Podcast appearances and mentions of gabor mate

If you've ever felt lost, this unforgettable conversation will help you come home to yourself. This episode will change how you think about your past, your purpose, and what's possible for your future. Because if you've been carrying pain, guilt, or questions you can't quite name, this is the conversation that helps you finally let go of all that. Today, Mel sits down with singer-songwriter Mon Rovîa, whose breathtaking journey from war-torn Liberia, where he narrowly escaped becoming a child soldier, to the global stage will stop you in your tracks. But this isn't just about his story—it's about what his story will awaken in you. Adopted and raised in the U.S., Mon spent years trying to outrun his trauma. What followed was guilt, despair and a deep feeling of not belonging anywhere. Until he realized he had a choice: He could stay stuck in suffering or turn his pain into power. His answer came through music, and what he's created is reaching millions around the world. In fact, he's one of Mel's favorite artists. But this isn't just about Mon's voice. It's about what his story inspires in you. In this episode, you'll learn: -How to stop running from your past, and start turning it into purpose -Why guilt keeps you stuck (and how to let it go) -What it really means to “belong” in your own life -That no matter what you've been through, you belong here This episode will stay with you. By the end, you'll feel seen. Grounded. Clearer about where you've been, and more certain about where you're headed. For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. If you liked the episode, this one will help you go deeper: Why You Feel Lost in Life: Dr. Gabor Mate on Trauma & How to HealConnect with Mel:  Get Mel's #1 bestselling book, The Let Them TheoryWatch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast InstagramMel's TikTok Sign up for Mel's personal letter Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-freeDisclaimer

In this insightful episode, Dr. Amy joins host Jill to delve into the intricate relationship between trauma, the body, and healing. They explore the concept of creating a safe environment for healing, the importance of understanding trauma at a biological level, and practical approaches to managing trauma. Key Discussions ① Introduction to Trauma and Healing:

What if being unshakable isn't about getting it right, but staying open when everything in you wants to shut down? This conversation is a raw reckoning with harm, heartbreak, and the tender moments where growth meets grief. Seryna walks us through the pain of knowing your truth landed hard on someone else, and the courage it takes to keep showing up anyway. This is about the messy middle. The wobble. The moments that ask you to hold your humanity with both hands and lead yourself back to center, without bypassing what's real.   This Episode Is Perfect For You If... You're navigating a rupture and wondering how to stay in your truth without causing more harm You're doing the work to unlearn perfectionism in how you show up and lead You've been carrying guilt or shame about a conversation that didn't go how you hoped You want to practice accountability and self-compassion at the same time You're ready to embrace emotional discomfort as part of your healing and radical authenticity journey   "My truth hurts people. And from 10 years old until my mid to late 30s, it meant I swallowed a lot."   In This Episode (01:50) – What it looks like to speak your truth and hurt someone in the process (05:45) – Unpacking harm, identity, and the challenge of being misunderstood (09:20) – The survival self, public accountability, and the desire to be perfect (14:30) – The cost of silence, the ripple of unintentional harm, and the need to witness others' pain (21:10) – Therapy sessions, dual perspectives, and the messy middle of growth (27:15) – A childhood memory that shaped the fear of telling the truth (34:05) – What it means to hold yourself with compassion while still owning your impact (39:20) – Closing prayer and a reminder to stay human, awake, and open   "Feeling the fear, doing it anyway. Feeling the shame, doing it anyway. And doing it with an undefended heart."   About The Unshakeable Self The Unshakeable Self is your guide to building unwavering confidence and authentic self-trust. In each episode, we explore practical strategies and powerful insights to help you break free from self-doubt, embrace your true potential, and create a life that aligns with your deepest values. Whether you're navigating career transitions, relationships, or personal growth, you'll find the tools and inspiration to stand firmly in your power.   Your Next Step: The Unshakeable Self Starter Kit Ready to deepen your journey? The Unshakeable Self Starter Kit includes: Soul-stirring journal prompts A grounding ritual guide Mindfulness coloring pages DOWNLOAD YOURS TODAY   If you've ever stayed silent to keep the peace—or spiralled trying to say it perfectly—you've met your Survival Self. The Unshakeable Shift Workbook helps you name the pattern, break the cycle, and speak your truth without apology. Start with the quiz and the prompts that follow. Your Survival Self won't like it—but your truth will.  https://seryna.ca/shift/   Gabor Mate interview on Piers Morgan - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ph9XF39yjgU   Seryna Myers Instagram: @serynamyers  Tiktok: @serynamyers  YouTube: @serynamyers  Website: www.seryna.ca Apply to work with me: seryna.ca/apply Support The Show Love The Unshakeable Self? Here's how you can help:   Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it Screenshot while listening and tag us @serynamyers Music by Artem Hramushkin from Pixabay

Sosyal medyada karşımıza en çok çıkan içeriklerden biri şifa odaklı artık. Meditasyon yöntemleri, enteresan diyetler, kuantum sıçramaları, detokslar, rutin tavsiyeleri... Sürekli bir şeyleri düzeltmemiz, kendimizi iyileştirmemiz gerektiği fikrine maruz kalıyoruz. Peki gerçekten iyileşmeye ihtiyacımız var mı? 111 Hz'in bu bölümünde Wellness gibi kavramların perde arkasına bakış atıyoruz. Modern insanın nasıl şifa bağımlısı bir canlıya dönüştüğünü birlikte anlamaya çalışıyoruz.Sunan: Barış ÖzcanHazırlayan: Özgür YılgürSes Tasarım ve Kurgu: Metin BozkurtYapımcı: Podbee Media------- Podbee Sunar -------Bu podcast, getirfinans hakkında reklam içerir.getirfinans iyi faizi vade beklemeden günlük kazandırır. Kredi faiz oranı düşüktür. Aidatsız kredi kartı sunar. Para transferinden ücret almaz. Sen de getirfinanslı ol.Bu podcast, Garanti BBVA hakkında reklam içerir.Bonus Platinum Dinamik'le tanışın!Kendiliğinden saatte bir değişen güvenlik koduyla internet alışverişlerinin en yeni ve daha da güvenli ödeme yöntemi!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mike Ferner, past Executive Director of Veterans for Peace, joins the show as co-organizer of a 40-day fast to call our attention to the continual and escalating (if that is possible) atrocities perpetrated by Israel with our complicity in Gaza. After hearing clips from Gabor Mate and Ray McGovern on why we need to do more, Mike describes how VFP, allied groups, and almost 700 people registered for the fast are doing more. Despite health challenges and aging challenges, Mike is out there in front of the UN, in front of the US Mission to the UN, with co-organizer Phil Tottenham and other members and allies making a difference. What are you going to do to stop genocide?

Ben Okurum, bu kez de bir psikoloji kitabıyla geliyor dinleyenlerin kulaklarına. Vücudunuz Hayır Diyorsa, Duygusal Stresin Bedelleri, yazarı Gabor Mate'nin beden-zihin birlikteliğinin göz ardı edildiği çağımızda hastalıklara bakış açımızı genişletmeyi, şifalandırmayı hedefleyen şefkatli yaklaşımıyla müthiş bir okuma zevki sunan bir çalışma. Başarır, bu zevki psikolog arkadaşı, Işığın Yolu kitabının yazarı Nilüfer Devecigil ile paylaşıyor ve sağlığımıza, çocukluğumuzu, travmalarımıza, stres kaynaklarımıza dair dolu dolu bir sohbet çıkıyor ortaya. Elbette kitaptan etkili satırlar da bu bölümde de yine Başarır'ın sesinden dinleyenlere ulaşıyor.

In this episode of our Day in the Life series, we speak with coach, supervisor, TedX speaker, and author Val Mullally. Join us for a rich and thought-provoking conversation that explores reflective supervision, psychological safety, parenting coaching, self-care, and so much more.   Discover Val's inspiring journey from schoolteacher to coach, and how her passion for emotional intelligence and child development evolved into her work in coaching and supervision. Val unpacks her unique TRAKC© model, a simple yet profound framework designed to support psychological safety in coaching relationships.   She shares her thoughts on parenting, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult behaviour and relationships, as well as why coaching supervision is reflective and not hierarchical. Val also discusses Kubler-Ross, Gabor Mate and others who have inspired her work. The conversation dives into grief, forgiveness, the need for feminine energy in the world and the wonders of using creative modalities in coaching and supervision. This is years of wisdom packed into one hour just for you!   You will learn:   ·       More about the TRAKC© model and how you can attend her upcoming webinar ·       Why Val believes supervision is an essential practice for every coach ·       The need for continuous learning and adaptation in the coaching profession   “I think supervision is absolutely foundational to being present in a way that really holds and supports and values people.”   Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and leave us a review! Your feedback helps us bring you more valuable content.   For the episode resources and guest bio, please visit:  https://www.associationforcoaching.com/page/dl-hub_podcast-channel_day-in-the-life-of-coaches-reflective-supervisor-author  

Welcome to Episode 28: ‘DiagNOsis' Reawakened. In this episode, Kirsten re-releases her take on traditional medical models of mental health, featuring insights from Gabor Mate's recent talk on Trauma, Illness, and Healing, in a Toxic Culture. Kirsten exposes the limitations of mental disorder diagnostics and inspiring us to transcend these labels. Embracing a holistic approach to wellness, she invites us to think of one another's emotional states in the context of our unique life journeys, rather than simply categorizing them as 'disordered'. Get ready to unlock your power to rise above suffering, by viewing your emotions as sensations you experience, not as traits you possess.

Today I draw upon the works of James O'Brien and David Cameron to explore how when David set out on his political journey he wanted to support families. Why then did he do the opposite and make huge welfare cuts and bring in the austerity measures. I look at the psychology of why this might be and draw upon Dr Gabor Mate and Nick Duffell to explore this. For the documentary Boarding on Insanity: https://www.boardingoninsanity.com/ For the Observer article: https://www.theguardian.com/education/2025/apr/20/breaking-our-spirits-was-the-plan-the-lifelong-impact-of-having-gone-to-boarding-school For the Mumsnet article: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5319413-lifelong-impact-of-going-to-boarding-school Take care, Piers #boardingoninsanity #davidcameron #drgabormate #austerity --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Professor Marc Lewis is a former Professor of Developmental Psychology at the University of Toronto and a world leading expert in the neuroscience of addiction. It was particularly interesting to speak with Marc because not only does he have a deep understanding of the neural mechanisms underneath addictive processes, he also has battled with quite severe opioid addictions himself. He is the author of two bestselling books on the subject: Memoirs of an Addicted Brain, and The Biology of Desire. Now, he works as a clinical psychologist in Toronto, specialising in addiction treatment. You'll learn: — How Marc's experiences as a developmental psychologist helped him to develop his groundbreaking learning model of addiction — A simple introduction to the neuroscience of addiction and the brain areas involved — Why it's hard to stop an addictive pattern once it has taken hold — What works (and what doesn't) in recovery. And more. You can learn more about Marc's innovative work by visiting: www.memoirsofanaddictedbrain.com --- Prof Marc Lewis, PhD is a neuroscientist, professor, bestselling author, and one of the world's leading experts on the neuroscience of addiction. In his academic work, he has authored or co-authored more than fifty journal articles, and for many years was a professor of developmental psychology at the University of Toronto and then Radboud University (Netherlands) before retiring. For the last decade, he has focused on making his work more accessible to a wider audience through books for lay readers, pop science articles, public talks, and interviews. He is the author of two bestselling books on addiction: “Memoirs of an Addicted Brain” and “The Biology of Desire”, a book which Dr Gabor Mate argues “effectively refutes the disease model of addiction.” He is currently practicing psychotherapy as a clinical psychologist in Toronto, working with clients with addictive problems and other difficulties. You can learn more about his work at www.memoirsofanaddictedbrain.com. --- 6 Books Prof Lewis Recommends for Every Therapist Should Read: — Drug Use for Grown-Ups: Chasing Liberty in the Land of Fear —Dr. Carl L. Hart - https://amzn.to/44MnKfG — High Price: Drugs, Neuroscience, and Discovering Myself — Dr. Carl L. Hart - https://amzn.to/3Kt8YmH — Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction — Szalavitz Maia - https://amzn.to/3NS0p5q — Drinking: A Love Story — Caroline Knapp - https://amzn.to/3NWYaOt — The Night of the Gun — David Carr - https://amzn.to/44SHYod — The Biology of Desire: why addiction is not a disease (The Addicted Brain) —Prof Marc Lewis - https://amzn.to/44QYpBl

Welcome to the latest episode of our podcast, where host Rosa Coelho, a dedicated health coach, trainer, and teacher, takes you on a journey to make this summer unlike any other.   Connect on instagram @rocofit Simply Strong Program: https://rocofit.com/ Email: info@rocofit.com Discover why summer is the perfect season to get fit, strong, and healthy, and how this mindset shift can transform not only your physical health but also support your personal growth and lifestyle. Rosa shares her personal experiences, insights, and passion for helping women over 40 navigate the challenges of perimenopause and menopause through her Simply Strong programs. Embrace the ease of summer activities, from walking and paddle boarding to savoring fresh, nutrient-rich foods, and learn how these can serve as a foundation for maintaining your health year-round. Towards the end of the episode, Rosa reflects on a powerful lecture by Dr. Gabor Mate and explores the profound connection between strength training, mental health, and self-confidence. This is not just about physical transformation; it's about becoming fully connected with your body to build unshakeable confidence and resilience.

In this episode of 'Masks Off,' host Kim Gross addresses the strong correlation between autoimmune diseases and people-pleasing tendencies, especially among women. She cites Dr. Gabor Mate's observations about trauma being at the root of people-pleasing behaviors. Drawing from her own battle with Sjogren's syndrome, Kim shares her personal struggles of overextending herself to meet the needs of others at the expense of her own health and well-being. She recounts how her upbringing and family dynamics reinforced these tendencies and led to severe health issues. Kim eventually learned to prioritize self-care as a way to improve her condition and her relationships. She outlines practical steps and resources for listeners to start recognizing and transforming these harmful patterns, emphasizing the importance of awareness, ownership, and the arduous but rewarding journey of inner healing. The episode aims to inspire listeners to put themselves first and remove their people-pleaser masks in order to lead a more joyful and connected life.

In response to overwhelm, the body tries to keep one safe in different ways. Sometimes our body feels so shaken and shocked that it makes our mind need to disconnect from the pain of it. This is called dissociating.  Yet, the body still remembers what happened. The impact to our biology doesn't go away just because we don't understand or remember something. The impact is how the body keeps track of everything from out past. When we understand that our body is reacting because it is still holding onto something from the past, it can help us uncover what needs to be healed. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk joins Dr. Aimie in this episode to explore the profound nature of trauma - how it affects the body in ways that make it keep score. He explains why trauma is not just about the events but about how those experiences become engrained in our biology, creating patterns that persist long after the danger has passed. This in turn can make trauma something that is truly "unbelievable, unbearable, and overwhelming." Our bodies are built to move when we're in danger. When we can't move during traumatic events, it changes how our brain works. This conversation looks at why this happens. It also explains how difficult experiences in childhood create patterns in our minds - like an inner roadmap - that shape how we see the world and connect with people as adults. They'll talk more on: Why trauma leaves people unable to articulate their experiences How dissociation works as a way to survive during overwhelming events Why the lack of movement during an event is what makes it traumatic The physical toll of living with a dysregulated nervous system Why healing must address the basic housekeeping functions of the body How trauma blocks our capacity to experience pleasure and worthiness And more!   If you're working with trauma professionally, supporting someone on their healing journey, or navigating your own recovery, this episode is excellent for understanding how the body keeps score while offering practical actions to reclaim agency, embody healing, and create a life worth living through curiosity and collaboration.   Guides, Tools & Resources: Steps to Identify and Heal Trauma: A Roadmap for Healing Trauma - Find out what trauma is, how to recognize it, and get simple steps to help you heal in this 23-page guide. It's great for anyone who wants to understand trauma better or support others on their healing journey. Biology of Trauma (the book) - How the Body Holds Fear, Pain, and Overwhelm, and How to Heal It. With the foreword written by Dr. Gabor Mate, it is a book intended to change the conversation about how to heal on the deepest level, not just our mind, not just our body, but also our biology. Please join me for The Insider's Circle where you can pre-order your copy and receive monthly readings with Dr. Aimie.   Foundational Journey - If you want to be safely guided through The Essential Sequence, and lay your foundation of regulation in this online 6 week course, join me and my team of mentors for this journey into your inner world with practical somatic and parts self-practices.   Related Podcasts: Episode 7: Identifying And Treating Cooper Excess To Reserve Postpartum Depression With William Walsh Episode 90: Beyond Talk Therapy: Addressing the Biochemical Basis of Behavior & Changing Our Response Disclaimer: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others. Consult your own physician for any medical issues that you may be having. This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Trauma Healing Accelerated, any guests or contributors to The Biology of Trauma® podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of Trauma Healing Accelerated be responsible for damages arising from the use of the podcast.  

