Podcasts about perfectionists

In this episode of The Rainmaking Podcast, Scott Love welcomes Jordana Confino, founder of JC Coaching and Consulting and author of the blog Chronicles of a Recovering Type A+ Perfectionist, to explore “The Perfectionist Paradox.” Jordana explains that perfectionism is not about high standards—it's a fear- and shame-based mindset driven by self-doubt and the need to prove worth. She reveals how this approach undermines both mental health and performance, blocking creativity, risk-taking, and authentic business development. Drawing on neuroscience and positive psychology, she describes how to replace the inner critic's harsh voice with self-compassion, rewiring the brain through neuroplasticity to enhance confidence and performance. Jordana shares practical strategies to help high-achieving professionals and lawyers break free from destructive perfectionism. These include “drawing your critic” to externalize self-judgment, practicing compassionate self-talk, and identifying core values to shift from fear-based motivation to values-driven achievement. By replacing self-criticism with self-compassion and clarity, professionals can perform at a higher level, strengthen resilience, and enjoy greater fulfillment in their careers and lives. Visit: https://therainmakingpodcast.com/ YouTube: https://youtu.be/Td8DVO6nlZM ----------------------------------------

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Performance pressure and role fatigue often make leaders shrink back. If you fear being “too much,” this episode shows how recalibration restores peace — so your full presence becomes a gift, not a burden.Have you ever held back an idea in a meeting, softened your words so they wouldn't sound “too passionate,” or dimmed your presence because you didn't want to overwhelm others? For many high-capacity humans, the fear of being “too much” quietly shapes their leadership and their life.In this episode of The Recalibration, Julie Holly unpacks why leaders shrink themselves — and how to break free. Through personal reflection on a lifetime of feeling self-conscious about her energy, and the cultural story of Marc Andreessen, who was criticized as brash and “too much” in the early internet era yet went on to shape Netscape and Andreessen Horowitz, Julie reframes what “too much” really means.From an Identity-Level Recalibration (ILR) lens, this fear usually comes from outdated roles: the Pleaser, who thinks it's safer to stay small than risk disapproval; the Peacekeeper, who confuses harmony with suppression; and the Perfectionist, who edits presence until it feels unthreatening. Neuroscience names this pattern social safety bias — the brain exaggerates the risk of rejection, so shrinking feels like safety. But what feels safe in the moment becomes suffocating over time.Here's the truth: You are not too much. You are exactly the right size for your assignment. ILR restores this identity, retraining your nervous system to hold presence without apology. Without recalibration, presence feels like performance. With recalibration, presence feels like peace.This episode is for every leader who feels role fatigue, decision fatigue, or the emptiness of success without fulfillment. It's not another mindset tactic or productivity hack — it's the root-level recalibration that makes every other tool effective.Today's Micro Recalibration:Where am I shrinking myself?What would it look like to bring my full presence without apology?How might my leadership create permission for others to expand?If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Do you sometimes feel like the person you show up as each day isn't the real you? Between work, family, and the constant pull of daily responsibilities, it's easy to drift into autopilot and lose touch with your inner self. In this episode, we explore how to come back home to yourself and cultivate a sense of internal belonging that grounds your thoughts, feelings, and actions in what truly matters.   Authenticity isn't just about being genuine with others. Through practical prompts and reflective practices, you'll learn to pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, impulses, and beliefs in a way that builds self-awareness. You'll discover how to notice when you're out of alignment, face uncomfortable truths with honesty, and make internal authenticity a daily practice rather than a vague concept.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/192   Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

In this episode, Kristen welcomes returning guest Beatriz Victoria Albina, master certified somatic life coach and author, to discuss emotional outsourcing, how it fuels codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, and how her BRAVE protocol offers tools to reclaim your authentic self.   When you purchase these books through these Amazon affiliate links, you're helping support the podcast at no extra cost to you: beatrizalbina.com Beatriz Victoria Albina's Book 1. End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits: https://amzn.to/41YkMWB Book Recommendation: 1. Diving into the Wreck: Poems 1971-1972: https://amzn.to/46DLiap   Subscribe and get a free 5-day journal at www.kristendboice.com to begin closing the chapter on what doesn't serve you and open the door to the real you. This information is being provided to you for educational and informational purposes only. It is being provided to you to educate you about ideas on stress management and as a self-help tool for your own use. It is not psychotherapy/counseling in any form. This information is to be used at your own risk based on your own judgment.  For my full Disclaimer please go to www.kristendboice.com. For counseling services near Indianapolis, IN, visit www.pathwaystohealingcounseling.com. Pathways to Healing Counseling's vision is to provide warm, caring, compassionate and life-changing counseling services and educational programs to individuals, couples and families in order to create learning, healing and growth.  

