Podcasts about perfectionists

We please. We rescue. We perform. We hold everything together - until sometimes we disappear or reach for escape.But what if these familiar responses are not fixed identities? What if they are intelligent adaptations: ways we learned to secure safety, belonging, continuity or relief?Following last week's introduction to From Mask to Map, Ashley explores the Nine Adaptation Patterns at the heart of this developing body of work: the Pleaser, Rescuer, Performer, Chameleon, Strong One, Perfectionist, Controller, Vanisher and Escaper.Moving through the different ways we reach towards belonging, attempt to hold ourselves and the world together, or create distance from overwhelming intensity, Ashley considers the protective purpose, genuine strengths and present-day costs carried within each pattern.These are not diagnoses, personality types or nine new boxes in which to place ourselves. With careful attention to Neurodivergent Nuance, Ashley explores why the behaviour alone cannot reveal the whole pattern. Structure may be an essential accommodation rather than control. Solitude may be restoration rather than disappearance. Social fluency may be joyful expression rather than compulsory performance. What matters is the job the behaviour is performing, the freedom we have around it and the price we may now be paying.Ashley also returns to the work of Jungian analyst Dr James Hollis and his question of what, beyond survival, may be seeking expression through us as meaning and purpose.Through recollection, Shakespeare's “ravelled sleave of care” and the image of the Weaver, the episode becomes an invitation to gather every thread of our experience without mistaking any single pattern for the whole design.The episode closes with a brief guided practice, The Weaver and the Thread.The complete guided exploration of the Nine Adaptation Patterns - including discovering your own configuration and mapping the way forward - will be exclusive to the founding From Mask to Map group coaching and hypnotherapy cohort beginning on 15 September. The programme is fully online, limited to ten people and available worldwide, with replays provided for those unable to attend live.Spaces are still available. Visit integrativeiom.co.uk/from-mask-to-map for full details.Our Sponsors:

So many believers deeply desire to live right before God, uphold strong values, and walk in holiness. Yet behind that sincere desire, there is often a hidden burden—an emotional and spiritual pressure that never lets you rest, never lets you feel “enough,” and never lets you simply be loved by God. This is the toxic […]

→ Joe says it at the very end of this one: the stuff that got hurt in groups is often best healed in groups. That's what the Connection Course offers a space for: https://yt.artofaccomplishment.com/rapid-coaching/perfectionism  In this session, a woman asks Joe how to stop being a perfectionist "for good" and he points out that the question itself is perfectionist. From there he opens it up. Follow along to learn what may be living beneath your perfectionism and how to meet it with more understanding. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome to Episode 152 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering!  Today I have the privilege of chatting with Lauren McLaughlin. Lauren is a wife and mom of three, and the founder of Change Up Kids, a portable changing room designed to give kidsdignity and privacy wherever life takes them. Driven by her faith and a deeply personal story, Lauren built her business with a mission that goes beyond the product. Through her work, she supports families on-the-go while donating a portion of every purchase to help fight child trafficking. Lauren is passionate about encouraging women to pursue God first, trust His timing, and walk boldly in both motherhood and their calling.Some of the resources we mention in this episode include:Change Up Kids Portable Changing RoomsAway Game: A Christian Parent's Guide to Navigating Youth Sports by Brian Smith and Ed Uszynski*Slow Burn: The Work and Wonder of the Wait by DawnChere Wilkerson*The Lie You Don't Know You Believe: How to Find It, Fight It, and Live Free by Jennie Allen*Procrastination Proof * by Jon Acuff⁠⁠How to Love Your Morning* by Jennifer Dukes LeeYou can connect with Lauren via:changeupkids.comInstagram: @change_up_kids_laurenDon't forget that you can connect with me via:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠My website: andreafortenberry.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: @andreafortenberry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Grab a copy of my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms**Affiliate Link

Cultural studies of the nineteenth century often categorize their subjects as being motivated by one of two opposing notions: a wholehearted embrace of progress or an antimodernist nostalgia. A Perfectionist Impulse: The Art of Stopping Time in the Nineteenth Century (U Minnesota Press, 2026) centers a different kind of response to the period's newly intensified awareness of temporality and history: an obsession with preserving perfection. Engaging a diverse set of case studies, Dr. Ellery E. Foutch explores the era's desire to forestall the march of time and immortalize the fleeting moment through art and technology. Beginning with an investigation of artist and naturalist Titian Peale's butterfly illustrations and specimen boxes, Dr. Foutch assesses the implications of attempts to fix animal life in the “perfect state.” She then turns to Harvard's Ware Collection of Glass Flowers, botanical models meticulously crafted to serve as instructional tools but most famous internationally as a spectacle for tourists. Finally, she scrutinizes the period's preoccupation with the fragility of the human body, examining artistic representations of the legendary bodybuilder Eugen Sandow, widely known during his time as the “Perfect Man.” Highlighting the paradoxical way in which these attempts at preservation ultimately sap the vitality from the organic processes they seek to arrest, Dr. Foutch uses these curious objects to unpack a deep set of cultural anxieties around decay and death. By analyzing objects of mass culture and natural history using methods typically reserved for works of art, A Perfectionist Impulse provides a unique window into how nineteenth-century scientists, technologists, artists, and entertainers rendered a common desire for perfection and immortality. Itself a wondrous collection of attempts to capture the idealized moment, this extensively illustrated book serves as a shining example of our enduring fascination with the ephemeral. This interview was conducted by Dr. Miranda Melcher whose book focuses on post-conflict military integration, understanding treaty negotiation and implementation in civil war contexts, with qualitative analysis of the Angolan and Mozambican civil wars. You can find Miranda's interviews on New Books with Miranda Melcher, wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

Cultural studies of the nineteenth century often categorize their subjects as being motivated by one of two opposing notions: a wholehearted embrace of progress or an antimodernist nostalgia. A Perfectionist Impulse: The Art of Stopping Time in the Nineteenth Century (U Minnesota Press, 2026) centers a different kind of response to the period's newly intensified awareness of temporality and history: an obsession with preserving perfection. Engaging a diverse set of case studies, Dr. Ellery E. Foutch explores the era's desire to forestall the march of time and immortalize the fleeting moment through art and technology. Beginning with an investigation of artist and naturalist Titian Peale's butterfly illustrations and specimen boxes, Dr. Foutch assesses the implications of attempts to fix animal life in the “perfect state.” She then turns to Harvard's Ware Collection of Glass Flowers, botanical models meticulously crafted to serve as instructional tools but most famous internationally as a spectacle for tourists. Finally, she scrutinizes the period's preoccupation with the fragility of the human body, examining artistic representations of the legendary bodybuilder Eugen Sandow, widely known during his time as the “Perfect Man.” Highlighting the paradoxical way in which these attempts at preservation ultimately sap the vitality from the organic processes they seek to arrest, Dr. Foutch uses these curious objects to unpack a deep set of cultural anxieties around decay and death. By analyzing objects of mass culture and natural history using methods typically reserved for works of art, A Perfectionist Impulse provides a unique window into how nineteenth-century scientists, technologists, artists, and entertainers rendered a common desire for perfection and immortality. Itself a wondrous collection of attempts to capture the idealized moment, this extensively illustrated book serves as a shining example of our enduring fascination with the ephemeral. This interview was conducted by Dr. Miranda Melcher whose book focuses on post-conflict military integration, understanding treaty negotiation and implementation in civil war contexts, with qualitative analysis of the Angolan and Mozambican civil wars. You can find Miranda's interviews on New Books with Miranda Melcher, wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/art

