Swipe 'n' the City

As promised, Marie and Brooke are bringing in the male perspective to discuss whether or not to hook up on the first date. They're joined by P Miller (@pmiller) and Andrew (Marie's boyfriend) and have quite the lively discussion! Will guys think of you differently if you hook up early versus waiting? They bring their insight and "rules," or lack thereof. Slide into our DMs with your thoughts: @swipenthecity

Inspired by Christine Quinn's book, "How To Be A Boss B*tch," Marie and Brooke get into discussing her 4th rule, which is to not have sex on the first date. It's not a revolutionary idea by any means, but it does make for an interesting debate. They get into the pros and cons of having sex early on and what may or may not happen if you hold out. Next week, they'll bring in the male perspective, but what do you think? Slide into our DM's with your thoughts! @swipenthecity

Did you know what you were "looking for" in a partner back in college or your early 20's? Take a trip down memory lane with Michelle, Marie, and Brooke as they reminsce on their different experiences dating in college. It's a bit like a *more mature* coming of age conversation. Brooke shares the story of one of her worst dates ever, while Michelle and Marie discuss what it was like spending most of college in committed relationships. What was your dating life like in college? Leave some love and let us know! @swipenthecity across all platforms.

Flashback to April with us! Paul Miller AKA P Miller AKA @pmjams joins Marie and Michelle for another ridiculous episode of Sh*t Guys Say. We sample the Betches' new drinks, Faux Pas, and since we're not sponsored (yet) you know you're getting our honest opinions. We've also got REAL user generated content to share! Follow us @swipenthecity across all platforms and slide into our DM's with your submissions.

This week, we welcome back the always lovely Kristin Crooks, owner and lead planner of Besher Events! Michelle and Marie recorded this episode a few months ago, but what better time to release it than after Marie's participated in her first ever bachelorette party and immediately following Michelle's return home from the first of her 3 in a 3 month window!? All craziness aside, this episode isn't just for brides (and the MOH) who might be planning the bachelorette party, this is for potential bridesmaids, bachelorette party attendees, and everyone in between. We chat bridal party and bachelorette party ettiquette and discuss the committment you make when you say "yes" to your bestie. Kristin also brings her tips, best practices, and ideas on how to throw the best bachelorette party a bride could ever have. Follow Kristin @BesherEvents and us @swipenthecity. Cheers!

Boo! Did you miss us? If you noticed we took a short break, we're sorry for ghosting you but never fear, your favorite trio is back to chat about all things dating. This week, we catch up on our summers thus far and discuss some of the reasons for the abrupt pause on recording. We've been pretty much go-go-go since we started the show, so we're about to change it up and start releasing episodes in "seasons" (and on Sundays!) because our day jobs keep us rather busy and sometimes we need a little break. Just like the rest of this show (and our dating lives, tbh), we're figuring it out as we're going along so we hope y'all will continue to bear with us.

When we say "The Talk" this week, we don't mean the DTR talk. This week, Brooke and Marie are talking about sex. Brooke starts us off with some commonly asked questions she hears from patients and why so many people have a tough time asking for what they want from partners. Brooke also shares some resources for anyone interested in diving deeper. Talk to us: @swipenthecity

Welcome to a new era of Swipe 'n' the City! Marie and Michelle introduce Brooke as the newest co-host of the show, who actually brings some real expertise. Brooke is finishing her Master's in Counseling and going into sex therapy, and she also hates icebreakers. The three keep it casual and catch up on life, reality TV, bad Hinge dates, and their current relationship statuses. Slide in: @swipenthecity

Since Michelle still won't commit to watching the Bachelor, Marie had to find a different watch crew, so Brooke and Andrew are here to discuss the dramatic disaster that was Clayton's season. This isn't your typical Bachelor recap. We dissect the last few episodes and chat about where it relates to the actual dating world. As always, there's a lot to unpack. Slide in @swipenthecity

We might be "experts" in Austin dating... but what about other cities? How similar is it dating from one American city to the next? We open up our new series on dating in other cities with Fort Worth (not Dallas), Texas. We're joined by the Brew Queen of Funky Town, Cecily (see our Brewery Guide: Fort Worth, Texas blog post for more). She's got all kinds of stories from the ubiquitous "car guy" and stereotypically, cowboys... as well as a few... virgins? There's a lot to unpack, as we say. What's it like dating in your city? Slide into our DM's @swipenthecity and let us know!

