Podcast appearances and mentions of Claudia M Gold

This episode hears from one of the US's leading paediatrician's Dr Claudia M Gold. Here she speaks about attachment theory, the power of discord – the importance of having ups and downs in relationships and how that links in to childhood trauma and especially boarding school syndrome.Some of the areas we talk about are containment, the power of being heard, rupture and mismatch and uncertainty as they relate to relationships. We also talk about Prince Harry and how his experiences of boarding school and the death of his mother Princess Diana. ---Claudia M. Gold, MD is a pediatrician and writer who practiced general and behavioral pediatrics for over 20 years and now specializes in early childhood mental health. She is on the faculty of the U-Mass Chan Medical School Early Relational Fellowship, the Brazelton Institute at Boston Children's Hospital, and the Berkshire Psychoanalytic Institute. She is a clinician with Volunteers in Medicine, Berkshires and director of the Hello It's Me Project, a community-based program supporting parent-infant relationships in high-need low resourced communities. Dr. Gold speaks frequently to a variety of audiences including parents and professionals. Some of the questions/ areas for conversation:I would love you to share some of your journey. How did you arrive at where you are now?I would love to hear you speak about the power of being heard & feeling heard.Could you explain what containment is – Winnicott, etc?I would be really interested in hearing you speak about the power of very early interactions.  One of the discussions going on in the boarding school literature over here is whether the ‘attachment break' that has been seen as occurring at the point at which a child is ‘sent away' to boarding school (at 6 or 7 or 8 or 11 years old) is the key ‘break' – or whether we should be looking earlier.  If you are a child born into a family that ‘belongs' to a culture/class that EXPECTS to send you away (and which may well hire a nanny for your early care), what are the impacts of being born into such a parenting culture/class?  How does this change the way they expect (and do) interact with you?  What happens when you layer a schooling ‘attachment break' on top of that, as opposed to the ‘break' coming as a scholarship or other unexpected ‘opportunity'?  Boarding School experiences are full of unrepaired ruptures.  I would love to hear you speak about the impact of those.Leading on from question 4, I would love you to speak to what age it is appropriate for a child to be separated from their parents. And is there a healthy way of doing this? What are the impacts on an adult who has been through this rupture? Are there certain symptoms?Discord P.31 – What happens if there is discord in a relationship but it is never healed? E.g. a child is sent away to board and never has a chance to speak up or heal the rupture?Certainty P.226 – I love what you say about certainty and how it “leads us away from growth and healing.” I know in Buddhism that uncertainty, (annicca – impermance) is a key teaching. Could you speak a little about the power of uncertainty in relationships.If we have been through a rupture like boarding school how do we start to heal this?How do people find out more about you and the work you do?To find out more about Claudia M Gold, please visit her website here: https://www.claudiamgoldmd.com/To buy her books please visit: https://www.claudiamgoldmd.com/#---For more information about Piers Cross and his work with trauma and boarding school syndrome:  https://www.piers-cross.com/

Today's well source is Dr. Dan Siegel. Dr. Siegel is one of the world's leading neuroscientist and psychiatrists. He's a graduate of Harvard Medical School and a professor at UCLA School of Medicine. He is also the founder of the field Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB). He has written a lot of books, is a co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA, and the executive director of the Mindsight Institute – which is an educational organization that offers online learning and in-person seminars focused on how to develop mindsight. In this podcast, we discuss: The importance of parental presence. What it means to have a secure attachment. The four S's of showing up for your child. The Wheel of Awareness as a way to access clarity , calmness, and presence. Facing challenges with peace and clarity. Creating a safe haven and a solid launching pad. Defining the self and belonging as part of community. Resources: Website: https://www.drdansiegel.com The Mindsight Institute - http://mindsightinstitute.com Dr. Dan Siegels Books  - https://drdansiegel.com/books/ The Wheel of Awareness - https://drdansiegel.com/wheel-of-awareness/ Book - Mothers and Others: The Evolutionary Origins of Mutual Understanding by Sarah Blaffer Hrdy Book - The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience and Trust by Claudia M. Gold and Ed Tronic  Book - The Future We Choose: Surviving the Climate Crisis by Christina Figueres

CJ Liu interviews Claudia M. Gold, MD about her newest book, “The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust.” Claudia shares why conflict and messiness is crucial to parents and children’s social and emotional development. Last, we talk about the blame game and how it’s not a helpful way to creating healthy relationships. (https://thepowerofdiscord.com/)Fire It Up With CJ Podcast is brought to you by Talk 4 Podcasting (www.talk4podcasting.com/) on the Talk 4 Media Network (www.talk4media.com).

CJ Liu interviews Claudia M. Gold, MD about her newest book, “The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust.” Claudia shares how parents can develop resilience during times of stress when there is more unknown than known. Claudia explains why stress is important and what level may be too much. Plus, listen as they discuss what to do if you become too stressed out during crazy times. (https://thepowerofdiscord.com/)Fire It Up With CJ Podcast is brought to you by Talk 4 Podcasting (www.talk4podcasting.com/) on the Talk 4 Media Network (www.talk4media.com).

CJ Liu interviews Claudia M. Gold, MD about her newest book, “The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust.” Claudia shares that parenting is a moment-by-moment process that evolves over time versus being fixed at one point in time. Even as a parent of a 21-year-old and 26-year-old, she is still relating and shaping her parent-child relationship. It’s about being present during your child’s emerging identity.Fire It Up With CJ Podcast is brought to you by Talk 4 Podcasting (www.talk4podcasting.com/) on the Talk 4 Media Network (www.talk4media.com).

The Power of Discord: Why Discord in Relationships is the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust Show Guest: Claudia M. Gold, MD Society paints a picture that perfect harmony is the defining characteristic of healthy relationships, but the truth is that human interactions are messy, complicated, and confusing. According to renowned psychologist Ed Tronick and pediatrician Claudia Gold, that is not only okay, but it is also actually crucial to our social and emotional development. In The Power of Discord, these two pillars of UMass Boston show how working through the inevitable dissonance of human connection is the path to better relationships with romantic partners, family, friends, and colleagues. Working through the volley of mismatch and repair in everyday life helps us form deep, lasting, trusting relationships, resilience in times of stress and trauma, and a solid sense of self in the world. Drawing on Dr. Tronick's research and Dr. Gold's clinical experience, The Power of Discord is a refreshing and original look at our ability to relate to others and to ourselves.

We’re excited to bring Juliane Taylor Shore, LPC, LMFT, SEP (AKA Jules) back to the podcast — last time she joined us, on episode 18, Jules introduced us to the brain science around how to stay relational when our protective systems are activated during times of chaos, like these. In this episode we’re talking about how your relationship can help you heal…and the brain science behind why and how it works. Expect lots of delicious neurobiological explanations around how healing occurs in the subcortical system. Jules says that healing trauma means what was, is not what always will be. Think about it like this, you were born into this world with vast and varied needs: to be safe, heard, seen, soothed and to matter. Your early life experiences installed a kind of knowing around what to expect, how to react to increase wellbeing, increase safety, increase justice, or decrease suffering. But in order to cultivate the recipe for this healing experience, you need to stay inside your unique "window of tolerance". In other words, how much sympathetic nervous system charge your system can tolerate before flipping into a state of dysregulation. When you’re scared, in a state, of warning, fight, flight or a collapse you’re already outside the window of tolerance. Your brain has to be safe enough, to be in the experience of whatever the emotional knowing is without flipping your lid. Through cultivating a healing space within your relationship you can create a lasting corrective emotional experience through a process of memory reconsolidation, which is created in a magical moment when your limbic system detects a mismatch between what your experiencing in the present moment and the original experience. This episode features a brief overview of a process which we suggest undertaking with professional guidance. Consider joining Jules, Rebecca, and our colleague Vickie Easa, for a RLT Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp this October 24th & 25th 2020 — it’s open for both couples and individuals. Therapists can also attend either on their own or with a partner. Everyone is a participant to the degree they choose to be. Learn more and join us here!   RESOURCES MENTIONED: Juliane Taylor Shore, LPC, LMFT, SEP (AKA Jules) specializes in trauma recovery and relational health. She has worked with couples and adults in her private practice in Austin, TX since 2009. She teaches Interpersonal Neurobiology to her interns, at local universities, and privately. When she's not working, Jules spends time in the hill country and with her husband, daughter, and dog. Learn more about her clinical work at ipnbaustin.com. Also be sure to visit Jules’ new site cleariskind.com (will be live very very soon) to learn more about her interpersonal neurobiology teachings. Dr. Dan Siegel's hand model of the brain Bruce Perry's work on how to repair the natural rhythms of the brain Bruce Ecker & Coherence Therapy The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust by Ed Tronick and Claudia M. Gold Rebecca’s practice and upcoming online offerings: connectfulness.com Essential Skills Relationship BootcampOctober 24-25, 2020This is an authorized presentation of Terry Real's Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp facilitated by Rebecca Wong, Victoria Easa, and Juliane Taylor Shore, Certified Relational Life Therapists. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Through a combination of lecture, role-play, small group exercises and personal work, this workshop will help you to attain the relationships you want in your life.  Supporting Your Relational SelfBegins November 2020 6-week-online-course focuses on your relationship to Self, other intimate relations, and will help participants cultivate practices to sustain during these chaotic times filled with pandemic, uprising and beyond. Based on the teachings of Pia Mellody, we'll explore core issues that affect us all in relationships and the skills that will expand your Self & relational care practices. This podcast is not a substitute for counseling with a licensed provider. After listening, we invite you to deepen into the discussion with us on instagram and please support the show by sharing and reviewing the episode.

