Podcasts about perfectionists

Are you tired of shouldering the weight of impossible standards and harsh self-judgment? This week on the podcast, Shannon Popkin returns for an honest conversation about judging—especially the way perfectionists measure themselves with a critical, merciless scoop. In this compassionate and insightful episode, you’ll hear:- Why “judge not” is more nuanced than you might think, and how the Bible calls us to both discernment and humility.- How the standards we use to judge ourselves often seep into our perception of others—even when we think we’re showing only ourselves the harshness. - The trap of perfectionism: when striving to be flawless turns into wounded pride and a subtle resistance to receiving grace.- The difference between external rule-keeping and the biblical invitation to “walk with God”—not just check every box.- How admitting our need for mercy—rather than clinging to “good girl” status—actually brings us closer to Jesus and frees us from the courtroom in our heads.- A vulnerable story of how Shannon realized she’d been harshly judging a friend’s motives, and the freedom that came with confession and restored relationship. Resources & Next Steps: - Check out Shannon's latest book here: Kinda Judgy on Amazon (Amazon affiliate link)- Take Shannon’s “Kind of Judgy” Quiz and download the heart check at: http://shannonpopkin.com/judgy- Explore stories from Shannon’s new book for practical ways to deal with self-judgment and embrace mercy!- Share this episode with a friend who struggles to be gentle with herself! **Let this episode be your invitation to step out of self-condemnation, walk in mercy, and embrace the freeing truth of the gospel—for yourself, not just everyone else.** Listen now for hope and honest insight! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In this podcast, Greg Voisen sits down with Rosie Ward, Ph.D., author of Future-Proofing Leadership: Navigating Change and Disruption to Thrive in an Uncertain World. Together, they expose the hidden "stuckness zone"—the widening gap between an increasingly chaotic world and the ancient, self-protective biological hardwiring that causes leaders to freeze, panic, or micromanage when disruption hits. Dr. Ward peels back the corporate mask to share a deeply personal look into her own journey, proving that no one is entirely immune to the subtle internal biases that quietly sabotage our best strategic intentions. If you have ever felt completely overwhelmed by rapid organizational shifts or wondered why your team defaults to a state of defensive paralysis when under pressure, this eye-opening conversation is your ultimate invitation to upgrade your inner operating system. By exploring the core human challenges beneath corporate strategies, this episode maps out a practical blueprint for stepping away from fear-based habits and moving confidently into authentic, resilient execution. Listen to Greg and Rosie's previous interview: https://insidepersonalgrowth.com/posts/podcast-909-rehumanizing-the-workplace-with-dr-rosie-ward

Mistakes are an inevitable part of any job, including medicine. Understanding how to learn from them and then move on (without getting trapped in self blame), is a critical skill for any doctor.This episode brings practical insights from two doctors about dealing with mistakes in medicine and the pressures of perfectionism, which is often borne out of the medical system with its exams, hierarchy and high expectations.Hear from:Dr Luke Auciello - Emergency ACRRM registrar, at Bairnsdale Regional Health Service  Dr Sophie Fontaine - ACRRM registrar, at West Gippsland Healthcare GroupTogether they discuss why mistakes (whether clinical or professional) usually occur as a result of multiple, complex factors, rather than being purely an individual's fault. They also explore:Why perfectionism is deeply embedded in medical culture.The difference between clinical mistakes and professional mistakes.What to do in the moment when you realise something has gone wrong.How mentors, colleagues and debriefing can help doctors process difficult situations.For more information about the study and training opportunities across regional Victoria, head to the Monash Rural Health website.The North West Victoria and Gippsland Regional Training Hubs have commissioned this podcast to help medical students and junior doctors learn more about training and practising medicine in regional Australia. Find your nearest Regional Training Hub here.

Lords: Aubrey http://glowhno.com/ Avery Topics: Every day since 1981 Yuri Borisovich Norstein and his wife Francheska Yarbusova have worked on their masterpice--an animated adaptaion of Gogol's short story The Overcoat. They couple is now in their 80s and will most likely never complete their film. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Overcoat_(animated_film) Video game urban legends https://vimeo.com/91436410 https://saint-arthur.tumblr.com/post/146680746144/riding-immortal-on-the-seeking-road Bay Area Airport Naming Drama The Only Animal by Franz Wright https://april-is.tumblr.com/post/89794820/april-25-2008-the-only-animal-franz-wright Microtopics: Loving only the parts you don't hate. Finishing the whole pack of Red Vines because you refuse to let them defeat you. An album you haven't put on Spotify. You know. Those podcasts. The sort of thing we don't do around here. Holding up cue cards so the guests know what to say. Reading all 180,000 messages in the Frog Fractions 2 ARG solvers discord. The tech company you're applying to sending you all the Enron emails, saying "review these before the interview" Mysteries, Easter eggs, and rose-tinted glasses. Hedgehog in the Fog. Arduous animation processes. Working on an animated feature by yourself for over 40 years. Great Family Entertainment. A story about a guy who has everything he needs who dies while trying to buy an overcoat. A huge pack of Red Vines that you and your wife have been eating since 1981. Burning yourself out very quickly if you don't put guardrails in place. Perfectionists throwing away years of work because it's not good enough. DJs who still spin vinyl and other artists who choose to do things the hard way. Enveloping yourself in an emotion. Refusing to break character for the entire time you're making the Youtube documentary. Putting away art you're having a hard time with and coming back to it later. Everything that happened between the Sigil Master and Austin Walker. Losing track of whether art looks good. The fine line between pacing yourself and torturing yourself. The statue in the background of Frog Fractions that turns red when you're on Mars. Encouraging people to have whimsy. Space Knight Rom. Snagglepuss the 1950s playwright. Back when you could make up a video game rumor and not have it immediately debunked. GTA San Andreas urban legends. Windows Movie Maker transition screens. Gravitating towards the unknowable. Self-destructing music. Scarcity and unknowability. Buying an album from the record shop and perusing the indie record label catalog that comes with it. Searching for the 16th colossus. Forming a small community and feeling communal with them. Playing games with a group of friends like a book club. An MMO full of ARGy type stuff. Automatically grouping people into a puzzle solving community. Being paralyzed by the sheer amount of information that you don't know. What's going on with the iGlyphs? Finding evidence of the Jejune Institute on a telephone pole. Painstakingly making the 7th Frog Fractions game, 45 years from now. The history of Seeking Mr. Eaten's Name. Game secrets that can't be ruined by one jerk with a decompiler. Sleep No More. Getting pulled into a secret compartment during an interactive play. Multi-city zombie larps. The Oakland Airport renaming themselves to the San Francisco Bay International Airport and then later the lawsuit becoming the Oakland San Francisco Bay Airport. Bay Area topology. San Francisco and South San Francisco. The Unincorporated Area of San Mateo County International Airport, or UAOSMCIA. American cities named after European cities. The Bass Pro Shop Pyramid in Memphis, TN. Filling a 32-story disco pyramid with sports equipment. Fry's Electronics. Another episode of Topic Lords where we read from Wikipedia. A huge empty building with paintings of Mayan gods holding torches that used to be an electronics store. One more way in which people forget about San Diego. The only animal that brushes its own teeth A monkey wearing a spacesuit trying to smoke a cigarette through the face shield. The only animal that smokes cigarettes. (Todd, who works down at the warehouse.) Meeting your estranged dad when at the awards show when you're both up for the same Pulitzer. Whether that fuckin' awesome monkey is a Bored Ape. Whether Google Image Search is making up images yet. That time Ryan North and his dog got stuck in an empty swimming pool and turned it into an interactive text adventure. By the time you've smelt it, they have dealt it. Topics are over!