We never seem to run out of cringey DM's from both guys AND girls, so we've got PMiller back in the studio for another round of Sh*t Guys Say. We have more guys talking to themselves in Insta DM's, a wild convo with a chick on Hinge, and even a pair of girls looking for what we *think* would be a double date. A few new voices pop in with their hot takes, too! Let us know what you think and slide into our DM's with some cringey ones from yours: @swipenthecity

We did an episode a while back where we went through the different steps of modern-day relationships; one of which would be the "situationship." Kyle (@calamitykyle) joins Marie and Michelle to dig into what a situationship is and how to deal with it. A situationship is defined as: "A form of relationship where neither party is completely sure of “what they are”; The period before DTR" (cred: Urban Dictionary). You might not have heard the term before, but we're willing to bet you can relate to this one. Slide in with your thoughts: @swipenthecity

We're back with another LIVE show! After our *chilly* show last month, we wanted to redeem ourselves by planning another one indoors. Our audience shared some... interesting... first date stories and even a few creative date ideas. A HUGE thank you to P Miller (@pmjams) for planning and sound, Saint Spicer (@saintsaidso) for sound and DJ'ing, Lindsey Daniel (lindseytdaniel) for performing, and of course, Sammy at Wanderlust Wine Collective (@wanderlustwinecollective) for hosting! Keep an eye out for more live Swipe 'n' the City events because we're not done yet! Stay connected: @swipenthecity

PMiller AKA Paul Miller AKA @pmjams is back in the studio talking sh*t with us about some of the ridiculous things people say on dating apps. Michelle starts us off by sharing an... intense... convo with a zombie that you have to hear to believe. As usual, there are a lot of guys who think they're funny, and they wrap up with a quick game of Swipe Right or Swipe Left. Got cringey DM's? Share with us @swipenthecity

We're kicking off our Book Club series with Mike the Producer, discussing: "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love" by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller. It's a pretty easy read (or listen, if you're into Audible) about attachment theory. We give a brief summary and discuss how we found it applicable in our own relationships, past and present. What's your attachment style? Let us know yours: @swipenthecity

Thanks to the (in)famous PMiller AKA @pmjams, we did another live show this past weekend at Revival Coffee! We catch up on best practices, "hybrid" dating, and the audience shares their predictions for dating in 2022. Even though it was cold, we still had a great time. Thanks to all who came out and if you missed it, here's the show! Slide in: @swipenthecity

This episode is extra bubbly: Join our traveling podcast as we visit TikToker @CalamityKyle. Kyle tells us about his experience coming out to a conservative family and what it's like to be in an open relationship. There's a lot to unpack here and we had a good time doing it. Slide into our DM's @swipenthecity

Happy New Year, y'all! We've got the OG Swipe 'n' the City crew back together to kick off 2022. Since we have a few exciting changes to brag about, we figured we'd get into how some of our professional lives relate to our dating experiences. You've probably heard us talk about the similarities before, so if you're not in sales, we'll break it down. If you are in sales... well, hopefully you can commiserate with us. Slide in with your thoughts: @swipenthecity

Ho ho ho... we have quite the gift for you this year! In our final episode of 2021, we've got the whole gang in the studio: Michelle, Marie, Pmiller, and Mike the Producer. Pop some bubbles and join a festive game of red flag dealbreaker. They cover everything from family to puzzles... and the word "coniferous" (apparently Paul is a botanist)? It's a great time and a fun wrap up to the year, but don't worry; Swipe 'n' the City will be back with more BS next year! Slide in: @swipenthecity