Text a question to Victoria!If you've ever caught yourself waiting for the “perfect” moment to launch, post, or raise your prices, this episode is your wake-up call. You'll hear from Victoria why waiting until you feel ready is the very thing holding you back and how taking imperfect action is what actually builds the confidence you've been waiting for. This episode is the reminder that progress doesn't come from overthinking, it comes from doing.Victoria shares how to spot the sneaky ways perfectionism disguises itself as productivity, and how to replace it with momentum-building habits that grow your confidence, your business, and your impact. She continues to share real life examples from launching BrandWell without a perfect plan to her husband paying off debt one small step at a time. From these personal stories, you'll see how action leads to clarity, courage, and ultimately, success.If you've been sitting on that website redesign, waiting to raise your prices, or convincing yourself you need to “feel confident first,” consider this your friendly nudge of encouragement. Confidence isn't a prerequisite for action, it's a result of it. So, hit play, take one small step, and start building the proof that you can do hard things. Because perfectionism won't move your business forward… but progress will.Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:Visit BrandWell DesignsFollow BrandWell on InstagramFor show notes, head to www.thebrandingbusinessschool.com/thepodcast/ Show notes for episodes 1-91 can be found at www.brandwelldesigns.com/thepodcast/ Follow BrandWell on Instagram. Follow The Branding Business School on Instagram. Save on your first year of Honeybook using this link! Save 50% off your first year of Flodesk using this link! Get $30 off your first month of Nuuly using this link!Get up to $150 off your first box of Factor Meals using this link!

Burnout recovery starts with identity. If success feels empty or you fear it's too late to grow, this episode reveals why expansion isn't arrogance—it's alignment. Discover the root-level recalibration that restores clarity and courage.Do you ever wonder if it's too late to make a change—or fear you'll be too much if you step into the expansion you feel called to? High-capacity humans often hit this hidden ceiling, not in opportunity, but in permission.This episode of The Recalibration speaks directly into that quiet inner dialogue: Did I miss my window? Who am I to do this? Drawing on the story of Colonel Sanders, who franchised Kentucky Fried Chicken at 65 after more than a thousand rejections, Julie Holly reframes the cultural script of “too late.”You'll discover how Identity-Level Recalibration (ILR) dismantles outdated roles like Prover, Performer, Provider, and Perfectionist—the very identities that keep leaders stuck in role confusion, decision fatigue, and spiritual exhaustion. Neuroscience confirms what faith reveals: when you recalibrate identity, the nervous system learns that newness doesn't equal danger—it equals alignment. That's when expansion shifts from fear to fruit.Unlike surface-level productivity tactics or mindset hacks, ILR is the root-level recalibration that makes every other tool effective. Expansion isn't about proving your worth; it's about receiving the permission that was already yours—and realizing the cost of staying small is too high, not just for you but for those you're called to serve.Today's Micro RecalibrationWhere have I been telling myself it's too late to grow?What if the opposite is true—that right now is exactly on time?As a leader, how might my willingness to expand unlock permission for those around me?If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

What happens when perfectionism sneaks into self-care? In this episode of Mucked Up My Self-Care, Jill and Linda unpack the tension between wanting everything “just right” and the messy reality of motherhood. From waiting for the perfect moment to spiraling into guilt when plans fall apart, they share raw reflections on how perfectionism holds us back and what it looks like to embrace imperfection instead.In this episode, you'll learn:Why perfectionism and vulnerability don't play well togetherHow high expectations set us up for frustration and burnoutThe hidden trap of waiting for “perfect timing” before doing self-careWhy nature and movement are powerful (and imperfect) forms of self-careHow rest, even when unplanned, counts as real self-careSimple ways to reset when self-care doesn't go as planned Self-care isn't about picture-perfect timing or flawless execution; it's about meeting yourself where you are. Jill and Linda remind us that sometimes the most powerful form of care is letting go of expectations and embracing the imperfect options in front of you. If you've ever delayed self-care because the stars didn't align, this episode will help you reset, refocus, and take the pressure off. Until next week, we hope you can unstuck your muck!

