Podcasts about self preservation

In this episode, we explore the difference between reckless living, comfortable self-preservation, and faithful growth. Using a CrossFit metaphor of red, green, and yellow zones, we unpack how Jesus calls us not to reckless risk or safe comfort, but to faithful stretch. Real growth happens in the yellow zone—where courage, wisdom, and obedience meet.You Got This,Ryan

Send us a Message! (But we can't respond, so feel free to email us at info@roman3.ca)This episode touches on the theme of Developing Leaders.In this episode, we explore 3 (hopefully) helpful management tips, understanding and dealing with:"Yes, if" and "No, but"Listening is the willingness to changeBalancing Self-PreservationOur prescription for this episode is to consider these elements, both in yourself and the team you manage, if you want to be more successful on your leadership journey.Past Episode Referenced:S4 E13: Equality Or Equity — Or Is It Special Treatment?If you would like to learn more about getting tools for your leadership journey, you can check out our webinar on Confident Leadership on our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@solutionsexplained or our Integrity Leadership article on our Knowledge Suite: https://www.academy.roman3.ca/knowledge-suite/integrity-leadership/Let us know if leadership and management skills are something you want us to talk more about! Email us at info@roman3.ca.About Our Hosts!James is an experienced business coach with a specialization in HR management and talent attraction and retention. Coby is a skilled educator and has an extensive background in building workforce and organizational capacity. For a little more on our ideas and concepts, check out our Knowledge Suite or our YouTube Channel, Solutions Explained by Roman 3.

►► GET MY FREE VIDEO & WORKSHEET - SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF LITE!7 SMALL STEPS TO A GIANT LEAP IN YOUR CONFIDENCEAre you ready to transform your relationships and become the leader you were meant to be? Episode 194 of the DYL Podcast is your go-to guide for ditching excuses, banishing negativity, and making decisions that truly help. Join host Adam Gragg as he cuts through the fog of ambiguity, showing you how to turn discomfort into empowerment.Discover the three game-changing decisions every leader must make: self-awareness, risk-setting boundaries, and letting go of the outcome. Whether you're a parent, boss, or friend, these practical steps are designed to be so clear you can share them with your six-year-old! Hear engaging stories from real life and get actionable tools that you can use TODAY to make your legacy one that's remembered.Embrace the challenge, stand up for what matters, and create positive change that sticks. Don't miss the episode that might just inspire you to live the life you want to be remembered for ten years after you're gone. Tune in and learn how to help, not enable. Your legacy starts now!CHAPTERS:00:00 Confronting Discomfort to Drive Change05:19 Helper or Enabler: Know the Difference06:52 "Overcoming Eggshelled Self-Doubt"12:27 Helping vs. Harming Choices15:54 "Building Accountability and Boundaries"17:55 "Navigating Family Conflict and Growth"22:08 "Impact Through Words and Actions"23:29 "Decisions Shape Your Legacy"Visit the Decide Your Legacy Website for More! Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!

Damian Russel, author of Enneagram Through the Ages, and Krista Hand join Dr. Kara Nance in a discussion abut the Enneagram's three instinctual drives—Self-Preservation, Sexual (or attraction), and Social—and their profound impact on our psychological, physical, and spiritual well-being. Rooted deeply in our neurobiology and evolutionary survival, these instincts dictate how we meet our basic human needs and react to the world around us. The discussion highlights that individuals prioritize these drives in a unique hierarchical "stack," consisting of a dominant instinct that acts as a core defense system, a supportive secondary instinct, and a neglected "blind spot". Furthermore, the episode examines how cultural conditioning, modern daily stress, and trauma can cause these primal drives to become imbalanced or lead to dysregulation and addictive behaviors. Ultimately, the conversation emphasizes that by engaging in somatic practices like mindful breathing and bodily awareness, we can regulate our nervous systems, balance our instinctual stack, and integrate our primal animal nature with our higher spiritual consciousness.

“Self-preservation is about intentional actions that protect ourselves.” - Bianca McLeish What if working harder isn't the answer? In this powerful conversation, educator and school leader Bianca McLeish shares her personal journey from burnout to self-preservation, drawing on insights from her book, 'Teacher Wellbeing Transformed: Break Free From Survival Mode Before Burnout'. Together, Meg and Bianca explore the difference between self-care and self-preservation, why understanding our nervous system changes everything, and the subtle signs that dedication may be tipping into depletion. Bianca offers practical, school-day strategies to regulate stress, protect our energy and work within our limits. This episode reframes wellbeing as essential because learning to work within our limits allows us to stay in this profession longer and without losing ourselves in the process. ---- Chapter Markers: 00:00 Introduction 04:18 Bianca's burnout story 12:02 Self-care vs self-preservation 19:45 Understanding the nervous system 28:10 Subtle signs of depletion 36:40 Practical strategies for the school day 47:25 Working within our limits 55:10 Final reflections ---- Deliberate Actions: List the three signs you're stretching beyond your capacity. Give one small nervous system regulation strategy a go. Say: "I would love to help, but I am at capacity" to the next request that exceeds your limits. Schedule a two-minute self check-in this week. ---- Episode 160 Shownotes - Click here. ---- Bianca McLeish Website | LinkedIn | Instagram ---- Meg Durham - Website | LinkedIn | Instagram Weekly Newsletter - Subscribe here Speaker Booking - Complete the booking form to start the conversation. ---- ** The School of Wellbeing is one of Australia's best health and wellbeing podcasts for teachers, educators and school leaders! **

 In tense times, fear tempts us to protect ourselves and drift from our calling. This Lent message explores Peter's denial and how God uses unlikely opposition to wake us up, restore us, and shape us into courageous disciples. 

Living with alcoholism can make you question everything—your judgment, your boundaries, even your reality. If you're thinking about divorcing an alcoholic (or you're not ready to leave yet, but you know something has to change), this episode is for you.Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport sit down with Jeff Wright, an insurance brokerage founder and mentor who has helped countless people navigate toxic, alcohol-fueled relationships—shaped by his own childhood experience with an abusive alcoholic parent.Together, they unpack why leaving an alcoholic spouse can feel impossible (even when the situation is clearly unsafe), how trauma bonds keep people stuck, and what “self-preservation” really looks like when you're trying to protect your children and your sanity.You'll also learn the practical steps to take before you file: who to talk to (and who not to), how to make a plan quietly, how to build confidence when you feel shattered, and what legal tools can help keep kids safe—including monitoring options like Soberlink, testing, and supervised parenting time.If you've been surviving in chaos, consider this your permission slip to stop normalizing it—and start building a path out.What You'll Learn in This EpisodeWhy living with an alcoholic partner can distort your reality and decision-makingThe real reasons people stay (hint: it's often not money)What a trauma bond is and why “they hurt you, then hug you” feels like loveHow alcoholism impacts the drinker's brain—and why denial can be extremeHow to assess your home environment: stress signals, kids' behavior, and “waiting for them to come home” tensionWhat self-preservation actually means: privacy, planning, and choosing the right supportWhy your divorce attorney is not your therapist—and why you need bothConcrete action steps: quiet planning, go-bag/documents, separate accounts, and rebuilding confidenceLegal tools that can support safety for kids (monitoring/testing options and structured parenting arrangements)Episode Highlights / Timestamps00:00 The reality: alcoholism can make you question your judgment and reality00:57 Sponsor: OurFamilyWizard + discount code02:11 Who this episode is for (especially if you haven't left yet)03:07 Meet Jeff Wright and why this is his mission06:07 Jeff's childhood with an abusive alcoholic father (and lasting impact)08:17 Morgan explains why this becomes “normal” when you're living it10:29 Why people don't leave: kids, fear,...

SummaryIn this conversation, host Patrick Patino and guest Rhia Batchelder, owner of Rebuild with Rhia, discuss the overwhelming chaos and distractions in today's world, particularly focusing on the impact of burnout and the importance of self-preservation. They explore strategies for maintaining mental health, the significance of community engagement, and the role of hope in navigating difficult times. Rhia shares her personal experiences and insights on burnout prevention, emphasizing the need for intentional living and the power of small actions to foster resilience and connection.TakeawaysWe spend a lot of time being intentional around the way we live.Burnout often stems from misalignment of values and unmanaged stress.Carving out news-free time is essential for mental health.Engaging with the community can alleviate feelings of hopelessness.Hope needs to be actively fed through actions and connections.Small acts of kindness can make a significant difference.Finding joy in daily routines helps combat burnout.Volunteering can provide a sense of purpose and connection.Historical resilience can inspire hope in current struggles.We are stronger together and can overcome challenges.https://www.rebuildwithrhia.com/https://www.instagram.com/rebuild.with.rhia/

In this week's episode, Bea and Urânio have the honor of interviewing fellow podcaster Valentine Marie, who brings in depht insights of her Enneagram professional and personal journey. In this hearwarming chat, Valentines open up about meaningful and fulfilling steps on her journey!Valentine is a writer, traveler, podcast host, and Enneagram coach based out of the Washington DC area. The Enneagram transformed her life and she is desperate to make it more accessible to all people, everywhere. She especially loves working with Enneagram newbies and skeptics so, if that's you - please reach out!Check Valentine's website: https://www.enneagramwithvalentine.comFollow Valentine on Instagram: https://instagram.com/enneagram_ishListen to her podcast: open.spotify.com/show/7iqwkejerqw5msxinwegqaLike learning about the Enneagram from Bea and Uranio? Join a community of Enneagram enthusiasts and participate in live monthly webinars and Q&As with Bea and Uranio. Sign up for a FREE trial of CP Online membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://learn.cpenneagram.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Want to discover which Enneagram type you could be? Visit our webpage ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enneagramcompass.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to learn about the Enneagram test they created, Enneagram Compass.Please subscribe and share this podcast with others. It will help us out a lot!Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ChestnutPaesEnneagramAcademyFollow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/cpenneagramSign up for our newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://cpenneagram.com/newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠Questions? ⁠hello@cpenneagram.com

“O Daityas, just as Vishnu is in those weapons and also situated in me, so by that truth your weapons will not be able to overcome me.”  (Prahlada Maharaja, Vishnu Purana, 1.17.33)

A movie turned into a mirror. In this late-night episode, I unpack love, logic, loyalty, and what it really means to protect yourself. From identity to relationships, this is a 4AM conversation about choosing peace over chaos, even when your heart disagrees.

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After Monday's incredible conversation with Russ Hudson, we're diving into our January theme: Instincts & Intimacy. Today's episode reveals how your dominant instinct (Self-Preservation, Social, or Sexual) often shows up differently when dating versus being married. We talk through not only how those differences may look, but how you can still try to find the healthiest and most achievable desires you're missing from those early honeymoon days. Break down each instinct's dating “performance” versus marriage reality, plus how to work with (not against) your and your partner's instinctual drives as you do so. Watch on YouTube! Don't forget! Use the special E + M Code Marriage100 for $100 the course ⁠here!⁠ https://russhudson.com/the-instincts-and-inner-work-building-practices-for-transforming-our-life-patterns/ Find ⁠Russ Hudson's books here!⁠ https://russhudson.com/books/ For more about Russ, visit https://russhudson.com/ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Just in time for the new year too...

--{ "Knowledge Fights Fear in the Coming New Year"}-- The reflecting time of the year. Upcoming schedule. - Please support if you are able. Thank you. - (Article: "Greening of the zeitgeist" by Gregory Rodriguez, LA Times (page A15) - Dec. 10, 2007.) (Song: "By the People" by Dick Gaughan.) (Musical Piece: "Campeones Para Siempre" by Alan Watt (Alan Unplugged), Written and Performed 6:00 PM on this date Dec. 25, 2007 Copyrighted.) Dedicated to My Translators and My Listeners. Globalization, Monitoring, Surveillance - Ignorance is Bliss, Creatures of Instinct - Awareness, Self-Preservation. Individual Isolation - Maintaining Contact. European Amalgamation - Standardization - Global Government - McCarthy, Communism, Centralization, Marx. Formats, Sequences, Patterns, Procedure. United States - Indoctrination - Psychological Brainwashing. Governing Class, Retention of Survival Capabilities - "The Lethal Chamber". Robert Burns - Seeing One's Self - Propaganda Industry: "Things are getting better" - America Today. New Age Movement, Hinduism - Western Mindset - Negative, Positive - Channeling, Card Sharks, Tea Leaves. Sun is Risen.

ABOUT THE EPISODE:When your journey with a child's substance use stretches into its second decade, you enter what we loving call "warrior mom" (or parent) territory – a place where endurance meets wisdom, and self-preservation becomes an art form. Today's conversation with Hopestream co-founder, Cathy, honors these battle-tested parents who've been navigating their adult children's challenges for ten, fifteen, even twenty years or more.This isn't an advice-filled episode - because more advice isn't what you need. It's a raw, honest dialogue between two mothers who know the unique terrain of loving a child through active use, high-risk lifestyles, homelessness, incarceration, and the revolving door of recovery and relapse. Cathy shares her own marathon story, including driving hundreds of miles to share picnics with her daughter – a simple act of presence that seemed insignificant (and ineffective) at the time but later proved transformative. You'll hear:Why "handing over a shift" to a higher power becomes essential for sustainable parenting through decades of struggleHow warrior parents navigate the delicate dance of support versus enabling when adult children face eviction, homelessness, or legal troublesThe unexpected and seemingly counterintuitive renewal that comes from serving othersWhy those seemingly fruitless gestures of connection (like Cathy's picnics) create an energetic contract that transcends the immediate momentThe liberating truth about our children's remarkable resourcefulness when stability disappears and traditional safety nets failThis podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream CommunityGet our free, 4-video course, Hope Starts Here, and access to our Limited Membership hereLearn about The Stream, our private online community for momsFind us on Instagram hereWatch the podcast on YouTube hereDownload a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and AlcoholHopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.

Knowing Your Limits: When to Hold and When to Push Onward I'm recording this episode from a place that looks very different than my usual setup. We're away on a family getaway that was supposed to be a snowy ski vacation, but when I look outside, all I see are brown mountains and sunshine. Not exactly the winter wonderland we imagined. Still, we're here, together, enjoying the time, and as the year winds down and the holidays rush in, I felt like this was the perfect moment to pause and share something that's been sitting heavy—and meaningful—on my heart. As you know, I tend to share lessons I'm actively learning myself, and this week's lesson came straight from the ski slopes. I ski as an amputee. I ski on one leg, using outriggers, and while it looks empowering and inspiring in photos and videos, the truth is that it is anything but easy. Every single time I clip in, no matter how long I've been doing this, I still get butterflies. I still hope my body will hold up. I still pray for the best outcome and for enough strength to get me down the mountain safely. I've always been someone who pushes hard. When I lost my leg in December of 2018, I got my first prosthetic in late March and barely had time to adjust before we were headed on a family ski trip in April. I had planned to sit on the sidelines, but I told my husband early on that I wanted to try skiing as an amputee. That trip was my first time learning to ski as a three-tracker—one ski on my sound leg and two outriggers with tiny skis on the ends. It was intense. It demanded everything from my good leg, my core, my upper body, and my mental focus. Fast forward to now, and while I have more experience, I also have more wisdom. Yesterday, I went out for my first run of this trip, and it was a long one. I chose a blue run instead of the easier option, and I pushed myself hard. I made it down without falling, and I was proud of that—but my body was absolutely fried. My quad, calf, foot arch, hands, and shoulders were screaming. My grip on the outriggers was barely there, and I knew that if I went again, fatigue could turn into injury. The old version of me—five or six years ago—would have pushed through anyway. I would have ignored the warning signs and kept going. But yesterday, something different happened. I looked at my husband and said, “I'm done. I want to end on a high note.” And that was enough. Self-preservation won, and for the first time in a long time, I listened to my body without guilt. That decision mattered more than I realized in the moment. Because what I'm learning—and what I want you to hear—is that your best in this moment doesn't have to be your best ever. Your best is enough when it honors where you are right now. Strength isn't always pushing harder. Sometimes strength is knowing when to stop. As amputees, our bodies are constantly negotiating limits. When you rely on one good leg, you have to be mindful of how far you push before fatigue compromises safety. Yesterday, my head wanted more, but my body was very clear: this was enough. And instead of feeling defeated, I chose to feel proud. What you don't see in highlight videos is the pain, the fear, the intense focus it takes to stay upright and in control. You don't see the internal battle between wanting to prove yourself and needing to protect yourself. And that's something I think so many of us struggle with—especially when we compare ourselves to others or even to past versions of ourselves. This year, I'm not the same person I was last spring when I was in great shape, hitting the gym, and doing one-legged squats. I had revision surgery this summer. I've been learning a new socket, adapting to a new prosthetic, and giving my body time to heal. That meant less time training and more time resting. And while rest came at the cost of muscle mass and endurance, it also gave me other gifts—healing, reflection, time at home, time with my animals, and space to process everything my body has been through. We are not static beings. Even with the same injury, we are different depending on the season of life we're in. And during the holidays especially, it's easy to beat yourself up for not doing “enough.” But the truth is, everyone's circumstances are different. Some of you can't get to the gym. Some of you are waiting on a fitting, a surgery, or relief from pain. Some days, just breathing is the win—and that is okay. I know amputees who avoid connecting with others because they feel like they're falling short. My message to you is this: do what you can with what you have, where you are. Comparison steals joy and progress. The valley you're in right now does not dictate the rest of your life. If you're disappointed in yourself because you know you can do more and you're choosing not to, then have that honest conversation with yourself and start shifting your mindset. Change the internal dialogue. Set goals. Dream again. But if you're in a season of healing, pain, or waiting, give yourself grace. This moment is not permanent. Yesterday, I skied one run—and that one run was enough. I walked away proud, safe, and encouraged instead of broken down and discouraged. Tomorrow, I'll go out again with confidence and clarity. And when spring comes, I know exactly what I need to do to be stronger. Being an amputee is hard. Some days are brutal. But you are not failing because you rest, and you are not weak because you pause. Be proud of where you are. Be proud of your scars. Know that you are doing the best you can with the situation you've been given—and that is enough. This season will pass. Keep moving forward. Keep honoring your body. And remember, the warrior within you doesn't disappear when you slow down—it grows wiser. I hope you have a beautiful holiday season. And I'll be back again soon before this year comes to a close. And as always, Be Healthy, Be Happy, Be YOU!!! Much love,

Hey Lifers! We have a new drinking game for you all based on our individual ‘habits’ (flaws) and Ben has a very important question for Keeshia that could tear the team apart. Black Friday sales have got the better of some of us and Britt has a nice challenge for Laura during the busiest time of her year. Laura’s really showcasing how different things can be for the 3rd kid. Poppy’s actual birth date and full name are TBC. Britt shares a crazy story about how her dad spent most of his life not knowing his age! In a recent episode of Oprah’s podcast, Oprah tackled the rise of “going no contact” where adult children cut ties with parents or family. Is it destroying families, or is an act of ultimate self preservation and protecting your mental health? We speak about: The conversation around emotional safety, mental health and boundaries has changed What was once taboo (cutting ties with parents) is now being discussed openly — especially by our generations There doesn’t seem to be a line in the sand for what is and what is not ‘valid’ for going no contact Why family are the only people we are ‘willing’ to accept bad behaviour from Have we gone too far with ‘boundary’ talk/ don’t have enough grace for our parents? If validation and self reflection are the only solution You can watch the whole episode of ‘Oprah Explores the Rising Trend of Going No Contact with Your Family’ If you’d like to listen to a previous episode where we spoke about estrangement, you can here: Narcissistic parents Sam FischerEm Carey Bridget Hustwaite Melissa Leong You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Girls Play Dead by award-winning journalist Jen Percy is a powerful and poignant portrait of women and survival. Jen joins us to talk about understanding trauma, PTSD, gender expectations, wartime reportage, self-preservation, research and more with host Miwa Messer. This episode of Poured Over was hosted by Miwa Messer and mixed by Harry Liang.                     New episodes land Tuesdays and Thursdays (with occasional Saturdays) here and on your favorite podcast app. Featured Books (Episode): Girls Play Dead: Acts of Self-Preservation by Jen Percy Demon Camp: The Strange and Terrible Saga of a Soldier's Return from War by Jen Percy Metamorphoses by Ovid The Things They Carried by Tim O'Brian Let Us Now Praise Famous Men by James Agee Bluets by Maggie Nelson  

Philosopher Stefan Molyneux addresses a listener's question about his wife's challenges in helping a friend with alcoholism. Despite her efforts to guide him toward professional help, his reckless behavior leads her to cut ties, prompting a discussion on the complexities of addiction and the emotional trauma involved.Stefan explores the tension between willpower and self-destructive behaviors, emphasizing the moral implications of addiction and the danger of enabling harmful patterns. This episode encourages listeners to reflect on the balance between empathy and self-preservation in their relationships with those struggling with addiction.SUBSCRIBE TO ME ON X! https://x.com/StefanMolyneuxFollow me on Youtube! https://www.youtube.com/@freedomain1GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK!https://peacefulparenting.com/Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2025

Today, Uranio Paes and Beatrice Chestnut talk with Clay Schultz about the growth path of Type 9, especially the self-preservation subtype. In this episode, Clay shares his personal journey of bodily and emotional awakening, showing how Nines can overcome inertia and numbness through presence and conscious action.He speaks about the challenge of leaving behind comfortable routines, facing repressed anger, and reconnecting with his own desire and sense of purpose. Urânio, Bea, and Clay explore how true “peacemaking” requires facing conflict and learning to act from one's own truth.Like learning about the Enneagram from Bea and Uranio? Join a community of Enneagram enthusiasts and participate in live monthly webinars and Q&As with Bea and Uranio. Sign up for a FREE trial of CP Online membership at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://learn.cpenneagram.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Want to discover which Enneagram type you could be? Visit our webpage ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enneagramcompass.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ to learn about the Enneagram test they created, Enneagram Compass.Please subscribe and share this podcast with others. It will help us out a lot!Subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ChestnutPaesEnneagramAcademyFollow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/cpenneagramSign up for our newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://cpenneagram.com/newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠Questions? ⁠hello@cpenneagram.com

In this transformative episode of Owning Pleasure as a Black Woman, I tackle the impossible double bind that keeps high-achieving women trapped between exhaustion and guilt.You know you need rest, but every time you try to prioritize yourself, that familiar voice whispers "you're being selfish." I break down why self-care feels like betrayal, how rest became rebellion, and most importantly—how to finally give yourself permission to matter without the emotional hangover.Discover the historical roots of why rest feels dangerous, learn to distinguish between self-care and selfishness, and get practical tools to break the martyrdom cycle that's keeping you exhausted and resentful.Key Takeaways:The Double Bind Exposed: You're expected to be infinitely giving but never needy—a setup that keeps you trapped between exhaustion and guilt. This impossible standard is rooted in cultural myths that Black women are naturally stronger and need less, making self-care feel indulgent rather than essential.Rest as Revolution: Your choice to rest is actually an act of reclaiming autonomy that may trigger your nervous system because historically, your ancestors' rest was controlled by others. When you rest without "earning" it, you're breaking generational patterns of exploitation.Self-Preservation, Not Selfishness: Self-care isn't about bubble baths and face masks—it's about sustainable living. When you take care of yourself, you model healthy boundaries and give from overflow instead of depletion, which actually serves everyone around you better.Episode Challenge: The "Rest Without Guilt" PracticeStep 1: Choose one form of rest that currently triggers guilt (saying no to unwanted plans, taking an "unearned" nap, not checking work emails after hours).Step 2: Write yourself a literal permission slip: "I, [your name], give myself permission to [rest activity] without guilt because my wellbeing matters and this choice serves my highest good and the people I love."Step 3: When guilt shows up, ask yourself:Am I confusing self-care with selfishness because I've been taught my needs don't matter?What would I tell my daughter/best friend if she felt guilty about this same choice?How does my exhaustion actually serve the people I love?Step 4: Rest anyway. Let the guilt be there without letting it run the show.Listen Now:Ready to break free from the double bind that keeps you trapped between exhaustion and guilt? Hit play to discover how self-care becomes self-preservation and why your rest is revolutionary!Links Mentioned:Join Our Email List - Get Your 7-Day Self-Care Reset: Be the first to know about upcoming episodes and transform your relationship with self-care and guilt. Sign up at www.javerywellness.com/resetReady to Get Started?: If you're ready for deeper support in breaking these patterns, begin your journey with us at www.javerywellness.com/get-started.Connect with Us:Instagram: @natasha_is_satisfiedFacebook: @NatashaChentilleYouTube: @NatashaChentilleWebsite: www.javerywellness.com

This week we're discussing When Self-Preservation Keeps You Stuck  Many single parents build needed walls after loss or overwhelm. Those walls help you breathe again, yet they can start to box you in. This episode addresses three pain points that keep you stuck: survival patterns that outlive their purpose, mistaking safety for thriving, and the courage it takes to reengage with people and opportunities. This matters because healing asks for compassion toward what protected you and small, steady risks that help you grow. Today, we cover three main points: How to know when self preservation has outlived its purpose Why feeling safe is not the same as living fully How to honor the past and choose the future When you can honor the ways you once kept yourself safe without letting them define what comes next, healing begins. Growth doesn't happen in comfort, it happens when you stretch toward something new while remembering you can always return to your safe place when you need it. Stay Connected + Get Support: We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Submit your listener questions HERE. Full Show Notes  Learn more about Solo Parent Follow us on Instagram

Welcome to nuts for Naranjo! This is a journey into enneagram psychology. Today we are discussing the generic overview of enneagram 2 core, the semantics of typology, and the self preservation subtype (or as Naranjo calls it: the conservation subtype). Please enjoy this podcast! Another big shoutout to The Barrcast for being my biggest inspiration for starting a podcast in the first place.

In this episode of The Brave Enough Show, Dr. Sasha Shillcutt discusses:    1. The Cultural Weight of “Yes”  2. No as an Act of Self-Preservation and Self-Respect  3. The Fallout and the Freedom from saying No  4. Boundaries every woman needs  Your no is not rejection. It's a declaration. A declaration that your life, your time, and your worth are sacred. And that is the kind of brave, healing freedom you deserve.   RISE 2.0 Mastermind RISE is an 8-month guided journey for women physicians ready to reclaim their energy, voice, and joy. You weren't meant to hustle through life—you were meant to rise. Join my private mastermind designed to help you reset boundaries, restore purpose, and elevate your life. RISE is the course your future self is begging you to take. Class starts Oct. 6th   Private Coaching with Dr. Sasha Dr. Sasha Shillcutt is a certified Enneagram Coach and has over 6 years of experience coaching women like you through physician burnout. Dr. Shillcutt uses the Enneagram as a tool to help you understand yourself so you thrive in your relationships at home and work!   Follow Brave Enough:   WEBSITE | INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | TWITTER | LINKEDIN Join The Table, Brave Enough's community. The ONLY professional membership group that meets both the professional and personal needs of high-achieving women.

Sal and BT furiously dissected the Giants' sudden decision to bench Russell Wilson for rookie QB Jaxson Dart, a move they believe is driven by panic and self-preservation from Brian Daboll rather than a sound plan. The hosts argued that throwing Dart into the 0-3 disaster risks "ruining" the franchise quarterback, a reckless move contrasted with their grim assessment of the Mets' playoff hopes, which Sal declared are a "dead team walking" due to a complete lack of accountability and "zombie-like" play. The debate covered the "Bald-Faced Lie, Bald-Faced Truth" of the Giants' organizational stability and featured the take of NFL insider Brian Baldinger, all leading to the conclusion that New York sports are defined by organizational mistakes and a desperate search for short-term relief.

Lee Eun-seok sat in his apartment uncertain if he would get away with what he had done. He asked himself. “Am I a servant of Satan, or am I a piece of trash that should just end his own life"? When the public discovered he had murdered his parents, they decidedly labeled him a monster, but after his diaries were found the answer became uncertain. Can a crime so heinous and unforgiveable, be understandable?Find our merch here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://koreantruecrime-shop.fourthwall.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join our discord today!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you enjoy Korean True Crime, please rate, follow, and send feedback! It helps me continue to improve the show. If you'd like to support the show or find show sources for free,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠join Korean True Crime on Patreon.⁠ ⁠

--{ "Mending Your Mind, Blending Your Kind, and You Shall All Serve as One"}-- Technocrats - Control of Mind and Mass-Mind - Theory of Evolution - New Soviet Man. Experiments in Human Behaviour - Wires in Brains, Remote Manipulation, Aldous Huxley - "Mental" Patients - Repetition, Attaching Emotions for Impact - Patriotic, War Songs - Group Solidarity. Negation of Parental Influence - "Contamination" - Separation of Children from Adults - Big Brother, The State. Mind Control, Brainwashing - Pavlov's Laboratory Experiments - Torture. Psychopathy - Worship of Power - Sadomasochism - Induced Extracted "Confessions" - Hitler - Battle for the Mind - Understanding of Central Nervous System - Hellfire and Brimstone - Religious Conversions - Suggestibility. Pavlovian Techniques - Prisons - Communist Tactics - Indoctrination - Prisoners of War. Genetic Engineering - Survival Instincts, Self-Preservation, Domestication. (Books: "Brave New World Revisited" by Aldous Huxley. "1984" by George Orwell.) (Songs: "The Place Where The Nuts Hunt The Squirrels" by Napoleon XIV. "If I Only Had A Brain" and "If I Only Had A Heart" Wizard of Oz Soundtrack.)

Elani and Simone are back this week! The ladies catch up on activities as thee season winds down. They begin with self-preservation, discussing how it's changed from survival tactics to mental health preservation. Afterwards they chat about the church, having both grown up in religious environments and strayed away them. Elani mentions her return and his it helps ground her. Simone ends off with her advice for driving & for life. *** Follow us on Instagram: @ntmypodcast Join the Suitland Parkway Trail Clean Up: SPTCU.eventbrite.com Next Volunteer Date: SEP 20 @ 11 AM Email ntmypodcast@gmail.com to join the Monthly Goals Club

Dennis Aldy preaches on the difference of living for yourself OR for God's Kingdom. If you have a question or topic you would like Turning Hearts to discuss, please email:info@thministry.com

Ever felt like someone twisted your words, changed the story, or made you question your own reality? You're not imagining it — you're experiencing manipulative distortion. In this episode, we break down: The psychology and science behind why people distort facts to control outcomes How manipulative distortion shows up in relationships, families, and even workplaces How to protect your mind from psychological warfare and maintain emotional clarity You'll walk away with:

You've got the dream—moving abroad, building a freedom-based business, living life on your terms—but somehow, you're still stuck. Why?In this episode, I dive deep into the real reason behind self-sabotage: your dominant Enneagram instinct.I break down the 3 core instincts that drive human behavior—Self-Preservation, Social, and Sexual (1-1)—and how each one can secretly block your progress, even when you're fully committed to your goals.Here's what I cover:How each instinct shows up in your business & abroad dreamsWhere your instinct is helping you—and where it's holding you backWhy “just one more plan” or “waiting for the spark” might be fear in disguiseHow to work with your instinct instead of letting it control youWhether you're a freedom-seeker, aspiring nomad, or purpose-driven entrepreneur—this is Enneagram 2.0-level self-awareness that will change the way you approach your goals.Want to explore our Freedom Life Programs?Hop on a call with Katti to explore our Freedom Life coaching programs. No matter when you're ready to start, we'll help you find the right fit. → Follow Move Abroad Coach on Instagram→ Follow Move Abroad Coach on FacebookLove this Episode? What to Listen to Next:#101  Enneagram & Moving Abroad: How Personality Shapes the Experience with Coach Lee Milligan#42 The 3 Types of Fears Keeping You From Moving Abroad#24 The Comfort Zone is Where Dreams Go to Die: How to Push Yourself Outside of What's Comfortable#14 My First Year Abroad Was a Total Disaster (Here are 5 Things I Did Wrong)

The panel discusses Apple's move to allow third-party AirDrop alternatives, raising questions about security and EU regulations. Concerns over webcam hacking and AI's disturbing behavior in simulations follow, along with a look at Meta and Oakley's AI smart glasses. Chuck Joiner, David Ginsburg, Web Bixby, Eric Bolden, Marty Jencius, Jim Rea, and Brian Flanigan-Arthurs share personal AI tool usage and question the real value of current wearable tech offerings.  MacVoices is supported by the new MacVoices Discord, our latest benefit for MacVoices Patrons. Sign up, get access, and jin the conversations at Patreon.com/macvoices. Show Notes: Chapters: 00:10 Introduction to MacVoices00:28 AirDrop Alternatives Discussion06:14 AI Self-Preservation Insights08:22 Meta's AI Smart Glasses Announcement13:33 Critique of Performance AI Glasses17:03 Personal AI Usage and Preferences20:00 ChatGPT and AI Comparisons21:33 Closing Thoughts and Connections Links: iOS 26 to let third-party apps build their own AirDrop alternative - 9to5Machttps://9to5mac.com/2025/06/20/ios-26-to-let-third-party-apps-build-their-own-airdrop-alternative/ Apple launches Back to School shopping promo: free AirPods and morehttps://9to5mac.com/2025/06/17/apple-launches-back-to-school-promo-free-airpods-and-more/ Security News This Week: Israel Says Iran Is Hacking Security Cameras for Spyinghttps://www.wired.com/story/israel-says-iran-is-hack-security-cameras-for-spying/ Top AI models will deceive, steal and blackmail, Anthropic findshttps://www.axios.com/2025/06/20/ai-models-deceive-steal-blackmail-anthropic Meta and Oakley announce new 'perfomance AI' smart glasses for athleteshttps://www.engadget.com/wearables/meta-and-oakley-announce-new-perfomance-ai-smart-glasses-for-athletes-140312796.html Guests: Web Bixby has been in the insurance business for 40 years and has been an Apple user for longer than that.You can catch up with him on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. Eric Bolden is into macOS, plants, sci-fi, food, and is a rural internet supporter. You can connect with him on Twitter, by email at embolden@mac.com, on Mastodon at @eabolden@techhub.social, on his blog, Trending At Work, and as co-host on The Vision ProFiles podcast. Brian Flanigan-Arthurs is an educator with a passion for providing results-driven, innovative learning strategies for all students, but particularly those who are at-risk. He is also a tech enthusiast who has a particular affinity for Apple since he first used the Apple IIGS as a student. You can contact Brian on twitter as @brian8944. He also recently opened a Mastodon account at @brian8944@mastodon.cloud. David Ginsburg is the host of the weekly podcast In Touch With iOS where he discusses all things iOS, iPhone, iPad, Apple TV, Apple Watch, and related technologies. He is an IT professional supporting Mac, iOS and Windows users. Visit his YouTube channel at https://youtube.com/daveg65 and find and follow him on Twitter @daveg65 and on Mastodon at @daveg65@mastodon.cloud. Dr. Marty Jencius has been an Associate Professor of Counseling at Kent State University since 2000. He has over 120 publications in books, chapters, journal articles, and others, along with 200 podcasts related to counseling, counselor education, and faculty life. His technology interest led him to develop the counseling profession ‘firsts,' including listservs, a web-based peer-reviewed journal, The Journal of Technology in Counseling, teaching and conferencing in virtual worlds as the founder of Counselor Education in Second Life, and podcast founder/producer of CounselorAudioSource.net and ThePodTalk.net. Currently, he produces a podcast about counseling and life questions, the Circular Firing Squad, and digital video interviews with legacies capturing the history of the counseling field. This is also co-host of The Vision ProFiles podcast. Generally, Marty is chasing the newest tech trends, which explains his interest in A.I. for teaching, research, and productivity. Marty is an active presenter and past president of the NorthEast Ohio Apple Corp (NEOAC). Jim Rea built his own computer from scratch in 1975, started programming in 1977, and has been an independent Mac developer continuously since 1984. He is the founder of ProVUE Development, and the author of Panorama X, ProVUE's ultra fast RAM based database software for the macOS platform. He's been a speaker at MacTech, MacWorld Expo and other industry conferences. Follow Jim at provue.com and via @provuejim@techhub.social on Mastodon. Support:      Become a MacVoices Patron on Patreon     http://patreon.com/macvoices      Enjoy this episode? 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The nine Enneagram types tell us a lot, but the Enneagram subtypes descriptions offer an even more nuanced view of the personality types, shedding light on our most unconscious level of functioning so we can become more self-aware. The Enneagram describes three centers of human intelligence—the head, heart, and body. Each triad then divides into three to create nine interconnected personality types. These types also each have their own triad—the third level of three—the 27 subtypes. Subtypes are based on whether a person has a predominant instinctual drive toward Self-Preservation, Social interaction in groups, or One-to-one bonding. In this one-hour event, Bea and Uranio will discuss the Enneagram subtypes—everything you wanted to know (but didn't know to ask) ahead of their 2023 series, ⁠Mastering the 27 Enneagram Subtypes for Maximum Growth⁠.By the way, you can watch and listen to most of our episodes now. To watch the recordings, check out our Spotify channel ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/7dmV26Kyx8lF1CojrMTOP6⁠ or YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/ChestnutPaesEnneagramAcademy.Videos are not currently supported on other major podcast media.If you want to discover which Enneagram Type you could be, visit our webpage ⁠cpenneagram.com/compass⁠ to learn about the Enneagram Test we just launched, the Chestnut Paes Sullivan Enneagram Compass.If you have enjoyed this podcast, please subscribe and share it with others that you think would enjoy it. It will help us out a lot!Check out ⁠https://cpenneagram.com⁠ to learn more about our online learning portal and try it out for free. Follow us on Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/cpenneagram/⁠ and join our Facebook group ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/2498155770431215/⁠ to share your perspectives and keep the discussion going! And check out our Calendar of Events ⁠https://cpenneagram.com/live-courses⁠ to study with Bea and Uranio directly! Questions? ⁠hello@cpenneagram.com⁠.

What if parenthood came with a delegation plan, a support team, and a mission statement? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Christine Landis—former CEO turned intentional parenting strategist and founder of Peacock Parent—to unpack how executive-level planning, outsourcing, and mindset shifts can radically reduce burnout and bring joy back to motherhood. We explore: The hidden mental load modern parents carry How to apply “time is money” thinking to family life Why delegating isn't selfish—it's self-preservation How Christine's new membership platform Proxy is helping busy families reclaim joy and rest Christine Landis is a former CEO who sold her global company and retired at 36. She now helps parents stop glorifying burnout and start parenting with presence, purpose, and peace through her revolutionary platform Proxy—a delegation toolkit designed for modern families.

