Becoming Me

EPISODE 29  Making the interior journey into authenticity and wholeness is not easy. But could we also be making it even more difficult than it has to be? In this episode I talk about three common ways we often unwittingly sabotage ourselves by treating ourselves with contempt, having unrealistic expectations, and not availing ourselves to the support we need.Share this episode via this episode page. CHAPTER MARKERS00:08 - Introduction01:04 - 1. Self-contempt09:52 - 2. Unrealistic Expectations20:34 - 3. Not Getting Sufficient Help28:22 - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act33:18 - ConclusionAvailable here.TRANSCRIPT Available here.REFLECTION PROMPT Listen. - As you listened to this episode, which points maybe resonated with you more? - Was there something that jumped out at you?Ponder.- Which of the three points do you feel is the most relevant for you? - Which one of these are more of an issue for you at this point in time?Act.- With one of the three points you have picked, consider one thing you can do towards helping yourself.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCESOther episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode: - Ep 12 Am I Regressing? - Ep 24 Is it Selfish to Live the Life I Want? - Ep 26 Can You Be Gentler With Yourself? PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACT Website:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & InstagramDonate:Become My Patron

EPISODE 28  What impact does making the interior journey have on a marriage? Henry and I look back at our 22 years of couple-hood and 14 years of marriage and share how our own commitment to our individual healing and integration has transformed our relationship. In Part 2 of this conversation we continue to talk about how practicing healthy boundaries transformed our relationship, how we have learned to respond when our insecurities are triggered and how becoming more skilled at repairing ruptures in our relationship has made us less afraid of conflict.Share this episode via this episode page:  CHAPTER MARKERS06:42 - Dealing with Triggers13:32 - “I Need To” vs. “I Want To”14:20 - Explicit Communication18:37 - Repairing25:03 - Final Note31:02 - Announcements31:59 - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. ActAvailable here.TRANSCRIPT Available here.REFLECTION PROMPT Listen. - As you listened to the conversation between Henry and myself, what struck you? - Hold that in your heart, or journal it. You may want to return to it later.Ponder.  - Why do you think that those were the points that struck you?Act.- What might be one thing that you can commit to in your interior journey for the sake of your loved one?- Try and come up with a concrete step that you could take.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCESOther episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 4 & 5 Living from the Inside Out- Ep 14 Where Do You End and I Begin?- Ep 23 Safe Spaces for Growth: Trust, Truth and Compassion- Ep 27 You Don't Complete Me Part 1/2 (with Henry Hoo)PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACT Website:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & InstagramDonate:Become My Patron

EPISODE 27  What impact does making the interior journey have on a marriage? Henry and I look back at our 22 years of couple-hood and 14 years of marriage and share how our own commitment to our individual healing and integration has transformed our relationship. In Part 1 of this conversation we talk about the liberating discovery that we are not meant to complete each other, the joy of discovering beauty in what IS in the here and now, and what practicing healthy boundaries with our selves and each other has done for our marriage.Share this episode via this episode page.  CHAPTER MARKERS  02:01 - Three Layers of Living03:23 - First Point - You Don't Complete Me16:08 - Second Point - Striving for the "Ideal"22:38 - Third Point - Boundaries within a Marriage35:15 - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act.Available here.  TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPT Listen. - As you listened to the conversation between Henry and myself, what struck you? - Was there some pot that you could identify with in your own experience, perhaps in your marriage or some other intimate relationship?Ponder.- In what ways might you have unknowingly made it harder for yourself to be happy in your relationship by seeking completion or happiness from your partner?Act.- Identify one area in your life where you have struggled to be patient and kind to yourself.- Find some quiet alone time and have conversation with that part of you, that part of you who struggles to live up to your ideal self.- Sit with yourself as you would a beloved child or a dear friend, and just listen.For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCESOther episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 4 & 5 Living from the Inside Out- Ep 14 Where Do You End and I Begin? PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & InstagramDonate: Become My Patron

EPISODE 26 (BONUS)   Do you try to dominate and push yourself into living more authentically? Or have you learned to accompany yourself with reverence and compassion?(This episode first appeared as an IGTV and Facebook video. You can find it on YouTube as well.)TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.ADDITIONAL RESOURCESOther episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with YourselfPODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACTWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message  and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & InstagramDonate:Become My Patron