What do you really want the second half of your life to look like?  Being a doormat for others, then resenting it? Saying yes, when you really mean no? Doing more tasks or more work, taking responsibility for everything, and feeling overwhelmed in your life?  This can be how so many of us in midlife feel, but I'm here to tell you there IS another way.  In this episode, I sit down with expert Beatriz Albina to talk about a challenge so many women face but can't always name—patterns of overgiving, perfectionism, and the ultimate people-pleasing trap.  Beatriz introduces the concept of emotional outsourcing and how it quietly drives these behaviors, leaving us feeling stuck and drained.  Together, we discuss how reframing your mindset is a powerful tool for reclaiming your emotional well-being. Plus, Beatriz gives us a sneak peek into her brand-new book, End Emotional Outsourcing—a guide to finding freedom, balance, and true self-connection. Tune in here to reignite joy in your life, and find the inner peace you've been craving for years!  Beatriz Albina Beatriz (Béa) Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and author of the book "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits". She's dedicated to helping people socialized as women reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems, and rewire their minds to break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Béa hosts the Feminist Wellness Podcast, and holds a Master's degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. IN THIS EPISODE What is emotional outsourcing, and how can it impact women?  Getting back to the basics for our emotional needs  How our emotions lie in our nervous system– not just our minds   Calming techniques you can do in 5 seconds, anytime, anywhere Detaching from labels like ‘co-dependent' and ‘perfectionist'  How to stay regulated while also setting boundaries  Why reframing your mindset is so important for healing  All about Beatriz's book: End Emotional Outsourcing  QUOTES “This is what happens when we get activated or triggered in our nervous system. When we start being mean to ourselves, when we ignore our impulses, when we project, when we take things personally, when we get offended, all these things– our nervous system is in a different time and place.”  “That's the self-worth work. Saying, ‘I trust myself, I believe in myself, and so I know that this isn't a problem.' And that's that. Not allowing any other thoughts to enter your beautiful mind space, your world, your body. It's really vital work.”  “What our children and our partners, and our friends and our communities and ourselves want and need from us the most, most, most, is presence. Intunement and presence.”  RESOURCES MENTIONED Use code ENERGIZED and get $100 off on your CAROL Bike purchase https://carolbike.pxf.io/GK3LaE Preorder the Perimenopause Revolution and get your VIP ticket to the Perimenopause Solution event  http://hayh.site/pr_bl_ap-snyder_a_opt Order Béa's book: End Emotional Outsourcing HERE http://beatrizalbina.com/book Béa's Website Béa's Instagram RELATED EPISODES  #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey #553: Simple Ways to Start Feeling Calm and Safe and How to Align Your Nervous System for More Abundance with Kate Northrup #565: How to Live in a State of Ease and Flow vs. Overwhelm and Resentment + Reclaiming Your Aliveness with Alexi Panos #569: How to Build a Strong Emotional Connection with Your Partner and How to Transform Your Love Life with Vanessa and Xander Marin

Ever feel like you're constantly giving love, safety, or approval away—but never getting enough back? Today's guest is Bea Albina, author of the brand-new book End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. We're breaking down emotional outsourcing—the habit of looking outside yourself for validation—and how it secretly shapes your relationships, work, and sense of self.We dig into practical ways to reconnect with your body, notice what you actually want, and reclaim your inner authority. You'll get tools to break patterns of people-pleasing and perfectionism, shift how you relate to others, and start living from a place of self-trust rather than external approval.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/427Get Bea's new book here: beatrizalbina.com/bookThe Socratic Coaching Method Certification: thesocraticcoachingacademy.comFollow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil

In this heartfelt episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross, opens up about the realities of aging and how perfectionism can make this transition even harder.

Ever feel like everything is spiraling out of control? Maybe you're running late, snapping at others, or watching a small setback feel like a catastrophe. These intense moments don't just come from what's happening on the surface; they're amplified by short-term stress that hijacks your perspective and makes you lose sight of what actually matters.   In this episode, I share a simple technique built around the phrase "at the end of the day" to help you pause and recalibrate when life feels overwhelming. You'll learn how to interrupt the stress spiral, notice when you're caught up in tension, and ask targeted questions that allow you to make decisions from a place of clarity rather than crisis.    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/191

If you've ever felt behind in love or life, this episode is for you. On pub day for her new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: A Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits, Beatriz Victoria Albina joins me to talk about how to stop centering everyone else's needs at the expense of your own—and start dating with self-worth. We unpack:

In this episode of the Thoughts on the Couch Podcast, psychotherapists  Justine Carino, LMHC and Anne-Marie Conlan, LMHC delve into the complexities of perfectionism and particularly how it manifests in high-achieving women. They explore the common core beliefs and thinking traps that perfectionists face, the role of cognitive behavioral therapy in managing these issues, and practical strategies for overcoming perfectionistic tendencies. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and the need to challenge unrealistic standards to reduce anxiety and stress.Download my free guide 5 Ways to Let Go of Perfectionism and Still Get Things Done at: carinocounseling.com/perfectionismLearn more about Anne-Marie's work at: https://www.carinocounseling.com/anne-marie-conlan

