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"I'm okay as long as you're okay with me": If our wellbeing is dependent upon another person, their opinion of us, or external validation, we are other-esteeming (looking for security outside of ourselves). This is considered emotional dependence, and it plays a big role in love addiction. In this episode, Jodi talks with Allen Berger, PhD, therapist and author of "12 Essential Insights for Emotional Sobriety". Dr. Berger defines emotional dependence, explains why it happens, and what emotional sobriety can look like. Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Link to Jodi's website and additional resources Link to Dr. Berger's website and his book 12 Insights for Emotional Sobriety Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.
This is a special tribute episode to the work of Pia Mellody who passed away May 7th at the age of 82. Pia was a pioneer in the field of trauma and addiction recovery; she developed a groundbreaking model of treatment, and authored several books including Facing Love Addiction and Facing Codependence. Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Link to Jodi's website and additional resources Links to Facing Codependence, Facing Love Addiction and The Intimacy Factor by Pia Mellody Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.
In this powerful follow-up to our discussion on big “T” trauma, we dive deeper into how all trauma—big and small—shapes the automatic behaviors that can strain your marriage. From lying to stonewalling, these “stances” stem from your adaptive child, a part of you formed in childhood. Through heartfelt stories and practical steps, we explore how to identify these patterns, heal your inner child, and choose wiser responses to reclaim your relationship. Join Robert and Sharla for an honest, hope-filled conversation about breaking free from the past.SummaryRelationships aren't just about communication or date nights—the real work is growing beyond your automatic reactions. In this episode, we unpack how childhood trauma creates your relational “stance,” an instinctive response like fighting, fleeing, or fixing that shows up when stress hits. We share the story of Dan, whose evasiveness nearly cost him his marriage, and Jessica, whose stonewalling left her husband feeling disconnected. Drawing on insights from therapists like Terry Real and Pia Mellody, we explain how the “adaptive child” forms and how to spot it in yourself. Most importantly, we offer a compassionate, practical path to pause, reflect, and choose responses that prioritize love over survival. If you missed Part 1, go back and listen to our discussion on big “T” trauma—it sets the stage for this episode!Key TakeawaysYour Stance is Your Adaptive Child: Your knee-jerk reactions in marriage—like lying, shutting down, or people-pleasing—are coping strategies from childhood trauma, big or small. They helped you survive then but can hurt your relationship now.Trauma Isn't Always Big: “Little t” traumas, like being told your emotions were too much or lacking emotional guidance, wire your nervous system and show up as automatic behaviors in adulthood.Spot the Signs: You're in your adaptive child when you get rigid, harsh, or lose empathy. In your wise mind, you're curious, flexible, and compassionate—qualities that strengthen your marriage.Heal with Compassion: Don't indulge or shame your inner child. Instead, have a loving conversation: forgive them, apologize for their pain, and commit to protecting your partner.Choose Wisely: Pause before reacting. Wait for your “second consciousness” to choose a response that puts your relationship first, like Dan's honest “I forgot” moment.It's a Daily Practice: Reclaiming your marriage means identifying your stance, pausing, and choosing love moment by moment. With practice, you can shift from “me” to “we.”Dive DeeperResources Mentioned:Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real – The book featuring Dan and Julia's story, offering insights on relational healing.Pia Mellody's work on the “adaptive child” – Explore her books like Facing Codependence for a deeper understanding of how childhood shapes adult behaviors.Suggested Resources:The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – A must-read for understanding how trauma affects the nervous system and relationships.Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson – A practical guide to building emotional connection in your marriage.Journal Prompt: Reflect on your relational stance. Ask honestly, “What do I do when I'm triggered? What is my relational stance?”Get Coaching: Consider working with coach or therapist with experience dealing with trauma, or reach out to us for personalized coaching (see Connect with Us below).Connect with UsWe're here to support you in building a stronger, healthier marriage. If this episode resonated and you'd like help breaking free from old...
Ever wonder why you snap or shut down with the person you love most? In this powerful episode, hosts Robert and Sharla Snow kick off a multi-part series exploring how trauma—big or small—shapes our closest relationships. Through the lens of brain science and a moving client story, they unpack how unhealed wounds from the past can “hijack” your marriage, driving conflict or disconnection. Using Dr. Dan Siegel's hand model of the brain, Terry Real's wise adult vs. triggered self framework, and Pia Mellody's concept of the adaptive child, they reveal why we “flip our lid” and how trauma fuels those moments. The episode centers on Ethan and Lilly, a couple whose 25-year marriage was transformed when Lilly faced her childhood trauma with courage. This is a story of healing, hope, and rediscovering the US in your relationship. Tune in to learn how to spot your own triggers and start bringing your wise adult self back to your marriage.Key Takeaways Trauma's Lasting Impact: Big “T” trauma (like abuse) or small “t” trauma (subtler wounds) can make it harder to stay emotionally regulated, causing you to “flip your lid” and react from a triggered, younger self rather than your wise adult self. Flipping Your Lid: When stress or conflict overwhelms your upstairs brain (prefrontal cortex), your downstairs brain (limbic system) takes over, shifting you from an *us* consciousness to a *me* vs. *you* mindset, disrupting connection with your partner. The Adaptive Child: As Pia Mellody explains, the adaptive child is a coping mechanism formed in childhood to protect you from pain. While lifesaving then, it can become maladaptive in adult relationships, as seen in Lilly's anger-driven reactions to Ethan. Healing Is Possible: By naming and addressing trauma (e.g., through techniques like Time Line Therapy and inner child work), you can shift from reactive patterns to relational, wise adult responses, as Ethan and Lilly did through vulnerability and mutual understanding. Ask the Key Question: Inspired by Terry Real, ask yourself, “Which version of me is showing up?” Recognizing when your triggered self is in charge is the first step to choosing connection over conflict. Coming Up: Next week, we'll explore small “t” trauma—quieter wounds that still shape how you love and fight—and share tips to spot your adaptive child and bring your wise self online.Dive Deeper: Resources Mentioned Want to explore the concepts and tools from this episode? Here are the experts and resources we referenced to help you deepen your understanding of trauma and relationships: 1. Dr. Dan Siegel – The Hand Model of the Brain The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are (3rd Edition, 2020) Dr. Siegel's accessible explanation of the brain, including the “flipping your lid” concept, helps you understand emotional regulation in relationships. Website: https://www.drdansiegel.com/Free resources, videos, and courses on the hand model and interpersonal neurobiology. Relevance: Used to explain how the prefrontal cortex (upstairs brain) and limbic system (downstairs brain) interact when trauma triggers emotional reactivity.2. Pia Mellody – The Adaptive Child Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives (2003, co-authored with Andrea Wells Miller and J. Keith Miller)Mellody's work on the adaptive child and childhood trauma's lasting effects shows how early coping mechanisms impact adult...
We live in a time of constant communication and short-form media, with unlimted data at our fingertips and an abundance of "experts" at the ready. While this access to information and opinions is functional at times, it can also feel overwhelming and lead to dysregulation, regression and dysfunctional behavior. So how do we handle this? In this episode, Jodi discusses the the importance of discernment and the power of pausing; why the symptoms of codependence and love addiction lead to undervaluing our instincts while overvaluing the opinions of others; and how pausing can reveal the most useful information of all. Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Link to Jodi's website and additional resources Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody Here's a very handy feelings wheel @ feelingswheel.com Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.
Overcoming Resentment: A Barrier to Connection and Healing In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, hosts Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive into the profound impact of resentment in relationships, particularly in the context of betrayal, trust, and healing. They explore how resentment stems from unmet expectations, unresolved hurts, and past wounds, and how it influences behavior and intimacy. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss the importance of self-reflection, emotional regulation, and honest communication in addressing resentment constructively. They also emphasize the role of attachment wounds in triggering resentment and how awareness of these wounds can help individuals process their emotions more effectively. The episode concludes with practical steps for recognizing and working through resentment, including self-reflection exercises, journaling, body awareness techniques, and healthy communication strategies. The hosts also announce a special discount for accessing the Human Intimacy Conference recordings, providing an opportunity to learn from top experts in the field. Key Resources Discussed: 1. 12-Step Support Groups (Step 10) – A daily practice for recognizing and addressing fear, anger, disappointment, and resentment. 2. Self-Reflection Questions for Processing Resentment: - Do I find myself feeling angry, upset, or irritated toward someone? - What specific event or experience triggered this resentment? - What belief or core wound is attached to this resentment? - Have I felt this way before in past relationships or childhood? - How can I communicate my feelings in a way that fosters healing rather than blame? 3. EMDR Emotional Float-Back Technique – A guided method to trace current emotional reactions to earlier life experiences, identifying core wounds. 4. Dr. Sue Johnson's Attachment Theory – Understanding how unmet attachment needs create resentment and relational disconnection. 5. Pia Mellody's Work on Trauma & Codependency – Exploring how resentment can keep individuals stuck in a victim mindset and how to shift to an empowered stance. 6. Healthy Communication Strategies – Differentiating between blame-driven resentment and honest, healing dialogue to create deeper understanding and emotional safety. 8. Human Intimacy Conference Recordings —Access to expert-led sessions on intimacy, betrayal healing, and relational repair, available at humanintimacy.com with the discount code: HIConference50 for 50% off—Available April 1st, 2025 This episode provides valuable insights and actionable tools to help listeners acknowledge, process, and communicate their resentment in a way that fosters growth and deeper intimacy.
