Podcasts about perfectionists

Welcome to Episode 133 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! Today I get the pleasure of chatting with Amber Lia. Amber is mom to four boys, ages 8-18. She is the author of multiple books and is a certified independent health coach. We are chatting about her devotional, Untriggered: 60 Days of Transformation for Moms Who Struggle with Anger.*Some of the resources we mention in this episode include:Psalm 103:12-14Praying the Scriptures for Your Teens by Jodie Bernt*Foot Masks from Amazon*You can connect with Amber via:Her website: amberlia.comInstagram: @therealamberliaAs always, you can connect with me via:My website: ⁠andreafortenberry.com⁠Instagram: ⁠@andreafortenberry⁠⁠Pre-order my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms*⁠*Affiliate Link

Are your work relationships helping you thrive—or quietly draining your energy and effectiveness? What would shift if your team truly rose to the level of your belief in them?In this episode you'll learn:How your thoughts and energy shape every relationship at work—colleagues, bosses, clients, and teams.Why people rise or fall to your level of belief or doubt in them (and how to shift it).How to lead with trust, communicate with confidence, and empower your team to perform at their best. Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel 

Do you ever feel like your perfectionism is something you need to fix? What if the truth is the opposite—that your perfectionism holds real power?   In this episode, Whitney talks with Katherine Morgan Schafler, psychotherapist and author of The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power. Katherine challenges the cultural narrative that perfectionism is a flaw and instead shows how, when understood and channeled well, it can be a meaningful strength.   Katherine explains the difference between adaptive and maladaptive perfectionism, how perfectionism shows up differently for women, and why many of us feel caught between our ambition and the pressure to soften it. She also outlines the five types of perfectionists so listeners can recognize their own patterns, strengths and red flags.   Listen in to rethink what perfectionism really is—and learn how to work with your drive instead of against it.   Here's what you can look forward to in this episode: Redefining perfectionism in modern discourse Why women are watering down their perfectionist tendencies when men are unconcerned The 5 different types of perfectionists Aligning your actions to your core values Reflection questions to ponder: What do I want for you?   Join Back to Bright, a 1:1 personalized, four-week coaching experience where I'll guide you in creating sustainable rhythms of rest, joy, and self-connection.   Learn more about 1:1 coaching with Whitney - book a 15-minute Spark Session   Connect with Whitney: Instagram l Website l 5 Days to Less Stress, More Satisfaction l Tend to Your Soul Toolkit l 10 Soulful Journaling Prompts | Electric Ideas Podcast   Connect with Katherine: Instagram | Website | Book: The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control | Quiz: Get Your Perfectionist Profile 

Do you ever feel like you can't fully relax until everyone else around you is okay? Like you're constantly scanning the room, the conversations, the energy – making sure no one is upset, disappointed, or uncomfortable… even if it means abandoning your own needs? I'm so excited to have family nurse practitioner, coach, healing expert, and all-around wonder woman Beatriz Victoria Albina back on the show to talk about her new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits.  In this episode we talk about the unconscious habit Beatriz calls "emotional outsourcing" – when we source our sense of safety, belonging, and worth from everyone and everything outside ourselves, instead of within. We also explore the impacts it can have on our bodies, from chronic exhaustion to gut health and nervous system dysregulation. If you've ever wondered why you're always the fixer, the apologizer, the peacekeeper, or the one who holds everything together, this episode will take your lived experiences and share so many beautiful and practical somatic tools to rebuild your self-trust and find inner peace.   IN THIS EPISODE: The top signs you're stuck in a chronic cycle of people pleasing, perfectionism, or codependency, and how these habits disguise themselves as kindness or ambition Beatriz's journey from her medical practice to somatic healing and the links between nervous system dysregulation, gut health, and emotional exhaustion Why the generational script handed down by our mothers is keeping modern women over-giving, under-valuing themselves, and perpetually on edge Simple somatic practices you can start using TODAY to reconnect with your body, listen to your true needs, and interrupt those exhausting autopilot patterns   LINKS/RESOURCES MENTIONED Learn more about Beatriz and her book on her website, on her Instagram page, on the Feminist Wellness podcast, and you can buy her book on Amazon. If you know you're meant to help other people change their relationship with alcohol and achieve deep healing (along with their bigger dreams), be sure to get on the waitlist for the Empowered AF 5X Coach Certification Program – and get 5x certified as a world class alcohol-free empowerment coach, mindset coach, success coach, NLP practitioner, and hypnosis practitioner when applications open. Check out Euphoric the Club, the premier club for successful women who don't drink (and the women who are becoming them) where you can get access to all my alcohol-free programs and methodology, coaching, and trainings for only $62.  Awarded the most empowering book in the sober curious genre, be sure to get your copy of Euphoric: Ditch Alcohol and Gain a Happier, More Confident You today and leave your review. Follow @euphoric.af on Instagram. And as always, rate, review, and subscribe so we can continue spreading our message far and wide.

Ex-Rainbow singer Joe Lynn Turner tells Shout It Out Loudcast that guitar legend Ritchie Blackmore is a perfectionist and he never faulted Ritchie. To Purchase Shout It Out Loudcast's KISS Book “Raise Your Glasses: A Celebration Of 50 Years of KISS Songs By Celebrities, Musicians & Fans Please Click Below:   Raise Your Glasses Book   For all things Shout It Out Loudcast the #1 KISS Podcast check out our amazing website by clicking below:   www.ShoutItOutLoudcast.com   Interested in more Shout It Out Loudcast content?  Care to help us out?  Come join us on Patreon by clicking below:   SIOL Patreon   Get all your Shout It Out Loudcast Merchandise by clicking below:   Shout It Out Loudcast Merch At Printify   Shop At Our Amazon Store by clicking below: Shout It Out Loudcast Amazon Store   Please Email us comments or suggestions by clicking below: ShoutItOutLoudcast@Gmail.com   Please subscribe to us and give us a 5 Star (Child) review on the following places below: iTunes Podchaser Stitcher iHeart Radio Spotify   Please follow us and like our social media pages clicking below: Twitter Facebook Page Facebook Group Page Shout It Out Loudcasters Instagram YouTube   Proud Member of the Pantheon Podcast click below to see the website: Pantheon Podcast Network Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[Part 1 of 5] Perfectionists get in their own way when they follow the same planning advice as everyone else. That's why I've recorded a 5-part planning series for the podcast that'll help you plan properly as a perfectionist. This planning series is for perfectionists who write and rewrite long to-do lists of business tasks they never start, fall behind because they underestimate how long things will take and have notebooks full of ideas they haven't done anything with. This episode (part 1 of the Planning Series) is all about the differences between procrasti-planning and planning properly as a perfectionist. This will help you understand where you've been going wrong with planning so you can do something about it. Doors close Friday: This is our final enrollment of the year for Perfectionists Getting Shit Done. When you sign up for PGSD, you'll get instant access to the Power Planning Course so you can start planning properly as a perfectionist right away and start 2026 with PGSD by your side. Doors close at 11:59pm EST this Friday, 21 November. To sign up today visit samlaurabrown.com/pgsd.