"I was just so thrilled that somebody knew what to do with me for a change." - Tami Stackelhouse. Tammy Stackelhouse is an award-winning author, founder of the International Fibromyalgia Coaching Institute, and host of the Fibromyalgia Podcast. With her transformational journey from chronic illness to remission, Tammy uses her experience to help fibromyalgia patients take control of their health using her signature Fibromyalgia Wellness Framework. She is actively involved in educating others through coaching and her work on the feature documentary "Invisible," which sheds light on the experience of living with fibromyalgia. Episode Summary: Welcome back to "Oh, My Health... There is Hope!" where Jana Short hosts the inspirational Tammy Stackelhouse. Tammy, an advocate for fibromyalgia patients worldwide, shares her personal journey from diagnosis to thriving wellness. In this enlightening episode, Tammy dives deep into fibromyalgia, discussing how a fibromyalgia diagnosis can often be overlooked or misunderstood by those affected and healthcare providers. With nearly 15 years of mentorship in fibromyalgia coaching, she underscores the importance of understanding and managing this condition. Listeners are treated to an in-depth exploration of what fibromyalgia entails, debunking myths such as it being a psychosomatic disorder while shedding light on the brain inflammation integral to the illness. Tammy explains how her coaching institute and podcast empower patients by providing a wealth of resources and a supportive community. By sharing practical strategies and her own story, Tammy paints a hopeful picture for those living with fibromyalgia, showing that remission and an improved quality of life are achievable goals. Key Takeaways: Fibromyalgia can affect anyone, but a significant portion of those diagnosed are women. Symptoms include chronic pain, fatigue, and brain fog, often leading to a misunderstood and delayed diagnosis. Tammy's journey to remission highlights the role of health coaches in guiding patients through lifestyle changes that can lessen symptoms. Managing stress and reducing inflammation are critical aspects of controlling flare-ups. Emerging research points to brain inflammation being a key factor in fibromyalgia, indicating potential new avenues for treatment. Resources: tamistackelhouse.com @‌fibrocoach facebook.com/fibrocoach linkedin.com/in/tamistackelhouse @‌fibrocoach Podcast/Documentary Podcast: FibromyalgiaPodcast.com Documentary Invisible: Invisible-Film.com Discover Your Fibromyalgia Wellness Style℠! This exclusive science-based quiz identifies your unique Fibromyalgia Wellness Style℠ using the five-factor model of personality. Find out if you're The Ponderer, The Prevailer, The Playmaker, or The Perfectionist, and unlock your natural strengths to reduce pain, boost energy, clear brain fog, and improve sleep. Take control of your life and health with personalized guidance tailored to your unique needs at FibroQuiz.com. Get a free subscription to the Best Holistic Life Magazine, one of the fastest-growing independent magazines centered around holistic living: https://bestholisticlife.info/BestHolisticLifeMagazine. Get in touch with Jana and listen to more podcasts: https://www.janashort.com/ Show Music ‘Hold On' by Amy Gerhartz: https://www.amygerhartz.com/music. Grab your FREE gift today: https://bestholisticlife.info/BestHolisticLifeMagazine Connect with Jana Short: https://www.janashort.com/contact/

Welcome to Episode 129 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering!   Today I have the privilege of chatting with Cindy Manko. She is an author, podcast host of The Listen-Love-Launch Podcast and is a life coach for moms of high school seniors. She has raised three children and has great wisdom and resources. Even if you're momming little ones and senior year seems a long way off, listen in and tuck her wisdom into your mom toolbox for when you need it.   You can connect with Cindy via:Her website: cindymanko.comInstagram: @cindymankoFacebookGet The Journal Project: My Senior Year Through Mom's Eyes here*You can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberryGet a Mom's Guide for Back to School here⁠ ⁠Pre-order my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days.*⁠⁠ ⁠Join my book launch team.⁠ *Affiliate Link

Join us for today's Our Daily Bread devotional by Tanya Marlow, taken from Luke 15:11-24. Today's devotional is read by Rebecca. Meet the team at odb.org/meet-the-team. God bless you.We hope that you have enjoyed today's reading from Our Daily Bread. You can find more exciting content from Our Daily Bread Ministries by following @ourdailybreadeurope on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube and TikTok. You can even sign up to receive Our Daily Bread Bible reading notes sent straight to your door for free: odb.org/subscribe

On this deep-dive episode of Dawnversations, I sit down with Scott Doniger for part two of our Internal Family Systems/Parts Work series. We explore the different 'parts' we all carry—the Inner Critic, the Perfectionist, the Procrastinator, the Righteous One, and the People Pleaser—and uncover how they influence our thoughts, feelings, and actions.Scott brings clarity, insight, and practical guidance for understanding and working with these parts to create more self-compassion and inner harmony. This episode is longer than usual, but we go in-depth because some conversations just can't be rushed. If you've ever wondered why you sabotage yourself, procrastinate endlessly, or feel torn between competing impulses, this episode will give you a fresh perspective—and maybe even a plan for getting along with your inner committee.

