The Self Love Revolution

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Oh hi, I’m Lu. I’m a 53-year-old recovering people-pleaser on a mission to empower women to find their confidence, step out of their comfort zone and fall in love with their god-damn selves. I’ve been on a wild ride over the last few years. Marriage, menopause, bereavement, divorce, emigration to America with my now ex-husband and son, and then back to the UK to start again alone. This podcast is your guide to loving your god-damn self. Welcome to the Self Love Revolution, baby!

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    • Nov 1, 2024 LATEST EPISODE
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    • 31m AVG DURATION
    • 29 EPISODES


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    Season 2 - coming soon baby!

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 1, 2024 1:01


    I'm SO excited to bring you season 2 of the Self Love Revolution on Monday 4th November.This series is jam packed with some incredible guests. This series we're tackling: stop self sabotage, dismantling perfect, breaking free from toxicity and how to join the zero f**ks club.Set your alarms, baby!

    I give myself permission to... Pick up guys and not feel guilty about a girly trip

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 4, 2024 19:55


    These permission slips absolutely spoke to me! This week we're chatting about banishing the shame and stigma of being able to pick up guys and have lots of sex, and why we as women still feel guilty about leaving our partners and kids to spend time with our girlfriends. I'm joined by my good friend Jodie Cariss, who always leaves me with incredible nuggets of wisdom. She's a therapist and co-founder of Self-Space.

    Why a walk could change your life

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 30, 2024 46:30


    Hiking really did change my life. When I moved to Portland, I had no job and no friends. I decided to go on a hike and posted it online. The next thing I knew, I had a whole gaggle of mums join me and so Hike Squad was born. We hiked all over America. These women held me up as I processed so much of life's trauma and grief on these walks. Now, not every walk can be life-changing, but with the help of adventurist Gail Muller and comedian and podcaster Helen Thorn, I hope this episode inspires you to get outside, even if for just 20 minutes.

    I give myself permission to... Live my gay life after living in the closet and stop having imposter syndrome

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2024 19:39


    I'm on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That's the revolution baby. Today I'm joined by Nikki Fenix, a photographer who runs events for women to connect and heal.

    How to navigate the mid-life dating wilderness

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 23, 2024 45:30


    After 25 years of marriage, I've taken a lover. Dating beyond divorce is scary, but I'm loving the adventure. In this episode we're unpacking how to know when you're ready to date, dating red flags and how to uncover your values to find the perfect partner. I'm joined by two incredible guests this week, Mel Schilling, dating and relationship coach and expert on Married At First Sight and Stacey Duguid, journalist and author of Pursuit of Happiness, who chronicled her dating life post-divorce in a Telegraph column.

    I give myself permission to… Tell my friends I'm a swinger and do a stand up comedy show

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 20, 2024 22:34


    I absolutely love this two permission slips. This week we're talking about banishing the shame around telling your friends that you go to sex parties and how to build the confidence to do a stand up gig. This week I'm joined by the amazing Jodie Cariss, therapist and co-founder of Self Space.

    How to be alone

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2024 36:38


    There's a big difference between being lonely and choosing to be alone. Two years ago, I left my husband, packed up my belongings and travelled around the US on a bright pink bus. I met hundreds of women who felt lonely - even in their relationships. Spending that time alone gave me so much strength, so I wanted to dedicate an episode on embracing the space of being alone and navigating loneliness. This week I'm joined by Donna Easton, a joyologist, Yasmine Camille, is a business strategist and single mum.

    I give myself permission to... Be openly and unapologetically sexy and tell people to f*ck off

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2024 25:06


    How difficult is it for you to be unapologetically sexy? And why do women find this such a challenge? In this week's episode I'm joined by Libby DeLana - a creative director and author of DoWalk, all about the power of daily walking - to talk about your permission slips. We're also discussing how to communicate to those who have done you wrong.

    How to learn to love your body

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2024 42:10


    Content warning: This episode contains discussions around eating disorders.Feeling beautiful has nothing to do with what you look like. That's easier said than done, mind you. Motherhood saw me put on three stone, and divorce saw me look gaunt with weight loss from stress. If you're struggling with learning how to love your body, you need to listen to this episode. I'm joined by Nyome Nicholas-Williams - known as Curvy Nyome online - she's a model and activist, and Cas Shaw - Dance Yer Tits Off online - a fitness instructor and breast cancer survivor.

    I give myself permission to... See my fat tummy in a crop top and say yes more often

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 6, 2024 23:46


    Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I'm on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That's the revolution baby. Today I'm joined by Naz El Mariesh, a women's empowerment coach and all round magical human.

    Ageing disgracefully

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2024 32:09


    I refuse to become invisible as I age. Getting older is challenging, but I have found a power and strength in ageing; I didn't anticipate my 50s being my bad bitch era. This episode is going to show you that you ain't dead yet and the best is still to come. Lynne Franks is a legendary PR and founder of the SEED Women's Empowerment - she's also the woman who inspired the hit sitcom Absolutely Fabulous - and Rose Rouse, co-founder of Advantages of Age, a social enterprise that challenges the media narrative around ageing.

    I give myself permission to… Remain angry at the b*stards that didn't support me through my divorce and holiday by myself

    Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2024 23:20


    Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I'm on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That's the revolution baby. Today I'm joined by Jodie Cariss, therapist and co-founder of Self Space, the UK's first on-demand mental health service on the high street.

    You can sit with us: How to make friends

    Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2024 45:12


    Friendships are some of the most important relationships you'll ever have in your life. As life ebbs and flows, so do friendships. A true friend for me holds you up, holds you accountable, shows up to bury the body and is your biggest cheerleader. This episode is all about navigating friendships: the toxic ones, celebrating the amazing ones and how the heck you make new ones. Joining me today is Laura Mears-Reynolds who hosts the podcast ADHD AF and Amy Polly, mindfulness coach.

    I give myself permission to... Take control of the TV remote and let my light shine

    Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2024 20:40


    Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I'm on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That's the revolution baby. Today I'm joined by Nikki Fenix, a photographer who runs events for women to connect and heal.

    The power of forgiveness

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2024 37:40


    What does forgiveness mean to you? You probably jump to a time where someone has done you wrong. There's no magical button that can make that hurt or anger vanish, but instead this episode is going to teach you how to forgive and move on. It's simple, but it's not easy. I'm joined by two incredible people: my dad, Frank Hillebrand and women's empowerment coach, Naz El-Mariesh.

    I give myself permission to... Sunbathe topless and to give zero f*cks what others think

    Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2024 25:06


    Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I'm on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That's the revolution baby. I'm joined again by Libby DeLana, a creative director and author of DoWalk, all about the power of daily walking.

    The F Word: A guide to busting finance shame

    Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2024 45:51


    It's not the F word I like to use - bloody finances. I've been in debt for nearly my whole adult life. I have also battled a decades-long shopping addiction: choosing trainers over the rent and ruining relationships as I go. Money shame has clouded my life and after I confessed to stealing money from work to fund my habit, I knew something had to change. Today I have two amazing finance experts joining me - they're going to teach us how to get our financial shit together. Peter Komolafe and Sara-Jane Maxwell, who is known the Wealth Coach online.

    I give myself permission to... Quit and admit defeat and to fall in love again

    Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2024 20:17


    Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I'm on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That's the revolution baby. Today I'm joined by Naz El Mariesh, a women's empowerment coach and all round magical human.

    Stop getting in your own way! A guide to stepping out of your comfort zone, chasing the fear and being brave

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2024 36:39


    I've learned more when I'm shit scared: it's where the magic happens. It's better to try and fail, than to play it safe. Comfort is a bloody slow death. So if you need a guidebook on how to get out of your own way, this episode is for you. This week I'm joined by Ilana Gambrill, founder of DanceBox aimed at empowering women through and movement, and Laura Belbin, the comedian known as Knee Deep in Life online.

    I give myself permission to... Wank in front of my husband and fully own my past without shame

    Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2024 17:34


    Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I'm on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That's the revolution baby. Today I'm joined by Nikki Fenix, a photographer who runs events for women to connect and heal.

    The Big D, divorce: How to know when it's time to leave

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2024 55:57


    On Valentine's Day, my divorce was finalised. I'd been married for nearly twenty years and separating has been one of the most brutal, soul-shifting but liberating chapters of my life. In this episode, I'm joined by two incredible guests: Jodie Cariss, therapist and co-founder of Self Space and Julia Margo, co-founder of the sex toy company Hot Octopuss. We explore what makes us stay, when is it time to leave, how to tell the kids, where to go for financial help and is there life after divorce?

    I give myself permission to… Take a day off and love without consequences

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2024 25:02


    Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I'm on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That's the revolution baby. Today I'm joined by Libby DeLana, a creative director and author of DoWalk, all about the power of daily walking.

    How to get through the sh*t life throws your way

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2024 39:36


    It's inevitable: bad things happen in life. We've all been through something. This episode won't change your circumstances or your past, but what I hope it does is inspire you to just keep going and figure out some different ways to show up for your shit. Joining me in this episode is the presenter Claira Hermet and Anna Kilpatrick, who is Not Needing New online.

    I give myself permission to... Not be perfect and let go of control

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 18, 2024 24:56


    Welcome to the bonus episodes of the Self Love Revolution! I'm on a mission to give women everywhere permission to shed their shame. Each week I'll be joined by one of the wisest women I know, and we're going through some of the anonymous permission slips I've collected over the years. Because when one woman frees herself, they free another. That's the revolution baby. Today I'm joined by Naz El Mariesh, a women's empowerment coach and all round magical human.

    How to say no, set boundaries and have uncomfortable conversations

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2024 44:22


    I was going to call this episode 'How to say f**k off better', because I thought that's what boundaries were all about. But what I learned in this episode has been an absolute GAMECHANGER for me. Joining me this week is Dr Sophie Mort, a clinical psychologist and bestselling author and Jill Lavender, founder of the London and New York meditation centres.

    Is this too much? How to find the confidence to wear what the f**k you want

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2024 41:00


    If you see me in the street you'd you probably do a double take. I'm a lover of bright clothes, animal print, feathers, sequins - and that's just going to the supermarket. But it's come at a cost. After realising I had a shopping addiction, I started a Non Shopping Project, where I didn't buy anything new for a year. This gave me a whole new confidence after learning to style what I already had. So if you've lost your confidence in life, your style is a great place to start. In this episode I'm joined by Siobhan Murphy, stylist and interior designer at Interior Curve and Jackie Thompson-Brown from PlanetJQ to share our top tips in how to gain the confidence to embrace your style.

    Generation Menopause: Hot flush hell or the liberation chapter?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2024 42:34


    Hot flushes and dry vaginas, weight gain and vanishing libido; the menopause gets a bad rap. But I'll let you in on a secret: it can also be the liberation years. In this episode, I'm busting menopause myths with Davina McCall and Karen Arthur, founder of Menopause Whilst Black, and we're on a mission to reclaim midlife.

    Don't die without having an orgasm

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2024 36:11


    Self love isn't all about masturbation, but I couldn't resist my very first episode being about the big O. When I separated from my husband of 20 years, I moved into the spare room, bought myself a vibrator and found a whole new confidence in my body. And I couldn't believe that it took me so long to get there (pun unintended)! So this episode is your go-to guide of how to have a fan-fucking-tastic orgasm before you die. I'm joined by Nat Lee, better known as Style Me Sunday online and author of Feeling Myself: How I shed my shame to find sexual freedom and you can too and Emma Boynton, host of Sex Talks.

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    Get ready for The Self Love Revolution - launching Monday 8th April!

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2024 1:57


    Oh hi, I'm Lu. I'm a 53-year-old ray of sunshine and I'm on a mission to teach you how love your god-damn self. For most of my life I was told to simmer down and that I was too much. I spent years trying to shrink myself into everybody's expectations of me and wallowed in shame. But then in mid-life, something shifted in me and I started to feel confident for the first time in my life. This podcast is your guide to loving your god-damn self and each week I'll introduce you to some of the best bad-ass humans I've met along my journey so far. Monday 8th April we're launching our first three episodes: orgasms, menopause and style. Follow the feed so you don't miss an episode and welcome to the Self Love Revolution, baby!

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