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Kate has good money habits. She's saving, she's investing, she's automated her high-yield savings account. So why does she still feel like she's behind? Today, Nicole sits down with a Money Rehab listener for a real-life financial intervention, digging into the exact questions so many 20-somethings are quietly Googling at 1am. Kate walks Nicole through her real numbers: what she earns, what she spends, and how she's splitting money between a Roth IRA, a brokerage account, and student loan payments. Nicole breaks down the actual mechanics she never learned, like why you need cash in the account before you can buy anything, how to think about a Roth versus a brokerage account, and whether it's smart to max out one before touching the other. They also get into the emotional side of money: the guilt Kate feels every time she spends, why her financial goals always seem to move further away the more she achieves, and how giving herself a real number for guilt-free spending changes everything. Check out Nicole's financial literacy course The Money School Find a Financial Advisor or Financial Coach from Nicole's company Private Wealth Collective Watch video clips from the pod on Money Rehab's Instagram and Nicole Lapin's Instagram Here's what Nicole covers with Kate: 00:00 Are You Ready for Some Money Rehab? 02:28 Meet Kate: Her Money Goals 03:53 From Ice Cream Shop Paychecks to a 9-5 04:39 Breaking Down Kate's Budget 05:54 The High-Yield Savings Account Strategy 07:11 Using a HYSA as a "Don't Touch This" Account 08:01 Roth vs. Brokerage: Kate's Investing Confusion 09:25 Why No One Teaches You How to Actually Buy 11:06 Roth vs. Brokerage, Explained 13:28 Should You Max Out Your Roth First? 15:09 Why Kate Sticks to Index Funds 17:15 The Tax Truth About Brokerage Accounts 20:07 What Financial Freedom Actually Means to Kate 21:19 The Guilt Spiral of Spending 22:28 Why Sticking to the Plan Is the Hard Part 22:52 How Kate's Childhood Shaped Her Money Mindset 23:52 The Moving Goalpost Problem 25:25 Building (and Sticking to) a Budget 28:30 Solving Spending Guilt With a "Fun Money" Number 29:51 Where Kate Keeps Her Savings 31:05 Kate's 5 and 10 Year Money Goals 32:36 Is Money a Never-Ending Game? 34:41 How Kate Started Investing With Just $20 36:45 Nicole's Game Plan for Kate 45:05 Tip You Can Take Straight to the Bank Get started with a SoFi high yield savings account: SoFi.com/MNNBank All investing involves the risk of loss, including loss of principal. This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute financial, investment, or legal advice. Always do your own research and consult a licensed financial advisor before making any financial decisions or investments.

On this episode of Transformation Talks, we're joined by by Steve Munro, an online health and transformation coach who has helped over 500 clients get life-changing results.We chatted about how formal education and in-person training has made us better online coaches, how to stop feeling guilty for eating certain foods, realistic meal planning strategies for busy people, and how food tracking is freeing IF you approach it correctly.Connect with Steve here: https://www.instagram.com/stevemunrofitness/Don't hesitate to ask me any questions about what we talked about here: mail@samforget.comFor more support and accountability with your fat loss goals, apply for 1:1 coaching here: https://samforget.com/coaching/Or get started for FREE with my One-Stop Nutrition Guide: https://freenutritionguide.com

Hello, and welcome to A Mind of Her Own! I'm Jennifer Reid, a psychiatrist and the author of the book, Guilt Free, Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations. Today is Episode 4 in my series called Guilt Free, For Real. (Want to catch up? Here are the first three episodes: 1. Solving the Guilt Equation (Finally!) 2. The Guilt Divide: Women, Men and the Emotions We're Taught to Feel 3. Why Can't I Ditch this Awful Guilt? )This episode today (corresponding with chapter three in the book, if you are following along), is all about the Four Furies of Unreasonable Expectations. If you've listened to prior episodes, and I encourage you to do so (see above)! you know about the Guilt Equation, which is that our guilt is based on our expectations of ourselves minus our perceived reality, meaning minus what we notice ourselves doing, which may not even reflect, in fact often doesn't reflect, what we're actually doing. But where do these sky high expectations come from? The Four Furies are:* Constant caretaking: “I feel like it's selfish to take time for myself instead of being available to the people who need me.”* Hyper-accountability: “I adjust what I say or do to manage other people's emotional reactions.” * Seeking perfection: “I have trouble resting because I believe I should be trying to improve myself.” * Having it all: “When I succeed in one area (work, parenting, health) I feel like I'm neglecting another.”Understanding these four big categories for expectations allows you to see that you are not alone. These categories exist because so many women have experienced them. But I'm here to tell you that there is a way forward. Recognizing that yes, these are expectations that you've been taught and expected to carry, but they don't have to be the final answer. If you're saying “should,” someone else is writing your story. When you take control of your expectations, what you want, what you need, and what makes sense for you will create the story you follow. You get to decide what those choices are and rewrite these expectations that you're working through. In future episodes, you will learn how to adjust each of the Guilt Equation variables, both your expectations and our perceived reality.Guilt doesn't have to be your full time job. You are already enough.***Want to build community while lessening your guilt? Start your own Guilt Free Group here. (jenniferremd.com/guilt-free)Thanks for reading and listening to A Mind of Her Own! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.Connect with your host, Jennifer Reid, MDDr. Jennifer Reid is a physician, the host of A Mind of Her Own, and the author of Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations — available at major retailers.

Guilt can feel like proof that you care—but when it becomes your default way of relating to work, family, and yourself, it quietly turns care into obligation. AJ sits down with psychiatrist Jennifer Reid to explore why high achievers, caregivers, parents, and people pleasers often carry more responsibility than they can actually control. They unpack the difference between healthy guilt and chronic guilt, why disappointment does not mean a relationship is broken, and how perfectionism, social comparison, external validation, and rigid ideas about parenting or masculinity can keep people trapped in shame and self-criticism. You'll learn Jennifer's “guilt equation,” how to recognize unrealistic expectations, why self-compassion is not the same as lowering your standards, and how to make decisions based on values instead of guilt. This conversation offers a practical way to stop taking responsibility for everyone else's emotions and start creating healthier boundaries, relationships, and definitions of success. Episode Resources: Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠unlockyourxfactor.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/763503/guilt-free-by-jennifer-reid-md/ https://www.jenniferreidmd.com/ Chapters 00:00 – When guilt starts running your life01:45 – Why guilt is not the same as caring04:20 – Healthy guilt vs. chronic guilt06:15 – Family obligation and the debt of gratitude08:00 – Boundaries, disappointment, and relationships09:55 – Why self-criticism fails as motivation11:30 – Signs guilt is controlling your decisions15:45 – External validation and achievement17:30 – Social comparison and the messy middle20:35 – Parenting guilt and impossible expectations25:15 – Masculinity, vulnerability, and emotional pressure30:55 – Why “balance” can become another source of guilt35:15 – The guilt equation explained38:50 – Self-compassion without lowering your standards40:20 – Finding the hidden expectations beneath guilt44:10 – How labels become limiting identities50:00 – The cost of hiding difficult emotions55:00 – What to do when guilty thoughts appear A Word From Our Sponsors Get $250 off select AirDoctor air purifiers by using promo code CHARM at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AirDoctorPro.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Shopify is where you go to start your business, and everything you need to sell is already there from day one. Start your free trial by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOPIFY.COM/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with top talent ready to help your business grow by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠UPWORK.COM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Keywords guilt, chronic guilt, self compassion, boundaries, people pleasing, perfectionism, emotional health, mental health, parenting guilt, caregiver guilt, self criticism, expectations, external validation, social comparison, masculinity, vulnerability, relationships, burnout, shame, emotional regulation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Guilt heavily influences women physicians' decision-making. I see it day in and day out as a physician coach. Dr. Jessie Mahoney talks with psychiatrist and author Dr. Jennifer Reid about her book Guilt Free and the guilt equation she uses with patients: guilt as our expectations minus our perceived reality. They walk through the four expectations Jennifer calls "the four furies"—constant caretaking, hyper-accountability, seeking perfection, and the myth of having it all—and why these are especially expensive for women physicians. Jessie and Jennifer talk through the difference between adaptive guilt, which prompts real repair, and maladaptive guilt, which keeps us doing more. They cover disappointment as one of the most stressful things for physicians to navigate, why boundaries and delegating feel unsafe, and Jennifer's SPEAK framework for moving toward guilt-free decisions: showing up, paying attention, examining the evidence, taking action, and "keeping going," which = continuing the practice. Guilt also functions as a form of social control in medicine—training that keeps physicians giving more instead of questioning the system asking it of them. Awareness is the most important shift. In this episode:  The guilt equation: expectations minus perceived reality The four expectations that keep women physicians trapped in guilt Adaptive guilt versus maladaptive guilt Why disappointment feels so dangerous in medicine The SPEAK framework for moving toward guilt-free decisions How guilt functions as social control in medical training Pearls of Wisdom: Guilt equals our expectations minus our perceived reality—and perceived reality is rarely accurate. Guilt motivates the way junk food does: briefly, at a high cost. Adaptive guilt prompts repair; maladaptive guilt just prompts more and more. Disappointing others is often unavoidable—the litmus test that matters more is not disappointing yourself. Guilt functions as social control in medicine, keeping physicians giving more instead of questioning the system. Awareness is most of the shift. Reflection Questions Where do you notice yourself making decisions from guilt rather than desire or alignment? Which of the four expectations—caretaking, hyper-accountability, perfection, or having it all—shows up most for you? Where does disappointing someone else actually mean not disappointing yourself? What would it look like to delegate, set a boundary, or let someone be disappointed this week? More about Dr. Jennifer Reid: her book Guilt Free is available here, and she writes at her Substack, A Mind of Her Own, and at jenniferreidmd.com. Ways to Work with Jessie 1:1 Coaching: https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/ CME Wellness Retreats: https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats Free Live-Stream Mindful Yoga: https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/yoga Jessie's Blog: https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/jessies-blog Podcast Page: https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/mindful-healers-podcast Nothing shared in the Healing Medicine Podcast is medical advice. The Healing Medicine Podcast was formerly known as the Mindful Healers Podcast.  