Have you ever talked yourself out of doing something for yourself because you were more worried about how the people you care about would respond to what you wanted? That was a dynamic that I operated in for most of my life and one that I found myself in just last year. I wanted to share this experience with you guys in case you can relate as well as what I do to cope with it at the same time.I also shared from a book I read years ago that helped me uncover codependency in my life and what it suggested you can do to help with it.The title of the book is Facing Co-Dependency by Pia Mellody.I hope and pray ya'll get some value out of this Podcast today.Connect with me:https://linktr.ee/daily_encouragement_ashleyRumble Account: https://rumble.com/user/AshleyCampbellFacebook Page:https://www.facebook.com/dailyencouragementwithashleycampbell/Want to purchase a signed copy of mybook?https://buy.stripe.com/7sI8xdg6F2kZgSIfZ6ORRead the reviews on Amazon? https://a.co/d/gwyks9gWant to send me a financial donationbecause you value what I am doing on social media?https://buy.stripe.com/eVacNt3jTbVz9qg4gkWant to join my Facebook group thatwill equip you with the knowledge of the History of the United States, what the Constitution means and how you can preserve this great nation we live in?Join my paid group today! For only $10a month, you will have access to classes that will help you have the knowledge you need to save America!Group Link:https://www.facebook.com/share/RA7FqCx95Lbv5gWv/Group Payment link:https://buy.stripe.com/cN24gX07H4t70TKcMVPodcast links:Apple/I tunes:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/daily-encouragement-with-ashley-campbell/id1625607569Amazon Music:https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/4d32a7f2-1e3e-4045-aa13-2b77784c71d1/daily-encouragement-with-ashley-campbellCastbox:https://castbox.fm/channel/Daily-Encouragement-with-Ashley-Campbell-id2418738?utm_source=website&utm_medium=dlink&utm_campaign=web_share&utm_content=Daily%20Encouragement%20with%20Ashley%20Campbell-CastBox_FMiHeartRadiohttps://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-daily-encouragement-with-a-112334720/Overcast:https://overcast.fm/itunes1483675322/daily-encouragement-with-ashley-campbellPocket Casts:https://pca.st/pg7od55vRadio Public:https://radiopublic.com/daily-encouragement-with-ashley-c-WozzzRWant to sponsor the Podcast?https://buy.stripe.com/9AQbJpdYx8JnfOEfZ8Choose your amount to Sponsor the Podcast:https://donate.stripe.com/14k4gXg6F9Nr31SdR1
Čeprav smo ljudje odnosna bitja in na nek način zato tudi soodvisni, so soodvisni odnosi kot nezdrav vzorec odnosov pogostejši kot si morda mislite ali pa upate priznati. Pia Mellody, ena vodilnih mednarodno priznanih strokovnjakinj za otroško travmo, soodvisnost in zasvojenost, članica priznane fakultete The Meadows Institute, v svoji knjigi, svetovni uspešnici Facing codependence (Soočanje s soodvisnostjo; slovenski prevod je izšel pri založbi Primus), soodvisnost opredeljuje kot motnjo oziroma bolezen nezrelosti, ki nastane zaradi travmatičnih odnosov v otroštvu. Zaradi disfunkcionalnih izkušenj v otroštvu soodvisen odrasli ni sposoben živeti polnega in smiselnega življenja kot zrela osebnost. V knjigi se avtorica osredotoča na pet simptomov, ki tvorijo jedro te bolezni, med katerimi so tudi težave s postavljanjem meja, ki pa so hkrati tudi najpomembnejše orodje za ozdravljenje. A kot pravi Mellodyjeva, kje se vse začne - "če ne sprejmete, kar je v vas disfunkcionalnega, ste obsojeni, da boste to ponavljali in vas bo bolelo še naprej". O vzrokih, simptomih soodvisnih odnosov ter pogumu za soočenje s svojo lastno stvarnostjo, ki je lahko tudi pot v osebno svobodo, se je avtorica in voditeljica oddaje pogovarjala s Špelo Gornik, partnersko in spolno terapevtko.
Dr Neecie Moore Dr. Neecie has a rich history of leadership in businesses that make a difference. She has owned and operated inpatient and outpatient treatment centers; mentored start-up high tech companies; researched alternative and complimentary nutritional solutions; and consulted with the only company with a viable fuel cell technology in massive production. As an experienced and respected results-oriented trainer, she has trained coaches, wellness advocates and businesses all over the world. Dr. Neecie not only speaks authoritatively on Life / Trauma Coaching, but she is also an extraordinary trainer and motivator. She has the rare ability to connect on a deep level with an audience immediately and can take a room full of diverse opinions and meld those opinions into a solid course of action. Her warmth and humor make learning an entertaining experience. She earned her PhD in psychology as a marriage and family therapist, specializing in addiction and trauma recovery. Master Coaching Institute was born out of Dr. Neecie's desire to assist people of all ages, marriages, families, and businesses to discover and excel at their purpose and mission. She has been honored with countless awards (such as Outstanding Women of American, America's Outstanding Names and Faces, Giving Heart Award, The President's List, The Human Service Provider of the Year), and has been recognized and certified by great leaders in her field (such as Dr. Patricia Love, Dr. Harville Hendrix, Pia Mellody, Tony Robbins, Dr. John Bradshaw). In her typical fashion, while she smiles at and is grateful for such awards, she is most honored by her opportunity to personally touch the children at the base of Mt. Kilimanjaro (and follow up with a project that got nutritional supplements to the village struggling with HIV). Or the privilege of serving individuals and families struggling with “hurts, habits and hang ups” through her Marriage & Addictions program. Dr. Neecie's purpose of emanating the healing power of love and healing is evidenced by her dedication to those in need of recovery from trauma. Her dedication to training and certifying Life / Trauma Coaches is part of her desire to see “no one who has experienced trauma to be left behind without the healing they deserve.” She has trained thousands of Coaches over the past 25 years. She is also a high-level health and wellness author of nine best-selling books (in her niche market). As a world-traveled lecturer, radio and television personality, business executive and consultant, professional Christian singer, interpreter for the deaf … Dr. Neecie demonstrates the power of living life with purpose and with great passion! Link to Show Notes on Website https://fabulouslyketo.com/podcast/231. Dr Neecie’s Books What’s A Nice Person Like Me Doing In A Body Like This? Bountiful Health, Boundless Energy, Brilliant Youth The Miracle in Aloe Vera The Missing Link: The Facts about Glyconutrients Designing Your Life with Designer Foods: The Facts about Phytonutrients A Long and Healthy Life: The facts about High Level Wellness Dr Neecie’s Top Tips Never settle for less than you desire and you deserve. Eat to live a long, long time. Keep your mind sharp – learn something new every day. There is something in you that will make a difference to the world. Resources Mentioned Dr Neecie mentioned my private group Connect with Dr Neecie Moore on social media Facebook Profile: https://www.facebook.com/drneecie/ Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/DrNeecieMoore/ Website Details: https://www.drneecie.com The Fabulously Keto Diet & Lifestyle Journal: A 12-week journal to support new habits – Jackie Fletcher If you have enjoyed listening to this episode – Leave us a review By leaving us a review on your favourite podcast platform, you help us to be found by others. Support Jackie Help Jackie make more episodes by supporting her. If you wish to support her we have various options from one off donations to becoming a Super Fabulously Keto Podcast Supporter with coaching and support. Check out this page for lots of different ways to support the podcast. https://fabulouslyketo.com/support Or You can find us on Patreon: https://www.patreon. com/FabulouslyKeto Connect with us on social media https://www.facebook.com/FabulouslyKeto https://www.instagram.com/FabulouslyKeto1 https://twitter.com/FabulouslyKeto Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/FabulouslyKeto Music by Bob Collum Recommend a guest We would love to know if you have a favourite guest you would like us to interview. Let us know who you would like to hear of if you have a particular topic you would like us to cover. https://fabulouslyketo.com/recommend-a-guest We sometimes get a small commission on some of the links, this goes towards the costs of producing the podcast.