Cultural studies of the nineteenth century often categorize their subjects as being motivated by one of two opposing notions: a wholehearted embrace of progress or an antimodernist nostalgia. A Perfectionist Impulse: The Art of Stopping Time in the Nineteenth Century (U Minnesota Press, 2026) centers a different kind of response to the period's newly intensified awareness of temporality and history: an obsession with preserving perfection. Engaging a diverse set of case studies, Dr. Ellery E. Foutch explores the era's desire to forestall the march of time and immortalize the fleeting moment through art and technology. Beginning with an investigation of artist and naturalist Titian Peale's butterfly illustrations and specimen boxes, Dr. Foutch assesses the implications of attempts to fix animal life in the “perfect state.” She then turns to Harvard's Ware Collection of Glass Flowers, botanical models meticulously crafted to serve as instructional tools but most famous internationally as a spectacle for tourists. Finally, she scrutinizes the period's preoccupation with the fragility of the human body, examining artistic representations of the legendary bodybuilder Eugen Sandow, widely known during his time as the “Perfect Man.” Highlighting the paradoxical way in which these attempts at preservation ultimately sap the vitality from the organic processes they seek to arrest, Dr. Foutch uses these curious objects to unpack a deep set of cultural anxieties around decay and death. By analyzing objects of mass culture and natural history using methods typically reserved for works of art, A Perfectionist Impulse provides a unique window into how nineteenth-century scientists, technologists, artists, and entertainers rendered a common desire for perfection and immortality. Itself a wondrous collection of attempts to capture the idealized moment, this extensively illustrated book serves as a shining example of our enduring fascination with the ephemeral. This interview was conducted by Dr. Miranda Melcher whose book focuses on post-conflict military integration, understanding treaty negotiation and implementation in civil war contexts, with qualitative analysis of the Angolan and Mozambican civil wars. You can find Miranda's interviews on New Books with Miranda Melcher, wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/science-technology-and-society

Cultural studies of the nineteenth century often categorize their subjects as being motivated by one of two opposing notions: a wholehearted embrace of progress or an antimodernist nostalgia. A Perfectionist Impulse: The Art of Stopping Time in the Nineteenth Century (U Minnesota Press, 2026) centers a different kind of response to the period's newly intensified awareness of temporality and history: an obsession with preserving perfection. Engaging a diverse set of case studies, Dr. Ellery E. Foutch explores the era's desire to forestall the march of time and immortalize the fleeting moment through art and technology. Beginning with an investigation of artist and naturalist Titian Peale's butterfly illustrations and specimen boxes, Dr. Foutch assesses the implications of attempts to fix animal life in the “perfect state.” She then turns to Harvard's Ware Collection of Glass Flowers, botanical models meticulously crafted to serve as instructional tools but most famous internationally as a spectacle for tourists. Finally, she scrutinizes the period's preoccupation with the fragility of the human body, examining artistic representations of the legendary bodybuilder Eugen Sandow, widely known during his time as the “Perfect Man.” Highlighting the paradoxical way in which these attempts at preservation ultimately sap the vitality from the organic processes they seek to arrest, Dr. Foutch uses these curious objects to unpack a deep set of cultural anxieties around decay and death. By analyzing objects of mass culture and natural history using methods typically reserved for works of art, A Perfectionist Impulse provides a unique window into how nineteenth-century scientists, technologists, artists, and entertainers rendered a common desire for perfection and immortality. Itself a wondrous collection of attempts to capture the idealized moment, this extensively illustrated book serves as a shining example of our enduring fascination with the ephemeral. This interview was conducted by Dr. Miranda Melcher whose book focuses on post-conflict military integration, understanding treaty negotiation and implementation in civil war contexts, with qualitative analysis of the Angolan and Mozambican civil wars. You can find Miranda's interviews on New Books with Miranda Melcher, wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/photography

Cultural studies of the nineteenth century often categorize their subjects as being motivated by one of two opposing notions: a wholehearted embrace of progress or an antimodernist nostalgia. A Perfectionist Impulse: The Art of Stopping Time in the Nineteenth Century (U Minnesota Press, 2026) centers a different kind of response to the period's newly intensified awareness of temporality and history: an obsession with preserving perfection. Engaging a diverse set of case studies, Dr. Ellery E. Foutch explores the era's desire to forestall the march of time and immortalize the fleeting moment through art and technology. Beginning with an investigation of artist and naturalist Titian Peale's butterfly illustrations and specimen boxes, Dr. Foutch assesses the implications of attempts to fix animal life in the “perfect state.” She then turns to Harvard's Ware Collection of Glass Flowers, botanical models meticulously crafted to serve as instructional tools but most famous internationally as a spectacle for tourists. Finally, she scrutinizes the period's preoccupation with the fragility of the human body, examining artistic representations of the legendary bodybuilder Eugen Sandow, widely known during his time as the “Perfect Man.” Highlighting the paradoxical way in which these attempts at preservation ultimately sap the vitality from the organic processes they seek to arrest, Dr. Foutch uses these curious objects to unpack a deep set of cultural anxieties around decay and death. By analyzing objects of mass culture and natural history using methods typically reserved for works of art, A Perfectionist Impulse provides a unique window into how nineteenth-century scientists, technologists, artists, and entertainers rendered a common desire for perfection and immortality. Itself a wondrous collection of attempts to capture the idealized moment, this extensively illustrated book serves as a shining example of our enduring fascination with the ephemeral. This interview was conducted by Dr. Miranda Melcher whose book focuses on post-conflict military integration, understanding treaty negotiation and implementation in civil war contexts, with qualitative analysis of the Angolan and Mozambican civil wars. You can find Miranda's interviews on New Books with Miranda Melcher, wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/book-of-the-day

What happens when caring about someone becomes fixing them, worrying about them, rescuing them—or feeling responsible for how their life turns out?In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, I explore enmeshment and the subtle ways we can lose ourselves by becoming overly focused on the people we love.I share how this pattern has shown up in my own relationships with my children through fixing, worrying, rescuing, and trying to prevent difficult outcomes.We'll talk about:What enmeshment actually looks likeWhy fixing, worrying, and rescuing can feel like loveHow the Inner Controller fuels over-involvementThe difference between support and rescueWhy being needed can become part of our identityHow to separate what belongs to us from what belongs to someone elseHow to remain connected without abandoning yourselfHealing enmeshment does not mean becoming detached or loving someone less.It means learning:I can care about you without carrying you.I can support you without controlling you.I can remain connected to you without disconnecting from myself.Because becoming free to be your true self also means allowing the people you love to be free to live their own lives.