Send us your Mediocre 5 Star ReviewThis week Tim and Ade lean back in their camp chairs, (a few) beers in hand, fire crackling, and record straight from the field. It's loose, warm, slightly chaotic, and absolutely soaked in that midweek magic — the kind you only get when you've snuck out for a cheeky local overnighter after work.They dive into the art of guilt‑free camping: how slipping away on a Monday night can spare you that look from your significant other. The look that says “another weekend… really?”. By keeping it local, keeping it simple, and keeping it midweek, you can scratch the itch for fresh air and firelight without burning through precious family time.Between the laughter, they talk through the joy of spontaneous micro‑escapes, the freedom of packing light, and the underrated thrill of being back home before anyone even notices you were gone. It's honest, funny, and full of that familiar Casual Camping energy — two brothers around a fire solving life's great camping dilemmas one sip at a time.DISCLAIMER: Casual Camping Podcast accepts no liability and does not officially recommend any products or endorse any techniques discussed in an individual podcast episode or shown on Casual Camping Podcast social media accounts. Individuals should make their own informed decision and risk assessment of any products or advice prior to any purchase or useSupport the showCheck Out Our Socials:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1333082837320305/?_rdrInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/casualcampingpodcast/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLO9F70wD5P16dbKV20rTtwegIcBDtKY8QThreads: https://www.threads.net/@casualcampingpodcast?invite=0

Hello, I'm Jennifer Reid, MD. Welcome to this episode of A Mind of Her Own, the third in the series called Guilt Free, for Real. In today's episode, I share 3 of the most common reasons guilt can be such a sticky emotion. (Hint: because it “helps” us in some ways.)When I'm working with individuals as a psychiatrist, there are often situations where someone says, “I know that this is not good for me, and yet I keep doing it. I keep going back to a relationship that isn't healthy for me. I keep doing an activity that I know is not healthy for me.” What we need to understand in those situations “What is it doing to help us in some way, even though that seems counterintuitive?” It's important to think about guilt the same way. Guilt actually can, in certain situations, help us, particularly in three key ways. * Motivation: Many of us, (myself included), feel like guilt can be motivating. In fact, when we're feeling like we've already done something wrong, it can boost our motivation, but typically not for a long-term situation and at a high cost. We are starting from behind, assuming we've already done something wrong, that we've already made a mistake. We've already demonstrated that we are disorganized or lazy or uncaring or all these different ways that we convince ourselves and feel guilty in order to motivate ourselves. We need to work on recognizing where we are using guilt as motivation and see if we can tap into some other emotions. Maybe there's something we really want to do, and if we haven't done it yet, we can tell ourselves, “I really want to move in that direction. That's something I want in my life and it is important to me,” rather than, “I'm such an awful person because I haven't already made this change.” * Guilt protects us from other difficult emotions. You may have grown up knowing that if you expressed anger, the caretakers in your life, whether your parents, siblings, friends, early partners, would respond in a way that told you “Hey, that's unacceptable. You're not allowed to feel angry. Feeling angry is unfeminine, and it's making other people uncomfortable.” So guilt becomes a way that we keep ourselves from being able to truly feel, notice and express those more difficult emotions. We might say to ourselves, “I shouldn't feel so mad at my partner. He's trying his best and I just need to deal with it. I'm overreacting.” Or maybe, “I shouldn't be so mad that I got passed up for this promotion at work for someone that I don't think was as well qualified.” We're telling ourselves we shouldn't feel these other emotions. This often occurs with grief. People will come in to my practice and talk about a loss that they've experienced, and say things like, “I didn't do enough. I didn't visit my father enough in the nursing home before he passed. I didn't put enough attention into my relationship before this separation occurred. I didn't appreciate having my children home enough before they moved out.” I think what we can recognize here is that guilt is protecting us from grief. Why is this the case? Because when we are grieving, we are acknowledging that something has truly been lost, and this can be very painful. Guilt, then, tells us, “No, this is not grief. I feel this way because I've done something wrong so I need to focus on how I can be better.” In this way, guilt tells us we might have some control over this feeling. It's very hard to accept that we don't have control over everything in our own lives, much less the safety and happiness and vulnerabilities of those others in our life. The risk of loving others is this vulnerability to loss. When we cover that with guilt, we're also heaping self-criticism on top of what's already a really painful time. This is why I always encourage people that getting to those underlying emotions actually allows you to face them, to explore them, and, finally, to understand them. Interestingly, guilt can also step in and protect us from happiness. It can protect us from feeling too good about ourselves or too successful. We might say, “I shouldn't feel so happy in my relationship right now because my friend is really lonely and she wants to meet someone.” We use guilt as protection, so we don't feel too good and risk the possibility of future disappointment. However, the cost of guilt in these situations is that it forces us to make choices that aren't aligned with what we want and need, but rather with what we think we should do. * Guilt helps us prove that we care. Another way that I really find guilt can be so sticky and hard to relinquish is that it becomes a way we demonstrate to ourselves that we care. If I don't feel guilty when someone in my life is struggling, then I must not care. But this is not true. You can absolutely care deeply and with love for your friend or family member and yet not feel guilty, because you didn't do anything wrong. We can care deeply for our children, for example, and not feel guilty when they have a difficult day, as if somehow we could have protected them. If we say things that we think are appropriate, aligned with our values, and they feel disappointed, whether it's our kids, our friends, our parents, that still doesn't mean that we've done something wrong. So these are some of the key ways, again, that guilt can be so sticky because it benefits us in some way. Whether it's through costly motivation, its ability to protect us from other true and important emotions or its suggestion that we care enough. However, shifting way from these “benefits” of guilt is so worth it, because you free up time and energy to make choices based on anything else. It might be anger, dissatisfaction, sadness, grief, happiness, excitement, but whatever it might be, you're making decisions based on a true sense of agency. You're saying, “This is what I want and need and I'm moving toward it. I hope this was a helpful reframe for the ways that guilt can sometimes step into our lives. Tune in for the next episode where I'll talk more about some of the individual aspects of the four furies of expectations, 1. constant caretaking, 2. hyper-accountability, 3. seeking perfection, and 4. trying to have it all, and why those can be so difficult for us to cope with in our relationship with guilt. Thanks for tuning in! See you soon.Thanks for reading and listening to A Mind of Her Own! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.

Hello, and welcome to A Mind of Her Own. I'm Jennifer Reid, MD, a psychiatrist and author. This is the second episode of my series, Guilt Free, For Real. Today, I wanted to talk to you about something that I'm asked about a lot on podcasts and interviews, “Is guilt always bad?” After all, the name of my book is Guilt Free, which suggests that we're trying to eliminate any and all guilt. Interestingly, when I was researching guilt, what I learned is that guilt actually can be adaptive. In fact, guilt may be one of the reasons that we've been able to become larger and larger communities, to collaborate, to work together to enhance the success of our species. Why is that the case? Because what guilt does is help us to connect (when it's used in moderation, in adaptive circumstances.) That seems counterintuitive, but let me explain. Guilt is when we believe we've done something wrong. And if we believe we've harmed someone, that we've done something that's hurt them or made life more difficult, we feel guilty. Guilt doesn't feel good. It also pushes us to try and do something about it. We want to relieve that feeling of guilt, and that can lead to things like apologies, attempts to repair, maybe make up for it, or at least try to learn for next time to not do that again. This is an adaptive type of guilt. We all need to be able to feel this type of adaptive guilt because without it, it's actually going to make it much harder for us to connect. If we hurt someone and we see that they are hurt and we don't feel anything about that at all, you can see how that would cause real problems in relationships and certainly does. So this type of guilt can be adaptive for everyone. When it becomes maladaptive, though, is when it's not based on a particular situation or circumstance. Instead of, “Okay, I've made this error. I want to try and make up for it,” we are saying, “I just feel constantly like the things that I'm doing are not as good as they should be. I'm not doing enough. I'm falling behind. I've let people down. I'm letting myself down.” I've found, within my clinical practice and certainly even in my personal life, (and in my own experience), that women are more likely to feel this sort of constant overwhelming sense of guilt than men. Guilt in these situations does just what it does in adaptive guilt, pushing us to try and do something to make up for it, right? We want to relieve ourselves of this uncomfortable feeling. But what can happen then, what I see happening then in women's lives, is they take on more and more. They become hyper-competent and begin doing all the tasks, carrying the cognitive load, remembering all the appointments and things we need to pick up and things we need to plan and prepare for. Then, people in our lives are stepping back and saying, “Okay, if you've got this, then I guess I won't need to help or support in that way.” But it's counterproductive, right? Because the more we add on, we still believe we need to do all of those things perfectly. And then we perpetually feel like we're falling short. The reason I wanted to write this book about guilt is I really wanted women to know that they are not failing, that falling short of an unreachable ideal is not failure. And what we can learn how to do is shift this intense maladaptive guilt. In the first episode of Guilt Free, for Real, I told you about the Guilt Equation, how we can learn to examine our guilt. Guilt = Our Expectations for Ourselves - Our Perceived RealityWhen I recognize a guilty thought, it's important to review my expectations. Are they fair? Also, I want to set expectations based on my own values and what I think is reasonable, not some comparison to some idealized version online or even in my own head of what I imagine that I should be doing. Another question I'm often asked is, why do women seem to have so much more guilt than men? It's such a complicated answer, but I really want to hit on some key points. Number one, women, girls from a very young age are socialized to feel guilty. We are socialized to take care of everyone around us, to be able read their minds, read their emotions and try to protect them from those. We're taught that to be valuable or loved we need to look a certain way, we need to act a certain way, we need to have self-control. We need to be able to put forth this image of really having it all together. And unfortunately, what this can then lead to is constant guilt. For men, I think it's a different pressure. Of course men experience guilt. And like I said, it can be adaptive. But I think there are different expectations on men. And among those expectations, there are different emotions that men are socialized to experience and are allowed to experience without anyone kind of looking at them strangely. For men, I don't think that guilt is one that's as acceptable. Maybe it's anger, or frustration. Maybe there are other ways that they cope with not believing they're meeting the expectations that they set. Importantly, though, they also don't exist in the same environment where the expectations are that they should be taking care of everyone else in addition to themselves because that's the natural order. This “natural maternal instinct” or “womanly instinct” tells us that “My needs are put last and I take care of others first.” So I don't think that it's fair to say men don't experience guilt, but I think this constant and intense maladaptive guilt is something that women have been taught to experience throughout our lives. Another reason I think that guilt can become so common in women's lives is that it does protect us from some other more difficult emotions, such as grief, sadness, anger, fear. I'll talk more about this in a future episode. But for now, I just want you to keep in mind that through socialization, we've been taught to experience guilt. Some guilt can be adaptive in small amounts, in the right situation, but most of what women are experiencing is this feeling of constant guilt demonstrated by words like “always,” “never,” “should.” It's important to know that this is not something we're creating in ourselves. In future episodes, we'll talk more about the specific types of expectations that women seem to face. If you're interested in learning more about Guilt Free, it's available broadly (including the ebook and audiobook). My favorite website, bookshop.org, allows you to purchase through independent booksellers in your area. Your local library may also carry it. 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Hello! I'm Jennifer Reid, a psychiatrist, educator, podcast host and author. (jenniferreidmd.com)Welcome to my A Mind of Her Own podcast series, Guilt Free, For Real.You may not realize just how often guilt shows up in your life, but once you see it, you'll never forget.Subscribe to hear future episodes walking you through my book Guilt Free. Why Did I Write This Book?As a psychiatrist, I was hearing from so many women in my practice, my personal life, (my mirror,) this feeling of “I'm doing so much. I keep taking on more and more and it just does not feel like enough.” Is this something you've ever experienced? I find that when I ask women in these situations, “What is it you think you've done wrong?” The answer might be, “Nothing?” or, “Everything?” I started to realize that this was actually guilt. That women were feeling like, “No matter what I'm doing, I'm not getting it right. I'm missing something. I'm doing it the wrong way. I'm falling behind.” During the COVID pandemic, I was home seeing patients in my private practice. My kids were knocking on the door frequently for things like cookies or snacks or questions. I just felt like I wasn't doing anything well. I probably wasn't exercising the way I was supposed to. I certainly wasn't learning how to make sourdough or any of these other sort of performative actions that people were taking. And I found that so many women I was trying to care for were feeling the same way. When I really tried to break it down into the most simple terms possible, I came up with something called The Guilt Equation. The Guilt Equation is just a way for you to take that guilty thought and examine it to understand, “Where is it coming from? Why am I feeling this way all the time?” This is the equation: Guilt equals our expectations of ourselves in a particular role minus our perceived reality. Perceived reality in this case means what are we noticing? What do we believe to be true? If we believe to be true, “I'm not doing anything well. I'm the worst at everything. I'm a terrible mom. I'm not a great sister. I'm not doing a good job at work. I'm not ambitious enough. I'm too ambitious,” then this becomes our reality. When it comes to guilt, then, it lives in the difference between our expectations of ourselves and how well we believe we're measuring up. The important thing here though is these expectations are not those that we've just created out of thin air. These are items that we have been taught throughout our lives to carry. Expectations of the different ways that we are supposed to show up as women in our lives. Not only are we taught this, but it's reinforced in our interactions with people in the world around us. These expectations can grow so sky high that we feel like we're never measuring up. And when we see that not reaching perfection as some kind of failure, we can feel like we're constantly failing. This is what I hear from women, the sense of constantly failing or falling behind or not getting things right. My goal in writing the book was to help them understand that this is guilt. It's not that we're ever going to eliminate guilt entirely from our lives. In fact, some guilt is adaptive. It may be one of the key reasons that we as a society have lasted and thrived the way we have. Because when we feel guilty, we're saying to ourselves, “I've done something wrong. I've made a mistake. I need to make a repair.” It causes us to move toward someone else, to maybe apologize, to try and do something better. But yet, this isn't always the case in our modern life. We may not feel guilty for a specific reason. We may feel guilty about everything. Therefore, it's not something that we can apologize for, repair, and move on. It's not specific. It's not something we can truly address. It's everywhere. It's constant. I think this is so important for us to realize. That this is not because we are getting something wrong. This is because we're perpetually trying to live up to and reach these sky-high expectations that others are holding for us and that we've absorbed as the only way to be. As if the only way to be loved and valuable is to take care of everyone around us, and the only way to be of interest to someone else romantically is to have a perfect body, to be the perfect sexual being, to be the perfect partner. The importance of understanding that this is guilt then allows us to address it, to recognize these expectations are not fair, they're not reachable, and we have the power to create our own expectations based on who we are and who we want to be. What are our values? What is it that we want to do to show up in that particular role, and then do it to the best of our abilities. (But not with this idea that we could somehow reach perfection.) This was important for me to share so that women know that this is guilt. In fact, many I've spoken to since releasing the book have said, “I didn't think I had much guilt because I didn't realize that's what this was. I didn't realize this constant feeling was actually guilt. And now that I know, that is so important because I can start to say, Hey, What do I have to feel guilty about? What are my expectations here? And also notice what am I'm doing well? How am I showing up for myself and for others?” Because when we dismiss that and only pay attention to ways we believe we're falling short, of course we're going to feel like we're constantly failing. Remember, we didn't do this to ourselves. This is not because we are getting something wrong. But we have ways to push back, to reset those expectations, pay more attention to the things that we're doing well, and show up differently in our lives, making decisions based on what we want and what we need, what we desire and what brings us joy, and not what we think we should be doing. If you have interest in learning more about how to manage, understand your guilt, look for future episodes of Guilt Free, For Real. You can also check out my book, Guilt Free, available broadly, including an audiobook, which I read, and ebook, and I'd love to hear your feedback. Thanks for reading and listening to A Mind of Her Own! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.Connect with Jennifer Reid, MDDr. Jennifer Reid is a physician, the host of A Mind of Her Own, and the author of Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations — available at major retailers.

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If you know me, then you know there was a time in my life where vacation spending felt so exciting in the moment…and so stressful the second I got home. I remember going on a girls trip to Vegas in my early 20s. Deep down, I knew I couldn't really afford the trip the way I was approaching it, but I went anyway. No real plan, no clear budget…just spending based on what felt good in the moment. And when I got back? Reality hit. I was scrambling to cover my normal expenses, including rent. That post-vacation stress didn't match the experience I thought I was creating. I thought I was enjoying my life, but what I was really doing was borrowing peace from my future self to enjoy the present. In this episode, we're breaking down the truth about vacation spending—what actually causes people to overspend, why guilt shows up so often around travel, and how to approach your trips in a way that lets you enjoy them fully without throwing your finances off track. Because guilt-free spending isn't about spending less…it's about spending with a plan.   In this episode, we discuss: Why vacation spending often leads to stress, guilt, or financial setbacks The two extremes people fall into: overspending vs over-restricting Why emotional spending is more likely during travel How to plan your vacation spending before the trip (not during it) Why deciding your experience matters more than just setting a budget How to structure your days to balance spending and enjoyment The importance of staying aware of your spending while traveling How to enjoy your trip without feeling restricted or financially anxious   This episode is especially helpful if you: Feel stressed or guilty after spending money on vacations Tend to overspend while traveling and regret it later Overthink every purchase on trips and struggle to enjoy yourself Want to travel more but feel unsure how to afford it responsibly Feel like you have to "recover" financially after vacations Want to enjoy experiences without sacrificing financial stability   Why this matters: Vacation spending isn't the problem. It's how you approach it. Most people fall into one of two patterns: they either overspend and deal with the consequences later…or they restrict so much that they can't even enjoy the experience. But there's a middle ground. When you plan ahead, decide what actually matters, and stay connected to your spending while you travel, everything changes. You stop making emotional, in-the-moment decisions and start making intentional ones. And that's what allows you to enjoy your trip fully…without coming home stressed, behind, or trying to fix your finances.   Timestamps: [02:45] Raya's past experiences with vacation spending tend to be a common scenario for a lot of women. [05:13] Don't wait until you're on the trip to start figuring out your finances. Planning ahead allows you to be proactive, instead of reactive with money. [09:00] When planning a trip, always start with the type of experience you want to have. This will help you plan spending. [12:20] There's a middle ground between being aware of what's happening with your money and spending while on vacation.   Resources Mentioned: Episode #30: Vacation Planning on a Budget Request a free money call with Raya City Girl Savings Personal Finance Portfolio Financial Focus Coaching Program   Vacation spending doesn't have to come with guilt, but it does require intention. When you plan ahead, decide what matters, and stay connected along the way, your trips stop being something you have to recover from…and start being something that fits into your life. You get to enjoy the experience and feel good when you come home…not stressed, not behind, but still in control of your money. And if you're ready to build that kind of structure and confidence with your finances (not just for vacations, but for everyday life), support and accountability can make all the difference. You can request a free money call using the link in the Resources section. You don't have to choose between experiences and financial peace. You just have to learn how to plan for both.