This week, Michelle and Marie discuss cynicism and how a negative attitude can impact your dating (and regular) life. Where is the line between being realistic and becoming cynical? If there are any optimistic listeners out there, we'd love to hear your perspectives too! Slide in @swipenthecity

It's that time again! Paul Miller and his sound board are back in the studio and the girls have some... rather disturbing... DM's and prompts to share. You might even learn a little more than you'd like about your hosts. Slide into our DM's with your cringey messages from the apps to be featured next month: @swipenthecity

What better way to celebrate Taylor Swift's latest re-release than to talk sh*t about our exes?! JK (sort of), we're hoping this conversation is a bit more productive than some of our past break up episodes. Michelle and Marie dive into whether or not you should block or attempt to be "just friends" with your ex, and how to move on once all's said and done. Plus, find out what Michelle's big announcement is. Slide into our DM's with your thoughts: @swipenthecity

Take a trip down memory lane with us... this episode was actually recorded sometime during the summer of 2020, so we mention a few "future episode" ideas (that haven't actually happened yet), including a follow up for this one. Long story short, Marie, Michelle, and Mike the Producer discuss and debate the reasons why we tend to friend zone "nice guys" and what makes the "bad guys" so attractive. Is it confidence (even faked confidence)? Can you ever get out of the friend zone with someone? We want to know your thoughts! Slide in @swipenthecity

*Trigger warning: This is not a political debate (we're not even fully discussing our own beliefs), this is a discussion on how we are communicating important current events and how that impacts the way we interact with others.* Remember back when politics and religion were taboo to discuss on a first date? We've been discussing recording this episode for quite some time, since nowadays it can seem like discussing politics is a prerequisite for dating and frankly, we've only scratched the surface here. We're starting off with messaging on social media and dating apps, as well as labeling others and asking questions instead of writing people off. We're not here to offend anyone. Keep an eye out for our follow-up episode(s) and if you'd like to discuss any of these topics further, please don't hesitate to slide into our DM's: @swipenthecity

Everyone's favorite rapper and sound mixer (Paul Miller, duh) is back in the studio for another ridiculous episode of Sh*t Guys Say. We start off chatting about how much fun we had at Jared Freid's comedy show with our new friend Jenn (winner of our Instagram giveaway) and how proud we are of Michelle for winning the stein-hoisting competition at Lazarus Brewing. Plus, Michelle shares her first ever unsolicited d**k pic (not literally, but the messages are discussed). Don't forget to slide into our DM's and share your screenshots with us @swipenthecity

The season we've been waiting for has finally arrived - and we don't mean fall! In honor of our birthdays, we've brought in our new Basic Witch Correspondent to teach us about how your astrological sign impacts your compatibility with your partner (and about how you can use that knowledge to your advantage). Even if you're not "into" astrology, this might give you a bit of insight to why your dates keep asking where and what time you were born. Slide in: @swipenthecity

We've talked about FWB (friends with benefits) before, but if you haven't heard of "friendcest," it actually takes that a step or two further. It can be friends dating within their group of friends, dating a friend's ex, and is more or less something that could potentially be pretty problematic if you can't just "be cool," as Paul puts it. We might go down a few rabbit holes with this one and there is probably more that we haven't covered, so slide into our DM's with your hot takes: @swipenthecity

We're switching things up with an *emergency* recording session today because this week was the Bachelor in Paradise finale (if that wasn't obvious by the now unoriginal title). It's been a weird year plus in Bachelor Nation (hasn't it been for all of us, but IYKYK) so the twins (Alex and Adri) join Marie to discuss some of the interesting changes and twists to the usual drama. As usual, there is plenty to discuss, so this barely scratches the surface. Spoiler alert (one of many): The real winners of BIP were Aaron and James.

Paul Miller @pmjams joined the girls for breakfast at the studio for yet another comical episode of Sh*t Guys Say! As always, we're bringing only the most ridiculous and cringey messages and responses to (hopefully) make y'all laugh and (hopefully) to provide constructive feedback for anyone trying to slide in. Don't forget, this isn't all about us, we want to hear from our listeners too! Send your cringey messages to @swipenthecity on Instagram or swipenthecity@gmail.com to feature something from your inbox.