If you have a tendency to put off anything selling related until the last minute (or you avoid it altogether) then this episode is going to be insanely helpful for you. In this epic episode you'll hear me navigate the content creation and pre-launch period, the launch itself and give a detailed debrief of the launch results.  It's a compilation of recordings I made throughout the entire process where I share what I was going through, how I was feeling and the ups and downs of it all. In this raw and real episode, I share not only the wins but the hard lessons I learned so that you can have them as wisdom to use in your own business.  If you're a perfectionist and you're building a business, you want to listen to this episode today. WANT MORE? If you want to learn how to consistently follow through with your plans, join me for my upcoming free live Power Planning Workshop. Get the workshop details and register today at samlaurabrown.com/workshop. If you want to see behind the scenes of my journey of building my own business as a perfectionist entrepreneur, subscribe to my youtube channel: samlaurabrown.com/youtube. Want a little motivational boost from me in your inbox every day? I call them Perfectionist Power-Ups and thousands of perfectionists love them. You can sign up for free at samlaurabrown.com/ppu. Perfectionists Getting Shit Done is opening for enrollment on 17 June 2026 for one week only. To find out more about working with me and be the first to know when doors open, visit the waitlist today at samlaurabrown.com/pgsd.

Once an ironman athlete and perfectionist, Risa August faced a devastating diagnosis that stripped away her former life. This is the story of how she found new purpose and adventure, transforming her approach to life, from rigid achievement to joyful discovery, even with her unexpected companion, "Bubba," her brain tumor.    Chapters: 00:00 From Extreme Achiever to Illness  Host Bill Burke introduces Risa August, an adventurous woman who once excelled in extreme sports, asking, "Is there anything you can't do?" Risa describes her past as an intense overachiever and perfectionist, pushing limits in Ironman, mountain climbing, and hot yoga, always striving to be better than others and maintaining a rigid lifestyle.  03:51 The Diagnosis of Acromegaly  Risa recounts the onset of strange symptoms after her first Ironman in 2010, including significant weight gain despite a strict diet and increasing fatigue. After years of doctors dismissing her concerns, she insisted on an MRI, which revealed an enlarged pituitary and led to her diagnosis of acromegaly, a serious condition she had never heard of before.  11:09 Choosing Adventure Over Despair  Faced with a devastating diagnosis and a challenging life, Risa decided not to break down but to break out, committing to her adventures despite doctors' warnings about what she could no longer do. She realized she would never be her old self, so she focused on "who can I be then?" and made a conscious decision to truly live life on her own terms.  14:00 The Road Unpaved and Bubba  Risa found a new purpose in a cross-country bicycle journey along the Pacific Coast Highway, a trip she committed to doing on her own terms after reflecting on her past perfectionism. She also named her brain tumor 'Bubba' as a way to connect with her changing body, turning him into a central character and partner in her healing journey and the book.  21:29 Gestalt Therapy and Connection  Risa discusses how her Gestalt therapy training, which she underwent during her diagnosis, provided a crucial support network and helped her become a more patient, compassionate, and curious practitioner. She also emphasizes the importance of deep, personal connection and active listening, a lesson she learned on her bike tour by giving others a chance and finding unexpected commonalities.  30:13 The CAN Framework  Risa shares her 'CAN' framework—Capable, Able, Now—which she developed after feeling stuck post-surgery and questioning her purpose. This mantra helped her simplify the complex challenges she faced, prompting her to ask, "What am I capable and able to do now, in this moment?"  35:29 Living a Full Life Now  Risa openly discusses the progression of her acromegaly and its physical toll, yet she maintains a strong mindset, dedicated to inspiring others to live full lives. She now finds joy in simple things, like perusing a farmer's market, and doesn't worry about disappointing others by not always seeking the 'next big thing.' 

In this episode of The Beyond Body Show, Jen unpacks how perfectionism quietly sabotages your fitness progress - not because you don't care enough, but because your mindset is keeping you stuck in all-or-nothing cycles. She breaks down the hidden ways perfectionism shows up in your routines, self-talk, and ability to adapt when life gets messy, and why constantly chasing the "perfect plan" leads to inconsistency. If you're someone who feels like you're always starting over, waiting to finally "get it together," or struggling to maintain momentum unless life conditions are ideal, this episode will shift the way you approach fitness, self-discipline, and long-term success. Want to know more about 1:1 Coaching? Apply here: https://form.typeform.com/to/IZKyzd62 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenrudyfitness/ Website: https://www.beyondbodycoaching.com/   

AND WE ARE BACK. The time: two minutes to midnight.Today's topics are Slayer founder — if not mastermind — Kerry King and frontman Tom Araya.Unless otherwise noted, all sick-arsed riffage and/or music is by in-house rifflord Nige Savage of UK metal band Chupacabra.For the next year or so, every week, you get a chapter or two of D.X. Ferris' Slaytanic history book..."Slayer 66 2/3: A Metal Band Biography... Or, How F*Kin' Slayer Kicked Fkin' @ss," REBORN: The Updated, Revised& Massively Expanded 4th Edition...this is the complete, annotated audio version, broadcast for the first time. You've never heard it like this before... unless you have the audiobook, which is available CHEAP at⁠⁠SlayerBook.Bandcamp.com⁠⁠.The run time is 1.4 DAYS. That's a lot.Talkin' Slayer Season IV: Return of the New & Improved presents the chronological history of Slayer, as seen / heard in the book.The previous edition of the book ran around 350 pages. The new REBORN Edition runs 639. We added a lot. And you can hear it all here, one week at a time, piece by piece.Mostly, in season 4, what you will get every week or so is a chapter from the book... plus some cool bonus stuff, like original interviews with people you WILL want to hear from.The book was updated after the reunion, massively expanded, thoroughly overhauled, and rewritten so it's easier to read — both in format and writing style. Check it out at...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SlayerBooks.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠and / or⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Ajna Offensive⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠F[ARG]IN' SLAYER. JEFF RIP.Thank you for listening.

Welcome to Episode 145 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today I have the privilege of chatting with Emma Donaldson. Emma is the founder of Joyful Mama Wellness and a licensed professional counselor and perinatal mental health specialist who supports Christian moms in the postpartum season. She helps new mothers understand postpartum anxiety and depression, emotional overwhelm, and intrusive thoughts—offering support that honors both their mental health and their faith.Some of the resources we mention in this episode include: Fast Like a Girl by Dr. Mindy Pelz*You can connect with Emma via:Her website: joyfulmamawellness.comInstagram: @joyfulmamamentalwellnessGet a copy of my new book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms for yourself and/or some mom friends today at ⁠⁠twominutetimeouts.com.⁠⁠Don't forget that you can connect with me via:⁠⁠My website: andreafortenberry.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: @andreafortenberry⁠⁠*Affiliate Link

Have you ever noticed the different personalities that show up in your Pilates class? In this fun and relatable episode, we break down the 5 classic Pilates archetypes, from The Perfectionist and The Go Hard or Go Home, to The Just Enough to Get By, The Overthinker, and of course, The Chatty Cathy! Join me as I share how each archetype shows up in class, what I really think as your instructor, and why recognising your own style can help you move better, feel stronger, and connect more deeply with your body. Whether you're a Pilates newbie or a seasoned student, this episode will have you laughing, nodding, and maybe even recognising a little bit of yourself or your Pilates buddy! ✨ Plus, if you want to practice Pilates from home, I'll share how you can grab my Pilates Home Workout Series here to strengthen, stretch, and move with confidence.   Timestamps: (00:28) Introduction to Pilates Archetypes (01:24) Exploring the Perfectionist Archetype (05:00) The Go Hard or Go Home Mindset (08:34) The Minimalist Approach to Pilates (10:42) Understanding the Overthinker (12:26) The Chatty Cathy in Class (14:35) Embracing Multiple Archetypes  

If you have the most detailed, amazing plans but you're always waiting until everything is perfect to get started, this episode is for you. I'm breaking down the second of four procrastination profiles: the Perfectionist. You excel at creating detailed roadmaps and speak spreadsheet fluently, but you get stuck moving from planning to execution. The plan feels safe. The first real step does not. You're going to change the world just as soon as the plan is perfect, but here's the problem: the plan will never be perfect. It can't be, because there's too much information and it's all changing too quickly. In this episode, discover your core procrastination trap, why you resist the uncertainty of execution, and what to do about it. Plus, I'll tell you about the lightning fast, free quiz at JonAcuff.com/quiz that will show you exactly which type of procrastination you deal with and give you a step by step action plan to overcome it.In This Episode:Order Procrastination Proof!You can grab a copy of my new book Procrastination Proof from your favorite bookstore or at my website!Make sure to follow me on Instagram and share with your friends!Sign up for my newsletter, Try This!Book me to speak at your event or to your team!Sign up for the Remarkable You Community today!Keep up with my book list on GoodReads! Have me speak at your next event!

