Become Your Own Therapist

All sentient beings are caught in the trap of suffering in the realms of existence. Bodhichitta is a mind that wishes to free beings from suffering and bring them to the state of enlightenment. A bodhisattva is a person who has that bodhichitta mind, is a practitioner of the enlightenment thought which is the aspiration to achieve complete enlightenment as a perfect Buddha for the benefit of oneself and all other sentient beings. Love and compassion are the forces that motivate all activities of Bodhisattvas. Love is a strong wish that aspires to attain happiness for all sentient beings and compassion is the state of mind that wishes each being to be freed from all sufferings or sorrows, great compassion is the root wisdom. These next three weeks we're going to be talking about compassion. We've got the wisdom wing and the compassion wing. It's a wonderful analogy, it works brilliantly, it covers all the Buddha's teachings, and it's also very personal. The point of the entire path is to become this Buddha. So what is a Buddha? Buddha is a person who has completely rid their mind of all the rubbish, all the fears, all the dramas, all the suffering, which we all have got so much of. And they've only got what's left, which is this incredible wisdom, clarity, power, confidence, compassion and empathy. The Buddha's whole point, from the big picture point of view, is that's the nature, the potential of every one of us. It's quite an outrageous idea really! It sounds mystical. But this is one of the things that can really help us when we're having problems and dramas, when we're overwhelmed by the negativity, just to try and remember that we've got this marvellous potential. This negativity is true, it's right now, but it's not intrinsic to us. This is something that can be very powerful for our mind. The compassion wing, of this bird that needs two wings, is this enormous empathy with others, this connection with others, the seeing of others suffering, and this wish that they be happy which is love, and the wish they don't suffer and that's compassion. But that's contingent upon the wisdom wing. If you're overwhelmed by your own pain and suffering, you can't think of anybody else. It's not possible, your own suffering is so enormous. This is why we should have compassion for ourselves for a start. But certainly have compassion for others. It's obvious that to prepare yourself to be able to benefit others, you've got to know how to benefit yourself. It's really logical. We have enormously big hearts, we think what can I do to help, but we don't actually have methods to know that first I've got to put myself together. If you want to help other people with their problems, you can have incredible compassion for them, but what good is that compassion if you don't know how to help them. That's the wisdom wing. If you want to help other people with their problems, you've got to know your own. You've got to help yourself first, and that qualifies you to then help others. That's the logic of the whole path. So what's this wisdom? Learning about your own mind, and the way your mind works, the way the delusions work, the way we create karma. This qualifies us to help put ourselves together, then it qualifies us to go - oh my god, look at all this, everybody is in the same boat. We're all suffering. Questions include - how can we know that everybody wants to be happy, understanding that others want to be happy but some people don't deserve to be happy, is pity a low form of compassion or is it a sophisticated way of self cherishing, how to deal with bullying, how to transform aggression towards ourself and others into compassion, how can we overcome feeling overwhelmed by seeing all the suffering around, and only with shamatha and vipasana meditation can we find answers to all the questions? Centrul Budist White Mahakala, Romania, 1st September 2021. YouTube

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Start the day with your mind pointed in positive direction.

