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When my son Enzo was using fentanyl and Xanax and blowing up every structure I tried to build around him, I kept asking the wrong question. What I wasn't asking was what was happening inside him that he couldn't put words to. He was a teenager with an unmedicated ADHD brain, getting more reinforcement and belonging from the drug world than anywhere else in his life, and he had no way to tell me that.Enzo is back on the podcast today with something specific: the things kids who are actively struggling can't necessarily say but really wish their parents understood. When I asked what he would have wanted me to know back then, Enzo told me about a kid he recently mentored who, when asked the same question, said the only thing he wanted his parents to know was, “I'm trying.” And Enzo realized that was exactly it. Not that the drugs were working. Not that his choices were okay. Just that from inside his brain, he was doing something that felt like trying.Enzo is now the founder of Life Strategies Mentors, a mentoring program for young men navigating recovery and reintegration. He's in his late-twenties, expanding his team, building a life that not long ago did not seem survivable.This conversation covers a lot of ground, from the fish love parable that reframed how I think about parental expectations, to what ADHD does to the brain's relationship with substances, to why kids sometimes listen to a near-stranger before they will listen to their own parents. That last one is not a failure of the relationship. It is biology. Knowing that changes something.If you have been watching your kid and thinking they are not even trying, this one is for you.YOU'LL LEARN:The fish love parable, and the question it forces you to ask about your own parentingWhy “I'm trying” is the one thing a struggling kid most wishes their parents could hearWhat ADHD actually does to the brain's relationship with substances, and why warnings don't landThe biology behind why kids listen to mentors before they listen to parentsThe one skill Enzo says made the biggest difference when he was finally ready to changeEPISODE RESOURCES:Life Strategies Mentors websiteFish Love story on YouTubeEnzo on Hopestream podcast episodes #251 and #185ADHD Resources:Dr. Gabor Mate's book, “Scattered Minds”Dr. Russell Barkley on YouTubeDr. Ned Hallowell on Hopestream episode 99 (ADHD as a Superpower)This podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream CommunityLearn about The Stream, our private online community for momsFind us on Instagram hereWatch the podcast on YouTube hereDownload a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and AlcoholHopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.

Acting as a ‘gentle' introduction to what will be a very challenging upcoming series of episodes, Antony offers some observations and questions on a sprawling range of topics, mostly focused on the harsh realities of this glorious world we inhabit.   How much do we want to know about what really goes on in our name, and what we inadvertently or actively support? What do, or should, we feel about the massive inequalities of power and resources that exist, and the exploitation of powerless humans and even more powerless animals?   This is a fairly ‘safe' episode but the next ones could be extremely emotive and distressing to some. It must be stressed right off the bat that there is no guilt-tripping in this episode or the subsequent ones   We hope you find this of interest   Feedback to lifeandlifeonlypod@gmail.com   Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/lifeandlife75   Twitter https://twitter.com/lifeonly75   Support the show at: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/antonyrotunno OR https://www.buymeacoffee.com/antonyrotunno   Antony's website (blog, music, podcasts, life coaching)  https://www.antonyrotunno.com   Antony's John Lennon podcast https://glassoniononjohnlennon.com   If you are interested in very affordable Life Coaching, or know someone who might be, you can contact Antony on lifeandlifeonlypod@gmail.com   episode links Global wealth distribution https://www.visualcapitalist.com/the-global-distribution-of-wealth-shown-in-one-pyramid/   Cultural reinforcement explained https://lifestyle.sustainability-directory.com/term/cultural-reinforcement/   Normalising the abnormal https://www.bbc.co.uk/future/article/20240314-how-the-abnormal-gets-normalised-and-what-to-do-about-it   Brainwashing through television https://www.psychmechanics.com/how-tv-influences-your-mind-through/   Happy Egg Co, advert (this is so far from the truth you wouldn't believe it) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=20B-4TYEajE   John Pilger- War By Other Means https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eoPksGjLb7Y   Dutch historian offers truth bombs at Davos https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=paaen3b44XY&t=160s   Gabor Mate's ‘The Myth of Normal' https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58537332-the-myth-of-normal   ‘The Corporation' (seminal documentary) https://thecorporation.com/   Douglas Valentine on this podcast (2021) https://lifeandlifeonly.podbean.com/e/episode-14-vietnam-the-cia-and-the-propaganda-war-with-douglas-valentine/   Chris Ryan's ‘Tangentially Speaking' podcast https://chrisryan.substack.com/podcast

Daniel Mate is a musician, playwright, author, and podcaster. He recently co-authored a book with his father, Dr. Gabor Mate, and he's the co-host of the Bad Hasbara podcast.

Send us Fan MailYou have seen the ads. Cartoon children doing brain activation exercises. A nervous system regulation program that promises to turn your dysregulated, tantrum-throwing child into a calm cooperative little human.In this episode of the Zen Supermom podcast, Alena explains why buying a nervous system regulation course for your kids will not solve the problem. And why that is actually good news.Because the real issue is not your child's nervous system. It is yours. And rewiring that changes everything.What you will learn in this episode:Why nervous system regulation courses for kids are like putting a bandaid on a broken armHow your nervous system is the WiFi your kids are permanently connected to, and why no app works on a spotty signalWhat parenting as leadership actually means in practiceThe long term damage that happens when children are made responsible for their parent's emotional regulationWhat healthy anger expression looks like for both you and your kids, and why suppressed anger causes physical diseaseA live nervous system regulation exercise you can do right now, anywhere, without anyone noticingWhy you do not need years of therapy to rewire this and how quickly real change can happenThis episode is for the mom who has been trying everything for her kids and has not yet been told to start with herself. You are not the problem. But you are the solution.Next step: join Alena live in the free Mommy Tantrum Masterclass: https://zensupermom.easywebinar.live/mommy-tantrum-masterclassFree Mommy Tantrum Masterclass: https://zensupermom.easywebinar.live/mommy-tantrum-masterclass Website: alenagomesrodrigues.com Instagram: @alenagomesrodrigues Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/ZenSupermom Book — I Yelled I Cried I Healed: https://www.amazon.com/Yelled-Cried-Healed-Supermom-Tantrums-ebook/dp/B0FNS4QRNCTopics: nervous system regulation for kids, mom nervous system, parenting is leadership, mommy tantrum, emotional regulation, calm parenting, generational trauma, Dr Gabor Mate, childhood patterns, stop yelling at kids, zen supermom podcast.Support the showHi, I'm Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don't want.My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.

The renowned physician discusses the role of trauma in our lives, showing up as addiction, chronic disease and mental illness, and how recognising his own led to true healing. (R)Dr Gabor Maté was born in Budapest to a Jewish family, just before Nazi tanks rolled into the city.His mother risked handing him to a stranger on the street to try and get him to safety.Many years later, after establishing himself as a successful physician in Canada, Gabor looked at the problems in his work and marriage and wondered if they were linked to that early trauma.He uses his own experiences as a test case for the effects of trauma on the body and the body-mind connection. Dr Mate is internationally renowned for his ideas around the lifelong impact of trauma.He believes it is contributing factor to rates of addiction, chronic disease, and mental illness, as well as ADHD.His views are sometimes described as unorthodox by his critics, but Dr Mate argues that understanding trauma of all kinds allows for real healing, as has happened in his own life.Further InformationThe Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture by Dr Gabor Maté with Daniel Maté is published by Penguin Random House.This episode of Conversations was first broadcast in 2025

LISTEN WITHOUT ADS ON PATREON: www.patron.com/dopeypodcast  Summary Dave opens Dopey Greatest Hits with an AI Dopey song from Josh Clark, updates the chaos around Katz's, Action Bronson, Paul Wall, the Divided Sky festival, Susan's birthday, and the Dopey short film festival. A listener voicemail tells a wild guru story involving opium, coke, mushrooms, MDMA, hot springs, and pee drinking. Dave reads Patreon and Spotify comments from the Gilbert Trejo replay before playing the Gabor Maté episode. In the Gabor Maté interview, Dave and Dr. Maté talk addiction, trauma, shame, ADD, dopamine, recovery, psychedelics, ayahuasca, the “stupid friend,” food addiction, and why addiction is not the primary problem but an attempt to soothe pain. Dr. Maté explains that recovery means getting yourself back. PLUS MORE< MORE, MORE!   Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Send us Fan Mail"I'm the strong one." You've said it about yourself. You're the strong friend everyone leans on. Somewhere along the way, you forgot there was ever anyone underneath.This episode is for the woman who has been praised for her resilience her entire life, and who is starting to suspect that what she's been doing was never resilience at all. It was endurance. Pushing through without processing. Absorbing without recovering. And while she was being admired for it, something inside her went quiet. The world calls this burnout. She calls it disappearing.Dr. Amen Kaur names the difference between resilience and endurance, and explains why high-achieving women are culturally conditioned to confuse the two. You'll hear what the neuroscience says about how chronic endurance reshapes your nervous system over decades. Drawing on research from Porges, Gabor Mate, and the Mount Sinai resilience studies, the episode explains why rest doesn't help and why willpower stopped working. The spark didn't leave. You cut it off. Because the identity of the strong one required you to.What's the difference between resilience and endurance? One restores your nervous system. The other quietly costs you it.If you've been called resilient your whole life and you're now exhausted in a way rest doesn't touch, this one is for you.Free masterclass: amenkaur.com/masterclassStarting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD. A research-grounded podcast for high-achieving women who have done the work and are still stuck. Built on the Human Intelligence Framework and the Five Intelligences. Return, not reinvention. New episode every Wednesday.Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence FrameworkA walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclassAbout Dr Amen KaurStarting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.Learn more at amenkaur.com/aboutStay CloseInstagram: @dramenkaurTikTok: @dramenkaurYouTube: @dramenkaurDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

Reframing Anxiety and Emotions: A Deep Dive into Nervous System RegulationIn this episode, Ali Damron explores the human experience of emotions, anxiety, and nervous system regulation, emphasizing a compassionate and normalized approach to mental and emotional health. Discover how understanding your body's signals can lead to better self-awareness and health. Main Topics Covered: The importance of normalizing human emotions and experiences How anxiety and stress are your body's communication tools The role of cognitive distortions and how to identify them Differentiating between thoughts from the anxious vs. wise brain Somatic tracking and other methods to process emotions The connection between repressed anger and chronic physical conditions Practical strategies for emotional regulation and nervous system safety The impact of societal narratives on mental health diagnoses In this episode: Ali discusses the misconception that emotions like anxiety are pathology, highlighting they are normal human signals. She shares insights on how to recognize and validate feelings rather than suppress them. An exploration of cognitive distortions such as catastrophizing and mind reading, with tips to identify and reframe them. Practical tools like feelingswheel.com and somatic tracking for emotional awareness. The link between unprocessed anger, autoimmune diseases, and chronic pain, referencing Dr. Gabor Mate. Emphasizes that a regulated nervous system involves acceptance of highs and lows, not constant calmness. Ali advocates for deeper work to address root causes of stress and emotional dysregulation for lasting health.   Timestamps: 00:00 - Understanding the deeper function of emotions and nervous system signals 01:23 - Surface symptoms and the journey towards nervous system regulation 02:48 - Asking about life to identify hidden stressors 04:35 - The societal narrative around fixing mental health issues 05:42 - Emotions as communication: betrayal, jealousy, sadness, and more 06:42 - Using emotion vocabulary tools like feelingswheel.com 08:33 - Curiosity and self-compassion as keys to emotional resilience 09:57 - Normalizing anxiety and the impact of diagnostic labels 11:18 - Addressing societal pressure to fix or pathologize human struggles 12:46 - The loneliness of emotional suppression and curated vulnerability 13:11 - Thoughts, sensations, and the importance of accepting your current experience 14:08 - Differentiating between thoughts from the anxious vs. wise brain 15:54 - Cognitive distortions: catastrophizing, mind-reading, magical thinking 16:51 - The evolutionary need to belong and its influence on emotional perception 18:06 - Strategies for rewiring anxiety and managing triggers 19:31 - Disengaging from anxious thoughts and feeling emotions physically 21:10 - Processing emotions without pressure or needing to fix them instantly 22:35 - Somatic tracking for emotional regulation and pain management 24:52 - Active strategies to release anger healthily 27:14 - Recognizing and owning anger without shame 31:06 - The nervous system's constant danger scan and creating safety 32:33 - Misconceptions about emotional balance and the reality of regulation 34:23 - The importance of self-acceptance and deeper emotional work Resources & Links: Feelings Wheel Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown Gabor Maté's Work on Emotions & Chronic Disease   This episode encourages a compassionate perspective on emotional health, emphasizing that understanding and accepting our human experience can lead to profound healing and vitality. Ali's Resources:  Consults with Ali  BIOptimizers Magnesium Breakthrough 10% off using code ALIDAMRON10 www.alidamron.com/magnesium Master Your Perimenopause Course + Toolkit "Am I in Perimenopause?" Checklist.  What Hormone is Imbalanced? Quiz! Fullscript (Get 10% off all supplements) "How To Balance Your Hormones For Better Sleep, Mood, Periods and Energy" Free, On Demand Training Website  Ali's Instagram Ali's Facebook Group: Holistic Health with Ali Damron 

Follow Christian Van Linda Here: YouTube: @Hype-r-vigilance Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hype.r.vigilance Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586586299466 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@smokingandthinking6 Follow Falcon Here: YouTube: @yyzfalcon TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@yyzfalcon The two men explore how social media amplifies psychological warfare, flooding the nervous system with daily outrage designed to distract from the deeper forces reshaping American power, from the surveillance state to the Heritage Foundation to Palantir. The conversation moves into the roots of racism as an unconscious cultural conditioning rather than simple bigotry, drawing on the work of Lee Atwater and the psychological destabilization many white Americans experienced seeing Barack Obama in power. Both men open up about their own narcissistic parents, the invisible trauma of what doesn't happen in childhood, and how shame functions as the engine driving so much dysfunction, from MAGA politics to family estrangement. Hype.R.Vigilence shares his personal story of undiagnosed autism, addiction, a house fire at sixteen, a secret brother, and a restraining order against his own father, tracing how unprocessed feelings spiral into crisis when there is no safe space to feel them. The two dig into IFS and parts work, the pathologizing of human experience under capitalism, and why mental injuries, not mental illness, is the more honest and useful frame. They challenge the destination-based fantasy of healing, arguing that healing and living are the same process. The discussion closes on community, men's work, somatic healing, holding space, the power of being witnessed, and what it means to find genuine pride as a child of a narcissist. SUPPORT & CONNECT WITH HAWK- Support on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/mdg650hawk - Hawk's Merch Store: https://hawkmerchstore.com - Connect on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mdg650hawk7thacct - Connect on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hawkeyewhackamole - Connect on BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/mdg650hawk.bsky.social - Connect on Substack: https://mdg650hawk.substack.com - Connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hawkpodcasts - Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mdg650hawk - Connect on Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/mdg650hawk ALL HAWK PODCASTS INFO- Additional Content Available Here: https://www.hawkpodcasts.comhttps://www.youtube.com/@hawkpodcasts- Listen to Hawk Podcasts On Your Favorite Platform:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3RWeJfyApple Podcasts: https://apple.co/422GDuLYouTube: https://youtube.com/@hawkpodcastsiHeartRadio: https://ihr.fm/47vVBdPPandora: https://bit.ly/48COaTB

