Podcasts about perfectionists

#341: If you've ever found yourself constantly scanning other people's faces for approval, shapeshifting to keep the peace, or feeling completely disconnected from what you actually want, this episode is for you. You might call this people-pleasing or being too sensitive, but something much more profound is going on here: you're living with emotional outsourcing.Tune in this week as I explain how emotional outsourcing gets stored in your body as a procedural memory - not just a thought you can talk yourself out of. You'll learn how this adaptation develops early, gets reinforced by cultural systems, and shows up in your body.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/341Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

In this powerful and heartfelt conversation, Dr. Cristina Castagnini welcomes back Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP—nurse practitioner, somatic life coach, and host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast. Béa returns to discuss her upcoming book, End Emotional Outsourcing: A Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits (Hachette Balance, Sept. 30).Béa introduces the term “emotional outsourcing”—her reframe of the outdated concept of codependency. Rather than pathologizing love, care, and connection, she explains how people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-erasure are survival strategies we once needed to stay safe. Now, however, these patterns keep us disconnected from our authenticity, self-trust, and worth.Through personal insights, metaphors (like “baby sweaters” and “newborn kitten steps”), and clinical wisdom, Béa and Dr. Castagnini explore how emotional outsourcing is deeply tied to body image, diet culture, and perfectionist pressures. Together, they outline pathways toward reclaiming self-trust, rebuilding body awareness, and setting loving boundaries—so we can live lives rooted in authenticity rather than external validation.SHOW NOTES: Click hereFollow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/behind_the_bite

Do you ever feel like you're stuck in autopilot mode, running through the motions without really asking if you're living the life you truly want? Most of us have at least one habit that feels out of alignment, whether it's scrolling at night, overindulging, or staying in a draining job. We judge ourselves harshly, wondering why we can't break free. But what if these habits are not the problem? What if, instead, they're signals that point to something deeper?   In this episode, I offer a new perspective on habits, especially those we label as "bad." Instead of seeing them as flaws to be fixed, I invite you to understand the deeper, often protective reasons behind them. When we approach our habits with curiosity and compassion, we start to recognize that everything we do makes sense when viewed in the context of our life experiences and what we've been taught to value.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/186

In this enlightening episode of the Secret Life Podcast, host Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the pervasive issue of perfectionism and its profound impact on mental and physical health. With her signature blend of humor and honesty, Brianne explores the pressures that drive individuals to seek perfection, revealing how these high expectations can lead to anxiety, depression, and burnout.Throughout the episode, Brianne outlines the five distinct types of perfectionism: classic, procrastinator, messy, intense, and Parisian. She shares personal anecdotes and observations, including her experiences with her own child, to illustrate how perfectionism can manifest in everyday life. Listeners will learn to identify the signs of perfectionism and how it can trap them in a cycle of self-criticism and dissatisfaction.Brianne offers practical strategies for breaking free from the constraints of perfectionism, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion, setting realistic goals, and celebrating progress over perfection. She encourages listeners to embrace their flaws and recognize that perfection is an unattainable ideal. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that the journey toward self-acceptance is far more rewarding than the pursuit of perfection.

In this eye-opening episode of Helping Organisations Thrive, we talk with Angela Cox, founder of Paseda 360 coach training academy, multi-award winning executive coach, therapist, and two-time bestselling author. Angela shares her powerful journey from corporate exhaustion to authentic leadership, revealing how she transformed her life after walking away from a lucrative consulting role when the weight of "pretending" became unbearable. Her story of losing eight stones while searching for fulfillment, only to realise that external changes couldn't fix internal disconnection, sets the stage for a profound exploration of workplace authenticity. Angela unveils her groundbreaking research showing that 97% of leaders wear masks at work, identifying four primary personas: the Perfectionist (driven by fear of mistakes), the People Pleaser (seeking approval at all costs), the Persecutor of Self (engaging in constant self-blame), and the Persecutor of Others (deflecting blame when things go wrong). She explains how these protective mechanisms, born from our fundamental need to belong and avoid rejection, create an exhausting cycle that hampers both individual resilience and organisational effectiveness. The conversation provides practical tools for breaking free from these patterns, including exercises to build self-value and self-trust, while acknowledging the challenging but ultimately rewarding journey of removing the masks we've worn for decades to reveal our authentic leadership potential.   Connect with Angela: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/angelacoxpaseda360/ Website:  https://angelacoxcoaching.com/     ##########   If you are looking for a Blueprint to help you and your business manage uncertainty, deal with failure and navigate change then reach out to Julian at: julian@julianrobertsconsulting.com   You can buy my book "Weathering the Storm: A Guide to Building Resilient Teams" on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0DFTYN2Y2   ##########

Welcome to Episode 127 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! In this episode, I'm sharing another best of replay episode. Today I'm talking with Becky Kopitzke. She is a wife, mom of two, author, speaker, and writing coach. She's the author of three books including ⁠The Cranky MomFix: How to Get a Happier, More Peaceful Home by Slaying the "Momster" in All of Us.⁠* Becky and her family are living the dream in northeast Wisconsin, where they share precious space with two lazy dogs, and tables stacked with homework and craft supplies.I loved this conversation with Becky, we are kindred spirits! We talked about crankiness triggers, how to handle blunders that happen despite our best intentions, Becky's three family rules, and more. Some of the resources we mention include:Get a Mom's Guide for Back to School here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pre-order my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days.*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my book launch team.⁠⁠Becky's Book, The Cranky Mom Fix⁠*⁠All Creatures Great and Small on PBS⁠⁠A Woman of No Importance by Sonia Purnell⁠*You can connect with Becky via her:⁠Website: beckykopitzke.com⁠⁠Instagram @beckykopitzke⁠Just a reminder that you can connect with me via: ⁠⁠⁠⁠• ⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠@andreafortenberry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠• ⁠⁠⁠ My website⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠: ⁠⁠andreafortenberry.com⁠⁠• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to my free magazine, Restore.⁠⁠⁠⁠ *Affiliate Link

Do you ever feel like giving 110% at work just isn't sustainable?Have you started questioning if going above and beyond 24/7 is hurting you – and your career – more than it's helping either?In this episode, you'll learn:How overachieving tendencies create burnout, stress, and overworking in your career3 simple but effective strategies you can use in a demanding, high-pressure corporate environment to break out of overachieving patterns that are hurting youHow to shift from striving to be “exceptional” to focusing on being "effective" on the jobEnroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Want to know the biggest reason you're feeling overworked and overwhelmed at work right now, and how you can start feeling better today?Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good.About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel

#340: Have you ever caught yourself saying, “I'm fine,'' when you're actually anything but fine? Maybe you're getting everything done - crushing it at work, maintaining relationships, keeping up appearances - but feeling disconnected from it all. Like you're watching your life play out from behind a glass wall. This isn't just you being "too in your head" or "not trying hard enough to feel." This is your nervous system's brilliant (but outdated) protection mechanism called functional freeze. Join me today as I revisit functional freeze: the nervous system state I see most often in people living with emotional outsourcing patterns. We'll explore what functional freeze really is and why it's not your fault, how to recognize when you're in it, and why understanding this pattern is the first step to breaking free.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/340Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

For today's essential Heretics 101 feature, we talked to Steve Cadigan, LinkedIn's first hired CHRO. Steve dissects LinkedIn's hypergrowth challenges, contrarian HR principles, and the fundamental shift from acquiring to developing talent internally.*Email us your questions or topics for Kelli & Nolan: hrheretics@turpentine.coFor coaching and advising inquire at https://kellidragovich.com/HR Heretics is a podcast from Turpentine.Support HR Heretics Sponsors:Planful empowers teams just like yours to unlock the secrets of successful workforce planning. Use data-driven insights to develop accurate forecasts, close hiring gaps, and adjust talent acquisition plans collaboratively based on costs today and into the future. ✍️ Go to https://planful.com/heretics to see how you can transform your HR strategy.Metaview is the AI platform built for recruiting. Our suite of AI agents work across your hiring process to save time, boost decision quality, and elevate the candidate experience.Learn why team builders at 3,000+ cutting-edge companies like Brex, Deel, and Quora can't live without Metaview.It only takes minutes to get up and running. Check it out!KEEP UP WITH NOLAN + KELLI ON LINKEDINSteve: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cadiganNolan: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nolan-church/Kelli: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kellidragovich/—LINKS:Metaview 10x Podcast: https://www.metaview.ai/resources/10x-recruiting—TIMESTAMPS:(00:00) Intro(01:50) LinkedIn's Identity Crisis: When Your Product Is Your Problem(02:40) The Million-Dollar Question: "Why Would Anyone Want to Work Here?"(04:35) HR's Only Two Products: Judgment and Credibility(05:00) The Performance Review Rebellion(05:16) Sponsors: Planful | Metaview(07:21) Jeff Weiner's Intensity Philosophy: "I Live Off Chaos"(08:10) The Vulnerability Breakthrough: How a CEO Learned to Inspire(10:15) The Ownership Revolution: Why Leadership Teams Must Own HR(11:15) Remote Work Reality Check: "We Don't Know Yet"(12:00) Blitz Scaling Failures: Inheritors vs. Builders(13:43) The Perfectionist's Trap: "Do You Hear All Those Balls Dropping?"(14:20) Why He'll Never Return: The Six-Year-Old's Question That Changed Everything(15:27) Future of Work: From Buy Talent to Build Talent Economy This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit hrheretics.substack.com

Are you a people pleaser? Always saying “yes” but feeling stressed, resentful, or even burned out?

Life is going sideways. You're snapping at your people, overthinking, doom scrolling, or eating all the snacks. You know things aren't going well, but it feels like you just can't stop, and you can't get out of the pattern. The momentum of these moments can feel impossible to interrupt, even when you're fully aware that what you're doing isn't working.   In this episode, I'm sharing the neuroscience behind why we get stuck in these reactive patterns and how our brain's survival mode takes over when we're stressed. Through a simple three-step process, you can interrupt the stress spiral and access more choice. The key isn't waiting for the perfect moment or overhauling everything; it's about creating what I call "one-degree shifts."   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/185

