Become Your Own Therapist

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Losar, the Tibetan New Year, is a deeply significant celebration that also marks the beginning of the Fifteen Days of Miracles. This period commemorates the time when the Buddha, in an uncharacteristic display of power, performed a series of miracles to inspire and win over disciples. Venerable Robina Courtin shares personal stories about Lama Yeshe and Lama Zopa Rinpoche – helping us connect more deeply with their enduring, enlightened influence in our lives.

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It's a commonly held misconception that Buddhism and activism conflict. In fact, the logical consequence of spiritual practice is action for the sake of others; it just naturally follows.  But our actions – helping our next-door neighbour or helping stop the destruction of the planet – need to be grounded in wisdom. As the Dalai Lama says, "Compassion is not enough; we need wisdom."  In other words, we need to work on our own minds first. We need to recognize our own suffering and how it's caused by our own attachment and anger the other unhappy emotions. Taking responsibility for these and wanting to change, based upon having compassion for ourselves, is what causes us to go beyond the narrow sense of self and realize we're all in the same boat.  This brings optimism and confidence that every small action counts and we develop the courage to never give up. The great bodhisattvas are fierce in their determination to never give up on sentient beings: they "think in terms of eons," as His Holiness the Dalai Lama says. Tibet House, Sep 3, 2025.

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Venerable Robina discusses the three poisons - attachment, aversion, and ignorance. Attachment is a junkie that only wants everything to be nice, it's this fragile child in us, that can only handle everything going nicely, and when we understand this, we will totally understand trauma. What arises when attachment doesn't get what it wants, that's called aversion, and it's the interplay of these two that is the source of the problem. Trauma is an undealt with problem. From the Buddhist view of the mind, there's not a single thing we ever experience that ever goes astray, everything stays in the mind. It goes into the memory but we bury it, at some point you can't live in denial, it's going to come up at some point. When it's an intense thing, especially violence, then you suppress it, you push it away, you don't want to look at it, so it goes in there, and that is what a trauma is. We don't have the means to deal with dramas, we don't have the analysis, we get guilty, we think it's all our fault, we push it away and we don't deal with it, we don't know how to deal with it, we haven't been taught. Our tragedy in our culture, we wait until serious things happen, until we're having a mental breakdown or panic attacks. We don't have methods for dealing with our mind, our attitude, or our interpretation of the event. The trauma is your own mind, the event is the external, we don't know how to interpret our mind, which is the response to the event, and that's the skill we have to learn! Questions about - past abuse and current relationships, the death of a best friend, terminal illness, letting go and advocacy, specific practices or teachings most useful for dealing with abuse, dissolving anger by understanding and accepting karma, trauma and grief, and how useful is it to go back into past experience and how do you think about them without wallowing? Vajrayana Institute, Sydney, 26th April 2025.