In this episode of The Neurodivergent Experience, Jordan James and Simon Scott return after an unexpected break to talk honestly about something many neurodivergent adults know all too well: what happens when life leaves you with nothing left in the tank. From 72-hour work weeks and launching new projects to forgetting to record the podcast altogether, they reflect on the mounting pressure of adulthood, the fear of burnout, and the guilt that can come with taking time for yourself. Simon opens up about juggling the demands of the Autistic Culture Podcast Network while struggling to switch off, while Jordan shares how gaming, photography, and embracing his inner child have helped him navigate periods of stress and boreout. A funny, vulnerable, and deeply relatable episode about burnout, adulthood, and remembering that sometimes the most important thing you can do is give yourself permission to simply be.Our Sponsors:

In this episode of The Neurodivergent Experience, Jordan James and Simon Scott return after an unexpected break to talk honestly about something many neurodivergent adults know all too well: what happens when life leaves you with nothing left in the tank. From 72-hour work weeks and launching new projects to forgetting to record the podcast altogether, they reflect on the mounting pressure of adulthood, the fear of burnout, and the guilt that can come with taking time for yourself. Simon opens up about juggling the demands of the Autistic Culture Podcast Network while struggling to switch off, while Jordan shares how gaming, photography, and embracing his inner child have helped him navigate periods of stress and boreout. A funny, vulnerable, and deeply relatable episode about burnout, adulthood, and remembering that sometimes the most important thing you can do is give yourself permission to simply be.Our Sponsors:

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2077: Julie Morgenstern tackles two modern workplace challenges: chronic overwork and the pressure to be constantly available. She offers practical strategies for speaking up about workload, planning proactively, creating space for collaboration, and protecting focused deep-work time so you can make a greater impact without burning out. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.juliemorgenstern.com/tips-tools-blog/2022/11/30/the-epidemic-of-overwork & https://www.juliemorgenstern.com/tips-tools-blog/guilt-free-legato-time Quotes to ponder: "When you realize that time is a shared, important and finite resource you will be motivated to speak up, prioritize planning (every day), and leave space and grace to collaborate with your team." "Time is a shared resource, so it is worthy of shared problem solving." "When managing overwhelming workloads, we tend to pack our days so tightly, that there is no room for anything to go wrong." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Party Food…Can we eat all the foods we love guilt-free? What if your healthy, fit, strong body with its fast metabolism could burn up or use all the foods you eat? Could we be lean, strong and enjoy ALL the foods we love EVERY day? Yes/No/Why

GUILT FREE: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations, by psychiatrist and award-winning educator Dr. Jennifer Reid, is a science-backed and deeply compassionate guide to understanding and dismantling the forces behind excessive guilt. Jennifer Reid, MD, is a psychiatrist, the creator and host of The Reflective Mind Podcast, and an assistant professor at the University of Pennsylvania, where she teaches the next generation of psychiatrists.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Guilt is one of the most misunderstood emotional experiences women carry, and one of the most controlling. In this conversation, I sit down with Dr. Jennifer Reid, author of Guilt-Free, to unpack why so many women still feel guilt in this day and age… even when they're doing everything "right." We explore how guilt gets internalized, how it shapes the way you show up in your relationships, and why it can feel so difficult to release- even when you know it's not serving you. This episode goes deeper than "just let it go." We talk about what guilt actually is, how it's different from shame, and what it looks like to begin releasing it in a way that leads to real emotional freedom. If you've ever felt responsible for other people's feelings, struggled to make decisions without second-guessing yourself, or carried a lingering sense that you've done something wrong… this conversation will meet you there. In This Episode, We Discuss: What guilt actually is—and why so many women carry it chronically Why guilt persists, even in high-achieving, self-aware women The difference between guilt and shame (and why that distinction matters) How guilt quietly drives overgiving, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment Why "just stop feeling guilty" doesn't work Practical ways to begin releasing guilt and reconnecting to your truth   Key Takeaway: Guilt isn't always a signal that you've done something wrong. Sometimes, it's a learned response that's keeping you disconnected from yourself. Learning to discern the difference is where your freedom begins. About Jennifer Dr. Jennifer Reid is a board-certified psychiatrist, award-winning educator, and author of Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations. Trained at Columbia University and UCLA, she has held clinical faculty positions at the University of Pennsylvania and Cooper Hospital. She is the creator and host of A Mind of Her Own podcast and Substack, where she shares clear, compassionate insights on mental health and treatment. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Psychology Today, and her clinical practice focuses on helping individuals release the burden of unreasonable expectations and reclaim what truly matters. Website: https://www.jenniferreidmd.com/ Substack: https://substack.com/@amindofherown Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenreidmd/ Book: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/763503/guilt-free-by-jennifer-reid-md/   Resources & Next Steps: Connect with me on Instagram @drzoeshaw for daily encouragement. Subscribe to my newsletter for more conversations on healing, boundaries, and healthy love. Join the waitlist for Stronger Woman Intensive: here Buy my book Stronger In The Difficult Places: here Free Downloads: Download the Steps to Healing from Complex Shame™ PDF: here Get the First Chapter of Stronger in the Difficult Places: here Connect with me: Dr. Zoe Shaw on Instagram Dr. Zoe Shaw on Facebook   Subscribe & Review If this episode resonated with you, make sure to follow Stronger in the Difficult Places and leave a review. It helps more women find this work- and begin their own healing.  

The last in our series for Season 2 & a special for Australia & New Zealand, who are in lockdown.Justine is the Visionary / Founder at Your Virtual Assistant. The company has around 30 virtual assistants & Virtual Business Managers, based all around New Zealand.She came across EOS a few years ago & tried to self-implement. I'll let her tell you why it didn't work, however, she came to me back in March 2020, just before the lockdown in New Zealand hit. We were excited that I could help her to implement it into her business. However, once lockdown was announced, she came to me & said she wanted to pause.We had a  discussion and fortunately, she decided that there probably wasn't a better time to be starting - given all the uncertainty that comes with a global pandemic.16 months later & Justine & her new Leadership team have smashed all their goals & are continuing to achieve their rocks each quarter.In a time when many businesses are struggling, the Your VA Leadership Team has Clarity, they have Simplified their business & they are achieving their Vision.And most importantly, Justine is back doing what she loves & takes her weekends off, without feeling even a little bit guilty.If you'd like to understand how she did this, then take a listen.

God forgives you and pardons your guilt, not because you've finally gotten your act together. It's because He is faithful to His name. SHARE HOW GOD IS USING THIS PODCAST!Support the show

Is This Freedom or Just Chaos - Could Ethical Non-Monogamy Be for You? Get ready to dive into the world of ethical non-monogamy as James Preece welcomes the brilliant Daniella Guimaraes, founder of Velvet Ties - the world's first ethical non-monogamy matchmaking service. This episode is packed with playful curiosity and real answers on why more people than ever are exploring ethical non-monogamy. Wondering about jealousy, boundaries, or the infamous "kitchen table polyamory"? Daniella Guimaraes reveals how Velvet Ties is serving up a new kind of relationship adventure - from globe-trotting, heart-opening events to matchmaking that's all about consent, honesty, and meaningful connection. You'll hear stories of real couples, throuples, and curious singles finding their way in a judgement-free community. Whether you're ENM-curious or simply want to up your relationship game, tune in for loads of insight and some candid talk on sex, intimacy, and why honesty matters more than any Hollywood fantasy. Curious? So are we. Press play and find out if ethical non-monogamy could change your view on love forever. About Daniella  www.velvetties.com  WHATSAPP GROUP https://www.instagram.com/velvetties_/ About James James Preece is the UK's top Dating Coach with over 21 years experience helping singles all over the world. He is the host of the Love Machine Podcast. Get his free book when you join his newsletter : https://www.jamespreece.com/dating-newsletter/ Website: https://www.jamespreece.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamespreececoaching/

“The postpartum brain is brilliant, and we want to nurture that process versus hinder it.” -Dr. Nikki Pensak, PhD, PMH-CIn this episode of A Mind of Her Own, Dr. Jennifer Reid, host and author of Guilt Free, sits down with Dr. Nikki Pensak, clinical psychologist, perinatal mental health specialist, and author of Rattled: How to Calm New Mom Anxiety with the Power of the Postpartum Brain (Paperback arrives April 14th!) Together they explore the science behind how a woman's brain radically transforms during pregnancy and the postpartum period, why this developmental phase has a name (matrescence), and why virtually no one is talking about it.Dr. Pensak shares her own deeply personal story of experiencing postpartum depression twice, including a severe episode with symptoms of OCD during COVID while her son was in the NICU, and how hitting rock bottom as a mental health expert motivated her to write the book she wished had existed. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who is pregnant, postpartum, or supporting a new mother.Dr. Pensak's Three Moves to Matrescence1. Plan ItFrom the moment you find out you're pregnant, establish care with a mental health provider or prescriber who specializes in perinatal mental health. Get a baseline assessment, understand your unique risk factors, and have your support system in place before the baby arrives, not after.2. Name ItUnderstand that what you're going through is matrescence, a recognized, science-backed developmental phase. Name the identity changes, the emotional upheaval, the relationship stress. Knowing it has a name, and that it is expected, is itself therapeutic.3. Use ItOnce mental health is stabilized, harness the brain's remarkable neuroplasticity. Rise to challenges, pursue positive emotional experiences, and lean into post-traumatic growth. Your brain is primed for new learning. It's time to use that superpower.Resources MentionedRattled: How to Calm New Mom Anxiety with the Power of the Postpartum Brain by Nicole Pensak, PhD, PMH-C. Available in hardcover, paperback (new cover, releasing April 14), audiobook, and Kindle.Connect with Dr. Pensak: @drnikkipensak on all platformsGuilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life From Unreasonable Expectations by Jennifer Reid, MD. Available now, including audiobook (read by the author) and e-book.*Consider leaving a book review — it makes a huge difference for authors!• Postpartum Support International (PSI) — free support groups for new mothers, fathers, anxiety, depression, and more. Also maintains a searchable database of certified perinatal mental health providers by state. https://www.postpartum.netThanks for reading A Mind of Her Own! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.Dr. Nicki Pensak is a clinical psychologist who specializes in treating postpartum mental health conditions, anxiety, OCD, depression, sexual dysfunction, and symptoms and side effects associated with medical issues (such as cancer and chronic medical conditions). Dr. Pensak received her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from University of Rhode Island and completed her APA accredited internship and specialty training in behavioral medicine at Yale School of Medicine. She completed a postdoctoral fellowship at Massachusetts General Hospital/ Harvard Medical School in psychiatric oncology and an NIH T32 fellowship at the University of Colorado, Anschutz Medical Center in Aging and Palliative Care. She currently serves on the Expert Review Board of Parents Magazine and is the author of RATTLED, How to Calm New Mom Anxiety with the Power of the Postpartum Brain. Dr. Pensak provides in-person therapy in Monmouth County, NJ and telehealth therapy in 40 states, nationwide.Reminder: Both the host and guest are healthcare professionals, but they are not your healthcare professionals. Please consult your own providers with any personal medical or mental health questions.Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical or psychological advice. If you are experiencing symptoms of postpartum mental health conditions, please reach out to a qualified healthcare provider or contact Postpartum Support International at postpartum.net. You can also contact the mental health helpline by dialing 988. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amindofherown.substack.com

Jesus' resurrection means a new life for you, personally!To watch this sermon on video, click here. Or, click here for the notes!

