills. The urge of God within them will assure their continuing pursuit. They will face the facts, however unpleasant, and endure the cross for the joy set before them. So I am bold to name the threads out of which this inner veil is woven. It is woven of fine threads of the self life – the hyphenated sins of the human spirit. They are not something we do, they are something we are and therein lies both their subtlety and their power. To be specific, the self sins are these: self-righteousness, self-pity, self-confidence, self-sufficiency, self-admiration, self-love and a host of others like them. They dwell too deep within us and are too much a part of our natures to come to our attention until the light of God is focused on them. The grosser manifestation of these sins: egotism, exhibitionism, self-promotion are strangely tolerated in Christian leaders, even in circles of impeccable orthodoxy. Promoting the self under the guise of promoting Christ is currently so common as to excite little notice. The self is a hard and brutal taskmaster and letting go is painful. Tozer goes on to say this: Let us remember when we talk about the rending of the veil we are speaking in a figure and the thought of it is poetical, almost pleasant but in actuality, there is nothing pleasant about it at all. In human experience, that veil is made of living spiritual tissue. It is composed of the sentient, quivering stuff of which our whole being consists and to touch it is to touch us where we feel pain – to tear it away, this veil of self, is to injure us, to hurt us and to make us bleed. To say otherwise is to make the cross, no cross and death, no death at all. It is never fun to die – to rip through that dear and tender stuff of which life is made, can never be anything but deeply, deeply painful. Yet that is what the cross did to Jesus and it is what the cross would do to every man to set him free. Let us beware of tinkering with our inner life in the hope, ourselves, to rend the veil. God must do everything for us – our part is to yield and trust. We must confess, forsake and repudiate the self-life and then reckon it to be crucified. But we must be careful to distinguish lazy acceptance from the real work of God. We must insist upon this work being done. We dare not rest with a neat doctrine of self-crucifixion – that is to imitate Saul and to spare the best of the sheep and the oxen. I have got to tell you, that really strikes hard with me. There is a veil of self that hangs over many a heart because we have not taken it to God; because we have not allowed it to be crucified and we have not travelled that way. I just feel right now as we finish this series, this four part series of "Eliminating Stubborn Sin – Once and For All", I feel that you and I should pray this very thing through. Father God. We come before You today, knowing the depth of our sin and the consequences of our rebellion. We come before You today not knowing how to let go of this stubborn sin that dogs our lives and we know that it is only through the cross that this veil of self can be torn from our hearts. So we come to You by the power of Your cross and the grace available to us through the price that Jesus paid for us there. Forgive us, Lord God, and set us free from this sin, once and for all. This day, this moment, we will take up Your cross and follow You, no matter what it may cost us, no matter how much it may hurt to give up the self life. Even if it should cost us our lives, we choose to follow You. Father God, honour the desires of our hearts and empower us to live our lives for You. Father, we give our lives over to You. In Jesus mighty name, we pray. Amen.

Send me a some feedback!In this episode, Mike challenges one of the deepest beliefs many of us inherited as children: "Don't be selfish." While the intention behind that message may have been good, the long-term consequence is often a life of over-giving, under-receiving, and quietly sacrificing our own needs to avoid appearing selfish. Mike explains why healthy selfishness isn't something to avoid—it's something to cultivate. Drawing from his own life, his coaching work, and the foundation of his upcoming book, Built to Give, Rebuilt to Receive, Mike explores how our earliest conditioning shapes our relationship with giving and receiving. He shares why learning to receive isn't selfish at all—it's the key to creating a life of greater abundance, fulfillment, and generosity.Key Takeaways1. Childhood conditioning often creates adults who over-give and under-receive. Messages like "Don't be selfish," "Don't ask for too much," and "It's better to give than receive" become unconscious programs that continue shaping our lives decades later. 2. Healthy selfishness is not the opposite of generosity. Wanting what you want, asking for it, and allowing yourself to receive doesn't make you selfish—it creates the capacity to give from overflow instead of depletion. 3. Giving and receiving are equal. Like breathing in and breathing out, both are essential. When one side of the exchange is blocked, life becomes imbalanced. 4. Your relationship with receiving determines the quality of your life. Many people unconsciously reject support, ease, abundance, and opportunity because they were conditioned to believe they must first earn or deserve them. 5. Becoming an easy receiver changes everything. As you release unhealthy beliefs around selfishness, you naturally become more open to life's opportunities while simultaneously becoming a more generous person. Notable Quotes"The greatest lie ever told: It's better to give than receive.""It's not better to give than receive. These are equal. It's kind of like breathing. Inhaling is not more important than exhaling, and exhaling is not more important than inhaling. They're equal. Both are required.""There's a huge difference between giving from a place of sacrifice than giving from a place of overflow and abundance.""The more you receive, the more you have to give.""Because a lot of times we give really easily, but receiving is a struggle-icious event. And if receiving isn't as easy as giving, you're always gonna be on the depleted side of life."Call to ActionIf this episode challenged the way you've thought about selfishness, spend a few moments reflecting on where you've been saying "no" to yourself in an effort to avoid appearing selfish. What have you stopped asking for? What support have you rejected? Where have you been giving from sacrifice instead of overflow?If you're ready to transform your relationship with giving and receiving, join Mike for the Built to Give, Rebuilt to Receive Workshop on August 28–29 just outside of St. Louis, Missouri. Together, you'll identify and release the conditioning that's kept you on the over-giving side of life and rebuild your ability to receive with ease. Click here for details and to register.Questions about the workshop or working with Mike one-on-one?mike@innerwealthglobal.comNo assistant. No gatekeeper. Just a conversation about creating a life where giving and receiving flow with equal ease.Mike's Media:Website: https://www.innerwealthglobal.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitkoInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitkoTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitkoSubscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitkoMusic Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

Selfishness ~ Isn't it selfish to follow your advice about assertive communication? Listen to caller's personal dramas four times each week as Dr. Kenner takes your calls and questions on parenting, romance, love, family, marriage, divorce, hobbies, career, mental health - any personal issue! Call anytime, toll free 877-Dr-Kenner. Visit www.drkenner.com for more information about the show (where you can also download free chapter one of her serious relationships guidebook).

