Podcasts about perfectionists

On this episode, I am joined by Béa Victoria Albina, a trained nurse practitioner, master certified life coach, somatic experiencing practitioner and author of “End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits.” Béa coined the term ‘Emotional Outsourcing', which describes our co-dependent, people pleasing and perfectionistic habits and how these behaviors cost us our joy, authenticity and true connection to self and others. In this episode, we talk about the cost of chronically and habitually outsourcing our sense of safety, belonging and worth. We dive into the root of these behaviours from a cultural and historical perspective and Bea shines a light on how we were trained up to be disconnected from the earth, magic and our own inner wisdom. Tune in to hear more from us on:How emotional outsourcing can influence all aspects of our lives and sense of selfThe true cost of people pleasing, perfectionism and codependency, and its root causesHow shifting to a place of trust is a liberating experience, and how to do thisTrad-wife culture and how to explore femininity as a gateway to empowermentEmotional outsourcing in a facilitator role and finding acceptance and surrender in the process of facilitationHow to learn the body's language through somatic experience and understanding where survival patterns come fromManaging text message overwhelm as a recovering people pleaserResources + LinksBéa Victoria Albina's book ‘End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits'Béa's website beatrizalbina.com and Instagram @beatrizvictoriaalbinanpBéa's podcast ‘The Feminist Wellness podcast'My book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps[0:00] What is Emotional Outsourcing [10:55] The Origin of Codependency and Emotional Outsourcing [14:39] Weaponized Femininity and Glorified Codependency [22:04] Facilitating without Emotional Outsourcing [29:28] Practicing and Embodying Self Trust [39:38] Navigating Boundaries and Intimacy [49:00] Managing Text Message Overwhelm as a Recovering People Pleaser [45:20] Bea's Book ‘End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits'

Gratitude journals. Green juices. Meditation apps. We've been taught happiness is a checklist, but what if that's only half the story?In this episode, we dive into the world of Positive Psychology and the concept of flourishing– living deeply, not just lightly. We explore the PERMA‑H model (Positive Emotion • Engagement • Relationships • Meaning • Accomplishment • Health) and what it really means to feel alive even when life isn't easy. If you've done all the “right” self‑care things and still feel off… you're not failing. You're human. And this episode is your gentle invitation to stop chasing happiness and start tending what matters. What You'll Discover:Why happiness as a finish line keeps us stuckHow the PERMA‑H model gives us a fuller picture of wellbeingHow cultural expectations twist engagement, achievement, health & moreA simple journaling exercise to map where you're full and where you need spaceWhy flourishing is rhythmic – not balanced or perfect “Flourishing is the whole spectrum – light and dark, joy and grief, purpose and pause. And learning to hold all of it – that's what it really means to be alive.”

Perfectionism is the tendency to set excessively high and unrealistic standards for oneself and others, and to evaluate one's worth based on the ability to meet those standards. Perfectionists are not satisfied with anything less than flawless results, and they often fear failure, criticism, or disappointment but constantly striving for perfection can have serious consequences.  How does perfectionism affect your productivity? How does perfectionism impact you? How does perfectionism impact your relationships? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions ! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here : ⁠Which jobs are most under threat from artificial intelligence?⁠ ⁠What is wellness syndrome?⁠ ⁠Does your name really affect your looks?⁠ A podcast written and realised by Amber Minogue. First broadcast: 20/07/2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey friend — today's episode is for the perfectionist in you. The part that tries so hard to get everything just right, that feels guilty when things fall short, and that quietly believes she has to do more to be enough.But here's the truth: you are already worthy, already capable, and already doing so much better than you think.So in this episode, I'm sharing five affirmations for your perfectionist self — little reminders to help you let go, breathe deeper, and move forward with more grace and less pressure.

Welcome to Episode 131 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! October is pregnancy and infant loss awareness month, and I thought it would be timely for us to have a conversation with a woman who has walked this road and found hope. My guest for today is Nichole Thompson. She is a faith-based writer and the author of The Miscarriage Journal. A wife and mom of two, she lives in North Carolina and is passionate about creating Christ-centered content and co-authoring Bible studies. When she's not writing, you can find her skiing, coaching middle school volleyball, or spending time with her family, including their beloved dogs. P.S. She'll never say no to a gummy bear, they're her weakness.Some of the resources we mention include:The Miscarriage Journal*The Boxcar Librarian by Brianna Labuskes*Wild and Distant Seas by Tara Karr Roberts*Being Fully Known by Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith*Untamed on NetflixYou can connect with Nichole via:Her website: nicholekthompson.comYou can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberryPre-order my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms**Affiliate Link

Are you clenching so hard at work that control is controlling you? What would change if you only invested energy in what you can actually influence—and consciously released the rest?In this episode you'll learn:The “control illusion”: why overworking to feel safe backfires (burnout, fear habits, suboptimal results).The Conscious Release tool: a simple T-chart to sort leaning in (your thoughts, actions, decisions) vs. letting go (others' opinions, timelines, corporate realities).Three grounding questions to let go: How will I benefit? How does this improve outcomes? Why is it safe to release?Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel 

