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We’re excited to welcome back Bethany Webster to the podcast since her last visit in November 2016 where we discussed the “Mother Wound”. Her 2014 article “Why it’s Crucial for Women to Heal the Mother Wound” went viral and brought worldwide attention to her body of work in feminism and women’s leadership and personal development. Bethany’s work addresses a crucial gap in women’s psychology and empowerment by comprehensively defining the Mother Wound and how it manifests in women’s lives (1:42).   Bethany has a Master’s degree in psychology and completed training in Life Coaching from Joanna Lindenbaum and Holistic MBA. Prior to coaching, as a graduate student she focused on social psychology research on the intersection of race, class and gender. Post-grad school, she worked in academia in the area of research ethics and also as a writer/editor at Weill Cornell Medical Center in New York City.   Topics discussed in this episode:   Healing the Mother Wound (3:07) Discovering the Inner Mother How the Work is Evolving and Resonating throughout the world Importance of this work during the Covid-19 pandemic (3:20) Impact on those healing from trauma or working on spiritual growth (4:59) Quick recap of the November 2016 episode with Bethany: What is the Mother Wound? (5:39) The connection between the Mother Wound and the patriarchy (5:45) The three levels of the Mother Wound (5:47) The connection between unhealthy motherhood behaviours patterns in adult life and the Mother Wound (5:50) Taboos and stereotypes about the Mother Wound (5:59) Benefits of openly discussing the Mother Wound (6:05) What is the Mother Wound (6:17) How 23 years as a client in depth psychotherapy started Bethany’s journey (6:43) Definition of the Mother Wound (7:13) The Four Levels of the Mother Wound (7:15) The Personal Level - how painful dynamics with our mothers shaped or limited how we see ourselves (7:21) The Cultural Level - how the Mother Wound is a product of living as a woman in a patriarchal society (8:17) The Spiritual Level - how pain between ourselves and our mothers, ranging from mild to traumatic, leads to an existential sense of feeling separate (9:18) The Planetary Level - how the Mother Wound impacts how we treat the planet (10:34) Goals of the work (11:53) Increase awareness of the urgency and primacy of healing the Mother Wound Human attachment is the base of conflicts and problems (12:09) Importance of transforming our culture into a place where all people can thrive (12:52) The depth and breadth of the Mother Wound (13:14) How the Mother Wound shows up in therapy (13:24) Self-criticism, perfectionism, comparison & competition between women Difficulty in showing self-compassion & receiving Acts of self sabotage Books exploring the Mother Wound The work of Clarissa Pinkola Estes which explores when the mother-child dynamic is not working (14:07) Bethany’s upcoming book, “The Inner Mother” (14:33) which is about nurturing and developing that part of yourself Resources discussing the Mother-Child Dynamic (15:32) Previous podcast discussing development trauma in infants with Selma Bacevac (15:03) https://lourdesviado.com/118-why-infant-mental-health-matters/ Gabor Mate’s work regarding the impact of maternal trauma on infants in utero (15:43) https://drgabormate.com/ Healing the Mother Wound as a foundation for creating a new world (16:15) Our defenses around our pain (16:23) Projecting onto others, fearing connecting, pushing people away & sabotaging ourselves When our defenses become barriers to our thriving and potential (17:59) Understanding our Safety Algorithm as a coping mechanism (18:24) Understanding and filling the Mother Gaps (19:14) Definition of the Mother Gaps (19:22) Unconscious coping skills we’ve developed to fill those gaps (19:31) Filling the gap by building internal resilience (19:53) Gifts of Healing the Inner Mother (20:26) Leadership qualities, speaking truth, standing their ground, pursuing their dreams, expanded capacity for pleasure and good things Restructuring the brain (20:46) Comparing the inner child to the amygdala and the inner mother as the prefrontal cortex Building new connections and accessing new choices & possibilities The Mother Wound as a pattern of behavior we developed as children that is no longer serving us as adults and the response to a particular situation is an emotional memory (22:13) Learning to be with challenging emotions as part of Inner Mothering work (22:45) Simple steps to begin healing the Mother Wound (22:55) Connecting with your inner child (23:10) Concerns and fears of connecting with your inner child are normal (25:12) If you are feeling stuck or stumped, give yourself lots of empathy (25:57) Connecting with your inner child as a tool for getting through tough moments (26:19) Journaling exercises (26:30) What did you need as a child that you didn’t get enough of? (26:40) What’s one of my current challenges right now that’s repeating? (26:47) How is my inner child keeping me safe and holding me back? (27:20) Where is your Safety Algorithm? (28:30) What does your Inner Child need to feel safe? What are her biggest fears right now? (28:32) Advanced work for healing the Mother Wound (28:40) Morning ritual with your Inner Child (28:42) Morning greeting to your Inner Child (28:53) Morning affirmations to make your Inner Child feel supported and safe (29:37) Validate and differentiate (29:46) Validate the feelings of the Inner Child Differentiate between the past and the present moments (30:02) Evening ritual with your child, for parents and for those working with their inner children (31:28) What was good about your day? What was a struggle about your day? Reviewing your day (31:52) Affirming you are safe (31:54) Connecting with Bethany (32:50) Free ebook “What is the Mother Wound” https://ebook.bethanywebster.com/ (32:57) Bethany’s website: https://www.bethanywebster.com/ (33:03) Free Facebook Group: (33:18) “Discovering the Inner Mother: A Guide to Healing the Mother Wound and Claiming your Power,” coming out January 5th, 2021 and a pre-order bonus (33:23) Free & paid courses: https://www.bethanywebster.com/inner-mother-course/ (33:40) Upcoming Toolkit (34:14) How to Handle Family Gatherings and Stay True to Ourselves   Resources: Clarissa Pinkola Estes, “Warming the Stone Child” (14:07)             https://www.audible.com/pd/Warming-the-Stone-Child-Audiobook/B002V8KO8C             https://www.amazon.com/Warming-Stone-Child-audiobook/dp/B000EPRHJS   Related Podcasts: “Why Infant Mental Health Matters” with Selma Bacevac https://lourdesviado.com/118-why-infant-mental-health-matters/   Bethany Webster             https://www.bethanywebster.com/             https://ebook.bethanywebster.com/ (32:57)

“And He Healed Them!” Matthew 21:12-17“5/26/19”This Week’s Core Practice: Worship I worship God for who He is and what He has done for me.Psalm 95:1-7 Oh come, let us sing to the Lord; let us make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation! 2 Let us come into his presence with thanksgiving; let us make a joyful noise to him with songs of praise! 3 For the Lord is a great God and a great King above all gods. 4 In his hand are the depths of the earth; the heights of the mountains are his also. 5 The sea is his, for he made it, and his hands formed the dry land. 6 Oh come, let us worship and bow down; let us kneel before the Lord, our Maker! 7 For he is our God, and we are the people of his pasture, and the sheep of his hand.Scripture: Matthew 21:12-17And Jesus entered the temple and drove out all who sold and bought in the temple, and he overturned the tables of the money-changers and the seats of those who sold pigeons. 13 He said to them, “It is written, ‘My house shall be called a house of prayer,’ but you make it a den of robbers.” 14 And the blind and the lame came to him in the temple, and he healed them. 15 But when the chief priests and the scribes saw the wonderful things that he did, and the children crying out in the temple, “Hosanna to the Son of David!” they were indignant, 16 and they said to him, “Do you hear what these are saying?” And Jesus said to them, “Yes; have you never read, “ ‘Out of the mouth of infants and nursing babies you have prepared praise’?” 17 And leaving them, he went out of the city to Bethany and lodged there.The Message of this Passage:From the Ligonier Ministries: “Messianic expectations were at a fever pitch after Jesus came into Jerusalem on a donkey, and the next action He performed only added fuel to the fire. We will today look at our Lord’s cleansing of the temple and examine what it teaches us about Christ.Of Herod’s building projects, none were greater than the Jerusalem temple, which he expanded. It sat on what we now call the Temple Mount, an area of some thirty-five acres. Only priests could enter the temple itself, which took up a small part of the mount and was surrounded by three courts: Israelite men could enter the court closest to the temple. Israelite men and women could occupy the next court. But the Court of the Gentiles, which was the court farthest from the temple, was the closest any non-Jew could get to the sanctuary.From around the world, first-century Jews came to the temple at Passover to sacrifice to the Lord. It was impractical to bring sacrificial animals long distances; so, they were available in Jerusalem — for a price. Most Jews also paid the temple tax at Passover, and money-changers were there to convert Roman coinage into appropriate currency: pagan mottos on Roman money made it unacceptable for Yahweh’s house. Though not inherently evil, these practices became occasions for sin. Pilgrims paid exorbitant rates to change money, and sellers exploited those in poverty, overcharging for the poor man’s offering of pigeons and doves (Lev. 5:7). To make things worse, these merchants set up shop in the Court of the Gentiles, making it useless as a place of prayer due to the hustle and bustle the buying and selling created.Therefore Jesus drove out the sellers. These merchants, and the priests who allowed their presence, cared nothing for true worship as long as they could make money and keep up the rituals. Our Savior hated this sacrilege, which kept the nations from learning about the living God in His sanctuary.We cannot underestimate the importance of this act. It showed Jesus as having authority to purify and take charge of the temple, a messianic task that only put Him more at odds with the Sanhedrin.”For Personal Reflection and Discussion:What was Jesus’ point as He refers to Scripture? What had they gotten terribly wrong?Why didn’t Jesus heal the blind and lame before He cleared the temple?What does “Hosanna” mean? What does the name “Son of David” refer to? What were the children announcing as they shouted, “Hosanna to the Son of David?” Why were the priests and teachers of the