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Navigating relationships leading to marriage comes with a price, especially if your commitment is to both your consecration. We live in a culture that normalizes sin and lasciviousness, however, it is important to know that God's standard does not change because of culture.So how do we navigate the times when we have fallen? We discuss the steps to take in this episode, along with really practical steps to protect your body and heart through the season of courtship.

It sucks when we expect things to happen at a certain time and they do not. It can be frustrating to step into a certain season and not see manifestations of said season.Who is to blame? who or what causes the delay?We explore all of this and more in this episode, raising your heart to see delay in another light and helping you understand the things that could be attributed to delay.

Compromise like most things in life can be done to an extreme, while healthy relationships have some sort of concessions, it is important to note that we can compromise to a default, where either or both parties are left feeling violated because of certain compromises made. In this episode, we discuss some points to be aware of when our compromise might start to border on violating ourselves. These guidelines will help us choose when and what to compromise on, and when to stand on business!

Happy New Year to you! What a beautiful opportunity we have to be more and do more! We start off this year with an episode closing the age-long debate on how much of life and its occurrences rests on God and how much of life rests on us. We explore five points in finding the balance between a God sovereign over all, and a God who has given us the power of choice to choose. Let us know where you sit after listening!

Disappointments always leave a sour taste to our desire to try again. Sometimes we convince ourselves that our apathy is us trusting God, but is it really? Have we just found a way to distance ourselves from it so it does not hurt as much if it doesn't happen? God calls us to deal with situations like this as people with hope and in this episode, we have a heart-to-heart for people scared to try again. Glory always ends our story.

Society has a way of convincing us that singleness is a disease and that when we get to a certain age still single, something must be wrong with us. This is not always the case and in this episode, we discuss points on navigating singleness without caving in to the voice of society, or losing ourselves in a bid to be married.

In this episode, we explore a question I was asked a year ago. For people who did not grow up in homes filled with love, how can you ensure that the trauma you experienced is not spilling out to other aspects of your adult life? We consider key points to note on the journey of healing from trauma and choosing a better you.

There is always a how with God. It is not enough that we worship Him, but how do we worship Him? It is not enough that we serve Him, but how to we serve Him? We can do the most sincere things but in a wrong way. Remember the sons of Aaron who died because they sacrificed 'strange fires' to God. They sacrificed, but not in the way God desired. How we do things matters to God, and in this episode, we explore the how to wait on God.

We are getting to the middle of the year so quickly. The gnawing feeling in your heart and the loud voice in your head might start to creep up, asking you 'what have we even accomplished?' The tendency that you'll start to feel low is high, so here is an episode to arm you in advance of those days and seasons when life might feel larger than you. We are more than our achievements and accomplishments. We are more than what we do.

Day 2 focuses on navigating never ending disputes in a relationship and offers a superior ideology outside the 50/50 phenomenon. This episode speaks to every relationship committed to getting to their full healthy potential in spite of the differences that may exist between the parties involved. Can't wait for Day 3, where we talk 'Loving the wrong person'. Stay tuned!!!

Day 1 of the #FochLoveSeries. We are talking on things we must consider when we subscribe to 'right person, wrong time' ideology. Is it valid? is it not? You tell us. Let us know your thoughts on the episode. See you @ Day 2 tomorrow where we look at 'Never ending disputes, the 50/50 phenomenon'.

Gone are the days where friendships were characterized of sleepovers, all day conversations and shoulder-hitting laughter. It has not been eliminated, but it definitely is more controlled with the responsibilities that have come with adulthood. We do not have to kiss those good days of friendship goodbye, we only need to learn to navigate handling it in spite of the demands of adulthood. We discuss 5 points on hacking friendships in such a way that it stays full of value and quality.

We are keeping it simple and straight to the point in 2024. If you are wanting to know just one thing to run with this year, it is in this podcast. Happy New Year from all of us at Foch Woman. We are convinced of such great things for 2024 and beyond. Stick with us, 2024 promises content that sticks, uplifts, guides and yields fruits.

Video Episode - I hope this episode brings understanding to your heart that begins to always spur unity among discussions in the faith, rather than appear contradictory. God of my current season is not all there is to God and I must acknowledge that when I speak to other people in other seasons with God. The beauty of this body of Christ is the uniqueness with which God walks with all of us. May God help us seek unity always.

For a God who honours His word above His name, must be tough to hear your children think or ask this question because of the events of this fallen world that we live in. But it remains a frequent question in the heart of most believers who are yet to see a manifestation of the things promised. So, does God really go back on His word? In this episode, we answer this question simply and clearly in 5 points. Hopefully, at the end of this episode, your question changes to highlight more the responsibility on us, than on God alone.

We are living through very sensitive times, every topic is tagged 'touchy' or 'sensitive' and so we completely refrain from talking about heart matters, especially when they are sinful. This sensitivity has brought compromise on the standards of God, even among believers. This episode details 5 points on dealing with the sensitivity of this generation to ensure we are upholding the standard of God and staying accountable.

In this episode, we discuss 5 points on training ourselves to expect miracles. We must grow from a place where we sound and live like people who believe more in God's reluctance than in His willingness to show up for us. This episode will help us evaluate how much our minds and hearts have been trained to stay on God in spite of the circumstances around us. N.B. Sincere apologies for the poor audio at one point, the microphone will be changed before the next episode.

Often hard to tell when we have elevated someone to saviour status in our heads and heart, this episode will give you guides to know if you have. In this episode, we discuss ways to identify if you may have created a saviour complex around your partner and how to deal with it. It is a video podcast and you are able to watch the live recording @Foch_woman Instagram page.

After a breakup, how do we know if we are ready to progress to a new relationship? This episode explores 5 points on discerning how ready we might be to move on. The timeframe cannot be the same for everyone but is dependent on factors that are discussed in this episode.

I'm sure we might be able to recall a situation or two where we thought we were helping 2 people in a relationship by our counsel, and ended up in the burnt position. I want to say such is life, but I honestly believe there is a way to navigate such situations. In this episode, we discuss 5 points on effectively advising people in relationships. These points should be at the forefront of your mind when next you feel a deep urge to be a saviour in someones deteriorating relationship.

Our profession and career are a big part of our human existence. For the believer, even more so because God has made us kings over this realm and expects that while we are here, we are curating it to be like His kingdom above. The first and most important call is to be a witness of the gospel, and added to that, to utilise all that God has placed within us for the building of people and to the glory of God. We see in the story of the talents how the master returns and asks each servant to account for what they had been given before his departure. The same will apply to us when Jesus returns, we will stand before Him and give an account for all the investments He made in us; the gifts, skills, interests, etc, and it is my prayer that we will not be ashamed and also be called good and faithful servants. This episode gives us five points to consider in navigating the decision as to what you might want to build your career in.

I love that we have a day each year to celebrate our gender and all it represents. I also am fond of the themes that come with each year by the national organisation. This year, it happens to be #EmbraceEquity and so, you can rest assured that tomorrow we will be hearing and reading all about the bias and unfair treatment of the female gender in society. While I perfectly understand the standpoint it often comes from, I am careful that we don't always get carried away looking at the other person and not at ourselves, and so for us at Foch woman and in this episode, we're embracing equity by being more fair and impartial to ourselves by how we handle our daily struggles as women. This episode discusses the 3 main struggles of the 21st-century woman and how to navigate these struggles.

Have you been, or currently going through a phase of total darkness and silence, where nothing seems to be happening in or around you? There is a temptation to allow such moments to impact our mental health and relationships, but we must be intentional about navigating these seasons in a healthy way that leaves no casualties. This episode discusses 5 steps in navigating the daily ordinary while waiting for the once-in-a-while extraordinary.

Have you found yourself questioning yourself because of the people that seem to constantly come around you? This episode guides us to answer pertinent questions that might give us clarity as to why certain people are approaching us and why certain people are not approaching us. Also, it brings light for us to know that the people attracted to us may not be a function of what we have done or not done; sometimes, people kick balls and just wait to see which enters. Just like Pharoah tried to kill all young boys under two in search of Moses, and Herod tried to kill all young boys in search of Jesus. While we have some monopoly over who approaches us, we do not have a total monopoly, and we should take advantage of the times when we don't have the monopoly.

Everyone wants to feel some fondness and tenderness in their relationship and marriage. No one wants to be left guessing if their partner loves them because they show no affection. While it is important to communicate our affection to our partners, we must know that it comes easier to some people as compared to others, so in this episode, we discuss navigating how to deal with a partner who is not as affectionate. In the end, we will see that while some partners appear more affectionate, others on the other end express themselves in other ways that should not be ignored.

This episode is for people navigating their way through convincing their parents or guardians of their partner. What is the godly way to show your convictions without dishonouring your parents? We discuss 5 points to be noted through navigating this situation in this episode. In the end, while it remains your decision to make, your parents must be honoured and respected in that process because the bible recognises them as the stewards over you before any union in marriage. No to eloping and dishonouring parents in this kingdom.

In this episode, we talk about steps to take if you are in a relationship where the other party is averse to talking about marriage. Might be excusable the first year (even though the start of a relationship must have an agreed destination, even if something happens along the line), but becomes a point of concern if by the second, third+ years there is still no word or hint of walking into marriage. I do not believe that we were made to court for long or just 'see how things go', asides the tendency to become complacent over time, there is high tendencies that you might fall into temptation and that can be avoided if we just allow the Holy Spirit lead us per time; including when to enter a relationship and even when to marry. While it is up to a couple to decide when to marry, it is important that it is a mutual agreement at every point in time, rather than one person hanging and wondering when the other party might be ready.

In this episode, we converse about the relationship that should exist between members of the body of Christ. The response and heart that we must all have towards each other, especially when either of us is found to have erred. This episode challenges us to see the picture of a whole body; a head fitted on the body and see that each time we reverence the head and are irreverent towards any member of the body, we cause the head heartache because the head delights in seeing His body behave and react just like Him to each other and to those outside of that body.

It can be such an unconscious thing to pick up so much from around us and not pay attention to what is within us. It has become even harder in this media-saturated world where people spend more time seeing things and people they wish they have or are. This has created a pandemic of desiring to be and do because we have seen others be and do, and not because Gods spirit in us is urging us in same direction. In this weeks episode we discuss 5 points to consider to be your authentic self always and how this enables the Holy Spirit in us find expression in the unique way He desires.

After my long hiatus from the podcast, we are back talking on some points that everyone must navigate through in entering into new phases, particularly matrimony. I share a new life update as well, which may or may not be what you think it is from the topic. Either way, brace yourself for some deep, honest introspection through this episode

Today's world is saturated with sexual content, everywhere you turn, there's a semblance of sex staring at you. While we must guard our hearts, we must also equip ourselves with knowledge for dealing with sexual urges because they are a natural part of us as humans. While we must not indulge ourselves when they come, we must also not pamper them but do what 2 Corinthians 10:5 says “take captive every thought and make it obedient to Christ”.

In this weeks episode, we discuss points that could help you predict if your current relationship will work and lead to marriage. While there is no certainty and heavy risks involved in love, we must agree that the Holy Spirit leads us in the will of God for our lives and does not author confusion. We discuss the pointers we must look out for to be certain of His leading for our lives. We're saying no to vibes and 'inshallah' in our walk to marriage.

In the spirit of all the love being thrown around this weekend, I thought it lovely to share about 'our marriage rehearsal'. How marriage is only a mirror of our relationship with God. God is doing something with marriages on the earth, this episode opens your eyes to see what He is doing, how He is doing it and how you can plug yourself into it. A gentle reminder that Abba's love remains sufficient and full, plug in and get drunk in love!

In this first episode of the year, we discuss 5 points to hack consistency in 2022. The paramount aspect of our life that must fuel every other aspect of us. Practical points that we can add to our everyday life was shared to aid our keeping energy levels high all through the year.

In this episode we talk about the dynamics of a private courtship and some of the benefits it poses to couples who adopt it. A caveat though: a relationship is not guaranteed to work because you kept it private or you made it public. More important values must guide a relationship to keep it healthy, but in the long run, questions such as this topic matter.

Every now and again I ask people what has kept them in the relationships they are in for that long, I get funny answers or none at all. It is important we have convictions about our lives and living, particularly relationships. In this episode we discuss how important convictions are in eros relationships and also how to build conviction. A lot of relationships have ended in hurt because there was no conviction from the start. Conviction can be likened to a truth or foundation, without a foundation, no structure stands.

Today we are spotlighting another unpopular person in the bible called Jehoiada. He was a priest during the reign of Joash and played such a key role that should really be talked more today. He teaches us treasurable lessons through His life and brings us to evaluate the things that truly matter as we journey through life. May we be and have Jehoida's in our lifetime.

This episode is just a word of encouragement for everyone living this life. I hope this episode just brings you to slow down and breathe.

NEW SERIES - THROUGH THEIR EYES In this series, we hear the thoughts of different age groups on the same questions that vary across different parts of life. Our second guest is a 9-year old telling us her thoughts on friendship, life, fears and God. Hopefully this series helps us revisit our younger years or think about our tomorrow years and start to make the best decisions now. Enjoy!

NEW SERIES - THROUGH THEIR EYES In this series, we hear the thoughts of different age groups on the same questions that vary across different parts of life. Our first guest is a teenager telling us her thoughts on friendship, life, fears and God. Hopefully this series helps us revisit our younger years or think about our tomorrow years and start to make the best decisions now. Enjoy!

We start a new series on Fochwoman podcast this week called 'Bible spotlight', where we will pick characters from the bible not often spoken about, maybe because they did not defeat opposition armies, or kill lions, but are still just as important. This week, our spotlight is Jochebed, who played a role more important than we can say in the deliverance of the Israelites from the Egyptians. We discuss 5 lessons we can learn from her as we grow in The Kingdom.

Relationships will continue to be hard for us to navigate if we don't get the fundamentals and foundation right. A romantic relationship involves more than just two people who seem interested in each other. There are several underlying things that make a person who they are and those things need to be understood to have a flourishing relationship with the person. In this episode, we discuss 10 points, with both reason and solution on why people get hurt. Hopefully it opens you to knowledge on how you can do better to have more flourishing relationships.

Hearing Gods voice should not be rocket science to us who believe. God says that "My sheep hear my voice; I know them and they follow me". This verse tells us already that as sheep, we are wired to hear the voice of our shepherd. Oftentimes, the struggle with hearing Gods voice is not that He is not speaking, but what is the issue then? In this episode, we discuss 5 points on how to hear Gods voice so that we are running this race with His guidance and not without direction.

I think we can all agree that dressing ranks high on the list as one of the most talked about issues in christendom today. While we agree that substance and content is what matters, container also requires a great deal of attention and this container must be different from that of the world. Enough of us excusing indecency and lack of modesty, but choosing rather to now submit to the Holy Spirit even in the choice of clothing and dressing. We have a responsibility over our brothers and sisters in the faith and if we take that responsibility seriously, it will be reflected even in how we appear outside of our homes. Dressing does impact our faith and that of others and in this episode we discuss how and why.

Break ups are a reality for us on this side of life, how we handle them and deal with them is important and largely impacts us and the other person involved. In this episode we discuss how to heal and move from a breakup for both the one who has been broken up with and the person who initiates the breakup. Most times, neither of the parties involved are bad, it will always be better to end a faulty relationship than manage it into a marriage where everything is magnified. To God, be true.

There is no randomisation or accident to our existence, it is evident from the God we read about in the bible that He does not create without purpose. Now, it is one thing to know that He creates with purpose and another to know if we are living and walking in accordance to that purpose we have been created for. This episode helps us think through where we are in walking in line with God's purpose for our lives, It asks us the necessary questions to evaluate our walk with God. In the end, only a few things will matter, it matters that we expound our energy on those things now and not waste it on things that will fade away.

Standards are something we all live by whether or not we realise it, the real question really is WHAT standards do we live by. In the context of relationships, we might be accused of having standards that are too high or settling without standards at all, it might get a bit confusing, so this episode discusses standards as a believer in a relationship and gives pointers to ensure that these standards are Spirit-driven and not merely physical preferences that will not matter in the grand scheme of things. The bible is a standard book if we never knew it and it presents us with the One true standard that we must live by in every area of our lives, Jesus.

It is easy to get carried away in the number of humans as just one existing on earth, it is easy to get caught thinking that you're smaller or inconsequential in the grand scheme of things and so this makes us see ourselves as lower or less powerful than God has actually made us. In this episode we discuss three points that remind us of why we matter on this earth to adjust our mindsets to see God's intention towards us here and now.

Is it godly for christians to break up?  Seemed like an easy question to answer till I opened my keypad to type and then I realised the question itself was funny. While I strongly believe and advocate the accuracy of the Holy Spirit in the life of a believer, I do not demonise breakups even among believers because I believe that things happen, people change, and when these things and changes stop serving Gods purpose, it is highly advisable that you go your separate ways because in the end, our relationships and marriages must be God glorifying, but this will be impossible if the individuals involved are not God glorifying. In this episode we discuss the godly way to let go and move on in 5 points, whether in romantic relationships or friendships that end for whatever reason. Through the whole process, we must be loving and forgiving of ourselves as well as the person involved.

Our hearts posture and mindset are important in the seasons of waiting. In this episode we explore 5 things we must be conscious of as we wait on God. What is your attitude saying in this season of waiting?

Exciting weekend seeing different expressions of love. Probably my favourite characteristic of love; that it can be expressed in a vary of ways. It is not enough to see expressions of love and just desire it when you have deeply rooted fears that make you think and expect the worse when you find yourself or other people deeply in love. In this episode, we explore 5 things to keep in mind through the journey of romantic love. Beginning and conclusion on this matter is same; 'perfect love casts out fear'.