Today, we're exploring the science behind why we haven't been able to think our way out of perfectionist and people pleasing tendencies. To help us with this, our guest is Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina,  a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach. She is the author of  "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits", which you can pick up now: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Beatriz is passionate about helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy.You're going to walk away with some great information on how to reconnect with your body and regulate your nervous system, something we all can benefit from right now.Links mentioned:Whitexicans restaurant: https://www.forbes.com/sites/dougmelville/2025/10/21/as-whitexicans-restaurant-opens-locals-protest-the-name-is-it-racist-or-satire/James by Percival Everett:https://www.panmacmillan.com/authors/percival-everett/james/9781035031269Tamarindo is a lighthearted show hosted by Brenda Gonzalez and Delsy Sandoval talking about politics, culture, and self-development. We're here to uplift our community through powerful conversations with changemakers, creatives, and healers. Join us as we delve into discussions on race, gender, representation, and life! You can get in touch with us at www.tamarindopodcast.comBrenda Gonzalez and Delsy Sandoval are executive producers of Tamarindo podcast with production support by Karina Riveroll of Sonoro Media. Jeff Ricards produced our theme song. If you want to support our work, please rate and review our show here.SUPPORT OUR SHOWContribute to the show: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/tamarindopodcast1Follow Tamarindo on instagram @tamarindopodcast and on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TamarindoPodcast-143 Tamarindo's mission is to use laughter and conversation to inform, inspire and positively impact our community. Learn more at tamarindopodcast.com

Are you the strong one who's always there for everyone else—but secretly struggling inside? In this episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, host Kim Gross gets real about what it costs to hide your own pain behind perfection, control, and endless giving.From her high school years to adulthood, Kim shares powerful personal stories about how suppressing emotions and striving to appear “put together” can lead to burnout, anxiety, and disconnection from your true self. Through raw honesty and compassion, she reveals how vulnerability becomes the bridge to freedom—and how learning to feel your feelings is the first step toward wholeness.You'll learn how to:

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Have you ever made a detailed plan to change everything at once, only to find yourself back where you started weeks later? Grand plans often look inspiring, but they rarely hold up in daily life. They demand more than what's realistic for the season you're in and leave no room for flexibility when life gets in the way.   In this episode, I explore three key reasons why ambitious plans often fail and why starting small is the true key to sustainable change. You'll learn how perfectionism, impatience, and the belief that small steps mean weakness keep you in cycles of all-or-nothing effort. I'll share a simple, practical approach to goal-setting that helps you stay consistent and build trust with yourself over time.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/194   Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

From Pressure to Peace: How to Turn Perfectionism into Purpose with Dr. Tara Cousineau From Pressure to Peace: How to Turn Perfectionism into Purpose with Dr. Tara Cousineau In this powerful episode of THE EMBC NETWORK, host Hurricane H sits down with Dr. Tara Cousineau — Harvard psychologist, meditation teacher, and author of The Perfectionist's Dilemma — for a deep, transformative conversation about redefining success. Dr. Tara shares how perfectionism silently steals our joy, and how embracing self-compassion can unlock true confidence, clarity, and inner peace. From the science of the mind-body connection to practical mindfulness techniques, this episode helps you move from pressure to purpose and achievement to alignment. Whether you're a leader, entrepreneur, or lifelong overachiever, this conversation will remind you that you don't have to be perfect to be powerful.

From Pressure to Peace: How to Turn Perfectionism into Purpose with Dr. Tara Cousineau From Pressure to Peace: How to Turn Perfectionism into Purpose with Dr. Tara Cousineau In this powerful episode of THE EMBC NETWORK, host Hurricane H sits down with Dr. Tara Cousineau — Harvard psychologist, meditation teacher, and author of The Perfectionist's Dilemma — for a deep, transformative conversation about redefining success. Dr. Tara shares how perfectionism silently steals our joy, and how embracing self-compassion can unlock true confidence, clarity, and inner peace. From the science of the mind-body connection to practical mindfulness techniques, this episode helps you move from pressure to purpose and achievement to alignment. Whether you're a leader, entrepreneur, or lifelong overachiever, this conversation will remind you that you don't have to be perfect to be powerful.

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Mon agneau, tu cherches à mettre de l'équilibre dans ta vie? Pro/perso, tu veux la bonne équation? ARRÊTE TOUT DE SUITE! D'après le bouquin que je suis en train de lire en ce moment (The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Contro ou, en français, Perfectionnistes), on se trompe d'objectif. Je t'explique comment l'autrice, Katherine Morgan Schafler, voit les choses. Je suis de plus en plus d'accord avec elle. Tu me diras ce que tu en penses? Pour me répondre, envoie-moi un mp sur Linkedin 

Are you clenching so hard at work that control is controlling you? What would change if you only invested energy in what you can actually influence—and consciously released the rest?In this episode you'll learn:The “control illusion”: why overworking to feel safe backfires (burnout, fear habits, suboptimal results).The Conscious Release tool: a simple T-chart to sort leaning in (your thoughts, actions, decisions) vs. letting go (others' opinions, timelines, corporate realities).Three grounding questions to let go: How will I benefit? How does this improve outcomes? Why is it safe to release? Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel 

Are you tired of feeling burned out, overwhelmed, and never “good enough”? In this episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, host Kim Gross dives deep into the mental prison of perfectionism — the exhausting cycle that keeps women, especially those in their 20s, chasing impossible standards.