Send me a some feedback!This episode takes the conversation around giving and receiving to a deeper level. Building on last week's exploration of the five ways we block ourselves from receiving, Mike uncovers the emotional reasons behind those blocks and reveals why so many generous, caring, and successful people struggle to receive support, abundance, love, ease, and opportunity. At the heart of this episode is a powerful realization that emerged while writing Mike's upcoming book, Built to Give. Rebuilt to Receive. The issue is rarely the external circumstance. More often, we block goodness from entering our lives because we're unconsciously trying to avoid certain feelings. Understanding these emotions becomes the key to becoming a better receiver and experiencing a higher quality of life. Key Takeaways1. We often block goodness from entering our lives to avoid uncomfortable feelings. The challenge isn't usually receiving itself. It's the emotions that receiving might trigger inside of us. 2. Seven core emotions frequently drive our resistance to receiving. Selfishness, being a burden, judgment, rejection, shame, superiority, and disappointment often sit beneath our unwillingness to receive support, abundance, love, and opportunity. 3. Over-givers often delay permission to receive. Many people spend their lives giving, serving, helping, and supporting others while continuously postponing their own turn to receive. 4. Avoiding emotions keeps them alive. What we resist persists. The path to freedom isn't avoiding uncomfortable emotions but learning how to move into, through, and beyond them. 5. The path to becoming a better receiver is making the uncomfortable comfortable. Growth happens when we willingly feel the emotions we've spent our lives trying to avoid. The more comfortable we become with those feelings, the easier it becomes to receive life fully. Notable Quotes "The greatest lie ever told is that it's better to give than receive."  "The reason we block goodness from flowing into our life is to avoid a feeling."  "The wealthiest, happiest, most successful people I know are easy receivers."  "Whatever you resist persists. Whatever you feel heals."  "The way to heal is into the discomfort and through it." Call to ActionIf this episode resonated with you, spend a few moments reflecting on which of the seven emotions shows up most often in your life. Is it the fear of being selfish? The fear of judgment? The fear of rejection, shame, disappointment, or being a burden?Awareness is the first step.Once you understand what you're trying to avoid, you can begin the process of moving through it instead of organizing your life around it.If you're ready to do this work at a deeper level, join Mike for the upcoming Built to Give, Rebuilt to Receive Workshop on August 28–29 just outside of St. Louis, Missouri, where you'll learn how to identify and release the blocks that keep you from fully receiving life. Click here for details and to register.Questions? Reach out directly:mike@innerwealthglobal.comNo assistant. No gatekeeper. Just a real conversation about becoming as skilled at receiving as you already are at giving.Mike's Media:Website: https://www.innerwealthglobal.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitkoInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitkoTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitkoSubscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitkoMusic Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

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Selfishness is the greatest barrier to marital unity. If we're honest with ourselves, we're all afflicted with the disease of selfishness. Selfishness is a product of our fallen nature. But as a Christian, we've been given a new nature.Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/lovelanguageminuteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Part 2 of our Overcoming Series! Don't forget to subscribe to our newsletter to receive our NEW KIY Magazine! Part 2 4. Fear is caused By Temperament traits By Childhood experiences Basic needs aren't met Love Understanding Acceptance Overprotective parents Dominating parents By a traumatic experience By Anger By Sin A guilty conscience By lack of Faith Unbelief is failing to trust God Unbelief is also trusting in something besides God Ultimately by Selfishness - the basic cause of fear Shyness (an expression of fear) - is a focus on self     5. Fear is sometimes good There is a good "fear" Recognize that there is a "fear" that is different from what we are talking about here Fear God Proverbs 1:7  In this passage fear is referring to having an awareness and a reverence for God Recognize that caution can be helpful, but is different from the fear we are talking about here: Caution leads an airline pilot to check the instruments carefully Caution can lead a pharmacist to check and recheck the medication he is giving Remember that Jesus told us to fear in Matthew 10:28 Fear the one who can destroy soul and body in hell Fear that which is deadly or trying to hurt you