ไลฟ์ประจำวันอาทิตย์ที่ 10 พฤษภาคม 2569 เวลาหนึ่งทุ่ม สนใจเรียนออนไลน์ แบบดูวิดีโอด้วยตนเอง ดูรายละเอียดที่ www.morprawate.com สนใจเรียน online workshop ผ่านระบบ Zoom สอบถามที่ LINE @morprawate วิดีโอนี้จากช่อง “ปลดล็อกกับหมอเวช” อธิบายถึงความแตกต่างระหว่าง 3 สภาวะที่คนวัยทำงานมักพบเจอ คือ อาการหมดแรง หมดไฟ และโรคซึมเศร้า พร้อมแนวทางการจัดการตัวเองดังนี้ครับสรุปเนื้อหาสำคัญ อาการหมดแรง (Exhaustion): เป็นสภาวะชั่วคราวที่พลังงานลดลง มักเกิดจากการบริหารพลังงานชีวิตไม่ดี เช่น อดนอนเรื้อรัง ความเครียดสะสม หรือปัญหาสุขภาพ หากปรับเปลี่ยนกิจวัตร เช่น นอนให้พอและออกกำลังกาย อาการจะดีขึ้นเองได้ ภาวะหมดไฟ (Burnout): มีลักษณะเฉพาะที่เกี่ยวข้องกับ ระบบงาน และความเครียดเรื้อรังในที่ทำงาน โดยมีอาการสำคัญ 3 ประการ คือ :1. รู้สึกหมดพลังงานล้าทางอารมณ์2. มีทัศนคติเชิงลบต่อที่ทำงาน เพื่อนร่วมงาน หรือดื้อเงียบ 3. ประสิทธิภาพในการทำงานลดลง แม้จะมีความสามารถก็ตาม โรคซึมเศร้า (Depression): เป็นภาวะทางจิตเวชที่รุนแรงกว่า มีอาการเศร้ามากและยาวนานเกิน 2 สัปดาห์ จนกระทบการใช้ชีวิต เกิดจากหลายปัจจัยผสมกัน เช่น กรรมพันธุ์ ประสบการณ์วัยเด็ก หรือนิสัยส่วนตัว (เช่น ความเป็น Perfectionist) วิธีแยกแยะเบื้องต้นคนที่มีภาวะ “หมดไฟ” มักจะรู้สึกสดชื่นและมีความสุขขึ้นเมื่ออยู่นอกบริบทงาน (เช่น วันหยุด) แต่จะรู้สึกแย่เมื่อต้องกลับไปทำงานในเช้าวันจันทร์ ส่วนคนที่เป็น “โรคซึมเศร้า” มักจะมีความเศร้าครอบคลุมในหลายสถานการณ์ ไม่ใช่แค่เรื่องงานอย่างเดียว แนวทางการจัดการหมอเวชเน้นย้ำเรื่อง “การบริหารพลังงาน” เป็นพื้นฐานสำคัญสำหรับทุกสภาวะ โดยให้เริ่มจาก 3 หัวใจหลัก: กิน นอน และออกกำลังกาย สำหรับคนที่มีภาวะหมดไฟ ควรเรียนรู้ทักษะการจัดการปัญหาในที่ทำงานและมองหาที่ปรึกษาหรือเพื่อนที่ไว้ใจได้เพื่อหาทางออกในเชิงระบบ

Perfectionists and the kids who didn't even prepare got the same test scores, and that should change how you think about your business.  Get full show notes at www.consciousedge.com/ep103 Instagram:@aleciastg If you saw yourself in this episode, the next step is a conversation. Book your Capacity Assessment Call at consciousedge.com/capacity.  After volunteering at her daughter's Science Olympiad state competition, Alecia spent hours grading tests and noticed three distinct patterns. The perfectionists who only answered questions they were absolutely certain about, leaving entire sections blank. The kids who showed up unprepared and just guessed at everything. And the top performers who came prepared, knew their material, and still answered every single question even when they had to take a swing at it. The part that should wake you up: the perfectionists and the kids who didn't prepare at all scored about the same. Joined by her regular co-host Jonathan Dugger, Alecia unpacks what this dynamic looks like in business. Why perfectionism is actually a strategy for avoiding failure disguised as high standards. What it's costing the capable business owners who've been telling themselves their carefulness is a strength. And why it's never too late to start retraining the brain to take small, intentional risks without being so attached to the outcome.

พยายามมากแค่ไหนก็เหมือนว่าผลลัพธ์จะไม่ดีอย่างที่คาด นี่เป็นปัญหาที่ Perfectionist หลายคนต่างรู้กันดี และอาจเคยประสบพบเจอมาแล้วอย่างน้อยในช่วงชีวิตหนึ่ง ในหลายๆ ปัจจัย ‘วิธีคิด' ของเราอาจเป็นสาเหตุที่ทำให้เราติดหล่มความกลัวไม่สำเร็จของตัวเองก็ได้ แล้วถ้าอยากเติบโตและประสบความสำเร็จโดยไม่ติดหล่ม Black-and-White Thinking ต้องทำอย่างไร? ติดตามได้ในพอดแคสต์ 5M EP. นี้ . . #BlackandWhiteThinking #selfdevelopmment #goodtime #5minutespodcast #missiontothemoonpodcast

พยายามมากแค่ไหนก็เหมือนว่าผลลัพธ์จะไม่ดีอย่างที่คาด นี่เป็นปัญหาที่ Perfectionist หลายคนต่างรู้กันดี และอาจเคยประสบพบเจอมาแล้วอย่างน้อยในช่วงชีวิตหนึ่ง ในหลายๆ ปัจจัย ‘วิธีคิด' ของเราอาจเป็นสาเหตุที่ทำให้เราติดหล่มความกลัวไม่สำเร็จของตัวเองก็ได้ แล้วถ้าอยากเติบโตและประสบความสำเร็จโดยไม่ติดหล่ม Black-and-White Thinking ต้องทำอย่างไร? ติดตามได้ในพอดแคสต์ 5M EP. นี้ . . #BlackandWhiteThinking #selfdevelopmment #goodtime #5minutespodcast #missiontothemoonpodcast

