Podcast appearances and mentions of john brownstone

#065 There's no guidebook for BDSM - but what if you could learn from experienced kinksters?

Whips, chains, and... legal pads? In this episode of Taboo Science, we dive deep into the world of BDSM to explore its long history, the science behind subspace, the submissive rich guy stereotype, and why aftercare is essential for everyone (even vanilla folks!). With help from paraphilia researcher Dr. Christian Joyal, the Ask a Sub podcast's Lina Dune, and the Loving BDSM podcast's Kayla Lords and John Brownstone, we're debunking misconceptions and shedding light on the reality of safe, consensual BDSM practices. Whether you're a seasoned pro or just curious about the lifestyle, this episode is a must-listen. Hey, it's way better than Fifty Shades of Grey.Resources from Christian Joyal:University of Quebec faculty page: https://oraprdnt.uqtr.uquebec.ca/pls/public/genw050.afficher_fiche_perso?owa_cd_secteur=0800&owa_cd_fonction=49&owa_no_personne=134064&owa_contexte=$211-37Philippe-Pinel Institute faculty page: https://pinel.qc.ca/christian-joyal-ph-d/ Research on Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.ca/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0,5&q=c+joyal&oq=Resources from Lina Dune:Ask a Sub podcast: https://askasub.substack.com/podcastNewsletter: https://askasub.substack.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/askasub2.0/ Resources from Kayla Lords & John Brownstone:Loving BDSM podcast: https://lovingbdsm.net/loving-bdsm-podcast/Website: https://lovingbdsm.net/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovingds1/ See citations and a transcript here: https://www.tabooscience.show/040-bdsm/Need music for a project? Use my Epidemic Sound referral link: https://share.epidemicsound.com/kbva2hConnect with the show: Newsletter: https://www.tabooscience.show/newsletter Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tabooscience YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@tabooscience Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/tabooscience Website: https://www.tabooscience.show/ Loved this episode? Leave a review and rating here:

Dara and Rara like to tease each other because as a Millenial and Gen X they don't always agree on stuff. This inspired us to bring in other generations to discuss their views on kink. We bring in John Brownstone from LovingBDSM to represent the Boomers and the oft-mentioned Lulu from Tik Tok to represent Gen Z. The four of us have a fun time talking about how our individual generation affects our views and of course there is a lot of teasing about the youngins vs the old folks. Where you can find our guests - Lulu (Gen Z) - tbhimababysub on Tik Tok John Brownstone (Boomer) - LovingBDSM on YouTube and SouthernSir on FetLife Visit us at pinkkinkpodcast.com Affiliates - SireDonLeather.com (use code PINKKINK to save 10% on your order)                 Leatheretc.com (use code PINKKINK to save 10% on your order and free shipping on orders over $50) Cancerphase.com (use code PINKKINK to save 10% on your order)                 BDSMandPolyOutlet (use code PINK to save 10% on your order) Check us out on Instagram, Twitter and FetLife at pinkkinkpodcast Check us out on Tik Tok at PinkKinkPodcast2.0 Join our Facebook group - Pink Kink Podcast Join our subreddit - r/PinkKinkPodcast Help support us at Patreon.com/Pinkkinkpodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pinkkink/message

John Brownstone posed an interesting question when thinking about power exchange relationships and new potential partners: What do you bring to the table as a kinkster and just as a person? So that's what... The post What Do You Bring to the Table? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone posed an interesting question when thinking about power exchange relationships and new potential partners: What do you bring to the table as a kinkster and just as a person? So that's what... The post What Do You Bring to the Table? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We believe dominance is about leadership just as much (if not more) than it's about power and control. John Brownstone considers himself a servant leader. In this week's episode, we're talking about what servant... The post Servant Leadership and Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Taking the plunge and writing about my experiences with D/s, and my thoughts on certain kink topics. Thanks to John Brownstone and Kayla Lords of the Loving BDSM podcast/community for thinking this prompt idea up. If y'all want more of these just let me know. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/subheart/message

It started as an offhand idea John Brownstone threw out right before Christmas, and then we ran with it. It’s been years since we did any BDSM checklists, so we recorded ourselves doing one... The post Re-Doing a BDSM Checklist appeared first on Loving BDSM.

It’s here! It’s here! Not just a special Thursday podcast but John Brownstone’s new shop: The Kinkery! This episode ran longer than we intended (typical, lol). A big portion of this episode is us... The post Special Episode: Introducing the Kinkery appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone was feeling under the weather late last week and into this week, so we took the week off from recording a podcast/live streaming. Instead of missing the week, we decided to share... The post Ranking Our Kinks appeared first on Loving BDSM.

