An Evolving Man Podcast

In this solo episode, I explore one of the deepest wounds many ex-boarders carry: “I'm not good enough.”We look at:Why this belief develops in boarding school environmentsThe double bind that places blame inward on the childHow it manifests later in life as burnout, addiction, or perfectionismThe role of attachment in buffering or amplifying traumaPractical ways to reframe self-talk, celebrate achievements, and parent ourselvesIf you've ever felt like you're not enough — or noticed this pattern in leaders, colleagues, or loved ones — this episode offers insights and practices to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion.✨ New episodes every week on psychology, child development, and boarding school syndrome.--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

In this episode, I sit down with Paul Sunderland, an internationally respected addiction specialist and trainer. With decades of clinical experience on both sides of the Atlantic, Paul has become a leading voice on the often-hidden connection between complex PTSD, adoption, boarding school trauma, and addiction.We explore:Paul's personal story of addiction and recovery.Why early separation wounds are disguised traumas that shape lifelong patterns.The link between complex PTSD and addiction as an adaptive response.Why boarding school syndrome should be understood as a form of complex PTSD.Pathways to healing — from psychoeducation to co-regulation and trauma therapies.Paul's work is a reminder that beneath the pain of addiction often lies unacknowledged trauma — and that recovery is not about fixing overnight, but about finding safety, connection, and growth.---Paul Sunderland is a renowned addiction specialist, consultant and trainer.With over 35 years of experience, Paul's ground-breaking work has especially illuminated the deep and often-overlooked links between adoption, trauma, and addictions. His powerful presentations available on YouTube have resonated with thousands around the world.Questions for Paul:How did you get into the work you now do?Could you please talk me through Complex PTSD – what is it and how does it differ from PTSD?Could you please talk about addictions. Why is addiction an adaptive response to complex PTSD?How do addictions migrate?Could you please speak to the disguised trauma of early boarders?Could you also please speak to how adoptees are over represented in addiction treatment?What are some of the techniques that you use for helping people recover from complex PTSD and addictions?Could please speak to how mental and emotional health are relational?How do people find out more about your work?For Paul's TED X talk: https://youtu.be/liCfwTFUYNw?si=uYDWXQrO077TTVh7--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

I spoke with addiction specialist Paul Sunderland on Monday: https://youtu.be/a7tBz4adgGo In the conversation he spoke about addictions and why early boarders and adoptees are over represented in addiction treatment and recovery. He calls these traumas "disguised" in the way that they are seen as lucky. I also talk about how Paul refers to the equation: Stress - Without Attachment = Trauma.I explore how boarding school breaks attachment and is essentially "Without Attachment".Any questions please do let me know, Take care, Piers --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Should Prince George follow his father to Eton College — or his mother to Marlborough College? Or should he avoid boarding altogether?In this episode, I explore the debate currently surrounding Prince William and Kate Middleton's choice of school for their son, who has just turned 12. Drawing on stories from both Eton and Marlborough, as well as insights from neuroscience and decades of research into “boarding school syndrome,” I share why this decision carries far more weight than simply prestige or tradition.In this video, I cover:Kate Middleton's difficult start at Down House and later move to MarlboroughPrince William's experience at Eton, and Harry's reflections in SpareAccounts of bullying, abuse, and emotional neglect from alumni of both schoolsWhy children under 16 should not board, based on attachment science and trauma researchFive neuroscience-backed reasons why boarding undermines leadership developmentWhy day schools close to home may provide healthier foundations for Prince GeorgeAs the next generation of leaders emerges, emotional intelligence, relationships, and secure attachments matter more than privilege or tradition.

What role can plant medicines play in deep trauma healing?In this episode of An Evolving Man Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Richard Grossman — acupuncturist, healer, and long-time student of Amazonian plant medicine traditions. We explore his decades of work at the intersection of Eastern medicine, shamanic healing, and trauma recovery.Dr. Grossman shares his experiences studying with indigenous teachers in Peru, working with ayahuasca, and guiding people through profound emotional and spiritual transformation. We also explore the importance of preparation, integration, and respect when engaging with sacred plants.In this conversation, we discuss:How Dr. Grossman moved from Western medical training to holistic healingThe healing potential of ayahuasca and other plant medicinesWhy integration is just as important as the ceremony itselfThe relationship between trauma and spiritual awakeningLessons learned from decades of working with indigenous healersNavigating the risks, challenges, and misconceptions about plant medicineThis is a deep, nuanced look at how plant medicines can support emotional and spiritual growth — and why they're not a shortcut, but a doorway into deeper work.

In this episode, I reflect on the changing face of leadership. For generations, leaders operated in a command-and-control style—authoritarian, hierarchical, and often ruthless. But today, we're seeing a shift toward emotionally and spiritually intelligent leadership, grounded in compassion, care, and trust.I draw on insights from books and leaders including Admiral Mike Manazir, Simon Sinek, Richard Branson, John C. Maxwell, and The Leadership Challenge, to explore:Why authoritarian leadership is breaking downHow compassion and psychological safety drive innovation and loyaltyThe difference between creating followers and multiplying leadersWhy love may be the most powerful and lasting secret of effective leadershipLeadership is evolving—and this conversation is an invitation to rethink how we lead, how we inspire, and how we leave a legacy.✨ Connect with me to learn more about The Compassionate Leaders Pathway, starting this September.--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

In this deeply moving and vital episode of The Evolving Man Podcast, I sit down with Neil Harding — survivor, advocate, and whistleblower — to speak honestly and bravely about the widespread child sexual abuse that took place at Dilworth School in New Zealand.Neil was a full-time boarder from the age of 9. For decades, he held onto the trauma he experienced there, until the day came when he could stay silent no longer.What follows is a raw and powerful conversation about trauma, grooming, institutional betrayal, and the long path to healing. Neil shares his story not for sympathy, but to shine a light on a culture of secrecy and enablement — and to support other survivors who still feel voiceless.We also explore how Neil reclaimed his voice, how he moved through shame, and the personal toll of standing up to institutions that failed him and many others.This episode is for every survivor. And for every person ready to truly listen.In this episode, we discuss:Neil's early experiences at Dilworth SchoolGrooming, silence, and the mechanisms of institutional abuseThe long-term impacts of sexual traumaShame, addiction, and the search for safetySpeaking out in adulthood and confronting the systemWhat survivors need — and rarely get — from societyHow community, therapy, and visibility support healing