In this episode I look at two basic traits people often have and whetherthey impact our health.People pleasing: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/my-side-of-the-couch/202408/people-pleasing-as-a-symptom-of-childhood-traumaExhaustion from being too nice? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-genius-of-empathy/202412/are-you-exhausted-from-being-too-niceEmotional suppression: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24119947/Selfishness of different kinds? https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7265883/Jungian masculine/ feminine archetypes: https://scottjeffrey.com/king-warrior-magician-lover-masculine-archetypes/ Healthy selfishness? https://andrewwilkowilkinson.medium.com/10-reasons-why-being-selfish-is-important-for-you-e5a28bf22b13Amandaland: https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/m0024pyy/amandalandSave your life in slow motion and those of others by subscribing now and sharing. Thank you for listening and for your support. It means a lot to me. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Let'sbegin by reading Philippians 2:19-20: "But I trust in the Lord Jesus tosend Timothy to you shortly, that I also may be encouraged when I know yourstate. For I have no one like-minded, who will sincerely care for yourstate." What a remarkable statement! Remember, Paul is writing from aRoman prison. He is chained to a Roman guard. He is uncertain about the outcomeof his trial. Yet even while facing his own problems, his heart is focused onthe believers at Philippi. That is the mark of a mature Christian. A matureChristian does not become consumed with his own troubles. He remains concernedabout others. Paulwanted to know how the Philippian believers were doing. Were they standingfirm? Were they remaining united? Were they growing spiritually? He careddeeply about them. But Paul faced a problem. He could not go himself. So helooked around for someone he could trust. Among all the believers in Rome, Paulfound one man whom he believed would genuinely care for the Philippians. Thatman was Timothy. Paul says, "I have no one like-minded." Thephrase "like-minded" carries the idea of being of the same soul orkindred spirit. Timothy had spent years traveling with Paul, learning from him,serving alongside him, suffering with him, and praying with him. Over time,Timothy began to develop the same heart that Paul had. That is whatdiscipleship is all about. Jesusspent three years with His disciples. Paul spent years with Timothy. Godlycharacter is often caught as much as it is taught. Timothy learned how to carefor people by watching Paul care for people. I am reminded of what Paul wrotein 1 Corinthians 11:1: "Imitate me, just as I also imitateChrist." Every believer needs someone to learn from and someone tohelp. One of the greatest needs in our churches today is spiritual mentoring.Older believers should be encouraging younger believers. More mature Christiansshould be helping those who are younger in the faith. Timothyhad a servant's heart. Notice Paul says that Timothy would "sincerelycare" for their welfare. The word means genuine concern. Not professionalconcern.    Not forced concern. Notconcern because it was his job. Genuine concern. Timothy truly cared aboutpeople. That immediately raises a question for us. Do we genuinely care aboutothers? It is easy to become wrapped up in our own schedules, our own plans,our own problems, and our own needs. Yet Jesus constantly looked beyond Himselfto the needs of others. Even while hanging on the cross, He cared for Hismother. Even while suffering, He prayed for His enemies. Even while dying, Hesaved a thief. That is the heart of Christ. Onepastor said, "People don't care how much you know until they know how muchyou care." How true that is.Peopleare looking for genuine Christians who will listen, pray, encourage, and help. Asimple phone call can change someone's day. A handwritten note can strengthen adiscouraged believer. A visit can encourage someone who feels forgotten. Aprayer can lift a burden. You never know what God can dothrough a caring heart. The submissive mind always produces concern for others.Selfishness asks, "What can others do for me?" Love asks, "Whatcan I do for others?" Perhapstoday there is someone God has placed on your heart. Maybe it is a familymember. Maybe it is a neighbor. Maybe it is a fellow church member. Maybe it issomeone who is hurting. Don't ignore that prompting. Reach out. Encourage them.Pray for them. Show them the love of Christ. That is exactly what Timothy wouldhave done. And that is exactly what Christ would have us do. Let'spray. Father, thank You for the example of Timothy. Give us hearts thatgenuinely care for others. Deliver us from selfishness and help us to seepeople through Your eyes. Use us today to encourage someone and point them toJesus Christ. We pray this in Jesus' name. Amen.

Conflict provides a unique opportunity to honor God. Proverbs 15:1 reveals that a gentle answer turns away wrath, while harsh words fuel quarrels. Navigating tension with biblical wisdom transforms difficult moments into paths for reconciliation. Implementing the four G's—Glorify God, Get the log out of the eye, Gently restore, and Go and be reconciled—fosters healthy connections. Selfishness often hinders peace, but following the example of Jesus brings restoration.   Pastor: Enos Marshall Series: Better Together (7) Title: Cooperation (Proverbs 15:1) Date: 2026.05.30+31   LINKS:

We're born bent toward ourselves — toward comfort, image, and control.But Jesus shows us another way.Paul calls us to humility… to lay down selfish ambition… to see others as better than ourselves.And Christ gives us the pattern: God in flesh choosing a towel, kneeling low, serving with love.Selfishness turns relationships into transactions.Servanthood opens the door to real joy.When life stops being about me,Jesus becomes the center —and love finally has room to breathe

Organisms are merely survival machines for their genes. This audiobook summary reveals the shocking implications for altruism and human nature.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_YKNDXS3NOY Podcast audio: In this episode of The Ayn Rand Institute Podcast, Sam Weaver and Ben Bayer discuss the significance of President Trump's efforts to construct new government monuments and put his name and face on federal buildings and documents. Topics Include: Trump's initiatives Why symbols matter Historical monument-building America's distinctive history How Trump compares Relation to Trump's policies Rand on monuments Trump's pursuit of prestige Public response Resources: “The Monument Builders” in The Virtue of Selfishness by Ayn Rand “Don't Let It Go” in Philosophy: Who Needs It by Ayn Rand “The Anti-Intellectuality of Donald Trump” by Onkar Ghate “One Small Step for Dictatorship” by Onkar Ghate This episode was recorded on May 8, 2026. Image credit: Kevin Dietsch / Staff / via Getty Images