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2476: Lisa Merlo-Booth explains how boundaries protect our well-being, help us avoid taking on others' negativity, and allow us to receive constructive feedback without defensiveness. By learning to distinguish between what truly matters and what isn't ours to carry, we can create more fulfilling and respectful connections. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://lisamerlobooth.com/boundaries_in_r/ Quotes to ponder: "Boundaries are a system of protection. They are meant to protect us as well as those around us." "If your partner comes home in a bad mood and is snapping at everyone in the home, then they are having a bad day, keep your boundaries up, and don't allow their bad day to become your bad day." "For now, remember that you don't want to keep everything out because that would be a wall, not a boundary. Nor do you want to let everything in because that would be boundary-less." Episode references: Boundaries (Where You End and I Begin) by Anne Katherine, M.A.: https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Where-You-Begin-Katherine/dp/0671791931 The Intimacy Factor by Pia Mellody: https://www.amazon.com/Intimacy-Factor-Recovery-Relationships/dp/0060095806 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Join us in this episode as podcast listener Camilla shares her experience, strength & hope as a person in recovery whose brother was incarcerated for sex addiction. Links mentioned in this episode: SAA Prisoner Outreach Program: https://saa-recovery.org/diversity/prisoners/ What is EMDR? https://www.emdria.org/about-emdr-therapy/ The work of Pia Mellody - https://www.leslierawlings.net/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Five-Core-Practices.pdf Centering Prayer: https://cp12stepoutreach.org/ YouTube Links to music in this episode (used for educational purposes): David Bowie - Space Oddity (1969): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tRMZ_5WYmCg David Bowie - Space Oddity (1973): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYYRH4apXDo David Bowie - Lazarus: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y-JqH1M4Ya8 David Bowie & Trent Reznor - I'm Afraid of Americans: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LT3cERVRoQo David Bowie & NIN - Hurt: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fhhEHuChFck Nine Inch Nails - Hurt: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ty-bLdf8Bsw Johnny Cash - Hurt: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8AHCfZTRGiI Johnny Cash - I Came To Believe (2002): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xPB92auG30s Johnny Cash - I Came To Believe (1984): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aTliWmqXkl4 Be sure to reach us via email: feedback@sexaddictsrecoverypod.com If you are comfortable and interested in being a guest or panelist, please feel free to contact me. jason@sexaddictsrecoverypod.com SARPodcast YouTube Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLn0dcZg-Ou7giI4YkXGXsBWDHJgtymw9q To find meetings in the San Francisco Bay Area, be sure to visit: https://www.bayareasaa.org/meetings To find meetings in the your local area or online, be sure to visit the main SAA website: https://saa-recovery.org/meetings/ The content of this podcast has not been approved by and may not reflect the opinions or policies of the ISO of SAA, Inc.
¿Estás en una relación y no sabes si quedarte o irte? ¿No tienes claro si esto que sientes es amor o dependencia? Si has respondido afirmativamente a una o ambas preguntas, este episodio es para ti. En el episodio te hablo de cuáles son las señales de que estás en una relación de dependencia, cuáles pueden ser las causas que te han llevado ahí, y también 3 estrategias para salir de esa cárcel. Aquí tienes el enlace a un audio con dos ejercicios para retomar las riendas de tu vida: https://www.lasclavesdesol.com/audiotraining-gratuito/?source=spotify Inscríbete aquí en la charla: "El éxito no se mide por las notas o por lo que estudias: descubre cómo redefinirlo" Aquí tienes el Instagram de Nuria Mestre, @num.studio, con sus talleres de cerámica y sus piezas maravillosas. Este es el libro de Pia Mellody sobre la codependencia, a mí me cambió la vida. Aquí tienes mi libro “Apréndete” tanto en versión papel como en audiolibro. Puedes suscribirte a mi membresía “Té con Sol” aquí: https://www.lasclavesdesol.com/te-con-sol/ Me encuentras en @lasclavesdesol y en lasclavesdesol.com
New Song: "Together Again" #Kolisha YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ESSraPI2vJA Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/2pFt5drG98vA3iSZz1JVdL?si=5b323f0d276c45fa Message Franciska to share how a specific episode has impacted YOU. franciskakay@gmail.com Healing from Narcissistic Parental Wounds: Perspectives and Practical Advice In this episode, host Franciska has an enlightening conversation with therapist Esther Moskovitz on navigating relationships with narcissistic parents and healing from relational trauma. They discuss the broad spectrum of narcissism, from flamboyant extroverts to psychosomatic narcissists, and its significant impact on parenting and children's sense of self. Key topics include recognizing parental double standards, setting personal boundaries, and the importance of supportive religious leaders within specific cultural contexts. The episode offers practical advice on healing, including dance therapy, journaling, and selecting the right literature and therapist. Esther also emphasizes understanding narcissistic parents as flawed individuals while maintaining self-identity and autonomy. About Our Guest: Esther Moskovitz, LCSW, from Monsey, NY, specializes in addressing relational trauma and narcissistic wounding. Empowering her clients to heal emotional wounds and rebuild their connection with themselves and others with kindness, compassion, and boundaries, Esther has recently discovered the transformative power of dance and somatic work, recognizing their pivotal role in restoring wholeness and a healthy sense of self. ReclaimingYourself.net and RhythmicReflections.net Resources: Dr. Karyl McBride's website: https://willieverbegoodenough.com/ She offers self-paced on-line workshops, and in-person intensives. She also has 3 books Will the Drama Ever End? Untangling and Healing from the Harmful Effects of Parental Narcissism Will I Ever Be Free of You? How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist, and Heal Your Family Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers Books Gifts From A Challenging Childhood: Creating A Practice for Becoming Your Healthiest Self by Jan Bergstrom LMHC Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody , Andrea Wells Miller , et al. Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson Article https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/202010/understanding-narcissistic-injury Check out www.JewishCoffeeHouse.com for more Jewish Podcasts on our network.
I think you are going to love this conversation I had with Dr. Eva Brown and her husband Paul. This was Part 2 of my conversation with Eva, and having her husband Paul on the podcast to provide his insight, his perspective and his wisdom was fantastic. We covered so many topics, pertinent to the issues that couples face, no matter what stage they are in their relationship. We talk about communication, about trauma bonds and how they affect us in our relationships. We talk about anger, vulnerability, honesty and what it means to hold space for your partner. We all should be listening to this episode, and there is truly something in it for everyone. It was enlightening and fun and inspiring all at the same time. Take a listen! Interested in learning more about Dr. Brown's approach? Take this quiz & discover where to begin your growth journey together: Sign up for the Sacred Partners Blog Community: Watch Dr. Eva's “5 Stages to Conscious Relationship Mapping” mini-course to get familiar with the process: Learn more about Sacred Life Partners 90 Day Program & membership. Get 30% off the membership here. Learn more about Eva and her work. The 3 books Eva recommends: What Makes Love Last by Dr. John Gottman and Nan Silver The Intimacy Factor by Pia Mellody and Lawrence S. Freundlich Creating Union by Eva Pierrakos and Judith Saly P.S. This week grab our 30-Day Rebel Reset: A Medical Medium Inspired Meal Plan! We've taken everything I've learned from the Medical Medium and created 30 days' worth of meals so you can adjust your diet and reap the benefits. This is something we are starting to use with our clients, and we'd hate for you to miss out. It's 20% off this week - a perfect way to reset during back to school season.
Send us a Text Message.In this solo episode, we're diving into a topic that hits close to home for so many of us—codependency. This isn't just a personal issue; it can sneak into our businesses and wreak havoc on our success and fulfillment. But don't worry, we're going to unpack it together!Here's what you'll learn in this episode:- Understanding Codependency: What it really means and how it can show up in our lives and businesses. Spoiler alert—it's not just about people-pleasing! - Signs of Codependency: From overcommitment and burnout to difficulty setting boundaries, I share some telltale signs that you might be dealing with codependency in your business.- Why It Matters: Codependency isn't just draining—it's a confidence killer. We'll talk about how it eats away at your self-worth and why breaking free from it is so crucial for your success.- Practical Tips to Heal: I'm sharing some of my favorite strategies to start overcoming codependent behaviors, like setting healthy boundaries, practicing daily affirmations, and learning to celebrate your achievements.- Personal Reflections: As someone who's been there, I'm opening up about my journey with codependency and how it impacted my life and business. Plus, I'll share some tips on how to spot and stop these behaviors before they take over.Why You Should Listen:This episode is a must-listen if you've ever felt like you're constantly over-giving, struggling to say no, or relying too much on external validation. By the end, you'll have a better understanding of how codependency might be holding you back and what you can do to start healing and thriving in both your personal life and business.Links & Resources Mentioned:- Recommended Reading: Facing Codependency by Pia Mellody https://a.co/d/aSZ7ybG- Guest Mentioned: Bronwyn Schweigert's Podcast Episode on Codependency –https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-rqb68-150107e
We often think of recovery as something we start, and then everything gets better. But everyone's path to recovery is unique, and truth is that once we do get started, things might actually get harder before they get easier. In this epsiode, Jodi talks with another therapist in recovery, Heidi Kingston, regarding her personal experience with love addiction, the ups and downs of her own recovery journey, and what she's learned along the way. Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Jodi's website and link to the JOLA Network (online recovery community) Heidi's website Pia Mellody books referenced: Facing Love Addiction and Breaking Free The Meadows workshop referenced: Survivors Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.