A Better Alternative to High School. “Is there a better way?” Is high school truly preparing our kids for the real world—or quietly holding them back? In this episode, I share real conversations with teens, historical insights, and a bold alternative to the modern high school model. From rising illiteracy to peer-driven identity and wasted years, we unpack what's broken—and what parents can do instead. If you've ever wondered, “Is there a better way?” AI-generated video summary-  This discussion examines the history and impact of the modern high school system on adolescent development and academic preparation. Alternative pathways, such as apprenticeships and real-world skill building, are explored as methods to foster independence and maturity in teenagers.   Watch this video at- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4OBAKZ8c5o School to Homeschool 34.2K subscribers 24,197 views Apr 14, 2026 School to Homeschool Podcast Referenced in the Episode: Attachment Episode: Lost your child's heart? Let's get them back—(Ep 109)     • Lost your child's heart? Let's get them ba...   ~Hold on to Your Kids by Drs. Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate: https://amzn.to/4tabke9 ~The Preparation by Doug Casey, Matt & Maxim Smith: https://amzn.to/3Q5UQW0 ~Episode on Attachment: Reclaiming the Hearts of Your Kids:     • Lost your child's heart? Let's get them ba...   SCHOOL TO HOMESCHOOL RESOURCES: ~New to Homeschooling? Start HERE:     • HOMESCHOOLING 101: Part 1: STATE LAWS--5 P...   ~Check Out My Links: https://linktr.ee/janaedaniels ~Sign Up for the School to Homeschool Newsletter: https://schooltohomeschool.com/signup... ~Instagram:    / schooltohomeschoolpodcast   ~Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?... ~Website: https://schooltohomeschool.com/ ~Contact Janae: janae@schooltohomeschool.com

Il respectful parenting funziona anche con un bambino ADHD?Che tuo figlio abbia ricevuto una diagnosi o che la sospetti, i genitori potrebbero interrogarsi sulla linea educativa più appropriata.Quando tuo figlio non collabora, si oppone, esplode o sembra incapace di gestire attenzione ed emozioni, è facile pensare che serva essere più severi, più rigidi, più “fermi”.In questo episodio parliamo di ADHD, oltre la diagnosi e le etichette.Vediamo il ruolo della dopamina, dell'ambiente e delle relazioni, perché alcuni comportamenti non sono capricci ma risposte neurologiche, e come migliorare il contesto può fare una differenza enorme.Ma soprattutto, spostiamo il focus: dal bambino come problema alle condizioni che lo aiutano davvero a funzionare meglio.In questo episodio troverai:– cosa dicono i massimi esperti di ADHD– ADHD e funzioni esecutive– dopamina, schermi e attenzione– stile di vita e sistema nervoso– crisi emotive e regolazione– il ruolo del genitore nella relazione quotidianaSe vuoi approfondire il lavoro su di te e allenare davvero la tua maturità emotiva per supportare tuo figlio, trovi tutte le informazioni sulla mia membership qui: https://corsi.mammasuperhero.com/msh-membershipLascia una recensione e condividiSe il podcast Mamma Superhero ti aiuta, ti fa sentire meno sola e ti fa compagnia nella relazione con tuo figlio, ti chiedo di lasciare una recensione e di condividerlo con altri genitori. Questo aiuta il podcast a crescere e mi motiva a continuare a offrire questo servizio gratuito a supporto della genitorialità consapevole. Seguimi sui socialInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mammasuperhero/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mammasuperhero Fonti e approfondimenti:https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2958516https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2894421https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10121169Scattered Minds, di Gabor Mate, https://amzn.to/4skDZMoHealing ADD, di Daniel Amen, https://amzn.to/41lpb5m Questo episodio ha scopo divulgativo e non sostituisce una valutazione clinica.

What happens when three family physicians sit down and get honest about what's missing in the care we provide? In this conversation, I'm joined by Dr. Rachel Weiner and Dr. Sophia Malik to explore why so many of our patients are carrying unprocessed trauma in their bodies — and why most of us were never given the tools to address it. We talk about Somatic Experiencing® (SE™), Compassionate Inquiry®, the nervous system, and what it actually looks like to bring body-based awareness into a 15-minute primary care visit. We also get personal about our own journeys with embodiment, dissociation, therapy, and the uncomfortable question of why we became physicians in the first place. This conversation is for any clinician who has ever sat with a patient and felt like something deeper was going on, but didn't know what to do next. Resources mentioned: Somatic Experiencing® (SE™) -https://traumahealing.org/ -https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/ Compassionate Inquiry® (CI) -https://compassionateinquiry.com/en/ -https://drgabormate.com/ The Wheel of Consent® -https://www.schoolofconsent.org/https://www.wheelofconsent.org/thebook Books -The Anticipatory Corpse: https://undpress.nd.edu/9780268022273... -Writings for a Liberation Psychology: https://www.hup.harvard.edu/books/978... -Fatal Invention: https://thenewpress.org/books/fatal-i... -Nurturing Resilience: https://www.northatlanticbooks.com/sh... -The Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/bo... -Healing Trauma by Peter Levine: https://us.macmillan.com/books/978159... -My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem: https://centralrecoverypress.com/prod... Connect: -Healthcare for Humans podcast: https://www.healthcareforhumans.org/

Coronavirüs değerlendirmeleri- Dr. Gabor Mate ve Gündüz Vassaf 00:35 - Travma Ve Pandemi 02:06 - Travmanın Beyindeki Etkileri 05:36 - Kronik Korkular Ve Kör Noktalar 12:16 - Kontrolsüzlük Ve Anda Kalmak 14:45 - Bağımlılık Ve Toplumsal Kopukluk 21:18 - Gündüz Vassaf'tan Toplum Yorumu 24:19 - Doğu Ve Batı Farkı 27:45 - Aileyle Yeniden Yakınlaşmak 31:21 - Meditasyon Pratiği Bu bölümde Zeynep Aksoy, Dr. Gabor Maté ve Russell Brand söyleşisinden yola çıkarak pandeminin insanlarda neden bu kadar farklı tepkiler yarattığını anlatıyor; özellikle çocukluk travmalarının korku, donma ve kopukluk tepkilerini nasıl güçlendirdiğini vurguluyor. Ardından psikolog Gündüz Vassaf'ın yorumları üzerinden Doğu-Batı farkına, toplumsal sorumluluğa, şeffaflığa ve aile içinde yeniden bağ kurma ihtimaline değiniyor. Bölümün sonunda da bütün bu stres ve belirsizlik içinde daha sağlıklı karar verebilmek için mindfulness meditasyonuna geçiyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

In this episode, Niall speaks with Professor Marc Lewis and Cece Sykes about addiction, Internal Family Systems therapy, and the neuroscience of behavioural change. Professor Lewis is a neuroscientist and professor emeritus at the University of Toronto, specialising in developmental psychology and addiction. He is the author of “Memoirs of an Addicted Brain” and “The Biology of Desire”. Cece is a clinical psychologist with over four decades of experience supporting trauma survivors and people with addiction. She is the author of “Internal Family Systems Therapy for Addictions”. In this discussion, they explore: — Why addiction is best seen as an adaptive response to emotional difficulty rather than a disease — How the polarization between critical and escape-seeking parts maintains addictive patterns — The neuroscience behind why parts emerge in specific moments and contexts — Why bringing compassion, rather than judgment, to addictive behaviours creates the conditions for change — How Internal Family Systems therapy helps people access their capacity for self-regulation And more. You can learn more about Professor Lewis at https://memoirsofanaddictedbrain.com and Cece at https://www.cecesykeslcsw.com. --- Prof Marc Lewis, PhD is a neuroscientist, professor, bestselling author, and one of the world's leading experts on the neuroscience of addiction. In his academic work, he has authored or co-authored more than fifty journal articles, and for many years was a professor of developmental psychology at the University of Toronto and then Radboud University (Netherlands) before retiring. For the last decade, he has focused on making his work more accessible to a wider audience through books for lay readers, pop science articles, public talks, and interviews. He is the author of two bestselling books on addiction: “Memoirs of an Addicted Brain” and “The Biology of Desire”, a book which Dr Gabor Mate argues “effectively refutes the disease model of addiction.” He is currently practicing psychotherapy as a clinical psychologist in Toronto, working with clients with addictive problems and other difficulties. --- Cece Sykes, LCSW, ACSW; IFS Senior Trainer, US and international. Contributed to Levels 1 and 2 IFS training manuals and teaches L1 as well as L2 Trauma and Addiction. Cece has over thirty years of clinical experience working with individuals, couples and families, specializing in work with the effects of trauma and addiction. Her chapter on compassionate approaches to addictive process appears in IFS: Innovations and Elaborations, 2016, Routledge. Cece also has special interests in spiritual practices intersecting with therapy and in the impact of psychotherapy upon the life of the therapist and she lectures, consults and leads workshops on all of these topics. Cece lives and works in the city of Chicago. --- Interview Links: Interview Links: — Professor Lewis' website: https://memoirsofanaddictedbrain.com — Professor Lewis' books: https://amzn.to/4rIga10 — Cece's website: https://www.cecesykeslcsw.com — Cece's book: https://amzn.to/4btvzfm

Gabor Mate is a Hungarian born Canadian physician and author known for popular books linking trauma and stress to addiction and chronic illness. We chat about intergenerational trauma, capitalism and breathing Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Gabor Mate SON 01:00 – Çocuklukta bağlanma ve otomatik bastırma 04:00 – Yetişkinlikte devam eden kalıplar09:00 – Dışarıdan bakış ve mükemmel olma çabası 13:00 – Stres ve duygusal yalnızlık 16:00 – Bedenin “hayır” dediği yerler 18:00 – Sağlıklı öfke ve sınırlar24:00 – Korkan taraflara alan açmak32:00 – “Hayır dersem değer kaybederim” inancı 35:00 – Yazma ve farkındalık egzersizi 39:00 – Alternatif bakış açıları 42:00 – Zihin, dünya ve değişim 45:00 – Meditasyon: mindfulness pratiği Bu bölümde Zeynep Aksoy, Gabor Maté'nin konuşmasını toparlayarak çocuklukta öğrenilen bağlanma uğruna kendini bastırma kalıplarının yetişkinlikte nasıl hastalığa, sınır problemlerine ve duygusal yalnızlığa dönüştüğünü ele alıyor. “Bedenin neye hayır diyor?” sorusu üzerinden, bastırılan öfke, söylenemeyen hayırlar ve ertelenen evetlerin bedensel karşılıkları inceleniyor. Bölüm, otomatik inançları fark etmeyi ve alternatif bakış açıları geliştirmeyi destekleyen bir mindfulness meditasyonuyla kapanıyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Dr. Gabor Mate 00:13 – Sosyal yapıların psikoloji üzerindeki etkisi 02:21 – Mağduriyet, adaletsizlik ve sosyal baskı 05:30 – Hapishanelerde meditasyon ve içsel dönüşüm 07:45 – Meditasyonun şifa ve bakış açısı üzerindeki etkisi 09:54 – Aydınlanma anları ve spiritüel deneyimler 12:37 – Anda kalmak ve gerçeği araştırmak 15:27 – Spiritüel öğretmenlik ve evrensel sorular 17:54 – 5 aşamalı nefes farkındalığı meditasyonu Bu bölümde Zeynep Aksoy, psikolojimizin sadece bireysel değil, sosyal ve kültürel koşullarla da şekillendiğini ele alıyor. Gabor Maté'nin yaklaşımıyla, mağduriyetin kişisel bir duygu olmanın ötesinde, toplumsal adaletsizliklerle nasıl bağlantılı olduğunu anlatıyor. Hapishanelerde uygulanan meditasyon örnekleri üzerinden, dış koşullar değişmese bile içsel dönüşümün mümkün olabileceğini vurguluyor. Aydınlanmanın tek bir büyük an değil, geçmişten gelen otomatik tepkileri fark edip anda kalabilme becerisi olduğunu hatırlatıyor. Bölüm, bu anlayışı deneyimlemek için yapılan 5 aşamalı nefes farkındalığı meditasyonu ile sona eriyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Dr. Gabor Mate 00:08 – Spiritüel öğretmenler, bütünlük ve tamamlanmamışlık 03:26 – Guru figürünü idealleştirmeden yaklaşmak 07:36 – Ebeveynlerden gelen bilinçaltı programlama 10:59 – Kişilik, geçmiş ve farkındalık anları 14:10 – Anda olmak: geçmişten otomatik tepkinin çözülmesi 16:14 – Dan Siegel ve farkındalık çarkının mantığı 16:54 – Farkındalık çarkı meditasyonu (uygulama) Bu bölümde Zeynep Aksoy, Gabor Maté'nin bakış açısından spiritüel öğretmenlik, bütünlük ve tamamlanmamışlık temasını ele alıyor. Spiritüel deneyimlerin, hayatın her alanında tamamlanmışlık anlamına gelmediğini; yargılamak ya da idealize etmek yerine farkındalıkla bakmanın önemini vurguluyor. Bölüm, bilinçaltı programların nasıl oluştuğunu ve farkındalıkla nasıl çözülmeye başlayabileceğini anlatıyor; Dan Siegel'in farkındalık çarkı meditasyonuyla, bedeni, zihni ve dikkati bu ana davet ederek kapanıyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Dr. Gabor Mate 00:08 – Giriş ve güncel taciz haberi 00:42 – Guru–öğrenci ilişkisinde güç ve suistimal 02:09 – Bağımlılık nedir? Koşu örneği 03:19 – Guru ve öğrencide karşılıklı bağımlılık 05:10 – Rishi örneği ve mağduru suçlama kültürü 09:01 – Spiritüel yükseklik ve içsel boşluk paradoksu 10:45 – Güç arttıkça egonun kör noktaları 13:42 – Üç farklı spiritüel hoca profili 14:28 – 5 aşamalı nefes farkındalığı meditasyonu Zeynep Aksoy, spiritüel alanlarda sıkça karşılaştığımız guru–öğrenci ilişkilerinde ortaya çıkan güç, bağımlılık ve suistimal meselelerini Gabor Maté'nin perspektifiyle ele alıyor. Güncel bir taciz haberi üzerinden, spiritüel liderlerin nasıl aynı anda hem “yüksek” deneyimler yaşayıp hem de fark edilmemiş boşluklarını başkaları üzerinden doldurabildiklerini tartışıyor. Bağımlılığın yalnızca maddelerle değil; güç, hayranlık, ilgi ve “özel olma” hissiyle de kurulabileceğini vurguluyor. Bölüm, spiritüelliğin etik, farkındalık ve sorumluluk olmadan kolayca istismara dönüşebileceğini hatırlatırken; farkındalık temelli meditasyonun bu kör noktaları görme ve bütünleşme için neden önemli olduğuna bağlanarak, beş aşamalı nefes farkındalığı meditasyonuyla devam ediyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Dr. Gabor Mate ve Bölünmüş Benlik 00:00 – Gerçeği arama dürtüsü 00:20 – Bağımlılığın kökü: kopuş 07:12 – Bağımlılık mı, ritüel mi 07:36 – Kültür, şehir ve çocukluk 10:25 – Travmanın aktarımı 12:56 – Şifa ve bütünlük 16:28 – Bölünmüş benlik 18:32 – Farkındalık tekerleği 22:36 – Meditasyon Bu bölümünde Zeynep Aksoy, Gabor Maté'nin “gerçeği arama dürtüsü” fikrinden yola çıkarıp bağımlılığa başka bir yerden bakıyor: Bağımlılık modern bir “ahlak sorunu” değil, çoğu zaman kopuşun (kendinden, topluluktan, köklerden) bir sonucu. Eski toplumlarda alkol ya da bazı maddelerin var olmasına rağmen yaygın bağımlılık görülmemesini; kullanımın ritüel/seremoni içinde, yani “bağ kurmak” amacıyla yapılmasına bağlıyor. Modern hayatta ise hızlı kültürel değişim, şehirleşme ve aidiyet kaybı bu kopuşu büyütüyor. Bölüm, çocuklukta “doğal enerjinin” törpülenmesini ve nesiller arası travma aktarımını da bu çerçeveye ekleyerek “şifalanma”yı bütünleşme olarak tarif ediyor. Ardından Ronald David Laing'in “bölünmüş benliğin bütünleşmesi” fikrine değinip, Dan Siegel'in Farkındalık Tekerleği ile meditasyon pratiğine geçerek bölümü bedene ve ana dönme davetiyle kapatıyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Spiritüel Bypass - Gabor Mate yorumu 00:08 – Giriş ve bir tartışma 00:25 – Spiritüelliğin hafife alınışı 02:30 – Arayış ve eksiklik 04:43 – Gerçek mi, kesinlik mi 07:30 – Spiritüel bypass 10:33 – Duyguyu görmemek 12:46 – Spiritüel olmak ne demek 15:29 – Çok seviyeli çalışma 18:05 – Mindfulness Meditasyon Pratiği Zeynep Aksoy bu bölümde, spiritüel arayışın ne zaman derinleştirici, ne zaman kaçışa dönüşebileceğini sorguluyor. Gabor Maté'nin yorumları üzerinden “arayış”, “kesinlik ihtiyacı” ve spiritüel bypass kavramlarını ele alırken; duygularla temas kurmamanın bedende ve hayatta nasıl sonuçlar yarattığını konuşuyor. Spiritüelliğin öfke, kırılganlık ve rahatsız edici gerçekleri dışlamak değil; onlarla temas edebilmek anlamına geldiğini hatırlatan bölüm, çok katmanlı bir çalışmanın önemine işaret ediyor ve mindfulness meditasyonu ile devam ediyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Dr. Gabor Mate Bağımlılık - 9 0:08 – Hastalık ve kişilik 0:36 – Hayır diyememek 1:19 – ALS ve dayanma hali 2:28 – Ortak paternler 8:37 – Terk edilme izi 11:08 – Kişilik ve özbenlik 17:23 – Bağ ve sağlık 22:18 – Meditasyon - Farkındalık Çarkı Zeynep Aksoy bu bölümde, Gabor Maté'nin “hastalığın bir kişilik izi olduğu” yaklaşımını ele alıyor. Yardım istemeyi öğrenemeyen, sürekli güçlü ve pozitif kalmaya çalışan kişilik yapılarının bedende nasıl hastalık olarak karşılık bulduğunu; ALS, ünlü örnekler ve çocukluk deneyimleri üzerinden inceliyor. Kişiliğin gerçek benlik olmadığını, birçok özelliğin çocuklukta geliştirilen baş etme kalıpları olduğunu vurgulayan bölüm, bağ kurma ve kendinle temasın sağlık için önemini hatırlatıyor. Bölüm, Farkındalık Çarkı Meditasyonu ile devam ediyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Dr. Gabor Mate Bağımlılık - 8 1:00 – Travmanın etkisi: daralma 4:10 – Kendinden kopmak 6:45 – Hastalık ve kişilik 9:20 – Tıbbın atladığı sorular 10:34 – Kendini ihmal etmenin bedeli 12:57 – “İyi insanlar” miti 14:49 – Kendine öncelik 17:43 – Öfke, sınır ve hayır 21:01 – Spiritüel pratiklerde yanlış beklentiler 22:52 – 5 Aşamalı Nefes Farkındalığı Meditasyonu Zeynep Aksoy bu bölümde, Gabor Maté'nin travma tanımını merkeze alarak travmanın bir olaydan çok, içimizde yarattığı etki olduğunu ele alıyor. Travmanın kendinden kopuşa, içgüdüyü duyamamaya ve zamanla bedende hastalık olarak ortaya çıkmasına nasıl zemin hazırladığını; “iyi insan” olma hâli, kendini ihmal etme, bastırılan öfke ve sınır koyamamanın bedensel sonuçlarını konuşuyor. Spiritüel pratiklerdeki yanlış beklentileri de sorgulayan bölüm, içgüdüyle yeniden temas kurmayı amaçlayan 5 Aşamalı Nefes Farkındalığı Meditasyonu ile devam ediyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Dr. Gabor Mate Bağımlılık - 7 00:08 – Çocukluk, stres ve hastalık 03:18 – Bağ kopukluğu ve bağımlılık 04:26 – İbogain ve yoksunluk 07:24 – Ayahuasca ve bastırılanlar 12:10 – Travma çalışmasında sınırlar 15:30 – Stres, obezite, ödül–ceza 24:15 – Terk edilme ve güven 31:51 – Farkındalık Çarkı meditasyonu Reset'in 121. bölümünde bağımlılığa Gabor Maté'nin çerçevesinden bakmaya devam ediyoruz. Çocuklukta kurulamayan bağların, kronik stresin ve bastırılmış duyguların bedende ve davranışta nasıl iz bıraktığını; bağımlılığın bir “sorun”dan çok, acıyla baş etme biçimi olarak nasıl ortaya çıktığını konuşuyoruz. Teknoloji, obezite, ödül–ceza sistemleri ve travma çalışmalarına dair eleştiriler bu bölümün önemli durakları arasında. Bölümün ikinci yarısında ise Dan Siegel'in Farkındalık Çarkı pratiğiyle, bedeni ve zihni daha güvenli bir yerden dinlemeye geçiyoruz. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Dr. Gabor Mate Bağımlılık - 5 00:37 – İstenmeme duygusu ve işkoliklik 04:01 – Duygusal yokluk ve bağ kaybı 06:21 – Bağımlılık: anormale tepki 08:26 – Kopma (tuning out) ve dikkat 11:51 – Yüksek uyarım ve stresli ortamlar 14:30 – Mevcut olamamak ve bedeli 17:50 – Meditasyona hazırlık 19:38 – Farkındalık Çarkı meditasyonu Bağımlılığa “ne yaptı?” sorusuyla değil, “ne yaşadı, neye dayanmak zorunda kaldı?” sorusuyla yaklaşan bir devam bölümü. Gabor Maté'nin kendi hikâyesi üzerinden, ebeveynin fiziksel olarak orada olsa bile duygusal olarak “mevcut olmamasının” çocukta nasıl bir kayıp yarattığı; bu kaybın da ileride bağımlılık, kopma (tuning out) ve dikkat sorunlarıyla nasıl ilişkilenebileceği konuşuluyor. Ardından stresin gelişim üzerindeki etkilerine dair araştırma çerçevesiyle konu toparlanıyor ve ikinci yarıda Dan Siegel'in Farkındalık Çarkı rehberliğinde bir meditasyon pratiğine geçiliyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Gabor Mate Bağımlılık - 4 00:35 – Genetik mi, deneyim mi? Beynin gelişimi 01:50 – Yetişkin–çocuk ilişkisinin belirleyici rolü 03:10 – Genler açılır kapanır: çevrenin etkisi 06:30 – Bağımlılık ve erken ilişki deneyimleri 10:00 – Davranış değil, bağ ve düzenleme ihtiyacı 18:00 – Meditasyona geçiş: onarım ve regülasyon 18:30 – Rehberli meditasyon pratiği Bağımlılık konusuna bu bölümde genetikten değil, ilişki ve deneyimlerden bakılıyor. Gabor Maté'nin yaklaşımı üzerinden; genlerin tek başına kader olmadığı, erken ilişkilerin ve yetişkin–çocuk etkileşiminin beynin gelişiminde nasıl belirleyici olduğu ele alınıyor. Bağımlılığın bir zayıflık ya da ahlaki sorun değil, stresle ve duygusal acıyla baş etme yolu olarak nasıl çalıştığı konuşuluyor. Bölümün ikinci yarısında ise bu çerçeveyi bedende deneyimlemeye alan, Dan Siegel'in Farkındalık Çarkına dayanan rehberli bir meditasyon pratiği yer alıyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