For the final minisode (for now?), John Brownstone and Kayla Lords are together, sharing bare-handed spanking tips. This episode assumes you know the basics — connect bare hand to bare butt. After that, what... The post Podcast Minisode 12: Bare-Handed Spanking Tips appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Listen to one podcast episode (or watch a video), and you know that John Brownstone and I laugh a LOT. Part of it has to do with being happy, but part of it is... The post The Power of Laughter and Humor in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Listen to one podcast episode (or watch a video), and you know that John Brownstone and I laugh a LOT. Part of it has to do with being happy, but part of it is... The post The Power of Laughter and Humor in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Earlier this week, we were out of sync — we weren’t in tune with each other in terms of kink. John Brownstone went too hard, too fast, and I didn’t speak up when I... The post When Your D/s is Out of Sync appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Earlier this week, we were out of sync — we weren’t in tune with each other in terms of kink. John Brownstone went too hard, too fast, and I didn’t speak up when I... The post When Your D/s is Out of Sync appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone and I work together all the time, and we consider ourselves a really good team. That has never been more evident since we began the moving process. Any relationship should be seen... The post The Importance of Teamwork in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone and I work together all the time, and we consider ourselves a really good team. That has never been more evident since we began the moving process. Any relationship should be seen... The post The Importance of Teamwork in D/s Relationships appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A conversation with John Brownstone to help manage our expectations of the upcoming sale of our home led to this idea. It’s easy to have a picture in your mind of what you want... The post Managing Expectations in D/s appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A conversation with John Brownstone to help manage our expectations of the upcoming sale of our home led to this idea. It’s easy to have a picture in your mind of what you want... The post Managing Expectations in D/s appeared first on Loving BDSM.

As much as I wish it weren’t so, our D/s relationship can’t, won’t, and doesn’t fix everything. What I mean by that is that the power exchange of John Brownstone making decisions and me... The post D/s Can’t Fix Every Situation appeared first on Loving BDSM.

As much as I wish it weren’t so, our D/s relationship can’t, won’t, and doesn’t fix everything. What I mean by that is that the power exchange of John Brownstone making decisions and me... The post D/s Can’t Fix Every Situation appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s topic comes straight from one of our kinky patrons — RaxLeanne! She shared her experience of repressing her kinky self in her relationship, and how it didn’t work out well. John Brownstone... The post Repressing Your Kinky Identity appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week’s topic comes straight from one of our kinky patrons — RaxLeanne! She shared her experience of repressing her kinky self in her relationship, and how it didn’t work out well. John Brownstone... The post Repressing Your Kinky Identity appeared first on Loving BDSM.

I love Dr. J. Her writing, her personality, HER! She writes some of the steamiest, sexiest smut, and ]always with fully developed characters, clear lines of consent, and sexy, kinky fun. This week’s story, The Calendar Man, is no exception! In this episode: John Brownstone reads The Calendar Man by Dr. J. Originally published during Masturbation… Read More The Calendar Man by Dr. J The post The Calendar Man by Dr. J appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

In episode 151, we talk about a topic near and dear to John Brownstone’s heart — if you want to lead the relationship (as a Dominant), you need to be consistent. In this episode:... The post Why Dominants Need to Be Consistent LB151 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In episode 151, we talk about a topic near and dear to John Brownstone’s heart — if you want to lead the relationship (as a Dominant), you need to be consistent. In this episode:... The post Why Dominants Need to Be Consistent LB151 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Marie Rebelle is an amazing sex blogger and a leader in the sex blogging community. That she writes excellent smut is a massive and kinky bonus! We’re so glad to have her story on the podcast this week! In this episode: John Brownstone reads Next Time by Marie Rebelle. Originally published during Masturbation Monday week 210.… Read More Next Time by Marie Rebelle The post Next Time by Marie Rebelle appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

Sarah Helena Heart aka ChinaDoll320 is a young submissive exploring her kinks through her writing. She shares her real experiences and her erotic fantasies. Her kinks might not always be my kinks, but she always makes it all sound intriguing and sexy! In this episode: John Brownstone reads Second Dessert by Sarah Helena Heart. Originally published… Read More Second Dessert by Sarah Helena Heart MM025 The post Second Dessert by Sarah Helena Heart MM025 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

F. Leonora is a dear friend, a fellow sex blogger, and an amazing friend. She and I bonded over Eroticon 2017, and we’ve been soul sisters ever since. So yes, I’m very excited she’s on the podcast this week! In this episode: John Brownstone reads Suit by F. Leonora Solomon. Originally published on Masturbation Monday week… Read More Suit by F. Leonora Solomon MM024 The post Suit by F. Leonora Solomon MM024 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

Lascivious Lucy writes some of the most delicious erotica I get to read in a given week. Her imagination will take you from the paranormal to the fun and kinky from story to story, and every story always makes you want to read more. In this episode: John Brownstone reads Wrong Number by Lascivious Lucy. Originally… Read More Wrong Number by Lascivious Lucy MM023 The post Wrong Number by Lascivious Lucy MM023 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

Asrai Devin is an amazing erotic author and teller of sexy tales. Her characters always feel real which makes it easier to care about them. We are so happy to be able to feature her brand of smut on the podcast this week! In this episode: John Brownstone reads I Love a Man in a… Read More I Love a Man in a Suit by Asrai Devin MM022 The post I Love a Man in a Suit by Asrai Devin MM022 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