There's a powerful psychological state that can paralyze us, interfere with effective relationships, block our empathy, and cause us to inflict harm. It's called shame.Today, David Bedrick shares what shame is, how it's created, and its connection to trauma. Some say shame keeps us humble, but David shares why we don't need shame because it's not the same as embarrassment or regret. We unpack why shame is not a feeling but a psychological state that can leave you numb - and how you can instead create a space of safety and security within yourself. David shares how we can snap out of a shame spiral in the moment and also gives insights as to why some people may feel a need to shame others. David makes us think about our need to “solve,” or pathologize as he puts it, shame, anger, depression, and the like rather than process root causes to make meaning. He offers an intriguing thought experiment to try to break yourself of this tendency! Lastly, we touch on how to unashame conflict and dialogue through conflict in a more productive way. To access the episode transcript, please search for the episode title at www.TheEmpathyEdge.comKey Takeaways:Shame is different from embarrassment or humiliation. Shame is a psychological state that may have feelings associated with it. Negative feelings are not bad - they can even be helpful for understanding our behavior and lead us to making an action toward repair. Say the criticisms in your head aloud from the perspective of the negatives - it gives you a chance to respond and advocate for yourself. "If shame enters my system, the only thing I care about is removing the bad experience I have in myself. I don't care about you. I care about being low. In the fully shame psyche, you don't exist as a person that matters to me at all." — David Bedrick, JD, Dipl. PW Episode References:The Unshaming Way: amazon.com/Unshaming-Way-Compassionate-Dismantling-Shame-Heal/dp/B0CWL19X7GThe Empathy Edge: Edwin Rutsch: How “Empathy Circles” Can Change the WorldFrom Our Partner:SparkEffect partners with organizations to unlock the full potential of their greatest asset: their people. Through their tailored assessments and expert coaching at every level, SparkEffect helps organizations manage change, sustain growth, and chart a path to a brighter future.Go to sparkeffect.com/edge now and download your complimentary Professional and Organizational Alignment Review today.About David Bedrick, JD, Dipl. PW Founder, The Santa Fe Institute for Shame-based Studies and Author of The Unshaming WayDavid is a teacher, counselor, and attorney. He was adjunct faculty at the University of Phoenix and the Process Work Institute in the U.S. and Poland. He is the founder of the Santa Fe Institute for Shame-based Studies, where he offers facilitation training to deepen the skills and awareness of therapists, coaches, and healers and workshops for individuals to further their own personal development. He is a writer for Psychology Today and the author of four books: Talking Back to Dr. Phil: Alternatives to Mainstream Psychology; Revisioning Activism: Bringing Depth, Dialogue, and Diversity to Individual and Social Change; and You Can't Judge a Body by Its Cover: 17 Women's Stories of Hunger, Body Shame and Redemption. His recent book, The Unshaming Way, has been endorsed by Gabor Mate. Connect with David:Santa Fe Institute for Shame-based Studies: davidbedrick.com Facebook: facebook.com/david.bedrick.9 Instagram: instagram.com/david.bedrick Connect with Maria:Get Maria's books on empathy: Red-Slice.com/booksLearn more about Maria's work: Red-Slice.comHire Maria to speak: Red-Slice.com/Speaker-Maria-RossTake the LinkedIn Learning Course! Leading with EmpathyLinkedIn: Maria RossInstagram: @redslicemariaFacebook: Red SliceThreads: @redslicemariaWe would love to get your thoughts on the show! Please click https://bit.ly/edge-feedback to take this 5-minute survey, thanks!

Today we have Alyssa. She is 30 years old from Vancouver, WA and took her last drink on September 5th, 2024.   Sponsors for this episode include: Better Help – 10% off of your first month Sober Link –   Next Monday, our five-week course called Ditching the Booze. This is our alcohol-free 101 crash course and is included with Café RE membership. All sessions are live and you're tuning in with others who are in the same spot as you. The sessions are also recorded in case you can't attend.   On Tuesday, April 1st, registration opens for our flagship retreat in Bozeman which is always a lot of fun. In addition to our lake hangout, breathwork and recovery workshops, we're also playing laser tag.   [03:20] Thoughts from Paul:   Today Paul talks about why alcohol can be so hard to quit, why the process of quitting can take years and can contain many stops and starts.   Addiction guru Gabor Mate says, “addictions are always a human response to pain, suffering and trauma”. We are constantly in search of homeostasis. When we find something effective at helping us find this relief, it becomes our first technique to use when we are in pain. After drinking long enough, you'll get to the point where you only feel good, or dopamine will only be created when we are drinking.   It takes time after quitting drinking for our body to naturally create dopamine on its own. You will need to learn new routines, create new habits and figure out a way to fill the time that used to be spent drinking. Paul shares with us several other reasons quitting drinking is hard.   Why do you think quitting drinking is so hard? Comment on RE's Instagram page. There's a post for today's episode.   [09:02] Paul introduces Alyssa:   Alyssa lives in Vancouver, WA with her fiancé and two Rotskis. She currently works as a server and in her free time she enjoys reading and traveling with her fiancé. They are currently trying to determine where they are going to move to be closer to family.   Alyssa says she had an early introduction to alcohol but never really considered it an issue until she met her fiancé who doesn't drink. For years, everyone around her drank so she didn't notice her own drinking.   Alyssa's drinking increased slowly but became daily during the pandemic. In 2021 she read Easy Way to Quit Drinking by Allen Carr and was able to stop for a few months.   For Alyssa, her drinking began to create an inner turmoil, and it started to erode her confidence because she was making promises to herself and then breaking them by drinking instead of accomplishing her goals. After quitting for a period of time, Alyssa thought that she would be able to moderate. In time, she says, she was right back where she was.   After moving in with her father while they save up to find their own place, Alyssa says the lack of goals and uncertainty of the future found her drinking more to cope. She was no longer active and was losing self-esteem while anxiety and depression took hold. At the bottom of her heart, Alyssa knew that eliminating alcohol would help fix the way she was feeling.   Alyssa chose a quit date and started seeking sober podcasts and books to prepare, including This Naked Mind. It was after a night out with friends that Alyssa told her fiancé that she didn't want to drink anymore. He was very supportive of her decision and offered to help however he could.   Alyssa continued to read This Naked Mind and participated in a 30-day sober challenge. This paired with the liberation she felt from her decision led to a pink cloud experience for Alyssa. Anxiety and depression started to lift quickly. Going forward, she is trying to figure out what she wants to do in the future, and she believes in sobriety the options are endless.   Alyssa's parting piece of guidance: Just listen to that little voice. Give sobriety as many chances as you gave alcohol.       Recovery Elevator Rule 22: lighten up - let's do our best not to take ourselves too seriously. I love you guys.   RE merch Recovery Elevator YouTube Sobriety Tracker iTunes       

This week Nicola and Di chat with an Earth Angel, Sarah Grynberg who has interviewed some of the most incredible people including Matthew McConaughey, Jay Shetty and Dr Gabor Mate to name just a few. Sarah is a mindset coach, international speaker and world-renowned podcast host. She is also the author of a brand new book, Living a Life of Greatness - steps to a fulfilling existence, and loving mum to her 2 kids. In this inspiring conversation, we hear how Sarah built a career for herself in media, and was living what many people would describe as a glamorous, dream life - she was the producer of one of the most successful breakfast radio programs in the country, but on the inside, she was miserable. Sarah describes how in this period when she was feeling low and flat, she turned to personal development books and began implementing the tools she was learning and her whole life started to change. She also describes the way she manifested her dream job - as the executive producer of the Hamish and Andy podcast. This led to Sarah starting her own podcast, A Life of Greatness, which has become super successful with Sarah interviewing hundreds of amazing people who are dedicated to carving out lives of greatness. We have so much fun chatting to Sarah about some of the incredible people she’s interviewed including Dr. Joe Dispenza, Johann Hari, Dr. Andrew Huberman and Sarah’s personal favourite - you’ll have to tune in to hear who that was! Sarah also shares some really helpful tips for how people can begin to make positive changes in their life, and how to get unstuck from negative thoughts. She shares what she’s learnt about relationships and the importance of not just reading self-help books, but actually practising and implementing the changes. This was such a beautiful conversation about the power each and every one of us has to create the life we want, follow our dreams and live our own life of greatness. We absolutely loved having Sarah in the studio and we hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did. This episode is proudly sponsored by Eir Women. Use code OTBF20 at checkout to receive a 20% discount on any purchase. Follow Sarah on IG here Buy Sarah’s book Living A Life Of Greatness here Listen to Sarah’s podcast here Join Sarah’s newsletter here Follow Nicola and Di on IG here Buy your Eir Women products here. Use code OTBF20 at checkout for a 20% discountSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You're listening to Voices of Your Village and today we are sharing an episode we've aired before with Gabor Maté. It's been two years since the air date and it's still one of our most popular episodes because it absolutely slays. I adore him. He's a renowned speaker and bestselling author. Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress, and childhood development. He's written several bestselling books, I love The Myth of Normal, there are so many more here, Realm of Hungry Ghosts, Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No, Exploring the Stress -Disease Connection, and Scattered Minds: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It. He has also co -authored Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More than Peers. He is so profound and I learn from him every time I get to hear him talk. I'm so excited to dive into this episode with you again because I learn new things every time I listen. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Dr. Gabor Mate: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabormatemd/ Website: https://drgabormate.com/ Order the book: The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture Connect with us: Instagram: @seed.and.sew  Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Website: seedandsew.org Music by: Ruby Adams and Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Judson helps Brian turn his frown upside down by making him reframe how he looks back on the past week, and challenges Brian to think about managing his stress with lessons about the mind-body connection Judson has taken from the works of Gabor Mate. The two then welcome the brilliant and hysterical actor and comedian Jeff Hiller, co-star of HBO's “Somebody Somewhere” and author of the forthcoming memoir, “Actress of a Certain Age: My Twenty Year Trail to Overnight Success,” to the podcast. Jeff takes Judson and Brian through the laugh-out-loud highlights of his life and career, from his days as an STI and HIV pre- and post-test counselor in the Denver Public Health Department to his entry into the world of improv to the meeting of his husband to his breakout TV role. He shares sneak peeks into some of the stories included in his upcoming book, and lets them in on others that ended up on the cutting room floor. Jeff then joins Judson and Brian in responding to a listener's Go Ask Your Dad question seeking advice about how to engage his husband in a conversation about kickstarting their sex life that has fizzled over the years.   Preorder a signed copy of Jeff's book, Actress of a Certain Age: My Twenty Year Trail to Overnight Success at https://www.strandbooks.com/actress-of-a-certain-age-my-twenty-year-trail-to-overnight-success-9781668031858.html   Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social

Mark Taylor speaks at the 2025 Public Forum on Healing with Integrative Cancer Care in February. The gathering was designed to bridges wisdom traditions with emerging frontiers in healing. This year's forum explores transformation through the intersections of integrative cancer care with consciousness and healing arts, featuring distinguished speakers and practitioners from diverse backgrounds. The day included engaging presentations on patient advocacy, expressive arts, and innovative approaches to cancer care. Mark Taylor is the CEO and founder of Patient Led Oncology. An organisation that studies alternative cancer treatments from four pillars. Through collating and digesting published research. Working with some of the world's leading experimental oncology doctors and alternative healers. Following patients doing alternative treatments volunteering through his Patient Led Oncology Facebook group and his own personal experience with treatments and alternative healing methods, including learning directly from with Gabor Mate, Shamans from the Amazon, Shaolin Monks and Qi Gong masters. The New School at Commonweal is a collaborative learning community offering conversations about nature, culture, and inner life---so that we can all find meaning, meet inspiring people, and explore the beauty and grief of our changing world. Please like/follow our YouTube channel for more great podcasts. Find out more about The New School at Commonweal on our website: tns.commonweal.org. And like/follow our Soundcloud channel for more great podcasts.

The renowned physician discusses the role of trauma in our lives, showing up as addiction, chronic disease and mental illness — and how recognising his own led to true healing.Dr Gabor Maté was born in Budapest to a Jewish family, just before Nazi tanks rolled into the city.His mother risked handing him to a stranger on the street to try and get him to safety.Many years later, after establishing himself as a successful physician in Canada, Gabor looked at the problems in his work and marriage and wondered if they were linked to that early trauma.He uses his own experiences as the test case for the effects of trauma on the body and is now internationally renowned for arguing that trauma casts a long shadow in our lives, showing up in addiction, ADHD, chronic disease and mental illness.Gabor argues that realising the impact of trauma of all kinds allows for real healing — as has happened in his own life.Dr Gabor Maté's new book written with Daniel Maté is called The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture and is published by Penguin Random House.This episode of Conversations deals with trauma, early childhood trauma, mental illness, addiction, ADHD, chronic illness, epic life stories, origin stories, healing, autoimmune disease, and therapy.

"The Myth of Normal" is an incredible new book by Dr Gabor Mate, talking about what chiropractors have said for years...the US healthcare system is normalizing pathology!