Dr. Gabor Mate Bağımlılık - 2 00:00 – Bağımlılık konusuna giriş 00:30 – Davranış değil, kişiyle ilişki 01:30 – Disiplin ve davranış odaklı yaklaşım 03:00 – Stres ve çocuğun bedeni 07:00 – Beyin sosyal bir organ 09:30 – Dopamin, serotonin ve kendini yatıştırma 12:30 – Bağımlılık bir çözüm gibi çalışır 16:30 – Madde değil, alttaki acı 20:00 – Meditasyon: onarım ve dayanıklılık 23:00 – Farkındalık Çarkı pratiği Bağımlılığa genellikle “bıraktırılması gereken bir davranış” olarak bakıyoruz. Oysa bu yaklaşım, hem çocuklarda hem yetişkinlerde çoğu zaman işe yaramıyor. Bu bölümde bağımlılık; bir zayıflık ya da ahlaki sorun olarak değil, kişinin stresle, duygusal acıyla ve haz eksikliğiyle baş etme yolu olarak ele alınıyor. Dopamin ve serotonin üzerinden “self-medication” kavramı, sosyal çevrenin beyin ve fizyoloji üzerindeki etkisi ve “madde mi, alttaki acı mı?” sorusu etrafında Gabor Maté serisi derinleşiyor. Bölümün ikinci yarısında ise Dan Siegel'in Farkındalık Çarkı pratiğiyle, duyulardan iç beden duyumlarına, zihnin hareketlerinden ilişkisel alana uzanan bir onarım ve dayanıklılık çalışması yer alıyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

When leadership breaks down, trust often disappears first — and without trust, connection is impossible. In this episode of Reclaim Your Life, U.S. Marine Officer, author, and leadership educator Olaolu Ogunyemi shares what he's learned about rebuilding trust when people stop listening, pushing back, or shutting down altogether.This conversation is for anyone who leads — at work, at home, or in their community — and feels the tension between discipline and empathy. Drawing from Marine leadership, personal wake-up moments, and real-world experience, Olaolu explores why control creates resistance, how empathy restores connection, and what it takes to lead with strength and humanity.Together, Olaolu and Irina unpack how trust is built (and rebuilt) through understanding, daily habits, and self-leadership — not authority alone. This episode offers grounded insight, practical perspective, and reassurance that leadership doesn't have to rely on force to be effective.In this episode, you'll explore:• Why people stop listening when trust is broken• How discipline and empathy can coexist in leadership• The role of self-awareness and insecurity in how we lead• How resistance signals disconnection — not failure• Daily practices that build resilience across body, mind, and spirit• Why connection always comes before influenceIf you've been feeling disconnected, stretched thin, or unsure how to lead in a way that inspires others to follow, this conversation offers a thoughtful reset — and a reminder that real leadership starts within.━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━

Dr. Gabor Mate Bağımlılık - 1 00:08 – Gabor Maté ve bağımlılık 01:08 – Howard Center konuşması 02:10 – Toksik kültür ve intihar 03:50 – Bağımlılık neden görmezden geliniyor? 06:10 – Kanada'dan radikal çözümler 08:30 – Bağımlılık ahlaki bir sorun mu? 11:40 – Bağımlılık nasıl çalışır? 18:30 – Bağımlılık bir çözüm mü? 22:40 – Davranış değil, kök neden 25:55 – Mindfulness pratiği Bu bölümde Zeynep Aksoy, Doktor Gabor Maté'nin bağımlılık üzerine yaptığı bir konuşmadan yola çıkarak bağımlılığa dair yaygın bakış açılarını sorguluyor. Bağımlılığın yalnızca ahlaki bir zayıflık ya da biyolojik bir hastalık olarak ele alınmasının neden yetersiz kaldığını; bağımlı davranışların çoğu zaman acı, yalnızlık ve kopukluk duygularına geçici bir rahatlama sağladığını anlatıyor. Asıl dönüşümün davranışı bastırmaktan değil, kişinin kendisiyle kurduğu ilişkiyi dönüştürmekten geçtiğini vurgulayan bölüm, bir mindfulness pratiğiyle devam ediyor. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

This final episode of 2025 reflects on a year of transitions and healing, focusing on themes of intergenerational trauma, collective grief, and social justice, especially in the context of the ongoing genocide in Gaza. Through diverse voices including Dr. Gabor Maté, Naomi Klein, Rabbi Lynn Gottlieb, Ashira Darwish, Omid Safi, Kazu Haga, and others, the episode delves into personal and collective fields of healing. It emphasizes the importance of remembering, ritualizing healing, community action, indigenous knowledge, and a para-politics of grief and relationship. The episode also highlights the significance of interconnectedness, resilience, and the continuous effort towards justice and transformation. Topics and Speakers 00:00 Introduction and Year in Review 02:03 Minds Under Siege: Dr. Gabor Mate and Naomi Klein 17:38 We Will Not Look Away: Vigil for Gaza with Rabbi Lynn Gottlieb, Ashira Darwish and Omid Safi 37:33 Fierce Vulnerability: Kazu Haga 46:16 Belonging Without Othering: john a. powell 50:51 The Limits of Solution-Driven Thinking: Bayo Akomolafe 55:47 Complexity and Phase Transitions: Jeremy Lent 01:02:03 Intergenerational Trauma and Healing: Jungwon Kim and Linda Thai 01:18:40 Generational Trauma and Community Healing: Dr. Thema Bryant 01:23:16 Decolonizing Therapy and Ancestral Healing: Dr. Jennifer Mullan 01:26:30 Indigenous Perspectives on Colonization and Wellbeing: Dr. Diana Kopua, Tina Ngata and Mark Kopua 01:40:30 Plant Medicine and Connection to Nature: Donna Kerridge 01:53:07 Grief, Ritual, and Communal Healing: Orland Bishop and Francis Weller 02:02:39 Presence and Receptive Awareness: John J. Prendergast 02:09:26 Conclusion and Membership Invitation Links Naomi Klein Dr. Gabor Maté Rabbi Lynn Gottlieb Omid Safi Kazu Haga john a. Powell Bayo Akomolafe Jeremy Lent Jungwon Kim Linda Thai Dr. Thema Bryant Dr. Jennifer Mullan Te Kurahuna (Mark and Dr. Diana Kopua) Tina Ngata Francis Weller Orland Bishop John Prendergast Where Olive Trees Weep The Eternal Song (Film series and course) Support the mission of SAND and the production of this podcast by becoming a SAND Member

Guests Why are school children more anxious, aggressive, and shut down than ever before? We first heard answers from educators Tamara Neufeld Strijack and Hannah Beach in April 2020. Hannah takes us up to the present in this update episode. Tamara is the academic dean of the Neufeld Institute, where she develops and delivers courses and workshops that support parents, teachers, and helping professionals around the world in making sense of children through developmental science. Tamara works as a registered clinical counsellor, parent consultant, and sessional instructor for several universities, where she lectures for the faculties of education and counseling. Hannah is an award-winning educator, author, and keynote speaker. She was recognized by the Canadian Human Rights Commission in 2017 as one of five featured change-makers in Canada. She is a Neufeld course facilitator, delivers professional development services across the country, provides emotional health consulting to schools, and speaks at national and international conferences about the power of bringing more feeling and human connection into the classroom. Together, they are the authors of Reclaiming Our Students: Why Children Are More Anxious, Aggressive, and Shut Down Than Ever―And What We Can Do About It – a book about restoring the emotional well-being of children. As stated in the book's preface, "Academics can no longer be divorced from matters of the heart." Summary The core takeaway is this: children today are emotionally overloaded and under-supported, and until adults—especially teachers—reestablish themselves as consistent, caring, emotionally safe anchors, academic learning will continue to fall short. Tamara and Hannah argue that modern cultural shifts—loss of free play, constant entertainment, diminished time with adults, and the dominance of technology—have deprived kids of the natural outlets and relationships they need to process alarm, frustration, and sadness. Schools cannot "fix" behavior through discipline or curriculum tweaks alone. The starting point is restoring emotional connection, safe expression, and relational leadership in the classroom. Listen for: Why are our kids in the position today of being more anxious, aggressive, and shut down than ever before? What has been the impact of children losing time for free play – and of entertainment becoming the substitute for free play? What are "void moments," and what purpose do they serve? How can one teacher make a huge difference in the risk factors of children? What are the characteristics of the "caring leader"? Why we need to provide children with outlets for expression, and why are those outlets especially important in the online learning environment we find ourselves in today? "When we see a child who is aggressive or being difficult in some way, we look only at the behavior, and we go to correct the behavior. But what's behind the behavior? What if we feed the emotion behind that behavior? The behavior will naturally go away, just like food will help alleviate a child's hunger. If we're only treating the behavior, and not the root cause of it, how do we actually shift the child?" — Hannah Connect with Hannah and Tamara Reclaiming Our Students on Amazon Book website, including the "Inside / Outside Handbook Hannah on LinkedIN Hannah's website Tamara's website Recommended The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt The Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate  