Posy Churchgate writes both thrilling erotic fantasies, but she also writes about her own life and, more recently, her explorations into kink. Whether she’s letting her imagination run wild or she’s re-living a specific moment in time, she always manages to turn me on and catch my attention. In this episode: John Brownstone reads Sports… Read More Sports Car by Posy Churchgate MM017 The post Sports Car by Posy Churchgate MM017 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

Lascivious Lucy is such a fantastic writer, and she has a way of making the magical seem so real. With her, magical creatures, the supernatural, and the otherworldly become even more erotic than they might otherwise be! Hali’s Day at the Beach is no exception. In this episode: John Brownstone reads Hali’s Day at the… Read More Hali’s Day at the Beach by Lascivious Lucy MM016 The post Hali’s Day at the Beach by Lascivious Lucy MM016 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

If the image from Molly’s original post don’t distract you, her accompanying story will — in the most delightful way. This level of erotic distraction is something that she excels at. Spend a few minutes listening to this episode and then on her website, and you’ll know it’s true. In this episode: John Brownstone reads… Read More A Little Distraction by Molly Moore MM015 The post A Little Distraction by Molly Moore MM015 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

May More blends her sexual experiences with an analytic mind and a lot of thought, so you don’t just get the smut (which is always fun) but also a peek into her mind. In this episode: John Brownstone reads Stockings, Ripped Shirts, and Observations by May More. Originally published on Masturbation Monday week 167. Follow May… Read More Stockings, Ripped Shirts, and Observations by May More MM014 The post Stockings, Ripped Shirts, and Observations by May More MM014 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

When Elliott Henry isn’t taking selfies of his erection or his post-masturbatory bliss, he’s writing good smut. Some of it’s true, and some isn’t, but it’s all erotic and steamy. In this episode: John Brownstone reads For Old Times Sake by Elliott Henry. Originally published on Masturbation Monday week 154. Follow Elliott Henry for more amazing… Read More For Old Times Sake by Elliott Henry MM013 The post For Old Times Sake by Elliott Henry MM013 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

John Brownstone (my husband and Dominant partner) joins me for a discussion about how your partner might feel about and react to your smutlancer life. If what you're creating or writing about includes them, what they think matters very much. But even when you leave them out of your content, a supportive partner can make all the difference in how you feel about your professional goals. In this episode: As a creator, you don't necessarily need permission to write and create smutty things. But when your partner is involved — talking about your sex life, taking pictures, etc — what... The post How Your Partner Feels About Your Smutlancer Life SL019 appeared first on The Smutlancers.

Can you believe we’re already three months into the Masturbation Monday podcast? If this week’s author sounds familiar, it’s because Mischa Eliot was on our very first episode! This week her piece is appropriately titled Audio Porn. And whether it’s her words or John Brownstone’s voice (or a combination), this week is definitely audio porn.… Read More Audio Porn by Mischa Eliot MM012 The post Audio Porn by Mischa Eliot MM012 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

Oleander Plume is talented, wicked funny, delightful, and filled with a smutty imagination. Long before I read any of her gay vampire erotica, I adored her. But throw in vampires who love to fuck and her amazing way with words, and you can’t help but love Oleander. In this episode: John Brownstone reads The Hunger… Read More The Hunger Moon by Oleander Plume MM008 The post The Hunger Moon by Oleander Plume MM008 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

So sorry for the delay in getting episode five out last week! Blame it on technical issues that seem to be better now. In this week’s episode, John Brownstone reads Giving a Good Handjob Requires Skill and Enthusiasm by May More. When she’s not writing thought-provoking blog post, she’s turning on readers with smutty stories… Read More Giving a Good Handjob by May More MM005 The post Giving a Good Handjob by May More MM005 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

We start the show with a visit from Big B's 2 year old son James and he is one happy camper after pooping his pants. Stu has finally got some news from the Allotment as he made a visit there this week. Can we be expecting our Cave Crew Plot soon. We have some discussion about stones vs pounds, does anyone really understand cricket, and do we come from parts unknown. Also on this weeks show Stu has found a new podcast on his journeys and he shares a clip with us. Erotic readings by John Brownstone and Masturbation Mondays. DK has a story about an aspiring rap star who as been placing his mix tapes inside of happy meals, and one mother was not impressed. The boys then talk about best practices for marketing your product. We have a story of a man from Hawaii who was hospitalized with a bad seafood reaction, after getting his penis stuck in a giant clam. Then Big B tells us a story of a homeless woman he encounters on the way to a friends 50th birthday party. Cave Crew Radio airs live every Thursday night at 9pm eastern 6pm pacific on http://www.cavecrewraadio.com and our video airs exclusivly on Facebook Live. Would you like to help support the show. Head on over and donate to the beer fund on the homepage.

I haven't had a chance to gush about 2018 Eroticon yet, but I will, and soon. Until then, take a listen to the podcasting panel I sat on with John Brownstone (my partner in crime over at Loving BDSM) and Andrew and Pixie of Kink Craft. Whether you were unable to attend the session while at Eroticon or you couldn't get to Eroticon at all, we wanted you to have access to the content. If you've got more questions once you listen, feel free to reach out! In this episode: The type of equipment and software you can use to... The post Podcasting 101: 2018 Eroticon Podcast Panel SL012 appeared first on The Smutlancers.