Claudia M. Gold, author of The Power of Discord joins Pat Miller. Buy her book at https://www.claudiamgoldmd.com/ 8-11-20 Pat Miller Program

Kathryn interviews Pediatrician Claudia M. Gold MD, author of “The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust.” She shows how working through the inevitable dissonance of human connection is the path to better relationships. Dr. Gold is on the faculty of the University of Massachusetts Boston Infant-Parent Mental Health Program, the Brazelton Institute at Boston Children's Hospital and the Berkshire Psychoanalytic Institute. Kathryn also interviews Associate Professor of English, University of Nevada Christopher Coake, author of “You Would Have Told Me Not To: Stories.” He examines the fallout from failed relationships between men and women, relationships that have crumbled under the weight of betrayal, misplaced hopes, illness and, in particular, from masculinity, at its most toxic and misguided. Coake was named one of Granta's Best Young American Novelists and has been published in numerous literary journals.

Kathryn interviews Pediatrician Claudia M. Gold MD, author of “The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust.” She shows how working through the inevitable dissonance of human connection is the path to better relationships. Dr. Gold is on the faculty of the University of Massachusetts Boston Infant-Parent Mental Health Program, the Brazelton Institute at Boston Children's Hospital and the Berkshire Psychoanalytic Institute. Kathryn also interviews Associate Professor of English, University of Nevada Christopher Coake, author of “You Would Have Told Me Not To: Stories.” He examines the fallout from failed relationships between men and women, relationships that have crumbled under the weight of betrayal, misplaced hopes, illness and, in particular, from masculinity, at its most toxic and misguided. Coake was named one of Granta's Best Young American Novelists and has been published in numerous literary journals.

Kathryn interviews Pediatrician Claudia M. Gold MD, author of “The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust.” She shows how working through the inevitable dissonance of human connection is the path to better relationships. Dr. Gold is on the faculty of the University of Massachusetts Boston Infant-Parent Mental Health Program, the Brazelton Institute at Boston Children's Hospital and the Berkshire Psychoanalytic Institute. Kathryn also interviews Associate Professor of English, University of Nevada Christopher Coake, author of “You Would Have Told Me Not To: Stories.” He examines the fallout from failed relationships between men and women, relationships that have crumbled under the weight of betrayal, misplaced hopes, illness and, in particular, from masculinity, at its most toxic and misguided. Coake was named one of Granta's Best Young American Novelists and has been published in numerous literary journals.

Harmony in relationships is often sought as the ideal state of affairs, but can discord be even more powerful in building healthy relationships? On this episode, Dr. Claudia M. Gold discussed her new book, The Power of Discord.

Today I am joined by Ed Tronick PhD and Claudia M. Gold MD who are Authors of a new Book - The Power of Discord. Ed is a developmental neuroscientist and clinical psychologist, Claudia is a practitioner in general and behavioural paediatrics, and author of a number of books on the subject. Discord and disagreement is a fundamental part of the human experience and non more so than at this time in history - no one likes to be in conflict with another person or group but my discussion with today's guest sheds some interesting light on the beneficial nature of discord. I delve into the famous still face experiment with Ed and Claudia and find out how 'mismatch and repair' are fundamental to our development, experience and the meaning we attach to the world around us. Far be it from being a bad thing, discord conducted in the right way can be a powerful way to unify us as human beings. Get involved and find out more To get involved with the conversation on social media we are on https://www.facebook.com/guildofdads/?modal=admin_todo_tour (Facebook), https://www.instagram.com/guildofdads/ (Instagram) & https://twitter.com/guildofdads (Twitter) If you want to join the Guild of Dads you can do so via our https://www.facebook.com/pg/guildofdads/groups/ (Facebook Group) Episode show notes can be found on our https://guildofdads.com/ (website) If you like what we are doing, leave a rating and review https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/guild-of-dads-vision-action-meaning/id1489225209 (here)