This final episode of 2025 reflects on a year of transitions and healing, focusing on themes of intergenerational trauma, collective grief, and social justice, especially in the context of the ongoing genocide in Gaza. Through diverse voices including Dr. Gabor Maté, Naomi Klein, Rabbi Lynn Gottlieb, Ashira Darwish, Omid Safi, Kazu Haga, and others, the episode delves into personal and collective fields of healing. It emphasizes the importance of remembering, ritualizing healing, community action, indigenous knowledge, and a para-politics of grief and relationship. The episode also highlights the significance of interconnectedness, resilience, and the continuous effort towards justice and transformation. Topics and Speakers 00:00 Introduction and Year in Review 02:03 Minds Under Siege: Dr. Gabor Mate and Naomi Klein 07:15 We Will Not Look Away: Vigil for Gaza with Rabbi Lynn Gottlieb, Ashira Darwish and Omid Safi 27:24 Fierce Vulnerability: Kazu Haga 36:08 Belonging Without Othering: john a. powell 41:28 The Limits of Solution-Driven Thinking: Bayo Akomolafe 46:24 Complexity and Phase Transitions: Jeremy Lent 53:56 Intergenerational Trauma and Healing: Jungwon Kim and Linda Thai 58:19 Epigenetic Trauma and Healing Rituals: 01:10:34 Generational Trauma and Community Healing: Dr. Thema Bryant 01:15:11 Decolonizing Therapy and Ancestral Healing: Dr. Jennifer Mullan 01:18:30 Indigenous Perspectives on Colonization and Wellbeing: Dr. Diana Kopua, Tina Ngata and Mark Kopua 01:32:30 Plant Medicine and Connection to Nature: Donna Kerridge 01:45:07 Grief, Ritual, and Communal Healing: Orland Bishop and Francis Weller 01:54:39 Presence and Receptive Awareness: John J. Prendergast 02:01:26 Conclusion and Membership Invitation Links Naomi Klein Dr. Gabor Maté Rabbi Lynn Gottlieb Omid Safi Kazu Haga john a. Powell Bayo Akomolafe Jeremy Lent Jungwon Kim Linda Thai Dr. Thema Bryant Dr. Jennifer Mullan Te Kurahuna (Mark and Dr. Diana Kopua) Tina Ngata Francis Weller Orland Bishop John Prendergast Where Olive Trees Weep The Eternal Song (Film series and course) Support the mission of SAND and the production of this podcast by becoming a SAND Member