Kelli France is a Master Certified Life Coach, a Perfectionist Coach, Founder of the Empowered Life Academy, Author of One Goal for 100 Days, and Host of the Finally Fearless podcast. She works with women to help them recognize and break free from perfectionist patterns– the kind that keep you stuck, burnt out, and constantly waiting to feel ready before you start.Kelli discovered her own perfectionism during her master coach certification and realized it was showing up in almost every woman she coached. She built her entire framework around it, including four perfectionist archetypes rooted in the nervous system's fear response — and the practical tools to move through them.This episode is a really honest, relatable conversation about the ways perfectionism quietly runs our lives — and what it actually looks like to break up with it for good.In this episode, we cover:The four perfectionist archetypes — controller, overachiever, people pleaser, and procrastinator — and how each one is rooted in fight, flight, fawn, or freezeWhy perfectionism is a nervous system response, not a personality flaw — and how it starts in childhoodHow people pleasing is really a form of control — and why it's linked to lying and manipulation without us even realizing itThe difference between guilt and shame — and why the shame spiral is the most damaging part of the perfectionist cycleWhy so many women don't even know they're perfectionists — they just think they're undisciplined, unmotivated, or not ready yetThe identity crisis that hits when your title, role, or company disappears and your worth was tied to all of itPerfectionist mom patterns — the panic that you're not doing it right, attaching your identity to your kids' behavior, and the all-or-nothing trapBody image and perfectionism — why women won't show up online because their hair isn't the right colorAll-or-nothing thinking, cognitive distortions, and the SCAM acronymThe "and" thinking — why adding "and" instead of "or" breaks the black-and-white trap"Dating discomfort" — what it means, why it matters, and how to get better at tolerating hard feelings without letting them driveThe two S's for getting started: Start Sloppy and Super Small StepsThe T model — thoughts create emotions, emotions create actions, actions create resultsWhy your imperfections are what actually create connection — not the highlight reelWhat to do when you want to quit — and why that urge is just a feeling passing through, not a factHow Gen Z is dealing with perfectionism — and the conversations Kelli is having with her own kidsConnect with Kelli:Instagram: @kellifrance https://www.instagram.com/kellifrance/Book — One Goal for 100 Days: available on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Goal-100-Days-Motivational-Journal/dp/B0CQHZ4K19Podcast: Finally Fearless - https://open.spotify.com/show/56CKDOAOuW5PGV27QjZLcl?si=03cef683f1d14f37

Welcome to Episode 144 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering!  Today I have the privilege of chatting with Tim and Mark Shoemaker, authors of What to Say and How to Say It to Your Teen*. Together they have 50+ years of combined parenting and youth ministry experience. Tim is the author of more than 25 books and is a popular speaker at conferences and schools around the United States. Mark has been a youth and family pastor since 2011 and currently serves as a campus pastor and oversees youth and college ministries at The Bridge Community Church in Illinois.Some of the resources we mention include:What to Say and How to Say It to Your Teen: A Parent's Guide to 30 Tricky Conversations*Music by Benjamin Williams HastingsPortable Tire Pump*Standing Desk*You can connect with Tim and Mark via:timeshoemaker.comInstagram: @markshoemaker3Get a copy of my new book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms for yourself and/or some mom friends today at ⁠twominutetimeouts.com.⁠Don't forget that you can connect with me via:⁠My website: andreafortenberry.com⁠⁠Instagram: @andreafortenberry⁠*Affiliate Link

Your calendar fills up fast.A meeting here. A “quick chat” there. Another request you say yes to… just to be helpful.And before you know it.. you're fully booked, mentally drained, and wondering when you'll actually have time to think.Not because you don't know how to manage your time…But because you haven't mastered how to decline it.In this week's BFG episode (Part 2 of the Taking Back Control of Your Calendar series), we're zooming in on one of the most underrated leadership skills: The Clean No.Here's what we unpack:The anatomy of a Clean No—a simple, no-drama way to decline requests (without overexplaining, apologizing, or leaving the door open for negotiation)The subtle habits that are keeping you overcommitted—like soft nos, guilt-driven yeses, and “just this once” decisions that quietly overload your calendarHow clear, direct boundaries instantly elevate how you're perceived—so you're seen as decisive, focused, and operating at a senior levelBecause saying no isn't the problem.It's how you're saying it.If every decline turns into a paragraph…If you find yourself justifying your time…Or if “no” somehow keeps turning into “maybe”…This episode will show you how to communicate boundaries in a way that's clean, confident, and actually respected.Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so you accelerate in your demanding corporate career without grinding your way to the top? Book a free consult call to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 executive coaching program today. Take the free, 3-minute BFG Mindset quiz: Want to know what's keeping you trapped in the grind of your demanding corporate career? Take the BFG Mindset Quiz here to find out if you're an Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - and receive customized solutions on how you can break free from overworking patterns and create more sustainable success at work TODAY. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel

For people who are stubbornly perfectionistic, obsessive and compulsive, change can be hard to come by. Particular personality traits that can be positive can also manifest negatively. In this post we explore six of the main blocks to change, including, avoidance motivation, impatience, magnifying difficulties, unrealistic goals, being too cerebral, and clinging to the safe benefits of old ways.  

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Welcome to another breath prayer episode, in the Breathe and be still series. Let's breathe and be still and know that He is Lord and you are safe, known, loved by Him. Maycember is upon us and we need a breath prayer for the busy, the hurried, the month that is extra, the MOM in may....and the one who is already stressed out BEFORE may! And this one is special...this one is personal. This breath prayer — More of You, Less of Me — was the first one I ever clung to. It found me in the middle of my burnout season. And if you're a high achiever, a recovering perfectionist, someone who has built their identity on doing things right — I believe it's going to find you today too. Shalom Shalom,  Xx, Shan  ……CONNECT…… The STAT Protocol: 5 min Nervous system Reset + Mental Shift for Burnt Out Nurses (free gift) Take the Free QUIZ-  Are you in burnout or just stressed??

Perfectionism can feel like ambition for many students, but it often fuels anxiety, procrastination, and a harsh inner critic that makes studying harder than it needs to be. We're joined today by Harvard-trained clinical psychologist, author and perfectionism expert Dr Tara Cousineau, to unpack the psychology and triggers of perfectionism. Dr Tara shares practical skills everyone can employ for putting self-compassion before self-criticism, and learning how to strive for excellence whilst protecting your wellbeing.This is an excellent advice-packed episode I hope the perfectionists in our Exam Study Expert community will return to again and again, covering everything from working definitions of perfectionism and types of inner critic, to key tools for rewriting your mindset about excellence and progress.If Dr Tara's advice has resonated with you, why not share this episode with a friend who's stuck in overthinking mode, and leave a review so more students can find the show. 

Is burnout inevitable in dentistry? Why do so many high-achieving dentists still feel unfulfilled? Are we too harsh on ourselves without even realising it? And what if the way we speak to ourselves is the real problem? In this episode, Jaz sits down with Dr Aditi Bhalla—a Prosthodontist and Integrative Psychotherapist, with over 15 years in dentistry and extensive training in mental health, mindfulness, and movement—to explore compassion-focused dentistry. They unpack burnout, perfectionism, fear-driven practice, and how understanding your mind could be the key to a sustainable, fulfilling career. https://youtu.be/pNsW6AiWsWQ Watch IC073 on Youtube Key Takeaways Burnout often stems from perfectionism, shame, and constant self-criticism Many dentists tie their self-worth entirely to clinical performance Childhood experiences can shape how we respond to stress and pressure High-functioning anxiety is common but often goes unnoticed NHS-style time pressure and fear of complaints drive chronic stress Decision fatigue in dentistry significantly impacts performance and wellbeing Social media amplifies comparison and feelings of inadequacy There is a growing gap between expectations and real-world dentistry Compassion requires courage, wisdom, and commitment—not weakness Dentists are good at caring for patients but neglect self-care Accepting positive feedback is as important as improving weaknesses Emotional awareness is the first step to managing stress effectively A “compassion toolkit” helps regulate emotions in real-time clinical scenarios Sustainable dentistry requires prevention of burnout, not just coping strategies Team culture improves when you recognise the human behind the role Compassionate leadership still requires clear boundaries and accountability Highlights of this episode: 00:00 Teaser 00:51 Introduction 07:50 What “Therapy” Means 11:43 Role of Childhood & Trauma 13:10 Therapists Need Therapy Too 14:40 Breakdown & Burnout in Dentistry 16:50 Causes of Burnout in Dentistry 19:50 Clinical Stress Factors 20:50 Decision Fatigue in Dentistry 23:35 Burnout in Modern Dentistry – Why More Now? 27:38 Midroll 30:59 Burnout in Modern Dentistry – Why More Now? 31:11 What is Compassion? 32:11 Lack of Self-Compassion in Dentistry 33:11 Three Directions of Compassion in Dentistry 35:11 Compassion Focused Dentistry (CFD) 39:11 Nervous System Awareness 41:31 Applying Compassion in DailyDental Practice 43:01 Compassion = Emotional Intelligence + Mindfulness 43:41 Compassion “Kit Bag” 45:11 Compassion in the Team 46:41 Creating a Compassionate Practice 51:51 Getting Started with Compassion 54:12 Outro