Soccer is the world's most popular sport, yet its origins are shrouded in chaos, and its modern “analytics” are often flawed. ⚽ HOW TO WATCH SOCCER LIKE A GENIUS (Abrams Press, May 12, 2026) by Nick Greene https://amzn.to/4eVb8ve ⚽ Author Nick Greene joins The Brian D. O'Leary Show to dismantle everything you thought you knew about “the beautiful game”. Using insights from architects, stuntwomen, paleoanthropologists, and computer scientists, we tear into the history of soccer's bizarre early rules and expose why American youth player development is fundamentally broken. Timed with the World Cup coming to North America, this conversation uncovers soccer's shared roots with American football and rugby, revealing a time when the sport featured fair catches and touchdowns. We dig into how the introduction of the FA Cup forced a standard set of rules, and contrast Scotland's early tactical advantage through passing with England's aristocratic refusal to share the ball. We also explore a disastrous 1940s analytics study that set English tactics back decades, the space-warping genius of Lionel Messi, and the absurd limits of modern optimization. Finally, we celebrate, but Greene critiques, the American youth soccer focus on the “battering ram” approach over actual technique. Subscribe at https://OLearyReview.com for more from UNRELENTING – The O'Leary Review. Conversation Highlights (Chapters) The World Cup and Unlikely Soccer Experts The Shared DNA of Soccer, Rugby, and American Football Freemasons, Fair Catches, and the FA Cup Scotland's Passing vs. England's Selfishness The RAF Pilot Who Ruined English Tactics Why the Best Team Doesn't Always Win Lionel Messi's Space-Warping Genius Tottenham's Showers and the Limits of Analytics Could Shaq Have Revolutionized Soccer? Key Takeaways Shared Roots: Soccer, rugby, and American football share the same origins. Early soccer even featured fair catches and touchdowns. The Forward Pass: Scotland dominated early international soccer by embracing a passing game, while wealthy English players selfishly refused to pass the ball. Bad Math: A flawed 1940s study by a retired RAF pilot convinced English soccer that passing was useless, leading to a long era of “caveman long ball tactics”. Mastering Space: Lionel Messi changes the gravity of the field, often accomplishing more by walking through space than other players do by sprinting. The Battering Ram: American youth soccer prioritizes winning through sheer size, whereas elite global academies focus entirely on technique. Tweetable Quotes “The fact that the best team doesn't always win is… the most to me, natural human thing about soccer.” - Nick Greene “People who don't watch or aren't interested in sports are missing out because it's such a Rosetta Stone.” - Nick Greene “They're learning how to be battering rams and kick the ball to the battering ram.” - Nick Greene Resources Mentioned HOW TO WATCH SOCCER LIKE A GENIUS (Abrams Press, May 12, 2026) by Nick Greene: https://amzn.to/4eVb8ve Hoosiers (1986): https://amzn.to/43hOfuS (Disclosure: As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.) Support the Mission & Enter The Junto For those who refuse the sanitized version of America, the companion publication to our podcast, UNRELENTING – The O'Leary Review, is a relentless defense of the permanent things in our culture. We draw blood from the cosmopolitan elites who are eager to sanitize our history, and we serve as the voice of the Forgotten American. We explore the hidden mechanics of sports and culture to reverse the managed decline that the cultural elites have in mind for all of us. By supporting this mission, you'll receive our premium monthly “dossiers” and gain access to our private council of battle-hardened patriots and defenders of American culture. Consider upgrading your subscription. Choose your level of commitment: The Monthly Dispatch ($14.99/month or $100/year): Unrestricted access to The Junto for real-time strategy discussions, complete access to The Full Vault of our historical archives, Strategic Briefs featuring monthly Q&A sessions, and a quarterly curated Reading List. Founding Member ($497/year): Strictly limited to 20 members. Includes all Junto benefits, immediate priority access to future products, and four private, 30-minute 1:1 Strategy Sessions per year to break down your business strategy and unblock operational bottlenecks. Join us and change how you see the game at https://OLearyReview.com.

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In a culture that constantly redefines truth, how do you build a marriage that actually stands firm? Dr. Kim sits down with Aaron and Amy Graham to talk about choosing faith over culture and why most marriages don't fall apart overnight—they slowly drift as outside voices shape what we believe about love, identity, and purpose. The Grahams challenge couples to examine those influences, guard their identity, and remember that marriage was designed for more than just their own happiness. This conversation is a powerful reminder that your spouse isn't meant to meet every need—and that intimacy with God is the foundation for a thriving marriage.   Episode highlights: Drifting is a slow process. If we are to live a life that goes against culture, we must know truth and live by it.  Marriage has a greater mission than just your happiness. Quotes from this Episode: The Grahams: If the church doesn't disciple people, the world gladly will. What does it look like to stand firm in a marriage? It's to not give the devil a foothold. Sometimes we don't realize how we have subtly imported a secular worldview into every area of our life.  The enemy doesn't want to just tempt us to sin. He wants to reshape our identity and distort our worship.  God has designed us for intimacy and that starts in our marriage relationship.  We have to go into our marriage understanding that our spouse isn't going to solve all of our loneliness. We have to have relationship with God.  The secular lie is that we determine what truth is: my feelings, my version of the truth. Marriage sometimes can become an idol for people when they don't have a bigger mission than just marriage. Because your marriage can become self centered- what the main mission- it's not just your happiness.  Dr. Kim: So much of our faith is knowing that this God who created everything loves us conditionally in a culture where nobody loves us unconditionally- sometimes that's hard to get a hold of. Selfishness is something we have to be aware of our whole marriage because we can fall into that trap.  God is never going to do anything in you that is not good for your marriage.  Time to talk about it: Are there ideas we need to deconstruct in our marriage?  What voices are we allowing to speak into our marriage? Do they align with the Truth? What disciplines do we need to implement to show that our marriage is a priority and to honor the union that God has brought together?    Mentioned in This Episode: Connect with Aaron and Amy Graham. Get your own copy of Unshakeable Faith Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Make sure you're praying for your marriage! We make it easy with this prayer guide: 21 Prayers for Building an Awesome Marriage Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. If you know you should pray with your spouse or for your spouse but don't know where to start? Check out: 7 Prayers to Grow Your Marriage Unmet expectations can wreak havoc on your marriage. You need this brand new resource: The Marriage Expectations Worksheet If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !  It's the perfect time to become a Marriage Changer! When you become a Marriage Changer you'll receive exclusive content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy as well as our resource of the month! Become a Marriage Changer today!  