The seasons are changing and while the girls are all about the PSL, guys are focused on all things football. This week, we brought Brian (a fellow Bears fan) in to help us debunk do's and don'ts for when you're dating someone who's all about the game (and their Fantasy league). If you've ever been out with someone who's made football-related excuses, here are some guidelines to keep both you and your significant other sane until the Super Bowl. Slide in @swipenthecity

If you didn't catch the live show (or recording) a couple of weeks ago, the girls found out that there's a new meme-based dating app, called Schmooze. As self-proclaimed Meme Queens, obviously the team had to give it a try and just like all the other dating apps out there, it has both is positives and negatives. If you like memes and/or laughing, check out this honest review and if you decide you want to download the app to see for yourself, it's available for both Apple and Android users (link below). Slide in with your take: https://www.schmoozedating.com/

Once upon a time, we recorded an episode that never aired: Marie's boyfriend joined the girls on an episode that was going to be about post-pandemic dating. Unfortunately, it was never edited because not too long after, they broke up. Long story short, this episode is all about breaking up and coping, but also includes a few clips from their previously recorded "love story" and hope for happiness after Taylor Swift Guy.

There is no shortage of cringey DM's, so the girls are back in the studio with Paul Miller AKA @pmjams with another batch. This one's got a bit of a "nerdy" spin: You'll find out which Hogwarts House all 3 are in and see if you can catch how many Lord of the Rings references Paul makes. Oh, and if you get a cringey DM, we'd love to read it! Submit to @swipenthecity to be featured on our next episode.

ICYMI, we finally did our first live show! Marie and Michelle discuss dating tips and ideas, with tons of input and stories from the live audience. Impromptu guest (and coordinator of this event, Lo-Fi and Wine) Paul Miller AKA @pmjams also shares his thoughts and joins the girls for their new game, "Swipe Right or Swipe Left." After you hear this, you won't want to miss the next live show! Slide in: @swipenthecity

FWB: Friends With Benefits, or two friends who also hook up but are NOT in a relationships. In this week's episode, Marie and Michelle are joined by Haydon, who brings in his own "expertise" and male perspective on the friends with benefits phenomenon. The three discuss the rules and boundaries necessary for a successful and healthy FWB relationship and the difference between FWB and a "f*ck buddy" (sorry mom). As always, slide in @swipenthecity

This episode was inspired by an afternoon at the pool, listening to throwback jams. We've all heard the TLC jam "No Scrubs" (and if you haven't, listen to the song real quick before you turn this episode on)... and many, if not all, of us have dated a scrub at one time or another. If you've ever been blinded by a scrub, this episode will have some key red flags to look out for... and the differences between a scrub and a f*ck boi. Slide in @swipenthecity

Paul Miller AKA @pmjams is back in the studio for some more silly slide-in's. He demonstrates his new creepy laugh (to describe emojis and "lol") and might be a little hard on some of Michelle's Hinge photos. As always, we've got some great (and kind of mean) advice, and also discuss moon energy? Slide in @swipenthecity

Marie and Michelle are back and revisit some dating best practices and app etiquette. They have share their tips on how long to wait before starting a conversation with a match, whether or not you should "unmatch" or let them know it's not the match, and... Pokemon Go? Check it out and leave a comment if you think they should make a PDF pamphlet for all their advice.