What happens when your parents — not you — went to boarding school? How might their experiences shape your childhood, and the adult you become?In this reflective episode, I explore the hidden ways parental boarding school experiences can ripple through generations. Drawing on personal stories, research, and dozens of podcast interviews, I share how traits like emotional distance, overwork, and repression can often be traced back to the complex trauma of boarding school.We discuss:The symptoms of Boarding School Syndrome in parentsHow these patterns affect family relationshipsWhy your parents might say they “loved it” — and what's really underneathThe power of asking open, curious questions about their school experienceHow understanding their story can soften your heart and open the door to healingThis episode invites you to look at your own family history with fresh eyes. You may discover that your parents' struggles were never about you — they were the echoes of an education system built on separation, survival, and silence.Resources mentioned:Boarding on Insanity documentaryPodcast interviews with Joy Schaverien, Alex Renton, and Nick DuffellDr. Gabor Maté on developmental trauma

In this powerful episode of The Evolving Man Podcast, I speak with Professor Dr. Paul Miller — consultant psychiatrist, EMDR trainer, and pioneer in the use of psychedelic-assisted therapy for trauma.We explore Dr. Miller's remarkable journey through psychiatry, from the early days of surgical training to becoming a leading voice in trauma-informed care. He shares eye-opening insights into how trauma shapes the brain, why traditional psychiatric models often fall short, and how EMDR and psychedelics are offering new hope for people with PTSD, complex trauma, and even schizophrenia.Dr. Miller also opens up about his own lived experience — of loss, betrayal, and healing — and why he believes authentic therapeutic relationships and community are at the heart of recovery.In this episode, we cover:Dr. Miller's path from surgery to psychiatryThe limitations of purely biological models of mental illnessEMDR and how it transforms trauma recoveryComplex PTSD and the role of attachment, especially in early lifeHis groundbreaking work with psychedelic medicines (MDMC, ketamine, psilocybin)The sacred art of listening and container-building in therapyWhy trauma-informed care must replace the outdated “broken brain” narrativeThe impact of boarding schools, shame, and developmental traumaWhether you're a therapist, someone on your own healing journey, or simply trauma-curious, this episode will leave you informed, inspired, and grounded in hope.

A few weeks ago I was talking to a friend about his CEO. He mentioned that the CEO tried to micromanage everything. And that he couldn't stop. And that he was reaching burnout. He mentioned that he was South African. So I asked, "Did he go to boarding school?" He replied, "Yes, I am pretty sure he did." So I mentioned boarding school syndrome and that micromanaging everything, trying to control all the details, being hypervigilant, workoholism and consequently burnout were all part of the symptoms. And over the years working with public school educated leaders I have seen these traits over and over again. So today I delve into why boarding schools create burnout and what we can do to start to rewire our brains. Take care, Piers #boardingschoolsyndrome #leadershipdevelopment #burnout #meditation--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Last week I took a holiday and had time off work. I recorded this reflection about how stress is not usually the problem and is often a good thing. That is as long as we rest. When we rest daily. We stop. We turn off our phones and push notifications. We grow. Some reflections today about the equation Stress + Rest = Growth. Take care, Piers #stressmanagement #rest #growth #burnout #leadershipburnout --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Roy Biancalana is a nationally recognized relationship coach, bestselling author, and host of The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast. With over 15 years of experience, Roy helps singles identify and overcome the internal barriers that keep them from finding fulfilling, lasting relationships. His journey into coaching began from personal hardship – navigating heartbreak, divorce, and unsuccessful rebounds – ultimately leading him to seek out coaching for himself. This transformative experience ignited his passion to guide others through their own relationship challenges. INTERVIEW QUESTIONSTitle: The “Curiosity Approach” to Finding a Life Partner1. You have an interesting story as to how you got into relationship coaching. It ties directly into our topic today and I think it's relevant for our listeners. Can you tell us about that?2. In your new book, Quantum Questions, you present a new and fresh approach to finding a life partner. It's what you call, “The Curiosity Approach”. What do you mean by that?3. Your book talks about asking yourself “7 Radical Questions,” that lead to attracting a healthy, lasting, intimate relationship. Can you talk about a couple of them?You have an free gift to offer our listeners. Can you tell us about it?What does it mean to be in “relationship shape” and why is it essential for attracting love?What are the most common self-sabotaging patterns in relationships and how can people break free from them?How did your personal experiences with heartbreak shape the way you coach others today?What are the biggest internal blocks that prevent people from finding and sustaining healthy relationships?How do masculine and feminine energies influence attraction and relationship dynamics?What is the first step someone can take to shift their mindset and attract better relationships?How can someone heal from heartbreak and rebuild trust after being deeply hurt or betrayed?What is the biggest myth about online dating and how can people use it more effectively?Why do so many people fear being alone and how can embracing solitude lead to healthier relationships?What is one piece of advice you wish everyone knew before entering a relationship?https://coachingwithroy.com/For his books: https://amzn.eu/d/gJMhnBj#relationships #foundationsofrelationship #boardingschoolsyndrome #relationshipproblems #emotionalintelligence--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Some reflections on my 50th birthday.Feeling some sadness and grief.And appreciation for all the support I have had over the years.Thank you,Piers x--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Chris Braitch is a father of 3 first and foremost. He is also a 1-2-1 and organisational coach, speaker, and founding director of the not for profit Seen & Heard. Seen & Heard supports the emotional well being of ex-pupils of boarding and independent day schools, and their families.  Chris has found his calling supporting others on their journey to healing and joy, utilising his diverse life experiences, and professional skills learned over a 20-year career in sales, marketing, and management at some of the world's largest food companies. Questions for Chris:I would love for both of us to share some of our experiences of the corporate world. What were your experiences?What were both of your experiences of leadership in those environments?Could you please talk to the difference between command and control and emotionally intelligent leadership?What is currently happening in leadership at the moment?Could you please link boarding school and leadership? What is the connection between the lack of empathy many political leaders show and their upbringing?Why have you put together this Compassionate Leaders Pathway course?What are the 12 steps of the Compassionate Leader?Why is this course different from any of the thousands of courses available?I have seen that you have launched ‘The Long Journey Home' campaign this Summer, can you tell me a bit more about this and how people can get involved?You mentioned it has been a slow start to the campaign; can you tell me about the feedback you have been getting from people?You mentioned before the podcast that you have a busy Summer getting ready to launch the Seen & Heard schools website, can you tell me about this part of Seen & Heard, and the challenges you have been facing so far. I recently contributed to an article you are putting together at S&H called “Is boarding school right for my child”. How is that going?How do people learn more?https://www.piers-cross.com/the-compassionate-leaderhttps://seenheard.org.uk/blog/the-long-journey-home-a-national-campaign-to-raise-awareness-funds-and-to-get-active-and-have-fun/--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

