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A podcast hosted by Kayla Lords and John Brownstone to share what a love of BDSM looks like in a loving relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. People new to the lifestyle or new to the idea that BDSM and love can mix will find something to learn or realize they're not alone in their exper…

Loving BDSM

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    • Jun 2, 2025 LATEST EPISODE
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    • 1h 5m AVG DURATION
    • 720 EPISODES

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    The Loving BDSM podcast is a fantastic resource for anyone interested in exploring the world of kink and BDSM. Hosted by Kayla Lords (Babygirl) and her partner JB, this podcast offers a wealth of information, advice, and personal anecdotes that are both educational and entertaining.

    One of the best aspects of The Loving BDSM podcast is the depth of knowledge that Kayla and JB bring to each episode. Whether they're discussing communication within a BDSM relationship, exploring different types of kinks and fetishes, or sharing personal experiences, their expertise shines through. They provide practical tips and guidance for individuals at all levels of experience, from beginners to seasoned practitioners. Additionally, their willingness to address topics that are sometimes considered taboo or controversial shows their commitment to creating an open and inclusive space for listeners.

    Another great aspect of this podcast is the genuine chemistry between Kayla and JB. Their love and respect for each other are evident in their conversations, creating a warm atmosphere that makes listeners feel like they're part of the discussion. Their authenticity allows for candid conversations about the challenges and rewards of BDSM relationships, ensuring that listeners feel heard and understood.

    While it's hard to find any major faults with The Loving BDSM podcast, one potential downside is that some episodes may not be relevant or interesting to every listener. Due to the vast range of topics covered in each episode, there may be episodes that don't resonate with certain individuals or cater specifically to their interests or needs within the world of BDSM. However, given the wide variety of content available in each episode, it's likely that most listeners will find something valuable in each installment.

    In conclusion, The Loving BDSM podcast is an excellent resource for anyone curious about or actively engaged in BDSM and kink. With its informative content, thoughtful discussions on various aspects of relationships within the lifestyle, and welcoming atmosphere created by Kayla Lords and JB themselves, this podcast deserves high praise. It offers valuable insights, dispels myths and misconceptions, and fosters a sense of community among listeners. Whether you're new to BDSM or a long-time devotee, The Loving BDSM podcast is well worth a listen.



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    Latest episodes from Loving BDSM

    Q&A: Am I Asking for Too Much From My Dominant?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2025 18:33 Transcription Available


    This couple has been going through it for the past few years and have spent the past year in couples counseling, but they're not where they were before. The submissive partner worries they may... The post Q&A: Am I Asking for Too Much From My Dominant? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Kinky Q&A

    Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2025 66:22 Transcription Available


    We're back from an extra long break and we're easing in by answering your kinky questions! In this episode: We're starting our summer live stream schedule the first week of June – 7pm ET... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Q&A: What Do I Do as a Newly Single But Inexperienced Sub?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2025 15:34 Transcription Available


    A submissive was introduced to BDSM by a former partner, but their relationship ended before any kinky exploration. Here's the question: I met a Dom by accident on Tinder. He suggested I look into... The post Q&A: What Do I Do as a Newly Single But Inexperienced Sub? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    How to Be Consistent in D/s | Making D/s Work in the Real World

    Play Episode Listen Later May 9, 2025 81:58 Transcription Available


    To us, the best way to be consistent in your power exchange – as a Dom or sub individually and together – is with a routine. In this episode, we'll talk about the factors... The post How to Be Consistent in D/s | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: How Do I Stop Apologizing While Topping?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2025 13:20 Transcription Available


    A switch who's new to topping keeps apologizing when their partner expresses (consensual) pain. Here's the question: I've recently discovered my Switch side and Impact Topped for the first time at a kink event... The post Q&A: How Do I Stop Apologizing While Topping? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    D/s When You Take Care of Others | Making D/s Work in the Real World

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2025 82:03 Transcription Available


    Whether you're a parent (now or in the future) or you are a caregiver for an adult in your life (now or in the future), it's going to impact your power exchange. This week,... The post D/s When You Take Care of Others | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: How Do I Convince My Dom That I'm Ready for More?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2025 15:06 Transcription Available


    This submissive knows they need to move slowly into D/s but nothing's happening at all. Here's the question: I'm 28 and am just figuring out that I want/need a Dominant partner. I've been kind... The post Q&A: How Do I Convince My Dom That I'm Ready for More? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    D/s No One Else Will Notice | Making D/s Work in the Real World

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2025 76:08 Transcription Available


    We're continuing our real world series by talking about how to do power exchange things or experience your D/s vibe in ways that no one else is going to notice. In this episode: Join... The post D/s No One Else Will Notice | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Q&A: Are These Unwanted Behaviors a Red Flag?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2025 15:20 Transcription Available


    A submissive had to ask their partner to stop doing something twice, and now they worry it's a red flag. Here's the question: I am in a 3-year Daddy Dom D/s relationship with my... The post Q&A: Are These Unwanted Behaviors a Red Flag? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Kink is Customizable | Making D/s Work in the Real World

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2025 68:40 Transcription Available


    We're starting a new series inspired by our session from the 2025 Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit and diving deeper into how to make a power exchange relationship (and kink life) work in the real... The post Kink is Customizable | Making D/s Work in the Real World appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: How Will We Know We're Ready to Try Nonmonogamy Again?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2025 20:03 Transcription Available


    They tried non-monogamy in the past and it didn't work, but they'd like to try again. Here's the question: My Daddy and I have been together for almost 2 years now. We are 24/7... The post Q&A: How Will We Know We're Ready to Try Nonmonogamy Again? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    No Topic, Just Vibes | A Bonus Section Episode

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2025 67:39 Transcription Available


    We had a topic all planned and then life threw us for a bit of a loop on a day when we were already exhausted. Since we want to do the topic justice, we... The post No Topic, Just Vibes | A Bonus Section Episode appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Q&A: How Do I Provide Emotional Support to My Dom?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2025 12:38 Transcription Available


    A submissive isn't sure how to be there for their switchy Daddy Dom. Here's the question: My partner and I are both relatively new to BDSM and kink and are in a Daddy Dom... The post Q&A: How Do I Provide Emotional Support to My Dom? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Afraid to Ask for “Too Much” in Your Dynamic

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2025 60:39 Transcription Available


    After multiple emails with the same question, it was time to talk about it. If you're afraid to ask for “too much” in your dynamic or don't think you deserve what you want, there... The post Afraid to Ask for “Too Much” in Your Dynamic appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Q&A: How Do I Navigate Being New to Sex and Kink

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2025 21:03 Transcription Available


    A submissive is about to move in with their long distance partner. The submissive is new to sex and kink and has never done either. They have anxiety, and their partner has ADHD. And... The post Q&A: How Do I Navigate Being New to Sex and Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Kinky AITA

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 28, 2025 85:06 Transcription Available


    This week's BDSM Reddit response is a kinky version of “Am I the asshole?”! In this episode: You can still register for the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit! Horny grandma on OnlyFans Breaking up because... The post Kinky AITA appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: Is There a Way to Be Okay With Being Called Mommy or Daddy?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2025 18:28 Transcription Available


    A Domme wants to give their submissive what he wants – to call his partner Mommy – but it's jarring to hear. Here's the question: I stepped back into the BDSM lifestyle as a... The post Q&A: Is There a Way to Be Okay With Being Called Mommy or Daddy? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    24/7 D/s and Total Power Exchange

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 21, 2025 71:54 Transcription Available


    Thanks to multiple questions we received in a previous “ask us anything” episode, we're devoting an entire episode to 24/7 D/s and total power exchange – are they the same thing or not? As... The post 24/7 D/s and Total Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Q&A: How Can a People Pleaser Explore Their Bratty Side?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 17, 2025 15:19 Transcription Available


    A submissive knows they're a people pleaser, but they also want to explore their bratty side. Here's the question: I am a submissive who's been exploring kink for a few years now. I have... The post Q&A: How Can a People Pleaser Explore Their Bratty Side? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Experimenting with Rules in Public

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2025 83:30 Transcription Available


    This was a really hard episode to concisely explain in a title. We're taking our own advice and starting low and slow when trying new things in our power exchange. In this case, we're... The post Experimenting with Rules in Public appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: How Do We Negotiate Consensual Non-consent?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2025 16:04 Transcription Available


    A kinky couple wants to try consensual non-consent (CNC) and is looking for ideas and tips on the negotiation process. Here's the question: I (f26) have been with my Dom (m33) for a little... The post Q&A: How Do We Negotiate Consensual Non-consent? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Kinky Q&A

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 7, 2025 75:23 Transcription Available


    This week, we answer some of the kinky questions you asked us over on Instagram (at that handle that will be hated forever!). Links from the episode: Ask Your Questions Our mailing address is:... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Q&A: What Should We Negotiate and Decide Before We Move In Together?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 3, 2025 23:55 Transcription Available


    They're thinking of moving in together and want to make sure they plan appropriately. Here's the question: I am a newer submissive who's in a LDR with a Daddy Dom. We have met several... The post Q&A: What Should We Negotiate and Decide Before We Move In Together? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Perimenopause and Power Exchange

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 28, 2025 88:57 Transcription Available


    Perimenopause can impact a person's life for a decade or more, so of course it affects your power exchange relationship and kink life. And it's past time to talk about it. In this episode:... The post Perimenopause and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: Is Punishment a Necessary Part of Power Exchange?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 17, 2025 20:20 Transcription Available


    You'll hear the audio skip during the intro – it was a problem we discovered after we recorded. The rest of the episode should be fine. They've renegotiated their power exchange and removed punishment,... The post Q&A: Is Punishment a Necessary Part of Power Exchange? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Feelings of Comfort and Familiarity

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 14, 2025 75:11 Transcription Available


    A lot of feelings come up when you're getting back to the D/s relationship you want or reconfiguring it to work for your life now. For us, it's been feelings of comfort (Kayla) and... The post Feelings of Comfort and Familiarity appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: How Do I Feel More Confident in Our Dynamic After Trauma?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2025 21:03 Transcription Available


    Content warning: mentions (but no descriptions) of sexual abuse and trauma in a past D/s relationship A submissive left an abusive power exchange relationship and has found a Dominant partner that makes them happy,... The post Q&A: How Do I Feel More Confident in Our Dynamic After Trauma? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Silly Conflicts in Our Power Exchange

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2025 65:05 Transcription Available


    We needed something lighthearted this week, so we're taking a look at some of the silly little “arguments” we get into. In this episode: Our 2025 Patreon Membership Drive is still going on! Argument... The post Silly Conflicts in Our Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: How Do I Get Out of My Head During Sex?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2025 23:01 Transcription Available


    This week, a submissive can't stop worrying about her partner's previous sexual experience but her Dominant also worries he's not giving her big enough orgasms. Here's the question: My boyfriend and I have been... The post Q&A: How Do I Get Out of My Head During Sex? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    BDSM Reddit Response

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 31, 2025 84:50 Transcription Available


    This week, we could use a cathartic rant or two, so we're responding to the BDSM side of Reddit! In this episode: Join our kinky community during the 2025 Patreon Membership Drive and get... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Q&A: How Do I Support a Partner Who Doesn’t Take Criticism Well?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2025 18:28 Transcription Available


    A submissive agreed to their partner “No” on agreed upon topics, but their partner reacts in a way that's causing resentment. The submissive knows they need to talk but also knows their partner doesn't... The post Q&A: How Do I Support a Partner Who Doesn't Take Criticism Well? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Obedience in Power Exchange

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2025 76:46 Transcription Available


    Obedience is a necessary part of submission, but it's not experienced the same by all submissives – or their Dominant partners. In this episode: Patreon Membership Drive is still going on! Definition of obedience:... The post Obedience in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: How Do We Maintain Our D/s Dynamic?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2025 15:50 Transcription Available


    A Dominant wants to support their submissive but they don't know how to do that and maintain their D/s dynamic. Here's the question: My wife has voiced interest in kink play. She is submissive... The post Q&A: How Do We Maintain Our D/s Dynamic? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Reconnecting With Our Kinky Identities

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 17, 2025 79:30 Transcription Available


    This week, we're talking about the early days of reconnecting with our kinky selves – what it's been like so far, how we got here, and more. In this episode: Join us this Friday,... The post Reconnecting With Our Kinky Identities appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: Am I Really Submissive?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2025 16:33


    In this week's episode, their partner is willing to top them but not be their Dominant. They also have conflicted feelings about their submission leading them to wonder if they're really submissive at all.... The post Q&A: Am I Really Submissive? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Getting Our D/s Life Back in 2025

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 10, 2025 80:34 Transcription Available


    Taking a couple of weeks off was very good for us. It allowed us to rest and chill, but we also reflected on the state of our power exchange. We talked about what we... The post Getting Our D/s Life Back in 2025 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Q&A: What Happens If You Can’t Agree That a Sub Broke a Rule?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2025 18:15 Transcription Available


    A sassy switch has a partner who pushes the boundaries as a brat, and they're not sure how to handle potential broken rules. Here's the question: My boyfriend (53m) and I (38 transmasc /... The post Q&A: What Happens If You Can't Agree That a Sub Broke a Rule? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Looking Back at our D/s Relationship in 2024

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 20, 2024 85:29 Transcription Available


    For the last podcast episode of the year, we're looking back at the state of our power exchange for the year. The takeaway is that not a lot happened but we've learned a few... The post Looking Back at our D/s Relationship in 2024 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Q&A: Does the Kink Community Welcome All Body Types?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2024 9:52


    This week, a plus size kinkster wants to let it all hang out at the dungeon, but not if they'll be the only plus size person there. Here's the question: I really want to... The post Q&A: Does the Kink Community Welcome All Body Types? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Answering More Vanilla Relationship Questions

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 13, 2024 74:53 Transcription Available


    We're keeping it light and easy (and also extremely personal, apparently) this week by answering more non-kinky relationship questions. In this episode: Get free shipping on orders $35+ thru December 15 at the Kinkery!... The post Answering More Vanilla Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: How Do We Find the Balance Between Our Power Exchange Needs?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2024 21:14 Transcription Available


    A submissive has needs that don't fit naturally with what their Dominant enjoys and wonders how to find the right balance for both of them. Here's the question: My Dom and I have been... The post Q&A: How Do We Find the Balance Between Our Power Exchange Needs? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Navigating the Holidays in Power Exchange

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 6, 2024 79:20 Transcription Available


    The holidays are upon us (and they keep coming back every year) so let's talk about how to get through some of the main parts of it that can impact your power exchange. In... The post Navigating the Holidays in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: Why is My Sub Irritable After a Scene? Is It Drop?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2024 8:59 Transcription Available


    A Dominant provides the aftercare his submissive wants, but she's always cranky the day after a scene. Here's the question: My (41m/Dom) and my wife (42f/sub) have been married for four years and discovered... The post Q&A: Why is My Sub Irritable After a Scene? Is It Drop? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    BDSM Reddit Response

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 29, 2024 80:10 Transcription Available


    Happy Thanksgiving! We responded (and ranted) to BDSM Reddit posts. In this episode: Black Friday sales The Kinkery – 25 percent off with code SPANKS24 Our Etsy shops – 25 percent off no code... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: Is It OK for Subs to Call Me Sir When We Meet?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 25, 2024 9:42 Transcription Available


    This Dominant knows not to come on too strong when getting to know submissives, but some of them call him “Sir” from the very beginning, and he's not sure if it's a problem or... The post Q&A: Is It OK for Subs to Call Me Sir When We Meet? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Kinky Q&A

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 22, 2024 74:22 Transcription Available


    We asked Instagram to ask us anything and then opened up questions to the YouTube live chat during the stream. In this episode: All of our Etsy shops are on sale through the end... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Q&A: How Do I Talk About My Mental Health?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2024 14:05 Transcription Available


    A kinkster who's been dealing with burnout, depression, and other personal stuff wonders how and when to bring up their mental health to a new partner. Here's the question: My question is – as... The post Q&A: How Do I Talk About My Mental Health? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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    Assertive Submissives

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 15, 2024 71:34 Transcription Available


    Assertive gets conflated with bratting, demanding, and/or unsubmissive-like behavior. And we fundamentally disagree, so let's talk about it. In this episode: All of our Etsy shops are on sale thru the rest of the... The post Assertive Submissives appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: How Do I Handle Having a Bad Local Community?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2024 12:12 Transcription Available


    A newish kinkster live in an area with a local kink community they're not comfortable being part of and driving to another area isn't an option. Here's the question: What do I do when... The post Q&A: How Do I Handle Having a Bad Local Community? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Dominants and Communication

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2024 61:19 Transcription Available


    We didn't know where this would go before we started other than saying, “Yes, Doms need to communicate effectively, too.” (Obviously.) JB shares his experiences as a Dom who has struggled to communicate in... The post Dominants and Communication appeared first on Loving BDSM.

    Q&A: How Can I Motivate My Dom to Bring D/s Out of the Bedroom?

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 28, 2024 14:49 Transcription Available


    In this week's episode, a submissive wants to bring D/s out of the bedroom, but their Dom doesn't seem motivated to try. Here's the question: My husband (33m) and I (34f) have been together... The post Q&A: How Can I Motivate My Dom to Bring D/s Out of the Bedroom? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

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