In episode four of the Masturbation Monday podcast, John Brownstone reads At the Office by Elliott Henry. When Elliott’s not taking amazing dick pics for his blog, he’s writing smutty, smutty stories for everyone to enjoy. In this episode: John Brownstone reads At the Office by Elliott Henry. Originally published on Masturbation Monday weeks 167.… Read More At the Office by Elliott Henry MM004 The post At the Office by Elliott Henry MM004 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

This week we have something a little different. John Brownstone reads three erotic poems written by dokurtybitz. He’s got a kinky side and a way with words. In this episode: John Brownstone reads three erotic poems by dokurtybitz. Originally published on Masturbation Monday weeks 165 and 166. Follow dokurtybitz for more sexy, erotic poetry. Links… Read More Erotic Poetry by dokurtybitz MM003 The post Erotic Poetry by dokurtybitz MM003 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

In the second episode of the Masturbation Monday podcast, John Brownstone reads Rein Me In by Dr. J, a former sex therapist turned erotic author. She’s using what she knows to her (and our) smutty advantage! In this episode: John Brownstone reads Rein Me In by Dr. J Originally published for Masturbation Monday: Week 79… Read More Rein Me In by Dr. J MM002 The post Rein Me In by Dr. J MM002 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

In episode 122, we let a rant from John Brownstone and a question from a listener inspire us. People get complacent when they get comfortable or when life gets in the way. It happens... The post Complacency in D/s Relationships LB122 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In episode 122, we let a rant from John Brownstone and a question from a listener inspire us. People get complacent when they get comfortable or when life gets in the way. It happens... The post Complacency in D/s Relationships LB122 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Welcome to the first episode of the Masturbation Monday podcast! Every week John Brownstone will read another submitted story from a smutty writer. The stories read have been submitted to Masturbation Monday in the past. If you prefer audio smut, this is the place to get it! In this episode: John Brownstone reads Bound by… Read More Bound by Mischa Eliot MM001 The post Bound by Mischa Eliot MM001 appeared first on Masturbation Monday.

Podcasting, as we know it today, is still a relatively new medium. The word itself is a portmanteau, devised by a BBC journalist named Ben Hammersley back in 2004 – pod (as in the brand name of that very familiar MP3 player) plus broadcast. Although others prefer using “Portable on Demand” to avoid a direct reference to the company behind that famous MP3 player – which makes sense as download and play isn’t restricted to it alone. And it is, in 2017, a medium in very rude health. Whether you were one of the millions of listeners addicted to Serial, or can’t imagine not starting your week with Ira Glass and This American Life, the last few years have seen a firm resurgence in podcast popularity. It’s not hard to see why. Podcasts make a trusty companion on a dreary commute or long drive, whether as a source of entertainment (think of Mark Kermode’s hilariously ranty reviews on the Wittertainment film podcast, or the behemoth popularity of My Dad Wrote a Porno), a ground-breaking method of storytelling (like the mysterious world of Welcome to Night Vale, The Black Tapes, or Homecoming) or a font of knowledge on pretty much every subject you can imagine. And yes, that includes the worlds of kink, fetish and BDSM, with podcasts a-plenty to provide an education for your ears only. Which makes it an ideal medium for beginning kinksters wanting to explore and learn on their own terms, in their own time. There’s a big degree of privacy, it’s free, and all you need is a way of streaming and a pair of headphones. Voila – at your fingertips is a world full of kinksters sharing with you their personal knowledge, thoughts and feelings, as well as educational facts and impassioned rants and raves. So, if you’re a fledgling kinkster wanting to broaden your knowledge, have some questions answered or just generally immerse yourself in chatter from likeminded voices, these five podcasts provide a solid foundation to your kinky learnings. The Dildorks After connecting on social media, bloggers Bex Caputo and Kate Sloan met in person back in 2015, and a beautifully dorky friendship was born. They are the hosts of The Dildorks, an antidote to media depicting sex as “naughty,” mysterious, gross, indecent, or self-explanatory. Their shared enthusiasm and curiosity for the subjects they tackle (which span the gamut from sex to kink to porn and beyond) is utterly infectious, and with episode titles like The Dom Before the Storm and Aftercare Laughtercare... well, you know you’re in for a wonderfully fun (not to mention incredibly dorky) time. Join Bex and Kate every week if you’re into rhapsodic raves and impassioned rants about everything that’s engaging their hearts, brains, and genitals (as they put it on the website). The People of Kink What started out as one podcast – The People of Kink, or TPoK, as it’s also known – has evolved into an educational network setting out to educate and reduce stigma on all topics of sexuality. The message here: “you’re not alone”, which is something many fledgling kinksters (no matter what floats your boat) need to hear. The episodes of the original TPoK podcast are still available to listen to on the website (185 of them, no less) in addition to all the new shows and content, and they form a great basis for people wanting to gain some kinky knowledge in addition to some reassurance. Practically Kinky Wondering just how to incorporate kink into your life and making it work on your own terms? Then browse the archives of Practically Kinky, a podcast devoted to... well, exactly that: hands-on, practical discussions about kink. Sydney and Logan Hart tackle topics like roles in kink, body worshipping and emotional labour. The show seems to be on a bit of a hiatus (the last episode released back in February) but fortunately there’s plenty of back catalogue there to help expand your kink knowledge. Why Are People into That?! Writer, teacher, media-maker and all-round powerhouse of awesome Tina Horn is the host of the wonderfully titled podcast Why Are People into That?! (or YAPiT, for short). Let’s face it, at one point you will have thought this exact same question: what is it that attracts people to this fetish, or that kink? Each episode sees Tina and a guest interviewee (guests have included Reid Mihalko, Nikki Silver, Micky Mod, Rachel Kramer Bussel, James Darling, Tristan Taormino... seriously, it’s a who’s who of brilliant) non-judgementally explore the nitty-gritty of a particular topic. Want to know what it is that attracts people to spanking, or butt plugs, or pegging? Craving to sate your curiosity on matters of sexting or humiliation play? It’s all there, and Tina is more than happy to tell you just why people are into it. Loving BDSM Blogging powerhouse Kayla Lords and her Sir, John Brownstone host the Loving BDSM podcast, a mix of opinions, rants and ramblings, and insights into one couple’s 24/7 D/s relationship. Kayla always speaks frankly and openly about her continuing journey of evolution into her sexuality and her life as a submissive babygirl, and brings that frankness, along with a solid pinch of her special own-brand cuteness (it is their superpower, after all) to the podcast. Fun fact – they also have a Redbubble shop for the podcast, in which you can buy some adorable Loving BDSM-themed goodies. Of course, there’s also Kink Craft’s very own podcast, in which Pixie and Andrew talk about sex news, things seen around the internet, and the latest posts on the Kink Craft blog. Which, when you think about it... kind of makes this a bit of an Inception moment, doesn’t it? Find out more about us Check out the website http://kinkcraft.co Follow us on Twitter @KinkCraft Find us on on Pinterest @KinkCraft Talk to us on Facebook http://facebook.com/MyKinkCraft Follow us on instagram https://www.instagram.com/kink_craft/ Send us an email podcast [at] kinkcraft.co