#345: Have you ever felt like you're watching your life from the outside? Like you're going through all the right motions, saying all the right things, but somehow feel disconnected from your own experience?I get it, and I've been there: checking all the boxes, looking successful on paper, while feeling completely lost inside. This disconnection from yourself isn't a personality flaw or something wrong with you - it's a brilliant survival strategy your nervous system developed to keep you safe.Join me this week as I share why I wrote my new book End Emotional Outsourcing and how it offers a revolutionary framework for understanding why so many of us feel trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-abandonment. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/345Pre-order End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/book

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Are your habits shaping the life you truly want, or are they running the show? Habits influence how you think, feel, and show up every single day. The way you respond to challenges, interact with others, and navigate your own mind is all shaped by the patterns you repeat, often without even realizing it.   In this episode, I explore why habits are so vitally important and why, if you want to live intentionally, you must be deliberate with your habits. Think about your life 10 years from now. Will you be living with the same habits you have today, or with habits that serve you, support your goals, and leave you feeling like you're in the driver's seat? You'll learn how to start cultivating habits you love, how to unravel patterns that no longer serve you, and why the choices you make right now can dramatically shape the next decade of your life.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/190

When you stop outsourcing your safety, belonging, and worth, you discover the freedom of authenticity–of knowing who you are and what you want. In this episode, I speak with Béa Albina about her new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. You'll hear how this book not only outlines a clear path to end this painful way of living, but reframes emotional outsourcing in powerful new ways. Here's what we cover:The definition of emotional outsourcing and how it shows up in our relationships, careers, and decision-makingWhy emotional outsourcing is a brilliant survival strategy, not a personality flawThe truth about authenticity and why it's often the cost of people-pleasing and perfectionismHow emotional outsourcing lives in the nervous system and why healing has to include the bodyBéa's five-part process for rebuilding self-trust through small, “kitten-sized” stepsBeatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of the forthcoming "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits" ( Sept 30, Hachette Balance) and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy.Find Béa here:https://beatrizalbina.com/book/https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/https://www.facebook.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanphttps://beatrizalbina.com/podcast/Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoachhttps://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult

Cousineau explores how perfectionism leads to burnout, stress, and anxiety. She introduces the concept of "inner algorithms" as coping patterns formed in stressful situations. She advocates for a mind-body approach to overcoming perfectionism, highlighting the importance of self-compassion and the EVOLVE method. Tara Cousineau, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist at Harvard University's Counseling and Mental Health Services. She's professionally trained in mind-body medicine, energy psychology, mindfulness, self-compassion, and other psychological methods. She is the author of The Kindness Cure: How The Science Of Compassion Can Heal Your Heart And Your World (New Harbinger Publications 2018) and The Perfectionist's Dilemma: Learn the Art of Self Compassion and Become a Happy Achiever (Alcove Press 2025)Interview Date: 7/18/2025 Tags: Tara Cousineau, Kindfulness, kindsight, joy, social media, procrastination, mindfulness, inner algorithms, Byron Katie, talk therapy, body therapy, IFS, Internal Family Systems, Richard C Schwartz, procrastination, Scarlett O'Hara, Tara Brach, mantras, Rick Hanson, Donna Eden, EFT. Emotional Freedom Technique, “Tapping,” Personal Transformation, Psychology

Tara Cousineau, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist at Harvard University's Counseling and Mental Health Services. She's professionally trained in mind-body medicine, energy psychology, mindfulness, self-compassion, and other psychological methods. She is the author of The Kindness Cure: How The Science Of Compassion Can Heal Your Heart And Your World (New Harbinger Publications 2018) and The Perfectionist's Dilemma: Learn the Art of Self Compassion and Become a Happy Achiever (Alcove Press 2025)Interview Date: 7/18/2025 Tags: Tara Cousineau, three types of perfectionism, naming your inner critic, self-compassion, affirmations, kindness, support from friends, how the body speaks, mental health, destress, nitpicker, naming our inner narratives, Scarlet O'Hara, movie “The Help”, be our own cheerleader, allies, Personal Transformation, Psychology

Have you ever found yourself lying awake at 3 AM, replaying conversations and wondering if you said the wrong thing? Or maybe you're that friend who can read a room in seconds, sensing every mood shift before anyone else notices? Here's the thing - that's not just being "super empathetic." It might be something deeper called emotional outsourcing.Your hypervigilance, your people-pleasing, your chronic anxiety about other people's moods - those are wonderful, amazing survival strategies that once kept little you safe, but are now keeping grown you small.This is exactly why I wrote my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits, to give you a roadmap back to your own inner knowing. Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today.

Hi Parents! If your teen crumbles when it's time to make a decision, second-guesses everything they do, or constantly worries about making the wrong choice, then this episode is for you. In this conversation, I'm joined by Becky, a Certified Master Life Coach and the creator of the Stand Strong System. Becky helps anxious teens go from reactive to resilient, and she's here to unpack the connection between perfectionism and decision-making anxiety. We talk about why some teens struggle to make even small decisions, what perfectionism actually looks like, and the mistakes parents often make when trying to help. Becky also shares simple, powerful ways you can support your teen without taking over or walking on eggshells, even in those high-stress moments. More about Becky: Becky is a Certified Master Life Coach, former high school teacher, and mom with lived experience navigating anxiety. She's the creator of the Stand Strong System - a holistic approach that helps anxious teens build resilience and teaches their parents how to truly support them. Her work is grounded in empathy, real-life tools, and a deep understanding of what teens and parents are really going through.  Get your free resource here and tune in - this episode is full of practical advice, relatable stories, and mindset shifts that can really make a difference! Big hugs, Monica Crnogorac Next Steps Book a Free Discovery Call Visit My Website for More Information on My 8-Week Program Connect With Me on Instagram