Ever reach the end of the day and wonder where the hours went, only to realize you still haven't done what you set out to do? Maybe you got lost in emails, organizing, or helping others while your own priorities slipped away. This disconnect isn't about poor time management; it's a sign of two related challenges: time blindness and values blindness.   Time blindness, common in people with ADHD but experienced by many, happens when your brain loses track of the passage of time. In this episode, I break down how both time and values blindness shape your attention, energy, and sense of alignment. You'll learn practical strategies to regain control using tools from executive functioning, including external reminders, task chunking, and reflection exercises. By noticing where your time and values are going, you can create a life that feels steady, aligned, and purposeful.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/193   Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

You're doing all the right things - posting, showing up and putting yourself out there - but your sales are inconsistent. In this episode, Sam shares the key shifts that help perfectionist entrepreneurs go from sporadic sales to consistent, reliable income without working more or trying to become someone else.  You'll learn why perfectionism makes selling feel harder than it needs to be and how to start selling in a way that works with your brain instead of against it. If you're ready to make consistent sales without having to work harder, apply for 1:1 coaching today at samlaurabrown.com/coaching.  

Does it feel like nothing your daughter does is ever good enough? She may win a game, set a personal record, or master a new skill, yet still criticize herself. Perfectionism is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it can motivate athletes to improve, push harder, and reach higher goals. On the other hand, it can become overwhelming, causing emotional distress, frustration, and even avoidance of challenges. In this episode of Raising Elite Competitors, Coach Bre dives into the five key signs that your daughter may be a perfectionist and shares practical strategies you can use to support her.You'll learn how to identify these common perfectionist tendencies:1. Beating herself up after mistakes – Coach Bre explains how the “snapback” routine can help athletes quickly reset, regain focus, and continue performing without letting one mistake define the rest of their game.2. Never satisfied, even after wins – The episode covers ways to help your daughter practice gratitude, celebrate effort, and focus on progress instead of outcomes, reinforcing confidence and enjoyment in her sport.3. Avoiding risks or playing it safe – Coach Bre shares strategies for helping your daughter take healthy risks, gradually build confidence, and learn that mistakes are manageable and part of the journey.4. Big emotional reactions to mistakes – Emotional responses can be intense when performance feels tied to identity. Learn how emotional regulation, visualization, and mindful breathing can help athletes process setbacks.5. Tying self-worth to performance – The episode explores ways to develop a supportive inner voice, including daily affirmations and mindset practices, so your daughter can care about her performance without letting it define who she is.The insights shared in this episode give you the tools to understand your daughter's mindset, provide the encouragement she truly needs, and help her thrive with confidence, resilience, and joy on and off the field.Episode Highlights: [00:02:25] Your athlete struggles to move on from errors and spirals into negative self-talk. Coach Bre shares how the Snapback Routine, a quick two-second reset using breath, a power word, and a signal, helps athletes bounce back fast and stay focused.[00:08:40] Perfectionist athletes often play it safe to avoid failure. Bre explains how to help them build “risk-taking muscles” through low-stakes practice and praise for bravery over outcomes. The goal? Encourage effort, not perfection.[00:11:20] When performance feels tied to self-worth, even small errors can trigger tears or meltdowns. Bre shares how parents can anchor calm: validate feelings first, then gently redirect. Be her “calm in the storm” instead of rushing to fix it.[00:15:30] Perfectionism isn't all bad; it drives growth and high standards. The key is helping your daughter let go of self-criticism while keeping her motivation. Bre invites parents to the TrainHerGame.com free training for practical tools to help their athlete find confidence without the crush of perfectionism.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

If you're overcomplicating your launches, second-guessing your marketing, or constantly tweaking your sales strategy instead of just selling—this episode is for you. Too many entrepreneurs get stuck in the perfection trap, thinking they need the perfect strategy, the perfect funnel, or the perfect launch plan before they can fully show up. But the truth? Sales don't come from endless backend prep—they come from showing up and selling every day. Inside this episode, we break down: Why simplifying your sales process leads to bigger results The real reason entrepreneurs sabotage their launches (and how to stop) How to shift from overthinking to executing—and actually start making money If you're ready to stop procrastinating and start selling with confidence, this episode will give you the clarity and push you need. Register for the Wealthy as a Mother Bootcamp ($47) where I'll walk you step by step through building systems, offers, and strategies that honor your capacity while scaling sustainably.

Some women seem to have it all together. They're confident, capable, and thriving in their careers. Yet when it comes to love… it's like they're playing a game with a whole different rulebook. I've talked with so many high-achieving women who can handle anything at work (big goals, big responsibilities, big wins) but still feel unsure or unseen when it comes to real connection. In this episode, I'm sitting down with Hilary Silver, clinical therapist, master coach, and host of the Ready for Love podcast. Hilary and I talk about why strong, successful women so often find themselves repeating the same relationship patterns. We get into how old habits of proving, pleasing, and perfecting the ones that helped you rise so high can quietly start working against you when it comes to love. Hilary shares the three roles she sees most often in high achievers: the Pleaser, the Perfectionist, and the Pusher. Each one starts as a way to stay safe, but over time it builds walls that make closeness harder. We talk about what it really takes to lower those defenses, feel solid in who you are, and let love in without losing yourself in the process. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why High-Achieving Women Struggle in Love 01:29 Hilary Silver's Journey From Therapy to Coaching 08:08 The Hidden Wounds Behind High Achievement 11:08 Protection Prevents Connection: Pleaser, Perfectionist, Pusher 16:20 How Self-Protection Creates Relationship Difficulties 23:33 The Tree Metaphor for Personal Growth 26:08 Coaching vs. Therapy: Choosing the Right Path 31:08 Transformation Stories and Hope for Authentic Love Now, take a moment to reflect. When do you catch yourself working hard to prove your value in love? What parts of you stay tucked away because you're afraid they won't be accepted? And what might happen if you stopped trying to earn love and allowed yourself to receive it instead? I'd love to help you take the next step toward deeper, more authentic connection. You can schedule a free consultation with me or a member of my team. It's a private, no-pressure space where you can share what's been on your mind - whether that's building self-worth, breaking old patterns, or learning how to open your heart again. We'll help you find the right support so you can move forward feeling clear, encouraged, and hopeful. Come find me on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. I share stories, insights, and gentle reminders every week to help you stay grounded and connected as you grow. And if today's topic brought up a question or an “aha” moment, I'd love to hear from you. Let's keep talking about this - we're all learning how to love better, together. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