Access a free mindfulness meditation guided by Mary Tilson to help manage cravings and regulate emotions: https://pages.sunandmoonsoberliving.com/easemeditationFollow along on Instagram: @sunandmoon.soberliving __Eryl McCaffrey is a Registered Psychotherapist and Certified Yoga Teacher from Toronto, Canada with a Master's Degree in Counselling Psychology and 10+ years of experience in the holistic health and wellness field. She blends mindfulness, somatics, neuroscience, and psychology with her own mental health and addiction recovery tools to offer clients a unique, holistic approach to healing. She works with individuals who are struggling with addiction, depression, anxiety, trauma, relationship issues, and grief.  Eryl uses her personal experience with addiction and her love of sobriety to help others find joy, peace, and fulfillment without substances.Topics explored in this episode include:Eryl's recovery journeyRecovering from relapseThe Stages of ChangePerfectionism  Inner child workNervous system regulationRecovery as a daily practiceAuthenticityHealing co-dependencyBoundaries Links to access Eryl's resources & learn more:Aligned + Alcohol-Free: A 12 Week Program for women who are sober-curious or ready to break free from alcohol coming this fall -  https://www.erylmccaffrey.com/alignedandalcoholfreeSober Starter Kit: A free guide with simple tools and resources to help you start your sober journey - https://www.erylmccaffrey.com/soberstarterkitInstagram: @erylmccaffrey___Disclaimer: The content of this podcast is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

Do you ever feel like you're working twice as hard just to keep everyone happy at work—only to end up drained, resentful, and overwhelmed? What if the very habit you think makes you a great teammate is the same one trapping you in the grind?In this episode, you'll learn:How people-pleasing tendencies create burnout, stress, and overwork in demanding careers.Three simple, practical strategies to start breaking free from the need to always say “yes.”How to reframe “no” as a kind, honest, and helpful act—for yourself and others.Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Want to know the biggest reason you're feeling overworked and overwhelmed at work right now, and how you can start feeling better today?Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good.About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel

#339: You were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time. That's the truth that so many of us struggle to accept when we look back at our past decisions - the relationships we stayed in too long, the boundaries we didn't set, the times we said yes when we meant no. There's this part of us that believes if we're mean enough to ourselves about these choices, we won't make them again. But here's what science tells us: beating yourself up doesn't create change. This episode explores why compassion for your past self is essential for creating real, lasting change. Listen in today to discover how hating who you used to be blocks growth, and why being kind to your past self isn't about excusing behaviors or pretending everything was perfect.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/339Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale EEO Pre-Sale

This week, Lisa and Jeff go rogue again and hit the road! We traveled all the way to Fort Collins Colorado to interview Lisa's Sister and her husband. Eric and Cassy Reeves are a type 1 and 9 respectively. We would like to say sparks fly in this episode, but it is hard for a type 9 to allow sparks to fly...especially if it involves conflict. We had such a beautiful and insightful conversation with this awesome couple! You will want to listen and share it.Type 1. Reformer/perfectionistType 2. PeacemakerYou can hear more from Eric and occasionally Cassy on their Church's podcast linked below.The Afterword a Podcast by The Town Church in Fort Collins, Colorado https://open.spotify.com/show/6ExO48oI9XMyh4jSKsQFCK?si=9e2975f02fbd47a1 We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.comOr on Instagram at Marriage_Infiltered_PodcastWe hope to hear from you! Marriage Unfiltered is an independent podcast hosted by The Carters and the Fields. This podcast is not affiliated with Stonegate Fellowship in Midland, TX

In this tender and eye-opening session, Christine coaches Lucia through the heartbreak and confusion of a breakup she now regrets. While the relationship was loving and emotionally safe, differences in values, lifestyle, and follow-through led to a mutual decision to part ways. Now, Lucia is wrestling with second-guessing herself and holding on to hope—while also remembering what wasn't working. This conversation goes far beyond one relationship story. It's about learning to trust your choices, release regret, and grieve while keeping the love. Christine helps Lucia explore self-forgiveness, avoid over-responsibility, and understand the deeper imprints from her first love and early life experiences. If you've ever questioned a decision, longed for a “redo,” or struggled to move forward after letting go, this episode will help you find clarity, peace, and compassion for yourself. Consider / Ask Yourself: Do you tend to replay past choices, wishing you could go back and change them? Are you holding on to the good memories while forgetting what wasn't aligned? Have you confused the love you felt with the actual fit of the relationship? Is regret keeping you stuck in the past instead of allowing you to move forward? Key Insights and A-HAs: Regret often uses present-day knowledge to beat yourself up for past decisions. Love is not always enough—shared values and aligned lifestyles matter. You can keep the love while grieving the relationship itself. Over-responsibility can fuel self-blame and block healing. Forgiveness and grief work create the space for true clarity. How to Deepen the Work: Write down what was working and what wasn't in your past relationship or situation. Practice self-forgiveness by acknowledging you made the best choice with the information you had at the time. Allow yourself to fully grieve without rushing to replace or “fix” the loss. Identify any limiting beliefs you're holding about your worthiness for future healthy love. Upcoming Events: Join Christine for her Free Masterclass for Overachievers and Perfectionists on August 18th—especially for women who struggle with regret, self-criticism, and letting go. Register at: christinehassler.com/masterclass Also, Christine's Women's Retreat is happening October 17–19, 2025. This is a deep, transformational space to release old patterns, reclaim self-compassion, and step into your next chapter. Social Media + Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler @ChristineHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services! Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show! Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Does anxiety make you feel like there is something wrong with you? It can feel uncomfortable, overpowering, something to manage or medicate away. We've been taught to see it as a flaw, a weakness, something broken that needs fixing. But treating anxiety as an adversary might be exactly what's making it worse.   In this episode, I'm exploring a radically different approach to anxiety—one that sees it not as something wrong with you, but as a sophisticated signal system trying to help. I share how anxiety functions like a check engine light or cybersecurity system, alerting you to threats to your physical, emotional, relational, or financial well-being. Through practical examples and a simple outside-inside approach, you'll discover how to decode what your anxiety is actually signaling.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/184

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Seriousness is an occupational hazard for obsessive-compulsives, Type A's and perfectionists. Being serious can hurt relationships, mental health and physical health. Yet many of us feel duty-bound to be serious, and we lose out on the benefits of humor and laughter--which can melt the rigidity which comes with being so serious.  