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Hey all! Don't forget to sign up for my upcoming webinar on July 17th on 12:00pm- Dispelling Dieting Myths. Sign up right here: https://gilaglassberg.com/items/dispelling-diet-myths I am excited to re-air this episode with Sylky Resnicoff- all about Pia Mellody's work. The last episode I aired with Rachel Lebowitz- she actually referenced this when speaking about her work with codependency. So go and give it a listen! Don't forget to like and share this episode! It really helps me continue to make this podcast possible! In today's episode, I spoke with Sylky Resnicoff. Sylky is a certified family life coach and specializes in relational trauma. She has extensively studied Pia Mellody's work, who is an expert in codependency, now called developmental immaturity. Pia Mellody believes that we are all born whole, as experts about ourselves, but as life goes on we lose this confidence in ourselves. If we're not given what we need in childhood, our growth can get stunted. She also helps women whose husbands are struggling with pornography addiction. She offers support groups, consultations and educational lectures because it's traumatic to discover your husband has an addiction like this. There is a lot of shame involved. Sylky empowers women to educate themselves and see that they have choice instead of feeling helpless. Sylky became a family life coach and thought it was fascinating. She thought she could reinvent herself with everything she had learned but began to realize that this wasn't enough. She needed to go to the parts of her that were broken. Sylky learned that you're only as strong as your foundation is deep and she realized she was lacking in her own foundation. She was learning a lot about healing, yet she felt a void that wasn't getting filled. She hit rock bottom at a certain point and a therapist introduced her to Pia Mellody's work. Pia's work comes with a lot of training so Sylky went and did an intensive workshop. For the first time, she really got her family history straight; what she needs, what her children need and what her role in the family really was. Mellody teaches that anything less than nurturing is abusive to the child whether it's overt abuse or covert abuse. You may not realize abuse walking into someone's house. The parents may be very well respected but emotionally there may be neglect or harm done. Most people are not trying to hurt their children on purpose. For example, using the silent treatment can make a child feel like he doesn't exist, so this can be a form of abuse for a child. This may affect a child later on in life. There are so many people who think that they are made wrong while in reality there's nothing wrong with me but with the messages I was given as a child. We work through this our entire lives. When many parents learn about this they get nervous that they're making mistakes and covertly abusing their kids. However, when parents act in a genuine fashion and are good role models for their kids, their kids will see this. Your children just need to build up a good image of you. Pia's work is all about being human but being able to grow and change. If we nurture our inner child, parenting will become a much more natural process. Parents nowadays need more guidance. Every person who works on themselves knows that parenting is about growing yourself as a person. You can do certain things to help remind you who you want to be, like checking in on your kids everyday, but it's also about doing your own work. When we do our own work we relate to our marriage differently, we are more open to have harder conversations, we can own up to things and we'll have more strength to hear our children without taking things personally. (See the full blog post on my website www.gilaglassberg.com) To see more episodes like this visit my website www.gilaglassberg.com. Email me at gila@gilaglassberg.com for comments, questions and concerns or if you'd like to recommend someone for the pod!
A brilliant guy to understanding codependence, it reflects over 15 years of research and clinical work at the Meadows treatment center Pia Mellody is an internationally recognized authority on child, trauma, codependence, and addiction. This is my take on her work.
¿Te gustaría conocer una herramienta que te proporciona claridad mental, disminuye tus niveles de estrés y ansiedad y te ayuda a conocerte mejor para así tomar mejores decisiones? Si has respondido afirmativamente a esta pregunta, este episodio es para ti. En este episodio comparto contigo cómo el incorporar la escritura a mi vida me ha sanado, me ha calmado y me ha convertido en la persona que soy actualmente. Hasta el 17 de mayo puedes reservar tu plaza en mi formación “Escribe para aprenderte”, en la que compartiré contigo herramientas prácticas para implementar el hábito de escribir ¿Para qué? Para pasar del caos a la claridad mental, para encontrar soluciones, para conocerte mejor y tomar decisiones alineadas con lo que es realmente importante para ti. Tienes toda la información en este enlace: https://www.lasclavesdesol.com/escribe-para-aprenderte/ Hablo del libro “La codependencia” de Pia Mellody y del podcast “Huberman Lab”. Te remito al episodio 29: lo encuentras aquí https://open.spotify.com/episode/0Hn0kvvpUVzsfas4ndqVGK?si=b5c75456dfea4606 El reto de escritura del que te hablo, en el que comparto cada día un breve ejercicio para ayudarte a implementar el hábito de escribir y de hacerte preguntas poderosas lo encuentas en mi membresía “Té con Sol”, aquí tienes toda la información: https://www.lasclavesdesol.com/te-con-sol/ Si quieres descargar el audio en el que comparto contigo dos ejercicios prácticos para retomar las riendas de tu vida, solo tienes que hacer click en este enlace: https://www.lasclavesdesol.com/audiotraining-gratuito/ Si quieres recibir todos los sábados mi Newsletter “Tres Minutos” y estar al tanto de novedades y formaciones, haz click aquí. Me encuentras en Instagram, soy @lasclavesdesol Mi web es lasclavesdesol.com
For the past decade or more Bob Falconer has devoted himself full-time to IFS work (Internal Family Systems Therapy). In that time he has attended all levels of IFS training offered, and has been a program assistant more than 18 times.Bob has been at many workshops and events with Richard Schwartz both as assistant and participant. In addition to studying with many of the other senior IFS trainers, He also co-authored a book with Richard Schwartz entitled, Many Minds, One Self. For all of his therapeutic work, both professional and personal, Bob now uses IFS almost exclusively.Before this Bob used and explored many forms of therapy, starting with Ericksonian hypnotherapy which he studied with Carol Erickson. He received his master's degree and hypnotherapist certificate under her tutelage. Then he met and began studying with Jack and Helen Watkins, the creators of Ego State Therapy.Before beginning his graduate work, starting in 1971, Bob was involved with the Esalen Institute where he has attended more than 120 events and workshops. At Esalen Bob met and worked with many of the leaders of the human potential movement and focused on Gestalt Therapy mainly with Mariah Fenton Gladys and Christine Price. In the 80s and 90s Bob also studied codependency and addictions with Pia Mellody.His upcoming workshop will be on The Proposed Marriage of NVC & IFS which kicks off Friday May 24th at 10am PDThttps://robertfalconer.us/workshops/#nvcDon't forget to pick up a copy of his latest book, you won't regret it.When You're Going Through Hell ...Keep Going: Trauma, Healing, Spirit, and Internal Family Systems (Apr 2, 2024)https://amz.run/98NoThe Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind, and Spirit Possession (Apr 2, 2023)https://amz.run/98NnMany Minds, One Self: Evidence for a Radical Shift in Paradigm (Jan 1, 2017)https://amz.run/98NvIdentifying and Treating Youth Who Sexually Offend: Current Approaches, Techniques, and Research (Jan 2013)https://bityl.co/PUJAIdentifying and treating sex offenders: Current approaches, research, and techniques (Jan 2013)https://bityl.co/PUJBAdult Sexual Offenders: Current Issues and Future Directions (Feb 2003)https://bityl.co/PUJDA Man's Recovery from Traumatic Childhood Abuse: The Insiders (Mar 19, 2002)https://amz.run/98O2The Cost of Child Maltreatment: Who Pays? (2001)https://bityl.co/PUJaTrauma, Amnesia, and the Denial of Abuse (Jan 1, 1995)https://amz.run/98NwListen to our first conversation #106 Robert Falconer - Feb 26, 2023https://bityl.co/PUKC--Get in touch by sending a message to robinsmithshow@gmail.com or by calling the hotline at +1 (301) 458-0883Listeners of The Robin Smith Show can now become a supporter on Patreonpatreon.com/therobinsmithshowJoin Team Robley on Kiva and help expand financial access to underserved communities
Terry Real is a family therapist and author. He's the founder of the Relational Life Institute, which offers Relational Life Therapy (RLT) courses online and in-person workshops for couples, individuals, parents, and professionals. He is the author of I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner 1998), How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Gap Between Men and Women (Simon & Schuster 2002), The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work (Ballantine Books 2008) and Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (Rodale Books 2022)Interview Date: 2/14/2024 Tags: Terry Real, marriage, relationship, James Framo, couples therapy, adaptive child, maladapted child, wise adult, Pia Mellody, self esteem, Relational Life Therapy, RLT, provocative distance taking, responsible distance taking, patriarchy, serenity prayer, personal biosphere, Relationship, Psychology, Personal Transformation
Love addiction comes with a set of symptoms, leading to a pattern of dysfunctional relationships; whether we tend to be more anxious or more avoidant (or both), we may find ourselves in the push/pull of addictive relationships more than once. Then, after each relationship we say "I'll never do that again", fully intending to make some changes, but... Even if we enter love addiction recovery and address the symptoms, we may still find that we're unknowingly driven by outdated messages telling us who we're supposed to be and how we're supposed to live our lives. Why? Because of inherited cultural beliefs that infiltrate our decision-making. In this episode, Jodi discusses these cultural beliefs--how they fuel love addiction, and can meddle with life in recovery, too. She also reviews the symptoms of codependence and love addiction, and talks about the impact that seemingly benign labels can have on kids. Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Jodi's website: jodiwhiteonline.com References: Facing Codependence and Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody; Ready to Heal by Kelly McDaniel Album mentioned: Just a Girl by No Doubt Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.
The term 'love addiction' is often referred to in the context of romantic relationships, but did you know that the symptoms can apply to platonic relationships, too? In this episode, Jodi talks about her history with undervaluing herself in friendships and overlooking red flags in order to belong and be the "best friend". She's joined by her friend Brooke (from "A Breakup Story"), to discuss the complexity of female friendships past and present. Show notes and resources: Music by JD Pendley Jodi's website: jodiwhiteonline.com NYT article: What To Do If A Friend Ghosts You by Catherine Pearson Books referenced: Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody and Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel Disclaimer: This podcast is shared for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for mental health treatment with a licensed mental health professional or to be used in place of the advice of a physician. If you are struggling please don't delay in seeking the assistance of a licensed mental health practitioner or healthcare professional. If you're in crisis please visit NAMI.org or call 1-800-273-TALK for 24-hour assistance.