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If you never feel fully ready… if you keep saying ‘I just need more confirmation to be sure'… or if you hate taking losses because they feel like personal failures—you might be a Perfectionist Pat.Just like how you've found out what your Myers-Briggs type is, or Clifton/Gallup Strengths are, you also have a Trader Personality Archetype. On this episode, join Coach Meiling as she explains the characteristics of Perfectionist Pats when it comes to trading, what happens in their brains, and how it may impact their trading progress.If you're curious about your Trader Archetype, take this short 2-min quiz! Join my Weekly Email Series, that sends you value-packed emails stright to your inbox so that you can Grow Your Account HERE. Interested in finding out more? Check out Coach Meiling's webpage: https://meilingawcoaching.com/

Do you really know the value you bring—or are you waiting for a title, salary, or review to tell you? What would change if you could name it, own it, and communicate it so others can't miss it?In this episode you'll learn:How to define your holistic value (wins, strengths, uniqueness, growth areas, and emotional intelligence)—beyond resume lines.The communication formula: I did → measurable result → why it matters to the stakeholder (today + future).Self-validation over external validation: filtering feedback/advice with “Where do I agree? Where do I disagree?” to build unshakable confidence.Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel 

Do the holidays leave you stressed about food, body image, or saying no to that second helping (or that draining family event)? You're not alone.

Today I'm joined by Lindsey, a caller who is wondering how to manage her oldest daughter, who seems to be a perfectionist. Lindsey says she's not unfamiliar with this dynamic, as she used to be a perfectionist herself, and parented that way for many, many years. She's feeling guilt that she's passed that down to her daughter, and wondering how to get her out of the exhausting cycle of perfectionism. Join us for this conversation as we wrap up our Family and Parenting series! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Order Any Day Emotions Today!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have that voice inside our heads telling us how we need to do things. And usually - that voice is telling us we need to be perfect. In today's episode, you will contemplate how your inner perfectionist talks to you. Where is this voice the most loud? Where is it making your life difficult? And what would happen if you didn't listen? Tune in to begin. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you tired today? I have a word of wisdom for you. You can have these nuggets of wisdom on some cards we've prepared. Then you can use the cards to remind yourself of these important principles, or you may want to give some to others who are struggling with workplace issues. Today's wisdom for the workplace is: Remember being tired is inevitable, but if you're tired for the wrong reasons, then you need to take some action. First, let me assure you it's okay to be tired. Jesus was often tired while he was here on earth. You remember when he fell asleep on the boat, and a terrible storm didn't awaken him. He was tired. We read in John 4 he was tired from a long journey. We know Jesus understands our tired bodies and minds because he experienced it while he took the form of man on earth. He sympathizes with our weaknesses and the limitations we face. Just knowing that helps me a lot. But we need to determine if we're tired for the wrong reasons. Have you been trying to be all things to all people lately? It's exhausting—and you can never succeed. Perhaps you've taken on jobs God never intended you to do, and you're tired from trying to do too much. Maybe you're trying to do everything to total perfection. Perfectionists are usually very tired people, trying to prove something to themselves and to the world by being perfect all the time. You may be tired because you've got your priorities confused. Someone has said, "There's always time to do God's will," and I think it's true God would never ask of us more than our bodies and minds can do without going into overload and burn-out. But when we confuse our priorities, it causes weariness and exhaustion. Remember this important message from Isaiah: Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint (Isaiah 40:30-32). You may have a copy of this devotional as well as these cards giving these words of wisdom for the Workplace. You can use these cards to encourage yourself each day or pass them on to others who may need a word of wisdom. This is available here.

On this episode of Currently Reading, Meredith and Kaytee are discussing: Bookish Moments: a poem a day + excitement over release days Current Reads: all the great, interesting, and/or terrible stuff we've been reading lately Deep Dive: we discuss your top books from 2019-2024 and draw the giveaway winner The Fountain: we visit our perfect fountain to make wishes about our reading lives Show notes are time-stamped below for your convenience. Read the transcript of the episode (this link only works on the main site). .  .  .  1:59 - Our Bookish Moments of the Week 2:07 - The Poetry Foundation's Poem of the Day 2:27 - A Rebellion of Care by David Gate 3:55 - The Black Wolf by Louise Penny 4:34 - The Grey Wolf by Louise Penny 6:02 - Our Current Reads 6:08 - The Teller of Small Fortunes by Julie Leong (Kaytee) 8:21- A Psalm for the Wild Built by Becky Chambers 9:03 - The Vanishing of Josephine Reynolds by Jennifer Moorman (Meredith) 10:11 - Words Matter Bookshop 10:40 - The Magic All Around by Jennifer Moorman 14:17 - The Bookshop by Evan Friss (Kaytee) 15:12 - Parnassus Books 17:29 - Exile in Bookville 17:58 - Books - A Manifesto: Or, How to Build A Library by Ian Patterson (Meredith, Goldsboro link)  20:16 - Goldsboro Books UK 24:16 - The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler  26:03 - I Leave It Up To You by Jinwoo Chong (Kaytee) 29:05 - Flux by Jinwoo Chong (amazon link) 29:34 - The Wasp Trap by Michael Edwards (Meredith) 32:45 - The Guest List by Lucy Foley 33:09 - Listeners' Top Ranked Books 35:11 - Giveaway Post to see other listeners' best books! (reminder - giveaway is CLOSED) 42:17 - Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelby Van Pelt 42:32 - Lessons in Chemistry by Bonnie Garmus 42:43 - The Anthropocene Reviewed by John Green 42:56 - Lonesome Dove by Larry McMurtry 43:06 - Homegoing by Yaa Gyasi 43:07 - Still Life by Louise Penny 43:59 - Frozen River by Ariel Lawhon 44:03 - Hamnet by Maggie O'Farrell 44:08 - Demon Copperhead by Barbara Kingsolver 44:16 - Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir 44:18 - The Midnight Library by Matt Haig Giveaway Winner Christie's Reads 47:25 - Harry's Trees by Jon Cohen 47:27 - Lessons in Chemistry by Bonnie Garmus 47:30 - The Thursday Murder Club by Richard Osman 47:33 - Olive Kitteridge by Elizabeth Strout 47:35 - The Anxious Generation by Johnathan Haidt 47:39 - Demon Copperhead by Barbara Kingsolver 48:17 - Meet Us At The Fountain 48:22 - I wish to tell you about the gold star item I found for reading and sleep. (Kaytee) 48:32 - Stolen Focus by Johann Hari 48:47 - Bloom 51:30 - I wish for you to try more specific ASMR rooms or listening to playlists for books. (Meredith) 51:34 - Katabasis by R.F. Kuang 51:37 - A Discovery of Witches by Deborah Harkness 51:38 - Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafon   Support Us: Become a Bookish Friend | Grab Some Merch Shop Bookshop dot org | Shop Amazon Bookish Friends Receive: The Indie Press List with a curated list of five books hand sold by the indie of the month. November's's IPL is brought to us from Content Bookstore in Northfield, Minnesota. Love and Chili Peppers with Kaytee and Rebekah - romance lovers get their due with this special episode focused entirely on the best selling genre fiction in the business.  All Things Murderful with Meredith and Elizabeth - special content for the scary-lovers, brought to you with the behind-the-scenes insights of an independent bookseller From the Editor's Desk with Kaytee and Bunmi Ishola - a quarterly peek behind the curtain at the publishing industry The Bookish Friends Facebook Group - where you can build community with bookish friends from around the globe as well as our hosts Connect With Us: The Show: Instagram | Website | Email | Threads The Hosts and Regulars: Meredith | Kaytee | Mary | Roxanna Production and Editing: Megan Phouthavong Evans Affiliate Disclosure: All affiliate links go to Bookshop unless otherwise noted. Shopping here helps keep the lights on and benefits indie bookstores. Thanks for your support!