EPISODE 25  (Bonus)   What do you do when you find yourself living life at an unsustainable pace? Do you slow yourself down or find yourself peddling harder, thinking that you'll catch up if you go fast enough? In this special bonus episode, I bring you 'behind the scenes' into how I accompany myself when I struggle with slowing down even when I know that's what I need. My sharing illustrates how I try to honour the pace I need when life throws some unexpected curve balls.  I also share a couple of announcements about an upcoming live event that I will be part of as well as a course that I will be teaching.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!LINKS MENTIONEDNew Evangelisation Conference 2021A Leader's Spirituality CourseCHAPTER MARKERS00:45 - A Different Kind of Episode04:21 - Life's Curve Balls14:50 - What's At Stake if I Don't Slow Down?18:59 - Announcements21:17 - PRAXIS QuestionADDITIONAL RESOURCESOther episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 4  Living from the Inside Out (Part 1)- Ep 8 The Necessary Practice of Making Space- Ep 9 The Wisdom in Slowing DownTRANSCRIPT Available here.REFLECTION PROMPT - If you don't slow down, what will you end up sacrificing? And if you don't want to pay the price, what can you do to make a change of pace so that you can give yourself a little bit more grace, a little bit more room to be present to yourself and to those whom you love?PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACTContact:Get in touch with Ann. Website:Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 24  It can be easy to feel guilty for wanting to live a life that would make ourselves happy.  As a result, many of us end up living according to other people's desires for us instead of choosing a life aligned to our own heart's deep desire.In this episode, I explain why listening to our heart's deep gladness is a necessary part of living a life that truly blesses others.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!Blog Post: Your Life is About You (Too) CHAPTER MARKERS00:40 - Is it Selfish to Honour Our Desires?06:08 - The Danger of Not Listening to Our Desires13:22 - Respecting Our Design20:11 - Our Deep Desires Show Us Our Design26:07 - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you?Ponder.- How do you feel when you imagine yourself living a life that is aligned with your heart's deep gladness? - What emotions do you feel?Act.- Identify; on a scale of one to ten, how would you rate your life right now? - On a piece of paper, list down all the things that are holding you back from living your life at a 10. - Look at your list and ask yourself what step can I take today to begin making this list shorter?ADDITIONAL RESOURCESOther episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 3 You Are Worth Becoming - Ep 14 Where Do You End and I Begin?- Ep 21 Safe Spaces For Becoming (with Edwina Yeow)- Ep 22 Being A Safe Space For Myself (with Edwina Yeow)PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK- Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACTContact:Get in touch with Ann. Website:Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 23   If we want go beyond feeling accepted for being who we are and to actually grow in authenticity and wholeness and become our best selves, we will need safe spaces that will give us the courage and faith to confront the things in our lives that need confronting.In this episode, I expand on the theme of safe spaces to look at three essential ingredients that are required for a safe space to be conducive for interior growth and talk about why they are necessary if we want real transformation in our lives.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!Blog Post:  Unbound and Set FreeCHAPTER MARKERS 00:42 - Safety Beyond Comfort04:41 - Trust, Truth and Compassion09:43 - My Inability to Trust Myself16:31 - The Power of Safe Spaces to Set Free22:45 - Are You Ready to Take Action?28:33 - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act.TRANSCRIPT Available here.REFLECTION PROMPT Listen. - As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you?Ponder. - How would you rate the level of trust you have in yourself right now? Take a moment and ponder why you gave yourself that trust rating.- Are you happy with how much you trust yourself? Why, or why not?Act.- Identify an area in your life, which you wish could be met with truth and compassion. - Reflect on what is holding you back from seeking the help you need. - Let yourself write down whatever it is that you are feeling and hold those truths that has come up from you with love and compassion. ADDITIONAL RESOURCES  PARRHESIA  www.parrhesia.sg Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 21 Safe Spaces For Becoming (with Edwina Yeow)- Ep 22 Being a Safe Space for Myself (with Edwina Yeow)- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with YourselfPODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACTContact:Get in touch with Ann.Website:Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 22  How hospitable are you to yourself? Does your inner self feel safe to reveal itself to you?  Are you able to believe that all your emotions -  even anger, hurt, envy, and other 'negative' feelings come bearing a gift for you?This episode is the second half of a two-part conversation I have with experienced soul guide and spiritual companion Edwina Yeow . We discuss what it means to become a safe space for ourselves.