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2 episodes with kind people
2 episodes with kind people
2 episodes with kind people
2 episodes with kind people
We're very fortunate to have so many legends in the FRD Brotherhood, and today's guest, Dr. Kelly Flanagan, is definitely one of them. Kelly is a psychologist, consultant, speaker, and author of several books that profoundly transformed my views on marriage, family, relationships, and friendship. In our conversation, we talked about how easy it is for couples to get triggered by seemingly minor things. Even after decades of expertise in understanding the human psyche, he still deals with this in his relationship. You'll hear how he's become aware of when his heart is closing and how the key to managing marital conflict is to keep your heart open. You'll also hear what Dr. Kelly is doing with his Humaning Substack and how you can join 14,000 other subscribers. He's using his platform to share inspiring stories of how we can improve our reaction to stress and crisis by not fighting against the current but instead being present enough to find the updraft as an easier way to reach our destination. One last thing, if you appreciate this episode, I'm offering to send you a copy of any of Dr. Kelly's books. Simply leave a review, take a screenshot and send it to us with your address to support@frontrowdads.com and I will gladly purchase the book and send it to you. (This offer is for US residents only due to international shipping costs). A Wide-Ranging Conversation Through… Own your emotional baggage before you share it with others Dr. Kelly's superpower Love is always about opening up What to do when you notice your heart's closing Being open-hearted is just as important as hitting the gym Love is not a solo journey Join Dr. Kelly's Humaning community What separates the FRD brothers from other men To understand love, embrace pain and suffering Get the Full Show Notes Want access to the full show notes, including links to all resources mentioned during today's conversation? Visit FrontRowDads.com/441 More About Front Row Dads Connect with us @ FrontRowDads.com & Instagram Want to hang out with other FRDs in Austin? Watch this 3-min video from our last Front Row Dads Live event. Tickets avail now for December's event. Not able to travel? We got you. Join our next online event, built just for kickass dads who know there's more to learn. FrontRowDads.com/summit FRD is solving a huge problem for dads. Our culture has turned “Dad” into a joke. Go ahead, google Dad and you'll find Dad Bod, Dad Jokes, Dad Weed, etc. Culturally, it's a Homer Simpson mentality, and it's BS. Our community is built for solid men. Men with range. Those who are badass, and know there's still more to learn, together. Most guys find it hard to find “their crew.” Finding other committed men, who are successful in life, and want to put family first – these guys are rare. Is this you? In FRD, hundreds of men from all over the world show up for each other, to share resources and raise the bar of fatherhood (our core values) If you're reading this, you want to grow. Podcasts are great, but guys… when you're ready to stop just listening to content, and want to JOIN the conversations – the FRD brotherhood is ready for you. One more thing… Has this podcast helped you? If so, please tell us how we're doing. Please take a minute and leave a review. Seriously, they matter. Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. Subscribe to this show on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify
The Be Kind People Project exists to instill core values and behaviors such as kindness in children and adults alike through storytelling, dance, positive role models and a whole lot of entertainment!
This episode has been published and can be heard everywhere your podcast is available. Book a One on One coaching session HERE Home of the NARC App (Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Community) NARC App - https://www.rawmotivations.com/narcapp 7 Day Challenge -https://www.rawmotivations.com/escape-toxicity 45 Day Clarity Challenge - https://www.rawmotivations.com/clarity-challenge Want to help support this podcast? https://anchor.fm/rawmotivations/support Listen to the wife's perspective on our new podcast Trauma, Drama & Life: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-drama-life/id1639753152 https://www.rawmotivations.com/ Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That's me - Ben Taylor a a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook. Also I try to help people with or abused by narcissism. Please reach out to me if you are a: Victim of Narcissistic Abuse -Helping provide closure, reduce guilt and break free from the trauma bond that toxic people imprison you in. Narcissist -I understand you better than you probably understand yourself because I have been there, I am there and I am fighting daily for a better life. You can do that too. If you are interested in talking with me one on one grab a time with the link below. Schedule a Call From Fantasy to Reality: A Journal for after the Toxic Relationship Grab yours HERE. Platforms I am on: TikTok (71k followers) - https://www.tiktok.com/@raw_motivations Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/rawmotivations Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Raw-Motivations-105074738842639/ Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/rawmotivations/ Rumble - https://rumble.com/c/c-2492510 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/rawmotivations?sub_confirmation=1 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rawmotivations/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rawmotivations/support
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5 Keys to Find The Love of Your Life. A Guide for Kind People. In this Tutorial. I share with you, the lessons I learned over the last 35 years of study, hardship and pain. I hope they help you create the life you have always wanted. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thehappyearthling/message
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Seth Joseph, Director of Philanthropy, Susquehanna Valley United Way, and Danielle Velkoff, Director of Marketing & Communications, on this year's Be Kind campaign. We talk about why kindness has to be brought up and talked about each year, their bold goal for more involvement, the activities, the fun signs, incentives, nominating people and events associated with ‘Be Kind.' www.svuw.org and https://svuw.org/bekind
Leah Herman is a triple certified coach, New York trained actor, and solo mom who focuses on simplifying relationships, decisions, and healthy, productive boundaries for her clients -- with themselves, their intimates, their family, friends, and coworkers, and the folks they meet throughout their day. Less suffering. More ease, and peace. Deepening capacity for joy. Her clients live in the US, Canada, and Eastern and Western Europe, and include parents, caretakers, and new college grads; performers and artists; business owners and organizational leaders; and kind people in search of healthier boundaries. You can contact Leah through leahhermancoaching.com, or follow her on IG @leahanneherman or FB @leahanneherman. Leah loves meeting people, and would love to meet you.
Empathy is wonderful but misunderstood. And because it is misunderstood, it is often misused, which can be very inneffective when it comes to speaking up. In this episode, you'll discover: ✔️3 Things People Get Wrong About Empathy And The Right Way To Think about Empathy When You Speak Up ✔️Top 5 Mistakes That Kind People Make With Empathy and What To Do Instead Other Episodes You'll Like: How To Receive Feedback Gracefully (And What Not To Do): https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/how-to-receive-feedback-gracefully-and-what-not-to-do 10 Steps To Be Both Assertive And Likable When You Speak Up: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/10-steps-to-be-both-assertive-and-likable-when-you-speak-up Important Assertiveness Skills You Need At Your Job Level: https://speakyourmindnow.libsyn.com/042-assertiveness-skills-you-need-at-your-job-level Free Resources: Ask me your question for the next episode here: https://www.speakpipe.com/speakyourmindquestion Sign up for 10 Day free Assertive And Liked Challenge: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/beassertiveandliked Free resources: https://assertiveway.com/free/ Assertiveness free training: https://assertiveway.aweb.page/getahead Assertive Communication Newsletter: https://assertiveway.com/newsletter Talk or Workshop on Speaking Up With Assertive Communication Podcast page: https://assertiveway.com/podcast-speak-your-mind-unapologetically/ Contact me info@assertiveway.com Or via Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ivna-curi-mba-67083b2/ About Assertive Way: Website: https://assertiveway.com Rate the podcast on apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/speak-your-mind-unapologetically-podcast/id1623647915
When Bad Gut Feelings About Kind People Turn Out To Be True...
With me today is Damian Kimmelman, Co-founder of https://batelle.com/ (Batelle.com), https://www.rho.co/ (Rho.co) and Founders Pledge. Batelle trains parents how to put their children to bed in under 5 minutes and sleep through the night within 2 weeks, guaranteed... Hear more from him on: 1) Decision Making in Startups Driving to Consensus Versus Driving a Strategy Perfect Decisions at the expense of Clear, Consistent Decisions Frameworks for Decision Making 2) Information Theory - Lean into Subjectivity The Shared Language of Decision Making Default to “I am Probably Wrong” What Actually Matters in a Startup Navigating Culture across different types of hires 3) Diversity and the Value of Heterodox Opinions What ACTUALLY matters in the startup journey Long term Value Creation Consistency in Leadership Messaging to Company 4)The Founder Journey What's Misunderstood in the Founder Journey? Navigating the Complexity of Dealing with people at scale The Best Founders Know Their Scent True Impact - Upstream Interventions Why You Should Surround Yourself with Kind People Book recommendations: Decoding Reality - by Vlatko Vedral The Science of Can and Can't - by Chiara Marletto Find out more at KindredCapital.VC/FoundersUncut This podcast was produced by Fascinate Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Can you really say no and still be a kind person? Yes, you can. In this episode, your host, Kay Coughlin, explains why we confuse these two behaviors and how you can say no and still be kind if you want to. Read the full transcript of this episode here: facilitatoronfire.net/episode79 Find the monthly membership for family caregivers here: facilitatoronfire.net/membership/ Join the free Boundaries Community here: facilitatoronfire.net/boundaries/. This Community is open to everybody - you don't have to be a family caregiver to join! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/kay-coughlin/message
If you've hung around these parts for a while, you'll know that one of the cornerstones of my philosophy is that you can deliver damn-near any sort of information (no matter how difficult) to another person as long as you handle yourself with grace and kindness. I talk much about speaking up for yourself, saying “no”, establishing boundaries and kicking people-pleasing to the curb. But, are there ever any instances when people-pleasing may actually save your ass? Yes, actually there are. Believe it or not, there are a handful of instances when speaking up for yourself is actually not the best tactic. Whaaaaa!? I know. It seems like that couldn't possibly be the case, but just like all things in personal development, there are often no absolutes. And what about those instances when grace and kindness don't work? What if you've been boundary-ing your ass off to no avail? What if you reeeeeally want to just lose your shit on someone? Like, really just let them have it. Perhaps your ex… Maybe a dead-beat parent… Is there ever a time when speaking from anger is justified? Or the best choice even? One listener wrote to the show with this exact quandary so in this episode I share tips on *not* speaking up for yourself, kicking politeness to the curb, and what to do when grace and kindness just don't work. This pod explores: How to know if you've really given “grace + kindness” the good college try The number one priority you need to evaluate when deciding if you should speak up or not The three scenarios you likely want to avoid where speaking up may get you in deep shit My personal story of dealing with a family member who outright ignored my boundary… and what I did about it ______ HIRE ME TO SPEAK AT YOUR EVENT! ACCESS ‘ENOUGHNESS'. POWERFULLY NAVIGATE FEAR. SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF. I have three battle-tested (and badass) keynote speeches that are ready to be delivered to your company, organization, group, or association. If you or anyone you know could benefit from me droppin' some gems (um, like, who couldn't use some new tools?) please send them to THIS FANCY INFO PAGE on my site where you/they can message me directly about specific needs. ______ PERKS FOR THE POD-IENCE This podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp and The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast listeners get 10% off their first month at betterhelp.com/boldtruth or simply enter code boldtruth at checkout. Hello!! Join the millions of people who have found huge relief and support from BetterHelp therapists and save on your first month while you're at it! Check it out ~> ______ ADDITIONAL RESOURCES: POD #449 [Dial An Expert] Healthy Boundaries for Kind People with Randy Buckley POD #372: Primitive Fear To Modern Anxiety: Understanding The Four Modern Fear Responses POD #447: [Amy Says] Boundary Deep Dive, Part 1 POD #448: [Amy Says] Boundary Deep Dive, Part 2 ______ HOW TO LEAVE APPLE PODCASTS REVIEWS: Click the “Subscribe on Apple Podcasts” button below or go HERE Click on blue button that reads “view in Apple Podcasts” which will open the podcast into your personal Apple Podcasts account Click “Ratings & Reviews” under the show title Click the star rating of choice and then click the “Write a Review” button You can also click “Subscribe” under the podcast photo to be automatically notified of new episodes ______ WANT TO SUBMIT A SHOW TOPIC? Swing by THIS PAGE and let us hear what you would like us to sound off on!