Join us in this eye-opening episode with Michelle Mays, author of The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Hurts You the Worst, as we explore the impact of disrupted personal relationships on our well-being. Michelle emphasizes the pivotal role of connection as a key factor in healing, shedding light on how a lack of it can strain relationships and negatively affect mental and emotional health.Unpacking the intricate link between disrupted relationships and heightened stress levels, she provides actionable insights into recognizing signs of strain and offers practical steps to address these issues. Discover how healthy, supportive relationships play a crucial role in promoting overall wellness, gaining valuable guidance to foster positive connections and transform your holistic well-being. Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in both Virginia and Washington DC, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor. She was trained by Pia Mellody in the Post Induction Therapy model for treating developmental trauma and is currently completing her PhD in Clinical Sexology and certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples.She is a member of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health, the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals, the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, the American Counseling Association, and the Northern Virginia Licensed Professional Counselors Association.In the Adjusted Reality podcast, well-known athletes, celebrities, actors, chiropractors, influencers in the wellness industry, and other podcasters will talk with host Dr. Sherry McAllister, president, F4CP, about their experiences with health and wellness. As a special gift for listening today visit f4cp.org/health to get a copy of our mind, body, spirit eBook which focuses on many ways to optimize your health and the ones you love without the use of drugs or surgery. Follow Adjusted Reality on Instagram. Find A Doctor of Chiropractic Near You.Donate to Support the Chiropractic Profession Through Education.
Tricia Youngs is a therapist & life coach. Tricia has trained with the world's experts in trauma and addiction such as Pia Mellody, Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD., Francine Shapiro, PhD., Deborah Korn, PhD., Patrick Carnes, PhD. Gabor Mate, MD and Richard Schwartz, PhD. In her private practice, The Path to Healing, she treats individuals, groups, couples, and families as well as facilitating The Path to Healing Trauma RecoveryWorkshop. Through her company, InStill Hope, she delivers training and coaching services. She is a highly sought-after public speaker and expert on the subjects of trauma recovery, interpersonal dynamics, and substance abuse. The Good Counsel Podcast is an exploration into the world of helping professionals from various disciplines and walks of life. The goal of the podcast is to discover the motivations and methodologies of these unique individuals in order to satisfy and arouse curiosity among members of the public who have an interest in this area of discussion. The intention of the Podcast is to incorporate a definition of ‘helping professional' that is diverse. Good Counsel Podcast interviewees will include Psychotherapists, Medical Professionals, Life Coaches, Interventionists, Spiritual Healers, Substance Use Disorder Treatment Professionals and Educators amongst others, in order to capture a broad range of disciplines. My hope is to increase awareness and reduce stigma among the general public around mental health issues, substance use disorders and related problems while exposing people to the abundance and variety of help that is available to them. © Copyright 2023, Produced by Eric Bricker; Theme music composed and performed by Eric Bricker.
drjuliabritz.comhttps://www.instagram.com/drjuliabritz/__________Check out Citrine: My favorite, one-stop-shop for all things low-tox skincare and beauty. Save 10% by using code: ashleytaylorwellness (all brands except TheraBody, Vintner's Daughter, and Kypris) Click hereAyuna Plasma MaskAyuna Essence - The Gommage maskEye Serum (super hydrating)Creme 3 (super moisturizing)__________1:30 - What does Codependency look like?3:24 - Felt like ‘Beauty & The Beast'3:50 - Dr. Julia's story of a man who said “Ive just never found the right one” and thought “that could be me”5:00 - Pia Mellody 5:30 - Ashley's couples therapy story6:10 - How a stable relationship could feel boring6:30 - Chaotic OR Controlling7:20 - Believing parents are Lying to you8:22 - “You complete me”10:50 - What does trust actually mean?13:00 - Space boundaries13:20 - Intimacy & codependcy go strongly hand in hand13:40 - Willingness to suffer14:10 - Do codependent people date each other?14:30 - Definition of passion is suffering!15:00 - Opposites tend to attract15:40 - Narcissism17:40 - You will try to find the person who fills your childhood wound18:20 - A lot of people will not see that they are the common denominator23:55 - Addiction & Love & Glutamate27:20 - Sex addiction & escape34:35 - Love bombing35:53 - Feeling safe to be yourself & not having to worry that someone will leave36:16 - When you feel like a relationship is going too slow, you're going at the right pace37:45 - Trust your timing and take your time38:09 - Set up boundaries 41:50 - Thoughts on sharing location with your partner43:18 - Love & Chemistry compared to respect, compatibility & trust.43:30 - In Greek there are 5 words for love!48:20 - Asking friends for advice on your relationship49:55 - Your partner can hold a lot for you, but they shouldn't hold space for everything for you, that's where therapy comes in53:00 - Trauma bonding 54:21 - Enmeshment 57:24 - “You Can Heal Your Life” By Louise Hay1:04:03 - “Women Who Love Too Much” By Robin Norwood1:04:46 - “Letters From Women Who Love Too Much”Follow me on Instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/ashleytaylorwellness/https://www.instagram.com/highmaintenancehippiepodcast/Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://secure.gethealthie.com/appointments/embed_appt?dietitian_id=1270471&require_offering=true&offering_id=133465&hide_package_images=false
If you're a listener of the podcast, then you've heard Jodi talk about 'that therapist'--the one she worked with in 2016, who taught her about love addiction, supported her through withrawal, and played a vital role in her in early recovery. That therapist is Dr. Lara Dye, a Pia Mellody-trained psychologist specializing in love & sex addiction, limerence--and who has personal experience with love addiction recovery. And, because she was such an important part of Jodi's recovery journey, she invited Dr. Dye to talk with her for this episode of the podcast. Music by JD Pendley
Michelle Mays, author of The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst, joins me for an in-depth conversation about healing from betrayal. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is also the founder of the Center for Relational Recovery in Northern Virginia, outside of DC. “Divorce is common, and cheating is common. Because they are common, it doesn't mean they're not tremendously significant and have enormous ramifications for our mental and physical health,” says Michelle. During our conversation, we discuss the importance of understanding what happened, explore betrayal through the lens of attachment systems, and unravel what happens to us when we experience this enormous injury. Featured topics include: A new attachment-based model for understanding the impacts of cheating in relationships (8:58) Some of the binds in relationships that we can get stuck in including the shame bind and relational binds (12:01) What gets in the way of leaving when we want or know we need to leave (35:43) Healing and repairing relationships: what it means to stay, and what it takes to repair the fractures betrayal has caused (45:02) The difference between rebuilding emotional connection and rebuilding sexual connection (50:21) Learn more about Michelle Mays: Michelle Mays is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She's also the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. Michelle has created The Braving Hope™ Treatment Model to address the devastating dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Supervisor in Virginia and Washington DC, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Supervisor. She was trained by Pia Mellody in the Post Induction Therapy model for treating developmental trauma and is currently completing her PhD in Clinical Sexology and certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. Resources & Links: Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-234-healing-from-relationship-betrayal-with-michelle-mays/ Pre-order Kate's book “The D Word” Michelle's websiteMichelle's book, The Betrayal Bind Michelle on FacebookMichelle on InstagramMichelle on YouTube Facing Codependence, Pia Mellody Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.
In honor of Tu B'Av, a day in the Jewish calendar that is auspicious for matchmaking and relationship growth, we present to you this powerful conversation with Rabbi David Fredman. Rabbi David Fredman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who combines a unique blend of humor, kindness and insight to calm the most tense interactions that couples go through. Having serviced the community as a Rabbi for over a decade, David knows the ins and outs of love, loss and healing. David uses a blend of approaches including EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), Gottman, Brent Atkinson's PET-C, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) as well as the PIT (Post Induction Therapy) model developed by Pia Mellody. David is currently licensed in Missouri, New Jersey and Minnesota. He sees clients in person or via telehealth in Missouri and via telehealth only for New Jersey and Minnesota. In this episode we discuss the pitfalls of relationships and the habits of successful couples. We also discuss how to heal your inner child and what your handwriting may say about you. Please rate and review the Empowered Jewish Living podcast on whatever platform you stream it. Please follow Rabbi Shlomo Buxbaum and the Lev Experience on the following channels: Facebook: @shlomobuxbaum Instagram: @shlomobuxbaum YouTube: TheLevExperience Pick up a copy of Rabbi Shlomo Buxbaum's second book, "The Four Elements of Inner Freedom: The Exodus Story as a Model for Overcoming Challenges and Achieving Personal Breakthroughs". You can order a copy on Amazon, in your local Jewish bookstore, or right here: https://levx.org/event/the-four-elements-of-freedom
What can we do when were triggered by our partner?There's a quote by Pia Mellody, “Being a functional adult is taking care of our wounding, instead of letting it loose on others…” How do we do this? If we can, we will be better partners and parents. Jason A Polk is a couples therapist and relationship coach. He's worked with couples for over nine years.Click here to learn more about his couples counseling practice!
This week we're taking a deep dive into BOUNDARIES. What does it really mean to "have no boundaries" and what do we do with those people in our lives who make us crazy because they don't respect our boundaries? How do we set a boundary and, most importantly, what if our own boundaries need some work? Referenced in this episode: Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody
Kristy and Jerry take a deeper look at how self-esteem (yours!) remains at the core of a relationship's chances for success. The futility of trying to change your partner while not feeling good enough about yourself (or even knowing your own needs) is discussed, with special attention paid to each of the four quadrants conceptualized by Terry Real (and Pia Mellody) in Relational Life Therapy.
When we're enmeshed with a parent we might feel responsible for taking care of them emotionally, and guilty if we don't do what they expect of us. And while enmeshment is often uncomfortable, it may also come with feeling special and can be very challenging to recognize and overcome. In this episode, Jodi talks with Dr. Kenneth Adams, therapist and author of "When He's Married to Mom", about mother-enmeshed men: What is childhood like for them? What are their adult relationships like? And how to recover from enmeshment and have functional adult relationships (with both partners and parents). Music by JD Pendley
Are you familiar with the concept of assigned family roles--roles assigned in childhood that are either falsely empowering or disempowering? Maybe you've heard of The Hero, The Lost Child, or The Scapegoat? But what does all of this mean? In this episode, Jodi discusses The Hero and Lost Child, and how these roles contribute to love avoidance or addiction. And she talks with London-based coach, Mary Toolan, regarding the role known as the toxic family's dustbin: The Scapegoat. Music by JD Pendley
This week, I'm sitting down with Psychotherapist and Trauma/Addictions Specialist Diane Young, to discuss the impact of childhood trauma and how this often leads to the development of codependent traits in adulthood. Codependency is very similar to other process addictions such as gambling or eating disorders, and often develops as a result of experiencing trauma throughout childhood. In this week's episode, Diane explains the characteristics of a codependent along with outlining Pia Mellody's Developmental Model of Immaturity, which details the basic needs of a child and what happens when these needs are not met. To hear more from Diane you can find her here: Diane Young Website Diane's LinkedIn Diane's Instagram For more information about South Pacific Private you can head to the website here. To follow Ash on IG: @ashbutterss Read Ash's recent blog on Codependency here.
In love addiction recovery, we focus a lot on developmental trauma and what took place in our family of origin (because looking at our history is important). But there's something else that plays a role in love addiction: Cultural messaging. In this episode, Jodi's friend, Brooke, joins her to talk about the recent Victoria's Secret documentary; and how the company's marketing in the early 2000s led to confusing messages about beauty, and furthered the cultural double bind women experience. Jodi and Brooke also share personal experiences about sexual harassment, body insecurity, and how uncomfortable it is to talk about 'this stuff'. Music by JD Pendley
We had Darren Littlejohn on episode 176 two and half years ago to talk about his first book, The 12 Step Buddhist and he's back to talk about his latest work Compassionate Recovery: Mindful Healing for Trauma and Addictions. The importance and need for the work contained in the aforementioned book by my friend Darren cannot be understated. To paraphrase Darren and to attempt to encapsulate his latest work, compassion and mindfulness is in so many ways the direction, it is the journey, it is the result, it is the manifestation, it is the fruition of much of what we're trying to achieve in Recovery. Adverse Childhood Experiences, or ACES, trauma, and addiction cause emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual dysregulation that are very often well outside our window of tolerance. When this occurs, we resort to counterproductive thoughts and behaviors, that turn into patterns, that cause a negative feedback loop of deepening counterproductive behaviors. Addiction then, is on a spectrum and recovery too, is on a spectrum. Because addiction is progressive, so too must be our recovery. We must do the work, by identifying the wounds and applying the medicine so we can heal lest we experience unmanageable restlessness irritability and discontentedness or said another way dysregulation that can threaten emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual wellness and if left to continue to spiral downward can result in the ultimate consequence. The work and the medicine, in this case is self-compassion combined with mindfulness. Accept ourselves, connect with ourselves, be there for ourselves now and all times before this moment. When triggers come up, that threaten to be unmanageable the work is deploying tools and strategies to be there for ourselves with compassion and mindfulness. We can pause and choose to conjure self-compassion and mindfulness. Doing this work changes how we experience and respond to all situations in life in an increasingly manageable way that spirals up and raises our baseline and increasingly enables and strengthens our connection to ourselves, our spirituality and ultimately our connection to others which in a very visceral way is recovery personified. Reach out to Darren Littlejohn: https://www.compassionaterecovery.us/contact-us/ Learn more about Darren's new book, Compassionate Recovery: Mindful Healing for Trauma and Addictions: https://www.compassionaterecovery.us/ ACE Test: https://stopabusecampaign.org/take-your-ace-test/ Nadine Burke Harris - How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime Ted Talk https://www.ted.com/talks/nadine_burke_harris_how_childhood_trauma_affects_health_across_a_lifetime Recommended Recovery Literature (Quit-Lit): Feeding Your Demons: Ancient Wisdom for Resolving Inner Conflict by Tsultrim Allione: https://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Your-Demons-Resolving-Conflict/dp/0316013137 Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love by Pia Mellody: https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Love-Addiction-Giving-Yourself/dp/0062506048 Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw: https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Shame-Binds-Recovery-Classics/dp/0757303234 Darren's Best Recovery Advice: Abandon yourself to God as you understand God Song that symbolizes Recovery: Stairway to Heaven by Led Zeppelin https://youtu.be/xbhCPt6PZIU Don't forget to check out “The Way Out Playlist” available only on Spotify. Curated by all our wonderful guests on the podcast! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6HNQyyjlFBrDbOUADgw1Sz (c) 2015 - 2022 The Way Out Podcast | All Rights Reserved Theme Music: “all clear” (https://ketsa.uk/browse-music/) by Ketsa (https://ketsa.uk) licensed under CC BY-NC-ND 4.0 (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/the-way-out-podcast/message
There are books and podcasts about love addiction, and people talk on social media about it--but there aren't many movies that address the topic... That's why Charlene deGuzman's film, Unlovable, is so unique: She not only tells her story, but she calls love addiction what it is. In this episode Jodi talks with Charlene about her personal experience with love addiction and recovery, as well as what she's learned about herself and how recovery has changed her life. Music by JD Pendley
In this episode of the Landmark Recovery Podcast, Michael talks with Carmen Dominguez, a multidisciplinary psychotherapist and consultant. Carmen has been a psychotherapist and consultant for the past 30 years. She draws on her innate intuitive abilities as well as her traditional training to bring guidance and transformation to her clients. She is able to integrate Toltec wisdom and ancient healing principles to understand how the mind gets programmed into performing self-defeating thinking patterns and behaviors, and guides clients on the path of self-mastery. She also works collaboratively at times with talented colleagues to enhance her client's mental wellbeing. She understands that when the mind, body, and spirit are in harmony and alignment, her clients can reach their life goals. She has specialized in working with individuals, families, and couples who have experienced trauma, addictions, and an array of other mental health issues. She perceives a person's healing as a creative process that is best achieved when drawn from many modalities to support optimal wellness. Carmen has been an adjunct professor at Lesley university since 1999. She developed and continues to teach Treating the Addictions. She also regularly teaches Clinical Skills, Culture & Identity, and Children and Adolescent Psychopathology. Carmen completed an intensive family therapy training at the former Cambridge Family Institute. She is well-versed in Post Induction Therapy where she was instructed at The Meadows in Wickenburg, AZ by Pia Mellody, author of Facing Codependency and other books. Carmen was a supervisor of a SAMSA research project for the prevention of adolescent substance abuse. She has presented adolescent harm reduction research at Harvard University. Throughout her years in practice, she has developed and facilitated substance abuse programs throughout the Boston area and Niagara Falls, Ontario. Carmen has studied with astrology scholars and authors, Heather Ensworth, Ph.D. and Joseph Crane, M.A., and she offers natal chart readings when appropriate and indicated for greater personal insight. Carmen is also trained in compassion meditation for couples. She is a yoga teacher, reiki master, and facilitator of Dr. Sue Morter's The Energy Codes. She has facilitated Psychotherapeutic Reiki, Beyond 12 Step Recovery groups, and shamanic healing over the past several years. She combines ancient healing practices with contemporary research-based therapeutic techniques.
Love addiction gets messy. It's full of intensity, shame, and regression that leads us to behave regretfully--or as Jodi says, 'like a tornado of sticks and poo'. In this episode, Jodi celebrates six years in recovery by revisiting Pia Mellody's symptoms of love addiction; and by providing examples of how these symptoms looked for her during nearly three decades of addicted relationships. Music by JD Pendley
In the season finale, we are introduced to Rachel's husband, Grayson, as he navigates how to support his wife in her recovery work. Rachel learns that there is much more to codependency than she initially thought, and clinician Breanna Mylius explains how trauma impacts our brain. Finally, there is a surprise twist that even this host didn't see coming. Recovery Replay, powered by Meadows Behavioral Healthcare, was created and is written and produced by me Dominic Lawson. Special thanks to Rachel Margolis and her husband, Grayson. Also, special thanks to Breanna Mylius, clinical director at our flagship program here at Meadows Behavioral Healthcare. Please find out more about her work at https://www.themeadows.com. Also, special thanks to Chaplain Kevin Berkes, Director of Spiritual Services, and Pia Mellody, Senior Fellow, both here at Meadows Behavioral Healthcare. There are so many people responsible for bringing you this show. Cherie Carter, Vice President of Digital Marketing Aleah Johnson, Vice President of Alumni Outreach Digital Marketing Director Taylor Petty Senior Communications Director Wendy Lee Nutwig Bethany Kelly, our fantastic Graphic Designer creator of the cover art. Sr. Website & SEO Administrator Matthew King Video Production Specialist Hailey Storer Be sure to like, review, and subscribe to the Recovery Replay podcast on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or wherever you listen to the podcast. And if you think someone can benefit from these stories, please share it with a friend, neighbor, or loved one. And if you would like to share your recovery story, go to RecoveryReplay.com.
This episode is so good for the soul. Kate is so wise when it comes to the ways we can simplify our lives to feel more energized. Listen to her journey of a simpler life, tangible takeaways and laughs along the way. Website: https://www.katefergusontherapy.com Instagram: @katefergusontherapy Bio: Kate is a therapist in private practice in Atlanta, Ga. Resources: · Terry Reel: https://terryreal.com · Pia Mellody: http://www.piamellody.com (Adaptive child vs Wise Adult) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/nurtureandbe/support
This week, Dr. Jason Powers and Julie DeNofa are joined by Ava Profota, CSW-S, CSAT-S, CMAT-S. Ms. Profota is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT), certified multiple addictions therapist (CMAT), and supervisor for all three credentials. She practiced and supervised clinical services in a residential SUDs center for six years & treated multi-addictions and co-occurring diagnoses, and launched a clinical track for sex and love addiction & family of origin trauma. In addition to CSAT training with Patrick Carnes, she has trained with Pia Mellody in childhood developmental trauma resolution & studied the work of Bruce Perry, M.D., who recently wrote a book with Oprah on childhood developmental trauma. Ava founded Inner Loop Counseling in 2010 to treat trauma & addictions in an IOP. Ms. Profota was voted Counselor of the Year by the Houston regional Texas Association of Addiction Professionals. Topics Discussed: How early pain, trauma, & our environment can affect our developmental brains The effectiveness of brain-based trauma interventions Understanding somatic experiencing, EMDR, and brainspotting Where trauma lives in our brains and bodies Advanced resourcing in brain spotting (Positive energy, feelings, & thoughts) Connect with Ava Profota, LCSW-S, CSAT-S, CMAT-S: Website: https://innerloopcounseling.com Connect with Positive Recovery Centers: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/positiverecoverycenters/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PositiveRecoveryCenters/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/577870242872032 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/positiverecoverycenters/ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/positiverecoverycenters/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4JcDF1gjlYch4V4iBbCgZg Contact Positive Recovery Centers: If you or someone you know needs help, visit the website, or call the number below to schedule an assessment. We are here to help. Call: 877-476-2743 Address: 902 West Alabama Street Houston, Texas 77006 Website: https://positiverecovery.com Services: https://positiverecovery.com/services/ FAQ: https://positiverecovery.com/faq/ --- About Positive Recovery MD Podcast: The Positive Recovery MD podcast is hosted by Dr. Jason Powers, Addiction Medicine Specialist and creator of Positive Recovery. This podcast will not only inspire and motivate its listeners, but it will also provide the tools and foundation needed to thrive and flourish on their addiction recovery journey. Each week the Positive Recovery MD podcast community will come together to have authentic conversations around addiction, Recovery, and what matters – growth & progress, not perfection, all while developing positive habits for your life. To join the community, visit https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/su/OtK48nO/dailypositiverecovery to sign up to receive the daily Positive Intervention that we'll review and gain access to EXCLUSIVE Positive Recovery content available only to Positive Recovery MD listeners. About Positive Recovery Centers: Positive Recovery Centers is a strengths-based addiction treatment program with locations across Texas. We offer a full continuum of care, from medical detox to sober living, all supported by an ever-growing alumni community network. Our evidence-based curriculum blends the best of the old with the new, supporting our mission: that Recovery is best pursued when meaningful, intentional positive habits are formed through empowerment and resilience instead of negativity and shame.
Let's be real. The words “Love Addiction” can trigger a massive eye roll. Jodi White gets it and she's here to show us that it's real and a lot more common than we think. Jodi draws on the groundbreaking work of Pia Mellody and builds on it in a way that is comforting, clarifying and hopeful. Jodi is open about the ways SHE's struggled in this area and we talk about what it's like to be love anorexic (yes, that's a thing). We dig into Mother Hunger and some of the other behaviors that prime us for love addiction. Wondering if this is for you? The three primary symptoms of love addiction are: assigning too much time and value to another person, neglecting ourselves while in relationships, and expecting unconditional positive regarding from partners. This is one of those you may need to listen to a few times. There's a lot in it and it's packed with goodness from Jodi. Don't forget…there's a Spotify playlist that accompanies this episode and if you haven't become a paid subscriber, we hope you'll do that. The support of all of you who get something out of these conversations keeps them going. It matters. Jodi's site: https://www.jodiwhitelpc.com/ Jodi's IG: https://www.instagram.com/jodiwhite_/ Episode link: https://www.tmstpod.com/episodes/47-jodi-white-love-addiction-mother-hunger-codependency Spotify playlist for this episode: Tell Me Something True is a 100% independent podcast. There are no corporations or advertisers backing this community. We are 100% funded by the TMST community. Support TMST today so you can hear the uncut interviews, attend private events with Laura and help keep TMST ad-free: https://tmst.supercast.com/
In today's video I will share 7 characteristics of love addicts and 7 solutions they can employ to lower their relationship insecurities. 7 Characteristics of Relationship Insecurity: 1. Overthinking 01:37 2. Catastrophe Thinking 02:10 3. Needing Constant Reassurance 02:35 4. Bringing The Past Into The Present 03:18 5. Give Away Power 03:38 6. Snooping 04:14 7. Need Relationship To Feel Complete 04:40 How To Feel Secure in a Relationship: 1. Acknowledge Truth 04:56 2. Three "Gets" of Alanon 05:36 5. Self-Esteem Work 06:43 6. Develop Boundaries 06:59 7. Heal Childhood Abandonment 08:17 Book Recommendations: Facing Co-Dependence by Pia Mellody: https://geni.us/facingcodependence The Emotionally Abusive Relationship by Beverly Engel: https://www.amazon.com/Emotionally-Abusive-Relationship-Abused-Abusing/dp/150126205X
Lauren is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist-Supervisor. Lauren's professional focus is on helping to reduce stigma around mental health issues, and bring awareness, healing and recovery to those in search of a more fulfilled and meaningful life. Her areas of expertise are trauma and addiction as well as intimacy and relationship issues. Trained in Somatic Experiencing, Neuroaffective Touch, EMDR, Trauma Sensitive Yoga, and Neurofeedback, she works somatically with a wide range of issues. In addition, she is trained in Pia Mellody's PIT model, Inner Child, and Feeling Reduction work, which she implements in her work with childhood relational trauma. We discuss topics including: Eating disorders can develop as a result of trauma What is sexual anorexia? What is love addiction? What is sex addiction? What are distancing strategies? SHOW NOTES: www.laurendummitschock.com www.instagram.com/laurendummit laurendummitschock@gmail.com _________________________________ If you have any questions regarding the topics discussed on this podcast, please reach out to Robyn directly via email: rlgrd@askaboutfood.com You can also connect with Robyn on social media by following her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn. If you enjoyed this podcast, please leave a review on iTunes and subscribe. Visit Robyn's private practice website where you can subscribe to her free monthly insight newsletter, and receive your FREE GUIDE “Maximizing Your Time with Those Struggling with an Eating Disorder”. Your Recovery Resource, Robyn's new online course for navigating your loved one's eating disorder, is available now! For more information on Robyn's book “The Eating Disorder Trap”, please visit the Official "The Eating Disorder Trap" Website. “The Eating Disorder Trap” is also available for purchase on Amazon.
Episode #41: In this episode we'll explore the complicated and often misunderstood topic of Codependency vs. Interdependency. In codependent relationships, one person does much of the giving and at the same time tries to get their own needs met by controlling the other person. While some people will recreate these same codependent patterns in many of their relationships, others may find that they have just one difficult relationship, in which establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is challenging. This situation often arises when we have a loved one with mental health problems, substance abuse problems, or their own unskillful ways of relating that pulls us into an anxious and imbalanced pattern of relating. Joining us for this conversation are Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) member Jill and psychotherapist and recovery specialist Kat Zwick, LMFT. This conversation is not just for those who view themselves as having codependent tendencies, but for anyone who struggles with knowing what is and is not in their control. Most of us will likely encounter this challenge at some point, with some person—a child, an aging parent, a troubled friend or an intimate partner! If you are a parent, caregiver, or spouse to this person …. the odds are greater that you will wrestle with where to draw appropriate lines about who Is responsible for what. Join us as we talk about how to find greater personal well-being, even in those more challenging relationships. Broadcast: 4/3/22 Special thanks to Jeanne Baldzikowski for audio production, to Jennifer Young for research and outreach, and to Izzy Weisz for marketing. And thanks to acoustic guitarist Adrian Legg for composing, performing, and donating the use of our theme music. 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Your voice may just become part of one of our future shows! SUPPORT OR UNDERWRITE If you like what you're hearing here on KSQD, also affectionately called K– Squid, you can become a “Philanthropod on the Squid Squad” by becoming a supporting member and help keep KSQD surfing the air waves! Consider underwriting your business or agency and showing our listeners your support for State of Mind. RESOURCES Websites: Co-dependents Anonymous (CoDA) World — 12-step program for those who want healthy and loving relationships. Offers information about the program, where to find meetings and resources to learn more about codependence relational patterns. NorCal CoDA — Co-Dependents Anonymous for Northern California. Providing information about the program, working the steps and where and how to attend online meetings. Out of the Fog — A website to help communicate with people who have personality disorders. National Alliance for Mental Illness – Santa Cruz County Chapter — Provides free information, education classes, and support groups and does advocacy work helping those with loved ones with mental illness. Al-Anon - Al-Anon Family Groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience, strength, and hope in order to solve their common problems. Al-Anon sees alcoholism as a family illness and that changed attitudes can aid recovery. Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization, or institution; does not engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self-supporting through its own voluntary contributions. Al-Anon has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. Al-Anon does this by practicing the Twelve Steps, by welcoming and giving comfort to families of alcoholics, and by giving understanding and encouragement to the alcoholic. Alateen - Alateen is a fellowship of young Al-Anon members, usually teenagers, ages 12 to 19, whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking. Alateen groups are sponsored by Al-Anon members who meet the current Northern California World Service Association Alateen safety requirements and have successfully completed a background check. Al-Anon/Alateen Meetings in Santa Cruz County in English and Spanish: More Information or call 831-462-1818 Download Free Al-Anon and Alateen Literature including information for professionals FAQ for Newcomers Books & Articles: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie (1986) — Instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests to help readers key to understanding codependency and to learn to unlock its hold . This book can help chart a path to freedom and recovery. Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller (2003) — Identifies codependent thinking, emotions and behavior and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller (1989) — A workbook that provides a step-by-step journal-keeping method for moving toward recovery from codependence. Based on such concepts as the "precious child" and the five core symptoms of codependence, along with the Twelve-Step process of recovery used by Codependents Anonymous. Moving From Codependent to Interdependent Relationships — An article defining codependent patterns and the qualities associated with interdependent relationships published by the Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center, Nov. 29. All Books & Audio by Pia Mellody — An authority, lecturer and educator in the fields of addictions and relationships and a leading author of books on Codependency. This website contains a full listing of her publications, audio resources, as well as some free recovery articles. All Books by Melody Beattie — Author of the sentinel work, “Codependent No More,” which introduced the world to the term “Codependency” in 1986. This website contains a full listing of all her publications with descriptions as well as some recovery tools. Local Counseling Resources: Ride the Wave Recovery — Individual and Group psychotherapy for recovery from eating disorders, addictions, codependency & trauma for clients of all genders, sexualities & neurotypes. Email: admin@ridethewaverecovery.com, Phone: 831-275-541 DBT Mindfulness & Skills Group Series — For Northern California Clients Kat Zwick's 22-Week Group Series . This group is appropriate for people struggling with unmanageable codependency that leads to problematic behaviors against self or others. Family Service Agency (FSA) of the Central Coast is a dedicated underwriter of State of Mind. FSA provides resources, support, and counseling services to adults and children. FSA believes in the power and potential of people of all ages and backgrounds to discover their own creative solutions and welcomes people of diverse cultures, genders, sexual orientations, ages, faiths, socio-economic backgrounds. FSA Counseling Offices offer Medi-Cal, Medicare, and low-cost, sliding scale services in both downtown Santa Cruz 831-423-9444 x200 and in Soquel 831-346-6767 x200. Spiritual Resources Recommended by Jill Mount Madonna Center — Yoga-based online spiritual classes at no cost Free YouTube meditations by Ellaeenah Jadefire Contact Guests Jill – Is able to answer questions about Co-Dependents Anonymous or advise regarding other local resources. Email: pupjill@hotmail.com Katherine (Kat) Zwick, LPCC Email: admin@ridethewaverecovery.com Interdependency Support Girls Inc. of the Central Coast - Offers leadership and self-empowerment programs for girls ages 8 to 18 led by peers or mentors at school sites in Santa Cruz, Monterey, and San Benito Counties. “Behind The Scenes at SOM” Of all of our 30+ shows this show presented the most challenge in deciding on a title. We believe this is due to the complexities and nuances of this topic. Below is the collection of brainstormed titles. Thank you to all our volunteers and helpers who submitted ideas! A ponder may help elucidate more of the complexities and subtleties of this very important topic. Enjoy! Other Title Ideas: Recovery from Codependent Patterns: The Choices We Can Make Co-Dependence Recovery: The Choices We Can Make The Co-Dependent Spectrum: Finding the Choices We Can Make The Codependent Spectrum: Reclaiming The Choices We Can Make Understanding how Co-Dependence differs from Interdependence Unlocking Co-Dependence Patterns Co-Dependence Patterns: Refocusing on the The Choices We Can Make Journey from co-dependent to Healthy Relationships From Codependency to Freedom Untangling Enmeshment - The Path to Healthy Relationships Making Different Relationship Choices Recovering from our Codependent Patterns Reclaiming our Agency: The Roadmap to Healthy or Self-Contained Relationships Journey from Enmeshment to Healthy Relationships Holding Space for Yourself in Your Relationships Setting Healthy Relationship Boundaries Relational and Independent Staying Self-Connected while Connecting with Others Caring for Self and Other in Relationship Interdependence: Balancing Care for Self and Other in Relationships Recovery from Codependent Patterns: Creating healthy boundaries Recovery from Codependent Patterns: Supporting the people we love in healthy ways Codependence vs. Interdependence: Creating healthy boundaries Codependence vs. Interdependence: Supporting others without losing ourselves
There's lots of talk about adulting and being a 'mature adult', but what does all of that even mean? Are we adults because we have responsibilites, or we're parents, or (we think) we behave maturely? In this episode, Jodi invites Daniel Gowan back to discuss Pia Mellody's concept of the Functional Adult. They also cover Pia's five core symptoms of codependence (aka the five 'buckets'), reparenting, and how to live in action vs reaction. Music by JD Pendley
I am so excited to publish this episode about our 5 birthrights and a return to Pia Mellody's Model. This episode is critical to understanding the perspective we bring to the table at Community Routes. This whole episode is full of personal breakthroughs for Samuel and Sarah as we tackle some significant topics. What rights are we owed as humans? Where are we wounded? As Julie will cover, "to look at these core issues is not to blame, but to get our story straight." PS. Check out the graph we talk about on Julie's website! --- Reach out and start a conversation with us! We would love to hear from you on Facebook or Instagram or you can email us at communityroutes.pod@gmail.com Special Thanks to Julie Richards for hosting, Steve Dodge for the theme song, Alexander Wells for the logo, and Carrie Stratton for social media support! Please rate us on iTunes! We need all the help we can get to spread the word about mental health. Get access to bonus content and support the show through Patreon. Our other links: https://linktr.ee/communityroutes
-How and why do codependents have difficulty setting boundaries--especially physical? -What are the consequences of poor physical boundaries? -When an we trust intuition in setting boundaries? In this week's episode, Marissa discusses the ever-elusive concept of B O U N D A R I E S, specifically physical ones. You'll hear about where we learn boundaries, the different types (since there are SO many), and what makes it so hard for codependents to set healthy boundaries for themselves and their bodies. Marissa recalls a butt massage she received thanks to her poor physical boundaries in hopes that you won't have to endure the same awkward and inappropriate experience. It's a must-listen! Thanks for supporting the podcast! Check out: www.codependummy.com @therapywithmarissa on IG https://linktr.ee/codependummy Did you sign up for the 30-day Self Validation Challenge? If not, here's my pitch: go to www.codependummy.com/challenge to join and set the ball in motion for a healthier, more conscious, and self-validating you in a month from now! More deets on this week's episode: PHYSICAL BOUNDARIES: invisible and symbolic force fields that have three purposes: first, to keep people from coming into your space and abusing you; second, to keep you from going into the space of others and abusing them; and third, to give you a way to embody your sense of self, of “who you are “ - Pia Mellody in Facing Codependency. There are many types of boundaries: Physical Sexual Emotional Time Intellectual Spiritual Material Physical boundaries are: -culturally specific -gender specific -often modeled to us by our parents and other authority figures in our lives. “Codependents demonstrate the boundary systems that their parents had” - Pia Mellody Why BOUNDARIES ARE IMPORTANT: You don't get walked (or trampled on) You're able to thus be present You're able to thus focus on the task at hand You're thus more efficient, effective, and energized You don't have to deal with the effort it takes to move someone out of your boundary then repair or replace the damaged areas. According to Pia Melody, intact boundaries enable you to have true intimacy in your life when you choose while also being protected from being abused physically, emotionally, spiritually, time-wise, etc. Where my poor physical boundary led me to with chiropractors: Mr. Chatty versus Mr. Creepy. I couldn't tell Mr. Chatty that he talked too much. I couldn't tell Mr. Creepy that his behavior was inappropriate and causing me discomfort. It ultimately ended in my butt massage, making another appointment, calling my twin sister to tell her what happened, then FINALLY stopping my visits to him. This is what happens when we fail to honor our boundaries: butt massages from creepy chiropractors. I can point the finger at him all day but I also want to look at my part, my contribution, where I was responsible: I should have given myself permission to first sign up creepiness or mentioned it to my sister rather than wait several appointments and a butt massage later. Questions for homework: Who, if anyone in your life, is violating your physical boundaries? In what ways are you trying to avoid, hint at, or passively assert them? What would you prefer their physical contact with you looked like? How can you trust that this gut-reaction for a physical boundary is okay to set? How can you go about setting it this week? Thanks for listening! Marissa's info: www.codependummy.com @therapywithmarissa on IG www.therapywithmarissa.com Help keep the lights on here: https://linktr.ee/codependummy
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