Do you want to know how to break free from people-pleasing, procrastination and perfectionism? To do that there's one thing you need to understand about these 3 patterns... one thing all of them have in common.By getting this one thing these patterns will stop defining you and you will be able to see a real shift in your life.It is common to develop survival patterns when growing up with a narcissistic mother, actually it is nearly impossible not to. Learning that these patterns do not define you but can be shifted is a truly essential piece for your healing journey and recovering from maternal narcissistic abuse. Take the FREE assessment NOW to know which is your main coping pattern

Welcome to Episode 151 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today I'm talking all about my best back-to-school tips for moms. The resources I mention in this episode include:A Mom's Guide to Back to School: 20 pages of practical resources to help you and your kids thrive. Just $13 on my website. My book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days*Theo of Golden* by Allen LeviE141: How to Love Your Morning with Jennifer Dukes LeeRemarkably Bright Creatures* by Shelby Van PeltProcrastination Proof * by Jon AcuffHow to Love Your Morning* by Jennifer Dukes LeeOne-Pan Burrito BowlsDon't forget that you can connect with me via:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠My website: andreafortenberry.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: @andreafortenberry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Affiliate Link

Recognize the 7 Mind Types - How Top Performers Speak Their Customer's LanguageMost salespeople treat every customer the same way. They use one pitch. One approach. One way of communicating. And it doesn't work for everyone.The problem isn't you. The problem is you're not reading the person in front of you. You're not recognizing their mind type.Today Sam sits down with Ridgely Goldsborough, a serial entrepreneur who's started forty-five companies, authored twenty books, and was Jim Rohn's voice in Latin America for decades. In this episode, Ridgely teaches you how to recognize the seven different mind types so you can adapt your communication and close more deals.What You'll Learn:The seven mind types and how to spot them instantly. The Giver loves to make a difference. The Connector values trust above all else. The Problem Solver needs data to make sense of things. The Innovator always wants a better way. The Perfectionist does things right. The Rebel challenges everything. The Master wants depth. Each one is wired differently. Each one communicates differently.Why knowing someone's mind type changes everything. Once you know their mind type, you know their communication keywords. Use those words and they respond as strongly as they respond to their own name. That builds trust. That closes deals.How each mind type has a superpower and a kryptonite. The Giver's superpower is causes. Their kryptonite is overcommitment. The Connector's superpower is trust. Their kryptonite is waste. The Problem Solver's superpower is solutions. Their kryptonite is paralysis when they don't have enough data. Every mind type is exceptional at something and struggles with something else. Knowing yours means you can play to your strength and manage your weakness.Why people who think like you are easy to work with, and why everyone else is difficult. When you don't understand someone's mind type, you clash. The Giver overwhelms the Connector. The Problem Solver frustrates the Innovator. The Perfectionist stifles the Rebel. But when you understand each other's mind type, everything changes.How your personal philosophy shapes which mind type you are. What you read, listen to, watch, and who you hang around with forges who you become. That determines your mind type. That determines how you communicate. That determines your results.Potential beats talent every single time. Someone twenty percent good making one hundred calls talks to twenty people. Someone fifty percent good making ten calls talks to five. Effort beats talent. Volume beats skill. The person willing to work is the person who wins.Why This Matters:If you're struggling to close deals, you probably already know how to sell. The problem is you're not reading the person in front of you. You're using the wrong approach for the wrong mind type. This episode teaches you to recognize the seven mind types so you can adapt your communication instantly. That skill changes your close rate.About Ridgely Goldsborough:Serial entrepreneur who's started forty-five companies. Author of twenty books. Studied alongside Jim Rohn as his voice in Latin America. Two master's degrees. Studied Buddhism, personal development, and human psychology. Now runs Local Market Dominator, helping contractors and home service businesses get found online and convert prospects into customers.Ridgely's Resources:Mind Types Framework and Communication Keywords List: Search "Mind Types" online or email Sam at sam@closeitnow.net and he'll send you everything Ridgely has created.Free AI and Online Visibility Audit: Go to https://www.localmarketdominator.com. Understand how people are finding you online and what happens when they do. Ridgely offers free audits on traffic and conversion for any business.Work with Sam:Website: https://www.closeitnow.netCoaching and training: https://www.closeitnow.net/coachingFacebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/closeitnowEmail: sam@closeitnow.netBook a call: https://calendar.app.google/KZH1j2Q1MAXTKbT38Three Ways to Work with Sam:One: On-site training. Half-day classroom plus half-day ride-alongs with your team.Two: Virtual training. Same frameworks, delivered remotely for teams or individuals.Three: The Build. Company scaling partnership with Doug C. Brown. You built the revenue. We help you build the business.Leave a Review:Five-star review on Apple Podcasts gets you a free one-hour coaching session with Sam. Message Sam with your review and you're in.Google Review Link: https://g.page/r/CbfnnDqTCwQdEAE/review

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How many times have you said, “Whatever you want is fine,” when it was not actually fine?Losing yourself in a relationship rarely happens through one dramatic act of self-betrayal. It happens through small moments when you silence an opinion, minimize a feeling, ignore a need, or become responsible for someone else's happiness.You may believe you are being flexible, loving, or easygoing. But over time, these seemingly harmless choices can leave you feeling invisible, resentful, and unsure of who you are outside the relationship.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim explores:The subtle signs of self-abandonmentWhy people pleasers become highly attuned to other people's reactionsThe difference between compromise and disappearingHow childhood relationship patterns follow us into adulthoodWhy the Inner Controller believes it must manage connectionHow to begin hearing your own truth againOne small practice for staying connected to yourselfYou do not need to stop caring about other people. You are learning that loving someone does not require leaving yourself behind.

Betty Buckley is a legendary, multi-award-winning actress/singer whose career spans theater, film, television and concert halls around the world. She is a 2012 Theatre Hall of Fame inductee and the 2017 recipient of  the Julie Harris Awards from The Actor's Fund for Artistic Achievement and received The Lifetime Achievement Award from The American Songbook Association in 2023. She won a Tony Award for her performance as Grizabella, the Glamour Cat, in Andrew Lloyd Webber's Cats and received her second Tony Award nomination for Best Actress in a musical for her performance as Hesione in Triumph of Love. She received an Olivier Award nomination for her critically acclaimed interpretation of Norma Desmond in the London production of Andrew Lloyd Webber's Sunset Boulevard, which she repeated to more rave reviews on Broadway. Ms. Buckley is featured in the film By Design, written and directed by Amanda Kramer, and it made its debut at The Sundance Film Festival in January 2025. She is also featured in the film Eternity for A24 Studios, starring Miles Teller and Elizabeth Olsen, released in November 2025. In March 2024, she co-starred in Imaginary for Blumhouse Productions and released by Lionsgate. She co-starred with James McAvoy in the M. Night Shyamalan hit film Split, one of the top international box office hits of 2017. She received a Saturn Award Nomination for Best Featured Actress for her work in the film. Her other films include her debut in Brian de Palma's screen version of Stephen King's Carrie, Bruce Beresford's Tender Mercies, Roman Polanski's Frantic, Woody Allen's Another Woman, Lawrence Kasdan's  Wyatt Earp and M. Night Shyamalan's The Happening. In 2024, The Mayfly, an animated short film written, produced and narrated by Ms. Buckley played the film festival circuit and won several awards, including Best of Festival, Best Director and Best 2D Character Based Animation at The Los Angeles Animation Festival. The film also won Best Animation at The Lady Filmmakers Festival in Los Angeles. A love letter to New York City and music, The Mayfly is a lyrical tale that was inspired by a true event at the Café Carlyle, with a score composed by seven-time GRAMMY® nominee Christian Jacob. Her other Broadway credits include 1776, Pippin, Song and Dance, The Mystery of Edwin Drood and Carrie. She headlined the first National Tour of the new Broadway production of Hello, Dolly! in 2018/2019. Off-Broadway credits include the world premiere of Horton Foote's The Old Friends, for which she received  a Drama Desk Nomination in 2014, White Lies, Lincoln Center's Elegies, the original NYSF production of The Mystery of Edwin Drood, The Eros Trilogy, Juno's Swans. Getting My Act Together and Taking It On  The Road. Regional credits include The Perfectionist, Gypsy, The Threepenny Opera, Camino Real, Buffalo  Gal, Arsenic and Old Lace, The Old Friends at Houston's Alley Theatre and Grey Gardens at the Bay Street Theatre in Sag Harbor, NY and The Ahmanson Theater in Los Angeles in 2016 for which she received an Ovation Award Nomination. In London, she starred in Promises, Promises for which she was nominated for An Evening Standard Award and in the 2013 British premiere of Dear World. On television, Buckley had a recurring role on Law & Order SVU for NBC. She co-starred in the third season  of AMC's hit series Preacher and has guest starred on the Fox/Warner Bros. TV shows: The Cleaning Lady, The CW hit Supergirl, the NBC Series Chicago Med and ABC Family's Pretty Little Liars. For HBO, she has appeared on Getting On, The Leftovers, The Pacific and for three seasons had a recurring role on OZ. She  starred as Abby Bradford in the hit series Eight is Enough. For more information, visit www.bettybuckley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There's one thing that every perfectionist entrepreneur must learn if they want to succeed in business: how to create a growth mindset. This is the secret to being able to get out of your own way and take consistent action to your goals without burning out.  So in this episode I'm doing a deep dive into what the growth mindset is, common misconceptions about the growth mindset as well as the practical steps to create a growth mindset. This is the episode on perfectionism and the growth mindset that I wish existed when I was struggling to build my business to six figures and wondering why I felt so scared to put myself out there.  If you are finding that overthinking, procrastination, burnout and fear of judgement are making it hard to build your business - this episode is for you. If you're ready to get out of your own way in your business, you want to join my coaching program Perfectionists Getting Shit Done (PGSD). Sign up now at samlaurabrown.com/pgsd. If you want a little motivational boost from me in your inbox every day, you need to sign up for my daily Perfectionist Power-Up emails: samlaurabrown.com/ppu.  