Beatriz Victoria Albina is a Nurse Practitioner with a master's degree in public health. Bea has been working in that field for over 2 decades, helping others heal and learning more for her own self-healing. It's culminated in her book, "End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits."www.beatrizalbina.com, and on socials @beatrizvictoriaalbinanpSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to Episode 132 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering!  Today I have the privilege of chatting with Shannon Popkin. Shannon is a wife, mom, author and speaker. She loves combining her gifts for humor and storytelling with herpassion for Jesus and the truth of God's Word. She speaks for ladies' events, retreats, and conferences, and hosts the Live Like It's True Podcast.  Some of the resources we mention in this episode include:Restore: Soul Care for Moms TicketsShannon's Book, Control Girl: Lessons on Surrendering Your Burden of Control from Seven Women in the Bible*Gentle and Lowly by Dane Ortlund*Speechify AppControl Girl QuizYou can connect with Shannon via:Her website: shannonpopkin.comInstagram: @shannonpopkinAs always, you can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberryPre-order my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms**Affiliate Link

Do you feel like your time, inbox, and energy belong to everyone but you? What would change if you took radical responsibility for every part of your career—starting today?In this episode you'll learn:Radical responsibility: you choose your job, time, workload, treatment, title, and pay.How you're outsourcing power to bosses/clients, reviews, the economy, titles, and industry “norms.”A practical reset: four reflection questions + one small daily action to reclaim control.Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel 

 Imagine you enter a messy room,.. How do you feel?Can we compare our mind with a messy room, when we are distracted? The first Method: In our mind we have many voices that are arguing, negotiating, or even disturbing us…If we deny one of these voices, we support this voice with energy and strengthen it.For instance, a devotee went to his guru and complained that his mind was chattering all the time so he could not meditate or find peace…The guru said: don't think on mice, if you think on a mouse punish yourself… Because if you think about mice you eventually become a mouse in your next life…  The devotee went home and was wondering why his Guru had told him not to think on mice? He has never thought on mice before… But when he started with his meditation; he was continuously thinking about mice… It became worse and worse… What you deny/neglect/suppress/fight that you empower…So we watch our thoughts and don't fight against them.We give our different voices unique names so we can identify them without fighting …For instance.The complainerThe critic Inner childSuperegoPerfectionistAnxiousAngerMotherBrotherSisterFatherDarlingJustificationPoliceJudgerPoliticianSellerBuyerGreedyBoringCreative….When a voice wants to say something we let the voice say something to us.  Afterwards we say: “thank you for sharing.” Or if we don't have time, please wait, share your opinion in an hour or so… (be truthful and definitive).Through the discrimination of our different voices and watching them, they will lose their power over us… Quote: If you call a demon by his name, he becomes weaker… The second Method:We make every day 3 times brainstorming for 5 minutes and write down every single thought…After a month, we read all of our thoughts. Then we identify our thinking pattern that repeats and again…  So if we run the next time in the same pattern we already have identified, we simply notify that…  And the thinking pattern will lose so their power over us. My Video: Techniques to calm down our mind https://youtu.be/EGbvdwqPGBAMy Audio: https://divinesuccess.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/Podcast1/Techniques-to-calm-down-our-mind.mp3  

Are you tired of feeling stuck, resentful, or like life keeps happening to you instead of for you? In this episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, host Kim Gross, author of Free to Be: A Pathway to Inner Liberation, breaks down what it really means to take ownership and personal responsibility — and why it's the key to breaking free from the victim mindset.If you've ever caught yourself blaming your ex, your parents, your job, or your friends for how you feel, this episode will hit home. Kim shares her own journey from blaming others for her unhappiness to realizing that freedom begins when you stop giving your power away. You'll learn how to recognize when you're in victim mode, how to reclaim your agency, and how to take radical responsibility for your peace, joy, and growth.This episode is especially for women in their twenties who are learning to navigate adulthood, relationships, and self-discovery without losing themselves in perfectionism or people-pleasing.