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You've got to know the reasons for something. If you can't identify the problem, then you can't identify the cause of it, how can you ever find the solution? Once you understand the cause of it, it's clear. The quality called enthusiasm or enthusiastic perseverance, or joyful effort, is the fourth of the six perfections on the bodhisattva path of the Lamrim. They all say that it's the most important. Each of the perfections is more difficult than the last. The first four of the six perfections are generosity, morality, patience, and enthusiastic perseverance. They seem these fairly disconnected concepts but there's a lot of logic to them. The fourth one is the most important on the entire path, because if we don't have enthusiasm, if you don't make effort, if you're effort isn't joyful, if you don't have perseverance - they all come to the same thing, you won't be successful. You could have wisdom coming out your ears, you could even have incredible compassion, but if you don't have enthusiasm, if you don't have this perseverance, this not giving up attitude, then you will not be successful. When you hear about enthusiasm, it sounds lovely, but we have no idea how to get it, it doesn't tell us anything. We've got to analyse it, and it's really so clear when you do. The opposite of enthusiasm is called laziness, and there are three levels. The second one is what we call procrastination, where we put things off. Let's analyse them, then there's no confusion any longer, and we know the solution. The first one is I can't be bothered. We know that, we are so intimately familiar with that. They are talking very specifically in relation to dharma practice, not in terms of going to the gym every day or washing the dishes. In fact doing samsaric activities with enthusiasm is a type of laziness, but we're not discussing that here. I'm going to use analogies and examples in ordinary examples because we really understand them, but it's specifically referring to enthusiasm for practice. The very first point, and it's really helpful to hear this, the lamas all say, and it's so logical, the only way you will ever have enthusiasm to do something, therefore not be lazy, is when you know the benefits of something. So if we look at samsara, nobody has to convince us of the benefits of sleep, nobody convinces us of the benefits of our best coffee, or getting what attachment wants, or all the things we know that preoccupy our lives. We know when we know the benefits of whatever it is, we will do it, because we can see the result. Even just getting that ice cream you like, you don't care if you go to six different shops, you're prepared to persevere to do it. That's what's difficult, it's easy to see the benefit of going to the gym, it's easy to see the benefit of nice food, comfort, people smiling at you, and all those kinds of things, in other words attachment getting what it wants. But it's very hard to be enthusiastic about the long term result, which means to become a Buddha. In fact it's so abstract, so long distance, even if we see His Holiness, see Lama Zopa, as crystal clear examples of the benefit of this goal, it's still very hard because it's so distant for us. But we have to think about it. So what laziness is, the first one is I can't be bothered. Ask yourself the question - What can't you be bothered doing? Well it's really obvious, the thing you can't be bothered doing, is the thing that you can't do, that you're not capable of, and that's why it's difficult, because you're not good at it. So you go to the gym, you are initially enthusiastic, you think about it, you get ready, you go to the gym, you've got the goal in mind, and this is the point - you know necessarily it takes effort, but look what happens the moment it becomes difficult, that's the second that attachment isn't getting what it wants. It's attachment to comfort, not to sex, not to drugs, maybe to being seen as a nice person, but the primordial attachment here is the grossest one of all, it's attachment to our comfort zone, feeling comfortable. If you understand this, it's a revelation. So of course anything you can't do properly demands effort, so there's got to be that point at which you go beyond that bit of pain, you stretch yourself to that next little step, and if you don't do that you will never change. If you go to the gym and the moment it starts to hurt, meaning the moment your attachment is not happy, and you stop and say I just did the gym - no you didn't! Because we know you've got to go beyond that point, and it's got to hurt. In other words, you've got to go beyond attachment, and that we do not want to do, it is primordially painful to do what attachment doesn't want. Vajrayana Institute, Sydney, 22nd June 2025.

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Discussion with Vincent Moore - Aug 12, 2025 We talked about opinions and the impact of negative thoughts, prison chaplaincy and the doors that open when you adjust your attitude, activism and changing the world by exploring your self, the need to abstain in order to perceive the nature of your attachments, and the importance of recognizing your enormous potential.

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We explore why suffering is baked into samsara, the hidden cost of attachment, and how the Four Noble Truths can become a living, breathing guide. Ven. Robina Courtin discusses "The Drawbacks of Samsara". We dive into the nature of suffering in Samsara, the subtle role of attachment, and the practical meaning of the Four Noble Truths. Robina speaks to the balance between devotion and clear-eyed reasoning, showing how both can deepen and stabilize our practice. Our conversation explores the six realms of existence, the workings of karma, and how understanding the nature of Samsara inspires personal responsibility for our inner life. Throughout, she returns to one essential truth: the quality of our thoughts and intentions shapes the quality of our lives.

This session with Ven. Robina follows on to explore attachment in more detail, as well as renunciation, dependent arising and having an open heart. She says, attachment is very primordial and can manifest as as possessiveness, manipulation, controlling, expectations, addictions. We need to start to work with attachment and aversion by controlling our body, speech and mind. "Attachment doesn't like when we see our own crazy mind. We need to learn to counteract that, and be glad to see our crazy minds. And learn to live wiht it and be kind to ourselves about it. Rather than wishing it would go away, because that is naive." Q&A at Namche Bazaar – Attachment (Part 2) – Renunciation, dependent arising and having an open heart. Lawudo Trek | March 26, 2019 | Namche Bazaar, Solu Khumbu

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In this Q&A session at the end of one of the hardest sections of the trek, Ven. Robina discusses the different between pleasure and happiness. She speaks about how we can be more flexible with physical difficulty or outer challenges and how we can train and strengthen the mind through practice. Lawudo Trek | March 25, 2019 | Namche Bazaar, Solu Khumbu

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Venerable Robina answers questions from students and part of a teaching on purification and emptiness, one afternoon during the Lawudo Trek in Nepal. Questions - about karma and rebirth, can an animal be born as human, the Manjushri mantra, and is a guru-disciple relationship relevant in the modern world?  Lawudo Trek, Nepal, 28th March 2019.

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