In this episode I was really excited to speak with the authors of the new book 'The Power of Discord', Dr. Ed Tronick and Dr. Claudia M. Gold, about everything from our development as children through to our interactions as adults and how it's all related. I hope you enjoy listening to it as much as I enjoyed recording it! The website for the new book is https://thepowerofdiscord.com/ Claudia's website mentioned in the show is https://www.claudiamgoldmd.com/ You can buy all of the books mentioned via those websites or at your usual book retailer. The Netflix documentary we mention in which Ed is featured is https://www.netflix.com/title/80117833 You can see the original still face experiment here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0 And the version with dads mentioned by Ed here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6czxW4R9w2g -------- If you're ready to start changing your life and you'd like my help to do it, there are a range of resources available ranging from completely free of charge to a great value online course and having me help you direct through one-on-one coaching or consultancy work: Download the first four chapters of my book ‘How To Solve Any Problem In Life: The Root Causes Of Everything' for free by clicking here: https://www.paul7cope.com/ For some free online training that summarises the key parts of the work I do and goes on to talk about an online course, click here: https://www.solveanyproblem.online/freetraining (You don't need to share your name or email address to watch the free training - the link takes you straight to the video) For details of the online course through which you can Learn in 3 days how to solve any problem in life for less than the cost of a weekend to Blackpool (that you can currently get with a 40% discount), click here: https://www.solveanyproblem.online/onlinecourse Click here for details of my one-on-one coaching: https://www.paul7cope.com/coaching If you run or work in a business and would like some help, see details here of how I work with businesses: https://www.paul7cope.com/corporate

My guest this week is Claudia M. Gold MD, a pediatrician, and writer who has practiced general and behavioral pediatrics for 25 years and currently specializes in early childhood mental health. Dr. Gold is on the faculty of the University of Massachusetts, Boston Infant-Parent Mental Health program, the Brazelton Institute, and the Berkshire Psychoanalytic Institute. Her new book The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust co-authored with developmental psychologist Ed Tronick, released this month. She is also the author of The Silenced Child: From Labels, Medications, and Quick-Fix Solutions to Listening, Growth, and Lifelong Resilience and Keeping Your Child in Mind: Overcoming Defiance, Tantrums, and other Everyday Behavior Problems by Seeing the World through Your Child's Eyes. In this episode, Dr. Gold and I discuss how breakdowns and miscommunication can lead to relationship repair and growth in families. Dr. Gold challenges the pursuit of ‘perfect parenting' and the ever-present ‘parent guilt' experienced with raising children. She teaches parents to open up to the mishaps in parenting and to use them as learning opportunities to look within instead of succumbing to the feeling of failure or experiencing anxiety and depression.   Where to learn more about Dr. Claudia Gold... The Power of Discord Book Claudia Gold's Website Claudia's Books Child In Mind Facebook Page     Connect with Dr. Nicole Beurkens on... Instagram Facebook Drbeurkens.com   Need help with improving your child's behavior naturally?  My book Life Will Get Better is available for purchase, click here to learn more.  Looking for more? Check out my Blog and the Better Behavior Naturally Parent Program - a resource guide for parents who want to be more effective with improving their child's behavior.  Interested in becoming a patient? Contact us here.

The topic of anxiety in the preschool child is continued with an interview with Dr. Claudia Gold. She is a pediatrician and a writer and currently specializes in early childhood mental health. She is the author of The Silenced Child: From Labels, Medication and Quick-Fix Solutions to Listening, Growth and Lifelong Resilience, Keeping Your Child in Mind: Overcoming Defiance, Tantrum and other Everyday Behavior Problems by Seeing the World Through Your Child's Eyes and most recently The Developmental Science of Early Childhood: Clinical Applications of Infant Mental Concepts from Infancy Through Adolescence. More information about Dr Gold can be found on her website: claudiagoldmd.com