If you fit the type A, eldest daughter, perfectionist archetype this one is gonna hit you right in the jugular. Brand Strategist Xindi breaks down her entrepreneurial journey - from excelling in the corporate finance world to leaving it all to start her own business. We talk about how to break free of the perfectionism and pressure that has you in chokehold, how to step into a NEW identity and believe that you ARE good enough so you can succeed in your business. Find Xindi here: https://www.instagram.com/byxindi/WORK WITH ME: https://www.katiebambrick.com/social-links

Are you constantly putting everyone else's needs before your own, even in your grief? When we're grieving, it's tempting to try to "keep it together" for everyone else. But managing your grief for others' comfort comes at a deep cost to our own healing.   This week, I'm joined by Bea Albina, a nurse practitioner turned master life coach, somatic expert, and author of a new book called End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits.   She's here to discuss this pattern of handing our worth, choices, and energy over to others to feel safe, loved, and accepted, or as she calls it: emotional outsourcing.    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/330      

What happens when you put two Leo Queens in a room–well, this week's podcast for one. But mostly, you get a lot of laughs, massive helpings of honesty, and loads of hard-earned wisdom. This week on Bound + Determined, I'm chatting with Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP, all about codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing– OH MY! And from what I know about myself and the women around me, this episode couldn't have come soon enough. Béa is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and author of the forthcoming book End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits (Sept 30, Hachette Balance) with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College.  Basically, she's here to save us from our own downfall. Tune in!  

Perfectionism can feel like a heavy burden—but it doesn't have to define you. In this episode, we share techniques to help chronic perfectionists ease the pressure by setting more realistic expectations and releasing the rigidity of specific outcomes. Instead of striving for flawlessness, we explore how to embrace flow, flexibility, and presence in the creative process. We also talk about the importance of honouring yourself and recognizing the often-unexpected rewards that come when you do. Plus, we highlight the value of leaning on your trusted tribe for constructive feedback before sharing your projects with the world. This conversation offers practical, heart-centred tools to help you step out of perfectionism and into greater freedom, trust, and joy.Have you joined our Facebook Group yet? Come on over and continue the conversation - we would LOVE to see you there!!https://www.facebook.com/groups/deliciouslymotivatedmindset************************************************************************Contact Deliciously Motivated Mindset (Debz and Moira):Follow us on x.com at @DeborahCooper1 and @WellnessMoiraJoin the conversation in our group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/deliciouslymotivatedmindsetEmail us at deliciouslymotivatedmindset@gmail.comThanks for listening and sharing!!

My love, I have something really special for you today: I'm sharing Chapter One of my upcoming book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This chapter unpacks what emotional outsourcing really is, how it sneaks into our lives, and why it's not your fault you've been carrying these patterns. You'll hear stories from my clients, my own journey, and the cultural forces that keep us stuck in self-abandonment... plus the first steps toward reclaiming your inherent worth.If you would like to read along, you can find chapter one at https://beatrizalbina.com/chapterone/Pre-order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ and get beautiful bonuses to begin this work today. Pre-orders make a huge difference in helping this message reach more people.

Do you ever wonder why you sometimes feel an inexplicable rage towards the people you love most? If you've ever agreed to take on more work when you're already drowning, pushed through exhaustion to help others, ignored your own needs to keep the peace, or found yourself inexplicably angry about small things, this episode is for you. Join me this week as I teach you the mathematical formula for resentment. You'll learn the science behind why saying "yes" when you mean "no" creates emotional labor debt, what's actually happening in your nervous system when you override your own needs, and how to start breaking free from the resentment equation.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/344Mentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Are you tired of feeling stuck in resistance and weighed down by the pressure to be perfect? In this heartfelt episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, host Kim Gross gets real about her own struggles with unmet desires, perfectionism, and the frustration that comes when life doesn't go as planned.✨ What you'll learn in this episode:Why resistance shows up and how to move through itThe power of surrender, letting go, and aligning with the universeHow to balance inspired action without burning outInsights from spiritual teachers like Joe Dispenza and David BayerPractical steps to embrace imperfection and find inner freedomKim's raw, unfiltered storytelling will inspire you to release control, embrace your authentic self, and discover more peace, joy, and abundance in everyday life.⏱ Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction: The Struggle for Dreams 01:04 Host Introduction and Personal Struggles 01:22 The Frustration of Resistance 02:28 The Wisdom of Letting Go 04:57 The Pity Party and Real Talk 06:01 The Importance of Inner Peace 08:38 Balancing Life and Energy 10:32 Returning to the Topic of Resistance 13:25 The Practice of Surrendering 24:15 The Miracle of Inner Freedom 27:07 Conclusion and Future Plans