This is probably my fave conversation I've ever had with a therapist.Today Lauren Ruth Martin, LPC-MHSP is here to talk about the anti-perfectionist planners she created for her company Nine to Kind.We discuss:Why most planners force us into a productivity mindsetHow gentle scaffolding can help us plan without perfectionismThe therapeutic exercises Lauren included in her plannersWhy we prefer DBT to CBT personallyHow to redistribute your f*cks — instead of trying to care less If you enjoy our conversation, make sure to explore Nine to Kind planners! Get 50% off digital planners with code OFFTHEGRID50 & 25% off analog products with code OFFTHEGRID25. Learn more & claim your discount at: ninetokind.com/pages/offthegrid   RESOURCES + LINKS

You know exactly what you want to say.You've rehearsed it in your head.It's clear. It's sharp. It's confident.And then you get into the meeting……and suddenly you start rambling.You soften your point.You add five extra sentences no one asked for.And somehow… what was clear in your head now sounds uncertain out loud.It feels like a communication issue.But what if it's not that at all?In this week's Breaking Free from the Grind episode, I'm diving in to discuss: Why overexplaining and overjustifying aren't about being thorough—but are actually driven by self-doubt and the need to manage other people's reactionsThe 3 moments high performers lose authority at work (saying no, making asks, and sharing their point of view)—and how overexplaining in these moments is quietly holding you backThe #1 senior leadership shift to certainty—and how to communicate clearly, concisely, and confidently so you're seen (and respected) as a senior leaderIf you find yourself overexplaining in meetings, rewriting messages multiple times, or walking away from conversations thinking “that didn't land how I wanted”…This episode will show you what's really happening, and how to shift into the kind of communication that actually reflects your level.Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so you accelerate in your demanding corporate career without grinding your way to the top? Book a free consult call to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 executive coaching program today. Take the free, 3-minute BFG Mindset quiz: Want to know what's keeping you trapped in the grind of your demanding corporate career? Take the BFG Mindset Quiz here to find out if you're an Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - and receive customized solutions on how you can break free from overworking patterns and create more sustainable success at work TODAY. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel

If you've ever felt stuck, resentful, or powerless in your life… this episode is going to challenge you—in the best way.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, I'm talking about one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth: ownership.And let me be clear—ownership is NOT self-blame.It's not about shaming yourself. It's not about taking responsibility for what others did to you.It's about reclaiming your power.I share how staying in victimhood once kept me stuck—especially in my marriage—and how learning to take ownership of my part changed everything.We'll talk about:The difference between victimhood vs. empowermentWhy blaming others keeps you stuck (even when they are wrong)How your Inner Controller uses blame to protect youA real-life example of how I shifted from reactivity to awarenessThe powerful question that can change everything: “What's mine?”Why self-compassion is essential when taking ownershipThis is the work that leads to true inner freedom.

How do you manage your anxiety-driven overachieving without losing your competitive edge? There's a good chance that, if you're an avid Bossed Up listener, the spiral of the do-it-all overachiever is familiar to you. You're stressed out, maybe burnt out, and potentially navigating anxiety, too.. Maybe you fear that seeking more balance means losing the drive that makes you successful and sought-after. Dr. Lindsay Pfister-Kerr is a recovering anxiety-driven perfectionist turned coach and the author of “From Perfectionist to Empowered: A Makeover Guide.” She'll be the first to tell you that you don't have to choose one or the other. In this episode, she speaks with me about the reverberating impact our perfectionism and stress have on those around us and how we can make moves toward a better balance without giving up our high-achiever status. Lindsay's insights will give you hope that you can step out of the stress of perfectionism and embrace a more intentional, fulfilling life. Create empowerment without abandoning your ambition: How mindfulness and the right questions can make you better at your job; Small, simple steps that lead to big mindset changes; The stress cycle you create when you're always operating at 110%; How to recognize toxic perfectionism. Related Links: Connect with Lindsay on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/lindsaypfister/ Learn more about Lindsay's work - https://www.lpkcoaching.com/ Buy “From Perfectionist to Empowered: A Makeover Guide” - https://www.lpkcoaching.com/book Download Lindsay's 3-minute reset - https://www.lpkcoaching.com/free-resources Episode 333, An Honest Look Into Motherhood and Mental Health - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode333 Episode 494, Matrescence and the Transformation of Motherhood - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode494 Episode 530, Disability Accommodations: What All Leaders Need to Know - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode530 HIRED Job Search Accelerator - https://www.bossedup.org/gethired Bossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/ Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You're double, triple… even quadruple booked.Your entire day is meetings.. yet your real work keeps getting pushed to “later.”And somehow… you end the day exhausted, but still behind.And it feels like your calendar is running your life… not the other way around.But what if the problem isn't your calendar at all?In this week's BFG episode, I'm diving in to discuss:Why trying to “fix” your calendar with better systems keeps failing—and how the real issue is your default yes and lack of intentional decision-making around your timeHow constantly attending meetings is often a safety behavior (not a necessity)—and the hidden cost it's creating in your visibility, thinking time, and leadership growthThe difference between managing your calendar vs. leading through your calendar—and how to start filtering what actually requires you vs. what you've just gotten used to showing up forIf your calendar is packed, your days feel reactive, and you're constantly running from meeting to meeting…This episode will help you understand why it's happening—and what needs to change first before any tool, system, or productivity hack will actually work.Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so you accelerate in your demanding corporate career without grinding your way to the top? Book a free consult call to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 executive coaching program today. Take the free, 3-minute BFG Mindset quiz: Want to know what's keeping you trapped in the grind of your demanding corporate career? Take the BFG Mindset Quiz here to find out if you're an Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - and receive customized solutions on how you can break free from overworking patterns and create more sustainable success at work TODAY. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel

Have you ever found yourself crying in your car… wondering what is wrong with you?Nothing is wrong with you.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers & Perfectionists, we're talking about the moments you usually hide—the tears, the overwhelm, the emotional release that seems to come out of nowhere.But what if those moments aren't breakdowns?What if they're your body finally feeling safe enough to release what you've been holding in for years?Inside this episode, I break down:Why emotional release often shows up when you finally slow downHow your Inner Controller has been suppressing your feelingsWhy crying is not weakness—it's regulationHow to let yourself feel without spiraling or shutting downThis is your permission slip to be human.