858. Are "low net carb" candies actually a healthy alternative, or just clever chemistry? In this episode, Monica breaks down the science of net carbs and the marketing behind some brands.We dive deep into the ingredient list to explain how sugar alcohols (like erythritol and isomalt) and functional fibers (like polydextrose and soluble corn fiber) affect your body. If you've ever wondered why low-sugar treats cause bloating or gas, or if those 26 grams of fiber actually "count," this episode is for you.In this episode, we discuss:How to calculate net carbs: The math manufacturers use to subtract fiber and sugar alcohols from total carbohydrates.The GI Impact: Why high-fiber candies can lead to digestive discomfort and "functional fiber" warnings.Blood Sugar vs. Calories: How keto-friendly sweets compare to traditional treats like Swedish Fish.Food Psychology: Why labeling food as "Shameless" or "Guilt-Free" can harm our relationship with eating.Stop viewing your snack choices as a moral scorecard. Listen to learn how to read nutrition facts labels with a critical eye and choose the treats that actually make your body feel good.New to Nutrition Diva? Check out our special Spotify playlist for a collection of the best episodes curated by our team and Monica herself! We've also curated some great playlists on specific episode topics including Staying Strong as We Age, Diabetes, Weight Loss That Lasts and Gut Health! Also, find a playlist of our bone health series, Stronger Bones at Every Age. Have a nutrition question? Send an email to nutrition@quickanddirtytips.com.Follow Nutrition Diva on Facebook and subscribe to the newsletter for more diet and nutrition tips. Find out about Monica's keynotes and other programs at WellnessWorksHere.comNutrition Diva is a part of the Quick and Dirty Tips podcast network. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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What if resetting your home didn't require perfection—but permission to slow down? In Part 3 of our Thriving Together series, “When the Whole House Feels Heavy: A Reset for the Christian Home,” we shift from awareness to action with a practical, grace-filled reset plan for your entire home. If you've been feeling overwhelmed, stretched thin, or stuck in survival mode, this episode will help you take simple, intentional steps toward peace, clarity, and restored rhythms. In this episode, we walk through:• A simple 7-day reset plan for your home(Click her for it)• How to pause without guilt and release pressure• Practical ways to simplify schedules and expectations• Resetting your marriage and reconnecting with your kids• Creating a peaceful, Christ-centered home atmosphere• Letting go of perfection and focusing on what truly mattersThis isn't about doing more—it's about doing what matters most with intention and grace. ✨ This is Part 3 of our 4-part series:“When the Whole House Feels Heavy: A Reset for the Christian Home.”You can now watch our Podcasts on YouTube: WS YouTube PageWS INSTAGRAMWS FACEBOOKContact Us

What if resetting your home didn't require perfection—but permission to slow down? In Part 3 of our Thriving Together series, “When the Whole House Feels Heavy: A Reset for the Christian Home,” we shift from awareness to action with a practical, grace-filled reset plan for your entire home. If you've been feeling overwhelmed, stretched thin, or stuck in survival mode, this episode will help you take simple, intentional steps toward peace, clarity, and restored rhythms. In this episode, we walk through:• A simple 7-day reset plan for your home(Click her for it)• How to pause without guilt and release pressure• Practical ways to simplify schedules and expectations• Resetting your marriage and reconnecting with your kids• Creating a peaceful, Christ-centered home atmosphere• Letting go of perfection and focusing on what truly mattersThis isn't about doing more—it's about doing what matters most with intention and grace. ✨ This is Part 3 of our 4-part series:“When the Whole House Feels Heavy: A Reset for the Christian Home.”You can now watch our Podcasts on YouTube: WS YouTube PageWS INSTAGRAMWS FACEBOOKContact Us

Eating Disorders…Can they be prevented? Can we make sure our kids love food and always have a guilt free relationship with food? If Yes- HOW?

“Honesty doesn't have to be brutal. Honesty can be compassionate. Honesty can be respectful.” -Dr. Cory NewmanEpisode OverviewIn this episode, host Dr. Jennifer Reid sits down with Dr. Cory Newman, PhD to explore how the core principles of cognitive behavioral therapy can be woven into our everyday communication with partners, friends, family, coworkers, and even ourselves. What begins as a conversation about therapy technique quickly becomes a practical guide to navigating disagreements, setting boundaries, and showing up more compassionately in all our relationships.Throughout the conversation, Dr. Reid draws connections to her book Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations (Penguin Life, 2026), which examines how guilt—particularly for women—shapes our communication patterns, our willingness to set boundaries, and our capacity for self-compassion.15 Key Takeaways (Dr. Newman had so many life-changing recommendations, we wanted to make sure you could read about them even if you didn't have time to listen!)1. The Three Pillars of CBTDr. Newman describes CBT as resting on three foundational principles: * A supportive therapeutic alliance* A deep understanding of the patient's lived experience (including cultural and sociological factors)* The development of practical coping skills. These skills promote agency and problem-solving rather than hopelessness and helplessness.CBT Connection: The cognitive behavioral model emphasizes that thoughts, behaviors, and emotions are interconnected. By shifting how we think and what we do, we can change how we feel (Beck, 1979).2. Communication Is Both Internal and ExternalWe tend to think of communication as what we say to others, but Dr. Newman emphasizes that internal dialogue matters just as much. CBT helps people talk to themselves more compassionately, constructively, and hopefully. That same skill then translates outward into better interpersonal communication.He also distinguishes between expressive communication (how we speak) and receptive communication (how we listen), both of which are essential to healthy relationships.Guilt Free Connection: In Guilt Free, Dr. Reid explores how harsh internal dialogue, especially the relentless voice of “I should be doing more,” fuels excessive guilt. Learning to communicate with yourself compassionately is the first step toward breaking free from unreasonable expectations.3. Start with IntentEvery meaningful conversation benefits from a clear, positive intent: to boost morale, to connect, to offer something useful, to communicate understanding. Dr. Newman suggests that even outside of therapy, we can adopt the mindset that our goal in any interaction is to leave the other person, and the relationship, in a better state than when we started.CBT Connection: Intentional communication is a behavioral intervention. By deliberately choosing our communicative goals before speaking, we interrupt automatic patterns that often lead to conflict (Beck, 1995).4. Validity + Utility: The Two-Part Test for What We SayDr. Newman introduces a powerful filter: before speaking, ask whether your comment has both validity (is it truthful?) and utility (is it useful?). Truth alone can be harsh. He pushes back on the idea of “brutal honesty.”Guilt Free Connection: The validity-utility framework directly parallels the guilt equation in Guilt Free, where guilt = our expectations (whether fair or not) minus our perceived reality. Often, guilt-driven communication passes the validity test but fails the utility test. For example, we may say things out of obligation that don't help ourselves or others.5. Intent vs. Impact: Naming the MismatchSometimes people don't mean to cause harm, but their words land that way. Dr. Newman recommends naming the gap directly: “I don't think you're trying to put me down, but the message you're sending sounds like a put-down.” This approach acknowledges the other person's good faith while still making room for your experience.CBT Connection: Distinguishing between intent and impact is central to cognitive restructuring. Cognitive distortions like mind-reading and personalization often cause us to assume malicious intent where there is none (Burns, 1980).6. Seek to Understand Before Problem-SolvingWhen someone is in distress, the instinct is often to jump straight to fixing. Dr. Newman advises leading with empathy instead: “If I were thinking the way you're describing, I'd be a nervous wreck too.” Validate first, then gently offer alternative perspectives. Problem-solving is more effective once the person feels heard.Guilt Free Connection: Dr. Reid describes a pattern she sees frequently, which is people, especially women, catastrophizing about situations and layering guilt on top. The compassionate validation Dr. Newman describes is exactly the antidote: honor the feeling, question the expectation.7. Turn Complaints into RequestsAlmost any complaint can be reframed as a request, and requests are far easier to hear. Instead of “You never reply to my voicemail messages,” try: “I'd really appreciate hearing from you, even briefly. It's hard for me when I don't hear from you.”CBT Connection: This reframing technique is a classic behavioral strategy in CBT. Converting complaints into constructive requests shifts the dynamic from blame to collaboration (Gottman & Silver, 1999).Guilt Free Connection: Dr. Reid explores how maladaptive guilt can be manipulative, such as when guilt-tripping replaces genuine requests, and relationships can suffer. Assertive communication (making requests without guilting) is key to breaking that cycle.8. Silence Fills Vacuums with AssumptionsWhen we avoid communication to spare someone's feelings—say, not RSVPing to avoid disappointing a friend—we leave a vacuum that the other person fills with their own assumptions, which are usually worse than reality. Dr. Newman advises speaking the reality, even when it's uncomfortable, because silence invites personalization and catastrophizing.Guilt Free Connection: In Guilt Free, Dr. Reid identifies avoidance as a common guilt-driven behavior: we don't say no because we don't want to disappoint, but the silence itself creates a bigger problem. Communicating honestly, even imperfectly, is almost always better than disappearing.9. Beware All-or-Nothing Thinking in CommunicationDr. Newman applies one of CBT's most foundational concepts, challenging black-and-white thinking, to our communication habits. You don't have to choose between long silences and a 90-minute heart-to-heart. A quick text saying “Thinking of you” is a powerful middle ground. He calls these “random acts of kindness through text,” which are small gestures that send a meta-message of care.CBT Connection: All-or-nothing thinking is one of the most common cognitive distortions identified in CBT. Recognizing and challenging it opens up a range of behavioral options we might not have considered (Beck, 1976).10. Match the Medium to the MessageText messaging is ideal for quick logistics and small kindnesses, but it strips away tone of voice and body language. Dr. Newman shares a vivid example of a patient whose text “I don't care” (meaning “I don't mind”) sparked a major argument with his girlfriend. For emotional or complicated conversations, choose a medium with more cues, such as phone, video, or in person.His rule of thumb: The more emotional and the more complicated the topic, the more cues are needed.11. The Gottman 20-Minute RuleDrawing on research by John and Julie Gottman, Dr. Newman describes how physiological arousal (elevated heart rate, fight-or-flight activation) makes productive conversation impossible. The Gottmans recommend taking a break during heated arguments and not resuming until at least 20 minutes after your heart rate returns to baseline.Dr. Newman applies this to everyday life: if you receive a message that makes you angry, wait until you've calmed down before responding. Otherwise, frustration will leak through even your most careful words.CBT Connection: Self-monitoring of physiological arousal is a core CBT skill. The Gottman research demonstrates that behavioral interventions (taking a break) must precede cognitive interventions (discussing the issue) when the body is in a threat state.12. Resolve to Resolve—Not to WinDr. Newman highlights one of the most destructive communication patterns: trying to win an argument rather than resolve it. He references the devastating scene in the film Marriage Story where two characters escalate insults in an attempt to out-hurt each other. When the goal shifts from understanding to victory, everyone loses.CBT Connection: The belief “I must convince the other person I'm right” is a cognitive distortion that fuels conflict. CBT teaches that making your point respectfully is already a success. Change in the other person may come later, or not at all, and that's okay (Newman, 2014).13. Never Go to Bed Angry? Not So Fast.Both Dr. Reid and Dr. Newman agree that while the spirit of this advice is sound (don't harbor resentment) the literal application can be harmful. Insisting on resolving a conflict when one partner is exhausted is destructive. The person who needs to sleep should be honored. The meta-message is: don't stonewall, but do respect each other's limits. Use a placeholder: “I want to talk this through, but right now I can't yet.”Guilt Free Connection: This scenario is a guilt trap in action. The pressure to resolve everything immediately often comes from guilt (“A good partner wouldn't go to bed angry”). Dr. Reid's framework encourages questioning whether that expectation is fair and giving yourself permission to rest.14. Setting Boundaries Without GuiltWhen repeated attempts at respectful communication are met with resistance, such as the same pressure, the same guilt trips, it's appropriate to set a firm boundary. Dr. Newman advises doing so with care: “I'd like to talk to you, but not under these conditions. When you can show some respect for what I've said, let me know.” You can walk away from that interaction knowing you handled it with integrity.Guilt Free Connection: Dr. Reid identifies “hyper-accountability,”the belief that we can and should control other people's emotional experience, as a major driver of excessive guilt, especially for women. Letting go of the need to make everyone feel okay is essential to healthy boundary-setting.15. Say the Positive Things Out LoudDr. Newman closes with a deceptively simple but powerful reminder: don't keep positive thoughts to yourself. If you have a compliment, give it. If you feel affection, express it. And one of his favorite tips: talk positively about people behind their back. It often gets back to them and can shift the entire tone of your relationships.CBT Connection: Behavioral activation, which involves increasing positive interactions and reinforcement, is a foundational CBT technique for improving mood and strengthening relationships (Lewinsohn, 1974).Thanks for reading A Mind of Her Own! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.About the GuestDr. Cory Newman, PhD is a professor of psychology in psychiatry and director of the Center for Cognitive Therapy at the University of Pennsylvania. He is also honorary faculty at the Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, where he completed his postdoctoral training under the mentorship of Dr. Aaron Beck, a founding father of CBT. A founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy, Dr. Newman has presented approximately 300 CBT workshops and seminars internationally and published over 100 articles and chapters. He is the author or co-author of six books. Fun connection: Dr. Newman is a highly accomplished pianist and has accompanied Dr. Reid for several of her vocal performances.References & Further ReadingCBT Foundations1. Beck, A. T. (1976). Cognitive Therapy and the Emotional Disorders. International Universities Press.2. Beck, J. S. (1995). Cognitive Behavior Therapy: Basics and Beyond. Guilford Press.3. Burns, D. D. (1980). Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. William Morrow.Communication & Relationships4. Gottman, J. M. & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Crown.From the Guest6. Newman, C. F. (2014). Core Competencies in Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy. Routledge.From the Host7. Reid, J. (2026). Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations. Penguin Life.(*Notes created from transcript with assistance from Claude AI and edited by author for clarity and accuracy.)A Mind of Her OwnHosted by Dr. Jennifer Reid, MDBoard-certified psychiatrist, author, and award-winning medical educatorjenniferreidmd.com | A Mind of Her Own on Substack@jenreidmd on Instagram and LinkedIn Also check out Dr. Reid's regular contributions to Psychology Today: Think Like a ShrinkSeeking a mental health provider? Try Psychology TodayNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255Dial 988 for mental health crisis supportSAMHSA's National Helpline - 1-800-662-HELP (4357)-a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.Disclaimer:The views expressed on this podcast reflect those of the host and guests, and are not associated with any organization or academic site. Also, AI may have been used to create the transcript and notes, based only on the specific discussion of the host and guest and reviewed for accuracy.The information and other content provided on this podcast or in any linked materials, are not intended and should not be construed as medical advice, nor is the information a substitute for professional medical expertise or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained on or available through this website is for general information purposes only.If you or any other person has a medical concern, you should consult with your health care provider or seek other professional medical treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something that have read on this website, blog or in any linked materials. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services (911) immediately. You can also access the National Suicide Help Line at 1-800-273-8255 or call 988 for mental health emergencies. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amindofherown.substack.com