Welcome to Part 2 of our in-depth review of Grant Bosnick's 'Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership.' In this episode, we delve into the significance of hydration for brain health, discovering 'aha' moments through creative insights, and the influential power of expectations on our well-being and success. We also explore the neuroscience behind staying mentally strong and regulate emotions effectively through improved sleep patterns. Join us as we unravel these fascinating research-backed strategies to enhance your self-leadership skills. Welcome back to SEASON 13 of The Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast, where we connect the science-based evidence behind social and emotional learning and emotional intelligence training for improved well-being, achievement, productivity and results—using what I saw as the missing link (since we weren't taught this when we were growing up in school), the application of practical neuroscience. I'm Andrea Samadi, an author, and an educator with a passion for learning and launched this podcast 6 years ago with the goal of bringing ALL the leading experts together (in one place) to help us to APPLY this research in our daily lives. And we will now resume PART 2 of our 4-PART review, to sum up last year, 2024, and our entire year studying one book, Grant Bosnick's “Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership: A Bite Size Approach Using Psychology and Neuroscience” that we first dove into with our interview on EP #321[i] the end of January 2024. The goal was that each week, we focused on learning something new, (from Grant's book) tied to the most current neuroscience research, that builds off the prior week, to help take us to greater heights this year. It honestly shocked me that this series took the entire year.  Last week, we began with PART 1[ii] and the first 5 chapters of the book. Today we will review chapters 6-9 of Grant Bosnick's Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership. ((On today's EPISODE #356 PART 2 of our review of Grant Bosnick's Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership, we will cover)): ✔ EP 327 Chapter 6[iii] “The Hydrated Brain” ✔ EP 330 Chapter 7[iv]“Aha Moments, Creative Insights/the Brain” ✔ EP 333 Chapter 8[v] “Exploring the Power of Expectations” ✔ EP 335 Chapter 9[vi] “The Neuroscience Behind Staying Strong and Clear-Headed” If you have not yet taken the leadership self-assessment, or if you would like to re-take it to see if the results are different for you than last year, you can click the link here to find the quick test.   Self-Assessment Results 2024 vs 2025 I re-took the assessment for 2025, and did notice some similarities and some differences. See what you notice about yourself. I noticed that pathways 2 and 3 are my high areas of focus this year, and that I can drop pathway 6 from my focus. What about you? If you have a few minutes to spare, take this leadership self-assessment again, and see if you notice any changes in yourself for 2025. Did any of your pathways of focus shift since last year? REMEMBER: We are either moving forward into growth, or backwards to safety. (Abraham Maslow). EP 327 Chapter 6 “The Hydrated Brain”   For this episode, I remember wondering how on the earth can we narrow the focus of this topic of health and wellness that Bosnick covers thoroughly in Chapter 6? Dr. Peter Attia[vii], a Canadian-American physician, known for his medical practice that focuses on the science of longevity, says that “exercise might be the most potent “drug” we have for extending the quality and perhaps quantity of our years of life.” He created a rule that he thought would help narrow this focus and it was called “Attia's Rule”[viii] where he suggests that can't even talk about this topic, unless you have reached a certain level of health yourself. I agree, as this is one area we have been focused on this podcast, and I notice that as I strengthen one area, I lose sight of another. It's an ongoing quest for balance, and I wouldn't say I've mastered the balance yet. We dove deep into Attia's Rule on our EP back in October 2022, “Using Neuroscience to Improve Fitness, Longevity and Overall Health.”[ix] Dr. Attia says that nutrition and health arguments are a waste of your time until you've completed a certain set of criteria. He says don't bother defending this topic unless you can: Dead hang for a minute (try this! I honestly thought I was going to die when I did this 2 years ago). I'm not sure I could do it today with the signs of osteoporosis showing up in my fingers (and noticeable when I type). Wall sit for two minutes. (This wasn't difficult for me the fact that I regularly hit the hiking trails). Have a VO2 max of at least 75th percentile for your age group. (Mine is showing 37 right now which was the same as it was in 2022. Interesting that I'm hiking less these days, but have kept the same VO2 max). I think it's important to notice just how vast this topic of health and wellness really is. We mentioned the Top 6 Health Staples[x] on our last episode, that we created back in 2020 when our podcast took a turn towards mental and physical health and wellness, (that we just can't escape) and I wasn't surprised to see Stanford Professor Dr. Andrew Huberman post on Twitter/X that he would like to see a Superbowl Commercial promoting healthy habits. The time for mental and physical health is here, and we cannot deny the connection between the two. We met Dr. Bruce Perry on EP 168[xi] where we dove into his famous book What Happened to You, that he co-authored with Oprah, and the last Kindle book I purchased was Gabor Mate's When the Body Says No: The Hidden Costs of Stress[xii] When I look back at why I chose to highlight “The Hydrated Brain” I honestly think it was because this topic is so vast. Hydration is something that might be emphasized with athletes, but it wasn't something anyone had emphasized with me (unless they were connected to the sports world). To narrow this topic of health and wellness down a bit, did YOU know that keeping our brain hydrated helps us with: Improving concentration and cognition Helping to balance our mood and emotions Maintaining a good memory Boosting our brain's reaction time Increasing blood flow and oxygen to the brain Preventing and relieving headaches Reducing stress Grant Bosnick shared with us in this chapter: “That our brain is 75% water and when our brain is functioning on a full reserve of water, we will be able to think faster, be more focused and experience greater clarity and creativity?” (Chapter 6, Bosnick). Grant reminds us that “everyone is unique and needs different amounts of water per day (but suggests) an adequate intake for men is roughly around 3 liters (100 fluid ounces) a day, (and) for women it's about 2.2 liters (74 fluid ounces) a day. What do you think? Could you improve your water intake? Just by thinking about ways to improve our brain health, we will over time begin to move the needle in the direction of physical health and wellness, which was the concept that Grant wanted us to uncover in Chapter 6. This is just one small idea, (in this HUGE topic) but if we can tackle one idea at a time, we will move in the direction of health and wellness. REVISIT THIS EPISODE TO REVIEW THIS CONCEPT IN DEPTH EP 330 Chapter 7 “Aha Moments, Creative Insights/the Brain” This pathway #3 came out as MEDIUM importance (orange score) for me, alongside mindfulness and flow last year, but this year, this is my second highest pathway of focus. Look to see where pathway 3 showed up for you last  year, and if it's different for you this year. What I loved about Grant Bosnick's book is that he opens up chapter 7 with a story of how insight was used by an organization to help solve the problem with the high number of babies that were dying within a month of their birth, specifically in developing countries.  This organization he wrote about, solved this specific problem using a thought process that took insight using “materials and human resources that could be used to address this issue” (Chapter 7, Bosnick) by building incubators made out of Toyota cars that were readily available in these developing areas. Instead of using their analytical mind and thinking “how do we get more incubators to these areas” someone on their team used insight and creativity to come up with the best solution to use the resources they had readily available to them, locally. So how do we think up these creative ideas? Grant asks us to ponder where we have our best ideas. In the shower? While exercising? At your desk while doing work? Just before falling asleep or waking up? While walking or hiking? While taking with a friend? Grant suggests that few people will come back with “at their desk while working” since this type of creativity involves breaking away from the analytical, thinking mind, and tapping into our “nonconscious” (Chapter 7, Bosnick) part of our brain. It was here I had to look deeper into how this type of thinking happens, and I found the fascinating book, The Eureka Factor: AHA Moments, Creative Insight and the Brain by John Kounios and Mark Beeman. If you want to dive deeper into the science behind insight and creativity, I highly suggest reading this book. I wanted to know HOW to create these “AHA” Moments at will, not by chance and this is what these two cognitive neuroscientists who wrote this book, set out to do. Their goal of writing this book was to “explain how these Eureka experiences happen—and how to have more of them to enrich our lives and empower personal and professional success.” (The Eureka Factor). In the very beginning pages of The Eureka Factor, we learn that “insight is creative” (Page 9, The Eureka Factor, Kounios and Beeman) and when the authors went on to define “what creativity is” they suggest to not define it (yet) since “everyone intuitively recognizes creativity when he or she sees it” (Page 9, The Eureka Factor, Kounios and Beeman). I thought back to when we covered “Improving Creativity” on PART 4 of The Silva Method[xiii] on ((“Improving Creativity and Innovation in our Schools, Sports and Modern Workplaces”)) and we tapped into Dr. Andrew Huberman's research on creativity here. Dr. Huberman explains that “when we see something that's truly creative, it reveals something to us about the natural world and about how our brains work….It must reveal something that surprises us” for it to be truly creative. So, going back to The Eureka Factor, John Kounios suggests that “creative insight is not an exotic type of thought reserved for the few. In fact, (he says) it's one of the few abilities that define our species….most humans—have insights. It's a basic human ability.” (Page 11, The Eureka Factor, Kounios and Beeman). While reading further into The Eureka Factor, I came across an image that helped to explain this idea so we can ALL improve our ability to generate new and creative insights that will empower our personal and professional lives. IMAGE CREDIT: The Eureka Factor (Kounios, Beeman) Page 24 If someone were to ask me “Where do I begin to improve my ability to create NEW insights in my life?” I would say, start here: STEP 1: Go somewhere quiet and think.  We've mentioned a few times on this podcast that “Every man has the natural and inherent power to think what he wants to think, but it requires more effort to do so”[xiv] (Wallace D. Wattles). I recently heard Professor Hod Lipson[xv] from Columbia University, speaking about the future with AI, and while his whole presentation was forward-thinking, eye opening and brilliant, what caught my attention the most was when he mentioned that while working with students with AI and robotics, the hardest part for them was to come up with a name for their robot, because he said “it takes a lot of effort to be creative.” Take the time needed for this process. STEP 2: You might think you are stuck, and like the image suggests in the show notes, you might see a brick wall in front of you, metaphorically speaking, but know that there is always a solution to every problem. You just haven't figured it out yet. It's here that I share ways I've moved past where I'm stuck, and that's by using The Silva Method. I'm reminded daily that many of our current listeners found us from the first episode we did with this 4-part series that ended with an episode on “How to Be More Creative and Innovative”. When you feel stuck, take a break. STEP 3: Keeping your mood positive, break away from where you feel stuck, and do something that makes you happy. It could be going for a walk, or a hike, or playing tennis like the image from The Eureka Factor. Just break away and divert your attention away from the problem. If you are in a meditative state, just be sure to have positive, elevated emotions flowing through you. Looking at the image in the show notes from The Eureka Factor, we see a person playing tennis. You can use whatever method you want here (The Silva Method of Meditation, your own mindfulness practice, going for a walk) or whatever it is for YOU where you access those feelings of calmness and peace. STEP 4: Be open to new ideas that might pop into your head. Be prepared for ideas that might be completely opposite to how you were originally thinking of solving the problem. We are all different here. Think back to the beginning of this episode, when Grant Bosnick asked us to consider where our creative ideas flow into our minds. Mine come in that time just before I go to sleep, or just as I'm waking up. Others might come in the shower, or while exercising. Be open to NEW ideas coming into your mind, and be ready to write them down. STEP 5: Know that there is much work going on from your unconscious mind. You'll will become more self-aware in this process. Grant Bosnick lists a few inventions that were developed this way, in chapter 7 on Insight, and I found an article that lists “Great Eureka Moments in History: From Issac Netwon to Sir Paul McCartney, (where) inspiration arrived suddenly”[xvi] to help these inventors move forward with their famous AHA Moments. I personally think it's amazing how we acquire wisdom. When we suddenly “see” something that escaped us for so long. I can only imagine the room from Grant Bosnick's opening story when that one person said “why don't we make incubators out of Toyota cars?” completely shifting what EVERYONE was thinking. We ended this EP with one of my favorite poems from Stewart Edward White who explains how AHA Moments of Learning can change us forever. He writes: “Curious how we acquire wisdom! Over and over again, the same truth is thrust under our very noses. We encounter it in action; we are admonished of it; we read it in the written word. We suffer the experience; we gradually assent to the advice; we approve, intellectually, the written word. But nothing happens inside us. Then, one day, some trivial experience or word or encounter stops us short. A gleam of illumination penetrates the depth of our consciousness. We see! Usually it is but a glimpse; but on rare occasions a brilliant flash reveals truth fully formed. And we marvel that this understanding has escaped us so long.” REVISIT THIS EPISODE TO REVIEW THIS CONCEPT IN DEPTH EP 333 Chapter 8 “Exploring the Power of Expectations” where we will dive into a topic that I mark as high importance in my life, right up with breathing. When I took my self-assessment last year, the topic of expectations showed up as low priority for me to focus. Not because it's not important to me, but because I've already made this topic of high importance. Expectations came out for me in the RED category, with a low score of 8% (last year) along with goals and time management, that I also put high importance with on a daily basis.  This year, pathway 1 came out as an area of MEDIUM focus for me, and I can tell right now, that the area I need to work on is “time management.” If you've taken the self-assessment, look to see if Expectations (in pathway 1) are of a low, medium or high priority for you to focus on this year. Before looking at Grant Bosnick's thoughts about the topic of expectations, where he begins chapter 8 by asking us “what did you expect?” I had to do some research first, to see what is already out in the world, and there was a lot out there, on the science behind expectations. DID YOU KNOW: That when our expectations are met or exceeded, this “increases our dopamine levels, which leads to increased happiness and well-being, which helps maximize our performance by setting up the conditions of flow and insight, which leads to more productivity and increased confidence?” (Chapter 8, Grant Bosnick) Conversely, did you know that “if our expectations are not met, that it dramatically decreases our dopamine levels, we feel disappointment and stress, resulting in poor performance and decreased confidence?” (Chapter 8, Grant Bosnick, Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership, Page 84/85). On the EP we went deep into the Science of Expectation, and we looked at a book by David Robson called The Expectation Effect where this author showed us how “our beliefs, in themselves, shape your health and well-being in profound ways, and that learning to reset our expectations (about these issues) can have truly remarkable effects on our health, happiness and productivity.” (David Robson) SOME TIPS ON HOW TO USE THE NEUROSCIENCE OF EXPECTATIONS IN OUR DAILY LIFE: KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I'M EXPECTING (of myself and others): Understanding the science, helps me to keep my expectations tied to myself, and not others, to avoid disappointment and stress.  I expect to achieve my goals, (by putting in the necessary work) keep myself in good health (physical and mental) and will not just THINK about these expectations, but will do the hard work, take the action necessary to achieve them. This way, I'm not just “thinking” of what I expect to occur, I'm actually doing something with those thoughts. If I'm ever feeling “disappointed” with something in my life, a good question to ask is “what did you expect?” and see if I can backtrack to my thoughts. Was I using the science to flood my brain with dopamine, (with something within my control-that I could take action towards) or not. USE POSITIVE EXPECTATION TO BUILD RESILIENCE FOR A HEALTHIER VERSION OF MYSELF: Understanding the science behind our expectations, and especially David Robson's work, where we learned that “people with a more positive attitude towards their later years are less likely to develop (certain age-related diseases)” (David Robson, The Expectation Effect) making a strong case for expecting exceptional mental and physical health in the future. Again, it goes without saying that we can't just “think” ourselves into good health. We need to do the work here in order to expect results to occur. CONTINUE TO EXPECT GOOD THINGS (for myself and others) Knowing that “expectations and beliefs can influence—indeed are already influencing your life in many other surprising and powerful ways. (David Robson, The Expectation Effect) makes me believe in some of the rituals I've heard of over the years, like lucky charms. I learned from David Robson's The Expectation Effect, that “superstitions and rituals can boost perseverance and performance across a whole range of cognitive tasks, and (that) the advantages are often considerable.” (Page 198, The Expectation Effect). Whether you are a professional athlete, singer, public speaker, or someone like me who just wants improved results, there is a science to having a lucky charm, or something that brings you the promise of success, to help you to create a feeling of control during those high stress times we all face. Don't dismiss the power of a lucky rock with a goal written on it, or whatever it is that holds significance to you with your future goals, or something that has meaning to you, that you expect to occur in your future. REVISIT THIS EPISODE TO REVIEW THIS CONCEPT IN DEPTH EP 335 Chapter 9 “The Neuroscience Behind Staying Strong and Clear-Headed” Chapter 9, covering “The Neuroscience of Emotion Regulation” which showed up on my leadership self-assessment (in pathway 4 last year AND again this year) as a low, RED score, of 20%. This is not because it's not something I don't need to pay attention to, this is something I pay attention to daily, right up there with physical health that's also listed in Pathway Four of Grant's Self-Leadership Map. Look to see if Emotion Regulation (pathway 4) is of a low, medium or high priority for you to focus on this year. EMOTION REGULATION AND SLEEP: In a world where we are hit daily by external stimuli, how on the earth can we be proactive to stay mentally strong and clear-headed so we have improved executive control to manage our emotions and regulate them? This took me straight to the work of Dr. Andrew Huberman, and Dr. Matthew Walker who recorded an episode called “Improve Sleep to Boost Mood and Emotion Regulation.”[xvii] It was here where I learned just how important sleep is for keeping a strong, clear mind, so we can use this strength to acknowledge and regulate our emotions, like Bosnick suggested in chapter 9 of his book. Dr. Walker, a professor of neuroscience and psychology at the University of California, Berkeley and the host of The Matt Walker Podcast, gave example after example that proved that when you've NOT had a good night's sleep, things that wouldn't bother you (when you've slept well), begin to aggravate, or grate on you more. Here's what I found to be remarkable on this topic, something I had not ever heard before. DID YOU KNOW THAT “the greater amount of REM sleep you are getting, (where our dreams occur) the greater amount of emotional detox you will get the next day.” Matt Walker and Dr. Andrew Huberman. Dr. Walker went on to explain that “the brain chemical noradrenaline (that's responsible for our stress reaction) completely shuts off during REM sleep, and serotonin (that plays a role with our mood) decreases, while acetyl choline (that carries messages from our brain to our body through nerve cells) increases by up to 30% in some parts of the brain (and can be even more active than when we were awake).  Dr. Walker concluded that the decrease of stress related brain chemicals is what makes “REM sleep was the perfect condition for overnight therapy.” If we want to improve our emotion regulation, the science is pointing directly to improving our sleep. On this episode, we dove deep into the 4 stages of sleep and suggestions to improve our sleep is something I've been working on for the past 5 years. There is a lot to this, and I'm still working on improving ALL the macroingredients of a good sleep (suggested by Dr. Walker), that include QQRT, or knowing the quantity (amount of sleep), quality (fragmented vs continuous), regularity (sleeping/waking around the same time) and timing (sleeping in alignment with my chronotype).  Dr. Walker explains these areas with Dr. Huberman, and if you do wonder where you can improve, I highly suggest their 6-part series on sleep. TIPS FOR IMPROVING EMOTION REGULATION BY IMPROVING OUR SLEEP: Here are three tips that I took away from the neuroscience of self-regulation, that I've been working on, to see if improving my sleep in these areas, could possibly improve emotion regulation. 1. KNOW HOW MUCH DEEP RESTORATIVE SLEEP WE ARE GETTING EACH NIGHT:  We all know the importance of knowing how much sleep we are getting to be well-rested the next day, (how many hours or the quantity) but it's also important to keep an eye on the QUALITY or amount of DEEP RESTORATIVE sleep we are getting each night. When I looked at the graphic I included when I wrote this EP back in June 2024, using the WHOOP wearable tracker, I can tell you that with focus and effort in this area, I've been able to improve the number of hours of restorative sleep I was getting last year, to this year, by 14%, hitting most nights with sufficient restorative sleep. Do you know how many hours of restorative sleep you are getting each night? 2. KNOW HOW MUCH REM SLEEP WE ARE GETTING: Keeping an eye on how much REM sleep we getting, is my next tip, since we know it's important for consolidating new memories, learning and motor skills. We also just learned that the more REM sleep we are getting, we can say we are getting some good overnight therapy, restoring ourselves mentally. You can find sleep trackers that can help you to measure and track these important ingredients of a good sleep for yourself, and see how much REM sleep you are getting each night, while keeping in mind that “the greater amount of REM sleep you are getting, the greater amount of emotional detox you will get the next day.” (Dr. Walker) Remember, we are working on ways to help with our emotion regulation, and it seems to me, that an easy way to do this, would be to see how we can improve our REM sleep.   3. APPLY THE SCIENCE OF SLEEP TO IMPROVE EMOTION REGULATION: Since “during REM sleep the stress chemicals are turned off” helping us to “strip away the emotion from the memory” we can take this understanding a step further, and see if we are able to solve any of our problems during sleep. Dr. Huberman and Dr. Walker went into great detail about this concept[xviii] that I've actually witnessed first-hand. They described what happens in REM sleep to be like “Behavior-Desensitization” and I had the opportunity to see the stages of this process, done by someone skilled and trained in trauma and the brain, working with someone I know well, who has experiences significant trauma in their life, starting at an early age. Using a series of techniques, the trained therapist took the client safely from talking about a traumatic memory from their childhood, (with extreme emotion attached) to where they could say out loud that the memory had lost its emotional load and no longer gave them an emotional reaction. This is exactly what happens to our brain during REM sleep and why it's mentally restorative. Putting these tips all together, and knowing that improving the quality, and quantity of sleep is linked to improving emotion regulation, I'm working hard to improve restorative sleep and REM sleep, each month.  It's all just a balancing act, though, and working on one part of our health at a time. REVISIT THIS EPISODE TO REVIEW THIS CONCEPT IN DEPTH REVIEW and CONCLUSION: To review and conclude this week's episode #356 on PART 2 of our review of Grant Bosnick's Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership, we covered a review of the strategies that can help us to implement each concept, from chapters 6, 7, 8, and 9. ✔ EP 327 Chapter 6[xix] “The Hydrated Brain” ✔ EP 330 Chapter 7[xx]“Aha Moments, Creative Insights/the Brain” ✔ EP 333 Chapter 8[xxi] “Exploring the Power of Expectations” ✔ EP 335 Chapter 9[xxii] “The Neuroscience Behind Staying Strong and Clear-Headed” While listening to each episode can be a helpful review, so can revisiting your leadership self-assessment to see what might have changed for you this year from last. I hope this review of chapters 6-9 of Grant Bosnick's Tailored Approaches to Self-Leadership have helped you to think of NEW ways of thinking and taking the necessary action, that will drive you towards whatever it is that you are working on this year. With that thought, I do want to thank you for tuning in, and we will see you next time, with a review of the next 4 chapters. See you next time. REFERENCES: [i] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #321 with Grant ‘Upbeat' Bosnick  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/insights-from-grant-upbeat-bosnick/   [ii]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #355 Mastering Self-Leadership REVIEW PART 1 (Grant Bosnick) https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/mastering-self-leadership-with-neuroscience/   [iii]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #327 “The Hydrated Brain” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/neuroscience-meets-social-and-emotional-learning-podcast-episode-327-recap/   [iv] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #330 “AHA Moments, Creative Insights and the Brain”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/understanding-self-leadership-and-the-neuroscience-of-goals/   [v] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #333 “Exploring the Power of Expectations” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/exploring-the-power-of-expectations-in-episode-333/   [vi]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #335 “The Neuroscience Behind Being Strong and Clear Headed” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/mastering-emotion-regulation-the-neuroscience-behind-staying-strong-and-clear-headed/   [vii] Peter Attia https://peterattiamd.com/   [viii] Attia's Rule https://miloandthecalf.com/2023/02/08/the-attia-rule-some-tests-of-strength-for-longevity/#:~:text=Awhile%20back%20longevity%20expert%20Peter,a%20person%20fit%20for%20longevity.   [ix]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast “Using Neuroscience to Improve Fitness, Longevity and Overall Health.”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/brain-fact-friday-on-using-neuroscience-to-improve-fitness-longevity-and-overall-health/   [x] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast BONUS EPISODE Recorded for Podbean's Wellness Week “The Top 5 Health Staples” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/bonus-episode-a-deep-dive-into-the-top-5-health-staples-and-review-of-seasons-1-4/   [xi]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EP 168 “Dr. Bruce Perry and Steve Graner: What Happened to You?”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/dr-bruce-perry-and-steve-graner-from-the-neurosequential-network-on-what-we-should-all-know-about-what-happened-to-you/   [xii] Gabor Mate When the Body Says No: Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection Published https://www.amazon.com/When-Body-Says-No-Hidden/dp/178504222X   [xiii] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE 264 “The Neuroscience Behind The Silva Method: Improving Creativity and Innovation in our Schools, Sports and Modern Workplaces”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/the-neuroscience-behind-the-silva-method-improving-creativity-and-innovation-in-our-schools-sports-and-modern-workplaces/   [xiv] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE 315 “Thinking and Acting in This Certain Way PART 2 Review of Wallace D. Wattles The Science of Getting Rich book https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/part-2-review-of-wallace-d-wattles-the-science-of-getting-rich-on-chapter-4-thinking-and-acting-in-a-certain-way/   [xv] https://www.me.columbia.edu/faculty/hod-lipson   [xvi] “Great Eureka Moments in History: From Issac Netwon to Sir Paul McCartney, inspiration arrived suddenly” by Dan Falk, Published September 2, 2005 https://magazine.utoronto.ca/research-ideas/culture-society/great-eureka-moments-in-history-famous-inspirational-moments/   [xvii] Dr. Matt Walker: Improve Sleep to Boost Mood & Emotional Regulation | Huberman Lab Guest Series  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S_SrHS8FvMM   [xviii] Dr. Matt Walker: Improve Sleep to Boost Mood & Emotional Regulation | Huberman Lab Guest Series https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S_SrHS8FvMM   [xix]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #327 “The Hydrated Brain” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/neuroscience-meets-social-and-emotional-learning-podcast-episode-327-recap/   [xx] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #330 “AHA Moments, Creative Insights and the Brain”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/understanding-self-leadership-and-the-neuroscience-of-goals/   [xxi] Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #333 “Exploring the Power of Expectations” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/exploring-the-power-of-expectations-in-episode-333/   [xxii]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE #335 “The Neuroscience Behind Being Strong and Clear Headed” https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/mastering-emotion-regulation-the-neuroscience-behind-staying-strong-and-clear-headed/  