law indignant?If you had been in the temple then, what do you think would have caused a bigger reaction: the healings, or the shouting children? What do you think the priests and teachers were thinking when they asked Jesus about the children?Why do you suppose Matthew ends the conversation so abruptly? What might Jesus have been thinking about as He went back to Bethany? What might the priests and teachers have been thinking? What does Jesus leave you thinking?What aspects of following Jesus have made you feel indignant and how will you ask God to transform that which is terribly wrong into something wonderfully right?How would you define true worship?How do we open ourselves to see the surprises of God?Our Lord had a habit of saying hard things to people and then leaving them. Here in verses 16 and 17 is another instance of that. Some of us in our difficult conversations trying to persuade people that Jesus is King tend to explain from our own reasoning and then badger them until they get it. What can we learn from the Lord's approach here?Does Jesus wielding a whip fit your image of Him? Why is it crucial to know Jesus as the Bible reveals Him, not necessarily as we might want Him to be?Jesus’ cleansing of the temple at the very least, illustrates how concerned He is with the purity of worship. Our corporate praise and prayer is something that is always in need of reformation. Consider the importance of pure worship from a devoted heart when you praise the Lord in private and corporate worship.

We're chatting with Bethany Grow about her transition from working as a freelance graphic designer to developing ice cream recipes in the hopes of one day opening her own ice cream shop. Join us as we talk about how to how to handle tricky creative transitions, why it's worth it to embrace trying new things, and how to find positivity on social media. Here's where you can find Bethany Website: http://www.bethanygrow.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/bethaneat Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/bethaneat Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/bethanygrow Don't forget to check out Bethany's foodie stationary on Etsy and her food and travel website, The Collaboreat! Here’s where you can find Ashley Website: www.BrooksEditorial.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/brookseditorial Instagram: http://instagram.com/brookseditorial Pinterest: http://pinterest.com/brookseditorial Here’s where you can find Abbigail Website: www.InkwellsandImages.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/abbigailekriebs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbigailekriebs/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/inkwellsandimages/ Resources We Mentioned Sloth app Day Designer Simplified Planner, weekly edition Get to Work Book Asana Evernote Ashley's blog post, "Books I Hate that Everyone Else Loves" Mini Book Club My Kitchen Year by Ruth Reichl Comfort Me with Apples by Ruth Reichl The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society by Annie Barrows and Mary Ann Shaffer Quotes from the Episode “Usually by the afternoon I get antsy to leave my desk, so that’s when I go make ice cream.” --- Bethany “It’s always good to have a system, especially if you’re working with other people and collaborating on different things.” --- Ashley “I think the biggest thing I’ve learned with collaborating with people, especially on the Collaboreat, is just to put myself out there, even if I feel super awkward about it.” --- Bethany “I’ve had to train myself to say who cares if they don’t respond, or say no, or don’t like me, or think I’m awkward. I’m going to ask anyway.” --- Bethany “I focus on the people who say yes and are really excited about it.” --- Bethany “A lot of amazing things have come from being brave and getting out there.” --- Bethany “Get over yourself and your fears and reach out. What’s the worst that could happen?” --- Bethany “If they’re not excited, you didn’t want to partner with them anyway.” --- Abbigail “During my girlboss designer stage, I really got overwhelmed with doing everything. I was trying to follow every piece of advice out there about how to win on social media on every platform. It just never felt right, and I was exhausted.” --- Bethany “I think I found a good balance where I can comfortably promote the things I’m doing and the things I really care about for those who actually care and want to know what I’m up to, as well as sharing my life moments.” --- Bethany “I’m being more mindful about who I follow and how I react to what people post.” --- Bethany “What is running your own business and being an entrepreneur all about if you hate what you do?” --- Abbigail “I love change and trying new things. This is just another one of those things I’m just enjoying learning about.” --- Bethany “We didn’t know how to start a podcast, but we knew how to Google how to start a podcast.” --- Abbigail “I think the biggest part of change that’s been hard for me is being able to tell people about it.” --- Bethany “When I’m going through stressful transitions, I always fall back on my favorite ‘comfort food,’ which is the books I love.” --- Abbigail

Out text this week is another spiritual conversation between Jesus and his friends. Only this time his friends are believers. It is not an evangelistic conversation but it is more like a discipleship conversation intended to help inform his friends' spiritual understanding. Mary and Martha are mentioned in Luke 10:38-42, however, this is the only time we hear of Lazarus in the Gospels. This encounter takes place shortly before the Crucifixion. It appears that during the passion week Jesus uses the home of his three friends as a base for his trips into Jerusalem. Our passage reveals a lot about Jesus. We see his humanity and his divinity in his interactions with his friends. John's Gospel uses this sign (miracle) as the last and greatest indicator of Jesus' divinity. While other signs pointed to his authority over nature, disease, sin, etc., this sign points to his authority over the greatest and most irresistible enemy of humankind; death. In going back to Judea, Jesus is moving into danger. The disciples don't want him to go back but Jesus sets his mind on God's purposes and chooses to follow through on the plan laid out for him. This miracle would be the last straw in his ongoing battle with the Pharisees. The adulation of the crowds shortly thereafter during the triumphant entry would set the stage for the Pharisees final showdown with Jesus. The text is rich in detail and provides many insights into how Jesus deals with his friends who are in crises. The narrator helps us see the humanity of Jesus, the frailty of the human condition, the depths of his friendships, and of course his divinity as it climaxes with the shout at the tomb: "Lazarus, come out!" Even believers need friends who will enter into spiritual conversations with them. This is not just something we need to practice with our "lost" neighbours. Our dependence on the Spirit's promptings, our concern for authenticity and our willingness to build bridges must apply to conversations both within and without the community of faith. Questions for Discussion: 1. Slide 2-3. Why does Jesus delay his trip to Bethany? What does Thomas say that surprises you, given our usual opinion of him? 2. Slide 14-17. Why do our expectations of Jesus sometimes let us down? Why are we sometimes so inaccurate in our predictions of how he will act? How do we react and why? What is the difference between trusting in his character and trusting in his affirmative responses to our prayers? 3. Slide 18-19. When Jesus wept, what do we learn about him? How does this help us in our crises? 4. Slide 20. Discuss the order of the miracle and its significance in understanding discipleship or spiritual formation. There are three actors in the last scene: Jesus, Lazarus, and the crowd. Who is responsible for each part of the event? How might this inform our understanding of conversion?

Out text this week is another spiritual conversation between Jesus and his friends. Only this time his friends are believers. It is not an evangelistic conversation but it is more like a discipleship conversation intended to help inform his friends' spiritual understanding. Mary and Martha are mentioned in Luke 10:38-42, however, this is the only time we hear of Lazarus in the Gospels. This encounter takes place shortly before the Crucifixion. It appears that during the passion week Jesus uses the home of his three friends as a base for his trips into Jerusalem. Our passage reveals a lot about Jesus. We see his humanity and his divinity in his interactions with his friends. John's Gospel uses this sign (miracle) as the last and greatest indicator of Jesus' divinity. While other signs pointed to his authority over nature, disease, sin, etc., this sign points to his authority over the greatest and most irresistible enemy of humankind; death. In going back to Judea, Jesus is moving into danger. The disciples don't want him to go back but Jesus sets his mind on God's purposes and chooses to follow through on the plan laid out for him. This miracle would be the last straw in his ongoing battle with the Pharisees. The adulation of the crowds shortly thereafter during the triumphant entry would set the stage for the Pharisees final showdown with Jesus. The text is rich in detail and provides many insights into how Jesus deals with his friends who are in crises. The narrator helps us see the humanity of Jesus, the frailty of the human condition, the depths of his friendships, and of course his divinity as it climaxes with the shout at the tomb: "Lazarus, come out!" Even believers need friends who will enter into spiritual conversations with them. This is not just something we need to practice with our "lost" neighbours. Our dependence on the Spirit's promptings, our concern for authenticity and our willingness to build bridges must apply to conversations both within and without the community of faith. Questions for Discussion: 1. Slide 2-3. Why does Jesus delay his trip to Bethany? What does Thomas say that surprises you, given our usual opinion of him? 2. Slide 14-17. Why do our expectations of Jesus sometimes let us down? Why are we sometimes so inaccurate in our predictions of how he will act? How do we react and why? What is the difference between trusting in his character and trusting in his affirmative responses to our prayers? 3. Slide 18-19. When Jesus wept, what do we learn about him? How does this help us in our crises? 4. Slide 20. Discuss the order of the miracle and its significance in understanding discipleship or spiritual formation. There are three actors in the last scene: Jesus, Lazarus, and the crowd. Who is responsible for each part of the event? How might this inform our understanding of conversion?