In this week's episode, I'm sharing 3 shifts that will help you build a guilt-free morning routine:1. Foundation over Fruit — If we want results we need to plant seeds, first.2. Curiosity over Condemnation — What if instead of "I failed," you asked "Hmm, I wonder why that didn't work?" One shuts the door. The other opens it wide.3. Systems over Self-Discipline — Willpower at 6am is unreliable. Simple systems can make everything easier.Starting your day with God doesn't need to feel overwhelming or induce guilt if we don't do it "perfectly". His grace is sufficient for us as we learn and grow. Click play and start building a grace-filled, life-giving morning routine!

Dr. Reid is a clinical assistant professor at University of Pennsylvania and an associate professor at Cooper Medical School of Rowan University.  She attended medical school at Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons and completed her psychiatry residency at UCLA. This podcast will focus on her new book, Guilt Free:  Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations.  Dr. Reid also writes and podcasts on Substack at A Mind of Her Own focused on helping individuals nurture a deep and lasting self-trust.  She is also a regular contributor to Psychology Today with her blog "Think like a Shrink."  Her writing has also been featured on KevinMD and Doximity.  For more information, please see:  https://www.jenniferreidmd.com/ This podcast is available on your favorite podcast platform, or here:https://endoftheroad.libsyn.com/episode-334-dr-jennifer-reid-guilt-free-reclaiming-your-life-from-unreasonable-expectations Have a blessed weekend!

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Welcome back to another episode of Bar Cart Friday! This week we're joined by Above Board — makers of premium zero & low sugar flavored liqueurs that are changing the way we enjoy cocktails without the sugar crash.

Jennifer Reid, MD, author of Guilt Free, has the answers. For those of us who feel guilty about almost everything having to do with parenting, psychiatrist Dr. Reid hears us — and has solutions. I recorded this live at my children's school, where I peppered her with questions that were, perhaps, too personal?!Share, rate, & review the podcast, and follow Zibby on Instagram @zibbyowens!** Check out the Z.I.P. membership program—Zibby's Important People! As a Z.I.P., you'll get exclusive essays, special author access, discounts at Zibby's Bookshop, and more. Head to zibbyowens.com to subscribe or upgrade and become a Z.I.P. today!** Follow @totallybookedwithzibby on Instagram for more about today's episode. (Music by Morning Moon Music. Sound editing by TexturesSound. To inquire about advertising, please contact allie.gallo@acast.com.) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How To Get Your Groove Back, Guilt-Free. TODAY'S QUESTION: Hey guys! I am in need of some advice, but it's a little heavy. So, my son just turned 21. He is on the spectrum. He's high-functioning but needs a lot of support and attention throughout the day and can not safely live by himself. I've devoted the last 21 years of my life to supporting, raising, and advocating for him. I'm super proud of him and love being his mom, but pretty soon, it's going to be time to start living my own life again. I have recently started the process of finding day services and a home with a provider for him. So, there are two parts to this: 1. How do I ignore how guilty I feel? 2. How do I get my groove back? As always, I'd like to stay anonymous, so it's all good to share as much or as little of the info as u want. Also, I know it's not a fun topic and that I already got a turn, so it's all good if ya wanna skip it

In this episode, Kayleigh sits down with Mallory, aka The Formula Mom, to talk all things formula feeding, combo feeding, and her brand-new book Bottle Service. They dive into the real, messy, emotional side of infant feeding: the lack of education around formula, the grief of not being able to breastfeed, the pressure of “at all costs” narratives, and why nuance, support, and compassion matter more than ever. This is an honest, validating conversation for anyone who has ever questioned, grieved, or defended how they feed their baby.In this episode, we talk about:

Whether you're annoyed by judgey comments, disappointed your feeding journey looks different than you imagined, or just overwhelmed by all the options available, formula feeding comes with it's own sets of challenges. And in 2026, it comes with new concerns - safety, recalls, did someone say seed oils?!Well great news, Mallory Whitmore of the popular IG account The Formula Mom, is here to put your mind at ease. Mallory, a veteran Mom, infant feeding tech, and advocate, is here to share her wisdom with you. We talk about everything from recalls and safety to common misconceptions and how to pick the right one for your baby. Even if you're not formula feeding, I think you'll find this episode incredibly interesting (and entertaining - Mallory is a gem!)Looking for more from Formula Mom? Mallory's new book, BOTTLE SERVICE: Education and Encouragement for Guilt-Free and Successful Formula Feeding is available to pre-order now! You can also follow her along on Instagram at The Formula Mom.Loved this episode? There is so much more where that came from:️Subscribe....leave a review....and share with your friends!Follow The Fun On IG: @BrittanySheehanSleepWork with me:1:1 Concierge Sleep PlansSleep CoursesPotty Training SupportThe B Hive Client Membership ProgramTake The Sleep QuizLearn More About Me & My ApproachRead Success StoriesSay Hi: info@brittanysheehan.com