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Welcome to Episode 126 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! In this episode, I'm sharing another replay episode. This one is with Caris Snider all about how to help tweens with anxiety. She is the best-selling author of ⁠Anxiety Elephants: A 31 Day Devotional and Anxiety Elephants for Tween Girls⁠ ⁠and Boys⁠*.Some of the resources in this episode include: ⁠⁠Get a Mom's Guide for Back to School here⁠⁠⁠⁠Pre-order my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days.*⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join my book launch team.⁠⁠Psalm 94:191 Peter 5:7Philippians 4:8Psalm 91:11Philippians 4:4-6Matthew 6:25-34⁠Follow Me by David Platt*⁠⁠Rewire Your Anxious Brain by Catherine Pittman*⁠⁠The Tattooist of Auschwitz⁠ and ⁠Cilka's Journey by Heather Morris*⁠⁠Batiste Dry Shampoo*⁠GroupMe AppYou can connect with Caris via:⁠Her website: carissnider.com⁠⁠Instagram @carissnider⁠Her books: ⁠Anxiety Elephants: A 30 Day Devotional to Help Stomp Out Your Anxiety⁠*, ⁠Anxiety Elephants for Tween Girls⁠* and ⁠Anxiety Elephants for Tween Boys*⁠*Affiliate Link

Are you unknowingly stuck in a work mindset that's keeping you stressed, overworked, and trapped in the grind? What if identifying one core mindset could solve 90% of your workplace challenges?In this episode, you'll discover:The five most common high-achiever mindsets that fuel overwork and burnout.How your thoughts, feelings, and daily actions are keeping you in the grind.A free quiz to reveal your primary mindset and strategies to break free.Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Take the BFG Quiz: Want to know the biggest reason you're feeling overworked and overwhelmed at work right now, and how you can start feeling better today?Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good.About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel

#338: Shame is one of the most powerful forces keeping us stuck in emotional outsourcing, and we don't talk about it nearly enough. This invisible force runs so deep that we often don't even realize it's guiding our thoughts, feelings, and actions.My book, End Emotional Outsourcing was born from my search for a shame-free, inclusive, feminist framework to name these patterns, and to begin healing them. If you've ever felt like your habits made you broken or unworthy, this conversation is for you.Join me this week as I explore the complex relationship between shame, the nervous system, and emotional outsourcing - three interconnected forces that keep us locked in patterns of codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/338Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

 Are you tired of self-doubt holding you back? In this episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, host Kim Gross dives deep into the hidden roots of self-doubt, imposter syndrome, perfectionism, and people-pleasing.✨ You'll discover:How childhood experiences shape your confidence (and create limiting beliefs).Why perfectionists and people-pleasers often struggle with self-worth.Kim's personal story of feeling “not enough” and how it led to comparison and coping mechanisms.The Five-Step Power Pathway to finally break free from self-doubt and embrace your true self.If you've ever asked yourself, “Who am I to…?” — this episode will show you how to silence that inner critic and step fully into your power.

Do you feel like acknowledging your struggles will make them worse, or that it means you're weak or indulgent? Many of us have been taught to push through challenges, minimize what we're feeling, and judge ourselves for reacting in normal, human ways. But this mindset keeps us from fully understanding why we're struggling in the first place.   In this episode, I explore why validation is one of the most powerful tools for lasting change. Validation is simply the act of recognizing what's real, legitimate, and understandable about our experience. It's about acknowledging what is true in the moment without judgment. When we validate our emotions instead of dismissing them, we create the clarity, confidence, creativity, and inner strength needed to make meaningful shifts.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/183