True Leadership Is About Empowerment, Not Control In the kind of leadership I believe in—and teach—power isn't something to hold onto. It's something to share. The most emotionally intelligent leaders I know aren't focused on creating followers. They're committed to growing more leaders. As John C Maxwell writes in The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership he personally learned to change his leadership focus "from leading followers developing leaders." That shift happens when we: ✅ Create space for others to step into their own authority ✅ Offer support, not micromanagement ✅ Encourage autonomy, creativity, and ownership ✅ Lead from trust, not fear And the ripple effect is huge: ➡️ When people feel seen, empowered, and free to lead from their strengths, teams become more resilient. ➡️ Cultures become more human. ➡️ And leadership becomes something that's shared—not just worn by the person at the top. How are you growing the leaders around you? #TheCompassionateLeader #Leadership #Empowerment #EmotionalIntelligence #InnerWork #TraumaInformedLeadership #ConsciousLeadership #HeartCentredBusiness #MenAtWork #LeadershipDevelopment --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Sifu Boggie (a.k.a Paul Brighton) is a Daoist guide, mentor, and self-healing practitioner with over 40 years of experience in Daoism and Qigong. Trained by renowned Daoist masters, he specializes in Qi Gong, Tai Chi, Shun Dao philosophy, and other healing modalities. He is also a Barefoot Doctor, Daoist Shaman, and teacher of Eastern Reiki, Chinese Reiki, Reflexology, TuiNa, Tit-Tar (back correction), Acupressure, and ShunDao Massage. Sifu Boggie's teachings blend Daoist philosophy with practical energy work and bodywork techniques, offering transformative pathways for physical, emotional, and energetic healing. Questions for Sifu:I would love for you to share some of your journey. How did you get into the work you now do?Could you please talk about how you have adapted ancient wisdom to modern challenges?How do we transform stress into growth?There is a rise in mental health issues globally. What are some of the ancient practices that you use and teach other to help them mentally?In your opinion what is the impact of childhood trauma on the nervous system and our health?What are some of the practices the ancient Chinese used for dealing with trauma?Resilience – what are some of the practices that we can use to develop our resilience?How practices rooted in epigenetics enable people to reprogram their internal narratives, fostering resilience and renewing their sense of control over their health. Other areas:Men seeking spiritualitypersonal growthmodern stress-relief seekersEastern philosophy. how the way we think, move, and feel can profoundly influence our physical and emotional well-being. How to shift out of cycles of pain, fatigue, or emotional stagnation, help people to reclaim vitality and joy. #taoism #qigong #childhoodtrauma #epigenetics #trauma #resilienceTo find out more about Sifu Boggie's work: https://shundao.uscreen.io/pages/promo--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

The new 3 part documentary "Coming Home" will be available to stream on https://www.boardingoninsanity.com/ from Saturday 5th July. Today I talk about what is in the film and why listening to other people's stories is so important for our journey of healing. I also talk about Seen and Heard's new fundraiser, The Long Journey Home. To support or to become a participant you can do so here: https://www.goodhub.com/go/longjourneyhome And for last Friday's podcast talking about African boarding schools: https://youtu.be/iQ7fPjbskvI And for this Friday's podcast talking about self-healing with a self-healing master: https://youtu.be/1-eLcVpmLoQ Take care, Piers #boardingoninsanity #boardingschoolsyndrome #boardingschool #boardingschooltrauma #cominghome --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Mpumelelo Mpofu is a pioneering thinker, practitioner, and systems architectwhose groundbreaking work spans personal transformation, family dynamics,organisational wellbeing, and societal change. With over two decades of directexperience working with children, families, and trauma recovery, his revolutionaryconcept of Compassion Economics reframes compassion as a finite, measurable,and renewable resource—as critical to manage as time, money, or energy.Questions for Mpumelelo:How did you get into the work you now do?Could you please talk about your own experiences of boarding school in Southern Rhodesia?Could you please introduce "Compassion Economics"?What is Compassion LeakageCompassion PovertyCompassion BankruptcyEnergy DepletionBoarding School Syndromes & Colonial Legacy – A deeper dive into how apartheid-era Southern Rhodesia institutionalised false Christianity and whiteness, shaping trauma that persists today. This aligns with your work on systemic influences in personal development. Why parenting Has Nothing To Do With Children.To learn more about Mpumelelo's work please visit: www.avoidleakage.com--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 I watched The Imitation Game last night with Benedict Cumberpatch. There were several references to his boarding school, Sherbourne in it. Today I offer some thoughts. Did Alan Turing have boarding school syndrome and what were his boarding school experiences like? Take care, Piers #enigma #alanturing #theimitationgame #benedictcumberbatch #boardingschool --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 4 Months After The Death of My Wife... | Piers Cross Today I share some reflections four months after the death of my wife. What has it been like? What have I learned? For the video: 9 Ways I Dealt With Grief: https://youtu.be/tKgGG9i1FbI For the original video where I share the news about my wife: https://youtu.be/fYSs8JOeYgg To buy tickets for the Boarding on Insanity screening in West Yorkshire on 27th June: https://www.tickettailor.com/events/soulwellnesshub1/1712713 #posttraumaticgrowth #grief #death #dying Take care,Piers--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