Join us for an intimate conversation with Dr. Keri Smotrich, Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Certified Perinatal Mental Health Counselor, about the emotional challenges of fertility struggles, pregnancy loss, and the journey to parenthood. We dive into the identity crisis that often comes with infertility, what to expect from those first medical appointments, and how to be kind to yourself through the process. Dr. Smotrich shares practical advice on setting boundaries with friends and family, managing the emotional roller coaster of hope and disappointment, and finding safe people to talk to. Throughout it all, Dr. Smotrich reminds us that seeking help is actually a sign of strength.*Please note: we briefly discuss pregnancy loss and miscarriage.Resources Mentioned:* Postpartum Support International (PSI) - Offers support groups, virtual meetings, and peer mentor programs for fertility challenges, pregnancy loss, and perinatal mental health* Penn Fertility Care in Philadelphia and surrounding areasConnect with Dr. Smotrich:Licensed in New Jersey, Pennsylvania, and 45+ states via SciPact for telehealth services. Visit her website for more information. https://keri-smotrichpsyd.clientsecure.me/Remember: Seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness. You don't have to white knuckle through this journey alone.Thanks for reading A Mind of Her Own! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.Find Dr. Reid on Instagram: @jenreidmd, LinkedIn, and YouTubeYou can also order Dr. Reid's book, Guilt Free! (If you are in the UK, you can order here and here.)Also check out Dr. Reid's regular contributions to Psychology Today: Think Like a ShrinkSeeking a mental health provider? Try Psychology TodayNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255Dial 988 for mental health crisis supportSAMHSA's National Helpline - 1-800-662-HELP (4357)-a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.Disclaimer:The views expressed on this podcast reflect those of the host and guests, and are not associated with any organization or academic site. Also, AI may have been used to create the transcript and notes, based only on the specific discussion of the host and guest and reviewed for accuracy.The information and other content provided on this podcast or in any linked materials, are not intended and should not be construed as medical advice, nor is the information a substitute for professional medical expertise or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained on or available through this website is for general information purposes only.If you or any other person has a medical concern, you should consult with your health care provider or seek other professional medical treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something that have read on this website, blog or in any linked materials. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services (911) immediately. You can also access the National Suicide Help Line at 1-800-273-8255 or call 988 for mental health emergencies. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amindofherown.substack.com

How much are you prioritizing "you" in the decisions you're making? For women especially, we're often praised from a young age for being agreeable, for being accommodating. But what happens when you make the decision to live your life for you? Today, I'm joined by Heidi Koch, fresh off the heels of the Expanders Retreat, to dive into the step-by-step process on how to prioritize yourself without guilt, fear, or shame. Our conversation covers everything you need to take the next aligned step in life, from the first moment of awareness to discovering what you truly want and how to make it a reality. Along the way, we'll share tangible tools to break old patterns of over-accommodation, set and keep boundaries, and connect to your power of authenticity to live your most aligned life.   HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 How do you define yourself when stepping into a whole new version? 03:05 The one pivotal question that opened Heidi up to self-realization.  06:50 The first step to creating a more aligned life. 09:00 When did you realize you weren't prioritizing yourself in your own life? 13:15 How to become aware of old patterns of accommodation. 16:30 Hidden ways over-accommodating shows up in our lives, careers, and businesses. 20:15 How to reprogram the conditioning keeping you small. 24:25 Why our biggest triggers allow us to meet ourselves. 29:50 How does expansion manifest in physical ways? 34:25 Advice for the woman who doesn't prioritize herself. 39:40 How living in your authenticity impacts the way you see yourself. 42:05 Celebrating Heidi's Powerhouse moment of allowing herself to cry free of judgement.   RESOURCES + LINKS Want to connect? Visit Heidi's website for more information HERE!   Want to be the first to know when applications for our Spring 2026 Expanders Retreat go live? DM us EXPANDERS on Instagram @powerhouse_women   Join the waitlist for the 2026 Powerhouse Women Event HERE!   FOLLOW Heidi: @drheidispa Powerhouse Women: @powerhouse_women Lindsey: @lindseymarieofficial Visit the Powerhouse Women website: powerhousewomen.co Join the PW Community Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/powerhousewomencommunity

Send us a textIn this episode, we talk about how to say no without guilt and why boundaries are essential to protecting your energy. Learn why every no protects your yes, how to stop giving from an empty cup, and a simple, respectful phrase you can use to honor your capacity without apology. 

Join Dr. Reid, psychiatrist, creator and host of “A Mind of Her Own,” and author of Guilt Free, for this conversation with Nancy Reddy, author of The Good Mother Myth and creator of Be Less Careful and Mara Gordon, family doctor and creator of the Your Doctor Friend by Mara Gordon newsletter. We discuss: * External validation (fellowships, book deals) helps but isn't the whole story—self-actualization with age matters moreOn Midlife Transformation* The conversation centered on women making big changes in midlife when life seems “set”* Mara just turned 40 and sees a shift toward self-actualization that comes with age* There's power in coming to realize what doesn't work for you (as Jennifer noted from Parker Palmer) as much as what doesOn Healthcare and Creativity* Both physicians emphasized the need for creative outlets alongside science—whether theater, writing, or podcasting* The medical system rewards quantitative efficiency over storytelling, yet healthcare contains rich narratives that deserve to be told* Writing in healthcare comes with unique fears: professionalism concerns, employer reactions, HIPAA violations, plus universal impostor syndromeAdvice for Healthcare Writers* Write beyond fear: Identify specific sources of fear (HIPAA, professional image, employer concerns) and name them* Find your values: What matters to you? Build work that lets you grow and shine in alignment with those values* Build community: Connect with other writers, mentors, and trusted friends who can help you navigate fears* Try different formats: Podcasts, newsletters, books—find what feels authentic to your communication styleNotable Quote: “I think anyone in healthcare has really the potential to create some beautiful work. There's so many stories there that really deserve to be told.”The Takeaway: Writing is an act of courage, especially in fields like medicine where vulnerability feels risky. But midlife offers a gift—enough experience to know what matters, enough confidence to claim your voice, and enough wisdom to write beyond fear.Find Dr. Reid on Instagram: @jenreidmd, LinkedIn, and YouTubeYou can also preorder Dr. Reid's book, Guilt Free! (If you are in the UK, you can order here and here.)Also check out Dr. Reid's regular contributions to Psychology Today: Think Like a ShrinkThanks for reading A Mind of Her Own! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.Seeking a mental health provider? Try Psychology TodayNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255Dial 988 for mental health crisis supportSAMHSA's National Helpline - 1-800-662-HELP (4357)-a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.Disclaimer:The views expressed on this podcast reflect those of the host and guests, and are not associated with any organization or academic site. Also, AI may have been used to create the transcript and notes, based only on the specific discussion of the host and guest and reviewed for accuracy.The information and other content provided on this podcast or in any linked materials, are not intended and should not be construed as medical advice, nor is the information a substitute for professional medical expertise or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained on or available through this website is for general information purposes only.If you or any other person has a medical concern, you should consult with your health care provider or seek other professional medical treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something that have read on this website, blog or in any linked materials. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services (911) immediately. You can also access the National Suicide Help Line at 1-800-273-8255 or call 988 for mental health emergencies. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amindofherown.substack.com

“We're not alone...that's kind of our mission and why we do the work that we do.”Anu Gorakanti (MD) and Laura Holford (RN) co-founded Introspective Spaces, a collective creating contemplative community spaces for healthcare workers to reconnect with themselves and reimagine a new way forward in healthcare. Now approaching their five-year anniversary, they share how they're building “small communities of care” across the country—one relationship at a time.Introspective Spaces on SubstackListen to a prior podcast with Anu and Laura here!Key Themes:* The Power of Slow Work: “Change moves at the speed of trust” (Stephen Covey, via adrienne maree brown's Emergent Strategy). Building authentic community takes time, and that's exactly what healthcare needs.* From Isolation to Connection: Both founders started Introspective Spaces after feeling alone in their moral distress, believing they were the only ones struggling. Their mission: help healthcare workers realize they're not alone.* The Imagination Battle: As adrienne maree brown writes, we're living in someone else's imagination. Healthcare's current design is intentional—but healthcare workers can activate their own imagination to create something different.* Humanizing One Another: “What if humanizing healthcare starts with humanizing one another?” Breaking down silos between physicians, nurses, and other healthcare workers can shift the entire culture of care.Introspective Spaces Programs:* Artist's Way cohorts (including a new healthcare parents group) Next cohort begins March 9th!! Sign up here.* Grief spaces and retreats* Book clubs using foundational texts like Emergent Strategy* Building interdisciplinary communities in 5-6 cities nationwide* Find them in Instagram @IntrospectiveSpacesOther Resources Mentioned:* Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown* The Artist's Way program, based on the book by Julia Cameron* Let Your Life Speak by Parker Palmer (Listen to Dr. Reid's interview with Dr. Palmer here!)* The Pitt (Max series depicting healthcare moments rarely seen in real life)Thanks for reading A Mind of Her Own! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.Find Dr. Reid on Instagram: @jenreidmd, LinkedIn, and YouTubeYou can also preorder Dr. Reid's book, Guilt Free! (If you are in the UK, you can order here and here.)Also check out Dr. Reid's regular contributions to Psychology Today: Think Like a ShrinkThanks for reading A Mind of Her Own! This post is public so feel free to share it.Seeking a mental health provider? Try Psychology TodayNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255Dial 988 for mental health crisis supportSAMHSA's National Helpline - 1-800-662-HELP (4357)-a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.Disclaimer:The views expressed on this podcast reflect those of the host and guests, and are not associated with any organization or academic site. Also, AI may have been used to create the transcript and notes, based only on the specific discussion of the host and guest and reviewed for accuracy.The information and other content provided on this podcast or in any linked materials, are not intended and should not be construed as medical advice, nor is the information a substitute for professional medical expertise or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained on or available through this website is for general information purposes only.If you or any other person has a medical concern, you should consult with your health care provider or seek other professional medical treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something that have read on this website, blog or in any linked materials. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services (911) immediately. You can also access the National Suicide Help Line at 1-800-273-8255 or call 988 for mental health emergencies. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amindofherown.substack.com