Have you ever noticed a tendency in yourself to put your own wants before the needs of others?If we're honest, that's not an easy thing to admit. Most people don't naturally think of themselves as selfish. And yet, when we slow down and truly examine our hearts, selfishness is something we all wrestle with at times.Recently, Mark has felt God directing his attention to this area in his own life. What we've discovered is that selfishness can be sneaky—which makes it difficult to identify. It can show up as that desire to stay on the couch rather than fold the load of laundry sitting in the dryer. It could look like neglecting to show up at a friend's party because you didn't feel like going, even though you know it would mean a lot to them.Selfishness takes many forms, but no matter how it shows up, it affects the state of our hearts in a very real way. That's why we wanted to take some time to talk about how addressing selfishness is having an impact in our life, as well as offer some tips that everyone can use to tackle selfishness.In this episode, you'll hear:How avoiding sacrifice can cause us to miss blessingsFour steps to address selfishnessHow self-care is different from selfishnessAnd more!Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/tackling-selfishness-298Check out our other resources:Mark and Jill's Marriage StoryMarriage CoachingMarriage 2.0 IntensivesSpeaking ScheduleBook Mark and Jill to SpeakOnline CoursesBooks Marriage Resources:Infidelity RecoveryFor Happy MarriagesFor Hurting MarriagesFor Marriages Where You're the Only One Wanting to Get Help Mom Resources:New/Preschool MomsMoms with GradeschoolersMoms with Teens and TweensMoms with Kids Who Are LaunchingEmpty Nest Moms

The season just started, but we've already got some problems in the headlines! Which ones actually matter? From Chennedy Carter's post-game press conference to a member of the Dallas Wings dropping bars to a lack of spark in LA, let's talk about them! Also, which teams deserve some props, and which rookies have exceeded my expectations? And I finish off with some NBA Conference Finals thoughts! Tap in!Want more of what I'm doing? Tap into my Screen Shots weekly sports watch guide: brandonsilvers.comThe Rundown: 00:00 Intro00:38 Aces-Dream02:37 The Dream Cocks08:31 Chennedy Carter's presser19:18 Selfishness in Dallas?27:28 Paige Pairings35:25 No More Parties in LA47:03 Overachievers51:13 NBA Conference FinalsDon't forget to support Catch Da Beat Apparel Co.! Website: https://catchdabeatapparel.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/catchdabeatapparel/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catchdabeatapparel/ Listen to the Beyond The Arc with Brandon Silvers podcast at: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-the-arc-with-brandon-silvers/id1611971780 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2LeRaBW3J2yJSA0kU4WS3j Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy84M2Q2NjBlMC9w b2RjYXN0L3Jzcw Anchor: https://anchor.fm/byabrandonsilvers Send us an email at: beyondthearc843@gmail.com Beyond The Arc with Brandon Silvers breaks down today's hottest sports topics in a way that makes sense whether you're a rookie or a vet! Tune in to hear in-depth analysis, unique commentary, and more! Follow BTA on Twitter @BeyondTheArc843! For more from Brandon, follow him on Bluesky @brandonsilvers.bsky.social and on Instagram/Threads @thebrandonsilvers!

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The Dallas Wings lost a very winnable game at home to the Minnesota Lynx. Paige Bueckers preached balancing grace with urgency, but the postgame vibes took a turn after Wings head coach Jose Fernandez called out "selfishness" in the locker rooms among players getting emotional over minutes. We are jumping into exactly what went wrong on the floor, breaking down this massive postgame quote, and looking at how this team dynamic needs to shift moving forward. Drop your questions, comments, and emotional outbursts in the chat, and let's get into it!(0:00) - Intro: The Dallas Wings' "Selfish" Loss to the Lynx(3:59) - Key Stats: Paige Bueckers, Maddy Siegrist & First-Half Execution(9:10) - Player Reactions: Paige Bueckers on Pick & Roll Defense(15:11) - The Maddy Siegrist Mystery: Why Was She Taken Out?(21:04) - Paige Bueckers on Handling Double-Teams and Blitzes(38:13) - Grace vs. Urgency: Paige's perspective on the Wings' mindset(49:20) - Coach Jose's Rant: "Selfishness in this Locker Room"(1:08:20) - The Truth About the Rotation and Player Minutes(1:18:38) - Fact-Checking Coach Jose: Maddy Siegrist's Actual Defense(1:31:36) - Final Thoughts: Real Strategic Issues vs. Emotional Drama