CyprusScene review by Margaret Sheard on the progress of her medical treatment for cancer and also wishing a big thank you to all those lovely people who have donated to her medical fund ....Click here https://gofund.me/113a98a4 This episode is also available as a blog post: https://cyprusscene.com/2022/05/29/thank-you-kind-people-for-helping-me-and-i-still-need-more-help/ Don't forget to select FOLLOW on our channel listing to hear more news and reviews from Northern Cyprus CyprusScene Podcasts can be found on the following apps Anchor, Google Podcasts, Spotify, RadioPublic, PocketCasts, Breaker, Castbox, Apple Itunes
CyprusScene review from Margaret Sheard who wishes to say thank you to all those kind people who have donated to her health care fund...Click here https://gofund.me/113a98a4 This episode is also available as a blog post: https://cyprusscene.com/2022/06/08/thank-you-kind-people-for-helping-me-fight-my-cancer-in-the-trnc/ Don't forget to select FOLLOW on our channel listing to hear more news and reviews from Northern Cyprus CyprusScene Podcasts can be found on the following apps Anchor, Google Podcasts, Spotify, RadioPublic, PocketCasts, Breaker, Castbox, Apple Itunes
This week, Rev. Terry Dunn preaches a wonderful message on kindness. The scripture readings are Luke 10:25-37 and Matthew 10:40-42.
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I wish I got taught at school the science behind kindness! Enjoy some stories and learn why kindness is so important.2112 gratitudes in the 1% GOOD Club this week and 22 new members :)DM @thegoodhumanfactory on Instagram “I wanna join the club” to join the 1% GOOD Clubhttps://www.instagram.com/thegoodhumanfactory/?hl=enAssets-Jay Shetty - Think like a monkhttps://thinklikeamonkbook.com/The Good Human Factory - Enquire about a workshophttps://www.thegoodhumanfactory.com/pages/workshopsFollow Good Humans Podcasthttps://www.instagram.com/goodhumanspodcast/?hl=enWellbeing Network 2022. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
I wish I got taught at school the science behind kindness! Enjoy some stories and learn why kindness is so important.2112 gratitudes in the 1% GOOD Club this week and 22 new members :)DM @thegoodhumanfactory on Instagram “I wanna join the club” to join the 1% GOOD Clubhttps://www.instagram.com/thegoodhumanfactory/?hl=enAssets-Jay Shetty - Think like a monkhttps://thinklikeamonkbook.com/The Good Human Factory - Enquire about a workshophttps://www.thegoodhumanfactory.com/pages/workshopsFollow Good Humans Podcasthttps://www.instagram.com/goodhumanspodcast/?hl=enWellbeing Network 2022. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I wish I got taught at school the science behind kindness! Enjoy some stories and learn why kindness is so important.2112 gratitudes in the 1% GOOD Club this week and 22 new members :)DM @thegoodhumanfactory on Instagram “I wanna join the club” to join the 1% GOOD Clubhttps://www.instagram.com/thegoodhumanfactory/?hl=enAssets-Jay Shetty - Think like a monkhttps://thinklikeamonkbook.com/The Good Human Factory - Enquire about a workshophttps://www.thegoodhumanfactory.com/pages/workshopsFollow Good Humans Podcasthttps://www.instagram.com/goodhumanspodcast/?hl=enWellbeing Network 2022. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Influential is probably not a word you use to describe yourself if you are the quiet/smart/kind type of person. Furthermore, you probably have misconceptions about what it even means to have influence. Zoe Chance believes intelligent and caring people are precisely those who should learn how to harness their influence and then use it for bigger, more socially important issues. And she practices what she preaches! Zoe is donating half of the profits from her new book to fight the climate crisis. “Influence Is Your Superpower: The Science of Winning Hearts, Sparking Change, and Making Good Things Happen” is the fantastic new book that Zoe has written. On this episode of Behavioral Grooves, we delve into Zoe's clever way of framing system 1 and system 2 thinking, how being influential isn't as hard as it appears, and about what she likes to call The Magic Question! As a professor at the Yale School of Management, Zoe studies and teaches influence, focusing on research-based strategies to create positive impact in people's lives. She teaches the most popular course at the Business School, called “Mastering Influence and Persuasion” which is affectionately known on campus as the "Doing Uncomfortable Things That Make You a Better Person” course! Topics (3:04) Welcome and speed round. (7:20) The Gator Brain vs The Judge Brain. (13:10) Charisma isn't something you are, it's something you do. (17:57) When are people open to being influenced by us? (21:00) What is The Magic Question? (26:04) How Zoe is using her influence. (28:57) How does Zoe teach her students about their influence? (36:04) How global warming got reframed into the climate crisis. (40:05) Reframing the replication crisis. (44:07) How Zoe uses music to create an inclusive, influential atmosphere. (49:37) Grooving session recapping how we can use Zoe's insights to wield our superpower of influence! Do you know you have the power to influence other podcast listeners! If you enjoy Behavioral Grooves podcast, please leave us a quick review on your podcast platform. It really helps other listeners to find our content. You can also become a mega-fan by contributing to Behavioral Grooves through Patreon. Thanks! © 2022 Behavioral Grooves Links “Influence Is Your Superpower: The Science of Winning Hearts, Sparking Change, and Making Good Things Happen” by Zoe Chance: https://amzn.to/3EYKXOz Zoe Chance: zoechance.com Kopi Luwak coffee: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kopi_luwak Black Ivory coffee: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_Ivory_Coffee Brit Marling (The OA): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brit_Marling Eldar Shafir: https://psych.princeton.edu/person/eldar-shafir “The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism” by Olivia Fox Chance: https://amzn.to/3HE93jp Paisley Park: https://www.paisleypark.com/ 350.org: https://350.org/ Jia Jong 100 Days of Rejection Challenge: https://www.rejectiontherapy.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy Frank Luntz: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frank_Luntz Brazilian billionaire Chiquinho Scarpa burying his Bentley: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R8GvaEPyX9Y&ab_channel=LeoBurnettTailorMadeBrazil Musical Links Prince “I Wanna Be Your Lover”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rp8WL621uGM Rasputin by Boney M: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=16y1AkoZkmQ&ab_channel=BoneyMVEVO Bella Ciao from Money Heist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46cXFUzR9XM&ab_channel=NetflixIndia
Denise is known for her ability to help women charge premium prices, release fear and blocks around money and create first-class lives.I was lucky enough to meet Denise in-person at a retreat a few years ago and I loved her take on dropping the need to "hustle."If you've struggled charging a price that would allow you to be profitable, or get stuck in feeling like "being nice and pricing" are somehow related, you NEED to tune in to this episode!Discover more about Denise Duffield-ThomasWebsite: https://www.denisedt.comFacebook: https://facebook.com/denisedt Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/denisedtBio: Denise Duffield-Thomas is the money mentor for the new wave of online entrepreneurs who want to make money and change the world. She helps women charge premium prices, release the fear of money and create First Class lives. She's a lazy introvert, a Hay House author and an unbusy mother of 3. She owns a rose farm and lives by the beach in sunny Australia.Resources shared in this episode:Her books https://www.denisedt.com/books Lucky Bitch, Get Rich, Chillpreneur Money Bootcamp Course- https://www.denisedt.com/bootcamp Sacred Money Archetypes Kendall Summerhawk - https://sacredmoneyarchetypes.com/Money Archetypes -https://s.denisedt.com/smaquizMarie Folio - https://www.marieforleo.comRandi Buckley - Boundaries for Kind People - https://www.randibuckley.com/healthy-boundaries-for-kind-peopleLeoni Dawson - https://leoniedawson.com/
Our show this weekend is called Be Kind People. It's the time of the year when donations are made to charitable organizations and this group whose mission is to help educate kids from grades 3-8th grade is very important in today's world. Donate if you can: https://lnkd.in/g_ekQzb3 We have a great mix of rockers on this weeks show with The Delevantes from Nashville, Stupidity, Boston, and the Carpenters all making their debut on our show!Featured artist is Sticky with Commander Cody and his Lost Planet Airmen and The Marvelettes and Bonnie Raitt are knockouts in the Deuces are Wilder covers segment.Baby Ruth is producing from a moving van and says count on the show airing between 2:00 and 3:00 Eastern!Shout outs to Carmelo from Stow It on the birth of his new daughter! Alameda Self Storage from New Mexico and to Baja Bob on his just posted conversation with Harry at RadioWilderLive.com #donate #bekind Harry and the Wilder Crew!
Ever herd the term "Nice Guy?" It's not a kind term. But Nice Guys (or Nice Gals or Nice Folx, because it's NOT a gender issue, really) are not really kind.
Muhammad, peace be upon him, married Khadijah. This is Day 40 out of 365 days of stories of the greatest man in the world, our beloved Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him. A sincere rendition of the book '365 days with the Prophet Muhammad' written by Nurdan Damla (Timas Kids publication, April 2019), read by Sister Rahimah from Singapore.
Lately we've been hearing about bad behavior on airplanes. Here we discuss an incident in which a passenger unselfconsiously stepped up at an inconvenient time to assist a group of passengers in a tough spot. Saul and Stefan reflect on the qualities of people who go through life making the world a better place in small ways. As millions travel during Thanksgiving, we thought this episode (originally released last year) might inspire those flying the not-always friendly skies.
Many underwater achievers are walking around with a micromanager in their brains all day. Like a little drill sergeant with a checklist and a whistle. Gotta do this. Gotta do that. Joyful balanced leaders don't have that. They're focused, calmly and joyfully on what's in front of them — whether that's their work, their family,...
Dr. Dave Candy talks with Tony Maritato, owner of Total Therapy Solutions and creator of the ~6,000 member Facebook group, "Total Knee Replacement Support Group for KIND People". You'll Learn: - How to decide if you need a total knee replacement (Hint: It's not your x-rays)- What to do when preparing for a total knee replacement- Planning, planning, planning- Building your care team- Tips to maximize your recovery as quickly as possible- Why 20% of people are unsatisfied with the outcome of their total knee replacement- What to do if you're still having problems longer than 6-12 months after having a knee replacement-----------------Learn more from Tony Maritato: - Total Knee Replacement Support Group for KIND People! https://www.facebook.com/groups/totalkneereplacements- Total Therapy Solutions YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/TotalTherapySolution- Tony's Clinic Website: https://totaltherapysolutions.com/- Books mentioned on the podcast: - Tiny Habits: https://amzn.to/3ChUXBG - Atomic Habits: https://amzn.to/3kgN89fGet Your Free Knee Replacement Guide: https://m4lpt.com/knee-arthritis-replacement/#book------------------------------------Like this episode? Subscribe to our podcast to get notified of future episodes.Contact Dr. Dave Candy at dave@STLpainexpert.com or call/text 314-941-3970Get a copy of Dr. Candy's Book, "Chronic Pain, You're Not Just Getting Older, You're Not Crazy, and It's Not All In Your Head - Learn The Secrets To Get Relief" at:https://m4lpt.com/book
Emma Winnitoy, girlfriend of Mitchell Stephens, who plays for the Detroit Red Wings in the NHL, joins Brittany and I on the podcast today. Emma and Brittany go all the way back to to when they were kids because their brothers played hockey together. Being from the same city, they would occasionally chat but it became full circle when their significant others both signed in Tampa Bay and they won a Stanley Cup together. In this episode, we hear about how Emma + Mitchell met, long distance + the NHL bubble and their day with the Stanley Cup. However, the underlying theme was....friendships. One of our favorite topics to discuss. We have all experienced "being the new kid" and talk about how it has shaped how we approach newcomers now. Emma is such a sweetheart and the ideal friend you want in this hockey world. This is one of my fav epis, so enjoy! Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/breakingtheice www.instagram.com/emmawinnitoy www.instagram.com/britttanyenglish Get 10% off your first month of BetterHelp: www.betterhelp.com/breakingtheice
In this episode, I share the findings of an interesting research on kindness named “Generosity Pays: Selfish People Have Fewer Children and Earn Less Money” by Kimo Eriksson, Irina Vartanova, Pontus Strimling, and Brent Simpson (2020). Hope you'll enjoy listening!
Money scares many people. But it doesn't scare Ean Price Murphy. She doesn't want business owners to have to worry about their “crazy” finances anymore! People who are nervous or confused about money work with Ean to become confident, comfortable and knowledgeable around money. She wasn't born a bookkeeper. She learned it slowly. Ean graduated with a Liberal Arts degree, so it wasn't until her 20s that she started becoming educated about money. She says: “After all, it's just another language, and with a little guidance, you'll be fluent” Can runs Moxie Bookkeeping and is a Profit First professional. If you're wondering what is profit first then listen in. Ean describes profit first as “a way of handling your business income in order to make sure you're actually earning a good living from your business or freelance work. And if you're not there yet, it is a really impactful way of working your way towards that good living in the most effective way.” You can find San and Moxie here: Website: www.Moxiebookkeepingandcoaching.com Facebook: PF for Creatives: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1040071306370464/ https://www.facebook.com/MoxieBooks/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moxiebookkeeping/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eanpricemurphy/ My guess is you are listening to these podcasts because ..... My guess is that you are here because you are a business owner and what you really want - is to build and grow a successful business - whatever that means to you. We know that business owners want to feel more confident when it comes to the money side of business. Take Your Business Financial Health Check click here Having a successful business might mean making business decisions with reliable information - facts & data as well as your "gut feel." … ultimately you want to do what you do best AND have a successful business AND make a difference. I'm here to help you. Everything I do in my business, every decision I make is based on this question: Will this make a difference? Will this help you, my listener - will this help you to build your business? will this help you to create your successful, viable and robust business so you can achieve Financial Independence? This is why I do what I do There are 2 ways you can access all my best material: I regularly run webinars on a range of money related topics: Managing Cash Flow so you never run out of money Understanding where your money goes - getting those expenses sorted out Understanding the Profit First book Pricing - getting it right for your studio The things you need to know before signing a commercial lease How to make more money ... and many other topics If you'd like the replay of any of these recent webinars, please email me ingrid@healthynumbers.com.au and put "Replay" in the subject and let me know which one you'd like to watch. I'll send you the link to the replay AND Read my book! It is a Business 101 and can answer pretty much all your business questions. This book is designed to help you build your business - whether you are starting from scratch and creating something new or you have been in business for a couple of years and want to build from your foundations. The book is your step by step guide to building a business smarter and faster. "So You Want to Start a Business" Order your copy now from Booktopia, Amazon or Book Depository It's so exciting to be sharing it with you. If you prefer the kindle Head straight to Amazon Happy reading! Truly, I'm keen to hear how you go with this activity. Please let me know - send me an email ingrid@healthynumbers.com.au I answer all my own emails
Why are good people not vegan? Many people show tremendous empathy and compassion; they love animals; they deeply care about the planet; they perform selfless acts for others; and yet, they continue to support a system of routine abuse and cruelty. Animal law attorney and former Director of the iconic Vegan Action certification—David Blatte—wrote a book to explain this extreme juxtaposition and how to overcome it. Titled “The Vegan Imperative,” Blatte walks us through the psychological and societal factors of why people eat animals. He also dives into some of his high-profile legal cases, such as banning foie gras in California. This conversation will definitely leave you marinating in thought. What we discuss in this episode: - What it's like to be vegan in the 90s. - How to effectively advocate - Why good people continue to eat meat - Levels of compassion - Making the legal case against foie gras and other animal rights cases - The Vegan Action certification - David's book, The Vegan Imperative - How to Win Friends and Influence People - Diet for a Small Planet Connect with Switch4Good - YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ2toqAmlQpwR1HDF_KKfGg - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Switch4Good/ - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/switch4good/ - Twitter - https://twitter.com/Switch4GoodOrg - Website - https://switch4good.org/
Have you ever felt like you're alone in doing something? And you feel like you're the only one who understands? Well thanks to some of your guy's confessions and ours we aren't alone in this weird world. Let us know if you guys relate to any of these weird habits or traits! You can do that by emailing us: stayinappropriate@gmail.com Also you can DM us on Insta! @thegoodthebadtheinappropriate Give our sponsors a follow on Instagram! @shop_boys_performance @thelashbar.tf P.S. Shoutout to all the kind people out there making yours and our lives easier! Go and treat yo self today! ;) --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/stayinappropriate/support
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Clare Gallie, CEO of Lewis-Manning Hospice Care, talks about the joys and challenges of working in the fundraising sector and reveals the wisdom she's learned from the dying. Show notes: 4:47 - From chemistry to fundraising 7:30 - Support for careers in charities and fundraising 9:42 - Differences between leading a normal organisation vs. charity 12:59 - The challenges of leading in an emotionally-charged environment 17:29 - Dealing with being challenged as transformational CEO 19:33 - Self-development 21:17 - Effects of the pandemic on the care sector and fundraising 28:16 - Hardest thing about working in hospice care... 30:04 - ...and the most enjoyable thing 32:26 - Lessons learned from being in the presence of the dying 35:58 - Where do you find your inspiration? 37:29 - The effect of ambition and work on personal life 39:06 - How do you rejuvenate? 40:31 - Dealing with disappointment and being let down 41:41 - Personal definition of success
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Most of us cringe at the thought of setting a boundary—especially with those who are closest to us. We often hesitate to put boundaries into place because we think it will damage the relationship, make someone angry, or simply make our lives more complicated. Truthfully, it can also be really hard to do. Some of us even worry that we won’t be loved if we put boundaries in place. But what if you can’t have the love you want without them? The truth is that if we don’t honor our boundaries, no one else will either. There can be a lot at stake when we finally give voice to our boundaries. So how do you get started with setting boundaries that you know you need? Today’s guest has a very unique approach to boundary work that will help you rethink what it means to set a boundary. Please welcome Randi Buckley to the show. Randi is a leadership mentor, author, podcaster, and the creator of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, The Deep, and Maybe Baby. Randi offers a different way of thinking for something more inspiring and refreshing with an unpretentious twist. Randi works with wildly intelligent individuals and organizations and is a curator of context, nuance, and discernment. Listen to the full episode to hear: The difference between nice and kind Why people pleasing undermines boundaries—and the toll that carrying the emotional weight of others places on us Why creating boundaries makes space for healthier, more loving relationships How pushback on our boundaries gives us information which helps inform our choices Learn more about Randi Buckley: Randibuckley.com Healthy Boundaries for Kind People Follow Randi on Instagram Follow Randi on Facebook Learn more about Sami: eatfor.life Book Your Complimentary Consultation
This is an update for all the lovely kind people who’ve been writing to me to ask me how I am. As of today, I think I’m actually properly better. I do not know what was wrong with me. It may have been COVID-19. I wouldn’t know. The NHS refused to give me a test! Ridiculous! In any case. I seem to be 100% back to normal, as normal as I ever was! Thank you to everyone for their lovely kind messages which made me feel better as well too.
This is an update for all the lovely kind people who’ve been writing to me to ask me how I am. As of today, I think I’m actually properly better. I do not know what was wrong with me. It may have been COVID-19. I wouldn’t know. The NHS refused to give me a test! Ridiculous! In any case. I seem to be 100% back to normal, as normal as I ever was! Thank you to everyone for their lovely kind messages which made me feel better as well too.
When I asked my guest for this episode what his word of the day was, he said ‘sensational’ – and you could feel the positive energy flowing through the room! Ben Lucas started his career in the NRL playing for the Cronulla Sharks before moving into the fitness industry. He ran three of Australia’s most successful personal training studios, but sold them in 2012 to start a new venture with yoga trainer Kate Kendall – Flow Athletic. More of a community than just a gym, Flow Athletic offers a unique combination of strength, cardio and yoga, and won the Telstra Start-Up of the Year in 2015. Ben is dedicated to his business and works long hours, but he is also very mindful of being present as a father to his two young children. Tune in to hear us talk about Flow’s 24-hour online pivot at the beginning of the pandemic lockdown, why he has no patience for people who want to pick his brain, and how he achieved his goal of running forty marathons before his fortieth birthday. Follow the Influence Unlocked podcast on Instagram@ https://www.instagram.com/influenceunlockedpodcast/ Follow Samatha Dybac on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samanthadybac/ Check out the Influence Unlocked podcast videos on YouTube here: https://bit.ly/3fq8dJ5 Producer: Andrew Menczel http://www.piccolopodcasts.com.au/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Good Morning America!!! We are back with another exciting quickcast!!! This is our weekly podcast about all things entertainment. This is our warm up show for Thursday when we take a deep dive into movies, music and everything Dropped Culture! This week Dan and Brock talk about getting old, Mel Gibson, and Washington Virginia! We bring the goods straight to you earholes! We had a lot of fun on this one so sit back and enjoy the ride! We did! And remember loyal listeners we are always available on the socials at dropped culture on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. We are transitioning from our old Netscape Navigator email and if you want to drop us a line at droppedculturepodcast@gmail.com or hit us up on the World Wide Web at www.droppedculture.com for all your podcast needs!Brought to you byM'Taint© Breath SprayHoley Smokes Amarillo "Where Food is an Event!"Feathers Beads @feathersbeadsllc.com "One of a Kind Gifts for those One of a Kind People!"
There are numerous definitions of boundaries. One of them is that boundaries serve as expectation management. At its core, it’s quite simple: boundaries create an expectation for what I can expect from you and, conversely, what you can expect from me. Healthy boundaries create healthy expectations and are truly essential for any kind of relationship—but people with high functioning anxiety really struggle with setting them for a number of reasons. They think that people won’t like them. There might be conflict. It might mean they hurt someone’s feelings. Ouch. But when setting boundaries, any of the above can happen—but it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t follow through. In fact, boundaries are one way we can be both clear and kind with others. If that feels counterintuitive to you, I recommend giving this episode a listen. Today, I’m discussing the importance of boundaries with Randi Buckley. Randi is a leadership mentor, author, and podcaster who offers a different way of thinking for something more. She is also the creator of the group- and self-led programs, Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, The Deep, and Maybe Baby. and works with wildly intelligent individuals and organizations, and is a curator of context, nuance, and discernment. Listen to the full episode to hear: Why using mind reading to keep the peace often leads to bigger blow-ups What it means to carry the emotional weight for other people, how we naturally do it, and, more importantly, how to stop How the break down of setting boundaries is more than just saying no The difference between people-pleasing and kindness (and why one undermines boundaries while the other does not) Learn more about Randi: randibuckley.com Sideways Truth Podcast Instagram: @randi.buckley Learn more about Nancy: Coach in Your Pocket The Happier Approach Book Live Happier Website --- Helping people with High Functioning Anxiety is a personal mission for me. I have a special place in my heart for this struggle because it’s both something I dealt with unknowingly for years, and because it silently affects so many people who think this is just how it is. Working with me this way is an incredibly efficient and effective way to deal with your anxiety in the moment--without waiting for your next appointment. I have been doing this work for over 20 years and Coach in Your Pocket is the most effective and most life-changing work I have ever done. My clients are consistently blown away by how these daily check-ins combined with the monthly face-to-face video meetings create slow, lasting changes that reprogram their High Functioning Anxiety tendencies over time. Over the course of the three-month program, we meet once a month for a face-to-face session via a secure video chat, and then throughout the entire three months, you have access to me anytime you are feeling anxious, having a Monger attack, celebrating a win, or just need to check-in, and I will respond to you during my office hours (Monday through Friday, 9 am - 6 pm EST). Ready to get started? Email me: nancyjane@live-happier.com and we’ll set up a free 30-minute consultation to see if this process is a good fit for you
BizNews — In the second part of the entrepreneurial masterclass with Allon Raiz, the founder of Raizcorp looks at some of the core competencies he sees as 'must haves' for entrepreneurs and singles out that kind, smart and flexible people usually get further. He has also found that people with 'father issues' - as he calls them - are more successful because of the constant need to prove themselves. Women he said are equal, if not better entrepreneurs than men as child rearing means they know how to delegate. - Linda van Tilburg
BizNews — In the second part of the entrepreneurial masterclass with Allon Raiz, the founder of Raizcorp looks at some of the core competencies he sees as 'must haves' for entrepreneurs and singles out that kind, smart and flexible people usually get further. He has also found that people with 'father issues' - as he calls them - are more successful because of the constant need to prove themselves. Women he said are equal, if not better entrepreneurs than men as child rearing means they know how to delegate. - Linda van Tilburg
Let's spread some good vibes and positivity during this COVID-19 Pandemic! Avery and Brynn share a few random acts of kindness that they have experienced while traveling. They describe some small gestures and some more general kindnesses that they have each experienced. Let's all spread positivity and stay uplifted during these uncertain times! Share your random acts of kindness on our social media, @travelbugpodcast on Instagram and Travel Bug Podcast on Facebook.
In the 'Make it Happen' studio, Ali Meehan is joined by Marléne Rose Shaw - a therapist and self-help author. We talk about 'How Kind People Get Tough' and Marléne gives tips for people experiencing lockdown due to the Coronavirus, especially when in an enclosed environment and provides some rules to navigate your relationships, create boundaries and be assertive with your space. Marléne says "'How Kind People Get Tough' is based on many years helping people gain confidence and have better relationships. Many of my clients over the years have told me that they want to be more assertive but they worry that it will make them mean or cause conflict or that they’ll be rejected.That’s become my main focus now: teaching people how to be assertive and have more secure and happier relationships. It's all about communication skills, and boundaries letting go of limiting beliefs and overwhelming emotions.I wanted to take all this from beyond the therapy room and reach more peopleI truly believe that when we set better boundaries and communicate well, we encourage others to do the same, and they encourage others to do the same, so the whole world becomes a happier and more secure place. It’s like a ripple effect."To find out more about the book go to www.howkindpeople.comAnd join costawomen.com - a free community for women living in, or thinking about moving to SpainSupport the show (https://costawomen.com/help/contact)
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The Hermit's Lamp Podcast - A place for witches, hermits, mystics, healers, and seekers
It seems like there is no shortage of challenge these days. In this episode Andrew, Theresa and Shaheen talk about how to keep going when the going gets tough. Sharing both personal stories and tools as well as things they have learned from their work as card readers. To sign up for the Patreon to get access to the bonus recordings for each episode. You can do so here. Think about how much you've enjoyed the podcast and how many episodes you listened to, and consider if it is time to support the Patreon If you want more of this in your life you can subscribe by RSS , iTunes, Stitcher, or email. Shaheen lives here online and here on Facebook. Teresa is here online and here on Facebook. Andrew is here. Thanks for joining the conversation. Please share the podcast to help us grow and change the world. ~Andrew Transcript Andrew McGregor: Welcome to another episode of The Hermits Lamp Podcast. I am here today with Shaheen Miro and Theresa Reed, aka The Tarot Lady. I've known Theresa for years. She's been on the podcast before. You should certainly go back and find those episodes. I will link to them in show notes. Theresa is a fantastic astrologer, a tremendous business person, and a wonderful card reader. Andrew McGregor: I've known Shaheen a little less time. We had the pleasure to meet at Readers Studio, big conference in New York, a couple of years ago. They really are a delightful, kind, mystic, and insightful human beings. This episode came about because the two of them put out a book called Tarot For Troubled Times. And those of you who listen know that I don't really do book or deck reviews or these kinds of things. Andrew McGregor: But also, life's been hard for a lot of people over the last while; financially, economically, socially, there's a lot of difficult stuff going on in the world. It really occurred to me that chatting with these to find people would be a wonderful way to maybe talk about how do we deal with that stuff. Because life is not always easy. So, for people who don't know who you are, Shaheen, maybe you want to just give us a quick introduction. Shaheen Miro: Yeah. I'm Shaheen Miro, and I am an intuitive reader. I'm the coauthor of Tarot for Troubled Times, and I'm also the creator of the Lunar Nomad Oracle. I just do lots of magical stuff all over the internet and the world. So, that's me. Andrew McGregor: Awesome. Theresa? Theresa Reed: My name is Theresa Reed, and like Andrew said, I'm known as The Tarot Lady. I've been a full-time Tarot reader for about 30 years, which seems like a lifetime. I am the author of The Tarot Coloring Book and Astrology For Real Life, and the coauthor of Tarot for Troubled Times with the beautiful Shaheen Miro. Andrew McGregor: Excellent. So, I guess this question for me is, really, what do you do when life is difficult? I go on social media, and some days it's depressing, some days it's absolutely uplifting and wonderful. You read the news, and we've got climate change, we've got all sorts of political unrest. At the time of the recording of this, we have the Corona Virus that's kicking around making everybody afraid. There's a lot of stuff that can really drag us down and is genuinely concerning, or is worthy of some level of concern. Andrew McGregor: But also, we still got to get up. I still got to get up and get my kids to school. I still got to show up and work on my accounting for my business. I still got to hang out with the person I'm dating and be present. So, where do you start if stuff's dragging you down and trying to move beyond that? Shaheen Miro: I think you start right where you are. That's the biggest thing. I was talking with some clients yesterday, and I think there is this idea that life is supposed to be easy if you're doing things correctly. I just feel like that is such a toxic mindset, and I feel like it keeps us from moving into this present moment. I know that that sounds really, I don't know, cliché, to be present and be here now, but I think it's so true with everything that's happening in the world. Because otherwise, you just become overwhelmed by literally everything because there's something happening on all fronts. Theresa Reed: I agree with the being present thing because it's so often when life gets hard, what do we want to do? We want to numb out. We don't want to be there. We want to maybe zone out in front of the TV, or turn to drugs or alcohol, or retail therapy. That's so common. We become obsessed with the past or obsessed with the future. And the present moment is really ultimately, as real as it sounds, the only thing that matters when life is tough. You have got to be where are you are, and then you also have to make yourself care the priority. Shaheen Miro: Yeah. Something that I have been reminding myself of lately... And I started thinking about this because of this book I read. It's called something like Get Shit Done by a woman named Sarah Knight. She talks about your to-do list and your must-do list. One of the things that she talks about in there is how we all have things that have to get done on a daily basis. Shaheen Miro: And so, I think about that with this idea of being present. It's like if you're present, then you might have one or two things that you have to face, accomplish, digest right now. But if you start getting stuck in the past or thinking about the future too much, then you become really attached to so many things that it's like your energy just gets zapped. I think that's such a... it's just such a common thing. We are taught to be in all those different places all at one time in our society. I think that's why we're all going crazy. I shouldn't say that word, but... Andrew McGregor: Yeah, I think that being really clear about what actually needs doing is super important. Because depending on what we're talking about being difficult, sometimes only time's going to make it better. In as much as it gets better, some things need other things to change or we don't have control of. Andrew McGregor: I remember when... probably 10 years ago now, two of my brothers passed away within six weeks of each other. It was rough. But one of the things that really moved forward for me was... going and getting therapy and getting attention on it, absolutely. But that's the longterm process. The short term stuff was I had a six-month old kid, and I had a two-and-a-half year old, and I had a dog at the time. It was like, all right, dogs got to be walked, kid needs to do the thing. Got it. Andrew McGregor: As much as it sucked and I wanted to do nothing, I didn't really have that opportunity. In looking at my journey through it... And you can't compare yourself and other people because there are lots of factors. But looking at my journey through it and the journey of people who had a lot of free time on their hands or it didn't have a lot of structure, those people seemed to suffer longer, suffer more deeply, have more difficulty moving past it. Andrew McGregor: I think that the idea of sitting in stuff is really not helpful. We can feel like, "Are we processing? Are we doing work on it? Whatever." But one of the things I often say to people is, I'm like, "If there's not an event on your calendar that you're working on a thing, then you're probably not really working on it that much." That might just be like, "I'm going to go and journal with the cards. That might be therapy, it might be whatever." But if you're just around and ruminating, it's not necessarily moving anywhere with things. Again, depending on what we're talking about. Theresa Reed: Well, the one thing I would add to that is when the world is really taking a shit, when there's something bad going on, like an election you don't like, or like the virus spreading or anything really hard, the one thing I always remind people... And I remind my kids this all the time too, because my kids are very political, of course, as young millennials there... that life goes on. The most horrible things are always happening in the world. It's not like it's just now. There's always some horrible things happening in the world, but people still... at the end of the day, they rebuild. They go down and get coffee, they get their kids to school. Theresa Reed: Ultimately, we're all still doing the day-to-day things. Even when horrible things are going on, life does go on. And so, we have to put things in perspective because it's so often we can really feel like down and out, especially when bad things are happening in the world. And the world always goes on. Theresa Reed: One of the things I always say to my daughter is, because she's a worrier and she'll say stuff like, "Well, what if we have a nuclear war?" And I'm like, "Well, if we do, the world will still go on. Nature will still go on." Nature is amazing. So, we have to really be, not just in the present moment but not thinking that everything is ending right now. If the stock market crashes or if something happens, life will always go on. Life has always gone on with horrible Wars and terrible things happening in the world. So, we do have to remember that. Shaheen Miro: I think that really gets to the heart of this idea that troubled times or difficult situations is... I don't want to... It's weird to say, but they're not necessarily bad. It's just part of the process. I think that we have, again, this idea that things should be easy, and flowing, and moving. I think that that's part of our society. We've really been inundated by this idea that we can curate our lives in a way that everything is just happy and wonderful. And if it's not, then something is wrong. Shaheen Miro: I think that actually gets into how we, as magical people, practice. Because I think a lot of times when you're a person who does spell work, or if you're a person who does Tarot, or works with crystals, you think, "Well, I need to be doing all of these different things to be combating what's happening in the world, or to be making my life better. Shaheen Miro: And sometimes it really is as simple as just sitting, meditating. My mantra for this year is surrender. That's my word. Just surrendering, surrendering to what's happening, surrendering to what I'm feeling, and even surrendering to what I'm not capable of doing. Some of that has looked like me simplifying my practice. So, rather than doing elaborate spells or ceremonies, it's just lighting a white candle and just being with that. Or instead of having all my millions of crystals everywhere, it's like I just have these simple prayer beads that I'm carrying with me. Shaheen Miro: I think that's just as powerful and effective as anything else that could be complex or elaborate. I think sometimes we need that when the world is feeling crazy, or when it's feeling just... like it's weighing on you. Theresa Reed: Simplified. Andrew McGregor: I have a question for you. A couple of times you've brought up this idea of not everything can be easy or maybe even good, whatever that means, positive, as we desire. But that that doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong. I'm wondering, how do you know? How do you differentiate between there being something wrong versus the stress intention of just living in the world at times, that we just have to abide. Shaheen Miro: I think it comes down to how you use that information. I think that... Again, going back to what Theresa is talking about, how a lot of times we want to numb out when we're experiencing something difficult. I think in Tarot for Troubled Times, we talk about this, how our difficult experiences are trying to give us insight about who we are, or what's happening inside of us or around us. Shaheen Miro: I think that rather than looking at that as good or bad, you can say, "Okay, well this is difficult, or this doesn't feel good." But how are you using that information? How is that moving you forward? Just like pain in your body. Not that illness or pain is a good thing, but it's letting you know that something needs to be acknowledged and addressed. And so, in that way, it is a positive. Shaheen Miro: And so, I really think that's what it comes down to. How are you using that information? Think about it in regards to working with someone in a Tarot session or in a reading, every piece of information isn't going to be positive and uplifting. But if you present it in a way and if you hold space for that person in a way that they can use that to move forward, then it does become something positive. Theresa Reed: Well, and the other thing too that we have to remember is oftentimes what we really want to do is hold on to all the good stuff. We'll hold on to that. We get very, very hung up on that. I tend to be very neutral. There's that old fable where the king is given the ring that says, 'This too shall pass,' and that's how he finds joy. If we are present with whatever is and not getting attached to the great things or the bad things in our life, and being more neutral in the face of both, I think that often does really lead to a lot more contentment no matter what's going on in your life or in the world. Shaheen Miro: I agree with that. Theresa Reed: Don't get me wrong, I like to hang on to good thing, so this is a practice of mine. But I'm always trying to like not go like, "Oh, my God, I just wish things were like blah, blah, blah." I still have moments where I get really angry. You guys saw me earlier. I have my moments where I get mad, I get perturbed. And then I catch myself, I recenter myself, and I'm like, "Okay, how can I just be present? How can I be neutral right now? What can I do in this situation? Is it a situation where I can turn things around? Do I need to ask for help?" Theresa Reed: Sometimes there's [inaudible 00:15:19] where people are... they're in a situation that's very difficult that you can't just wish it away either, or people who are in really deeply oppressed situations. Finding a way to ask for help is sometimes the biggest thing that you can do. Shaheen Miro: I think that is such a powerful thing, asking for help. And for me, that's part of this whole mantra of surrendering. I feel like, again, we live in this society that perpetuates independence. Asking for help isn't seen as a sexy thing. And yet, it's still important, especially in the global climate that we're in because we need to be cultivating a sense of society and connectedness, and holding space for each other. I think asking for help is part of that. Shaheen Miro: Asking for help can be something big or small. It doesn't have to be a really complex thing. But oftentimes, I think that's why people come to a Tarot reading. They want insight, they want clarity. In some ways, they want help and permission, even, to think, feel, and do whatever it is that they're feeling called to do. And to me, I think that's such a powerful step for people. Andrew McGregor: And I think that one of the... Apparently, this is the episode where I talk about all the hard things that have gone on in my life. Shaheen Miro: Let them out. Andrew McGregor: People who listen to the podcast and lots of people already know, last year, in March, my store burned down. It's one of those things where it absolutely became a time where, A, I asked for help. And I got to experience the positive response of all the people who felt that I had helped them in the past and I had a connection with. And so, I think that one of the things that's helpful around living in the world is building a sense of connection, and working to be in community, and working to give and share and be there for other people, again, within healthy boundaries. Andrew McGregor: There are lots of people who also have a really problematic sides to that where they just give and give and give to people who aren't there for them. But yeah, asking for help is certainly important. I think that understanding that we're all in it together... It doesn't feel that way, especially when we get into politics sometimes. But at a certain point, noticing that at least within our communities, we're all in it together, and being really aware of that as a way of moving things forward for yourself. Andrew McGregor: Because a lot of people struggle to accept help, and being aware of... Because I had that moment, I'm like, "Well whatever, look at all these people who are giving me money, whatever." These people are spending time with at the time where like, "Well, dude, how many times if you thrown some money into a GoFundMe or shown up for somebody or whatever? Of course, you get it back. That's how it goes." But I think it's important to think of if we're not in need right now to recognize that we might be, and to think about how we want to be in the world, and how we would like people to be with us in reciprocation. Shaheen Miro: I feel like sometimes people want to help us, and because we haven't asked for help, they don't know if they can. And so, I think there's that two-way street of giving and receiving, and saying whatever it is you need. When you were talking about how we're all in this together, sometimes it doesn't feel that way. Shaheen Miro: You're talking about your store burning down. There's probably a moment where you felt like, "Well, this is just me. It's my store, it burned down. No one else understands what that feels like." But then when you ask for that help, you get to see how interconnected you are with other people, and how you have influenced them and helped them through your store, through your... just through who you are. I think we all have those kind of connections with people. Shaheen Miro: I was just talking to a friend the other day about going to the doctor, and how they didn't want to talk to their doctor about certain things because they felt ashamed or vulnerable. And I'm like, your doctor is there to help you. Regardless of what certain people think about medicine or whatever, your doctor is there to help you. And if you're going to the doctor for something, they can only help you as much as you're willing to allow them to. And so, in that way, you're in it together. Andrew McGregor: Yeah. Well, I think that's actually a perfect example of how do you know when something's wrong? So, your doctor and you are in it together, which is fantastic, unless they're not. That's one of those things. If your experience of your doctor is that they're a bit fat-phobic or they're not sex positive, and so you don't feel comfortable talking about a thing or whatever, well, there's a perfect example of, huh, that's a thing that's in them, you can't fix that. It's not your job to fix that. Andrew McGregor: Again, it's complicated sometimes to find a new doctor, but that's where maybe making that kind of change or finding a different resource can be really helpful too. Because I think that that discomfort, I think it's... if it's in us, then absolutely working through that is fantastic, and helps us become clear and more open and so on. Andrew McGregor: I know in Toronto, we have a hassle-free clinic for STI testing. And there's doctors, some people, and whatever. They're not great about those things. So, for any number of reasons, people might choose to go to a different resource for that. I think that that's really good, taking care of ourselves as well when we can notice those things. We don't want to talk to this friend about this because they're not great about it, or our parents, or a coworker, whoever. Noticing that problem that's not ours to fix and saying, "Huh, I'm going to go somewhere where I can actually get the support I need." Shaheen Miro: I think that's also an important piece to this is that you have to know who you're asking for help, or where you're getting your nourishment and your support from. Well, first of all, the other thing I wanted to say... And I talk about this all the time with clients and online... is that I think our secret power, everyone's secret power is the power of choice. We all have the ability to make a choice about something. Shaheen Miro: Now, I think that that varies depending on who you are and where you're at in the world. But we all have the power to make a choice. And just like you were saying, if you're in a situation like your doctor isn't someone that you're comfortable with, you can look for something else. But I also feel like, oftentimes, we lean into support that's not really supportive. Shaheen Miro: I know all three of us work with clients privately, and a lot of times when I'm working with someone, they're coming to me and talking about things that they feel like they can't talk to anyone else about it, or no one else will really hear them objectively and allow them to process what they're going through. And we all need that safe space and that support. So, find a good Tarot reader. Andrew McGregor: And a great Tarot reader, yes. Well, I think some people feel bad. I've heard people say to me that they feel bad they don't have any friends, and they have to pay someone to listen to their problems. I think that... My experience is I've gone to therapy at different points. I was talking about after my brother's death, I did a whole bunch of counseling, and so on, for a long period of time. I think that depending on what's going on in our lives, depending on what the nature of our challenges are, maybe our friends aren't even the best people or even helpful necessarily. Not out of malice or whatever, but out of lack of objectivity, out of lack of skill, out of lack of having slack for some topics, for any number of reasons. Andrew McGregor: And that doesn't mean that we can't be friends with them or talk about certain levels of problems with them, but there are often those things that are bigger, deeper, more private, or that other people just don't have any experience with. And finding those people who can actually connect with that makes a ton of sense, and ends up being way more effective or efficient and moving things forward. Andrew McGregor: Because when we're caught up with wobbling back and forth with people that we know personally around stuff, maybe we hedge our words, maybe we're not as direct, maybe we are concerned what comes from that or what they think of us. Whereas, "I certainly hope that people come see me," or like, "I don't care what he thinks about me, I'm just going to come and get what I need from it." And in that sense, I think that's really important. Shaheen Miro: I always tell my clients like, "This is the safe zone, and we can talk about anything and everything." I love it when I have a client who tells me... not really a dirty little secret, but something that they wouldn't say anywhere else. I have clients who, all the time, will say, "I've never said that out loud before." As a reader, you hear it all, and so there's nothing that's really shocking, or at least for me, there's not. I want people to have that experience. Shaheen Miro: Now, something that I've been thinking about lately, and I think both of you would have insight around this, is when you are in a position where you're helping people, you're guiding people... And that could be professionally or it could be personally, like as a parent or something. What happens when you feel like you need help? How do you open up around that? And I think that's something a lot of people maybe feel difficulty around, or they struggle with. What are your guys' thoughts about that? Andrew McGregor: One of the things that I'll throw out there as just an initial thought then I want to hear what Theresa has to say, I came across this little graphic about the idea of pouring support in towards the center of the series of concentric circles, and reaching for support outward. And so, the idea is like, if it's in the middle, we have the person who needs our help, who is asking us for help. That could be our kids, that could be a coworker, it could be whatever, friend. The idea that if something they're asking us for causes us to need or want assistance around something, we don't lean on that person who's in the middle, the person who came to us with their need. It's not their job to fix our feelings to their requests. We need to find a way to reach further to people who are not that person, and so on down the line. Andrew McGregor: I think that that's often where there's a complication that happens where people reach back to the person who asked and try and get them to help them be okay so that they can give them the help that they're asking for. That's a really problematic model. One of the things I think is super important is when we do need help, making sure that we're choosing directions that don't make things more difficult for the person that we're... like with kids, already committed to helping in some way or other. What do you think Theresa? Theresa Reed: Oh, I agree 100%. I also think if you have sources of support around you, you're going to... You should always build up your support system. You should build up your own support system so that if you are in a situation where you are trying to help somebody else out, and you are feeling overwhelmed or some type of way about it, that you have other places that you can go, or other places that you can send that person. Theresa Reed: Because sometimes it's... With my daughter, for example, she has a therapist, so does my son because sometimes talking to mom isn't really helpful because they're going to get the mom perspective. So, they know when to do that. I know how I process information for myself. I tend to be very, very private when I am dealing with any situation. I know that when I'm feeling also overwhelmed or something's going on, I often have to tell the people that I love to give me space. I have to request that space. So, you have to really figure out what kind of support you need, what kind of support you can give. I guess you just have to be willing to be upfront about it. Shaheen Miro: Theresa, something that you do that I really love is you're very open about things that are happening in your world. You're not just open with people who are in your inner circle, but you talk about things that are happening in your world, in your business online. What do you feel prompts that? How do you feel like that helps you? That's something I love about you. How do you feel like that helps you, and how do you feel that helps other people? Theresa Reed: Well, first of all, always... I'm a Gemini. Geminis love to talk things out. Even though my moon in Scorpio wants the real private stuff to be worked out, but I'm pretty much an open book on a lot of things. I like to talk about it because it helps me to process things, or I write about it. And the other thing that I find, when I talk about it or write about it, it helps other people. Sometimes that helps them to know, "I'm not alone." And therefore, then they reach back, and I'm like, "Oh, I'm not alone either." So, we kind of... In a really weird way, it's like it's a way to show other people, "Look, you're not the only one dealing with this bullshit right now. I am too." So, we end up, ultimately, helping each other out. Theresa Reed: I think it's important to talk about things too. Sometimes my husband is like, "That's TMI. Why are you talking about that?" And I'm like, "But it's something to talk about. Why am I supposed to put on an Instagram filter and pretend everything's great? If something's going on, let me share it." But also, when something great is going on, let's share that too. I just think it really helps people to see, again, they're not alone, and that I'm not some glossy, fancy, everything is perfect in my life person because it's not, and I don't think anybody's life is like that. Shaheen Miro: Right. Andrew McGregor: No, for sure. I also think it... One of my things I've experienced is we also get to decide what our narrative is around stuff. And this is one of the challenges around sharing stuff online. When the fire happened, there were definitely people who were like, "Oh, this happened for a reason, and it's all going to be better and whatever." I was basically like, "Fuck that, fuck off. I don't have time for that." Andrew McGregor: And whatever might be true in that idea, I've never found it helpful. Because at a certain point, things that have been good that have come out of the change that happened came because I worked with the complete disruption and leaned into it, and then made a lot of decisions and did a lot of work around it. But there's a way in which people will put their agendas or put their ideas forward in a way that really makes it about what seems true to them or what suits them in situations. Andrew McGregor: And the thing that suits me in situations is going, "All right, shit just got real. What do I do?" It's not defined plan or other things, maybe whatever, time will tell. But for me it's like, "Okay, what can I do practically? What could I do spiritually? What can I do to move forward from this place?" Andrew McGregor: The thing about social media is it is a lot of people who will come on to stuff and nudge it in their directions and so on. I think it's really important to understand that our stories are ours, our experiences are ours. And we get to decide what that is, and shut things down. If we're talking about social media, just tell people, no thanks, delete the post, delete the comments, whatever. But that we're not obliged to live in somebody else's stories, ever. And most especially when we're going through hard times, it makes no sense to allow other people to control the direction where we're building our stories that get us through these things. Shaheen Miro: Yeah. I think that is such a difficult thing, not only on social media, but even more so in real life, especially with family. I feel like a lot of times those are the things that clients struggle with when I'm working with people where their perspective, or their experience, or the choices that they are making or would like to make are not in alignment with the people around them. And so, then that makes them feel... Going back to what we were talking about in the very beginning, like they're maybe moving in the wrong direction. It's like, well, is it the wrong direction or is it just a different direction than what other people are expecting of you? Shaheen Miro: I love what you talked about about constructing your own narrative because I think that's what life is. We're all telling our own stories. It's not as simple as we get to make it whatever we want it to be, but we do get to allow certain things to fly in our personal worlds. You can always... One of my favorite things is you can always kick people out of your life, whether it seems easy or not. Andrew McGregor: Yeah. Let's talk about that more. How about kicking people out of our lives? Shaheen Miro: Yeah. For me, I think boundaries are so, so, so essential. I think kicking people out of your life doesn't always have to be a dramatic thing. Sometimes it's simple as you just fade away or disengage. I've had a lot of people recently talk about... And I don't know why this keeps coming up, but it's just in random conversation. But I keep hearing people say, "You have to pick your battles." That's a saying people say all the time. Shaheen Miro: But I've been hearing it a lot more, and I think that's interesting because I agree with that. There are certain things that you can fight and they can make a difference. And then, there are certain things that you just have to disengage with. I think people are a perfect example of that. Shaheen Miro: If you have a difficult family member and you feel like you're never going to get through to them, or they're never going to see your perspective, or see you, don't try to convince them. Maybe it's time to move on. Yeah, I don't know. I think that just having the permission to be able to say, "Oh, I don't have to have people in my life. I don't want them to be in my life," is really important for people. And it's very difficult at the same time. Theresa Reed: I will say one thing. One of the biggest forms of self-care are boundaries. We need boundaries. Boundaries teach people how we want to be treated. At the same token, we have to also honor other people's boundaries. And I'll tell you one thing, when you have adult children, you learn a lot about their boundaries too and about how to honor it. I always say, "If you want to get along with your adult children, one of the most important things is to learn to shut your mouth." So, it's very interesting. The roles really change. Theresa Reed: But boundaries are... again, they're a form of self-care. They're so, so, so important in every aspect of your life. And I think so often... I can say especially as a woman, women are taught we're supposed to be nice, we're supposed to smile. You've got to be kind, and dah, dah, dah, dah, dah. And especially women from my generation, that's what we were taught. And when you speak up and say, "No, I'm not doing this, uh-uh (negative)," you're a bitch. And it feels very scary to do that. Theresa Reed: But learning to say no and learning to say, "I'm not doing that, I don't like this," it's really empowering for you. It is going to help you deal with things in your life a lot better when you have those boundaries. Like Shaheen said, sometimes you've got to kick people out of your life, absolutely. Some people do not belong in your life. If they are constantly violating your boundaries, if they are pushing past it, if they want exceptions to everything, that means they do not respect your no. And they've got to go. They've got to go. Andrew McGregor: Yeah. People ask for exceptions. Theresa Reed: I hate that. Andrew McGregor: As a person who runs a store, there are people who will ask for discounts, or ask for this or that or whatever, those kinds of things. People come in and be like, "Oh, but I'm such a good client. I'm such whatever, whatever." And then, the next is, "Oh, don't you have this anymore?" I'm like, "Well, no, I haven't had that for a year, so that means I haven't seen you for a year. So, you're here asking me for a discount, but I haven't seen you in forever." Those kinds of exceptions, I think, are really not ideal. Andrew McGregor: I think that we get to decide. It's up to us to offer the exception. That's how I think about things. It's like, well, if I'm available for something different, cool. But otherwise, especially professionally, it's like those boundaries are there for a reason. Andrew McGregor: When it comes to people in my life, one of the things that... a conversation I have with clients a lot is... because they don't necessarily want to go to a person and be like, "I can't be friends anymore. We're done." And that's a hard thing to have. Sometimes you need to have that conversation. Sometimes there's no way around it. But I also think about the idea of nudging people out of our orbits a bit. Andrew McGregor: So, we can take space in a lot of different ways. We can knock it back to them right away. We cannot always answer the phone when they call. We can be like, "Oh, I'm busy. I'll call you tomorrow." We can start nudging people and be like, "Well, they want to see me every week, but let's see how every other week goes. Let's see how once a month is. I'm happy seeing my family at Christmas and other holidays." All the way up to nothing. But that process allows us to find what feels good to us, and find what they're still available for because they might also be like, "I don't see you enough. I'm not going to reciprocate either." But either way, it finds the answer for us, it finds what feels okay. Hopefully, it feels good. Andrew McGregor: But maybe bypasses some of that confrontational that people think about boundaries. Where people think you need to be like, "Look, I don't like you anymore. We're done." I've had a few friends over the years who did something like that. I was like, "Really? Wow. So dramatic. So funny." [crosstalk 00:41:11]. Theresa Reed: But can I just tell you one thing about the dramatic thing? Andrew McGregor: Yes, tell us everything about the dramatic thing. Theresa Reed: I have found that if I don't get dramatic, I don't get respect. So, sometimes I have to be a stone cold bitch. You guys know me, I'm a pussy cat. I'm really easy going, I'm happy-go-lucky. I love to have a good, I love a good meal. I like gossip and stuff like that. I'm very, very easy going. I've got a great sense of humor. And so, I think then that people just assume, "Oh, blah, blah blah. She's going to make an exception for me." And if I say no, then they'll think I'm bluffing. Theresa Reed: But when I'm a hardcore bitch, you better believe they get out of my way then. I hate that because you know what, I don't like having to be like that. But sometimes that seems that's the only way that I get results. It sucks. Andrew McGregor: I think that personality and temperament are part of it. I think that gender is absolutely a part of it. It's a conversation that I hear a lot more from people who are on the female side of the equation. Definitely those things are real. Theresa Reed: Can be. Shaheen Miro: Another thing that, at least for me, has been true is, you don't always have to explain yourself. Theresa Reed: Exactly. That's a hard one for me. Shaheen Miro: Yeah. And that's a really beautiful thing once you let that come into your being, into your worldview, is that you don't have to explain yourself as long as your actions or the things that you're moving toward feel really just aligned with you. And that sometimes can be a tricky thing to figure out as well, but I feel like not having to explain yourself saves people a lot of trouble. Shaheen Miro: I loved what you were talking about, pushing people slowly out of your orbit. It's like you don't have to go to your shitty uncle and be like, "I don't want to see you anymore." You can just slowly push them away. You don't have to explain it. You don't have to justify it. I think that's very liberating for people, for any kind of choice that you're making. Theresa Reed: Absolutely. It's interesting because I took a class with Randi Buckley called Healthy Boundaries for Kind People. And one of the things that she also talked about too was not explaining yourself. And I'm an explainer because I'm a talker. And I'm like, "Look, this is why I'm not doing that." And I'm like, "Why am I doing that?" It's really hard to break that habit of explaining. When you explain, what ends up happening then with boundaries, then people look for an out. Shaheen Miro: I was to say, yeah, they look for a weak spot in that boundary. Theresa Reed: And they find it, and they'll say, "Well, but I'm not a jerk. Why not make an exception for me?" So, it's really interesting. Not explaining, that's really great that you brought that up. That also, again, is also a form of self-care. Andrew McGregor: Yeah. Shaheen Miro: Yeah. Andrew McGregor: Reminds me of that salesperson maxim: if we're still talking, you haven't actually said no yet. I think there are people who live their life that way. If there's still a conversation, then it's not actually a solid boundary. And sometimes, you just got to close that door and be like, "Don't stick your foot in the door, salesman. I'm going to slam the door. We're done. Get out." And that's it. Shaheen Miro: I think that's why... to me, that's why Tarot is such a powerful thing because sometimes we don't even realize that we're still having that conversation, that we're still engaging in certain dynamics. We feel the effects of it, but we don't realize why we feel that way because maybe it's subconscious, or maybe it's just so common in your life that you just don't even know that that's happening anymore. I think Tarot is beautiful because you can zoom out, and you can see these things. Shaheen Miro: And one of the things I love when I'm laying out cards, when I'm working with someone in-person, which isn't all that often, but when I do, if a person sees a card and they're like, "Oh, that's so and so in my life." And it's like they might not have any knowledge about it, about that card or what the symbolism is, or anything, but just seeing that gives them the sense of, "Oh, I have externalized, and I can understand the bigger picture of what's happening. And now I can do something with it." Shaheen Miro: To me, I think, that, again, goes back to being able to make a choice. When you know what all is happening from a larger perspective and you're not right in the thick of it, then you have a bit more power to make a choice, or to pivot, or to go in a certain direction with deeper intention. Andrew McGregor: Well, what about spiritually? Are there spiritual practices that you do around this kind of stuff? What do you do to sustain yourself during challenging times? Theresa Reed: Meditation and yoga are my two go-to things because I know when I'm on the mat and I'm moving my body, or I'm sitting quietly and tuning within, that always makes me feel better. It may not solve the problem, and oftentimes it doesn't solve the problem, but I'm feeling physically better. I'm going within, I'm processing information. So, that is always my favorite, favorite things to turn to. But there's all kinds of other things. You can do magical practices and rituals, that can also enhance and strengthen your boundaries, or energy, or whatever you want to say. That can also help you to move through any kind of challenges. Shaheen Miro: Yeah. For me, well, yoga is actually a big part of my practice as well. And the thing that I love about yoga is that you have to be present, you have to be... You don't have to be, but you know as soon as you slip out of what you're doing, your pose or whatever it is that you're... whatever asana you're in, that's not going to flow or to work. So, I love movement in general for grounding, and centering, and getting present. Shaheen Miro: Ritual is a big part of what I do. And again, it can be as simple as just lighting a candle. One of the things I talk with clients about quite a bit, it's just the simple practice of using ritual and ceremony as a way to engage all the parts of yourself. So, if you light a candle and you say, "This is the shitty situation I'm in, and as this candle is melting, my situation is melting away." That might not change everything, but it makes you feel like you have a bit of control, or you can externalize what it is that you're feeling. And I think seeing that and engaging with that, that moves energy. Shaheen Miro: Or if you light a candle and you say, "As this candle is burning, whatever it is that I need to bring in my life is attracted to it. It's like a moth to a flame." Again, that engages another part of yourself and allows that energy to move toward you. I think that gives... for me, that gives me a way of finding... I don't want to say control, but feeling like I have a choice in the matter. Shaheen Miro: I also really lean into my spirit allies. I have multiple spirits that I work with. But one of the things that I like to do is I just say, "To my guardians, my ancestors and angels, be with me. I thank you for being with me." And I give offerings, or I light candles. Something about that practice makes me feel supported, it makes me feel like I'm not alone. Something out there has a broader perspective than I do, and can maybe see something that I can't see. Shaheen Miro: I was listening to an interview with Elizabeth Gilbert and Oprah, and Liz Gil was talking about how when her partner died, she felt like she suddenly had a very powerful ambassador on the other side. And when she said that, that really resonated with me. Because I feel like we all have somebody who... whether we've known them in life or we just feel a very special connection to, there's something bigger than us that's out there. And if we engage with that, we feel less alone, and we also can use that energy to move forward. Shaheen Miro: I moved to Colorado recently, and I've always felt a connection to the Virgin Mary. I wasn't raised Christian at all, but I've just always felt a connection to the Virgin Mary. There's a place called Mother Cabrini Shrine, and it's near where I live. Mother Cabrini was the first American Saint. But I go there all the time to just light candles and to meditate because I feel like I'm connecting with something bigger than myself. Not just the energy of the Virgin Mary or Mother Mary, but also the energy of other people who have gone there out of faith. And even though it's very different than mine, there's an energy that accumulates there. And so, I'm constantly trying to work with that, if that makes sense. Andrew McGregor: Yeah, totally does. I'm just going to put an unpopular opinion right now. I hate yoga. I hate yoga so much. Yoga was just makes me [crosstalk 00:51:46]. Shaheen Miro: That's okay. Theresa Reed: You haven't done yoga with me. Shaheen Miro: Why do you hate it? Andrew McGregor: I've done yoga all over the world with so many different teachers, and it just makes me grumpy whenever I do it. So, I've given up doing yoga. I did yoga practice daily for over a year and so on. And this notion that I would push through and like asana-based yoga practice, well, it's just never happened. So, I've given up on it. Shaheen Miro: And now you know. Andrew McGregor: And now I know. But the thing that I... I love meditation. I'm very good at just sitting and meditating for relatively long periods of time. I love elements of yoga. I love the breath work and other things. But just yoga class and those things, I always just leave grumpier than when I arrived. So, I've given up on it. Theresa Reed: You should take a class with me. Andrew McGregor: Well, I will make the trip, and then you could buy me a coffee afterwards if I'm grumpy. Theresa Reed: It will change your mind because- Andrew McGregor: Perfect. Theresa Reed: ... our yoga classes are very different here. Shaheen Miro: Oh, sorry. Andrew McGregor: That's okay. But for me, it's not just about being more active because there are lots of ways in which I do self-care that's very still and very quiet as well. But also, I super love rock climbing, and rock climbing is one of my favorite self-care, especially during challenging times because when I'm on the wall and working on a problem, I can't think about anything else. There's nothing else. There's just the immediacy of it. And it's the same with distance cycling and stuff. Andrew McGregor: Yeah, my brain might churn for the first 20 minutes or hour, but into a three-hour ride, at a certain point, it's just you, and the road, and the movement of your body, and the flowing of other things, and that's it. And so, I think that there are lots of active ways in which we could do that that are not numbing out and avoiding things, but are bringing us to being present through different mechanisms. Shaheen Miro: I think another important thing for people to know is that self-care and spirituality doesn't have to look a certain way. One of my favorite spiritual practices is singing, whether that's getting wild on my guitar or going to karaoke. It's not really a numbing out thing. It's like I get to not be in the mire of everything that's happening, and I get to connect with myself. Shaheen Miro: There's something really beautiful about that. But I think a lot of times, especially when people are starting their spiritual journey or their magical journey, they get caught up in what does that look like? And it's like if you feel like turn it on heavy metal and head banging for an hour is grounding and centering to you, then that's totally fine. That doesn't have to be the case for anybody else. So, I think it comes down to, are you connecting with yourself, or are you numbing out? I guess that's a big question. Theresa Reed: It's a huge question. Shaheen Miro: The other thing that I wonder sometimes... Because I think with our book Tarot for Troubled Times, we've had multiple people ask us... or talk in the sense that they need to get rid of their shadow because we talk about shadow work. One of the things that I feel is that we aren't trying to... Where was I going with that? We aren't trying to, I guess, fix things necessarily. It's really just about being where you are, being with what is happening. I think that's where our spiritual practice can really lie. Being with where you are. I don't know. When we're talking about numbing out, I wonder is there a time where numbing out is okay? Is that always a bad thing? Theresa Reed: Numbing out once in a while is okay. Absolutely. Sometimes at the end of the day, if I've had a really challenging day, let's say with clients, pouring myself a nice big glass of wine and putting on the new Pope, which is the new thing that I'm into right now, and just forgetting about it. Having a little escape is good. Provided it's not done too excess. There has to be a limit. Numbing out in front of the TV every single night drinking three glasses of wine is not good. But on occasion, just sitting back... And that's one of my favorite ways to unwind is a nice glass of wine and something on TV. Shaheen Miro: I think if you check in with yourself and ask yourself, "How do I feel?" That can gauge if that's useful or not for you. Sometimes when I'm really, really, really going through it... I always suggest this to people... I take a nap. I get in my bed and I take a nap because I'm like, "You know what, I can't do anything by thinking about this or talking about it. So, I'm going to get in my bed, I'm going to take a nap, and something will happen. The world will at least keep on moving. Maybe my thoughts will untangle. Maybe the spirits will give me a message. I don't know. But I'm just going to take a nap." Shaheen Miro: But when I wake up from that, I don't feel like I've lost time. I feel like something has happened in the positive versus if you go on a binge and you're out drinking all night long, the next day you probably don't feel like anything's resolved. And so, I think checking in with yourself and asking, how does this make me feel, is really an important part of it as well. Andrew McGregor: How do we feel when we're starting it? How do we feel when we're in it? How do we feel afterwards? Because it might feel great, speaking from personal experience, to grab that bucket of ice cream and to eat that bucket of ice cream, and then it might feel crappy afterwards. And so, I think that there's that just monitoring of the whole situation. Eating two liters of ice cream is not a great coping mechanism for me, and so I no longer engage that. But that doesn't mean that I won't buy myself other things or engage in other ways like that, right? Theresa Reed: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Shaheen Miro: I think that's a beautiful... just continue... Really, it all comes down to connecting with yourself. I think, in a lot of ways, we just don't live in a world that really advocates for people to know how they feel and to connect with themselves, and to take care of themselves. We're really taught to be out here in the world doing things, competing with things, keeping up with things. I think it can be really toxic. Shaheen Miro: Actually, I had a conversation recently about how I think that... I love the idea of self-care, but I think that this concept of wholeness is the new idea of perfection. I think that self-care, and spirituality, and self-work, and healing work isn't about becoming whole or fixed or better. It's about really just connecting with and having a relationship with yourself so that you know where you are in every moment, situation, or experience. And then, that way, you can make choices or you can have boundaries. That's how you empower yourself. It's not always easy, but that's why it's a practice. Andrew McGregor: Yeah. I think you've just summed it up perfectly. Theresa Reed: Absolutely. Andrew McGregor: So, maybe that's a great place to leave it. I'm going to say, when you listen to this, rewind and listen to what Shaheen said a couple of times because I think that's just really a delightful and perfect way to encapsulate it. Obviously, you folks have a lovely book. I think people should check it, called Tarot for Troubled Times. Shaheen, where do people find you if they want to come be in your orbits online? Shaheen Miro: You can find me at my website, which is shaheenmiroinsights.com. Or you can visit me on Instagram, which my handle is Shaheenthedream, and that's one of my favorite places to hang out and do all sorts of magical things over there. And on Facebook and Twitter. So, Shaheen Miro, there's only one of me out there. Andrew McGregor: Perfect. Theresa, at The Tarot Lady everywhere? Theresa Reed: Yup, thetarotlady.com, and The Tarot Lady is my handle on all my social media things. Andrew McGregor: Beautiful. Well, thank you both for making time today. I super appreciate it. It's been- Shaheen Miro: Thank you. Andrew McGregor: ... as delightful as I was hoping. Theresa Reed: Thank you for having us. Andrew McGregor: Of course.
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To me, anger is vilified and gets a bad rap. Like any other feeling, it's a messenger and one we'd benefit from listening to. I know some of you are scared of your anger, that it will consume you or burn others. And we can be fearful of the anger of others. But today I talk about the possibilities of letting anger burn clean to the truth. Until we hear it, it will keep coming up and burn us within. I also talk about using a controlled burn so anger can burn clean but also keeps you and others safe. Anger is passion and it is fuel. While often WILDLY uncomfortable, to ignore it is giving yourself an emotional lobotomy. Let's do what we can to be safe with anger and to let it be the messenger and transformative tool that is it. Highlights: (As always, consider context, nuance, and discernment, to find what is true for you.) May your anger burn clean, so you can get to what is true. (1:59) Anger is often a mask for something else. but still potentially holy in its own right. (4:26) We're often afraid that anger (ours and others') will consume us. (5:53) If we're angry, there's a reason for it and it needs to be heard. (6:25) If our anger can't burn cleanly, it burns us. (7:09) Like a controlled burn, what conditions do you need for clean and safe burning of your anger? (10:44) Anger is not bad per se, but a message that something is not working for us. (12:13) Links: Links: Lauren Bacon, Business Coach, great voice! Healthy Boundaries for Kind People
My first podcast! I thought I'd start off with some recurring themes from our Healthy Boundaries for Kind People work. Here's the thing: those challenged by boundaries and/or people pleasers tend to both bend over backward to meet the needs of others, while also feeling pathetic and "needy" that they have needs of their own. Oh, we are a funny species! So, I thought I'd offer you a different way of looking at it and a few "hows" to get you out violating your own boundaries to please others. Here are a few things I'd like to highlight from this episode: - Please consider my favorite tools of context, nuance, and discernment to see what rings true for you. (2:29) - Why I think traditional boundary strategies and advice, fails kind people. (It's a trap!) (4:10) - We can acknowledge someone's needs without having to meet those needs.(5:43) - We're willing to violate our own boundaries to prove our worthiness to others. (9:17) - You can care about someone's feeling without becoming the caretaker of their feelings. (10:56) - People pleasing is often an attempt to manage someone else's emotional response. (12:31) - When my clients dig into the deep boundary work, they often discover that they're not as good as they think about honoring the boundaries of others. (15:54) - Honoring your own boundaries helps others to see that you have them. (17:29) - We honor our boundaries (and show deep respect for others) when we shift from the person who has to "save" them to the person who believes in them. (17:55) Links: Healthy Boundaries for Kind People (begins in September) Slow Business Adventure in Norway (September)
A little blurb about understanding how kindness and empathy work while still having a back bone and not being afraid to tell someone to fuck off when they deserve it
The topic of boundaries often comes up in my Facebook groups and with my clients. If you're in an unhappy marriage, getting divorced, or already divorced, boundaries are constantly shifting and changing. As you maneuver through divorce or get acclimated to life after divorce, you might be having to hold your boundaries more firmly than ever before. Or maybe you’re reading this and thinking, “I really need to get me some boundaries.” Whatever the case may be, I’ve got you covered with today’s podcast episode! The ever-lovely and kind Randi Buckley is joining me to talk alll about boundaries. Randi is an internationally-recognized coach, author, and mentor, whose work helps women find their truth and be at peace with it. She is also the creator of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People. When I first started out trying to set my own boundaries, it was god awfully messy. Randi’s perspective offers a new, healthy and unique take on boundary-setting. What she teaches and how she teaches it has allowed me to make sense of a topic that previously escaped me. Today, she explains how to set healthy boundaries that are kind both to ourselves and to others. Show Highlights Randi’s unique view and definition of healthy boundaries: “Boundaries are the infrastructure for who you want to be and the life you want to live.” (3:51) How values and boundaries go hand-in-hand (5:50) Turning a value into an action and how doing so can help instruct what your boundary needs to be (8:01) When we honor our boundaries it becomes really clear who in our lives are not respecting them (9:25) How to set boundaries that are safe and healthy for yourself and also allow for communication and collaboration in service of your children (13:28) How to set a boundary with someone who sees the boundary as an obstacle to overcome, plus Randi’s garden analogy (22:01) Boundaries are an extension of kindness plus why “nice” and “kind” are fundamentally different (28:05) Handling resistance or push-back to your boundaries and the importance of allowing the other party to communicate their concerns while still standing by your boundary (30:47) Why kindness is a two-way street (38:02) Learn More About Randi: Randi Buckley is an internationally-recognized coach, author, and mentor, whose work helps women find their truth and be at peace with it. She is the creator of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, Maybe Baby, and The Viking Woman Workshop. She is mama to Ravn and in her free time, untangles whales from fishing gear, in the Monterey Bay. Links:Randi’s websiteRandi on Instagram Free Healthy Boundaries for Kind People group Should You Stay In Your Marriage for Your Kids Webinar
Alexis Wright is a member of the Waanyi people of the Southern highlands of the Gulf of Carpentaria. Her non-fiction and fiction works have earned her high acclaim and a number of awards, including the Miles Franklin. This story is an excerpt from Carpentaria. It is representative of the strong, non-conventional voice of that novel, some of its layered themes, and its epic perspective. Photo by Jens Johnsson on Unsplash.
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I have heard about and followed Randi's work for a while now and am honored that she took the time to chat with me. I love the idea of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People and hope you will too! You can learn more about Randi at https://www.randibuckley.com. ENJOY! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lolacommunity/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/lolacommunity/support
What does Ephesians 4:25 - 5:2 teach us about being the People of God? The People of God are a Kind People.
Randi Buckley is an internationally recognized coach, author and mentor whose work helps women find their truth and be at peace with it. She is the creator of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, Maybe Baby, and The Viking Woman Workshop. She is also a mama who, in her free time, untangles whales from fishing gear in the Monterey Bay. In this conversation, we talk about the importance of speaking to the heart when you want to inspire people into action, Randi’s experiences with depression as an entrepreneur, why she’s never seen vulnerability as a weakness, and how to set healthy boundaries as movement makers in times of upheaval and change.
If you just want to get a message across, sometimes it’s okay to tell a little lie if it means somebody doesn’t get hurt. We know, it’s counterintuitive, right? In this episode, we interview Randi Buckley, life coach and creator of the workshop Healthy Boundaries for Kind People. Cultivating boundaries can be difficult if you’re the sort of person who worries about negative reactions. We discuss how it’s possible to navigate conflict with kindness — both inwardly and outwardly. In the same way you can channel your genius into a livelihood (like life coaching, for example!), you can tap into this same reservoir of experience in order to develop a strategy of conflict resolution. It’s not easy to reframe the conversation around setting boundaries. Traditional models don’t work for everyone, which is why we need to frame it around kindness. Sometimes, when things get tough, all you need to be your best self is a little inspiration from the mythology that created you. LINKS Republic of Freedom Facebook Heather Thorkelson Randi Buckley How Randi Buckley Created a Cohesive & Effective Business Model Subscribe and Rate us on Apple Podcasts Touch points for difficult decision making: Have you ever said the wrong thing to somebody you were fighting with? Do you ever find yourself afraid to verbalize struggles? Here’s the thing: There’s a wealth of potential hiding in your own genius, and there’s a way you can amplify it, draw on compassion, and search for resolutions through kindness. Republic of Freedom Radio is a podcast by Republic of Freedom. Recordings and design by Heather Thorkelson. Shownotes by Jesse and Production by Steph from EDITAUDIO.
Randi Buckley is a coach and teacher who helps women facing big life decisions. Her programme Healthy Boundaries for Kind People is revolutionary work. Randi has spent decades coaching Fortune 5 companies, she worked at the Chopra Centre and once acted as a stand-in for Penelope Cruz. She is also the Assistant Dean at the Concordia Language Villages, a residential language- immersion program for youth in 16 different languages where she offers program-wide training, leadership and coaching to staff from over 30 countries. Randi is one of the wisest people I know and I wanted to chat with her about where our two worlds intersect - where self-doubt meets personal boundaries. This is a practical, philosophical and (it ended up being) quite a personal conversation about how to create safety for ourselves in relationships. As most of us are about to spend prolonged time with our loved ones, this seemed like the perfect time to get together.
Randi Buckley works with women and guides them toward gently uncovering their inner truth. Her work involves pointing towards your own divinity, the kind that supports forging your personal identity. This personal identity is made up of a union of the head, heart, and intuition. One of her main specialties is helping people get better at enforcing boundaries. This is a big deal, especially for those who easily give into peer pressure and some forms of social abuse. Randi is here with me today to discuss the concept of having boundaries and why everyone should know how to set them. She provides insight on why it's difficult to set boundaries, how to properly enforce boundaries, and the importance of being kind to yourself at all times. “Boundaries are an act of kindness. They are essentially giving somebody an instruction manual to get the best version of us.” – Randi Buckley On Today's Episode of A Healthy Curiosity: How Randi decided to work with clients on enforcing boundaries? Why we have the wrong notion of what a boundary really is. How can you set boundaries without going overboard or being intimidating? How do you cope with identity changes brought upon by setting boundaries? How she helps people navigate the middle ground? How to know what true kindness is. Can denying someone what they want be an act of kindness? The steps in enforcing boundaries. The Chinese Medicine aspect involved in valuing and respecting yourself. Key Takeaway: Your boundaries are your values and action. By having them, you are taking a stand for that value in this world and shifting the world toward that value People are resistant to change in other people's boundaries because they no longer know where they will stand in their life. If your kindness does not include yourself, then it's incomplete. Connect with Randi Buckley: Randi Buckley Official Website Healthy Boundaries For Kind People Membership Level Up Your Life Are you ready to upgrade to the next version of you? If you are ready to receive the guidance, accountability, and support you need to up level your health, feel more energized, and truly love your body, then join me for the 11 Weeks to Level Up Your Life program! Visit BrodieWelch.com/Level-Up to learn more and schedule your FREE Discovery Call Today! The next round of Level Up Your Life begins in October 2017. Spots are limited so reserve your spot today! Share Your Healthy Curiosity Thank you for joining me on today's episode of A Healthy Curiosity, the podcast that explores what it takes to be well in today's busy world with healthcare strategies through Chinese medicine. If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes and subscribe to the show. Share your favorite episodes with your friends on social media to help us spread the word and help more people achieve optimal health throughout their busy lives. Don't forget to follow us on Facebook and Twitter to tell us what you'd like to learn more about!
Join us LIVE In the Spotlight on Crowdcast, Thursdays at 2pm EST : https://www.crowdcast.io/tanyageisler This week's guest is Randi Buckley. Randi's clients are women who sense that their personal identity is in flux in unsettled situations and big life decisions. Her work points toward exploring one's own divinity, in support of forging a personal identity that merges head, heart, and intuition. She offers a support suite of self-study solutions, as well as personal coaching in an intimate one-on-one setting, including Maybe Baby and Healthy Boundaries for Kind People. Get full episode show notes here.
Randi Buckley is an international coach, mentor, and writer, whose work helps women find their truth and be at peace with it. She is the creator of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, Healthy Boundaries for Business, Maybe Baby, and The Viking Woman Workshop. She is mama to Ravn and in her free time, untangles whales from fishing gear, in the Monterey Bay. Join us on this episode to discover: Traditional advice about boundaries fails kind people, and often backfires. Boundaries are the foundation and container for what you want in your life and in relationships. I'll talk about ways kind folks can change how they think and tend to their boundaries, even if they feel they don't have any. To download Randi's free gift, visit MorganaRadio.com
Do you struggle with building solid friendships? Do you find it difficult to say “no”, even when you really want to? Have you ever been told that you’re just “too nice”? Having strong, healthy boundaries is key to living a magical life but traditional boundary advice can be hard to stick to when you’re a very kind person. In today’s conversation, master coach Randi Buckley shares tried and true methods for figuring out where you end and others begin. For more than 25 years, Randi has worked with prestigious organizations such as AAMPAS (the Oscars organization), Sundance Film Festival, Omega Institute, Stanford University, the Dallas Cowboys, Spa Nordstrom, NBC University, and Youth for Understanding International. In her private practice, Randi guides women through sticky situations and big decisions with kindness and humor (and healthy boundaries too). For mindset shifts and practical tips, join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Randi’s classes: Healthy Boundaries for Kind People and Maybe Baby, and more! The profound difference between NICE and KIND Why traditional boundary advice won’t work for kind people Signs of weak or nonexistent boundaries The Shape of You—“Where you end and others begin” Practical boundaries for the best YOU Common boundary issues Feeling unseen or unheard How to put boundaries in place with people who think you have none! Does your garden have healthy soil? Doubts and ambivalence How to honor your integrity Changing your mind vs. keeping your word Being selfish: Good or Bad? Following your North Star Tools for making decisions with confidence Being fearless vs. being brave Fear = a messenger Resources: www.randibuckley.com
Do you ever feel like being kind means you’ve got “doormat” stamped on your forehead? Having strong, healthy boundaries is key to living a magical life but traditional boundary advice can be hard to stick to when you’re a really kind person. Master coach Randi Buckley shares tried and true methods for figuring out where you end and others begin, … Read more about this episode...
Randi Buckley writes and coaches emotionally aware, deeply contemplative women toward finding their truth, with depth and beauty, with life’s big questions and sticky situations. She is the creator of “Maybe Baby" - When you hear this whisper of “maybe” in your heart”, “Healthy Boundaries for Kind People”, and “The Viking Woman Workshop”. Today we discuss the nature of ambivalence and our experiences with it. You can reach Randi at www.randibuckley.com. As Randi covers the following areas of ambivalence about having children, you can expect to hear: Randi knew as a 6-7-year-old girl that she didn’t want to have children because she equated having a child with NOT being a feminist. She never saw herself as a mother and was horrified when she heard the whisper of “maybe” in her late 30's. Randi found that many of her beliefs about motherhood and childbearing were not her own, but were society-driven. Randi had initially believed that motherhood would make her into all the things she didn’t want to be. It’s ok to be ambivalent, but some people (especially well-meaning mothers) will try to talk you out of your ambivalence. Each woman is the only one who can decide what’s right for her. We have the responsibility to have compassion for the different roles women play and appreciate those roles. You can reserve the right to change your mind about what you want for your life - at any time. “Maybe Baby” is a 6-week self-study course in which several hundred women have participated. The course teaches you how to find what’s true for you and how to be at peace with it. Wise Words: “What’s right for me probably isn’t right for you!” I hope you enjoy this episode where we discuss in depth our experiences with ambivalence. Would love for you to comment on the post at michellemariemcgrath.comIf you enjoyed this episode please share. Thank you.
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