Family physician and writer Dr. Mara Gordon interviews psychiatrist Dr. Jennifer Reid about her new book Guilt Free (releasing January, 27, 2026). The conversation explores why women experience disproportionate guilt, how to distinguish toxic from adaptive guilt, and practical strategies for managing guilt—especially during the holidays.The Guilt EquationDr. Reid breaks down guilt into a simple formula: Guilt = Expectations - Perceived Reality“Guilt is the difference between our expectations of ourselves, which are created by many things, the difference between that and how well we feel like we're meeting them.”The problem? Women often set impossibly high expectations while minimizing what they're actually accomplishing.Holiday GuiltDecember amplifies guilt because of:* Cultural expectations about creating “perfect” experiences* Pressure to control others' emotions* Comparison (social media, consumer-driven ideals)* Ambivalence about events we “should” enjoy“There's a lot of guilt around the sense of I should be feeling a certain way. I should be making sure others are feeling a certain way around this situation... And these expectations, which as we'll talk about are such a huge part of guilt, can really explode then.” Thanks for reading A Mind of Her Own! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.Find Dr. Reid on Instagram: @jenreidmd, LinkedIn, and YouTubeFind Dr. Gordon on Instagram: Mara Gordon, MD Dr. Gordon on Substack at My Doctor Friend here: Mara Gordon, MD You can also preorder Dr. Reid's book, Guilt Free! (If you are in the UK, you can order here and here.)Also check out Dr. Reid's regular contributions to Psychology Today: Think Like a ShrinkThanks for reading A Mind of Her Own! This post is public so feel free to share it.Seeking a mental health provider? Try Psychology TodayNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255Dial 988 for mental health crisis supportSAMHSA's National Helpline - 1-800-662-HELP (4357)-a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.Disclaimer:The views expressed on this podcast reflect those of the host and guests, and are not associated with any organization or academic site. Also, AI may have been used to create the transcript and notes, based only on the specific discussion of the host and guest and reviewed for accuracy.The information and other content provided on this podcast or in any linked materials, are not intended and should not be construed as medical advice, nor is the information a substitute for professional medical expertise or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained on or available through this website is for general information purposes only.If you or any other person has a medical concern, you should consult with your health care provider or seek other professional medical treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something that have read on this website, blog or in any linked materials. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services (911) immediately. You can also access the National Suicide Help Line at 1-800-273-8255 or call 988 for mental health emergencies. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amindofherown.substack.com

Zak went on Michigan Public's daily show Stateside to share some weirdly helpful end of year rituals and practices. He shares that segment today. Stateside covers what you need (and want) to know about Michigan. You hear stories from people across the state—from policymakers in Lansing, to entrepreneurs in Detroit, to artists in Grand Rapids. Tune in every day for in-depth conversations that matter to Michigan. Stateside is hosted by April Baer and produced by Mike Blank and Ronia Cabansag Subscribe to Stateside on Apple Podcasts or Google Podcasts. Help preserve independent journalism and community programming across America by adopting a station. LISTEN TO WEIRDLY HELPFUL AD-FREE BY BECOMING A PATRON TODAY. GET A WH MUG THERE TOO! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thanksgiving comes with gravy, gratitude… and a whole lot of emotional spending triggers. Erin and Keri share how to protect your wallet and your well-being when family dynamics, holiday pressures, and Black Friday hype collide. If you want to enjoy the season without sabotaging your financial goals, this is the perspective shift you need before you carve the turkey. Join our online community: www.getthehelloutofdebt.com  Today's episode is brought to you by Monarch. Monarch is an all-in-one personal finance tool that brings your entire financial life together. Get 50% off your first year with code SKYE at monarch.com  Leave us a voicemail message here: www.speakpipe.com/erinskyekelly  Purchase Get The Hell Out Of Debt and Naked Money Meetings online or from your favorite bookstore. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of A Mind of Her Own, host Dr. Jennifer Reid explores guilt, perfectionism, and recovery with Dr. Caitlin Massone, author of Running from Perfection. This conversation is part of the Guilt-Free series, leading up to the release of Dr. Reid's book Guilt Free on January 27, 2026.Dr. Massone is a neurologist, ultramarathon runner, and mountaineer who battled eating disorders for 14 years. She shares how family trauma triggered her anorexia at 16, the guilt she carried through medical school while struggling with bulimia, and how nature and endurance sports became her path to healing.Key QuotesOn losing control:“I was really just trying to regain control amidst all of that chaos and turmoil. When my dad left, we went from having a fully stocked fridge and pantry to all of a sudden having this kind of feast and famine cycle.”On teenage guilt:“At the time, I was feeling guilty as if I wasn't a good enough daughter. Every kid has these questions that go through their head that they never voice. Like, is this in some way my fault?”On being a doctor with an eating disorder:“I felt like I was in some way being hypocritical or not being an example for my patients. That was probably some of the worst guilt that I felt.”On finding empowerment through running:“When I run, I feel powerful and I feel like my body's so capable and it doesn't matter what it looks like in the mirror. It really has been just a remarkable transformation.”On nature as medicine:“Exercise and nature have been so integral in helping me heal and just keeping me happy.”More Resources:National Alliance for Eating DisordersNational Eating Disorder AssociationFind Dr. Massone: @drcait23 on Instagram | CaitlinMassone.comFind Dr. Reid on Instagram: @jenreidmd, LinkedIn, and YouTubeYou can also preorder Dr. Reid's book, Guilt Free! (If you are in the UK, you can order here and here.)Also check out Dr. Reid's regular contributions to Psychology Today: Think Like a ShrinkThanks for checking out A Mind of Her Own! This post is public so feel free to share it.Seeking a mental health provider? Try Psychology TodayNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255Dial 988 for mental health crisis supportSAMHSA's National Helpline - 1-800-662-HELP (4357)-a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.Disclaimer:The views expressed on this podcast reflect those of the host and guests, and are not associated with any organization or academic site. Also, AI may have been used to create the transcript and notes, based only on the specific discussion of the host and guest and reviewed for accuracy.The information and other content provided on this podcast or in any linked materials, are not intended and should not be construed as medical advice, nor is the information a substitute for professional medical expertise or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained on or available through this website is for general information purposes only.If you or any other person has a medical concern, you should consult with your health care provider or seek other professional medical treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something that have read on this website, blog or in any linked materials. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services (911) immediately. You can also access the National Suicide Help Line at 1-800-273-8255 or call 988 for mental health emergencies. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amindofherown.substack.com

*Please note, today's guest will remain anonymous to protect her privacy.“We're supposed to be constant caregivers. And we're supposed to do that even when it makes our lives really difficult...this constant caregiving as what a good person, a good nurse, a good doctor, a good woman, a good mother would do is setting expectations that are just not attainable in modern life.”Alongside the upcoming release of her book, Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations, on January 27, 2026, Dr. Reid is creating a space for authentic discussions and stories about the experience of guilt across the various roles women inhabit:* As mothers balancing family needs with personal aspirations* As daughters navigating complex family dynamics* As friends trying to show up meaningfully in others' lives* As partners working to maintain healthy relationships* In careers while striving for work-life harmonyIn this episode, she sits down with an ICU nurse who's been through it all: night shifts, day shifts, burnout, and everything in between. She opens up about what it really feels like when you realize, “oh my gosh, I'm burnt out”—and more importantly, the guilt that comes with it.The Comparison Trap“All day, I would be like, so-and-so is handling this so much better than I do,” she shares. “Or how is it that so-and-so not only has time to get her work done, but to help everybody else and is so generous with that help when I am constantly so overwhelmed by my own work?”Sound familiar? We dig into why comparison becomes such a crushing weight and introduce a key framework from the book Guilt Free: guilt is the mismatch between our expectations of ourselves and how well we believe we're meeting them.Find Dr. Reid on Instagram: @jenreidmd, LinkedIn, and YouTubeYou can also preorder Dr. Reid's book, Guilt Free! (If you are in the UK, you can order here and here.)Also check out Dr. Reid's regular contributions to Psychology Today: Think Like a Shrink.Seeking a mental health provider? Try Psychology TodayNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255Dial 988 for mental health crisis supportSAMHSA's National Helpline - 1-800-662-HELP (4357)-a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.Disclaimer:The views expressed on this podcast reflect those of the host and guests, and are not associated with any organization or academic site. Also, AI may have been used to create the transcript and notes, based only on the specific discussion of the host and guest and reviewed for accuracy.The information and other content provided on this podcast or in any linked materials, are not intended and should not be construed as medical advice, nor is the information a substitute for professional medical expertise or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained on or available through this website is for general information purposes only.If you or any other person has a medical concern, you should consult with your health care provider or seek other professional medical treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something that have read on this website, blog or in any linked materials. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services (911) immediately. You can also access the National Suicide Help Line at 1-800-273-8255 or call 988 for mental health emergencies. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amindofherown.substack.com

Some quick life updates including bouncing back from the horrible first date I told you all about last week, and planning the redemption date. Then we get into "Task".  It was the wildest episode to date, and only one more left.  To wrap up, callers bring us ghost stories, depleted social batteries, and F it we ball fall success! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Do you desire a guilt-free heart? Then equip yourself with this promise: “If we confess our sins, he will forgive...

On this episode of The Nikki & Brie Show, Brie goes solo and welcomes a very special guest—her friend and wellness guru, Emily Brown, a functional nutritionist and founder of Genetic Garden. Emily has been a total game-changer in Brie's health journey, helping her family reset their habits through natural medicine, bio-genetic testing, and personalized nutrition. From gut health to parasite cleanses, Brie and Emily dive deep into holiday prep, morning routines, and the powerful connection between food, inflammation, and burnout.They talk about what really happens to your body during the holidays (spoiler: it's more than just sugar overload), how to eat more without the guilt, and why self-compassion is the ultimate wellness hack. Plus, Brie shares her personal shifts, from ditching food guilt to embracing high-protein mornings.  Emily also answers listener questions about bloating, PCOS, and eating fruit the right way. It's an empowering, informative episode with practical tips you can use right now—whether you're prepping for the holidays or just trying to feel more like you again.Press play and get ready to glow from the inside out! Call Nikki & Brie at 833-GARCIA2 and leave a voicemail! Follow Nikki & Brie on Instagram, follow the show on Instagram and TikTok and send Nikki & Brie a message on Threads! Follow Bonita Bonita on Instagram Book a reservation at the Bonita Bonita Speakeasy To watch exclusive videos of this week's episode, follow The Nikki & Brie Show on YouTube, Facebook, and TikTok! You can also catch The Nikki & Brie Show on SiriusXM Stars 109! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.