Modern parenting experts are saying some pretty bizarre things. Is it truly good for children to get a sense that they're not in charge? Or does parental authority somehow limit their freedom of expression? Is the chief aim of parenting to create a "safe" environment for our kids? Should we force our kids to create their own version of good and evil? We answer these questions and more on today's podcast. On this episode, we talk about: 0:00 Intro 0:45 How does authority interact with children? 1:41 Dr. Becky Talks Authority 11:55 Gabor Mate on 3 Modes of Parenting 20:10 The Issue With Parenting As An American 24:27 The Collapse of Parenting 31:24 Feeling-Driven Parenting 34:21 Parenting Prosperity Gospel? Follow Family Teams: Facebook: https://facebook.com/famteams Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/familyteams Website: https://www.familyteams.com Resources Mentioned: Dr. Becky Reel: https://www.instagram.com/p/DDj6bW4u2ts/ Gabor Mate Reel: https://www.instagram.com/p/DES_PqEoYv9/ Dr. Leonard Sax on Andrew Klavan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S6BFgkdIcy0 Adam Lane Smith Clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GrSuMeck9hI Family Revision by Jeremy Pryor: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B082YHJ62F --- Hi, welcome to the Family Teams podcast! Our goal here is to help your family become a multigenerational team on mission by providing you with Biblically rooted concepts, tools and rhythms! Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke. Make sure to subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss out on future episodes!

Greetings Glocal Citizens! It's the eve of the Lunar New Year - the year of the Wood Snake, which in combination represent growth, flexibility, tolerance, wisdom, intuition, mystery, and cunningness with hints of furtiveness. These themes are a fitting context for this two-part conversation with Ghanaian-Brit, Akua Ofosuhene. Akua is an active and vocal plant medicine advocate and a psychedelic guide specializing in Psyliosibin (magic mushrooms) and Ayahuasca. Advising on intentions and integration she helps her clients get the most out of the psychedelic experience by teaching them other supporting healing modalities furthering healing and growth. She has spoken at the UK's largest psychedelic conference, Breaking Convention where she is also on the management board, Oxford University, UCL, Drug Science, Psychedelic Society UK, and at many other events and podcasts. As the founder of African Spiritual Practices Events and Retreats she will be facilitating her first Ayahuasca retreat in Ghana, with plants grown locally in Ghana, February 16-22, 2025. The podcast is no stranger to this sector, listen and learn more from mental health futurist, Sara Reed (https://glocalcitizens.fireside.fm/guests/sara-j-reed) and stay tuned for an upcoming conversation with writer and professor, Dr. Nicholas Powers about his newest work, Black Psychedelic Revolution (https://www.blackpsychedelicrevolution.com). Where to find Akua and register for the upcoming retreat? https://www.akuao.com/ On LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/akuaofosuhene/) On Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/akuaofosuhene/) On Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/akua.ofosuhene.7/) On TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@akua.ofosuhene) On X (https://twitter.com/AkuaOfosuhene/status/1861006456579133447) On YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/@akua1969/featured) What's Akue reading? Addiction Expert, Gabor Maté (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gabor_Mat%C3%A9) and his book Hold on to Your Kids (https://drgabormate.com/book/hold-on-to-your-kids/) Diane Benscoter (https://dianebenscoter.com) and Shoes of A Servant (https://dianebenscoter.com/books/) What's Akua watching? The Real Housewives (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Real_Housewives) Other topics of interest: Who was Okomfa Anokye? (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Okomfo_Anokye) About Mampong (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mampong#:~:text=History,-See%20also:%20Asante&text=Agona%2DAkrofoso%2C%20often%20regarded%20as,Botaase%2C%20later%20known%20as%20Mampong) Gyetiase Village (https://ashantidevelopment.org/2024/11/ashanti-developments-museum-in-gyetiase/) Yaa Asantewaa War (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/War_of_the_Golden_Stool) A brief history of Denim Styles in the 1970s (https://www.denue.ca/blog/history-class/a-brief-history-denim-in-the-1970s) About Camden Lock Market (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Camden_Market) About Carnaby Street (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carnaby_Street) A Punk Perspective (https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/epdf/10.1111/jpcu.12698) Kirikou and the Sorceress (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kirikou_and_the_Sorceress) Animated Film Social-economic Impacts of Ebola in West Africa (https://www.undp.org/africa/publications/socio-economic-impact-ebola-virus-disease-west-africa) EMDR - Rapid Eye Movement Therapy (https://www.helpguide.org/mental-health/treatment/emdr-therapy) EFT Tapping (https://health.clevelandclinic.org/eft-tapping) African Perspectives on Igoba (https://www.iceers.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/ENG_ICEERS_IBOGA_Phase-2.pdf) Creator of eutaptics® FasterEFT™, Robert Gene Smith (https://skillstochange.com/pages/meet-robert-g-smith?srsltid=AfmBOoqtgZt2x111Qsrm6jONzm3vrFbU9L8yQa54YEnZQU6MaLWd4GtP) Byron Katie and The Work (https://thework.com) Ayahuasca Plant Science (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vqQmakP3ihA) The Ayahuasca Manifesto (https://doorofperception.com/wp-content/uploads/Ayahuasca-Manifesto_Anonymous_May-1st-2012.pdf) Special Guest: Akua Ofosuhene.

Greetings Glocal Citizens! It's the eve of the Lunar New Year - the year of the Wood Snake, which in combination represent growth, flexibility, tolerance, wisdom, intuition, mystery, and cunningness with hints of furtiveness. These themes are a fitting context for this two-part conversation with Ghanaian-Brit, Akua Ofosuhene. Akua is an active and vocal plant medicine advocate and a psychedelic guide specializing in Psyliosibin (magic mushrooms) and Ayahuasca. Advising on intentions and integration she helps her clients get the most out of the psychedelic experience by teaching them other supporting healing modalities furthering healing and growth. She has spoken at the UK's largest psychedelic conference, Breaking Convention where she is also on the management board, Oxford University, UCL, Drug Science, Psychedelic Society UK, and at many other events and podcasts. As the founder of African Spiritual Practices Events and Retreats she will be facilitating her first Ayahuasca retreat in Ghana, with plants grown locally in Ghana, February 16-22, 2025. The podcast is no stranger to this sector, listen and learn more from mental health futurist, Sara Reed (https://glocalcitizens.fireside.fm/guests/sara-j-reed) and stay tuned for an upcoming conversation with writer and professor, Dr. Nicholas Powers about his newest work, Black Psychedelic Revolution (https://www.blackpsychedelicrevolution.com). Where to find Akua and register for the upcoming retreat? https://www.akuao.com/ On LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/akuaofosuhene/) On Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/akuaofosuhene/) On Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/akua.ofosuhene.7/) On TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@akua.ofosuhene) On X (https://twitter.com/AkuaOfosuhene/status/1861006456579133447) On YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/@akua1969/featured) What's Akue reading? Addiction Expert, Gabor Maté (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gabor_Mat%C3%A9) and his book Hold on to Your Kids (https://drgabormate.com/book/hold-on-to-your-kids/) Diane Benscoter (https://dianebenscoter.com) and Shoes of A Servant (https://dianebenscoter.com/books/) What's Akua watching? The Real Housewives (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Real_Housewives) Other topics of interest: Who was Okomfa Anokye? (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Okomfo_Anokye) About Mampong (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mampong#:~:text=History,-See%20also:%20Asante&text=Agona%2DAkrofoso%2C%20often%20regarded%20as,Botaase%2C%20later%20known%20as%20Mampong) Gyetiase Village (https://ashantidevelopment.org/2024/11/ashanti-developments-museum-in-gyetiase/) Yaa Asantewaa War (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/War_of_the_Golden_Stool) A brief history of Denim Styles in the 1970s (https://www.denue.ca/blog/history-class/a-brief-history-denim-in-the-1970s) About Camden Lock Market (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Camden_Market) About Carnaby Street (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carnaby_Street) A Punk Perspective (https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/epdf/10.1111/jpcu.12698) Kirikou and the Sorceress (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kirikou_and_the_Sorceress) Animated Film Social-economic Impacts of Ebola in West Africa (https://www.undp.org/africa/publications/socio-economic-impact-ebola-virus-disease-west-africa) EMDR - Rapid Eye Movement Therapy (https://www.helpguide.org/mental-health/treatment/emdr-therapy) EFT Tapping (https://health.clevelandclinic.org/eft-tapping) African Perspectives on Igoba (https://www.iceers.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/ENG_ICEERS_IBOGA_Phase-2.pdf) Creator of eutaptics® FasterEFT™, Robert Gene Smith (https://skillstochange.com/pages/meet-robert-g-smith?srsltid=AfmBOoqtgZt2x111Qsrm6jONzm3vrFbU9L8yQa54YEnZQU6MaLWd4GtP) Byron Katie and The Work (https://thework.com) Ayahuasca Plant Science (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vqQmakP3ihA) The Ayahuasca Manifesto (https://doorofperception.com/wp-content/uploads/Ayahuasca-Manifesto_Anonymous_May-1st-2012.pdf) Special Guest: Akua Ofosuhene.

Dr. Gordon Neufeld, founder of The Neufeld Institute and Best-Selling Author of Hold on to Your Kids – Why Parents Must Matter More than Peers (co-authored with Dr. Gabor Mate) returns to the podcast.   Despite being written more than 20 years ago, Hold on to Your Kids proves to be more relevant than ever. The book was re-released once again in 2024 with an additional chapter on the roots of the current crisis of mental health in our children.   In this conversation we talk about making sense of adolescence and The Neufeld Institute's upcoming 10 week course – Seven Rites of Passage.   The course starts 30th January and you can sign up here:  https://neufeldinstitute.org/event/making-sense-of-adolescence-part-i-seven-rites-of-passage/   In this episode you will hear:   00:00:00 Intro 00:03:47 Why peer orientation robs our children of feeling satiated 00:06:00 To feel full we need to be able to feel empty 00:10:20 Cascading care must always matter more 00:15:55 Why attachment trumps authenticity 00:17:20 The signs your child is peer oriented 00:24:41 Time to allow our tears to catch up with us 00:27:30 Samurai initiation for males 00:33:54 What is disciplining a child about? 00:37:00 Grandparents are primary caregivers in indigenous cultures 00:41:01 Making sense of adolescence – Seven Rites of Passage 00:53:21 Does a child need a male around? 00:57:35 The impact identity politics is having on child development 01:01:46 How we win back the lost child     Those with ears, let them hear.   Always love Ryan     Connect with The Neufeld Institute Website: https://neufeldinstitute.org/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/neufeldinstitute LinkedIn: https://www.facebook.com/NeufeldInstitute   Connect with Always Better than Yesterday Website: https://abty.co.uk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alwaysbetterthanyesterdayuk/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/abty/ Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/weareabty   Join our mail list here for exclusive content here: https://abty.co.uk/contact     Sign up for our coaching here: https://abty.co.uk/coaching Thank you to our supporters Exhale Healthy Coffee.   Exhale is the first coffee to be sourced, roasted and lab tested specifically to maximise its antioxidant and anti-inflammatory potency.   An independent lab test showed one cup of Exhale coffee has the same antioxidant power as 1.8kg of blueberries or 55 oranges!   Get £10 off your first bag when you visit https://exhalecoffee.com/abty   Please email your questions and comments to podcast@abty.co.uk #DrGordonNeufeld #Holdontoyourkids #RitesofPassage  

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What Society Gets Wrong About Raising Children | Dr. Gabor Mate

From embracing Zionism as a Holocaust survivor to becoming a vocal critic of Israeli policies, renowned doctor and author Gabor Maté reflects on the evolution in his thinking, on trauma as a driving force behind Zionism and Israel, and on how collective Jewish trauma has been exploited by Israel to justify its war in Gaza. In this episode: Gabor Mate (@DrGaborMate), Physician and Author Episode credits: This episode was produced by Tamara Khandaker and Sonia Bhagat, with Noor Wazwaz, Phillip Lanos, Spencer Cline, Hagir Saleh, Melanie Marich, and our host, Malika Bilal. It was edited by Alexandra Locke. Our sound designer is Alex Roldan. Our video editors are Hisham Abu Salah and Mohanned Al-Melhem. Alexandra Locke is The Take’s executive producer. Ney Alvarez is Al Jazeera’s head of audio. Connect with us: @AJEPodcasts on Instagram, X, Facebook, Threads and YouTube

In this powerful solo episode, Leila Lutz delves deep into the importance of understanding your personal "food story" - the beliefs, patterns, and experiences that have shaped your relationship with food. Drawing from her own transformative journey, Leila shares how her lifelong struggle with under-eating and high-achieving behaviour stemmed from a complex web of family dynamics, trauma, and the need to create safety and security.Leila candidly explores how her background as the eldest daughter in a chaotic, financially-strained household influenced her tendency to push food aside in pursuit of constant achievement. She unpacks the addictive nature of adrenaline and cortisol, and how this "busy" mindset kept her from truly nourishing herself.With raw vulnerability, Leila also reveals the generational trauma and beliefs around food that were passed down from her mother's own difficult upbringing. This powerful insight underscores Leila's unique approach to coaching, which emphasizes the critical role of self-parenting and taking responsibility for one's own healing.Throughout the episode, Leila offers listeners a glimpse into her personal process of uncovering and addressing these deep-seated patterns, highlighting the importance of consistent self-care, mindful eating, and creating a life of balance and connection. Her story serves as a powerful testament to the transformative power of understanding your food story and the courage to rewrite it.In this episode:Understanding Your Food Story The Impact of Under-Eating The Role of Stress and AdrenalineThe Journey to Balanced EatingAddressing Addiction and Overachievement The Influence of Family Beliefs The Importance of Self-Parenting The Role of Coaching and Therapy The Emotional Impact of Food Encouragement for Healing.The book mentioned is “In the Realms of Hungry Ghosts” by Dr Gabor Mate and is a must read.Sign up for Leila's FREE Insights Course at www.thebodyneverlies.com.auConnect with Leila:WebsiteInstagram @leilalutzMentioned in this episode:Free InsightsUncover the root cause of your unexplained symptoms, with a scientifically proven, self assessment tool. https://thebodyneverlies.com.au/insights-courseFree Insights Jan25