A few days ago, a colleague recommended I connect with Chris Barez-Brown.I listened to one of his talks on resilience — and a lightbulb went on.For the past 10 years, I've worked closely with leaders — many of whom attended boarding school. Over time, I've noticed a consistent pattern:Dissociation.Rather than feeling what's happening in the body, many retreat into their heads. Emotions are shut down. Sensations ignored. Connection severed.This is one of the key issues we work on because if we are dissociated we don't lead very well. Dissociation means a lack of emotional intelligence so we struggle to empathise with those we lead. Our communication is poor because it lacks vulnerability and honestyPeople model our actions - if we are pushing through burnout - they will follow.That's when the penny dropped.Because I realised — many organisations are teaching this.They're calling it resilience, but it's not.What's often sold as “resilience” is actually:Numbing your emotionsPushing through exhaustionTolerating dysfunctionIgnoring your burnoutThis isn't strength. It's dissociation.Real resilience, according to leading researchers, looks very different:Acknowledging stress — and honouring itFeeling your emotions — without being overwhelmedRest — knowing when and how to recoverCommunity — staying connected to yourself and othersPsychological safety — feeling free to be you, not just a performerIf we don't shift how we define resilience, the consequences are clear:More burnoutEmployees feeling broken for not being able to “push through”Cultures where emotion is pathologised rather than heldA leadership style rooted in blame, not responsibilityIt's time to reframe resilience — not as stoicism, but as compassion in action.Because when leaders model true resilience, workplaces heal. And when workplaces heal, people thrive.#LeadershipDevelopment #WorkplaceWellbeing #EmotionalIntelligence #ResilientLeadership #CorporateCulture #PsychologicalSafety #AuthenticLeadership #BurnoutRecovery #CompassionateLeadership #TheCompassionateExecutive--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