DR. ELLEN HENDRIKSEN (she/her) is a clinical psychologist who will help you calm your anxiety and be your authentic self. She serves on the faculty at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders (CARD) and is the author of HOW TO BE ENOUGH: Self-Acceptance for Self-Critics and Perfectionists. Tell Zak what YOU ARE FINDING WEIRDLY HELPFUL @ 844 935 2378 Listen to this show ad free by becoming a supporter @ patreon.com/weirdlyhelpful This episode is brought to you with support from Uncommon Goods. Toget 15% off your next gift, go to www.uncommongoods.com/podcast/bestadvice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a Highly Sensitive Person under stress? Find out—take the free test at https://trueinnerfreedom.com/ Are you constantly overwhelmed, yet still feel like you're never doing enough—no matter how hard you try? If you're a Highly Sensitive Person, perfectionism might be silently draining your energy, sabotaging your peace, and stalling your progress. This episode dives deep into the emotional cost of striving to be flawless in a world that was never meant to be perfect—and how this chase can block your inner freedom. In this episode, you'll discover: How perfectionism disguises itself as productivity while keeping you stuck in fear and self-doubt The subtle but critical difference between high standards and harmful self-pressure Why your sensitivity is not the problem—and how to finally honor it without guilt or burnout Listen now to learn how to break the perfectionism loop and reclaim your peace as an HSP—without sacrificing your ambition.   Todd Smith, founder of True Inner Freedom Dreaming of a stress-free, balanced life? Visit trueinnerfreedom.com and complete the HSP Stress Survey. Gain clarity on your stress triggers and enjoy a free 15-minute Inner Freedom Call designed to guide you toward lasting inner peace and fulfillment. Are you a highly sensitive person (HSP) or someone who identifies as hypersensitive or neurodivergent? This podcast is dedicated to helping highly sensitive people (HSPs) navigate overwhelm and stress by using The Work of Byron Katie—a powerful method for questioning stressful thoughts and finding true inner freedom. We dive deep into stress management strategies, coping with stress, and stress relief methods specifically tailored for HSPs. Learn how to manage emotions, especially negative ones, and explore effective stress reduction techniques that go beyond the surface to address the root causes of anxiety and pressure. Whether you're interested in learning how to lower stress, handle stress and pressure, or reduce stress through practical techniques, we provide insights and support based on The Work of Byron Katie. Discover how this transformative approach can help you decrease stress, find inner peace, and create balance in your life. Join us to learn about various coping strategies for stress, all designed to support HSPs in their journey toward emotional well-being.

Do you start strong with your money — creating budgets, opening savings accounts, or setting up QuickBooks — only to stop halfway? In this episode of Money Simplified, Aimee reveals the six half-stepper money roles that quietly sabotage your progress and keep you from feeling financially free.Discover which role you've slipped into — Safety Saver, Half-Step Strategist, Spreadsheet Dreamer, Card Juggler, Perfectionist, or Depriver — and the simple mindset and strategy shifts that build real financial momentum.If you've ever struggled to take consistent action with your money, this episode will help you step into a healthier financial role!Money Mindset Playbook: https://aimeecerka.com/mindset For the full transcript and all links mentioned, see the blog post: https://aimeecerka.com/230 Ready To Take Action: https://aimeecerka.com/podcastlinks

On this episode, I am joined by Béa Victoria Albina, a trained nurse practitioner, master certified life coach, somatic experiencing practitioner and author of “End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits.” Béa coined the term ‘Emotional Outsourcing', which describes our co-dependent, people pleasing and perfectionistic habits and how these behaviors cost us our joy, authenticity and true connection to self and others. In this episode, we talk about the cost of chronically and habitually outsourcing our sense of safety, belonging and worth. We dive into the root of these behaviours from a cultural and historical perspective and Bea shines a light on how we were trained up to be disconnected from the earth, magic and our own inner wisdom. Tune in to hear more from us on:How emotional outsourcing can influence all aspects of our lives and sense of selfThe true cost of people pleasing, perfectionism and codependency, and its root causesHow shifting to a place of trust is a liberating experience, and how to do thisTrad-wife culture and how to explore femininity as a gateway to empowermentEmotional outsourcing in a facilitator role and finding acceptance and surrender in the process of facilitationHow to learn the body's language through somatic experience and understanding where survival patterns come fromManaging text message overwhelm as a recovering people pleaserResources + LinksBéa Victoria Albina's book ‘End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits'Béa's website beatrizalbina.com and Instagram @beatrizvictoriaalbinanpBéa's podcast ‘The Feminist Wellness podcast'My book, Root and Ritual: Timeless Ways to Connect to Land, Lineage, Community, and the SelfConnect with me on Instagram @beccapiastrelliTimestamps[0:00] What is Emotional Outsourcing [10:55] The Origin of Codependency and Emotional Outsourcing [14:39] Weaponized Femininity and Glorified Codependency [22:04] Facilitating without Emotional Outsourcing [29:28] Practicing and Embodying Self Trust [39:38] Navigating Boundaries and Intimacy [49:00] Managing Text Message Overwhelm as a Recovering People Pleaser [45:20] Bea's Book ‘End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits'

Gratitude journals. Green juices. Meditation apps. We've been taught happiness is a checklist, but what if that's only half the story?In this episode, we dive into the world of Positive Psychology and the concept of flourishing– living deeply, not just lightly. We explore the PERMA‑H model (Positive Emotion • Engagement • Relationships • Meaning • Accomplishment • Health) and what it really means to feel alive even when life isn't easy. If you've done all the “right” self‑care things and still feel off… you're not failing. You're human. And this episode is your gentle invitation to stop chasing happiness and start tending what matters. What You'll Discover:Why happiness as a finish line keeps us stuckHow the PERMA‑H model gives us a fuller picture of wellbeingHow cultural expectations twist engagement, achievement, health & moreA simple journaling exercise to map where you're full and where you need spaceWhy flourishing is rhythmic – not balanced or perfect “Flourishing is the whole spectrum – light and dark, joy and grief, purpose and pause. And learning to hold all of it – that's what it really means to be alive.”

Perfectionism is the tendency to set excessively high and unrealistic standards for oneself and others, and to evaluate one's worth based on the ability to meet those standards. Perfectionists are not satisfied with anything less than flawless results, and they often fear failure, criticism, or disappointment but constantly striving for perfection can have serious consequences.  How does perfectionism affect your productivity? How does perfectionism impact you? How does perfectionism impact your relationships? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions ! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here : ⁠Which jobs are most under threat from artificial intelligence?⁠ ⁠What is wellness syndrome?⁠ ⁠Does your name really affect your looks?⁠ A podcast written and realised by Amber Minogue. First broadcast: 20/07/2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey friend — today's episode is for the perfectionist in you. The part that tries so hard to get everything just right, that feels guilty when things fall short, and that quietly believes she has to do more to be enough.But here's the truth: you are already worthy, already capable, and already doing so much better than you think.So in this episode, I'm sharing five affirmations for your perfectionist self — little reminders to help you let go, breathe deeper, and move forward with more grace and less pressure.