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!Contact Edwina Yeow.Blog Post:  From Shame to FreedomCHAPTER MARKERS01:43 - How can I stop being self-critical?11:35 - Beginner tips for self-hospitality15:37 - Befriending negative emotions21:09 - Unconditional self-acceptance30:18 - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you?Ponder. - At this point in your life and in your journey, how safe a space are you to yourself? - How hospitable are you to your own emotions and the physical sensations that your body may feel? Act. - Notice the emotions that are surfacing in the course of your daily life. Pay attention to just notice, not to do anything about how you feel, but to just notice them. - Allow whatever thoughts, judgments, criticisms that might surface almost automatically to be contained. Give permission for the feelings to just be without criticising themADDITIONAL RESOURCES Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 21 Safe Spaces For Becoming (with Edwina Yeow)- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with Yourself Article: Loving Your Inner Enemies by Alison Cook PhDPODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK- Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACTContact:Get in touch with Ann.Website:Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 21  Have you experienced a lack of understanding and acceptance when you had opened up to someone you trusted about your interior journey?  We need people who can be safe spaces for us as we make this journey, but we need to know how to identify them.In this first half of a two-part conversation I have with experienced soul guide and spiritual companion Edwina Yeow, we discuss why we need safe spaces and how to identify if someone can be a safe space for us.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!CHAPTER MARKERS06:30 - Why do we need a safe space for the interior journey?11:14 - What constitutes a safe space?13:51 - Why our loved ones may not be safe spaces20:24 - How can I tell if someone is a safe space?29:40 - PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act.TRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you?Ponder. - Can you remember any time in your life where you have experienced what we describe as a safe space? Who was it that made you feel like you could really just be who you are and not be judged or evaluated or criticised?Act. - Where you are now in your journey could be quite different from the last time that you experienced being in a safe space with someone. This would be especially true if you have begun this interior journey only recently. - Try to identify someone whom you think could be a safe space for you now, at this point of your journey.ADDITIONAL RESOURCESBlog Post:  Where can I be unafraid to become who I truly am?Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with YourselfPODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK- Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACTContact:Get in touch with Ann.Website:Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 20 Why is it that we often wait until things get worse, sometimes until we hit bottom, before we really try to address the destructive patterns in our lives? Why is it that we have so much inertia to seek help or address our issues even when we are in pain?In this episode, I share 3 reasons based on my own life experience and observations why this happens more often that we would like to admit. Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!CHAPTER MARKERS09:39 -  1st Reason: It's Too Hard11:26 - 2nd Reason: It's How We Learn13:38 - 3rd Reason: Intense Pain Wakes Us UpTRANSCRIPT Available here.ADDITIONAL RESOURCESBlog Post: How much do you desire to be your True Self?Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with YourselfPODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK- Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACTContact:Get in touch with Ann.Website:Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 19  How can we tell the difference between true limits which are meant to be honoured and false limits which could be an invitation to transcend the limiting beliefs that we inherited from our life script?In this follow-up conversation about limits (Episode 17), my husband Henry shares his experiences with both true and false limits in the context of leadership.  We also talk about how to differentiate between true and false limits and how both play a role in our journey into authenticity.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERSAvailable here.ADDITIONAL RESOURCESBlog Post: False Limits - Lies That Keep Us StagnantThis episode is a follow-up to Ep 17 Befriending Our Limits. (Ceiling vs Springboard is mentioned at 27:29 min)Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 4 & 5 Living from the Inside Out (Part 1 & 2)- Ep 6 Listening to Your Life Speak- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with YourselfPODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK- Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACTContact:Get in touch with Ann.Website:Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 18  (Bonus) Are you overwhelmed by the sheer number of things that you feel you need to care about? In this bonus episode, I remind you why it is that you don't need to care about everything that is good or worth caring about.An essential part of the interior journey into authenticity and wholeness is knowing yourself well and where and how you - with your limitations - are uniquely created to make an impact in the world.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!ADDITIONAL RESOURCESBlog Post: A Letter for the OverwhelmedOther episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 4 & 5 Living from the Inside Out (Part 1 & 2)- Ep 6 Listening to Your Life Speak- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with YourselfPODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK- Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACTContact:Get in touch with Ann.Website:Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram 