Each of us is wired with a specific hierarchy of three core instinctual drives, shaping how we move through the world. The Instincts (sometimes referred to as Instinctual Variants) is part of the Enneagram framework and plays a powerful role in how our personalities form. One Instinct tends to dominate and demands most of our attention, a second supports it, while a third gets neglected and becomes a blind spot. In this episode, Michael, Hari, and Rasanath unpack the three Instincts—Sexual, Social, and Self-Preservation—and how they show up in our daily lives. They explore the energy behind each, how these Instincts function at their healthiest, and how they can create suffering. By understanding your “Instinctual Stack,” you can begin to shift from automatic patterns to conscious integration, creating space for real growth and movement toward the best version of yourself.Links Enneagram Certification Program (starts May 17th) Upbuild Coaching Certification Training (starts in October) Upbuild Website Instagram: @upbuildnycFacebook: UpbuildLinkedIn: Upbuild

Have you ever asked yourself: "I bring home the check, I do chores... why is my wife still overwhelmed and distant?" "What is this 'mental load' she talks about, and why don't I see it?" "How can I truly partner with her, instead of just 'helping'?" If you've ever caught yourself thinking, "But I am helping!" or "She's upset but I have no idea why," this episode will give you the X-ray vision you've been missing. Because what's wearing her out isn't always what's on your radar—it's the things you never even thought about. Here's the truth most men miss: providing financially is one form of leadership—but emotional labor is the currency she's drowning in. And if you don't see it, you're likely part of the reason she feels alone in the mission. This episode is your wake-up call. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: Invisible Labor vs. Physical Effort: Understand the critical difference. Physical labor is what you see (dishes, yardwork, laundry). Invisible labor is the mental burden she carries: managing the family calendar, remembering RSVPs, planning meals, tracking groceries, anticipating everyone's emotional needs. She's exhausted that she had to remember it in the first place, not just that you didn't do the thing. Why Your Wife Feels Like She's Doing It All (Even When You're Helping): Most men step in reactively, not proactively. When you wait to be told what to do, you're reinforcing her role as the default parent, default planner, default everything. If you've heard or sensed, "I feel like the only adult in this house," this is the root cause. How to Show Leadership at Home (Without Being Controlling): You're not a passive assistant; you're a co-leader. Leadership means taking initiative with empathy. Learn proactive phrases like, "What's something I can fully own without being asked?" or "I'll handle the kids' end-of-year school stuff." The 2-Minute Audit: How to Find What She Resents Without Asking Her Directly: Every week, take two minutes to ask yourself five key questions: What has she had to ask me more than once? What mental task have I seen her doing that I've never offered to take on? If I got sick for a week, what would stop? If she got sick for a week, what would collapse? What do I expect her to “just handle” because I'm used to it? Your attention to what she's carrying is the answer—and the invitation to step up. This episode will challenge you to redefine "helping" and step into true co-leadership at home. Here's what research and observation highlight about emotional labor in relationships: Studies show that women typically take on 60-80% of the invisible labor in households, leading to higher rates of burnout. Marriages where the emotional load is perceived as unequally distributed have a 45% higher risk of marital dissatisfaction. Couples who actively practice shared responsibility for planning and mental tasks report a 30% increase in relationship satisfaction and feelings of partnership.   www.thedadedge.com/friday212 www.thedadedge.com/mastermind  

When emotions run high in relationships, knowing how to self-soothe can make the difference between connection and disconnection. In this practical mini-episode, we explore a few way each instinctual variant, Self-Preservation, Social, and Sexual/One-to-One, approaches calming when feelings are intense. We also break down a bit further to designate heart types of each instinctual variant needing emotional safety, head types seeking mental clarity, and body types requiring physical grounding. In this mini-show, let Christa guide you to just a few ways you'll discover specific techniques that strengthen rather than strain your relationship so you can truly come back as healthily differentiated partners, rather than staying in the wounding together. For more relationship help or to sign up with an E + M Coach or affiliate, visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Visit our Instagram @enneagramandmarriage https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever asked yourself: "Why does my wife seem so distant, even when we're together?" "Am I feeling more like a roommate than a partner?" "What are the subtle signs our marriage is drifting, before it's too late?" If these questions echo in your mind, today's conversation is a powerful wake-up call to the silent killer of connection. Resentment isn't always loud screaming matches or slammed doors. It's the creeping silence, the growing disinterest, the widening emotional distance. It's when she starts emotionally withdrawing while still going through the motions of life with you.  Most men wait for a blow-up to take action, but by then, she might already be emotionally gone. This episode is about catching the drift long before the disconnect becomes irreversible. Become the best husband you can: https://bit.ly/deamarriageyoutube In this vital conversation, we dig into: The Unseen Buildup: Ignored Emotions, Mental Load, Unspoken Expectations. She's likely been signaling for months, maybe even years. You might have heard the words ("I'm tired," "You never ask me how I'm doing," "It's always me managing everything"), but you didn't feel their weight. She doesn't want you to solve her problems; she wants you to see her. The hidden trap: men often assume "no conflict = no problem," but most women emotionally disconnect long before they ever fight. How Emotional Debt Compounds in Marriage. Every unacknowledged frustration is like putting a charge on a credit card with no payment plan. Eventually, she hits her limit and withdraws love, affection, and energy—not out of spite, but self-preservation. This emotional debt often manifests as phrases like, "I always have to ask," "I can't count on him," or "He doesn't even notice anymore." Just like in finance, emotional debt isn't a crisis—until it is. What She Really Means When She Says, “I'm Fine.” This seemingly simple phrase is often code for, "I don't feel safe opening up to you right now." It signals, "You haven't earned the right to hear what's really going on." Most men take it literally, or defensively, rather than responding with curiosity and genuine inquiry. Here's what research and observation highlight about resentment and marital health: Studies show that consistent emotional invalidation is linked to a 30% increase in marital dissatisfaction over time. When a partner perceives an uneven distribution of the mental load, it can lead to a 40% higher likelihood of emotional withdrawal. Ignoring subtle relationship red flags for more than 6 months significantly decreases the chances of successful conflict resolution without intervention. www.thedadedge.com/friday211 www.thedadedge.com/alliance  

In This Episode:Are you under attack—or are you just not dealing with your flesh?This week, Jim, John, and Lonaiah break down the real difference between demonic influence and the works of the flesh. They talk about how demons often attach themselves to bitterness, rebellion, and trauma—but not every struggle is caused by a spirit. Sometimes, it's just the flesh, and it has to be crucified.They also share real stories from ministry and explain how the enemy uses unhealed wounds and fragmented identities to gain access, especially in people with a history of abuse or trauma.What We Cover:

Alencia Johnson (presidential adviser and cultural commentator) speaks with Michael Steele about how rest and self-preservation can be an act of resistance in today's political climate. Check out Alencia's book, "Flip the Tables: The Everyday Disruptor's Guide to Finding Courage and Making Change," here: https://www.amazon.com/Flip-Tables-Everyday-Disruptors-Finding/dp/1546007601

EPISODE DESCRIPTION:In this episode, I offer what might feel like slightly brutal truths if you're parenting a young person who struggles with substances and mental health challenges. I emphasize the importance of self-preservation for parents, noting that while you cannot force lasting change in your child or children, you can create the best conditions to foster it. I discuss the "self-preservation continuum" - the balance between being fully (overly) involved in your child's recovery and maintaining personal health and sanity. I also provide practical tools you can focus on when you have no idea what to do, and highlight the destructive impact of fear when it dominates. EPISODE RESOURCES:Hopestream episode 8: Don't Let Your Child's Addiction Kill Your Dreams and PassionsHopestream episode 58: Four Counterintuitive Things To Do When You're Overwhelmed By Your Child's Substance Use or Emotional ChallengesInsight Timer meditation: Your Special RoomThis podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream CommunityLearn about The Stream, our private online community for momsFind us on Instagram hereFind us on YouTube hereDownload a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and AlcoholHopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.

Karen Read's Behavior, Consciousness of Guilt or Self-Preservation FBI Profiler Weighs In What makes someone look guilty—even if they haven't confessed? In this psychological deep dive, former FBI profiler Robin Dreeke joins Tony Brueski to examine Karen Read's behavioral patterns during the ongoing trial into the death of John O'Keefe. Her shifting tone, open-ended confessions, and sometimes childlike emotional responses have drawn attention—and not in the way her defense team might have hoped. Could Read's emotional immaturity and inconsistent storytelling be the result of trauma? Or are they deliberate tactics designed to control public perception? We explore how her responses mirror what Dreeke calls the “wound collecting victim mentality,” and why that can become a psychological red flag for manipulation. Plus: an important new angle. The Lexus SUV she drove may have captured a critical moment—a reverse event timestamped to line up with O'Keefe's phone going silent. As new digital forensics come into play, the prosecution's case shifts from theory to data-driven timeline. This episode connects forensic science and human behavior to ask a simple but powerful question: when the machine and the body both speak—do they tell the same story? #KarenRead #JohnOKeefe #BehavioralProfiling #FBIAnalysis #LexusEventData #TrueCrimeCommunity #KarenReadDefense #SelfPreservation #CourtroomBehavior #ManslaughterTrial Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

Karen Read's Behavior, Consciousness of Guilt or Self-Preservation FBI Profiler Weighs In What makes someone look guilty—even if they haven't confessed? In this psychological deep dive, former FBI profiler Robin Dreeke joins Tony Brueski to examine Karen Read's behavioral patterns during the ongoing trial into the death of John O'Keefe. Her shifting tone, open-ended confessions, and sometimes childlike emotional responses have drawn attention—and not in the way her defense team might have hoped. Could Read's emotional immaturity and inconsistent storytelling be the result of trauma? Or are they deliberate tactics designed to control public perception? We explore how her responses mirror what Dreeke calls the “wound collecting victim mentality,” and why that can become a psychological red flag for manipulation. Plus: an important new angle. The Lexus SUV she drove may have captured a critical moment—a reverse event timestamped to line up with O'Keefe's phone going silent. As new digital forensics come into play, the prosecution's case shifts from theory to data-driven timeline. This episode connects forensic science and human behavior to ask a simple but powerful question: when the machine and the body both speak—do they tell the same story? #KarenRead #JohnOKeefe #BehavioralProfiling #FBIAnalysis #LexusEventData #TrueCrimeCommunity #KarenReadDefense #SelfPreservation #CourtroomBehavior #ManslaughterTrial  Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

This week we welcome the incredible Mary Marantz, an Enneagram 4 and author of the new book, Underestimated: The Surprisingly Simple Shift to Quit Playing Small, Name the Fear, and Move Forward Anyway. In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of understanding our Enneagram types and how they shape our narratives. Mary shares her personal journey of self-discovery, revealing how she once identified as a self-preserving 4 and the profound impact that realization had on her life. We explore the moments in our childhoods that made us feel different, the stories we tell ourselves, and how those narratives can either limit or liberate us. Mary opens up about her experiences growing up in rural West Virginia and how they influenced her drive for perfectionism and the need to be seen and valued. Here are some highlights you won't want to miss: The significance of recognizing our core longings and how they shape our identities. A candid discussion on the fears that hold us back, including perfectionism, people-pleasing, and imposter syndrome. Insights into how we can redefine what a "big life" means for us, moving beyond societal expectations. Mary's wisdom and vulnerability shine through as she encourages us to embrace our stories, both the beautiful and the painful. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand themselves better and to find the courage to move forward. Tune in now to hear this enlightening conversation and discover how you can start to shift your own narrative!  

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The 3 Big Questions We're Answering: 1. How can we navigate feelings of guilt and responsibility when a friend struggles with addiction or unhealthy behaviors? 2. What role does being present play in supporting friends who may need help, and how can we create a safe space for them to reach out? 3. How do we balance our own well-being with the desire to help others, especially when faced with difficult relationships? 

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The Mountain E11 — We've learned that mountains in the Hebrew Bible often become a space where Heaven and Earth overlap and human beings must choose between self-preservation or surrender and trust in God. The story builds our hope and expectation for a faithful intercessor on the mountain who can mediate God's blessings to the people below. As we turn to the New Testament, gospel writer Matthew is ready to spotlight who that faithful mountaintop intercessor is. In this episode, Jon and Tim walk through seven stories in the Gospel of Matthew where Jesus prays, teaches, does miracles, and more—all on mountains.View more resources on our website →Timestamps Chapter 1: Theme Recap and Overview of Matthew's Seven Mountains (0:00-17:42)Chapter 2: The Mountains of Testing and Teaching (17:42-29:44)Chapter 3: Two Mountains of Prayer and Feeding, Plus One of Transfiguration (29:44-42:15)Chapter 4: Mountains of Apocalypse and Commissioning (42:15-55:16)Official Episode TranscriptView this episode's official transcript.Referenced ResourcesJesus on the Mountain: A Study in Matthean Theology by Terence DonaldsonCheck out Tim's library here.You can experience our entire library of resources in the BibleProject app, available for Android and iOS.Show Music“Dreams Come True” by Drips Zacheer“Moonlite” by Nokiaa & Deauxnuts“Go Slow” by little blueBibleProject theme song by TENTSShow CreditsProduction of today's episode is by Lindsey Ponder, producer, and Cooper Peltz, managing producer. Tyler Bailey is our supervising engineer. Aaron Olsen edited today's episode and also provided the sound design and mix. JB Witty does our show notes, and Hannah Woo provides the annotations for our app. Our host and creative director is Jon Collins, and our lead scholar is Tim Mackie.Powered and distributed by Simplecast.