When I first discovered I was submissive, I believed myself to be only that. A submissive partner who craved discipline from and the power of my Dominant partner. Those things are still true. What I found out along the way, as I began to explore the world of Dominance and submission more, was that there was another part of me. A part I was afraid to name. I’m not just a submissive, I’m also a babygirl. Babygirls, and their babyboy counterparts, fall within the little spectrum of what we most commonly call the Daddy Dom/little girl (DD/lg) dynamic. Just because we call it DD/lg doesn’t mean that’s the best name, though. DD/lg can make others who aren’t Daddies or little girls feel excluded which is sad because like any other kind of kink, everyone who wants to experience it, should. Figuring out my babygirl side and admitting it were difficult processes. I couldn’t admit it to myself at first, and then confessing to my partner, John Brownstone, made my stomach hurt. The reason? I believed a lot of myths about DD/lg, and I wasn’t comfortable with what I thought that said about me. For anyone else who believes they know what DD/lg is all about, it’s time to bust a few myths. You Must Have Daddy Issues “Ugh! She called him ‘Daddy.’ Bet she’s got Daddy issues.” Actually, no. Kinksters come from every walk of life so yes, some of us probably do have emotional issues we need to work out about our parents. Being into DD/lg isn’t about solving underlying neuroses we’ve suffered from childhood thanks to our father. Actually, in some ways, it takes the best part of a parental figure - nurturance, guidance, and protectiveness - and wraps it up into a partner that, for many of us, in no way reminds us of our father. If we all have Daddy issues, how do you account for all the Mommies in the dynamic? Does that mean those people have Mommy issues? Well, I guess if you’re already judging the Daddies, you might think so. Take it from someone who has a relatively positive relationship with her family, no, being into the DD/lg or any other variation isn’t a substitute for the therapy I need to deal with my childhood. You’re Into Age Play Age play, defined as a type of role play where one partner assumes the characteristics of a child while the other is their caregiver, is a legitimate fetish and kink. It might include diapers, pacifiers, bottles, toys, and other items associated with children. For a time, the “young child” gives up all control and power to their parental figure who assumes all responsibility for them as you would any child. Yes, it can be a part of a DD/lg dynamic. No, it doesn’t mean the people involved are pedophiles. More importantly, it’s not some required within the DD/lg dynamic. Like every other kink, some people like it, and others don’t. Many of us who identify as a “little” think of it in a much more abstract way. We still have some autonomy even when we’re expressing our younger side. We’re not all into age play. DD/lg Isn’t a Real D/s Relationship From the outside looking in, DD/lg relationships look fairly relaxed. The Dominant partner tends to be indulgent and gentle. The submissive partner may be giggly or even bratty. There’s often a lot of teasing, whining, begging, and otherwise being “little” for the submissive. We do this for a million and one reasons but primarily so that our Dominant will be the caregiver we need in the moment. And for the record, my Daddy Dom can be extremely stern if I really screw up, so don’t think you know about my dynamic when you see the indulgent version first. For some kinksters who prefer a heavy dose of discipline, protocol, and decorum with their D/s, DD/lg doesn’t look like a power exchange relationship to them. Well, it absolutely is. It may be a gentler exchange, one where comfort and kindness take precedence over discipline and protocol, but the Dominant is definitely in control, and the submissive consents to it. Don’t yuck on my kink just because I do it differently. DD/lg is Always Heteronormative DD/lg or Daddy Dom/little girl is the most common name we give the dynamic but that doesn’t mean it has to be heteronormative. Although, yes, I admit that it’s depicted in a much more cis, straight, and white way, and we as a community need to work on that. A more inclusive reference to the overall dynamic is Caregiver/little which doesn’t imply a specific type of Dominant either. Female-identifying Dominants might use Mommy or Daddy. Not all Daddies want to be called “Daddy.” Both Caregivers and littles come from every aspect of the gender and sexual spectrum. DD/lg or C/l (while unfamiliar to most is probably better) are no different than other D/s dynamics in that what matters most are that the people involved enjoy the power exchange and find what works for them. Names, titles, gender, and sexual preference are unique to the people involved. You Have to be a Certain Age Kinksters really can’t win, can we? Either we’re all trying to be children (we’re not) or we’re either too young or too old for it. The assumption, in which our biases show up very clearly, is that in a DD/lg relationship, the Daddy will be older and the little will be younger. But no one is allowed to be too young or too old. Insert eyeroll here. Older couples, Doms who are younger than their subs, and younger people (as long as you’re of legal age) have every right to express their power exchange, relationship style, and kink in whatever way suits them. Yes, you can be in your 60s and consider yourself a little boy or girl, and a Dominant partner can definitely be younger than their submissive. The only time age matters is in determining if your partner is legal or not. Everything in BDSM, kink, and D/s exists on a spectrum. There is no one single right way to have a power exchange relationship with someone else. All that ever matters is that you have the consent of your partner, you understand the risks, and you communicate - a lot. After that, call yourself Daddy, Mommy, or All Mighty Leader of the Kink World if that gets you and your partner off. The Caregiver/little dynamic can be whatever the people involved want it to be. You don’t have to like it to accept it, and you don’t have to want it for yourself for it to be okay for other kinksters. For those who really want the nurturing, gentle, kind D/s relationship that DD/lg represents, don’t reject it because of false myths you believe. Find what works for you, call your partner what you like, and forget what anyone else thinks about how you get your kink on. Find out more about us Check out the website http://kinkcraft.co Follow us on Twitter @KinkCraft Find us on on Pinterest @KinkCraft Talk to us on Facebook http://facebook.com/MyKinkCraft Follow us on instagram https://www.instagram.com/kink_craft/ Send us an email podcast [at] kinkcraft.co