EPISODE 17 How do you feel when you hit up against your limits? Most of us have been taught that limits are meant to be surpassed and that growth comes when we push past our present limits. But what if some limits are meant to be embraced?  What if some of our limits are important signs we need to understand in order to become our True Selves?In this episode, my guest (my husband Henry) and I discuss how our personal experiences with limits have helped us to live more joyfully and become our authentic selves.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!BLOGThe Power of Limits for Intentional LivingREFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you?Ponder.- What limit or limitation are you facing up to in this season of your life?- How do you feel about facing this limitation?Act.- Try sitting down with this limit and speak to him or her like an old friend asked this old friend of yours, what he, or she might be telling you about yourself.ADDITIONAL RESOURCESOther episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 4 & 5 Living from the Inside Out (Part 1 & 2)- Ep 6 Listening to Your Life Speak- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with YourselfPODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK- Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACTContact:Get in touch with Ann.Website:Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media:Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram 

EPISODE 16When was the last time you went away to a quiet place to spend some extended quality time with your inner self? No interior life pilgrim will be able to make headway in this journey without entering seasons of hiddenness from time to time.In this episode I share why seasons of hiddenness from the distractions and pressures of our lives are invaluable for going within and connecting with the core of our being. Do you feel like you have been losing touch with your inner self? Or that busyness has been keeping you circling on the outer layer of your life without being able to pay attention to the core of your being? This episode is meant for you!Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERS Available here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you?Ponder. - How does the thought of entering a season of hiddenness make you feel? Let your emotions review of themselves to you without judging them. What do you think your emotional response to being hidden is telling you about the state of your inner being? Act. - Identify an area or two in your life that would benefit from a time of hiddenness and tending.- Then plan for a period of time to get away and be hidden where you can be in silence and solitude and be tended to. For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Blog: Hide Me So I Can Be FoundOther episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 4 & 5 Living from the Inside Out (Part 1 & 2) - Ep 8 The Necessity of Making Space- Ep 9 The Wisdom in Slowing DownInterested in Going on Retreat?Retreat Go Where? Relaxing spots for a spiritual getaway in Singapore.Spiritual Retreats: A Time to Refresh Our Souls (Salt & Light)PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACT Contact: Get in touch with Ann.Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 15 Do you sometimes feel like a fraud, and that you're not as ____________ (fill in the blank) as other people think you are? Do you sometimes feel even more fake when others praise you and look up to you?In this episode I talk about how feeling like an impostor and being unable to feel joy at our achievements could be an indication that our lives are out of alignment with our inner selves.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERS Available here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you? What emotions or thoughts came up in response as you listened?Ponder. - What was it that resonated with you in this episode? Why do you think this specific part of the episode resonated with you? Act. - Can you remember a time or an incident when you felt like an impostor? Others could be praising you or looking up to you, and yet you feel that you didn't deserve it and felt out of place. Take some time to journal about this. Describe the circumstances and what felt fake to you.- Next, remember an instance in your life when you felt deeply aligned with your inner self even if you did not understand why... For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Blog:Why Can't I Just Be Me?PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACT Contact: Get in touch with Ann.Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 14 Do you find that you have a hard time differentiating your own emotions and needs from that of your family or significant others? Do you feel that you are responsible for making sure that other people are happy and end up living a life that others want you to live instead of living the life that makes YOU more fully alive?In this episode I talk about how I realised that a lack of healthy boundaries was an obstacle to growing into my True Self, and how learning to practice healthy boundaries helped me to heal and become clearer in my identity.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps! TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERS Available here. REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you? What emotions or thoughts came up in response as you listened?Ponder. - Do you tend to be too distant or too close in your significant relationships? Do you struggle more with becoming emotionally intimate with others or with being too emotionally needy and being unable to differentiate your own needs from others?Act. - Make a list of the significant relationships in your life. Beside each name or relationship, write down one of these options:A. Too distantB. Too closeC. Just rightIf you find that you have a recurring pattern of either As or Bs, I invite you to learn more about relational boundaries ... For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Blog:That's Not Love, That's EnmeshmentPoem: Please Hear What I'm Not SayingArticles: 12 Signs You Lack Healthy Boundaries (and Why You Need Them)Signs that You May Be in an Enmeshed Relationship13 Signs You Grew Up in an Enmeshed FamilyPodcast:Why Your Family of Origin Impacts Your Life More Than Anything ElsePODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACT Contact: Get in touch with Ann.Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched. Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 13 Have you ever felt that you had to be _________ enough (fill in the blank) in order to be loveable? In this episode I share my experience of chasing an 'ideal self' that I could never quite catch up with. The closer I seemed to come to my ideal self, the more fearful I became of failure because I believed I would be loved only if I was "good enough."I talk about why even noble ideals can get distorted unintentionally when we use them as a means to get the love we need, and how you can begin to identify the nature of the "impossible race" that you may be running in your life.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps! TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERS Available here. REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you? What emotions or thoughts came up in response as you listened?Ponder. - What impossible race are you running? What are the rules you feel you have to abide by? Or the things that you have to do in order to be seen, affirmed and loved? What has been your experience of running this race so far? What words would you use to describe it? Act. - Try and remember a time, a place in which you did not have to run your impossible race, where you could relax and be yourself and be loved and accepted as you were.- Where were you? Who were with you if there was anyone? What was near you? What were you doing? For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Blog: Can I Ever Be 'Good Enough' For You?PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACT Contact: Get in touch with Ann.Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched. Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 12 Have you ever felt like you were regressing in your journey? It is a common experience among many who have started to take their interior life in earnest to feel discouraged when it seems they have stopped moving forwards and started back-sliding. In this episode I share why regressing is normal for pilgrims of the interior journey, why the usual "goal-setting" mindset doesn't really apply in this journey, and how we can let these seasons of regression help us rather than hinder us.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps! TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERS Available here. REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - When you find yourself feeling like you're regressing, take note of how you're feeling. What is the emotion? Name itPonder. - Be curious about your felt regression. Why do you think or feel that you're regressing? What are the markers that are making you think that you're going backwards? Act. - Carve out some time for solitude and read some of your old journal entries. Maybe you want to jot down some main milestones of your personal journey as you can remember them.- Look at how all those turning points in your life have led you here. - Close the exercise by writing a list of what you're grateful for in your journey thus far. Keep the list close where you can review whenever you feel discouraged for regressing. For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Blog: "When Growth Feels Like Backsliding"Other episodes that would help you understand and apply the lessons in this episode:- Ep 4 Living from the Inside Out (Part 1) - Ep 5 Living from the Inside Out (Part 2)- Ep 7 Be Curious, Courageous & Compassionate with Yourself.PODCAST COMPANION WORKBOOK - Downloadable & Printable- 10 worksheets, over 30 exercises- Helps you integrate and apply the foundational principles to Becoming Me- Great for inner work and connecting with yourself in solitude- Includes tips for partner and small-group sharing- Free for all e-mail newsletter subscribersFIND OUT MORESUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACT Contact: Get in touch with Ann.Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched. Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

BONUS EPISODE Christmas is just around the corner, everyone seems to be merry - but are they really? Are YOU? What if you don't feel like celebrating this Christmas? Does it mean you are being a Scrooge, a Humbug? As someone who still feels contradictory emotions every time Christmas season rolls around, I made this special episode for everyone who needs to acknowledge that they are less than happy during Christmas. I want to assure you that not wanting to celebrate in the usual way does not mean you cannot welcome the incredible gift that Christmas brings.Come as you are, come even if you're sad, or grumpy, or just want to be left alone. Christmas is for you too!Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps! TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERS Available at here. GLOSSARY FOR THIS EPISODESome terms you may not be familiar with which I use in this episode:Solemnity - Refers to a particularly great celebration for CatholicsEucharist/ Blessed Sacrament - Refers to the round host - the bread that has been blessed and consecrated at holy mass into the Body of Christ. Perpetual Adoration Chapel - Refers to a chapel where the Blessed Sacrament is present, often exposed, for adoration by the faithful, and which is open 24 hours a day. ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Blog: Permission to be Un-Merry this ChristmasSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACT Contact: Get in touch with Ann.Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched. Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 10 Many of us encounter people in our lives who cannot understand the new direction we are taking in our lives to know our True Selves. The experience of being alone on this journey can often make us doubt if we are on the right track.In this episode I look at one of the most common reasons beginners on the interior journey get discouraged and offer an explanation of why this struggle exists as well as how we can respond to our loneliness fruitfully.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps! TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERS Available at here. REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to today’s episode, what struck you? - What emotions or thoughts came up in response as you listened?Ponder. - What is your default response when you begin to feel lonely or unsupported? Do you run away from loneliness? How do you do that? Act. - Write a short note or letter to yourself as you would to a dear friend whom you know, is feeling lonely and melancholic in that note or letter, tell yourself that you will always be available to lend an ear and spend time with you.- The next time you realize that you are feeling lonely, I invite you to take this letter out and read it before you do anything else to distract yourself.- Read that letter and then spend that time that you've promised yourself, listen to your soul and get to know your neglected inner self. For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Blog: "The Grace of Loneliness"Blog: "Crossing the Threshold of Loneliness"Quote by Henri Nouwen "From Loneliness into Solitude"Book Section. Henri Nouwen. "Reaching Out: The Three Movements of the Spiritual Life". The first section of the book Reaching Out to Our Innermost Self is about the movement from Loneliness into Solitude.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | CONTACT Contact: Get in touch with Ann.Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched. Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 9 Making the interior journey and living from the inside-out requires us to learn a new way of being and acting. The process of learning to live from the inside-out consist of deep soul work that cannot be done while we are living at the typical “warp speed” of our modern lives.In this episode I explain how “slow is fast, and fast is slow” when it comes to living the interior life and offer some practical suggestions on how to create your own Slowing Down Routine when you need to exit the expressway and enter a more contemplative space for inner life work. Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps! TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERS Available here. REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to today’s episode, what struck you? - What emotions or thoughts came up in response as you listened?Ponder. - What signs might there be in your life that are telling you that you have been moving too fast and that you need to slow down? Act. - Create your own Slowing Down Routine if you don’t have one yet.- Set aside some time and make a date with yourself. Solitude is important for this routine because it is your inner self that you need to reconnect with. - Decide on a venue and a simple activity. Pick a place where you will not be disturbed and where the environment is reasonably quiet and conducive for calming you down.- Choose an activity that you enjoy and does not require you to multi-task, perform or achieve. - If you already have a routine you love for slowing down, then find some time in the weeks ahead to enjoy it! For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Watch this beautiful 10 minute video about Slowing Down by Green Renaissance. Read my blog entry Re-learning How to Slow DownSUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SHARE Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched. Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 8 It doesn't matter how much we understand conceptually about living authentically. If we do not make space in our overcrowded and busy lives to connect with ourselves and work on our interior journey, there will be no transformation in our life. In this episode, I talk about why it is paramount that we learn how to make space in our lives. I also share about how an awakening to inauthenticity led me to learn this fundamental principle of making space, and how learning it transformed the way my husband and I live our lives and our marriage.