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Explore the core ideas from No More Mr. Nice Guy that help men reclaim their power through setting boundaries, saying no, and seeking respect over external validation.Key Idea: Nice Guys often lack clear personal boundaries because they fear disapproval or rejection.Quote from the Book:“Nice Guys believe that if they are good, giving, and caring, they will be loved, get their needs met, and live a problem-free life.”This belief leads them to be boundaryless, sacrificing their own needs.Main Points:Boundaries aren't about controlling others — they're about controlling what you allow into your space.Without boundaries, resentment builds.Setting boundaries is a form of self-respect and self-responsibility.Practical Application:Practice using phrases like:“That doesn't work for me.”“Let me get back to you on that.”“I'm not available for that right now.”External Reference:Brené Brown on boundaries: “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.”Key Idea: Nice Guys fear saying no because they think it will make them unlikable or cause conflict.Quote from the Book:“Nice Guys are terrified of rejection, and they're convinced that saying no is the fastest way to get rejected.”Main Points:Saying no is an assertion of your identity.It allows room to say yes to what truly matters.“No” doesn't make you rude — it makes you honest.Actionable Tool:Practice low-stakes "no's" to build the muscle — e.g., decline an invitation politely or state a preference.External Resource:Greg McKeown's Essentialism reinforces the importance of saying no to non-essentials so you can say yes to purpose.Key Idea: Nice Guys prioritize being liked and accepted over being respected — but this often leads to self-abandonment.Quote from the Book:“Nice Guys believe that if they are loved, they will be accepted and valued. But they try to earn love by being who they think others want them to be.”Main Points:People may “like” you for being agreeable, but they'll respect you for being authentic.Seeking validation is rooted in external identity; respect comes from inner congruence.Respect = being seen and valued for who you actually are.Mindset Shift:Ask yourself, “Would I rather be admired for a mask or respected for my truth?”External Quote:David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man:“Your edge is your real gift to the world. People may not like it, but they will feel it and remember you for it.”

my 20s seems like a blur but it was more of a journey. Realizing im half way to 60 seems wild. Questions like, did i doo enough in my 20s? What did I miss? What did I overcome? What did I learn? Would I have done things differently provided the chance? I look at where I am now and I can confidently say that I wouldn't change the out come. I'm so thankful for my wife, son, and the life we have.

Discovering the power in how we talk about ourselves and how we can make our words work for us discovering the RAS and how it guides us to what we want in life!

Walk with me through a day in the life of the average human and their habits that lead to a feed back loop that they will never escape unless they are intentional and give more attention to the one resource we don't have enough of and can never get back....

Look like I missed the count on my Episodes. So this is episode 64.5. Where I talk about the attention to scheduling and challenging your mindsets. Fatherhood is not just a Its all I have ever known.

Every decision you make is a vote for the person you choose to become. So take care in your decisions and be intentional about your actions. They lead to results that are either controlled by you, or those you choose to surround yourself with. Come join me in a discussion around Fixed mindsets and Growth mindsets.

Talking about two heavily predicting factors of the success of your relationship. If you want to help your relationship to thrive and become stronger and grow. Then you can be sure to trust these Tools as you implement and start moving forward with how you show up!

Dive into the one thing that has guided me to the life that I have today. That Has blessed me with opportunity, A wife, a Son, a Business, and a podcast.

Come hangout for a quick session on why we do what we do when it comes to the lowest points in our lives.

Hitting Home with this one. As we Navigate life and see all it has to offer. What Happens when we were left without a father? Or the circumstances left us without a fatherly figure? I became a father 364 days ago and I wanted to share with you just the opening perspectives of the initial thoughts and questions I had as I counted down the days until I became a father!

Its starts at the core. The Core of who you are. We have 18 Different Struggles in life.

We take life for granted. What do you need to be doing today and why?

Take a dive with me into one of those tools for your tool box. How it can guide your actions and decisions. Finding you where your at and guiding you to a better well deserved future!

Today we dive into the Victim Mindset. What we can do to battle it the mindset shift and tools we use to get what we want out of our lives. Extreme or not extreme we need to Take action on what we want in this life by first taking......

Breaking down the common misconceptions around motivation, Woman, Belief systems, and more. We Want you to walk away from this podcast ready to fight your 20s like a champion and not as a consumer. You have what it takes I promise. Lets get you started on the right path.

Join me on a journey of self sabotage, What and why?? and How can we take over in our lives when it comes to destroying our Careers, relationships, and social circle!

Came across this podcast and wondering what episode to listen to? Its this one. I Talk about the why, and where we are going.

2024 is you year, your chance, and your success. Are you ready? Today, and every day, I recognize my Calling. I acknowledge that I am destined for greatness, and it is my duty and purpose to fulfill my vision and mission. My unique talents, skills, and passions are gifts meant to be shared with the world. I will embrace every opportunity that aligns with my calling, and I will pursue my goals with unwavering determination. I understand that my decisions shape my destiny. I will make choices that are in line with my vision and values. I will cultivate important traits such as resilience, patience, and perseverance. I will form habits that empower me: the habit of continuous learning, the habit of gratitude, and the habit of self-reflection. These habits will guide my decisions, ensuring they reflect the best version of myself. I promise to take care of my body and mind. I will nourish myself with healthy food, exercise, and sufficient rest. I will engage in activities that bring me joy and peace, nurturing my mental and emotional health. I recognize that a strong and healthy body provides the foundation for a focused and clear mind. I am aware that temptation and distractions are obstacles on my path to success. I will resist the allure of instant gratification and stay true to my goals. I will minimize distractions, knowing that my time and energy are valuable resources. I will be mindful of how I spend my time, ensuring it is in alignment with my purpose. Every day, I will take steps, no matter how small, toward my goals. I will face challenges with courage and setbacks with resilience. I will celebrate my victories, both big and small. I trust in my abilities and believe in my dreams. With focus, determination, and unwavering faith in myself, I will fulfill my Calling and create a life of purpose and fulfillment.

You been put on a boat that isn't going to help you succeed. Are you going to acknowledge it and start taking action or... let it consume you and run your life. Its your choice.

Are you effective at taking action in your life regardless of your emotions? No? Then it's time to get to work. do you promote a creative and curious environment fueled with passion and empathy for your kids? No? Then it's time to get to work. Are you quick to anger in a disagreement with your wife? Are you riding an emotional rollercoaster with highs and lows of action and inaction? Are you reacting to minor inconveniences like the world is ending? Do you believe that the world is against you and that they are the problem? Then it's time.. It's time to take control of your future. It's time to take control of your emotions. It's time to take control of your actions.

The Podcast That Redefines What It Means to be a Emotionally Intelligent Man! Its time to man up. Navigate the world on your own terms. And be a leader at your job and at home.

3 Things Holding you back from you. A common sense approach to life. If you do these things and you will live a life to the fullest.

Lets talk Logical thinking the thing that will change the way you operate in life. The way you talk about yourself to others, And the Way you talk to yourself. Lets get you another tool for the arsenal.

What does it mean to carry your last name? What track record do you hold in your actions? Is it honorable? And why should you care?

Today we Discuss the statistics behind what we are doing wrong as a society. Now more then every we must unite as men.

If you live a goal-orientated lifestyle, you will experience what i would call the rollercoaster effect. And most people hate being on the rollercoaster but don't know how to get off. When you're motivated to do things, you slam them out. You are unstoppable, and this time varies for some, from a day to a couple months. You will have an exciting couple of months of productivity, and then without any notice, you are on the downswing you let things slip. Life gets to Quote Busy end quote. Life seems to just take hold, and for some reason, you can no longer take care of yourself, your shit list, or the mundane tasks that keep your house organized and effective. Everything falls apart. And you live like this for an extended period until something happens. You may get a spark of inspiration to clean your house. You just decide that you're gonna do more than you did yesterday. Or for some, and maybe for most, your now years down, that life is getting too busy, and you have left yourself way worse off than you had ever imagined. So what's next for you, and why does it seem like every time you think you have discovered some momentum in your life, it all comes crashing down? It's because we have been conditioned for goals, not values. Since you were in school, the goal was to finish your homework. Your goal was to get a passing grade. Your goal was to finish the year and pass. the goal was to court a partner and be in a relationship. the goal was to get a car, a house, and a family. There has always been a goal. For some, it has been effective and has served them very well. But for others that end up on the rollercoaster, I wanted to show you that there is another way to orient your life and direction to help you achieve things more effectively and on time. This will help you develop the right habits, characteristics, perspectives, and beliefs to get you wherever you want to go. So what is a value-oriented lifestyle look like? Listen in!!!

Based on the society of our past we have been told that men are just providers. You job is done once you have provided a home, food, and a place to sleep. But that is such a small aspect of what life is really meant to be! Why would you adopt the Fit Dad Mentality and how would it serve you and let you enjoy so much more in your life?

Good Morning! Here are the best Resources for your morning Decisions and Actions for your journey! 1. Fasted Cardio Are There Benefits of Fasted Cardio? (healthline.com) 2. Cold Exposure Frequent Extreme Cold Exposure and Brown Fat and Cold-Induced Thermogenesis: A Study in a Monozygotic Twin | PLOS ONE Also An Amazing Article on Linkedin with 60 References: Cold Thermogenesis and The Brain (linkedin.com) 3. Food Impact of Dietary Fats on Brain Functions - PMC (nih.gov) 4. Reading/ Learning The Science of Brainwaves - the Language of the Brain | NeuroHealth Associates (nhahealth.com) 5. Meditation Meditations Book by Marcus AureliusLiberty (libertyfund.org) 6. Connect with Other Men Way of Men - Jack Donovan The Way of The Superior Man - David Deida Hard Times Create Strong Men - Stefan Aarnio Becoming Unstoppable on your journey! Lets GOO

As men, we play a vital role in shaping the character, values, and overall well-being of our families. Our actions and choices are influenced by a set of guiding principles that form the moral foundations upon which we build our lives. By understanding and embracing these principles, we can create a positive impact not only within our own lives but also within the lives of our loved ones. So, let's explore some of the key elements that contribute to building strong moral foundations. Integrity and Honesty The first crucial element of building strong moral foundations is integrity and honesty. Integrity means aligning our actions with our values and principles. It involves consistently acting in a manner that reflects our true character. Honesty, on the other hand, involves being truthful and transparent in all aspects of life. When we prioritize integrity and honesty, we cultivate trust, credibility, and authenticity within our families. Respect and Empathy The second element is respect and empathy. Respect forms the cornerstone of healthy relationships and interactions. By treating others with dignity, fairness, and kindness, we create an environment that fosters trust and understanding within our families. Additionally, cultivating empathy allows us to understand and share the feelings of our loved ones, promoting deeper connections and emotional well-being. Responsibility and Accountability The third element is responsibility and accountability. Personal responsibility entails taking ownership of our actions, choices, and commitments. It means fulfilling our obligations and striving for personal growth. Similarly, family responsibility reminds us of the importance of our roles within our families. By actively contributing to the well-being, support, and nurturing of our family members, we create a culture of accountability and reliability within our households. Compassion and Service The fourth and final element we'll explore today is compassion and service. Cultivating compassion involves showing kindness, understanding, and concern for the well-being of others. By prioritizing the needs and emotions of our family members, we foster empathy, forgiveness, and strong bonds. Additionally, serving others with selflessness and generosity instills values of altruism, gratitude, and social responsibility within our families. Building strong moral foundations is an ongoing journey that requires conscious effort and self-reflection. As men, we have the power to shape our own lives and the lives of our families through the principles we embrace and embody. So, let's take a moment to reflect on the guiding principles we've discussed today: integrity and honesty, respect and empathy, responsibility and accountability, and compassion and service. These principles lay the groundwork for creating a nurturing environment where our families can flourish. Thank you for joining me today on this exploration of building strong moral foundations. I hope this episode has inspired you to reflect on your own guiding principles and how they shape your life and relationships. Remember, by consciously embracing these principles, we can become better men and create a lasting positive impact on our families.

Bunch of weak men out here thinking they are going to conquer the world. Men wake up!!

Here We are on a Monday morning talking about something you probably already started doing today..... So Are you happy with the result or did you wish things were different?

Common Misconception as a Man is that our purpose is to provide. But this is less then half they purpose that we have as men. If we don't STEP UP in other key essential rolls in our lives we will become stale and lose our ambition, momentum, purpose, and maybe even our lives. If your not living your dying. Lets get busy!!

Invasive Weeds? Beautiful trees? What other seeds could we possibly use in our life?

We will always have inputs in our lives from news, social media, friends, family, podcasts, books. What are are you doing to regulate what is serving you and what is influencing your actions, and decisions. Lets have a quick talk about it today!

Just sharing Something I was Feeling passionate about in the moment. Lets get After it this week!!!

Monday Morning Madness !! Its the 3 Key Components to successfully implement any new Habit, Belief, Perspective, Skill, Talent, Hobby, and much more. When ever you are trying something new for the first time you are going to encounter the first but eventually move to the second then with some hard work and dedication you will finally move to the third. Looking forward to the discussion!!

Jam packed with a theory, Perspective, and a Belief. Lets lake a look at your mindset and how it could be Tearing you down!!!

When is comes to your most Elite Self and those Forks in the road it can be challenging to know which way to take. Intuition or that gut Feeling might be just what you need to take that leap of faith. Tune in for a short podcast where I give you an introduction to intuition and how we can build it up.

After 4 weeks of silence I'm back with an episode to give you an update on how it feels to be a new father. The Ups and Downs, some tips and an overview of the impact and emotions that come with becoming a father.

Embarking on a self development journey can be like drinking from a fire hose. He is a practical way to start your journey with some questions and skills to develop over time to help you become your most ELITE self.

Do we understand what we want? Whats holding us back? how we can become more effective and efficient?

Why am I here? What is my mission? I tried to discuss it but maybe got a little off topic. Value Packed Perspective shifts and mindset development!

We all have problems... Its how we handle them that separate us from society. What could you do differently today to make sure your getting where you need to tomorrow?

Short and sweet, Something to get you going into your week as you navigate the Monday blues!!! Lets get if fam!!!

We are talking about Journaling for men and all it has to offer our lives. I give some helpful tips on how to use this to to see the best results. Understand that this tool needs to be used over an extended period of time to see benefits. Give it a listen and you might just be journaling for the first time tonight

It has been way to long and I'm sorry. Have a listen and I hope you like what you hear! Lets get after it this week!

Have you met your reflection? Do you see the person you wanted to be? or are you so far from who you could be?

How are you seeing the world around you? Is it against you? How are you playing a roll around you?

How does the world see you and how are you showing up?

Keeping you on your toes! lets make this the best week yet!!