 The disease of the Introverts and Perfectionists… You can do it, or you can learn… Failure is only possible if you can't learn from your wrongdoing or if you can't forgive yourself…There is always a second chance when you have learned from your wrongdoing! If you are a perfectionist… Think always, it is good enough and nothing is perfect. Everything can fail… Only God is perfect…All of these regrets and to feel guilty are based that we can't live our own moralities/standards or ethics…For example, you are a male and fail in the bed. That is usually for males the most painful situation in their life,… Even every man will fail or has been unable in the bed at least one time.  And females don't understand why males take that failing so dam seriously. Solution: Say sorry, that I was unable to sleep with you, and this has nothing to do with you, and that has happened before. This always happens if I am too excited, too much under pressure, or have too much stress. Please forgive me that I could not sleep with you. (But don't say that you have slept with another girl an hour before!!!)What is if you are addicted or have done something awful (had an accident, lost your job…). You feel guilty, and this guilt keeps you in your addiction or in your bad consciousness…So longer you go the wrong track or feel guilty so worse it becomes…The solution is easy, you choose to speak openly about your feelings, your regrets to your friends, family, colleagues. If you can't disclosure your emotions, your thoughts then go to a therapist… And even better you share your emotions with people who are in the same situation and who have overcome your problem… For instance, the AA (Anonymous Alcoholics) is a self-help organization for all kinds of addiction…. If we have messed up in our relationships or profession…First, we should analyze our moralities/standards and ask ourselves:Do our moralities really serve us?Are our standards not too high?Have we decided or lived wrong because our moralities are not fitting us?Are our ethics designed for feeling guilty?Did we overtake consciousness or unconsciousness our standards from our parents? Could our parents live their standards?Second, if we have done wrong, apologize immediately, Sorry, I have done wrong, and I try to compensate that… Was the input for your job as promised or enough?Did you honestly have a chance to accomplish your goal or job?Very often, we agree to something that we never have a chance to accomplish or do accordingly… Before we promise anything, we must feel good about it… For instance, it is quite hard to get from me any promise… For what should I give a promise when it is not necessary? In relationships, we don't have our partner under our control, and that is the beauty of a lovely relationship…We try our best. And through misunderstanding, we encounter tragedies, … That is normal.Forgiveness and gratitude for remaining in our love-relationship are a must to fondle the devotion to our lover! So what, we don't know what will happen in the next years… If the relationship is not fitting anymore, or the love is over, separate… Be grateful for the good time you are in the relationship and go on in your life! When you start something new, then very often you have done it wrong in the past.For instance, I have begun with Feng Shui… And after adopting the rules of Feng Shui I must admit, my previous life-time would have been much easier if I would have integrated Feng Shui in my life sooner…So what, should I beat myself up or should I be happy that I have invited Feng Shui in my life? When you grow older, you have made so many mistakes that you don't care anymore…My Video: How to forgive yourself? https://youtu.be/WouiqKO0yFwMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast.B/How-to-forgive-yourself.mp3

This episode is for anyone who's ever hit "submit" on a project and immediately started spiraling about everything they could have done better, or who looks successful on the outside while battling a relentless voice inside that insists they're not good enough.More info, resources & ways to connect - https://www.tacosfallapart.com/podcast-live-show/podcast-guests/nichole-coyneLicensed clinical social worker Nichole Coyne joined MommaFoxFire for a refreshingly honest conversation about that nagging voice in your head that tells you you're not good enough. As someone who specializes in high functioning anxiety and owns Higher Ground Wellness, a virtual private practice, Coyne brought both professional expertise and personal transparency to the discussion.Your inner critic is that constant internal narrative everyone has, formed by our earliest caregivers and experiences. Coyne breaks it down into three distinct voices:The Monger is the brutal negative self-talk machine. It's the voice screaming "you're going to fail" while paradoxically pushing you to work harder to prove it wrong. This voice creates anxiety and drives that endless cycle of burnout.The BFF wants to comfort you but takes it too far. Think of that college friend who wanted to skip studying for drinks—it's all about soothing and avoiding discomfort, often leading to procrastination.The Advocate is the voice most people can barely hear. It's the one that says "that meeting was tough, but you handled it well—now go take a walk and decompress." This is the voice we need to amplify.High functioning anxiety isn't an official diagnosis, but it perfectly captures a growing phenomenon. These are the people who look incredibly successful from the outside—always meeting deadlines, showing up early, getting things done. Inside, they're battling constant self-doubt and that spiraling inner dialogue.The twist? That voice often gets loudest after completing something. You hit submit on a project and immediately start catastrophizing about every possible mistake. Sound familiar?Coyne's approach is refreshingly practical. First, acknowledge the voice. Name it. Even tell someone "my inner critic is really loud today." Once you recognize it, you can start questioning whether these thoughts are actually facts (spoiler: they're not).Her "three and five rule" is genius in its simplicity. Pick three important tasks for shorter time periods, five for longer ones. One of those tasks can be self-care, like making yourself a decent lunch. This prevents the endless to-do list spiral that leaves you feeling like you accomplished nothing despite crossing off multiple items.One of the most striking insights was how perfectionism complicates grief. Perfectionists want to fix everything, but grief requires sitting with uncomfortable feelings. This creates a dangerous loop where major losses trigger high functioning anxiety as people try to control the uncontrollable through hyper-productivity.Coyne emphasized that recovery isn't about spa days and manicures, it's about doing the hard stuff that actually serves you, like managing your budget or taking actual time off. She practices what she preaches, dedicating Sunday afternoons to disconnecting completely.The bottom line? Your thoughts aren't facts, productivity doesn't equal worth, and that critical voice doesn't have to run the show. Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is absolutely nothing at all.