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone, hosts of the Loving BDSM Podcast, are our guests this week. Not only do they host a podcast, but they each have their own blog, and Loving BDSM has it’s own site with a great community feel to it, helped by the forum and other additions such as their monthly book club.   We discuss how Kayla and John met and how their dynamic works for them, with Kayla identifying as a Babygirl and John being a Daddy Dom. They also identify as having a 24/7 dynamic, but how they manage and maintain that may not be the same as how other people do. We are big fans of sharing experiences and inviting other people to take from that what is useful to them, and Kayla and John do a wonderful job of sharing their thoughts in an open, honest and inviting manner.   Reading someone’s blog can be a great insight into who they are and what they are interested in. As their blogs played a key part in how they got together, it leads us to talk about both John and Bakji did their research before wooing their respective partners. Lots of friendships have been built through blogs and social media too, and we ponder how we are meant to make friends with someone who isn’t baring their soul on the internet on a daily basis. When you are a proud and self confessed social media whore.   Evolution of kinks and kink identities is a huge part of being a kinky person. Almost everyone within the kink community has a got a story of how they have changed since joining the scene. This usually means more fun and a better understanding of both ourselves and kink as a whole. Kayla and John share how their relationship has evolved, their online presence has evolved and also how their kinks have evolved, both individually and as a couple.   Part of what makes Loving BDSM a must listen podcast is the fact John and Kayla allow fun and silliness not only into their lives but also into their D/s. While there is a lot of serious conversations that need to be had when you are engaging in BDSM, it is also meant to be fun. This comes up in the podcast through the various points raised, including what our various approaches to aftercare look like, and it isn’t necessarily how you’d imagine it look, especially if you are new to kink.   There is so much more that we cover in this episode, but I think I shall let you discover the rest for yourself, or the blog post will be a mammoth essay rather than a little round-up. You can find all the links to Loving BDSM below, as well as links to other resources mentioned within this episode.   As well as Loving BDSM, you can also listen to the other fab podcast that our part of our little Podcast Jukebox Network. Off the Cuffs: a kink and BDSM podcast, the Will Sean Podcast, Drinks with God and Parking Lot Radio. We are all on iTunes and we will love you forever if you leave us a star rating and review. You can also wing by our Patreon site and see what is going on their for our Patrons. The most exciting of which is access to our spin-off podcast FemDom and Fetish fun, to check that out use this link https://www.patreon.com/proudtobekinky. You can also follow us on Instagram, Twitter, Fetlife and Facebook, just use the seqarch term ‘proudtobekinky’.

Back for episode 79, Kayla Lords and John Brownstone discuss the importance of the kinky community. Plus hear more about the new website and the online Loving BDSM community! In this episode: Is the... The post The Importance of Community LB079 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Back for episode 79, Kayla Lords and John Brownstone discuss the importance of the kinky community. Plus hear more about the new website and the online Loving BDSM community! In this episode: Is the... The post The Importance of Community LB079 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are together for episode 78 but (of course) Kayla does most of the talking in this one as she discusses doing the things that terrify her aka going to... The post Eroticon Follow-Up and a Big Announcement LB078 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are together again for episode 77 and they’re taking on a big topic: BDSM and mental health. Consider this the first of what will certainly be many conversations about... The post Is BDSM Good For Your Mental Health? LB077 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone is back with Kayla this week for a new episode! There may have been squeeing. This week’s topic is all about orgasm control. In this episode: I’m giving away a Crescendo vibrator... The post Orgasm Control in D/s Relationships LB076 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

For episode 73, Kayla Lords and John Brownstone took on a fun (and weirdly, sometimes a controversial topic) – oral sex in a D/s relationship. Yes, Dominants can give oral sex to their partners!... The post Oral Sex in D/s Relationships LB073 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In episode 72, Kayla admits to having a major meltdown and tantrum as a babygirl, and John Brownstone talks about how he handles those moments as a Daddy Dom. Even if you don’t identify... The post The Not-So-Fun Side of DD/lg: Tantrums LB072 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone host episode 71 and talk about a recent hard conversation they had to have, how it helped, and why these conversations are important in D/s relationships. In this episode:... The post Difficult Conversations in D/s Relationships LB071 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone talk about feeling low energy and no motivation and how it can impact their D/s relationship in episode 70 of Loving BDSM podcast. In this episode: John Brownstone’s having... The post Low Energy and Lack of Motivation in Your D/s Relationship LB070 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In episode 68, the last of 2016, John Brownstone and Kayla Lords treat the whole thing like one big bonus section. Not a lot of education, but plenty of conversation. In this episode: The... The post One Big Bonus Episode LB068 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone talk about subfrenzy in episode 67 – what is it, how does it happen, and what are the problems that subfrenzy can cause. In this episode: What is subfrenzy?... The post Dealing With and Understanding Subfrenzy LB067 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone talk about how normal it is for the vanilla stuff to make you feel less your D/s self – and what to do about it. In this episode:  ... The post Feeling More Vanilla Than D/s LB066 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone discuss the toys that added to their kinky fuckery in 2016 (so far!). In this episode: Check out the Holiday Gift Guides from Unbound Box – one for kinky... The post Our Favorite Sex Toys: 2016 Edition LB065 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are together again for episode 64 of Loving BDSM. This week, they’re discussing D/s contracts. In this episode: The latest video is available through Patreon or membership to KaylaLords.com!... The post Understanding D/s Contracts LB064 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In episode 63, Kayla Lords and John Brownstone discuss the things that happen, what you can expect, and some of the fun you can have at BDSM dungeons and play parties. In this episode:... The post Dungeons and Play Parties, Oh My! LB063 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone discuss boundaries and limits in episode 62 of the Loving BDSM podcast. In this episode: Save 10 percent on the HUM vibe with coupon code: kaylalords What are limits... The post Understanding Boundaries and Limits LB062 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone discuss sadism and masochism in a D/s relationship in episode 61 of the Loving BDSM podcast. In this episode: John Brownstone is having a sale on his (very vanilla)... The post Sadism and Masochism in a D/s Relationship LB061 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone discuss spankings in episode 59. There’s much more to it than a hand and an ass. In this episode: Become our kinky patron at the $5 and up level,... The post Spankings LB059 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Hosted by Kayla Lords and John Brownstone, episode 58 of the Loving BDSM podcast focuses on discipline, punishment, and consequences for submissives in D/s relationships. In this episode: Buy my books and help send... The post Discipline, Punishment, and Consequences in D/s LB058 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone host episode 57 and tackle a topic that doesn’t get much attention – how exactly does a submissive hold their Dominant accountable for their bad behavior? In this episode:... The post How to Hold Your Dominant Accountable appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone host episode 55 and talk about how expectations, wants, and needs in your D/s relationship can change over time – and what to do when that happens. And they... The post When Your Kinky Wants and Needs Change LB055 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are back for episode 54 of the Loving BDSM podcast. This week’s topic is about D/s breakups and how to (hopefully) make them suck a little less. In this... The post D/s Breakups LB054 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone joins Kayla Lords in episode 53 of the Loving BDSM podcast. This week they’ve taken a topic suggestion from a reader who wanted to know how to figure out when to safeword... The post When to Use Your Safeword LB053 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone host episode 51 also known as the one year anniversary of the Loving BDSM podcast! This week, in keeping with the one year anniversary theme, they discuss reviewing your... The post Reviewing Your D/s Relationship LB051 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone joins Kayla Lords in episode 50 to discuss a popular idea in most local kink communities – a submissive’s behavior is a reflection of their Dominant. In this episode: The Loving BDSM... The post Why Submissives are a Reflection of Their Dominant LB050 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone joins Kayla Lords in episode 48 to talk about training in a D/s relationship. In this episode: We’re planning for the one year anniversary of the podcast at the end of August... The post Training a Submissive in a D/s Relationship LB048 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords hosts episode 45 and talks about how a Dominant or submissive can take care of themselves, in or out of a relationship. In this episode: I’m feeling better because of John Brownstone’s... The post Self Care for Dominants and Submissives LB045 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone joins Kayla Lords for episode 44 where they discuss the different types of responsibilities a Dominant and a submissive can have in a relationship. In this episode: Get a free book on... The post The Responsibilities of a Dominant and a Submissive LB044 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

After a week away, Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are back with a big topic. Episode 40 goes over tips and advice on how to effectively communicate in your D/s relationship. In this episode: Thanks to... The post Effective Communication in Your D/s Relationship LB040 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are together for episode 39 discussing both sub drop and Dom drop (yes, that’s a real thing): what it feels like, how to handle it, and how to help... The post Dealing with Drop for Subs and Doms LB039 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone host this week’s episode and talk all about masturbation as a D/s couple! In this episode: We have a new microphone, and it is beautiful! Pictures are below. You... The post Masturbation as Part of a D/s Relationship LB037 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone come together for another episode together. They keep it short and sweet and discuss a big moment in their lives that created a disconnect and then a reconnect. In... The post Disconnecting and Reconnecting…and an Announcement LB036 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone team up again for another long episode covering a big topic – your needs in your D/s relationship. What to do when they’re not being met, how to handle... The post When Your Needs Aren’t Being Met LB035 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone and Kayla Lords team up again in episode 32. This week’s episode takes on a question from a listener: what is the difference between a Daddy and a Sir? In this episode:... The post What’s the Difference Between a Daddy and a Sir? LB032 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are back again for another long, winding conversation. Episode 31 focuses on trust – building it and maintaining it – in a D/s relationship. From the show: Trust issues... The post Building and Maintaining Trust in a D/s Relationship LB031 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone joins Kayla Lords for episode 30 and this week’s topic is a big one: consent. Join them in a long and winding conversation about what consent means and look like in a... The post Consent Is More Than Yes or No in BDSM LB030 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, Kayla Lords is separated from John Brownstone by 600+ miles, and for six days, it’s back to the way things were in the long distance days. In episode 27, Kayla discusses how... The post Maintaining Your D/s Connection Even When Apart LB027 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone host a special New Year’s Day episode dedicated to kinky resolutions – from silly to serious. In this show: Kayla shares her resolution ideas for submissives. John shares his... The post Make Your Kinky New Year’s Resolutions LB019 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone host this week’s episode of Loving BDSM. A quick “Merry Christmas” for all the listeners, and a little fun, kinking up a few Christmas songs. In this episode: Kayla... The post Kinking Our Favorite Christmas Songs LB018 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are together for episode 14 and doing something a little different. In an unscripted episode, listeners can hear what negotiating changes can sound like in one D/s couple. They’ve... The post What Negotiations Can Sound Like LB014 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords hosts this week’s episode and discusses the kind of financial control practiced in her D/s relationship with John Brownstone. The decision to give up or take financial control in any relationship isn’t... The post Financial Control In Our D/s Relationship LB013 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone and Kayla Lords are together again. This week the topic is sex and kinky fuckery in a D/s relationship. The episode is a question and answer format with plenty of talk about... The post Sex and Kink in a D/s Relationship LB010 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Kayla Lords talks about a special feature of her D/s relationship with John Brownstone – the Tough Love clause. It’s what allows her to “tell” her Daddy Dominant what she thinks he needs to... The post Adding a Tough Love Clause to a D/s Relationship LB009 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Hosted by both Kayla Lords and John Brownstone, episode six of Loving BDSM focuses on making the switch from a D/s to Daddy Dom/little dynamic. Many submissives admit to recognizing themselves in the descriptions... The post Making the Switch to a Daddy Dom/Little Dynamic – LB006 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

John Brownstone hosts his first episode of the Loving BDSM podcast. This week’s topic – his personal journey into BDSM and discovering his Dominant self. In this episode: John Brownstone really exists! Where he... The post Discovering BDSM and His Dominant Self appeared first on Loving BDSM.

The second episode of Loving BDSM focuses on communicating with your Dominant partner. Another week with host Kayla Lords, but John Brownstone promises to make an appearance soon. From this episode… John Brownstone isn’t... The post Communicating With Your Dominant – LB002 appeared first on Loving BDSM.