I spent this morning in conversation with Dr Suzanne Zeedyk of Connected Baby and producer, Simon Hinkly. We were talking about the new screenings of #boardingoninsanity. On 27th June in Sowerby Bridge, West Yorkshire from 6pm the film will be shown along with a Q&A with director Ben Cole and producer, Piers Cross. And then on 28th June in Edinburgh at the Cameo Picture House at 2.30pm - 4.30pm. Doors open 2pm. Suzanne and Connected Baby will be co-hosting the event. The Q&A panel will include Suzanne, Alex Renton, Morag Edwards, Ben Cole and Piers Cross. Another guest to be announced. To buy tickets for Edinburgh: https://connectedbaby.net/event/scottish-premiere-of-boarding-on-insanity/ And for tickets for Sowerby Bridge in West Yorkshire: https://www.tickettailor.com/events/soulwellnesshub1/1712713 I also talk about going back to my old boarding school last week. Take care, Piers #boardingschooltrauma #trauma #drgabormate #gabormate #boardingschoolsyndrome #boardingschool#aces --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Marc Azoulay is the founder of Men's Therapy Online, a community and healing hub for men who want to get back on their feet or take their lives to the next level. With the help of his team of licensed clinicians he provides ongoing men's groups, individual counselling, and powerful wilderness retreats to his members. He has a background in psychoanalysis, neuroscience, and Buddhism.Key topics Marc discusses:I would love for you to share how you got into the work you now do?What is the current situation regarding modern masculinity? What is going on?There have been concerns over the past few years that men are struggling mentally. Could you please speak to men's mental health? What are some of the best personal growth tools that you have found for mental health?Why Therapy Fails Men (and How to Fix It)The Importance of Mentorship, Community & Ritual for MenHow Masculinity Needs to EvolveThe importance of grief work for menHis experiences of BuddhismIf you are woman listening to this, what can you do to support a man you know to start to heal?For more information: https://menstherapy.online/#mentalhealth #mensmentalhealth #whytherapyfailsmen--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 This Friday I am going back to my old boarding school for a day to remember the survivors of child sexual abuse at the school. Today I wanted to share some thoughts. What am I feeling? What will be happening?Last Friday I went to Joy Schaverien's funeral in London. I share some of my experiences. And finally we have two screenings and Q&A's for the documentary, Boarding On Insanity. First is in Sowerby Bridge, West Yorkshire 27th June 6.30pm https://www.tickettailor.com/events/soulwellnesshub1/1712713 And the second is in Edinburgh at the Cameo Cinema on 28th June at 2pm. Tickets to follow. Here is last week's podcast talking about sexual abuse in a New Zealand boarding school: https://youtu.be/vFuQANOr5HM And this week's podcast: https://youtu.be/HU5yHHyXYQU #boardingschoolsyndrome #boardingschool #joyschaverien #boardingoninsanity Take care, Piers --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 PLEASE NOTE: We talk about sexual abuse in this episode which some viewers may find triggering. Mark Staufer is an experienced ghostwriter and copywriter with a passion for helping clients tell their stories authentically and powerfully. He specializes in preserving personal legacies, organizing complex life stories and crafting engaging narratives. He is also the writer of The Lost Boys of Dilworth, TVNZ, a prime time docu-drama, which recounts Mark's own experiences at the notorious New Zealand boarding school during the 1970s. Could you please share some of your journey. What was the catalyst to writing The Lost Boys of Dilworth?Areas to talk about:Mum saying, “If you really hate it, I promise you can come home.”Feeling terror at the schoolSchool: “most emotional experience I've ever had.”Dorm: constantly watchedCold/ A lot of crying – sobbing at night/ Dorm raid – beatings – becoming pretty fearful.Bullying ever presentLike Lord of the FliesPunishments – cold baths in front of the teachers. - 16mAttempted suicide – no one's got your back – no one to go to 19mNo where to escape from pain and violenceIt felt like a prison – island of hostility and violence - 20mFrench leave – running away – sat under a bridge25m – spent a lot of time crying – sympathetic ears didn't existBeing sent to Coventry – no one is allowed to talk to you – a ghost – no one acknowledges you.Mrs Morgan – kind teacher - “If you couldn't control the children, there was something wrong with you.” “No kindness at the school.”Leave day – sense of dreadGrooming – train tracks – praying together – coming out of tutors late at night8 paedophiles at Dilworth – Mark sexually abused in the chapel – many boys raped – the doctor knewDisciplined for speaking up – telling liesSchool was a magnet for paedophiles50m - Betrayal – Mum – no way out unless expelled55m – Getting expelled age 14Friend committed suicideConsequences – drugs, alcohol, crime/ self-destruction/ never fixed relationship with mother#lostboysofdilworth #dilworth #nzboardingschool #boardingschoolsyndromeTo connect to him on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-staufer-7624b115/ --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 #eq #emotionalintelligence #leadershipskills #leadershipdevelopment #vision Today I talk about 5 reasons why emotional intelligence is important in leadership. I talk about how you need to have emotional information in order to make good decsions. That in order to connect to your vision and that of the company then you have to be connected to your emotions. And that according to leadership experts, Kouzes and Posner, "love is the secret ingredient of leadership." I also talk about relationships and inspiring others. For this Friday's podcast with writer Mark Staufer talking about abuse in a New Zealand boarding school: https://youtu.be/vFuQANOr5HM And last Friday's podcast with Dr Robin Youngson talking about his experiences of the medical system and its similarities to boarding: https://youtu.be/GNQHj6rKUZg Take care, Piers --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Is the experience of being in a hospital like boarding school?Retired medical doctor, Dr Robin Youngson, talks about the similarities between hospitals and boarding school.These include:➡️ Bullying➡️ Stripped of your clothes and identity and given a uniform➡️ Given dreadful food at fixed times➡️ Arbitary rules and regulations➡️ Loss of all privacy➡️ Sleep in shared dormitories➡️ Shared toilets➡️ The person in charge is matronA fascinating conversation looking at the old model and how Dr Youngson created a new hospital system in New Zealand with amazing results.https://youtu.be/GNQHj6rKUZg#medicalsystem #hospital #bullying #boardingschool #haveningDr Robin Youngson, is a Certified Havening Practitioner and Trainer, and is a recently retired Anaesthetic Specialist with a long career in the public health service in the UK and New Zealand. He works full time as a trauma therapist and trainer helping people transform their lives and careers. He is also the author of the book, The Science of Miracles.I would love for you to share some of your journey. What drew you to write your book, The Science of Miracle?You recently wrote an article about being “a loving but emotionally incompetent man.” Could you please explain what you mean?What were your boarding school experiences like?Could you please speak about your experiences of being a medical doctor in the UK?What is compassionate healthcare?What made you leave the medical system? Could you please talk us through the work you do now and the Havening technique?Other areas to talk about:BullyingAbandonmentThe healing journey from childhood traumaDissociationHumiliationFor more information about Robin's work please visit: https://robinyoungson.com/Or to buy his book: https://amzn.eu/d/4hg6xRlThe short film documentary about his work and the amazing results of Havening was just released yesterday. You can view it here:  https://vimeo.com/1084078465--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 Some sad news... one of the leading voices in the Boarding School Syndrome world, Prof Joy Schaverien, died last week. She was such a caring, compassionate and wise woman. I found her to be so supportive of the work I and many others did including the documentary, Boarding On Insanity, my book and podcast. Today I talk about some of her teachings, and some of our meetings and interviews. Thank you for all that you brought to the world. Please find below an interview I did with her 4 years ago. https://youtu.be/dPn0TtWF99E And a link to her book Boarding School Syndrome: https://amzn.eu/d/0jy2534 #joyschaverien #boardingschool #boardingschoolsyndrome --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 Last week in the local UK elections the Conservatives did really poorly losing hundreds of seats. In the words of former Tory minister, Rory Stewart, is the Tory party collapsing? Today I wanted to discuss this and see what links we could draw to boarding school. With such high numbers of the Tory party being educated in Public Schools could their education be impacting their leadership? Take care, Piers #torycollapse #tories #boardingschool #boardingoninsanity --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

David Farrell was born in Africa. His writing reflects his life experiences on three continents in his favourite genres of literary fiction, coming of age sagas, and non-fiction.Having led for over half a century, he now possesses a deep fascination for human behaviours.He lives in New Zealand, with his lifelong partner where he is writing his third and fourth novels.I would love to hear some of your life story. What drew you to writing, Chameleon?What was growing up in Africa like?Could you please talk about your boarding school experiences in Rhodesia?It sounds like Southern Africa was not very safe at that time. How was being in a boarding school?How did you cope with boarding school?In what ways do you feel British boarding schools are similar or not from Southern African ones?Other areas to talk about:ColonialismFagging P.61BullyingPunishment for breaking the rules P.76Soccer Vs Rugby at BSFood “odd hunk of indistinguishable gristle.” P.28/ No food for the end of the table P.38The first night - “horrors” P.31Emotions “I dashed away a tear and pulled myself together.” P.38“The English PS system envied the world over.” P49Themba “You shouldn't be away from home.” P67“Sense of patriotism and cameraderie with these boys who had done nothing but insult and abuse us.” P.83“I learnt to melt into the collective. Somehow it didn't seem so bad. My mind glossed over the hardships.” P.85Split between sibling who stays at home. “I'm a visitor in my home.” P.88Butterflies before going back to school. P.95Lifelong games of burying the self P.118“Those who control and restrict are themselves controlled and restricted.” P119Always moving - 6th town age 13. P.143Members of the opposite sex viewed as “curious sect with strange behaviours and ideals.” P160For more information please visit: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davemfarrell/ Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/beXcndK#boardingschool #africanboardingschool #internationalboardingschool #zimbabwe--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