She has dedicated her life to her spiritual path, and learning the healing arts and mystical wisdom of many world cultures. She is a holistic energy healer: Reiki Master; Crystal energy healer (certified, International Practitioners of Holistic Medicine); Sound Therapy & Sound Healing practitioner (certified, Complementary Therapists Accredited Association); and shamanic practitioner. Kathy walks the path of an ancient lineage of women frame drummers. An award-winning artist, photographer, and poet, Kathy's fine art photography can be found at her online gallery at KathyHarmonLuber.com, her shop at fineartamerica.com/profiles/kathy-harmon-luber/shop, and on Facebook at facebook.com/Kathy-Harmon-Luber-Suffering-to-Thriving-103160192354485. Kathy's compelling writing and marketing prowess have helped nonprofit organizations advocating the arts, education, and environment, as well as helping foster children and youth, helping homeless youth get off the streets, and empowering people with developmental disabilities. She's an articulate spokesperson, having appeared on CNN, in The New York Times, LA Times, The Washington Post, and more. She has taught at professional conferences, university, high school, and middle school levels. She earned her Graduate degree in Publishing from The George Washington University and BS in Marine Biology from University of NC, Wilmington. This time we get to visit with Kathy Harmon-Luber, a Sound Therapy & Sound Healing practitioner, Reiki Master. In her twenties Kathy was diagnosed with serious autoimmune diseases. Also, she was told that she had the spine of someone in their eighties. Kathy had grown up in Pennsylvania and then moved during her high school years to North Carolina. She will describe how she went to college and obtained a degree in Marine Biology, but after leaving college she went in a slightly different direction and began working for various nonprofit agencies including spending 12 years working for these organizations in Washington D.C.   As Kathy describes, she slowly began looking for ways to help her conditions and learned about and started to work with sound healing. In a sense, much came to a head in 2016 when she experienced a worse than usual ruptured disk in her back and became bed ridden for five years.   The unstoppable Kathy after coming to grips with her situation began to work on becoming aware of her own body and what it would need to heal. Clearly what she did worked as now, as she will tell us, walks two or more miles at a time. She still monitors her body, but that is the real crux of the issue; she is aware of her body and has learned what it needs to stay healthy. She reminds us that we all can be more aware of our physical and mental needs if we will but take the time to gain awareness and insights.   At the end of our time Kathy tells us of a free gift for all. You can find this gift on her website, www.sufferingtothriving.com.       About the Guest:   Kathy is an inspiring, compassionate, and empowering author and wellness guide whose passion is helping people navigate the challenging terrain of the healing journey. With insight and enthusiasm, she opens people's eyes to the potential of becoming more physically, emotionally, and spiritually healthy by offering a toolkit of practical solutions. Her book, “Suffering to Thriving: Your Toolkit for Navigating Your Healing Journey ~ How to Live a More Healthy, Peaceful, Joyful Life,” is full of wisdom gleaned from decades of healing from health crises. Kathy went from suffering to thriving, reversing the progression of asthma, chronic bronchitis, and autoimmune disorders, and recovered (without surgery) from several debilitating, inoperable spinal diseases and disc ruptures which left her bed-ridden for five years. Kathy's passion is helping others find their compass and chart a course for navigating illness, injury, and loss – learning how to not only cope, but to become more resilient, joyful, and thriving.   Photo by Lynne Eodice     Ways to connect with Gail:   https://www.facebook.com/SufferingToThriving https://www.instagram.com/kathyluber/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathy-harmon-luber-4b38158/     About the Host:   Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog.   Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. He is Ambassador for the National Braille Literacy Campaign for the National Federation of the Blind and also serves as Ambassador for the American Humane Association's 2012 Hero Dog Awards.   https://michaelhingson.com https://www.facebook.com/michael.hingson.author.speaker/ https://twitter.com/mhingson https://www.youtube.com/user/mhingson https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelhingson/   accessiBe Links https://accessibe.com/ https://www.youtube.com/c/accessiBe https://www.linkedin.com/company/accessibe/mycompany/   https://www.facebook.com/accessibe/       Thanks for listening!   Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!   Subscribe to the podcast   If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. You can subscribe in your favorite podcast app. You can also support our podcast through our tip jar https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/unstoppable-mindset .   Leave us an Apple Podcasts review   Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts.       Transcription Notes:   Michael Hingson ** 00:00 Access Cast and accessiBe Initiative presents Unstoppable Mindset. The podcast where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us.   Michael Hingson ** 01:20 Well, thanks for listening. Wherever you happen to be today you are listening to unstoppable mindset. I am your host, Michael hingson, and today we get to chat with Kathy Harmon Luber, who is a Reiki Master, a healer, and she comes by it very honestly. Why do I say that? Because for many years, like others I've had the opportunity to chat with on the podcast, she actually went through some very serious, debilitating and unhealthy issues. But also, like a number of people, as you will see, Cathy is very unstoppable. She went through it, and it is kind of helped shape what she does today and where she is in her life. And I'm going to leave it at that, because I think it'll be a whole lot more fun if you get to hear from her. So Kathy, welcome to unstoppable mindset.   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 02:16 Hi, Michael. I'm so happy to be here with you today.   Michael Hingson ** 02:19 And the other thing about Kathy is we don't live all that far apart from each other, because I live in a town called Victorville, and she lives in Idlewild, and so we're, as I said, I could she's below us, although a little ways away, but I could probably, if I had a really good, strong arm and a well built paper airplane, I could throw a plane that would go into her window and land on her desk, but I think that's going to be a little tough to do under normal conditions, but you never know what'll happen. But I'm really glad that you're here with us. Why don't we start? If we could by you telling us a little bit about kind of the early Kathy growing up and so on. That's always a fun place to start. Yeah,   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 02:59 always a good place to start. Thanks. You know, Michael, I grew up in Pennsylvania, even though we live in California now, I grew up in Pennsylvania, Western Pennsylvania, in a lovely small town. Our our home was on a property that my dad planted quite a lot of trees. He was a forestry major, so he planted lots of trees. We had this beautiful wooded yard, and I spent a lot of time outdoors and with our with our dog, our colleague, Taffy, and exploring the woods and nature. And so nature has always been such a big part of my, life as a result of that early upbringing, but I was also very, very creative back then and now i i played piano. I got started really young. When I was when I was three years old, my mom started giving me piano lessons because I had just sat down beside her one day and started to play and wanted to play. Then I moved on to flute. So I've, my dad played a lot of classical music, and so I was, I was always very inspired with that, and I also did a lot of art. And so young Kathy was, was was very creative. And I've, I've carried that through my life. It's been something that's given me a lot of strength through adversity. And as I like to say, you know, we all need to find our medicine to get us through life and the challenges that we face and creativity is my medicine, along with nature, is my medicine as well. So yeah, it's a little bit about my early days. So   Michael Hingson ** 04:44 you went to school and all those usual things that us kids did back in the day as it worked. I did. You went to college.   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 04:52 I did. I went   Michael Hingson ** 04:54 to college. Where did you go and what did you do?   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 04:57 Okay, well, interesting. I. We moved when I was 14 from this idyllic life in Pennsylvania to North Carolina. My dad got a great job offer in Charlotte, and he moved our family there. So I went to high school there for a couple of years, and then I went to college. He wanted me to stay in state, and so I went to University of North Carolina at Wilmington on the coast. I majored in marine biology. My dad did not want me to major in the creative arts. He was adamant about it. He wanted me to be a business major. And, you know, I subsequently have had a lot of experience in in business, but I I also just had this, you know, this, this love for nature that was, that was kindled in my my childhood. We also took trips to the beach once we moved to North Carolina, and so I, I decided to be a marine biology major. You know, I was very inspired by Rachel Carson and her, her books and, and other writings and and so that is, is what I majored in, and loved it. I used to, you know, snorkel and scuba dive and all of that, and just found the ocean to be another home. Yeah, cool.   Michael Hingson ** 06:17 So you went in and got a degree in marine biology, but what did you then do with it?   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 06:24 Yeah, isn't that interesting? Yeah. So   Michael Hingson ** 06:27 I, I know the feeling well.   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 06:32 So I moved with my soon to be now ex husband to to Washington, DC, after college, and I just had the fire in the belly to to work with advocacy organizations that make the world a better place. And that's been my entire career, prior to to career change into sound healing, and the the other healing arts and Reiki and all of that, which we'll talk about. But, but, yeah, I I was very inspired by my grandfather, who, you know, he was one of those people who was always volunteering, always making a difference in the world. Believed that we could make a difference no matter what was going on in the world and in the power of every person to make that difference. And so I was really inspired by that. And so I went to work in nonprofit organizations, and I worked in environmental organizations. I worked with a couple of organizations that that worked at the grassroots level to empower environmental organizations to to, you know, fight a lot of the big battles with with corporate polluters and super fun sites and things of that nature. I went on to work with a lot of of different, varied nonprofit organizations over the years, including when, when I was in DC, the Smithsonian Norman Lear's People for the American Way, a constitutional rights organization. So, so I've had a lot of varied experience in in the nonprofit world, but it was working. You know, in environmental causes that really lit me up. And later, you know, moving to California as a consultant, I also work for environmental organizations. So it's, it's been a passion of mine, yeah, so it   Michael Hingson ** 08:35 sounds though, like marine biology, in a sense, had a little bit of an influence. Did you find that there were ways and places where you were able to use some of that knowledge or some of the experience you gained along the way with marine biology? Yeah,   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 08:49 for sure, within the environmental work that I did, I did fundraising and grant writing, and certainly the marine biology, you know, I took ecology classes and animal physiology classes and all kinds of things that weren't specifically marine biology related, but biology and nature related. So so that well rounded education has served me very, very well over the years. And I might also say that at the time that we moved to DC and I went to work in these environmental nonprofits, I really wanted to get an advanced degree in marine biology. There were hiring freezes in the government. They were doing a lot of the hiring of young Marine Biology majors. And so I kind of hit a roadblock there, which required me to pivot a little bit. And that's kind of been the story of my career. As I've gone through many different kinds of nonprofits. You know, as opportunities opened that that seemed interesting to me and and worthwhile causes, I have had these pivots into slight. The, you know, different fields and away from the marine biology, but it to the state, you know, I've still done, like, a lot of snorkeling, and put that information to use as well. So it's been both professionally as well as in my personal life. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 10:17 well, so you, you were in DC for how long? 12 years, wow. And then, what did you do? Then   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 10:26 I had a great opportunity. I I worked. The last job I had in in DC was working with the Democratic National Campaign Committee to to raise what was then, like a record breaking amount of money, and I was offered a job doing some some consulting in LA, and I, I, I really love DC. I have so many great memories and lots of friends still to this day, but I had the opportunity in working in DC to travel to California a lot, and I loved it here. And so when that job opportunity came, I decided to move to California. I've worked with a lot of different varied I got out of politics at that point and into other kinds of nonprofits that make the world a better place. And that includes, you know, the arts, Health and Human Services, helping traumatized children mental health issues. So quite a lot of of organizations that that help people. Yeah, so what did you   Michael Hingson ** 11:44 What did your father think about you going into all this nonprofit work, even though he wanted you to get and you got your degree in marine biology, or did he approve?   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 11:56 Uh, you know, he wasn't crazy about it, I have to say, because he didn't feel that that nonprofits are business, because people think, if you work for a nonprofit, there's no money, there's no profit, and in in the the strict sense of the word nonprofit, nonprofits cannot make profit that is then shared with board members and stakeholders and all of that. But you know, many nonprofit organizations raise millions upon millions of dollars to put into their work. It's just that they have a a mandate from the government to spend it on the programs, on the on the programmatic work. So he wasn't crazy about that, but by that point, he realized his daughter was going to do what she wanted to do in life, and I've never looked back. It has been deeply fulfilling, and I do feel like a lot of nonprofit organizations are real change makers in the world, right? And so, so so it's been deeply fulfilling to me at that level. And you know, the the fundraising part I kind of fell into when I was in DC, people took me under their wings and taught me how to fundraise and and I became development director and VP of development and advancement and all those things, and that's what powers the nonprofit work. So, so I always felt really good about that, yeah. Well,   Michael Hingson ** 13:27 the reality is, of course, that people who really are committed to their nonprofit work into whatever nonprofit organization they are a part of will tell you that it's all about trying to make a difference in the world. It's all about trying to improve the world, whether they specifically are the ones to make a difference, they want to be part of the process that will make the world a better place. And they they do recognize there is money, but they also recognize that the more important thing are maybe the tangibles and possibly the intangibles that go along with making a real difference, right?   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 14:11 Exactly? And it's such a wonderful opportunity to you know, in the in the fundraising part, you know, money comes from individuals, it comes from private foundations, and it also comes from corporate philanthropy. So it was an opportunity to work in partnership with corporations to also make good things happen. Yeah, did   Michael Hingson ** 14:31 all of your work, both in marine biology and just the things that your your dad wanted you to do, in terms of business and so on. Did all of that experience and the terminology that you got to learn, did all that help you? Yes,   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 14:47 absolutely. You know, it's been fascinating to me, Michael, how at every step along my career path, how I've been able to take what I've learned in Marie. In biology in and just, you know, nature studies in general as part of that, getting that degree, not strictly marine environment, but, but, but you know, the natural environment in general, and and everything I've learned in working in nonprofits and in fundraising and all of my varied interests, like even in the arts, I've worked as a as a development consultant with lots of arts organizations, so I've been able to sort of marry all of These what seem like disparate skills and bring them into almost every job I've well, not almost every job I've ever had. So that part has been fascinating to see how interconnected all of those things have been in making it a rich experience and making it a career. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 16:01 well, along the way, your life changed because of some some physical things that happened to you. Why tell us a little bit about that? Because I know that that leads to a lot of the choices that you've made since, and a lot of the things that you've learned   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 16:15 absolutely, you know, I think it's like so many of us in life, disruptions can happen in our lives that set us on a different course or or maybe just we course correct a little bit, or maybe it's dramatic, and in my life, it's been just a little bit of both. I when I was in my 20s, I was diagnosed with autoimmune diseases and severe hereditary spinal diseases. I was always really interested in pursuing complementary medicine, right along with Western medicine, both have helped me enormously, and I was doing just great. I had doctors when I was in my 20s tell me I had the spine of an 80 year old at that point, and that I also would probably end up in a wheelchair by my mid 30s. And I'm thrilled to say that, that I am, that I am not currently, and I'm I'm many   17:12 decades older. I was gonna say you're a lot older than in your 30s. Yes, I am. And so   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 17:17 I've been able to to, to really find a healing path that has helped me to really thrive physically. So that was one part of it, but then I was doing just great. You know, I had had some minor setbacks over the years, especially with my spine disc ruptures and things of that nature that would take, you know, two or three months of being down for the count, and then I'm back, you know, strong and right back at my very, very active life. I've always been, you know, I when I was younger, I was a runner. I've always been a hiker. I love to swim, like, like, an hour at a time, at the at the pool, you know, not just playful swimming, but but serious swimming. And, you know, I played a lot of high impact sports and things, from basketball when I was young to tennis and volleyball and all the things so super active life, and I managed until 2016 when I had, I had gone to visit a client. It was an overnight trip, and it involved several hours in a car each way, and all year long. In 2016 it was a very, very big year. We had had, I had, you know, traveled internationally, my husband and I did a drive all the way up the coast to from Southern California to Oregon. You know, I was serving on three boards of directors. Yes, I was still working more than full time. I had quite a lot going on in my life, and I was getting these subtle, intuitive hits that I really needed to rest my back more. It was very, very painful. And I, I, I practice good self care, you know, I'd rest for a while, and then I'd be right back to my really busy life, right? So the day after this, this trip to the client, I was very excited. I'm standing in the kitchen, telling my husband, as the coffee is brewing, all about the trip, and I get this extraordinarily severe like I've had never had before in my back to the point that I barely made it to the bedroom without falling he had to help me, and I'd had ruptured discs before. This was really different in terms of the intensity of the pain. If the others were a 10, this was like a 20, and I could not move. Once I got laying down flat on my back in bed, I could not move at all, like without just incredible searing pain. And I thought, well. Well, here we are. It's going to take another couple months, maybe three, for this to, you know, resolve. I know I have to really be down for the count now and really rest and you know. So I started just making changes, you know, I knew I had to resign some boards temporarily, I thought. And I talked with doctors and all of that. And come to, you know, fast forward, I was bedridden like that for five years, five years. I wasn't prepared for that, you know, I really thought it was going to be a more or less speedy recovery and and it wasn't like other recoveries, where I could even prop myself up in bed and work from my laptop. I was completely down for the count. Um, it was inoperable. Doctors said it could take anywhere from six months to three years to heal. Maybe you'll be better, and maybe you won't. So I went through that those moments of it may be always like this. It may not get better. I mean, one, one neurosurgeon said you, you may not be able to ever really walk much again. And in the early years of that, I couldn't walk to the bedroom door. So, you know, it was, it was that was depressing. It was, you know, you go down the downward spiral of feelings like and asking all the wrong questions. You know, I was in that place of asking, Why me? Why did this happen to me. You know? What? What Will it always be this way? What if it's never better? What if? What if I am completely reliant on my husband and friends for the rest of my life? You go to that place. It's human nature. And we can't beat ourselves up when these kinds of things happen, and we we tend to, you know, either blame ourselves or go down the dark rabbit hole. But the important thing, as you have talked about so much, and that you and I both know, is that when great challenges happen in our lives, just like when they don't, but magnified when they do. Every moment is a choice. And I realized one day that, you know, I could prop my laptop on my stomach and look for inspiring quotes. And one day I got up, woke up, and I thought, that's what I'm going to do this morning. I'm in a bad place. I started looking for inspiring quotes of people who went through bad stuff, who got through it. And I realized in that moment, it was like a lightning bolt. Every moment I have a choice, I could I could go and just forever live in that dark place, or I can try to find hope and a new purpose in my life. I could choose to be a bitter old, unhappy woman one day. Or I could take a different path, and I start thinking, Well, how would I take that different path? Here I am lying in bed. I can't do anything for myself. What can I do? I began looking at it from the standpoint of not disability, but ability. What is my ability? What can I do? And I actually, with my computer, made a list of everything I couldn't do right? I couldn't I couldn't go for walks. I couldn't swim. I couldn't walk to the kitchen at that point, you know, like I said, I couldn't even get to the bedroom door. I could no longer ride horses, which, which was something I love to do. I, up until that point, had been playing classical flute in our town at least once or twice a weekend. Professionally, I could not even lift up my flute because it twisted my back in a way that was just completely unbearable. So in one column, I made that list of everything, and I said, you know, I can't be on boards of directors anymore, because at that point, you know, that was 2016 2017 we weren't using zoom and other platforms to connect virtually, as we began to do during the pandemic. And so So I made a list of the things that had to go What did I have to completely get rid of? I resigned boards. I cut back on client writing work. And then I looked at all the things I love to do, my flute playing, my art, my photography, and I said, All right, what is a work around here? I can't I can't ride horses. I can sketch horses. I love to sketch. So maybe I'll just lean into that. Something I never did before, that I wasn't sketching or painting horses. I couldn't stand at my easel, but I could. I could sketch. I couldn't play my classical flute. I could play my Native American flute because it didn't twist my spine. I had, you know, Tibetan and Crystal singing bowls, which, which I loved. I had gotten into sound healing years, decade, a couple of decades ago now, for anxiety and relaxation from stress, right? And, and I thought, well, there's something I can do. I'll have my husband bring those things to me, and I'll, I'll do those things. And, what I'm saying is I found new and different things that lit me up, that that gave me joy. And there's a very good reason for doing this first. First what got me to that point unbeknownst to the reason why it's important, which I'll get to in a second. But the what got me to that point, is asking the right questions instead of poor me. Why did this happen to me? It was what if this is an opportunity for me to turn inward more? I've always been a very spiritual person, not necessarily in a religious way, but, but, but spiritual. What if this is an opportunity for me to really lean into that? What if it's an opportunity for me to learn new things and get certified in sound healing and become a Reiki Master? Uh, what if it's an opportunity for me to find a new path in life. What if this is a portal to something new and different, a new and different life purpose? And when I was telling you about all the nonprofit work I did and still do that, I thought that was my ultimate life purpose and and because of of of this massive health challenge, on this healing journey, I've discovered there's more to it than that, sound, healing, energy, healing, um, all of that is, is part of my new   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 27:17 um, expanded Life Purpose, and what I the gifts that I bring to the world. So, so what I'm saying is, you know, when we look at it as our healing journey, as embedded in our life's journey, of course, if we live long enough, we're all going to face health challenges, be they physical, mental, emotional, even spiritual, right? So our healing journey embedded in our life's journey, embedded in our soul's journey, or what we came here to do in the world. And so healing journey becomes a portal. The reason why this is so important, I just finished Michael reading a really fabulous book by a doctor, Dr Jeffrey rediger, I believe his name is. It's called cured, and it is about the medical science behind people who have really rather miraculous feelings. They don't. They don't just the cancers don't go into remission, only they are cured of cancer. He's been following some of these people for decades, and he decided, from from the medical perspective, why do some people have amazing healings and others don't? And many of these people were given two months to live from their particular cancer or other diseases, and decades later, they're still alive and they're thriving. Why is that? And it seems the common denominator throughout his book is not owning the label of your disease as the be all and end all. In other words, I am not my spinal diseases. I am not my autoimmune diseases. I have a purpose in life, and then finding that purpose, living that purpose, living an intentional life that brings you great joy. He told the story of a woman who had two months to live from an extremely aggressive pancreatic cancer, one of the worst cancers, and she spent the weekend with her, with her girlfriends. They went to the beach. They all you know, gave her lots of love and encouragement for what she thought was the final couple of months of her life. Then she decided I am not my cancer, and I am going to just live every day of my life, however short it remains. I'm going to live it full of joy, full of passion. And full of love, and that's what she did. Fast forward over a decade, like close to 15 years later, she ends up in the hospital, same hospital that that, that you know, did all the the testing for the pancreatic cancer and she had appendicitis. She saw the doctors, and they looked at her chart and said, We didn't think you were alive, right? She was. She only had two months to live here. She is nearly 15 years later, alive, and then she began working with the doctor who wrote this book to even explore further why she's still alive. Turns out, living a life of purpose and full of love and support, following your passions is is for many people, what helps them to transcend and have these rather, rather amazing feelings. And so I have, I have been, I was doing that then without knowing that I only read the book a couple months ago. So it's a relatively new, new book out. I, I, I began just sort of following that, and now I'm leaning into it even more, as you can imagine, knowing that's kind of a recipe for thriving, right,   Michael Hingson ** 31:23 right? And well, and I think it's, it's been known in some quarters for quite a while that your mental attitude and your perceptions can dramatically and can totally, I think, actually control how you are, how healthy you are, and so on. Disease is a is really dis ease, but it is as much, if not more, in most cases, mental, than anything else. That doesn't mean that some people aren't going to get a broken arm or something like that, or in your case, you had some very bad back problems. But it also doesn't mean that your