On this episode of the Live Greatly podcast, Kristel Bauer sits down with Jon Acuff, New York Times bestselling author of 11 books and author of his new book, Procrastination Proof: Never Get Stuck Again.  Kristel and Jon discuss different procrastination personalities and how to overcome them. Tune in now! Key Takeaways From This Episode: A look into Jon's book Procrastination Proof: Never Get Stuck Again The four procrastination personalities (Dreamers, Perfectionists, Hustlers, Analysts) and the specific intervention each one needs The importance of permission to overcome procrastination ABOUT JON ACUFF Jon is a New York Times bestselling author of 11 books and the author of his new book, Procrastination Proof.  Jon has worked with teams at FedEx, Walmart, and Nissan. He has spent over a decade and more than 30,000 participants building a simple, practical system for closing the gap between intention and execution. Not through hustle or grinding harder. Through understanding the specific pattern keeping someone stuck and building a way out of it that actually works with how driven, high-functioning people operate. Connect with Jon Acuff   Order Procrastination Proof   Website: https://jonacuff.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jonacuff  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonacuff/  About the Host of the Live Greatly podcast, Kristel Bauer: Kristel Bauer is a corporate wellness and performance expert, keynote speaker and TEDx speaker supporting organizations and individuals on their journeys for more happiness and success. She is the award-winning author of Work-Life Tango: Finding Happiness, Harmony, and Peak Performance Wherever You Work (John Murray Business November 19, 2024). With Kristel's healthcare background, she provides data driven actionable strategies to leverage happiness and high-power habits to drive growth mindsets, peak performance, profitability, well-being and a culture of excellence. Kristel's keynotes provide insights to "Live Greatly" while promoting leadership development and team building. Kristel is the creator and host of her global top self-improvement podcast, Live Greatly. She is a contributing writer for Entrepreneur, and she is an influencer in the business and wellness space having been recognized as a Top 10 Social Media Influencer of 2021 in Forbes. As an Integrative Medicine Fellow & Physician Assistant having practiced clinically in Integrative Psychiatry, Kristel has a unique perspective into attaining a mindset for more happiness and success. Kristel has presented to groups from the American Gas Association, Bank of America, bp, Commercial Metals Company, General Mills, Northwestern University, Santander Bank and many more. Kristel's work has been featured in Forbes and she has had multiple TV appearances including NBC News Daily, ABC News Live, FOX Weather, ABC 7 Chicago, WGN Daytime Chicago and more. Kristel lives in the Chicago, IL area and she can be booked for speaking engagements worldwide. To Book Kristel as a speaker for your next event, click here. Website: www.livegreatly.co  Follow Kristel Bauer on: Instagram: @livegreatly_co  LinkedIn: Kristel Bauer Twitter: @livegreatly_co Facebook: @livegreatly.co Youtube: Live Greatly, Kristel Bauer To Watch Kristel Bauer's TEDx talk of Redefining Work/Life Balance in a COVID-19 World click here. Click HERE to check out Kristel's corporate wellness and leadership blog Click HERE to check out Kristel's Travel and Wellness Blog Disclaimer: The contents of this podcast are intended for informational and educational purposes only. Always seek the guidance of your physician for any recommendations specific to you or for any questions regarding your specific health, your sleep patterns changes to diet and exercise, or any medical conditions.  Always consult your physician before starting any supplements or new lifestyle programs. All information, views and statements shared on the Live Greatly podcast are purely the opinions of the authors, and are not medical advice or treatment recommendations.  They have not been evaluated by the food and drug administration.  Opinions of guests are their own and Kristel Bauer & this podcast does not endorse or accept responsibility for statements made by guests.  Neither Kristel Bauer nor this podcast takes responsibility for possible health consequences of a person or persons following the information in this educational content.  Always consult your physician for recommendations specific to you.

Send us Fan MailYou know that feeling when you're in the middle of something completely outside your comfort zone and you realize — wait, I'm actually handling this? That's exactly where I'm recording from today: a hotel room in Osaka, Japan, chaperoning my son's eighth-grade school trip with a group of middle schoolers, their parents, and approximately infinite drama.And instead of talking about the middle school gossip (though, trust — there's plenty), I'm bringing you something better: what happens when a recovering perfectionist takes a real vacation, in a country where she doesn't speak the language, and decides to actually let go.We come back to these themes over and over together — perfectionism, people pleasing, boundaries — because they don't just show up at work. They show up everywhere. On vacation. On a train platform in Osaka. When a kid's laundry gets left behind in a hotel two cities away.Here's what we're unpacking in this episode:1. Asking for HelpWe were trained to be the expert in the room. Asking for help can feel like failure — like we should be able to figure it out ourselves. But what if asking is actually the smartest, most powerful thing we can do? I share what it felt like to navigate Japanese train apps, lost laundry, and a language I don't speak — and what I learned about letting other people in.2. Being PresentBefore I left, I made a bold decision: I paid a trusted colleague to run my inbox while I was away. No checking in. No "just a quick peek." I share what it took to set that up, why I almost talked myself out of it, and what it's felt like to actually be here — fully, completely present — for the first time in years of travel.3. Knowing What You NeedWe're all wired differently. I didn't plan this trip — which for a planner like me was its own practice in letting go. But I did show up as the first aid person, fully stocked and ready. Is that a little perfectionist? Maybe. But it's also knowing myself well enough to honor what helps me feel grounded — so I can actually enjoy everything else.Sit with these this week:Where are we refusing to ask for help — and what is that costing us?What would it actually take for us to be truly present, not just physically there?What do we each need to feel like ourselves — and are we giving ourselves that?Perfectionism got us here. But presence is what makes the life we've worked so hard for actually worth living.Connect with Megan:Instagram: @MeganMeloMDWebsite: healthierforgood.comEmail: megan@healthierforgood.com Support the showTo learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.Want to contact me directly?Email: megan@healthierforgood.comFollow me on Instagram!@MeganMeloMD

This week's episode is all about perfectionism and the pressure to have everything together all the time. I'm talking about how it actually shows up in your day to day, why it can leave you feeling burnt out or inconsistent, and how to shift your mindset without lowering your standards. Think imperfect consistency, flexible routines, and learning to ease the pressure so you can actually enjoy your life while building it.

You're doing more than ever at work.You're the go-to person.You're delivering, executing, exceeding expectations…And yet you're still getting the feedback:“You need to develop more executive presence.”What does that even mean?And why does it feel like the harder you work… the further you are from it?In this episode of Breaking Free from the Grind, I'm breaking down what executive presence actually is, and the 5 shifts that will help you step into leadership at the next level without burning yourself out in the process. In this episode, I'm diving in to discuss:Why “executive presence” feels so vague—and how overworking, over-delivering, and being the go-to person is actually keeping you stuck at your current levelThe identity shift from executor → leader—and how to stop proving your value through doing more, and start demonstrating it through how you think, decide, and show upThe 5 key shifts to develop executive presence—including thinking at a higher level, communicating with clarity, and leading without over-functioning or losing yourself in the grindIf you've ever felt frustrated by vague feedback…If you're doing everything “right” but still not being seen as a leader…If you're exhausted from carrying everything—and still feeling like it's not enough…This episode will show you what actually needs to change so you can step into your next level without working yourself into the ground to get there.Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so you accelerate in your demanding corporate career without grinding your way to the top? Book a free consult call to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 executive coaching program today. Take the free, 3-minute BFG Mindset quiz: Want to know what's keeping you trapped in the grind of your demanding corporate career? Take the BFG Mindset Quiz here to find out if you're an Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - and receive customized solutions on how you can break free from overworking patterns and create more sustainable success at work TODAY. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel

Do you keep telling yourself you'll finally get it together tomorrow, once you feel more ready, more clear, or more “on top of things”?In this episode, I revisit two of the most powerful patterns that keep you stuck: perfectionist fantasies and tomorrow thinking. I break down how your brain convinces you that the reason you're not taking action today is because conditions aren't ideal yet, and how it sells you the idea that tomorrow will be different. This episode will show you how to stop waiting for a perfect future version of yourself and start taking action as the imperfect human you already are.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/482Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/

You're not overwhelmed by your emotions… you're overwhelmed by the story you're telling about them.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim breaks down why overthinking your feelings is actually what keeps you stuck—and how to shift out of the spiral.If you've ever found yourself asking:“Why do I feel like this?”“What does this mean?”“How do I fix this?”This episode will help you understand why those questions might be the very thing dysregulating your nervous system.You'll learn:The difference between feeling your emotions vs. thinking about themHow your Inner Controller creates emotional overwhelmWhy storytelling amplifies anxiety instead of resolving itA simple, powerful shift: name it, don't narrate itA 3-step reset to move out of your head and back into your bodyThis isn't about fixing your emotions. It's about learning how to be with them—without the story.If you're ready to feel without spiraling, this episode is for you.