I was listening to Daniel Goleman, the author of #emotionalintelligence yesterday. In the video: https://youtu.be/-qmLoJ7-A80?si=YuawRPJC0iqlnwli he shares that IQ/ cognitive abilities might well be replaced by AI. But EQ or emotional intelligence is a human skill and cannot be replaced. Emotional intelligence will be the skill of the future. But as boarding schools only seem to teach IQ and have little regard for emotions will they become obsolete? Today I quote from ex-boarders like Kate Middleton, Princess of Wales, Bear Grylls, Tony Blair about how emotions were dealt with at school. I also share some insights from David Farrell about his experiences in an African boarding school: https://youtu.be/zGgfQ_5mUAw #eq #iq #boardingschoolsyndrome #ai Take care, Piers --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

#tck #thirdculturekids #girlsboardingschool #boardingschoolsyndromeWhat is a third culture kid (TCK)I would love for you to share what drew you both to create this book about women's experiences boarding school and being Third Culture Kids?Could you please speak to how many of the women missed their adopted homelands and how much this negatively impacted their impressions of the UK?Could you please talk about the research for how children have a very sensory response to place which impacts how they respond to new geographies for the rest of their lives?What was the sensory difference between their homes and boarding school?In particular, we might like to chat about the following if that works for you:Our stories – similarities and differences – both TCK – Nicky mercantile, Linda missionary. Writing a book about women's experiences by women was important to us both. Less has been written about this and some of the books about women have had less traction in the media than those written by and about men. All but one of our participants identify as women. Being different is not safe at BS. Different ‘rules' for men and women – binaries – impossible to ‘be' otherwise.Women in our book felt growing up in a BS was isolating and conformist – either just treated like a bloke in skirts (with no discussion of women's bodily functions or needs, or, raised to be “young ladies” – Joy Schaverien's comment on this is that men go to BS to learn to serve their country, while women are taught to serve men. Shame used as a tool of control – probably reinforced discomfort in our skin and shame about our bodies – constantly ‘on show' and not it a good way. Eg headmaster who ‘supervised' showers – female staff often not in positions of power and are also constrained/disadvantaged by patriarchal structures. Poisonous pedagogy – designed to break the child's will – often early (first afternoon, first night, first meal) and public – so everyone saw the shame.Nicky Moxey, an ex-boarder, originally spent 33 years as a project manager and Agile coach. She is retraining as an integrative counsellor and intends to work with boarding school survivors after she qualifies.Linda Devereux is a third culture kid with more than 40 years of teaching experience in schools and universities. Linda is an Adjunct Research Fellow at Charles Sturt University, Australia, where she researches and publishes in the fields of transcultural childhoods, life narrative, boarding school, and the transition to university.---To buy the book: https://amzn.eu/d/1yXj4rn Or :https://www.routledge.com/Exploring-Boarding-School-Challenges-for-Women-and-Third-Culture-Kids-Worlds-Away-from-Home/Moxey-Devereux/p/book/9781032876313--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Today I draw upon the works of James O'Brien and David Cameron to explore how when David set out on his political journey he wanted to support families. Why then did he do the opposite and make huge welfare cuts and bring in the austerity measures. I look at the psychology of why this might be and draw upon Dr Gabor Mate and Nick Duffell to explore this. For the documentary Boarding on Insanity: https://www.boardingoninsanity.com/ For the Observer article: https://www.theguardian.com/education/2025/apr/20/breaking-our-spirits-was-the-plan-the-lifelong-impact-of-having-gone-to-boarding-school For the Mumsnet article: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5319413-lifelong-impact-of-going-to-boarding-school Take care, Piers #boardingoninsanity #davidcameron #drgabormate #austerity --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 #boardingoninsanity #boardingschoolsyndrome #emotionalintelligence #gabormaté #attachmenttheory Boarding On Insanity Relaunches On Saturday | National News Coverage Sunday To join the waiting list for the documentary: https://www.boardingoninsanity.com/ And to read the newspaper article from 20th April here: https://www.theguardian.com/theobserver/magazine Take care, Piers --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Today I talk about being the sibling, brother or sister of a boarding school survivor.What might have been the impact on you of having your sibling being separated from you and put into a boarding school?Here I explore some of the psychology of the breaking of attachment and the rupture that the siblings must have felt.Beliefs along the lines of: "there must be something wrong with me" "I am not special" might arise in the psyche.The boarder will not have been able to share their experiences and due to the perception that boarding schools are a privilege the child left at home might think there is something wrong with them. Why am I not privileged?Some reflections and thoughts following a great question.Take care,Piers#siblings #boardingschoolsurvivor #rupture #attachmenttheory--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

On the podcast today I am speaking with Dr. Bradley Nelson, veteran holistic physician and author of the bestselling book, "The Emotion Code," to discuss healing from trauma. He will share how to use energy healing practices such as The Emotion Code® and The Body Code® to identify and resolve emotional baggage that may be harming your health and relationships or otherwise holding you back in life.Dr. Brad has trained and certified more than 12,000 Emotion Code practitioners in 80 countries, teaching them how to identify and release trapped emotions, unresolved feelings from traumatic and difficult experiences that harm health and relationships.“Traumatic and difficult events from the past can leave us with unresolved emotional energy in the form of trapped emotions — negative energies that can literally become trapped within,” Dr. Brad says.Learning to identify and release trapped emotions "can allow us to improve our health and relationships, move forward from negative experiences, and generally feel more freedom and happiness in our lives."Some topics Dr. Brad can discuss that might be particularly appropriate for your show include:• Overcoming Past Trauma With Future Medicine — When emotions are buried, they often resurface in the form of sadness, worry or physical discomfort. Dr. Brad shares how he helps people uncover emotional wounds and find lasting relief.• Echoing Across Generations: How Emotions Can Be Inherited – Dr. Brad explains how people can inherit emotions from parents, grandparents, and – through DNA – even earlier generations.• Is There a Wall Around Your Heart? – When people are deeply hurt, they often experience an inability to trust, give and receive love, and establish meaningful relationships. • The Emotional Roots of Sadness, Anxiety and Loneliness Loneliness raises the risk of stroke and heart disease and contributes to depression, anxiety, addiction, and other health problems, research indicates. • Energy Healing Breakthroughs Live — In live broadcasts, Dr. Brad demonstrates how people can experience dramatic relief from the emotional causes of discomfort and illness.See some of Dr. Brad's recent media appearances here: https://drbradleynelson.onlinepresskit247.com/media-coverage.htmlAbout Dr. Bradley Nelson: Veteran holistic physician Dr. Bradley Nelson (D.C., ret.) is one of the world's foremost experts on natural methods of achieving wellness. He is the CEO of Discover Healing, author of the bestselling book, "The Emotion Code," and creator of the Emotion Code, the Body Code and the Belief Code. His latest book is “The Body Code: Unlocking Your Body's Ability to Heal Itself” (2023, St. Martin's Press). For more information and a free Emotion Code Starter Kit, visit EmotionCodeGift.com (https://discoverhealing.com/the-emotion-code-starter-kit/)--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 Last week a subscriber asked me about writing a book about my experiences of grief and death since the passing of my wife 6 weeks ago.So today I wanted to share a few reflections about what I have learned since her death on 9th February 2025.What have I learned?What helps the grieving process?What are the things that have helped me the most?#grief #death #dying #crying #sadnessTake care,Piers--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 Today I share some reflections about how the launch for our new documentary about boarding school is going. We ask the question: "Are our leaders traumatised?" I also talk about my wife's funeral which took place on Monday. I really honour all her love, and support in getting the film out there and all that she gave me throughout our time together. To download the film and the extras: https://www.boardingoninsanity.com/ Take care, Piers --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 To join the webinars and to receive the recordings please visit here: https://www.boardingoninsanity.com/ The film is due for release on the 15th March at midday and will stay live for one week. #boardingoninsanity #boardingschoolsyndrome #childhoodtrauma #drgabormateTake care,Piers--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Thank you so much to everyone who came to the London premiere of the new documentary Boarding On Insanity. To register for the live webinars please put your name in here: https://www.boardingoninsanity.com/ Webinars are on 5th, 10th and 13th March. To join you will need to put your name on the email list and you will be sent the link to the webinar. These will be recorded so those on the email list will receive the recordings. Take care, Piers --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Today I am speaking with psychotherapist, Toby Ingham, about his new book, A Guilty Victim. A Guilty Victim tells the true story of an English boy's recovery from grooming and sexual abuse at a Catholic boarding school in Ireland in the 1970s. It is a contemporary account of psychotherapy with an adult survivor, written with the client's full consent. A big thank you to Chris Bratich of Seen and Heard for connecting us.---Toby Ingham is a BPC & UKCP registered psychotherapist & supervisor, member of The British Psychotherapy Foundation, The Association of Independent Psychotherapists, and BAPPS. Former Clinical Director of South Bucks Counselling (2019-2023). He has 25 years of experience working with people, dealing with depression, low mood, anxiety states, trauma, bereavement, addictions, and emotional instability.  Before setting up his psychotherapy practice in Oxford, he trained in NHS at St Barts' Hospital, and at the Homerton Hospital in London.  He is a former staff psychotherapist at Nightingale Hospital and trained at Promis Addiction Centre and Age Concern.Questions for Toby:I would love for you to share some of your journey. What lead you into the work you now do?Could you please talk about your book, A Guilty Victim? What drew you to write it?What do you feel is different about this book from other boarding school and therapeutic books?What happened to your client at school? How did your client learn to cope? Do you feel that this process of coping is good for the psyche. If yes, why? If not, why not?Why is it that we, as ex-boarders struggle to fit in outside of school? Both as children and as adults? (P.88)And you mention that your client would try and take responsibility for the mood in the house? (P.88). Why do we do that as children?Where there any specific symptoms of his trauma that showed up in adult life?What do you feel makes the psychotherapeutic relationship so important in healing boarding school and childhood trauma wounds?What changes did you see in your client as he moved through the therapeutic process with you?What did you learn over the years that you worked with your client?What do you feel about boarding schools?How do people learn more about your work?#childhoodtrauma#boardingschoolsyndrome#grooming#traumarecoveryTo find out more about Toby's work please visit: www.tobyingham.com--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 Today I talk about two important events. One is my wife, Michelle Dawn Silcox's, funeral. And the other is the Boarding On Insanity documentary premiere in 3 days time, 1st March in London: https://www.riocinema.org.uk/movie/boarding-on-insanity-qa/ I also talk about the webinars starting on the 5th March with special guests, Prof Joy Schaverien, Dr Suzanne Zeedyk and Dr Warren Larkin. And then on the 10th March we will be interviewing Zena Me, Martin Lloyd-Elliott and Nick Duffell. To register for those events you can do so here: https://www.boardingoninsanity.com/ Thanks for all your support and kind words.See you soon, Piers --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Myles Katz is a pioneer in the field of legal psychedelics, blending personal experience with professional innovation to advance mental health and personal transformation. As the founder and executive director of Confluence Retreats, he leads immersive, multi-day psilocybin retreats in Oregon's Cascade-Siskiyou National Monument. These retreats offer a legal, structured, and profoundly transformative experience, tailored for individuals seeking personal growth, emotional breakthroughs, and spiritual development in a safe and nurturing environment. Questions for Myles:I would love for you to share some of your journey. How did you get into the work you now do?Could you please talk about some of the research from University College London about psilocybin? What did they find out?Many people are curious but hesitant about psychedelics. What would you say to someone who is nervous about taking that first step?You often talk about moving from “functioning to flourishing.” Can you share how psychedelics help individuals make that transition?What role does integration—such as therapy, mindfulness, or community—play in maximizing the benefits of a psychedelic experience?Psychedelics are often associated with mental health treatments. How do you see their role expanding beyond mental health into personal growth and creativity?What common misconceptions about psychedelics would you like to address, especially for people who may still view them through a stigmatized lens?What advice would you give to someone considering a psychedelic retreat for personal or spiritual development, and how can they prepare for the experience?How do you balance honoring indigenous traditions while offering a modern and legal psychedelic experience at your retreats?How do people find out more about your work?To find out more about Myles' work: https://www.confluenceretreats.org/--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 A few reflections about the death of my wife. How has the last week been? I share some of my grief. And I talk about the documentary premiere in 10 days time in London at the Rio in Dalston: https://www.riocinema.org.uk/movie/boarding-on-insanity-qa/ We have decided to go ahead with the premiere as my wife was so supportive of the film.Take care,Piers#boardingoninsanity #grief #loss #boardingschoolsyndrome https://www.riocinema.org.uk/movie/boarding-on-insanity-qa/ --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

What is the importance of emotional intelligence in leaders?And why do so many leaders feel isolated, lonely and struggling with burn out?Today, Pete Hunt, founder of Monumental, a network for growth focused leaders talks about his boarding school experiences.What was the legacy he left boarding school with?And how did it affect him as a leader?An authentic and heart-felt conversation.---Pete Hunt is a leading men's group facilitator, podcast host and meditation teacher. He is also the founder of Monumental, which is a network for growth focused leaders.Questions for Pete:I would love for you to share some of your journey. How did you get into the work you now do?What were your experiences like at boarding school? How did those experiences impact you as an adult?What do you see and hear in men in who were being educated in Boarding Schools in the 1980's and 90's?Could you please speak about the work you do with Monumental? What do you do?What is the key issue with men's mental health at the moment? What can we start to do to change this?Other areas to talk about:The importance of community and connectionIsolationLonelinessAccountabilityEmotional intelligenceBullyingHow do people find more about your work?To find out more about Pete's work please visit: https://petehunt.com/ or www.monumental.global--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Today I share some really sad news. On Sunday 9th February my wife died. I have been feeling so sad. She was such a wonderful lady. So kind, loving and caring. Without her the film and my work would not exist. Thank you Michelle. Here is the interview I did with her: https://youtu.be/fKs1A_4xw7A Blessings, Piers --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Ben Cole is a film director, storyteller, cinematographer and all round filmmaker. His films include 1 Giant Leap with Robbie Williams and Time of The Sixth Sun.Questions for Ben:I would love for you to share some of your journey. How did you get into the work you now do?What is the film Boarding On Insanity about?What drew you to make it?Please share your journey of making the film. How was it for you?What were some of the highs in making this film?What were some of the lows?Could you please talk about the movement around boarding schools as a whole?What's the vision of the film moving forward?How can people support the release of the film? When is it coming out?What is your call to action?How do people find more about your work?To find out more about Ben new film please visit: https://boardingoninsanity.com/And to watch the trailer: https://youtu.be/vLeAj5TiqU4--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

 London Premiere Boarding On Insanity 1st March 1.30pm | What Is Happening? | Piers Cross To buy tickets here: https://www.riocinema.org.uk/movie/boarding-on-insanity-qa/ Website will go live on Thursday 06.02.25: http://www.boardingoninsanity.com/ To join the launch waiting list: https://www.piers-cross.com/boarding-school-film  #boardingoninsanity #boardingschoolsyndrome #boardingschool #premiere --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Did many people feel homesick at boarding school?Reading the biographies of Bear Grylls, Minnie Driver, Jeremy Paxman, Roald Dahl we can see that they all suffered with homesickness.Today I also explore the work of Joy Schaverien in Boarding School Syndrome where she says, "Homesickness has been reframed as bereavement."Are we really bereaved rather than homesick?Take care,Piers#boardingschool #homesickness #bereavement #beargrylls--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

Drawing on the work of Kouzes and Posner and their excellent book, The Leadership Challenge, what are the 5 principles of a great leader?I discuss all 5 qualities and traits while linking that in to the UK.Why is it that we have so few good leaders in the UK?Over the past few decades there have been consistently poor leaders in charge.Today I talk about why I feel this is.I draw upon the work of Oliver Bullough and Butler to The World, and Warren Bennis' On Becoming a Leader.#leadership #greatleaders #UkleadersTake care,Piers--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/

How can we heal childhood trauma if we have tried many different therapies and nothing has worked? Today I am speaking with Siamon Emery, a globally experienced mentor talking about his journey through childhood trauma and recovery. Growing up with parents who were addicts meant that he lived through a lot of trauma. This impacted him in relationships, at work and mentally. Today he shares his fascinating journey of recovery - the practices he uses like yoga, somatic experiencing and how we too can start to regulate our nervous systems. ---Siamon Emery is a globally experienced mentor specializing in trauma recovery, nervous system regulation, and guiding high-performing entrepreneurs and leaders through personal and professional growth. His approach draws from a unique blend of lived experience, spiritual practice, and scientific study, shaped by years of immersing himself in diverse cultures and healing modalities across Costa Rica, India, and Australia. Questions for Siamon:I would love for you to share some of your journey. How did you get into the work you now do?What are some of the most common self-sabotaging patterns you see in high achievers, and why are they so difficult to overcome?How does unresolved trauma manifest in professional settings, and what can leaders do to address these hidden barriers?Can you explain the connection between nervous system regulation and decision-making in high-pressure environments like entrepreneurship or leadership?What role does fear play in keeping people stuck, even when they're consciously trying to grow or expand their business or personal life?You often mention the importance of rewiring the nervous system—what practical steps can someone take to start this process?How did your personal journey and experiences with trauma shape the way you coach and mentor others today?What advice do you give to entrepreneurs or leaders who feel overwhelmed or paralyzed when making high-stakes decisions?For people who feel like they've tried everything—therapy, coaching, spiritual practices—what makes your approach different?How can someone tell if they are operating from a place of fear or if they are genuinely making the right decision to stay within their comfort zone?You work at the intersection of spirituality and science. How do you blend the two in your mentorship and healing practices, and why do you think this balance is so effective?How do people find out more about your work?For more information please visit: https://siamonemery.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/siamon.emery/--- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/