When you learn to anchor into your own worth, the world no longer gets to decide how you feel about yourself. Beatriz Victoria Albina brings powerful insight and clarity to the conversation on nervous system regulation, emotional outsourcing, and the lifelong practice of coming home to yourself. With equal parts warmth and wisdom, she shares how healing begins when we stop chasing external validation and start reconnecting to the safety, belonging, and worth that already live within us. This conversation is a gentle call to shift from survival mode to self-anchored living—where authenticity and inner peace can finally take root. Key Takeaways: Emotional outsourcing happens when you rely on others to define your safety, worth, or sense of belonging. Nervous system dysregulation can show up as anxiety, over-functioning, or emotional numbness—and it's more common than you think. Healing doesn't mean eliminating big emotions; it means learning how to feel them without abandoning yourself. Anchoring into your truth requires self-awareness, self-regulation, and a commitment to coming back to center—again and again. Regulation is a daily practice, not a quick fix—and community, nature, and breath are powerful allies in that process. About Beatriz Victoria Albina: Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of the forthcoming "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits" (expected Sept 30, Hachette Balance) and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Born in Mar del Plata, Argentina, Béa grew up in the great state of Rhode Island. She has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives with her wife, Billey Albina.   Connect with Dr. Michelle and Bayleigh at: https://smallchangesbigshifts.com hello@smallchangesbigshifts.com https://www.linkedin.com/company/smallchangesbigshifts https://www.facebook.com/SmallChangesBigShifts https://www.instagram.com/smallchangesbigshiftsco   Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. You can also subscribe in your favorite podcast app. Leave us an Apple Podcasts review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts.  

"If somebody doesn't have hope, then they sure don't have that. And if somebody doesn't have a sense of purpose and meaning in their lives, then there's no hope." - Maryanne Nicholls   Marianne Nicholls is a distinguished registered psychotherapist and certified Martha Beck life coach based in Kalamazoo, Michigan. With over 20 years of therapeutic expertise and an additional 20 years as a senior corporate consultant, Marianne brings a unique blend of skills to her practice. She specializes in helping success-driven individuals manage burnout while maintaining their passion and energy for what they love. Her approach is holistic, combining practicality, compassion, and humor to create transformative experiences for her clients.   Episode Summary: Join Jana Short in this enlightening episode of "Oh, My Health... There is Hope!" as she converses with the remarkable Marianne Nicholls, psychotherapist and life coach. With a rich tapestry of professional experience, Marianne shares her insights on burnout, a condition familiar to high achievers and driven individuals. Her expertise stems from decades of firsthand experience—both in her therapy sessions and previous corporate roles—providing her a unique perspective on how success can be achieved without sacrificing personal well-being.   The discussion delves deep into the nuances of burnout, exploring the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual aspects that contribute to this pervasive issue. Marianne shares her personal journey of experiencing burnout multiple times and how she learned to navigate it by shifting to a career that reignited her energy and passion. The episode also covers Marianne's offerings, including a course on avoiding burnout that emphasizes community support. With her guidance, listeners can gain actionable insights into recognizing the early signs of burnout and adopting practices to prevent it, sustaining a fulfilling life and career.   Key Takeaways: Marianne Nicholls emphasizes recognizing burnout early by tuning into physical and emotional signs, using intuitive listening to guide well-being. Burnout is multifaceted, affecting mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health; addressing all aspects is vital for holistic recovery. Setting boundaries and learning to say no is crucial to maintaining energy and enthusiasm in personal and professional life. Community support during burnout recovery can provide vital encouragement and perspective, making it a key component of her programs. Simple breath exercises can engage the relaxation system and offer a reset, providing space to make more conscious, healthier decisions.     Resources: www.thejoyofliving.co www.linkedin.com/in/maryannenicholls     Get a free subscription to the Best Holistic Life Magazine, one of the fastest-growing independent magazines centered around holistic living: https://bestholisticlife.info/BestHolisticLifeMagazine.   Get in touch with Jana and listen to more podcasts: https://www.janashort.com/ Show Music ‘Hold On' by Amy Gerhartz: https://www.amygerhartz.com/music. Grab your FREE gift today: https://bestholisticlife.info/BestHolisticLifeMagazine Connect with Jana Short: https://www.janashort.com/contact/

What does true confidence really mean in a demanding corporate career? And how do we create and sustain it when self-doubt, overworking, or perfectionism start to take over? In this episode, Amelia Noel sits down with expert coach Katie Pulsifer to break down the real tools for building lasting confidence at work.Key Highlights: ✅ Understanding confidence as both an emotion and a willingness to try. ✅ How internal validation is more powerful than external feedback. ✅ Practical strategies to overcome self-doubt, over-preparing, and fear of failure.

#337: Money shapes more than just our bank accounts - it touches how we show up in relationships, how we value ourselves, and whether we feel secure enough to set boundaries with those who support us financially.This week, I sit down with financial therapist and author of Feel-Good Finance: Untangle Your Relationship with Money for Better Mental, Emotional, and Financial Well-Being, Aja Evans, to explore the intersection of money and mental health, particularly how codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits show up in our financial lives. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/337Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Do you call yourself a perfectionist? In this episode, I'll show you why perfectionism isn't a strength—it's a fear wearing a clever disguise. I'll break down the real fears behind perfectionism and share how you can overcome them to finally take action, embrace imperfection, and create true freedom in your life. Are you ready to stop procrastinating and break your bad habits? If so, I just opened the doors to Mindset 2.0—my full system to help you break through fear, rewire your identity, and follow through like never before. Click here

Have you ever tried to “think your way” into feeling better, only to feel stuck in the same patterns? It's easy to fall into the belief that changing our thoughts will automatically change our emotions and habits. But what if the solution isn't about forcing yourself to think better thoughts? What if it's about understanding emotions in a deeper, more compassionate way?   In this episode, I revisit the ideas I first shared on an early episode of the podcast about how to feel better. While I once believed that changing our thoughts was the key to lasting change, I now realize it's only part of the equation. By shifting from trying to manage your feelings to understanding and relating to them, you can create the lasting changes you've been seeking.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/182

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For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits.This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

In this raw, reflective episode of The Renae Saager Show, Renae shares the messy truth behind her longest run in nearly a decade—and how it cracked open unexpected clarity about identity, comparison, and self-trust.What starts as a story about an 8-hour race turns into real talk about the emotional weight of doing life differently: raising a toddler without family nearby, grieving a parent, recovering from disordered eating, staying sober for 16 years, and not always "training for the race"—but still showing up.She breaks down how easy it is to compare yourself to people who aren't even in the same damn race, and why two years is the sweet spot for real growth to start taking root—even if it's messy.If you've ever thought “I should be further along by now,” or looked at someone else and instantly felt behind—this one's for you.