Welcome to Episode 142 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today is book launch day!! Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms* is making its way into the world! Listen in for a short excerpt. Get a copy for yourself and/or some mom friends today at twominutetimeouts.com.Don't forget that you can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberry*Affiliate Link

Procrastination is a topic that's close to home for many perfectionists. If you've tried following procrastination tips to help you stop procrastinating - and they haven't worked - this episode is for you. In this episode, I'm sharing 3 common procrastination tips that don't work for perfectionists, why they don't work and what to do instead. If you're a perfectionist building a business, you want to listen to this episode today. READY FOR MORE? If you're tired of procrastinating on important tasks and projects, sign up for my free 3-part planning series for perfectionists who are building businesses. I'll teach you how to plan properly as a perfectionist with Power Planning so you can finally follow through with your plans - even when you don't feel motivated. Get instant access now at samlaurabrown.com/planningseries. Perfectionists Getting Shit Done is opening for one week on 8 April 2026. If you're ready for coaching, accountability and support to help you take consistent action and grow your business - join the waitlist for PGSD at samlaurabrown.com/pgsd.

Welcome to Episode 141 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today I have the privilege of chatting with Jennifer Dukes Lee. Jennifer is a bestselling author, speaker and morning evangelist from Iowa. She is the author of several books, including Growing Slow, It's All Under Control, and Stuff I'd Only Tell God. She wants to live her life in such a way that you can't help but want more of Jesus.We talk all about her new book, How to Love Your Morning*, which releases April 7th.Some of the additional resources we mention include:The Correspondent by Virginia Evans*Theo of Golden: A Novel by Allen Levi*Don't forget that my book, ⁠⁠Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days* ⁠⁠ is available for pre-order and releases April 7th! You can connect with Jennifer via:howtoloveyourmorning.com⁠⁠Instagram: @jenniferdukesleeYou can connect with me via: ⁠⁠My website: andreafortenberry.com⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: @andreafortenberry.com⁠⁠*Affiliate Link

You get one piece of feedback… and suddenly you're questioning everything.A colleague pushes back… and it feels like they're undermining you.Someone else gets promoted… and now you're wondering if you're falling behind.Nothing actually changed except the meaning you made about it.In this episode of Breaking Free from the Grind, I'm breaking down how to stop taking things personally at work so you can stay focused, clear-headed, and in control no matter what's happening around you.The hidden reason high performers take things more personally and how it quietly turns you into a reactive (not effective) leaderThe 3 situations that trigger it most: negative feedback, pushback, and comparison, and exactly how to neutralize each one in real timeThe simple ABC framework (Awareness, Breathing, Change) to regulate your emotions, shift your mindset, and respond like a calm, locked-in leaderIf you're tired of spiraling, overthinking, or letting other people's actions throw you off…This episode will show you how to stay unbothered and lead at your level.Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so you accelerate in your demanding corporate career without grinding your way to the top? Book a free consult call to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 executive coaching program today. Take the free, 3-minute BFG Mindset quiz: Want to know what's keeping you trapped in the grind of your demanding corporate career? Take the BFG Mindset Quiz here to find out if you're an Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - and receive customized solutions on how you can break free from overworking patterns and create more sustainable success at work TODAY. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel

In this powerful and thought-provoking episode of Wild & Waking, I sit down with Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP—UCSF-trained Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Life Coach, and author of the groundbreaking book End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits and Reclaim Your Life. Together, we explore the deeper roots of people-pleasing, perfectionism, anxiety, and over-responsibility—not as personality flaws, but as intelligent survival strategies shaped by culture, relationships, and nervous system conditioning. This conversation is an invitation to move beyond surface-level self-help and into a more sophisticated understanding of healing, self-trust, and relational change.Throughout our discussion, Béa introduces the concept of emotional outsourcing, a term she coined to describe the habit of looking outside ourselves for validation, safety, and worth. We unpack how this pattern shows up in everyday life—saying yes when we mean no, over-functioning in relationships, and carrying the emotional weight of everyone around us—while quietly losing connection to our own needs and desires. Drawing from somatic psychology, polyvagal theory, and trauma-informed care, Béa explains why knowing what to do isn't always enough to change behavior, and how building nervous system capacity is essential for setting boundaries, cultivating resilience, and developing lasting self-trust.Whether you're navigating burnout, struggling with boundaries, recovering from people-pleasing, or seeking a deeper relationship with yourself and others, this episode offers a rich and intellectually grounded perspective on healing. Béa's work bridges science, psychology, feminism, and somatic practice to help people stop living for everyone else and finally come home to themselves. If you're ready to move beyond survival mode and into a life rooted in self-trust, relational health, and meaningful connection, this conversation will expand the way you think about healing and the role it plays in shaping the world around us.In this episode, we explore:What emotional outsourcing is and why people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency are not personality flaws—but learned survival strategies shaped by culture, relationships, and nervous system conditioningWhy so many high-capacity women struggle with boundaries, burnout, anxiety, and over-responsibility, even when they know what they need to doThe hidden cost of living for everyone else—and how self-abandonment quietly erodes confidence, clarity, and connection to your own needs and desiresWhy knowing better isn't enough to change behavior—and how building emotional capacity in the body is the key to lasting changeThe difference between codependence, hyper-independence, and healthy interdependence in relationships, leadership, parenting, and community lifeWhy emotional healing is not just personal work—but the foundation for stronger families, healthier workplaces, and more connected communitiesWhy healing your nervous system makes you less reactive, less easily manipulated by fear or approval, and more capable of grounded leadership and clear decision-makingHow personal healing contributes to collective care and community resilience, allowing us to build relationships and systems rooted in trust, integrity, and compassionPractical insights for breaking free from people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional over-functioning so you can live, lead, and love from a place of alignment and self-trustBe sure to hit subscribe so you never miss the latest episode!Connect with Béa:Website: www.beatrizalbina.comInstagram: @beatrizvictoriaalbinanpFacebook: @beatrizvictoriaalbinanpLinkedIn: beatrizvictoriaalbinaOrder End Emotional OutsourcingConnect with Emily:Website: www.EmilyReuschel.comInstagram: @emilyreuschelFacebook: Emily ReuschelLinkedIn: Emily ReuschelJoin my Book Insiders List: Sign up here!Resources and Links:Sign up here to get the inside scoop to my book writing journey!Book me as a speaker for your next event - email inquiries to emilyreuschel@gmail.com or schedule a call hereWild & Waking – Produced by Jill Carr Podcasting | Learn More

If you feel nothing lately… this is why.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, we begin what I'm calling The Feeling Era—because before you can heal, grow, or change your patterns… you have to be able to feel.If you've been feeling emotionally numb, disconnected, or like you're just going through the motions, you are not broken.Your nervous system is protecting you.In this episode, I break down why emotional numbness happens—especially for people who grew up in chaotic, dysfunctional, or emotionally unsafe environments—and how your Inner Controller learned to keep you safe by keeping you busy, productive, and disconnected from your emotions.But here's the truth: When you numb pain, you also numb joy.And there is a way to start feeling again—safely.Why emotional numbness is a protective response (not a flaw)How people pleasing and over-functioning disconnect you from your bodyThe role of your Inner Controller in avoiding emotional overwhelmSigns you may be numbing without realizing itSimple, body-based steps to start feeling your emotions safelyThis is your invitation to stop overriding yourself… and start coming home to yourself.