Are your career goals truly yours—or are you chasing someone else's benchmark? What if hitting big milestones could feel easier and happen faster with a few smart shifts?In this episode you'll learn:How to audit your goal relationship: who it's for, the energy behind it (lack vs. sufficiency), and why “easy/doable” wins.The 3 W's of Accelerated Goal Creation: What (specific & measurable), Why (3+ compelling reasons), When (a soft deadline that guides, not punishes).Practical tweaks that speed results: make “feeling” goals measurable, reframe deadlines as light guideposts, and adjust without self-judgment.***Join the Lead Without the Grind Women's Leadership Accelerator***It's not too late! Snag your spot by applying before our second cohort session on October 15th. Apply here.☎️ Have a question before applying? Let's chat. No pressure, just a quick call to talk about where you're at and if Lead Without the Grind is your next right move. Book time with me here. Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel 

Identity drift creates hidden burnout and role fatigue. You wonder if it's too late — or if you're too much. This episode reframes expansion as permission, not proving, through Identity-Level Recalibration.Burnout recovery isn't always about doing less — sometimes it's about releasing outdated roles that keep you playing small. High-capacity humans often carry the quiet weight of decision fatigue, role confusion, and identity drift. On the outside, you've built a life of success. But inside, you wonder: Am I too late? Am I too much? Do I even have permission to expand?In this episode of The Recalibration with Julie Holly, Julie unpacks why hidden burnout often comes from disqualification scripts: the Prover chasing validation, the Pleaser shrinking to keep peace, the Perfectionist editing presence until it feels flawless. These roles keep the nervous system scanning for external approval, draining your energy before you even start.Through the pathway of Identity-Level Recalibration (ILR), your nervous system learns a new story: expansion isn't arrogance, it's alignment. ILR isn't another mindset tactic — it's the root-level recalibration that makes every other tool work again. Coaching might help you strategize expansion, but only recalibration gives you permission to embody it.Faith reminds us: there is a season for everything, and you are right on time. Expansion doesn't mean leaving others behind — it means multiplying fruit for those you're called to serve.Today's Micro Recalibration: “What would change if I trusted that I am right on time, with enough space to grow?”If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

In this episode of The Rainmaking Podcast, Scott Love welcomes Jordana Confino, founder of JC Coaching and Consulting and author of the blog Chronicles of a Recovering Type A+ Perfectionist, to explore “The Perfectionist Paradox.” Jordana explains that perfectionism is not about high standards—it's a fear- and shame-based mindset driven by self-doubt and the need to prove worth. She reveals how this approach undermines both mental health and performance, blocking creativity, risk-taking, and authentic business development. Drawing on neuroscience and positive psychology, she describes how to replace the inner critic's harsh voice with self-compassion, rewiring the brain through neuroplasticity to enhance confidence and performance. Jordana shares practical strategies to help high-achieving professionals and lawyers break free from destructive perfectionism. These include “drawing your critic” to externalize self-judgment, practicing compassionate self-talk, and identifying core values to shift from fear-based motivation to values-driven achievement. By replacing self-criticism with self-compassion and clarity, professionals can perform at a higher level, strengthen resilience, and enjoy greater fulfillment in their careers and lives. Visit: https://therainmakingpodcast.com/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/Td8DVO6nlZM ----------------------------------------

Are you done living by everyone else's expectations?

Performance pressure and role fatigue often make leaders shrink back. If you fear being “too much,” this episode shows how recalibration restores peace — so your full presence becomes a gift, not a burden.Have you ever held back an idea in a meeting, softened your words so they wouldn't sound “too passionate,” or dimmed your presence because you didn't want to overwhelm others? For many high-capacity humans, the fear of being “too much” quietly shapes their leadership and their life.In this episode of The Recalibration, Julie Holly unpacks why leaders shrink themselves — and how to break free. Through personal reflection on a lifetime of feeling self-conscious about her energy, and the cultural story of Marc Andreessen, who was criticized as brash and “too much” in the early internet era yet went on to shape Netscape and Andreessen Horowitz, Julie reframes what “too much” really means.From an Identity-Level Recalibration (ILR) lens, this fear usually comes from outdated roles: the Pleaser, who thinks it's safer to stay small than risk disapproval; the Peacekeeper, who confuses harmony with suppression; and the Perfectionist, who edits presence until it feels unthreatening. Neuroscience names this pattern social safety bias — the brain exaggerates the risk of rejection, so shrinking feels like safety. But what feels safe in the moment becomes suffocating over time.Here's the truth: You are not too much. You are exactly the right size for your assignment. ILR restores this identity, retraining your nervous system to hold presence without apology. Without recalibration, presence feels like performance. With recalibration, presence feels like peace.This episode is for every leader who feels role fatigue, decision fatigue, or the emptiness of success without fulfillment. It's not another mindset tactic or productivity hack — it's the root-level recalibration that makes every other tool effective.Today's Micro Recalibration:Where am I shrinking myself?What would it look like to bring my full presence without apology?How might my leadership create permission for others to expand?If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Do you sometimes feel like the person you show up as each day isn't the real you? Between work, family, and the constant pull of daily responsibilities, it's easy to drift into autopilot and lose touch with your inner self. In this episode, we explore how to come back home to yourself and cultivate a sense of internal belonging that grounds your thoughts, feelings, and actions in what truly matters.   Authenticity isn't just about being genuine with others. Through practical prompts and reflective practices, you'll learn to pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, impulses, and beliefs in a way that builds self-awareness. You'll discover how to notice when you're out of alignment, face uncomfortable truths with honesty, and make internal authenticity a daily practice rather than a vague concept.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/192   Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

In this episode, Kristen welcomes returning guest Beatriz Victoria Albina, master certified somatic life coach and author, to discuss emotional outsourcing, how it fuels codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, and how her BRAVE protocol offers tools to reclaim your authentic self.   When you purchase these books through these Amazon affiliate links, you're helping support the podcast at no extra cost to you: beatrizalbina.com Beatriz Victoria Albina's Book 1. End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits: https://amzn.to/41YkMWB Book Recommendation: 1. Diving into the Wreck: Poems 1971-1972: https://amzn.to/46DLiap   Subscribe and get a free 5-day journal at www.kristendboice.com to begin closing the chapter on what doesn't serve you and open the door to the real you. This information is being provided to you for educational and informational purposes only. It is being provided to you to educate you about ideas on stress management and as a self-help tool for your own use. It is not psychotherapy/counseling in any form. This information is to be used at your own risk based on your own judgment.  For my full Disclaimer please go to www.kristendboice.com. For counseling services near Indianapolis, IN, visit www.pathwaystohealingcounseling.com. Pathways to Healing Counseling's vision is to provide warm, caring, compassionate and life-changing counseling services and educational programs to individuals, couples and families in order to create learning, healing and growth.  

Text a question to Victoria!If you've ever caught yourself waiting for the “perfect” moment to launch, post, or raise your prices, this episode is your wake-up call. You'll hear from Victoria why waiting until you feel ready is the very thing holding you back and how taking imperfect action is what actually builds the confidence you've been waiting for. This episode is the reminder that progress doesn't come from overthinking, it comes from doing.Victoria shares how to spot the sneaky ways perfectionism disguises itself as productivity, and how to replace it with momentum-building habits that grow your confidence, your business, and your impact. She continues to share real life examples from launching BrandWell without a perfect plan to her husband paying off debt one small step at a time. From these personal stories, you'll see how action leads to clarity, courage, and ultimately, success.If you've been sitting on that website redesign, waiting to raise your prices, or convincing yourself you need to “feel confident first,” consider this your friendly nudge of encouragement. Confidence isn't a prerequisite for action, it's a result of it. So, hit play, take one small step, and start building the proof that you can do hard things. Because perfectionism won't move your business forward… but progress will.Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:Visit BrandWell DesignsFollow BrandWell on InstagramFor show notes, head to www.thebrandingbusinessschool.com/thepodcast/ Show notes for episodes 1-91 can be found at www.brandwelldesigns.com/thepodcast/ Follow BrandWell on Instagram. Follow The Branding Business School on Instagram. Save on your first year of Honeybook using this link! Save 50% off your first year of Flodesk using this link! Get $30 off your first month of Nuuly using this link!Get up to $150 off your first box of Factor Meals using this link!

Burnout recovery starts with identity. If success feels empty or you fear it's too late to grow, this episode reveals why expansion isn't arrogance—it's alignment. Discover the root-level recalibration that restores clarity and courage.Do you ever wonder if it's too late to make a change—or fear you'll be too much if you step into the expansion you feel called to? High-capacity humans often hit this hidden ceiling, not in opportunity, but in permission.This episode of The Recalibration speaks directly into that quiet inner dialogue: Did I miss my window? Who am I to do this? Drawing on the story of Colonel Sanders, who franchised Kentucky Fried Chicken at 65 after more than a thousand rejections, Julie Holly reframes the cultural script of “too late.”You'll discover how Identity-Level Recalibration (ILR) dismantles outdated roles like Prover, Performer, Provider, and Perfectionist—the very identities that keep leaders stuck in role confusion, decision fatigue, and spiritual exhaustion. Neuroscience confirms what faith reveals: when you recalibrate identity, the nervous system learns that newness doesn't equal danger—it equals alignment. That's when expansion shifts from fear to fruit.Unlike surface-level productivity tactics or mindset hacks, ILR is the root-level recalibration that makes every other tool effective. Expansion isn't about proving your worth; it's about receiving the permission that was already yours—and realizing the cost of staying small is too high, not just for you but for those you're called to serve.Today's Micro RecalibrationWhere have I been telling myself it's too late to grow?What if the opposite is true—that right now is exactly on time?As a leader, how might my willingness to expand unlock permission for those around me?If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

What happens when perfectionism sneaks into self-care? In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda unpack the tension between wanting everything “just right” and the messy reality of motherhood. From waiting for the perfect moment to spiraling into guilt when plans fall apart, they share raw reflections on how perfectionism holds us back and what it looks like to embrace imperfection instead.In this episode, you'll learn:Why perfectionism and vulnerability don't play well togetherHow high expectations set us up for frustration and burnoutThe hidden trap of waiting for “perfect timing” before doing self-careWhy nature and movement are powerful (and imperfect) forms of self-careHow rest, even when unplanned, counts as real self-careSimple ways to reset when self-care doesn't go as planned Self-care isn't about picture-perfect timing or flawless execution; it's about meeting yourself where you are. Jill and Linda remind us that sometimes the most powerful form of care is letting go of expectations and embracing the imperfect options in front of you. If you've ever delayed self-care because the stars didn't align, this episode will help you reset, refocus, and take the pressure off. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck!

What do you really want the second half of your life to look like?  Being a doormat for others, then resenting it? Saying yes, when you really mean no? Doing more tasks or more work, taking responsibility for everything, and feeling overwhelmed in your life?  This can be how so many of us in midlife feel, but I'm here to tell you there IS another way.  In this episode, I sit down with expert Beatriz Albina to talk about a challenge so many women face but can't always name—patterns of overgiving, perfectionism, and the ultimate people-pleasing trap.  Beatriz introduces the concept of emotional outsourcing and how it quietly drives these behaviors, leaving us feeling stuck and drained.  Together, we discuss how reframing your mindset is a powerful tool for reclaiming your emotional well-being. Plus, Beatriz gives us a sneak peek into her brand-new book, End Emotional Outsourcing—a guide to finding freedom, balance, and true self-connection. Tune in here to reignite joy in your life, and find the inner peace you've been craving for years!  Beatriz Albina Beatriz (Béa) Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and author of the book "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits". She's dedicated to helping people socialized as women reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems, and rewire their minds to break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Béa hosts the Feminist Wellness Podcast, and holds a Master's degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. IN THIS EPISODE What is emotional outsourcing, and how can it impact women?  Getting back to the basics for our emotional needs  How our emotions lie in our nervous system– not just our minds   Calming techniques you can do in 5 seconds, anytime, anywhere Detaching from labels like ‘co-dependent' and ‘perfectionist'  How to stay regulated while also setting boundaries  Why reframing your mindset is so important for healing  All about Beatriz's book: End Emotional Outsourcing  QUOTES “This is what happens when we get activated or triggered in our nervous system. When we start being mean to ourselves, when we ignore our impulses, when we project, when we take things personally, when we get offended, all these things– our nervous system is in a different time and place.”  “That's the self-worth work. Saying, ‘I trust myself, I believe in myself, and so I know that this isn't a problem.' And that's that. Not allowing any other thoughts to enter your beautiful mind space, your world, your body. It's really vital work.”  “What our children and our partners, and our friends and our communities and ourselves want and need from us the most, most, most, is presence. Intunement and presence.”  RESOURCES MENTIONED Use code ENERGIZED and get $100 off on your CAROL Bike purchase https://carolbike.pxf.io/GK3LaE Preorder the Perimenopause Revolution and get your VIP ticket to the Perimenopause Solution event  http://hayh.site/pr_bl_ap-snyder_a_opt Order Béa's book: End Emotional Outsourcing HERE http://beatrizalbina.com/book Béa's Website Béa's Instagram RELATED EPISODES  #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey #553: Simple Ways to Start Feeling Calm and Safe and How to Align Your Nervous System for More Abundance with Kate Northrup #565: How to Live in a State of Ease and Flow vs. Overwhelm and Resentment + Reclaiming Your Aliveness with Alexi Panos #569: How to Build a Strong Emotional Connection with Your Partner and How to Transform Your Love Life with Vanessa and Xander Marin

Ever feel like you're constantly giving love, safety, or approval away—but never getting enough back? Today's guest is Bea Albina, author of the brand-new book End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. We're breaking down emotional outsourcing—the habit of looking outside yourself for validation—and how it secretly shapes your relationships, work, and sense of self.We dig into practical ways to reconnect with your body, notice what you actually want, and reclaim your inner authority. You'll get tools to break patterns of people-pleasing and perfectionism, shift how you relate to others, and start living from a place of self-trust rather than external approval.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/427Get Bea's new book here: beatrizalbina.com/bookThe Socratic Coaching Method Certification: thesocraticcoachingacademy.comFollow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil

In this heartfelt episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross, opens up about the realities of aging and how perfectionism can make this transition even harder.

Ever feel like everything is spiraling out of control? Maybe you're running late, snapping at others, or watching a small setback feel like a catastrophe. These intense moments don't just come from what's happening on the surface; they're amplified by short-term stress that hijacks your perspective and makes you lose sight of what actually matters.   In this episode, I share a simple technique built around the phrase "at the end of the day" to help you pause and recalibrate when life feels overwhelming. You'll learn how to interrupt the stress spiral, notice when you're caught up in tension, and ask targeted questions that allow you to make decisions from a place of clarity rather than crisis.    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/191

If you've ever felt behind in love or life, this episode is for you. On pub day for her new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: A Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits, Beatriz Victoria Albina joins me to talk about how to stop centering everyone else's needs at the expense of your own—and start dating with self-worth. We unpack:

In this episode of the Thoughts on the Couch Podcast, psychotherapists  Justine Carino, LMHC and Anne-Marie Conlan, LMHC delve into the complexities of perfectionism and particularly how it manifests in high-achieving women. They explore the common core beliefs and thinking traps that perfectionists face, the role of cognitive behavioral therapy in managing these issues, and practical strategies for overcoming perfectionistic tendencies. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and the need to challenge unrealistic standards to reduce anxiety and stress.Download my free guide 5 Ways to Let Go of Perfectionism and Still Get Things Done at: carinocounseling.com/perfectionismLearn more about Anne-Marie's work at: https://www.carinocounseling.com/anne-marie-conlan

"I was just so thrilled that somebody knew what to do with me for a change." - Tami Stackelhouse. Tammy Stackelhouse is an award-winning author, founder of the International Fibromyalgia Coaching Institute, and host of the Fibromyalgia Podcast. With her transformational journey from chronic illness to remission, Tammy uses her experience to help fibromyalgia patients take control of their health using her signature Fibromyalgia Wellness Framework. She is actively involved in educating others through coaching and her work on the feature documentary "Invisible," which sheds light on the experience of living with fibromyalgia. Episode Summary: Welcome back to "Oh, My Health... There is Hope!" where Jana Short hosts the inspirational Tammy Stackelhouse. Tammy, an advocate for fibromyalgia patients worldwide, shares her personal journey from diagnosis to thriving wellness. In this enlightening episode, Tammy dives deep into fibromyalgia, discussing how a fibromyalgia diagnosis can often be overlooked or misunderstood by those affected and healthcare providers. With nearly 15 years of mentorship in fibromyalgia coaching, she underscores the importance of understanding and managing this condition. Listeners are treated to an in-depth exploration of what fibromyalgia entails, debunking myths such as it being a psychosomatic disorder while shedding light on the brain inflammation integral to the illness. Tammy explains how her coaching institute and podcast empower patients by providing a wealth of resources and a supportive community. By sharing practical strategies and her own story, Tammy paints a hopeful picture for those living with fibromyalgia, showing that remission and an improved quality of life are achievable goals. Key Takeaways: Fibromyalgia can affect anyone, but a significant portion of those diagnosed are women. Symptoms include chronic pain, fatigue, and brain fog, often leading to a misunderstood and delayed diagnosis. Tammy's journey to remission highlights the role of health coaches in guiding patients through lifestyle changes that can lessen symptoms. Managing stress and reducing inflammation are critical aspects of controlling flare-ups. Emerging research points to brain inflammation being a key factor in fibromyalgia, indicating potential new avenues for treatment. Resources: tamistackelhouse.com @‌fibrocoach facebook.com/fibrocoach linkedin.com/in/tamistackelhouse @‌fibrocoach Podcast/Documentary Podcast: FibromyalgiaPodcast.com Documentary Invisible: Invisible-Film.com Discover Your Fibromyalgia Wellness Style℠! This exclusive science-based quiz identifies your unique Fibromyalgia Wellness Style℠ using the five-factor model of personality. Find out if you're The Ponderer, The Prevailer, The Playmaker, or The Perfectionist, and unlock your natural strengths to reduce pain, boost energy, clear brain fog, and improve sleep. Take control of your life and health with personalized guidance tailored to your unique needs at FibroQuiz.com. Get a free subscription to the Best Holistic Life Magazine, one of the fastest-growing independent magazines centered around holistic living: https://bestholisticlife.info/BestHolisticLifeMagazine. Get in touch with Jana and listen to more podcasts: https://www.janashort.com/ Show Music ‘Hold On' by Amy Gerhartz: https://www.amygerhartz.com/music. Grab your FREE gift today: https://bestholisticlife.info/BestHolisticLifeMagazine Connect with Jana Short: https://www.janashort.com/contact/

Welcome to Episode 129 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering!   Today I have the privilege of chatting with Cindy Manko. She is an author, podcast host of The Listen-Love-Launch Podcast and is a life coach for moms of high school seniors. She has raised three children and has great wisdom and resources. Even if you're momming little ones and senior year seems a long way off, listen in and tuck her wisdom into your mom toolbox for when you need it.   You can connect with Cindy via:Her website: cindymanko.comInstagram: @cindymankoFacebookGet The Journal Project: My Senior Year Through Mom's Eyes here*You can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberryGet a Mom's Guide for Back to School here⁠ ⁠Pre-order my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days.*⁠⁠ ⁠Join my book launch team.⁠ *Affiliate Link

#345: Have you ever felt like you're watching your life from the outside? Like you're going through all the right motions, saying all the right things, but somehow feel disconnected from your own experience?I get it, and I've been there: checking all the boxes, looking successful on paper, while feeling completely lost inside. This disconnection from yourself isn't a personality flaw or something wrong with you - it's a brilliant survival strategy your nervous system developed to keep you safe.Join me this week as I share why I wrote my new book End Emotional Outsourcing and how it offers a revolutionary framework for understanding why so many of us feel trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-abandonment. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/345Pre-order End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/book

A short message meant to encourage, inspire, and serve as a call to action, THURSDAY FIRE is posted weekly. This is the 315th THURSDAY FIRE, written by BUILD Founder Ben Rogers on September 25th, 2025. To request a THURSDAY FIRE in print or to learn more about leadership development with BUILD, please visit www.buildthearmy.com or email brogers@buildthearmy.com. Our mission is to build an army of Disciplined Leaders. Thanks for helping us build the army!

Are your habits shaping the life you truly want, or are they running the show? Habits influence how you think, feel, and show up every single day. The way you respond to challenges, interact with others, and navigate your own mind is all shaped by the patterns you repeat, often without even realizing it.   In this episode, I explore why habits are so vitally important and why, if you want to live intentionally, you must be deliberate with your habits. Think about your life 10 years from now. Will you be living with the same habits you have today, or with habits that serve you, support your goals, and leave you feeling like you're in the driver's seat? You'll learn how to start cultivating habits you love, how to unravel patterns that no longer serve you, and why the choices you make right now can dramatically shape the next decade of your life.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/190

When you stop outsourcing your safety, belonging, and worth, you discover the freedom of authenticity–of knowing who you are and what you want. In this episode, I speak with Béa Albina about her new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. You'll hear how this book not only outlines a clear path to end this painful way of living, but reframes emotional outsourcing in powerful new ways. Here's what we cover:The definition of emotional outsourcing and how it shows up in our relationships, careers, and decision-makingWhy emotional outsourcing is a brilliant survival strategy, not a personality flawThe truth about authenticity and why it's often the cost of people-pleasing and perfectionismHow emotional outsourcing lives in the nervous system and why healing has to include the bodyBéa's five-part process for rebuilding self-trust through small, “kitten-sized” stepsBeatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of the forthcoming "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits" ( Sept 30, Hachette Balance) and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy.Find Béa here:https://beatrizalbina.com/book/https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/https://www.facebook.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanphttps://beatrizalbina.com/podcast/Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

Cousineau explores how perfectionism leads to burnout, stress, and anxiety. She introduces the concept of "inner algorithms" as coping patterns formed in stressful situations. She advocates for a mind-body approach to overcoming perfectionism, highlighting the importance of self-compassion and the EVOLVE method. Tara Cousineau, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist at Harvard University's Counseling and Mental Health Services. She's professionally trained in mind-body medicine, energy psychology, mindfulness, self-compassion, and other psychological methods. She is the author of The Kindness Cure: How The Science Of Compassion Can Heal Your Heart And Your World (New Harbinger Publications 2018) and The Perfectionist's Dilemma: Learn the Art of Self Compassion and Become a Happy Achiever (Alcove Press 2025)Interview Date: 7/18/2025 Tags: Tara Cousineau, Kindfulness, kindsight, joy, social media, procrastination, mindfulness, inner algorithms, Byron Katie, talk therapy, body therapy, IFS, Internal Family Systems, Richard C Schwartz, procrastination, Scarlett O'Hara, Tara Brach, mantras, Rick Hanson, Donna Eden, EFT. Emotional Freedom Technique, “Tapping,” Personal Transformation, Psychology

Have you ever found yourself lying awake at 3 AM, replaying conversations and wondering if you said the wrong thing? Or maybe you're that friend who can read a room in seconds, sensing every mood shift before anyone else notices? Here's the thing - that's not just being "super empathetic." It might be something deeper called emotional outsourcing.Your hypervigilance, your people-pleasing, your chronic anxiety about other people's moods - those are wonderful, amazing survival strategies that once kept little you safe, but are now keeping grown you small.This is exactly why I wrote my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits, to give you a roadmap back to your own inner knowing. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

Are you constantly putting everyone else's needs before your own, even in your grief? When we're grieving, it's tempting to try to "keep it together" for everyone else. But managing your grief for others' comfort comes at a deep cost to our own healing.   This week, I'm joined by Bea Albina, a nurse practitioner turned master life coach, somatic expert, and author of a new book called End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits.   She's here to discuss this pattern of handing our worth, choices, and energy over to others to feel safe, loved, and accepted, or as she calls it: emotional outsourcing.    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/330      

What happens when you put two Leo Queens in a room–well, this week's podcast for one. But mostly, you get a lot of laughs, massive helpings of honesty, and loads of hard-earned wisdom. This week on Bound + Determined, I'm chatting with Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP, all about codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing– OH MY! And from what I know about myself and the women around me, this episode couldn't have come soon enough. Béa is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and author of the forthcoming book End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits (Sept 30, Hachette Balance) with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College.  Basically, she's here to save us from our own downfall. Tune in!  

My love, I have something really special for you today: I'm sharing Chapter One of my upcoming book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This chapter unpacks what emotional outsourcing really is, how it sneaks into our lives, and why it's not your fault you've been carrying these patterns. You'll hear stories from my clients, my own journey, and the cultural forces that keep us stuck in self-abandonment... plus the first steps toward reclaiming your inherent worth.If you would like to read along, you can find chapter one at https://beatrizalbina.com/chapterone/Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today. Pre-orders make a huge difference in helping this message reach more people.

Do you ever wonder why you sometimes feel an inexplicable rage towards the people you love most? If you've ever agreed to take on more work when you're already drowning, pushed through exhaustion to help others, ignored your own needs to keep the peace, or found yourself inexplicably angry about small things, this episode is for you. Join me this week as I teach you the mathematical formula for resentment. You'll learn the science behind why saying "yes" when you mean "no" creates emotional labor debt, what's actually happening in your nervous system when you override your own needs, and how to start breaking free from the resentment equation.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/344Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale