The Enneagram 8 Podcast

I guarantee you've had this happen to you. You're having a nice chat with someone and suddenly they learn you are an enneagram 8 and they exclaim in surprise "No way! I never would have guessed." And you're left wondering what they think an 8 even is, because you're just being you. This season, maybe we'll find out. In this episode, we take an educated guess as to what each type thinks we 8s get right and what we get wrong.

This is basically a really long, social hangout-- which makes sense. Bonus: A lot of talk of about Type 1s, and some fan-girling about Brene Brown.

Four Self-Preservation 8s join us for a panel episode on the Self-Preservation instinct.

What happens when you put five SX 8s on a call? This. We break the stereotypes.

An informal chitchat between Jo (SX 8) and Lamar (SP 8) about the way each others' instincts have hurt us in the past.

As a Self Preserving with 2 in her tritype, Lisa is the mama bear of our little 8 community. The guardian and cheerleader. She holds the line for us all and we appreciate it.

Lamar introduces us to the concept of a Self-Preservation "resource engine" or "resource machine." He also assured us that the words "Skills" and "Deals" are very fine words indeed to a Self-Preserving 8.

This episode ended up highlighted really clearly the difference between an 8 with SX first versus an 8 with SX last. Jess and Jo press in at totally different points in a situation, taking on very different roles.

Amanda is our 835 from episode 46. We had her back to talk about what it's like to have Social as her first instinct, Sexual as her second, and Self-Preservation as her blindspot.

Drew is our second SX8 with the same stacking as Jo. He thinks his tritype might be 864. SX8 energy is often associated with female energy because of its intensely keyed-in, relational vibe, so we're glad Drew helps set the records straight.

Our very own Enneagram 8 Pod slumber party with Kate Brennan gave us the perfect opportunity to do an interview on the Sexual instinct. All three of us have similar tritypes, but we found it was the shared Sexual instinct that made Kate and Jo most similar. You'll hear that for yourself in this episode.

You're blind to your last instinct for a reason: To consider it is to let go of the death grip you have on your most basic way of surviving in the world. Do you dare consider there might be another way to live?

Just in case you didn't have enough to sort out: 9 types, 9 tritype combos, three instincts and NOW a variety of ways those instincts can mix and match with all of the above.

Season 3: Mini season on Instincts. Social, Sexual, Self-Preservation. Three OTHER lenses on the world that kind of change everything.Main source: John Luckovich

We heard from enough of you to know that difference between a good Christmas and a terrible Christmas is the boundaries we set as 8's. It's counter intuitive to think 8's don't have good boundaries but our big hearts often get in the way…

No better way to wrap up our season on Tritype than with an interview with Katherine Fauvre herself.

Cassie is go go go. When she's not running triathlons or travelling, she's advocating for students and staff as a school counselor. Listening to this podcast will give you a clear picture of the unmatched energy behind the "Mover and Shaker" Tritype.Find us here www.theenneagram8podcast.comSupport this podcast: The Enneagram8 Podcast is creating podcasts | PatreonTo learn more about Tritype go to Katherine Fauvre Enneagram Consulting

Stacie. Tritype 836. She loves a good debate, and has the chops for it, but when it comes to expressing something simple like "that hurt my feelings," she'd rather throw up.Find us here www.theenneagram8podcast.comSupport this podcast: The Enneagram8 Podcast is creating podcasts | Patreon

Amanda. Tritype 864. "I go into every situation with a level of distrust. You have to earn that trust. I don't second guess myself, but I second guess everyone else. I'm not in the group, just observing. I've always longed to be part of the group, but never felt part of it. And then I get cynical as to why and I go down that rabbit hole and it's depressing."

Celeste. Tritype 847. We wake up every morning dazzled by the day. No such thing as being bored with an 847. Between the 8s drive to do and keep moving, the 4s contentment splashing around in the deep depths of our thoughts and emotions all day long, and the 7s playful restlessness and eagerness to jump at every opportunity that presents itself, we are truly some of the most carpe diem individuals on earth.

Celeste. Tritype 847. Celeste is the last 847 interview that we will be doing this season. as I had expected she had so many good words around what it's like to be us. She said that one time a guy she knew told her that she was a "non-joiner." 8s with that kind of lone, introspective 4 tacked on— we're in the group but that doesn't mean we've actually joined it. She also says we have no tolerance for cognitive dissonance, if it doesn't make sense and it doesn't fit we're not going to smile and pretend that it does. We're grateful we can access 7. We wake up every morning absolutely dazzled by the day. There's no such thing as being bored for an 847. We've got to be some of the most carpe diem individuals on Earth.

Chelsea. Tritype 853. Venus fly trap, the ultimate predator, whale-whisperer… The are all terms that can be used for Chelsea, and I'm pretty confident they can be applied to all 835s. Chelsea‘s friends joke that she has a way of Shamuing them— training behaviour to get the outcome she wants. Between the magnetism of the 8, the adaptable shininess of the 3, and the wealth of data points that come from five as they observe other people, these 8s draw in whoever they want to draw in (and steer clear of whoever they want to steer clear of.) All the skills they have at their disposal they use to assess who they want to come closer and who they want to keep at a distance. They are extremely effective at it. And while it sounds a little scary and manipulative we know what's at the heart of an 8. It's about feeling free, independent, like we're steering our own ship. This is really about these 8s wanting to be safe. Postscript for your episode: “I know this is not for a grade, but the overanalyzing, overachieving part of me wants to let you know what I decided I want 8s to know-I read a quote once saying “I suppose a fire that burns that bright is not meant to last.” I think (especially with an 8-3-+ tritype) we tend to go pretty hard, nonstop, and it's okay to slow down, it's okay to take care of yourself. That's what I would say ❤️‍

Carrie. Tritype 837. When you need an app to remind you to breathe, you probably have a lot of forward energy going on in you. Carrie is a quintessential Mover and Shaker. All movement, no pause.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Tori. Tritype 862. "The Rescuer" has been scrapped for "The Shield." This tritype might be the one that is most at war with it's soft gooey center. (One of you once called it a gooey lava cake). They are very very aware it's there, and very very unhappy at the idea it might show. And so, in many ways, the sheild they use to protect others, they use to protect themselves too. In the words of our podcast tagline: "Letting you inside the armour" is the work of all of us 8s.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Isaac. Tritype 845. Some 8s slam a wall down on the dark and the negative. Others 8s, like Isaac, slam the wall down on the light, bright and the positive. The common denominator is the wall. 8s are good at walls. This one's for all of our 8s who are a haven to those that have inner monsters that scare them. Isaac and other 8s of this tritype aren't afraid of monsters, or the darkness. (Note: Due to spotty internet, this episode sounds a bit different. We had to splice in re-recorded audio later.) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Here's part 2 of a two part interview conducted by none other than Keri aka Cocaine Sunshine in celebration of recording fifty episodes of the Enneagram 8 Podcast. This sticking with a thing... It's not a thing we do, with our restlessness  and our forward momentum. We're still here because you keep letting us know that it matters. We're still here because we now know we have thousands of 8 siblings out there that get us. Thank you for all of it.   --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

We did it. We've recorded fifty episodes of the Enneagram 8 Podcast. This sticking with a thing... It's not a thing we do, with our restlessness and our forward momentum. We're still here because you keep letting us know that it matters. We're still here because we now know we have thousands of 8 siblings out there that get us. Thank you for all of it. Here's part 1 of a two part interview conducted by none other than Keri aka Cocaine Sunshine.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Megan. Tritype 836. Teacher, beach lifeguard, event planner, aspiring park ranger, and soon-to-be member of law enforcement, this girl is a doer of many things. But the theme she sees in it all is a duty and competency. She is dutifully the VERY BEST at all the things she does. This is another of the most reactive tritypes, but most of it stays inside. Her 3 keeps her aware of "the game" that the group is playing, which mitigates some of the fallout. But, every now and then, the verbal bombs still go off and stuff gets blown up.    --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Yentl (rhythms with gentle). Tritype 846. We laugh at the irony of a name that rhythms with one thing this tritype has the hardest time being. As a truth teller, Yentl is made to track inconsistencies, hone in on falseness, and to SAY IT. Even gentle people get flack for calling out hidden truth, so imagine how lonely these 8s can be sometimes. We reflected on the gift of a simple conversation between two 8s, and how, for an hour, two strangers could hold space for each other and understand.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Jules. Tritype 874. Made to drive forward in freedom and adventure and creativity, but held in a life where all of that was weighed down like concrete. Jules gives us insight into how we end up in places we never though possible, but then how we get out of them again, expanding into who we always were inside.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Amanda. Tritype 835. Seemingly impenetrable, but soft as the cashmere she wears, if you give her time. Ambitious yoga instructor, and advocate of capsule wardrobes, Amanda highlights this tritype's practical approach to life-- practical in a badass-bougie kinda way.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Neema. Tritype 827.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Rachel. Tritype 826. Five feet of feisty, this military veteran, and mom of five offers BIG help to the people around her, but in a way she's had to temper over the years. 8 help is essential in the world, but not everyone is ready for it.   --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Carolyn. Tritype unknown (because it's COMPLICATED). She's an adoptive mom that said yes to all the hard things that go along with that, and found a way to turn Jello into the perfect analogy for how 8s offer safety and help to the ones who need it most. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Tereza. Tritype 846. Triple reactive and about as intense as they come, this is the tritype that gets thrown the most shade. More than any other 8s, they SAY THE THING. They are always tracking inconsistencies and falseness around them, and when they spot it they let us all know. This makes a a lot of people A LOT of uncomfortable. But, sometimes a thing just has to be said, and Tereza will say it! Including this: "Lions aren't brave. It's not true. They have teeth and claws. They can kill things easily. But, Guinea pigs..."  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Ashley. Tritype 827. She is the blazing sun that shines upon the comic book reader and fiction superfan. Check her out in all the places: She writes for: https://fangirlish.com/author/nerdyblogging/ and https://sci-fi-5.libsyn.com/ Podcast Cohost on: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/dearly-debated/id1517213655 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Heather. Tritype 835. Known as the quickest problem solvers, but the least in touch with their feelings. Heather's Bio: Growing up, I spent most of my time in the 5 zone. However, I did learn early that people didn't want me to be "part of the group", so I chose early not to "fit in" and pursue my own interests. I'm a moderate jack of most trades. I'm not really great at one thing, but I am eager to explore all options or challenges. // ISTP - "like sticking jello to a wall". Not only do I not like to conform, I enjoy several different single sports [ultra-running, yoga, cross country, singles tennis]. I thought this was mainly because of my introvert side, but it could also likely be I prefer to match my own energy. I get frustrated and confused when people can't keep up with my energy. Even when I don't think I can find any, I force it to happen, so I can fulfill my 7 wing of adventure. // Protector in social work, helping people advocate for themselves. In each chance I get I teach them to "fish", so that they can more independent and learn to fight on their own eventually. I hold a conflict resolution certificate and am a certified mediator, volunteering with local courts. This is where and how I discovered the enneagram. // Faults. I stir the pot, even after I'm told not to stir the pot. Learning when not to with loved ones, but I still "die" on several hills because I'm stubborn. I'm growing drastically and interested in continuing on this path towards a healthier me in a 2 by listening to this awesome podcast and others recommended. . I will fight for those I love any day without rest!

Sam. Tritype 826-- no wait, 846. This is an example of how it takes time and work to figure out your tritype. When we first interviewed Samantha, she attributed her drive to help people to 2, But her knack (and affinity) for identifying and expressing her own needs and feelings gives her a 4 feel. It's ok to try on tritype for awhile before you find home. But keep digging. It's worth it. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Tess. Tritype 845. And she pretty much lives to tear society's sacred things into their smallest parts and poke at them. That's what happens when the 4 and 5 play with the 8. Known as the darkest, most contradictory and perplexing tritype. Tess was a fascinating interview. Note: I reference one of the co-hosts of "The Big Hormone Enneagram" because he is of the same tritype.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Lauv. Tritype 847. Like the rest of us in this tritype, she's a deep well of deep depths with a lot to say and plenty of quirks, such as crying over mushrooms and being allergic to the cold. Literally. Lauv's instagram account: Redamanxia: Vegan recipes in her "Taste" highlight --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Alicia. Tritype 836. She embodies what it means to care about justice and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. She's also an example of how when things get hard, we don't stay stuck, but say yes to change-- even big change.  Check our Alicia's new art studio: www.aliciahauffstudio.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Jess. Tritype 873. Eryn's tritype twin. After having listened in on these two, I'm beginning to think this combo creates a high likeability factor. Also, max efficiency.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Sarah. Tritype 852. If Keri was a shot of caffeine, Sarah is a warm ginger tea. Both 8's, both grounded like ancient stone, but with wildly different ways of showing it. Sarah watches and waits and SEES more than most. And then she speaks life.    --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Keri. Tritype 872. This girl has the nuclear power of the sun inside her. She also has the kind of heart that ships us hand-knit hats when we're sad. We love you, Keri girl. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Crystal. Triptype 825. She's a self-professed slave to a bunny named Pirate, and an expert onion dicer. She's also about as different from Eryn and me as another 8 can be!  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Lauren's a tritype 826. She's in healthcare, as so many 8's with 2 seem to be! She explains brilliantly how hard she finds it to figure out her own needs, as well as how full-body her reactivity can be.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Thomas. Type 8. Tritype 847. This guy is Jo's enneagram twin. All the 8ish intensity, with aaaaalllll the deep 4-feels. Thomas is a motorcycle-riding, weight-lifting nomad with big passion.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Boni. Enneagram 8. Tritype 825. Beauty queen, master strategist, wielder of the all-mighty pause, and owner of one hairless cat named Monster.  Quotes: "I've maybe never had a spontaneous feeling." // "I think I did want a cat that would terrify people."  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

Season 1 was a deep dive inside the armour of two particular 8's, but we're kinda done talking about us. It's time to talk about you. Season 2 will be dozens of interviews with 8s of all kinds. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

This  is part 2 of our interview with Christa Hardin, clinical therapist and  couples counselor.  In this episode, she tells us what she's learned  about 8's in relationship with 5's, 4's, 3's, 2's and 1's. Site: Enneagram+Marriage // Podcast: Enneagram+Marriage Podcast // Glow Pairings --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support

After nearly twenty years as a clinical therapist and couples counselor, Christa Hardin has made some keen observations about 8s in relationship. In this episode, she tells us what she's learned about 8's in relationship with 9's, 8's, 7's and 6's. Site: Enneagram+Marriage // Podcast: Enneagram+Marriage Podcast // Glow Pairings --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theenneagram8podcast/support