A few weeks ago, Mike the Producer joined the girls to discuss toxic relationships but let's face it, they're not experts. So this week, Marc Schneider, Psy.D. is back to clear things up. They discuss the difference between toxic and abusive, red flags to look for, and how to address it a person or relationship that's toxic. This topic isn't all giggles, but regardless of your experience with toxic relationships, there's still plenty to learn from Dr. Schneider. If you need help: https://www.thehotline.org/ Follow us: @swipenthecity

We've been hearing it everywhere - hot girl summer is back and people are ready to party! It's time to take that photo in a mask OFF your profile and get out there. Find out what Michelle and Marie are predicting for IRL Summer (as Jared Freid calls it) and what their tips are for dating. Will we still be using Hinge, or relying on meeting people out in the wild? Let us know your thoughts! Slide in: @swipenthecity

This week marks the FIRST BIRTHDAY of the Swipe 'n' the City podcast! Join Marie and Michelle as they reminisce about how the podcast got started, what they've learned over the past year, and what some of their favorite episodes have been. They also have two exciting announcements, so don't miss the end! Slide in: @swipenthecity

Paul (AKA @pmjams) is back in the studio for another episode where he and the girls discuss real DM slides from real (we think) people. Whether you're a chick or a dude, here are a few things to probably NOT do when you're trying to get with someone. Slide into our DM's to share your screenshots: @swipenthecity

Swipe 'n' the City is celebrating Pride Month with an extra special panel, so this week, it's all about them. Meet our guests: Gieselle (@giesellec), Brandon (@on_brand_brand.on), and Rebecca (@groomingbybecks). We are so grateful to them for their vulnerability and sharing their journeys with us. No matter how you identify, there are some great nuggets of wisdom here that we hope you all enjoy. As always, slide into our DM's at @swipenthecity

Mike the Producer is back in the studio with the girls and it gets real. This week, the team is defining toxicity in relationships and talking about warning signs (not just red flags) to look out for in a partner. If you or someone you know needs support: https://www.thehotline.org/ Slide into our DM's @swipenthecity

Saint Spicer is back and this time, she has more than just general dating app optimization tips! This week, we dig into matchmaking and dating coaches - what's the difference between the two, and how can you distinguish which ones are reputable and which ones just have a large Instagram following? There's a lot to consider and look out for, and believe it or not, it starts with yourself. Saint (Jessica) Spicer works for matchmaker Vida Select. Learn more and schedule a consultation with Saint: https://www.vidaselect.com/schedule/jessica/ As always, slide into our DM's with your thoughts: @swipenthecity

This week, Michelle and Marie finish up their list of "how soon is too soon" topics and Michelle throws a wrench in with a few "how long is too long" prompts. How soon is too soon to say "I love you," and are the girls really as jaded as they seem? Let us know your thoughts! DM @swipenthecity

Michelle and Marie are back in the studio - IRL - and they're joined by Paul (@pmjams) for another round of sh*t guys say! If you're wondering how NOT to slide into someone's DM's, this is it. Oh, and if you've got some cringey screenshots, send them in! @swipenthecity on all platforms. Enjoy!

You might remember him from the first episode of Sharing Black Stories - Dante is back in the virtual studio and getting into the details and some of the challenges he's faced dating as a gay Black man in Austin, Texas. He gets real with the girls about fetishizing, some of the initial messages he's recieved, and microaggressions he's heard. One thing to keep in mind? "Just because it's not happening to YOU doesn't mean it's not happening." As always, slide in with feedback: @swipenthecity

This week's episode was inspired by an inappropriate joke Michelle's date made: How soon is too soon to make sexual jokes? Marie and Michelle have a bit of fun discussing a range of topics that people sometimes rush into when dating, but didn't quite get through the list. Stay tuned for more and submit your own to @swipenthecity on Instagram.

Wedding season is fast approaching, so whether you're planning (or re-planning!) your own wedding, or you plan on attending one as a guest, we've got a treat for you! Kristin Crooks, owner of Besher Events LLC (www.besherevents.com), is back and has some blunt wisdom for us all. She brings in some do's and don'ts for both planning AND attending weddings, stories of planning weddings through the pandemic, and important things to keep in mind. Stay connected with us @swipenthecity on all platforms.

Surprise! The girls don't have any particular topic for this week's episode, but they do have some fun stories to catch everyone up on. Find out who Kenny (AKA Finn) is and how many "break up" texts Michelle has sent this week. The girls also discuss third wheeling and why Summer Fridays should be a thing. As always, slide into the DM's with your thoughts: @swipenthecity