mind doesn't have the ability to help you move beyond that, which is what you did   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 32:15 exactly. And you know, in my book, I I dedicate a lot of my book suffering to thriving, to this concept of suffering is a choice, unnecessary suffering. Okay, I'm not, I want to say right up front, I'm not talking about people who are in war torn countries or or in countries where there are terrible, you know, injustices to people. That's a different kind of suffering. I'm talking about the kind of suffering that is in our mind, that we perpetuate with our minds. Suffering is a choice. Unnecessary suffering is a choice. Thriving is a choice. And I write a lot about this in my book, about how we need to make our mind our medicine. And that's not false positivity. You know? It's about training your mind not to go down the negative rabbit hole of the terrible questions of perseverating about all the bad things that can happen. Because, look, life is complicated in our world, bad things happen every day. It's important to find a place within us, that place of stillness where we can live in the moment. And when we sit here like I'm sitting here right now with you, this is a beautiful moment. There are lots of terrible things going on in the world. There are lots of terrible things happening to our planet environmentally. And we can choose to find moments of peace in our lives, that peace, that stillness within that is healing and so, so harnessing the power of that in our lives, every day, every moment, is a choice. We can do something healing or not, and and you and I have talked about this before. You know the Buddhist nun Pema Chodron, who I'm a big fan of, because she is just so plain, speaking about the challenges of daily life. And you know, how do we how do we thrive through, through what's going on in our in our world, even she talks about every moment is a choice between fear versus love. What would fear decide? Fear? Fear goes down that rabbit hole and doesn't come out and just lives in that dark place and we feel sorry for ourselves. It's human to do that. It's human nature to do that in to some degree. But what would love do if we're being loving towards ourselves and the people we're in community with, right people in our lives who we love, I will decide   Michael Hingson ** 34:50 right I would submit that fear isn't necessarily a rabbit hole that we have to go down. That is to say fear is in part physiological and in part mental. That's right, but, but fear is also something where, again, like with most things, we have the choice of how to deal with it. And you know, we've talked about my new book, and I've talked about it here on the podcast, live like a guide dog, which is all about discussing the idea of learning to control fear. Fear can be a very powerful tool in our arsenals. It doesn't necessarily need to be something that overwhelms us, or, as I put it blinds us. The reality is that fear is something that if we learn to use it properly, can make us more aware, more perceptive. It can help our visualizations, and that's what we need to deal with. You said it in a very interesting way a few moments ago, when you talked about living in the moment. The problem with fear is that what we usually learn on this earth, many of us anyway, is that we have to what if everything? What if this happens? Oh, my God, that's horrible. What if that happens? And as several people have written over the years, the problem with most all of our fears is they never come to pass, but we spend so much time dwelling on them that we don't look at what caused them, where they come from, and what good is it going to do for us to continue to dwell on things when all we're doing is making stuff up as we go, but rather to say, Okay, I'm aware of this, and when you go back and study it, ah, that's What caused me to think that way? Okay, I understand that now, and I'm aware of that, and I don't need to worry about that, because I recognize that's just a myth that I'm trying to create when I don't need to do it. Oh,   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 37:16 I love that so much. Michael, that's exactly it. Exactly it. You know, fear, like you said, is it is a an important, an important feeling, because as human beings, you know, think of our, think of our long ago ancestors and and saber tooth tigers like you couldn't be curious about that big cat. You had to be fearful of it, or you could lose your life, right? The problem is today, we're not being chased by by crazy wild animals. Most of us, and we are, we're, we're, we're fearful of things that happen in everyday life, to the point that a lot of people just have this running emotion of fear all the time, what I have found, and I've read a lot about this, and I'm very excited to read your book and learn even more about it from you. I think it's really important to face our fears and to be curious about them. For example, you know, I would be very, very fearful about about certain things. And when I really sat down and faced them and said, What is behind this fear, and then what's behind that?   Michael Hingson ** 38:29 Well, let's go back to the saber tooth. Let's go back to the saber tooth tiger a minute. Um, were we just afraid of the cat, or did we observe and learn and become respectful of it and gave it its space while it may not have cared about our space so much, but we we learned to recognize it and to respect it more than to fear it. Because the problem with fear as such when we let it run rampant, is that we lose our ability to put things in perspective. And I expect that those cave people realized I don't want to tangle with this cat, because now that doesn't mean that there wasn't a level of fear, but again, fear used in the right way leads to better awareness, better observation, being aware of when that cat's around, looking for it, learning more about how to recognize when the cat's there, so that you can avoid it, which doesn't mean that you're not afraid of it, in a sense, but more you're aware of it, and you learn to respect and deal with it. Yeah. On the other hand, I wonder if there are any cave people that ever got to make friends with the saber tooth tiger. You never know.   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 39:48 We never know. Yeah, it could well be. But in regular, you know everyday life now, like often, we'll be afraid, and I can remember this very well in the first couple of years of being. Bedridden. I was afraid of my spine. I was afraid my spine was going to get worse. I was afraid that if I started walking, I might make it worse. And then I sat down one day and I thought, I can't live in fear of my own body. You know, our bodies are so wise. They everything pain, allergies, lives, anxiety, it all tells us something. It's a teacher. And so is fear. Like in the case of a saber tooth tiger, you know it's it teaches us something. So if we can approach fear from the perspective of, okay, why am I afraid of again years ago, walking for fear that my spine would collapse further. Why am i i turning this into a fear of my own body, and then I would be okay? Well, if it happens again, I'm afraid that I'm really going to be a burden on my family. And you go down, you know, that line of inquiry, okay, well, what's behind that, and what's behind that, and that, and, and is that a worthwhile fear to live your life? There you go. And I came to the point where it's like, uh, no, I have to take calculated risks. I'm not going to do anything crazy, but, but let's set small goals for myself and and sure enough, you know now I'm, I'm walking, I'm, I'm I'm able to walk. I'm able to walk a couple of miles, but it began with those baby steps that were full of fear. We have to face that and dig underneath it and and I like anything you know, when you confront it, it takes a lot of the scariness out of it. Actually, can just face the fear, right? Absolutely.   Michael Hingson ** 41:50 What is it that eventually happened to you or because of you, that healed essentially, as much as possible that your spine so that you are able to walk and so on. Now,   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 42:06 yeah, that's a great question. I would love to say it was one thing, but like most things in life, it wasn't. I was. I was doing quite a lot of things. I was I was doing a lot of visualization of walking, I was doing a lot of visualization of going about my regular life. There was a time I couldn't stand in the kitchen and make dinner. I visualized standing in the kitchen and making a cup of coffee, a cup of tea, a dinner. And so I did a lot of work in my mind to and this comes from athletes. You know, elite athletes use visualization to win their games or to win their gold medal, right? So I learned a lot from that. Right visualization really helped. I really did a deep dive of research into supplements that help the body to fight inflammation. I was, you know, my whole life I have, I have been either vegetarian or pescetarian, you know, eating fish and shellfish. I I began to introduce things like, like, like chicken into my diet at one point when I recognized the need for more protein. But it's about listening to your body and what it needs in order to heal, supplementation, Ayurvedic medicine. I saw a naturopath. I just began to explore every single thing. Then after about three years, I was cleared to go to physical therapy. Physical therapy has saved me so many times. You know, from sports injuries. I've had torn menisci in my knees, and, you know, doctors would say, I think you're going to need surgery. And physical therapy helped so much that I've avoided that surgery my entire life. So so when the doctor said it was inoperable because of the way the disc ruptured and glommed onto the sciatic nerve and other disease, spinal disease, problems that were hereditary, they could not operate. I began to look at everything else. I began to look at things like magnet therapy, just Reiki healing energy Reiki is energy healing, sound healing. I had been doing music and sound I had been going to sound baths, mostly for stress, relaxation, mindfulness, all the all the good stuff. But then I began to realize that that sound healing is so much more powerful than even that. I got certified as a sound healer and began just expanding my repertoire of sound healing and energy healing work. And now I mean this, this, this, I think you find fascinating. You know, doctors are incorporating. Sound healing and Reiki energy medicine into their hospitals across the United States and Europe, into hospitals departments of integrative therapies. And last year, when my mom was in the hospital for cancer, that that that major hospital in Charlotte, North Carolina, had a department of integrative therapy that worked with the hospital and with hospice to to help people. The science behind it is is being proven by by major major universities all over the country. There's some fascinating work coming out of UCLA here in California, by a researcher who works with medical doctors. The researcher's name is James jimzewski, and he, in collaboration with doctors, have found that the different types of cells in the body, the heart cells, the brain cells, they have their own frequency of hertz, which is simply the measure of vibration of sound. They each have their their own unique vibration. And when cells, if they look in a petri dish of heart cells, to become atrophied or brain cells, they realize that those atrophied cells can be brought back to their normal cellular function by applying those frequencies to the cells so sound reinvigorates them. It holds great promise for the future of medicine. And lots of medical doctors are writing about this. There's a well known oncologist by the name of Dr Mitchell Gaynor, who wrote a wonderful book called The Power of sound healing. And he uses sound therapy himself. He conducts a sound bath for his cancer patients. He believes in it that much right along in compliment with Western medicine, of course, and so I that was one of the things. I really, really, I got certified in sound healing, like I said, I became a Reiki Master, and I began applying those things in my own life when I began doing the sound treatments, in other words, when I was better enough to be out of my completely bedridden state, about three, four years in, I got a gong, and the gong has the widest range, the lowest lows, the highest highs that we can't hear. Many dogs and other animals can hear these sounds, but human ears cannot detect them, but our sound, our cells at the cellular level, pick up on that sound, and I began noticing I'd have really accelerated healing again. It's now been, you know, it's now been, uh, going on. It's been, uh, you know, over seven years, going on eight years that that all of this has been has been healing, but over time, I believe everything is incremental. It's like anything in life. Everything is incremental. You can't go to the gym and lift weights once and have a fit body. You know, you got to keep at it. So applying all of these things. Over the years, I have noticed big changes. So again, to answer your question, it wasn't just one thing. It was a lot of complimentary therapies put together, and then what I call in the book, stick with itness. You know, sticking with it, not just trying it for a short time, really, really incorporating it into my daily self care regimen, right? That's what has made the difference for sure.   Michael Hingson ** 48:49 So here's a question, little bit of a quick question, but you talk about thriving a lot, if you were to and you've talked about unstoppable thriving, how would you distill or what would you say are three major points that lead to being able to be an unstoppable thriver, if you will?   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 49:06 Oh, I love this question so much. Michael, okay, so my book is a toolkit of, like, 36 tools that get us to answer this question. But I'm going to give you my top three, and I think the very first one is, is really deep self care and self compassion. When things like this happen, we tend to think, Okay, I'll take better care of myself. I'll eat right, or I will exercise more, whatever it happens to be in your own situation, there is something called robust self care and robust self compassion that's really about giving your body everything it needs to heal. If you need to sleep 12 hours a night, that's what you've got to do. And and we all say, Oh, I don't have time for that. You know, I got a busy life. I've got a. These other responsibilities and commitments. I don't have time for that, but that's what your body often needs, is that level of of really deep self care and and when things happen to us again, physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritual, dark, Night of the Soul, whatever it happens to be, we tend to think of our bodies and ourselves as betraying us, as being the enemy. I hear my clients say this all the time, and there was a point early on when I was like that. It's like my body has betrayed me. How could this happen? I'm young, I've I'm active, you know, I'm doing all the right stuff. From every standpoint, doctors would say you're doing everything exactly right, and yet I had all this stuff going on. We think our bodies betrayed us, but our bodies and this is a wonderful book by Dr Gabor Mate, who writes, When the body says no, our bodies are sending us loving signals of pain. They're telling us when we need to stop doing stuff or cut back or rest. You know, allergies, anxiety, pick, pick anything you know, arrhythmia, pick anything your body is sending you a signal, we have to say. And this has been hard for me, because recently, I've had some a resurgence of some knee problems, and they were pretty debilitating, and we thought I was going to need knee surgery, you know, that I've been avoiding since I was, like, 14 years old. We thought I was really close to it, and it was really hard to say to my knee, oh my goodness, my beautiful hard working me. You have helped me so much in my life. I'm listening to you and doing deep inquiry. What are you trying to tell me? What am I doing wrong here? Right? I needed more rest. I simply needed more rest. I'm thrilled to say that problem over a few months, and with physical therapy and with doing all the right things, I'm back to walking again. I'm walking as much as I did before. So, so it's about, you know, at one point last year, when my mom had multiple myeloma and was in hospital and then hospice, and incredibly stressful time, I started having arrhythmia. I've never had arrhythmia before. I had to, you know, practice what I've been saying in my book and take a deeper dive and say my wonderful, hard working heart. What is up? Why is this happening to me? Right? So, so it's that is, that is self care and self compassion. So that's that's one big piece, and to be able to get into that dialog with ourselves in our very busy, highly interrupted, device driven world, it's hard to slow down and listen. But that brings me to my second point, and that is really listening to what I call our inner healer. Our inner healer is our intuition. It is our gut instinct, if you will, our bodies. And we knew this when we were children, right? We had instincts. We listen to our instincts. If you walk into a room and there's a person and you don't like that person, you don't hang around that person, you try to get away. It could be, you know, a certain food that you didn't like as a kid, you just didn't want to eat it. Right? As we become adults, you know, whether it's societal conditioning or or we have very busy lives, and we just fall into patterns, or whatever. We stop listening so much, and when we get still, hard to find the time, I know, but even 10 minutes of quiet time where we go out in nature, we go for a walk, we just sit quietly in meditation. I've been meditating since my early 20s. I I love meditation. I know. I recognize it's not for everyone. My clients tell me it's not you know for them necessarily. And we find other ways, but, but, but finding something that connects you with yourself, where you can listen to your dreams, where you can listen to your intuition, follow your gut instincts about what feels right for you, if, if something doesn't feel right, don't push yourself to do it and and that is something that I think it can be very, very hard for us in our in our modern age, to slow down enough and do. And I alluded to this the third one earlier, finding our medicine. Nature is medicine, creativity is medicine, as I found sound healing, Reiki, energy, their medicine. What is your medicine to all of our listeners out there? What is your medicine? Do you know what your medicine is? What brings you joy? What makes time fly, where you just don't even realize how much time has has transpired? Those things really, really help us to to find that joyful, happy place where we're in the flow and and, as I mentioned by the book I I referenced cured, that is healing, but also what we what we've been talking about so much, which is your mind is your medicine? How can you harness the power of your mind to heal, whether it's visualizing, telling yourself affirmations, just stopping yourself when you get to the point where you're going down the dark rabbit hole, just saying, Oh, there I go again. Yeah, going to that place. Let me. Let me just stop that and choose something different. Like we said, everything's a choice. Choose something different is making your mind your medicine. Those are my top big three. I mean, the whole the science behind this is, you know, everything in the universe, as Albert Einstein and Tesla Nikola, Tesla told us, and lots of other scientists, everything is energy. Everything vibrates. If everything is energy, our thoughts, our our words, our actions, our feelings, our energy. So choose the good stuff, right? You know, catch yourself when you're when you're, when you're and we look, we all have days, I have them regularly where I find myself getting in a bit of a snarky mood or something, and, you know, things just aren't going quite right, or I'm not feeling quite right, and I go to that bad place, but I quickly say, ah, Kathy, there you go. You're going to that place. What can we choose that would be more positive. That is a choice of energy, and energy is healing? Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 57:06 well, we only have a few minutes, but I have a couple of quick questions for you. Hopefully they're quick. You've talked about sound healing and a sound bath, but not everybody can make it to a place to get a sound bath. How can they deal with sound healing at home?   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 57:23 I love that question, and I can make it brief. Okay, so, so we don't necessarily have to go to a sound bath or a yoga studio to get sound healing. Many things in our lives, our voice. We don't need special equipment. We've got a voice. Right coming singing have been found. DR. DR, Jonathan Goldman has been writing about this for decades, the power of the humble hum. It connects our ear to our vagus nerve, the wandering nerve through our bodies that touches all the organs that controls heartbeat, blood pressure, all the things we never think about, coming and singing are hugely stimulating. That's one thing, percussive tapping on our body. I happen to be a drummer, so I tend to drum. Drum is rhythmic. It's the sound of our mother's heartbeat when when we were in the womb and and it it helps us to settle into a place of of coherence. And so those are just two small things that have very, very big benefit. We can just tap on our, on our, on our, our chest bone, or there's a thing called Emotional Freedom tapping EFT, where you tap on different parts of the body. I have written to make this really brief, Michael, I've written an article about sound healing. I also have another article about your mind is your medicine, and another one about the power of intuition. Three articles in yoga magazine, the people can find for free on my website. And we'll, we'll get later. Yeah, so   Michael Hingson ** 59:04 an observation, and then two quick questions. It's, you know, there's an advantage of having lived on the earth a while and having a memory. I remember when the United States started interacting with China during the Nixon administration. And somewhere on the line, we started to hear about this thing called acupuncture that we had never really heard of before, and a lot of people poo pooted and so on. And now it is a much more common mechanism that is used. It was even used on Roselle, my guide dog who was with me in the World Trade Center when she developed some back problems, and it and it helped. But the reality is, just because it isn't something that goes along with the traditional Western medicine approach, and even my doctor at Kaiser will say this, it doesn't mean that it doesn't work. Work and that it is invaluable, because it is and we really need to to look at all options. Having said that, let me ask you this. You said that you have a free gift for anybody listening. Can you tell us about that? I   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 1:00:17 do? I do. Oh, good. Oh, good. Acupuncture, I would just add, it's much like sound healing. You know, it's been around for 1000s of years.   Michael Hingson ** 1:00:26 It's been around a long time. It's just that we haven't had exposure to it,   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 1:00:30 that's right. And acupuncture was one of the things on my when I said I use very many modalities. I did, I've done a lot of acupuncture over decades. So yes, I'm a big believer in acupuncture, part of why it works is because the same as the chakra system in Indian Ayurvedic medicine, right? These are the energy centers of the body, and they can get blocked. So here's the free gift, Michael, I'm thrilled to be able to offer this to to our listeners today at my website, and we'll link the Earl at the at the very top, you can you can access this for free. Dr Charlize Davis, a doctor of functional medicine, and fellow Reiki master and I, have put together a few modules called Healing the heart chakra. And she comes from the medical perspective of saying, when your heart chakra is blocked, what does that turn up with? As in your, in your, in your health, you know, sure, the heart, of course, the lungs, yeah. But shoulders, shoulder issues, all kinds of things. And she goes into this in great detail. And then I come at it from the perspective of what we were just talking about, the chakra, what a blocked heart chakra feels like. What is happening in your life that that would tell you that your heart chakra is is blocked. It's more than just, I don't feel love. I mean, that's a common thing, but there's, it's way more than that. And then the best part of the free gift you'll learn about all of these things. And then the best part, I think, is that I do a sound bath geared toward balancing and opening the heart chakra, and I also give Reiki energy during that. And Dr Charlize, as a as a Reiki Master, also gives Reiki energy throughout the sound bath as well. So it's really powerful.   Michael Hingson ** 1:02:26 There's a link to all of that on there's a link to that all on the website.   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 1:02:29 It's at the very top of the website. So tell us   Michael Hingson ** 1:02:33 your tell us what your website is and how people can reach out to you. Because I'm assuming that you you do interact with people all over   Kathy Harmon-Luber ** 1:02:41 I do. I do sound baths. I do individualized sound baths, which target to your very specific issues. So how do people reach out to you? My website is suffering to thriving.com. And there they can. They can reach out to me. They can learn more about my work. They can look at my book, suffering to thriving. They also can connect with all of my social media, and they can access how to work with me and email me from that place as well. So it's all right there at the website, on the home page, at the bottom, there are more podcasts and articles, lots of free article content too, if anyone's interested in exploring this at a deeper level, so suffering   Michael Hingson ** 1:03:25 to thriving.com. Well, that's right, Kathy, I want to thank you for being here and giving us so much information. There's a lot of very invaluable stuff here, and I hope people will listen and have an open mind, because the reality is, the more we explore, the more we learn, and the more we learn, the more we can put into practice, and the more we do, especially for ourselves, the better we'll be. So I want to thank you for being here, and I want to thank all of you for listening today. This has been fun, and I hope that you have found it fun. I'd love to hear from you. I'd love to hear what you think. 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Episode 514 – A Drinking Problem is Totally Normal   Today we have Erin. She is 50 years old from Denver, CO and took her last drink on August 21st, 2023.   Registration for Dry January is now open. This is our most intensive course, and it's all about accountability. If you've been trying to quit drinking and haven't found success, it's most likely you're not surrounded by the right people or don't have community. Over 70% of our Restore Dry January participants report making it through January without taking a drink.   Café RE is the social app for sober people. We meet over 30 times a month online with our daily chats covering all different topics or specialty chats. If you're looking for accountability with others who are ditching the booze or have already done so, we'd love to have you.   [02:48] Thoughts from Paul:   Paul's opinion is that a drinking problem is a normal response to living in a culture that has completely lost its marbles. Most anthropologists believe that addiction is a modern phenomenon that stems from how we are living as a culture.   Eckhart Tolle in his book A New Earth says that what we have labeled as “normal” regarding our culture is actually completely insane.   Gabor Mate recently wrote The Myth of Normal about how our culture is toxic and right for addiction. According to Dr. Mate, addiction isn't a disease but a completely normal response to living in a fucked-up world.   Your drinking problem is not your fault. It is a response to a fractured world. You found a solution, a way to cope and it worked for a while. As Laura McKowen says, “it's not your fault but it is your responsibility”.   Listening to a sobriety podcast is part of you taking that responsibility.   [08:08] Paul introduces Erin:   Erin is 50 years old and divides her time between Colorado and Costa Rica. She has been married for 26 years and they have three college age children. Erin has a yoga business where she films YouTube videos, hosts retreats and does yoga teacher training.   Erin says her drinking was “normal” throughout high school and college. After graduating from college, she and her boyfriend moved to Maui and had jobs in the restaurant industry. She still feels her drinking was normal compared to her friends and lifestyle.   They soon moved back to Colorado, got married and started a family. Erin didn't drink throughout her pregnancies and didn't feel she was missing out initially. After moving into a neighborhood with other young families like there, drinking became a social activity, and Erin began to recognize she drank more and had a higher tolerance than others.   In her mid-forties, Erin started going through perimenopause and it was hard on her. She began using alcohol to self-medicate. Because of her job, she felt she was living out of alignment with her values. In spite of her drinking being a huge topic with her therapist, she was not ready to seek treatment. She attempted to quit on her own and says she white knuckled for five months before going back to drinking, quickly back to where she was before quitting.   When her husband and her friends tried to intervene, she was angry. They had already arranged everything, and Erin ended up going to rehab and in spite of her fear, ended up being a great experience.   Erin says they focused on healing the whole person, and once she realized for the first time that she was not alone, she felt the shame and fear lift. It was a small community, and they participated in a lot of modalities for healing. The education was a helpful part of the process.   Erin dove into books, podcasts, attended AA meetings, and joined Café RE which she considers her primary resource. Erin says her yoga practice has contributed to her healing.   Erin's parting piece of guidance: If you are thinking you can't do it, you can. It's possible and worth every single second of pain.   Recovery Elevator It all starts from the inside out. I love you guys.     RE merch Recovery Elevator YouTube Sobriety Tracker iTunes       

This week, Gabrielle chats with Erin Diehl, a former chronic people-pleaser-turned-author who found herself battling actual physical f%cking pain as a result of trying to meet everyone else's expectations. It was a book by Gabor Mate that shifted her thinking and put her on a path of self-healing with the realization that pleasing everyone around her just was not sustainable. Along the way she also had her miracle baby (seriously, the odds are incredible) and developed a thriving improv coaching business that has helped thousands bring out their very best selves. This episode reminds us of the power of healing and self-love, especially for those who have spent years in the service of others, and that it's never too late to pivot, heal, and reclaim our own energy. Learn more about Erin and her best-selling book, “I See You,” at itserindiehl.com Thank you so much to our incredible sponsors! Lumen - Visit lumen.me/FMLTALK to get 15% off your Lumen Uncommon Goods - To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/FMLTALKS.  Beam - Get up to 35% off for a limited time when you go to shopbeam.com/fmltalk and use code fmltalk at checkout. Follow your host!      TikTok: @gabrielle_stone     Instagram: @gabriellestone & @fmltalkpodcast     YouTube: FML TALK     Website: www.eatprayfml.com          Plus, if you want to submit an FML story, email it to info@eatprayfml.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wellness + Wisdom | Episode 697 Wellness + Wisdom Podcast Host and Wellness Force Media CEO, Josh Trent, shares how to navigate the dark night of the soul and create peace within yourself. Today's Question Jared Fekete: How can I understand the role of vice as a guide during my dark night of the soul and how do I integrate the wisdom it offers while moving towards wholeness? I feel I'm in a big moment in my life of self-discovery. Is there a topic that you'd like us to cover in the next AMA episode? Record your message HERE. 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Save 20% with "JOSH20" Listen To Episode 697 As Josh Trent Answers Your Questions [02:50] Dark Night of The Soul Let's get into this question from Jared. Hey Josh, thanks for re-inviting me to submit my question. How can I understand the role of vice as a guide during my dark night of the soul and how do I integrate the wisdom it offers while moving towards wholeness? I feel I'm in a big moment in my life of self-discovery. I've had a crazy weird wild year divorcing my high school sweetheart and I met a woman in an ayahuasca ceremony in Peru in June and I love this woman and we've decided to take a separation just, she's been such a mirror and an amplifier for everything for each other, like for everything that she's going through, everything that I'm going through and I just realized like I have had a porn addiction since I was, you know, a child. And I brought that into my marriage and, you know, hit it. And it's very clear how all that kind of manifested. And I just lost the respect, lost all the libido in my relationship. And then, you know, getting that back in this relationship, I've had like no draw towards it at all. But I have just been chasing women since I divorced. But then I found this woman and Everything changed and I wanted to shape it up and everything. And yeah, I just realized now that we're separated that it just comes back. It's like I want to, I want to fuck, fuck and like not think about it. And, but then I don't want to ruin the chances of going back. So I'm just like so torn right now, you know, and it's just, it feels so childish, but it's also so important. Wow. First of all, I can relate. I've shared many times on the podcast that I have struggled in my past with porn. It is a very, very deep black hole. So my heart goes out to you, Jared, for first of all, having the courage to even share this. How amazing is it, Mar, that people that don't even know me, that just listen to our AMAs or listen to the podcast, have the courage to actually speak in the way that Jared just spoke. I mean, it's just so, I'm smiling and my heart is blasted open because y'all, this is what we need. This is what we're all thirsty for. Like, come on, what are we doing if we're not doing this? So Jared, one thing that I heard you say that really flagged my consciousness is you said this porn addiction has been there. But one thing that you really said that hit hard, you said, I've been chasing women. I've been chasing women. And this is actually a real big challenge because my intention today is to deliver my wisdom and Mara to deliver her wisdom so we can stop the war, right? So if we're chasing something or if we're battling should I or should I not, it can feel like a war, right? Mar, I mean, have you ever had times in your life where you had a war in your mind? You're like, what is this war even about? Does that happen to you? Yeah, it happens quite often. Actually, I remember I mentioned it to you last week in our meeting that I had this inner war between the motivation I wanted to have versus the actions I was actually taking to not do anything to avoid doing the things that I actually wanted to do. So there's like this one part of me that wants it and the other part of me that's trying to sabotage me. So that's the inner war I've been dealing with lately. Thanks for sharing because what you just shared is actually what Jared spoke upon and it's what we all do when we are suffering. We look for the meaning. I believe Jared even said, what is this all about? I divorced my high school sweetheart. I'm going through all this pain. Now, Jared, I'm going to say this with respect. You are being called forth to be a man. That's what this is about. I'm 44. I'm still learning how to be an embodied man. I don't have it completely mastered at all, but at 44, I can tell you that when I look back on my 20-year-old self and even in my early 30s, the reason that I was chasing women and I was addicted to porn, and I've said this many times, but it's borrowed wisdom from Gabor Mate, addiction is a disconnection from self or others, right? Addiction is the opposite of connection. So it's the disconnection, it's the lack of connection to self that it's going to find pseudo connection by running outside of itself. Well, meanwhile, your soul is sitting there asking for a connection. That's what this is really about, right? And so I'll speak with respect, but I'll also speak with conviction here. Your pain is the biggest tool for your growth. So you're experiencing porn as an addictive nature, or you're experiencing chasing women and feeling hollow because every man has this biological drive to replicate. Women have it too. But as men, it's been so normalized in our society by Instagram and Pornhub and all these aspects of how women are literally on such a deep level, such a deep level, the objectification of women, that it not only becomes normalized for men, The sad part is many women fall into thirst traps where they unknowingly normalize it with their behavior. Maybe that's a whole separate podcast. What I'm getting out here is like when you are addicted to porn Jared and when going deep into the aspects of any addiction, you have to keep feeding it more. I remember when I was deep in addiction, I had to keep going to more aggressive scenes. I had to keep watching really gross stuff that I went through a massive purging process over. And actually Mar, when we were doing breath work here during our retreat, there was still residue in there that I ended up sharing with the group at 44 years old that I didn't even know I didn't was there. In other words, I had unconscious incompetence to the residue that pornography created in my signature that I got to belch out and burp out and breathe out through my breathwork ceremony. The reason I'm sharing this I chased women too. And I think it's just this really challenging thing that we experience as men because on one hand, you're a biological being filled with testosterone, right? And so when you're in your twenties, like you're basically a walking testosterone stick where you're just looking to hook up and play and do all these things. These things, am I here to say that conscious sex from that place is wrong? No, I'm not. If you really love someone and you feel like you respect them and you have a unique connection, I think that sex is a beautiful way to experience love or that's why they called lovemaking, right? That's the whole point of it all. But what happens is, in uncertainty, myself and all of us as men, we fall into this trap where we reach for something that we can create as certain. And an orgasm or that deep breath after orgasm, or even the feeling of like the rush you get from catecholamines and epinephrine and norepinephrine using porn, masturbating with porn, or using women to masturbate, because essentially that's what unconscious sex is. You're using a woman's body to masturbate with. The reason why this has been so normalized is because souls like you, Jared, are rare. Souls that want to reflect and go deep into why their behavior is showing up in a way that they despise is rare. Now we're making it less rare... [15:30] Spiritual Maturity I'm just so amazed that the layers of awareness feed into each other. I was on a beach in Maui this year with my mentor Margo, who's been on the show before, and she flipped open a Rumi poem. And Rumi says that the cure for the pain is the pain. So the cure for your pain here is to go into the depths of this pain so fully and feel it so deeply that even in you feeling the pain itself, you can develop the skill set and the spiritual and mental maturity to be able to just lift your hand up to pornography and say no at any time. But the only way you can be forged and you can really figure that out isn't from your head. And this is the part that messed with me more for so long. I put blockers on my computer. I did pornography programs. I even went to like an essay meeting because I thought that, oh, maybe I'm a sex addict. The only thing that really healed me was actually a blessing through ayahuasca that so deep into my pain and gave me such a psychic break where I was throwing up in a bucket on the face of my future son with ayahuasca shouting at me so loud saying, if you continue to watch porn, this is what your life will become. You are vomiting on the soul of your unborn son. That was the severity that I needed. I mean, I can still feel that right now, just talking to you about it. And that was 2019. Do you have to go to ayahuasca to have that experience? No, you don't. And actually, for 2 years, I recovered from that experience, which I've talked about many times on the show and with Paul on our episode. I don't wish that experience on anyone, but what it really taught me was It's in the uncertainty and me embracing the uncertainty of what's going to happen if I continue down this road. Well, I'll tell you, friend, once you have enough behavior that puts you in so much pain, you know exactly what's going to happen if you continue down that road. You don't have any uncertainty. The scary part is who would you become without the porn? Who would you be without that relief valve? Who would you be if you were an alcoholic and you didn't have the drink? Who would you be if you were a workaholic and you didn't have an 80-hour work week? Who would you be if you actually turned and faced your family and said, I'm sorry for the ways that I've shown up and I'm here to make it better? Who would you be? It really boils down to an identity, Jared, because the identity that you get to have is that you're never alone. That's what this is all about, man. You're not alone. It may feel like you're alone. It may feel at times that you're on a cliff with no one to save you. But the reality is, is that that suffering that you're feeling, it's going to pass. You know, in the Bible, there's a phrase, this too shall pass. Because everything that is chaos seeks order. That's the law of the universe. Nothing can be in chaos and perpetuity. So how do you confront this corner? Well, first you realize that the dragon is you. You are the one, the aspect of yourself that you're rejecting actually the fuel source for that dragon, for that monster doing pushups... [30:15] Gather, Apply, Embody There's always this fleeting that whispers in our ear when we lay our head down on the pillow at night. And it usually says something like this, there's more to life than this. There's more to life than just going out to the bar with my friends on the weekend. There's more to life than just following football games and Oprah. There's more to life than just taking care of my pets. There's more to life than this. And I'm not here to shame anyone that doesn't answer the call because the call comes sometimes really softly. Sometimes it'll hit you in the face with a fucking sledgehammer. Like the call will be so severe that you can't not answer it. But the courage that we must develop in order to take an honest look at picking up the phone and answering the call of growth, that's the rub, that's the inflection point. That's where the threshold is breached. And Jared, I'm gonna tell you, man, you've already breached the threshold. You're in the perfect place for your healing. So now you're in this phase of the arc of wellness where you're gathering. You're gathering, man. Now it's time for you to apply, right? Because we gather, we apply, and then we embody. It's on the screen right now. We gather, we apply, and we embody. We gather podcasts, we gather conversations, we gather ayahuasca sessions, and then we actually do the things that ayahuasca showed us. We do the things that our meditation showed us. We apply them. Cause I'll tell you going and doing a plant medicine ceremony could still be in the gathering phase. It doesn't mean you've applied it yet. It's only through the application of wisdom that you become embodied in the wisdom that you're seeking, period, full stop. And we all can fall into this trap. So Jared, the only way out of this is right fucking through it. It's right through it, my man. You are going to meet yourself in the next 1 to 3 years in a way that I'm so excited. I like almost makes me want to cry for you. It's so exciting. You're going to meet a part of yourself that's going to be so loving. And when you finally find that part of yourself through conscious, humble inquiry, you're going to cry. There's going to be a reunion. You're going to feel your own heart again, you're going to be able to hold your younger in ways that nobody ever could. He's waiting for you. Young Jared, young Mar, young Josh, young anyone, they're always there for us. They're always there for us. And all they're asking for is just a handhold, a hug, and a conversation in the same way that if anyone's blessed to be a parent, you know that the same way you treat your children is the same way you treat yourself. It's all the same. The way that I'm triggered by my children is the way I'm triggered by myself in life. The way that I make love with my woman or that I treat her or am triggered by her is the same way that I make life. It's the same way that I'm triggered by life. It's all the same, but we think it's different. We fall into this trap of it being linear, of our growth being linear, but I'm here to tell you it is not linear... 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Join us for a thought-provoking conversation with the insightful EA Essence, who's been a cherished voice on our show for almost three years now. This episode starts with an intriguing look at high cholesterol, a common issue often tackled with medication in the U.S. medical system. With the help of human biologist Gary Brekka, we explore the potential of natural remedies such as fasting, mineral intake, and hydration, offering a fresh perspective that questions traditional medical approaches and encourages listeners to consider lifestyle changes as a path to wellness.Our discussion takes a deeper turn as we unpack the impact of social media and influencers on personal growth, especially in dealing with addiction and depression. We dive into the delicate balance between harnessing social media for positive learning and the risk of mindless scrolling. The conversation reflects on the importance of community, purpose, and coping tools in navigating emotional storms. By sharing strategies to develop emotional intelligence and self-awareness, we inspire listeners to pursue personal fulfillment beyond societal achievements.Lastly, the episode delves into the complex interplay between identity, addiction, and the pursuit of purpose, drawing insights from Dr. Gabor Mate. We explore how childhood experiences shape our search for love and comfort, and the role of emotional intelligence in understanding oneself. Through personal anecdotes and expert insights, we highlight the importance of self-awareness in building confidence and seeking personal growth. From the pressures faced by young athletes to the balance between soul and ego, this episode offers a rich tapestry of ideas to guide listeners toward a more authentic and meaningful life.

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How does trauma show up?Kosha Joubert is the CEO of the pocket project and NGO dedicated to exploring and healing collective trauma. She joined me to discuss the impacts that collective trauma has on our bodies, on our systems and how it can even explain the way we are seemingly barreling towards even further destruction rather than turning towards healing. Pocket project is launching a Climate Consciousness Summit that begins Friday the 15th and runs to next Thursday, the 21st of November, including amazing speakers like Amy Westervelt and Gabor Mate.Planet: Critical is 100% independent and community-powered. If you value it, and have the means, become a paid subscriber today! Get full access to Planet: Critical at www.planetcritical.com/subscribe

Los invito a escuchar esta nutridora conversacion con Viviana Sanchez Healy de  @desbloqueoscorporales quien nos comparte su experiencia como asistente a un seminario con Gabor Mate, Peter Levine, Scott Lyons, Bassel Van der Kolk quienes hablan y enseñan a través de sus bibliografías y conferencias como sanar y dejar atrás los Traumas que nos impiden ser felices. ¡Espero lo disfruten!

Send us a textWhat if you could break free from the confines of your own mind and live a more embodied and authentic life? Join us as we welcome back the insightful Stephanie Simpson, who expertly bridges the worlds of coaching and therapy. This episode promises to explore the art of creating safe spaces for self-discovery while helping you reconnect with your core values. From young professionals overwhelmed by career choices to seasoned leaders reshaping workplace dynamics, Stephanie's experiences offer something valuable for everyone. Together, we'll uncover the power of moving beyond mere headspace, fostering a more integrated sense of self and purpose.Curiosity isn't just for the inquisitive—it's a transformative tool. We highlight the crucial role that curiosity and perspective play in personal and professional growth. By embracing a non-directive coaching style, we cultivate deeper connections, allowing for genuine understanding and healing. Inspired by thought leaders like Gabor Mate and David Brooks, this episode challenges you to embrace curiosity as a means to navigate rigid plans and emotional barriers. Whether you're leading a team or navigating your own journey, this discussion offers a refreshing take on how curiosity and listening can lead to profound personal and professional development.Leadership isn't merely about having all the answers; it's also about asking the right questions and trusting those around you. We delve into the art of letting go, empowering your team, and focusing on strategic thinking. Through engaging stories and practical insights, we reveal why adaptability and playfulness are essential in today's ever-changing landscape. By using running as a metaphor, we explore the balance of control and enjoyment, urging you to embrace progress and authenticity. Celebrate your journey and align your actions with your values, all while nurturing meaningful connections along the way.For more information or to work with Stephanie, please check out her website: https://www.stephanie-simpson.com/Freed.ai: We'll Do Your SOAP Notes!Freed AI converts conversations into SOAP note.Use code Steve50 for $50 off the 1st month!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showYouTube Channel For The Podcast

In this episode of the Joy Lab podcast, we explore Dr. Gabor Maté's fifth and final level of compassion: the compassion of possibility. We'll dig into how we can see beyond suffering and dysfunction to recognize the good within ourselves and others. This is a skill we can all practice and get better at. And importantly, this isn't some toxic positivity exercise. This is a skill that helps us see the whole picture, the full truth of whatever we're looking at. Seeing that full picture allows us to step into our wisdom and power so that we can make decisions that are more nourishing. Sources and Notes: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life. Previous episodes for this series: Part 1: Your ordinary human compassion (and what happens when you say something you wish you hadn't said) [Joy Lab ep. 177] Part 2: The compassion of understanding & how to practice deep listening. [Joy Lab ep. 178] Part 3: We're all just like the rest of us, aren't we? (the compassion of recognition) [Joy Lab ep. 179] Part 4: See, Accept, & Move Beyond Past Pains (the compassion of truth) [Joy Lab ep. 180] Gabor Mate's website. Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

The poet Rumi shared this wisdom: "Grief can be the garden of compassion.  If you keep your heart open through everything, Your pain can become your greatest ally in your life's search for love and wisdom." The poetry of Rumi makes that process sound like a smooth and blissful journey. But, the reality is that the work of being open amidst tough stuff, seeing our suffering, accepting our pain, and moving on can be messy and difficult. AND, no matter how many times we try and fall short, it's still healing work. We'll dig into this journey throughout the episode, how we can be open to and see the truth of our pain, and how to apply compassion and practical steps to move beyond what might be holding us back.  Sources and Notes: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life. Previous episodes for this series: Part 1: Your ordinary human compassion (and what happens when you say something you wish you hadn't said) [Joy Lab ep. 177] Part 2: The compassion of understanding & how to practice deep listening. [Joy Lab ep. 178] Part 3: We're all just like the rest of us, aren't we? (the compassion of recognition) (Joy Lab ep. 179] Gabor Mate's website. Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

In this two interview episode, Boysen first speaks with Darryl Hansome, the past Chair of the ManKind Project USA about his work on the ground in underserved populations in and around Asheville in the face of disaster. Darryl's heart, courage, and commitment come through in his real stories about helping those most in need.  Boysen then welcomes Dr. Zachari Cahn, a functional medicine doctor based in Asheville, North Carolina, and a member of the Mankind Project community. Dr. Cahn shares his firsthand experience of the devastating hurricane that struck Western North Carolina, describing the chaos and challenges that followed the natural disaster. He recounts how he and others in the community came together, using chainsaws to clear blocked roads, checking on neighbors, and offering aid to those in need.The episode highlights the collective response to the disaster, and how uncanny synchronicities begin to show up when we connect, emphasizing how communities rally to help each other despite overwhelming conditions. Dr. Cahn also speaks about organizing relief efforts for underserved communities, including African American, Latino, and Native American populations, many of whom were left without aid. His fundraiser has raised close to $10,000.Boysen brings some context into the conversation widening the scope to how we can understand helping others in a context of broad disconnection in western culture, sharing a passage from Dr. Gabor Mate's recent book, "Text Us Your Feedback! (Likes, Dislikes, Guest/Conversation Recommendations). BetterHelp: Get 10% Off Your First Month Of Therapy The ManKind Podcast has partnered with Betterhelp to make it easier for listeners to access licensed mental health therapists who can aid them in their mental health journey. Brandon and Boysen stand by this service as they use BetterHelp for their therapy needs.#Sponsorship #AdSupport the showMagic Mind: Get 20% Off Your Subscription Subscribe/Rate/Review on iTunes ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐: >>>HERE

Dawn Dominguez a licensed marriage and family therapist. She is the founder, supervisor, and director of Windows of Hope Counseling Centers, offering services online worldwide, and in person in both Palm Desert and Long Beach, California. With a background as an instructor at Chapman University, Brandman University, and UMASS Global University, Dawn is currently teaching through Windows Of Hope as a Continuing Education Provider and Imago Couples Workshop Presenter. She is certified in Imago Relationship Therapy and Encountered Couples Therapy. Dawn is currently training with Dr. Gabor Mate practicing Compassionate Inquiry Counseling. With this training, Dawn offers an eclectic approach to both her therapy sessions and in her work as an Imago Workshop Presenter for couples. In this conversation Dawn and I talk about the challenges and rewards of Blended Families. We share our own personal experiences as well as our professional guidance for families navigating this terrain. Dawn offers some beneficial tools for parents to focus on in order to have more success in the configuration of their relationships with all members of their blended families. Connect with Dawn Dominquez website: www.windowsofhopecounseling.org Let's Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week's episode of Relationships! Let's Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week's episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let's Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo's Podcast Songs. Don't forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson

I'm trying out a new solo show style this week, and I hope you love it! I've got a bunch of fun segments for you: First, I tell you all about my trip to Oxford University for a conference on Trauma with some of the biggest names in the industry (Gabor Mate, Bessel van der Kolk, Richard Schwartz, etc). Traveling is always a mixed bag for me - exciting and exhausting, and we dive into it all Next, I share the resource of the week: The Brick Then I answer listener questions! We cover these 3 topics: How do I pack for travel as an ADHDer?Should I go to my estranged family's birthday party?How do I easily manage evening time with kids? (LOL)We dive into this research study about Adverse Childhood Experiences and ADHD. And lastly, I go on a spicy rant about how Dr. John Delony says that ADHD is "JUST" the body's response to chaos. Excuse me no. Get outta here with that. It's a wild ride today, I hope you enjoy! Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED! Have a question for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343 Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTok AG 1 by Athletic Greens

Dr. Richard Miller is my special guest tonight to discuss how top researchers were carrying out experiments with psychedelic drugs under the direction of the government.  Embracing the revival of psychedelic research and the discovery of new therapeutic uses, clinical psychologist Dr. Richard Louis Miller discusses what is happening today in psychedelic medicine--and what will happen in the future--with top researchers and thinkers in this field, including Rick Doblin, Stanislav Grof, James Fadiman, Julie Holland, Dennis McKenna, David Nichols, Charles Grob, Phil Wolfson, Michael and Annie Mithoefer, Roland Griffiths, Katherine MacLean, and Robert Whitaker.  Dr. Miller and his contributors cover the tumultuous history of early psychedelic research brought to a halt 50 years ago by the U.S. government as well as offering non-technical summaries of the most recent studies with MDMA, psilocybin, LSD, and ayahuasca. They explore the biochemistry of consciousness and the use of psychedelics for self-discovery and healing. They discuss the use of psilocybin for releasing fear in the terminally ill and the potential for MDMA-assisted psychotherapy in the treatment of PTSD. They examine Dr. Charles Grob's research on the indigenous use and therapeutic properties of ayahuasca and Dr. Gabor Mate's attempt to transport this plant medicine to a clinical setting with the help of Canada's Department of National Health.  Dr. Miller and his contributors explore the ongoing efforts to restore psychedelic therapies to the health field, the growing threat of overmedication by the pharmaceutical industry, and the links between psychiatric drugs and mental illness. They also discuss the newly shifting political climate and the push for new research, offering hope for an end to the War on Drugs and a potential renaissance of research into psychedelic medicines around the world.Follow Our Other ShowsFollow UFO WitnessesFollow Crime Watch WeeklyFollow Paranormal FearsFollow Seven: Disturbing Chronicle StoriesJoin our Patreon for ad-free listening and more bonus content.Follow us on Instagram @mysteriousradioFollow us on TikTok mysteriousradioTikTok Follow us on Twitter @mysteriousradio Follow us on Pinterest pinterest.com/mysteriousradio Like us on Facebook Facebook.com/mysteriousradio

In this episode, Alyssa interviews renowned speaker and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Mate. They dive into his bestselling book, "The Myth of Normal" and discuss how coping mechanisms from our childhood show up later in our parenthood. They also discussed toxic culture, and what exactly is "trauma"? Why is it widespread and yet so misunderstood? And what can we do to help support our tiny humans? Listen along to hear the four non-negotiable needs of childhood and so many other gems. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this conversation, Tara Brach and Gabor Maté come together to explore the heart-wrenching situation in Gaza through the lens of the Bodhisattva path. Drawing from the Bodhisattva path - the commitment to alleviate suffering for all beings - they explore the importance of compassion and engaged spirituality in responding to the oppression and trauma experienced by the Palestinian and Israeli people. This conversation is an invitation to examine our own spiritual practices and to consider how we can embody the Bodhisattva spirit in today's world, breaking the silence and standing in solidarity with all who are suffering. It was offered as part of a series of conversations that accompany a poignant and heartbreaking film - “Where Olive Trees Weep” - about the struggles and resilience of Palestinian people under Israeli occupation.  whereolivetreesweep.com

This episode starts with a disclaimer warning due to strong and violent language used. Our guest is Susan Abdel-Haq, a licensed marriage and family therapist and Palestinian woman who shares with us her and her family's experience as Palestinians living in America, and their history. The purpose of today's segment is to share information about misinformation over the Palestinian community and raise awareness on how marginalized communities are connected in their pain and struggles.  If you would like to be connected to Susan, visit her website at susanabdelhaq.com. She is accepting clients in California.  To find a Latinx Therapist across the nation, visit: latinxtherapy.com Resources Susan shared with us today include: Jewish Voices for Peace Students for Justice in Palestine Aljezeera News  The Electronicc Intifada Middle Eye Books: The Ethnic Cleansing of Palestine A History of the Palestinian People   Follow: Norman Finkelstein, Gabor Mate 

Have you ever felt lost in life and unsure what path to take forward? In today's episode, three experts share transformative methods and tactics to help you heal your mind and find your true self. Gabor Maté, a renowned speaker and best-selling author, delves into why you may feel lost in life and how to find your path forward. Mariel Buqué, a Columbia University-trained psychologist and intergenerational trauma expert, teaches how to regulate your nervous system and heal your soul. Muniba Mazari, an artist, humanitarian, and global motivational speaker, inspires you to become the source of your own joy and discover true self-love.In this episode you will learnWhy you may feel lost in life and how to find your path forward.How to regulate your nervous system and heal your soul.Ways to become the source of your own joy and find true self-love.Strategies to heal your mind and uncover your authentic self.Practical tactics for continuing your journey toward mental and emotional wellness.For more information go to www.lewishowes.com/1619For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960Listen to the full episodes featured today here:Gabor Mate - https://link.chtbl.com/1319-podMariel Buque - https://link.chtbl.com/1304-podMuniba Mazari - https://link.chtbl.com/1282-pod