Continuing the series, “Choices,” Pastor Jack Graham teaches that choices are vital not only for the direction of our lives but for our ultimate destination. In the message “Service Over Selfishness,” Pastor Graham teaches that we learn to choose service over self – knowing that we can't change the world, but we can serve somebody and help make a difference. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/395/29?v=20251111

Nice Guy Diagnosis https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/nice-guy-social-confidence-quiz/ Apply for a free 1:1 trial coaching session with Dan (spaces strictly limited): https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/lets-talk/ Are nice guys and people pleasers actually being “kind”… or just controlling? In this episode, I break down the hidden narcissism behind people pleasing — the covert contracts, emotional manipulation, resentment, approval-seeking, and need for control that often hide beneath the surface of being “nice.” If you constantly feel exhausted, unappreciated, anxious about how others see you, or frustrated that your kindness isn't rewarded, this episode will challenge the way you see yourself and your relationships. Inside this episode: Why people pleasing is often about control, not generosity The hidden “God complex” behind trying to manage everyone's emotions How covert contracts create resentment and destroy intimacy The overlap between narcissism and nice guy syndrome Why honesty and integrity are the real solution to social anxiety and approval-seeking How to stop manipulating people through guilt, caretaking, and self-sacrifice This is a brutally honest deep dive into people pleasing, codependency, covert narcissism, validation addiction, and authentic confidence. If you're tired of being fake nice, emotionally exhausted, and secretly resentful… this episode is for you.

This week we're diving into Selfish, the raw and revealing memoir by Kerry Faherty, mother and co-founder of Faherty Brand.  We unpack radical honesty, telling the full truth about your life without people pleasing, and the tension that comes with being fully seen. Including why sharing your truth can upset people, and how to navigate that discomfort in relationships. We explore reclaiming the word “selfish” as a tool for self worth and aliveness, the burnout of overgiving, and what happens when you lose yourself trying to keep everyone else happy. We also get into self reflection, living more expansively, and the cycle of wounding and healing in relationships. Everything we LOVE talking about! Resource Links: fahertybrand.com Selfish by Kerry Docherty A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle Follow Kerry on IG: @kerrydocherty Follo​w Sarah Wright Olsen: IG: @swrightolsen Follow Teresa Palmer: IG: @teresapalmer  FB: https://www.facebook.com/teresamarypalmer/ DISCOUNT CODES: • Go to www.baeo.com and get 20% when using the code MOTHERDAZE20 • Go to www.lovewell.earth and get 20% when using the code MOTHERDAZE20 More about the show! • Watch this episode on YouTube here • Co-founders of @yourzenmama yourzenmama.com • Read and buy our book! "The Zen Mama Guide To Finding Your Rhythm In Pregnancy, Birth, and Beyond"  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Vitz challenges us to be more thoughtful of the needs of others and identify when we act from a place of lack. (Originally aired 10-17-2024)