Burnout shows up quietly, and in this conversation, I think you will hear just how deeply it can shape a life. When I sat down with Kassandra Hamilton, she opened up about building a meaningful career in global and Indigenous health while struggling with exhaustion, anxiety, and the pressure to look like everything was fine. Her turning point came when she finally stopped long enough to ask what she truly needed. Kassandra talks about people pleasing, giving her power away, and the inside out process she now teaches to help others realign their lives. We walk through the RAIN method, the importance of boundaries, and the small daily choices that help you rebuild trust in yourself. My hope is that you walk away feeling grounded, encouraged, and ready to take one step toward a more aligned and Unstoppable life. Highlights: 01:12 – Learn how early purpose can quietly shape the path you follow. 02:51 – See how a wider view of global health reveals what truly drives burnout. 06:56 – Understand how systems and technology can add pressure when they overlook human needs. 12:50 – Learn how hidden emotions can surface when you slow down and pay attention. 17:37 – Explore how reclaiming your power shifts the way you respond to stress. 24:23 – Discover how emotional regulation tools help you move through difficult moments. 41:18 – Learn how small, steady changes rebuild energy and direction. 47:36 – Understand why real burnout recovery starts with alignment, not escape. About the Guest: Kassandra Hamilton is an alignment life coach, bestselling author in 3 categories, musician, healer, and facilitator.  She is dedicated to helping others find inner alignment and live from the inside out, rather than in a burnout state or in autopilot mode. After completing a degree in biology and international development, and then completing a Masters of Science, she wanted to pursue a career in medicine.  She has always wanted to be of service to others, and as a child she literally had dreams of holding her hands towards people and visualizing light being sent to them. only way it made sense in terms of a traditional career trajectory while she was in school was to pursue medicine.  After completing her Masters degree, she decided to work alongside doctors to see what their day to day was like and how they were creating a positive impact in their communities.  What she actually saw was a lot of burnout, paperwork, and dissatisfied lives of people that were once passionate about medicine. She was working for Doctors of BC in Vancouver, with a high end office and apartment, when she collapsed one day in her apartment from an overwhelming sense of anxiety, burnout and grief.  She had lost her dog, her boyfriend, and both her grandparents all within three months.  On top of that, she was in a career that looked good on paper, but wasn't actually fulfilling her purpose of being of service to others. She no longer wanted to pursue medicine and didn't know how she got to a dead end if she had followed all the “right” steps according to society's blueprint for success. She spent the next few years really learning about her inner world and what her purpose in life was. She became dedicated to her own healing and coping with anxiety and burnout.  For the next decade, she began working with First Nations across Canada. She witnessed and learned about the importance of looking at the whole person, from a spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical lens.  Everything seemed to be connected.  As someone with a science background, she had always been fascinated with the intricacies and magical elements of everything that comes together in one singular cell.  Our emotions are energy in motion, and if they don't move through, they get stuck.  We decide if we allow our emotions to flow or not.  Kassandra also realized how powerful our minds are.  With one thought, we create a story.  That story becomes our reality.  With all of these realizations, she came to understand that we are literally magicians of our own realities. Kassandra has learned and experienced, time and time again, that health and happiness stems from our internal world first and is a combination of our mental, spiritual, physical, and emotional realms.  Once we deal with our inner worlds and live in state of awareness over how we are operating in the world, we can project that version of ourselves out into the world to create positive change.  In a world that constantly pulls us outward - with notifications, expectations, distractions “The Magic of Realigning From the Inside Out” is about bringing us back home to ourselves.  Through deeply personal storytelling, scientific insights, and soul-centres practiced, Kassandra invites readers to reconnect with their inner compass.  This is a guidebook for anyone longing to move from autopilot to alignment and discovering what it truly means to live with intention, purpose, and clarity. Because the answers aren't out there, they HAVE to start from within.  We weren't meant to just get through the day. It is exhausting trying to fix and control everything “OUT THERE.” And the thing is, we have no control over what's happening out there anyways, We were meant to thrive and share our gifts with the world.  This is how positive ripple effects are made.  This is Kassandra plans to leave the world a better place, and support others to do the same.   With the external chaos, political mess, climate change, and growing tensions worldwide, She decided it was time to start creating some positive changes. She now has started a coaching practice committed to sharing her work with others, and her book compliments her work, outlining a 4-phase approach to moving from anxiety, fear, burnout, to living in alignment and inner power.  After a very successful book tour showcasing her bestseller (in 3 categories) “The Magic of Realigning From the Inside Out” – she is going on tour.  But this isn't just any book tour – it is centred around creating community connections.  She will be doing wellness workshops and talks in local libraries, bookstores, and wellness venues around burnout prevention, boundaries, resilience, and authentic leadership, leveraging my book as a tool for this. She is currently in the planning stages and open to support in making this happen. Kassandra is dedicated to sharing stories that inspire personal development and growth. She brings a unique perspective to storytelling, blending data-driven insights with narrative. With years of experience in health information management projects with First Nations communities in Canada, she has become fascinated with the power of sharing compelling stories through complex qualitative data.  Her book is titled “The Magic of Realigning From the Inside Out” and is now available on Amazon and 50+ more platforms. Outside of writing, she loves traveling, dancing, hiking, paddleboarding, and putting on community events that promote inner healing and connection.  She also provides sound healing sessions, Ayurvedic Head Massage, and Bio-Energy Healing sessions at a local wellness establishment in her community.  She volunteers at Connective Society as a restorative justice mentor for youth who are struggling with a lack of leadership or role models in their life. Lastly, Kassandra is a singer/songwriter and a musician.  You can find her playing at local open mics, hosting backyard community jam sessions, or at gigs around Vancouver Island. She put out an EP under the artist name “Kazz” in 2018 called “Reflections” and has released 4 singles under this title since.  This year (2025), she started a new collaborative label with her partner who is a music producer, and they have released two songs under the artist name “Cyphyr & Myraky.” Her mission is this: So many people believe the answers are "out there" and feel helpless in the current state of the world environmentally, politically, economically etc. Instead of feeling helpless, paralyzed by fear, or living under the influence of external circumstance and chaos, we can create real change by first realigning from the inside out to reconnect with our inner power and creativity. Imagine a world where people took responsibility for their life, knew their purpose, and felt like they were living life in full alignment with this.  Imagine what our communities would look like then? Above all else, Kassandra wants to inspire others to create positive ripple effects out into the world.  Ways to connect with Kassandra**:** Instagram: @kassandra hamilton  Facebook: Coaching with Kassandra TikTok: coachingwithkassandra LinkedIn: Kassandra Hamilton Website: www.kassandrahamilton.com Linktree with all my info: https://linktr.ee/kassandra.hamilton Spotify: Under name "Kazz": https://open.spotify.com/artist/0gpUecr9VkVJMmVIyp1NFt?si=byM7VdL9QDeezl5-666XKQ&utm_medium=share&utm_source=linktree&nd=1&dlsi=9a801d5edc774e1d Under name "Cyphyr & Myraky" - new collaborative label https://open.spotify.com/artist/3xUxZGxTseXQB2G9PVolMn?si=In3BLhX3SMK_c-3ukTlCfQ&utm_medium=share&utm_source=linktree&nd=1&dlsi=d369f571e6384062 Amazon Link to Book: https://a.co/d/2yWISSu Book Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cDKW9ZNrsvA Rogers TV Community News Story: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0eOnQ2DAdg Nanaimo News Bulletin Story: https://www.nanaimobulletin.com/local-news/nanaimo-health-and-life-coachs-new-book-guides-inner-alignment-8182386 About the Host: Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. 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Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us. Michael Hingson  01:21 Well, hi everyone. I want to welcome you to another episode of unstoppable mindset. We're really glad that you're here with us today. Our guest today is Kassandra Hamilton, from up in British Columbia, way, and she has, I think, a lot to talk about. She's a coach. She talks about burnout and but also about her many talents. She sings, she's a musician, and on top of everything else, she's an author, and she just wrote a book that has just come out. So we've got lots to talk about, or she has lots to talk about, and we'll talk about it with her. So, Kassandra, welcome to unstoppable mindset. We're glad you're here. Kassandra Hamilton  02:08 Thanks for having me, Michael. I'm really grateful to be here today. Michael Hingson  02:12 Well, I'm excited. There's obviously a lot to talk about, I think so. Tell us a little bit about the early Cassandra growing up, and all the usual things. You know, you got to start at the beginning somewhere, Kassandra Hamilton  02:22 absolutely, yeah, so as a kid, I mean, I've always been curious. My mom used to get very puzzled by me as a child, because I would always ask, like, who is God and how is the world made? And I just had all these questions. And it just never really stopped. When I was six, I had a vision of helping people and healing them with my hands, and I just saw this light between my hands and other people, and it was this recurring dream I kept having, and I didn't understand it in the practical sense. So I pursued a very traditional, you know, career in medicine, because that's what made sense to me, and the social conditions that we had in front of us, and that didn't really pan out for me. I just it wasn't resonating. I felt like the system was very rigid. And I just have always been fascinated with more of a holistic picture of someone you know, like their physical, emotional, spiritual selves, and so the just focusing on the physical alone just wasn't cutting it for me. I knew there was so much more, and I was so curious about all of that. So yeah, I've gone through different sort of journeys on my path, and come back to a place of really wanting to be of service and share some of the tools and strategies that I've learned along the way. Michael Hingson  03:47 Well, you started down the road of going into medicine, didn't you? Mm, hmm. And what was your master's in? Because I know you had your your master's degree, and then you started working with doctors. What did you get your master's degree in? Kassandra Hamilton  04:02 Yeah, so I completed a master's of science because it was in the stream of global health. And so I was really fascinated by the multifaceted aspect of that. And not just looking at physical impact in the world. We looked at, you know, political and economic, geographic indicators of health really gave me that sort of overall vision of what health looks like from from that bird's eye view. And then I wanted to pursue medicine after that, because, again, I wanted to be of service to others, but I ended up working with doctors to see if that's actually what I wanted to do, and I just saw the amount of burnout that doctors were experiencing and how 80% of their workload was paperwork. Michael Hingson  04:56 And so what did. You do. Kassandra Hamilton  05:02 So I left that work. I was there for two years, and it just I wasn't buying it. So I left. I started my own company as a consultant, and realized that a lot of the issues I was seeing abroad, I actually we had a lot of gaps here in Canada, especially with our indigenous communities, the disparities there were just huge, and so I focused my energy for the last decade on working with indigenous communities and unlearning a lot of sort of colonial ways of doing things and really integrating the holistic health model that is presented from from that culture that I was working with, and it's really, really been transformative and instrumental in the way that I approach health now, Michael Hingson  05:51 well, I'm curious about something sort of off the wall. I appreciate what you're saying about paperwork, and I'm sure there are all sorts of legalistic reasons why there has to be so much paperwork and so on in the medical world, especially when everybody's so concerned about things like malpractice and all that. But do you think any of that has gotten any better? Or how has it changed as we are progressing more to a paperless or different kind of charting system where everything is done from a computer terminal. I'm spoiled. My doctors are with Kaiser Permanente, and everything is all done on wireless, or at least on non paper chart. Types of things that they're just typing into the computer, actually, as as we're communicating and we're talking and I'm in visiting and so on, but everything is all done online. What do you think about that? Does that help any Kassandra Hamilton  06:53 so very great question. So when we're talking about accessibility, I'm going to say no, not for indigenous communities, at least here in Canada, I'll speak from my experience, but things have gone digital, and actually what I was doing was working as a digital health consultant to bridge health gaps in digital systems. Because what was happening and what still happens is there's systems that are quite siloed, and so a lot of health centers that are remote will be using paper still, or they'll be using system for that and another system for this. And so there's no wrap around, diligence around the client. And so there is this huge accessibility issue, which is what I've been working on for the last 10 years. Michael Hingson  07:41 Well, do you think that as well? Hopefully you'll see more paperless kinds of things go into play. But do you think in areas where the paper quantity has decreased, in the online or digital chart systems have come into play. Does that help burn out at all? Do you think again? Kassandra Hamilton  08:08 You know what? It really depends. Like you're you're only as good as your as your system allows, and so if you haven't allowed for inclusivity, and for example, a lot of the work that was funded in the first couple years that I was doing, there was no due diligence to figure out whether or not these remote areas even had internet. So without internet, they were pumping money into all of these systems that were super high tech, not culturally appropriate. A lot of elders don't even own a computer, let alone a smartphone or anything like that, or have service. So it was there was a huge disconnect there, and so part of the work I've been doing is a lot of advocacy and helping government agencies understand the connecting pieces that are are instrumental in the success of digital health implementation. Yeah, well, Michael Hingson  09:09 you know here, I know a fair amount about the whole digital chart system, because my sister in law was a critical care unit nurse at Kaiser, and then she managed several wards, and then she was tasked to be the head nurse for on the profit side, to help bring digital charts into Kaiser and and so I heard a lot about it from her and especially all the doctors who opposed it, just because they didn't want any change. They wanted to just do things the way that they had always done them. Yeah. And so the result is that they kind of got dragged kicking and screaming into it a little bit. But now I hear people mostly praising the whole system because it makes their job a lot easier. On the other hand, the other thing that happens, though, is they the system crams more patients into a doctor's appointment schedule every day, and so I'm not sure they're always seeing as much of patients as they should of any given patient, but I guess they have more doctors that specialize in different things. So no matter what happens, the doctors can all see whatever there is to see, because everything is in the chart, right? Kassandra Hamilton  10:41 And so Absolutely, in theory, and in urban areas where that works, you know, the digital systems are set up properly, absolutely. But in terms of going back to your question about burnout, if there's one nurse for one community, and she's a chart in five different, you know, systems that it's actually going to add to her burnout at the end of the day. Yeah? Michael Hingson  11:04 Well, yeah, and I appreciate that. I mean, so clearly, there's still quite a disparity, but it does, it does sound like in areas where they're able to truly bring digital charts and capturing information digitally into the system where, where that does exist, it can make people's lives, doctors, lives and so on, a little bit easier, and maybe contribute a little bit less to burnout. Kassandra Hamilton  11:34 Yeah, absolutely. And of course, that's the hope, and that's you know, why we continue to do the work to bring it into this, especially with AI too, like bringing more efficiency into the workplace, and it's all part of it. So yes, absolutely there's, there's definitely some, some hope, and some, you know, leaner, leaner ways of doing things for a lot of people. So yeah, yeah. Michael Hingson  12:01 I'll hope it will continue to get better, and that the influence will expand so that the more rural areas and so on will be able to get the kinds of things that the more urban areas have. Now I live in an area that's fairly urban, but we don't have a Kaiser hospital up here. We have clinics, but we don't have a hospital. And apparently there's now, finally some movement toward making that happen. But it's interesting, where we used to live, in Northern California. We lived in a very what was, although we weren't, but was a rich County, and there were 200,000 people or so in the county, and there was a Kaiser hospital in the county. There was a Kaiser hospital about 30 miles away in San Francisco, and there were Kaiser hospitals going north, 1520, miles further north, in Petaluma. So there are a lot of hospitals, but we are in an area where there are over 400,000 people now, and there isn't a Kaiser hospital here, and that just has always seemed kind of strange to me. And the response is, well, the doctors don't want to move up here. I mean, there are all sorts of different reasons that are given, but it just seems strange. So if you really need to go to the hospital, they do have contracts that sort of work sometimes, or you have to go about 50 miles to get to the nearest actual Kaiser hospital, right? So it's strange. Kassandra Hamilton  13:38 It is strange. And there's a lot of things. Who knows who made the last call on decision? Right? So, right, yeah. Michael Hingson  13:48 Well, again, so the rumor goes they're going to be building a hospital here, and I think that will be a good thing. So we'll see. We'll see how it goes. But you experienced burnout, Kassandra Hamilton  14:00 didn't you? I did? Yes, I tell us about that, if you would. Yeah, absolutely so when I was 27 and I went, that was Michael Hingson  14:13 last year, right? Kassandra Hamilton  14:14 Yes, thank you. It was 10 years ago, but on the outside, I was thriving. Michael, I was like, working for doctors of BC, I had an apartment on the ninth floor. I had an ocean view. I had the apartment downtown. I was, you know, dating. I was like, doing all these things. I was achieving, pushing and showing up. And inside I was running on empty, and I was very disconnected from my purpose, from myself, and that breakdown became eventually a breakthrough, but in the process, you know, I lost all my grandparents and my dog, and I didn't have tools for dealing with my anxiety. Yeah, and social media sort of just amplified that sort of comparative feeling, and I just started to slow down and like really realign, and I realized how many people were living on autopilot and surviving instead of thriving. And that's really when I wanted to become committed to helping others reclaim their purpose and their authenticity, and not just bounce back from burnout, but like rise into something greater, and like reconnect with themselves and their why of their purpose of being here. You know, Michael Hingson  15:33 yeah, because you you thought you were thriving, but you really weren't. Yeah, exactly which is, which is unfortunate, but still, those kinds of things happen. So what did you So, how did you go from experiencing burnout to moving forward and realigning? What? What did you learn? How did you discover it and what actually happened. Kassandra Hamilton  16:01 So I, you know, I, for a long time, went through my own inward journey. And I, you know, I went to counseling, I sought other ways of healing, through energy work, I tried all the different tools and modalities, and I realized over time, it meant flipping the script, and most of us live from the outside in, and we're chasing expectations and people pleasing, letting circumstances dictate our worth, and living from the inside out to me meant connecting with who I was and my values and and the truth of finding my like finding my purpose, and letting that be the driver, and that means having boundaries. It means speaking up when you're when you're scared or you have fear. I know you've done a lot of work with fear and how to leverage that for a more positive outcome, rather than letting it stop you. So in my life, that shift has really helped me stop outsourcing my power and allowed me to show up authentically in my work and my relationships and creativity, and that's where my freedom and vitality really lives, and I really want to share that with others. Michael Hingson  17:12 That's interesting. Way that you put it, you're outsourcing your power. What do you mean by that? Kassandra Hamilton  17:18 I was giving my power away. I was waiting for someone else to approve of something that I did. I was showcasing my, you know, achievements, and that was how I attached value to my identity and who I was. Michael Hingson  17:34 And of course, what that really meant is that you, as you said, it was all about people pleasing and so on. And how did you change all that? Kassandra Hamilton  17:43 It wasn't overnight, I'll bet it wasn't, yeah, and so I changed all that by getting curious and by going inside. And I have a four step process that I share in this book that I've now written. And the first step is to observe yourself, like, how are you showing up? What kind of patterns are coming up for you? And then starting to understand, like, why, where did those come from? And then starting to re tune that part of yourself, like, Okay, so that's how I'm showing up. How do I want to show up? And how can I change my patterns, and how I react to things, to do that, and that's how you start to, sort of like flip the narrative and limp from the inside out. Michael Hingson  18:26 How do people do that? Because we're, because we're, I think we're really trained to behave that way. We're we're trained to as, as you would put it, all too often, give your power away or outsource your power. And how do we change that mentality? Kassandra Hamilton  18:48 Yeah, well, we have to first observe ourselves. We have to look at, you know, how are boundaries being used in your life? Or are they even there? Are you showing up for yourself as much as you're showing up for other people? Are you being authentic in what really is, in alignment with your own values? Are you living on purpose? So these things are what we look at, and then I have tools and frameworks and questions to help people really start to observe themselves from an outside perspective and ask themselves, Is this really how I want to be living right now? Is this allowing me to live the life that I want? Michael Hingson  19:34 Yeah, and is it, is it helping me grow Exactly? And that's that's a lot of the issue that that we face. I know, in my my book live like a guide dog that wrote was published last year. We we talk a lot about the fact that people need to learn, or hopefully will learn, how to be much more introspective and. And analyze what they do every day, and really put that analysis to work, to to learn. What am I afraid of? What is going on? Why am I worried about this? Because I don't have any control over it and and people just don't grow up feeling that way, because we don't really teach people how to learn to control fear and how to be introspective, which is part of the problem, of course, right? Kassandra Hamilton  20:27 Or even how to manage our emotions, right? Like emotion is energy in motion, and if we do not allow it to move through us, it gets stuck, and it shows up in our bodies as a physical ailment, yeah. And that's the mind, body, spirit connection. That's why physical, mental, emotional health is so important to look at as as a whole, not just in silo. Michael Hingson  20:51 So how do you how do you teach people to take a different view than what we typically learned how to do well? Kassandra Hamilton  21:01 So once we've observed what people what people are, how they're operating, we then start to understand where it comes from. So a lot of people are programmed either by society or early childhood experiences, and then they are just operating on autopilot from those patterns. But they don't know that. So once you start like, awareness is everything, and once you see something, you can't unsee it. So at that point, it's like, okay, how can we move from this place to where you want to be? And so I have a lot of tools for understanding and processing your emotions in real time. I have tools for understanding and managing nervous like your nervous system, I look at it from a science and health background as well as a spiritual background. So it's like blending the tool to and understanding that healing isn't just physical and mindfulness and slowing down and journaling and just taking the time to actually try and understand yourself. Michael Hingson  22:03 So how has all of this changed how you live your life? Kassandra Hamilton  22:08 Well, I since I started operating in a different way, I bought a house. I bought another house, about another house, I, you know, wrote a book. I changed careers. I am coaching people now I'm just like really living in my element, in my my full purpose, which is have this written on my wall that I want to help others rediscover their magic, so we can all fly together. So it's really about spreading positive ripple effects in the world, you know, but starting at home and in our communities. And I believe that that inside out ripple effect is so much more powerful than anything we can do out there, Michael Hingson  22:56 just so that we get it out there. What's the title of the book? Kassandra Hamilton  22:59 It's called the magic of realigning from the inside out. Michael Hingson  23:04 Since we, we talked about it, I figured we better get the title out there. Yeah, thank you. And there is a picture of the book cover and so on in the show notes. But I just wanted to make sure that you, you did tell people the title. Well, tell me, is there an incident or a moment where you realize that your work could really create change in someone's life? Kassandra Hamilton  23:32 Yeah, you know, that's an interesting question. I've been asked that a few times, and the answer is that I just have a very strong morning practice where I journal. And throughout that journaling the last few years, I realized my process of integrating all of these tools and what it's done for me, and it just became like again, me observing myself through the pages and recognizing that I you know, it was my responsibility to share this, this work that I had done with other people, and not from a place of of ego, but really from that place of wanting to share stories and experiences in hopes that it will inspire others to, you know, take the time to Get curious and courageous about their own lives. Michael Hingson  24:22 Did you have any kind of an aha moment or a moment with anyone besides yourself that really caused you to realize, Oh, I'm really making a difference here. I'm really able to do this, and it makes a lot of sense to do what I'm doing. Kassandra Hamilton  24:38 Well, it's so funny, because informally, all of my friends will come to me for, you know, advice or coaching or reframing or whatever, and then eventually I was like, Man, I should get paid. And Michael Hingson  24:53 they're not your friends anymore, because now you're charging them, right? Kassandra Hamilton  24:58 So it's something that I've. Always really wanted to do, and I've always been fascinated by people and how their brains work, and what their resistance to change is, including my own. And yeah, I guess I just sort of had this moment a few years ago when I was like, I want to really focus my time on and energy to help other people have these moments of insight, or aha moments, or realizing they can pivot and actually start creating what they want in their lives. Michael Hingson  25:29 So what kind of tools do you use in your coaching process to help people do that? Kassandra Hamilton  25:34 Yeah, I lean on a lot of work from Gabor Mate and Deepak Chopra. I use tools that I've learned through Tara Brock. So my favorite tool, actually, that I, that I use, and I, I encourage people to try, is rain. And so if I could leave one sort of tool for people here today, it would be rain. And rain stands for recognize, acknowledge or accept, investigate, and then nourish. And so anytime people are in an activated emotional state or a negative emotion, they can sit away from their current situations, whether it's you go to the bathroom, or you sit alone for a few moments and you just recognize, okay, what is it that I'm feeling anxiety? Alright, we've named it. I recognize it. I'm accepting and acknowledging that I feel anxious. And then I is investigating, why do I feel anxious? What is the reason I feel anxious? And once you have figured out why, you can start to comfort yourself from a place of compassion, like it's okay to feel this way, you know Michael, like emotions are just children that want to be seen and heard, and the more you shove them down, the more chaos ensues. So when you comfort those emotions and you understand them, they move through you, naturally, emotion energy in motion. That's how we can assist ourselves in getting better at letting the emotions move through us. Michael Hingson  27:08 Yeah, and something that comes to mind along that that same line is the whole issue that you've already talked about, some which is talking about what what you feel, whoever you are, and be willing to express emotions, be willing to be honest with yourself and with other people. And again, I just think that we so often are taught not to do that. It's so unfortunate. Kassandra Hamilton  27:36 Absolutely, absolutely, we're not taught about anything. And I have a long list for the education curriculum, let me tell you, yeah, boundaries, you know, emotional regulation, emotional intelligence, yeah, reframing, Like there's just so many things, so many things. Michael Hingson  28:03 So you've, you've helped a lot of people, primarily, who do you do you coach? Who are your your typical clients? Or does it matter? Kassandra Hamilton  28:14 So I typically coach people between ages 25 to 40, but I actually recently had a senior reach out to me after she found an article in the paper, and so I'm not excluding people from who I work with, but generally speaking, that's sort of the age range is 25 to 45 people who maybe have reached a, you know, the career they thought they were always going to do and get there, and they're like, this, isn't it? This isn't it for me, I'm burnt out. I'm tired. It's not what I thought it was going to be. Or maybe they're in a relationship and they're stuck and feeling burnt out from that. So yeah, that's the age group that I work in. Because regardless of what issue you're working on, career, relationship, sense of self, these tools will help you pivot to really realign with your purpose. Michael Hingson  29:03 So how do you help people go from being stuck to realigning and empowered Kassandra Hamilton  29:10 through my four step process? So I don't want to give too much away, but people will just need to read the book to find out. Michael Hingson  29:19 Well, if you can describe maybe a little bit in general, just enough to Yeah. Kassandra Hamilton  29:24 So just like I was saying before, like first getting really clear on how people are operating, so that's the observed part, and then starting to understand themselves through the different patterns that are coming up on a weekly, daily basis. So it's a lot of investigating and getting data in the first couple weeks, and then after that, we start to understand how to rewire things through different tools that I introduce, and we do it in small, manageable steps. My coaching programs are either six weeks or two. 12 weeks long. And throughout that process, we try things, and everyone's different. So some tools stick, you know, more than others, and that's okay. I just have a the approach that I've moved them through, and by the end, people are having amazing experiences and feeling like it's life changing. And I have, you know, a lot of people reaching out with testimonials that I just, you know, really helped fuel me to continue this work. Michael Hingson  30:26 Have you done this at all with children? I Kassandra Hamilton  30:30 haven't, but it's so interesting that you asked that because I really love working with youth. I work in a restorative justice volunteer program here in my community, and it's all about providing mentorship and being a role model for for youth that have maybe lost their way. And that's definitely an area I'm curious about. It's funny that you mentioned that. Michael Hingson  30:55 Well, it just, you know, the the reality is that the earlier we can get people to think about this and change and go more toward the kind of processes that you promote, the better it would be. But I also realize that that's a it's a little bit different process with with youth, I'm sure, than it is with older, older people, adults and so on. But I was just curious if you had done any, or if you have any plans to maybe open any kind of programs more for youth to help them the same way, because clearly there are a lot of stuck youth out there. Kassandra Hamilton  31:37 Yeah, very much so. And to be honest, like with the amount of technology and information overload and state of the world, like the amount of overwhelm and anxiety among youth right now is just through the charts, yeah, yeah. So definitely something that's been on my mind, and I I'm very curious as to what sparked you to ask that, because it's definitely something I've been exploring so Michael Hingson  32:02 well, it just popped into my head that that's an interesting thing to think about. And I would also think that the earlier we can and in this case, you can, reach children, the more open they probably are to listening to suggestions if you can establish a rapport with them. The reality is that that at a younger age, they're not as locked in to ways of doing things as they might be later on, my wife was my late wife was a teacher for 10 years, then she loved teaching second and third graders, and she said even by the time you're getting to fourth graders, they're starting to be a little bit more rigid in their mindsets. And so the result was that it was harder sometimes to reach them. And I think that's true, and I and I know that everything I've ever read or heard younger the child, the more open they are, and the more they're able to learn. Like younger children are better able to learn more than one language and so on. And the earlier you can get to children, probably the better it would be all the way around. Kassandra Hamilton  33:19 Absolutely, absolutely, yeah, yeah, definitely, an avian Avenue. I've been curious and exploring myself. So, yeah, Michael Hingson  33:28 I wonder, I wonder what the techniques would be, because I'm sure that the techniques are going to be a little bit different than than what you face with older people, Kassandra Hamilton  33:37 not necessarily like I think at any age, it's good to learn about boundaries and why they're important and understanding what we think they are versus what they actually are. And same with, you know, seeking validation outside of ourselves. Like I don't think, I don't think it's quite I think it might be a little bit more stuck when we're older, but I don't think it's very different. Yeah, I guess it just depends. Just depends. Michael Hingson  34:07 Well, you talk a lot about boundaries, authenticity, authenticity and purpose. How does all that really go into your whole coaching program? Kassandra Hamilton  34:22 Sorry? In what sense, like, can you ask that it may be a different a different way? Michael Hingson  34:29 Well, um, you talk, you've you've mentioned boundaries a number of times, and authenticity and so on. So I'm just curious, how do they fit into what you do and what you want people to do okay? Kassandra Hamilton  34:41 So people will come to me and they're, you know, feeling burnt out. They're constantly on. They're juggling family relationships, digital overload. They don't have space to breathe, let alone, you know, connect with themselves. And underneath that, there's often a lot of people pleasing or fear. Not being enough or living by other people's expectations, and so so many of them are feeling exhausted, unfulfilled, lack of worth when they come to me and they're just like, I don't know what else to do. And often, a misconception about burnout is that you need to work harder for things to get better, or you just need a small break to reset, and then you're fine. But if we don't change anything in that, in the mind, in the mindset, then people are just going to go back to the way, the way they were. Michael Hingson  35:33 How would you really define burnout? Kassandra Hamilton  35:38 I would define burnout as people feeling helpless, feeling like they're living on autopilot, exhaustion, feeling like there's just so much to manage and they don't have the time or the energy again, feeling like they can't or don't know about boundaries, and yeah, they're unfulfilled. They're not feeling like themselves. And so what I would suggest for anyone who's feeling that way is one of the things you can do is just just pause, create a moment of space for yourself, even if it's just five minutes a day, ask yourself what you really need, and it sounds simple, but most of us are so disconnected or needs that we don't even ask the question. But that pauses our power. It can be the doorway to listening to yourself again, and from there, you can start making choices that really align with what you actually want? Michael Hingson  36:43 One of the things that I suggest, and we do it in live like a guide dog, and I suggest it to people whenever we get in these discussions, is, no matter what you say about not having time, you absolutely have time, especially worst case at the end of the day, when you're starting to fall asleep, take the time to analyze yourself, take the time to become more introspective, because you have that time because you're in bed for heaven's sake. So you're really not supposed to be doing anything else, or shouldn't, but it's a great time to start to think about yourself, and I think that's a great time to deal with all the things that you're talking about here as well. Kassandra Hamilton  37:20 Oh yeah, absolutely, yeah. And people have time for what they prioritize. That's that's the truth. And whether that's something people want to accept, it's absolutely the truth. You will make time for the things that are important to you. Michael Hingson  37:35 Yeah, well, and that's what it really comes down to does, isn't it that you're always going to make time for the things that you find are important to you, and the reality is that you'll be able to progress when you discover that some of the things that are important to you are the kinds of things that we're talking about here that will avoid burnout or get you away From that absolutely we just have to really neck us back to boundaries and authenticity and purpose. It just gets back to knowing what you really need, and ultimately, no one can know that better than you about yourself. Kassandra Hamilton  38:16 Absolutely, we have to reconnect to what matters and build the life that gives energy instead of only draining it. Michael Hingson  38:23 Yeah, and we can, we can do that, but we do need to take the time to make that happen, and that's why I really suggest do it at the end of the day. It's quiet and or you can make it quiet, and you can really learn by doing that you don't have to watch TV until an hour after you've fallen asleep, and then you wake up and discover the TV's on. You can take the time to become a little bit more introspective and learn more about yourself that way. And that's exactly what will happen if you really think about it Kassandra Hamilton  38:55 100% and you know, at my book launch, people were asking, like, how did you write a book, and it was like, it's not it's not hard in the sense that it's hard, it's hard because you have to show up every day. But that consistency, whether it's five minutes or an hour, like the consistency is everything. So showing up for yourself in small ways or whatever feels manageable at first, will naturally give you more energy to wake up early and give yourself more time. You know, it's just happens that way. Michael Hingson  39:25 Yeah, yeah. Well, I agree. What's your favorite tool that you use with clients? Kassandra Hamilton  39:31 So it would be the one I shared with you earlier rain. It has been very instrumental for people in transforming how long it takes them to go from from a place of fear or anxiety or resentment to just processing it and being neutral. And it's amazing. Michael Hingson  39:53 And again, just to reiterate, it rain stands for, Kassandra Hamilton  39:57 recognize, accept or acknowledge. Manage, investigate and nourish, Michael Hingson  40:05 that's cheating. You get both both spellings of rain in there. That's that works, but it makes perfect sense and and I'm assuming that you've felt you've had pretty good success with people. Have you had anyone that just resists, even though they come to you and they say, Oh, I'm burned out and all that, but you start to work with them and they just resist? Or do you find that you're able to usually break through? Kassandra Hamilton  40:35 So it's funny, because a lot of people that come to me are very resistant to it, because of the nature of burnout, where people feel like don't have the time or the energy right at the beginning, a lot of people are very resistant, and they say so in their testimonials. No, at first I felt resistant, but then I didn't know that these things were actually going to give me exactly what I what I needed. So I've worked with a couple nurses. I worked with a woman who was managing, like, working four jobs, and she was super burnt out. But eventually, probably by like two or three weeks in, people are starting to feel the differences, and they're, they're all in. So yeah, it does take a bit to get them there, but once they're there, they're they're flying so, Michael Hingson  41:22 yeah, oh, that's that is so really cool, because you're able to break through and get people to do exactly what we've been talking about, which is so important to do, Kassandra Hamilton  41:34 yeah, yeah. And you know the moments for me that just feel like, Oh, this is the work I meant to do, is seeing someone go from that place of burnout or defeat because they're working a job they don't enjoy to starting their own business that's leveraging their creativity and their passion, or they've repaired a relationship, or they're finally feeling confident in themselves like there's No better gift to me than to see that change in somebody. Michael Hingson  42:06 What are some of the most common struggles that you see in people? I know we've probably talked a lot about it, but you know, it's good to summarize. But what are some of the kind of the most common struggles that you find in people? And why do you think that people are experiencing so much burnout? And I'm assuming that those two are related, Kassandra Hamilton  42:27 yeah, yeah. So, okay, so if we were talking about career, people that are managing a career that is very demanding, and that is all they do, and they have no energy for time like for things outside of work. What they say is that they're feeling numb, or they're living on autopilot, or they don't recognize themselves anymore. Another shared that she was really scared of leaving because of a financial aspect. And so I think at that point, you just start to flip the narrative and ask, well, what are you sacrificing by staying right? So like, maybe we need to get a part time job while we're exploring our creativity and building a new business for ourselves, but it's 100% possible, and these programs are not meant to make these drastic changes overnight. They're small, incremental, consistent changes that over time bring you to a place of alignment with what you actually want to create in life. Do you Michael Hingson  43:34 find that there are some people who feel I can't stay here, I've got to leave or this boss isn't good, or whatever, when, in reality, it's it's something different, and that a mindset shift makes them discover that they really are in a good well, they're in a good position, or they have a good career, or whatever, but their perspective has just been off. Kassandra Hamilton  43:56 Yeah, absolutely. So someone said something to me the other day that it stuck with me at the time, but it was something like, If you can't, if you can't get out of it, you better get into it. Yeah, that's a good point. It's like, yeah, sometimes it's just with how you're showing up for yourself and for the people around you. And that's the shift that needs to happen. So it's not necessarily about leaving a job. Thank you for bringing that up. It is about changing your life from the inside, and a huge part of that is mindset and the energy that you're bringing to a situation. Because how you do one thing is how you do everything. So, yeah, Michael Hingson  44:41 it's it's like, well, one of the things that I constantly tell people is there are a lot of times that something occurs to you or that you're involved with you have no control over, because you're not the one that that did it, or you're not the one that directly made this happen. And but you always have the choice of how you deal with whatever happens. So even if you don't have any direct influence over something occurring, you have always the opportunity to determine how you're going to deal with it. And that's always something that I think is so important for people to analyze and think about. But I think all too many people don't Kassandra Hamilton  45:21 absolutely the power is in our pause. And that's something I tell people all the time, the power is in your pause. Slow down, take a second, don't respond right away. And then come from a place of power, and you know that it changes everything. Michael Hingson  45:38 Well, the reality is that the more of that that you do, the more you pause, the more you think about it. The fact is, the quicker, over time, you'll be able to make a decision, because you're teaching yourself how to do that Kassandra Hamilton  45:54 truly. Yep. Michael Hingson  45:56 And so for a while, you may not be able to or you you are not confident enough to be able to make a decision right away, which is fine, you should pause. But the fact of the matter is, I think what I really describe it as, and I think it's so true, is you need to learn to listen to your inner voice, because your inner voice is going to tell you what you need to do. And you just need to really learn to focus on that, but we don't. We always say, Oh, that's too easy. That can't be the right answer when it really is. Kassandra Hamilton  46:26 It really is. And so again, that pause is also about space, right? So when I feel triggered by something, I will take the space to let myself come back down from that and then ask myself what I really want, or again, coming back to boundaries, if someone asks me if I want to do something, and I'm a very social person, and I love connection, so right away, I want to say yes, I'll, you know, do that thing with you. Now I have a really beautiful way to still show that it's like something I want to partake in, but honor myself as well. By saying I love this idea, I need a little bit of time to figure out if I can fully commit to this, and I'll get back to you at this time so it shows integrity, not only to myself, but to to that person as well, and showing up in a way that it like, if I have capacity to do that, then I will, yeah. Michael Hingson  47:25 Well, if somebody listening to this kind of feels unfulfilled or stuck exhausted, what's the very first step that you would suggest that they take? Kassandra Hamilton  47:37 Just like I was saying, just take a pause. Michael Hingson  47:40 I knew you were going to Kassandra Hamilton  47:41 say that create a moment of space. Ask yourself, what's really going on and what you really want, and then ask yourself if your actions are all the choices that you're about to make align with that, yeah. Michael Hingson  47:56 And the reason I asked the question was, was really just to get you to reiterate that and to get people to hear it again, because we have to really come together in our own minds and decide what we want to do, and we shouldn't have knee jerk reactions. There's no need to do that, if we think about it and really take the time to ponder what makes the most sense to do. Can we'll get the right answers if we work at it Kassandra Hamilton  48:22 100% you just have to put in a little bit of curiosity and time to figure it out. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Michael Hingson  48:33 What do you think is one of the greatest misunderstandings about burnout and what is the truth that you really wish more people knew? Kassandra Hamilton  48:46 People think burnout is just about being tired or needing a vacation, but it's so much deeper than that. And you know, it's a sign that we've been living out of alignment with ourselves, and that rest alone isn't going to fix it real, real recovery is is coming from changing the way that we live and setting boundaries and reconnecting with what matters and building a life that gives energy instead of strain. Michael Hingson  49:16 Yeah, again, it gets back to that authenticity thing. Kassandra Hamilton  49:19 Yep, that thing, yeah. Michael Hingson  49:26 What are some of the biggest transformations that you've seen from your clients that you're really pleased about? Kassandra Hamilton  49:33 I've seen clients go from anxious and depleted to, like I said, starting businesses that they love. And that wasn't even something that we worked on together, it was like just a few tweaks, you know, simple but not easy, shifts that they made. And then I get emails or comments about how they're starting businesses that they love, and they're full time booked in that so like that. That's been a big transformation. Question for a few of my clients. One woman was trying to find a relationship, and she had tried everything, and from all different angles, and it wasn't working, and truthfully, she needed to come back to herself and align with herself, and when she did that, you know, nine months later, she found the love of her life, and one client said she stopped feeling numb for the first time in years. Another shared that she actually laughed and felt joy again. And these transformations are powerful because they're not just surface change or changes. They're they're life changing shifts in how people see themselves and what they what they feel like they can create in the world. Michael Hingson  50:46 And ultimately, isn't most of this transformation or shift really a change in one's mindset. Kassandra Hamilton  50:54 Yes, it is mindset, and it is also taking the time, taking the time, having the courage and having awareness of how we are operating in our daily lives, and why, yeah, and then shifting that. Michael Hingson  51:12 Well, tell us all about the book. When did it launch, and what's happened, and what do you see coming down the line for it and so on? Yes, I know you have a lot to talk about, so tell us. Kassandra Hamilton  51:27 So the magic of realigning from the inside out is very much in line with what I coach about, which is about bringing us back home to ourselves. And I share a lot of personal storytelling and scientific connections and soulful practices that I've tried that have worked really well for me, and I really invite readers to reconnect with with themselves. So it's sort of like a guidebook like the first the first half of the book is a lot of stories, the second half is more tools and strategies. And overall, it's the idea that, you know, the answers aren't out there. They have to start within. And we weren't meant to just get through the day. It's exhausting to try to fix and control everything out there. The thing is, we have no control over what's happening out there anyways, and so we have our one wild and precious life, and it's like, what are we going to do with that, especially in a world that's constantly pulling us outward with notifications and expectations and distractions? Yeah, I really believe this is how we show up to make a positive difference in the world by working on ourselves and spreading that upward. Michael Hingson  52:40 So when did the book launch? Kassandra Hamilton  52:43 August 21 was my book launch here on Vancouver Island, and I'm actually organizing a little book tour. Yeah, across the province here. So yeah, that's stay tuned. It'll be next month. I think so. Michael Hingson  53:01 Have you had any kind of book tours, or what kind of publicity Have you had so far for the book? Kassandra Hamilton  53:06 So I was working with a publicist, which was very new to me, and I was able to connect with some press. So a couple newspapers came to my book launch. There was, I think it was like 50 people that showed up, and the mayor came to give a speech, and he wants to meet with me for lunch next week and talk more about what I could do with the book, which is great, because I really think I can use it as a tool for helping in my own community and maybe even offering organizations some opportunities to explore strategies to get their their employees out of burnout. Yeah? So that's kind of what's happened so far, and a lot of bookstores have taken it up. So I've got all the local bookstores here. Have it. It's not available on Amazon, yeah, and it's actually a bestseller. I reached bestseller status in three categories. What categories, personal development, personal growth, and I think anxiety was the third one I have to look back at it. Michael Hingson  54:14 Well, definitely congratulations are in order for doing that. Though. Thank you. Thank you. So that's that is definitely kind of cool to to have that kind of situation and that kind of status happening with the book. It makes it very exciting and certainly gratifying in so many ways. When did you start coaching? Did you when did you actually start your company? Kassandra Hamilton  54:37 So I started coaching. Let's see two, two, no, a year and a half ago. So honestly, formally, not that long, but it's already just something I'm so passionate about and getting more and more positive feedback on. So yeah, I guess in the grand scheme of things, I'm just getting started. Michael Hingson  54:59 Well, that's fair. That's fine. Yeah, we, we think you're going to go far at least. I think you're going to go quite a, quite a distance with all of this. Do you just coach people directly, one on one? Do you do virtual coaching? Do you coach outside of British Columbia and all that? Kassandra Hamilton  55:18 Yeah, you know, I mostly work virtually, because then I can be accessible to more people. So that's how I actually prefer to work, is virtually, but I'm open to, you know, meeting people where they're at and however they want to communicate. So I've been doing phone calls with with one person and then zoom with another, and if people do want to do in person, I'm open to it. It's just a little bit more restrictive in terms of reach. But I'm also going to be doing some wellness workshops and talks around these tools and strategies I've learned, and using my book as a tool as I go through the province next month. So it's not just going to be about the book. It's going to be presenting and giving workshops and talks around this work, and then presenting my book as a tool to use in in helping people get back to a place of alignment and energy again. Michael Hingson  56:20 Well, on your on your website, we haven't talked about that yet, but on your website, do you have any videos of talks or anything like that that you've done? Kassandra Hamilton  56:31 Not of any talks. I think my first one, to be honest with you, is, was at the book launch, but it went so well that I'm just sort of, I'm I'm adding fuel to that fire, you know, and I'm just gonna keep going, yeah. So I haven't done any talks beyond that one yet, but I have some testimonials and things on my website. So those are the videos that are there. Michael Hingson  56:55 Well, for people who are listening to this today, who feel like they want to do. So, how can they reach out to you and connect with you, and what? What happens? Kassandra Hamilton  57:05 Yeah, so the best way is to reach out to me through my website or my I have a link tree link that I think I might have sent you, Michael, but it has all my different links for working on with coaching or reaching out in different ways and contact information. So link tree, Instagram are my main ones, but also obviously email and my website. So what is your website? It's www, dot Kassandra with a K Hamilton, which is my last name.com, Michael Hingson  57:40 so that's easy. Www, dot Kassandra Hamilton com, Kassandra Hamilton  57:44 yeah, and on Instagram, it's at Kassandra with a K underscore Hamilton, so Michael Hingson  57:50 Okay, yeah, have you? Have you done much with LinkedIn? Kassandra Hamilton  57:55 I have, yeah, I also have LinkedIn, yep. And I have Tiktok, and I have Facebook, Michael Hingson  58:00 all the things, all the different suspects, all the usual suspects, yes, yeah. Well, that is, you know, that is really pretty cool. I hope that people will reach out, because you've off, you've clearly offered a lot of very useful and relevant information. And I think that it's extremely important that people take it to heart, and I hope that maybe we're going to be able to have contributed to your getting some more people in the business too. Kassandra Hamilton  58:30 I really appreciate that, Michael and I know you've done so much work with people as well, and inspired others, you know, astronomically. So I really appreciate and feel grateful for the time that you've given me today. Michael Hingson  58:46 Well, this has been a lot of fun, and we'll have to do it again. You'll have to come on and some point in the future and let us know how things are going and how the book is doing, and how everything else is happening. But I, but I really do value the fact that you've spent so much time with us today. Kassandra Hamilton  59:03 Thank you so much. At least we're in the Michael Hingson  59:06 same time zone. That helps. Yes, that's true. Well, Kassandra, I want to thank you for being here, and I want to thank all of you out there for listening to us and being with us and watching us, whichever you do. I'd love to hear from you as well. I'd like to get your thoughts and your opinions. Please reach out to me. At Michael H i, that's m, I, C, H, A, E, L, H, I, at accessibe, A, C, C, E, S, S, i, b, e.com, I'd like to get your thoughts. Like to know what you thought of today's episode, wherever you are experiencing the podcast, please give us a five star review. We value your reviews highly, and we would really appreciate you giving us reviews of this episode and the podcast in general, and for anyone out there, including you, Kassandra, who might know of anyone else who ought to be a guest on unstoppable. 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In this episode of Empowered through Compassion, I sit down with psychotherapist, trauma expert and peace-journalism pioneer Annabel McGoldrick to explore one of the most urgent humanitarian crises of our time: the crisis in Palestine. We spoke about how healing works, and the importance of connection, balance and equality. Annabel brings together nearly 25 years as a clinician specializing in trauma, EMDR and IFS-informed therapy, alongside her earlier career and passion in peace journalism. She has a deep commitment to opening up dialogue even for difficult and needed topics. We speak about how the silencing by our field, of the horrors that have been going on in Palestine feels antithetical to the healing work we are tasked to do. Together, we explore how the story of Gaza has been told, and discuss how it might be re-told in ways that reclaim the voices of the those who continue to be oppressed and subjugated in this space.  Annabel's event that she is organizing is called "Breaking the Silence: Trauma Therapists Talk about Gaza." Gabor Mate will be the guest of honor. You can buy tickets here:  https://events.humanitix.com/breaking-the-silence-trauma-therapists-talk-about-gaza The event will feature trauma therapists and activists to share wisdom and reflect on what it takes to truly listen to Palestinian voices, to understand deep collective wounds, and to consider how trauma-informed care intersects with humanitarian justice. There will be emotionally powerful conversation, reminding us that amid conflict and pain, we have the power to listen to provide our presence, which are radical acts of peace!  If you're drawn to conversations that sit at the intersection of power, trauma, identity and hope, this episode is for you! I'm deeply grateful to Annabel for her generosity of voice and for modeling what it looks like to hold suffering with complexity and dignity. You can find out more information about Annabel at her website: https://emdrinsight.com 

From embracing Zionism as a Holocaust survivor to becoming a vocal critic of Israeli policies, renowned author and doctor Gabor Maté reflects on the evolution in his thinking, on trauma as a driving force behind Zionism and Israel, and on how collective Jewish trauma has been exploited by Israel to justify its war in Gaza. This is a story from the archives. This originally aired on January 17, 2025. None of the dates, titles or other references from that time have been changed. In this episode: Gabor Maté (@DrGaborMate), Physician and Author Episode credits: This episode was produced by Tamara Khandaker and Sonia Bhagat, with Noor Wazwaz, Phillip Lanos, Spencer Cline, Hagir Saleh, Melanie Marich, and our host, Malika Bilal. It was edited by Alexandra Locke. The Take production team is Marcos Bartolomé, Sonia Bhagat, Spencer Cline, Sarí el-Khalili, Diana Ferrero, Tracie Hunte, Tamara Khandaker, Kylene Kiang, Phillip Lanos, Chloe K. Li, Melanie Marich, Catherine Nouhan, Amy Walters, and Noor Wazwaz. Our editorial interns are Farhan Rafid, and Fatima Shafiq. Our host is Malika Bilal. Our sound designer is Alex Roldan. Our video editors are Hisham Abu Salah and Mohannad Al-Melhem. Alexandra Locke is the Take’s executive producer. Ney Alvarez is Al Jazeera’s head of audio. Connect with us: @AJEPodcasts on X, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube

The poet Rumi shared this wisdom: "Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, Your pain can become your greatest ally in your life's search for love and wisdom." The poetry of Rumi makes that process sound like a smooth and blissful journey. Of course, the reality is that the work of being open amidst tough stuff, seeing our suffering, accepting our pain, and moving on can be messy and difficult. AND, no matter how many times we try and fall short, it's still healing work. We'll dig into this journey throughout the episode, how we can be open to and see the truth of our pain, and how to apply compassion and practical steps to move beyond what might be holding us back.  About: The Joy Lab Podcast blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, ease anxiety, and uplift mood. Join Dr. Henry Emmons and Dr. Aimee Prasek for practical, mindfulness-based tools and positive psychology strategies to build resilience and create lasting joy. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts!   Like and follow Joy Lab on Socials:  Instagram TikTok Linkedin Watch episode on YouTube  Sources and Notes: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life. Previous episodes for this series: Part 1: Ordinary Human Compassion & Self-Compassion to Improve Mental Health Part 2: Understanding Ourselves & Others Part 3: Reducing Self-Criticism & Judgment by Recognizing Our Shared Human-ess Gabor Mate's website Full transcript here Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

Many of us think we escaped life without having experienced trauma. I say, “Guess again!” because as it turns out, many – if not most people – do experience the internal pain that is trauma, related to either big T or little t traumatic events. Trauma impacts how we react to stress in life… and our reactions to stress are often what lead us directly to the things that steer us away from maintaining weight loss or refraining from alcohol/other drug use, excessive spending, or other unhealthy behaviors. That means that unrecognized and unresolved emotional damage from traumatic events may be interfering with your ability to sustain the healthy lifestyle behaviors necessary for ongoing weight loss… not to mention the ability to have healthy interpersonal relationships. You're gonna want to hear and share today's episode!The Weight Loss Winformation Podcast gives you essential psychological information to help you lose weight and more importantly, to help keep you at a healthy weight for your body! No matter how you are working to lose weight and no matter how much weight you want to lose, Weight Loss Winformation will keep you moving in a positive direction. Resources:BariAfterare: www.bariaftercare.comConnie Stapleton PhD website: www.conniestapletonphd.comBariAftercare website: https://www.conniestapletonphd.com/bariaftercareBariAftercare Facebook page (for members only): https://www.facebook.com/groups/BariAftercareKevin Stephens: Your Bariatric Buddy   https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourbariatricbuddy/peopleInstagram: @ (Caleshia Haynes)Instagram: @therealbariboss (Tabitha Johnson)Instagram @drsusanmitchell (Dr. Susan Mitchell)Instagram: @lauraleepreston (Laura Preston)ProCare Vitamins (10% off with code ConnieStapleton)Rob DiMedio: https://www.busybariatrics.com/Dr. Joan Brugman: drjbrugman@outlook.comDr. Susan Mitchell:https://www.facebook.com/DrSusanMitchellhttps://www.facebook.com/bariatricsurgerystrategiesWhen The Body Says No – book by Gabor MateThe Myth of Normal – book by Gabor Mate

You know the type — ambitious, perfectionistic, and always striving to do more and be more… yet secretly fuelled by pressure, anxiety, and fear.   In this episode, Michael is joined by special guest Scott Stirrett as they share their own stories of hustling for achievement and how they've learned to stay ambitious without destroying themselves in the process. Together, they unpack how perfectionism, internalized shame, and the need for external validation can be ways we attempt to outrun our insecurities — and pivot toward ambition that's healthy, sustainable, and soul-driven.  Topics covered in this episode: Why gay men are uniquely wired for overachievement How perfectionism shows up in covert and overt ways  How adversity can build anti-fragility and real confidence The difference between healthy ambition vs shame-fuelled hustle Learning to slow down without feeling lazy, guilty, or like you're falling behind  Rewiring your motivation so it feeds you instead of drains you  By the end of this episode, you'll be inspired to pursue success in a way that keeps you driven and impactful — without burning yourself out — and to start measuring your worth from the inside out. Today's Guest: Scott Stirrett LinkedIn Instagram Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Instagram Men's Group Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US - Watch podcast episodes on YouTube Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US - Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others. Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Chapters (00:00:00) - Gay Men Going Deeper: Overachieving Gays(00:01:39) - How I Became A Perfect Male Athlete: The Shame(00:08:11) - Scott on Struggles With Self-Valuation(00:13:35) - The Need For External Validation In Gay Men(00:19:17) - How to Get Out of Gay Workplaces(00:21:52) - Gay Men: The Importance of Internal Validation(00:25:30) - The Gay Men's Brotherhood(00:26:34) - What Does Healthy Willing Look Like vs Perfectionism?(00:31:22) - Coming Out: Don't Be Afraid of Failure(00:36:57) - Mental Health Support for Men(00:40:20) - Self-Motivation and the Uncertainty Advantage(00:42:47) - What's Your Tipping Point?(00:43:48) - Michael Jackson on His End(00:44:24) - Healthy Work Life Balance(00:46:47) - Michael Buble Reveals His Personal Values(00:50:52) - How to Say No to Stuff(00:57:00) - Developing self-efficacy through challenging times(00:59:06) - Gabor Mate on Gay Men's Trauma(01:03:40) - Scott Courteney on The Uncertainty Advantage

In this episode of the Joy Lab Podcast, we're not just defining compassion, but we're really getting into its relationship with mental health. We'll start by highlighting the important difference between pain and suffering and then get into how compassion, especially self-compassion, serves as a powerful antidote to ease stress responses. This episode also sets the stage for a 5-part series examining Dr. Gabor Maté's five levels of compassion, starting with ordinary human compassion. We'll dive into lots of practical examples (e.g., when you say something you wish you hadn't) and how to apply compassion. About: The Joy Lab Podcast blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, ease anxiety, and uplift mood. Join Dr. Henry Emmons and Dr. Aimee Prasek for practical, mindfulness-based tools and positive psychology strategies to build resilience and create lasting joy. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts!   Like and follow Joy Lab on Socials:  Instagram TikTok Linkedin Watch this episode on YouTube     Sources and Notes: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life.  Gabor Mate's website. Dr. Krisitin Neff's website (self-compassion.org).   Full transcript here.    Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

Our guest has hosted hundreds of patients on ketamine-assisted psychedelic trips and has gone on a few of his own, yet his experience is that dreamwork can be even more profound. In this show, a replay of a popular show from August 2024 Katherine talks to Dr. Darren Jakubec, an emergency-room anesthetist who runs a pain clinic in northern British Columbia. Jake talks about his history with dreaming and inner work and then gives an example of working a dream with a pain clinic patient. He describes his experience with a ketamine clinic which he ran for several years, describing psychedelics as an inner work accelerant which uses much of the same language as dreaming. After the break we take a dream share from Steve Popp, co-host of the “In the Garden” program which precedes the Dream Journal on Saturday mornings on KSQD. The dream features powerful spiritual themes which leads us into Jake giving his analogy about psychedelics vs dreaming which he summarizes as fire hose vs garden hose. We take a second dream from Elizabeth from Bellingham WA of a chaotic car trip with a problematic loved one. Books mentioned during the show: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan, and various work by Gabor Mate. He also mentions the Curable app for dealing with chronic pain. BIO: Darren Jakubec, M.D., is trained in family medicine and in anesthesia and lives and practices in northern British Columbia. Darren has been a dreamworker for 12 years and practices dreamwork in his pain clinic, in his ketamine clinic, in the emergency room, and in the hallways and rooms of the hospital where he works. Contact me to get in touch with my guest. This show, episode number 330 was broadcast September 27, 2025 as a replay from a show recorded during live August 3, 2024 at KSQD.org, community radio of Santa Cruz. Intro and outro music by Mood Science. Ambient music new every week by Rick Kleffel. Archived music can be found at Pandemiad.com. Many thanks to Rick for also engineering the show and to Erik Nelson for answering the phones. The Santa Cruz Festival of Dreams will be at the Museum of Art and History October 10-12, 2025! Information at FestivalofDreams.net Follow us at our FB group page HERE or follow #KeepSantaCruzDreaming on FB and IG. SHARE A DREAM FOR THE SHOW or a question or enquire about being a guest on the podcast by emailing Katherine Bell at katherine@ksqd.org. Follow on FB, IG, LI, & YT @ExperientialDreamwork #thedreamjournal. To learn more or to inquire about exploring your own dreams go to ExperientialDreamwork.com. The Dream Journal aims to: Increase awareness of and appreciation for nightly dreams. Inspire dream sharing and other kinds of dream exploration as a way of adding depth and meaningfulness to lives and relationships. Improve society by the increased empathy, emotional balance, and sense of wonder which dream exploration invites. A dream can be meaningful even if you don’t know what it means. The Dream Journal is produced at and airs on KSQD Santa Cruz, 90.7 FM. Catch it streaming LIVE at KSQD.org 10-11am Pacific Time on Saturdays. Call or text with your dreams or questions at 831-900-5773 or email at onair@ksqd.org. Podcasts are available on all major podcast platforms the Monday following the live show. The complete KSQD Dream Journal podcast page can be found at ksqd.org/the-dream-journal/. Closed captioning is available on the YouTube version of this podcast and an automatically generated transcript is available at Apple Podcasts. Thanks for being a Dream Journal listener! Available on all major podcast platforms. Rate it, review it, subscribe, and tell your friends.

Bronnie Ware was recovering from burnout when she wrote a blog post reflecting on years working as a palliative carer and the epiphanies patients shared with her as they faced death.  It was read by millions and became the basis of her best-selling book, The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying.And the lessons Bronnie learnt from her dying patients also helped her confront some darker elements of her childhood and eventually find peace.The book has become a touchstone for many people all over the world, including influential thinkers like Dr Gabor Mate and Dr Rangan Chaterjee.Bronnie's wildlife vlog can be found on her website bronnieware.comThis episode of Conversations was produced by Jen Leake. Executive Producer is Nicola Harrison.It explores death, dying, palliative care, family, regrets, nature, depression, chronic illness, carer work, Bronnie Ware, The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying, writing,  forgiveness, wildlife, spirituality, memory, meditation.To binge even more great episodes of the Conversations podcast with Richard Fidler and Sarah Kanowski go the ABC listen app (Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts. There you'll find hundreds of the best thought-provoking interviews with authors, writers, artists, politicians, psychologists, musicians, and celebrities.

Books are an incredible way to gain knowledge, insight and to help yourself live a better, fuller life. Instead of telling you what's in my brain, this episode is dedicated to sharing my favourite health and wellness books with you. In this episode, I break down my 8 favourite health and wellness books (plus 4 honourable mentions) so you can equip yourself with the tools you need to be healthy and to heal.  I'll give you the book title, the author, book length (pages and listen time on audio), the premise/overall message, my favourite takeaways and some quotes from each book.  And if you want to do some more reading or listen to these books afterward, I've left each title and author down below.   TOPICS DISCUSSED: Metabolic health and their links to disease Traditional vs modern diets Using food as medicine Trauma, emotions and stress in your physical body Cellular health as individual parts of your whole body God's original design for our health and diets The gut-brain (and everything else) connection The power and purpsoe of sleep Getting in touch with nature for a healthier life   BOOKS MENTIONED "Metabolic Freedom" - Ben Azadi "Eat to Beat Disease" - Dr. William Li, MD "The Body Keeps the Score" - Bessel van der Kolk, MD "The Cellular Wellness Solution" - Dr. Bill Rawls, MD "The Mker's Diet" - Jordan Rubin "When The Bdy Says No" - Dr. Gabor Mate, MD "Brain Maker" - Dr. David Perlmutter, MD "Why We Sleep" - Dr. Matthew Walker, PhD "Nutrition and Physical Degeneration" - Dr. Weston A. Price, DDS "Last Child in The Woods" - Richard Louv "The Germ That Causes Cancer" - Doug Kauffman "The Emperor of All Maladies: A Biography of Cancer" - Dr. Siddhartha Mukherjee, MD   Leave us a Review: https://www.reversablepod.com/review   Need help with your gut? Visit my website gutsolution.ca to join a program: Get help now   Contact us: reversablepod.com/tips    FIND ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram  Facebook  YouTube

Hace un año me leí El mito de la normalidad del Dr. Gabor Maté en coautoría con su hijo, Daniel. Es un libro que cuestiona la vida como la estamos viviendo: la niñez, la política, las emociones, el alimento. En este episodio, la primera parte... espera el próximo más adelante

This is a fan fav episode. In this episode, Gabor Mate explains how easily unconscious traumas from childhood can be identified. He shares years of experience and wisdom with Tom in this conversation that explores the depths of truth and meaning in life, and how that fits in with our physical and behavioral manifestations of broken adult expectations and stressors. Gabor Mate, is a deep thinker, childhood development expert, and expert of addiction. He shares his unique insights on how to deal with severe trauma and how to get the most out of life by moving beyond mere survival. ORIGINAL AIR DATE: 3-18-21 SHOW NOTES: Reality | Gabor on how people view reality and the Johnny Cash song, In Your Mind [1:14] Emotional Work | Ongoing emotional work that takes consciousness and awareness [9:13]] Being Sensitive | Advantage and disadvantage of being highly sensitive [12:18] Beyond Mental | Gabor reveals makes life more profound beyond the mental experience [20:04] Self-Isolation | Gabor explores self-isolation and the state of pain versus enlightenment. [22:32] Child Development | Gabor reveals what healthy child development [41:04] Truth Not Facts | Gabor explains difference between truth and facts [59:54] Palliative Care | Gabor share his experience and perspective with palliative care [1:14:18] Suffering From Past |Gabor shares a quote to explain how suffering isn't always labeled [1:43:19] CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Allio Capital: Macro investing for people who want to understand the big picture. Download their app in the App Store or at Google Play, or text my name “TOM” to 511511. ButcherBox: Ready to level up your meals? Go to ⁠⁠https://butcherbox.com/impact⁠⁠ to get $20 off your first box and FREE bacon for life with the Bilyeu Box! Linkedin: Post your job free at ⁠⁠https://linkedin.com/impacttheory⁠⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠⁠https://shopify.com/impact⁠⁠ Hims: Start your free online visit today at ⁠⁠https://hims.com/IMPACT⁠⁠. SleepMe: Visit ⁠⁠https://sleep.me/impact⁠⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code IMPACT. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping. Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠⁠ and entering promo code IMPACT at check out What's up, everybody? It's Tom Bilyeu here: If you want my help... STARTING a business:⁠⁠ join me here at ZERO TO FOUNDER⁠⁠:  ⁠⁠https://tombilyeu.com/zero-to-founder?utm_campaign=Podcast%20Offer&utm_source=podca[%E2%80%A6]d%20end%20of%20show&utm_content=podcast%20ad%20end%20of%20show⁠⁠ SCALING a business:⁠⁠ see if you qualify here.⁠⁠:  ⁠⁠https://tombilyeu.com/call⁠⁠ Get my battle-tested strategies and insights delivered weekly to your inbox:⁠⁠ sign up here.⁠⁠: ⁠⁠https://tombilyeu.com/⁠⁠ ********************************************************************** If you're serious about leveling up your life, I urge you to check out my new podcast,⁠⁠ Tom Bilyeu's Mindset Playbook⁠⁠ —a goldmine of my most impactful episodes on mindset, business, and health. Trust me, your future self will thank you. ********************************************************************** FOLLOW TOM: Instagram:⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/⁠⁠ Tik Tok:⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@tombilyeu?lang=en⁠⁠ Twitter:⁠⁠ https://twitter.com/tombilyeu⁠⁠ YouTube:⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@TomBilyeu⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a fan fav episode. In this episode, Gabor Mate explains how easily unconscious traumas from childhood can be identified. He shares years of experience and wisdom with Tom in this conversation that explores the depths of truth and meaning in life, and how that fits in with our physical and behavioral manifestations of broken adult expectations and stressors. Gabor Mate, is a deep thinker, childhood development expert, and expert of addiction. He shares his unique insights on how to deal with severe trauma and how to get the most out of life by moving beyond mere survival. ORIGINAL AIR DATE: 3-18-21 SHOW NOTES: Reality | Gabor on how people view reality and the Johnny Cash song, In Your Mind [1:14] Emotional Work | Ongoing emotional work that takes consciousness and awareness [9:13]] Being Sensitive | Advantage and disadvantage of being highly sensitive [12:18] Beyond Mental | Gabor reveals makes life more profound beyond the mental experience [20:04] Self-Isolation | Gabor explores self-isolation and the state of pain versus enlightenment. [22:32] Child Development | Gabor reveals what healthy child development [41:04] Truth Not Facts | Gabor explains difference between truth and facts [59:54] Palliative Care | Gabor share his experience and perspective with palliative care [1:14:18] Suffering From Past |Gabor shares a quote to explain how suffering isn't always labeled [1:43:19] CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Allio Capital: Macro investing for people who want to understand the big picture. Download their app in the App Store or at Google Play, or text my name “TOM” to 511511. ButcherBox: Ready to level up your meals? Go to ⁠⁠https://butcherbox.com/impact⁠⁠ to get $20 off your first box and FREE bacon for life with the Bilyeu Box! Linkedin: Post your job free at ⁠⁠https://linkedin.com/impacttheory⁠⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠⁠https://shopify.com/impact⁠⁠ Hims: Start your free online visit today at ⁠⁠https://hims.com/IMPACT⁠⁠. SleepMe: Visit ⁠⁠https://sleep.me/impact⁠⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code IMPACT. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping. Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠⁠ and entering promo code IMPACT at check out What's up, everybody? It's Tom Bilyeu here: If you want my help... STARTING a business:⁠⁠ join me here at ZERO TO FOUNDER⁠⁠:  ⁠⁠https://tombilyeu.com/zero-to-founder?utm_campaign=Podcast%20Offer&utm_source=podca[%E2%80%A6]d%20end%20of%20show&utm_content=podcast%20ad%20end%20of%20show⁠⁠ SCALING a business:⁠⁠ see if you qualify here.⁠⁠:  ⁠⁠https://tombilyeu.com/call⁠⁠ Get my battle-tested strategies and insights delivered weekly to your inbox:⁠⁠ sign up here.⁠⁠: ⁠⁠https://tombilyeu.com/⁠⁠ ********************************************************************** If you're serious about leveling up your life, I urge you to check out my new podcast,⁠⁠ Tom Bilyeu's Mindset Playbook⁠⁠ —a goldmine of my most impactful episodes on mindset, business, and health. Trust me, your future self will thank you. ********************************************************************** FOLLOW TOM: Instagram:⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/⁠⁠ Tik Tok:⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@tombilyeu?lang=en⁠⁠ Twitter:⁠⁠ https://twitter.com/tombilyeu⁠⁠ YouTube:⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@TomBilyeu⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of The Observatory, Scott and LaRae share the different aspects of trauma and how we can heal from them. Hear LaRae's traumatic event of losing her mother in a road accident and how it shaped her life differently, Scott's traumatic experience in 1967, and the traumatic event that Scott and LaRae almost died. They also share tips for healing childhood trauma as a family and what LaRae has learned from the Compassionate Inquiry with Dr Gabor Mate.Timestamps[03:22] Events in our childhood that create patterns in our lives[07:25] The feeling of being stuck[09:54] LaRae's traumatic event of losing her mother and how it shaped her life differently [13:12] The different aspects of trauma[21:15] Scott's traumatic experiences in 1967[26:46] The traumatic event that Scott and LaRae almost died[31:30] What LaRae has learned from the Compassionate Inquiry healing model[43:00] The purpose of the message today[47:00] Healing childhood trauma as a familyNotable quotes:“No one experiences childhood the same, even though you are all raised by the same parents and in the same home.” - LaRae Wright [06:09]“The first aspect of trauma occurs when something happens, leading you to interpret it in a way that creates rigidity. This causes you to frame your experience in a programmed manner that constrains you.” - LaRae Wright [13:11]“The second aspect of trauma is when your feelings become overwhelming, causing you to disconnect from them.” - LaRae Wright [13:27]“Life is a defensive game, and we are constantly seeking unconsciously validation of our experience.” - LaRae Wright [31:57]Relevant links:Compassionate Inquiry https://drgabormate.com/compassionate-inquiry/Subscribe to the podcast: Apple PodcastProduced by NC Productions!

In today's episode, Gina concludes her discussion of grief and how we can use this often misunderstood emotional state for growth and expansion of our deep wellness. The work of Jonny Miller and Gabor Mate are drawn on extensively in this discussion. Coming to understand the wholeness of life cannot be known without experiencing ups and downs that include grief can help us not get stuck in overwhelming anxiety that may occur in association with grief and loss. Listen in and come to know deep calm even in the face of difficult emotional states!Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors!https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching linkACPGroupCoaching.comTo learn more, go to:Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.comJoin our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership ProgramLearn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership:For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/Here's what's included for $5/month:❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind❤ And more fun surprises along the way!All this in your favorite podcast app!Chapters0:26 Welcome to the Podcast2:35 The Power of Grief8:09 Emotional Suppression and Healing10:06 Understanding Grief's Journey13:29 Grief as a Connection to Life15:58 Embracing Human Experience16:55 Closing Thoughts and AlohaSummaryIn this episode, I share the conclusion of our three-part Nervous System Reset series, delving into the intricate relationship between grief and emotional healing. I draw inspiration from Johnny Miller, whose poignant narrative about losing his fiancée, Sophie, highlights the profound lessons that grief can impart. Through his experiences, we explore the concept that grief is not merely an inconvenience to be avoided, but rather a natural, and at times, beautiful aspect of our humanity. By embracing our emotions fully, we can transform grief into a source of guidance, prompting us to reconnect with life's deeper meanings.I emphasize that allowing grief to flow through us rather than resisting it can be therapeutic. When we allow ourselves to feel and experience our emotions, we prevent the buildup of what Johnny describes as emotional debt. This episode encourages listeners to practice feeling grief in its raw form, without the burdensome narratives we often attach to it. By adopting simple rituals—like lighting a candle, walking in nature, or even taking a moment to sit in stillness—we can create spaces for our emotions and enable them to move through us naturally.We discuss the power of simultaneous grief and joy, a lesson I have come to learn personally through my own losses. I stress that experiencing these conflicting emotions is not a sign of weakness; instead, it is through the cultivation of resilience that we find the ability to recover more swiftly from life's challenges. The goal is not to escape discomfort but to learn to navigate it with grace.During a guided visualization towards the episode's climax, I invite listeners to reflect on their own experiences of loss. This practice serves as a gentle reminder that grief can manifest in various forms, often leading to feelings of being unmoored or uncertain about one's identity. I encourage listeners to welcome their emotions, suggesting that when we sit with our feelings—rather than pushing them away—we learn more about ourselves and the depth of our humanity.#GriefHealing #EmotionalWellness #NervousSystemReset #MindBodyHealing #EmotionalIntelligence #Resilience #PodcastCommunity #SelfCareJourney #TraumaInformed #MentalHealthMatters #HealingJourney #EmotionalFluidity #SomaticHealing #CopingStrategies #PersonalGrowth #MindfulnessPractice #Acceptance #VulnerabilityIsStrength #SelfCompassion #InnerPeace #NervousSystemRegulation #EmotionalAwareness #AdaptAndOvercome #EmbraceChange #TrustYourBody #StressRelief #HolisticHealth #SpiritualAwakening #TransformativeJourney #AnxietyCoachesPodcast #GinaRyan #JonnyMiller #GaborMate #TheMythOfNormal #ACPSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Talking points: traumaThis week, I sit down with Tim Fletcher to explore the deep and often misunderstood world of complex trauma. We unpack how subtle childhood experiences like emotional neglect or identity suppression can shape our nervous systems, relationships, and sense of self for decades. Tim breaks down the science and psychology behind trauma and its complexity, and offers insights into how healing actually happens. If you've ever struggled with anxiety, emotional reactivity, or feeling disconnected, this one is for you.(00:00:00) – Introduction to Tim Fletcher and What Is Complex Trauma?(00:06:20) – Subtle Forms of Childhood Trauma(00:12:00) – Simple vs. Complex Trauma(00:19:20) – Adult Symptoms of Complex Trauma(00:28:10) – How Trauma Shapes the Brain(00:37:50) – Recovery and Co-regulation(00:54:00) – Presence, Addiction, and ConnectionTim Fletcher started helping people as a pastor over 30 years ago. When he experienced some significant personal trauma, he transitioned into the addiction treatment sector. Over the last 15 years through countless hours of counselling sessions, training in the various treatment programs and building on the research of Gabor Mate, he started to correlate the connection between Complex Trauma and life problems. Tim was guided by statistics that over 90% of people with addiction challenges suffer from Complex Trauma. Tim is becoming widely-known across the globe and is sought after for counselling, teaching, training, and seminars. Thousands tune in each week to watch his Friday Night Videos.Connect with Tim-Website: https://www.timfletcher.ca/-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/timfletcherco/-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TimFletcher

The number of dead and wounded in Palestine is staggering. Many look away. Why bother, you may ask?  Because, unlike other conflicts, we can do something about it. It is the U.S., Canada and most of Europe that enable the genocide by supplying Israel with weapons. In Israel, there is mounting opposition. Former Prime Minister Ehud Olmert said, “What we are doing in Gaza is a war of extermination: indiscriminate, unrestrained, brutal, and criminal killing of civilians. We are committing war crimes.” Then he added, “Netanyahu and his government have done great damage to the moral integrity of Israel and the Israeli people.” Palestine is the moral issue of our time. Recorded at the New York Society for Ethical Culture.

If you've ever felt lost, this unforgettable conversation will help you come home to yourself. This episode will change how you think about your past, your purpose, and what's possible for your future. Because if you've been carrying pain, guilt, or questions you can't quite name, this is the conversation that helps you finally let go of all that. Today, Mel sits down with singer-songwriter Mon Rovîa, whose breathtaking journey from war-torn Liberia, where he narrowly escaped becoming a child soldier, to the global stage will stop you in your tracks. But this isn't just about his story—it's about what his story will awaken in you. Adopted and raised in the U.S., Mon spent years trying to outrun his trauma. What followed was guilt, despair and a deep feeling of not belonging anywhere. Until he realized he had a choice: He could stay stuck in suffering or turn his pain into power. His answer came through music, and what he's created is reaching millions around the world. In fact, he's one of Mel's favorite artists. But this isn't just about Mon's voice. It's about what his story inspires in you. In this episode, you'll learn: -How to stop running from your past, and start turning it into purpose -Why guilt keeps you stuck (and how to let it go) -What it really means to “belong” in your own life -That no matter what you've been through, you belong here This episode will stay with you. By the end, you'll feel seen. Grounded. Clearer about where you've been, and more certain about where you're headed. For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked the episode, this one will help you go deeper: Why You Feel Lost in Life: Dr. Gabor Mate on Trauma & How to HealConnect with Mel:  Get Mel's #1 bestselling book, The Let Them TheoryWatch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast InstagramMel's TikTok Sign up for Mel's personal letter Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-freeDisclaimer