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERS Available here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to today’s episode, what struck you? - What emotions or thoughts came up in response as you listened?Ponder. - How much white space is there in your own life right now?- Is there a sufficient space for you to breathe in between the things that you have to do? - Is there a space that allows you to pause and review and recalibrate?- Is there a space for you to just simply be? Act. - In your calendar block out some time within the next week or month and label it “White Space”. - Resist the urge to make plans for this white space ahead of time and resist the urge to give this block of time away to more productive pursuits. For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Book Recommendation: Greg McKeown. "Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less"Article: Bryan Gardner. "Why the White Space in Our Life Matters"SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SHARE Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched. Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 7 Fear can be a powerful prison that keeps us from taking the steps we need to know our True Self and to make the changes we need to heal and flourish. But it is not unbreakable. And part of what helps us to break out of the prison of fear is this trio of virtues - Curiosity, Courage and Compassion. In this episode, I share about my first significant breakthrough from the fear of self-knowledge and how Curiosity, Courage and Compassion can give us real practical help in our journey to authenticity and wholeness.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERS Available here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to today’s episode, what struck you? - What emotions or thoughts came up in response as you listened?Ponder. - Among Curiosity, Courage, and Compassion, which one comes most easily to you? - Which one do you find the hardest to practice? - Which one do you think you most need to develop for your interior journey right now?Act. - Choose one virtue to grow in for the next month and commit to checking in with yourself daily on how you have fared that day. For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES My latest blog entry is a reflection on the story I shared in this episode about facing my inner demons head on for the first time in my life. Read Facing My Shadows.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SHARE Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched. Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 6 To live from the inside-out requires us to first understand how to listen to our own lives speak to us. Most of us allow many voices to guide the direction that our lives take except our own inner voice. In this episode, I share my own story of how I became awakened to the fact that I was not listening to my life speak to me, and the transformation that happened when I began to learn how to listen. In the Praxis section, I share a simple exercise you can begin to use to listen to your own life.Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERS Available here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to me tell my story in this episode, what struck you? Ponder. - Choose one thing that struck you most about my story. - Can you connect it with something in you own life story? - What do you feel about this part of your own life story? - Try and name one or two emotions if you can. - What do you think your soul might be trying to communicate to you through these emotions?Act. - If there is a certain event in your own life that came up as you listened and pondered on this episode, list down the various circumstances and happenings that made up that event on the outer rim of the wagon wheel. - You can include the reactions and responses of others to you at this level of exterior experiences.- Finally, spend some time expressing yourself in your journal whether through words or art about how you feel about what has been revealed in this exercise.For full reflection prompt, see transcript.ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Download Wagon Wheel Reflection Resource Parker Palmer. “Let Your Life Speak: Listening to the Voice of Vocation” Max Lucado. “Cure for the Common Life: Living in Your Sweet Spot”Luke Burgis & Joshua Miller PhD. “Unrepeatable: Cultivating the Unique Calling of Every Person”SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SHARE Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched. Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 5 Do you find yourself easily triggered by the events in your life and feeling overwhelmed by the noise of the world? In last week's episode, I explained with the help of an analogy using the avocado fruit, the three layers of living life. In today's episode, I'm going to take a closer look at these three layers of living, how they affect one another and what the implications are for our interior journey. Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERSAvailable on here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you listened to the descriptions of living from the outside-in and living from the inside-out, what struck you? - How did it make you feel?Ponder. - Choose one thing that struck you most in this episode. - Why do you think this point matters to you? - Can you connect it with your own life experience?Act. - Identify something in the outermost layer of your life that is affecting you deeply. - Allow yourself to listen to what you actually feel about this thing. Give yourself permission to feel what you feel and try and name your emotion. - In your journal, write this question down, “I wonder why I feel this way?” - List down whatever might come to mind. ADDITIONAL RESOURCES Download Wagon Wheel Reflection Prompt More about Viktor Frankl and "Man's Search for Meaning"More about St. Maximilian Kolbe SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 4 Do you ever feel like you are pulled in a million different directions, often running like hamsters on a wheel just trying to keep going without falling? Do you often find yourself feeling stressed and tired and emotionally drained? Or do you experience your life as an integrated, harmonious whole? In this episode and the next, I share with you a fundamental principle of growing in authenticity and wholeness - and that is living from the inside-out, or living from a strong and integrated core. In this episode I explain the importance of living from our core, identify what our "core" is, and help you understand the importance of engaging, strengthening, and living from that core. Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERSAvailable here.00:02:10 The Pilates Analogy 00:06:52 "CORE" Engagement 00:09:32 The Avocado Analogy 00:14:27 Personal Story Illustration 00:21:27 PRAXIS: Listen. Ponder. Act.REFLECTION PROMPTListen. - As you were listening to this episode, was there any part that resonated with you? - How did you feel as you were listening? - Can you identify one word or phrase that would describe your feelings as you listened?Ponder. - Take note of the word or phrase you chose to name your experience as you listened to this episode. - Why do you think you feel this way? - Is there any memory or experience in your own life that comes to mind as you sit with this for a while? Act. - If you haven’t already been able to do so, I invite you take a few minutes to try and identify the 3 layers of living in the story I shared in this episode. - Don’t worry about whether or not you get it correct. The exercise will help you begin to exercise the muscles you need to do this for yourself in your own life. SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 3 In this episode I talk about the challenge of accepting and valuing ourselves as we are. I propose that the way to becoming the best and fullest version of ourselves cannot be found by running away from who we are or by trying to remake ourselves in somebody else’s image. Instead, the path we need to take is to embark on the quest to understand and learn how to thrive with the unique gift that we have been given in each of our personhood.What if you - in the unique mix of your personality, quirks, talents, interests, life experiences - and even your trials and sufferings - are a gift to this world? What if there is someone who needs you to be who you are? What if YOU are that someone first of all who need your acceptance and love to bloom and flourish? Will you give yourself this chance? Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERSAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTListen. Recall your emotional responses as you listened to this episode. How did you feel? Was there a particular line, word or section that you felt particularly strongly about?Ponder. Choose one reaction you had and start wondering about it. Why do you think you reacted in that way? Can you connect it with some concrete experience or memory in your life? You may wish to find some time in the next couple of days to write or draw in your journal. Act. I invite you to consider writing a note or letter to yourself, as an invitation to friendship. Or, if you prefer, to look at yourself in the mirror and say something sincere and affirming. Try and see if you can find one affirming thing to say to yourself which you can truly mean every daySUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 2 Today’s episode continues from the first episode to introduce Becoming Me. Previously, I had shared a little about my own backstory and why I am doing this podcast. In this episode, I’m going to talk a bit about what Becoming Me is and who it is meant for, as well as how you can make the most out of it for your own journey. Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!TRANSCRIPT Available here.SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

EPISODE 1 In this introductory episode, I share some background about myself and why I am doing this podcast. Becoming Me emerged first and foremost from my own ongoing journey of becoming more and more my True Self. Listen to how I struggled to have any sense of identity apart from the mirrored perspective of other people's affirmation or criticism of me, and how I realised I needed a fresh start to get to know myself. Share this episode easily via a PDF card with live links to different apps!TRANSCRIPT & CHAPTER MARKERS Available here.SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram

The first few episodes of the Becoming Me Podcast drops on 7 October 2020! SUBSCRIBE & FOLLOW Website: Visit www.becomingme.sg to read my blog and subscribe to the newsletter! Receive my emails and be the first to know about significant updates and new resources and events before they are launched.Social Media: Follow Becoming Me on Facebook & Instagram