Episode Overview If perfectionist thinking and all-or-nothing habits have kept you stuck, you're not alone. In this episode, Jen breaks down why so many “recovering perfectionist” women struggle to build habits that last—and what to do instead. You'll learn how perfectionism fuels inconsistency, how to reframe failure, and how to apply the Balance365 concept of “all or something” to build real momentum with your goals. This episode is packed with practical, compassionate advice for anyone who's tired of falling off track and ready to try a new approach—one that actually works. If you like what you hear in this episode, don't miss your chance to join us when we open enrollment to join Balance365! Add your name to our obligation-free waitlist, and we will waive the $199 registration fee. Click here to learn more. Key Points Why perfectionism leads to self-sabotage (not success) The power of “all or something” thinking How to set realistic, achievable goals that build confidence Why consistent imperfect action is the secret to success

When a problem keeps showing up in your life like an unwelcome visitor, how do you respond? Maybe the same struggles keep resurfacing despite your best efforts—leaving work at the office, carving out time for what matters, or breaking free from patterns that no longer serve you. It can feel like these challenges are unsolvable, draining your energy, and stealing your peace of mind.   These problems aren't unsolvable; the challenge is often in how we approach them. We resist looking at what's painful and dismiss our deepest desires as unrealistic or selfish. In this episode, I share two techniques that flip this pattern. You'll learn how to create containers for difficult emotions, honor your desires without getting lost in logistics, and design small, doable experiments that move you forward when you feel stuck.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/189

This week on Strength in Numbers, we begin our nine-part Enneagram series by looking at Type 1 - the Improver, Perfectionist, or Reformer - through the lens of quiet leadership.Type 1s bring a powerful mix of integrity, responsibility, and consistency to the way they lead. But they also face challenges, like a strong inner critic and the pressure to get everything just right.In this episode, you'll learn:The unique strengths Type 1s bring as quiet leadersThe challenges they face when balancing high standards with gracePractical ways Type 1s can thrive in leadership without burning outWhether you're a Type 1 yourself, or you work with or love a Type 1, this episode will give you fresh insight into how quiet leadership creates stability, trust, and impact.

Welcome to Episode 128 of The Perfectionist's Guide toMothering!  I originally had different content planned for this episodebut after the events of last week, felt compelled to record this episode instead. I hope you find it helpful and encouraging!You can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberryGet a Mom's Guide for Back to School here⁠Pre-order my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms: 100 Devotions for Weary and Wonderful Days.*⁠⁠Join my book launch team.⁠*Affiliate Link

 Do you ever catch yourself stuck in endless “what if” questions at work? Do small decisions feel paralyzing because you're always searching for the perfect answer? If so, overthinking may be the mindset keeping you trapped in the grind.In this episode, Amelia breaks down:How overthinking drains your time, energy, and confidence at work.Why catastrophizing “what if” scenarios stalls your career growth.Three simple strategies to stop spinning in questions and start making clear, confident decisions.

#343: I receive beautiful messages from listeners telling me that being called "my angel" or "mi amor" transformed their entire week, maybe even the whole way they relate to themselves. Yet others write to express their discomfort. The language feels too familiar, unprofessional, even anti-feminist. This divide illuminates a crucial truth about healing: when genuine tenderness makes your skin crawl, your nervous system is telling you something important.Tune in this week to discover the neuroscience of how gentle language literally rewires our neural pathways, and why some of us recoil from warmth like it's sensory overload. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/343Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

"If you have IBS, chronic fatigue, autoimmune disease, or anxiety that won't go away - your doctor might be missing something huge. Your illness might not be just physical. It might be your body screaming what your mouth can't say: NO.In this episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, host Kim Gross uncovers the powerful connection between chronic illness and patterns like people-pleasing and perfectionism. These behaviors, often rooted in childhood, can create chronic stress that worsens conditions like IBS, autoimmune disease, chronic fatigue, and anxiety.✨ Inside this episode, you'll learn:How people-pleasing and perfectionism contribute to chronic illnessKim's personal journey from diagnosis to deeper self-awarenessWhy emotional well-being is directly tied to physical healthAn introduction to the 5-Step POWER Pathway (Patterns, Ownership, Willingness, Embrace, Radical Responsibility)Actionable steps you can take today to set boundaries, honor your true self, and begin your healing journey

Do you ever feel torn about what to do next? Maybe you're juggling work deadlines, school drop-offs, or endless to-do lists, and each decision feels urgent. When different parts of you want different things, it's easy to get stuck overthinking and second-guessing yourself, leaving you frustrated and unsure of how to move forward.   In this episode, I share a three-step framework to help you gain clarity when you feel conflicted. I introduce the concept of your “inner mediator,” a calm, neutral part of yourself that can listen to all sides, weigh priorities, and uncover solutions that honor every perspective. You'll learn how to identify the conflicting thoughts and feelings inside you, understand the core concerns behind each one, and create a way forward that feels aligned with what's truly important.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/188

Are you feeling stuck in routines—or ready to explore your full stylistic potential? In this honest, insightful episode, Elaine chats with award-winning stylist Vivienne Mackinder about the archetypes that shape every artist's journey—from Puppet to Perfectionist to Artist to Pedestal.What you'll learn:The four (plus one) archetypes that inform how you show up—and how to balance them.Why technical excellence doesn't always equal client connection.How to transition from pleasing others to trusting your innate design instincts.Why serving clients through design, not just grooming, transforms your work—and business.How body type and face shape inform smarter, more personalized haircutting decisions.This is a must-listen for stylists looking to deepen their craft, sharpen their confidence, and elevate their client relationships.

Have you ever been told that your perfectionism is a problem? Maybe you've felt like it's the reason you're stressed, restless, or never satisfied with yourself. But what if perfectionism isn't actually the enemy? What if it's a form of power that, when channeled with compassion, can actually bring you more joy and meaning? In this episode, I'm joined by Katherine Morgan Schafler, a psychotherapist and the author of The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control. Katherine offers a refreshing perspective: perfectionism doesn't need to be “fixed” or hidden—it can be embraced and redirected in healthier, more adaptive ways. In this conversation, you'll learn:

I used to think I wasn't perfect enough to be a perfectionist. And because I didn't realise I was a perfectionist, I had no real way to start overcoming the procrastination, crippling self-doubt and overthinking that was keeping me and my business stuck.  Realising that I'm a perfectionist (and what that actually means) gave me a whole new vocabulary that has allowed me to change my life for the better – because it's only when you realise you're a perfectionist that you become empowered to overcome perfectionism. In this episode, I'm opening up about my journey with perfectionism and the important points along the way. I can't remember everything but I hope that what I share in this episode helps you understand yourself a little bit more. How to get more help with releasing your Perfectionism Handbrake: Join Perfectionists Getting Shit Done (aka PGSD) today - samlaurabrown.com/pgsd Take The Perfectionism Quiz - samlaurabrown.com/quiz Sign up for daily Perfectionist Power-Ups - samlaurabrown.com/power Follow me on instagram: @perfectionismproject

Do you find yourself making plans repeatedly but never following through? You set intentions to exercise, organize your space, or reach out to someone you care about, but it never happens. This pattern can leave you frustrated and stuck, questioning why you can't just do what you say you will, even when it's something you genuinely want.   In this episode, I break down what's really going on when plans fail, beyond the usual advice about motivation, willpower, or accountability systems. Resistance isn't a flaw; it's information. When you notice yourself avoiding a workout, skipping a task, or postponing a call, it's often your mind and body signaling something important. Understanding that signal changes how you approach your intentions, and it can transform repeated patterns of inaction into insight and forward movement.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/187

If you've tried everything—therapy, time-blocking, supplements, mindset work—but still wake up tired, wired, and stuck in survival mode… this episode is your turning point.I'm walking you through the exact 7-step framework I teach inside The Burnout Recovery Blueprint to help high-achieving women regulate their nervous system and actually feel better.No more patchwork self-care plans. No more chasing quick fixes. This is root-cause healing.Inside this episode: ✔️ Why your nervous system—not your schedule—is the root of burnout✔️ The 7 science-backed steps that shift you from overdrive to calm, present, and powerful✔️ What makes BRB different from anything else you've tried - and how to know if it's right for youIf you're done operating from exhaustion and ready to feel like yourself again, this is the episode to hit play on. 

#341: If you've ever found yourself constantly scanning other people's faces for approval, shapeshifting to keep the peace, or feeling completely disconnected from what you actually want, this episode is for you. You might call this people-pleasing or being too sensitive, but something much more profound is going on here: you're living with emotional outsourcing.Tune in this week as I explain how emotional outsourcing gets stored in your body as a procedural memory - not just a thought you can talk yourself out of. You'll learn how this adaptation develops early, gets reinforced by cultural systems, and shows up in your body.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/341Mentioned in this episode:EEO Pre-Sale End Emotional Outsourcing Pre-Sale Has Begun!For years, we've been gathering here on Feminist Wellness, unpacking the tangled thought habits that come from living through the lens of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing conditioning. You've shared your stories, your wins, your heartbreaks, and your breakthroughs with me, and I have held each and every one close to my heart. Well, all of those conversations, all that healing, all that nerdy science, it's come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. This book is your practical, science-backed, loving guide to finally stop handing your emotional life over to other people and stop taking theirs on for them. Pre-order yours today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale