A Mexican and a Redneck Father the World.

Resting allows you to recharge the creative wellspring inside of you. You have a functional mind and a subconscious creative mind. When you do not rest the subconscious, you feel exhausted. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

In this episode we discuss why it is important to have hard conversations before marriage. We explore how conversations about values, finances and children are not just conversations but verbal agreements. We also discuss why pre marriage conversations will teach you how to communicate with each other before you are in a committed marriage. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Everyday is full of potential. List as we discuss how to see the potential in every moment and situation. Every moment before this moment was preparing you for right now. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Why do you choose to help someone? That is the topic we will explore in this episode. People function and process bad situations much better if we have someone who can help us through the situation. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

In this four part series, we interview Will. Will describes the challenges and growth he has experienced being the father of a disabled child. In part 4, we learn about Will's relationship with his other children and how he leads his family. Contact will on Twitter at @wgrapperhaus Or contact Will at https://gracepointebc.org New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

In this four part series, we interview Will. Will describes the challenges and growth he has experienced being the father of a disabled child. In part 3, Will discusses the unique set of challenges and the unique set of blessings that he and his wife have experienced as parents of a disabled child. Contact will on Twitter at @wgrapperhaus Or contact Will at https://gracepointebc.org New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

In this four part series, we interview Will. Will describes the challenges and growth he has experienced being the father of a disabled child. In part 2, Will describes the foundations of his marriage and how learning about his unborn Child's issues affected his marriage. Will describes the suppressed issues in him that were brought out as a result of the diagnosis. Contact will on Twitter at @wgrapperhaus Or contact Will at https://gracepointebc.org New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

In this four part series, we interview Will. Will describes the challenges and growth he has experienced being the father of a disabled child. In part 1, Will describes his daughter's condition and his reaction to the discovery of her condition. We also learn about Will's upbringing. Contact will on Twitter at @wgrapperhaus Or contact Will at https://gracepointebc.org New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

In our experience, nature is one of the best teachers. Too many adults and children in America spend too much time inside. People are stressed, weak and unhealthy. Going outside will fix those issues. Looking at nature and wildlife reminds us that life does not have to be complicated and it is okay to simply exist. 1. Nature will kill you because you did not obey the rules. In reality you will kill yourself because you did not obey the rules. This lesson is important because respect is a universal language for all living things. 2. Nature will make you push yourself if you want to succeed. We discuss gardening as an example. If you don't take care of the garden, it will not take care of you. 3. Nature will force you to slow down by design. Nature is designed to slow you down and make you pay attention to your surroundings. If you don't you could end up in a bad situation. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

This episode is a continuation of episode 20 "How To Be A Man When You Don't Have A Father Around". We discuss some thoughts from episode 20 and how they have inspired some new thoughts on mentorship. When does the mentor/mentee relationship end? Some will end naturally, some will last for a season of life and others will last a life time and become true friendships. For the lifetime mentorship this will become a parent/child type relationship. What is a mentors purpose? The mentor is there to help you develop your adult identity while helping you work through your daily tasks. Additionally, we need a mentor to see what we don't see. There are three perceptions for every person: Who we think we are, who people think we are and who we really are. A mentor will help you reveal who you really are. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

A boy wants to learn how to be a man. He wants to identify with his father. He wants to protect his mother and be comforted by her. You must be patient and allow your son to learn and grow. Do not expect him to be a man until he has had the opportunity to be a child. Give him responsibility while he is a child and help him understand why it is import to fulfill those responsibilities, but give him grace to learn that lesson. A parents responsibility should include providing their children with and emotionally safe place to grow up. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

In episode six entitled "Toys", we asked the question what is your intention when you buy your children toys? Is the intent to buy a toy that will allow you and your child to share an experience or is your intention to give them something to do in your absence. In this episode we expand on that thought with a few more observations. First, what types of toys or entertainment are you providing for your children? Do these toys inspire creativity, provide a skill set of some type, Inspire connectivity or promote a type of healthy living? If no, why not? Play time for children is not just an escape but a formidable training ground that will stay with them for the rest of their lives. If you are only putting technology (phones, video games, screens, etc.) in front of them you are robbing them of valuable life skills. Second, why do we think it is important for a parent to play with a child: -Playing with your kids toys gives the parent and the child something to bond over that the child can have with them when the parent is not present. -Stress release for the both of you. Children are masters of creative play, why not let them lead you in play time. -Learning to communicate with each other in a fun environment. You child is a different person from you and you need to get to know who they are as a person. -Building trust through happy moments. You are probably building trust through leading but try to build trust though joyful moments. Playing with your children is one of the healthiest things you can do for you and your children. Go play with your kids and watch your life get better. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Are you living life for growth or are you living life for the reward? If you met your goals in life(the career, the spouse, the house, the car) and still feel like you are missing something, you could be missing the reward of the journey. Only focusing on the reward could be a form of escapism. It is important to stay in the moment and enjoy the journey so you can develop your character. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

A Successful person is drawn to the challenge more than the reward. Think of a person with regret. At one point they had control of a potentially good situation but gave the control away. They knew the situation had some risk and were too afraid of the out come. These opportunities arrive because they are apart of our destiny. Challenges and opportunities will point out your strengths and weaknesses. As these weaknesses arise you will need to accept that you must make some changes or you will live with the regret of not pursuing the opportunity to change. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Respectability is discovering who you really are. Overcoming the issues that are preventing you from being respectable will require you to remove the comforts from your life that allow you to cope with the issue. For some people it has taken years if not decades to develop these coping mechanisms so don't be surprised if it takes months or years to break the habits. You need to develop discipline to remove your comforts. The removing of comforts develops respectability because it allows you to see yourself for who you really are in that moment. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

We do our best to show our kids we love them but do we actively show our children we respect them? A man must learn to respect so he can show a woman and his children how to respect him. The man must be willing to train his family in respect and not just demand respect. If a father shows his children how to respect, image how much more success that child will have in life. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

When a man has low self esteem he does not respect himself. Respect is very important to men. Children need men around to teach them about respect. A respectable man will do the right thing even when no one is looking. A respectable man will not let his emotions dictate his actions. You have a destiny to fulfill and no-one else can fulfill it. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

What makes a man respectable? When a man is doing everything in his power to reach his full potential. This episode is a derived from the previous episode when Ben shared his perspective regarding his parents divorce. When a man divorces his wife it is a disrespectful act. A son will probably lose respect for his father, but a son will also stand to lose respect for himself. In this episode Ben discusses regaining respect for himself after his parents divorce. Juan discusses dealing with an abusive father and his journey towards becoming a respectable man. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

The following episode is based on Ben's perspective as a child who experienced the effects of his parents divorce. All divorce situations have their own specific details that make them unique but when children are involved there are still some common things a parent can do to help their children better adapt to the situation. We do not advocate for divorce, but if it has already taken place below are a few suggestions to help your children cope with the situation. 1. Be willing to answer your Childs questions, but be respectful when talking about your former spouse. That is still your child's parent. 2. Remember that the things you once loved about your ex are the things your child still loves about your ex. You and/or your spouse chose not to love each other, but the child or children still love both of you. 3. Don't speak badly about the other parent in front of your children. Remember that your child is suffering and the parents need to be the ultimate comforter, guide and parent to your child. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

An alpha male is a man who is willing to live and die for the group they are responsible for leading. In this episode we discuss some of the different roles a man can fulfill to be an alpha male. We also discuss how some men have the appearance of an alpha male but they really are bullies. If a man is a true alpha male, he will empower the people he is leading. If he is a bully, he will dominate them and they will eventually run away from him. Additionally we give some common examples of a beta male to help people understand the difference between a beta and a alpha male. If you are wondering if you are a beta male in a marriage then you are, but if you aren't sure you are a beta male, here are a few signs: 1. Your wife is constantly telling you what to do and you immediately do it. 2. You give an opinion in front of your wife and she interrupts or corrects what you say almost every time. 3. You can't spend the money you make because your wife won't let you. 4. Your kids will not listen to you but they will listen to your wife. 5. The only time you feel like you have control is when you are at work. 6. Every time you make a decision you wonder how your wife will respond and usually don't do what you actually want to do. 7. You don't have plans or goals you just do what your wife wants. 8. You already know you are a beta male but read this list in hopes that it won't apply to you and now realize that it definitely applies to you. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Marriage is a wonderful journey, but like all great journeys there are highs, lows, someone almost dies, many near misses and someone will say "what just happened?". Don't get married if you do not want to grow. Marriage will bring out all your secrets and force you to grow. Most newly weds will focus on developing their material and physical life and in the process neglect the development of their spiritual, mental and emotional life together. This process usually leads to division and feelings of regret and loneliness. To avoid this problem, learn to communicate with each other. Whatever you are deeply thinking about you will find that your spouse is probably thinking about also. Learn to grow together with good communication. I have observed that if a man is growing the woman will usually follow. If the woman is growing usually the man becomes frustrated or reveals the beta he has always been and then his wife will control him and try to control everyone else. To grow you must communicate what you want and follow through with those plans. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

You are born alone and you die alone. It is important to have a good support system of family and friends, but you still must function alone. Your friends and family can only influence your choices in life they cannot make you do anything. The reasons for saying all of these things is to make a point about our listeners reality. If your life is going well then you should be full of confidence because those decisions got you here. You have had the ability to be great all along and you are proving it ever day. If your life is going bad, don't be upset. There is still time to change and you have plenty of great decisions ahead of you, but you must make them happen. Whatever the situation know that you are in control and only you can make the future better or worse. Have confidence in knowing that all the power is in your hands. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Before you can start this process with your children you must first break your addiction to technology otherwise you are a hypocrite and the child will think you are punishing them for being just like you. Don't be weak and stand up for your family. 1. Technology is a tool. Help your children understand that technology can be a great tool for work, learning and connecting. However it should not be for socializing and constantly escaping. 2. As a parent you should fear their future dependency on technology more than you enjoy the convenience it brings to your life. Children are losing their childhood quicker now than ever. When you allow a child access to the internet through phones and video games, you have lost the majority of your control what they will see and hear. 3. Spend time with your children and teach them social interaction. Our children need to see interaction with people as positive. A Childs cell phone should not be their only positive interaction with other people. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Show notes and contact information below. Not Everyone likes their parents. Some people find their parents to be a mystery. If you find yourself in this situation we have a few tips to help you relate to your parents better and start to rebuild or strengthen the relationship. Remember, just because they did not take the time to get to know you, it does not mean that you cannot take the time to get to know them. This could bring great healing for the family. Tips to better connect with your parents: 1. Talk about family members. You both know them and it is an easy discussion point. Pay attention when they mention someone they like being around. There is something about that person that they admire and it could bring some inside about what is happening in your parents mind. 2. Ask question about your parents history. This will provide you with perspective that will help you understand where your parents come from and what they have experienced. Additionally they will notice you are interested in them and will eventually start asking you questions about your life. People love to talk about themselves, even your parents. 3. Find a medium of interest ( sports, cooking, entertainment, exercise, work, etc.). I had to do this to learn about and understand my father. This will be a good approach for men especially because we do not like to talk about our feelings and what is goin on in our heads. People are passionate about their hobbies and this will build trust through a passion of connection. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben @Redneck_Father & Juan @mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Everyone is an individual even as a child. It is our job as parents to guid them towards success and help them overcome negative traits. New episode every Wednesday. Find us on Twitter: Ben@Redneck_Father & Juan@mexican_father Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

A Father is a leader who provides identity for his family and in doing so lead the family members to understanding their destiny. Being a father requires forgiveness and constant learning. The secret to being a good father means humbly being available for your children. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

In this episode we address the sense of entitlement that many people carry with them everyday. We give our root cause issue of why we think people today are so entitled and how to help future generations act less entitled. New episode every Wednesday. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

We were not meant to experience life alone. A key to a having a successful marriage is to learn how to work together and learning how to use each others strengths. New episode every Wednesday. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Fatherhood can be difficult. Taking your family on the journey of life means sharing your life with them. They want the joyful parts of you but they also want the struggling parts of you. New episode every Wednesday. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

We discuss what it takes to develop the heart a father needs for his family. New episode every Wednesday. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Ben discusses some realities he has had to face within the first year of losing his father. New episode every Wednesday. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Would your 20 year old self be proud of how your life has turned out. New episode every Wednesday.

Not forgiving your father could be the thing in life that is holding you back. In this episode Juan and Ben discuss why forgiving is the greatest gift a person can give themselves. New episode every Wednesday. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

New commercial for a Mexican and a Redneck Father the World. New episode every Wednesday. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

The word "no" can have many meanings especially to your children. In this episode we discuss the different ways a parent can use the word "no" when talking to their children. New episode every Wednesday. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

In this episode, we discuss why it's better to learn how to have difficult conversations with your children when they are young. If you can develop a pattern of communication when they are young and have minor problems, you will be able to help them when they are older and have more significant problems. New episode every Wednesday. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

In this episode, we discuss 6 simple, free and easy things parents can do with their children to help develop a healthy relationship. These activities will help you communicate with your children. New episode every Wednesday. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

As a parent, you are a model for how a spouse should or should not behave in marriage. How you treat your children will probably lead to the type of person they marry. Good or bad the pressure is on you to help them choose a future spouse. New episode every Wednesday. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Technology can be a great tool, but are we using this tool to escape our lives or are we using this tool to better our lives. We discuss how being plugged into a machine all day can destroy your ability to think and experience life. New episode every Wednesday. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Being a responsible owner is a very healthy goal. When we achieve emotional success and overcome issues that is when we need to start practicing emotional responsibility. This episode is about getting over your hurt to help those around you. New episode every week. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Money is just a tool like any other tool. We discuss how to use this tool to your advantage to better yourself and those around you. New episodes every week. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Your mind, will and emotions will come together to form your thoughts. How does someone take control of their thoughts? We take control of our thoughts by using our words. New episode every week. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Agreements and disagreements will happen. We are different in some ways and the same in some ways. When we focus on our agreements it is possible to peacefully live together. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Actions speak louder than words. Children use this principle everyday because they do not fully understand all the words. Do you use your actions or are you all words? New episode every week. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Have you ever considered that people are difficult because they are hurting emotionally and their verbal attacks are actually a plea for love, acceptance and understanding? New episode every week. Email us at: juan@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com ben@amexicanandaredneckfathertheworld.com

Vulnerability is usually seen as a weakness. In this episode we discuss how vulnerability can create a true connection and growth between people. New episode every week.

Are the thoughts in your head creating a positive reality or a negative reality? How you speak or think about yourself will determine how you perceive yourself. New episode every week.

Who our parents chose as friends was a reflection how our parents saw themselves. Who we choose as friends shows how we see ourselves and tells our children what type of behavior is acceptable. New episode every week.

Controlling your sexual appetite will lead to guilt free sex. Never thought of this before, well we did. Listen to find out why we believe this to be a truth. New episode every week.

Why do good things happen? Why do bad things happen? It is because we are all on a journey though life and when a situation happens we are called to lean on each other for support or celebration. Life is designed for us to share it with other people. New episode every week.

Our habits are a refection of our fathers habits. Have you ever done something and thought "that is something my dad would have done"? Were you happy or bothered by that thought? New episode every week.