Send a Text Message. Please include your name and email so we can answer you! Please note, this does not subscribe you to our email list, it's just to answer if you have a questions for us. What if being an "A+ student" with your health is actually keeping you stuck?That's exactly what Marnie discovered when she joined my 30/30 Program. A registered nurse who had struggled with weight her whole life, Marnie approached health like everything else—with perfect charts, detailed tracking, and flawless rule-following. But that perfectionist mindset was fueling a cycle of burnout and frustration.In this episode, Marnie shares the moment she realized her task-master mentality was actually self-sabotage—and how letting go of perfection finally unlocked real, sustainable change.We cover:Why “there's no right way to start” How doing less led to better results for MarnieThe power of “accept and allow” versus restriction and controlWhy lasting change comes from small pivots, not drastic overhaulsPractical meal planning tips and systems that fit real lifeMarnie's story shows that lasting health isn't about perfect execution — it's about sustainable habits you can actually live with. If you're tired of the all-or-nothing grind, this episode will completely shift how you think about your health journey.ReferencesConnect with MarnieInstagramFacebookCMC Weight Loss ClinicGet Your FREE 3-Day Hunger Hormone Reset Mini Video SeriesEnrollment is now LIVE live for the September round of The 30/30 Program - Click here to join nowAudio Stamps00:00 - Reminder that enrollment is now LIVE for the September round of The 30/30 Program.04:12 - Dr. Rentea introduces Marnie, a registered nurse with a powerful personal health journey and an unshakable commitment to helping others.10:35 - Reminder that there's no perfect way to start a health journey16:45 - Tips for how to start and keep going when feeling stuck.27:15 - How Marnie's meal planning grew from strict prep to simple, doable routines that work long-term.33:27 -  Mindful, intentional enjoyment of fear foods helps prevent overeating and builds long-term balance.36:47 - Marnie shares her routine, highlighting the importance of enjoying what you eat to build sustainable habits.47:26 - Lasting change starts with one small step and grows over time—there's no need to wait for a “perfect moment”.Join the September 30/30 round. Premium Season 1 of The Obesity Guide: Behind the Curtain -Dive into real clinical scenarios, from my personal medication journey to tackling weight loss plateaus, understanding insulin resistance, and challenges with GLP-1s. Plus, get a 40+ page guide packed with protein charts, weight loss formulas, and more. Pre-register for the Sep 30/30 group.Support the show

Is your job your whole identity? Are you measuring your worth based on feedback, titles, or how hard you work?This episode breaks down the hidden mindsets that keep high-achievers stuck in overwork, stress, and burnout—and what it really takes to feel better and show up stronger at work.Key takeaways: ✅ Why “I am more than my job” is the most powerful mindset shift you can make ✅ How focusing on your progress (not your gaps) builds real confidence ✅ Why self-validation is your secret weapon for sustainable success

What if perfectionism is the real reason you haven't finished your novel—not lack of talent or time?"I need to get this right before I move on" keeps aspiring authors stuck forever. But here's what I've discovered... Perfectionism isn't about having high standards. It's about fear. Fear of judgment, failure, or not being "good enough."In this episode, you'll hear from three reformed perfectionists who broke free from the endless editing trap and finished their novels. Meet Pornika, who delayed starting for months thinking she needed every detail figured out first. Amy, working on her eighth novel but never finishing because she'd spend weeks perfecting each chapter. And Kara, who wrote 100,000 words but got overwhelmed trying to fix its problems.None of them lowered their standards. Instead, they discovered something far more powerful: how to write messy and make real progress.In this episode, you'll learn:[03:10] How a corporate finance professional went from months of planning paralysis to 114k words in 88 days using the fast drafting technique that changed everything[05:15] Why a writer starting her eighth novel finally broke her pattern of endless chapter editing and discovered the foundational skills that put her "in the power seat"[06:00] Why understanding theme, genre conventions, and scene structure actually makes writing easier and more enjoyable, not more restrictive[07:30] The "magical revisions" technique that lets you keep moving forward without getting bogged down in details you haven't figured out yet[09:00] The structural breakthrough that helped one writer transform a problematic 100k-word manuscript into a publishable novel[15:00] How to shift from perfectionist paralysis to forward momentum without sacrificing the quality you care aboutReady to stop polishing and start finishing? Join Poornika, Amy, Kara, and hundreds of other reformed perfectionists who've discovered that messy first drafts lead to better novels. Get on the waitlist for the next open enrollment of my Notes to Novel course and get my complete, step-by-step framework for writing a story that works. Don't miss your chance to turn your ideas into a finished draft you're proud of!

In this episode, I'm sharing 12 thoughts that helped me create content in a really easy, enjoyable, sustainable way that has proven to be really effective for my perfectionist brain. I wanted to record this in response to a PGSDer who posted about starting a podcast inside my group coaching program Perfectionists Getting Shit Done (aka PGSD). These thoughts will help you create content simply and easily, and they can also be applied to other areas of your business to empower you to show up fully. Because yes, there might be some technical things that you need to set up when it comes to content creation. But trusting yourself – or what we call self-trust – is the most important ingredient so your perfectionist brain can create high-quality content easily. I've made over $2 million in my business, most of which has come from this podcast, and the times I've made the most money and the most impact with people have been when I'm in a high level of self-trust. Tune in and find out why this is the case for perfectionists, and discover the 12 thoughts that will make content creation easy and effective. Enrollment closing soon: Join Perfectionists Getting Shit Done (aka PGSD) to learn how to create consistent content without burning out. Doors are now officially open until 11:59pm EDT on Friday, 25 July. To sign up today and get instant access to everything inside, visit samlaurabrown.com/pgsd.

Have you ever tried to change by simply thinking a new thought, only to feel frustrated when the change doesn't happen as easily as promised? The idea that if you just change your thoughts, you can change your life has been a cornerstone of personal development for years. But what if it's not the whole story?   In this episode, I'm revisiting a concept from an early episode, where I taught "thinking a new thought" as the key to change. While this cognitive behavioral approach helped many of my clients, I now realize how incomplete it is. Our experience is shaped by much more than our thoughts. It's influenced by our nervous system, memories, trauma, and even cultural systems. I'll explain why thought work is useful but not enough, and why real change involves understanding the deeper layers beneath our thoughts.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/181

Welcome to Episode 125 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! For this episode of the podcast, I'm sharing another episode from the friendship summer series my friend Stacey Morgan and I recorded a few years ago. This episode is aboutHow to Make Friends as an Adult Woman. Something that seems like it would be easy, but it can actually be quite a challenge! I love this conversation I have with Stacey and I think you will too! Get a Mom's Guide for Back to School herePre-order my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days.*⁠Join my book launch team.*Affiliate Link

In today's episode, we're joined by Andrea Fortenberry—author, speaker, and member of the MomCo (formerly MOPS) ministry team. Andrea opens up about her journey through perfectionism and how it began to affect her motherhood. She shares how counseling helped her find freedom and peace, and now she's passionate about helping other moms do the same.Together, we walk through three powerful principles to help you experience more freedom in your own motherhood:Take care of yourself.You may expect yourself to be perfect—but God doesn't.It's okay (and holy!) to ask for help.If you've ever felt the weight of unrealistic expectations or struggled to give yourself grace, this conversation is for you. Tune in and be encouraged!Andrea Fortenberry is a writer, speaker, and Bible teacher. She is the host of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering, a podcast that equips moms to find freedom from perfectionism and show up for the life God has for them. She has been married to Will for 21 years and they have two children, ages 16 and 14. Being a wife and mom gives her lots of material and teaches her oh so many things! She is on staff with MomCo as the Leadership Development Manager, where she encourages and supports MomCo leaders across the globe. She loves chai lattes, reading books and all things Golden and Gilmore girls.  You can connect with her at andreafortenberry.com or on Instagram @andreafortenberry.

Today we're joined by Jennie Monness: early childhood educator, entrepreneur, podcast host, and founder of Union Square Play and Charmspring, for a raw and refreshing conversation about modern motherhood. Jennie opens up about her journey as a recovering perfectionist: how she's learned to let go, embrace her imperfections, and offer herself the same grace she hopes to model for her kids. We dive into the importance of routines (and when to let go of them), how to navigate public meltdowns, and what it really means to parent with intention vs. not pressure.This episode is full of bite-sized wisdom: from why simply asking your child ‘why' can be a game-changer, to what she learned about socialization while parenting during COVID, to why it might be time to stop emphasizing “sharing” with toddlers. Jennie offers grounded, actionable advice that will leave every mom feeling seen, supported, and just a little more confident in doing things her way.Instagram: @wearemorethanmomsPatreon: More Than Moms Guides & Resources Join our IRL LA communitySubscribe to our NewsletterProduced by Peoples Media Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever received a compliment or acknowledged a success, only to immediately deflect or downplay it? Or perhaps you've accomplished something meaningful but instead of feeling proud, you start to focus on what could have been better? This tendency to minimize our strengths and dismiss our progress can be so automatic that we don't even realize we're doing it.   In this episode, I explore why we minimize ourselves and how to relate to this habit differently. What I once saw as just a bad mental habit to fix, I now understand as a protective strategy—a part of us trying to keep us safe from vulnerability, judgment, or failure. Through the lens of Internal Family Systems, embodiment, and nervous system regulation, I'll show you how this tendency serves a purpose and how we can start to shift it.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/180

Have you ever been so angry about something, voiced your concerns, advocated for a solution, maybe even cried over it, only to have nothing change? The situation remains the same, the person doesn't budge, and your anger lingers, leaving you stuck. What now? In this episode, I explore the exhaustion that comes when we're angry about something that won't shift.   You'll discover why anger becomes exhausting when there's no external resolution, what emotions typically hide beneath it, and how to redefine resolution as an internal process rather than an external outcome. You'll also learn practical ways to work with your anger so you can continue advocating for what matters without being undone by what you can't control.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/179