Welcome to Episode 131 of The Perfectionist's Guide to Mothering! October is pregnancy and infant loss awareness month, and I thought it would be timely for us to have a conversation with a woman who has walked this road and found hope. My guest for today is Nichole Thompson. She is a faith-based writer and the author of The Miscarriage Journal. A wife and mom of two, she lives in North Carolina and is passionate about creating Christ-centered content and co-authoring Bible studies. When she's not writing, you can find her skiing, coaching middle school volleyball, or spending time with her family, including their beloved dogs. P.S. She'll never say no to a gummy bear, they're her weakness.Some of the resources we mention include:The Miscarriage Journal*The Boxcar Librarian by Brianna Labuskes*Wild and Distant Seas by Tara Karr Roberts*Being Fully Known by Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith*Untamed on NetflixYou can connect with Nichole via:Her website: nicholekthompson.comYou can connect with me via:My website: andreafortenberry.comInstagram: @andreafortenberryPre-order my book, Two-Minute Timeouts for New Moms**Affiliate Link

Are you clenching so hard at work that control is controlling you? What would change if you only invested energy in what you can actually influence—and consciously released the rest?In this episode you'll learn:The “control illusion”: why overworking to feel safe backfires (burnout, fear habits, suboptimal results).The Conscious Release tool: a simple T-chart to sort leaning in (your thoughts, actions, decisions) vs. letting go (others' opinions, timelines, corporate realities).Three grounding questions to let go: How will I benefit? How does this improve outcomes? Why is it safe to release?Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel 

Today, we're exploring the science behind why we haven't been able to think our way out of perfectionist and people pleasing tendencies. To help us with this, our guest is Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina,  a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach. She is the author of  "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits", which you can pick up now: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Beatriz is passionate about helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy.You're going to walk away with some great information on how to reconnect with your body and regulate your nervous system, something we all can benefit from right now.Links mentioned:Whitexicans restaurant: https://www.forbes.com/sites/dougmelville/2025/10/21/as-whitexicans-restaurant-opens-locals-protest-the-name-is-it-racist-or-satire/James by Percival Everett:https://www.panmacmillan.com/authors/percival-everett/james/9781035031269Tamarindo is a lighthearted show hosted by Brenda Gonzalez and Delsy Sandoval talking about politics, culture, and self-development. We're here to uplift our community through powerful conversations with changemakers, creatives, and healers. Join us as we delve into discussions on race, gender, representation, and life! You can get in touch with us at www.tamarindopodcast.comBrenda Gonzalez and Delsy Sandoval are executive producers of Tamarindo podcast with production support by Karina Riveroll of Sonoro Media. Jeff Ricards produced our theme song. If you want to support our work, please rate and review our show here.SUPPORT OUR SHOWContribute to the show: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/tamarindopodcast1Follow Tamarindo on instagram @tamarindopodcast and on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TamarindoPodcast-143 Tamarindo's mission is to use laughter and conversation to inform, inspire and positively impact our community. Learn more at tamarindopodcast.com

Are you the strong one who's always there for everyone else—but secretly struggling inside? In this episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, host Kim Gross gets real about what it costs to hide your own pain behind perfection, control, and endless giving.From her high school years to adulthood, Kim shares powerful personal stories about how suppressing emotions and striving to appear “put together” can lead to burnout, anxiety, and disconnection from your true self. Through raw honesty and compassion, she reveals how vulnerability becomes the bridge to freedom—and how learning to feel your feelings is the first step toward wholeness.You'll learn how to:

Have you ever made a detailed plan to change everything at once, only to find yourself back where you started weeks later? Grand plans often look inspiring, but they rarely hold up in daily life. They demand more than what's realistic for the season you're in and leave no room for flexibility when life gets in the way.   In this episode, I explore three key reasons why ambitious plans often fail and why starting small is the true key to sustainable change. You'll learn how perfectionism, impatience, and the belief that small steps mean weakness keep you in cycles of all-or-nothing effort. I'll share a simple, practical approach to goal-setting that helps you stay consistent and build trust with yourself over time.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/194   Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

From Pressure to Peace: How to Turn Perfectionism into Purpose with Dr. Tara Cousineau From Pressure to Peace: How to Turn Perfectionism into Purpose with Dr. Tara Cousineau In this powerful episode of THE EMBC NETWORK, host Hurricane H sits down with Dr. Tara Cousineau — Harvard psychologist, meditation teacher, and author of The Perfectionist's Dilemma — for a deep, transformative conversation about redefining success. Dr. Tara shares how perfectionism silently steals our joy, and how embracing self-compassion can unlock true confidence, clarity, and inner peace. From the science of the mind-body connection to practical mindfulness techniques, this episode helps you move from pressure to purpose and achievement to alignment. Whether you're a leader, entrepreneur, or lifelong overachiever, this conversation will remind you that you don't have to be perfect to be powerful.

From Pressure to Peace: How to Turn Perfectionism into Purpose with Dr. Tara Cousineau From Pressure to Peace: How to Turn Perfectionism into Purpose with Dr. Tara Cousineau In this powerful episode of THE EMBC NETWORK, host Hurricane H sits down with Dr. Tara Cousineau — Harvard psychologist, meditation teacher, and author of The Perfectionist's Dilemma — for a deep, transformative conversation about redefining success. Dr. Tara shares how perfectionism silently steals our joy, and how embracing self-compassion can unlock true confidence, clarity, and inner peace. From the science of the mind-body connection to practical mindfulness techniques, this episode helps you move from pressure to purpose and achievement to alignment. Whether you're a leader, entrepreneur, or lifelong overachiever, this conversation will remind you that you don't have to be perfect to be powerful.

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Are you clenching so hard at work that control is controlling you? What would change if you only invested energy in what you can actually influence—and consciously released the rest?In this episode you'll learn:The “control illusion”: why overworking to feel safe backfires (burnout, fear habits, suboptimal results).The Conscious Release tool: a simple T-chart to sort leaning in (your thoughts, actions, decisions) vs. letting go (others' opinions, timelines, corporate realities).Three grounding questions to let go: How will I benefit? How does this improve outcomes? Why is it safe to release? Enroll in BFG: Want to eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking to be more effective, feel better, and create sustainable success in your demanding corporate career? Schedule a free consult here to find out how you can get started in my Breaking Free from the Grind 1:1 coaching program.Take the 3-minute BFG quiz here to find out which mindset - Overachiever, Overthinker, People Pleaser, Impostor, or Perfectionist - is preventing you from creating sustainable success at work. Your results will reveal your biggest trap and how to break free for good. About AmeliaAmelia Noel is a Master Certified Coach, podcast host, corporate workshop facilitator, and creator of the Breaking Free from the Grind coaching program. After spending over a decade of her career working on Wall Street at a top investment bank and as a global strategy consultant to Fortune 100 companies, Amelia now helps professionals working demanding corporate careers eliminate stress, self-doubt, and overworking so they can break free from the grind and create sustainable success in their careers.Connect with Ameliawww.amelianoelcoaching.comIG: @breakingfreefromthegrindLinkedIn: Amelia Noel 

Are you tired of feeling burned out, overwhelmed, and never “good enough”? In this episode of Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, host Kim Gross dives deep into the mental prison of perfectionism — the exhausting cycle that keeps women, especially those in their 20s, chasing impossible standards.