What would change if you no longer had to perform for love, approval, or belonging?In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim explores what it really means to be real and unfiltered. Authenticity is not about saying everything we think or sharing every vulnerable part of ourselves with everyone. It is about allowing our outer lives to reflect what is true inside us.Kim examines the masks we wear to avoid judgment and rejection, including the agreeable mask, the perfection mask, the strong mask, the caretaker mask, and the easygoing mask. Although these masks once helped us feel safe and accepted, they can eventually leave us disconnected from ourselves and lonely within our relationships.This episode also introduces the August theme: why we lose ourselves in relationships and how the fear of rejection causes us to silence our needs, override our feelings, and shape-shift into the person we believe others want.The path back begins with the third step of Kim's five-step POWER Pathway: Willingness to Feel and Heal. We do not become authentic by eliminating the fear of rejection. We become authentic by learning that we can feel rejection without rejecting ourselves.KEY TAKEAWAYSWhy authenticity often feels emotionally dangerousHow fear of judgment causes us to perform and self-editThe difference between healthy discernment and hiding behind a maskWhy being accepted as a false version of ourselves can still feel lonelyHow we gradually lose ourselves in relationshipsWhy willingness to feel difficult emotions is essential to freedomHow to practice small acts of authenticity without forcing confrontationWhy freedom is not universal approval but unwavering self-connection

This week Claire Allen is back for an all-new episode on perfectionism and perfectionist thinking in the music studio. We're excited to share our reflections one year after our series aired, including the resources we're finding helpful and what has stuck with us in our teaching and beyond.  Links in this Episode: This episode is brought to you by my series of books about music practice from parents of young musicians: Suzukitriangle.com/books Find the whole Series on Perfectionism from last summer Big list of Resources About Supporting Perfectionists in the Private Studio Violinist.com article about Christine & Claire's ASTA presentation  Study on Corrective comments and ADHD Dodson, W. W. (2022). How ADHD shapes your perceptions, emotions & motivation. ADHD Denmark. Retrieved from https://adhd.dk/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2022/05/Dodson-How-ADHD-Shapes-Your-Perceptions-Emotions-.pdf    Recommended Reading:  How to Be Enough: Self-Acceptance for Self-Critics and Perfectionists by Ellen Hendriksen, PhD Learn Faster, Perform Better: A Musician's Guide to the Neuroscience of Practicing by Dr. Molly Gebrian Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing & Transform the Way You Live by Emma Reed Turrell  Find Claire Allen on Instagram HERE and HERE Claire Allen's website: http://www.claireallenviolin.com/ Claire Allen's first Time to Practice Episode   SIgn up for the Monthly Newsletter: SuzukiTriangle.com/Newsletter   Resources at SuzukiTriangle.com Connect with Christine on Instagram Email: Christine@SuzukiTriangle.com  TRANSCRIPT   

Move on from the inner critic and beat perfectionism without lowering your standards. Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who helps people calm their anxiety and be their authentic self. She serves on the faculty at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders (CARD) and is the author of HOW TO BE ENOUGH: Self-Acceptance for Self-Critics and Perfectionists and HOW TO BE YOURSELF: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. You can find her on Substack at How to Be Good to Yourself When You're Hard on Yourself. This episode originally aired in 2025.  In this episode we talk about: The relationship between perfectionism and anxiety The definition of perfectionism––and why the word is actually a misnomer Dr. Hendriksen's own struggles with perfectionism, and how they manifested physically The difference between healthy perfectionism and unhealthy perfectionism Changing your relationship with your inner critic  Shifting from rigid rules to flexibility Keeping high standards while making room for mistakes Overcoming procrastination Navigating social comparison And much more Related Episodes: Strategies for Social Anxiety | Ellen Hendriksen The Voice in Your Head | Ethan Kross  How To Move Into The Future With Optimism Instead Of Anxiety | Frederik Pferdt Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot here, or sign up to livestream here! To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

Welcome to Episode 150 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering!  Today I have the privilege of chatting with Melissa Schulz. Melissa is a parenting coach and behavior analyst who helps parents of strong-willed, highly sensitive, and neurodiversekids turn daily struggles into calmer, more connected moments. Melissa has been recognized as the "Best Parenting Coach in the United States for 2025" by Evergreen Awards.Some of the resources we mention in this episode include: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks*Stormlight Archive series by Brandon Sanderson*Robe Curls Heatless Curling Headband*You can connect with Melissa via:Her website: melissaschulz.comInstagram: @confidentlymomminGet a copy of my new book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms for yourself and/or some mom friends today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠twominutetimeouts.com.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Don't forget that you can connect with me via:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠My website: andreafortenberry.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: @andreafortenberry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Affiliate Link

What happens when you have done everything you can—and you still cannot get the outcome you want?In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross explores what happens when the Inner Controller can no longer fix, manage, or force life into the shape we believe we need in order to feel safe.Kim shares openly about struggling with body image, changes in her weight, ongoing health concerns, emotional eating, and the powerlessness she feels when her adult children make choices that are outside of her control.When the outcome we want feels threatened, the Inner Controller often works even harder. We may obsess, research, monitor, advise, pressure, restrict, overeat, criticize ourselves, or mentally rehearse every possible scenario. These behaviors may look like responsibility or problem-solving, but underneath them are often fear, sadness, shame, uncertainty, and grief.This episode is not about pretending you do not care or forcing yourself to “just let go.” It is about learning how to stay present with yourself when life does not cooperate.In this episode, you will learn:Why your Inner Controller becomes more intense when you feel powerlessThe emotions hiding beneath your need to control an outcomeWhy trying harder may be making you more exhaustedHow control can show up around health, body image, food, relationships, and adult childrenWhy surrender is not the same as giving upHow to separate grounded action from fear-driven controlWhat it means to become the wise, compassionate adult your younger self needsHow to stop abandoning yourself when you cannot guarantee the outcomeYou may not be able to control what your body does, what another person chooses, or how the future unfolds. But you can become the person who stays with yourself through the uncertainty.

A DISC profile test looked my husband in the eye (well, on paper) and told him: you can never be in sales. Too quiet. Too detailed. Too precise. Too introverted. Not the loud, aggressive, "natural" closer type the test was built to reward. He ignored it. Fifteen years later, he's been the top performing salesperson at every single company he's worked for, selling air compressors and steel to engineers and skeptics who smell a slick pitch from a mile away and shut down the second they feel rushed. Here's the thing mainstream sales training will never admit: there is no one right way to sell. There's only the way that's actually you, and the buyers who've been waiting for exactly that. In part three of our five part sales personality series, we're breaking down the Analytical Perfectionist, the detail obsessed, thorough, "I'd rather say nothing than say it wrong" personality that gets written off as "not cut out for sales" more than any other type. And they couldn't be more wrong! Because when this person slows down and gets specific instead of smooth and high level, it's a total pattern interruption for a buyer who's been burned before. They expect pushy. They get taken seriously instead. That builds trust and no sales happen without trust.  But this personality has a kryptonite, and if you're managing (or being) one without knowing it, you're setting up your best people to flounder in a system built for someone else entirely. In this episode, you'll hear: Why "you're not cut out for sales" might be the most expensive lie in sales hiring The exact moment this personality freezes up and how to fix that  Which buyers will ghost a smooth talker but lean in for someone thorough Why mirroring your prospect's pace beats any script  What the "star" aggressive closer could actually learn from the quiet one If you've ever been told you're not "sales material" because you're not the loudest voice in the room, or you're leading a team and wondering why your most careful, detail driven person isn't hitting numbers, this episode is for you.  You're not broken. You just haven't been given a system built for who you actually are. That's the whole point of Black Sheep Sales: it's built for your offer, your personality, and the people you were meant to sell to. Take the assessment test here: https://assessment.aleashabahr.com/salespersonality Curious what's actually happening inside your sales team's personality mix, and where the mismatch is costing you deals? Book your complimentary sales audit with me.

This week we're revisiting the kickoff episode of a very popular series from last summer all about supporting perfectionists and perfectionist thinking in the process of learning music. Revisit the first episode, listen to the whole series through the link below, and then join us next week as Christine Goodner and Claire Allen share reflections and what they've been working on for themselves, their teaching, and how they support families they work with related to the topic of perfectionism.  Links in this episode: Find the whole Series on Perfectionism from last summer Big list of Resources About Supporting Perfectionists in the Private Studio Violinist.com article about Christine & Claire's ASTA presentation  Find Claire Allen on Instagram HERE and HERE Claire Allen's first Time to Practice Episode   SIgn up for the Monthly Newsletter: SuzukiTriangle.com/Newsletter   Resources at SuzukiTriangle.com Connect with Christine on Instagram Email: Christine@SuzukiTriangle.com  TRANSCRIPT   

In this episode of the 2 Be Better Podcast, we explore how the way we parent shapes a child's nervous system, emotional regulation, self esteem, and future relationships. Using the concept of **Control Dramas**, inspired by *The Celestine Prophecy* and expanded through modern psychology, attachment theory, and real world coaching experience, we break down the hidden parenting patterns that quietly influence children for decades. We cover the original four Control Dramas, the Intimidator, Interrogator, Aloof, and Poor Me parent, along with five additional parenting patterns we believe deserve attention, including the Rescuer, Charmer, Gaslighter, Competitor, and Perfectionist.Whether you're raising young children, healing from your own childhood, or trying to become a more emotionally healthy parent, this conversation will help you recognize unconscious family dynamics before they become generational patterns. We discuss attachment styles, nervous system development, emotional safety, trauma, parenting mistakes, emotional intelligence, and practical ways to break unhealthy cycles while building stronger relationships with your children. If you're interested in parenting, psychology, self improvement, personal development, emotional healing, or creating a healthier family, this episode will give you powerful insights that can change the way you see both yourself and your role as a parent.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Have you ever caught yourself judging someone and wondered, Where did that come from?What if your judgment isn't actually about them?In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross explores one of the most overlooked protective patterns of the Inner Controller: the judgment mask.Judgment often feels justified on the surface, but underneath it can hide fear, shame, powerlessness, grief, insecurity, or parts of ourselves we haven't fully accepted. Whether we criticize our children, our partner, strangers online, or even ourselves, judgment is often an attempt to feel safe, certain, or in control.Kim shares how curiosity can transform criticism into compassion and explains the important difference between judgment and discernment. You'll also learn why the people who trigger you the most may actually be pointing you toward your deepest healing.In this episode you'll discover:• Why judgment is often fear wearing the mask of certainty• The surprising reason we judge the people we love most• The difference between judgment and healthy discernment• How your Inner Controller uses criticism to avoid vulnerability• A simple practice to move from judgment to compassionIf you've ever wondered why certain people trigger you—or why you can be so hard on yourself—this episode offers a compassionate new perspective.

Welcome to Episode 149 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering!  Today I have the privilege of chatting with Pam Fields. Pam Fields is the host of The Mom Next Door: Stories of Faith, a podcast that shares honest, hope-filled conversations with women navigating real life. She is a mom of nine, Gramma to six, and has over 25 years of homeschooling experience. Through storytelling and encouragement online, Pam creates space for women to feel seen, supported, and reminded that they are not alone.In this episode, we talk about practical prayer tips for busy moms.Some of the resources we mention include:My guest interview with Pam: Episode 249 of The Mom Next DoorAqua Notes Waterproof Pad*Legacy of Prayer: A Spiritual Trust Fund for the Generations by Jennifer Kennedy Dean*When God Doesn't Fix It by Laura Story*You can connect with Pam via:Her website: tendingfields.netThe Mom Next Door PodcastInstagram: @tendingfieldsGet a copy of my new book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms for yourself and/or some mom friends today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠twominutetimeouts.com.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Don't forget that you can connect with me via:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠My website: andreafortenberry.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: @andreafortenberry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Affiliate Link

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) — Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: ⁠https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join⁠ Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes and learn more at:⁠ OLDPodcast.com⁠. Episode 4079: Joshua Fields Millburn reflects on the exhausting pursuit of perfection and the freedom that comes from embracing flaws as opportunities for growth. By shifting attention from impossible standards to meaningful progress in health, relationships, and work, he reveals why imperfection is often the catalyst for a more fulfilling life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.theminimalists.com/perfectionist/ Quotes to ponder: "Every area of life is filled with imperfection, but we needn't neurose over every blemish." "People are, by nature, imperfect. We come equipped with a tackle box of flaws." "Contentment comes from within, not from the entrapment of protruding hipbones or the bling-bling of consumer purchases." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) — Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: ⁠https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join⁠ Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes and learn more at:⁠ OLDPodcast.com⁠. Episode 4079: Joshua Fields Millburn reflects on the exhausting pursuit of perfection and the freedom that comes from embracing flaws as opportunities for growth. By shifting attention from impossible standards to meaningful progress in health, relationships, and work, he reveals why imperfection is often the catalyst for a more fulfilling life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.theminimalists.com/perfectionist/ Quotes to ponder: "Every area of life is filled with imperfection, but we needn't neurose over every blemish." "People are, by nature, imperfect. We come equipped with a tackle box of flaws." "Contentment comes from within, not from the entrapment of protruding hipbones or the bling-bling of consumer purchases." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) — Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: ⁠https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join⁠ Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes and learn more at:⁠ OLDPodcast.com⁠. Episode 4079: Joshua Fields Millburn reflects on the exhausting pursuit of perfection and the freedom that comes from embracing flaws as opportunities for growth. By shifting attention from impossible standards to meaningful progress in health, relationships, and work, he reveals why imperfection is often the catalyst for a more fulfilling life. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.theminimalists.com/perfectionist/ Quotes to ponder: "Every area of life is filled with imperfection, but we needn't neurose over every blemish." "People are, by nature, imperfect. We come equipped with a tackle box of flaws." "Contentment comes from within, not from the entrapment of protruding hipbones or the bling-bling of consumer purchases." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comparison is one of the sneakiest ways the inner controller tries to keep us safe.It tells us that if we can figure out where we stand — who is ahead, who is behind, who is doing better, who is doing worse — then maybe we can finally know whether we are enough.But comparison never leads to freedom.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross explores the comparison trap and why it keeps us stuck in both inferiority and superiority. When we feel below someone, we collapse into shame and “I'm not enough.” When we feel above someone, we may feel temporary relief, but that superiority is still fragile because it depends on staying ahead.Kim shares how comparison can show up in childhood, parenting, social media, body image, and weight — and how old environments can wake up old measuring systems. She also brings in the Golden Buddha metaphor from her book, Free to Be: A Pathway to Inner Liberation, reminding us that comparison keeps us staring at the clay while forgetting the gold underneath.This episode will help you stop using comparison as the measurement of your worth and begin returning to compassion, shared humanity, and inner freedom.In this episode, you'll explore:Why comparison is a protective pattern, not a character flawThe difference between inferiority and superiorityHow the inner controller uses comparison to create the illusion of safetyWhy social media, parenting, and body image can trigger old measuring systemsHow to stop abandoning yourself when judgment is possibleA simple comparison reset practice to come back to yourselfYour worth is not ranked.Your path is yours.You can come back to yourself.

comment where youre listening from! .... this epi -- babeee your inner perfectionist is blocking your blessings, lets adopt the f around mindset insteadall things kela rose https://www.bringsoul.life/portal/sundazedkk

Are You A Perfectionist? What's SHE Up To Now Day 3077? Supersize Challenges, Skool, Scaling, 4th of July...! Join us every day in 2026 for a quick challenge that is all about you Improving and creating the life you want! https://www.facebook.com/ThrivingSharon Ask your questions and share your wisdom! #supersize #doonethingeverydaytosupersizeyou #lessonslearned #missedopportunities #decisionmaking #beabetteryou #personalgrowth #developskills #uncoverwhatis #contribution #giving #yourdefinition #rateyourself #coaching #scaling #supersizechallenges #howcanIhelp #contribution #dowhatyoucan #startwhereyouare Stop procrastinating by waiting for external signs. Learn how recognizing your stalling habits helps you finally take action. Many of us fall into the trap of waiting for the perfect moment or outside validation before we start a project. This video breaks down why that mindset is actually just a form of procrastination. We explore how to identify when you are using these signs as excuses to avoid doing the work you know you need to finish. If you find yourself stuck in a cycle of waiting for permission or clarity, this perspective will help you shift your approach. You will learn to spot the difference between genuine preparation and the stalling tactics that keep you from your goals. By addressing these procrastination excuses, you can regain control over your timeline and start moving forward immediately. Subscribe for daily productivity insights, and let me know in the comments: what is one project you have been putting off while waiting for a sign?

⁠⁠⁠LEARN HOW TO JOURNALSPEAK In this episode, I'm joined by Béa Albina, nurse practitioner, somatic practitioner, and the author and creator of Emotional Outsourcing, for a conversation that gets right to the heart of why so many of us abandon ourselves in the name of being good, helpful, agreeable, easy, impressive, or needed. Béa defines emotional outsourcing as the chronic habit of sourcing our safety, belonging, and worth from everyone and everything outside of ourselves, instead of from within, and we unpack how deeply this pattern can become wired into the nervous system. For so many of us, especially women raised inside cultural expectations to be pleasant, useful, low-maintenance, and not “too much,” people pleasing and codependency were not personality flaws. They were survival strategies. This conversation is such an important bridge between the emotional life and the body. We talk about the way chronic self-abandonment, resentment, perfectionism, hypervigilance, and the constant scanning of other people's moods can create a fertile environment for symptoms, anxiety, and nervous system dysregulation. Béa and I explore why awareness is the first doorway into healing, how somatic practices help us come back into relationship with ourselves, and why the smallest “newborn kitten steps” can be the beginning of profound change. We also talk about boundaries, self-compassion, the power of intentional language, and what it really means to stop outsourcing your sense of worth and begin building safety inside your own body. In this episode, we discuss emotional outsourcing as a new way to understand codependency, perfectionism, and people pleasing; why women are so often conditioned to disconnect from their needs in order to stay loved and accepted; how the nervous system learns to prioritize everyone else's comfort over internal stability; the connection between self-silencing, resentment, chronic symptoms, and emotional repression; why somatic awareness and JournalSpeak are so aligned; how to begin asking the body what it needs; why boundaries are not about controlling other people but about deciding how we will take care of ourselves; and how self-compassion becomes the foundation for real healing instead of just another thing we try to perform perfectly. Béa's work is compassionate, practical, funny, deeply intelligent, and beautifully aligned with the core message of this podcast: you are not broken, your body is not betraying you, and the patterns that once protected you can be understood, softened, and changed. This is a conversation about coming home to yourself, not in a cheesy way, but in the most biologically necessary way. Because when we stop living as if everyone else gets to decide whether we are safe, lovable, and worthy, the nervous system finally has a chance to exhale. Where to find Béa: Listen to her podcast, Feminist Wellness, read her book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist and People-Pleasing Habits, and find her on social media under her full name, Beatriz Victoria Albina NP. Lisa and I will be teaching at ⁠⁠Miraval Austin from September 25–27 ⁠⁠for a relaxing, immersive retreat experience rooted in this work. You can learn more by visiting ⁠⁠www.NicoleSachs.com⁠⁠ and clicking the Retreats tab. Find me at ⁠⁠www.NicoleSachs.com⁠⁠, on Instagram ⁠⁠@nicolesachslcsw⁠⁠, and inside my ⁠⁠Heal with Nicole community⁠⁠. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEW SUBSTACK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! So excited about this one :)) Want your questions answered directly by me?

Are you, or someone you work with, a perfectionist? If you have perfectionist tendencies, it can be frustrating to work alongside people who don't because you feel like they don't care enough about the work. And if you don't identify as a perfectionist but have to work with someone who is? Well, it can be equally challenging because things can be overworked, delayed, or shared way too late for fear of things not being 'good enough'. In this episode, Em and Lisa unpack how to work with perfectionists, how to manage your own perfectionist traits, and how to give feedback to people who might not be the best at receiving it. Plus, Lisa shares another one of her go-to frameworks that can help you let go of 'perfect' and move forward faster. Our BIZ hosts are Lisa Lie - a former Head of People & Culture and Organisational Coach - and Mamamia’s Em Vernem. Book recommendation: The Trusted Advisor by Charles Green And if you want some fast skills from Learna:Check out 'Build trust fast' in Learna.Click the link below on mobile to get into it:https://www.learna-app.com?id=l-aSenXj6878Or check out 'Naming your value at work' in Learna.Click the link below on mobile to get into it:https://www.learna-app.com?id=l-lSlExM4482 Sign up to the BIZ newsletter hereTHE END BITSSupport independent women's media.Got a work life dilemma? Send us all the questions you definitely can't ask your boss for our Biz Inbox episodes - send us a voice note or email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au. You can remain anon! HOSTS: Lisa Lie and Em Vernem EXECUTIVE PRODUCER: Courtney Ammenhauser SENIOR PRODUCER: Thom LionVIDEO PRODUCER: Marlena Cacciotti Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of The Principal's Handbook Summer Reset Series, we explore the mindset and habits of the perfectionist principal. You'll learn how perfectionism shows up in school leadership through overthinking decisions, constantly revising work, fear of mistakes, and spending too much time trying to get everything just right. Using the TEA Cycle, we examine how perfectionistic thoughts create stress, anxiety, and delays that impact both leadership effectiveness and personal well-being. This episode offers practical strategies to help you let go of impossible standards, focus on what matters most, and take action with confidence. If you've ever felt like your work is never truly finished, this episode will help you reset your approach and lead more effectively.Get free resources at PrincipalFreebies.com. We're thrilled to be sponsored by IXL. IXL's comprehensive teaching and learning platform for math, language arts, science, and social studies is accelerating achievement in 95 of the top 100 U.S. school districts. Loved by teachers and backed by independent research from Johns Hopkins University, IXL can help you do the following and more:Simplify and streamline technologySave teachers' timeReliably meet Tier 1 standardsImprove student performance on state assessments

Andrea Fortenberry joins me on TME this week and if you don't have your coffee handy, you'll feel warm and satiated after listening to this conversation with her!Andrea is the host of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering, a podcast that equips moms to find freedom from perfectionism and show up for the life God has for them. She is the author of "Two-Minute Timeouts: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days (Our Daily Bread Publishers, April 2026)," a practical, grace-filled resource for women navigating pressure, burnout, and the desire to do everything “right.” She is on staff with MomCo (formerly MOPS International) as the Leadership Development Manager, where she where she equips and supports leaders around the world as they guide women through the realities of modern motherhood, faith, and community. She is also a cohost of The MomCo Leadership Podcast. A lover of chai lattes herself, Andrea's episode is the perfect accompaniment to enjoying a cup of joe and organizing your to-do list. Connect with Andrea:Andrea's Website: https://www.andreafortenberry.com/ Follow Andrea on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andreafortenberry____________________Want to be a guest on The Motherhood Experience? Send Val Kleppen a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1758742098661627c9cc46f40

Perfectionist fantasies of what tomorrow will bring during divorce can feel useful - like we're moving toward something. Your brain whispers, “Once the decree is signed, once the schedule is set, once the kids adjust, once I heal, then I'll finally feel calm.” But what if that promise is the very thing keeping you stuck?In this episode I dig into two sneaky patterns that show up during and after divorce: perfectionist fantasies and tomorrow thinking. Perfectionism doesn't always look like striving or being “Type A” it often sounds like totally normal thoughts such as “I should have my life together by now” or “I'll finally feel okay when everything is settled.” I talk about how those expectations can erase the real progress you're already making, including the peaceful moments you don't even notice because they don't match the fantasy.I share a powerful coaching story from a client who expected instant relief, plus the deeper reason “imagining your future self” can feel so good while also fueling procrastination. I also connect the dots between perfectionism, fear of mistakes, harsh self-judgment, and why starting can feel unbearable even when you care deeply.You'll leave with three tools to get out of the fantasy and back into your real life today. If this helps, subscribe, share it with a friend who's navigating divorce recovery, and leave a quick review so more women can find the support they need.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

Maria Pascucci-Maciejewski spent over 20 years helping others manage perfectionism and anxiety. She launched a national speaking business at 27, wrote a book, delivered a TEDx talk, and coached hundreds of students through the hidden costs of needing to be perfect. In the summer of 2024, it all caught up with her.In this episode she gets into the childhood bullying that became perfectionism, the 3.92 GPA that came with panic attacks in college bathrooms, and why none of it was enough to stop a complete nervous system breakdown, a suicide attempt, and 34 days in a psychiatric hospital over the holidays. She also talks about what actually pulled her back, why nutrition belongs in every mental health conversation, and what she is building now.CONNECTYou Can Bounce Back → https://youcanbounceback.comCampus Calm → https://campuscalm.comROC Vox → https://rocvox.comNew episodes every Tuesday.Recorded at ROC Vox Recording & Production in Pittsford, NY. Learn more at https://rocvox.com

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 4064: Paula Davis-Laack explains how burnout develops through chronic stress, exhaustion, cynicism, and feelings of inefficacy, often fueled by perfectionism, mental clutter, and relentless overwork. She shares practical, research-backed strategies to build resilience, manage energy more effectively, reshape work responsibilities, and create a sustainable path to long-term success and well-being. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://livehappy.com/5-expert-tips-for-avoiding-burnout-at-work/ Quotes to ponder: "Burnout is a process of chronic stress and disengagement typically related to work but can impact many areas of your life." "Perfectionists strive for “the best” even when “good enough” will do." "Getting adequate opportunities for recovery during your workday, after work and on the weekend is critical." Episode references: Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant: https://www.amazon.com/Give-Take-Helping-Others-Success/dp/0143124986 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 4064: Paula Davis-Laack explains how burnout develops through chronic stress, exhaustion, cynicism, and feelings of inefficacy, often fueled by perfectionism, mental clutter, and relentless overwork. She shares practical, research-backed strategies to build resilience, manage energy more effectively, reshape work responsibilities, and create a sustainable path to long-term success and well-being. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://livehappy.com/5-expert-tips-for-avoiding-burnout-at-work/ Quotes to ponder: "Burnout is a process of chronic stress and disengagement typically related to work but can impact many areas of your life." "Perfectionists strive for “the best” even when “good enough” will do." "Getting adequate opportunities for recovery during your workday, after work and on the weekend is critical." Episode references: Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant: https://www.amazon.com/Give-Take-Helping-Others-Success/dp/0143124986 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Episode 148 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering!  Today I have the privilege of chatting with Dr. Benjamin Long. Dr. Benjamin Long is a sleep doctor by day & seminary student by night with an interest in the integration of theologyand sleep. These interests have culminated into his debut book Sleep Habits Journal: Practices, Prayers, & Devotions to Ease Your Sleepless Nights. He lives in San Antonio, Texas with his wife, son, and their dog, Rolo.Some of the resources we mention in this episode include:Restore: Soul Care for Moms TicketsCrime Scene KitchenPre-Cut Parchment Paper Sheets*You can connect with Dr. Long via:His website: thewholeheartedmd.comInstagram: @thewholeheartedmdSubstack: The NocturnGet a copy of my new book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms for yourself and/or some mom friends today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠twominutetimeouts.com.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Don't forget that you can connect with me via:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠My website: andreafortenberry.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: @andreafortenberry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Affiliate Link

In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross closes out the June Inner Controller series with a powerful conversation about overthinking, control, and why we cannot think our way into freedom.The inner controller believes that if we can figure everything out, predict every outcome, and prepare for every possibility, then we will finally feel safe. But overthinking often keeps us trapped in mental loops, disconnected from our bodies, our intuition, and the present moment.Kim explores how overthinking is often an attempt to create certainty — and why certainty is not the same as safety. She shares how the inner controller uses thoughts like “What if something goes wrong?” “What did they mean by that?” “What if I make the wrong choice?” and “What if I can't handle it?” to keep us looping in fear.This episode will help you understand the difference between solving a real problem and trying to escape an uncomfortable feeling. You'll learn a simple practice to interrupt the spiral and begin building safety from within.Because freedom does not come from controlling every outcome.Freedom comes from knowing:“I may not know exactly what will happen, but I can trust myself to meet what comes.”In this episode, you'll learn:Why overthinking is often a form of controlHow the inner controller uses mental looping to avoid uncertaintyThe difference between real problem-solving and fear-based spiralingWhy certainty is not the same as safetyHow to begin building inner safety instead of chasing controlA simple practice to come back to yourself when your mind is spiraling

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What Your Body Archetype Reveals About Your Core Wounds, Self-Care Patterns, and Emotional Survival StrategiesIn this powerful episode, JJ shares one of the most eye-opening exercises from her beta Eight-Week Body Reset program—an assessment designed to uncover the hidden archetypes that sabotage self-care, health goals, and personal growth. What participants discovered wasn't simply why they struggle with exercise, nutrition, or consistency. They uncovered the emotional survival strategies running beneath their behaviors.JJ reveals the most common archetypes identified by participants—including the Avoider, Perfectionist, Overachiever, Emotional Eater, and Information Collector—and explains why these patterns are rarely about food, fitness, or willpower. Instead, they're often rooted in fear, abandonment, rejection, shame, and unmet emotional needs.You'll learn why procrastination is often nervous system protection rather than laziness, how perfectionism masks deeper fears of criticism and failure, and why so many people continue gathering information instead of taking action. JJ also connects these archetypes directly to her Core Wound framework, showing how self-care struggles often mirror the ways we unconsciously abandon ourselves.The episode explores four major themes that emerged from the exercise:"If I can't do it perfectly, I won't do it at all."Avoidance as emotional protection.Why self-care feels selfish.The real cost of neglecting yourself isn't weight gain—it's losing freedom, confidence, trust, and opportunities.JJ explains how true transformation isn't about becoming thinner, more disciplined, or more productive. It's about becoming someone who trusts themselves, keeps promises to themselves, feels worthy, and no longer needs survival strategies to feel safe.In This Episode:The five most common body archetypes and what they revealHow fear disguises itself as perfectionism, procrastination, and information gatheringThe connection between self-care and abandonment woundsWhy weight is often a symptom, not the real problemHow emotional avoidance creates anxiety and physical symptomsThe role of feelings, needs, and nervous system regulation in lasting changeWhy accountability is one of the most powerful forms of self-loveAn introduction to the upcoming Metabolic Transformation Studio membershipKey TakeawayYour health habits are not character flaws. They're often emotional protection strategies created to keep you safe. When you identify the wound beneath the behavior and begin meeting your deeper needs, self-care becomes less about willpower and more about self-love.Resources Mentioned:Body Archetype Assessment: jjflizanes.com/archetypeFeelings & Needs ListEight-Week Body ResetRewiring Your Core Wound PatternsMetabolic Transformation Studio https://jjflizanes.com/studio

What Your Body Archetype Reveals About Your Core Wounds, Self-Care Patterns, and Emotional Survival StrategiesIn this powerful episode, JJ shares one of the most eye-opening exercises from her beta Eight-Week Body Reset program—an assessment designed to uncover the hidden archetypes that sabotage self-care, health goals, and personal growth. What participants discovered wasn't simply why they struggle with exercise, nutrition, or consistency. They uncovered the emotional survival strategies running beneath their behaviors.JJ reveals the most common archetypes identified by participants—including the Avoider, Perfectionist, Overachiever, Emotional Eater, and Information Collector—and explains why these patterns are rarely about food, fitness, or willpower. Instead, they're often rooted in fear, abandonment, rejection, shame, and unmet emotional needs.You'll learn why procrastination is often nervous system protection rather than laziness, how perfectionism masks deeper fears of criticism and failure, and why so many people continue gathering information instead of taking action. JJ also connects these archetypes directly to her Core Wound framework, showing how self-care struggles often mirror the ways we unconsciously abandon ourselves.The episode explores four major themes that emerged from the exercise:"If I can't do it perfectly, I won't do it at all."Avoidance as emotional protection.Why self-care feels selfish.The real cost of neglecting yourself isn't weight gain—it's losing freedom, confidence, trust, and opportunities.JJ explains how true transformation isn't about becoming thinner, more disciplined, or more productive. It's about becoming someone who trusts themselves, keeps promises to themselves, feels worthy, and no longer needs survival strategies to feel safe.In This Episode:The five most common body archetypes and what they revealHow fear disguises itself as perfectionism, procrastination, and information gatheringThe connection between self-care and abandonment woundsWhy weight is often a symptom, not the real problemHow emotional avoidance creates anxiety and physical symptomsThe role of feelings, needs, and nervous system regulation in lasting changeWhy accountability is one of the most powerful forms of self-loveAn introduction to the upcoming Metabolic Transformation Studio membershipKey TakeawayYour health habits are not character flaws. They're often emotional protection strategies created to keep you safe. When you identify the wound beneath the behavior and begin meeting your deeper needs, self-care becomes less about willpower and more about self-love.Resources Mentioned:Body Archetype Assessment: jjflizanes.com/archetypeFeelings & Needs ListEight-Week Body ResetRewiring Your Core Wound PatternsMetabolic Transformation Studio https://jjflizanes.com/studio

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Overachiever. Perfectionist. The strong one. The one who holds everything together. Most of us wear these labels like personality traits. But what if a lot of them are actually who we have to become? In this episode, I'm taking a closer look at the survival patterns that show up so often in the women I work with and mentor; the ones that started as solutions to real pain and real environments, and somewhere along the way became an identity. This isn't about shame or tearing down what's gotten you this far. It's about getting curious enough to ask: is this a God-given gift, or is this a strategy I no longer need? Also, don't forget!

Are you tired of shouldering the weight of impossible standards and harsh self-judgment? This week on the podcast, Shannon Popkin returns for an honest conversation about judging—especially the way perfectionists measure themselves with a critical, merciless scoop. In this compassionate and insightful episode, you’ll hear:- Why “judge not” is more nuanced than you might think, and how the Bible calls us to both discernment and humility.- How the standards we use to judge ourselves often seep into our perception of others—even when we think we’re showing only ourselves the harshness. - The trap of perfectionism: when striving to be flawless turns into wounded pride and a subtle resistance to receiving grace.- The difference between external rule-keeping and the biblical invitation to “walk with God”—not just check every box.- How admitting our need for mercy—rather than clinging to “good girl” status—actually brings us closer to Jesus and frees us from the courtroom in our heads.- A vulnerable story of how Shannon realized she’d been harshly judging a friend’s motives, and the freedom that came with confession and restored relationship. Resources & Next Steps: - Check out Shannon's latest book here: Kinda Judgy on Amazon (Amazon affiliate link)- Take Shannon’s “Kind of Judgy” Quiz and download the heart check at: http://shannonpopkin.com/judgy- Explore stories from Shannon’s new book for practical ways to deal with self-judgment and embrace mercy!- Share this episode with a friend who struggles to be gentle with herself! **Let this episode be your invitation to step out of self-condemnation, walk in mercy, and embrace the freeing truth of the gospel—for yourself, not just everyone else.** Listen now for hope and honest insight! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.