If you've been feeling like you're clawing your way up a cement wall by your fingernails just to get through your "to-do" list, this conversation is for you.   I recently realized I was my own worst client. In this Creative Pep Talk, I'm sharing the three-word message I saw on the back of a truck that stopped me in my tracks—and how it helped me save my creative spark.   If you are a perfectionist struggling with burnout or the pressure to over-function, this episode is a "permission slip" to listen to what your own resistance is trying to tell you.   Want more tips? Check out this playlist with all my previous Creative Pep Talks! Every episode stands on its own.   If you're ready to stop pushing and start feeling human again, I invite you to join me for a free Creativity Circle.

Kim Tran spent years chasing perfection: a high achiever who believed struggle wasn't an option. As an Asian American woman raised with the pressures of the model minority myth, asking for help felt like failure. But after being encouraged three separate times to get evaluated for ADHD, Kim finally said yes — after becoming a mom and realizing she wanted something different for her child. In this conversation, Kim talks about perfectionism, cultural expectations, and why martyrdom isn't a badge of honor. She shares how learning to ask for help reshaped her life, and how she's modeling a healthier path for the next generation. For more on this topic ADHD and perfectionism ADHD and model minority mask (Emily's story) For a transcript and more resources, visit ADHD Aha! on Understood.org. You can also email us at adhdaha@understood.org . Listen to Everyone Gets a Juice Box, a new podcast from Understood.org where host Jessica Shaw has honest talks with parents raising kids who learn and think differently.Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

You hit every target. You show up for everyone. You're the person others rely on. But underneath the achievement, there's a quiet exhaustion you can't explain. What if the pattern draining your energy isn't a flaw, but a brilliant childhood survival strategy that's long past its expiration date?   EPISODE OVERVIEW: In this episode, Larry Olsen sits down with Beatriz Victoria Albina, a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, and author of End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits.  Beatriz coined the term 'emotional outsourcing' to describe the deeply conditioned habit of seeking safety, validation, and worth outside of ourselves. In this powerful conversation, she breaks down how codependency, perfectionism, and people pleasing are actually brilliant childhood survival strategies that become leadership liabilities. This is science-backed, body-based work that will change how you relate to yourself and others.  

"Being nice is primarily a way of manipulating people and situations." - John Bradshaw"Perfectionism flows from the core of toxic shame. A perfectionist has no sense of healthy shame; he has no internal sense of limits. Perfectionists never know how much is good enough. Perfectionism is learned when one is valued only for doing... Condemning others as bad or sinful is a way to feel righteous. Such a feeling is a powerful mood alteration and can become highly addictive."A person who feels flawed and defective feels powerless and helpless. Such a person can alter her feelings of defectiveness by helping and taking care of others. When she is caregiving others, she feels good about herself. So the goal of the caregiver is the caregiving, not the good of the person being cared for. The caregiving is an activity that distracts one from one's feelings of inadequacy. Distraction is a way to mood-alter. " - John Bradshaw Healing the Shame that Binds You John Bradshaw's website.Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.Read Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to Episode 140 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering!  Today I have the privilege of chatting with my friend, Tiffany Snow. Tiffany is a writer, speaker, and Bible teacher passionate about helping women, especially moms, find God's goodness in the midst of everyday life. She is the author of Seek the Goodness, a devotional rooted in faith, grace, and the realities of special-needs motherhood. She also serves as a contributing writer for Proverbs 31 ministries First 5 team. Tiffany lives in Arizona with her husband and three children and loves encouraging women to walk closely with Jesus in every season.Some of the resources we mention include:Tiffany's book, Seek the Goodness: 40 Devotions for Finding God in Special Needs Motherhood*The Bible RecapDon't forget that my book, ⁠Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days* ⁠ is now available for pre-order! You can connect with Tiffany via:Her website: tiffanysnowwrites.com⁠Instagram: @tiffanysnowwritesYou can connect with me via: ⁠My website: andreafortenberry.com⁠⁠Instagram: @andreafortenberry.com⁠*Affiliate Link

Life can feel heavy, and for most people, pain and suffering are an undeniable reality. Those caught in the grip of perfectionism and anxiety struggle to make self-honoring choices or choose self-care. Yet, when we practice self-compassion, it soothes the nervous system and allows us to build the psychological flexibility we need to thrive. To discover tips for increasing psychological flexibility to combat perfectionism, Harvesting Happiness Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen continues her conversation with Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona, PsyD, an author and licensed psychologist specializing in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Dr. Z describes the six core psychological processes from her book, Acceptance and Commitment Skills for Perfectionism and High-Achieving Behaviors. She offers contemporary concepts for formulating self-honoring choices essential for overcoming procrastination and perfectionism. Like what you're hearing? WANT MORE SOUND IDEAS FOR DEEPER THINKING? Check out More Mental Fitness by Harvesting Happiness bonus content available exclusively on https://harvestinghappiness.substack.com/ and https://medium.com/@HarvestingHappiness.

Episode Overview What if your biggest struggle with food isn't food at all? In this episode, Annie and Jen break down the Perfectionist-to-Loosey-Goosey spectrum and explain how different women can get stuck in very different patterns around food, fitness, and health habits. Jen shares how perfectionism can lead to rigid rules, all-or-nothing behavior, and burnout. Annie shares how valuing freedom and flexibility can easily slide into procrastination, inconsistency, and staying stuck. If you've ever thought, "I just need more discipline," or on the flip side, "I don't want to feel controlled," this conversation will help you understand what's really going on underneath. Because the real issue usually isn't carbs, calories, or meal plans, it's the way you respond to structure, discomfort, and consistency. If you like what you hear in this episode, don't miss your chance to join us when we open enrollment to join Balance365! Add your name to our obligation-free waitlist, and we will waive the $199 registration fee. Click here to learn more. Key Points The difference between perfectionist eaters and Loosey-Goosey eaters Why do both styles backfire in different ways How shame, safety, and discomfort drive eating behaviors Why self-awareness is the first step toward finding balance

Join the Emotional Eating Programwww.imnotquitting.com In this episode of the Becoming Thin Podcast, Chris explores a powerful question many people overlook when trying to lose weight. Why do we gain the weight in the first place? Instead of focusing only on dieting strategies, he digs into the deeper psychological patterns that often drive emotional eating. Drawing from both research and years of coaching experience, Chris introduces four common emotional patterns that frequently show up in people who struggle with emotional eating: the Appeaser, the Imposter, the Perfectionist, and the Suppressor.  Throughout the episode, Chris walks through each of these personality patterns and how they quietly influence behavior around food. Appeasers struggle to say no and often carry resentment from constantly putting others first. Imposters feel like frauds despite their accomplishments and live with constant pressure to prove themselves. Perfectionists tie their self-worth to flawless performance and often spiral when they fall short. Suppressors bury difficult emotions until the pressure eventually finds an outlet, sometimes through food or other forms of escape. By recognizing these patterns, listeners can begin to see how emotional eating is often a symptom of deeper emotional habits rather than simply a lack of willpower.  Chris emphasizes that awareness is the first step toward lasting change. Emotional eating is not something that disappears overnight, but these patterns can absolutely be worked through with time, honesty, and the right support. He closes the episode by inviting listeners who resonate with these patterns to go deeper through his 10-week emotional eating program inside the Guild, where he helps members confront the root causes of weight gain so they can not only lose weight but keep it off and ultimately become thin, healthy, happy, and in shape.  

What do you do when you and your spouse want the same outcome… but you can't agree on the way to get there?