Ever reach the end of the day and wonder where the hours went, only to realize you still haven't done what you set out to do? Maybe you got lost in emails, organizing, or helping others while your own priorities slipped away. This disconnect isn't about poor time management; it's a sign of two related challenges: time blindness and values blindness.   Time blindness, common in people with ADHD but experienced by many, happens when your brain loses track of the passage of time. In this episode, I break down how both time and values blindness shape your attention, energy, and sense of alignment. You'll learn practical strategies to regain control using tools from executive functioning, including external reminders, task chunking, and reflection exercises. By noticing where your time and values are going, you can create a life that feels steady, aligned, and purposeful.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/193   Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

You're doing all the right things - posting, showing up and putting yourself out there - but your sales are inconsistent. In this episode, Sam shares the key shifts that help perfectionist entrepreneurs go from sporadic sales to consistent, reliable income without working more or trying to become someone else.  You'll learn why perfectionism makes selling feel harder than it needs to be and how to start selling in a way that works with your brain instead of against it. If you're ready to make consistent sales without having to work harder, apply for 1:1 coaching today at samlaurabrown.com/coaching.  

Does it feel like nothing your daughter does is ever good enough? She may win a game, set a personal record, or master a new skill, yet still criticize herself. Perfectionism is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it can motivate athletes to improve, push harder, and reach higher goals. On the other hand, it can become overwhelming, causing emotional distress, frustration, and even avoidance of challenges. In this episode of Raising Elite Competitors, Coach Bre dives into the five key signs that your daughter may be a perfectionist and shares practical strategies you can use to support her.You'll learn how to identify these common perfectionist tendencies:1. Beating herself up after mistakes – Coach Bre explains how the “snapback” routine can help athletes quickly reset, regain focus, and continue performing without letting one mistake define the rest of their game.2. Never satisfied, even after wins – The episode covers ways to help your daughter practice gratitude, celebrate effort, and focus on progress instead of outcomes, reinforcing confidence and enjoyment in her sport.3. Avoiding risks or playing it safe – Coach Bre shares strategies for helping your daughter take healthy risks, gradually build confidence, and learn that mistakes are manageable and part of the journey.4. Big emotional reactions to mistakes – Emotional responses can be intense when performance feels tied to identity. Learn how emotional regulation, visualization, and mindful breathing can help athletes process setbacks.5. Tying self-worth to performance – The episode explores ways to develop a supportive inner voice, including daily affirmations and mindset practices, so your daughter can care about her performance without letting it define who she is.The insights shared in this episode give you the tools to understand your daughter's mindset, provide the encouragement she truly needs, and help her thrive with confidence, resilience, and joy on and off the field.Episode Highlights: [00:02:25] Your athlete struggles to move on from errors and spirals into negative self-talk. Coach Bre shares how the Snapback Routine, a quick two-second reset using breath, a power word, and a signal, helps athletes bounce back fast and stay focused.[00:08:40] Perfectionist athletes often play it safe to avoid failure. Bre explains how to help them build “risk-taking muscles” through low-stakes practice and praise for bravery over outcomes. The goal? Encourage effort, not perfection.[00:11:20] When performance feels tied to self-worth, even small errors can trigger tears or meltdowns. Bre shares how parents can anchor calm: validate feelings first, then gently redirect. Be her “calm in the storm” instead of rushing to fix it.[00:15:30] Perfectionism isn't all bad; it drives growth and high standards. The key is helping your daughter let go of self-criticism while keeping her motivation. Bre invites parents to the TrainHerGame.com free training for practical tools to help their athlete find confidence without the crush of perfectionism.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

If you're overcomplicating your launches, second-guessing your marketing, or constantly tweaking your sales strategy instead of just selling—this episode is for you. Too many entrepreneurs get stuck in the perfection trap, thinking they need the perfect strategy, the perfect funnel, or the perfect launch plan before they can fully show up. But the truth? Sales don't come from endless backend prep—they come from showing up and selling every day. Inside this episode, we break down: Why simplifying your sales process leads to bigger results The real reason entrepreneurs sabotage their launches (and how to stop) How to shift from overthinking to executing—and actually start making money If you're ready to stop procrastinating and start selling with confidence, this episode will give you the clarity and push you need. Register for the Wealthy as a Mother Bootcamp ($47) where I'll walk you step by step through building systems, offers, and strategies that honor your capacity while scaling sustainably.

Some women seem to have it all together. They're confident, capable, and thriving in their careers. Yet when it comes to love… it's like they're playing a game with a whole different rulebook. I've talked with so many high-achieving women who can handle anything at work (big goals, big responsibilities, big wins) but still feel unsure or unseen when it comes to real connection. In this episode, I'm sitting down with Hilary Silver, clinical therapist, master coach, and host of the Ready for Love podcast. Hilary and I talk about why strong, successful women so often find themselves repeating the same relationship patterns. We get into how old habits of proving, pleasing, and perfecting the ones that helped you rise so high can quietly start working against you when it comes to love. Hilary shares the three roles she sees most often in high achievers: the Pleaser, the Perfectionist, and the Pusher. Each one starts as a way to stay safe, but over time it builds walls that make closeness harder. We talk about what it really takes to lower those defenses, feel solid in who you are, and let love in without losing yourself in the process. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why High-Achieving Women Struggle in Love 01:29 Hilary Silver's Journey From Therapy to Coaching 08:08 The Hidden Wounds Behind High Achievement 11:08 Protection Prevents Connection: Pleaser, Perfectionist, Pusher 16:20 How Self-Protection Creates Relationship Difficulties 23:33 The Tree Metaphor for Personal Growth 26:08 Coaching vs. Therapy: Choosing the Right Path 31:08 Transformation Stories and Hope for Authentic Love Now, take a moment to reflect. When do you catch yourself working hard to prove your value in love? What parts of you stay tucked away because you're afraid they won't be accepted? And what might happen if you stopped trying to earn love and allowed yourself to receive it instead? I'd love to help you take the next step toward deeper, more authentic connection. You can schedule a free consultation with me or a member of my team. It's a private, no-pressure space where you can share what's been on your mind - whether that's building self-worth, breaking old patterns, or learning how to open your heart again. We'll help you find the right support so you can move forward feeling clear, encouraged, and hopeful. Come find me on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. I share stories, insights, and gentle reminders every week to help you stay grounded and connected as you grow. And if today's topic brought up a question or an “aha” moment, I'd love to hear from you. Let's keep talking about this - we're all learning how to love better, together. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

Identity drift creates hidden burnout and role fatigue. You wonder if it's too late — or if you're too much. This episode reframes expansion as permission, not proving, through Identity-Level Recalibration.Burnout recovery isn't always about doing less — sometimes it's about releasing outdated roles that keep you playing small. High-capacity humans often carry the quiet weight of decision fatigue, role confusion, and identity drift. On the outside, you've built a life of success. But inside, you wonder: Am I too late? Am I too much? Do I even have permission to expand?In this episode of The Recalibration with Julie Holly, Julie unpacks why hidden burnout often comes from disqualification scripts: the Prover chasing validation, the Pleaser shrinking to keep peace, the Perfectionist editing presence until it feels flawless. These roles keep the nervous system scanning for external approval, draining your energy before you even start.Through the pathway of Identity-Level Recalibration (ILR), your nervous system learns a new story: expansion isn't arrogance, it's alignment. ILR isn't another mindset tactic — it's the root-level recalibration that makes every other tool work again. Coaching might help you strategize expansion, but only recalibration gives you permission to embody it.Faith reminds us: there is a season for everything, and you are right on time. Expansion doesn't mean leaving others behind — it means multiplying fruit for those you're called to serve.Today's Micro Recalibration: “What would change if I trusted that I am right on time, with enough space to grow?”If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Performance pressure and role fatigue often make leaders shrink back. If you fear being “too much,” this episode shows how recalibration restores peace — so your full presence becomes a gift, not a burden.Have you ever held back an idea in a meeting, softened your words so they wouldn't sound “too passionate,” or dimmed your presence because you didn't want to overwhelm others? For many high-capacity humans, the fear of being “too much” quietly shapes their leadership and their life.In this episode of The Recalibration, Julie Holly unpacks why leaders shrink themselves — and how to break free. Through personal reflection on a lifetime of feeling self-conscious about her energy, and the cultural story of Marc Andreessen, who was criticized as brash and “too much” in the early internet era yet went on to shape Netscape and Andreessen Horowitz, Julie reframes what “too much” really means.From an Identity-Level Recalibration (ILR) lens, this fear usually comes from outdated roles: the Pleaser, who thinks it's safer to stay small than risk disapproval; the Peacekeeper, who confuses harmony with suppression; and the Perfectionist, who edits presence until it feels unthreatening. Neuroscience names this pattern social safety bias — the brain exaggerates the risk of rejection, so shrinking feels like safety. But what feels safe in the moment becomes suffocating over time.Here's the truth: You are not too much. You are exactly the right size for your assignment. ILR restores this identity, retraining your nervous system to hold presence without apology. Without recalibration, presence feels like performance. With recalibration, presence feels like peace.This episode is for every leader who feels role fatigue, decision fatigue, or the emptiness of success without fulfillment. It's not another mindset tactic or productivity hack — it's the root-level recalibration that makes every other tool effective.Today's Micro Recalibration:Where am I shrinking myself?What would it look like to bring my full presence without apology?How might my leadership create permission for others to expand?If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

Do you sometimes feel like the person you show up as each day isn't the real you? Between work, family, and the constant pull of daily responsibilities, it's easy to drift into autopilot and lose touch with your inner self. In this episode, we explore how to come back home to yourself and cultivate a sense of internal belonging that grounds your thoughts, feelings, and actions in what truly matters.   Authenticity isn't just about being genuine with others. Through practical prompts and reflective practices, you'll learn to pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, impulses, and beliefs in a way that builds self-awareness. You'll discover how to notice when you're out of alignment, face uncomfortable truths with honesty, and make internal authenticity a daily practice rather than a vague concept.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/192   Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

In this episode, Kristen welcomes returning guest Beatriz Victoria Albina, master certified somatic life coach and author, to discuss emotional outsourcing, how it fuels codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, and how her BRAVE protocol offers tools to reclaim your authentic self.   When you purchase these books through these Amazon affiliate links, you're helping support the podcast at no extra cost to you: beatrizalbina.com Beatriz Victoria Albina's Book 1. End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits: https://amzn.to/41YkMWB Book Recommendation: 1. Diving into the Wreck: Poems 1971-1972: https://amzn.to/46DLiap   Subscribe and get a free 5-day journal at www.kristendboice.com to begin closing the chapter on what doesn't serve you and open the door to the real you. This information is being provided to you for educational and informational purposes only. It is being provided to you to educate you about ideas on stress management and as a self-help tool for your own use. It is not psychotherapy/counseling in any form. This information is to be used at your own risk based on your own judgment.  For my full Disclaimer please go to www.kristendboice.com. For counseling services near Indianapolis, IN, visit www.pathwaystohealingcounseling.com. Pathways to Healing Counseling's vision is to provide warm, caring, compassionate and life-changing counseling services and educational programs to individuals, couples and families in order to create learning, healing and growth.  

Burnout recovery starts with identity. If success feels empty or you fear it's too late to grow, this episode reveals why expansion isn't arrogance—it's alignment. Discover the root-level recalibration that restores clarity and courage.Do you ever wonder if it's too late to make a change—or fear you'll be too much if you step into the expansion you feel called to? High-capacity humans often hit this hidden ceiling, not in opportunity, but in permission.This episode of The Recalibration speaks directly into that quiet inner dialogue: Did I miss my window? Who am I to do this? Drawing on the story of Colonel Sanders, who franchised Kentucky Fried Chicken at 65 after more than a thousand rejections, Julie Holly reframes the cultural script of “too late.”You'll discover how Identity-Level Recalibration (ILR) dismantles outdated roles like Prover, Performer, Provider, and Perfectionist—the very identities that keep leaders stuck in role confusion, decision fatigue, and spiritual exhaustion. Neuroscience confirms what faith reveals: when you recalibrate identity, the nervous system learns that newness doesn't equal danger—it equals alignment. That's when expansion shifts from fear to fruit.Unlike surface-level productivity tactics or mindset hacks, ILR is the root-level recalibration that makes every other tool effective. Expansion isn't about proving your worth; it's about receiving the permission that was already yours—and realizing the cost of staying small is too high, not just for you but for those you're called to serve.Today's Micro RecalibrationWhere have I been telling myself it's too late to grow?What if the opposite is true—that right now is exactly on time?As a leader, how might my willingness to expand unlock permission for those around me?If this episode gave you language you've been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn't therapy. This isn't coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

What do you really want the second half of your life to look like?  Being a doormat for others, then resenting it? Saying yes, when you really mean no? Doing more tasks or more work, taking responsibility for everything, and feeling overwhelmed in your life?  This can be how so many of us in midlife feel, but I'm here to tell you there IS another way.  In this episode, I sit down with expert Beatriz Albina to talk about a challenge so many women face but can't always name—patterns of overgiving, perfectionism, and the ultimate people-pleasing trap.  Beatriz introduces the concept of emotional outsourcing and how it quietly drives these behaviors, leaving us feeling stuck and drained.  Together, we discuss how reframing your mindset is a powerful tool for reclaiming your emotional well-being. Plus, Beatriz gives us a sneak peek into her brand-new book, End Emotional Outsourcing—a guide to finding freedom, balance, and true self-connection. Tune in here to reignite joy in your life, and find the inner peace you've been craving for years!  Beatriz Albina Beatriz (Béa) Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and author of the book "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits". She's dedicated to helping people socialized as women reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems, and rewire their minds to break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Béa hosts the Feminist Wellness Podcast, and holds a Master's degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. IN THIS EPISODE What is emotional outsourcing, and how can it impact women?  Getting back to the basics for our emotional needs  How our emotions lie in our nervous system– not just our minds   Calming techniques you can do in 5 seconds, anytime, anywhere Detaching from labels like ‘co-dependent' and ‘perfectionist'  How to stay regulated while also setting boundaries  Why reframing your mindset is so important for healing  All about Beatriz's book: End Emotional Outsourcing  QUOTES “This is what happens when we get activated or triggered in our nervous system. When we start being mean to ourselves, when we ignore our impulses, when we project, when we take things personally, when we get offended, all these things– our nervous system is in a different time and place.”  “That's the self-worth work. Saying, ‘I trust myself, I believe in myself, and so I know that this isn't a problem.' And that's that. Not allowing any other thoughts to enter your beautiful mind space, your world, your body. It's really vital work.”  “What our children and our partners, and our friends and our communities and ourselves want and need from us the most, most, most, is presence. Intunement and presence.”  RESOURCES MENTIONED Use code ENERGIZED and get $100 off on your CAROL Bike purchase https://carolbike.pxf.io/GK3LaE Preorder the Perimenopause Revolution and get your VIP ticket to the Perimenopause Solution event  http://hayh.site/pr_bl_ap-snyder_a_opt Order Béa's book: End Emotional Outsourcing HERE http://beatrizalbina.com/book Béa's Website Béa's Instagram RELATED EPISODES  #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey #553: Simple Ways to Start Feeling Calm and Safe and How to Align Your Nervous System for More Abundance with Kate Northrup #565: How to Live in a State of Ease and Flow vs. Overwhelm and Resentment + Reclaiming Your Aliveness with Alexi Panos #569: How to Build a Strong Emotional Connection with Your Partner and How to Transform Your Love Life with Vanessa and Xander Marin

Ever feel like you're constantly giving love, safety, or approval away—but never getting enough back? Today's guest is Bea Albina, author of the brand-new book End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. We're breaking down emotional outsourcing—the habit of looking outside yourself for validation—and how it secretly shapes your relationships, work, and sense of self.We dig into practical ways to reconnect with your body, notice what you actually want, and reclaim your inner authority. You'll get tools to break patterns of people-pleasing and perfectionism, shift how you relate to others, and start living from a place of self-trust rather than external approval.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/427Get Bea's new book here: beatrizalbina.com/bookThe Socratic Coaching Method Certification: thesocraticcoachingacademy.comFollow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil

"I was just so thrilled that somebody knew what to do with me for a change." - Tami Stackelhouse. Tammy Stackelhouse is an award-winning author, founder of the International Fibromyalgia Coaching Institute, and host of the Fibromyalgia Podcast. With her transformational journey from chronic illness to remission, Tammy uses her experience to help fibromyalgia patients take control of their health using her signature Fibromyalgia Wellness Framework. She is actively involved in educating others through coaching and her work on the feature documentary "Invisible," which sheds light on the experience of living with fibromyalgia. Episode Summary: Welcome back to "Oh, My Health... There is Hope!" where Jana Short hosts the inspirational Tammy Stackelhouse. Tammy, an advocate for fibromyalgia patients worldwide, shares her personal journey from diagnosis to thriving wellness. In this enlightening episode, Tammy dives deep into fibromyalgia, discussing how a fibromyalgia diagnosis can often be overlooked or misunderstood by those affected and healthcare providers. With nearly 15 years of mentorship in fibromyalgia coaching, she underscores the importance of understanding and managing this condition. Listeners are treated to an in-depth exploration of what fibromyalgia entails, debunking myths such as it being a psychosomatic disorder while shedding light on the brain inflammation integral to the illness. Tammy explains how her coaching institute and podcast empower patients by providing a wealth of resources and a supportive community. By sharing practical strategies and her own story, Tammy paints a hopeful picture for those living with fibromyalgia, showing that remission and an improved quality of life are achievable goals. Key Takeaways: Fibromyalgia can affect anyone, but a significant portion of those diagnosed are women. Symptoms include chronic pain, fatigue, and brain fog, often leading to a misunderstood and delayed diagnosis. Tammy's journey to remission highlights the role of health coaches in guiding patients through lifestyle changes that can lessen symptoms. Managing stress and reducing inflammation are critical aspects of controlling flare-ups. Emerging research points to brain inflammation being a key factor in fibromyalgia, indicating potential new avenues for treatment. Resources: tamistackelhouse.com @‌fibrocoach facebook.com/fibrocoach linkedin.com/in/tamistackelhouse @‌fibrocoach Podcast/Documentary Podcast: FibromyalgiaPodcast.com Documentary Invisible: Invisible-Film.com Discover Your Fibromyalgia Wellness Style℠! This exclusive science-based quiz identifies your unique Fibromyalgia Wellness Style℠ using the five-factor model of personality. Find out if you're The Ponderer, The Prevailer, The Playmaker, or The Perfectionist, and unlock your natural strengths to reduce pain, boost energy, clear brain fog, and improve sleep. Take control of your life and health with personalized guidance tailored to your unique needs at FibroQuiz.com. Get a free subscription to the Best Holistic Life Magazine, one of the fastest-growing independent magazines centered around holistic living: https://bestholisticlife.info/BestHolisticLifeMagazine. Get in touch with Jana and listen to more podcasts: https://www.janashort.com/ Show Music ‘Hold On' by Amy Gerhartz: https://www.amygerhartz.com/music. Grab your FREE gift today: https://bestholisticlife.info/BestHolisticLifeMagazine Connect with Jana Short: https://www.janashort.com/contact/