EP 681: Connor Koch Some episodes just take a minute to get right. We lost the first version of this one — somewhere out there is an SD card with what I’m sure was a hell of a conversation — and you know what? Maybe that was the universe telling us to go again. Because this one hit different. Connor Koch is one of those guys who just operates on a different level. Arc’teryx ambassador for seven years, a man who’s climbed every 14er in the lower 48, skied big lines from Alaska to the High Sierra, and survived an 1,100-foot avalanche ride in ways that defy explanation. He’s the real deal. And now? He’s deep in the hunting rabbit hole, chasing elk solo through grizzly country with a bow he just learned to shoot, logging 70-plus days in the field and coming home with the kind of stories that remind you why we do all of this. We cover a lot of ground in this one. Connor grew up in a tiny San Diego-area town, never saw mountains until his Nissan’s transmission blew up somewhere near a place called Zzyzx on the way to Colorado. He pulled into Vail Pass, jumped out into the June air, and knew — at a cellular level, he says — that he’d found home. That moment launched a decade of elite mountain pursuits that would shape everything that came after. We dig into what it’s like to be a master of one discipline and a beginner in another — and how humbling it is when all your fitness and mental toughness still can’t outwit a wily bull elk. Connor talks about burning a shot opportunity 45 minutes into his first day of bow hunting, running 70+ days solo in the backcountry, getting his camp ripped apart by a known problem grizz the same night he hit a bull high, and why he doesn’t regret any of it. That’s the journey. That’s the process. But it goes way deeper than hunting. Connor opens up about the avalanche that changed him — a full slope that fractured wall to wall, a 1,100-foot washing machine ride, karate-chopping blocks of wind slab before getting obliterated, and emerging from the toe of the debris alive while his partners tunneled out around him. He talks about what that does to your relationship with risk, with the mountains, and with yourself. And then, the hardest decision of his career: turning down a prepackaged invite to ski 8,000-meter peaks in Pakistan, not because he couldn’t do it, but because he finally understood that some pages in your book are okay to leave blank. This is a conversation about reinvention, risk tolerance, the courage to step off the ship when it’s time, and what happens when a man who spent a decade trying to conquer mountains starts learning to be conquered by elk season. Oh, and also — he’s catering his entire wedding with two cow elk and some deer he harvested himself. That’s the kind of dude Connor Koch is. Pull up a chair. This one’s worth every minute. This Episode Is Brought To You By onX Hunt If you’re serious about hunting out west, onX isn’t optional — it’s foundational. Land ownership, access, terrain, and a full suite of tools built for every part of the hunt: the planning, the prep, and the pursuit. The difference is simple. It’s confidence. Confidence that you’re in the right spot, confidence that you’re legal, confidence that you can get back to the truck. That’s what onX gives you. Become an Elite Member today and save 20% with code TRO Visit: www.onxmaps.com?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss Bridger Watch This one’s personal — Bridger Watch is Cody Rich’s own company, so yeah, shameless plug incoming. It’s a full-feature smartwatch built by hunters, for the hunting lifestyle. Not just for the hunt, but for everything that surrounds it. Training, mapping, texts, and most importantly: insane battery life. Because battery life matters in the backcountry, full stop. If you’re a watch guy, you already get it. No compromise, no fluff. Just a watch built the way it should’ve been built all along. Visit: www.bridgerwatch.com?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss Timestamp Chapters 0:00 — Intro & Sponsor Reads — onX Hunt and Bridger Watch 2:15 — The Lost Episode: A Cop, a Bow, and a County Line 4:00 — Connor Gets His Life Back in Order — Four Months of Spring Skiing 5:00 — The Purcells and the High Sierra — Whitney, Muir, Langley, and a Broken Binding 7:00 — 30,000-Foot View: Arc’teryx, Mountain Pursuits, and a Big Boy Job 9:00 — Climbing Every 14er in the Lower 48 — And Why the Number Is Arbitrary 10:30 — The Origin Story: Erik Weihenmayer, a Blown Transmission, and Finding Home in Colorado 14:00 — Arriving at Vail Pass and Knowing — The Moment That Changed Everything 15:00 — Identity, Selfishness, and the Next Chapter 17:00 — Close Calls: A Rubber Band, a Carabiner, and 200 Feet of Air 19:00 — How Hunting Fills the Gap — And Gives You a More Complete Relationship With the Landscape 22:00 — Vert Records, Big Days, and Getting Old 23:00 — Bringing a Mountain Athlete’s Mindset Into Elk Hunting — Asset or Liability? 26:00 — Going Solo: Three Months, a Bow, and the Backcountry 27:00 — Losing a Bull on September 15th — The Shot, the Rain, and the Grizzly 31:00 — What It Means to Really Want Something and Not Get It 33:00 — Elk Hunting Is Not Meritocracy — And That’s the Point 37:00 — Visualizing Success: How Pre-Prep and Commitment Breed Confidence 38:00 — Confidence in the Face of Doubt — The Dark Arts of High-Exposure Terrain 43:00 — A Duty to the Animal: Why He Never Considered Leaving Camp 45:00 — Hunting as a New Relationship With Death — Feeding His Wedding on Wild Elk 47:00 — Wild Pigs, Weddings, and Getting Attacked at the Worst Possible Moment 49:00 — The Honest Ratio: 70 Days to One Elk 52:00 — If You Only Had 10 Days: The Discipline of Slowing Down 55:00 — Day One, 45 Minutes In, Five-Point at 42 Yards — And Why He Let Him Walk 58:00 — The Advice No One Wants to Hear: Passing Elk Builds the Best Hunters 1:00:00 — Confidence on the Skinny: Why Doubt Has No Place on Exposed Terrain 1:01:00 — The First Avalanche — Skiing Into a Rock Wall and Getting Shepherded Out with One Hand 1:03:00 — The Second Avalanche — An 1,100-Foot Ride, a Bag of Costco Mangoes, and Everyone Lives 1:11:00 — Redefining Risk and Stepping Back From the Edge 1:13:00 — Stealing Fire, Broken Necks, and the Identity Shift Into Bow Hunting 1:16:00 — The Pakistan Trip He Had to Turn Down — And Why He’s Finally Okay With Blank Pages 1:21:00 — What It Means to Move Into the Next Chapter 1:22:30 — Final Ask: Try the Thing That Scares You 1:23:30 — Wrap-Up and Watch Plug 3 Key Takeaways for Listeners 1. Your Greatest Strength in One Arena Can Be Your Biggest Weakness in Another Connor came into elk hunting as an elite mountain athlete — faster, fitter, and more mentally tough than almost anyone in the field. And it nearly worked against him. He was blowing out animals by moving too fast, pushing wind when he shouldn’t have, covering miles that didn’t need covering. The hard-won lesson: hunting rewards patience and animal knowledge above all else. Fitness is a tool, not a cheat code. The most valuable thing a hunter can develop — that gut intuition built from thousands of hours of observation — can’t be outworked or outrun. Know what you bring to the table, and be honest about where the gaps are. 2. The Process Is the Point — Not Just a Cliché Connor spent 70+ days chasing elk solo and came home with hard-earned lessons he wouldn’t trade for anything. He let a five-point walk at 42 yards on day one. He lost a bull to a high hit, a rainstorm, and a problem grizzly. He laid in his shredded tent for days still searching. And he says he doesn’t regret any of it. Not because it sounds good, but because every one of those moments compounded into something real. The hunters who last — and who eventually become consistently successful — are the ones who decide early that the journey is the whole thing, not a detour on the way to the outcome. 3. Knowing When to Step Off the Ship Is Its Own Kind of Courage One of the most powerful moments in this conversation is when Connor talks about turning down an invite to ski 8,000-meter peaks in Pakistan — a trip he’d been dreaming about for years. Not because he was scared. Not because he couldn’t do it. But because he finally understood that some chapters have to close so others can open. He’d survived avalanches, close calls, and years of operating on the edge, and he arrived at a place of genuine peace with leaving certain pages in his book blank. That kind of self-awareness — knowing your season, honoring your current chapter, and resisting the pull of old identity — is rare. And it applies way beyond the mountains.

He won Olympic gold in 2016, more with his brain, not his legs—and the running world never forgot it. Matthew Centrowitz Jr., the only American man to win Olympic 1,500m gold since Mel Sheppard in 1908, sits down with The Running Effect for a wide-open conversation about what it took to become the most decorated American miler of his generation.From his 2011 NCAA title at Oregon to three World Championship medals, five national outdoor crowns, and that unforgettable Rio final—Centro built a decade-long résumé that no American middle-distance runner has touched. His 3:30.40 PR at Monaco still stands as the benchmark. His tactical IQ was something no training plan could manufacture.This is a conversation about how you build a career like that—the coaching systems, the rivals, the near-misses, and the one race that made it all permanent. From Alberto Salazar's Oregon Project to the Bowerman Track Club under Jerry Schumacher, Centro navigated the highest-pressure environments in American distance running and came out the other side with gold.We want to know what it actually felt like to sit in a field of the world's best 1,500m runners and know—before the bell—that you had already won. And how a decade of that kind of focus shapes a man long after the spikes come off.The legend of Centro, here at The Running Effect.If you enjoy the podcast, please consider following us on Spotify and Apple Podcasts and giving us a five-star review! I would also appreciate it if you share it with your friend who you think will benefit from it. If this episode blesses you, please share it with a friend!S H O W  N O T E S  -The Run Down By The Running Effect (our new newsletter!): https://tinyurl.com/mr36s9rs-Our Website: https://therunningeffect.run  -THE PODCAST ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClLcLIDAqmJBTHeyWJx_wFQ-My Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/therunningeffect/?hl=en⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠-Take our podcast survey: https://tinyurl.com/3ua62ffz

It's fine to look out for number one—as long as we understand who number one really is. Dr. Tony Evans explains how freedom in Christ leads us to serve others instead of ourselves.

It's fine to look out for number one—as long as we understand who number one really is. Dr. Tony Evans explains how freedom in Christ leads us to serve others instead of ourselves.

It's fine to look out for number one—as long as we understand who number one really is. Dr. Tony Evans explains how freedom in Christ leads us to serve others instead of ourselves.

By Daniel Apartian - What would you do if you knew you only had 3 months to live? Everything Jesus did in his last 24 hours was very intentional as he knew he would die. What he taught was a lesson on Godly love and how we should care for each other and exemplify that love. This sermon covers six lessons on Godly love

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This podcast is a short daily audio provided by the online recovery group Transitions Daily. The daily content includes different recovery quotes from various sources, including; Twenty-Four Hours a Day, A.A. Thought for the Day, Daily Reflections, Big Book Quote, Just for Today, As Bill Sees It, and more! Transitions Daily also delivers the same content in a daily email with a secret Facebook group for discussion. Visit www.DailyAAEmails.com for more information. Do you want to stop drinking? Have you ever listened to sobriety podcasts? Does alcoholism or addiction run in your family? Have you tried Alcoholics Anonymous or the 12 Steps of A.A.? Are you considering how to get sober? Are you seriously thinking about sobriety for the first time? Is alcohol controlling your life as never before? If so, you will definitely want to check out this recovery podcast.  

We are quick to label selfish or defensive behavior as "narcissism," but what if the issue runs deeper than personality? In this episode, we explore how disordered desires, our need for control, comfort, or validation, shape the way we relate to others and quietly erode connection. This conversation unpacks the difference between healthy self-awareness and self-absorption, why freedom begins when we stop defending ourselves, and how real change doesn't come from trying harder—but from surrendering deeper. You'll be challenged to look beneath behavior and consider what your heart is truly after. If you're tired of surface-level fixes and ready for lasting transformation, this episode invites you to step out of self-protection and into humility, empathy, and freedom. Episode Takeaways: What we often label as narcissism or selfishness is rooted deeper than personality. It flows from disordered desires and a heart that wants control, comfort, or validation more than connection. Healthy self-awareness leads to growth, humility, and empathy. Self-absorption does the opposite , it narrows our world until everything revolves around us and what we want. Freedom starts when we stop defending ourselves. Change doesn't come from trying harder, but surrendering deeper.   Quotes from this Episode: "Selfishness doesn't start with what we do — it starts with what we want most." "Narcissism isn't always loud or arrogant; sometimes it's quiet, defensive, and deeply fragile." "You can't out-behave a heart problem — transformation always starts inside." "The more we focus on protecting ourselves, the less capable we are of loving others." "Growth happens when we stop asking, 'How does this affect me?' and start asking, 'How did this affect you?'" "Humility isn't thinking less of yourself — it's thinking of yourself less." "God isn't after better versions of us; He's after surrendered hearts." Take Time to Talk About It: Where do you notice selfishness showing up most in your relationships — words, reactions, expectations, or silence? How can you tell the difference between healthy self-care and self-centeredness in your own life? What might change if you stopped defending yourself and started listening with curiosity instead?   Mentioned in this Episode: Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! Make sure you're checking in with your spouse every week with our FREE Weekly Marriage Check in Guide! Your words, your tone, your attitude- they all matter in how your spouse hears you and how connected your marriage feels. Check out our new devotional: Cut the Criticism and Cultivate Companionship in Marriage Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Want to fight off the cultural pull toward discontentment in marriage? Subscribe to our 5 Marriage Lies to Defeat with Biblical Truth reading plan. If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !