I'm Ma'am As Hell

Kyra is troubled by a post on Instagram that advises people to "choose to be happy." Kyra and Sandy treat patients in their practice who don't have that ability. Clinical Depression is discussed from a therapist's and prescribers point of view.

Sandy and Kyra invite an outspoken listener, Susan Parker, on-air to voice her opinion on a topic that hit a nerve-cosmetic surgery. Susan also discusses her decision to have a double mastectomy and ovary removal surgery after testing positive for the BRCA gene.

Sandy and Kyra have a lively discussion about the delineating milestones in a woman's life, using their menstrual cycles as a timeline.

Kyra & Sandy discuss the hot topic of Infidelity.

Sandy and Kyra describe how they were able to create peace with their partners after periods of disconnect. They discuss the cycle of Connect-Disconnect-Reconnect that is prevalent in all relationships.

Kyra makes a life changing decision to sell her home.

The Ma'ams have a candid conversation with Michael Keller, a 67-year-old man who was the most successful and prolific stock photographer of the '90s. Michael has never been married or had children. He talks about dating in mid-life and what he finds attractive in women. He also happens to be Kyra's ex-boyfriend.

The Ma'ams understand the importance of staying relevant in mid-life. We were recently exposed to three words that have infiltrated the English lexicon. Do you know what it means to be ghosted? Are you familiar with the phrase mansplaining and gaslighting? In our latest podcast, we define each term and share our personal experiences with these hurtful behaviors.

A fascinating conversation with Dr. Gennifer Herley, who in mid-life not only got a Ph.D. but also transitioned to a woman! Dr. Gen discusses what it is like to be a middle-aged woman from a former man's perspective. She experiences firsthand how pervasive male privilege is - after losing it.

The Ma'ams talk to Jackie Orena a beauty consultant and the director of the popular med spa Truth and Beauty, on Long Island. Kyra and Sandy are blown away by the latest array of cosmetic procedures that are available for both women and men.

The Ma'ams meet up with former Ford/Elite model Shawn Ehlers who keeps reinventing herself by embracing new opportunities.

In an attempt to dress sexy and please her man, Kyra wears high heels and breaks 2 bones in her foot.

In their latest podcast Life After Divorce, Kyra and Sandy tackle the topic of divorce and offer their insights from a personal and professional perspective.

For their 39th podcast, "A Labor of Love - Melissa Davey's Film Release," Kyra and Sandy are excited to speak with a former guest Melissa Davey, who recently released her film "Beyond Sixty" to rave reviews. This is a dream come true for Melissa, who had no prior film experience. At age 70, she is on to her next movie production!

For their latest installment of "Ma'ams on the Move," Kyra and Sandy visit The Montauk Salt Cave West in Huntington, where they recorded their latest podcast, "Getting Salty in a Cave." Listen to their lively and informative discussion about the benefits of salt therapy!

Kyra and Sandy begin the summer with unexpected health struggles. Sandy not only experiences a bad reaction to The Shingles vaccine but she also has to care for her son after jaw surgery. Kyra develops a severe case of poison ivy requiring steroids.

A lively conversation with an authentic Ma'am who uses humor and wisdom to inspire others. Sandy Joy Weston is an author, podcaster, and a fitness & lifestyle maven who found her joy and freedom during a period of pain & suffering. 

For their 35th podcast, "What Turns Men on in Midlife - From a Man's Perspective," Kyra and Sandy are thrilled to have Rich Keller, a married middle-aged man, as their guest. Rich shares his thoughts on women's topics in midlife such as weight gain, painful intercourse, going gray, and menopause.

Kyra and Sandy talk about what makes them feel sexy and share some of the conflicts they are experiencing with their men.

Kyra and Sandy talk with Rachel Rosen, a woman who changed the course of her life by taking a chance on an invitation to attend a social group for moms with young children. She turned a casual interest in volunteerism into what has become a passionate and lifelong endeavor. Rachel is now Nassau Region President, an unpaid position requiring a 3-year commitment. 

Sandy shares her discomfort when her adult son wants to treat her to lunch for her birthday. Her parents and in-laws have always picked up the check. 

Sandy and Kyra share their contrasting thoughts about death. Because of her work with patients dying of AIDS in the 80's and 90's, Kyra has been fascinated with the topic. Sandy reveals several serious health issues she has faced but admits although she was frightened she did not think about dying, nor does she choose to think about it now.

Do you struggle with weight issues? Can you imagine what it would be like to live your life as a morbidly obese woman? Meet our guest Lorena, a 57-year-old woman who believed she was not entitled to happiness because of her size. Lorena takes us on her journey from not being able to fit in chairs, having difficulty wiping herself, to finally conquering her weight in midlife with bariatric surgery.

Kyra and Sandy respond to a listener's request for a discussion on how to cope with the anxiety surrounding returning to a normal-ish life post-COVID.

We all have the ability to choose to be happy and grateful for what we have, rather than focus on what we want. Kyra and Sandy look at the mindset of abundance from two very different perspectives.

What is happening to our vaginas? Kyra and Sandy have a lively and informative conversation with their guest Dr. Sharon Mass a leader in the field of Obstetrics and Gynecology, who helps Ma'ams understand the changes they are experiencing with their bodies and their sex lives related to menopause, vaginal dryness, decreased libido as well as numerous other physical and emotional changes are discussed.

New friendships are more difficult to make in Midlife. Kyra and Sandy discuss how their relationships have evolved over the years, and the qualities that define a "good friend." Kyra struggles with the painful decision to let go of a 25+ year friendship in which she has always felt taken advantage of. 

Kyra and Sandy describe their opportunity initiative for Ma'ams.

The Ma'ams describe their experience learning to say NO, which frees them up to say YES to themselves.

An amusing podcast in which Sandy expresses her dismay with her son for not allowing her to pee in his NYC apartment. Kyra shares her surprisingly fun experience getting her first vaccine, and gives tips on how to get through the red tape involved in scheduling an appointment.

There is an adorable boutique in Cold Spring Harbor that is a social mecca for Ma'ams on Long Island. Jane Zuckerberg is the owner of Say la Vie a place where everyone knows your name and life lessons are shared with raw honesty.

Now that Sandy's husband Jeff has begun working on Saturdays, it dawns on Sandy that it is her responsibility to create fun plans for herself. Kyra on the other hand usually works on Saturdays. To the dismay of her boyfriend Cliff, she relishes not having any plans on her day off.

Meet Janet Mackay a high-energy Ma'am that exudes positivity as she shares her passion for helping women live their best lives - "Be the drip that rips not the drop that flops" - One of Janet's many sayings that will leave you - motivated & inspired.

Sandy and Kyra kvech about their men. All they want is for them to understand how they are feeling. Is that even possible?

Meet our guest Gina O'Brien, a 57-year-old 3-time screenwriter who makes her directorial debut with a comedy she wrote called "First One In," a funny adult version of the Mean Girls, now playing on Amazon. Gina shares her journey to success and finding what makes her happy.

Sandy and Kyra reflect on the story of I'm Ma'am as Hell and ageism featured in Newsday on Sunday 1/24/2021. As usual, they both have very different reactions to their new found popularity. What they do agree on is how intimidating it can be to venture out of your comfort zone.

Kyra reveals the pressure she feels to stay thin and maintain her appearance because she is not married to her mate. She recalls when her then-boyfriend warned her that he finds flabby arms unattractive, referring to them as “Hadassah arms.” Sandy feels that Kyra's arms are the last thing she should be worrying about.

When will it be our turn to stop pleasing everyone and start living life the way WE want? Kyra and Sandy reflect on the many inherent societal beliefs that confine women in their discussion of the book Untamed by Glennon Doyle- a powerful self-help/memoir for women of all ages.

Today, our guest is Genia Taub, a health coach who dedicated her life to helping others “take action” in improving their health and well-being. Until one day, she couldn't. Genia found herself confronting her own health challenges, requiring the assistance of others. She shares the story of how she overcame her struggles and developed a way to heal herself.

For the first time in a long time, Sandy goes out for New Year's Eve and surprises herself by having a fun time and feeling “normal.” Kyra was disappointed that she didn't ring in the new year as she planned.

Did you know that the beauty industry is holding women hostage? Abby Weiss from Beauty Counter joins Sandy and Kyra to educate Ma'ams about the toxic ingredients found in most cosmetics we use. After discovering the hidden truth behind the beauty industry, Abby's trajectory in midlife permanently changes.

Sandy talks about a crazy dream she had about having another baby at 59. Kyra offers an interpretation that her dream symbolizes her rebirth or her unmet desire to have a daughter and balance out the dominant male energy in her family.  Kyra shares her experiences planning her boyfriend's daughter's wedding and discovers that although she chose not to have children, she is enjoying her role as step-mother.

Are you bored after years of taking care of your family? Your kids are now grown and have lives of their own. It has probably been years since you were out in the workforce. Are you wondering what skills, if any, you have after 20+ years of staying home raising children? Meet Jimmy Levin, a self-proclaimed People's Advocate for those who want to re-enter the workforce. Jimmy walks the walk. After being forced to give up a successful career in photography due to a retinal condition, Jimmy re-invents himself in mid-life. He shares with us the lessons he learned on his journey back to feeling relevant again.

Sandy begins a new Thanksgiving tradition and is able to enjoy the holiday despite feeling sad that her parents will not be able to do the same. Kyra explains why she refers to herself as single despite being in a committed relationship.

Kyra and Sandy describe their struggle coping with their changing bodies. This sensitive issue is relatable to all women.

Meet Patricia, a 65 years young retired elementary school principal, divorced with three older children who are self-sufficient and successful. She meets a man and together they decide to foster three little children until he gets caught up in problems and she tosses him. Patricia decides to adopt the three children on her own. She is happier than ever proving it's never too late to start a new life! 

The Ma'ams realize they never had a role model like RBG.

Having achieved success in the corporate world Melissa felt an urge to spend the rest of her life doing something she loves, so with no prior experience, she made a film. Melissa discusses how she overcame fear and ageism and changed her life. 

It becomes more important particularly as we are getting older to take responsibility for our happiness. After many disappointing birthdays where Sandy waited for her loved ones to read her mind- she decided to create a day that she would enjoy.... and it worked- with a little help from Tina Turner. Kyra reminisced about a recent birthday when she experienced a wish that had been on her bucket list for decades, Kyra spent her birthday with a cow, proving it is never too late to try something different!

Do you remember where you were when the world as we knew it changed and we were all forced into quarantine? Kyra & Sandy share their experiences and ways of coping.

Kyra and Sandy have vastly different ideas about how to shake up mid-life.