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Venerable Robina gives a teaching on Attachment & Emptiness during the Lawudo Trek in Nepal. One way of presenting these levels of practice which are expressed in this packaging of Tsongkhapa's called the Lamrim, this gradual path, this course, that you graduate from as a Buddha, is in terms of understanding attachment. This is massive for the Buddha, way bigger than we can think because it's assuming even the way the world is, how we're born, the kind of bodies we have, it's got a much bigger framework than we can think of. So effectively the actual delusion that's the source of all suffering is this thing called ego grasping that the realisation of emptiness cuts, and all the teachings lead to that. But effectively in daily life we can say attachment is the main problem. This bottomless pit of dissatisfaction, the neediness, that causes the anger and aversion then causes all the other things, which cause us to harm others, which causes suffering rebirths, and so on. When we understand attachment is the main problem, then junior school is learning to control the servants of the attachment, which is the body and speech obviously. We're so caught up in our own world, in the modern world I'm this body, we so utterly identify with the body, “we make the body the boss” as Lama Yeshe says, totally completely absorbed in the body. This is me! If we do say words about my mind, we point to the brain. We learned that, we haven't experienced the truth of it, we've never studied the brain, most of us, we just believe what we're told. We think we're so intelligent, that we're scientific, it's just nonsense. Most of us haven't really studied math, science, botany, all the things some people have, we just say it's true because we believe it. We think we're scientific, no we haven't studied it. We totally identify with this body, the body is massive, the senses run the show and they're the servants of attachment, that's it. So obviously the first job, because attachment is so primordial, you've got to start controlling the servants of the attachment, which is the body and speech, which is our behaviour. Do what your grandma says - behave nicely, don't harm others. This is fundamental. By controlling the body and speech, the servants of attachment, you're naturally subduing attachment, it's very evident. Now you're really qualified to go to high school and get to the root of the problem, and begin to understand and unpack all the delusions, in particular attachment. You become your own therapist, this genius person, who can unpack and unravel the mind to this unbelievable degree, including getting this incredible concentration, inconceivable, unheard of in our modern psychology. It's just seen as religion, we throw it away as some kind of rubbish. We have no idea how astonishing it is, how sophisticated, how brilliant, and anyone if they worked hard could do it. It's all there, coming from these amazing Hindus thousands of years ago before the Buddha, these geniuses who mapped the mind internally. It's so mind-blowing. By this point you've got renunciation, you're incredible, which means two parts - one you know what suffering is and you're sick of it, and two bullseye you know the causes, karma and delusions, as Lama Zopa says “you've got renunciation when just the thought of another moment of attachment is so disgusting, it's like being in a septic tank”. That's way to go, that's pretty profound. How would you be so far - radiant, joyful, content, fulfilled, happy, you'd be an incredible human being by now. Lawudo Trek, Nepal, 31st March 2019. YouTube

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If we realised impermanence, realised the reality and integrated it into our mind, that impermanence is just the way things are, and we will die, your life is transformed, because you don't waste your life when you realise it's impermanent. Death is definite but the time of death is not certain. Venerable Robina discusses Lama Zopa Rinpoche's book - ‘How To Face Death Without Fear' and explains the steps of the death process. Questions about - the concept that there's no time to waste and the Pali term Saṃvega, the stages of death, what stage does chanting mantras matters, should the three days after death be at home, what happens when you die suddenly with cardiac arrest, pulling the hair at the crown when someone dies, is there a test to perform after death to know if the consciousness has left the body, when someone is dying but is on a lot of pain medication, and voluntary assisted dying? Vajrayana Institute, Sydney, 25th May 2025. https://youtu.be/IsHYAlGmsxg

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Most people don't like to think about death. Death is a really crucial thing to understand, because according to the Buddha our mind will continue to another life and we've got a long term goal of Buddhahood, which indeed could take us countless lifetimes, so you've got to have a very serious long term plan. Death is an extremely important stage in this development. As Lama Zopa Rinpoche says - actually if you want to help anybody in this life, the time they need you most, is at the time of death. There are two approaches to preparing for death. One is to live your life well, so that when death comes you are ready for it and relaxed. The second one is what to do during the months, weeks, days, and hours before death; at the time the breath stops, and three days after that. Why is it so important to help a person die well? Because at the time of death, the karmic seed planted in the mind of that person, that will determine their next life, is triggered as the death process starts. The crucial piece, and without this we won't be able to be ready for death, no matter how many people are helping us, the crucial one is how to live our lives. To see death in the framework of how to live your life, and that means we have to understand Buddha's views about karma, ethics, and the mind. Buddha's first teaching is about impermanence, that everything changes. We are impermanent. We have this very powerful deep view that clings to ourselves and things as unchanging. Intellectually we know it's not true, but if we look into our incredible fear of change, it's pretty evident. Atisha in his Lamrim text tells us that we need to realise impermanence, particularly the impermanence of death, his agenda is to give us a wake up call to not want to waste our lives, Death is definite, the time of death is uncertain, and at the time of death what is important - virtuous karmic seeds in our mind being triggered. That's the basis for good ethics in Buddhism.   The point of ethics is because that's what produces you. You are the beneficiary of your good ethics. You receive the results of your negative and positive actions. It's a natural law. It's best to think - I will die today, because we live in fear of death, we live in denial of it. You want to think about how death will come, so you don't waste this life. What does it mean not to waste this life - it's completely rooted in the view of karma and ethics, that you want to put as many positive seeds into your mind, because you're going to be living another life and you better prepare for it baby! Venerable Robina mentions Lama Zopa Rinpoche's book - ‘How to Face Death without Fear'. Questions about - what is nirvana, what is the fear of death, what hope do we have to realise emptiness, what is defined as the time of death, control over when you die, what determines when death comes, and prayers and practices? Tibet House US, New York, 30th April 2025. https://youtu.be/Rg1TYQIpIpM  

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Purification Practice The Four Rs: Regret, Reliance, Remedy, Resolve Image: Buddha Vajrasattva in the aspect of Lama Yeshe from the Vajrasattva Gompa at Tushita Meditation Centre in Dharamsala.

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Venerable Robina will unpack what it means to “stay steady.” We are usually worried about what will happen or what won't happen. A thousand times a day tiny things happen to bother us. Attachment energy is unleashed, anxiety arises, and we usually go to someone else to help us feel better. Ven. Robina will discuss methods, simple and profound, to become our own mother, friend, and therapist. A Q&A session is promised.  The main source of suffering in this life is attachment. The vast majority of all humans on the planet have absolutely no idea that what goes on in their mind plays any role at all in their lives - when it comes to happiness and suffering. Buddha has found from his own experience that we can our mind utterly of the neuroses. If you can change the outside, please change it, but what if you can't then what? Change your mind! When there is no fear, there is no suffering. We can mould our mind into any shape we like. We have to notice the thoughts before they become emotional, then we can argue with them, then we can stay steady in the face of problems. Questions about - being influenced by others views, the recipe for enlightenment, how to identify a delusion, what does 'servants of the mind' mean, and what is the antidote for angry thoughts? Tse Chen Ling, San Francisco, 15th April 2025. YouTube

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Start the day with your mind pointed in positive direction.

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Women of Wisdom series. According to Buddha, attachment – clinging, grasping, craving – is effectively the main source of our suffering in day-to-day life. Big surprise! We usually confuse it with love, which is necessarily altruistic, and is the source of our own happiness and the capacity to help others. Buddha's view of the mind describes two distinct categories of states of mind: the deluded, disturbing ones – such as attachment, anger, low self-esteem and the rest – and the virtuous, spacious ones – such as love, compassion, patience, and so on. ​ A key function of attachment and the other delusions, and the main reason they cause suffering, is that not only do they cause us pain but they actually cause the things, the events, the people out there to appear back to us, as Lama Zopa puts it, in a distorted way. Attachment causes things to look more delicious than they really are, anger causes things to appear more ugly than they really are. And the problem is we totally believe these appearances. This is what keeps us stuck in our misery. As we learn to doubt the way things appear to us, we are beginning to loosen the grip of ego-grasping, the root delusion, which misrepresents the very nature of self and everything else.  Tse Chen Ling, San Francisco, Thursday 27th March 2025. YouTube

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We spend our lives being seduced by the outside world, believing completely that happiness and suffering come from “out there.” But “everything we experience is our own karmic appearance,” says Lama Zopa Rinpoche. “Everything is made up by our own minds.” By understanding emptiness — that everything occurs in dependence upon causes and conditions (in other words, karma) and that, crucially, there's nothing intrinsic in anything that makes it what it is — we can slowly loosen the grip of ego-grasping and begin to develop our marvelous potential for clarity, contentment, love, and the other qualities that Lord Buddha says are innate within us.

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In this short but powerful practice we apply the for opponent powers to purify our negative Karma. First, we take refuge, we rely on our trustworthy teacher, the Buddha, and the path he showed us. Then we regret all our negative actions, which only create obstacles on our path. And next we apply the remedy, in this practice it is the recitation of the Vajrasattva Mantra. To conclude, we apply the power of restraint; we make a pledge to do our best not to do these negative actions again.

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Venerable Robina will give us the essence of the tantric path of practice, echoing Lama Yeshe's teachings as discussed in Introduction to Tantra. She will keep her teachings practical and immediately applicable.

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Ven Robina leads a Medicine Buddha practice for the mother of one of the participants who had died that night. She introduces the visualization and mantra, and the benefits of this practice for those who are sick and dying. Lawudo Trek | March 22, 2019 | Monjo, Solu Khumbu https://www.lawudo-trek.org

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Venerable Robina will give us the essence of the tantric path of practice, echoing Lama Yeshe's teachings as discussed in Introduction to Tantra. She will keep her teachings practical and immediately applicable.

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